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@@marinareviews9072 believe me he’s not the one then, the right one would hug you and let you know why not be sad or feeling that way, i had to tell my self that every time till i decided he didn’t deserve me and i left. They don’t deserve our good hearts💀💜
Mine bullies and torments me and tells me I’ll never find someone that loves me and he literally admitted to cheating on me and threatened to expose me
Day one.i find it so hard, we called everyday... i hope he gets out of my head... but im proud of myself. Good for all these woman who did leave... no one deserves this emotional abuse
This video is so refreshing. I’ve been trying to distract myself after my breakup it’s still so fresh. We were together for seven years, and he ended things out of nowhere. I can’t stop thinking about him. I still feel like he’s the only one for me.
I completely understand. I felt the same way. I ended up reaching out to Father Akabu who was recommended by a friend , a spiritual guide who specializes in restoring relationships. He made all the difference for me, he brought my partner back
I experienced every.single.one of these signs this year, in a span of 4 months. Whoever is in this situation, leave, run, no one deserves to be treated like this. The longer you stay, the bigger the impact it's gonna have on your mental health, and the longer it will take for you to recover. Not worth it, ever. This is not love.
Emotional abuse can involve any of the following: Verbal abuse: yelling at you, insulting you or swearing at you. Rejection: Constantly rejecting your thoughts, ideas and opinions. Gaslighting: making you doubt your own feelings and thoughts, and even your sanity, by manipulating the truth
Im sorry for both of you..I promise the light will come through and everything will be better soon i hope! im not sure what your beliefs are but im going to pray for you both. you will get through this!❤️
Yeah my last partner checks 10/14 signs...the worst part is that you doubt that it’s actual emotional abuse, and I keep having to remind myself that it was real, and it was not ok.
You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, when you can tick off all of the points except one or two, and then start to question whether it is in fact toxic or abusive, because not ALL of the points relate to the relationship.. Sending love and support to anyone else who's going through this as well, it's tough.. 💔💕
My husband had an affair with a co-worker for nearly two years the last nine months of which I was pregnant with our second child. I found out about the other woman the week before my due date, I felt so terrible and moved back to my mother's home for 2 month with the kids after birth, he kept on apologizing to every member of my family and they all begged me to forgive him, I moved back to our home and I still had that feeling something was off, I felt deep down that I have been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillow or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more, my in-law were also very verbally abusive towards me. Wasn't allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to I had to be ready for an argument, everyday I was reminded that I am not nothing and that was not worth fighting for and that don't meet the standard of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me an had a girl friend after seeing the text and pictures, I became numb. I have been a good wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who help me extract enough information from his device. Someone on here share a link to the hacker who helped me clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him through a remote link sent to my email,I was able to access all of his text, email, Facebook and Instagram chat real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him on Instagram by searching his 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞👉👉👉👉@𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐥_𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐳 on Instagram
What if ex of 6 year comes back after few months of breakup and claim to be changed but you don't feel the change(he became emotionally abusive in the 6tj year, threatening my friends, humiliating me in public and and vandalising college property, making scenes in your college for 9 months) I still love him but i don't think he is right for me anymore Although he did care for me a lot But based on what he did last year, i had no option but to leave, i tried to make things right by sacrificing but he kept doing same thing. People stopped talking to me in my college.
I can tell people from personal experience that this experience is extremely painful and just as horrible as any other form of abuse. It’s so hard to recover too after the damage has been done. So I hope for any of you still going through this that you’ll find better people and will stay strong.
Psych2Go that it doesn’t matter who you are with. Girl or boy, friend or family. It can happen to anyone, and the sooner you try to realize the signs, the sooner you should try your best to break free from that relationship.
SUMMARY 1. They blame you for things 0:29 2. They avoid certain topic 00:42 3. They control how you act 00:54 4. They change your plans 1:07 5. They are emotionally available at one moment and distant the next 1:22 6. They say hurtful things as a joke 1:39 7. They make you guess what they want 1:53 8. They ignore your feelings 2:07 9. They gaslight you 2:22 10. They act differently when you're with other people 2:40 11. Their love is conditional 2:55 12. They ignore your accomplishments 3:11 13. They imply you're not helpful 3:28 14. They need to know where you are 3:41 Hope it helps. 🌼
Very true. I was in an emotional and mental abusive relationship for 2 years before I told him off and told him I was done and told him I knew he was cheating, of course him being a narcissist that didn’t end well but I was prepared.
@@singer07872007 The part nobody prepares you for is how sometimes you catch yourself missing that person. Even if the relationship was a living nightmare, you end up having to argue with the tiny part of yourself that wants to go back. 😭
One of the hardest things to accept in an abusive relationship is the fact that *you* are not to blame. It becomes easier to blame yourself, that maybe you are at fault for their abusive behavior. Because to finally accept that *they* are to blame is to accept that you truly are a victim, which is very hard for most people to do. It is easier to accept the status quo and blame yourself than to realize they are the problem and to make a drastic change in your life, like ending a relationship.
Don’t ever let someone use “their culture” as an excuse to have controlling behavior over you. Emotional abuse is not necessarily obvious. These things can manifest very suddenly but often times gradually too. If it were super obvious, people would not stay in these relationships all the time. Stay safe
My friend going through challenges in her relationship- she is such a wonderful woman- he hates it that he looks much older than her---- she has a jolly personality and he is serious type-
@@Sketchbook9999 sounds like he is insecure and going to try to put out the fire of her spirit so he can control and keep her like a prized possession. He is scared of losing her. She is probably so kind that she sees the best in him as no person is “all bad.” So sad. He’ll be hard pressed to admit it even realize his inner feelings of fear.
This video helped me realize that I do some of these things to a certain degree. I don’t mean to be toxic I just need to learn to heal and forgive. I hope to become a better person one day, thank you for uploading this and giving me a little more insight on myself, it’s truly appreciated.
Its so important to note that this ISN'T just couples! Your friends and family can be this way. I spent years thinking this ONLY happened in relationships but I've been victim to emotional abuse by my brother. At first I only thought it was natural sibling rivalry but no, it was ABUSE. Dont let anyone make you blind to the fact that this can happen with any relationship you have with anyone be it a friend, coworker, family member or lover.
Exactly! I watched this vid, it is my Mum + brothers relationship (brother is the abusive one)... It does annoy me how vids say 'partner' rather than 'the abusive person'.
@Krishna Patel Positivity is the best way to confront this situation. Be positive. Have you tried praying, idk if your Christian but God is here for you. I’m having trouble with the same problems right now, maybe not as extreme, I’ve lost all my friends over quarantine and my sister yells at me and verbally abuses me, we have to keep our mind on the positives. Pray to God, tell him you need an escape, try to make new friends. I know it’s hard right now, because of quarantine, maybe try online. A way to find positivity is to find joy in yourself, you don’t need to rely on others to make you happy. What are some things you love to do? Do those things find joy in what you love. Things will change I promise you that.
@Krishna Patel I’m a teen and I’m still trying to live while my sister pushes me down to put herself up. I don’t think I’ll be able to escape this until I go to college in a few years. I hope I’ll find peace someday
You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're literally begging for your basic needs to be met from an emotionally unavailable person. Never settle for less,Kings and Queens You deserve better 🎉
I feel like everyone's been lying to me about how much they say they care when I can't seem to get emotional support when I need it most. They say they care but when I reach out and no one answers the silence is deafening
they also wanted us to "talk" but when we bring up that we're unwell. they don't care or either "i don't ever want to hear that (sad/bad thought) again". sure there will be no next time..
@@delll372 Exactly! When I want to talk to people I just want people to reassure me that they're there for me, but I always get "I can't do anything about that, you should go talk to your therapist about that" and it's like, I already do, that's not the point... It feels like I'm only being pushed away because it's not a problem they can solve for me :(
"A healthy relationship is built on open communication, not assumptions" *Thank you so much for that.* It is so reassuring, when you are thrown in the trash because "You never understand what I want! You need things to be explained to you directly like a child, _I communicate by insinuations, that's how I want to communicate!_ " (not to mention that I was supposed to get "his insinuations", while he never did an inch of effort to try to understand ME)! I am almost crying for how much I feel reassured after this video.
@@justinalee7306 after being in therapy for months and rebuilding my self esteem, I think I can safely say that these people don't really know what a mature relationship is. They are incapable of communicating and blame it on you. It's the very typical (and also fair in that case) treatment that a child expects from a parent: the parent is supposed to sacrifice her needs and to understand the child without questioning, because biologically the child is still not perfectly able to communicate them. Except, these people are adults now. Move on, you definitely deserve better :*
@@Astgsfgt Thanks for the kind words and encouragement! I’m so sorry for what you went through, and I’m glad you’re feeling much better now. This gives me the courage to keep moving forward and keep working on myself. Thank you again! 🙂
Currently in the mode of healing from a breakup. I texted him calmly but he ended up telling me to stop acting like a victim and that he didn’t see my efforts. It hurt since I put all my time and effort on him, and I was blamed for the roots of the problem despite my situation.
My soon to be ex said the same!! I've wasted so much time on him it's ridiculous! He very mean but in public he pretends to be nice friendly and outgoing but behind closed doors he a demon
Abuse occurs when expectations/entitlement about the relationship exceed compassion for the other person. Remember that abusive people actually feel like they're the victim for not getting enough attention. As long as you're compassionate, willing to accept that the other person is still a separate person with their own life to live, and eager to accept your own faults + put in the effort to grow and improve upon them, you should be fine. 😁
@@CFSworks This is a double-sided weapon and we should put extreme care into drawing healthy boundaries. Let's say you are dating a person who is emotionally unavailable, gaslighting you, untrustworthy. You 99% become insecure and start putting blame / questioning their whereabouts. So the other person puts blame on you saying you are controlling (while they keep meeting other people on dating apps, saying that you are toxic for not giving them trust while you should, and that you are not compassionate enough because you don't understand that for them commitment is hard). You see what I mean? I think we should be very careful when talking about compassion, because that is one of the biggest doors into manipulation. *Informed* kindness and compassion for the other person are key. And compassion for ourselves too, that does not mean entitlement. Again, it's a healthy balance matter. In any case, very likely if you wonder whether you are the abuser or not, you probably aren't...
@@Astgsfgt In my experience at least from seeing that play out in other people, 90% of the time this is because of projective identification. The abuser *knows* abuse is happening, so can't deny that, but denies that they're the abuser and instead projects onto the abused. If the abused identifies with that projection, they can begin to act out the role (perhaps they get irrationally angry upon sensing their abuser's suppressed rage). It's a pity because it makes the gaslighting work a lot faster than otherwise. Unfortunately it's really hard to tell who's responsible for what in a projective situation like that. But both parties will be aware that abuse is happening, they just won't be able to agree on who is abusing whom (and maybe it's going in both directions). In a situation like that, the relationship should really just be ended.
I experienced all of this with my mom growing up. I didn't realize that it was abuse until I was older. I was always afraid and anxious. I finally got out of this situation a few years ago and moved in with my dad. Things have been a lot better since.
Every point shown in this video and in all the other videos from your channel, I CAN RELATE . Been in a very toxic , emotionally abusive , threatening relationship for two years and literally that made me do mistakes that I never thought of . That period changed my whole character in two years and at one point I started being rude and bad to everyone Including to my parents . I lost my best friends who meant the world to me . Life just went from 100 to 0 . My career was disturbed , mindset was disturbed and now Iam a complete inferior and a total anti social person with intense fear inside and cant afford to give it a thought of getting into a relationship. This led to anxiety issues when I be around women and can’t go anywhere , where I see too many people . Everything goes scary now with huge inferiority complex. It literally makes you feel guilty for stuff that pushed you to do and of your reactions because of their actions . So kids please see someone for a while till you are sure and avoid rushing into a relationship. PERIOD. Looks can be deceiving and your life might completely change in a negative way . Focus on your Career and on your mental health . Love everyone ❤️
Could you make a video about how to separate yourself/heal from an emotionally abusive relationship? It would really help, because I’ve started to realize how abusive my mom is, and I’d like to know how I can protect myself and others around me (like my brother). If you can that would be great! :)
I was in an abusive relationship on and off for years. I'm so glad I finally snapped out of it and left. It might be tough, and you might be afraid. It's okay to be afraid. They've conditioned you to be constantly fearful so that you bow to their whims. There's always help. I had to call victim services at my local police department to help me, and it was scary. But, I'm thankful I mustered up the courage. If you need help, there will always be someone. 🖤
I wish i knew what to do. I don't know where to start. I'm an emotion reck with depression. My partner plays with my feeling with negetivity. Then he tries to get close to me like nothing he said meant anything 😭
@@rafaelaguerra4744 If possible, you should leave. That's the sort of thing my ex used to pull. It's not fair to you to play with your feelings and confuse you, and if you need help leaving, ask a trustworthy person (a parent, sibling, aunt/uncle, etc.) to be with you when you say you're leaving. It's really scary and tough, but you will feel so much better!
Sometimes these people have a huge amount of insecurities and issues themselves and will even try to make you out to be the abuser. It seems very common for women to do this to men as society will not believe men easily.
It's important to note that if this is what you saw while growing up, you're probably perpetuating the cycle without realizing it. If you feel like you're guilty of doing some of these things, counseling is a great tool to help change those patterns.
It’s a very depressing situation at times especially when they give you the slight sense of hope when they’re emotionally available but just keep manipulating you
It is honestly bad, because at first I didn't know anything, since I was my first relationship, and it got to the point where my family was telling me to stay away and that it's unhealthy, and my sensitive self was very overwhelmed and didn't know what to do.. So it's a rough ride..
Did I see ANY of those traits in my relationship? I was a teenager when I unwittingly married a narcissist; I was steeped in ALL of those traits for 20 years. Confused and exhausted, I finally left the marriage because I did not want to grow old never being heard. For the next 18 years I had no contact with my ex, but I continued to do those negative things to myself. But I got back together with her last year hoping to get some answers to ease my confusion. She did not answer any of my questions, but she started bulling me right were she left off 18 years ago. But because of that break, I finally saw how destructive and unacceptable her behavior is. Its sad, I am now 56 years old, I will do my best to be happy, heal from this abuse, and for the first time ever, start my life.
This video couldn’t come at a better time. Just left my husband a few days ago. Didn’t want to accept he was abusive. This video really made me emotional because it really shown light on things I was pushing away. And how much he was controlling my life and who I was. It really hurts to accept that he was doing those things, but I’m glad I’m starting to. Thank you so much for making this video.
I can remember how every time I tried to communicate and talk about something that bothered me, I was accused of “starting my sh!t again” and “causing trouble”. No matter what I did, it was wrong. I’m so glad I’m out of it, now. Looking back, I can’t believe the things I put up with.
I cannot believe that you don’t realize you’re in such relationships like this. Makes you wonder what you miss 👩🏫 and how did you not see this coming. This breakdown gives you real clarity and make you wonder was I really with a person like this?
Psych2Go, why do you always surprise me when it comes to the videos? I've noticed a trend that every time I have a problem, you created the video on the same day. VERY Unexpected
I wish I could like this comment twice. My ex would go 12 hours without saying a word to me, then hop on Call of Duty and talk to all these guys about what she did today, what she's doing tomorrow, what she's planning for Christmas. And I'm just sitting there like.... Oh, I didn't know that. Or that. You're doing that tomorrow? Your mom said that? You like that movie? Pre-edit: I thought you said "able to be sensitive but not (TO) you. Well, I can relate either way. They're sensitive but you're not. Just another way to make you walk on egg-shells and shut you down. I feel you...
I went through this at school with a so-called best friend all the way back in the 90s, just before the Internet. I was trapped, isolated, and super dependent on her even up until my 20s. I'm 40 next year, and I've only just started to process these demons, and give the abuser a name.
Here... 1 : 0:30 - They blame you for things 2 : 0:42 - They avoid certain topics 3 : 0:56 - They control how you act 4 : 1:08 - They change your plans 5 : 1:26 - They are emotionally available & distant 6 : 1:42 - They say hurtful things as jokes 7 : 1:55 - They make you guess what they want 8 : 2:09 - They ignore your feelings 9 : 2:24 - They Gaslight you 10 : 2:42 - They act differently when you're with other people 11 : 2:56 - Their love is conditional 12 : 3:12 - They ignore your accomplishments 13 : 3:31 - They imply you're not helpful 14 : 3:43 - They need to know where you are Hope you guyz are happy❤️
I was definitely in an emotionally abusive relationship, as a guy it sucks because most of your friends will tell you to man up and just get over it but they don't realize how damaging they are, also I've come to terms with some of my friends caring about me and wanting to see me better than I was so for any guys out there who went or are going through it I understand and hope you have friends in your corner to help pick you up because it is seriously helpful
I experienced every sign, but for some reason only realized i was being emotionally abused after the breakup… such a waste of my time and energy and effort into someone that didn’t fully, truly appreciate me. Hurts so much more realizing this.
Just been through this with an ex girlfriend we had a miscarriage and I felt guilty 10 of these things applied to me. We was living together and for four months and I was gaslighted and emotionally neglected. Every conversion I had about trying to fix or find common ground resulted in me being insurcure and furious resistance. Take care when enough is enough quit.
YES, almost everything you said relates to my relationship. I am a guy and have been with my wife for over 20 years now. Things seem to be getting worse and I feel lost on what to do. I feel like I am living in a bad dream and can't wake up. I used to have confidence myself. Now not so much. This is destroying me inside and I hate the way I feel. I'm sorry for putting this out there. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it. It hurts so much loving someone who doesn't seem to have the same feelings and treats me this way. I just don't know what to do.
I have constantly been accused of cheating, always told what I do isn’t good enough and that I need to “improve”, would tell me that I need to be happy yet they constantly criticised me and made me feel insecure, they would say I’m trying to silence them when I voiced that I don’t like being insulted, constantly rejecting how I feel, starting arguments whenever I had something important/whenever I felt good, crying every single night and today was my last straw. I blocked him on everything.
After 45 years of it, I’m done. He still lives in our home but I don’t let him play those game’s anymore. He’s done ALL of that but I give what I get now.
I'm going through a breakup and after we talked a lot, I realized how abusive I was being /: The controlling part started at the beginning of our relationship after going through a trauma due to my father's extramarital relationship. I needed to know where my ex BF was and who he was with, not because I couldn't trust HIM but because I couldn't trust anyone anymore... 💔 The last two years of our 7 year relationship I realized that I was doing 5 of this behaviors: 2- 4 - 5 - 10- 14. I wish I had noticed before, it was never my intention to hurt him 💔😞 I hope people are able to see this video sooner so they can work on themselves before they ruin everything as I did.
Hey. I would have really appreciated that from my partner yet they never did that. Instead they left me, labelled me as manipulative, and jumped right into another relationship. I have been out of it for a week battling my self worth, insomnia, and emotional pain.
@@ClassyEnding I can imagine how you feel. It's been almost an year, doing therapy and now I've started taking antidepressants, I feel much better now and am able to work on my issues in therapy.
Sending love to those who's struggling to get out from this kind of relationship. You can do it and the future is brighter. Keep going, you're worthy of love. 💕
I was finally getting to be recognized in a choir where id been struggling to be noticed. When i finally got a part I auditioned for, my partner started crying because they beleived i was replacing them in the choir. For context there, they had been one of the directors favorites their entire time they were in the choir while i was struggling to make myself be known, but when i got that part that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone to audition for and had been waiting for that chance for three years, they cried and told me i was their replacement. Broke down sobbing and exoected me to comfort them. The post part is, they also got a part they auditioned for in the same song. Just at a different place.
The first step is always the hardest to take in any situation . Remember you have survived this , you will survive this as well . That took strength give yourself some credit for what you've been through . It's not easy but it is possible. The word impossible even says "I'm " "possible ". You can do it . Fight to be happy again . 🙏🏻 sending positive thoughts and prayers to everyone reading this today . Best of luck to you . 🤝🏼
My DADDDDDDD!! He called me subordinate for over a year and told me that I needed to quit my job to (literal quote) “serve him” I couldn’t post pictures if he didn’t think I looked good in them because “our image is everything” We would be late to something and it was ALWAYS my fault even though he was the one that had to check it the lights were off in the house 3 times.
I haven't watched the video yet, but I'm often scared to get into relationships because of abuse, and not wanting to be hurt... It seems kinda irrational, but it's always there. Hopefully I can try to start feeling better about relationships but for now, it isn't something I want for myself
I recently broke up with a guy that did all the 14 ALL THE TIME! It was like an emotional roller coaster for a year and I always had to guess what would be the right thing to do and I was always wrong in his eyes. Together with him my blood pressure got very high and I thought it was because of me not exercising (because I couldn’t always do that when I was planning to go to the gym he came to visit or made me feel guilty!) Two months after I broke up with him I checked my blood pressure again and it was even a little bit low 😮 I really did my self a big favor by leaving him. So beware of these signs please if you read this! I can’t imagine the status of my health if I stayed with him for longer time…
Don't forget belittling. Some don't trust the moves you make, the decisions you make and always act like you're getting yourself into trouble out of incompetence. It's especially insidious if it's disguised as care.
@007Spadge He told me I was not like every woman he knew , the best of the best, but yet , I was constantly called a prude , just because I wasn't willing / ready to be physically intimate with him . He isn't divorced yet . Anyway , I finally called it quits . Especially after he told me he was spending time with another woman ( as far as i know, it wasn't sexual then ) because he was feeling lonely and found this long-distance relationship difficult.
I was in some because My ex friend Sam was always joking about I was scared of a lot things and that made me upset and that one of the reasons. She also was sometimes what to be with me or just be someone else and I got mad.She sometimes ignore me and sometimes I have attention issues. Sometimes she was jealous of me because I more opportunities to go to a better high school but she couldn’t but it was only for Catholic high schools. And I still have attention issues and I told her that and she keeps joking about it and I told her to her to stop and knew from the way I act for 2 years and that’s one of the reasons why... And she want to be friends again I start to ignore her like she did to me and I have better friends now and I don’t need her to hurt me again...
Sadly, it’s the only relationships I have had. So I avoid relationships. But oddly, abusive types are the ones that violate social distancing. No boundaries?
The man I thought would be my everything cheated on me and then lied for months about doing so. I cried for months because I thought I was crazy just like he said. Gosh I hate people who just hurt you because they feel like it
There is a thing that I doubt at the moment a friend did to me: When I told a friend that I got hurt by her ignoring me for a long time (with the reason of her mental health struggle), and that I didn't like that she didn't say why and didn't think about how I felt about that, she got more mad and blamed me for everything that went wrong in that fight bc I made her feel even worse when I said it. I am the only one who had apologized for the fight and EVERYTHING that happened in it (including her tweeting she would kill me for a prize) and it still doesn't sit well with me.
My aunt kathy verbally abuses me by yelling at me whenever I voice my opinion and my mom won't do anything to help me, instead she just let's it happen and then gets mad at me whenever I bring it up. Like WTF mom if you really loved me then you wouldn't be letting stuff like this happen. Thanks for listening.
I have been in abusive toxic relationship for almost two years with a guy younger than me... who was so childish, immature ... always accusing me for things which i don't even do.. all controlling my life ... always using another girls just to hurt me and make me jealous... he have been repeatedly that for years .. It hurts to leave but I hope everything happen for our own good.. I was mentally, emotionally as well physically sick because of him... Now he went with another girl, may he learn some lesson in future..I wish karma taught him something
I just realized that I have been emotionally abusive to my partner. Another thing I realized is how I was being treated for the past 5 years of my life by my ex. I am making a promise to be better for this dude. He is literally worth everything!
I’m getting emotional abuse by trying to keep my friend from doing drugs, smoking, and all that. Maybe I should give up, it’s been like this for almost a year.
Your channel has not only helped me today with realising my intelligence and my reasonings for why i do things without people. But has also helped me now become clearer to how my mother and step father treated me while i lived there and too this day. I dont know how to break free yet since the dependency is strongly there but atleast i know i may not be completely too blame
I feel like crying everyday but it somehow feels like my body is tricking me into thinking I am fine. I feel so sad but it seems like my body is telling me I am happy. Does anybody know why or what I should do?
I feel the same.. My mind says that u r being too sensitive, u r strong enough, stop crying.. Even I feel like crying until I run out of tears. I think it's due to bottling up our emotions for a long time, and being made to feel guilty or ashamed or weak for being ourselves or vulnerable, that has lead to these unintentional thoughts rooted in our minds.
He made me be alone. All of my friends hate him and distance themselves from me because I was isolated with him for 3 years also because of quarantine. I tried to bring him closer to my friends but he acted nonchalant and even wanted me to see the bad in them. Now I'm like...if I leave him,I have absolutely nobody anymore. :(
Wow, the moment this video uploaded. I actually created a playlist of "emotionally powerful musics". Its mostly heavy metal and dubstep but yeah. Im gonna watch the video.
I am here just to say sorry to every other girl out there who have had gone through this or going through this because I have done some of these things to the love of my life and now she has left me. I'm just dying million times a day without her and by regretting what I have done wrong to her 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 . I can't live without her and my inner guilt won't leave me till my death. Now that I have realised every thing she is not with me to solve out, please pray for me and my relationship guys 😭😭😭😭😭😭
15- they actually discourage u, telling that u cant do it or u can never do it, and justify it as an encouragement, rather negative encouragement, so that u will anyway do it and proof urself out of rage!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@Psych2go Thanks for your amazing channel and videos! Well, even though I did a lot of things for him, he played the victim card and left me with the excuse that he wasn't enough for me *Wich, to be fair was true* I knew it was an excuse 'cause he moved days before with a friend who liked him and even in the past he threatened me with being with her, so of course he was cheating... The day he left I actually felt better. What helped is realizing that I deserve better that a loser, and feeling with no worries again, dedicating time for my personal well being and college was also REALLY helpful. Thanks for listening, keep up your amazing content, is awesome seeing you interact with subscribers!
14 signs of emotional abuse in relationships: 1. they blame you for things 2. they avoid certain topics 3. they control how you act 4. they change your plans 5. they are emotionally unavailable & distant 6. they say hurtful things as jokes 7. they make you guess what they want 8. they ignore your feelings 9. they gaslight you 10. they act differently when you’re with other people 11. their love is conditional 12. they downplay/ignore your accomplishments 13. they imply you’re not helpful 14. they need to know where you are constantly if you’re currently in any form of an abusive relationship, i empathise with you, and recommend you to end the relationship if it’s possible. stay happy and safe 💛
Luckily I saw the signs before it was too late. Sadly I spent 12 years feeling like I was going crazy. I've been out for two weeks now and have never felt better. Never be too scared to reach out to a family member or friend for help❤ You can do this.
I say it...everything literally everything I feel matches with this video....and moreover the abuse turns to physical and much more...I have literally suffered I lot..I forgot who I was...I couldn't stay anymore in that relationship... I am still healing... Hope to overcome this....❤️
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Well. That's all my friends @~@
Woah! I'm second!
This will help me in future if I'm dating...
What about a video on OCD and what to do against it?
Those are my friend name felicia
The worst thing is not knowing that you’re in a poor relationship. Then when you realise it, you’re powerless to do something...
Yeah
Because my father is the abuser, I can't do anything
So true
when you just realised thats the situation you’re in right now 🥲
@Krishna Patel Violet is a beautiful name.
sending much positive energy to anyone reading this, you as a person, are appreciated.
Thanks baby. So are you!
Yeah....
About that.
Im not but thx anyways
Ok this man deserves an extra like but it’s a shame that I have to change it to 70 lol
I'm not nobody cares
I remember crying at the corner of the bed and when he realized he said “ what are you crying about this time” mad
My boyfriend is the same way. Gets mad at me for being sad and tells me I'm too emotional
:(
I’m so sorry for what you experienced.
@@marinareviews9072 believe me he’s not the one then, the right one would hug you and let you know why not be sad or feeling that way, i had to tell my self that every time till i decided he didn’t deserve me and i left. They don’t deserve our good hearts💀💜
@@yaslingalicia7007 Thank you for that
Mine bullies and torments me and tells me I’ll never find someone that loves me and he literally admitted to cheating on me and threatened to expose me
One month today from walking away from an emotionally abusive fiancé. I have never been more proud of myself.
That is so amazing. I am so proud of you, its been 8 months how are you holding up
Day one.i find it so hard, we called everyday... i hope he gets out of my head... but im proud of myself. Good for all these woman who did leave... no one deserves this emotional abuse
@@Lighttub it gets easier the longer you’re gone.
Well done stay strong I am proud of you.
This video is so refreshing. I’ve been trying to distract myself after my breakup it’s still so fresh. We were together for seven years, and he ended things out of nowhere. I can’t stop thinking about him. I still feel like he’s the only one for me.
I know how devastating that can be. This was me when my husband left my husband left.
Really? How did you handle it? I feel like I’m losing my mind. I just want him back.
I completely understand. I felt the same way. I ended up reaching out to Father Akabu who was recommended by a friend , a spiritual guide who specializes in restoring relationships. He made all the difference for me, he brought my partner back
That sounds incredible. Do you think he could help me? I just can’t imagine my life without him.
I’m sure he can. He’s helped so many people in situations like ours.
I wish the best for people who are in emotional abuse relationships
How do u time travel
@@texasrepublic2332 They're a member of this channel, so they can comment and view before it's posted.
That's really kind of you!
@@Gyum-gk8nc woah thank kind stranger
Thankyou! 😔💗
I experienced every.single.one of these signs this year, in a span of 4 months. Whoever is in this situation, leave, run, no one deserves to be treated like this. The longer you stay, the bigger the impact it's gonna have on your mental health, and the longer it will take for you to recover. Not worth it, ever. This is not love.
I stayed for 3 years... I’m so upset it even happen to me
I have nowhere to go /:
I can't I have no family or anyone to turn to and not means of income
U won't believe how fast 4 months turns into 4 years and then 10 then 18. I could puke
i aslo experienced every single point too...😔
Emotional abuse can involve any of the following: Verbal abuse: yelling at you, insulting you or swearing at you. Rejection: Constantly rejecting your thoughts, ideas and opinions. Gaslighting: making you doubt your own feelings and thoughts, and even your sanity, by manipulating the truth
Unfortunately my childhood trauma list reflects all of these 😓😓😓
That is my childhood right now lol
Im sorry for both of you..I promise the light will come through and everything will be better soon i hope! im not sure what your beliefs are but im going to pray for you both. you will get through this!❤️
Yeah my last partner checks 10/14 signs...the worst part is that you doubt that it’s actual emotional abuse, and I keep having to remind myself that it was real, and it was not ok.
My background for my phone is literally “what I want for Christmas: a mom who doesn’t make it seem like they hate me “ :/
You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, when you can tick off all of the points except one or two, and then start to question whether it is in fact toxic or abusive, because not ALL of the points relate to the relationship..
Sending love and support to anyone else who's going through this as well, it's tough.. 💔💕
My husband had an affair with a co-worker for nearly two years the last nine months of which I was pregnant with our second child. I found out about the other woman the week before my due date, I felt so terrible and moved back to my mother's home for 2 month with the kids after birth, he kept on apologizing to every member of my family and they all begged me to forgive him, I moved back to our home and I still had that feeling something was off, I felt deep down that I have been manipulated, gaslighted, and threatened on a daily basis. Some of the threats were he was going to kill himself if I didn't do what was asked, he would punch pillow or sofa, stand up against me and yell at my face, stand behind the car and not let me leave, sometimes we would be driving and he would threaten to swerve and hit any truck, hold my shake me, push me aside to a wall, and much more, my in-law were also very verbally abusive towards me. Wasn't allowed to visit my family or friends. If I did or wanted to I had to be ready for an argument, everyday I was reminded that I am not nothing and that was not worth fighting for and that don't meet the standard of being married to their son. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me an had a girl friend after seeing the text and pictures, I became numb. I have been a good wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew, thanks to this hacker who help me extract enough information from his device. Someone on here share a link to the hacker who helped me clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to him through a remote link sent to my email,I was able to access all of his text, email, Facebook and Instagram chat real-time call listening and his long deleted messages as if the phone was physically with me. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help you can get in touch with him on Instagram by searching his 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐦𝐞👉👉👉👉@𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐥_𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐳 on Instagram
What if ex of 6 year comes back after few months of breakup and claim to be changed but you don't feel the change(he became emotionally abusive in the 6tj year, threatening my friends, humiliating me in public and and vandalising college property, making scenes in your college for 9 months)
I still love him but i don't think he is right for me anymore
Although he did care for me a lot
But based on what he did last year, i had no option but to leave, i tried to make things right by sacrificing but he kept doing same thing. People stopped talking to me in my college.
Ur wrong, It doesn't require to tick all of it. Mental abuse is still mental abuse.
I can tell people from personal experience that this experience is extremely painful and just as horrible as any other form of abuse. It’s so hard to recover too after the damage has been done. So I hope for any of you still going through this that you’ll find better people and will stay strong.
Thanks for sharing this with us! What advice would you recommend to those who are in this situation?
Psych2Go that it doesn’t matter who you are with. Girl or boy, friend or family. It can happen to anyone, and the sooner you try to realize the signs, the sooner you should try your best to break free from that relationship.
SUMMARY
1. They blame you for things 0:29
2. They avoid certain topic 00:42
3. They control how you act 00:54
4. They change your plans 1:07
5. They are emotionally available at one moment and distant the next 1:22
6. They say hurtful things as a joke 1:39
7. They make you guess what they want 1:53
8. They ignore your feelings 2:07
9. They gaslight you 2:22
10. They act differently when you're with other people 2:40
11. Their love is conditional 2:55
12. They ignore your accomplishments 3:11
13. They imply you're not helpful 3:28
14. They need to know where you are 3:41
Hope it helps. 🌼
Thanks😌
Thank you very much!
Thank you for this!
Thank you
It happens to me
Fun fact: abusive romantic relationships often start of as "perfect romances"
Hollywood has conditioned us to believe that it isn't true love unless you're rapidly cycling between "intense passion" and "intense suffering"
Obviously duh
Very true. I was in an emotional and mental abusive relationship for 2 years before I told him off and told him I was done and told him I knew he was cheating, of course him being a narcissist that didn’t end well but I was prepared.
@@singer07872007 The part nobody prepares you for is how sometimes you catch yourself missing that person. Even if the relationship was a living nightmare, you end up having to argue with the tiny part of yourself that wants to go back. 😭
Yup
At this point I might just start crying because of how many points I relate with...
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We are here for you!! How many points did you relate to?
@@Psych2go 10 of these signs
i related to 10 as well! im in shock to realize how much of these actions i took for granted are big red flags!
How has your healing been ? I feel sorry for myself knowing that I put up with this and didn’t even realise I was being abused
One of the hardest things to accept in an abusive relationship is the fact that *you* are not to blame. It becomes easier to blame yourself, that maybe you are at fault for their abusive behavior. Because to finally accept that *they* are to blame is to accept that you truly are a victim, which is very hard for most people to do. It is easier to accept the status quo and blame yourself than to realize they are the problem and to make a drastic change in your life, like ending a relationship.
The word blame is toxic in its self. Life is not about blame. Mistakes and misunderstandings are part of life
Yes the only solution is drastic change
Don’t ever let someone use “their culture” as an excuse to have controlling behavior over you. Emotional abuse is not necessarily obvious. These things can manifest very suddenly but often times gradually too. If it were super obvious, people would not stay in these relationships all the time. Stay safe
Mine uses his adhd as an excuse smh
@@digitaldrea same 😔 and I have adhd too
My friend going through challenges in her relationship- she is such a wonderful woman- he hates it that he looks much older than her---- she has a jolly personality and he is serious type-
@@Sketchbook9999 sounds like he is insecure and going to try to put out the fire of her spirit so he can control and keep her like a prized possession. He is scared of losing her. She is probably so kind that she sees the best in him as no person is “all bad.” So sad. He’ll be hard pressed to admit it even realize his inner feelings of fear.
That or their gender either.
This video helped me realize that I do some of these things to a certain degree. I don’t mean to be toxic I just need to learn to heal and forgive. I hope to become a better person one day, thank you for uploading this and giving me a little more insight on myself, it’s truly appreciated.
@Joni G Thank you Joni :)
I'm currently dealing with this
Same
Same
More people need to think like you! Good job :)
Its so important to note that this ISN'T just couples! Your friends and family can be this way. I spent years thinking this ONLY happened in relationships but I've been victim to emotional abuse by my brother. At first I only thought it was natural sibling rivalry but no, it was ABUSE. Dont let anyone make you blind to the fact that this can happen with any relationship you have with anyone be it a friend, coworker, family member or lover.
Absolutely I am a victim of emotional abuse from someone whom I thought was a friend.
My mother was like this to me and my big sister when I was a toddler my parents were addicts
Exactly! I watched this vid, it is my Mum + brothers relationship (brother is the abusive one)...
It does annoy me how vids say 'partner' rather than 'the abusive person'.
If you’re quarantining with an abuser, please don’t lose hope. Look at this time as a way to plan for a safe exit. My heart ❤️ goes out to you.
Thank you so much for your kind comment. This means a lot to many :)
@Krishna Patel Positivity is the best way to confront this situation. Be positive. Have you tried praying, idk if your Christian but God is here for you. I’m having trouble with the same problems right now, maybe not as extreme, I’ve lost all my friends over quarantine and my sister yells at me and verbally abuses me, we have to keep our mind on the positives. Pray to God, tell him you need an escape, try to make new friends. I know it’s hard right now, because of quarantine, maybe try online.
A way to find positivity is to find joy in yourself, you don’t need to rely on others to make you happy. What are some things you love to do? Do those things find joy in what you love. Things will change I promise you that.
@Krishna Patel I’m sooo happy for you, it’s always good to hear that God is doing great things in all of our lives!!
@Krishna Patel I’m glad your doing better!!
@Krishna Patel I’m a teen and I’m still trying to live while my sister pushes me down to put herself up. I don’t think I’ll be able to escape this until I go to college in a few years. I hope I’ll find peace someday
Key phrase is
“You never do anything, and I do all the work.”
When the opposite is true
Wow!! That is the exact sentence the abuser always told me!!!
Amen!!!😓🙌💫
Oh my god i relate too much to this…
This is what my narc said to me. He says it all the time. 😢
THIS!!!
You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're literally begging for your basic needs to be met from an emotionally unavailable person.
Never settle for less,Kings and Queens
You deserve better 🎉
I feel like everyone's been lying to me about how much they say they care when I can't seem to get emotional support when I need it most. They say they care but when I reach out and no one answers the silence is deafening
I know it happened to me also almost everyday.
It happens to me too much with family, friends, i cant even trust no one, it's pathetic...
they also wanted us to "talk" but when we bring up that we're unwell. they don't care or either "i don't ever want to hear that (sad/bad thought) again". sure there will be no next time..
You find out who really cares about you when you need someone the most. Actions speak louder than words.
@@delll372 Exactly! When I want to talk to people I just want people to reassure me that they're there for me, but I always get "I can't do anything about that, you should go talk to your therapist about that" and it's like, I already do, that's not the point... It feels like I'm only being pushed away because it's not a problem they can solve for me :(
"A healthy relationship is built on open communication, not assumptions" *Thank you so much for that.*
It is so reassuring, when you are thrown in the trash because "You never understand what I want! You need things to be explained to you directly like a child, _I communicate by insinuations, that's how I want to communicate!_ " (not to mention that I was supposed to get "his insinuations", while he never did an inch of effort to try to understand ME)!
I am almost crying for how much I feel reassured after this video.
@@justinalee7306 after being in therapy for months and rebuilding my self esteem, I think I can safely say that these people don't really know what a mature relationship is. They are incapable of communicating and blame it on you. It's the very typical (and also fair in that case) treatment that a child expects from a parent: the parent is supposed to sacrifice her needs and to understand the child without questioning, because biologically the child is still not perfectly able to communicate them.
Except, these people are adults now.
Move on, you definitely deserve better :*
@@Astgsfgt Thanks for the kind words and encouragement! I’m so sorry for what you went through, and I’m glad you’re feeling much better now. This gives me the courage to keep moving forward and keep working on myself. Thank you again! 🙂
INSINUATIONS is the perfect word
Omgosh your "" happen to me..
Fun fact : sometimes only a "good romance" Turns into a bad and abusive one
That’s a sad fact..
Can say from experience that this is true 👌 oh how wonderful it would have been if only things didn't go wrong
Thanks for sharing. Have you personally been in this situation before? :(
Respect begets respects. Love and understanding and communication is the best romance. Balance and partnership is important.
Currently in the mode of healing from a breakup. I texted him calmly but he ended up telling me to stop acting like a victim and that he didn’t see my efforts. It hurt since I put all my time and effort on him, and I was blamed for the roots of the problem despite my situation.
Sounds like he's a good for nothing. I hope you get better and stay safe. :)
Same, he would say things to me like you’re so fake your love was fake I curse you , !!!Damnn I’m so glad I’m over him
My soon to be ex said the same!! I've wasted so much time on him it's ridiculous! He very mean but in public he pretends to be nice friendly and outgoing but behind closed doors he a demon
Respect begets respects.understanding and communication are utmost and leaving aside pride and ego.
I exited him today , exact words too ' stop playing victim' when all i wanted was respect, understanding and ownership from his side.
In tears bc I am going through this at this very second. Thank you 🙏
You're not alone. I pray you're out of it now
@@etienne5456 thank you
Now I'm just scared that I might be abusive to someone. Just questioning myself i guess .
Abuse occurs when expectations/entitlement about the relationship exceed compassion for the other person. Remember that abusive people actually feel like they're the victim for not getting enough attention. As long as you're compassionate, willing to accept that the other person is still a separate person with their own life to live, and eager to accept your own faults + put in the effort to grow and improve upon them, you should be fine. 😁
@@CFSworks This is a double-sided weapon and we should put extreme care into drawing healthy boundaries.
Let's say you are dating a person who is emotionally unavailable, gaslighting you, untrustworthy. You 99% become insecure and start putting blame / questioning their whereabouts. So the other person puts blame on you saying you are controlling (while they keep meeting other people on dating apps, saying that you are toxic for not giving them trust while you should, and that you are not compassionate enough because you don't understand that for them commitment is hard). You see what I mean?
I think we should be very careful when talking about compassion, because that is one of the biggest doors into manipulation. *Informed* kindness and compassion for the other person are key. And compassion for ourselves too, that does not mean entitlement. Again, it's a healthy balance matter.
In any case, very likely if you wonder whether you are the abuser or not, you probably aren't...
@@Astgsfgt There is always such a thing as too much of a good thing. "Not being abusive" does not mean "the relationship is healthy."
@@CFSworks yeah, that is right. I think many people struggle with this though, and stay stuck in unhealthy situations..
@@Astgsfgt In my experience at least from seeing that play out in other people, 90% of the time this is because of projective identification. The abuser *knows* abuse is happening, so can't deny that, but denies that they're the abuser and instead projects onto the abused. If the abused identifies with that projection, they can begin to act out the role (perhaps they get irrationally angry upon sensing their abuser's suppressed rage). It's a pity because it makes the gaslighting work a lot faster than otherwise.
Unfortunately it's really hard to tell who's responsible for what in a projective situation like that. But both parties will be aware that abuse is happening, they just won't be able to agree on who is abusing whom (and maybe it's going in both directions). In a situation like that, the relationship should really just be ended.
Welcome to another episode of "Why I shall stay single forever"
I felt this
@@atticus5748 Good. Now suffer with me
❤️
Anyone suffer by fusing tacos and burritos?
@@crushelnast6657 You need help. Serious help.
I experienced all of this with my mom growing up. I didn't realize that it was abuse until I was older. I was always afraid and anxious. I finally got out of this situation a few years ago and moved in with my dad. Things have been a lot better since.
Every point shown in this video and in all the other videos from your channel, I CAN RELATE . Been in a very toxic , emotionally abusive , threatening relationship for two years and literally that made me do mistakes that I never thought of . That period changed my whole character in two years and at one point I started being rude and bad to everyone Including to my parents . I lost my best friends who meant the world to me . Life just went from 100 to 0 . My career was disturbed , mindset was disturbed and now Iam a complete inferior and a total anti social person with intense fear inside and cant afford to give it a thought of getting into a relationship. This led to anxiety issues when I be around women and can’t go anywhere , where I see too many people . Everything goes scary now with huge inferiority complex. It literally makes you feel guilty for stuff that pushed you to do and of your reactions because of their actions . So kids please see someone for a while till you are sure and avoid rushing into a relationship. PERIOD. Looks can be deceiving and your life might completely change in a negative way . Focus on your Career and on your mental health . Love everyone ❤️
Could you make a video about how to separate yourself/heal from an emotionally abusive relationship? It would really help, because I’ve started to realize how abusive my mom is, and I’d like to know how I can protect myself and others around me (like my brother). If you can that would be great! :)
I hate how I can relate to all of the 14 reasons... dude my family sucks I hate that I care about them when they clearly dont feel the same way.
I feel you 💔
I can relate as well
relatable
Thanks for sharing! We want to let you know that you’re not alone! How are you coping with this situation so far?
;-; I feel you....
You deserve the relationship that value you so much. If you are abused mentally, it's the time to say good bye.
I was in an abusive relationship on and off for years. I'm so glad I finally snapped out of it and left. It might be tough, and you might be afraid. It's okay to be afraid. They've conditioned you to be constantly fearful so that you bow to their whims. There's always help. I had to call victim services at my local police department to help me, and it was scary. But, I'm thankful I mustered up the courage. If you need help, there will always be someone. 🖤
I wish i knew what to do. I don't know where to start. I'm an emotion reck with depression. My partner plays with my feeling with negetivity. Then he tries to get close to me like nothing he said meant anything 😭
@@rafaelaguerra4744 If possible, you should leave. That's the sort of thing my ex used to pull. It's not fair to you to play with your feelings and confuse you, and if you need help leaving, ask a trustworthy person (a parent, sibling, aunt/uncle, etc.) to be with you when you say you're leaving. It's really scary and tough, but you will feel so much better!
@@rafaelaguerra4744 How are you Rafaela? Hope you're safe 🙏🏼
Im not😢
Sometimes these people have a huge amount of insecurities and issues themselves and will even try to make you out to be the abuser. It seems very common for women to do this to men as society will not believe men easily.
It's important to note that if this is what you saw while growing up, you're probably perpetuating the cycle without realizing it. If you feel like you're guilty of doing some of these things, counseling is a great tool to help change those patterns.
I feel awful for these people who have to go through this
It’s a very depressing situation at times especially when they give you the slight sense of hope when they’re emotionally available but just keep manipulating you
Tbh even tho I know it isn't my fault I still feel like I should have noticed the abuse beforehand- dark times indeed
Thanks for sharing. Do you personally know someone who might be going through this?
@@Psych2go unfortunately my mum went through this
It is honestly bad, because at first I didn't know anything, since I was my first relationship, and it got to the point where my family was telling me to stay away and that it's unhealthy, and my sensitive self was very overwhelmed and didn't know what to do..
So it's a rough ride..
Did I see ANY of those traits in my relationship? I was a teenager when I unwittingly married a narcissist; I was steeped in ALL of those traits for 20 years. Confused and exhausted, I finally left the marriage because I did not want to grow old never being heard. For the next 18 years I had no contact with my ex, but I continued to do those negative things to myself. But I got back together with her last year hoping to get some answers to ease my confusion. She did not answer any of my questions, but she started bulling me right were she left off 18 years ago. But because of that break, I finally saw how destructive and unacceptable her behavior is. Its sad, I am now 56 years old, I will do my best to be happy, heal from this abuse, and for the first time ever, start my life.
so proud of you, you are ver strong and it is never too late to take back your life
This video couldn’t come at a better time. Just left my husband a few days ago. Didn’t want to accept he was abusive. This video really made me emotional because it really shown light on things I was pushing away. And how much he was controlling my life and who I was. It really hurts to accept that he was doing those things, but I’m glad I’m starting to. Thank you so much for making this video.
I can remember how every time I tried to communicate and talk about something that bothered me, I was accused of “starting my sh!t again” and “causing trouble”. No matter what I did, it was wrong. I’m so glad I’m out of it, now. Looking back, I can’t believe the things I put up with.
I cannot believe that you don’t realize you’re in such relationships like this. Makes you wonder what you miss 👩🏫 and how did you not see this coming. This breakdown gives you real clarity and make you wonder was I really with a person like this?
Psych2Go, why do you always surprise me when it comes to the videos?
I've noticed a trend that every time I have a problem, you created the video on the same day.
VERY Unexpected
Maybe our souls are connected!
So it’s not just me? I’ve been thinking the same every time it happens
They’re able to be sensitive but not u
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Or lash out and if you do, it just gets worse...
I wish I could like this comment twice.
My ex would go 12 hours without saying a word to me, then hop on Call of Duty and talk to all these guys about
what she did today, what she's doing tomorrow, what she's planning for Christmas.
And I'm just sitting there like.... Oh, I didn't know that. Or that. You're doing that tomorrow? Your mom said that?
You like that movie?
Pre-edit: I thought you said "able to be sensitive but not (TO) you.
Well, I can relate either way. They're sensitive but you're not. Just another way to make you walk on egg-shells and shut you down. I feel you...
@@biteyalmighty7874 sorry to hear that would make me so self-conscious
Narcs are all about double standards but they can't handle a taste of their own medicine
My mother was very abusive in that way. Growing up with her had me "searching" for a man who was exactly like her. I rather be single.
Heidi Mounsey,You are beautiful 🌹🌹,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
I realized that it was so bad when I said that I had a headache, and he responded by telling me not to act stressed and ruin his day.
I went through this at school with a so-called best friend all the way back in the 90s, just before the Internet. I was trapped, isolated, and super dependent on her even up until my 20s.
I'm 40 next year, and I've only just started to process these demons, and give the abuser a name.
Here...
1 : 0:30 - They blame you for things
2 : 0:42 - They avoid certain topics
3 : 0:56 - They control how you act
4 : 1:08 - They change your plans
5 : 1:26 - They are emotionally available & distant
6 : 1:42 - They say hurtful things as jokes
7 : 1:55 - They make you guess what they want
8 : 2:09 - They ignore your feelings
9 : 2:24 - They Gaslight you
10 : 2:42 - They act differently when you're with other people
11 : 2:56 - Their love is conditional
12 : 3:12 - They ignore your accomplishments
13 : 3:31 - They imply you're not helpful
14 : 3:43 - They need to know where you are
Hope you guyz are happy❤️
I was definitely in an emotionally abusive relationship, as a guy it sucks because most of your friends will tell you to man up and just get over it but they don't realize how damaging they are, also I've come to terms with some of my friends caring about me and wanting to see me better than I was so for any guys out there who went or are going through it I understand and hope you have friends in your corner to help pick you up because it is seriously helpful
*This applies to my mother, and I’ve realized that abuse is not only physically displayed.*
currently crying, thank you for this. honestly. all of these things are happening in my relationship.
I experienced every sign, but for some reason only realized i was being emotionally abused after the breakup… such a waste of my time and energy and effort into someone that didn’t fully, truly appreciate me. Hurts so much more realizing this.
Just been through this with an ex girlfriend we had a miscarriage and I felt guilty 10 of these things applied to me.
We was living together and for four months and I was gaslighted and emotionally neglected.
Every conversion I had about trying to fix or find common ground resulted in me being insurcure and furious resistance.
Take care when enough is enough quit.
YES, almost everything you said relates to my relationship. I am a guy and have been with my wife for over 20 years now. Things seem to be getting worse and I feel lost on what to do. I feel like I am living in a bad dream and can't wake up. I used to have confidence myself. Now not so much. This is destroying me inside and I hate the way I feel. I'm sorry for putting this out there. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it. It hurts so much loving someone who doesn't seem to have the same feelings and treats me this way. I just don't know what to do.
This goes for more than a romantic relationship, it can also be about a Friendship or something about your parents
That’s so true! Have you ever experienced this? :(
@@Psych2go yes
@@Psych2go I've experienced it too.
I have constantly been accused of cheating, always told what I do isn’t good enough and that I need to “improve”, would tell me that I need to be happy yet they constantly criticised me and made me feel insecure, they would say I’m trying to silence them when I voiced that I don’t like being insulted, constantly rejecting how I feel, starting arguments whenever I had something important/whenever I felt good, crying every single night and today was my last straw. I blocked him on everything.
After 45 years of it, I’m done. He still lives in our home but I don’t let him play those game’s anymore. He’s done ALL of that but I give what I get now.
Lemme just say, sorry to the people who think they're first us time travelers are always gonna be here before you
Aw man :(
Wow! Good job!
How dare you >:[
Oww... That actually hurt...
How do people do this
i’m here for anyone. stay strong
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Thank you for your support!
I'm going through a breakup and after we talked a lot, I realized how abusive I was being /: The controlling part started at the beginning of our relationship after going through a trauma due to my father's extramarital relationship. I needed to know where my ex BF was and who he was with, not because I couldn't trust HIM but because I couldn't trust anyone anymore... 💔 The last two years of our 7 year relationship I realized that I was doing 5 of this behaviors: 2- 4 - 5 - 10- 14. I wish I had noticed before, it was never my intention to hurt him 💔😞 I hope people are able to see this video sooner so they can work on themselves before they ruin everything as I did.
Hey. I would have really appreciated that from my partner yet they never did that. Instead they left me, labelled me as manipulative, and jumped right into another relationship. I have been out of it for a week battling my self worth, insomnia, and emotional pain.
@@ClassyEnding I can imagine how you feel. It's been almost an year, doing therapy and now I've started taking antidepressants, I feel much better now and am able to work on my issues in therapy.
@@NicoleCamileSantosAlexandre keep growing. I am starting my own mental health treatment too. The best of luck on your journey
Well done for your honesty and self reflection - that's already massive progress in your life!
Sending love to those who's struggling to get out from this kind of relationship. You can do it and the future is brighter. Keep going, you're worthy of love. 💕
I was finally getting to be recognized in a choir where id been struggling to be noticed. When i finally got a part I auditioned for, my partner started crying because they beleived i was replacing them in the choir. For context there, they had been one of the directors favorites their entire time they were in the choir while i was struggling to make myself be known, but when i got that part that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone to audition for and had been waiting for that chance for three years, they cried and told me i was their replacement. Broke down sobbing and exoected me to comfort them. The post part is, they also got a part they auditioned for in the same song. Just at a different place.
The first step is always the hardest to take in any situation . Remember you have survived this , you will survive this as well . That took strength give yourself some credit for what you've been through . It's not easy but it is possible. The word impossible even says "I'm " "possible ". You can do it . Fight to be happy again . 🙏🏻 sending positive thoughts and prayers to everyone reading this today . Best of luck to you . 🤝🏼
my crush emotionally abuses me? she acts and does these sort of things..-
You deserve so many nice things leave her....
I'm so sorry, you deserve better! God bless.💚
She isn’t worth ur time. She is a horrible person for that. I hope ur doing ok
I see :( How many of these points described her?
@@Psych2go point 5, 6 7, 8, 9, 10, and 12 are the points that mostly describe her, so quite a few of them.
Wish I've seen this like 6 years ago, when I had the worst relationship of my life. But I'm glad I'm seeing it now, it's never late to learn, right?
Why do I still love him after all the abuse and harm he’s caused me? How do I stop feeling so broken?!
My DADDDDDDD!! He called me subordinate for over a year and told me that I needed to quit my job to (literal quote) “serve him”
I couldn’t post pictures if he didn’t think I looked good in them because “our image is everything”
We would be late to something and it was ALWAYS my fault even though he was the one that had to check it the lights were off in the house 3 times.
I haven't watched the video yet, but I'm often scared to get into relationships because of abuse, and not wanting to be hurt... It seems kinda irrational, but it's always there. Hopefully I can try to start feeling better about relationships but for now, it isn't something I want for myself
I recently broke up with a guy that did all the 14 ALL THE TIME! It was like an emotional roller coaster for a year and I always had to guess what would be the right thing to do and I was always wrong in his eyes. Together with him my blood pressure got very high and I thought it was because of me not exercising (because I couldn’t always do that when I was planning to go to the gym he came to visit or made me feel guilty!) Two months after I broke up with him I checked my blood pressure again and it was even a little bit low 😮 I really did my self a big favor by leaving him. So beware of these signs please if you read this! I can’t imagine the status of my health if I stayed with him for longer time…
13/14 signs in my relationship plus verbal abuse. Don't know how to live anymore. Never thought I would end up in something like that.
Podobnie.
Me too😢
Absolutely! I’ve tried to comment twice and both times my comments disappeared. I tried to explain my situation and do not feel like trying once more.
Don't forget belittling. Some don't trust the moves you make, the decisions you make and always act like you're getting yourself into trouble out of incompetence.
It's especially insidious if it's disguised as care.
@007Spadge He told me I was not like every woman he knew , the best of the best, but yet , I was constantly called a prude , just because I wasn't willing / ready to be physically intimate with him . He isn't divorced yet .
Anyway , I finally called it quits . Especially after he told me he was spending time with another woman ( as far as i know, it wasn't sexual then ) because he was feeling lonely and found this long-distance relationship difficult.
Pay attention to this video and how they make you feel. Chances are, you’re right.
Good advice!
I was in some because My ex friend Sam was always joking about I was scared of a lot things and that made me upset and that one of the reasons. She also was sometimes what to be with me or just be someone else and I got mad.She sometimes ignore me and sometimes I have attention issues. Sometimes she was jealous of me because I more opportunities to go to a better high school but she couldn’t but it was only for Catholic high schools. And I still have attention issues and I told her that and she keeps joking about it and I told her to her to stop and knew from the way I act for 2 years and that’s one of the reasons why... And she want to be friends again I start to ignore her like she did to me and I have better friends now and I don’t need her to hurt me again...
I hope you are doing well now. sending lots of love and virtual warm hugs to you. hope you have a great time.
Thanks 💖💖💖
Sadly, it’s the only relationships I have had. So I avoid relationships.
But oddly, abusive types are the ones that violate social distancing. No boundaries?
Im thankful for this video. The truth hurts but it's something that has to embraced. Because the truth prevails.
The man I thought would be my everything cheated on me and then lied for months about doing so. I cried for months because I thought I was crazy just like he said. Gosh I hate people who just hurt you because they feel like it
There is a thing that I doubt at the moment a friend did to me:
When I told a friend that I got hurt by her ignoring me for a long time (with the reason of her mental health struggle), and that I didn't like that she didn't say why and didn't think about how I felt about that, she got more mad and blamed me for everything that went wrong in that fight bc I made her feel even worse when I said it. I am the only one who had apologized for the fight and EVERYTHING that happened in it (including her tweeting she would kill me for a prize) and it still doesn't sit well with me.
My aunt kathy verbally abuses me by yelling at me whenever I voice my opinion and my mom won't do anything to help me, instead she just let's it happen and then gets mad at me whenever I bring it up. Like WTF mom if you really loved me then you wouldn't be letting stuff like this happen. Thanks for listening.
I kinda know how u feel but my story is a little different
sending much good energy, you will get through this. fuck kathy, i appreciate and love you.
@@lacyyyy thanks it means alot
@@shinoinuzuka3727 🤎
It must be some weird family dynamic going on. Ask your Mom how would she feel if she was in your place.
Not long ago I actually ended my relationship with my ex bc he was showing all of those signs and it's still very hard to feel good about myself again
18 years of marriage and I am ticking all the boxes, here. the only good thing is that his emotional abuse is very obvious now...
I have been in abusive toxic relationship for almost two years with a guy younger than me... who was so childish, immature ... always accusing me for things which i don't even do.. all controlling my life ... always using another girls just to hurt me and make me jealous... he have been repeatedly that for years ..
It hurts to leave but I hope everything happen for our own good..
I was mentally, emotionally as well physically sick because of him...
Now he went with another girl, may he learn some lesson in future..I wish karma taught him something
I just realized that I have been emotionally abusive to my partner.
Another thing I realized is how I was being treated for the past 5 years of my life by my ex.
I am making a promise to be better for this dude. He is literally worth everything!
Wow.
I’m getting emotional abuse by trying to keep my friend from doing drugs, smoking, and all that.
Maybe I should give up, it’s been like this for almost a year.
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Focus instead on unique and precious you.
You CANNOT change another person.
Look into al anon if you need support with this.
@@ohdear2275 Well, you can change another person....
You can't force change when the other person doesn't want to do it.
@@starlite04 I'm not forcing them...I'm just trying to encourage it...
When your so early that only the patrons are here
Your channel has not only helped me today with realising my intelligence and my reasonings for why i do things without people. But has also helped me now become clearer to how my mother and step father treated me while i lived there and too this day. I dont know how to break free yet since the dependency is strongly there but atleast i know i may not be completely too blame
I'm being abused in a relationship and it's horrible. I'm so tired of it and it's been destroying the quality of my life. I'm. Sick. Of it all.
I feel like crying everyday but it somehow feels like my body is tricking me into thinking I am fine. I feel so sad but it seems like my body is telling me I am happy. Does anybody know why or what I should do?
I feel the same.. My mind says that u r being too sensitive, u r strong enough, stop crying.. Even I feel like crying until I run out of tears. I think it's due to bottling up our emotions for a long time, and being made to feel guilty or ashamed or weak for being ourselves or vulnerable, that has lead to these unintentional thoughts rooted in our minds.
This is like how politicians treat us!
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*Bold of you to assume i ever had an relationship*
For when you are in one :)
@@Psych2go I'll never be in one. I'm too screwed up.
@@bigscarysteve i feel you.
Now lets suffer toghether
He made me be alone. All of my friends hate him and distance themselves from me because I was isolated with him for 3 years also because of quarantine. I tried to bring him closer to my friends but he acted nonchalant and even wanted me to see the bad in them. Now I'm like...if I leave him,I have absolutely nobody anymore. :(
I'm trying to save the man I love from this toxic relationship he's in. thank you for validating my worries.
Wow, the moment this video uploaded. I actually created a playlist of "emotionally powerful musics". Its mostly heavy metal and dubstep but yeah. Im gonna watch the video.
What are your thoughts after watching this video?
I am here just to say sorry to every other girl out there who have had gone through this or going through this because I have done some of these things to the love of my life and now she has left me. I'm just dying million times a day without her and by regretting what I have done wrong to her 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 . I can't live without her and my inner guilt won't leave me till my death. Now that I have realised every thing she is not with me to solve out, please pray for me and my relationship guys 😭😭😭😭😭😭
I just really like how Psych2Go uses they/them pronouns instead of generalizing/stereotyping a specific gender
It makes me happy :>
Me too. This is how it's done in my dialect. A lot of people are very judgemental against this usage.
15- they actually discourage u, telling that u cant do it or u can never do it, and justify it as an encouragement, rather negative encouragement, so that u will anyway do it and proof urself out of rage!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That verbal abuse is a train wreck. ..he does act different around other people
I dealt with ALMOST ALL of this signs in my past relationship... The guy was awful
I hope you are better!
@@mattl5727 I am, thanks for being so understanding!
Thanks for letting us know. We’re sorry to hear that! What helped you remove yourself from the relationship?
@@Psych2go Thanks for your amazing channel and videos! Well, even though I did a lot of things for him, he played the victim card and left me with the excuse that he wasn't enough for me *Wich, to be fair was true* I knew it was an excuse 'cause he moved days before with a friend who liked him and even in the past he threatened me with being with her, so of course he was cheating... The day he left I actually felt better. What helped is realizing that I deserve better that a loser, and feeling with no worries again, dedicating time for my personal well being and college was also REALLY helpful. Thanks for listening, keep up your amazing content, is awesome seeing you interact with subscribers!
This makes me wildly uncomfortable ... man I really hope I didn’t emotionally abuse that girl. I feel so terrible. Still.
Since when do males actually care about a girl's emotions ???
14 signs of emotional abuse in relationships:
1. they blame you for things
2. they avoid certain topics
3. they control how you act
4. they change your plans
5. they are emotionally unavailable & distant
6. they say hurtful things as jokes
7. they make you guess what they want
8. they ignore your feelings
9. they gaslight you
10. they act differently when you’re with other people
11. their love is conditional
12. they downplay/ignore your accomplishments
13. they imply you’re not helpful
14. they need to know where you are constantly
if you’re currently in any form of an abusive relationship, i empathise with you, and recommend you to end the relationship if it’s possible. stay happy and safe 💛
Luckily I saw the signs before it was too late. Sadly I spent 12 years feeling like I was going crazy. I've been out for two weeks now and have never felt better. Never be too scared to reach out to a family member or friend for help❤ You can do this.
I say it...everything literally everything I feel matches with this video....and moreover the abuse turns to physical and much more...I have literally suffered I lot..I forgot who I was...I couldn't stay anymore in that relationship... I am still healing... Hope to overcome this....❤️