I Had A Crush On A Girl For Months And Didn't Say Anything
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Every man has had this experience brother. I remember I met this 10/10 Germanic girl who I liked from day 1. I asked her out after months of frustration. You know what she said? “I thought you’d never ask”. But sadly, at the time, I wasn’t half the man I am today and I completely blew it by being a needy b****. Still miss her, but hey, the pain of losing her caused a massive change in my life trajectory. We’re all going to make it brah!
King zyzz
why tf that's so relatable for me.. goddamn
It's fucking ZYZZ brah and I'm coming at ya come on
@@firstlast9846 youre an npc, she dodged a bullet
Oooof
She rejects you - you grow stronger
She says yes but you dont last - you assess your behaviour
She says yes and it lasts a long time - you made memories and have a clearer vision of what you want
She says yes and it lasts forever - youve conquered relationships
There is no bad outcome you can have from asking a girl out as long as your priority is your own attitude and mental health. Blessings to you all
Beat comment on the video so far 👏🏻💯...
Thank you,king🤝
I'm saving this, thank you
She says “I already have a boyfriend” - you have incentive to move on
Bro i am a 20 yr old Virgin and haven't kissed a girl yet
I even have fucked up mental health and i am trying to improve it for now and after that i will try to get girls
Just do it man! Trust me, your regret of not asking her out is way more negative than rejection. Rejection stings for a few hours, but regret lingers and sneaks up on you at the worst possible moment for years on end. So get out of your comfort zone! It will lead to nothing but a net positive and you will be grateful that you took that leap. 🙏
Thank You, i'll do it no matter what!
I did it and the rejection still lingers for months now
ill do it
Yeah but keep in mind the opposite scenario is possible; say toxic relationships, or in my case, not knowing the reason she no longer wants to talk to you over a matter of half a year; which can lead you on dark roads of depression depending on your attitude etc... I'm not a professional but I'd suggest you to see several sides of the matter.
@@icekoldcilla8470 what happened? Are you ok?
Social backlash doesn't matter, ignore it. People will forget and you will only grow from the interactions, whether you win or lose.
There is no losing. You either win or you learn.
@Guckchuck123 Chucker thats a good thing
@@bowskee How so?
@@summero-my5in you will have clout
@Guckchuck123 Chucker Relax. People don't care nearly as much as you think they do. Even if they did, they will certainly forget about it not too long afterwards anyways. In situations where you may end up seeing the person or people more frequently (like at the gym, school, work, or wherever) they still won't care as much and will barely remember it.
"Regret is always worse than rejection"
Man this is so true. I had crushes on girls in high school and never said anything, just pulled a Jeffrey and stared... But once I got to college I finally stopped being a pussy and struck up a conversation with a girl in my class I had a crush on. It didn't end up going anywhere but I feel so much better about that because I actually made an attempt.
Proud of you bro 😊
Frrr bro I have a lot of things I regret I didn’t do of all the girls I came through. But thank God we All know now and we gonna do better bros!
@Mr. M The point was I did something about it. I've struggled with social anxiety for all of my life and never had the confidence to even say hi to a cute girl. Just opening my mouth was a big success for me.
Maybe the result will be different with the next girl. It is better to try and fail than to not try at all.
been going to the gym for some months, i was confident and i started trying, i told her how i felt got rejected but i feel kinda good because i never tried something like that, i guess now i have to forget her
@@reborngreatnesss5712 not bro .... Brah
“Regret is worse than rejection”- amazing advice
This is mad scary, the way Hamza depicts these events like legit the same exact fucking things happened to me including the thoughts and feelings he had at the time. The fact that I started lifting when I was 17, am of south asian heritage (Indian), struggled with anxiety AD/HD daydream syndrome, video game addictions, poor relations with family, I went through THAT EXACT SAME CRUSH (btw that pillow cuddling thing was a direct call out), I deadass feel like Hamza is me in the future talking to me his younger self. These events sound wayyy to dead on it’s almost like a movie moment like my life was just a simulation or some shit. It’s crazy how many people went through the same exact experiences as you, I literally saved this video.
I have the exact same feeling bro
bro wtf im also south asian and going through the same thing
Same. This video hit me hard like a truck
What is it saying though, that many men are having this experience? What is it saying about the situation?
Even the boar hunt?
hamza, huge thanks. I had done exercises even before I had discovered (I was not fat, but I was tired of being average) your channel, but now:
-I dont eat fast food
-I eat more, and also much cleaner
-I exercise almost everyday
-I try to get better sleep (I used to sleep from 4-5,5 hours daily, now its 6-7,5, still much to improve, but its already better
-I do gratidute journaling
-I fight my ego
-I have watched porn porn once in the past 7 weeks (used to be addicted)
-I force my best friend to go gym
thanks for everything, we are all gonna make it🔱
Proud of you my Bruhh!
king
W well done
We've all done this boys. I should make a video on my cringiest story too on my channel. The worst part is that either she likes you back and you wasted months not developing a relationship with her or she doesn't like you and you wasted months fixated on a girl that's unattracted to you.
or she likes you but now she's dating someone else lmao.
@@Feeelipeeee LOL how could I forget the most brutal one 😂
That's me, I asked her to prom but she said no, but I still feel like she likes me and my feelings for her won't go away. It's fustraiting.
@@gad8203 that’s rough Buddy-Zuko
Luckily I know she does.
Luckily.
For all the guys who are scared and the yougins, remember you aren't always going to be this age. So don't miss your opportunity to experience something wonderful. Rejected or not
my problem is i have no idea what to do, my whole school life i was improperly socialized, Ive had a horrible social foundation my whole life and friend making was difficult for me and corrona ruined it all for me
@@ronmka8931 you got this man. Lay a foundation brick by brick. Just talk to random people everywhere you go and I don't even mean having a full conversation, just say Hi. Once people actually wanna get to know you or get close to you just be yourself. Stop worrying so much or overthinking brother. Remember we're all the same
@@Stoneybv yeah man im just an extremely different kind of guy, looking in the past i was surprised why i haven't been diagnosed with autism because i was so socially inept it was borderline mental illness of some sort
@@ronmka8931 how old are you bro
@@Stoneybv 19
This is incredibly relatable. Had this with a girl I worked with about 3 years ago. I was very shy then. The regret hurts for sure, because you simply don't know what would have happened. Bizarrely enough, having not seen her for 3 years, I've seen her twice in the last week, and it has brought all of those feelings back in a way. Like you say, its utterly ridiculous how you fall into the trap of not only taking zero action, but then putting this person on a pedestal, like they're almost more important than you, yourself. Asking someone out is not an action that is going to harm anyone, so we should not be worried about the judgement from other people, or indeed the person in question. Top video.
Hey man. Hope ur doing well. I litreally am in the same situation as you. The feelings just cannot go away.
@@ihavenoskins1036 vro I don't know what to do now.. I'm lost, should I tell her or not ??!?
@@Josue-zm9iutell her, and after that you have some peace In your mind. Don’t make the same mistake as me you always gonna wonder ohh what if I would have asked her out 2 years ago? Pain is temporary regret is constant
I can't believe how much I can relate to this . So back when I was 16 in the first quarantine of 2020 I had a huge HUGE crush on this girl in my class but since we were in Lockdown I couldnt really approach her naturally and kind if just ... Waited and fantasized . When school finally re opens and we start getting out of lockdown , I say to myself "now's the chance" ... And we start talking , well , a Little bit . Just enough to get to know each other , growing just a tad bit more confident . However after school ends we scarcely ever meet . And whenever we did meet , I feel so awkward talking to her after a long absence that i barely greeted her ... Months go by and I havent even told her how I feel . The reason ? I was scared SHITLESS of rejection . I had to guarantee with absolute certainty , that she would be ready for a relationship , which made me miss all the chances i had . One day after 5 months since first falling for her , I say fuck it and just quit . A month later she got together with a guy she had just met .... Moral of the story is ... Don't be afraid of rejection or any if that bullshit because regret is quite worse . I found this channel today and I am so thankful that someone is spreading the word that I can't . Peace bois , and keep at it .
That suck, I had a similar thing with a girl in my Spanish class, I sat by her, and we would talk almost every day, and I fell for her pretty quickly, she was very attractive, but more than that she was incredibly nice and friendly. I wasted months testing the waters, making her laugh, talking to her, and I though she might be interested back, but she kept giving mixed signals, so I wasn't really sure. Now, she is WAAAY out of my league, so I decided to figure out if she does like, me, and I asked her to a movie, as friends, just to see if she was interested. She said no, and my biggest regret is that I didn't ask sooner, although she doesn't really talk to me anymore lol. It doesn't really matter cuz my school ends in three days. I just wish she would have been more clear when she rejected me, instead of saying no, she asked when it was, then said she was busy that weekend. Either way, I can't change the past, and I'm glad I at least made an effort
@@trevorm0329 oh damn , I get what you mean . We don't talk very much either nowdays , asides from the occasional "happy birthday" when that day comes . Sad part is as you said , made her laugh and made very good conversations (although whenever we talked about movies I cringed my guts out because we have completely different tastes lmao) , but even when she was showing interest and started becoming more and more friendly , me being the dumbass that I was never took the risk of confessing .
@@trevorm0329 She isn't way out of your league you are out of her league king 👑
@RisenK thanks man, might not be true, but at it could be someday lol. That's why I'm going to really take responsibility of my life now that school is out, get a job, get my license, grind at the gym. Maybe next year I'll be a better person, more well rounded, and I will be in her league. Either way, fingers crossed, stay grindin
@@trevorm0329 good luck brah! Doing the same here hopefully you're more successful lol.
I’m well acquainted with the situation you’re describing Hamza. Had loads of crushes on diff girls but the one that hurts me the most is the girl I was too afraid to speak to at Uni. She ended up seeing my friend on the bus, they got talking and now they’re in such a committed relationship they’re about to get married. I just can’t get away from the feeling of regret and that hamster wheel of “what if” in my mind these days.
❤
I had a crush on this girl named Anna, she was my dream girl. Short, blonde, emo/grungy chique. Beautiful voice and infinitely caring, she was a little older than I (23F 19M) but I was down bad. I did cringey sh1t like buy her a coffee just to talk to her for a few minutes, help her with her clients to hopefully gain her attraction but nevertheless it was futile. I was a borderline anorexic kid making no money and oozed insecurities, she was much farther along in her life and much more attractive than I was so why would she go out with me? I came to that rationalization early into my crush but my heart never stopped beating. So on my last day at my job I stumbled up to her and fearing regret I asked her out and as predicted she rejected me. It was an immense relief and allowed me to close that chapter in my life. I have grown up a lot since then and I thank that experience for pushing me just a little bit more. It's a good memory of mine as she handled it with grace and we both had a nice laugh.
"regret is worse than rejection" exectly what i needed. Thank you hamza
I don't know where to talk about it, so I think I'll talk to you brothers about it.
There's a girl in my society, she's got a nice personality, and I want to make her my friend, I do not plan for more than friends, I just want her as my good friend, as for now,
I saw her yesterday but she was sort of in a hurry for some work, so I couldn't approach her .
Today, I did see her, and she was just walking around, and I wanted to approach so badly, like I've been waiting as trying for days now.
But when it seemed like a good time to talk, I got nervous, and kinda forze, and plus, there were many older people around me at that point too . But I was more nervous and full of anxiety. I wanted to approach her today finally, but couldn't . She went back home, and then again came back, I had a second chance, but I couldn't.
So I'm here for some tips, wish me all the best, because I can't waste another day, I'll have to talk to her now .....cuz I've been regretting it so bad for days now.
Had an obsessive crush similiar to the one Hamza described in the video. Recently it just kinda went away now that I’ve gotten into self improvement. Did try to ask her out (was on snapchat however) Have been talking to her more but then I sorta realised she wasn’t all I thought she was.
i had literally the same experience. There is this girl that i liked for a few months now, but as i've gotten into self improvement and self love i actually lost a lot of those feelings i had, and this was around the same time i started befriending her. And honestly I'm really glad i figured this stuff out. if i didn't start working out i would still have that unhealthy obsession
social media doesnt count
Mental same thing happened but turned out this girl ended up being extremely antisemitic now I'm not Jewish but not into people who hate others for the beliefs
"My biggest failures in life are knowing I never tried" - NF
"Rejection is better than regret"
Polarizing... that's such an important concept for social interactions. I've known that subconsciously but having it put into words is so helpful. When I stopped being a nice guy (the antithesis of polarizing) people actually started to gravitate towards me. Yes Hamza
I had a simillar story I had crush on a girl from my class for like 1 year I knowed that she is not my league so I lost 15 kg to get that confidence that I can make It. I texted her about my feelings and I heared No. After that week later I had a surgery and It was kind a most depressing part of my life, I couldn't exercise because of that. Few months later I started working out my menthal health is a little better and now I am eaven good friend of that girl. Remember brahs we all gonna make it. (sorry for bad english, hope I didn't made too much gramar mistakes)
Man, I experienced this recently. This thing is so relatable.
This video feels like it was made exactly for me. I have a huge crush on this girl that I work with. I was fairly confident she liked me because of how flirty she was with me in person and the fact that my co-workers teased her about it.
I asked her out and she said yes but then she texted me later and added that she just recently got out of a bad relationship with another co-worker and that she wasn't looking to get involved with anyone and she just wanted to keep things casual. I said that was totally fine and that we'd have fun on a date regardless. Our date ended up falling through due to a scheduling issue. I've tried to reschedule since then, but it hasn't worked out.
I still see her 2-3x a week at work and talk to her a little bit, but it also seems like she is a bit more hesitant to flirt and talk to me than she was before. I'm just trying really hard to get over this idea that my brain has convinced me that she's the perfect and only girl for me. It's really difficult and despite the fact that I was never in an actual relationship with her I still experienced what felt like genuine heartbreak.
I really don't know if she is attracted to me or not. I was fairly certain at first, but now I'm not so sure. I just really hope I did the right thing by asking her out in the first place.
Just give her time, you'll realise when she'll be ready
@@antoanpotskov3479 Thanks man, I hope you're right
If i was you i would move on to another girl but hey its your choice
I say this to people, no experience is bad, they're all good because they offer you something to grow upon.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger n all that noise
I am 15 years old. This year, I wrote poems to the girl I fell in love with and she complained to the principal. Finally, I expressed my feelings (first time). He flatly rejected me. The reason was that I looked at the girl like Romeo and averted my eyes and expected her to be my Juliet. And what I learned was that I wasn't actually handsome, but ugly and weak. What I learned at an early age is directly asks, "Will you go out with me?" . Here I have found myself on this channel since I entered the year 2022.
How do you manage to let yourself fall in love before even speaking to her bro focus on yourself next time u got this
@@d0cktor523 I was incel. Im still weak and ugly but my mindset says "You are chad.".
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@@eren_yksmaxxing grind bro.
@@eren_yksmaxxing same, I'm 15 years old and fat.
I don't have social skills and sometimes I offend people even when I don't intend to.
I tried to exercise but keep coming back to being a lazy ass and eating food that makes me fat.
Right now I just discovered this channel and I think he's a really great guy.
Honestly, I keep trying things and after a couple of months and days I lose motivation, and I don't know what to do.
"Focus less on the booty and more on your duty"
- *ICEcold JT 2021*
Heeeee
😂
Stuck in the first step to have a crush
This is brilliant. I'm so glad you figured all this out at 17. I'm 45 and im just realising all this now! I never dared to tell a girl i liked them as i was sure they would reject me, just as my mother did (iv only worked out in the last 3years that all my issues came from my mother). So as you can imagine, iv caused myself a lot of unnecessary pain over the years! But im finally learning now that it's ok to be me and to make my feelings known to a woman, sooner the better, and if its a knock back, why would it matter, i barely know them anyway! 😅👍
I'm glad you are starting to work out those problems, I hope the best and most happy relationships for you!!
I don't know where to talk about it, so I think I'll talk to you brothers about it.
There's a girl in my society, she's got a nice personality, and I want to make her my friend, I do not plan for more than friends, I just want her as my good friend, as for now,
I saw her yesterday but she was sort of in a hurry for some work, so I couldn't approach her .
Today, I did see her, and she was just walking around, and I wanted to approach so badly, like I've been waiting as trying for days now.
But when it seemed like a good time to talk, I got nervous, and kinda forze, and plus, there were many older people around me at that point too . But I was more nervous and full of anxiety. I wanted to approach her today finally, but couldn't . She went back home, and then again came back, I had a second chance, but I couldn't.
So I'm here for some tips, wish me all the best, because I can't waste another day, I'll have to talk to her now .....cuz I've been regretting it so bad for days now.
I'm 16
@@akshat159 Are you sure you just want to be friends, or are you just telling yourself that because you think you have more chance of that than her going out with you? Be honest with yourself, and be confident in the fact that you fancy her, it's ok! If you internalise it because of your low confidence, you will make yourself ill. Get eye contact with her and smile at her or just say 'hi, how are you' or something for starters. Don't put her on a pedestal in your head. However much you like her, she is just a person the same as anyone else. If you do get chatting just remember that and try to chill and be relaxed. Then, as soon as you can, if you want to take her out or hangout, just ask her. If she wants to, great, if not don't take it personally and move on. But whatever happens, believe in yourself and value yourself enough not to drive yourself crazy over her. Good luck!
@@christianclough6247 you are right brother, I will he confident, and today i am talking to her,I have already wasted a few days as I got so nervous to approach her, but i don't care about being nervous, because I don't wanna regret not approaching her
I will do it today
And do expect a message here after 5 hours, I'll tell you what happened, because I'll approach her
All of my crushes I had didn't even know me and still don't know about my existence. It's not big deal brother. Crushes are something that pass away.
Alright bros I'm going to be really candid here. I've tried to make my intentions clear multiple times and each time they resulted in failure and a lot of nights staring angrily at the ceiling. I reached a point where I decided to completely cut myself off from that desire for intimacy and whatnot, and for a while I thought I was better off this way. Now I realize that was nothing more than a coping mechanism for rejection. Now, I'm much better, I'm doing well in self improvement and gym, doing great in Culinary school. Everything's good, but someone has caught my eye and some hope is there if I just take that leap of faith and see what's on the bottom. I'll update you when I've done it.
Good luck man! Just remember at the bottom of that hole is a ladder back up, you're never gonna hit rock bottom if you know where the exit is!
Update pls
@@ynpavo oh yeah it didn't work out😂 but whatever I guess
That bird is just asking questions on how to improve himself
" Regret is always worse than rejection ", okay, i understand, so tomorow im gonna say to that Girl that i love her for being sure and not being in a regret
Let's go bro
Dont go that strong. Just ask them out
Yeah just let her know how you feel no need for a horseride outside her window
@@austinlincoln3414 Yep
Could you update us?
Goodluck my son.
Self improvement and mental health are the only ways to fix being scared to talk to girls. You’ve given so many people the confidence to do what they feel like they need to do, including me. You’re inspired me to start this channel, so thank you!🙏🏼👑
Hamza being suprised about not having kissed a girl at 17 while I'm here chilling at 19 not having done so either is kinda epic
Yes. It’s great to go through this experience. I remember when I first went through this. Today, that’s why cold approaching is vital for young man. The regret is always going to kill you more than the rejection. always learn from each failure. You can’t get good at something if you never try.
A similar situation happened to me and that is actually what got me into self improvement and stop being a pssy, it is hard at first but I am grateful for that heartbreak feeling. I was sad for a few days but then it clicked in my mind, I had to get better. I am now 5 months in and still going hard, strength for all brothers, dont let that torment you and stop you from growing, we all got this!
The timing is crazy bro, I literally just walked up to her and had a conversation a few hours ago. It went well, she smiled a lot. Rejection is better than regret guys.
As i remember i always had problem with talking to women, but now when I have fear im always repeating in my head better ideas's words
"Inaction is a slow death
Action is a live-giving breath"
Keep growing brothers 💪👊🔥
Regret ain't making a choice and living with the consequences. Regret is when you never make a choice at all, never having the opportunity to live.
We’re all gonna get to where we want boys, keep going.
I had a crush on this girl in grade school for half of the school year (first crush I ever had, still not sure if I’m Demi/asexual) and I never said anything, last day of school she gives me a piece of paper saying how amazing I was and how *she* liked me and wanted to get to know me better. The note had her number on it, and although I hesitated for a day, I texted her back. Still together years later, the love of my life that I couldn’t ask more of
For anyone who might need it: I have went through months of crushing on someone and finally telling her my feelings, then getting rejected. But you know what? I don't regret it. Not for a second do I regret shooting my shot. My masculinity instantly increased, and I grew as a person afterwards. Don't be afraid to shoot your shot!
Hey Brother
There's a girl in my society, she's got a nice personality, and I want to make her my friend, I do not plan for more than friends, I just want her as my good friend, as for now,
I saw her yesterday but she was sort of in a hurry for some work, so I couldn't approach her .
Today, I did see her, and she was just walking around, and I wanted to approach so badly, like I've been waiting as trying for days now.
But when it seemed like a good time to talk, I got nervous, and kinda forze, and plus, there were many older people around me at that point too . But I was more nervous and full of anxiety. I wanted to approach her today finally, but couldn't . She went back home, and then again came back, I had a second chance, but I couldn't.
So I'm here for some tips, wish me all the best, because I can't waste another day, I'll have to talk to her now .....cuz I've been regretting it so bad for days now.
@@akshat159 Why are you afraid of making a new friend? If that's all you want to do, there's no need to overthink anything. Just act like she's already your friend and introduce yourself.
@@comfindens5706 Hey Brother
Good News
Mission Completed
@@akshat159 hi update pls
Thanks to your words of encouragement Hamza I approached the girl I had feelings for and socialized with her until my brother picked me up
Damn man, that's one of the vids I that I relate to the most. I started new school, new chapter of my life (old insecurities still linger on). I made friends with one girl, short blond wavy hair, golden eyes, she's also one of the sweetest and most caring people I know. Then some problems hit, I started to crush on her real bad. Almost 1.5 years pass by my mental health did not improve in the slightest, I was as broken as I was before, but I decided to just ask her out. I spent a literal week crying in my bed before sleep just thinking " what if she says no, what if I get rejected and destroy the friendship we already have." Still i decided to make that move. Now as I look back at that situation I'm glad that she said no, I was a broken person just looking to fill a void inside of me. If she said "yes" I'm sure I would've made her life a living hell. What I'm even more grateful about is the fact that our relationship did not collapse and we stayed great friends. At first it kinda stung but I got over it and now everything's great. All that gave me a great lesson, if you ever find yourself in situation like this don't pass on it, there is a chance that your entire relationship will fall down, but then you'll see who is your real friend and will stay by your side.
Stay strong brahs we'll make it no matter what!
I experienced this when I was 15 totally agree, good points
i would say this man knows what his audience needs.
absolutely wow
I did express my feelings after 3 months of crushing, ended by being rejected. It has been around 5 months and we haven't talked since. We go to same class (yikes).
I am open to conversation with her, but there haven't been any tries yet from her side. Even if I stayed friends with her, it would have been worse. I am more focusing on myself now, not hardcore, just mildly.
I know this might be seen as stupid move by me, but I trusted my gut feeling.
You go king.
She is a coward maybe lol, to say yes or no
Only a minor bump in the road that is self improvement. Keep at it and don't let rejections stop you from trying in the future.
It wasn’t a stupid thing it was brave
It wasn't stupid it was brave. You're braver than me
I was in polytech when I was 17, and so many girls were into me, I'd walk past a group of girls and I'd always raise at least one girls head to look at me for a few seconds. There was this classroom next to me full of girls and every time I'd come in at morning, they would all look up at me, giggle and smile etc.
You know what I did about it? Absolutely nothing. I was too scared and too insecure. I was in bad poverty at the time, I grew up poor but I was in the worst financial and mental state of my life. I had this feeling that everyone was out to get me, and that i could trust no one. Even though i shouldn't blame myself for the situation I was in, I still regret it every day.
its true that regret is way worse, but i think i should stay away from relationships, im not ready and i dont want to hurt anyone anymore
I have a crush on my best friend. (Long distance, she lives in Japan, I live in the U.S.) We’ve been friends for like 3-4 years now. We once dated, o my lasted about a month or so. She back then broke up with me because she wanted to focus more on her studies. We’re still best friends till this day and talk frequently.
I don’t wanna ask her out cause I’m afraid it’ll ruin our relationship or make things weird, which definitely did happen one time to us and we didn’t talk for months because she kindly rejected me and we’re friends but then she got busy or something was going on in her life, I felt as if she didn’t care about me as much anymore and craved her attention. We got into an argument and misunderstandings between both of us and parted ways.
But recently this year, two months ago we got back together and are friends again. Our friendship is stronger the ever. I also forgot to mention we share lots of the same views on many things, shes my type of women I’d wanna marry, shes smart, sophisticated, funny, she really understands and I understand too, we’re really close and both grown as a person in trying to be the best version of themselves. Me now being on the path to self improvement was a large factor as to how our relationship together got stronger. But still I can’t ask her out. I’m afraid of rejection. I only intend on asking her out once I really improve my life. When my life is set; meaning: I follow my goals and accomplish them, taking better care of myself, Getting down my routines, plans, working out, etc. and when I come visit her in Japan in about 2-3 years from now. We both are eager to see each other. Only then when I finally get to meet her is when I have the balls to actually ask her out. If by then she has a boyfriend, then I won’t even bring it up and move on. What you guys think?
Watched this yesterday got rejected for the first time today. Love you hamza!
I see. When I was younger, I didn't have a problem asking a girl I liked out. But after Both breakups, and moving countries between those two breakups, I was traumatized and I think I still am.
I was platonically in love with my best friend, but I didn't even realize how much I was obsessing over her. I always had in the back of my mind (and sometimes I still do feel that I do) that things would eventually work out with her. So I never told her how I felt. When she got a boyfriend, I didn't mind since I knew noone else is more compatible. I guess I subconsciously was so traumatized from past relationships that I couldn't even consciously tell myself "you love this girl". She cut ties with all of her friends after a traumatic experience and since I'd think "it'll work out". But as months went by, I one day texted her how I feel. I got rejected. And I didn't do it out of courage, I did it to feel something again. It didn't mean anything to me. Fast-forward 2 years and I'm still not over her. I need her to reject me fave to face, but it's hard to go out together cos she has social anxiety.
My other experience was a year back where I truly fell in love with a classmate of mine. I couldn't tell her but I showed her how much I care for her. I'm so lucky she realized I was in love, because she told me she wasn't interested and I didn't even have to admit my feelings through words. She's one of my greatest friends now and who knows, maybe things will work out one day. But I'm not caught up on her, I only hurt for two weeks. But it was 2 weeks because I wasn't rejected straight away. If I told her straight up within a week of noticing how I feel, I'd probably hurt for 2 days maybe and move on.
Rejection is a skill a successful must learn. I heard the CEO of Starbucks was rejected by the bank over 200x. If you want to become someone like Hamza or Adonis, learn to deal with rejection .
Keep your head up king🥇
@@antoanpotskov3479 thank you. I've recently been focusing more on myself, so I feel like I'm moving on, creating a relationship with reality and not with my thoughts. Even though I sometimes feel I'm not moving on, it's just slipping back to habits which I find boring sometimes within an hour (e. g. gaming, smoking, porn with the excuse of "im depressed"). I am moving on and one day I'll maybe have enough love for myself again to not belittle myself all the time.
I just can't tell how relatable this guy make videos are!!
He is right, regret is much worse than rejection. I had a crush on a girl last year but never really did anything about it, and the entire year was extremely depressing for me. She went to a different school, which makes me feel better because I no longer have anxiety about her. This year, I started liking someone else. Knew this girl for two years, I recently gained feelings for her (2 weeks ago or so.) She's kind, smart, courageous and attractive. I talk casually around her and don't act like a creep. Anyways, we were already close friends so there wasn't much to wait on, so I asked her out yesterday. It didn't go badly, we just agreed that it was an awkward subject and that we could talk about it later. She did say that my confession made her day and we both respect each other much more than before, so I'd say it's going well. We might get into a relationship later, but the odds aren't great. We're at the highest grade in our school, so next year we'll be at a different school with older men, and like almost every girl our age, she's probably going to chase after the older kids. Anyways, I'm going to dig into the depths of my bathroom cabinet and find my cologne, see you around
I really needed this Today
Everyone including got through this process. I regret it so many times but i got through it with time and patience.
So thanks to you and your advices, Hamza, i can go through the right direction.
It’s similar to how male animals get female animals, they either dance or fight the alpha male and the loser maybe loses but he grows stronger and conquers new females.
Much harder in school
When u get shut down everyone knows and no one forgets
All in your head bro. People in school are the most insecure. There too worried about themselves. They will forget very fast and move on to the new drama so just go for it.
Losing someone, as in losing the first love of your life, is the first epiphany of growth that I ever went through. When I lost her, the person I thought i’d be with until I was dead and in the ground, because I was insecure, jealous, needy, I look back on those times. In a lot of ways i’m somewhat the opposite of that version of me. Almost the complete opposite, for better or worse, but i’ll grow and become the best man I can be, which as I’m starting to realize, is a bar that continuously raises.
22 y.o. Haven’t kissed a girl yet(( you can see my profile picture: am I ugly ? -no, am I stupid ? -no, I’m a programmer in a top IT company, but I can’t normally speak with girls, coz after a few normal, not cringe messages, I’m getting ignored or even left without initial conversation. I don’t start it with horny or boring questions and if she responds it automatically become just like friends conversation, not in a romantic light at all…
I appreciate your godlike confidence to say this while showing a photo with you and (maybe) your real name
Your community is goated all comments are Ws
I remember in college I told a girl I liked her to her face and she just said OK. Nothing happened after that and she told all her friends what I said and everyone found out I got rejected and were laughing at me behind my back.
It was a horrible experience. Now I don't make any intentions clear. Some girls have been waiting too long for me to do something and make my intentions clear but most of them eventually move on and find someone else. I learned a lot of what not to do now.
I used to have a major crush on a girl at the beginning of the school year. I always wanted to talk to her but I always had negative thoughts. I always told myself "what if she hates me cause of my race, what if I get rejected cause of my race". I didn't know what to do. I spent 9 months for nothing and it honestly sucks. Just don't make the same mistake as me. PLEASE.
Hamza, idk if you read this - but I'm sooo thankful I found this channel; big thx
Thanks man. I really needed this. Live well, Hamza.
I did it 2 weeks ago, we were like "together" until I found earlier today that she had a relationship and she was cheating the dude with me, yikes I feel bad for the dude and for me man, hope he does the right choice
Thanks for everything, will cya when I need to
Haha, I went through a situation like this after holding it in for 2 years. I am grateful because it has changed me from the core and it rebuilt who I am. A good lesson of how not to put all your eggs in one basket, and pf course, to DO IT NOW. Actions are better than assumptions.
Regret of not approaching >>>> rejection
From my personal experience
Im 19, have a girlfriend for 3 and a half year, I love her, she loves me. We go throught troubles togethers like adults and not kids, communication, and all that stuff.
But this "rejection things" I never really knew it and I feel like I have to, to be better as a man, to accept to try in all aspect of life even if things can go down. The problem is : how if not with girls, how do I go throught reject ?
Thanks guys, keep grinding we all gonna make it to the top
Maybe by trying to befriend new people. Some will turn you down because of them already having a lot of friends or being happy already with the ones they have now.
@@Stefan54 yeah I didnt see things like that thanks mate
I never asked out a girls because for one, in 5’5 (that’s why I don’t approach girls who are way taller than me) because i can already assume what she’ll say. And also it’s not just rejection I feared, it’s the consequences that come with it. I heard stories of how guys were bullied after rejection and they were beaten up really badly, most of them weren’t ripped or knew martial arts so they couldn’t defend themselves.
Lucky
where tf do u live, u cannot live in the UK wtf😂
I'm way too shy too step on to a girl to even ask how she is doing or ask for her socials i guess i'm still a Adonis in the making...
That story you told is scarily similiar to the girl i have a crush on, amde me realise i need to stop.
I have crush on a girl for *12* years
she is my childhood friend
but we both had to move to different cities
I hope we'll meet again
I wanna propose but I don't wanna ruin our friendship
I am Just 16, her parents are strict so she doesn't have personal phone
I am not financially Independent yet
I have plan to be financially independent in 2 years
I am working on myself
Tf is a crush
@@SJTheGiant the person who you're in love with for a "short" period of time
Idk why am calling it a crush if I am in love for 12years lol
Literally went through the same thing two weeks ago. Thanks for this fam!
I'm going through this exact thing through the entire school year, and my son was to find out if she had a boyfriend, and she did. I kept bouncing by, and we're at the end of the year and didn't talk to any of those girls. I assumed that it was teenage idealization rather than actual genuine affection. Obviously I'm gonna take the advice, but as of now, I only have like 13 days of the rest of the school year so there's really not much I could do.
“your son”?
4:44 - bro that birdie was trying to break out of his comfort zone and flirting with another bird and hamza destroyed his scene 🥲
I've never told a girl I really like that I like her... I just end up going for the girls that show interest in me lol
bro I needed that video literally 1 month ago before she have gotten into a relationship damnn, I just had a crush/loved her for almost 3 years without saying such a thing lmao I feel like a coward but, you know what this is okay I'll from that mistake besides my personality back then was so trash and it's getting better and better within the last two weeks thank to you hamza!
There's a girl that comes to the coffee shop I work at every once in a while and I've had a crush on her since 6 months ago which is when I saw her for the first time at my old school before I moved to a new one. I saw her for the first time in almost 4 months when she came to the coffee shop and I don't really obsess, but if she gets on my mind then I can't really focus on anything for the rest of the day and I have no idea how to make a move when I don't know her and she might not even know I exist...
p.s: she always comes with like 3-4 friends which is also really intimidating to approach
Kudos for the ogs who went through the pain to share us their teachings
1:26 If you want to talk about childhood trauma I highly suggest you collab with another redpill youtuber "Think before you sleep". He specializes more in identifying childhood trauma victims and how it makes them abusive than improving yourself, but of course it's not mutually exclusive. You two are my favorite youtubers as well and I think it would go great.
Great advice hamza
I had a crush on this girl not for days, not for weeks, not for months but for years... precisely 5 years.
Since the first day we met back in summer camp in 2017 (both were 15) I instantly liked her. I was so scared to confess my feelings to her that I got into a "friendzone". "I rather die with this feelings than lose her as a friend" thats what I said to myself... Kept w that mentality and when I least expected it already passed 5 years. My lack of social skills and my social anxiety had a huge impact on this... Till this day I didnt confess to her. She had a boyfriend but they broke up 1 year ago and now shes single. Ngl I still didnt get through this feelings but I can say that those feelings are less intense now. But its still there tho...
Now or never king, if you really like her, seize the opportunity! I wish I would‘ve had a second chance like that… Good luck and best wishes King!👑
@@michaelhofmann6443 Thanks bro but I cant lie, idk if I can do it. We just dont talk as often as we used to, its gonna be mad weird confessing my feelings to her...
My prayers have been answered!!! Thanks Hamza❤️
understanding how to handle the aftermath of screwing this up would be nice, took too long on self improvement before i could ask her
Hey hamza, I have been going well no my selfimprovement path the past few months, but this video changed my mind now i know what to do with the girl that i like, thank you my man
Hamza, thank you! I took the leap, and asked "her". And she said "yes". I'm not even joking.
3:27 bro you just opened my eyes, a strong feeling like this shouldn't be natural
I have had this crush on a girl for a long long time. Never ever had the confidence to tell her how I feel. Your advise has never let me down Hamza, tomorrow I will express my feelings towards her, wish me luck.
we need an update tomorrow
Best of luck my g🙌🏼🥇
Good luck bro💪💪💪💪
hey Hamza i would really like to thank you for this video, it came almost at the exact time i needed it
Boys! If you just keep on fantasizing rather than asking her out, it is worse for you!
You continuelly idealize her every action and start sculpting statues for her name in your mind, everything will seem so beatiful and you will ignore every bad trait of her.
Worst one is, if you manage to be with her after idealizing her for months on end, you'll realise she is not the one you are looking for! You idealized her so much that the person you loved in your head is not even the person that you cuddle the pillow for anymore.
This man out here helping young who feel sorry about themselves. It’s helping me to improve myself everyday and realize I have a lot of work to do.
Its still up to you
He is just showing why you should do that
You are your own hero and he wants you be your own hero
you. Yes you. I know there’s a girl you’ve got your eyes on right now and you’re hesitant to approach her because you’ll get rejected but you need to acknowledge that you only miss the shots that you take
At work there is this girl I had for like 3 months. In those 3 months I small talked to her multiple times but was nervous af. After 3 months I managed to ask her for her insta. After few messages she was kind to let me know what she has bf. I see her nearly everyday, but hey I am proud I talked to her everytime I made my mind to do so and let her know that I am attracted to her. Helped me also to grow stronger since then.
1:15
I was 17 and I hadn't even kissed a girl yet
Me : Those are Rookie numbers
I feel like I cant talk to her currently in my life. Im a broke Jeffrey whos on self improvment. I said to myself that i would take one year from now to really level up myself, then ask her out
It's insane how much I relate to this. I've had a crush on this guy for basically this entire school year. It was obsessive, I'd always been a pretty quiet kid and really just started being able to talk to guys and really just about anyone around this year and talking to a crush... ha. I'd draw him, I'd fantasize. I pushed myself to talk to him, he'd actually answer my instagram stories at some point, I'd try to initiate conversations on insta, but speaking to him irl was a different question, like a fucking military expedition, I'd need a goal, a bloody script and period after period of waiting for the right moment... Then a couple of months ago he'd stop reacting to stories, two weeks ago I stopped seeing him among the viewers.
There was a point where he'd taken over my entire life, the things I do, the hobbies I take up, the way I dress, it was toxic and the worst part was I didn't even know him that well.
My best friend in the class (who introduced me to Hamza) is pretty close to him (crush actually introduced my friend to Hamza), he's helping the get over him. I'm hesitant as to say something, I've still got the thought of there still being 2 years of high school in the same class at the back of my head. But I know regret, I know how much it sucks...
Ain't gay btw, just a part of the minority female cult members
Learn a language that no one in yoir country knows, ive been doing real good by impressing others with italian, french and polish.
It could work for you too.
I lost a lot of girls by texting them all the time, everyday and being a jeffrey in all aspects... Now, I'm in a very close relationship with a girl in my class (we haven't confessed but we talk for over a month, our friendly hang outs evolved into dates) and I'm using the experience I gained to be a better man. Before I was a simp, now I am kinda rude to her but I also show my soft side. We talk about personal stuff and she enjoys it.... A LOT. (whenever I ask her questions abou her personal life. Ofc she ask me back the same things) She told me she never went out with a man at 11 pm, she never got close to someone because all man were 😺, she never opened up to any1 because she was hurt all the time and so on.
Thanks to your videos and my personal motivation to change, I went from a loser to a guy that does a lot of good habits and, as a result, I attracted the girl I always wanted, shows care, tries to help me with everything she can, even if she doesn't know the subject, but in the same time, we tease each other like 2 year olds.
I randomly asked her out to do some cardio since I saw all the sings she likes me and it worked out (is obv when a girl likes you, don't watch that crap on youtube)
"I didn't know at the time whether she was feeling the same, was she?"
Well, yeah. for a while after the first few eye contacts, girls get some feelings and thoughts. But of course if they don't get approached, no matter how intense the initial feelings of mystery and attraction are, they become weaker and weaker with time and awkwardness takes their place.
I like the mindset of winning every situation, so winning the day becomes a challenge. I have nothing to lose!!! Stay strong men