John, your emotional moment touched me so much. I really adore all three of you. I found you guys last June I believe, and binged the backlog on TH-cam while I did my yardwork, indoor chores, and tended to my garden all summer. Last October, I lost my dad. And for a while I couldn't seem to be able to listen to any of my usual podcasts or TH-cam channels. Then in November, I lost my 13 year old cat, Max, to kidney disease. I was completely miserable (honestly, I still am) and I really needed something to listen to to occupy my thoughts. Reddit on Wiki was the first podcast I was able to get back to listening to. The vibe you guys cultivate is such a good balance of kindness, compassion, humor and realness while discussing the stories, and I knew that even if we ran into a Oops All Sad episode, I'd still be in good hands and get some laughs in. The conversation you two had in this episode goes to prove that even more. I'm right here crying with you, John. To John, Josh, and Sean too- thank you for being you, and for sharing your kind hearts with all of us 💜 (and feel better soon, Sean!)
Dang onion ninjas broke into my house again. 😭😭 Such a lovely episode. Thanks for what you do with such humour and vulnerability. Much love from the UK! ❤
The fact y'all can be so vulnerable while roasting the worst of humanity is exactly why we all keep coming back! Sending love (and tissues) to John and hope Sean's doing ok. (You're cool too Josh).
This episode was extremely nice. It's a good reminder of the beauty and kindness in the world. However, I will blame y'all for making me sob in the middle of putting on my makeup and needing to restart the process lol seriously, thank you guys for being here with us and for providing entertainment. Even if we don't agree on everything, it's still so nice to have a platform where things are discussed openly. Keep on keeping on and I wish y'all nothing but the best
26:24 story 4: almost 2 years ago I received my first and only positive pregnant test, after a IVF too. 24th this month my baby turns 1. Is such a happy moment she’s living, is the best. Congrats 🥰🥰
This episode touched my heart. After battling depression and anxiety since age 7 (I’m 29 now), I’ve just started working in mental health to help people that are going through it too. God bless you guys, you help me so much through the week find calm just by listening to the stories and hearing you all talk. It might seem small to you guys what you do with this podcast, but this comment sections proves it’s not xx
John, don't be embarrassed or apologize for crying. I know it's hard to decode what's ingrained into boys/men from a young age, but getting emotional is human and it's a sign of strength that you let yourself feel. You're helping yourself and your male viewers become more comfortable with that side of themselves by posting this ❤️
Story 2: my bf is blue collar masculine man, but he washes his face, loves spa days, moisturizers, ears pierced etc. None of this is feminine its just self care like yall said! OP is TA
The reason you guys help us feel better is because your energy is just so genuine and respectful. It feels like I'm hanging out in a room with my friends just talking about whatever, and it fills my cup a bit even though I'm just listening
Long hair? Piercings? Caring about style? If that woman interacted with metalheads or the punk community she'd have a HEART ATTACK. Although I don't look like your typical metalhead, a lot of my friends do and I know for a fact it's impossible to assume anything about about their sexuality or gender identity just based on their looks. Also, what's so scary and terrible about femininity? Ngl her irrational fear of it is... weird to say at least.
John is stronger than I am! I would've completely called it a day just to cry my eyes out but he went on like a pro, showed us how to be comfortable in your own feelings, acknowledging how hard it is to struggle with your inner demons, and even crack a joke in the middle of it. This is the reason why I keep listening and why this is the only podcast that I have consistently listened to over the years. Your authenticity and dynamics as a group is top-notch and irreplaceable. Please keep sharing with us, may it be Reddit stories or your own, we want to keep listening. P.S. I love how Josh is trying to comfort John as well. You can tell he genuinely wants his friend to feel free about expressing his emotions. Sean, I hope you're doing okay! Already missing your presence but (I think I'm not the only one thinking this) please take all the time you need to get better.
Oh man story 4 immediately made me start crying. I'm so happy for OP and I just know their gonna be the best momma to that precious baby. Congratulations. I immediately started sobbing at the start of story 5. As someone who has struggled with their mental health since they were 13 with their own attempts this hit so fucking close. I'm so glad OP is still here and still surviving. Mental health issues can make life a living hell and finding anyway to survive is a great fucking thing. I'm sobbing really hard right now cause I really needed to hear that. To everyone who watches this podcast I love you. To Josh, Sean, and John I love you boys and I'm really happy I found this podcast. :) ❤
Sending love to John ❤ Never apologize for your tears and for your heart being touched! Compassion, empathy, and sensitivity are strengths and norhing to be ashamed of or shamed for. Depression is soooo difficult, and I too have gone through deep pits where it felt like there was no reason to continue but thankfully the Lord, amazing friends, and my partner encouraged me through. Gratitude truly is a powerful way to build hope, and I am grateful for everyone who is here who may have considered other options. Grateful for this podcast too because it always makes me laugh and smile. Always remember, you are worthy, loved and have innate value ❤
Oh my goodness.. John, you have such a pure soul. I started crying when you teared up. So incredible to have listened to you guys the last two years. Thank you all for being vulnerable, empathetic, and authentic humans.
Love this from John. It takes a lot to show those feels. Someone guve this guy a hug and a drink. Also struggle with depression and this helps to feel less alone. With the state of the world as it is, this podcast feels like a safe space. Even when the guys rant (especially sometimes) makes me feel like the frustration at the injustices in life aren't just me being sensitive. That's it's just. And in a very silly way, it feels like when I've been in similar positions that the guys would have defended me or bolstered my self esteem. I know you guys don't know me, probably won't even see this. But I'm so, so grateful.
John we love you so much. You are such a gentle soul. Please give yourself the love that you give others here, complete strangers. I’ve been to that dark place, so many of us know how brutal it can be. There is a way through.
What an amazing episode! My husband, baby and I listen while we have our tea (dinner if you aren’t from Yorkshire) and made me tear up listening to the story but even more seeing John’s reaction. I really wished I could have hugged you through the phone. Love to all three of you! P.S my favourite is whichever one of you talking at the time 😂
Story 1 why it sound like they’re just and roommates and the baby just solely OP’s 😅 what kind marriage life is that, I rather be single that tied to man like that
Yes, you guys make a huge difference! I'm a nurse and work the 12 hr shifts. I get anxious before coming into work because idk what I'm getting into...such as, short staffed, possibly getting floated to another unit & so on. When I listen to you guys while driving to work, I found myself less stressed and anxious. Also, I listen to ya'll on my way home to decompress. So...THANK YOU!!! 😊
I think that one post made us all tear up. To the writer, if you see this: thank you for this. And to everybody else who needs to hear it: stay strong, it will get better, you will enjoy the beauty of life again and you will enjoy being yourself again and you will thank your past self for holding on
I don't normally comment. But this one I couldn't stop myself. This podcast is usually laughs and funny content. But this type of conversation is so necessary. Y'all are human like everyone else. You never know what someone is going through behind closed doors. Sending much love to everyone that needs it.❤
Omg the last story 😢. I lost my 16 year old son 2 years ago. I have my beautiful 15 year old daughter still but sometimes feel like i am not as present as i should be for her life, life just seems to be passing by. I'm so glad i found this podcast last year it has made me smile many times when i definitely have not felt like i could .
Ahem, as a trans person related to story two: Gender is performative. If her husband is happy and comfortable that is what should matter. I don't care if he wears skirts, if he identifies as male and is happy doing what he does he's male. The end!! He seems just like a cis guy that wants to be able to take care of himself. He is comfortable in his masculinity in a way that makes me want to shout, "Gender envy!" Additional, more important note: wishing all the best for our boi Sean. I don't know what is happening but I'm sending him all the love and well wishes he deserves (read: so much of them, Sean is great)
Ballet, yes, is stereotypically feminine, but hearing someone say it's effeminate for men to do ballet whilst knowing *gestures to the entirety of swan lake and the nutcracker* is crazy!! Like what about the princes' and evil rat kings????? AND WHO WILL PLAY THE NUTCRACKER - it's just crazy to hear that as a huge ballet nerd lmao also the "feminine" definition Op was giving was giving rockstar lmao
John, thank you for the tears. I adore you three so much, and the way you are bringing emotion to masculinity brings me joy I can’t even describe. My husband is a wonderful man, but he’s the only one I’ve ever met who’s not misogynistic and a pig. To hear THREE masculine energy opinions on these topics, and them being the same as mine heals a part inside of me i didn’t know was broken ❤
Everytime johns voice trembled with that last story and talking about his struggles, I almost started crying myself. I could feel it hearing his words how much he needed to hear that last story. I've struggled with suicidal ideation for the past couple of years due to my depression so I'm definitely gonna try that silly fun a-z list thing and see if it helps in my dark moments. Thank you guys for this wonderful podcast 🖤
Dang John, looking good! Loving the new facial hair and style today! You boys always keep it real and keep our faith in good men out there! Keep spreading the positivity!
You can do saunas in japan with tattoos, you just have to google the ones that accept tattooed people. Those are the touristy ones or yakuza ones. Strong recommendation for the sauna in koreatown in Tokyo🙏🏼
I am guessing a husband as intense as the first story would have made her sign a prenup. if itdidn't address children, she should get a post nup that addresses her concerns
I don't like saunas either! I also run hot, and the dry heat makes it hard for me to breathe. Steam rooms are easier to handle. Who the heck cares if someone doesn't like the experience of a sauna?
Oh damn I'm struggling so hard these last few months and dealing with a ton in the last week, and that last letter was so beautiful and a reminder of why I have to keep going ❤️
John, we love you! I really appreciate you being vulnerable and talking about your struggles with depression. Thank you for being such a positive role model. Your healthy displays of positive masculinity are so refreshing.
I think that if OP's husband has NEVER done any of these things previously, it doesn't seem abnormal that she might be concerned or confused. Ik someone who found out after her divorce thar her ex-spouse was bisexual & had been hookibg up w/ men while they were married. She saw him as metrosexual but never bisexual. He never told her that he was also into men.
This podcast helps me fall asleep, that alone is important. Beyond that it is just really nice to hear a group of men being calm, level headed, honest, respectful, and supportive of each other and partners. I know there are plenty of good men out there, but sometimes it is hard to trust.
13:37 my dad is 65 and will occasionally go get a pedicure just to get his toenails taken care of. He doesn’t get them painted but it’s easier on him to have a professional work on them than to cut them himself. That doesn’t make him or any man “feminine”, it’s literally what it was called in the post: self care
Story #2 is so weird. She's 100% stereotyping gay men. Cleanliness, hair length, jewelry, etc. don't define someone's sexuality. If I'm not mistaken, ballet was originally performed by men.
Story 2: omg... That's like, basic hygiene/selfcare. Lol If my man don't do atleast some of those things, there won't even be a relationship. Anyway, if he suddenly takes care of himself and do things he doesn't usually do and becomes cold to me, my overthinking ass would probably think that he's havin a side chick and not cuz he's becoming "feminine". HOWEVER, if he is so obviously still into me while doin that, I might as well join him in his routine and have a spa day together. Well, that's just me.
For story 2 I don’t necessarily agree that OP is being homophobic. If there are any changes to a person that seem quite “drastic” and sudden, it doesn’t hurt to question it a little bit. Not in a “what is wrong with you” way, but more as in “tell me more about this journey you’re on.” OP’s boyfriend has solid reasons for the changes, but it might as well have been that he’s exploring his gender identity and her questions open the door for him to talk about it. She didn’t seem disparaging or hateful about the ballet or gay colleagues/friends either, so I read this more as a “something changed, should I worry” rather than “I think he’s gay and I don’t like it”.
I have been with my husband for 11 years (married for 3 months) and he has changed drastically during this time. He had zero sense of fashion and did not really take care of himself. We live in a muslim country where men and women are very much pushed into traditional gender roles especially by the older generation. After a few months of dating (which is taboo itself 😛) he asked me to teach him. Fast forward 6 years he has longer and better hair than me, gets asked by his friends to go shopping because of his dress sense, and has a style unique to him that makes him confident and happy. We took it slow but I think we still gave his grandma a few shocks. Apparently one time his grandma joked that he might as well cut his "thing" off since he looks like a girl with long hair. It feels good to be with someone who care about themselves and are willing to evolve😍
On the 1st story, so many things wrong here. But, even if (in the US) her company doesn't cover maternity leave, she can file it with the federal government, and it's paid at the same rate as short term disability or unemployment. Something like 3/4 of what you normally make. But you do have to file the paperwork and include Doctor stuff with it
Story 1 reminded me of one malaysian anonimous twitter account basically reddit confession but malaysian. This one anon got pregnant right after wedding & the husband was furious as he want more time honeymooning before becoming a parent. He’d ignored her pregnancy as in check ins or when she have craving she don’t feel safe voicing it to him. She prepared for the baby alone & thinking she needs saving before her maternity leave as she was sure her husband wouldn’t spend anything for her baby. She decided to go to government hospital for the birth but the husband demanded she gave birth at private hospital as he don’t trust government hospital. She had to fork out money for that. Fortunately for her, the husband repented after looking at their child for the first time & took care of her during recovering. & even now would pamper her & their child. I wish more story would have this kinda happy ending
John, if you’re coming back here, please do some research before! There are quite a lot of onsen that are tattoo friendly, and I’m sure that there are dozens of blog posts about that exact subject haha! That sucks that you couldn’t get enter (or assumed that you couldn’t, so didn’t try), but it’s very possible & tattooed people can enjoy public onsen as well 😊
Odd man out. But I understand where op on story two is coming from. She already had concerns he was closeted, then he started doing more things to make her concerned again. Had it not been for the previous concern, I don't think it'd be a problem
This show really does make grown men cry. They're the grown men, but, still. It's gotta count for something. (For real, though, it's nice seeing people confident in accessing their emotions)
I love it when people list a bunch of "feminine" traits and they're a bunch of things my father does. My father is one of the least feminine men you'll ever meet. To me, doing traditionally feminine or masculine stuff while the opposite gender is just being comfortable with being yourself. Me and my ex would often joke how he was the woman and I the man in our relationship because he fits the female stereotype better and I the male. There's nothing wrong with that. It's sad so many people do take issue with it and I wish I could make them see why it isn't a bad thing, but all I can do is show them and hope they see eventually.
18:38 This! I've always wondered what it would be like to have long hair, the longest I've ever gotten is just past my ears. I'm a 22 year old man but if my mother sees me with anything other than almost buzzed hair she'll make little comments about how bad/ messy it looks.
John, I'm over here crying with you.😭 I've been struggling a lot lately, too. Unfortunately, I don't have a support system or anyone to talk/vent/cry to.🤷🏽♀️ I hope things start to get better for us all.❤
Worst food - When I was a teenager, my boyfriends mum made dinner once, it was absolutely awful. But naturally, you're polite and say how lovely it is. I was obviously a little to polite, because from there on.... it was assumed this must be one of my favourite meals, and was then served every time i had dinner at their house for the next year. It was a VERY long year...
I think it’s so great when we are open with our emotions, I think it helps other people feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings. Just speaking out is the start of creating safe space.
As a professional ballerina, I can tell you, it is not “feminine” to be a male dancer at all. Movement for men and for women is not the same and even when doing the same steps it looks quite different. Her take is unreasonable and quite machista (don’t remember the word in english). Also finding a man that is open-minded, likes to take care of himself and has nice personality is quite difficult… I don’t see the problemm. If she doesn’t want him I do😂
You guys are so appreciated You all are so amazing and funny n sweet all in one Ever since I found this podcast it keeps me busy listening to it while there's tons of sh*t happening in my life Thankyou so much for bringing a bright light in this crazy world ❤
John, your emotional moment touched me so much. I really adore all three of you.
I found you guys last June I believe, and binged the backlog on TH-cam while I did my yardwork, indoor chores, and tended to my garden all summer.
Last October, I lost my dad. And for a while I couldn't seem to be able to listen to any of my usual podcasts or TH-cam channels. Then in November, I lost my 13 year old cat, Max, to kidney disease. I was completely miserable (honestly, I still am) and I really needed something to listen to to occupy my thoughts. Reddit on Wiki was the first podcast I was able to get back to listening to. The vibe you guys cultivate is such a good balance of kindness, compassion, humor and realness while discussing the stories, and I knew that even if we ran into a Oops All Sad episode, I'd still be in good hands and get some laughs in. The conversation you two had in this episode goes to prove that even more. I'm right here crying with you, John.
To John, Josh, and Sean too- thank you for being you, and for sharing your kind hearts with all of us 💜
(and feel better soon, Sean!)
Dang onion ninjas broke into my house again. 😭😭 Such a lovely episode. Thanks for what you do with such humour and vulnerability. Much love from the UK! ❤
The fact y'all can be so vulnerable while roasting the worst of humanity is exactly why we all keep coming back! Sending love (and tissues) to John and hope Sean's doing ok. (You're cool too Josh).
This!
This episode was extremely nice. It's a good reminder of the beauty and kindness in the world. However, I will blame y'all for making me sob in the middle of putting on my makeup and needing to restart the process lol seriously, thank you guys for being here with us and for providing entertainment. Even if we don't agree on everything, it's still so nice to have a platform where things are discussed openly. Keep on keeping on and I wish y'all nothing but the best
Sorry for your makeup! But thank you so much for the sweet comment! ❤️🫰
26:24 story 4: almost 2 years ago I received my first and only positive pregnant test, after a IVF too. 24th this month my baby turns 1. Is such a happy moment she’s living, is the best. Congrats 🥰🥰
This episode touched my heart. After battling depression and anxiety since age 7 (I’m 29 now), I’ve just started working in mental health to help people that are going through it too. God bless you guys, you help me so much through the week find calm just by listening to the stories and hearing you all talk. It might seem small to you guys what you do with this podcast, but this comment sections proves it’s not xx
John, don't be embarrassed or apologize for crying. I know it's hard to decode what's ingrained into boys/men from a young age, but getting emotional is human and it's a sign of strength that you let yourself feel. You're helping yourself and your male viewers become more comfortable with that side of themselves by posting this ❤️
Story 2: my bf is blue collar masculine man, but he washes his face, loves spa days, moisturizers, ears pierced etc. None of this is feminine its just self care like yall said! OP is TA
The reason you guys help us feel better is because your energy is just so genuine and respectful. It feels like I'm hanging out in a room with my friends just talking about whatever, and it fills my cup a bit even though I'm just listening
her husband sounds really hot lol. im so lost at the issue 😭
Long hair? Piercings? Caring about style? If that woman interacted with metalheads or the punk community she'd have a HEART ATTACK.
Although I don't look like your typical metalhead, a lot of my friends do and I know for a fact it's impossible to assume anything about about their sexuality or gender identity just based on their looks.
Also, what's so scary and terrible about femininity? Ngl her irrational fear of it is... weird to say at least.
Crying with you John, we appreciate you opening this much. You do a great job! No matter what is going on, everything will be OK. Hugs from Ukraine
Feeling quite depressed lately over fertility issues. This episode is just what i needed. You guys are such gifts to the world ❤️
Wishing you all the best friend!!!!
John is stronger than I am! I would've completely called it a day just to cry my eyes out but he went on like a pro, showed us how to be comfortable in your own feelings, acknowledging how hard it is to struggle with your inner demons, and even crack a joke in the middle of it. This is the reason why I keep listening and why this is the only podcast that I have consistently listened to over the years. Your authenticity and dynamics as a group is top-notch and irreplaceable. Please keep sharing with us, may it be Reddit stories or your own, we want to keep listening.
P.S. I love how Josh is trying to comfort John as well. You can tell he genuinely wants his friend to feel free about expressing his emotions. Sean, I hope you're doing okay! Already missing your presence but (I think I'm not the only one thinking this) please take all the time you need to get better.
Oh man story 4 immediately made me start crying. I'm so happy for OP and I just know their gonna be the best momma to that precious baby. Congratulations.
I immediately started sobbing at the start of story 5. As someone who has struggled with their mental health since they were 13 with their own attempts this hit so fucking close. I'm so glad OP is still here and still surviving. Mental health issues can make life a living hell and finding anyway to survive is a great fucking thing. I'm sobbing really hard right now cause I really needed to hear that. To everyone who watches this podcast I love you. To Josh, Sean, and John I love you boys and I'm really happy I found this podcast. :) ❤
Sending love to John ❤ Never apologize for your tears and for your heart being touched! Compassion, empathy, and sensitivity are strengths and norhing to be ashamed of or shamed for.
Depression is soooo difficult, and I too have gone through deep pits where it felt like there was no reason to continue but thankfully the Lord, amazing friends, and my partner encouraged me through. Gratitude truly is a powerful way to build hope, and I am grateful for everyone who is here who may have considered other options. Grateful for this podcast too because it always makes me laugh and smile.
Always remember, you are worthy, loved and have innate value ❤
Oh my goodness.. John, you have such a pure soul. I started crying when you teared up. So incredible to have listened to you guys the last two years. Thank you all for being vulnerable, empathetic, and authentic humans.
Story 2: op is insane! He’s just taking care of himself
Right! Like if you want stinky toxic caveman just say that 🙄
Love this from John. It takes a lot to show those feels. Someone guve this guy a hug and a drink.
Also struggle with depression and this helps to feel less alone. With the state of the world as it is, this podcast feels like a safe space. Even when the guys rant (especially sometimes) makes me feel like the frustration at the injustices in life aren't just me being sensitive. That's it's just. And in a very silly way, it feels like when I've been in similar positions that the guys would have defended me or bolstered my self esteem.
I know you guys don't know me, probably won't even see this. But I'm so, so grateful.
John we love you so much. You are such a gentle soul. Please give yourself the love that you give others here, complete strangers. I’ve been to that dark place, so many of us know how brutal it can be. There is a way through.
What an amazing episode!
My husband, baby and I listen while we have our tea (dinner if you aren’t from Yorkshire) and made me tear up listening to the story but even more seeing John’s reaction. I really wished I could have hugged you through the phone.
Love to all three of you!
P.S my favourite is whichever one of you talking at the time 😂
Story 1 why it sound like they’re just and roommates and the baby just solely OP’s 😅 what kind marriage life is that, I rather be single that tied to man like that
Yes, you guys make a huge difference! I'm a nurse and work the 12 hr shifts. I get anxious before coming into work because idk what I'm getting into...such as, short staffed, possibly getting floated to another unit & so on. When I listen to you guys while driving to work, I found myself less stressed and anxious. Also, I listen to ya'll on my way home to decompress. So...THANK YOU!!! 😊
As someone going through a fertility journey as well story 4 really got me. Thank you for sharing 😊🙏
I think that one post made us all tear up. To the writer, if you see this: thank you for this. And to everybody else who needs to hear it: stay strong, it will get better, you will enjoy the beauty of life again and you will enjoy being yourself again and you will thank your past self for holding on
Vulnerability is always appreciated here and it's the best thing about yall as a unit🤍🤍Thanks for making us cry🥺
I don't normally comment. But this one I couldn't stop myself. This podcast is usually laughs and funny content. But this type of conversation is so necessary. Y'all are human like everyone else. You never know what someone is going through behind closed doors. Sending much love to everyone that needs it.❤
Thank you for showing us your vulnerable side John. ❤❤❤❤❤
Omg the last story 😢. I lost my 16 year old son 2 years ago. I have my beautiful 15 year old daughter still but sometimes feel like i am not as present as i should be for her life, life just seems to be passing by. I'm so glad i found this podcast last year it has made me smile many times when i definitely have not felt like i could .
Im sorry for your loss. I’m sure your whole family carries that loss. You’re not alone ❤
Ahem, as a trans person related to story two:
Gender is performative. If her husband is happy and comfortable that is what should matter. I don't care if he wears skirts, if he identifies as male and is happy doing what he does he's male. The end!!
He seems just like a cis guy that wants to be able to take care of himself. He is comfortable in his masculinity in a way that makes me want to shout, "Gender envy!"
Additional, more important note: wishing all the best for our boi Sean. I don't know what is happening but I'm sending him all the love and well wishes he deserves (read: so much of them, Sean is great)
Ballet, yes, is stereotypically feminine, but hearing someone say it's effeminate for men to do ballet whilst knowing *gestures to the entirety of swan lake and the nutcracker* is crazy!! Like what about the princes' and evil rat kings????? AND WHO WILL PLAY THE NUTCRACKER - it's just crazy to hear that as a huge ballet nerd lmao also the "feminine" definition Op was giving was giving rockstar lmao
John, thank you for the tears. I adore you three so much, and the way you are bringing emotion to masculinity brings me joy I can’t even describe. My husband is a wonderful man, but he’s the only one I’ve ever met who’s not misogynistic and a pig. To hear THREE masculine energy opinions on these topics, and them being the same as mine heals a part inside of me i didn’t know was broken ❤
Im with you john this one moved me too and i really needed this today 🖤🙏
Everytime johns voice trembled with that last story and talking about his struggles, I almost started crying myself. I could feel it hearing his words how much he needed to hear that last story. I've struggled with suicidal ideation for the past couple of years due to my depression so I'm definitely gonna try that silly fun a-z list thing and see if it helps in my dark moments. Thank you guys for this wonderful podcast 🖤
Dang John, looking good! Loving the new facial hair and style today! You boys always keep it real and keep our faith in good men out there! Keep spreading the positivity!
I'm with Josh on the sauna thing. I have hyperhidrosis on my head and the slightest humidity makes me pour sweat.🥵
You can do saunas in japan with tattoos, you just have to google the ones that accept tattooed people. Those are the touristy ones or yakuza ones. Strong recommendation for the sauna in koreatown in Tokyo🙏🏼
How can i like this episode more times?!!
I am guessing a husband as intense as the first story would have made her sign a prenup. if itdidn't address children, she should get a post nup that addresses her concerns
I don't like saunas either! I also run hot, and the dry heat makes it hard for me to breathe. Steam rooms are easier to handle. Who the heck cares if someone doesn't like the experience of a sauna?
Oh damn I'm struggling so hard these last few months and dealing with a ton in the last week, and that last letter was so beautiful and a reminder of why I have to keep going ❤️
John! Thank you for sharing your beautiful emotions, it’s a gift! BUT DID YOU HAVE TO DO IT WHILE I WAS APPLYING MASCARA!
love u boys :') didn't expect to cry this episode
I never know if the thumbnail is a stock photo or just Josh. LOL
The first story is proof that fairness needs context. This hyper-rational 50/50 is in fact not logical.
I have done it to myself with my dog's name her name is Sassy so pretty much any word that I can incorporate SAS it's become ridiculous
You always make me cry with you John ! You're so sweet thank you for being open and true to your emotions
Oh God I’m also in a stats class (151) and I’m never going to hear standard deviaSEAN the same way again 😂😂😂
John, we love you! I really appreciate you being vulnerable and talking about your struggles with depression. Thank you for being such a positive role model. Your healthy displays of positive masculinity are so refreshing.
can you use waterproof body makeup to cover your tattoos and then go in the sauna?
I think that if OP's husband has NEVER done any of these things previously, it doesn't seem abnormal that she might be concerned or confused. Ik someone who found out after her divorce thar her ex-spouse was bisexual & had been hookibg up w/ men while they were married. She saw him as metrosexual but never bisexual. He never told her that he was also into men.
This podcast helps me fall asleep, that alone is important. Beyond that it is just really nice to hear a group of men being calm, level headed, honest, respectful, and supportive of each other and partners. I know there are plenty of good men out there, but sometimes it is hard to trust.
To be fair ever since the aita court room episode anytime someones out of pocket i have to fight to keep "DECORUM" from flying out if my mouth😂😂😂😂
13:37 my dad is 65 and will occasionally go get a pedicure just to get his toenails taken care of. He doesn’t get them painted but it’s easier on him to have a professional work on them than to cut them himself. That doesn’t make him or any man “feminine”, it’s literally what it was called in the post: self care
Story #2 is so weird. She's 100% stereotyping gay men. Cleanliness, hair length, jewelry, etc. don't define someone's sexuality. If I'm not mistaken, ballet was originally performed by men.
Story 2: omg... That's like, basic hygiene/selfcare. Lol If my man don't do atleast some of those things, there won't even be a relationship.
Anyway, if he suddenly takes care of himself and do things he doesn't usually do and becomes cold to me, my overthinking ass would probably think that he's havin a side chick and not cuz he's becoming "feminine". HOWEVER, if he is so obviously still into me while doin that, I might as well join him in his routine and have a spa day together. Well, that's just me.
For story 2 I don’t necessarily agree that OP is being homophobic. If there are any changes to a person that seem quite “drastic” and sudden, it doesn’t hurt to question it a little bit. Not in a “what is wrong with you” way, but more as in “tell me more about this journey you’re on.”
OP’s boyfriend has solid reasons for the changes, but it might as well have been that he’s exploring his gender identity and her questions open the door for him to talk about it.
She didn’t seem disparaging or hateful about the ballet or gay colleagues/friends either, so I read this more as a “something changed, should I worry” rather than “I think he’s gay and I don’t like it”.
I have been with my husband for 11 years (married for 3 months) and he has changed drastically during this time. He had zero sense of fashion and did not really take care of himself. We live in a muslim country where men and women are very much pushed into traditional gender roles especially by the older generation. After a few months of dating (which is taboo itself 😛) he asked me to teach him. Fast forward 6 years he has longer and better hair than me, gets asked by his friends to go shopping because of his dress sense, and has a style unique to him that makes him confident and happy. We took it slow but I think we still gave his grandma a few shocks. Apparently one time his grandma joked that he might as well cut his "thing" off since he looks like a girl with long hair. It feels good to be with someone who care about themselves and are willing to evolve😍
Not the fort worth slander! Loyal wikamaniac here who was born and raised in fort worth! I'm currently living in Korea though now! Love this podcast!!
On the 1st story, so many things wrong here. But, even if (in the US) her company doesn't cover maternity leave, she can file it with the federal government, and it's paid at the same rate as short term disability or unemployment. Something like 3/4 of what you normally make. But you do have to file the paperwork and include Doctor stuff with it
Story 1 reminded me of one malaysian anonimous twitter account basically reddit confession but malaysian. This one anon got pregnant right after wedding & the husband was furious as he want more time honeymooning before becoming a parent. He’d ignored her pregnancy as in check ins or when she have craving she don’t feel safe voicing it to him. She prepared for the baby alone & thinking she needs saving before her maternity leave as she was sure her husband wouldn’t spend anything for her baby. She decided to go to government hospital for the birth but the husband demanded she gave birth at private hospital as he don’t trust government hospital. She had to fork out money for that. Fortunately for her, the husband repented after looking at their child for the first time & took care of her during recovering. & even now would pamper her & their child.
I wish more story would have this kinda happy ending
John, if you’re coming back here, please do some research before! There are quite a lot of onsen that are tattoo friendly, and I’m sure that there are dozens of blog posts about that exact subject haha! That sucks that you couldn’t get enter (or assumed that you couldn’t, so didn’t try), but it’s very possible & tattooed people can enjoy public onsen as well 😊
Proud of you for being vulnerable and sharing your thoughts with us. You’re awesome and I appreciate you!
Odd man out. But I understand where op on story two is coming from. She already had concerns he was closeted, then he started doing more things to make her concerned again. Had it not been for the previous concern, I don't think it'd be a problem
Hey guys! Sounds like you're all going through it a bit. Sending you and your families positivity and good vibes! ❤️🔥
This show really does make grown men cry. They're the grown men, but, still. It's gotta count for something. (For real, though, it's nice seeing people confident in accessing their emotions)
Love this show so much❤
We all feel that. not every day but there is always this day that soooo dull. Negative toughts. But yeah we fought it always! ❤❤❤
Aaand, the last write in made me realize that my depression got worse. And it's good to realize so I take more steps to take better care of myself
No tattoos!?!? What!? You can’t sauna if you have ink? That’s interesting
Your vulnerability is beautiful John. Don’t ever forget it.
41:34 DRUUUMMMSSD???!!!
I love it when people list a bunch of "feminine" traits and they're a bunch of things my father does. My father is one of the least feminine men you'll ever meet. To me, doing traditionally feminine or masculine stuff while the opposite gender is just being comfortable with being yourself. Me and my ex would often joke how he was the woman and I the man in our relationship because he fits the female stereotype better and I the male. There's nothing wrong with that. It's sad so many people do take issue with it and I wish I could make them see why it isn't a bad thing, but all I can do is show them and hope they see eventually.
Food, racism, and smut. I agree with being invested in those stories too
Love you, John! Keep being that sensitive guy
S5 Omg right in the feels 😭 I needed to hear that today 🥲❤
john i wanna give you the biggest hug! i love you three so much!
never eat sushi inland my friends
We appreciate you guys so much
I needed that last story 🥺
My womb is screaming!!
JINE MERCH SO EXCITED!! 🤣🤣
18:38 This! I've always wondered what it would be like to have long hair, the longest I've ever gotten is just past my ears. I'm a 22 year old man but if my mother sees me with anything other than almost buzzed hair she'll make little comments about how bad/ messy it looks.
Dude screw your mom,don't listen to what she's saying do what you want with YOUR hair and if she makes comments ignore her
GROW IT OUT!❤️
John, I'm over here crying with you.😭 I've been struggling a lot lately, too. Unfortunately, I don't have a support system or anyone to talk/vent/cry to.🤷🏽♀️ I hope things start to get better for us all.❤
Worst food - When I was a teenager, my boyfriends mum made dinner once, it was absolutely awful. But naturally, you're polite and say how lovely it is. I was obviously a little to polite, because from there on.... it was assumed this must be one of my favourite meals, and was then served every time i had dinner at their house for the next year. It was a VERY long year...
John❤❤
Sean I hope you're doing well and that everything is going well. Take the time you need and take care of yourself. :)
I think it’s so great when we are open with our emotions, I think it helps other people feel safe to share their thoughts and feelings. Just speaking out is the start of creating safe space.
As a professional ballerina, I can tell you, it is not “feminine” to be a male dancer at all. Movement for men and for women is not the same and even when doing the same steps it looks quite different. Her take is unreasonable and quite machista (don’t remember the word in english). Also finding a man that is open-minded, likes to take care of himself and has nice personality is quite difficult… I don’t see the problemm. If she doesn’t want him I do😂
You guys are so appreciated
You all are so amazing and funny n sweet all in one
Ever since I found this podcast it keeps me busy listening to it while there's tons of sh*t happening in my life
Thankyou so much for bringing a bright light in this crazy world ❤
Jine, I was also cheering for the Lions. 🥲
Omg this did not age well….. maybe next year #detriotgrit 🥲