All I can say is watch his ACTIONS. Do not listen to the words. *If he wants to, he will.* The minute I started following that advice, I found my husband and 4 years later he still amazes me.
Girl, yes!!! But at the same time I am appalled by how many women are saying things like “omg yes go for it what’s the worst that can happen I’m so happy for you”... 🤦🏻♀️. Unfortunately I think those are the only comments Cassie is reading (and liking) 🙄🤷🏻♀️ She gonna learn her lesson the hard way, but she’s gonna learn!
Me and my husband dated back in highschool... We ended up breaking up. We got back together after 7 years . We grew up in that time apart. I don't know this guy personally but I do know if me and my husband had stayed together then we might not be together now. Maybe the guy was afraid of commitment? If he didn't use her for money,hurt her or verbally abuse her.... Then maybe he just wasn't ready. If it was abuse heck no no second chances! If it was cold feet then what's the harm as long as she is cautious??
Agreed! If he was a good person and truly just wasn't ready at the time he wouldn't have been awful to her! You can break up with someone and be nice about it! Sometimes things don't work out and that's life. I am friends with all of my ex's because I'm a good person and was never awful to anyone!
Where is your self esteem? You admit he treated you badly but u take him back immediately? He is probably laughing to himself saying “boy that was an easy one lol”
Not here to judge you. Sometimes your heart gets out in front, where things are obviously not good from an objective POV. So I have a few questions for you to answer for yourself: 1) If another guy was pursuing you and had everything you wanted, would you have responded to his message and continued the conversation? If not, why? 2) Are you okay with someone hurting you and waiting two years to respond? 3) What advice would you give to your mother, sister, best friend if they were in your situation?
I went back out with my ex because I just couldn’t move on and it turned out to be the best thing ever because when he repeated his behavior I was able to finally move on and feel good about things.
53 years old here, twice divorced. believe me my dear ..they don't change. He now knows he has the power and you will question every thing he says and does. It will be hard to have a peaceful mind in this relationship. But if you need to try it, then do that but be careful
Mine changed 🤷🏻♀️. He was not good for me in 2004. Then we got back together in 2005 and been married ever since. 3 kids later and still going strong! ❤️. It CAN happen. But yes, it’s rare.
This is exactly what i was thinking, she thinks texting a lot is effort from him when it's just normal plus they're in lockdown so i guess that's all they have to do all day... I hope he changed tho or she's gonna get crushed
60 year old lady here. It seems like a good sign that he kept your contact info after all this time. People can change and grow and look back on their lives and see what opportunities they missed out on. In those 2 years you both have had the chance to look back and look ahead. Be cautious, but it sounds good to me! Enjoy this time in your life! I met the love of my life when i was 44. We got married and were incredibly happy. Three weeks before our 3rd anniversary he died suddenly of a weird heart rhythm issue. We were so blessed to have met and fallen in love. He was divorced, I had been through many bad relationships- but, we both had the wisdom and maturity to know what we wanted. In my heart, we are still married.
It's really hard to imagine that he doesn't remember your channel and hasn't at least checked in on the dating videos from time to time over the years. Just by this video existing, you've put yourself at a huge emotional disadvantage. Don't take for granted the fact that by sharing these thoughts so openly, you're giving him all of the tools he needs to hurt you again. I hope this is everything you want it to be, but please be careful and aware of what you're giving him (and us, frankly) access to.
Just remember that he was the one to end things the first time. And he shouldn’t have easy access to you so fast again. Yes people can change but do you really want someone that didn’t see your value the first time in your life again?
@@mossymaiden it means a lot to her by what she's saying to know where she stands. Not stopping anyone from been happy just reads like every other emotional unavailable male story...
@@Usedtobeabandalore I think she had more of a conclusion of where they stand by the end of the night. Things like this are difficult to navigate on both sides. It’s okay if he doesn’t have answers and neither does she. It’s okay to take things slow and or to jump back where you left off. Every relationship is different and sometimes you have to feel stuff out before you have answers. Better to not put pressure on things like this. He doesn’t sound emotionally unavailable, especially considering he messages her everyday and is putting in the work. It just sounds like two people trying to navigate through their feelings 😌
Yes, you can get rid of them. You block them on social media, you block their number, and you don’t entertain the thought. You just said it yourself: He was AWFUL to you!
Exactly! Going through shit or not, you don't treat people like that. I'm so scared for Cassie because she looks so happy. Those rose-colored glasses that can't be removed until you're crushed. Been there and I'm really trying to be positive.
Yeah, idk how these people just leave that door open. Every one of my exes is blocked on everything, even if we ended on good terms. I'm not entertaining that idea AT ALL.
I see you gave hearts to comments that agreed with you. But people who have your best interest at heart you didn't give hearts to. It took him 2 years to apologise. Oh hell no that guy is on the rebound. It was cringy watching an adult woman gush over a guy who dumped her. Open those beautiful eyes of yours and take your power back. You sounded like you knew he will eventually dump you again. People are ex's for a reason.
I don’t think it was cringey. She’s a human, being open and honest with us. She deserves to be listened to and respected, whether we agree with her or not. To say she’s cringe is just going to make her not want to share her truth.
I think the most important question is if he's dated anyone since you. If he hasn't and he really did need time to himself because he wasn't in the right mental space for a relationship, I think it's pretty telling about how he feels about you that he contacted you when he got to a better place. But, if he has dated other people since, that's a pretty big yellow caution flag. Not necessarily a red flag, but definitely something to be cautious of especially if there were any long term relationships or he dated constantly the whole time. I hope that he does have good intentions and that it will go well, just take care of yourself first ❤️
Okay. I need you to watch this video back and ask yourself this: If my friend was telling me this, would I advise them to go back out with this person? I would pray you wouldn’t.
Ok so he broke up with you, said he wanted to be friends, was not honest with you and instead made you feel bad and was mean to you to 'push you away' and then ghosted on you for a considerable amount of time only to pop back up again out of the blue. Do I have this right? Let me ask you this....what has he done to deserve your time this time? What has he done to be a better communicator? What has changed in his life now that the wants you back? It seems all he has done from what you've said is apologies but that doesn't count because you were owed an apology. A sincere apology gets you back to zero it maybe opens a door to friendship but what has he done in concrete actions to get past the door? When you tell someone I will reciprocate your affections but you have to start it what you are actually telling him is "the door is open, here is the key, you've already won me over all you have to do is not be mean to me and I will give you what you want". That sentiment combined with the low self-esteem you shared with us does not feel like coming into a relationship in a place of clear-headedness and strength. People are worried for you because they saw how upset you were over him. How long you pined for him and now he walks in, does the bare minimum of being a human to you and it seems all is forgiven. We can't make choices for you and we don't know everything, but when hundreds of people are worried, you should take note. Talk to your family and friends who were there for you the first time, what do they say. Talking to you isn't putting in the work. He wants to get back with you of course he will be on his best behaviour. Just remember actions not words! If you are not in a position to walk away at the first sign of trouble don't even start with this guy. You don't sound over him. It sounds like he has all the power and the fear is, is when he has you he will go right back to the way he was before.
This guy I know did the same thing to me right at the start of the pandemic. He was acting distant and downright mean to me. I justified his behavior in my mind that it was because of the lockdown. When he finally agreed to hang out I discovered a romantic card on his mantle from another girl right in front of me. I asked him “are you seeing someone else?” His response: “we can be friends.” Sound familiar? Never let any man do this to you.
It’s also good to remember we are hearing one side of the story. Judging by the ‘ghosting’ recount of recent videos , maybe a bit heavy on the character assassination of the boyfriend- who knows . Hope everyone is doing better tho
Girl-I’m saying this in the kindest way, like I’d say to any of my good friends. Sometimes you jus have to move on. If he’s causing you this much mental gymnastics just forget him and find someone else or be happy in yourself.
When I met my husband, we never wanted to be away from each other. 20 years later, it’s still the same. I was then and am now still a curvy gal and he always saw past any physical flaws. Just saying- getting out there and meeting guys is great, but don’t settle for a guy who broke up with you... but you do you! Best of luck-love is hard!
Couldn't agree more. It was the same with my hubbie 12 yrs ago. That is what you deserve 100% of smones attention. Cassie, you are worth more than that, just wait until you find the right man and STOP playing around with the wrong ones. Don't take back what you already got rid of, people don't change. He'll disappoint you again guaranteed. He's probably bored, has no one else to date b/c of the virus like the other people are saying. Once a player, always a player. People don't change 360°. I'd be shocked if he surprises you in a positive way. I just hope you won't be crying in a video soon.
Lol right! There’s a pandemic out there: he was probably bored, lonely, and horny... and she’s just so desperate to find someone... this isn’t gonna end well.
Sometimes I think we have to go through something twice to believe it’s finally over. This is either the beginning of something great or closure. Just keep your eyes open.
I think you are desperate to be with someone, anyone, learn to live with yourself first, if you are not comfortable with yourself, then adding others to the mix will not fix anything, specially someone as shady as you have portrayed your ex to be. Just saying, as in the end we all do what we want to do.
I feel bad commenting since you're so open and honest about your life; that definitely takes courage, so I give you props for it. However, this video was really hard to watch. I think you give others too much power over how you feel. Your over-elated reaction at the end of the video made me think you're putting the cart before the horse. You're putting a lot of pressure onto a relationship that doesn't yet have a foundation. Aw, man. I just hope I'm totally wrong. Stay well and healthy.
Cassie, He is an ex for a reason !! I hope you don't get your heart broken. Make him put in the time and work for your heart. ( A LONG TIME ) if he does the work than you'll know he really does care and not just using you. 😊😊
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." (Maya Angelou) We love you. We love seeing you happy. You've clearly chosen to get some happiness out of this, but *please* understand that you're being mistreated and he doesn't have enough regard for you if he already was gaslighting you and unkind twice. Praying you come out on top, lovely girl.
Guuurrrrrl, don't put him on that pedestal! yes okay give him a second chance because if you dont, you will always wonder. But keep your guard up for months, and the FIRST sniff of his old ways, run! You've come way to far for some man to carelessly flounce in and ruin it.
Is it just me or is dating someone for 2 months not really a relationship?.. so I really don’t think a first date with him is “taking back an ex”? (So much click bating 🙄) It’s a dude you dated for a bit that treated you like crap. Don’t look back, you aren’t going that way! Urgh so frustrating to watch a woman talk herself into a bad decision, we’re all sat at home watching this shouting “nooo don’t do it Cassie!!!”
Dude omg whenever she says “ex” is so misleading 🙄 this dude is just everyone’s “talking phase” they aren’t an ex unless you’re in an actually relationship. How do you get in a relationship or think you’re in one, especially a “serious” one after 2 months ? Like tf? I wasn’t my boyfriend’s girlfriend until 6 months of knowing one another. If I was the so called “ex” lol I couldn’t be happier to get away from her. She is soo desperate. And I want what’s best for her but she makes decisions like this like you can’t even watch cassie sometimes cause of the way she thinks relationships flow quickly, they take time.
He’s going fishing and caught you hook, line, and sinker. Girl. You need to take a breather on this dating thing. From one girl who has been there, nothing good comes from desperation.
This comment section has actually helped myself a lot because I kept going back to a guy who knew I’d always go back. I am not saying Cassies guy is doing the same, but it is very similar stories. People can change and I hope he is changing, but it doesn’t seem like you’re too cautious about it. I know it’s hard, believe me I can relate to this whole video....but seeing the same situation in someone else’s life just really opens my eyes. Be careful girl
I worry that he is very well aware that Cassie will always take him back & he is using that to his advantage bc he is bored during quarantine and/or just wants to get laid...
I can’t wait for Crying Video: The Sequel! Because I think most people can see where this is heading. I get that you can’t see things clearly because you’re involved IN the situation but everyone else is trying to help you and warn you that this isn’t what you hope it is. And that you will end up hurt and sad. But I agree with everyone that says you’ll have to learn the hard way since you’re choosing to ignore all the realistic comments and only favor the ones telling you to jump headfirst into a terrible decision. Good luck. You’ll need it.
So this guy treats you like absolute shit, comes back two years later (I'm guessing on the rebound from another relationship or he's just bored), makes the most minimal of effort and you let him straight back in. Don't kid yourself, he has ALL the power here. Your boundaries and expectations of what is acceptable from men are so so low it's depressing. You deserve better than this, everyone does. I wish you luck, something tells me you're going to need it girl.
When people show you who they are, believe them.... he hurt you..point blank...I don't want to kill your vibe, but if my best friend was in the same situation, I'd tell her to run....
I get huge red flags off the description of this guy (as apparently a lot of us are; but obviously we don’t know him). I really really really hope we’re wrong, but please please please be careful. Many abusive or manipulative men are wonderful, charming, and romantic until they think they have you hooked. We love you and want to see you happy and not hurt ❤️
Right I know all too well from a situation I’ve witnessed that men like that love to know they can come back to a woman whenever they want no matter how shitty they are to them...and I really hope that doesn’t happen to Cassie. ☹️
This Guy, likes her to here, what he wants her to hear. I hope im wrong, like you said Laura, we dont know him and we could have it all wrong. I hope this time he isnt playing games. Your comment was spot on.👍
Amen. Love bombing is very real. Usually only lasts a few months and then it all slips. Just need to hold off feelings and attachment for that first honeymoon period. Time alwayyyyys reveals someone's character.
All I can say is that if he hasn't changed, that's your sign to move back on! I've been through a similar thing and it's definitely not worth getting super invested in if he was flakey before.
Honestly she just sounds delusional and as if shes trying to convince herself this is ok. I'm all for people and second chances inc certain situations, but this ain't it sis.
Human beings learn from their experiences. She will learn from this and grow from it. This will either work out for her or break her heart again and she'll find the right one for her. There's NOTHING we can say or do that will change her mind. I wish nothing but the best for you girl! No judgment here. This is all a part of the crazy ride we call life.
Not to discourage you or anything but 2020 is the year of the exboyfriends. Its difficult for everyone to meet new people, so they prefer to hook up with exes. Corona doesnt get in the way with exes. I had 4 exboyfriends/former lovers contact me this year. Only because our country was in lockdown and they couldnt meet new people so they wanted to hang out with someone they already know. Big nono.
Unfortunately very true, I had to turn away 2 exes during lockdown. I declined them remembering why I broke up with them in the first place. But still, this is Cassie’s life. We are just here to watch not tell her what’s right. Who knows, I know some people who met their soul mates at the wrong time and they ended up together at a later time. All I can do is watch and hope the best for her 😭
Breh everyones exes are popping back up lately. We're all bored, we're all depressed, we're all sick of trying to date in this ridiculous dystopia we've been forced into. It makes sense. If I weren't in a relationship I could easily see myself cracking and contacting an ex that I would otherwise be 'over' just out of sheer loneliness and isolation getting the better of me. Point is, I wouldn't trust this right now. There is nothing stopping him from using you for companionship for a while and then dipping again when things are back to normal.
Right that’s what I’m waiting for, when things get back to “normal”. When things actually were normal for the last 2 years, he probably never gave her a thought!! Any video updates following this probably won’t mean much, since it’ll just be an effort to “prove the haters wrong”. I’m interested to see what happens when options finally seem safe/available.
Facts. I've made my share of dating mistakes. I even took an abusive ex back once upon a time so i'm not trying to judge her too harshly but as someone who's been thru it + the current situation this just seems sooo sus :l
"He wasn't nice to me"...and yet you would allow this person back into your life. This isn't okay, I'm sorry but you deserve so much better, Cassie. And by the way, you CAN get rid of him and move on.
Right... I think by the way she talks she is immature in a lot of ways.. I really think he is using her as a filler. If you try to tell her she will not listen, get insulted, and block you. She wants what she wants. Than complain about it.
@@BabyGirlRae52 pretty much figured that out long ago. Unlike many other TH-cam personalities, Cassie doesn't address most of the comments and she does come across veey immature for her age
@@Kathy428 I love her, but have to agree with you here. She comes across as immature and incredibly desperate. The exact target these bad guys look for as someone to take advantage of easily. It heartbreaking to see.
It actually broke my heart to see how happy she was at the end of the video :( I hope it works out for her but damn, he has way too much power over her emotions, that yes, I feel like she never got over him.
@@Me-mb1ex They say love is blind and people assume it means we love despite what people look like...rather than making us blind to those warning signs. I sincerely hope it works out for her though, based on her reactions to the comments she doesn't care if people are concerned, which is fine, but I hope the best for her!
Y’all I say we just let her learn her lesson. Most of us see that this is probably going to end badly. But she gonna do what she wants (evidenced by her only liking comments that are encouraging her naïveté 😂). Let’s just let the girl learn her lesson 🤷🏻♀️
I was literally about to comment that none of the comments that have genuinely good advice, and people trying to look out for her, have likes lol. Only the ones that are like GO FOR IT GIRL 😭😩
I just hope she doesn't make a video crying about it later on down the line because no one is going to want to hear it! 😂 But seriously the girls that are just like her are the ones saying go for it and all that! I'm the complete opposite! I love being single a little too much! 😂 Idk if I ever want to be in a relationship again and it's been 3 years! I'm super picky though 🤪
My ex did this to me in March when things started to shut down and he didn’t have anyone else.. long story short I ended up broken hearted for the millionth time. Please be cautious! 💜
I wasted years of my life on someone who would come into my life, push me away and treat me poorly then come back and apologise and present as a changed person. This pattern of behaviour continued and the apology would always seem so sincere that I would get sucked back in and then the same thing would happen again. I ended up so confused that i couldn’t see straight and I wasted so much time on someone who didn’t deserve my time. Be very careful. Xx
Honestly, it sounds like he has issues. He pushed you away for a reason, then came back to apologize for a reason.... If a man was truly interested, he’d be nice to you. Point blank. If he’s a jerk once, or twice, while you’re only TALKING-just move on. Waste of time 👎🏻 An interested man won’t let you be confused, IMO.
I have had men in my life that don’t know what they want, and they are the worst. Run away from them or make them run away by asking, “hey, I don’t want to waste my time, these are MY RULES, I want this now, not in X years. Interested? Great, prove it. Not interested? Bye.” Being bold always does the trick.
If a man is a decent person, he'd be nice to you. Interested or not. We as women have the bar set so low, we don't even expect decency. Even if it didn't work out, or he ultimately found out he wasn't interested, he could still be a mature adult who has the tact and kindness to do better.
Jesus Cassie.. I don't want to be mean, but you put too much effort and thought into this guys so early into the relationship.. you are not even together with them and you create all kinds of scenarios in your head for nothing. One of the reasons you are still single is because you seem too desperate for a relationship. You need to relax..
Oh no girl... what is you DOIN?! I actually don’t understand how every other date has been through webcam but this one you let just come over lol I love you Cassie but no... let this one go! There’s no way anyone should be with someone who makes them feel even the slightest bit of low of that makes sense. You should feel so confident and trusting with who ever you’re with.
Still finding excuses for him after 2 years that maybe he changed and maybe cleared his head and cured his depression. With everything that's happening in the world, people are now suffering with lack of physical intimacy and they would give it a try with absolutely anyone that might be available. You specifically told him when he broke up with you to catch up if he wants to rekindle things and you're still available. Girls, try and give yourself more respect and stop settling for the first one that knocks on your door. Stop letting your insecurities and low self esteem to takeover and push you in the arms of the first one that gives you attention. You all deserve so much better and someone that truly love you regardless.
Yaaaas. This is all so true. Unfortunately this isn’t something you can just tell people. From my experience, they have to learn this lesson themselves.
It's harsh but true. I'm waiting for next vid where she'll cry her eyes out in pain and disappointment. I hope I'm wrong. I hope the bf never watches this
Best comment on the board. Did she really tell him to catch up if he wants to rekindle things and she's available. If thats true...pitiful and embarrassing.
From someone who dated A LOT after some long relationships, sometimes it feels comfortable to go back to exs. I have done it and EVERY TIME, I end up regretting it. And after like 3 years, I have been able to find someone who makes me happy. and if he has dated and also had a similar issue like you or not it can be that he never got over you. SO be careful if you follow through. I know none of us would want you to get a broken heart.
I remember when these videos started you would always compare people to your ex to the point you address it in one of your videos because people thought you weren’t over him. Girl I know where you are my ex just came back after two months apart but you always have to remember guys will ALWAYS come back for ego they are checking that no one else is in your life so then can disappear and reappear again. My ex has been perusing me a lot but you know what? Everytime he does I think about all the times he hurt me, I even took a photo of me crying the day I ended it to look at because I KNEW he would come back they all do. I can tell compared to your other date videos you are much happier in this video which is a big 🚩 because you’re already invested in the outcome, I’m no way attacking you because I like my ex too but sometimes you just have to move on
YES. I did something similar but it was a video of me hard sobbing telling future me that I would NEVER let him hurt me again. He didn't. I moved on and years later I am in a happy healthy relationship of 6 years with the man I'll spend the rest of my life with.
🤦🏻♀️ CASSIE read the comments. Everyone wants the best for you, and wants the best for your state of mind. DO NOT DO IT! He is your ex for a REASON!! The last guy you were seeing was a TRUE PLAYER and this guy (ex) is going to break your heart...AGAIN. Don’t take this the wrong way, but it won’t be long until you make an upload crying saying he broke your heart and everyone is going to tell you... WE TOLD YOU SOOO! Please take some time to love yourself first and don’t settle for these douche bags!! You’re better than this. Ughhh... disappointed. Thought you were doing better mentally and now you back slide!
Cassie..you know this is a bad idea, otherwise you wouldn't have to defend yourself. Please please please respect yourself, you are not a consolation prize.
I am very Pro Cassie, and I typically don’t ever say anything negative, because you catch enough unreasonable crap on here, but I just want to say exes are exes for a reason.... I know that’s not really negative, but just a gentle reminder.
This is ages later but this is just a textbook kinda thing. He mustve felt rejected by someone else and he came to you for comfort because he knew you were likely to say yes because thats sadly how feelings seem to work. I dont blame you for it but you should try to treat YOURSELF better. Have you considered therapy? Maybe youre already in therapy I wouldnt know, I am just going off of this video and my OWN experience. Because I am alot like you and therapy is helping me see like how me holding onto people who have hurt me is a form of emotional unavailability. You chase them/seek them out because you yourself are not ready (me too). Of course love can come to anyone at any time but thats just my tip, since I know we dont just WANT to be shitty to ourselves. Best of luck Cassie!
Maybe stop analyzing his words and just observe what he does. That’s who he is.
She makes excuses. If doesn’t work out she can blame others
hearing her ... it's almost like she's trying to justify getting back with him to herself. Like even she knows it's a bad idea deep down :/
I needed to hear this too. Thank you 🥺
All I can say is watch his ACTIONS. Do not listen to the words. *If he wants to, he will.* The minute I started following that advice, I found my husband and 4 years later he still amazes me.
Great advice.
This advice is really helpful Thankyou ❤️
Yes!! actions speak louder than words and we should all keep that in mind
If he want's to, he will. Words to live by!
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Returning with her ex.
Us: Don’t do it girl, don’t do it!
Cassie: I wasn’t going to do it, I was just thinking about it.
Cassie: I did it!
One of my fav Tiktok sounds. Lol.
You just forgot "it's not worth it..."
LOL THIS ONE GOT ME
🤣🤣🤣
Great Tilton catch!
Rewatch your breakup video
I love how many women in these comments are SMART and aware of such simple manipulation. Girls, stay aware. 🙌
Girl, yes!!! But at the same time I am appalled by how many women are saying things like “omg yes go for it what’s the worst that can happen I’m so happy for you”... 🤦🏻♀️. Unfortunately I think those are the only comments Cassie is reading (and liking) 🙄🤷🏻♀️ She gonna learn her lesson the hard way, but she’s gonna learn!
She never got over him.. getting back with an ex is very sticky. I think she is a replacement because he is board
Me and my husband dated back in highschool... We ended up breaking up. We got back together after 7 years . We grew up in that time apart.
I don't know this guy personally but I do know if me and my husband had stayed together then we might not be together now.
Maybe the guy was afraid of commitment? If he didn't use her for money,hurt her or verbally abuse her.... Then maybe he just wasn't ready.
If it was abuse heck no no second chances!
If it was cold feet then what's the harm as long as she is cautious??
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
I love this exactly!
Being “awful” to someone, to me, is a character flaw and leopards don’t change their spots.
Agreed! If he was a good person and truly just wasn't ready at the time he wouldn't have been awful to her! You can break up with someone and be nice about it! Sometimes things don't work out and that's life. I am friends with all of my ex's because I'm a good person and was never awful to anyone!
Where is your self esteem? You admit he treated you badly but u take him back immediately? He is probably laughing to himself saying “boy that was an easy one lol”
Not here to judge you. Sometimes your heart gets out in front, where things are obviously not good from an objective POV. So I have a few questions for you to answer for yourself:
1) If another guy was pursuing you and had everything you wanted, would you have responded to his message and continued the conversation? If not, why?
2) Are you okay with someone hurting you and waiting two years to respond?
3) What advice would you give to your mother, sister, best friend if they were in your situation?
We need to be friends. Straight up! :)
Yes ma’am exactly
Those are excellent questions. Well done. 👍
All valid questions, especially number 2, would definitely not bother with the guy again
Asking questions allows the other person to explore how they feel. Love this approach.
That smile doesn't look like cautious happiness to me.
Say it with me: 👏🏻 Infatuation 👏🏻
Cassie, is all loved up.
Talk with your friends. People that knew you two together and saw what breaking up did to you. Hopefully they'll give you some honest thoughts.
I went back out with my ex because I just couldn’t move on and it turned out to be the best thing ever because when he repeated his behavior I was able to finally move on and feel good about things.
Same
Y’all I’m so proud of this comment section. So many women with their heads screwed on 👏🏻
This... seems like a terrible idea.
WHY???
@@camillastyer6391 If you can’t see it, I can’t explain it to you. Read all of the comments.
@@pepperloop6049 Sometimes in life we have to take chances. It's called LIVING.
@@camillastyer6391 Okay.
53 years old here, twice divorced. believe me my dear ..they don't change. He now knows he has the power and you will question every thing he says and does. It will be hard to have a peaceful mind in this relationship. But if you need to try it, then do that but be careful
Mine changed 🤷🏻♀️. He was not good for me in 2004. Then we got back together in 2005 and been married ever since. 3 kids later and still going strong! ❤️. It CAN happen. But yes, it’s rare.
They never change!
Ugh so sad that a guy texting a conversation and not just “hi”, is considered him putting in a lot of effort lol
This is exactly what i was thinking, she thinks texting a lot is effort from him when it's just normal plus they're in lockdown so i guess that's all they have to do all day... I hope he changed tho or she's gonna get crushed
@@RoseFlavourLucy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@RoseFlavourLucy hahahaha!
60 year old lady here. It seems like a good sign that he kept your contact info after all this time. People can change and grow and look back on their lives and see what opportunities they missed out on. In those 2 years you both have had the chance to look back and look ahead. Be cautious, but it sounds good to me! Enjoy this time in your life! I met the love of my life when i was 44. We got married and were incredibly happy. Three weeks before our 3rd anniversary he died suddenly of a weird heart rhythm issue. We were so blessed to have met and fallen in love. He was divorced, I had been through many bad relationships- but, we both had the wisdom and maturity to know what we wanted. In my heart, we are still married.
Wow. Thank you for sharing that. Lovely. That is lovely.
Wow this is such a beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing 💗
OMG, that's such a sad yet lovely story. Thanks for sharing! It actually gave me hope (44 yo over here) ❤️
Of course you're still married...
Words of wisdom. Fabulous!... ✌🏼😎🖤🖤🖤
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ You two definitely are still married. True love never ends.
It's really hard to imagine that he doesn't remember your channel and hasn't at least checked in on the dating videos from time to time over the years. Just by this video existing, you've put yourself at a huge emotional disadvantage. Don't take for granted the fact that by sharing these thoughts so openly, you're giving him all of the tools he needs to hurt you again. I hope this is everything you want it to be, but please be careful and aware of what you're giving him (and us, frankly) access to.
Oh she's smitten....gurl you're doomed
yeah :))
I’m scared for her lol
@@justeeenar8484 not gonna lie, same but that initial smittenness for that person like a drug. So I wish her all the luck in the world
Had to take a SHOWWWER before she came back om the video!🤣😅🤭👿
@@jenicabraud8652 her hair is dry. What?
you are giving him way too much credit and overanalyzing every little thing he says
Just remember that he was the one to end things the first time. And he shouldn’t have easy access to you so fast again. Yes people can change but do you really want someone that didn’t see your value the first time in your life again?
"If he likes you, you'll know. If he doesn't, you'll be confused".
I made this mistake before. I say mistake cause in the end I noticed I was just being used. Hope the same doesn’t happen to you. Be careful ❤️
Same here, there is no honest feelings, they just want to use you.
Same girl. Same.
Same
He wasnt ready for a relationship = He wasnt ready for a relationship with you.
If you're scared to tell him how you feel and ask for the basic ( where you stand ) then girl .... no .... run!
EXACTLY
That's some good advice. If you are scared to have that conversation then you are not with the right person.
Or you could just go with the flow and stop putting expectations on people and relationships that could just happen naturally. Let her be happy...
@@mossymaiden it means a lot to her by what she's saying to know where she stands. Not stopping anyone from been happy just reads like every other emotional unavailable male story...
@@Usedtobeabandalore I think she had more of a conclusion of where they stand by the end of the night. Things like this are difficult to navigate on both sides. It’s okay if he doesn’t have answers and neither does she. It’s okay to take things slow and or to jump back where you left off. Every relationship is different and sometimes you have to feel stuff out before you have answers. Better to not put pressure on things like this. He doesn’t sound emotionally unavailable, especially considering he messages her everyday and is putting in the work. It just sounds like two people trying to navigate through their feelings 😌
Covid. Lonely. This is hard to watch. Most of us know where this is most likely going. We've been there.
@tdmr didn't tell her not to. I'm not her mom. I truly hope it works out and they live happily ever after.
Yes, you can get rid of them. You block them on social media, you block their number, and you don’t entertain the thought. You just said it yourself: He was AWFUL to you!
Exactly! Going through shit or not, you don't treat people like that. I'm so scared for Cassie because she looks so happy. Those rose-colored glasses that can't be removed until you're crushed. Been there and I'm really trying to be positive.
Yeah, idk how these people just leave that door open. Every one of my exes is blocked on everything, even if we ended on good terms. I'm not entertaining that idea AT ALL.
@@Me-mb1ex Yes ma'am, THANK YOU!!
If this makes you happy go girl.... But, never forget how much he made you cry AND that he can do it again.
i couldn’t get back with anyone who didn’t see my worth since the very beginning
I see you gave hearts to comments that agreed with you. But people who have your best interest at heart you didn't give hearts to. It took him 2 years to apologise. Oh hell no that guy is on the rebound. It was cringy watching an adult woman gush over a guy who dumped her. Open those beautiful eyes of yours and take your power back. You sounded like you knew he will eventually dump you again. People are ex's for a reason.
I noticed that too. Just hearting people that agreed. None for people who left some lovely uplifting messages empowering her to be strong. Ironic
I don’t think it was cringey. She’s a human, being open and honest with us. She deserves to be listened to and respected, whether we agree with her or not. To say she’s cringe is just going to make her not want to share her truth.
Here Here.👍
She only ever gives hearts to people who agree with her.
I think the most important question is if he's dated anyone since you. If he hasn't and he really did need time to himself because he wasn't in the right mental space for a relationship, I think it's pretty telling about how he feels about you that he contacted you when he got to a better place. But, if he has dated other people since, that's a pretty big yellow caution flag. Not necessarily a red flag, but definitely something to be cautious of especially if there were any long term relationships or he dated constantly the whole time.
I hope that he does have good intentions and that it will go well, just take care of yourself first ❤️
Very well said, I agree with!
100% agree
yeah -hoping it's not rebound thing for him
GIRLLL... smh. Be careful.
Real love shouldn't hurt, doll.
Maybe this feels right because it's familiar.
Girl, "this feels right because it's familiar" hits home hard
🎯🎯🎯
Okay. I need you to watch this video back and ask yourself this: If my friend was telling me this, would I advise them to go back out with this person? I would pray you wouldn’t.
Ok so he broke up with you, said he wanted to be friends, was not honest with you and instead made you feel bad and was mean to you to 'push you away' and then ghosted on you for a considerable amount of time only to pop back up again out of the blue. Do I have this right? Let me ask you this....what has he done to deserve your time this time? What has he done to be a better communicator? What has changed in his life now that the wants you back?
It seems all he has done from what you've said is apologies but that doesn't count because you were owed an apology. A sincere apology gets you back to zero it maybe opens a door to friendship but what has he done in concrete actions to get past the door? When you tell someone I will reciprocate your affections but you have to start it what you are actually telling him is "the door is open, here is the key, you've already won me over all you have to do is not be mean to me and I will give you what you want". That sentiment combined with the low self-esteem you shared with us does not feel like coming into a relationship in a place of clear-headedness and strength. People are worried for you because they saw how upset you were over him. How long you pined for him and now he walks in, does the bare minimum of being a human to you and it seems all is forgiven.
We can't make choices for you and we don't know everything, but when hundreds of people are worried, you should take note. Talk to your family and friends who were there for you the first time, what do they say. Talking to you isn't putting in the work. He wants to get back with you of course he will be on his best behaviour. Just remember actions not words! If you are not in a position to walk away at the first sign of trouble don't even start with this guy. You don't sound over him. It sounds like he has all the power and the fear is, is when he has you he will go right back to the way he was before.
This guy I know did the same thing to me right at the start of the pandemic. He was acting distant and downright mean to me. I justified his behavior in my mind that it was because of the lockdown. When he finally agreed to hang out I discovered a romantic card on his mantle from another girl right in front of me. I asked him “are you seeing someone else?” His response: “we can be friends.” Sound familiar? Never let any man do this to you.
Very very thoughtfully accurate comment! Great advice!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It’s also good to remember we are hearing one side of the story. Judging by the ‘ghosting’ recount of recent videos , maybe a bit heavy on the character assassination of the boyfriend- who knows . Hope everyone is doing better tho
Girl-I’m saying this in the kindest way, like I’d say to any of my good friends. Sometimes you jus have to move on. If he’s causing you this much mental gymnastics just forget him and find someone else or be happy in yourself.
The thing is that she likes mental gymnastics. I don’t say she is right or not, but she is romantic...
He’s watching this? Oh dear, he’s already in full control. Good luck, pretty lady.
When I met my husband, we never wanted to be away from each other. 20 years later, it’s still the same. I was then and am now still a curvy gal and he always saw past any physical flaws. Just saying- getting out there and meeting guys is great, but don’t settle for a guy who broke up with you... but you do you! Best of luck-love is hard!
He should love it💕. Sounds like yours does.
Couldn't agree more. It was the same with my hubbie 12 yrs ago. That is what you deserve 100% of smones attention. Cassie, you are worth more than that, just wait until you find the right man and STOP playing around with the wrong ones. Don't take back what you already got rid of, people don't change. He'll disappoint you again guaranteed. He's probably bored, has no one else to date b/c of the virus like the other people are saying. Once a player, always a player. People don't change 360°. I'd be shocked if he surprises you in a positive way. I just hope you won't be crying in a video soon.
Aww. This sounds like my husband and I. Except we have been together almost 10 years.
He’s coming over already!? Yikes! Make him wait a bit! I bet he couldn’t believe how easy that was...
Lol right! There’s a pandemic out there: he was probably bored, lonely, and horny... and she’s just so desperate to find someone... this isn’t gonna end well.
Oop.
Sometimes I think we have to go through something twice to believe it’s finally over. This is either the beginning of something great or closure. Just keep your eyes open.
I think you are desperate to be with someone, anyone, learn to live with yourself first, if you are not comfortable with yourself, then adding others to the mix will not fix anything, specially someone as shady as you have portrayed your ex to be. Just saying, as in the end we all do what we want to do.
I feel bad commenting since you're so open and honest about your life; that definitely takes courage, so I give you props for it. However, this video was really hard to watch. I think you give others too much power over how you feel. Your over-elated reaction at the end of the video made me think you're putting the cart before the horse. You're putting a lot of pressure onto a relationship that doesn't yet have a foundation. Aw, man. I just hope I'm totally wrong. Stay well and healthy.
girl that is not cautious happiness, that's straight jubilation. please tread lightly.
Glad you are happy but I would be cautious. Where has he been this whole time? Is he fresh out of a relationship. I would be leery.
Ooooooo..that's a good question? Rebound🤔😒
This the one!!!^^🎯🎯
Confusion is always a major red flag.
Cassie, He is an ex for a reason !! I hope you don't get your heart broken. Make him put in the time and work for your heart. ( A LONG TIME ) if he does the work than you'll know he really does care and not just using you. 😊😊
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." (Maya Angelou)
We love you. We love seeing you happy. You've clearly chosen to get some happiness out of this, but *please* understand that you're being mistreated and he doesn't have enough regard for you if he already was gaslighting you and unkind twice.
Praying you come out on top, lovely girl.
Guuurrrrrl, don't put him on that pedestal!
yes okay give him a second chance because if you dont, you will always wonder. But keep your guard up for months, and the FIRST sniff of his old ways, run!
You've come way to far for some man to carelessly flounce in and ruin it.
Is it just me or is dating someone for 2 months not really a relationship?.. so I really don’t think a first date with him is “taking back an ex”? (So much click bating 🙄) It’s a dude you dated for a bit that treated you like crap. Don’t look back, you aren’t going that way! Urgh so frustrating to watch a woman talk herself into a bad decision, we’re all sat at home watching this shouting “nooo don’t do it Cassie!!!”
Dude omg whenever she says “ex” is so misleading 🙄 this dude is just everyone’s “talking phase” they aren’t an ex unless you’re in an actually relationship. How do you get in a relationship or think you’re in one, especially a “serious” one after 2 months ? Like tf? I wasn’t my boyfriend’s girlfriend until 6 months of knowing one another. If I was the so called “ex” lol I couldn’t be happier to get away from her. She is soo desperate. And I want what’s best for her but she makes decisions like this like you can’t even watch cassie sometimes cause of the way she thinks relationships flow quickly, they take time.
I'm happy you're happy but this situation makes me uneasy.
You mentioned he's younger than you. I sincerely hope he's matured.
"He didn't want to open up emotionally".... about your Pokemon cross-stitch?
😂😂😂😂😂
Harsh. But true
This made me lol!!! I thought the same
He’s going fishing and caught you hook, line, and sinker. Girl. You need to take a breather on this dating thing. From one girl who has been there, nothing good comes from desperation.
I couldn’t agree MORE! You are spot on!
This comment section has actually helped myself a lot because I kept going back to a guy who knew I’d always go back. I am not saying Cassies guy is doing the same, but it is very similar stories. People can change and I hope he is changing, but it doesn’t seem like you’re too cautious about it. I know it’s hard, believe me I can relate to this whole video....but seeing the same situation in someone else’s life just really opens my eyes. Be careful girl
No never backslide to a guy who dumped you! But when you do nobody needs to know .. that's your business lol
I worry that he is very well aware that Cassie will always take him back & he is using that to his advantage bc he is bored during quarantine and/or just wants to get laid...
Oh boy, this doesn’t sound like it’ll end well... hope I’m wrong though
I can’t wait for Crying Video: The Sequel! Because I think most people can see where this is heading. I get that you can’t see things clearly because you’re involved IN the situation but everyone else is trying to help you and warn you that this isn’t what you hope it is. And that you will end up hurt and sad. But I agree with everyone that says you’ll have to learn the hard way since you’re choosing to ignore all the realistic comments and only favor the ones telling you to jump headfirst into a terrible decision. Good luck. You’ll need it.
So this guy treats you like absolute shit, comes back two years later (I'm guessing on the rebound from another relationship or he's just bored), makes the most minimal of effort and you let him straight back in. Don't kid yourself, he has ALL the power here. Your boundaries and expectations of what is acceptable from men are so so low it's depressing. You deserve better than this, everyone does. I wish you luck, something tells me you're going to need it girl.
When people show you who they are, believe them.... he hurt you..point blank...I don't want to kill your vibe, but if my best friend was in the same situation, I'd tell her to run....
I love that quote. So so true 💯
Mercury retrograde always brings back the old trash lol
Omg ur so right!! This probably did happen over the retrograde 🤣
reminder to everyone that she’s been hanging on a 2 MONTH relationship for years now
It's very telling
Haha I see myself in this picture and it’s embarrassing and sad. It’s hard to let someone go.. :/
yea this was what confused me, i though this was the guy she went on like 3 dates with?
Y’all are jerks.
So? She’s obviously really into this guy
I get huge red flags off the description of this guy (as apparently a lot of us are; but obviously we don’t know him). I really really really hope we’re wrong, but please please please be careful. Many abusive or manipulative men are wonderful, charming, and romantic until they think they have you hooked. We love you and want to see you happy and not hurt ❤️
Here Here.👍
I agree.
Right I know all too well from a situation I’ve witnessed that men like that love to know they can come back to a woman whenever they want no matter how shitty they are to them...and I really hope that doesn’t happen to Cassie. ☹️
This Guy, likes her to here, what he wants her to hear. I hope im wrong, like you said Laura, we dont know him and we could have it all wrong. I hope this time he isnt playing games. Your comment was spot on.👍
Amen. Love bombing is very real. Usually only lasts a few months and then it all slips. Just need to hold off feelings and attachment for that first honeymoon period. Time alwayyyyys reveals someone's character.
I’m going on my first date for the first time in 8 years tomorrow and I’m feeling really good about it! Wish me all the luck Cassirole Fam!!!
Good luck girl! Let us know how it goes!
Have a great date!!
Thanks peeps. I’ll update tomorrow afternoon!!!
Good luck🍀
Better update us. Lmao
He’s just bored and he wants closure to confirm he made “the right choice”. Guys Pursue 1,000% and claim you when they want you
It's cuffing season. People want to be in a relationship during the holidays then break it off before Valentine's Day.
All I can say is that if he hasn't changed, that's your sign to move back on! I've been through a similar thing and it's definitely not worth getting super invested in if he was flakey before.
Honestly she just sounds delusional and as if shes trying to convince herself this is ok. I'm all for people and second chances inc certain situations, but this ain't it sis.
Human beings learn from their experiences. She will learn from this and grow from it. This will either work out for her or break her heart again and she'll find the right one for her. There's NOTHING we can say or do that will change her mind. I wish nothing but the best for you girl! No judgment here. This is all a part of the crazy ride we call life.
Not to discourage you or anything but 2020 is the year of the exboyfriends. Its difficult for everyone to meet new people, so they prefer to hook up with exes. Corona doesnt get in the way with exes. I had 4 exboyfriends/former lovers contact me this year. Only because our country was in lockdown and they couldnt meet new people so they wanted to hang out with someone they already know. Big nono.
Unfortunately very true, I had to turn away 2 exes during lockdown. I declined them remembering why I broke up with them in the first place. But still, this is Cassie’s life. We are just here to watch not tell her what’s right. Who knows, I know some people who met their soul mates at the wrong time and they ended up together at a later time. All I can do is watch and hope the best for her 😭
This is the comment I was looking for. Guys from the past often come back. More now than ever
No Cassie... no.
Breh everyones exes are popping back up lately.
We're all bored, we're all depressed, we're all sick of trying to date in this ridiculous dystopia we've been forced into. It makes sense. If I weren't in a relationship I could easily see myself cracking and contacting an ex that I would otherwise be 'over' just out of sheer loneliness and isolation getting the better of me.
Point is, I wouldn't trust this right now. There is nothing stopping him from using you for companionship for a while and then dipping again when things are back to normal.
Right that’s what I’m waiting for, when things get back to “normal”. When things actually were normal for the last 2 years, he probably never gave her a thought!! Any video updates following this probably won’t mean much, since it’ll just be an effort to “prove the haters wrong”. I’m interested to see what happens when options finally seem safe/available.
Facts. I've made my share of dating mistakes. I even took an abusive ex back once upon a time so i'm not trying to judge her too harshly but as someone who's been thru it + the current situation this just seems sooo sus :l
He's coming over to your HOUSE? During a pandemic? This is a bigger issue, Cassie!
She doesn’t care.
Hopefully she won't regret this in 7-14 days. :( Especially out West the numbers are really escalating.
"He wasn't nice to me"...and yet you would allow this person back into your life. This isn't okay, I'm sorry but you deserve so much better, Cassie. And by the way, you CAN get rid of him and move on.
Right... I think by the way she talks she is immature in a lot of ways.. I really think he is using her as a filler. If you try to tell her she will not listen, get insulted, and block you. She wants what she wants. Than complain about it.
@@BabyGirlRae52 pretty much figured that out long ago. Unlike many other TH-cam personalities, Cassie doesn't address most of the comments and she does come across veey immature for her age
@@Kathy428 I love her, but have to agree with you here. She comes across as immature and incredibly desperate. The exact target these bad guys look for as someone to take advantage of easily. It heartbreaking to see.
I feel you never got over him. You kept giving him to much of the power while you were talking. I'm worried for you.
It actually broke my heart to see how happy she was at the end of the video :( I hope it works out for her but damn, he has way too much power over her emotions, that yes, I feel like she never got over him.
This is the one she's always comparing her dates "spark" with too and why they never measure up or get a fair shot...this is gonna end badly.
@@Me-mb1ex They say love is blind and people assume it means we love despite what people look like...rather than making us blind to those warning signs. I sincerely hope it works out for her though, based on her reactions to the comments she doesn't care if people are concerned, which is fine, but I hope the best for her!
Y’all I say we just let her learn her lesson. Most of us see that this is probably going to end badly. But she gonna do what she wants (evidenced by her only liking comments that are encouraging her naïveté 😂). Let’s just let the girl learn her lesson 🤷🏻♀️
I was literally about to comment that none of the comments that have genuinely good advice, and people trying to look out for her, have likes lol. Only the ones that are like GO FOR IT GIRL 😭😩
I just hope she doesn't make a video crying about it later on down the line because no one is going to want to hear it! 😂 But seriously the girls that are just like her are the ones saying go for it and all that! I'm the complete opposite! I love being single a little too much! 😂 Idk if I ever want to be in a relationship again and it's been 3 years! I'm super picky though 🤪
or there is a real possibility that he's being truthful nothing wrong in a second chance
Honestly you're not wrong, most people have to learn the hard way anyway. That's the only way they'll grow.
Oh honey no
My ex did this to me in March when things started to shut down and he didn’t have anyone else.. long story short I ended up broken hearted for the millionth time. Please be cautious! 💜
I wasted years of my life on someone who would come into my life, push me away and treat me poorly then come back and apologise and present as a changed person. This pattern of behaviour continued and the apology would always seem so sincere that I would get sucked back in and then the same thing would happen again. I ended up so confused that i couldn’t see straight and I wasted so much time on someone who didn’t deserve my time. Be very careful. Xx
Ahhhh the old hoover, love bomb, devalue, discard and repeat cycle. Ain't it grand?
Girl a dude that's a jerk after u break up, will always be a jerk. I wish you the best.
Honestly, it sounds like he has issues. He pushed you away for a reason, then came back to apologize for a reason.... If a man was truly interested, he’d be nice to you. Point blank. If he’s a jerk once, or twice, while you’re only TALKING-just move on. Waste of time 👎🏻 An interested man won’t let you be confused, IMO.
That was 2 years ago tho. People change
I have had men in my life that don’t know what they want, and they are the worst. Run away from them or make them run away by asking, “hey, I don’t want to waste my time, these are MY RULES, I want this now, not in X years. Interested? Great, prove it. Not interested? Bye.” Being bold always does the trick.
If a man is a decent person, he'd be nice to you. Interested or not. We as women have the bar set so low, we don't even expect decency. Even if it didn't work out, or he ultimately found out he wasn't interested, he could still be a mature adult who has the tact and kindness to do better.
Dear Cassie, I’m saying this with love: just please remember what happened last time you were making excuses for a guy :/
Also, try watching Matthew Hussey’s channel. He gives the best relationship and self improvement advices 👌🏽
Jesus Cassie.. I don't want to be mean, but you put too much effort and thought into this guys so early into the relationship.. you are not even together with them and you create all kinds of scenarios in your head for nothing. One of the reasons you are still single is because you seem too desperate for a relationship. You need to relax..
Over investing.
I've guilty of the same and it never works out
Cassie, to be this vulnerable on camera despite the possibility of judgment is beautiful ❤
It does take a lot of courage to be so vulnerable 👏
you're so right. I couldn't let my guard down like that... but I admire her honestly it really shows you what a good heart she has.
@Tan ... I agree wholeheartedly.
Oh no girl... what is you DOIN?! I actually don’t understand how every other date has been through webcam but this one you let just come over lol I love you Cassie but no... let this one go! There’s no way anyone should be with someone who makes them feel even the slightest bit of low of that makes sense. You should feel so confident and trusting with who ever you’re with.
Still finding excuses for him after 2 years that maybe he changed and maybe cleared his head and cured his depression. With everything that's happening in the world, people are now suffering with lack of physical intimacy and they would give it a try with absolutely anyone that might be available. You specifically told him when he broke up with you to catch up if he wants to rekindle things and you're still available. Girls, try and give yourself more respect and stop settling for the first one that knocks on your door. Stop letting your insecurities and low self esteem to takeover and push you in the arms of the first one that gives you attention. You all deserve so much better and someone that truly love you regardless.
Yaaaas. This is all so true. Unfortunately this isn’t something you can just tell people. From my experience, they have to learn this lesson themselves.
It's harsh but true. I'm waiting for next vid where she'll cry her eyes out in pain and disappointment. I hope I'm wrong. I hope the bf never watches this
Best comment on the board. Did she really tell him to catch up if he wants to rekindle things and she's available. If thats true...pitiful and embarrassing.
@@mjp23 girl, i was thinking the exact same thing.
If he genuinely respected her, he wouldn't come to her apartment and make out with her so soon no matter how much he would really want her back.
From someone who dated A LOT after some long relationships, sometimes it feels comfortable to go back to exs. I have done it and EVERY TIME, I end up regretting it. And after like 3 years, I have been able to find someone who makes me happy. and if he has dated and also had a similar issue like you or not it can be that he never got over you. SO be careful if you follow through. I know none of us would want you to get a broken heart.
You’re settling cause your lonely
I remember when these videos started you would always compare people to your ex to the point you address it in one of your videos because people thought you weren’t over him. Girl I know where you are my ex just came back after two months apart but you always have to remember guys will ALWAYS come back for ego they are checking that no one else is in your life so then can disappear and reappear again. My ex has been perusing me a lot but you know what? Everytime he does I think about all the times he hurt me, I even took a photo of me crying the day I ended it to look at because I KNEW he would come back they all do. I can tell compared to your other date videos you are much happier in this video which is a big 🚩 because you’re already invested in the outcome, I’m no way attacking you because I like my ex too but sometimes you just have to move on
I agree!
YES. I did something similar but it was a video of me hard sobbing telling future me that I would NEVER let him hurt me again. He didn't. I moved on and years later I am in a happy healthy relationship of 6 years with the man I'll spend the rest of my life with.
🤦🏻♀️ CASSIE read the comments. Everyone wants the best for you, and wants the best for your state of mind. DO NOT DO IT! He is your ex for a REASON!! The last guy you were seeing was a TRUE PLAYER and this guy (ex) is going to break your heart...AGAIN. Don’t take this the wrong way, but it won’t be long until you make an upload crying saying he broke your heart and everyone is going to tell you... WE TOLD YOU SOOO! Please take some time to love yourself first and don’t settle for these douche bags!! You’re better than this. Ughhh... disappointed. Thought you were doing better mentally and now you back slide!
You only dated this guy for 2 months?
GIRL, DON'T DO IT. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." -Maya Angelou
Cassie..you know this is a bad idea, otherwise you wouldn't have to defend yourself. Please please please respect yourself, you are not a consolation prize.
praying for this heartbreak to be smoother than the last. please be careful cass!!
I am very Pro Cassie, and I typically don’t ever say anything negative, because you catch enough unreasonable crap on here, but I just want to say exes are exes for a reason.... I know that’s not really negative, but just a gentle reminder.
This is ages later but this is just a textbook kinda thing. He mustve felt rejected by someone else and he came to you for comfort because he knew you were likely to say yes because thats sadly how feelings seem to work. I dont blame you for it but you should try to treat YOURSELF better. Have you considered therapy? Maybe youre already in therapy I wouldnt know, I am just going off of this video and my OWN experience. Because I am alot like you and therapy is helping me see like how me holding onto people who have hurt me is a form of emotional unavailability. You chase them/seek them out because you yourself are not ready (me too). Of course love can come to anyone at any time but thats just my tip, since I know we dont just WANT to be shitty to ourselves. Best of luck Cassie!
They really don't change.
Let's be honest, she was never over her ex...
Honestly! That's why she always compared her bumble dates to him 😭
If he really wanted to be with you it wouldn’t have mattered whether he was “ready for a relationship” or not he wouldn’t have hurt you...period
This is very sad and cringy to watch 🤦🏼♀️
we’re in a pandemic
This is going to hurt. Some things are better left in the past.
This is never ever going to work. I would bet a lot of money on it.