Amazing, everyday I get annoyed by the smallest of things and I always feel terrible after, feel like shit after I’ve exploded, everyone thinks I’m mental, this has been really helpful on my journey to make myself better, thank you
#1 Explosive 2:58 Reason: 6:11 Fix: (Instead of suppressing in mind; Write & Analyze) 6:50 #2 Self Abusive 7:45 Reason 8:33 Fix: (Take an observer's perspective and divide responsibility) 10:38 #3 Avoidance 10:46 Reason 10:53 Fix: (Use a mediator to facilitate a conversation instead of avoiding it) 11:18 #4 Sarcasm 12:30 Reason 12:58 Fix: (Talk straight and articulate your anger in constructive way) 13:53 #5 Passive Aggressive 15:11 Reason 16:30 Fix: (Speak up before you get bitter & fix #1 ) 16:33 #5 Habitual Irritation 17:42 Reason 16:30 Fix: (Connect to something of a higher meaning and purpose in life) 19:21 Wisdom bits in between: Switching from being controlled by anger to controlling anger. 12:12 Noticing a flaw is easy, takes higher intelligence to find harmony and look at positives 14:41 Top Reasons: Lack of security,Stability, Internal dissatisfaction 18:04 Proactive fixes: Finding your purpose, Finding your Passion, Identifying & being with people we admire Internal Dialogue
Omg l did that last week...wrote a 3 pages of anger letter to family member an it felt so freeing ..my concience is clear an l am sleeping better..thank you Jay..😊
I like what you said about “finding your Passion, finding what Motivates us, our Purpose... to disconnect from that anger!...Observe your Internal Dialogue...”
Thank you. I’ve listened to about five videos today on the topic of anger and how to manage it. I appreciate how you explain things and give everyday examples. I am really going to try a few of the things you have suggested because I see myself as explosive and sarcastic when it comes to anger.
The struggle created a person searching for a light to guide him through the darkness , but the whole time i was the light i was so desperately searching for. Your self help/wisdom has not only saved me from myself but has completely let me let go of the past.
Thank you so much for this. I've had an issue with anger for year's, but it's always linked to people being disrespectful towards others, especially animal's. I lose my shit in .5 seconds and it's draining. Even being very spiritual and knowing I should just observe the emotion and let it go, there are certain instances when I still explode and then the downhill slide of feeling regretful. 😔
I am super happy that I came across your channel. I have been going through a tough time lately and I felt like I was losing control, but since watching your clips, I have found a whole new perspective on everything that I want and where I want to be.
JAY SHETTY JI IS VERY CUTE GOOD PERSON 💗😽💗💗😽 IAM IN LOVE YOU SO MUCH JAY GHANASHYAM SHETTY JI 😘🙏 MARRYING JAY SHETTY JI 🙏🙏💋💋💋💋💋🥰🌹🌹 MARRYING JAY SHETTY JI 🙏🌺💋
I got so mad 2 the point that I lash out & scream, kick & punch objects when I get mad due 2 the simple fact that I was picked on by my supervisor & it got 2 b 2 much 2 the point that I couldn't take it no more after I was putting up with it B4 & I got suspended for a week & I got back 2 work after being home all week
Thank you for breaking it down. I am trying to understand how to deal with my anger issues and become a better person. Every day. Off topic but you are such a handsome man! Makes it even more attractive that you’re smart and attractive on the inside!
I came to realize that peoples anger comes from within a long time ago, thats why I hardly feel angered at all, once youve put yourself in someone else's shoes you recognize that external issues and experiences dont affect who you really are
I stuff my anger down because I don't trust myself to explain my anger without hurting the other persons feelings and losing them from my life or causing a big fight that I feel guilty over. In my experience when I do tell someone I'm angry with them it always gets put back on me as my fault and never goes well so I bottle it up until it just explodes out of me and then I REALLY feel guilty. I feel that if I'm angry I'm just not being compassionate enough. I've never learned how to express my negative feelings. I always feel I need to be positive.
Your videos are so helpful. My hubby falls into several of these categories but the explosive category the most. I’m always fighting with self-doubt and self-worth. Your videos have opened my eyes a lot. I thank you for that.
Great video! I learned how to deal with anger by watching my mother explode all the time. She was explosive, and usually used physical aggression, while screaming her point.
how did you learned to deal with it. most people just mirror their parents and don't even seem to be aware of it. maybe its just me but some people talk with an anger tone in their voice. and having that tone makes anger come out of them very quickly. it sounds like if they dint really change their tone in voice, it sounds like they just got a little bit more angry. am I crazy for thinking/perceving this?
THANK YOU! Wow, feels like I finally found what I needed like... ALL MY LIFE. Been mostly self-abusing and avoiding anger, swallowing it down... Until I connected with it on a deep level through dance and meditation practice and suddenly this feeling of anger appeared, & it just got SO STRONG and I was like WHOA - I don’t know this emotion - how can I deal with it?! So thankful for this great video! Thank you! 🙏🏻
thank you for watching your video, an inspiration for someone like me who can't stop the gust of my anger. It will help me to improve and calm down my emotion .
Our teacher gave us the assignment on the topic“Anger Management”So I was here to find just main points of the topic but after watching I must say that I am deeply into myself. We always give excuses to our problems in spite we could try for a simple solution.
I’m so so great full for the simplistic way in which you teach us all. A great book btw is The Anatomy of Peace. Resolving the heart of conflict. Thx Jay for ur wisdom shared. Your making a difference.
Yes I understand the sarcasm, and it isn't about making a joke, it's about creating a diversion from the real issue (the hurt we don't want to show, "You won't get the best of Me"), "I am Stronger than You Know".
@@mahwahazet4133 The gut in only ONE cause of depression. Other causes can be living with someone who insults you all the time. Not getting affection that you need. Not enough exercise. Lack of several things in your life, like being not fulfilled in many areas of your life. We need living warm social interactions. We need positive self talk. Positive self parenting. As adults we might be parenting ourselves negatively instead of positive self encouragement if we were raised that way. There are many causes of depression. Feeling helpless like you can't do something. Repression and suppression is often a cause of depression. Writing down what we are thankful for and writing happy self expressions and Gerri g lots of exercise fresh air everyday is helpful. Better diet. Lots of fresh water between meals. .. Maintaini g a slim fit body.. Etc.
today i got in a fight with my aunt ,, she just shouts at me without reason sometimes and I always try to supress my anger as long as possible .. but today i failed to do it and obviously i went crazy...my tolerance level went way too down for me to handle ... this is making me a little calm .. Thankyou so much
Thanks Jay. I've watched many of your videos, listen to your podcast and I've read your book. You help keep me grounded when my life seems out of control. Keep up the good work.
I never had anger issues, it started after I was raped, and it was so bad that sometimes even when someone greet me it annoys me, but I thank God now is not much since I have started telling someone what really happened to me while growing up, he really help me alot
Thank you for such a video about anger management. I'm learning about myself.. I too have that bad friend comes for just two second.. spoil everything on his way..! Thank you jayshetty
Tqsm for your video on finding the purpose n passion within a week i found everything before your video i was just stuck in between n just recalling how to find my interest how to find purpose n tqsm for that i m working on it daily
Incredibly video. I believe anger is a state of mind not a fleeting emotion of irritation or frustration. And always express what is bothering you directly, if someone takes it poorly, that's on them.
Jay I'm losing my relationship CU's of anger issues I have anger issue type 1 and everything you said is true. Your video is downloaded on my phone so I get to watch it over and over again until I get better
We either blame or take it all. This is accurate. There is a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy that talks about this. Thank you for Sharing. We just missed our flight and we were angry because it was a great deal and there were no more flights at that Price. Have you ever experienced anger and lashed out at one point or another?
Thank you Jay. That was highly informative. You narrated it beautifully and very effectively. I am gonna use them next time I give a talk on anger management.
That is so so true!! M so so grateful. You make it sound so easy. I admire the way you balance things and I will definitely try to follow and practice this and I do agree that writing really helps cause I do that all the time. Thanks a lot again
Thank you so much for the good advice. I believe I have #1, #2 and #6 I don't want to be angry anymore I want to be happy and allow my relationship to grow.... I know I need help to deal with all of my emotions. I just don't know where to begin.
Amazing, everyday I get annoyed by the smallest of things and I always feel terrible after, feel like shit after I’ve exploded, everyone thinks I’m mental, this has been really helpful on my journey to make myself better, thank you
Same
How U now bro 🙏🏼?
The only people that don’t need this guy, don’t have any social interactions
The strongest among you those who control their anger.
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
Absolutely, Mashaallah
Allahu akbar 💣
#1 Explosive 2:58
Reason: 6:11
Fix: (Instead of suppressing in mind; Write & Analyze) 6:50
#2 Self Abusive 7:45
Reason 8:33
Fix: (Take an observer's perspective and divide responsibility) 10:38
#3 Avoidance 10:46
Reason 10:53
Fix: (Use a mediator to facilitate a conversation instead of avoiding it) 11:18
#4 Sarcasm 12:30
Reason 12:58
Fix: (Talk straight and articulate your anger in constructive way) 13:53
#5 Passive Aggressive 15:11
Reason 16:30
Fix: (Speak up before you get bitter & fix #1 ) 16:33
#5 Habitual Irritation 17:42
Reason 16:30
Fix: (Connect to something of a higher meaning and purpose in life) 19:21
Wisdom bits in between:
Switching from being controlled by anger to controlling anger. 12:12
Noticing a flaw is easy, takes higher intelligence to find harmony and look at positives 14:41
Top Reasons: Lack of security,Stability, Internal dissatisfaction 18:04
Proactive fixes: Finding your purpose, Finding your Passion, Identifying & being with people we admire
Internal Dialogue
❤️👆🏻
God Bless you 🙏👌
Thank you for this brief synopsis! I wish I saw this comment before I frantically tried to write everything down! Much appreciated..
I'm glad you exist
me2!!!
It's embarrassing.
Lame loser comment
So how're you now ? Do you get angry at things or your are normal ?
He's a gift to the human condition...
Kudos to everyone in this comment thread who atleast realise that they have problem.
Thats the very first, important and big step.
Omg l did that last week...wrote a 3 pages of anger letter to family member an it felt so freeing ..my concience is clear an l am sleeping better..thank you Jay..😊
I’m losing my mind with this anger deep down inside of me 💯✨
I like what you said about “finding your Passion, finding what Motivates us, our Purpose... to disconnect from that anger!...Observe your Internal Dialogue...”
Thank you. I’ve listened to about five videos today on the topic of anger and how to manage it. I appreciate how you explain things and give everyday examples. I am really going to try a few of the things you have suggested because I see myself as explosive and sarcastic when it comes to anger.
The struggle created a person searching for a light to guide him through the darkness , but the whole time i was the light i was so desperately searching for. Your self help/wisdom has not only saved me from myself but has completely let me let go of the past.
That’s great to know my friend ❤️❤️❤️
You are so good a defining our problems as humans and sharing how to work on them! Thank you, Jay. Love your channel and your wife's input as well! 🎉❤
Thank you so much for this. I've had an issue with anger for year's, but it's always linked to people being disrespectful towards others, especially animal's. I lose my shit in .5 seconds and it's draining. Even being very spiritual and knowing I should just observe the emotion and let it go, there are certain instances when I still explode and then the downhill slide of feeling regretful. 😔
Anger will eat YOU alive, Calm, breath take 1 minute..
THANK YOU JAY GREAT,
INFORMATION AND VIDEO.
Motivation Generation Boom Jay.
In a way you have aided me in my quest to grow up. when you know better you do better. i really appreciate all your videos.
Been well angry today! open up TH-cam and this is the first video suggested to me!
I am super happy that I came across your channel. I have been going through a tough time lately and I felt like I was losing control, but since watching your clips, I have found a whole new perspective on everything that I want and where I want to be.
JAY SHETTY JI IS VERY CUTE GOOD PERSON 💗😽💗💗😽 IAM IN LOVE YOU SO MUCH JAY GHANASHYAM SHETTY JI 😘🙏 MARRYING JAY SHETTY JI 🙏🙏💋💋💋💋💋🥰🌹🌹 MARRYING JAY SHETTY JI 🙏🌺💋
Please do a session on Over Thinking
much needed bro !
We truly need that
yeah please. need it
Yes
Haha same idea
We are so glad to have you who is our mental, emotional guider .Whatever my mood i dont skip to watch ur videos on daily basis.
ANGER is really YOUR EGO, GOING BAD. GREAT MESSAGE AND INFORMATION TO WATCH THIS VIDEO. THANKS JAY...
One word "WOW" period.
Got mad at work and watched this after.
Thank you
I got so mad 2 the point that I lash out & scream, kick & punch objects when I get mad due 2 the simple fact that I was picked on by my supervisor & it got 2 b 2 much 2 the point that I couldn't take it no more after I was putting up with it B4 & I got suspended for a week & I got back 2 work after being home all week
Thank you for breaking it down. I am trying to understand how to deal with my anger issues and become a better person. Every day.
Off topic but you are such a handsome man! Makes it even more attractive that you’re smart and attractive on the inside!
I came to realize that peoples anger comes from within a long time ago, thats why I hardly feel angered at all, once youve put yourself in someone else's shoes you recognize that external issues and experiences dont affect who you really are
You are a true motivator. A perfect teacher who is more like a friend. God bless you🌹👏👌
I stuff my anger down because I don't trust myself to explain my anger without hurting the other persons feelings and losing them from my life or causing a big fight that I feel guilty over. In my experience when I do tell someone I'm angry with them it always gets put back on me as my fault and never goes well so I bottle it up until it just explodes out of me and then I REALLY feel guilty. I feel that if I'm angry I'm just not being compassionate enough. I've never learned how to express my negative feelings. I always feel I need to be positive.
I agree. They never quit or stop. "Understanding" them isn't going to work. Tolerance and acceptance doesn't equal understanding.
Thank you for your help and your insight. God bless you
Wow...Thank you...This came in handy
I hope to embrace this on my journey to proper anger management
Before I used to blabber off whatever comes out with mixture of emotions but now I have brought down to a greater level
Your videos are so helpful. My hubby falls into several of these categories but the explosive category the most. I’m always fighting with self-doubt and self-worth. Your videos have opened my eyes a lot. I thank you for that.
Thank you Jay.
Great video! I learned how to deal with anger by watching my mother explode all the time. She was explosive, and usually used physical aggression, while screaming her point.
how did you learned to deal with it. most people just mirror their parents and don't even seem to be aware of it. maybe its just me but some people talk with an anger tone in their voice. and having that tone makes anger come out of them very quickly. it sounds like if they dint really change their tone in voice, it sounds like they just got a little bit more angry. am I crazy for thinking/perceving this?
Drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Love that.
Thank You For Sharing ❤
This is a goldmine.
your eyes make me feel calmer
THANK YOU! Wow, feels like I finally found what I needed like... ALL MY LIFE. Been mostly self-abusing and avoiding anger, swallowing it down... Until I connected with it on a deep level through dance and meditation practice and suddenly this feeling of anger appeared, & it just got SO STRONG and I was like WHOA - I don’t know this emotion - how can I deal with it?! So thankful for this great video! Thank you! 🙏🏻
thank you for watching your video, an inspiration for someone like me who can't stop the gust of my anger.
It will help me to improve and calm down my emotion .
Jay is literally amazing
I’m not very interested for motivational speakers but there’s something in Jay and I trust him... 🙏🏻❤️
Articulation and resolution are huge! Thank you for Sharing. Also, accountability.
Our teacher gave us the assignment on the topic“Anger Management”So I was here to find just main points of the topic but after watching I must say that I am deeply into myself.
We always give excuses to our problems in spite we could try for a simple solution.
I’m so so great full for the simplistic way in which you teach us all. A great book btw is The Anatomy of Peace. Resolving the heart of conflict. Thx Jay for ur wisdom shared. Your making a difference.
Yes I understand the sarcasm, and it isn't about making a joke, it's about creating a diversion from the real issue (the hurt we don't want to show, "You won't get the best of Me"), "I am Stronger than You Know".
please do a session on depression and anxiety ..
Yes please
...depression is somatopsycho in origin not psychosomatic....heal your gut and you'll be okay...dr. John Bergman videos
@@mahwahazet4133
The gut in only ONE cause of depression.
Other causes can be living with someone who insults you all the time.
Not getting affection that you need.
Not enough exercise.
Lack of several things in your life, like being not fulfilled in many areas of your life.
We need living warm social interactions.
We need positive self talk. Positive self parenting.
As adults we might be parenting ourselves negatively instead of positive self encouragement if we were raised that way.
There are many causes of depression.
Feeling helpless like you can't do something. Repression and suppression is often a cause of depression.
Writing down what we are thankful for and writing happy self expressions and Gerri g lots of exercise fresh air everyday is helpful. Better diet. Lots of fresh water between meals. .. Maintaini g a slim fit body.. Etc.
Bb V absolutely correct!
Not that simple. Wish it was.
Love is beautiful word in this world thanks Jay
Thanku❤️ for explaining this so nicely and clearly saying it now u are my free therapist 💕
Thankful for someone like yourself. Any videos to overcome the negative voices of others who get in the way of happiness and success.
today i got in a fight with my aunt ,, she just shouts at me without reason sometimes and I always try to supress my anger as long as possible .. but today i failed to do it and obviously i went crazy...my tolerance level went way too down for me to handle ... this is making me a little calm .. Thankyou so much
Thankyou Jay ✌️ 🙏
Best anger management video I have come across till date ❤️
Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge!!!
Thanks Jay. I've watched many of your videos, listen to your podcast and I've read your book. You help keep me grounded when my life seems out of control. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for your counsel, it helped me a lot...
I express anger by confronting the situation straight away
You mean right away? Brit (eye roll)
Thank you for this
I never had anger issues, it started after I was raped, and it was so bad that sometimes even when someone greet me it annoys me, but I thank God now is not much since I have started telling someone what really happened to me while growing up, he really help me alot
This was such an excellent video. It never occured to me to keep an anger journal. That sounds fun.
please do a session on narcissism
Nimisha pankaj Yes please... my hubby is the biggest narcissist I know!
And how to deal or live with people who are.
@@TruthSeekerNC Surviving Narcissism channel is amazing.
@@kimmoore322 Thank you. We are no longer together but I'm still suffering from the effects. I will check it out! ❤
This guy inspires me to the core.
Thank you for such a video about anger management.
I'm learning about myself.. I too have that bad friend comes for just two second.. spoil everything on his way..!
Thank you jayshetty
Thanks for sharing and imparting knowledge on how to deal with anger.
Tqsm for your video on finding the purpose n passion within a week i found everything before your video i was just stuck in between n just recalling how to find my interest how to find purpose n tqsm for that i m working on it daily
so helpful and informative
thanks
Thanks for sharing this incredible video Jay Shetty, really helps with my anger problems.
Thank you, Jay!
I'll try the solutions.
❤️❤️❤️Jay Shetty I love you. This is brilliant. Practical ways to deal with our anger. I have all these anger styles. ❤️❤️❤️
God jay shetty I really thank god you have existed in my life you really help me in my darkness of time
Spot on!
I have experienced all the types of anger 😞thanks for this video....i wish these advices may help me 😞
Incredibly video. I believe anger is a state of mind not a fleeting emotion of irritation or frustration. And always express what is bothering you directly, if someone takes it poorly, that's on them.
Good talk. Thank You.
Jay I'm losing my relationship CU's of anger issues
I have anger issue type 1 and everything you said is true.
Your video is downloaded on my phone so I get to watch it over and over again until I get better
Great videos on all topics. Many thanks.
One of the best insights so far. Thanks for doing this. :)
Thanks brother! You are very helpful and I really appreciate your time ❤
This is very helpful because my fear in certain situations often times precedes angry thoughts that make me feel like shit.
I listen to your videos every morning on my way to work you are truly amazing. You are truly a huge help 🙌🏽
great thanks a bunch 💖
We either blame or take it all. This is accurate. There is a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy that talks about this.
Thank you for Sharing. We just missed our flight and we were angry because it was a great deal and there were no more flights at that Price.
Have you ever experienced anger and lashed out at one point or another?
My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much
Well that was pretty good, thanks Jay!
Very nicely explained 👍🙏
you've got good advice. think I needed this many years ago man.
Yeah that's so true. I agree anger really does do that.
Thank you Jay. That was highly informative. You narrated it beautifully and very effectively. I am gonna use them next time I give a talk on anger management.
you're the best motivtor I have ever listened to thanks bro.
❤Love it Jay
Thank U🙏🌷
Thank you! @jayshetty ☺
Please make a video about anxiety amd creating your own anxiety. You my i inspiration jay im off to monk school next month.
That is so so true!! M so so grateful. You make it sound so easy. I admire the way you balance things and I will definitely try to follow and practice this and I do agree that writing really helps cause I do that all the time. Thanks a lot again
Thank you
Thank you so much for the good advice. I believe I have #1, #2 and #6
I don't want to be angry anymore I want to be happy and allow my relationship to grow.... I know I need help to deal with all of my emotions. I just don't know where to begin.
Thank you for your knowledge......woiiiii
Jay you are so natural in what you do, keep up the good work & thanks for keeping us on track for goodness as well...best prayers your way
Sir you are a Godman to me. I learn English and also life lessons. No words to say. Except Thankyou.🌹
EPIC INFORMATION on POINT
Just went throw this with a FRIEND
1 Why we do want we do??
2 Self abuse, it's ME.
CRAZY thing's
This was so helpful. I hope you could find time to make a video about breaking the habit of hiding behind sarcasm
6:11 I found this part the introduction to the best way to handle my anger.