Workshop Part 1: Dr. Paul Gilbert
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 เม.ย. 2013
- A full day workshop with Dr. Paul Gilbert, Creator of CFT, Compassion Focused Therapy - part 1
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This man saved my life when I listened to his audio book. I was in a very dark place and I listened to his book and never stopped. It helped that he voiced the book was amazing.
which book have you read? thanks
I was given help with Compassion Focused Therapy and I was amazed by the outcome. Thank you for publishing this wonderful lecture.
Massive fan of the CFT approach. New brain old brain, all the way through to perfect nurturer has changed my approach to trauma and depression.
Having been a tour guide, I know that people are not even in the CAR before they have posted a bad Yelp review. But we wait and wait to find those who said Wow! This is the BEST thing we have done on ANY vacation! His last few minutes of remarks supports this. RECOGNIZE GOOD HELP when you get it
What a delightful and informative talk - I am reading Dr Paul Gilbert's work ATM - working through my own anxiety - and this is so helpful. Thank you
so glad i stumbled upon this 1 st.part of the course that is brilliant!
Just had the pleasure of listening to Paul in Newcastle - what a fantastic talk - thank you
the great Paul Gilbert!
Intriguing thanks to Williams Overcoming anger and irritability book to mentioning your compassion therapy
Really worthwhile looking at, thank you.
Thank you very much for this wonderful workshop.It's really great saw at Dr. Gilbert on the stage.
Excellent. Thank you! Three circles start at ~53:00.
Buddhists say we are not separate speaking to interconnectedness, which definitively differentiates them from preceeding religious beliefs that we are "One." The best I've read, which characterizes this belief is that if we were all one, how come when I eat until I am full another can still be starving? This difference specifically speaks to compassion. If I use a sense of interconnectedness to in a way, which allows me to ignore the suffering of others, I am thinking and acting unwisely. Rather, if I can remember that my interconnectedness is a tool for compassion, I'm thinking and hopefully acting wisely. Lastly is resolve.
Ultimately they say, we are independently co-arising. Therefore, we are not separate, does not confradict the properties of biology or physicality for that matter. Matter? Pun intended.
32:30!!!
What does it mean to say 'doing their best' when that person abuses others? They know what they do is wrong. Not everyone follows a predictable pattern from any background. There is free will. Some people rebel and become successful and live successful lives. Others don't and choose to lie, cheat and manipulate and that is only doing their best for themselves and fuck everybody else. Sorry, I have no compassion for that. That's why we have courts and jails. I'm sick of academic liberal hippies that say we're all good deep down and bad is just good gone wrong. Some people are just rotten to the core and that's a result of the choices they've made and are responsible for. Or maybe Mr Gilbert is just drunk.
I think that if you were to watch the whole presentation and consider all that is presented here you might see that the concerns that you're bringing up are actually addressed in one way or another
Some people are not aware that they are doing wrong! When I was a kid raising kids without listening to them and correcting too much, comparing to other kids of "better achievemens" was not only normal, but parents doing otherwise were criticized.
Also some parents with unsolved problems can be too protective but in a negative way, giving a lot of information that sound like care, but is depressing and exposes their lack of belief in own kids.
Just the European and American meanstream culture is very toxic, because fouces on irrealistic constant success and promotes wrong ideas of "Alpha Male" and constant progress and achievements in life (measured materialistically or by stuff that looks spiritual but needs money)
About the free will: kids learn behavioral patterns from parents and grandfathers. I lived through a culture shift and I saw how some strategies becoming obstolete. But even more, my husband was raised by his grandma that was in the resistance against Germans at II WW and she was through Gestapo prison. Later dwhen Stalin lived she was in risk of an execution (her husband was executed, she was saved by his genius plan, close to miracle honestly). She had been in danger and persecuted till her last days. All survival techniques she passed to her daughter were passed to my husband. And all traumas also. What saved previous generations at war and totalitarism is super toxic now and our family is in constant struggle because of that.