Essentially, the point he is making is that, 'When hearts are closed, violence thrives; but when hearts open, peace becomes possible.' or perhaps an even clearer way, 'peace begins when we open our hearts to radical empathy and moral courage, seeing the humanity in every person - even those we call an enemy.'
Had to pause and think this through. This was my childhood. Even as an adult my parents still make me feel unaccepted when I embrace my authenticity. This used to cause MAJOR outbursts and currently my Mom is doing this to my brother on a daily basis 😢. I need to send this to him
Once you get to the place where you don’t feel the urge to send videos, articles, books, “fill in the blank” to the “others” who are what you see as the source of the problem…then you can actually take action that helps YOU. Trying to convince others of their behavior, or change them, is actually an avoidance tactic…subconsciously. It is our avoidance of one of the biggest aspects of healing. The vulnerable admittance of the loss, the grief, and really taking in the reality that certain people cannot, will not, show up as we need/want. We cannot heal until we hold space for this and see it clearly. Until then, we waste our time, in a war against reality, trying to get others to be something different than they are! Once we see what is…we can take action to attend to ourselves, show up for ourselves, including accepting all of our feelings and struggles. Doing for ourselves what our parents couldn’t. No one will show up and save us. We need to be our own advocates and do the work. Anything else is a distraction, avoidance of feeling the pain, disappointment.
I would advise you sit down with your mother and confront her about this. Don't be afraid of her reaction, just explain to her what she's doing wrong and how it affected you. You don't want the same for your brother
Lung cancer repressed emotions impacts of childhood trauma " attachments" - auththenciticy..... disconnection from self " people pleasers " ......yea 🎉educate doctors teachers all need to learn Emotional support for children .... legal system learn too ... and individual theraphy .....all making this world a better place to be ..... Recover ' finding your true self " .everything is learning 👏....... overcome trauma is the goal ...
📖 Book List 14:00 "No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk "Waking the Tiger" by Peter A. Levine "What Happened to You?" by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry
The body definitely keeps the score. That's why the rates of autoimmune disease, cancer and heart disease is markedly higher for those who have experienced long term stress, such as from abuse or caregiving for a sick or disabled person.
“If you’re authentic you’re not accepted”...I agree. I was authentic as a child, therefore not accepted...this is how I held on to my self esteem. I guess i’m A rarity.
This makes me ache for my people. Rwandese in particular struggle wiitg repressed emotions to the point of complete numbness as adults. Its not men only, but women and children. I've grown to notice the problem and unsurprisingly my brothers and sisters are going to reproach me of saying this. But in order to create heaven, one must be brave enough to face hell.
I can't imagine the suffering the people of Rwanda have been facing since that horrible massacre years ago. Knowing about my own traumatic past it doesn't surprise me when I think of certain African cultures and how "emotionless" they seem because many in Africa have been through hell that we here in the West can't even begin to understand. I don't dismiss what I have been through because it has been devastating but when I see some of the people I have met or heard of from places like Rwanda or elsewhere where it's been hell on earth then I can see why they come off that way. Truly sad indeed.
Interesting, but I doubt that serious injuries from accidents have no effect on the body. I had no idea how bad my injuries were from what seemed like a minor accident. I was in a lot of pain, but the flight surgeon told me nothing was broken & that I would heal. I believed him & walked around in pain & not being able to turn my head to the left at all. I honestly thought nothing was wrong, but the pain in my spine & head got worse. One year later & a new flight surgeon, who noticed that I couldn't move my head to the left, sent me for an mri, revealed damage to my spinal cord, severe disk degeneration, cervical kyphosis, an irregular curve in my thoracic spinal cord, & lumbar lordosis, as well as Syringomelia. I had no idea that I had any injuries let alone all those injuries. It seems that what is implied here is that our emotions cause all of our physical pain. I have to disagree, although I do believe there is a link.
@@robynhope219 For those who have just come across it, it is "new information"..My "Specialist" Doctors and Nurses could have never have told me this in a million years
Then the socially anxious seek honest help - and then CBT explains that social anxiety is hallucination and that the job to dismantle social anxiety is through ABC method where we rationalize and intellectualize our anger away. Which leads to more of suppressing of anger that is already suppressed.
Healthy anger (or any other negative emotional expression) needs to be defined carefully and precisely. what if one's "healthy" anger ( or any other negative emotional expression) is based on a false belief or harmful belief or unrealistic expectation?
Would be interesting to do a study on repressed homosexuals and if cancer is seen more throughout them as a demographic, specifically those who came out later in life
The sad truth is the whole medical community will never have the time or attention it takes to alleve this problem. Because people are living in sin. Plain and simple. God have us the 10 commandments for a reason. But society has morphed into something that is so out of control. It all starts at home. It's starts with love and acceptance. The world has lost control cuz everybody wants to be on control of another. It's damaging.
I love Gabor Mate, however, he fails to mention many other variables that load the gun. Glyphosate, close proximity to farmland (where pesticides are used), Vaccines, MTHFR, breast implants, Botox and fillers, 5G, Cell phone towers, blue zones, MOLD, most of all, DIET. The fact that he consistently points the finger at Trauma is exhausting. Perhaps that’s why he struggles with his own demons, as we all do. Nobody has it all figured out.
I never picked up that he feels trauma is the cause of all disease. However trauma is his specialty, so it makes sense that he would discuss that in detail.
![[Revisit] Who Gets Sick and How to Prevent it, with Dr. Gabor Maté](/img/n.gif)
Check out the full episode here ➡th-cam.com/video/L7zWT3l3DV0/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for this clip and I also enjoyed the full episode 🙂
Essentially, the point he is making is that, 'When hearts are closed, violence thrives; but when hearts open, peace becomes possible.' or perhaps an even clearer way, 'peace begins when we open our hearts to radical empathy and moral courage, seeing the humanity in every person - even those we call an enemy.'
Change my mind: This is the best podcast on the internet!
Bro Jogan!
TRUTH❤
3:43 I ❤ listening to Dr. Gabor and respect his candor.
Thank you Dr Gabor Mate for your insight. Emotional neglect can have a big impact in one's life
Had to pause and think this through. This was my childhood. Even as an adult my parents still make me feel unaccepted when I embrace my authenticity. This used to cause MAJOR outbursts and currently my Mom is doing this to my brother on a daily basis 😢. I need to send this to him
F em, you don't need your parents anymore...stand tall!
Once you get to the place where you don’t feel the urge to send videos, articles, books, “fill in the blank” to the “others” who are what you see as the source of the problem…then you can actually take action that helps YOU.
Trying to convince others of their behavior, or change them, is actually an avoidance tactic…subconsciously.
It is our avoidance of one of the biggest aspects of healing. The vulnerable admittance of the loss, the grief, and really taking in the reality that certain people cannot, will not, show up as we need/want.
We cannot heal until we hold space for this and see it clearly. Until then, we waste our time, in a war against reality, trying to get others to be something different than they are!
Once we see what is…we can take action to attend to ourselves, show up for ourselves, including accepting all of our feelings and struggles. Doing for ourselves what our parents couldn’t.
No one will show up and save us. We need to be our own advocates and do the work. Anything else is a distraction, avoidance of feeling the pain, disappointment.
I would advise you sit down with your mother and confront her about this. Don't be afraid of her reaction, just explain to her what she's doing wrong and how it affected you. You don't want the same for your brother
Lung cancer repressed emotions impacts of childhood trauma " attachments" - auththenciticy..... disconnection from self " people pleasers " ......yea 🎉educate doctors teachers all need to learn Emotional support for children .... legal system learn too ... and individual theraphy .....all making this world a better place to be ..... Recover ' finding your true self " .everything is learning 👏....... overcome trauma is the goal ...
I’ll follow your ways
Dr. Gabor Maté is the best!!!
ThankYou Dr. Mate for Your Golden words, validating the feelings and needs for Us, powerless, common People,.
This makes so much sense.
Yeah, right...he is merely repeating what others have said before him, and taking all the credit 🙁
📖 Book List 14:00
"No Bad Parts" by Richard C. Schwartz
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk
"Waking the Tiger" by Peter A. Levine
"What Happened to You?" by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry
Added those books to my wish list 🙂
+ "All about love" by Bell Hooks
Thank you!!
The body definitely keeps the score. That's why the rates of autoimmune disease, cancer and heart disease is markedly higher for those who have experienced long term stress, such as from abuse or caregiving for a sick or disabled person.
I so you both and Dr G you e made a world a difference. I’m passing you to the next my brother. Thank you 🙏🏽
“If you’re authentic you’re not accepted”...I agree. I was authentic as a child, therefore not accepted...this is how I held on to my self esteem. I guess i’m A rarity.
There's no way in Earth this episode doesn't have 8 billion views other than fear
This makes me ache for my people. Rwandese in particular struggle wiitg repressed emotions to the point of complete numbness as adults. Its not men only, but women and children.
I've grown to notice the problem and unsurprisingly my brothers and sisters are going to reproach me of saying this. But in order to create heaven, one must be brave enough to face hell.
I can't imagine the suffering the people of Rwanda have been facing since that horrible massacre years ago. Knowing about my own traumatic past it doesn't surprise me when I think of certain African cultures and how "emotionless" they seem because many in Africa have been through hell that we here in the West can't even begin to understand. I don't dismiss what I have been through because it has been devastating but when I see some of the people I have met or heard of from places like Rwanda or elsewhere where it's been hell on earth then I can see why they come off that way. Truly sad indeed.
I've kown that for 30 years.
Interesting, but I doubt that serious injuries from accidents have no effect on the body. I had no idea how bad my injuries were from what seemed like a minor accident. I was in a lot of pain, but the flight surgeon told me nothing was broken & that I would heal. I believed him & walked around in pain & not being able to turn my head to the left at all. I honestly thought nothing was wrong, but the pain in my spine & head got worse.
One year later & a new flight surgeon, who noticed that I couldn't move my head to the left, sent me for an mri, revealed damage to my spinal cord, severe disk degeneration, cervical kyphosis, an irregular curve in my thoracic spinal cord, & lumbar lordosis, as well as Syringomelia.
I had no idea that I had any injuries let alone all those injuries.
It seems that what is implied here is that our emotions cause all of our physical pain.
I have to disagree, although I do believe there is a link.
Healing and insightful...Thank you!
Our brains are wired for attachment
Very insightful!
Yes, but it's not new information.
@@robynhope219 For those who have just come across it, it is "new information"..My "Specialist" Doctors and Nurses could have never have told me this in a million years
@@robynhope219but many doesn't know about it though
Such an important conversation!
Amazing amazing guests👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
AMAZING!!! Thank You!!
✨This is truth.✨
100% agree
Then the socially anxious seek honest help - and then CBT explains that social anxiety is hallucination and that the job to dismantle social anxiety is through ABC method where we rationalize and intellectualize our anger away. Which leads to more of suppressing of anger that is already suppressed.
Makes so much sense
Healthy anger (or any other negative emotional expression) needs to be defined carefully and precisely. what if one's "healthy" anger ( or any other negative emotional expression) is based on a false belief or harmful belief or unrealistic expectation?
Then it is unhealthy anger.
That would mean you need to heal underlying wounds and release false beliefs and unhealthy expectations.
Would be interesting to do a study on repressed homosexuals and if cancer is seen more throughout them as a demographic, specifically those who came out later in life
Blacks too. Women in shame culture countries.
GM💝
13:19 the most traumatised people ...
Very difficult to understand him and be concentrated! But very good interview!
Yep, he's not the best orator.
Because media does not speak about these concepts - our brains are rusty and un-educated in trauma.
❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤
The sad truth is the whole medical community will never have the time or attention it takes to alleve this problem. Because people are living in sin. Plain and simple. God have us the 10 commandments for a reason. But society has morphed into something that is so out of control. It all starts at home. It's starts with love and acceptance. The world has lost control cuz everybody wants to be on control of another. It's damaging.
Carnivore can save your life if u suffer Lots of Stress. It saved my life.
Pardon?
Look up Harvard psychologist Chris Palmer keto /carnivore diet is doing more for mental illness than any of their therapies and it’s not even close
It saved my life definitely i ate the wife 🥴🤣
It saved my life definitely i ate the wife 🥴🤣
It saved my life definitely i ate the wife 🥴🤣
Drama addiction..
Therapies ….
Dr Ryke Geerd Hamer - German New Medicine
Ok, there is nothing new here. We've known the stress/disease link since the last 50 yrs.
CBT apparently does not know this and pumps out the wrong information to the socially anxious since 1990s.
I love Gabor Mate, however, he fails to mention many other variables that load the gun. Glyphosate, close proximity to farmland (where pesticides are used), Vaccines, MTHFR, breast implants, Botox and fillers, 5G, Cell phone towers, blue zones, MOLD, most of all, DIET. The fact that he consistently points the finger at Trauma is exhausting. Perhaps that’s why he struggles with his own demons, as we all do. Nobody has it all figured out.
You're right on...he is after all a traumatist, so everything is caused by trauma.
I never picked up that he feels trauma is the cause of all disease. However trauma is his specialty, so it makes sense that he would discuss that in detail.
Is horniness an emotion? 😅
It's a biological need, however, if it's in excess, some emotion is underlying it.
Dr. Needs to calm a bit 😂
Maybe stoned 😅
Am I talking to much😂