This! I could live really well the way I lived as a child. I could go to school, have a ton of hobbies and someone else made sure I eat regularly and sleep enough and do my homework and I dont lose too much stuff. Also, my mum used to do most of the cooking/cleaning etc so I usually had enough spoons. Now I am a depressive adult with responsabilities that keep getting more and more and still have to feed myself and everything. Dont know where that will go?
I just found you yesterday. I love this explanation. I'm 48, and I was just diagnosed last year. I think another reason why it's not picked up as we're kids, is because ADHD doesn't always look like a kid bouncing off the walls. And, I think girls may have been overlooked more because we represent more as the inattentive type. Just my take on it. Thank you!
The multicolored pebbles are perfect for what is going on inside 😄 Recently, I realized that my brain is the ADHD type and everything has been slowly making sense - despite being a little overwhelming 😄 Thank you for sharing your story @myadhdbrain! It has really helped me to understand mine❤and my siblings and mom's too 😉
You've just explained my husband....in GREAT detail. All these years I was so mad bc he couldn't handle what I could. I'm the neurotypical. This has given me a lot to think about. I wish he would take interest to learn more about himself. I'm here bc we have a son with ADHD. Thank you for this video.
This is a great visual representation. I personally experienced this, mainly in education. As the gifted kid, elementary and middle school were usually easy, the only class I ever had to spend long hours grueling over homework for was math. I didn't realize how little I could actually handle until I became an upper classman and I started noticing how depressed and overwhelmed I was, and then I really realised it during college. I have found that there are ways that I can work around my limitations and hack my own brain to improve my performance and spare my bandwith, but that will vary from individual to individual and from day to day, from task to task. Basically, it's complicated, but I digress. Thank you for the video! I really enjoyed it.
There is something called 2E or twice exceptional. Where you're really gifted in a lot of areas and usually struggle bus an area annnnnnd have ADHD. For me it was math that was disproportionately bad in. But because 2E folk are bright they can compensate for their adhd better than some. Ive definitely rested my laurels on my giftedness. But once my responsibilities got so expansive is when I really started asking what's going on? And after a bit of research my whole life made a lot more sense....
This was told to me when I first went to see about anxiety and depression and got told that my struggles sound connected to ADHD and autism. All the symptoms are there as a child but it's brushed off as 'its just how children are'. But as we get older, it's not just the responsibilities but time management. And when you have kids, you find yourself struggling to manage your own brain and someone else's. Your explanation is brilliant, and has actually helped ease the headache I got from seeing the carnage of my tidying up yesterday. Working progress 👍
Thank you so much for uploading these videos, they are helping so much. Not just with learning, but accepting being neuro divergent after a lifetime of insults and segregation because I just didn't understand society. Still don't but now I'm past the point of wasting my energy trying to fit in 😁
😂I have had mental overload and outburns and freaking out scenarios at every workplace I have been to, approximately 13 places the last 18 years. I thought everyone else were just so much more disciplined than me, and never understood how they managed to do so much every day without a drop of sweat. Oh boy I have worked on myself! When I finnally got down to visit a shrink I just showed him my cv and asked him what I should do. A month later I joined the ADHD club.
I love this! I just want to say that it was thanks to one of your videos that I realised I have ADHD. I was diagnosed just before my 40th birthday, and have just been diagnosed with autism as well. It has changed my life. Thank you so much.
Thank you - this explains it perfectly. I mostly held it together until 2nd child + doctoral dissertation. Since then, I’ve just been in constant burnout at all times. The adhd has always been there! But since it was accommodated or since I could often work around it, it didn’t become a “problem” until I reached the limit of my bandwidth.
When my kids’ teachers first told me they were concerned because they’d observed certain behaviours that suggested they may have ADHD I went into denial because I did those things when I was a kid. The realisation this meant I was most likely just undiagnosed hit me like a train.
Your HDR content is graded insanely bright 🙈 Please return to rendering in SDR, I can't watch this without setting my display's brightness all the way down and then I can't see anything else on the screen.
I might add: hormones! At least for me, hormonal changes always make my symptoms worse. Combine this with all the responsibilities overflowing and life is just hard. Even worse, in the "red week" meds do not work as well as they normally do. And considering how my mother changed (even more impulsive, emotionally dysregulated and aggressive as in her youth), menopause will be a SuperGAU for me.
your channel is so great! i've been subbed for awhile and you deserve more views. personally I had a lot of responsibilities as a kid with domineering parents but I didn't really get diagnosed till i was 18 or 19.
And then you are desperately trying to clean the overflow so nobody can't see you messed up. In the mean time the normal responsibilities keep flowing so now you're overflowing more because you where still cleaning the last overflow. So now you are trying to clean the new overflow while normal life keeps flowing then you break down.
Amazing demonstration. I esp like how both overflow, but one overflows more than the other :)
You wont notice you struggle with your responsibility until Adulthood because you never really had many responsibilities as a child
This! I could live really well the way I lived as a child. I could go to school, have a ton of hobbies and someone else made sure I eat regularly and sleep enough and do my homework and I dont lose too much stuff. Also, my mum used to do most of the cooking/cleaning etc so I usually had enough spoons. Now I am a depressive adult with responsabilities that keep getting more and more and still have to feed myself and everything. Dont know where that will go?
I just found you yesterday. I love this explanation. I'm 48, and I was just diagnosed last year. I think another reason why it's not picked up as we're kids, is because ADHD doesn't always look like a kid bouncing off the walls. And, I think girls may have been overlooked more because we represent more as the inattentive type. Just my take on it. Thank you!
This is an excellent visual metaphor.
"My cup runneth over and it's not a good thing. 😐 "
The multicolored pebbles are perfect for what is going on inside 😄
Recently, I realized that my brain is the ADHD type and everything has been slowly making sense - despite being a little overwhelming 😄 Thank you for sharing your story @myadhdbrain!
It has really helped me to understand mine❤and my siblings and mom's too 😉
I'm so happy with your videos. I finally have a way to show my friends and family why things aren't working for me the way society expects them to.
You've just explained my husband....in GREAT detail. All these years I was so mad bc he couldn't handle what I could. I'm the neurotypical. This has given me a lot to think about. I wish he would take interest to learn more about himself. I'm here bc we have a son with ADHD. Thank you for this video.
This is a great visual representation. I personally experienced this, mainly in education. As the gifted kid, elementary and middle school were usually easy, the only class I ever had to spend long hours grueling over homework for was math. I didn't realize how little I could actually handle until I became an upper classman and I started noticing how depressed and overwhelmed I was, and then I really realised it during college. I have found that there are ways that I can work around my limitations and hack my own brain to improve my performance and spare my bandwith, but that will vary from individual to individual and from day to day, from task to task. Basically, it's complicated, but I digress.
Thank you for the video! I really enjoyed it.
There is something called 2E or twice exceptional. Where you're really gifted in a lot of areas and usually struggle bus an area annnnnnd have ADHD. For me it was math that was disproportionately bad in. But because 2E folk are bright they can compensate for their adhd better than some.
Ive definitely rested my laurels on my giftedness. But once my responsibilities got so expansive is when I really started asking what's going on? And after a bit of research my whole life made a lot more sense....
This was told to me when I first went to see about anxiety and depression and got told that my struggles sound connected to ADHD and autism. All the symptoms are there as a child but it's brushed off as 'its just how children are'. But as we get older, it's not just the responsibilities but time management. And when you have kids, you find yourself struggling to manage your own brain and someone else's.
Your explanation is brilliant, and has actually helped ease the headache I got from seeing the carnage of my tidying up yesterday. Working progress 👍
Thank you so much for uploading these videos, they are helping so much. Not just with learning, but accepting being neuro divergent after a lifetime of insults and segregation because I just didn't understand society.
Still don't but now I'm past the point of wasting my energy trying to fit in 😁
😂I have had mental overload and outburns and freaking out scenarios at every workplace I have been to, approximately 13 places the last 18 years. I thought everyone else were just so much more disciplined than me, and never understood how they managed to do so much every day without a drop of sweat. Oh boy I have worked on myself! When I finnally got down to visit a shrink I just showed him my cv and asked him what I should do. A month later I joined the ADHD club.
I love this! I just want to say that it was thanks to one of your videos that I realised I have ADHD. I was diagnosed just before my 40th birthday, and have just been diagnosed with autism as well. It has changed my life. Thank you so much.
Thank you - this explains it perfectly. I mostly held it together until 2nd child + doctoral dissertation. Since then, I’ve just been in constant burnout at all times. The adhd has always been there! But since it was accommodated or since I could often work around it, it didn’t become a “problem” until I reached the limit of my bandwidth.
When my kids’ teachers first told me they were concerned because they’d observed certain behaviours that suggested they may have ADHD I went into denial because I did those things when I was a kid. The realisation this meant I was most likely just undiagnosed hit me like a train.
Thank you for making this. Especially for the now-adults who didn’t have that many responsibilities as children, this is really helpful
My brain can’t even understand how exactly neurotypical people handle overwhelm
Best visual ever ❤
Mmm yes my brain is a square and I am often confused. Also this guy is great
Your HDR content is graded insanely bright 🙈
Please return to rendering in SDR, I can't watch this without setting my display's brightness all the way down and then I can't see anything else on the screen.
I think our memories suck too lol so we don’t remember much.
I’m just amazed you have unbroken drinking glasses. What’s your secret 😂
I might add: hormones! At least for me, hormonal changes always make my symptoms worse. Combine this with all the responsibilities overflowing and life is just hard. Even worse, in the "red week" meds do not work as well as they normally do. And considering how my mother changed (even more impulsive, emotionally dysregulated and aggressive as in her youth), menopause will be a SuperGAU for me.
Yes, those bloody hormones! (No punn intended, but it worked out well. 😆)
your channel is so great! i've been subbed for awhile and you deserve more views. personally I had a lot of responsibilities as a kid with domineering parents but I didn't really get diagnosed till i was 18 or 19.
And then you are desperately trying to clean the overflow so nobody can't see you messed up. In the mean time the normal responsibilities keep flowing so now you're overflowing more because you where still cleaning the last overflow. So now you are trying to clean the new overflow while normal life keeps flowing then you break down.
Exactly right!
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All rise for the NATIONAL ANTHEM that is this video. Should be compulsory viewing for elementary school teachers.
Wait.... You might be onto something
Dude you are so smart you should be a therapist🫡