Im 45. I became a mom at 17. And, since then I never paused. I didn't rest . Thus is the first year where my boundries became my priority. Thank you Mel. You literally teach me something every day
Oh wow…I am the one with no boundaries….i want to go to a quiet place..far in the woods and live a simple life..always wanted to do this ..eye opening..thank you so much 🙏🏻
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care 🙌🏼
I am a recovering high functioning codependent. Was doing everything for everyone but myself. Check out Terri Cole new book Too Much. She also has great TH-cam
I go through this also and yes, no one asked me to do all of this, but I feel all of this needs to be done. And sometimes, yes, I want a thank you or I appreciated that or some type of acknowledgement. Now, why I need the thank you or acknowledgement? I haven't figured that out yet.
Would like to heard the next step with boundaries, with family members. The tough decisions to refuse to take phone calls that upset your days, or being drawn into the role of fixing other’s mistakes. I really enjoyed this video about boundaries, keep them coming.
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care
How on earth can I explain how MUCH your podcast helps me?!?!?!? Mel this was a HOMERUN...I needed this soooooooo desperately!! Thank you and Pooja with all my heart! Every time I think, Mel cant possibly top this podcast, you do another one like this! I am truly blessed that you do what you do, we all are! XOXO MEL
I just found your video at 4 AM while doing some home cleaning and organizing-and I’m so happy I did. As I reflect on everything that was presented, I couldn’t be more pleased that I chose 2024 as my sabbatical year to rest, reconnect with myself, and set boundaries. There’s so much to continue doing on this journey of self-care, but I couldn’t agree more with the doctor’s statements about guilt. In my case, I sometimes have to shut out those whispers, or they overpower my ability to decide what is best for me!
Beautiful episode. I wish I had it 20 years ago! My 15 year marriage contributed to my Hashimotos Thyroiditis and now I struggle daily with energy and now guilt. This episode has shown me that whether it is my teaching career, my personal life, etc... I need to establish boundaries for myself and my future self! Thank you Mel for all you do and to bring health and wellness to all of us easily and seamlessly! Your podcast got me through my divorce and I so look forward to my 5:00 am walks with Henry (my golden retriever) every Monday and Thursday to listen to you drop some knowledge! You are the best!
Wow, this is so timely! It's easy to lose ourselves in caring for others, but recognizing the signs of overextending is crucial. Remember, self-care isn't selfish-it's essential.
I’m so glad to hear the way boundaries were redefined and explored here. I feel like it’s become a way of just blocking, canceling, opting out anything that’s uncomfortable or inconvenient for us, and I think there’s so much more to it than that. I love the idea of understanding where these feelings of guilt and responsibility or obligation are coming from so that the decisions we make to do something or not come more from exploring our intentions and being conscious of why we’re doing these things in the first place. So helpful.
Just read "Hidden Manifestation" by Oliver Mercer and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. Methods in this book are next level, it needs more attention!
286 likes but this is what I found on 2 minutes of Google 🤔: "After exposing the scam surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever marketers or scammers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both TH-cam and TikTok. They’re using a more […]"
After exposing the sc@m surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever m@rketers or sc@mmers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both TH-cam and TikTok. They’re using a more […]
It comes down to self identity. Seeing yourself as worthy and that your needs are just as important as everyone else. That self sacrifice is not a badge of honour if it goes on for longer than a season ❤And guess what? Nobody died from guilt. You’ll get over it
This resonates with my current situation. I am a single mom, taking care of my 78 year old single aunt, and supporting my 70 year old parents. I am grateful I learned a lot from you Mel! ❤ We all need to set boundaries. I love watching your episodes. ❤❤ ❤
Mel, I adore you… I feel like you are talking about me. Everything that you are touching on, I do the same .. husband in bed… doing everything BUT what I intended to do . Thank you for being you and transparent and real. I listen to you most days when I’m getting ready for my work day. God bless you. Having boundaries is important and this pod cast is helping me so much. You are not alone. Trust me I tell the truth, I was thinking that I was the only one that thought that way.. space and learning how to create it.. we can do this Mel❤❤❤
Mel, I feel like I could be your best friend. I love how open and honest you are about your own life in all of your interviews. It’s always shocking to hear you because we look at people like you who are successful as not having these feelings. Thank you for always being so real and asking the real questions
Well Mel, just as common as others are saying your timing in my life is impeccable. I'm working through a very difficult situation with my daughter and definitely need the Pause before trying to find solutions.
My takeaway is all about following your intuition and feeling what is right for YOU. The yoga is such a great example. I try new things and find what truly feeds me ❤
Thank you for this awesome podcast! True Self care helps you move forward with your desired outcome. It’s when you make choices that help you attain your goals.
This was terrific Mel (and team) & Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. I have just realized that I have very few boundaries. I'm always in servant mode, trying to make everyones life as waveless as possible to the detriment of my own waves. I love your podcasts, I'd love to have you on the show. We are just starting out here on YT. @ConsultingCrones is the channel, we are a small eclectic group of middle aged spiritual practitioners chatting once a week about making changes for the betterment of our second half of life. All changes. Your show is amazing! I appreciate you!
Mel, I just got my boundary/pause when I watched this video. I think I even exceed 20mins. (1:20:02). Omg! This is my first time just sitting and drinking my coffee while listening to this podcast. AMAZING! I feel so calm like I'm having my vacation "that moment" is so special to me. I don't even think of anything else aside from me listening and enjoying my coffee. I love watching your show. I'm an ofw, I been 2 years away from my family I been depress on and off. Your show is such a blessing to me. Thank you for all the kind words and for giving us (listener) a good mindset to keep going. MORE POWER TO YOUR SHOW and to your FAMILY ❤❤❤
This soooooo applies to my life. Being overwhelmed can make you do something devastating. Just a few days ago i was thinking that trying to do my best, be best, and give my best is NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER AND THAT MAYBE ENDINF MY LIFE IS REALLY THE ONLY "PAUSE" IM GOING TO GET. Im a 65 year old grandmother, mom, wife, sister and past caregiver to my Mom and i just feel as if im just at the end if the Rope and i dont have the strength, the ability or energy left to climb back up the rope, so therefore letting go and dying is the Only thing left. Yes i need Help but No one hears ir listens 😪😪😪😪😪😪❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow I love how you reflected and voiced that reflection about time you go to sleep. I followed that thought processed and resonate with it. Thank you 🙏
Those were some really great insights Pooja. It definitely changed the way we interpret situations. It made me think on a deeper level. This video came at the right time when I wanted to learn about setting boundaries or more like prioritise myself.
All the idea of self care has done has made people selfish. Not everyone is able to do all things. As a society we need to work with each other and share our gifts and strengths. Some people need help in society and we are abandoning them with this ideology. This trend needs to go. It's over. I am so tired of hearing about influencers and all their self care rituals. In order for society to evolve and for humanity to become more conscious we need to focus instead on things like selflessness and humility. In this day age people who have these traits are the real superheroes.
Bubble bath is self care of your body and mind as you experience relaxation. It is self care but there is more to self care. It is about body, mind, soul and heart, all of them.
I've been all about that self-improvement grind! Setting goals, staying motivated, and pushing myself to be the best version I can be. It's all about that positive mindset and drive to achieve those dreams.
The timing my god, i am little affected and sponges it and ruminate it and i was like, i need to break this pattern, and it's an opportunity to really grow.
Thank you Mel. I really appreciate your podcast. I will sometimes put my spiritual meaning instead of evolution is all. But you are very knowledgeable and it helps me out tremendously 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
I sometimes ditch the physical self care just because of this, because I know I will still be the same person after the massage, nails etc. 😀 But it also has its merits even if just at the physical level.
This episode hit home to me in so many ways. I am a TA in the Kindergarten at an International school who is going through perimenopause while I have an 8 and 6 year old, the first of which is in a crucial academic stage in our primary school system while I still work part time remotely for my old job also while this weekend I tried to restart the Montessori toddler program that I used to have before covid by offering a pop up class while having deadlines for: my second job, anecdotal notes for my lead teacher's reports, an assignment for a literacy course that I am enrolled in as a part of PD and I have to help my 8 year old complete homework and it's already 1pm on Sunday with the work week ahead right on my heels. I am SUPER guilty of constantly seeking the escape - every week I say I am going to sell all of my possessions and live on a remote island in the Outer Hebrides and sell Caribbean delicacies to the local fishermen 😄 I definitely need to "take the pause" so I will be finding those 20mins today to read my book - as simple as that. Thank you for this episode
This is great! There's a lot of good reasons why Mel Robbins is getting so much appreciation and recognition. So glad to witness these conversations and recognize how relevant they can be as an aid to understanding my own human struggles and use as a tool to help me learn and grow. Thank you Mel Robbins.💜
Wow love this episode so much! And it’s coming at the right time as I’ve noticed so many people are understanding self care wrong. I was the one lying down on the yoga mat feeling guilty that I said no to more work or not cleaning the house! Real Self care is being aligned with the action we decided to take to look after our mental and physical wellbeing. If taking a bubble bath and going back to working until late, you simply void the bubble bath effect.
It sounds like you have met me! Mel, we are so much alike! Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one! I did this with my kids and now I am doing this with my parents. My husband always says "this was my choice". I don't see it this way. I grew up Catholic and certain things seem like the right things to do.I feel like If I am in the position to help, It is my purpose to do it. I have tried to back off but now my parents are dependant on me. My parents are divorced, my mom has dementia and lives with me and my dad is also in need and has been since they divorced. Don't suggest therapy, already doing it.
23 minutes into the video she's talking about the reset with the rubber band example that mel talked about on a short I watched on linkedin which is totally something I need to focus on and the craziest thing is 23 is my fav number its the number for end and change in numerology and i just feel like all this is too meant to be. I love you Mel you have changed my life in so many ways in just a few weeks you are a great role model and your motivational videos are so inspiring and I thank God you have been brought into my life I love you!! Seriously and not in a weird way but in a kind spiritually healthy way lol
I’ve been “doing “ yoga consistently for 24 years. It took me 20 years to actually start taking the class. When I see newbies that start at age 50-60, I fear they will never actually attend a yoga class. Quite a journey. We call it “monkey brain” Our brains jump from limb to limb with zero focus on what we are doing. This is in and out of yoga. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is be still and present.
This was exactly what I needed to hear. The biggest benefit for me was gaining an understanding of the emotional aspect, as I wasn’t sure how to feel or if it was okay to feel the way I did when saying no to someone or setting other boundaries.
Since the very beginning I knew she would say interesting and worth hearing words!Thank you for proving what self care really means. Not today's world but for ever's world if we want to live well for no matter how long.Thank you Mel for thinking ahead and bring such amazing people in your podcast!
Really enjoyed this episode. I'm definitely struggling with feelings of guilt since my perimenopause as left me with crippling symptoms that mean I can't drive or go many places with my kids. And then there is my relationship with my new partner which has been under a lot of strain and stress because of this, but also because his ex wife is horrible and wont let me be around their daughter. Not exactly sure what I did wrong, but that is one of those 'situations' that is constantly draining me. I'm going to take some time this weekend (while my kids are with their dad) to really reflect and see where I can draw some boundaries and start to work on more self care.
Super helpful questions: Do I feel motivated to tackle my tasks, or am I overwhelmed or apathetic? 19:33 Are there any situations that are constantly draining me? Do I make time for rest or am I always pushing through and gritting my teeth? Do I ask for help and actually receive it? Am I making time for things that truly matter to me, not to society or boyfriend but me, or am I constantly caught up in things that don’t serve me?
Wow what an amazing listen this morning!!! This is so powerful and life changing as someone who has been on a self healing journey. Thank you for this perspective that I needed to help me in the places I was stuck which is doing all the things that are supposed to make me feel well and just make me feel guilty and bad when I don’t do them and really are not helping when I do. Everyone should listen to this!
Well as a 18 year old girl.. when i was 11 .. my mother had a brain tumour, i was taking care of my family and then 15 when my mom pass away, my world was fallen off.. and every one without a reason where ruling me and lock me a house alone.. and it all lead to me so many things and trauma ... and i started thinking i don't deserves thing. And ppl use to say i'm so strong i can handle everything, and bocz of that i was not able tell my struggle to my own family and it all lead me to an un healed girl. With no boundaries, selfless and all.
I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with all of this as a child and young teen. 😢😢 It must have been so hard and so painful..my heart goes out to you.❤❤❤ I hope you will receive help and be able to find healing from this trauma. I wish you the best
Today is the day, start to make small changes, do something you like, take sun, no matter what! This is the first boundary and it's for yourself. Much love 🙏💐
Dear Mel and Pooja Omg - how much insight I got from this episode. I was always not good at boundaries and self care as I really did not know how to address them. Always felt the guilt and confusion of why I don’t feel good when I take that yoga class or walk or sit and take a cup of coffee at a coffee shop, buy some good clothes. The constant nagging why “ I don’t feel better “ “ it feels awkward” all these made me think I am made weird or wrong or I am selfish or what do others think of me. Being raised in India with all the strong rules of how a woman should be and behave - always found stuck and hard to breathe. I am going to set 20 mins today to breathe in what Pooja said and set what is bothering me and take action. Always loved you shows Mel - you always nail the questions that we want to ask, simple and straightforward . It has given me more clarity to what and why and how I am in this life - you are totally like a big sister I never had. If no one tells you today - I love you, I deeply respect you and I believe that you will live long and healthy to help many people struggling to get answers and walk with them hand in hand to lead them to happier and more fulfilling lives. Thank you Mel.
Omg I was trying to watch this yesterday I didn't get around to and I was in the shed working on something and venting to the talk and I looked at him and was like so what do you think and he just looked at me and was like wow mom you need a chill pill. And that is what I learned from this is to pause and take a minute listen to myself and dig dipper and just breath. Great episode.
It's hard when we feel guilted into helping out a family member we truly love. I have mother issues and as much as I have tried to set healthy boundaries and to have the courage to say No, my heart just breaks and I give in. I am an empath and I hurt when I see people who need help. But, nobody helps me and that is unfair.
I work in a healthcare office setting and we have to use our PTO for major holidays that we are closed to keep our hours for our benefits. This means no personal days or paid holidays at all and it takes years to earn any vacation time.
The doctor never answered the question Mel asked: when you see all these people on social media, or wherever, doing the things you think you*should* be doing, how do you deal with that? (She went off on the subject of boundaries, but never answered that really legit question!)
I really liked the information on guilt and the sushi con conveyor belt. Acknowledge the feeling but let it go by. So often I would be told don’t feel guilty but guilt is a feeling. Acknowledging and letting it go. I’m hoping this will help. A lot of good info here with this podcast.
Mel I always think each video is the best! I swear each one hits me in a spot I really need it. Kudos to you and Pooja. I love love love you both! I will need to watch this again and again. Wow!!!
I agree Mel in regards about taking care of an aging parent. I finally learned to set healthy boundaries and the key of having a healthy boundary is sticking with it. And it does get easier and if guilt creeps in ask your self is this helpful? No it’s not replace with a positive thought of great-fulness❤ the conveyor belt as she expressed let it go right on by. (This is self care ) ( Boundaries are power and protection)
Thanks, Mel!!! I have learned so much from your podcast! Have you ever done an episode about the "default parent"? If not, I feel like that would be a great topic. 😊
Thank you both for this insightful and helpful conversation as well as for the practical tips! I see boundaries and self-care in a new and balanced way and as acts of personal responsibility to self.
Thank you for existing! Love the make you impact on so many lives. Thank you! I'm struggling with, and I'm sure many wood be struggling too, dealing with in-laws. My mother-in-law and sister in law are very manipulative, overly sensitive and like any in laws, they go beyond the set boundaries and just it becomes difficult to deal with them because they are family. I hope you make a video to deal with in laws specifically. What are the boundaries, what are some ways to coexist because I'm have to live with them coming from different cultur.
This is a fantastic episode. I’m a huge new listener and love the TH-cam AND Podcast! Amazing information about boundaries. Some friendly feedback…the guest mic picks up so much breathing and inhales that I almost couldn’t hear her talk. Your microphone Mel doesn’t do that though.
I don't expect a ' thank you ' but I deserve it. So I create a boundary towards people who don't appreciate my efforts and don't give back!
Very powerful statement
Very powerful statement
Just make sure that before you get too upset with them that you’re not doing stuff for them that they never asked for
what if thats your boss
Wonderful lines 👏❤️
Im 45. I became a mom at 17. And, since then I never paused. I didn't rest . Thus is the first year where my boundries became my priority. Thank you Mel. You literally teach me something every day
I like that Real self care is Not about a bubble bath 🛀 it’s the principles, and perspective
Exactly
Oh wow…I am the one with no boundaries….i want to go to a quiet place..far in the woods and live a simple life..always wanted to do this ..eye opening..thank you so much 🙏🏻
Really , I think the same way
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care 🙌🏼
Trust me it happens with me and many time to time
I am a recovering high functioning codependent. Was doing everything for everyone but myself. Check out Terri Cole new book Too Much. She also has great TH-cam
It's sad and I go through this so frequently.
@@ananyaaiyer5290same here 😢
I go through this also and yes, no one asked me to do all of this, but I feel all of this needs to be done. And sometimes, yes, I want a thank you or I appreciated that or some type of acknowledgement. Now, why I need the thank you or acknowledgement? I haven't figured that out yet.
I couldn't agree more, that self-care is more about emotional self-care, than about bathes, face masks and other beauty routine .
Would like to heard the next step with boundaries, with family members. The tough decisions to refuse to take phone calls that upset your days, or being drawn into the role of fixing other’s mistakes.
I really enjoyed this video about boundaries, keep them coming.
Right there with Mel, I just had a blowup with my husband about not feeling appreciated and I’m realizing nobody is asking me to do all this! Time to actually self care
I loveee that Mel was actually lowkey having a therapy session and we saw how she was aware of things she felt about .
How on earth can I explain how MUCH your podcast helps me?!?!?!? Mel this was a HOMERUN...I needed this soooooooo desperately!! Thank you and Pooja with all my heart! Every time I think, Mel cant possibly top this podcast, you do another one like this! I am truly blessed that you do what you do, we all are! XOXO MEL
I have been treated like shit my whole life was nice to people who are just crappy I can’t take it anymore!
Concentrate on yourself from now on You were not put on this earth to serve everyone. Be kind to yourself you are worth it. Strive to be happy❤
I just found your video at 4 AM while doing some home cleaning and organizing-and I’m so happy I did. As I reflect on everything that was presented, I couldn’t be more pleased that I chose 2024 as my sabbatical year to rest, reconnect with myself, and set boundaries. There’s so much to continue doing on this journey of self-care, but I couldn’t agree more with the doctor’s statements about guilt. In my case, I sometimes have to shut out those whispers, or they overpower my ability to decide what is best for me!
Beautiful episode. I wish I had it 20 years ago! My 15 year marriage contributed to my Hashimotos Thyroiditis and now I struggle daily with energy and now guilt. This episode has shown me that whether it is my teaching career, my personal life, etc... I need to establish boundaries for myself and my future self! Thank you Mel for all you do and to bring health and wellness to all of us easily and seamlessly! Your podcast got me through my divorce and I so look forward to my 5:00 am walks with Henry (my golden retriever) every Monday and Thursday to listen to you drop some knowledge! You are the best!
what if thats your boss
Wow, this is so timely! It's easy to lose ourselves in caring for others, but recognizing the signs of overextending is crucial. Remember, self-care isn't selfish-it's essential.
I completely lost myself....in thinking that my boyfriend was more important than I was....A wake-up call! ❤
@@virginiaglubisz5627
I've struggled with boundaries & understanding what they are & how to create them & this talk simplified it & made it totally doable.
I’m so glad to hear the way boundaries were redefined and explored here. I feel like it’s become a way of just blocking, canceling, opting out anything that’s uncomfortable or inconvenient for us, and I think there’s so much more to it than that. I love the idea of understanding where these feelings of guilt and responsibility or obligation are coming from so that the decisions we make to do something or not come more from exploring our intentions and being conscious of why we’re doing these things in the first place. So helpful.
Just read "Hidden Manifestation" by Oliver Mercer and I can’t believe it’s so underrated. Methods in this book are next level, it needs more attention!
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Pdf ?
Where can I find this book???
286 likes but this is what I found on 2 minutes of Google 🤔:
"After exposing the scam surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever marketers or scammers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both TH-cam and TikTok. They’re using a more […]"
After exposing the sc@m surrounding the fictitious book Whispers of Manifestation, crafty clever m@rketers or sc@mmers are at it again! They have shifted gears and introduced another fabricated title: Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer. This time, the scammers have upgraded their tactics, infiltrating popular manifestation videos on both TH-cam and TikTok. They’re using a more […]
One of the best episodes so far!😇 Mind-blowing!
It comes down to self identity. Seeing yourself as worthy and that your needs are just as important as everyone else. That self sacrifice is not a badge of honour if it goes on for longer than a season ❤And guess what? Nobody died from guilt. You’ll get over it
This resonates with my current situation. I am a single mom, taking care of my 78 year old single aunt, and supporting my 70 year old parents. I am grateful I learned a lot from you Mel! ❤ We all need to set boundaries. I love watching your episodes. ❤❤ ❤
Wow, hope you care for you too! I discovered that being superwomen leads to illness. When cancer struck I retired!
Dr. Pooja is amazing! Great guest❤
Mel, I adore you… I feel like you are talking about me. Everything that you are touching on, I do the same .. husband in bed… doing everything BUT what I intended to do . Thank you for being you and transparent and real. I listen to you most days when I’m getting ready for my work day. God bless you. Having boundaries is important and this pod cast is helping me so much. You are not alone. Trust me I tell the truth, I was thinking that I was the only one that thought that way.. space and learning how to create it.. we can do this Mel❤❤❤
I love how she went deep and talked past the "doing" part. Thank you Dr Puja!
I’ve never had this topic explained so clearly before!
Mel, I feel like I could be your best friend. I love how open and honest you are about your own life in all of your interviews. It’s always shocking to hear you because we look at people like you who are successful as not having these feelings.
Thank you for always being so real and asking the real questions
This lady explains in way ! She is super nervous ! And she wants to inspire!
Well Mel, just as common as others are saying your timing in my life is impeccable. I'm working through a very difficult situation with my daughter and definitely need the Pause before trying to find solutions.
My takeaway is all about following your intuition and feeling what is right for YOU. The yoga is such a great example.
I try new things and find what truly feeds me ❤
Thank you for this awesome podcast! True Self care helps you move forward with your desired outcome. It’s when you make choices that help you attain your goals.
This was terrific Mel (and team) & Dr. Pooja Lakshmin. I have just realized that I have very few boundaries. I'm always in servant mode, trying to make everyones life as waveless as possible to the detriment of my own waves. I love your podcasts, I'd love to have you on the show. We are just starting out here on YT. @ConsultingCrones is the channel, we are a small eclectic group of middle aged spiritual practitioners chatting once a week about making changes for the betterment of our second half of life. All changes. Your show is amazing! I appreciate you!
Mel, I just got my boundary/pause when I watched this video. I think I even exceed 20mins. (1:20:02). Omg! This is my first time just sitting and drinking my coffee while listening to this podcast. AMAZING! I feel so calm like I'm having my vacation "that moment" is so special to me. I don't even think of anything else aside from me listening and enjoying my coffee. I love watching your show. I'm an ofw, I been 2 years away from my family I been depress on and off. Your show is such a blessing to me. Thank you for all the kind words and for giving us (listener) a good mindset to keep going. MORE POWER TO YOUR SHOW and to your FAMILY ❤❤❤
Absolutely good, Nutrition food is things that our body needs, such vitamins, minerals and fibre. Good Afternoon to you all 🎉
This soooooo applies to my life. Being overwhelmed can make you do something devastating. Just a few days ago i was thinking that trying to do my best, be best, and give my best is NEVER GOING TO GET BETTER AND THAT MAYBE ENDINF MY LIFE IS REALLY THE ONLY "PAUSE" IM GOING TO GET. Im a 65 year old grandmother, mom, wife, sister and past caregiver to my Mom and i just feel as if im just at the end if the Rope and i dont have the strength, the ability or energy left to climb back up the rope, so therefore letting go and dying is the Only thing left. Yes i need Help but No one hears ir listens 😪😪😪😪😪😪❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Get help you deserve it talk to someone who will listen 🙏
We do this because we don't feel good enough and then we burn out.
Please get help 🙏
@@ritaowens7378 I hear you. Please talk to a social worker or counselor. Sending love❤
Wow I love how you reflected and voiced that reflection about time you go to sleep. I followed that thought processed and resonate with it. Thank you 🙏
Those were some really great insights Pooja. It definitely changed the way we interpret situations. It made me think on a deeper level. This video came at the right time when I wanted to learn about setting boundaries or more like prioritise myself.
All the idea of self care has done has made people selfish. Not everyone is able to do all things. As a society we need to work with each other and share our gifts and strengths. Some people need help in society and we are abandoning them with this ideology. This trend needs to go. It's over. I am so tired of hearing about influencers and all their self care rituals. In order for society to evolve and for humanity to become more conscious we need to focus instead on things like selflessness and humility. In this day age people who have these traits are the real superheroes.
Bubble bath is self care of your body and mind as you experience relaxation. It is self care but there is more to self care. It is about body, mind, soul and heart, all of them.
Love this podcast, learned so much and subscribed too ❤
Damn. She was powerful straight out the gate. I'm so impressed with her conviction and presence. What a great interview!
As always, THANK YOU Mel and guest! I love tuning in and growing!
I've been all about that self-improvement grind! Setting goals, staying motivated, and pushing myself to be the best version I can be. It's all about that positive mindset and drive to achieve those dreams.
I’ve never understood this topic so well before, thanks!
The timing my god, i am little affected and sponges it and ruminate it and i was like, i need to break this pattern, and it's an opportunity to really grow.
Perfect Spa Day listen...just in the nick of time....THANK YOU....ESCAPING AND SHARING WITH MY PEEPS!!❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😂
this was FREAKING AMAZING. i am always working on learning boundaries. the definition was so helpful and Pause.
Thank you Mel. I really appreciate your podcast. I will sometimes put my spiritual meaning instead of evolution is all. But you are very knowledgeable and it helps me out tremendously 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤
Excellent discussion and guest. Thank you for sharing resources and tools to improve our lives.
I sometimes ditch the physical self care just because of this, because I know I will still be the same person after the massage, nails etc. 😀
But it also has its merits even if just at the physical level.
This episode hit home to me in so many ways. I am a TA in the Kindergarten at an International school who is going through perimenopause while I have an 8 and 6 year old, the first of which is in a crucial academic stage in our primary school system while I still work part time remotely for my old job also while this weekend I tried to restart the Montessori toddler program that I used to have before covid by offering a pop up class while having deadlines for: my second job, anecdotal notes for my lead teacher's reports, an assignment for a literacy course that I am enrolled in as a part of PD and I have to help my 8 year old complete homework and it's already 1pm on Sunday with the work week ahead right on my heels. I am SUPER guilty of constantly seeking the escape - every week I say I am going to sell all of my possessions and live on a remote island in the Outer Hebrides and sell Caribbean delicacies to the local fishermen 😄 I definitely need to "take the pause" so I will be finding those 20mins today to read my book - as simple as that. Thank you for this episode
This is great! There's a lot of good reasons why Mel Robbins is getting so much appreciation and recognition.
So glad to witness these conversations and recognize how relevant they can be as an aid to understanding my own human struggles and use as a tool to help me learn and grow.
Thank you Mel Robbins.💜
Wow love this episode so much! And it’s coming at the right time as I’ve noticed so many people are understanding self care wrong. I was the one lying down on the yoga mat feeling guilty that I said no to more work or not cleaning the house! Real Self care is being aligned with the action we decided to take to look after our mental and physical wellbeing. If taking a bubble bath and going back to working until late, you simply void the bubble bath effect.
It sounds like you have met me! Mel, we are so much alike! Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one! I did this with my kids and now I am doing this with my parents. My husband always says "this was my choice". I don't see it this way. I grew up Catholic and certain things seem like the right things to do.I feel like If I am in the position to help, It is my purpose to do it. I have tried to back off but now my parents are dependant on me. My parents are divorced, my mom has dementia and lives with me and my dad is also in need and has been since they divorced. Don't suggest therapy, already doing it.
23 minutes into the video she's talking about the reset with the rubber band example that mel talked about on a short I watched on linkedin which is totally something I need to focus on and the craziest thing is 23 is my fav number its the number for end and change in numerology and i just feel like all this is too meant to be. I love you Mel you have changed my life in so many ways in just a few weeks you are a great role model and your motivational videos are so inspiring and I thank God you have been brought into my life I love you!! Seriously and not in a weird way but in a kind spiritually healthy way lol
I’ve been “doing “ yoga consistently for 24 years. It took me 20 years to actually start taking the class. When I see newbies that start at age 50-60, I fear they will never actually attend a yoga class. Quite a journey. We call it “monkey brain” Our brains jump from limb to limb with zero focus on what we are doing. This is in and out of yoga. The hardest thing you’ll ever do is be still and present.
wish i knew this info sooner cause then i wouldn't be burnt out for the past 2 years. Thank you both for educating us all in 2024. ❤
This was exactly what I needed to hear. The biggest benefit for me was gaining an understanding of the emotional aspect, as I wasn’t sure how to feel or if it was okay to feel the way I did when saying no to someone or setting other boundaries.
Mel is cute witty honest n brilliant
Thanku
Since the very beginning I knew she would say interesting and worth hearing words!Thank you for proving what self care really means. Not today's world but for ever's world if we want to live well for no matter how long.Thank you Mel for thinking ahead and bring such amazing people in your podcast!
Really enjoyed this episode. I'm definitely struggling with feelings of guilt since my perimenopause as left me with crippling symptoms that mean I can't drive or go many places with my kids. And then there is my relationship with my new partner which has been under a lot of strain and stress because of this, but also because his ex wife is horrible and wont let me be around their daughter. Not exactly sure what I did wrong, but that is one of those 'situations' that is constantly draining me. I'm going to take some time this weekend (while my kids are with their dad) to really reflect and see where I can draw some boundaries and start to work on more self care.
Super helpful questions:
Do I feel motivated to tackle my tasks, or am I overwhelmed or apathetic? 19:33
Are there any situations that are constantly draining me?
Do I make time for rest or am I always pushing through and gritting my teeth?
Do I ask for help and actually receive it?
Am I making time for things that truly matter to me, not to society or boyfriend but me, or am I constantly caught up in things that don’t serve me?
Wow what an amazing listen this morning!!! This is so powerful and life changing as someone who has been on a self healing journey. Thank you for this perspective that I needed to help me in the places I was stuck which is doing all the things that are supposed to make me feel well and just make me feel guilty and bad when I don’t do them and really are not helping when I do. Everyone should listen to this!
Well as a 18 year old girl.. when i was 11 .. my mother had a brain tumour, i was taking care of my family and then 15 when my mom pass away, my world was fallen off.. and every one without a reason where ruling me and lock me a house alone.. and it all lead to me so many things and trauma ... and i started thinking i don't deserves thing. And ppl use to say i'm so strong i can handle everything, and bocz of that i was not able tell my struggle to my own family and it all lead me to an un healed girl. With no boundaries, selfless and all.
I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with all of this as a child and young teen. 😢😢 It must have been so hard and so painful..my heart goes out to you.❤❤❤
I hope you will receive help and be able to find healing from this trauma. I wish you the best
Today is the day, start to make small changes, do something you like, take sun, no matter what! This is the first boundary and it's for yourself. Much love 🙏💐
Mel another download episode Pudja is a well source of inspiration.
One of your best Mel ❤
Wow you are now above the three million mark in subscribers, congratulations to you and your team.🎉
The sushi tray comparison was da bomb! I don’t have to take and reject it the feeling, I can just let it pass…
Omg I have a big issue with people not calling me by my chosen name! Constantly at work.
Dear Mel and Pooja
Omg - how much insight I got from this episode. I was always not good at boundaries and self care as I really did not know how to address them. Always felt the guilt and confusion of why I don’t feel good when I take that yoga class or walk or sit and take a cup of coffee at a coffee shop, buy some good clothes. The constant nagging why “ I don’t feel better “ “ it feels awkward” all these made me think I am made weird or wrong or I am selfish or what do others think of me. Being raised in India with all the strong rules of how a woman should be and behave - always found stuck and hard to breathe.
I am going to set 20 mins today to breathe in what Pooja said and set what is bothering me and take action.
Always loved you shows Mel - you always nail the questions that we want to ask, simple and straightforward . It has given me more clarity to what and why and how I am in this life - you are totally like a big sister I never had.
If no one tells you today - I love you, I deeply respect you and I believe that you will live long and healthy to help many people struggling to get answers and walk with them hand in hand to lead them to happier and more fulfilling lives. Thank you Mel.
This is what i’ve needed to hear!
Thank you!! 👍
this video is a huge blessing to me
Omg I was trying to watch this yesterday I didn't get around to and I was in the shed working on something and venting to the talk and I looked at him and was like so what do you think and he just looked at me and was like wow mom you need a chill pill. And that is what I learned from this is to pause and take a minute listen to myself and dig dipper and just breath. Great episode.
It's hard when we feel guilted into helping out a family member we truly love. I have mother issues and as much as I have tried to set healthy boundaries and to have the courage to say No, my heart just breaks and I give in. I am an empath and I hurt when I see people who need help. But, nobody helps me and that is unfair.
What a great discussion! 👏
Pause to feel the emotions about what / why you are picking up from “The Sushi Train”! 😊
I work in a healthcare office setting and we have to use our PTO for major holidays that we are closed to keep our hours for our benefits. This means no personal days or paid holidays at all and it takes years to earn any vacation time.
Thank you for this great topic and so interesting guest. It was useful and important for me
The doctor never answered the question Mel asked: when you see all these people on social media, or wherever, doing the things you think you*should* be doing, how do you deal with that? (She went off on the subject of boundaries, but never answered that really legit question!)
I really liked the information on guilt and the sushi con conveyor belt. Acknowledge the feeling but let it go by. So often I would be told don’t feel guilty but guilt is a feeling. Acknowledging and letting it go. I’m hoping this will help. A lot of good info here with this podcast.
Mel I always think each video is the best! I swear each one hits me in a spot I really need it. Kudos to you and Pooja. I love love love you both! I will need to watch this again and again. Wow!!!
Thank you so much Mel for everything what you are doing for us. Many greetings from Mallorca. ❤
I agree Mel in regards about taking care of an aging parent. I finally learned to set healthy boundaries and the key of having a healthy boundary is sticking with it. And it does get easier and if guilt creeps in ask your self is this helpful? No it’s not replace with a positive thought of great-fulness❤ the conveyor belt as she expressed let it go right on by. (This is self care ) ( Boundaries are power and protection)
Thanks, Mel!!! I have learned so much from your podcast! Have you ever done an episode about the "default parent"? If not, I feel like that would be a great topic. 😊
Beautiful! As always🙏
Appreciate all your endeavors.
I needed this!
Thank you both for this insightful and helpful conversation as well as for the practical tips! I see boundaries and self-care in a new and balanced way and as acts of personal responsibility to self.
This was mind blowing ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thank you Mel and Dr Pooja for your positive influence 💟
Thank you for existing! Love the make you impact on so many lives. Thank you! I'm struggling with, and I'm sure many wood be struggling too, dealing with in-laws.
My mother-in-law and sister in law are very manipulative, overly sensitive and like any in laws, they go beyond the set boundaries and just it becomes difficult to deal with them because they are family. I hope you make a video to deal with in laws specifically. What are the boundaries, what are some ways to coexist because I'm have to live with them coming from different cultur.
40:39 or people wanting to come over at 7 yet dont show til 8 and u have to work at 7 am. Gotta tell them to make it another day
That was wonderful! Thank you!
Thank you so so much! It is powerful for me. I've been waiting for this information for years.
Ty so much. U r amazing on a continual basis ❤
This was so what I needed Mel 😊❤ I love you too sweet lady 😍
And ask the patient to request the refill EARLIER or weeks before they run out!!! Boundaries!!!
She’s awesome 👏enjoyed the convo and the vulnerability
This episode was such an amazing learnkng moment. Especially the sushi boat tool is fantastic ❤
This is a fantastic episode. I’m a huge new listener and love the TH-cam AND Podcast! Amazing information about boundaries. Some friendly feedback…the guest mic picks up so much breathing and inhales that I almost couldn’t hear her talk. Your microphone Mel doesn’t do that though.
Perhaps a Gate feature in your mic will help
This episode was very helpful. Thank you!
Wonderful guest and, as always , wonderful Mel 🌸
Thank you ladies. You both are such an inspiration
I got sooooo much out of this podcast!! Really good stuff!
Thank you!! 😊
Is quitting my stressful job before I have another self-care or madness..?
I absolutely loved this podcast 👏 I learned so much