One thing I want you to take away from this episode is that you CAN become more confident. If you enjoyed today’s talk on confidence, please hit that like button and subscribe. Your support is always appreciated!
I am listening to this podcast and feel anxiety at the thought of building my confidence. I want out of a 30 year marriage with a narcissistic spouse. How does a retired person that is trauma bonded get past the anxiety induced panic and stay focused in the process of building confidence?
Confidence is build In order to build confidence you have to try Courage light ups confidence You have the willingness to try new ideas and new things When you feel you don’t have confidence you are only stucked in the feelings Here are 6 tools Tool 1 > must take action Tip : count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and go! Stop thinking and start new things = even if you are not perfect at it - Even if you do not feel comfortable you are willing to try - You can tap into courage before feeling the confidence It is an act of courage first and then confidence comes - There’s 2 types of people People who think what to do/ And the ones who take a step and push into it Tool 2 > When you tremble think of I had more confidence what would I do? Get yourself out there! Power of alter ego - Reframe your Mindset What the new version of me will do? What is the worth try it? Everything you do in life is preparing you to a new version of you True confidence is forged in fire 🔥 and all of the pain is necessary to build a new version of you Tool 3 > Be willing to fail and learn I choose not to stay in a place of self doubt > life is always preparing you for something Pain and lessons are forged to teach you a new version of you You have to be willing to fail > and try new things Tool 4 > Follow your curiosity I am going to follow my curiosity and to grow and learn to take risk and I’m willing to do that Tool 5 > In a middle of every failure has equipped me with the lessons and the scales Tool 6 > Social media detox : Curate the accounts according to how you want to feel in life Curate your dreams and try to stay curious Let social media be your aligned to your dreams Focus on you and get serious in what you feel into your life Only follow people who make you feel good Your attention is the key 🔑 Does what you post create confidence and you can be yourself?
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Anytime I’ve compared myself to others, I’ve felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon!
Building unshakable self-confidence takes time and effort, but it's absolutely worth it. Here are a few tips: 1) Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, 2) Practice positive self-talk, 3) Surround yourself with supportive people, 4) Step out of your comfort zone and face your fears, and 5) Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Remember, self-confidence comes from within and it's a journey, not a destination. Keep working on it and you'll get there!
Every night I tell my daughters a story and often try to infuse them with learning messages. I’ll definitely be telling them one about a little girl who was very scared to speak up, but she counted back from five, saw herself as her future best self and spoke up anyway.❤
I love listening to Mel talk and I like her way or approach, but I'm really surprised how little mention is made of the book womens magic truths on borlest, it's the best thing I've read lately. Huge recommendation!
I've always struggled with low self esteem and poor confidence to the point it causes extreme anxiety in most social situations. Yesterday I went for a promotion at a company I've worked for many years. Three Managers were present in the interview which heightened my anxiety even further. When asked questions I completely froze and felt unable to answer the questions. Now here's the thing, I could do the job, I have the knowledge, experience and skills and have an excellent performance record in my current role. Ive just received an email advising that I was unsuccessful for the promotion. I can't say I'm surprised, just upset that once again my lack of confidence has prevented me from achieving. This has led me to a desire to take action and will do whatever it takes to improve. Thank you for your video Mel, it resonates with me.
When you freeze, it's much more then about coureage and it is actually damaging for your selfconfidence to have an experience like this. I was hoping this video about confidence would be more multi dimensional.
That is excellent! At 55 over here, in the midst of rebuilding the foundation under mine. Mel has been a big part of my personal growth. Glad you're here!
Mel has made me create a TH-cam channel just to comment on this video. May the Almighty bless you abundantly for the impact this single video has made in my life.❤
I was always great at everything I did until I got into a bad relationship in my mid 20s and once I survived the domestic violence it was like I was stuck in that same head space for almost ten years. I stopped going places and got so depressed I didn't recognize myself. Became a drug addict and then I overdosed while staying at home with my 3 small kids. While this is embarrassing to tell anyone. I'm tellin y'all this because I'm in a place now were I'm no longer depressed. It all starter by changing my thinking. When I noticed a negative thought I would do the Steve Harvey thing and thank god for something and have an intentional thankful heart. Of course there is more to this story but now I'm watching Mel Robbins and you have no idea how much your trying has changed my life. So thank u to the Mel Robbins who was scared to get on video and do a podcast but tried anyway. She's the real hero
You survived domestic violence, not surprised you got depressed to the point of substance abuse. So happy that you are coming out of this dark time in your life…keep going..it gets better… love and hugs .❤🤗
I have mild autism and I'm scared of a new posh restaurant job. It really scares me. I was severely bullied at school I think my brain turned to mush with anxiety, so I think hospitality is the only industry. I'll give it a go it's my only option right now. Wish me luck. Love your channel. Good looking too.
'Confidence is willingness to try. It's a skill.' And anyone can try. It means everyone is confident because anyone can try. That simple elaboration is capable of illuminating confidence. Precious! 🙏🏻
OMG Mel! I started this episode thinking "yea thats easy for everyone else, noone knows what its like to have a severe blushing problem anytime anyone talks to you" and OMG at 18 minutes in, I was shocked when you talked about your experience blushing and turning red anytime you were called on or talked infront of people. I needed to hear this more than you will ever know! Thank you!
This is the best self-confidence message I’ve ever heard in my life. As a non-native English speaker living in Australia, I need it to hear this. Thanks so much, Mel!
Mel, this podcast is mind-blowing. It just turned my world upside down. This stuff should be taught in schools. You have no idea how grateful I am for this content. ❤
Today morning I got up early and did what I was struggling to do for a long, long time. Four hours of intense work. The one thing you said: 'No one is going to do it for you' kept on looping in my head. Thank you Mel.
It's simply amazing! Hadar has been teaching me (and thousands of people) how to be more confident speaking English as non-native speakers! Some months ago, I couldn't speak a word, and now, I can have conversations about a range of things and aspire to new jobs and live in another country! And I listen to every video from Mel to practice my comprehension, vocabulary, and listening skills, and of course, to learn about how to live a better life! Thanks, Hadar and Mel! I hope to see you both in an interview on Mel's podcast!
Hello! At the beggining, I subscribed this channel because I wanted to learn English but now I am here because I am learning a lot of things about well being and it helps me a lot in real Life. Thank You very much Mel! You are an amazing person and You inspire me every day. Last days I refused a job because I didnt feel confident but now, because of this podcast, I understand what means confidence and in the future I will try to be more confident.
I am in my 60’s and still taking risks. Scared to death sometimes! I wrote a book and a second book to be a companion, when it came to publishing I panicked and thought “oh no! We don’t have to actually put it out there do we?” Stepping out of my comfort zone a lot and at times I freeze and still want to hide, and yet, this is what I teach to others as well!
Fantastic Podcast Mel!! I lost my voice in 2013 and doctors didn't know if I would ever speak again! Years later, I realized it was the metaphoric loss of my voice in life that manifested in my health. Using our voice with Confidence is key in business and in life. Thank you so much for sharing your voice with all of us. Much Love and Gratitude, Renee❤🙏
I have been through two relationships that destroyed my self confidence and made me feel worthless.. this podcast has enspired me to get back to who I am thankyou!
It’s time for your happiness… go get it and stay away from relationships for a while. THEY made you feel worthless but you aren’t actually worthless. God bless.❤
I have struggled in a job that I feel I shouldn’t have applied for. It was offered to me by a friend so I felt I should take it as I was just moving back to the city I used to live in and she knew me and felt we could work well together. After seven weeks I’m finding that I’m just not an administrative person. I’ve been a hands-on caregiver and massage therapist for over 30 years. And it doesn’t have that I’m the oldest person in the office . I’m going to stick it out for my friend because she’s the office manager and she needs some time off. Your words have helped me walk into the office the past two days and decide to be willing. Thank you so far… I’ve only seen your first podcast on confidence. I will continue!
Mel, regarding video time at 33:45 where you begin to talk about development of an alter ego: Up until a bit of vocal cord damage a number of years back before the pandemic, I was learning to sing solo in front of a group. I sang at church and tried to get into a quartet but they wouldn't allow me to do this to learn. So, I started singing lessons and Karaoke. I met a man at Karaoke who was the Director of talent for a local theater group. Seeing my fear he suggested I create that alter ego. I created a character named Charlene who was fearless. It really helped and eventually I transitioned to using my real name. After years of singing in front of groups solo it also helped me to build speaking skills as I learned how to view the crowd. But, due to one incident I learned that turning it over to God can be massively freeing. My father died at 4 am on a Sunday. I had been up all night on watch at his bedside. His mind was gone and we waited for the body to also pass. Thing was, that night I was to give a 5 minute talk about what brought me to Business and Professional Women (BPW) along with receiving an award. Sad part was I was too tired to read the notes I'd written on flash cards for my talk. I simply could not read it or remember what I was to speak about. So, in front of the group I told them about my night. I then said I was turning it over to God to guide my mind and what I should speak about. The group seemed very attentive. Later a gal from BPW came up to me and said she had no idea that I was such a great speaker. That was a great moment. But, sometimes we just need to turn it over to a higher power. So, thumbs up - great advice - all of it!
I think she deliberately not involving god in her podcasts and uses science and research as god is a personal thing. But I agree with you we need higher power in the mix too
I just want to express my appreciation to you Mel, the way you discuss about confidence is just amazing and you increase our willingness to try new things and uncomfortable but the most importantly will make us better than we used to be
I really love that we need to act confidently, instead of feeling confident :) So many of us focus on feeling good and skip uncomfortable 'act on it' part. You are an inspiration Mel!
That is exactly what I did with my social media last year @ 49:58 i deleted it, and made a new fresh one. It has changed my life. I now only follow ppl who align with my happiness and my goals in life. I don't follow any of my friends.i don't follow these Pop celebs either. I only follow ppl who genuinely motivate me for my goals and who inspire me. 🎉🎉🎉
You're the best, Mel! After being laid off a year ago, I lost the vision of who I was. My confidence, my ability to dream went out of the window. Thank you for inspiring me to just try.
Thank you Mel, I was made redundant from my job I held for 13 years in November. I listen to your podcasts nearly every day, they are helping me to build back my confidence and prepare for my dream job xxx
Before confidence we need clarity. After clarity of how your going to complete the task or skill= confidence will be the byproduct. Love your podcast Mel ! ❤
"Confidence ist the willingness to try" (Mel Robbins) This is so cool. Just needed this today. Oh I am a life-long trier. Never thought that this would make me confident. So wonderful.
I have always been the most unconfident person. I think mainly because I grew up thinking you were either born confident or you weren't but listening to this podcast has given me encouragement that I can and will be confident from now on because I am willing to try! Thank you for such a great video Mel!!!
When I was 10 yrs old I taught myself how to spin a basketball on my pointer finger. It seems my confidence was destroyed by me at 26. I'm pushing 40 and I needed this podcast
Hi Mel… I want to say Thank you because after watching this video. It lets me 54321 face my fear and get the one on one interview. ❤ I feel “wow “ and did it with confidence. You are an Angel.
Dear @melrobbins I can't express my feelings of love and gratitude for many of the advice that you share with us. I'm in love with your empathy and how you want to sincerely help others based on both your own life experiences and scientific research. I might not be able to apply all your methods but I'm sure that every time I get stuck in a difficult situation or feel like I'm not confident I'll remember your podcasts!!! I've been clinically diagnosed with OCD which has ruined most of life now, so I can definitely relate to most of what you preach. I wish we could meet personally one day...
Awesome "willingness to try" is a powerful mindset... It´s something to invite you to jump into the uncertainty. Courage comes first and Confidence is built over time. Everything that you do in life now is preparing you for something that are not happen yet! Life is always preparing you for something. Thanks a lot!
I listen to her before I go to work everyday and when I come home as a lawyer. She is going to be the voice of the 2020s . No bullshit, genuine stories about life and the human condition. She is the aunt and the friend that we all need.
Building this confidence needs to be consistent: 1) be kond and with yourself 2) practice gratitude 3)always talk positively to yourself 4) choose who you surround yourself with! Your advice is epicc ❤
Thank you so much!! You’ve changed me with your beautiful videos! I’m learning so much and changing my life because of you! May god bless you Mel! I love you so much ❤❤❤❤
‘Every time you learn something new, youre either going to be good at it, or terrible at it, and you will always learn something from it. But you have to try. ‘
Mel answered the question that has been bothering me for a long time. I thought I lost my confidence and don't have it anymore. Now I realized the reason for feeling low self-confidence is because I stopped trying and did not do things that previously enhanced my confidence.
I am full time mother of two, living in USA from Mexico with broken English I wanna build my business online but no start yet to hear this really help me.❤
I’m learning from you.. I’ve been following you for the last 3years and have been on the journey of get over my ex. 💔Rebuilding my life and starting over from scratch. You have helped me so much thank you Mel ❤️ I have literally seen you grow into your beautiful self.. I’m proud of you and myself.. it’s a great feeling.. loved this episode 🎉
Hello beautiful👋🏻 how are you doing? how does it feel to be the most prettiest lady around here? Love your smile by the way I just wanted to say hi hope you’re having an amazing day🙌🏻🙌🏻😊
Greetings from Denmark, Mel! I just want to say Thank you so much for this podcast. I was out running this morning and listened to your podcasts for 2 hours! They give me hope and comfort and I love that you share your own journey. Personally I am in a place where anxiety suddenly has become a big part of my life and I am trying so hard to move past it.. or embrace it.. or whatever I need to do. You have been in my ears a lot these past couple of months. Again huge thanks! Warm regards, Mai
Mel, every time I listen to you, I feel like you speak to my soul. I cant explain how whatever you said, is exactly how I feel but I cant put it in words. Thank you for sharing your mind with the world. ❤
So amazing that every time whatever issues I face in my life you get a video for that whether it is anxiety or low confidence low self esteem.Love you for that ❤️
I love you Mel. You are helping me. I feel great when I listen to you and you say you also overcame those dark phrases I really see hope. Cause I am going through a journey where I really feel so hard to keep the consistency. It is been 3/4 years. I really wanna be with you 24 hours. Pray for me. I lost so quickly and affected by things.
understanding the real definition of confidence changed my mind now i am much more confident and wiling to take action, thanks a million mel robbins wish you the best🙂🙂
Hi Mel, You are the first ever white talk I came across NO NONSENSE! Tell as it is and I so love the fact you are you. The way you talk, move. I really love people simple and helpful. Im Shehnaz. Im Tour Guide. I run my small private business. I would have such a pleasure to show you South Africa and your family. Take you to do a safari. See Lions and all the big 5. May God keep on blessing you. By the way Im almost 47 and my hubby 80. My daughter 18. My husband his white. Im indian and my daughter she is mixed from my previous marriage. Stay blessed 🌺
Simply inspiring❤❤ I'm 57 starting over from ground up after an acrimonious divorce of 8 years. Practical tools and inspiration that will help me transition in my new home, new business, new life. Thank you for this impactful episode❤❤
You literally inspire me sooo much. You've confirmed I'm on the right path and I just need to keep trying!!! Thank you for being you and doing all that you do! You are amazing!
Superb.! Ma’am , You are the best speaker I have ever come across. Godbless you richly as you continue to inspire people like me battling with low self esteem and lack of confidence
Hi Mel, I've just started listening to you and you've been a tremendous help. I don't have a positive mindset and a traumatic childhood. Recently the love of my life left me 6 months ago. I used all the resources I had and moved us to Texas with our son and her sister, only for her to give up and leave me. I'm lost, no confidence and heartbroken. She emotionally cheated on me before moving here and filled me with empty promises. I sold my house and have up everything for her. Now I'm priced out of my house and have to sell while she's exploring a new relationship that she's sexually active in. I'm overwhelmed and ready to move on but I can't stop thinking of her with this new guy. There's a lot more going on.
I have been through two relationships that destroyed my self confidence and made me feel worthless.. this podcast has enspired me to get back to who I am thankyou!
The empowerment tips are spot on! Adopting a positive mindset and practicing self-care are crucial for boosting confidence. This video provides actionable advice that anyone can incorporate into their daily life.
Mel, you are like my best friend I know that sounds crazy but really. I wish I found your podcast earlier. I needed to hear this today. I have to do a video for my sales job and I am a nervous wreck well I was but that changed when I was listening to this on my way to work so to say thank you isn’t near enough to show you my gratitude towards you and your awesome podcast. You are amazing!
Thank you Mel for this amazing podcast. We’ve learned so much and here are some of the takeaways/ main points in this episode: 7:30 If you have confidence more than any you’ve ever had in your entire life, how would your life be different? => I will gain more opportunities in workplace, schools. I will be more comfortable wearing what I love outside the house and don’t care for anyone. I will be able to act like a leader in my life, not having to worry about what’s going on in my head. I will be better at speaking boundaries. I will stand up for myself. I can speak up more at workplace, tell them what I think is better. 9:20 New definition of confidence: confidence is the willingness to try/ the moment you’re willing to try. Confidence is not a feeling, it’s an action. 11:28 When you try sth for the first time, you’re either gonna fail or succeed but you always learn sth. When you learn a little sth, you’re less self-doubt and you gain a little bit more confidence => the confidence confidence loop. 27:02 If you’re all around high achievers, it’s because you belong there, and it’s because you’re meant to grow. There is no difference between a high achiever and you. The only difference is your willingness to try sth that’s a little scary, to show up, to be seen, to share your ideas. 29:23 tools that help build your confidence take action: instead of thinking about whether you should do it or not, do the 5-second rule and physically move immediately. Remember: courage comes first, confidence is what builds over time. the power of objectivity: be the person you want to become/ create an alter ego (it gives you distance from the scary person who’s never done this before). Ask questions: What would my dream-future me do in this moment? preparing, rehearsing: the more you practice sth, the more you’re trying focus on you bc nobody is coming to help you.
One of my FAVORITES. I LOOOOOOOOOVED IT. Of course, I instantly forwarded it to my daughters. Everyone should listen to it. Thank you, thank you, thaaaaaankuuuu. Carla, from Chihuahua, Mexico.
Thank you Mel! Every time when i listen to your video, i feel more confidence about myself, my career path and my future. I still practicing my English to have a better life for my whole family. I just want to say, you’re great
@@dakesim I quit lol! The pay structure was very pyramid scheme-y. All I can say is that I’m happy I was able to get back into my old trade and doing quite well with it 🙏🏼💫
I realize now why I go through moments of frustration anxiety and panic attacks and it’s because of a basic lack of confidence in myself! Thank you for letting me know that I can build up confidence in my life!
Mel, thank you so much for being you and putting yourself out there so we can learn from you! I love the idea of asking myself what a confident person would do. I need to figure out who my confidence anchor is, maybe it’s you!😊❤
Im an introvert and I've been so lonely and wallowing in it but I know I need to put myself out there and meet people, talk to people and you gave me the confidence to sign up for two classes of my hobbies with people I don't know and now I just need to practice my confidence by talking to people, and talking to more people and again and again and actually meet my type of people.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Mel. I have been feeling stuck for over a year now. I have been having many challenges at my new job of 10 months and starting last week is when I started to feel better and more sure of myself. I can do this!!!! 💪🏼
Love this Mel! Thank you so much!! I have always had low confidence. I've been looking for answers. This is so good. Love you and your podcast! Amazing! Thank you. 😍😊
Thanks for being so real, Mel. Thanks for the empathy, compassion and understanding. Thanks for your gifts of imperfection. Your wisdom, willingness and worth. More, please!!
thank you! That's just what I needed to hear today! I tell my students every day it is the willingness to try! "practice doesn't make perfect; practice prepares you" is my go-to quote! Thanks for the reminders today
One thing I want you to take away from this episode is that you CAN become more confident. If you enjoyed today’s talk on confidence, please hit that like button and subscribe. Your support is always appreciated!
I am listening to this podcast and feel anxiety at the thought of building my confidence. I want out of a 30 year marriage with a narcissistic spouse. How does a retired person that is trauma bonded get past the anxiety induced panic and stay focused in the process of building confidence?
Confidence is build
In order to build confidence you have to try
Courage light ups confidence
You have the willingness to try new ideas and new things
When you feel you don’t have confidence you are only stucked in the feelings
Here are 6 tools
Tool 1 > must take action
Tip : count 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and go!
Stop thinking and start new things = even if you are not perfect at it
- Even if you do not feel comfortable you are willing to try
- You can tap into courage before feeling the confidence
It is an act of courage first and then confidence comes
- There’s 2 types of people
People who think what to do/ And the ones who take a step and push into it
Tool 2 > When you tremble think of I had more confidence what would I do?
Get yourself out there!
Power of alter ego
- Reframe your Mindset
What the new version of me will do?
What is the worth try it?
Everything you do in life is preparing you to a new version of you
True confidence is forged in fire 🔥 and all of the pain is necessary to build a new version of you
Tool 3 > Be willing to fail and learn
I choose not to stay in a place of self doubt > life is always preparing you for something
Pain and lessons are forged to teach you a new version of you
You have to be willing to fail > and try new things
Tool 4 > Follow your curiosity
I am going to follow my curiosity and to grow and learn to take risk and I’m willing to do that
Tool 5 > In a middle of every failure has equipped me with the lessons and the scales
Tool 6 > Social media detox :
Curate the accounts according to how you want to feel in life
Curate your dreams and try to stay curious
Let social media be your aligned to your dreams
Focus on you and get serious in what you feel into your life
Only follow people who make you feel good
Your attention is the key 🔑
Does what you post create confidence and you can be yourself?
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It' likes the way you would eat an Elephant: one bit at a time. Ciao from Italy! 💕
Anytime I’ve compared myself to others, I’ve felt less than. Until I realized that the only person I should compare myself to, is the person I was yesterday. No matter what you compare, you will always find someone richer, better looking than you, has a nicer car, has a better (fill in the blanks). And it's totally pointless. When I began focusing on the idea of going to bed better than I woke up, basically making sure that throughout day I do things that make a better version than the one who woke up that morning, then life really began to change for me. Focus on you and your own progress. Run your own marathon!
So true. Thank you
Building unshakable self-confidence takes time and effort, but it's absolutely worth it. Here are a few tips: 1) Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, 2) Practice positive self-talk, 3) Surround yourself with supportive people, 4) Step out of your comfort zone and face your fears, and 5) Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Remember, self-confidence comes from within and it's a journey, not a destination. Keep working on it and you'll get there!
Thank you ❤❤❤
Love from Portland Oregon
Just found you ! Thank you for your real talk
This was very informative and I look forward to listening to more great videos. Thanks 😮
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Every night I tell my daughters a story and often try to infuse them with learning messages. I’ll definitely be telling them one about a little girl who was very scared to speak up, but she counted back from five, saw herself as her future best self and spoke up anyway.❤
does this lady even know how many lives she' s impacted so far or how far her impact goes ?? bless you Mel and thank you for being you !
I guess she doesn’t ❤❤
Trueee! I recommend her podcast to my ESL students :)
I love listening to Mel talk and I like her way or approach, but I'm really surprised how little mention is made of the book womens magic truths on borlest, it's the best thing I've read lately. Huge recommendation!
I've always struggled with low self esteem and poor confidence to the point it causes extreme anxiety in most social situations.
Yesterday I went for a promotion at a company I've worked for many years. Three Managers were present in the interview which heightened my anxiety even further. When asked questions I completely froze and felt unable to answer the questions. Now here's the thing, I could do the job, I have the knowledge, experience and skills and have an excellent performance record in my current role.
Ive just received an email advising that I was unsuccessful for the promotion. I can't say I'm surprised, just upset that once again my lack of confidence has prevented me from achieving.
This has led me to a desire to take action and will do whatever it takes to improve. Thank you for your video Mel, it resonates with me.
When you freeze, it's much more then about coureage and it is actually damaging for your selfconfidence to have an experience like this. I was hoping this video about confidence would be more multi dimensional.
Starting a business at 59, listening to you Mel is so inspiring 🙏🏻 thank you
How is that new business going
Awesome! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That is excellent! At 55 over here, in the midst of rebuilding the foundation under mine. Mel has been a big part of my personal growth. Glad you're here!
It's never too late. I'm 57 trying to build. You got this..🙏🏿
Congratulations 🎉
Mel has made me create a TH-cam channel just to comment on this video.
May the Almighty bless you abundantly for the impact this single video has made in my life.❤
I was always great at everything I did until I got into a bad relationship in my mid 20s and once I survived the domestic violence it was like I was stuck in that same head space for almost ten years. I stopped going places and got so depressed I didn't recognize myself. Became a drug addict and then I overdosed while staying at home with my 3 small kids. While this is embarrassing to tell anyone. I'm tellin y'all this because I'm in a place now were I'm no longer depressed. It all starter by changing my thinking. When I noticed a negative thought I would do the Steve Harvey thing and thank god for something and have an intentional thankful heart. Of course there is more to this story but now I'm watching Mel Robbins and you have no idea how much your trying has changed my life. So thank u to the Mel Robbins who was scared to get on video and do a podcast but tried anyway. She's the real hero
You survived domestic violence, not surprised you got depressed to the point of substance abuse. So happy that you are coming out of this dark time in your life…keep going..it gets better… love and hugs .❤🤗
From another human who’s fought out of a dark place, I’m proud of you.
I have mild autism and I'm scared of a new posh restaurant job. It really scares me. I was severely bullied at school I think my brain turned to mush with anxiety, so I think hospitality is the only industry. I'll give it a go it's my only option right now. Wish me luck. Love your channel. Good looking too.
I wish you all the best on new job opportunities
How did you do?
'Confidence is willingness to try. It's a skill.' And anyone can try. It means everyone is confident because anyone can try. That simple elaboration is capable of illuminating confidence. Precious! 🙏🏻
OMG Mel! I started this episode thinking "yea thats easy for everyone else, noone knows what its like to have a severe blushing problem anytime anyone talks to you" and OMG at 18 minutes in, I was shocked when you talked about your experience blushing and turning red anytime you were called on or talked infront of people. I needed to hear this more than you will ever know! Thank you!
Love when you said "confidence is for all of us." Confidence truly can transform every aspect of your life.
Hi there 👋🏻 marry Christmas🎄 how are you hope you’re having a wonderful day 🙌❤️
This is the best self-confidence message I’ve ever heard in my life. As a non-native English speaker living in Australia, I need it to hear this. Thanks so much, Mel!
You can do it! Just believe in yourself ❤
Mel, this podcast is mind-blowing. It just turned my world upside down.
This stuff should be taught in schools.
You have no idea how grateful I am for this content. ❤
Today morning I got up early and did what I was struggling to do for a long, long time. Four hours of intense work. The one thing you said: 'No one is going to do it for you' kept on looping in my head. Thank you Mel.
35:03 thank you for impacting my life.
It's amazing man!
It's simply amazing! Hadar has been teaching me (and thousands of people) how to be more confident speaking English as non-native speakers! Some months ago, I couldn't speak a word, and now, I can have conversations about a range of things and aspire to new jobs and live in another country! And I listen to every video from Mel to practice my comprehension, vocabulary, and listening skills, and of course, to learn about how to live a better life! Thanks, Hadar and Mel! I hope to see you both in an interview on Mel's podcast!
Hello! At the beggining, I subscribed this channel because I wanted to learn English but now I am here because I am learning a lot of things about well being and it helps me a lot in real Life. Thank You very much Mel! You are an amazing person and You inspire me every day. Last days I refused a job because I didnt feel confident but now, because of this podcast, I understand what means confidence and in the future I will try to be more confident.
I am in my 60’s and still taking risks. Scared to death sometimes! I wrote a book and a second book to be a companion, when it came to publishing I panicked and thought “oh no! We don’t have to actually put it out there do we?” Stepping out of my comfort zone a lot and at times I freeze and still want to hide, and yet, this is what I teach to others as well!
You’re an inspiration. I’m in my early 50s and in the process of reinventing myself. 🙏🏾
I read one time we teach best what we most have to learn!!! ❤❤❤ That's exactly what you are doing!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Fantastic Podcast Mel!! I lost my voice in 2013 and doctors didn't know if I would ever speak again! Years later, I realized it was the metaphoric loss of my voice in life that manifested in my health. Using our voice with Confidence is key in business and in life. Thank you so much for sharing your voice with all of us. Much Love and Gratitude, Renee❤🙏
Wow, so it was psychosomatic? Did you recover it?
Hi there 👋🏻 marry Christmas🎄 how are you hope you’re having a wonderful day 🙌❤️
I have been through two relationships that destroyed my self confidence and made me feel worthless.. this podcast has enspired me to get back to who I am thankyou!
It’s time for your happiness… go get it and stay away from relationships for a while. THEY made you feel worthless but you aren’t actually worthless. God bless.❤
Ohh me too! I have been there so I know how it feels! 😢❤thankfully look at us shining
In two weeks I am about to start a new job and this is exactly what I needed to hear thank you Mel ❤
How's your job now? 🥰
I have struggled in a job that I feel I shouldn’t have applied for. It was offered to me by a friend so I felt I should take it as I was just moving back to the city I used to live in and she knew me and felt we could work well together. After seven weeks I’m finding that I’m just not an administrative person. I’ve been a hands-on caregiver and massage therapist for over 30 years. And it doesn’t have that I’m the oldest person in the office . I’m going to stick it out for my friend because she’s the office manager and she needs some time off. Your words have helped me walk into the office the past two days and decide to be willing. Thank you so far… I’ve only seen your first podcast on confidence. I will continue!
MEL ROBBINS YOU ARE GIFT GIVEN FOR US!!!
Mel, regarding video time at 33:45 where you begin to talk about development of an alter ego: Up until a bit of vocal cord damage a number of years back before the pandemic, I was learning to sing solo in front of a group. I sang at church and tried to get into a quartet but they wouldn't allow me to do this to learn. So, I started singing lessons and Karaoke. I met a man at Karaoke who was the Director of talent for a local theater group. Seeing my fear he suggested I create that alter ego. I created a character named Charlene who was fearless. It really helped and eventually I transitioned to using my real name. After years of singing in front of groups solo it also helped me to build speaking skills as I learned how to view the crowd. But, due to one incident I learned that turning it over to God can be massively freeing. My father died at 4 am on a Sunday. I had been up all night on watch at his bedside. His mind was gone and we waited for the body to also pass. Thing was, that night I was to give a 5 minute talk about what brought me to Business and Professional Women (BPW) along with receiving an award. Sad part was I was too tired to read the notes I'd written on flash cards for my talk. I simply could not read it or remember what I was to speak about. So, in front of the group I told them about my night. I then said I was turning it over to God to guide my mind and what I should speak about. The group seemed very attentive. Later a gal from BPW came up to me and said she had no idea that I was such a great speaker. That was a great moment. But, sometimes we just need to turn it over to a higher power. So, thumbs up - great advice - all of it!
I think she deliberately not involving god in her podcasts and uses science and research as god is a personal thing. But I agree with you we need higher power in the mix too
My confidence has increased over the years, I sure could use more. I know I do not have enough confidence to make more money. Growth is sure needed.
I just want to express my appreciation to you Mel, the way you discuss about confidence is just amazing and you increase our willingness to try new things and uncomfortable but the most importantly will make us better than we used to be
I really love that we need to act confidently, instead of feeling confident :) So many of us focus on feeling good and skip uncomfortable 'act on it' part. You are an inspiration Mel!
That is exactly what I did with my social media last year @ 49:58 i deleted it, and made a new fresh one. It has changed my life. I now only follow ppl who align with my happiness and my goals in life. I don't follow any of my friends.i don't follow these Pop celebs either. I only follow ppl who genuinely motivate me for my goals and who inspire me. 🎉🎉🎉
That's exactly what I did, now I just follow ppl who motivate me
You're the best, Mel! After being laid off a year ago, I lost the vision of who I was. My confidence, my ability to dream went out of the window. Thank you for inspiring me to just try.
Thank you Mel, I was made redundant from my job I held for 13 years in November. I listen to your podcasts nearly every day, they are helping me to build back my confidence and prepare for my dream job xxx
Courage.. to try, to learn from failures, to laugh at yourself and not be scared of others, to keep learning and trying.. better and better each time!
Before confidence we need clarity. After clarity of how your going to complete the task or skill= confidence will be the byproduct. Love your podcast Mel ! ❤
"Confidence ist the willingness to try" (Mel Robbins)
This is so cool. Just needed this today.
Oh I am a life-long trier. Never thought that this would make me confident.
So wonderful.
I have always been the most unconfident person. I think mainly because I grew up thinking you were either born confident or you weren't but listening to this podcast has given me encouragement that I can and will be confident from now on because I am willing to try! Thank you for such a great video Mel!!!
When I was 10 yrs old I taught myself how to spin a basketball on my pointer finger. It seems my confidence was destroyed by me at 26. I'm pushing 40 and I needed this podcast
Hi Mel… I want to say Thank you because after watching this video. It lets me 54321 face my fear and get the one on one interview. ❤ I feel “wow “ and did it with confidence. You are an Angel.
That’s why I keep coming to Mel’s videos when I know I need that drop of magic boost to feel the best of myself!
Mel, you are changing my life. Thank you ❤️ from a 24 year old mom trying to find myself
Just cried reading this. I’m a 23 year old mom we got this girl ❤
She is amazing! I have been following her for yearrrsss 🎉
I love you Mel !! You have helped me so much show jumping my horse and with competitions .... you are just 'amazing' ... thank you for 'you' .... x
I love all things Mel. Period. THANK YOU FOR EVERY WORD!
Dear @melrobbins I can't express my feelings of love and gratitude for many of the advice that you share with us. I'm in love with your empathy and how you want to sincerely help others based on both your own life experiences and scientific research. I might not be able to apply all your methods but I'm sure that every time I get stuck in a difficult situation or feel like I'm not confident I'll remember your podcasts!!!
I've been clinically diagnosed with OCD which has ruined most of life now, so I can definitely relate to most of what you preach.
I wish we could meet personally one day...
Awesome "willingness to try" is a powerful mindset... It´s something to invite you to jump into the uncertainty. Courage comes first and Confidence is built over time. Everything that you do in life now is preparing you for something that are not happen yet! Life is always preparing you for something. Thanks a lot!
I listen to her before I go to work everyday and when I come home as a lawyer.
She is going to be the voice of the 2020s . No bullshit, genuine stories about life and the human condition.
She is the aunt and the friend that we all need.
Building this confidence needs to be consistent: 1) be kond and with yourself 2) practice gratitude 3)always talk positively to yourself 4) choose who you surround yourself with! Your advice is epicc ❤
Thank you so much!! You’ve changed me with your beautiful videos! I’m learning so much and changing my life because of you! May god bless you Mel! I love you so much ❤❤❤❤
Thank you, Mel! You and your podcast is a blessing!
‘Every time you learn something new, youre either going to be good at it, or terrible at it, and you will always learn something from it. But you have to try. ‘
That’s brilliant, imposter syndrome means you’re trying something new and you’re uncomfortable! I love it! ❤
Exactly woow
Mel answered the question that has been bothering me for a long time. I thought I lost my confidence and don't have it anymore. Now I realized the reason for feeling low self-confidence is because I stopped trying and did not do things that previously enhanced my confidence.
I asked the Universe to help me with building my confidence and here you are 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Thank You Mel 💜
I am full time mother of two, living in USA from Mexico with broken English I wanna build my business online but no start yet to hear this really help me.❤
You can do it ❤
I’m learning from you.. I’ve been following you for the last 3years and have been on the journey of get over my ex. 💔Rebuilding my life and starting over from scratch. You have helped me so much thank you Mel ❤️ I have literally seen you grow into your beautiful self.. I’m proud of you and myself.. it’s a great feeling.. loved this episode 🎉
Hello beautiful👋🏻 how are you doing? how does it feel to be the most prettiest lady around here? Love your smile by the way I just wanted to say hi hope you’re having an amazing day🙌🏻🙌🏻😊
@TravisJohann115- Hi there, gorgeous 😘👋 How are you? Lonely? Stop being rude and pestering women in the comments... thanks luv
Inspiring and practical advice for building confidence and achieving success!
Greetings from Denmark, Mel! I just want to say Thank you so much for this podcast. I was out running this morning and listened to your podcasts for 2 hours! They give me hope and comfort and I love that you share your own journey. Personally I am in a place where anxiety suddenly has become a big part of my life and I am trying so hard to move past it.. or embrace it.. or whatever I need to do. You have been in my ears a lot these past couple of months. Again huge thanks! Warm regards, Mai
Mel, you always have exactly what I need to hear. The synchronicities are always on point with you! Thank you always for you and what you do!
Hi there 👋🏻 marry Christmas🎄 how are you hope you’re having a wonderful day 🙌❤️
I will pray for you too. Keep preaching. I c your authenticity you inspire people thank you for obeying God
your podcasts awesome
Mel, every time I listen to you, I feel like you speak to my soul. I cant explain how whatever you said, is exactly how I feel but I cant put it in words. Thank you for sharing your mind with the world. ❤
So amazing that every time whatever issues I face in my life you get a video for that whether it is anxiety or low confidence low self esteem.Love you for that ❤️
Listening to this I'm way more confident then I thought I was. I've been confident for quite some time. I thank God. Thank you for sharing Mel
I love you Mel. You are helping me. I feel great when I listen to you and you say you also overcame those dark phrases I really see hope. Cause I am going through a journey where I really feel so hard to keep the consistency. It is been 3/4 years. I really wanna be with you 24 hours. Pray for me. I lost so quickly and affected by things.
I adore you Mel Robbins. May you be continually blessed for your time, wisdom and love. I will now think What will Mel do... You are my role model ❤
Mel is absolutely awesome. So grateful for what she advocates and teaches…..
👏👏🙏
This is the most beneficial and inspiring content i have ever watched about self confidence. It really shifted my vision. Thank you very much.
understanding the real definition of confidence changed my mind now i am much more confident and wiling to take action, thanks a million mel robbins
wish you the best🙂🙂
Hi Mel,
You are the first ever white talk I came across NO NONSENSE! Tell as it is and I so love the fact you are you. The way you talk, move. I really love people simple and helpful. Im Shehnaz. Im Tour Guide. I run my small private business. I would have such a pleasure to show you South Africa and your family. Take you to do a safari. See Lions and all the big 5. May God keep on blessing you. By the way Im almost 47 and my hubby 80. My daughter 18. My husband his white. Im indian and my daughter she is mixed from my previous marriage. Stay blessed 🌺
Simply inspiring❤❤
I'm 57 starting over from ground up after an acrimonious divorce of 8 years. Practical tools and inspiration that will help me transition in my new home, new business, new life. Thank you for this impactful episode❤❤
Amazing!
yep thanks Mel. your whole mood and excitedness makes me feel good about myself. thank you for bringing whole of u to the podcast..
mrs Robbins is really gifted with her powerful explanations.
You literally inspire me sooo much. You've confirmed I'm on the right path and I just need to keep trying!!! Thank you for being you and doing all that you do! You are amazing!
Superb.! Ma’am , You are the best speaker I have ever come across. Godbless you richly as you continue to inspire people like me battling with low self esteem and lack of confidence
You really do teach Mel! I love true teachers and not gatekeepers ❤❤❤
Hi Mel, I've just started listening to you and you've been a tremendous help. I don't have a positive mindset and a traumatic childhood. Recently the love of my life left me 6 months ago. I used all the resources I had and moved us to Texas with our son and her sister, only for her to give up and leave me. I'm lost, no confidence and heartbroken. She emotionally cheated on me before moving here and filled me with empty promises. I sold my house and have up everything for her. Now I'm priced out of my house and have to sell while she's exploring a new relationship that she's sexually active in. I'm overwhelmed and ready to move on but I can't stop thinking of her with this new guy. There's a lot more going on.
I have been through two relationships that destroyed my self confidence and made me feel worthless.. this podcast has enspired me to get back to who I am thankyou!
This was one of the best, if not the best, speech on confidence I've ever heard. Really, really fantastic. Thank you.
The empowerment tips are spot on! Adopting a positive mindset and practicing self-care are crucial for boosting confidence. This video provides actionable advice that anyone can incorporate into their daily life.
Mel, you are like my best friend I know that sounds crazy but really. I wish I found your podcast earlier. I needed to hear this today. I have to do a video for my sales job and I am a nervous wreck well I was but that changed when I was listening to this on my way to work so to say thank you isn’t near enough to show you my gratitude towards you and your awesome podcast. You are amazing!
Thank you Mel for this amazing podcast. We’ve learned so much and here are some of the takeaways/ main points in this episode:
7:30 If you have confidence more than any you’ve ever had in your entire life, how would your life be different? => I will gain more opportunities in workplace, schools. I will be more comfortable wearing what I love outside the house and don’t care for anyone. I will be able to act like a leader in my life, not having to worry about what’s going on in my head. I will be better at speaking boundaries. I will stand up for myself. I can speak up more at workplace, tell them what I think is better.
9:20 New definition of confidence: confidence is the willingness to try/ the moment you’re willing to try. Confidence is not a feeling, it’s an action.
11:28 When you try sth for the first time, you’re either gonna fail or succeed but you always learn sth. When you learn a little sth, you’re less self-doubt and you gain a little bit more confidence => the confidence confidence loop.
27:02 If you’re all around high achievers, it’s because you belong there, and it’s because you’re meant to grow. There is no difference between a high achiever and you. The only difference is your willingness to try sth that’s a little scary, to show up, to be seen, to share your ideas.
29:23 tools that help build your confidence
take action: instead of thinking about whether you should do it or not, do the 5-second rule and physically move immediately. Remember: courage comes first, confidence is what builds over time.
the power of objectivity: be the person you want to become/ create an alter ego (it gives you distance from the scary person who’s never done this before). Ask questions: What would my dream-future me do in this moment?
preparing, rehearsing: the more you practice sth, the more you’re trying
focus on you bc nobody is coming to help you.
Love seeing how many people there are in the comment section, in the silent majority, wanting to build positivity.
I think she might be my new favorite podcasts creator's
One of my FAVORITES. I LOOOOOOOOOVED IT.
Of course, I instantly forwarded it to my daughters.
Everyone should listen to it.
Thank you, thank you, thaaaaaankuuuu.
Carla, from Chihuahua, Mexico.
My Favorite Too. ! I already got this in Life and Love it
Thanks Mel I so appreciate all your advice and all 💯🥰😇🙏🙌 Thanks
Wow, I'm reading this on a Friday after a big week of job search and it just gave the boost. Thank you Mel. ❤
Thank you Mel!
Every time when i listen to your video, i feel more confidence about myself, my career path and my future. I still practicing my English to have a better life for my whole family. I just want to say, you’re great
Starting a new job (sales gig - I have on-boarding in less than 2 hours 😱) and am so happy I found this!! Thank you, Mel!!
How's the job?
@@dakesim I quit lol! The pay structure was very pyramid scheme-y. All I can say is that I’m happy I was able to get back into my old trade and doing quite well with it 🙏🏼💫
@@83aquastar that's what matters. That you tried, learned something and are doing better now! All the best!
The most amazing lady and advises I’ve ever seen
You are Phenomenal Mel, I just want You to know how much your changing and actually saving my mindset. My nervous system and I Thank You 🙏 ♥️
I realize now why I go through moments of frustration anxiety and panic attacks and it’s because of a basic lack of confidence in myself! Thank you for letting me know that I can build up confidence in my life!
getting out and eating/movies by myself was a major league confidence builder for me. I have a long way to go but this was so awesome.
Mel, thank you so much for being you and putting yourself out there so we can learn from you! I love the idea of asking myself what a confident person would do. I need to figure out who my confidence anchor is, maybe it’s you!😊❤
Im an introvert and I've been so lonely and wallowing in it but I know I need to put myself out there and meet people, talk to people and you gave me the confidence to sign up for two classes of my hobbies with people I don't know and now I just need to practice my confidence by talking to people, and talking to more people and again and again and actually meet my type of people.
Thanks Ms Robin!
Can we talk a little about anxiety!
She has several awesome videos on anxiety, just check out her youtube channel
I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Mel. I have been feeling stuck for over a year now. I have been having many challenges at my new job of 10 months and starting last week is when I started to feel better and more sure of myself. I can do this!!!! 💪🏼
Love this Mel! Thank you so much!! I have always had low confidence. I've been looking for answers. This is so good. Love you and your podcast! Amazing! Thank you. 😍😊
Listening to Mel is like talking to your best friend!!!❤
I struggle with anxiety, and lack of confidence which has held me back from applying for positions at my job.
Fresh start tomorrow with new awarness
Confidence is a verb indeed. ACT Action Changes Things. Thank you my friend Mel!
Thanks for being so real, Mel. Thanks for the empathy, compassion and understanding. Thanks for your gifts of imperfection. Your wisdom, willingness and worth. More, please!!
thank you! That's just what I needed to hear today! I tell my students every day it is the willingness to try! "practice doesn't make perfect; practice prepares you" is my go-to quote! Thanks for the reminders today
Confidence is believing in yourself. Be your own best friend. Thats how i see it. Respect is a big thing. Hard to find. Start with yourself.