Respect Your Husband | Yasmin Mogahid
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- Men need to be respected and to feel proud, and to know that their woman supports them, pushes them forward, and loves what they do. That’s what men need. But women, on the other hand, women need to be loved unconditionally. As Muslims, it is incumbent on us to respect our husbands because it's deserved and not because it's earned, and that is one aspect of respect. The other aspect is that when you show your spouse more respect, in return you will get more love because respect to a man is maybe more important than love.
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My wife respected me, even when I was a real jerk. She didn’t accept my behaviour and she was upfront with her criticism, but she always respected me (even though I would sometimes disrespect her).
She never lowered herself to the point of disrespect.
Her behaviour, (eventually) compelled me to understand what respect actually was and of course, to respect her.
She is the most giving, righteous and respected woman I have ever seen.
Are you guys still together?
@@ruqaiyahkhan8145 Alhamdolillah yes, and we have a wonderful life :-)
@@user-qn6yt3zx3w that’s good to know
@@user-qn6yt3zx3w may Allah bless yout marriage even more ameen.
this correlate to what Dr JP said and what Pearl said, men need to be chivalrous and be respected, otherwise they would falter and weak. women need men to provide, better than self reliant and proud, submission make men realise, attitude make men go away or crazy, look at what black women did in america. exactly why Rasulullah s.a.w said this important reminder, this difference make the couple complete, which is beautiful. please mothers and future mothers, without women, men would be bitter and not cry, even humankind would fall wit birthrate plummeting. complete household is most important for children. we were fine before this equality concept come in, divorce rate isnt high which initiate by largely women. humble is the way foward, say if both party is superior, how would the tie be intact and immovable. accurate hadith cause its natural and make sense. submitting isnt weak, it makes the faith and status higher in the eyes of others and to All Knowing God. hope your story enlightened others and everlasting.
Respect your spouse for the sake of Allah as you respect all of creation. You can respectfully disagree, respectfully part ways or even respectfully divorce when reconciliation isn’t possible. True success is not to cross the boundaries set by Allah. May Allah make it easy on us. Ameen.
How can your wife respect you when you preach polygamy,sexual slavery, mutta, mysiar, urfi,your right to beat your wife, unilateral three talak divorce, marriage halala etc etc
You again with the nonsense.
@@sabuninan5064( this is a long lecture ) are u sure that u understand the working and rules behind these terms or are u just saying those terms coz if u really knew the working behind them u wouldn't even talk how Islam has those . Polygamy is allowed not mandated and there are many people out there having multiple girlfriends and those girls know that the boys has many other girls too yet there comes a problem for you when we are allowed to have four wives at a time with the condition that he loves them all the same and the previous wife/ves would have to agree for the next marriage having a single one is hard enough and u think allowing of polygamy is a problem? Sexual slavery, it was a normal tradition among every kingdom to slave the people of enemies and sexual slavery isn't a term used to define having sex with slaves but it is a term used to the slaves who consent to have sex. Forcing the consent or forcing themselves without consent comes under rape not sexual slavery! Mutta was prominent before the era of prophet Muhammad and after his revelation and prohibition of that as it considered a deal and prostituion no matter the process they take and it degrades the value of nikah so yeah mutta was wrong. Mysiar is a consensual marriage so it's the decision of husband and wife soon to be and should have consent it's not still clear if it comes under dealing or not but it's still under a conditional law to allow this. Urfi marriages are two kind which is secretive marriage without any consent with the spouses guardian which is not permissible and one under the consent of guardian yet keeping it a secret from government or Sharia. While it might be a problem if it's his Frist marriage with the same girl coz it might involve his social and financial status sharing with wife and legality of his wife over his property which was still against islamic law but there are cases where either of spouse does a thing which removes them from Islam and make them non believer and this cause their marriage to be broken (as in divorced) so without having to announce others that I became a non believer and broke my marriage with my wife they perform a urfi marriage so this marriage is kept secret from government and Sharia but they were already legally married and haven't legally divorced so it doesn't go against islamic law. And yeah urfi is a secretive marriage not a secondary secretive marriage a second marriage comes under law of polygamy. And triple talaq is a protective mechanism of the relation ship. Let's say if I say something like get out of my house or I'm divorcing you to my spouse in anger or for fun even tho it's not my intent to , it still comes under a talaq coz the damage the words done doesn't matter with your intent so to protect their relation ship from these there are three chances and that's called triple talaq while it's is prohibited in Islam to give those three talaqs at a time like I want to divorce divorce , divorce which is against islamic laws too and most of the Islamic countries made it illegal too. And marriage halala well in case if it nots a instant triple talaq and they made three talaqs seperately but still wish to be with each other it's haraam but to have a chance to get together either of the spouse must marry another and get divorced without any external factors. So interns of modern terms it's called getting back together. U see most of them are legal in western culture and Asian countries too while the names in Arabic just makes u feel them different our laws are even more rigid thn westerners and gives women more power and nothing can be done without consent. Forced consent comes from culture not Islam. And the thing about bearing the wife is has to be allowed coz if I caught mu wife cheating on me why woudnt I beat her. U gotta know that the level of beating is different if the bruises of my beating doesn't go away within few days after beating then that amount of force is permissible but if it's harsh beating then the man would be held responsible for it as a sin as much as u feel that women are being harrased we can't beat them unless its the case of betraying the relationship and I can't beat her if it's just a minor disagreement. If she spent some extra money I can't beat her so it's better if u get know the entire concept and it's permissibility before talking about it. If I say that theres a word incest in English dictionary I don't say that western people are legalising incest right? Having a term for something which was either legal or illegal doesn't make it legal and there conditions in which illegal can become legal. In case of killing for a reason or with no reason is illegal while killing for self defense is legal so I hope u get the point
@@sabuninan5064 wrong place mate. Go and find what your looking for.
5 pillars of islam:
1. Pedophilia
2. Mut'ah marriage
3. Halala marriage
4. Adultbreastfeeding
5. Taqiyya
Mutual respect would be a perfect thing!
I went above and beyond to respect my husband for over ten years… that only made him more abusive and he degraded me… Imam AlShafi’i said in his book on relationships: If you give a person more than they are worth, they will treat you less than your worth in the same proportion.
قال الامام الشافعي رحمه الله: "ما اكرمت أحدًا فوق مقداره إلا اتّضع من قدري عنده بمقدار ما أكرمته به."
Certain people are unhappy with themselves, it may have nothing to do with the behavior of the other person.
الله أَعْلَم
Hey sister imam shafi is nothing Infront of Allah and prophet and is your husband is a practicing muslim or a muslim by name. I guess he is a western minded guy because it's impossible that a woman can't be able to change a man and the man she lived for for years. I was abusive and had a bad husband but her respectful behavior changed me and now we eat laugh together and all day we laugh and we laugh that much sometimes my mother says you both gona be mad and beed a mental hospital one day. We have that bond that she can tell what i want without speaking anything. Her calm and respectful attitude changed me totally she made me a good muslim also. Sister just look where is the problem really may be it is in you.
@@junaidhassan7091 Alhamdulillah, you were able to change. I am my husband’s second wife. His first wife ran away after being married to him for 7 years. She had two children from him and she left/asked for a divorce. I was his second marriage, he told me that his first wife was crazy and that is why the marriage failed… if you believe that every Muslim wife can change a man just by being good to him, then I guess Sayida Asia, May Allah be pleased with her, she should have tried harder with Firawn. There are Muslim men who have bad akhlaq and hypocrisy exists. And if a person is arrogant, then he becomes resistant to change. That is just a fact. That is why the Messenger, Peace and Blessings be upon him, mentioned two qualities one should seek in a husband, deen and khuluq. Because it is possible for one quality to be there without the other.
May Allah guide us to the best Iman and character.
@@ga5957Look at the level of Asia RA. She did not disrespect her husband. She was wise and even advised him. It did not affect her faith because she did everything for the sake of Allah.
I can relate to that. My husband became abusive the day after the marriage. I had to " earn my keep - monetary ", keep the house clean, keep the kids away from him and quiet. Do not speak unless spoken to.
Earn my keep meant pay ALL THE BILLS while his income went in the bank.
Prefer some of the Muslims ways. I had 2 friends who had arranged marriages. Their new husband did not expect sex from them until they were ready to do so physically and emotionally. I am aware this is not always the case as in " The Girl in the River "
This is a dangerous message
Hahaha respect your husband 😂😂
Disclaimer to this video:
Applies to normal relationships, where there is love but you might not understand each other, argue, call each other names, have recurrent conflicts around household and marital issues.
Does not apply to relationships where there is one-sided love or none at all and one spouse severely abuses the other one psychologically, physically or otherwise. If that’s the case: run. Respectfully.
no, it is obligatory to always respect the husband (very rare now a days). very false ur statement
@@Jj-zx8pbwrong...if he crosses islamic boundaries, you don't have to obey or respect him...
@@hhasnain782 1. it is the women who follow the daijal and are married to the government, so your claim is for the most part entirely theoretical 2. you still ought to respect him whilst disobeying any such hypothetical order, but can you even give an example where the poor men now a days ask you for something contradicting the verdict of the creator? cus as tortured as they are now-a-days they usually might even be able to invoke a suspension
@@Jj-zx8pb 1. generalizing women marrying government is wrong...all women can't be wrong and all man can't be wrong either so when i talk about women, i am talking about good practicing women
2. no a momina women can't obey a husband if he crosses islamic boundaries (means he hits her or tortures her mentally)...the reason why i am saying is that Quran prohibited to tolerate the mental or physical abuse in many many verses... and Quran prohibited the husband to use violence against women if she is not doing anything bad...
do you really think that obeying your husband is obligatory in every single situation?? even shirk which is the biggest sin is allowed if your life is in danger and someone forces you to do it...
islamic laws are not blind rules that don't allow the reasoning of situation...you can break laws if you are endangered... islam itself allowed it...simple
I am a Caucasian male from a western country that reverted to Islam and made Hijra to an Islamic country this year and within two months found what I couldn't is six years of searching in the west, a pious Muslim Sister to marry who wasn't only concerned with my finances.
Subhanallah Subhanallah 💔🙄😪
Your book left out the tenth plague of Egypt, while also denying the crucifixion and resurrection. It doesn't mention the tenth plague and the people being saved from it. You fell for being deceived by evil.
They were commanded to slaughter an unblemished lamb and put its blood on the doorposts.
Exodus 12:13 "And the blood shall be to you for a token upon the houses where ye are: and when I see the blood, I will pass over you, and the plague shall not be upon you to destroy you, when I smite the land of Egypt."
There was a passing over the houses, that's why it's called passover. They were saved from death.
Please debate CHRISTIAN PRINCE
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
@@skj4210 haha you a joke..jesus never said he was a god neither did he say he creatord anything jesus spoke aramaic in aramaic god means elahi,alah.and neither was his name jesus you christian fool
Respect is never unconditional.
So you've not received that. In the beginning of marriage i beat, insult, and disrespected my wife for our first year of marriage. but she remained calm and patient and then i realized that I was wrong and she was a queen we now laugh eat and spend our time together. If she had started disrespecting me also when i was wrong We had not been together anymore but her respect changed me and she with her respect and love changed me and took me toward my religion and i respect her and love her unconditionally. You can live with a prostitute but you can't live with a disrespectful person
@@junaidhassan7091 Seriously ??? It took you ten years ????
@@junaidhassan7091same I used to beat my husband for first 1 year but he never left me and accepted his fate as it was and finally we are now a very happy couple I don't feel like beating him anymore and only feel like giving him love ❤
Right
It is with your husband and you parents
Asking and commanding respect is a showing of self worth and their's nothing wrong with that. Unconditional respect makes you a doormat.
This is the typical western dumb fook idea.
Women desires unconditional love
Men desires unconditional respect.
The counter argument to your statement is.
"If you give unconditional love you will be used and abused.
It goes both ways.
Thats why it's stated in Quran and proven by science and phycology
Alhamdulillah!!! At least one person said what I was thinking.
Even if you are door mat and you patiently do what your relegion command you to do you are in a high place hear after..." Innallaha Ma'as sabireen"
@bink rn
The religion however does not teach that, I don't know the credentials of this lady in the video but most Islamic scholars I have heard do not teach what she is saying here, or atleast in the manner she is saying.
@@toobaaaapi and which scholars might that be? New age feminist ones or the original classical scholars?
if we are to get more harsh treatment then that person is getting more disrespect.. u cannot earn respect by mistreating someone
Divorced.
@@creativeminds5405 what do u mean?
@@donttalktome365days you marry wrong person, your husban must fill responsibilty for you in everything,if he not than devorce the right answer.
This is my rational answer
@@alminafirman5168 if anyone is answering that person should answer rationally,I appreciate that.
However , divorce isn't easy for every woman. Practically speaking, most of them don't have their own money if the husband kick them out of the house they have nothing to support themselves. And we dont live in an ideal world here father or brothers would rarely take responsibility of her. So divorce isn't easy for her.
So they just stay together and try to make each other's life hard. Toxic!
I was talking about in this context and I didn't marry any wrong or right person yet.
@@donttalktome365days yeah i know this is the big problem for housewife but, commontly in islan tradition the woman will come back to her family/parent.
This problem more harder for woman who convert to islam where some of them don't accept anymore in her family.
But good people still arround i think they can help her or ask to mosque find some imam if she was muslim maybe they can find a way for you to find job or maybe even new husban.
I want recomend you video jus search jeffrey lang explain how he become muslim.
I hope what i write here can help you.
Where there is respect, there is love !
😊
Alhamdulillah for Islam ❤
I think it's about having your own personal integrity despite what your spouse is doing. Love can help bring and keep people together but it can also blind people and keep them in a toxic relationship.
I think if you get to a point where you are no longer able to give unconditional respect to your spouse you either need to find a way to mend the relationship or sacrifice it rather than compromise your ability to maintain that respect. Respect for your husband or wife is the foundation of a relationship, without it, it is hollow and very fragile. And potentially very destructive.
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
@@skj4210 Matthew 26:52 is my favorite.
My grandparents were Christians and they married at a very young age and stayed married their whole life.
My grandfather died and my grandma said that Sheena waits to go see her husband again in heaven.
Grandma died quite a few years ago now
@@skj4210
"Fight in the cause of Allah ˹only˺ against those who wage war against you, but do not exceed the limits. Allah does not like transgressors." (Quran 2:190)
“Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword." (Matthew 10:34)
No partnership in Islam. Husbands have authority over wives and to treat them well as per Allah(ﷻ)'s commandments not as per current feminist mentality.
Respect where it’s due! Works both ways! We can’t respect men who abuse women, one off is a maybe but some men don’t stop and then you have to give them what they deserve. Noone should suffer
U hv to. That's what she is saying 😂😂
So how do you give them what they deserve? By insulting or beating them up? Islam teaches us to always be kind. I think this is a childish mindset to have.
@@SM-rf4vr You be kind to yourself and walk away. It’s simple as that! They deserve to not have you if they can’t be kind either. Nobody has to take abuse of any kind. Allah did not put anyone in a marriage to be kind and take crap and nor did he swt say beat them up to get your own revenge .Not a childish mindset at all!
@@patienceprayer4045 I agree with walking away but not saying they have to revenge. What if it's the woman disrespecting the man, what should he do in such situation?
@@SM-rf4vr If they can’t respect one another and have tried all avanues to fix the relationship then the only thing left is to walk away. Don’t get me wrong women can be toxic and abusers too. Anyone who is mentally physically feeling the strain in a marriage will not be healthy.
First time I disagree with her
And got surprised thT she delivered this speech
Respect needs to be earned
That works both ways with women too. Women are feminists these days and always want more and more and are just ungrateful. This is why most people in jahanam are women
Underrated comment
She lies and I am sure this woman got problems with her man all time. simple psychology; her pitch and intonation doesn't sound like she is honest with her statements
Nope u should think about this before saying Qubool
death is better than being married to a woman who thinks that respect would have to be earned. incredible repugnant. who are you to judge. everyone deserves respect, especially parents, and the husband even more
Respect for this woman, and love also❤
Respect for saying she needs advice for something she allready knew. Why?
If your husband is treating you badly you DO NOT respect him, this is not what the Dheen teaches. You seek help and council, amongst each other and externally if needed.
I think that's a big IF. Most of the time the husband is treating his wife well and that's the situation the sister is talking about.
SABAR AND TRUST ALLAH SWT IS THE FIRST THING ANYONE CAN DO IF GOING THOUGH THISS TYPE OF SITUATIONS. THIS IS OUR ISLAM . BE PATIENT IS THE ONLY THING AND I THINK YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT'S THE REWARD OF SABAR . AND SECOND THINGG TRUST ALLAH'S PLAN HE ALWAYS PLANS THE BEST FOR US AND TRUST HIM ,HIS PLAN. HOPE. SO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR ISLAM IS.♥️✨
@@ShoaibKhanZ it is a big IF but it doesn’t clarify that in the short so it confuses people and makes them angry. Not a good way of talking about such a delicate topic.
@@ahmedaliiiii2345 sabar if there is nothing could be done , but breaking an already broken marriage is a must sometimes, and they are many quotes from Quran to the prophet Mohammed pace be upon him when he struggled with his spouses and Allah told him We will replace you with better wives than yours, and when they hear those words from Allah they regret it and repent , Marriage is a blessing in this life but if it’s destroying the person there is something should be done
@@shoshyLovely GIVE YOUR ALL LIFE MATTERS TO ALLAH SWT . WHAT ALLAH PLAN FOR USS IS BETTER THAN WHAT WE PLAN FOR USS . SOO TRUST HIM IN ANY SITUATION YOU AREE. HOPE SOO U UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT . WHEN THE DRIVER OF OUR BUS IS ALLAH SWT THEN WHY DO YOU FEAR ABOUT ANYTHING HAPPENS IN UR LIFE . THAT'S WHAT TRUST IS ✨
I understand the reason why this is important.
My problem is just that I need to learn the difference between respect and fear because right now, all I do is fear the consequences he sets me in case I do something wrong and I'm pretty sure that's not the same.
I give unconditional love to my man and I want the same back, not only consequences and punishments. That's why I didn't let go of the attitude mentioned in the video yet. I want my man to know he has to behave too but i'm too scared to put consequences for him because then he says that's disrespectful.
I guess it's a long journey and we both have a lot to learn
That’s the whole problem…it’s one way respect which means the husband is being toxic…may Allah bless our marriages and offspring ameen
story of my life...fearful submission...no happiness just trudging along...now after 26 years , there's a its a friendly compromise with very little strings attached
@@artsybluecat And his pedophile son...
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Assalaams. I love this woman. She touches my heart. ALLAHUAKBAR
Respect each other
No partnership in Islam. Husbands have authority over wives and to treat them well as per Allah(ﷻ)'s commandments not as per current feminist mentality.
Or don't
My Jannah ❤️
Ammin Yarab 🤲🏼
Very needed video. I found many women who disrespect their husbands. If you can't respect husband your love is void.
I'm Muslim and do not agree with this. Woman does not have to give unconditional respect to man if he treats her badly. That's culture not the religion. But Islam came for ALL people, not to accommodate one type of culture.
Ameen
This is not true dear sister. Obedience and respect has been specifically COMMANDED to us by Allah, and nowhere does it say that it needs to be conditional. There is no mention in the Quran where Allah instructs Husbands to obey their wives, but only verses which command them to treat us fairly. The Men are in charge of us. We are not in charge of them. They are allowed to discipline us. Why is Hell mostly going to be filled with women? Because shaytan will lead us into disobeying and disrespecting our Husbands! May Allah forgive our sins and lead us towards submission to our Husbands and keep us away from punishment in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen.
@@MrsAmirah that is true girl… what? if someone is treating you badly, you stay and respect them? NO! you leave with peace but you dont constantly stay and respect someone who doesn’t respect you as a human being, your husband isn’t your father
@@MrsAmirah Firstly Jannah and Jahnnam in both the places women are filled and are more than men... Coz Allah has created number of women more than number of man, these days malauvies are using the half of hadeth out of context and telling us... Please go and read Hadeeth and Qur'an by yourself.
Secondly Alllah and our nabi ((Saw) has ordered us to respect husband because they do hard work to feed us, to raise our children, expenses of wife and family are more than to go to prostitute but still men prefer to be with his wife. But those men who don't fullfill their duties, and still want themselves to be respected, is something we have to think about it. But still as a human we must respect each other, and do not misbehave. Those man who women beater, they must not be respected and also women must leave him.
@@MrsAmirah Firstly Jannah and Jahnnam in both the places women are filled and are more than men... Coz Allah has created number of women more than number of man, these days malauvies are using the half of hadeth out of context and telling us... Please go and read Hadeeth and Qur'an by yourself.
Secondly Alllah and our nabi ((Saw) has ordered us to respect husband because they do hard work to feed us, to raise our children, expenses of wife and family are more than to go to prostitute but still men prefer to be with his wife. But those men who don't fullfill their duties, and still want themselves to be respected, is something we have to think about it. But still as a human we must respect each other, and do not misbehave. Those man who women beater, they must not be respected and also women must leave him.
Thirdly Islam has not come to accomodate any gender, it's the religion who has told us not to hurry your daughters alive, not sell and purchase women, pay respect to women, Give them right in the property, Islam was only religion who gave the permission to do business, while in other world like in west people were busy in witch hunting and in East people were busy in setting fire to women in the name of Sati.
So don't think that women are not to be respected, yes we must respect to our husband but not unconditionally.
Allah never said to respect your husband unconditionally, that's why Allah and the paigambar (saw) gave the women the right of khulla, if your husband is not treating you well and not doing justice with you you have all the right to be separate with him, if a woman respects her husband unconditionally, she can never ask for Khulla in ill treatment.
You delivered this topic poorly.. a woman doesn’t have to respect an abuser. Both spouses should respect each other from the start for a healthy and loving relationship.
Listen to the Hadith not your own hadith
@@ummsumayyah1096 “unconditional respect “ covers abusers too!
@@ummsumayyah1096 she said”even if he treats you bad” that’s abuse.
@@ummsumayyah1096 You have your opinion and I have mine.
I was responding to the author not you. I’m not sure why you got triggered.
What if the wife is the abuser?
The same Prophet pbuh said the best place for women is their homes...
Food for thought 😁
Respect Allah swt FIRST.
All will fall into place....for everyone In'sha'Allah.
So right, if you don't respect one another than its going to get worse. That's 100% guaranteed. Communication is key but I've been in this situation and I know like everyone else that communication is key. Anything bothers you, you tell them, don't hold it in. But what happens when you try to tell them dozens of time, time after time and they are not listening, they get up and all of a sudden it's an emergency for them to do something each time. So you cannot communicate with this person. If you have someone who listens than you have truly a gift.
Love is not enough in a marriage
Finally someone tells it how it is, It’s always been that way until recent times
Only in your head then...
@@beataslupecka1177And bark like a dog... on comand...
I have to admit that I love you in islam.
"If you're treating me bad l'm not going to respect you, now, that's the problem right there"
I don't see any problem.
If my husband treats me badly he will not get respect from me ☹️
Respect works both ways. But obeying. Not sure what you mean by that.
All my female families members were taught to have unconditional respect to the decree they suffered mentally emotionally some even violence from the male relatives
They’re were brainwashed to believe if the don’t obey and learn how and serve there fathers brothers uncles give unconditional respect
They will suffer at the hands of their husbands and in laws
blackmail at its finest
Doesn’t even make sense and where does it say obey your husband if he’s disrespectful to you..Islam says give kind treatment to your spouse especially the women
@@artsybluecat if you dont know than look it up. The Qur'an and sunnah is clear in the respect part. Of course, all the feminist and western influenced, emotion driven people will disagree because Allah is not supreme for them. There are multiple rules that come into play respectively for the relationship. Unconditional respect is for a healthy relationship.
Then you can't make a judgement that everyone is like this, there are over 7.8 billion people in this world, don't judge everyone based on your own experience.
@@aminulhussain2751 my female relatives, not 8 billion people cultural oppression
@@piqueny8872 Read my comment and understand before posting any replies.
Beautifully said
Men don't need love but respect. Yes women do need love, and so men's heart is filled with it.
I think respect has to do with both partners respecting one another and not only one person sis
How will you feel if you give out respect to your spouse and it’s not being reciprocal unto you 😢 that will hurt you .salam
No partnership in Islam. Husbands have authority over wives and to treat them well as per Allah(ﷻ)'s commandments not as per current feminist mentality.
Sorry but u didn’t use u 🧠 in this video of course in both man and woman
needed to hear this
Very Well-said 👍🌹
People should respect one another generally. Gender shouldn't come into it. Mutual respect is necessary for successful marriage. It's hard to believe that Yasmin doesn't know or understand this.
The way she represented Islam here, is extremely poor, my she learn to do her homework completly on the issue before speaking, especially on the internet, thus is not what was meant, not!, perhaps she needs to practice /study much better and certainly seek the guidance of ALLAH in worship before speaking
There is an extra degree of respect that the wife has to give to the husband because he has been given the *responsibility* of leading the household. Think of a leader and his followers - the leader of course has to respect his followers too but there is an extra degree of respect for that leader. As a woman I don’t find anything wrong with that. But hopefully every husband will also treat this responsibility very seriously and care for those under his leadership, if he doesn’t then he will have to answer to Allah SWT
You ain't get this one here. Women have no problem of giving UNCONDITIONAL love. But they do have a problem with giving unconditional respect.That is why they give it under the CONDITION of being ,,treated well".
It's harsh but men don't need love. They need to be respected. They want to be respected just because of the fact that they are the husbands. Not because they did something good or ,,treated her well in the past". Doing those things is part of their job. They don't want to gain respect for that. Respect should be immanent; just like an axciom.
On the other hand men struggle with giving unconditional love. The chance of receiving love or the love itself decreases for a woman when she does things her husband don't like.
So in short, men struggle with giving unconditional love and women struggle with giving unconditional respect although those are the elements both need desperately from their counterpart.
It's kinda bizarre but logical.
@@clearpath8794 what if the women is working too
@@dunstonmartina1234 y’all just out here criticizing a clip watch the whole video and see where is going . These modern days some woman think just cause they make more than the husband or husband doesn’t agree with the extreme liberal lifestyle . Or the way they talk to the man in front of people is very disturbing. That’s why kevin Samuel brought to the mass cause all this we are the same is nonsense we are not the same a man is a man and a woman is a women respect should go both ways but seem some woman don’t like to be respectful they take it a weakness
I think it should go both the way . I respect you you respect me. No if no but. You gotta earn it. You treat me shit you simply don't deserve any goodness from me.
Do you research before barking.
In Quran it says love your wife unconditionally and respect your husband unconditionally.
Thats because "women seek love and men seek respect".
@@franciselson who u referring to ?
@@franciselson no , I’m a woman and I personally want respect. You telling women to stop barking when they’re making it clear they want respect is funny to me, are you intentionally being delusional or what ??? Women deserves respect cause they are humans, even Allah respect all humans (men and women), literally fuck off.
Love is not enough for us women, you can love us and still be toxic cause you have unresolved traumas, we need respect, we don’t need to get traumatized by our husband...we are emotional creatures and we deserve respect like emotional spiritual physical care !!! If you have human decency you will respect us, point blank.
@@mariamimi8497 first of all i am not a Muslim.
Second, i am not a idiot born to a comfortable life.
For your kind information lady , 1500 years ago the average lifespan of people were 20-30 years .
Mary was married to Joseph when she was 12 ( mother of Jesus)
Now with your privileged ass when you look back , 9 years may seem horrific. But at that time it was normal
No one said that women don't want respect.
No one said men don't want love
The ratio of those things required is different.
This is proved in the phycologically community for 3 decades now.
@@mariamimi8497 do you even know who that 9 year old is
You are 1000% correct system the wives don't know anything about respecting their husbands all they do is yell scream and flip out Where's the respect
peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Beloved prophet
what?
Abusers escalate the abuse when no one stands up to them. Respect people who “treat you bad?” Where in the quran does it say that?
Very true
Likewise, the husbands need to earn respect and respect his wife. Harsh treatment should not be an option at all.
اللهم صل وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد عليه افضل الصلاه والسلام ❤❤❤❤
Absolutely
respect is mutual
Somethimes it is sometimes it is not, what is your point?
For all the guys commenting about not respecting abusive husbands... Focus on the hadith n follow the hadith , if u have a opinion contrary to it , check ur iman .
لا اله الا الله ❤
Wallahi she’s a gem ❤
Respect and love both comes naturally not by force
wow wow wow what an inseid wow keep teaching
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
الله يرضى عليك ويسعدك يارب العالمين اللهم امين يارب
As a woman I also want respect
💯 God created man and woman equal. No one is higher than the other. Both are to love and respect each other equally.
@@salmaipeai558nah big bangs small
@@salmaipeai558 My bro the quran literally says وليس الذكر كالأنثى (3:36)
Missing her point completely Alhamdulillah
@@mubeenreminders7220Equal in worth does not mean they have to be the same.
MashaAllah very well said
I invite everyone to listen holy Quran & Islamic speech from the India🇮🇳❤😊😅😮😮
Bismillah
Do our best to respect
and love our spouse unconditionally...
Of course we do,, but you are never to respect abuse never,, you are the Slave of ALLAH, not the punishing bag of a bad Husband, ALLAH the most high, powerful, beautiful, mercyful, loving, just, would never exept such an injust act,, the problem I have here is, this Sister acted /spoke in great (I am sorry to say) ignorance,, she spoke in haste, did not study, and /or represent Islam concering Women (the Slaves of ALLAH) very well, not at all,, it would be wise for her, before speaking on SOCIAL MEDIA, to educate herself
Your words sounds fantastic 👌 in secular countries.
Do you know and feel the condition of women in IRAN OR AFGHANISTAN???
NAUSUBILLAH.
Same can be said about India. This is not confined to certain countries but an aspect of male patriarchy
@@afreenkhan1470 is there any law like that about women clothing in India ??
Your general information is very weak !!
@@DEB2328 - Its not about clothing. Thousands of women get raped, beaten by their husbands etc. Where is the respect for women in India?
Wise words
Respect comes naturally too, when the person deserves it. But the problem here is that as muslim women , we dont have to decide if he deserves or not. We have no options here. The only option we have is to respect him for the sake of Allah.
And she has the guts to say this nonsense with a smile on her face. Kudos to you to promote domestic abuse. Respect must be mutual.
If he is worthy of respect then she will respect him. If he is a bad husband then don't obey him. But if he provides and protects you then you should respect him that comes with obeying him. That's what marriage was in history only now in the west because of feminism and one night stands family's are broken in the west and woman are nkt traditional or man also because there brainwashed sadly. Woman should obey there husband's if he does his part you do yours obey him be loyal simple
Well said.
You got domestic abuse from that 😂 when she's talking about respect. Maybe don't get married if you can't tell the difference, you will not know what you are arguing about with your husband. 😂
@aron2015 Married to my husband for 6 years. There is mutual respect, which has to be conditional from both sides. Come on, it's not that hard to grasp.
Wow?! That’s so well said !
Jazakallah Inshalla we learn more from this video
Hopefully every Muslim women have the same thought sister
You are not a religious person YOU ARE A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER
If your husband is bad to you you don't have to respect him or do what he demands. A good leader serves. We aren't slaves
Ameen.
This is not true dear sister. Obedience and respect has been specifically COMMANDED to us by Allah, and nowhere does it say that it needs to be conditional. There is no mention in the Quran where Allah instructs Husbands to obey their wives, but only verses which command them to treat us fairly. The Men are in charge of us. We are not in charge of them. They are allowed to discipline us. Why is Hell mostly going to be filled with women? Because shaytan will lead us into disobeying and disrespecting our Husbands! May Allah forgive our sins and lead us towards submission to our Husbands and keep us away from punishment in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen.
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
@@MrsAmirah may Allah guide you..
@@skj4210 out of context
She understands the worth and respect of islam
It’s called equality .. goes both way
The whole thing is a horror! The man s harshess is a knee jerk reaction? So like his knee in your eye socket its ok?😂 well i have hitting with a frying pan reaction! I have been married since 2003 and been with him since 98 he never complained about being disrespected! It is a mutual thing that came naturally!
Salaam beautiful said
Masha’Allah
WESTERN MODERN WOMEN NEED TO LIVE BY THIS
whahahahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahhahahaha
Western men need to be raising their daughters better.
in Islam husband must be respected and served really well no matter how jerk he is. my goodness
A dear friend once said to me…”if you don’t feel these towards me, then I must have done my job badly. I didn’t fulfill my role as I should for you.”
Those words changed everything. 🌿
Finally someone ❤
Jazak Allah khayr
But what do we do when the husband doesn't give respect after respecting him.
In islam WIFE CANNOT DO ANYTHING.....
No partnership in Islam. Husbands have authority over wives and to treat them well as per Allah(ﷻ)'s commandments not as per current feminist mentality.
@@AKM145 so if a man puts you in a hospital after beating you to a pulp, you’re still suppose to respect him? Even if you have a male doctor that is recommending you resources to help you leave him? Just asking for future reference.
@@phyliciajohnson6139 we can go into whataboutery and other things but the truth is a wife has to obey her husband as per the commandments of Allah(ﷻ) and his beloved Prophet Mohammed ﷺ . End of period.
Then we can discuss further like what if there is an earthquake, or what if her husband is deaf etc . There are always other situations and solutions but main important but is a disobedient wife doesn't see the paradise as per Allah(ﷻ) and his beloved Prophet Mohammed ﷺ.
@@phyliciajohnson6139that is a whole different category all together and the answer is obvious but incase I'm wrong, you should TH-cam it, and find a video on it.
First of all this is a short vedio...what she meant is learn something that u don't know or u don't have naturally and implement it where ever it's needed...some people out here are talking so dumb who told u to respect someone who abuse u again n again I mean u won't loose a life if u would take first step and lemme be very clear men are also told to do the same of talking first step ...maybe one of them will be sensible
Secondly why u have to concern every women topic to man?... respect can be given to anyone come on...
Roles are set in stone. Just like men having to be providers and protectors of their family, women are guardians of the house and obedient towards their spouse. Otherwise it leads to disaster like divorce, one person fulfilling their duties whereas the other isn’t. The west has got it twisted, they adopt the idea of freedom for women but still require a traditional man, but that’s just a fairytale. Logically I wouldn’t want to be someone who isn’t fulfilling their duties and responsibilities if I am.
Let’s not bend and mend the religion to suit the either the women or man’s narrative please regardless of how tough it can be because it is for both but that’s sacrifice
That moment when the speaker changed commands to advise.
Beautiful. ❤
So you are basically saying keep respecting your husband that is being mean and abusive to you. If you dont your gonna keep suffering with the same treatment (knee jerk reaction). Thts messed up. Im muslim. I do not agree with this.
The problem with this is that it is a short video and we don't know if she addresses any of those issues in the full lecture. This is why I find these short videos very annoying. People edit the videos to sound how they want it to sound rather than a wholesome video. Short videos are only useful for things that can actually be explained clearly in the minute that it is allowed.
@@naimac2744 she clearly stated if he treats you badly to continue showing respect. That's wrong. Imagine women who want to learn about Islam and our beloved Prophet (pbuh) who never treated a woman badly, ever. And would not endorse a man treating a woman badly and clicking on this to learn about Islam and then hearing her say just take abuse and stay respectful. I heard once a woman went to the Prophet(pbuh) and complained her husband said to her 'i think of you as my mother' (meaning he did not find her attractive anymore) - and the Prophet(pbuh) called the woman's husband and said you must fast for 40days for insulting her. Our beloved Prophet (pbuh) did not say to the woman just keep showing respect and sit there and take it. I could be wrong about that story, just came across it during some research but haven't checked its source 100%. But the point I'm making is Islam would never allow a woman (the school of the next generation of the Ummah of Prophet Muhammed(pbuh) be abuse and spoken to badly to feed a man's ego, when there are MUCH more important things a Muslim woman's life is about.
@@naimac2744 yeah i agree. But at the end of the day, she said what she said in plain sight. You know, it seems hard to justify that. Maybe after it, she said you can get a divorce but she has said you have to accept it and give respect while being treated badly by your husband. And this isnt the first scholar ive heard say this. I really wasnt expecting her to say it. Idk why but i wasnt.
This is not true dear sister. Obedience and respect has been specifically COMMANDED to us by Allah, and nowhere does it say that it needs to be conditional. There is no mention in the Quran where Allah instructs Husbands to obey their wives, but only verses which command them to treat us fairly. The Men are in charge of us. We are not in charge of them. They are allowed to discipline us. Why is Hell mostly going to be filled with women? Because shaytan will lead us into disobeying and disrespecting our Husbands! May Allah forgive our sins and lead us towards submission to our Husbands and keep us away from punishment in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen.
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
Assalamu'alaikum sister, yes.. Respect each other.. Masya Allah
Everyone
Shes talking about the general scenario of a normal marriage
Exceptions of abusive relationships is a completely different topic
لا تنسون لا يحب على الا مومن ولا يبغضه الا منافق.
Respect works both ways people.
No partnership in Islam. Husbands have authority over wives and to treat them well as per Allah(ﷻ)'s commandments not as per current feminist mentality.
@@AKM145 what's that got to do with respect and manners.
@@nuhabashir1672 authority deserves respect and obedience which in turn gives care, love and support.
@A M authority needs to show their responsibility first to get that love and care.
@@nuhabashir1672 yes basic responsibility to provide, protect and support.
We need more ladies like you in this world. ❤
finally found a comment praising her
Yesss we do need !
What you saying is absolutely right and in my opinion the biggest test Allah has kept for a woman is respecting her husband.
Prophet S.A.W has said that he sees mostly women in hell becoz they are thankless and disrespectful to their husbands. They don’t acknowledge the favors and sacrifices of their husbands.
It has to go both ways respect your wife and respect your husband.
no one in the comments is understanding her point. Both men and women have to respect each other, however if you’re being mistreated what Islam advises is you simply try to work it out or leave. No where will you find disrespect acceptable only through a condition. This isn’t what Islam teaches us. You be kind, do your part and the other person will reap whatever they’ve sown, as nothing goes unnoticed in the eyes of Allah. If Allah tests you with hardships will you rebel? If your parents treat you unfairly is that a free-pass to unload your stress on them?
Make it make sense. Respect surely is earned but certain people of such high stature in your life provided to you by your Lord deserve nothing but unconditional respect.
Where is the “respect” to the woman from a husband??? That’s the real question. Give respect and take respect! I need that respect and obedience from him! Also it’s horrible how people being brainwashed by these sexist books written by men. Created by men. Then brainwashed the woman now the society is stuck. As a woman , I should be leading my family! It’s very disrespectful to say a man is a head of the household. I am capable of being that breadwinner or in taking care of my family financially. If I’m the best fit , so be it. Don’t say a man is supposed to do this or do that. Don’t . Also a woman isn’t a subordinate or submissive person. This is even more disgusting and disturbing that people are being brainwashed like this… a partnership should be equal.
I agree
Statistically speaking, children raised into single moms households tends to turn to crime and delinquincy while children raised in singl
e dads household tends to do better at school and life in general zs much as children that were raised into a households with both parents.
Go ahead with your belief that women can lead just as good as men but matriachal societies doesn't exist in this world for a reason, they are a failing societal system.
Women have their own role in society and it's to raise the future generations while not being burdened by other chronopahe tasks such as providing. Im assuming you are from a Western country, so just look at the shape of your country on a social scale and see for yourself what this whole crappy "women empowerment" movement lead you to; social unstability, rise of suicide and general depression, divorces, children out of wedlock wich 85% turn into criminals...etc and i can still go on for hours explaining why the West is bond to get destroyed in the 50 to 80 years coming. All that because you people don't wanna stick to your gender roles and God's laws.
@@roxasdragnel2278 my comment never talked about single moms. Do you know there are single dads too. I was saying men should also be taking wife’s surnames . Everyone needs respect. Here when they are talking about “respect” , it’s obedience . No gender autonomy gives someone an authority over someone else. If you want that type of control relationship. Accept woman being head and a man subordinate partner too. You know what is wrong, morally is patriarchy. Patriarchal societies have crime, rape, homophobia, racism. Matriarch tend to be peaceful. Anything that is being taught men are superior and female is inferior is morally wrong. Both are born without any biases. Biases and sexism itself is made up of people. Also. Talking about single mom , automatically saying that a male is a head. You need to get rid of that notion.
@@roxasdragnel2278 if you belief single dads are better. Then why can’t let give take care of the children to the dad in two set of household. it’s not woman’s role to take care of the kids nor a man’s job to be breadwinner), roles are made up. Woman leads , men follow, she breadwinner and a stay at home dad. Also you just made bunch of non sense up about single moms.
@@marshmallowsmars Your comment talked about women being able to lead just like men and my comment about single moms showed you how statisticly women CANNOT lead like men. (I even talked about single dads but seems like you didn't even read my answer, you just felt attacked and wanted to answer as quickly as possible).
To this day we don't have any tangible datas about the way a matriarchal society works so im rather curious on how you made the conlusion that they are more "peaceful" than patriarchy, please provide the link to your study (i would gladly send you the link to my studies if you wish too).
Last but not least, i was born and raised in a very patriachal society and in a very patriacharl family and never was i taugh that my mother is less important than my father or that my father is superior than my mother. If anything it was actualy the opposite because in Islam mothers have a higher place then fathers when it comes to the responsibility towars the parents.
So again, men and women have different roles in society and both complet each other but leading isn't and will never be a woman's role nor will a woman sucessful lead a country or a family. That a statistical fact. (I just remembered an article i've read about Queens that lead in England, and their time on the throne was one of the unpeaceful and blood driven gorvernance, do try again with your arguments about matriarchal being more "peaceful")
You made a Freudian slip, you said Commands and then hurriedly changed it to advises...you were right the first time...
MashaAllah! If we had more women thinking like her, the world would be a better place. There wouldn't be a lot of divorces going on, and unnecessary disputes and fights in the family... And Allah would give barakah to those families... Respect is the key!
So what about the men that continue to disrespect, stay in marriages and continues to perpetuate poor behavior and teach our kids the same dysfunction? 👀 it really is a one way street with some people 😂
And what are the men advised to do .beat their women get new partners every three years..no consideration of the feelings of the wife..
The world would be a better place for men . Divorce is the best solution for bad and arrogant ppl . If a man give respect to his wife the wife will respect him 100 times more. But bad men don't deserve to be respect.
Respect is mutual.
Completely disagree.
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
@@skj4210 Please do NOT invent words that are NOT in the Quran. There's no such surah called 'Allah' . These words are not in the Quran. There is no scholar called 'Mohamed ibn Ishaq. No muslim scholar said these words you just invented.
Write only something you know.
I 100% agree on respect. Girl's respect your freaken husbands. If your husband is bad and you want a divorce just leave the divorce paper under his bed and run off to your parents house.
Do not try to fight him. Never disrespect him. Men are way too freaken strong one angry punch and your jaw comes right off.
Don't look at men fighting on tv and thing "It's not gonna hurt that much the other guy just stood up and fought back" noooo. Their bone density is much more than ours. The normal punches they shake off can break our skull.
Sailor...you're joking right by extending her logic to reveal its ridiculous conclusion.
*******%%"I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them."
"Allah"(Quran 8:12)
"Fight everyone in the way of Allah and kill those who disbelieve in Allah." Muhammad (Ibn Ishaq 992)
"Love your neighbor and pray for those who persecute you." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 5:44)
"Love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus (Bible, Mark 12:31)
"He who lives by the sword will die by the sword." Jesus (Bible, Matthew 26:52)*******%%
So nice, words you're talking, very amazing, very interesting & understanding your words. May Almighty Allah blesses you & grant you & your family in jannathul Firdous! Also me & my family.
I’m not Muslim. I’m a Christian. I don't agree with many practices of Islam but I do agree with her message. 👍 Most of my sisters are neither Christians nor Muslims and they also agree with her. I feel like this is lacking in modern women.
Just as Andrew tate said that "between love and respect, I would choose respect"
I gave this example because you might think that the man should earn the respect but, believe me sisters and brothers (though the brothers already know), respecting the man is seriously important as he works hard and dodges haraam stuff and all that and he expects serious respect and attention from the SPOUSE, ESPECIALLY AND NOT BE IGNORED BECAUSE THE HUSBAND/WIFE IS BUSY IN PHONE.
respecting a woman( wife)is also seriously important. but this part is not spoken
This lady, is a great advocate for women, and teaching the correct approach to relationships. I like her message
Its a disgusting 😒
Why can't you say its a mutual respect
Respect should provided equally 😔😔
There is no rights to treat women inferior
By seeing these things I feel so sad women is speaking about this dis agreeable one
Why?
Its about a culture right 😡
Who introduced culture its a man
And those days womens are considered as slaves
After independence its continuing by saying it as culture
Even my mom says its an acceptable one😒😔😔😔
I totally disagree😔😔
Who agree my words?
This is not true dear sister. Obedience and respect has been specifically COMMANDED to us by Allah, and nowhere does it say that it needs to be conditional. There is no mention in the Quran where Allah instructs Husbands to obey their wives, but only verses which command them to treat us fairly. The Men are in charge of us. We are not in charge of them. They are allowed to discipline us. Why is Hell mostly going to be filled with women? Because shaytan will lead us into disobeying and disrespecting our Husbands! May Allah forgive our sins and lead us towards submission to our Husbands and keep us away from punishment in this life and the Hereafter. Ameen.