Netflix's Worst Dumpster Fire Dating Show

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  • @shintopig
    @shintopig ปีที่แล้ว +3131

    Fun fact: the reason these actors have opaque/metal glasses during the group-talk scenes is so the editors can splice footage out of order and not have the audience clued in based on the drink-levels being off.

    • @candycane2710
      @candycane2710 ปีที่แล้ว +463

      What’s hilarious is I remember a scene where the girl’s steak was appearing and reappearing on her plate. But thank god they had gold wine glasses! 😂

    • @tuffy135ify
      @tuffy135ify 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

      I think it was the blind date show version where they couldn't control the glasses, and you saw the glasses magically refill.

    • @danopticon
      @danopticon 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

      That’s awesome about the glasses. I worked on a reality t.v. show, back when they were first catching on, so during production I had no idea how deceptive they could be … and then, when I actually watched the show as it aired, I saw *all the exterior footage we had shot around various Chicago neighborhoods,* for one leg of the show’s auditions, being recycled *over and over again* and presented to the audience as *the exteriors of the Seattle, Wisconsin, Portland, and a few other cities’ auditions,* just because the production crews for those other legs of the auditions had either not shot any b-roll or had shot inadequate b-roll. So if you ever watch an early 2000s show called _Are You Hot? The Search for America’s Sexiest People_ (hosted by Lorenzo Lamas), just know that nearly every exterior shot of every audition nationwide was actually shot around Chicago, but then presented as “Oh, here’s Seattle, and now here’s Portland,” those lazy @#$%&! producers…

    • @mikatu
      @mikatu 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes, because you are not allowed to drink some and then refill it.... God forbid!

    • @portobeIIa
      @portobeIIa 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      @@mikatu well, you are, but if it is to be believed that the conversation we are shown is an entire conversation happening in order, jesus chirst these people getting like 5 refills in a 2 minute conversation LOL

  • @gracefulspork
    @gracefulspork 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3811

    This show feels like the TV equivalent of rambling on in an essay to hit the word count.

    • @russonauta
      @russonauta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      This show feels like the TV equivalent of ripping out your own eyeballs by hand

    • @NakaharaChuuya_SKK
      @NakaharaChuuya_SKK 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      ⁠@@russonauta the professor ripping their eyes out from the essay that rambles on and on to hit to word count

  • @levi1929
    @levi1929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3243

    Dude called Colby "Big Cheese" because colby is a type of cheese, I think. Honestly, I felt him, because my wife is always leaving me for dairy products.

    • @chudsterbudster2549
      @chudsterbudster2549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      So why did my dad say he was gonna go get milk in 1907??

    • @woah4167
      @woah4167 2 ปีที่แล้ว +144

      "big cheese" is also a phrase meaning a person who's important and full of themself

    • @bushdenae
      @bushdenae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@woah4167 from what decade?! Or maybe it’s regional 🤔

    • @Guimhj
      @Guimhj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      is she lactose intolerant? maybe she's just protecting you from the farts

    • @tatiana4050
      @tatiana4050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@Guimhj I think she sneaks out at night to binge on blue Stilton.

  • @senselesslibraa
    @senselesslibraa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3807

    i think the most infuriating thing about this show is that all of this could've been avoided if they just broke up

    • @blahblahblahEMILY
      @blahblahblahEMILY 2 ปีที่แล้ว +137

      Or went to therapy

    • @moisesmartinezmorales5885
      @moisesmartinezmorales5885 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      ​@@blahblahblahEMILY I don't think therapy would of help by this point

    • @marnenotmarnie259
      @marnenotmarnie259 2 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      @@moisesmartinezmorales5885 breakup + therapy

    • @CarlosGordo97
      @CarlosGordo97 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      People are too quick to jump onto another boat the moment their boat has any issues. It's dumb. Nothing will ever be yours to keep that way.

    • @maxkemp5285
      @maxkemp5285 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@marnenotmarnie259 + ratio

  • @maidenchynna2725
    @maidenchynna2725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +726

    I absolutely can NOT stand it when people don't agree on having or not having kids, and yet get married anyway. DON'T DO THAT

    • @iamsongforsomeone994
      @iamsongforsomeone994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Literally makes or breaks a relationship and is a non negotiable for most people.

    • @sharkbelly1169
      @sharkbelly1169 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@iamsongforsomeone994to say nothing of how wretched it is to have a parent who didn’t want you.

    • @amec5360
      @amec5360 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      SAMEEE. I do not want kids and my family was always like "what if your future boyfriend wants kids?" and I just couldn't get them to understand that my ideal type is someone who shares that decision with me, meaning that I would NEVER date someone who wants to do something totally different with their life than me.

  • @bredbox3816
    @bredbox3816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4552

    You made Colby look wayyyyyyy too good. That guy is super manipulative the whole show

    • @mallybally89
      @mallybally89 2 ปีที่แล้ว +319

      Agreed, I remember thinking him and Madison deserved each other

    • @princessp888
      @princessp888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +193

      100% agree he is such a red flag and madison was aware of it from the beginning

    • @meizumi
      @meizumi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      i knooow right?? that guy is terrible

    • @blaireprince3709
      @blaireprince3709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      yeah he’s awful i feel like she was way too nice to him and zay

    • @cocolime6496
      @cocolime6496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +226

      he's one of those guys that sells himself on being super sensitive and romantic and maybe even free-spirited or artistic, but then you realise he's full of shit. and manipulative of course

  • @alyssarae1788
    @alyssarae1788 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1665

    Additional comment- Madelyn was 7 months pregnant in the reunion. The V last episode was filmed 6 months ago. Colby’s insta-wedding was a shotgun wedding 😂

    • @leahdavis9434
      @leahdavis9434 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Additional comment, this isn't true, there was a two month gap between the reunion and the last episode

    • @alyssarae1788
      @alyssarae1788 2 ปีที่แล้ว +172

      @@leahdavis9434 in the reunion episode, they make several comments about leaving set “six months ago” and what the last “six months” has been like since filming. I’m not sure where you got 2 months

    • @leahdavis9434
      @leahdavis9434 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@alyssarae1788 From their written statements after the episode came out

    • @hbk2377
      @hbk2377 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      How would Madlyn become 7 months pregnant in 2 months? It was 6 months

  • @TheEagleEnigma
    @TheEagleEnigma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1868

    i didn’t see this show but the alexis thing is mind blowing. tell me nobody told you no growing up without telling me nobody told you no growing up

    • @alexakelley2353
      @alexakelley2353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      not to mention that when she and colby talk for literally the first time she keeps talking about money the entire time (from what we see) and how she doesn’t wanna be “comfortable” she wants to be “good” in terms of money (which idk what that means to her)

    • @alexakelley2353
      @alexakelley2353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      and then privately she tells the camera that she would leave hunter if he didn’t make enough money

    • @chickenfoot2423
      @chickenfoot2423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      i feel like everyone ive seen talking about her interactions also weirdly minimise just how entitled she is- its not a funny-spoilt-girl moment, she seems genuinely nasty

    • @bananabrain2996
      @bananabrain2996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      @@chickenfoot2423 fr, ignoring consent and trying to pressure someone into a relationship is no joke. This stuff is often minimized and I hate it, I've been on the over end of it a few times and it's genuinely pretty scary and stressful

    • @bigbearkat2010
      @bigbearkat2010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      @@chickenfoot2423 can't disagree. She's giving me real "ex-bf had to take out a restraining order against after she keyed his car" vibes

  • @jonnyreinhardt1961
    @jonnyreinhardt1961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1942

    You hating so much on Madlyn (who deserves it) you missing Colby's constant gaslighting.

    • @pixiestxNyomouf
      @pixiestxNyomouf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +301

      In the psychology world, we call it "overshadowing" and this is the most EXTREME case of that I've ever seen. Also. Alexis didn't make it any better cause she was entitled and a bit bitter

    • @jonnyreinhardt1961
      @jonnyreinhardt1961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@pixiestxNyomouf Thanks for correction.

    • @pixiestxNyomouf
      @pixiestxNyomouf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      @@jonnyreinhardt1961 I was trying to be funny, hope it didn't come off as "snobby" or anything. If so, I'm sorry 😞 😁

    • @jonnyreinhardt1961
      @jonnyreinhardt1961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      @@pixiestxNyomouf no no no, I didn’t read it as snobby. I thought I was just wrong on my terminology

    • @pixiestxNyomouf
      @pixiestxNyomouf 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@jonnyreinhardt1961 not a correction at all, just wanted to add to it. You were 100% right 😁

  • @BistrosHouse
    @BistrosHouse ปีที่แล้ว +350

    It’s wild how Colby went from cute and seemingly rational to insanely controlling but the end. What a character progression

  • @maxrona137
    @maxrona137 2 ปีที่แล้ว +593

    No joke, 2 years ago I pitched “Love it or List it but relationships” to all my friends and Netflix did it so badly!!

    • @ThatDurre
      @ThatDurre 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Omg I LOVE Love It or List It (the British Phil and Kristy version) and to think this is what the dating equivalent came out to be is *puke*

    • @DreamEatingBaku
      @DreamEatingBaku ปีที่แล้ว +8

      this is literally the funniest way to describe this show and also completely accurate 🤣

    • @Jellybeansatdusk
      @Jellybeansatdusk ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love that show! Hate this one 😂

  • @jillianhamilton5509
    @jillianhamilton5509 2 ปีที่แล้ว +550

    Hot take: Colby and Madelyn are equally terrible, just for very different reasons.

  • @zorro......
    @zorro...... 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1025

    i dont think it's fair that just because theyre on this show, colby is allowed to go kiss girls at a club and text a bunch of them. the premise of this show is u "date" someone else who is on it. kissing someone outside of that, keeping it a secret, getting found out and saying "i was doing it for you" (which colby did do, he said he did it to get 'the full experience' for his gf's benefit, to which she said to him "how could this be for me if i didnt know about it?") is absolutely cheating and not right. hope that helps "make it make sense", as gabi demanded

    • @tinygreencreature5167
      @tinygreencreature5167 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      His gf was the one who kept talking about kissing Randall, feeling his boner, finding him so much more attractive than Colby, etc etc. That's why it doesn't make sense, it's a double standard to go on a show where the whole premise is cheating on your partner and then get mad that he was cheating like she was

    • @tinygreencreature5167
      @tinygreencreature5167 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Talked about cheating with Randall to his girlfriends face*

    • @cocolime6496
      @cocolime6496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      yeah i think the part that was really hurting was that he kept it from her and basically lied

    • @violetsden
      @violetsden 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@tinygreencreature5167 She shouldn't have done that either but he was cheating either way.

    • @b4stard_sweet
      @b4stard_sweet ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I understand both sides but ultimately: talk to your partner, Colby.

  • @hoettega_veneta
    @hoettega_veneta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    I really don’t understand “the experience” he got from making out with other girls in the club. IMO that’s just cheating... don’t like Madelyn but Colby was horrible lmao

    • @tuffy135ify
      @tuffy135ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      That's because it is cheating. The experience he wanted was cheating. This whole show was just "cheat for 3 weeks, and see what happens"

    • @jaredbitz
      @jaredbitz ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That whole conflict just made me mad at both parties. Colby because he was trying to justify his cheating, and Madelyn because she was so high on her pedestal that she couldn't see how she had done the exact same thing she was criticizing him for.

  • @wooloosus6866
    @wooloosus6866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +662

    I don't know, Colby was the worst. Like he knew that Madelyn was with Randall (because that was the whole point of the show that HE dragged her onto because he can't take no for an answer!), but completely hid the fact that he was messing around with other girls outside of the show, even though that was NEVER part of the show's premise. Say what you will, but at least Madelyn wasn't with anyone except Randall. Colby cheated on her, and then tried to lie and say it was for the show when he knows that wasn't true at all.

    • @BitsyGem
      @BitsyGem 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      EXACTLY!!! Madlyn was mad that he told these outside girls that they're in an open relationship. Which at the very least was news to her.
      And don't even get me STARTED on how shitty Colby was when he was hanging out with Madlyn and her friends. You can tell they put up with him cause they love her so much.

    • @annalivingtv
      @annalivingtv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Oh yeah colby was terrible. I wouldn’t argue that she’s a weak innocent victim tho-Madelyn was emotionally abusive and really really awfully mean. They were awful for each other

    • @benadkins7695
      @benadkins7695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Homie this entire show rides the line of what is and isn’t cheating 💀

    • @willnaib
      @willnaib 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@benadkins7695 they’re consenting to their partner being involved with someone else WITHIN THE SHOW. if they go and talk to people outside of that then that’s cheating because that goes outside of the boundaries that have been established. madlyn has every right to still be mad because she was operating within the established rules and was only involved with someone within the show. colby not only got involved with people outside of the show, but hid it from madlyn, and then said he “did it for her” after he got caught.

    • @benadkins7695
      @benadkins7695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@willnaib Okay but to be fair, I don’t think their emotions are completely limited to the bounds of the shows rules. It genuinely just feels like these people don’t know what they’re doing.

  • @phosphenevision
    @phosphenevision 2 ปีที่แล้ว +483

    7:25 also like attraction isn't just physical, it's also based on personality, character and compatibility. the fact that she thinks being a thin blonde white girl means the attractiveness should be the same lmao how superficial is that

    • @coleb2264
      @coleb2264 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Her whole character on the show is “superficial entitled rich girl” and at one point she even admits she would break up with Hunter if he started making less money

    • @iamsongforsomeone994
      @iamsongforsomeone994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Literally what I was thinking! I don’t get physically attracted to people unless I’m attracted to their personality (or perceived personality) first.

  • @tonyquera6484
    @tonyquera6484 2 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    14:47 This is my exact problem with all these types of reality dating shows. Theyre just hanging out on vacation with someone for a month with no external conflict that would actually test the relationship

  • @Arosukir6
    @Arosukir6 2 ปีที่แล้ว +436

    The thing about giving someone an ultimatum is: you'd better be prepared for either option you're giving the person. If you're going to tell someone "marry me or we have to break up," or "if you stay friends with that person then we can't be friends," or even "you clean that up or you're fired," you'd better be ready for the person to call your bluff.
    Ready to be single. Ready to lose a friend. Ready to be understaffed. Forcing someone to make a decision when *you* want them to can very often turn out not to be in your favor. You should never play games with that kind of thing.
    In my case, that kind of forced decision-making worked out great for me in the long run, but not so much for the other person. My ex gave me that marriage ultimatum. He loved me, and wanted to get married since we'd been together a long time and everyone (his mom, especially) told him we should hurry it up. I was not ready to be married, and may never be. Him telling me "either we get married or break up" made me realize that maybe I just didn't want to marry *him,* and that I'd been too afraid to tell him (or anyone, for that matter) because we'd been together for so long and got along so well and it would break his heart if I rejected him now. In the end I'm glad I made the decision I did. I do hope he finds his happiness, though. He's a wonderful person, even if our relationship wasn't meant to last.
    All this is to say is don't try to pressure people into doing something you want them to do, especially if you love/care about them. And *definitely* don't try to be sneaky about it in an ultimatum!

    • @sylmaerie
      @sylmaerie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      can confirm my ex gave me the “i’m not ending this conversation unless you tell me if we’re breaking up or not” during a fight (by text) so i broke up with her 😭 i was like fine if you won’t even give me the option to do it later in person then i’ll do it now

    • @Jellybeansatdusk
      @Jellybeansatdusk ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@sylmaerie idk, I’ve been on the other end of that. My ex and I got into a fight on the day my grandma died because I was mad that he hadn’t called me for my birthday the day before. He was basically accusing me of being immature and taking it out on him that I was upset about my grandmother dying and I was like idk I feel like it’s reasonable to be emotional about that and hurt that all I asked you to do was just call me for my birthday, and you couldn’t even do that.
      So we were texting and I was already stressed out and dealing with a lot and he was like “you’re exhausting, I can’t handle this” and wanting to stop and I was like we can talk about it tomorrow and he was like, I don’t want to talk about it at all. Basically I was like I feel disrespected and if you’re not willing to acknowledge the way that I feel, even if you think it’s not your fault, just be there for me when I’m sad and feel hurt.
      And basically he was like not having it and really upset with me and started talking about how we was unsure about stuff. He was like we should talk tomorrow and it was pretty clear he just wanted time to think of a way to break up with me, like you know how you just get that vibe.
      So I just asked him straight up like are you thinking of breaking up with me, because if that’s something you’re going to do just get it over with now and don’t drag it out and make me wait until tomorrow. Because otherwise I would have been up all night anxious thinking about it, and I really just wanted to be with my family and grieve and not have to worry about that at that time.

    • @sylmaerie
      @sylmaerie ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Jellybeansatdusk yeah i totally understand that and i’m really sorry that happened; that must have been really difficult and hurtful and i understand why you handled it the way you did for sure. i hope you’re doing okay now
      it’s worth it to mention for my story that my ex was not going through anything at the time, in fact she was apparently doing super great and seeing me after being fully long distance for 4 months was not very high on her list of priorities in her mind- actually when i had asked about potentially coming with her to all the parties she was getting invited to with her roommate (we are/were in college) her response was to say “sure that could be fun but i think we should have a conversation about boundaries soon.” and beyond that she had a history of a) not making me feel comfortable speaking to her about anything that hurt me/i had an issue with in our relationship and b) expecting me to be able to drop everything to talk to her about any issues SHE had in our relationship.
      it was extremely one-sided and this was the first time in our entire relationship i had been able to speak up and talk to her about something that was bothering me, and she immediately turned it into something much bigger than it was and only after realizing that i was genuinely upset and not backing down she pulled the “this is damaging my mental health and i’m not ending this conversation until you decide whether we are breaking up or not” card (among other toxic manipulative things she had started pulling throughout the conversation).
      i feel like our situations are actually quite similar apart from who ended up actually giving the ultimatum-both of us were wronged and put in an extremely unfair position where it felt like only our ex’s feelings mattered to them. and while i do feel bad that i ended up breaking up with her by text, she left me no choice with the ultimatum. but after that argument had been resolved in some way i was going to break up with her anyway based on what she said that day before the ultimatum on top of all the things that had happened prior-i was just trying to see if solving this problem and actually being together in person normally for a while would help, and if it didn’t, then have the decency to do it kindly and in person until she forced my hand.

    • @Jellybeansatdusk
      @Jellybeansatdusk ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@sylmaerie I agree. Like, I can’t say “never try and give people ultimatums” because I agree its generally unfair and a bad position to put someone in, but at the same time I understand it because sometimes you just can’t wait forever and you need to know if the other person is committed, or ever going to be.
      So ultimately I can’t say never give them, just be prepared to get either end of it, because you can try and force someone to choose, but you can’t make them choose what you want them to.

    • @sylmaerie
      @sylmaerie ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Jellybeansatdusk hard agree on that one. it just comes down to being prepared for every outcome of the situation, even the ones you don’t want. if one is prepared and feels an ultimatum is necessary for their own peace of mind and self, then go for it. i hope you’re doing better now

  • @beriking
    @beriking ปีที่แล้ว +66

    The answer to why they dont even talk about liking each other is this: they dont like their partner, not a single person on this show likes their partner because someone who liked and respected their partner would never agree to go on the show 👍

  • @genibeanie
    @genibeanie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    the way i BURSTED into tears when she said “she’s amazing!” and everyone SMILED??? THEY JUST SMILED!! like i know that’s like normal and you SHOULD smile and be supportive but idk you rarely see it in the media until very recently so it’s just nice :,)

  • @adesinabrown843
    @adesinabrown843 2 ปีที่แล้ว +353

    definitely bring your sister back for more reality shows!! you’re both so lovely and reminded me of watching these kinds of shows with my siblings ✨

  • @cco656
    @cco656 2 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    As someone who took the AP Calculus exam this morning, I’d rather do it again than watch a single episode of this godforsaken show💀

    • @noahmoots9901
      @noahmoots9901 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same, best of luck with your score!

    • @funkybugman
      @funkybugman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      update us when u get ur score!

  • @hospitable_ghost
    @hospitable_ghost 2 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    So, my boyfriend and I somehow managed to watch this whole show, and while I enjoyed *some* of the mess, I agree with you completely in your assessment of the editing on all fronts. It made me wanna claw my eyes out. The music, the obvious attempts to fill time, the weird cuts. What a dumpster fire.

  • @malachiswedberg8367
    @malachiswedberg8367 2 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    These shows have to be sponsored by divorce courts or something bc they are excellent for business.

  • @nickjames1362
    @nickjames1362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I actually thought what Colby did was manipulative. His whole image was that he wanted to basically claim Madlyn and although Madlyn is not perfect either he showed his true colors pretending to be in an "open-relationship". Which if it were the case that's the most diluted form of this staged show. All in all I think refusing to listen to Madlyns actual feelings towards him and picking up on cues their relationship might not have even been strong coming into this shows deceit. Who's gonna say no to a proposal to get married on the spot after she's riding the high of being proposed to on camera. The last line of the show is "My dad's gonna be so pissed 😭😭" lolol

  • @scottietrademark
    @scottietrademark 2 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    Honestly even with the original relationships are in the "honeymoon" phase. The longest was what? 2? 3 years? They're rushing to marriage SO fast when they've barely been together. I get if you click, you click. I totally understand, my parents met and married within two months lol but that's not normal? It's just wild seeing them complain about not being married when they're all, almost, under 25 with their under 5 year relationships. Especially when all their drama could be resolved with actual communication

    • @rowancook4369
      @rowancook4369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I'll be honest, I've met very few people who didn't get at least engaged within a two or three year timespan of dating unless they were high school sweethearts who had to wait until adulthood. Is it really that unusual? I get that two years isn't any time at all in the grand scheme of life, but how could you not know someone well enough within three years to get married to them?

    • @hjt5894
      @hjt5894 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@rowancook4369 I guess it depends where you’re from. I don’t know anyone who got engaged under 5-10 years together.

    • @theodoraa.9670
      @theodoraa.9670 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@rowancook4369 Respectfully, most people don't know SHIT about someone after 3 years

    • @rowancook4369
      @rowancook4369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@theodoraa.9670 Lol I posted that comment as a person who has only been in two relationships, one with a friend of 4 years previously and one with a dude I barely know but spend a lot of time with. So I guess it's just hard to fathom not knowing anything about someone you theoretically spend a lot of time with after 3 years, especially if that includes living together.

    • @bruh-gz3nh
      @bruh-gz3nh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@rowancook4369 I think it's just a very "mainstream/US/ countrys we se on tv" thing (because mayority of family representation we see on TV or movies its the "perfect family"; start dating in high-school/college, marry and have kids very young, etc) to marry after just 2 or 3 years of relationship, where I am from people just don't get marry, like never, they live together and have children and then die together without getting married lol, so it's very weird and kinda creepy when someone marry after just 3 years of knowing each other over here, I don't know anyone that got married before their 40's after 20 years of living together, except rich people but they're US wannabes so they don't count, I think the massive difference is funny

  • @sigh824
    @sigh824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    “I want to sleep around for you. Do I want to lose you? No. Do I love you? …………..Yes”
    Dude could’ve been less subtle if he wore a sign saying, “I don’t have the resilience to go through a break up”

  • @snicole2811
    @snicole2811 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I just wanna say the comment y’all made at the end about people not posting their partners and how some people just like their relationships kept private, THANK YOU. I’m tired of people acting like not posting your partner is a red flag. My fiancé and I live together and we’re both couch potatoes, neither of us are ever really thinking about taking pictures even when we go out.

    • @danopticon
      @danopticon 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ^This. I don’t even have Facebook or Twitter or Tumblr anymore, because they’d grown so intrusive and had begun interfering with how I preferred to live my life, so I didn’t deactivate the accounts but I just stopped posting to them or looking at them … and initially people freaked out and wondered if I’d died, but now when I go out on a date from time to time, people freak out when they discover I’m mostly un-Google-able, like imagining I must be using a fake name or something. How did it so quickly become “weird” not to post your partner online, or not to even have social media at all??

  • @Sandy-xd5bj
    @Sandy-xd5bj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    Whenever Alexis came on screen my fiancée would play the call of duty black ops zombie noises…she is literally disgusting you can see she literally thought she was going to be the main character.

    • @bigbearkat2010
      @bigbearkat2010 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Yeah Gabi commented on Hunter/Mike's proposal and asked "why did he have reservations to begin with?" my immediate thought is that hes probably heard her speak for longer than 10 seconds

    • @Sandy-xd5bj
      @Sandy-xd5bj 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bigbearkat2010 I find her repulsive and she has limited commenting on her instagram, I wonder why,

  • @kactuskutie
    @kactuskutie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +355

    colby was so toxic, why do people like him?!?

    • @cocolime6496
      @cocolime6496 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      they remind falling for his "romantic sensitive good guy" shtick

    • @kemojoaquin
      @kemojoaquin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      He’s honestly just awful…

    • @NotesNNotes
      @NotesNNotes 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      He really showed his true colors when he freaked out at her when her friends were there

    • @gianna526
      @gianna526 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He was cute, had a fun personality and he was the sensitive good one, and it's easy to fall for that kinda guy. His red flags are just accidents! he didn't mean it etc which is pretty scary.

    • @bajablast6732
      @bajablast6732 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Halo effect

  • @clarinette626
    @clarinette626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +367

    It is wild that you saw the Madlyn/Colby relationship completely differently than I did I hated Colby from the jump and truly feel like Madlyn being mad at him was justified 😂😂😂😂

    • @ashleywh3178
      @ashleywh3178 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      rightt!! and @tee noir did an amazing job in explaining his behavior in the show if you want to check her channel out 💗

    • @clarinette626
      @clarinette626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ashleywh3178 thanks for the rec I subbed immediately it was a really good video!

    • @zorro......
      @zorro...... 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      agreed! also kennie jd has a great video on all of this

    • @clarinette626
      @clarinette626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@zorro...... yesss I love Kendall!!

    • @alyssabrown-carleton6173
      @alyssabrown-carleton6173 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I just don't understand what was so great about him that the girls were fighting over him. Any of the guys really. The only ones I could see having a connection were Jake and Ray

  • @pelago_
    @pelago_ ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Wanting children is such a huge issue. If you want kids they’re hard work but it’s worth it: if you don’t want kids, it’s hard work and it would be the worst thing possible if you’re getting nothing out of it. You’d keep hating the situation in the back of your mind and it wouldn’t be right for the kids if they had a mum that deep down didn’t want them.

    • @ydad8946
      @ydad8946 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Being a parent has nothing to do with getting something out of it. Parenthood is intended to be the most selfless act one can carry out. The issue is that there are a lot of people having children and who should never have done so simply because they are having children for all of the wrong reasons.

    • @houndofculann1793
      @houndofculann1793 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@ydad8946 I disagree. "Getting something out of it" doesn't mean it has to be something measurable or that can be objectively said to be fulfilling to anyone else. Just getting to raise a kid and be their guardian might get you fulfillment of having a purpose. You get company, good company even for the rest of your life if you do your job well. You get to experience aspects of life through your children that you probably would not have gone through without them. You get to leave a legacy on a more personal level.
      At the same time, yes, it is a huge responsibility and doing it for selfish reasons only will probably get you and your children in a mess.
      On the contrary historically, having children really was an investment with expected profits for the vast majority of people. For the lower classes they were extra workers to help feed the entire family and take care of you when you get too old to manage it entirely by yourself. For the higher classes they were a means to keep the power they held within the family, and to gain more.

  • @TheresaMunezXo
    @TheresaMunezXo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    The show was actually not filmed in isolation. They all still went on about their normal lives, had their phones and everything. So actually, they are just reacting like this purely based on self-sabotage and created drama.

  • @NK-bz9wb
    @NK-bz9wb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Never heard of this but oh how heart warming to know 12 year olds watch this and get the impression that these are fully functioning adults and how relationships really are

  • @Thomas-wj2jw
    @Thomas-wj2jw 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Thank you for suffering through this show to give us the *content*

  • @russonauta
    @russonauta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    Gabi waiting for her friends at a bar is my new animal spirit.

  • @ThatCybertChannel
    @ThatCybertChannel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    My wife just finished watching this and all I've heard is the absolute dumpster fire it is. 10/10 series. Haha. Great video!

  • @kellycusick547
    @kellycusick547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Susan just recently recommended you to me. I've been binging ever since. You belong up there with the kings of commentary like Danny, Drew and Cody. Because you are very funny AND absolutely adorable! Glad I found your channel.

    • @hugo07260
      @hugo07260 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Who are Danny, drew and Cody? I only know gabi here and I was introduced to her from Hivemind

    • @kellycusick547
      @kellycusick547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@hugo07260 Danny Gonzalez, Drew Godden and Cody Ko. All amazing, hilarious old school TH-camrs! Check them out!

    • @drewgoin8849
      @drewgoin8849 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Does Susan have her own channel? What's it called?

  • @katfromthekong414
    @katfromthekong414 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Madlyn wasn't angry at Colby kissing other girls, she was mad that he said he did it to make her experience real, when she didn't even know about it. Colby is a raging narcissist.

  • @jackrussel999
    @jackrussel999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I think you make some fair points about Madlyn but Colby was super toxic and I'm disappointed that it was left out. Otherwise, I loved the video. 🙌

  • @bananabrain2996
    @bananabrain2996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I can't stand people who think others have to justify why they're not into you, let alone think ITS NOT AN OPTION FOR PPL TO SAY NO. Everyone's always acting like it's a given that we all understand consent, but honestly all it takes is one spoilt childhood for someone not to get a grasp of it

  • @ax.olotls
    @ax.olotls ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I adore Gabi & her sister's relationship. My sister and I are 11 years apart, so I understand having the big gap while also still wanting to be close. And I love their energies bouncing off each other

  • @sparrowgates8744
    @sparrowgates8744 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    love this - so fun to see you chat with your sister about this stuff & her stories were hilarious

  • @neevasken6054
    @neevasken6054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’m a guy who was on the receiving end of some mean girl stuff in like middle school and the fact that the same energy exists on this show with ADULTS is nuts, tear them apart lol

  • @JennaEmbers
    @JennaEmbers ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am so glad you made this video. When I saw this on Netflix I was literally like, “This looks like all the boring parts of Love Is Blind compiled into one show.” So I passed on it, and boy oh boy am I glad I did. Like WOW, it is so much worse than I thought.

  • @tylerdoesstuff6834
    @tylerdoesstuff6834 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I haven't watched any of these shows, but I love watching people talking about these shows. People make them so much more interesting than they are, even if it's interesting in a bad way.

  • @Dana-up2vp
    @Dana-up2vp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    when taylor swift said “so casually cruel in the name of being honest” it was actually about Madlyn

    • @abigailr.9601
      @abigailr.9601 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes…and my mom 😅🥲

  • @crazycadet133
    @crazycadet133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    "don't speak until I'm ready for you to speak"
    "I cAnT pReTeNd I'm ThE pRoBlEm AnYmOrE"
    that timing/edit is perfect

  • @vibenic
    @vibenic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    When your sis said “when I was 24/25” giiirl looks 22 now!!! 😭💖💖💖 love the video as always!!!!!!!!

  • @GiraffeBlues
    @GiraffeBlues 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    that story your sister told about the last minute engagement was crazy

  • @Ambarfing
    @Ambarfing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    your sister coming on at the end was SUCH a treat! love listening to you guys bond :3

  • @GumSkyloard
    @GumSkyloard 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    16:14
    I actually had to pause at this point in the video because that made me realize that *I* was not the only one who had to go through that exact same thing. When people talk to you, but more out of pity, or making fun of you _as_ they talk, pretending you're interesting, or that they're interested in whatever the hell you're saying. I've had to go through that my whole life, and knowing that I'm not the only one to have that happen to them is just.. revelating.
    Goddamn, thank you Gabi for making us heard.

    • @houndofculann1793
      @houndofculann1793 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I went to a language course abroad for three weeks when I was 15 and had a great time with the friends I made of the people on the same program. Then in the reunion party a month after the course I found out nobody of that group was actually interested in socialising with me, one of them even going "nah, I don't want the number of [the city I lived in instead of my name]" when I asked to change numbers because they'd had a different number during the course. I was pretty devastated and spent pretty much the next half a year in a kind of confusion of having great memories but looking through all of them in an entirely new light of what of it was genuine and what not.
      That also reignited my primary school anxiety of who I can trust when making friends in the first place. But at least it also caused me to be a lot better in choosing my friends in time so no complaints anymore.

  • @TheShauNanigans
    @TheShauNanigans 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    What is happening in the scene around @18:25 where the woman is feeling around under the covers. Is the dude asleep? If so, yikes.

  • @thewizard-edits
    @thewizard-edits 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Gabi has so much chemistry with herself in that intro it’s insane

  • @DanielaRojas-tq3mo
    @DanielaRojas-tq3mo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I literally would put this show on my tv while I showered and then did chores in the other room. I did not miss a single thing. Even fast forwarded parts

  • @Myr642
    @Myr642 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I can see where Madeleine is coming from tbh. They agreed to be on this show which means they agreed to be with a single different partner for the run of the show, but Colby stepping outside of that agreement to hook up with random people outside of the show was not in the agreement they made. It became cheating the moment he went looking for someone outside of the partner he selected for the show.

  • @62ZAKA
    @62ZAKA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The conversation you had with your sister at the end was actually extremely entertaining

  • @TyroneJohn25
    @TyroneJohn25 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If your relationship doesn't work, just break up and move on.

  • @jimmymontoya4458
    @jimmymontoya4458 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Madison was so mean during the show🤣
    I have met people like that
    The whole "brutally honest" personality and it sucks and I felt like I got it send right back to me by watching this
    Like I got to see that again

  • @aleinad
    @aleinad 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    okay the memes were way more interesting than anything that was going on in that show lol

  • @thebrideofghostface
    @thebrideofghostface 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It does seem like (from my limited context here, anyways) this show encouraged some couples to break up that should have been broken up, so yk, it did more good than most reality shows do.

  • @TonyFed
    @TonyFed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    “Watching a couple fight in front of you when you’re just hanging out and it’s really uncomfortable” is the best description of this show.

  • @BlueCardGanks592
    @BlueCardGanks592 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As someone with relational trauma, Love is blind and the ultimatum have been really good exposure therapy to help me get more comfortable with conflict

  • @WorkingClassMagic
    @WorkingClassMagic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You deserve more subs, you are better than some of the big commentary ytubers

  • @klaraf.b.9820
    @klaraf.b.9820 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    colby's "i don't know where it's going, but it's going in a positive direction" is literally the same as Ross from friends trying to avoid the "where is this going" talk with Mona

  • @Dolthra
    @Dolthra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm kinda surprised on your read on Zay. Sure, his edit was sympathetic, but after the weird "coming home drunk and nearly forcing himself on Rae" and the implication during the tell all that he would not stop pestering Rae about sleeping with Jake despite being the only contestant who actually slept with his partner, I'm pretty sure his whole "nice guy who just needs therapy" is just a character they came up with in the editing room to make the audience feel even worse when Rae and Jake ran off at the end.
    Honestly the only person I came out of it with any favorable opinion on was April. She's like 22, and while she's a little controlling and high-strung, she is also practically a child and has plenty of time to grow up. Plus Jake is very clearly also a piece of shit.

  • @awesomeallyse
    @awesomeallyse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My favorite reality show is terrace house and it's not talked about enough it's so wholesome but still has drama

  • @BeccaAl
    @BeccaAl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It’s nice watching you and your older sister talking, you get on well. That’s lovely 💞
    I am a mum too, I have two boys 9 & 3

  • @guavajellybean
    @guavajellybean 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Gabi pleeeease do The Ultimatum Queer Love, I need to hear your commentary on the lesbian drama

  • @joTheBonas
    @joTheBonas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just finished watching your whole back catalog of videos and i just love your attitude and humor!!!

  • @wreckfish3198
    @wreckfish3198 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My favorite part of the show was in the first episode where the host says, "We talked to a psychiatrist who said that ultimatums are terrible, but were doing it anyway" and then in the reunion they're all shocked it completely failed.

  • @thekneesbee
    @thekneesbee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I think at this point Netflix should just pivot into hiring commentary and review channels. Save on advertising

  • @hegel9590
    @hegel9590 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Wait, the ex-boyfriend story isn't an ultimatum, it sounds more like healthy communication. Your sister wasn't like "marry me, or else!", but "hey, how are you feeling in this long term relationship because I'd like to get married someday."

    • @marie-eve9304
      @marie-eve9304 ปีที่แล้ว

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @gillianmoser2573
    @gillianmoser2573 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    “I don’t care. I don’t care!” You can already tell at that line how much this show broke her spirit 😂

  • @alexbell3791
    @alexbell3791 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I forgot about those cups! My wife and I watched season 2 a month or so back and we saw those cups EVERYWHERE, including restaurants. It made no sense.

  • @lakenbiletski6823
    @lakenbiletski6823 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I like reality tv, its usually fun and silly in its dramatics, but this show was unbearable

  • @sapphic.shortcake
    @sapphic.shortcake 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    16:16 i know exactly what you're talking about cause i had popular girls do that to me ALL the time specifically in middle and high school

  • @avadakedalek
    @avadakedalek ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It is absolutely wild how people thirsted after Colby so much when I literally wanted to vomit every time he opened his mouth?? He just seems so self-centered and like I’m sure it’s editing but good lord. Even Madlyns friends didn’t seem to like him? He just seems like the kind of guy that is in love with the idea of a person and not the actual person, like when he was so convinced he could talk Lauren out of not wanting kids? Idk it was just so weird how he was talking about her and how he acted

    • @abigailr.9601
      @abigailr.9601 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds like my ex ugh

  • @karmarules
    @karmarules ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg the royalty free music YES my friend and I would just yell "TELL ME HOW TO FEEL" at the TV every time it came on

  • @hackshackers3513
    @hackshackers3513 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    16:15 I HAD THAT!!! I DIDNT REALIZE SHE WAS MAKING FUN OF ME THO SO I WAS JUST LIKE "ok... weirdo" LMAO

  • @marckhachfe1238
    @marckhachfe1238 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That "I know" smile at the end was hilarious. And very cute

  • @Yunna-v2d
    @Yunna-v2d 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    6:23 hey boy, look! I'm gonna make it simple for you.. you got 2 choices.. YES. or.. YES.

  • @devons.3481
    @devons.3481 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i can't help but wonder if they weren't prepared for two of the couples to drop out like immediately so then they just had to fill time that would've been filled with those people figuring shit out (or not figuring shit out). but then like why not get other people? i feel like they should've been prepared for people dropping out bc they suddenly had an epiphany or whatever? idk i don't watch reality tv i just watch youtube commentary videos on it lmao

  • @maxevocal
    @maxevocal ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Im brutally honest" is people shouting "I have no tact! Im not even going to try to be tactful!" 😂
    And i also got bullied like that, getting talked to/at and being made fun of

  • @maraphernalia
    @maraphernalia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "When the popular girls would talk to you but they were making fun of you, you know what I mean if it happened to you" please stop I am begging you

  • @achilleus_eh
    @achilleus_eh ปีที่แล้ว +3

    pleease make one of these for the queer edition of the ultimatum, its even more chaotic

  • @secretlythebatman
    @secretlythebatman ปีที่แล้ว +1

    love seeing you and your sister talk about reality tv

  • @ThexDynastxQueen
    @ThexDynastxQueen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Cool seeing your sister, nice you two actually like each other.
    As for the show tho, Colby can't be trusted and you can't compromise not wanting kids with having a child!!!! That is all.

    • @galacticpoptarts7604
      @galacticpoptarts7604 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why did I have to scroll so far to see anyone mention how you can’t compromise on a child 😭 it’s true!

  • @seanjenkins4459
    @seanjenkins4459 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve heard you make the “couple fighting in front of you” analogy a few times on this channel, all I can say is I feel your pain, I’ve been there.

  • @jadakamau7341
    @jadakamau7341 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    you completely miss how manipulative Colby.... i was so frustrated you brushed over all of that

  • @Bella-qb8cj
    @Bella-qb8cj ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the fact that I got a bumble ad while watching this video

  • @heren39
    @heren39 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this show made me close netflix and quit procrastinating

  • @basementdwellercosplay
    @basementdwellercosplay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Y'all are in your 20s and this determined to get married.... I'm 20, almost 21, and I know there is so much more to life than get married. You can prove you love each other without saying I do!

    • @tuffy135ify
      @tuffy135ify 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right, but tax and medical issues are better if you are legally married...if you can trust that person.

  • @Ms-km7wx
    @Ms-km7wx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love the sister combo - been watching ur vids for a minute and just live for these moments ❤

  • @StoutCorvus
    @StoutCorvus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I don't understand why you'd go on this show other than a chance to become reality star famous.

  • @BubbleGumIsCute
    @BubbleGumIsCute 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The first time I've ever hear anyone say the big cheese was in resident evil 4, when you attempt to rescue luis sera.

  • @zoooui
    @zoooui 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    colby is the worst tho, madlyn is bad too, BUT COLBY OMG

  • @trikitrikitriki
    @trikitrikitriki ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That guy that threw himself on the lawn would have gotten cold feet before the wedding and disappeared. You dodged a bullet.

  • @dlord96301
    @dlord96301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I will play tiny bit of devils advocate they should 100% bring of kids early if you have that as a deal breaker ut should be on the table immediately
    Like if you love them more then any other but want kids more and they don't to the point relationship ends you need to find someone who wants kids and then find out if you could love them

    • @bananabrain2996
      @bananabrain2996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Completely agree, just think it's a little tense to immediately talk about it with everyone you meet, can feel a bit like you're just looking for a baby making machine. It should be raised early on but phrasing is important. He shouldn't stay with his og partner if that's what he really wants though.

  • @blueserenity7
    @blueserenity7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My takeaways from this show were that everyone was so dislikable to the point where I didn't care at all what the outcomes were for them, the drama was incredibly manufactured, and that they were so bad at having regular ass conversations with each other that I kept wondering if the show was filmed on another plane of non human existence 🥴 Seriously WHO TALKS LIKE THESE PEOPLE, WHERE DID THEY COME FROM??