Fear Of Judgement | Social Anxiety Overcoming Mindsets

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  • @Προκείμενον
    @Προκείμενον 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Make the purpose bigger than the fear. GOLD.

  • @earthschild2396
    @earthschild2396 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I am a people pleaser 100%
    I have been the black sheep of the family. Constantly told be this, be that.
    I am 46 years old now, and I carry around all the personas I have been for others, that I really have no idea who I am.
    I become what I sense people need, which is draining, so I isolate a lot. Nature is my sanctuary.
    I am creative, have a need for exploring, specially nature, love beauty, and I need to understand how and why things are the way they are.
    Maybe you can make a video of me, lol.
    With much gratitude, I beg you to please continue to share your videos and helping us and the world. I definitely need it. Thank you so, so much.
    🙏😊💕 😘 💕

    • @Thom5972
      @Thom5972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      48 and same as you. It's making miserable

  • @parshantsharma118
    @parshantsharma118 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am paralyzed with fear of judgement😢😢

  • @fatima-purposefullybeautif5950
    @fatima-purposefullybeautif5950 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My reason for doing it is bigger than my insecurities - I'm going to make that my daily mantra - thanks for that pearl of wisdom

  • @SB-td7ex
    @SB-td7ex 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    (Sorry for grammar, spelling or any kind of mistakes caused by my level of English knowledge.)
    Hey man! Firstly thank you for your videos they help me a lot though lots of time i struggle with acceptance of my problems or my achievements and my strengths. So sometimes i cannot apply your videos to my life or implement them. But now i mostly accept i need to do something about these problems but at the same time i must understand that sometimes i create those problems by overthinking, feared by getting judged etc. . This video opened my eyes and i'm leaving this comment to appreciate you and what you're doing also for reminding myself in stressed or any bad time i go through that i made a decision and i will go on. İ work a lot of things but now i will work on these things with joy and happiness because i will do them for expressing myself. And also i hope i will develop myself with constructive criticism that comes from others :). Thank you thousand times!

  • @agsilver33
    @agsilver33 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, you helped me, thank you. I already have so many regrets, so many missed chances, I hope in the future I won't be paralyzed again. I'll focus on what you said, the fear of not being there when I could've helped, of not stepping up. And also being curious to try something new without assuming the worst, giving a chance I suppose.

  • @joshuafoht4700
    @joshuafoht4700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your videos hit so close to my heart. I need to enjoy myself and meet people that could change my life. And when everything is to much I can still step out for a second. Thank you so much.

  • @masaiyd
    @masaiyd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You did help me a lot. i will always be grateful. thank you.
    i have always felt like i don't know what i wanted to be. after i started watching your videos something clicked. idk how exactly but it just happened. i felt like i found the answer i always wanted and always knew and it was in front of me the whole time. hummmmm... it's like i had this question i didn't know the answer to for 10 years or more. now i finally found my thing. i felt a heavy wight being lifted off my shoulders. for the first time in life i was thinking about who i want to be and how i can achieve it. for the first time in my life i was thinking about my future i was feeling great... for awhile
    but
    lately... idk. i think i made this realisation too late. there are somethings i want in my life but they cannot be achieved because it's too late because i took a long time to realise this. idk what to do. i always didn't care about what i have done and always thought of whatever i did was a good thing just part of the experience that makes me me. now for the first time i have this deep regrets. idk what to do. fuk.
    idk i will try to focus on what i can do in the present but it's too much. the wight is heavier and it is a different type of wight.
    hummmmmmmm... i know i should stop feeling bad and down and sorry about my stupid miserable life and just start doing what i can do. just start acting instead of playing around but idk the feeling is too much to bear.

  • @DaisyTheFlower98
    @DaisyTheFlower98 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm so happy that you and your videos exist...it really sparks motivation once again within me and puts me back on the path i keep going astray from

  • @heosutheeulalia9161
    @heosutheeulalia9161 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    7'50-8'55 i nearly cry my eyes out

  • @andrewestacio6419
    @andrewestacio6419 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    thank you so much for your videos ♥️ keep them up!

  • @ayutripurwanti6631
    @ayutripurwanti6631 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so grateful that I found this channel 😭🙏 thank you so mucchh

  • @fatima-purposefullybeautif5950
    @fatima-purposefullybeautif5950 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video touched me on a cellular level. You spoke like you knew me. Thank you

  • @gesine766
    @gesine766 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I always feel like there won't be an impact or a purpose if I express myself. The thought that no one cares anyway... I hate being selfish and expressing something that isn't some extraordinary helpful idea but just my feelings conveyed as music makes me feel like "this is just about me." If no one else benefits from it I feel like there's absolutely no point in sharing things and I could as well just do them by myself. Not being helpful enough is what stops me from sharing my art all the time...
    Is there maybe something I didn't consider? I wish I could see things differently and be a bit more carefree.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I used to think like that... I suggest thinking that "I'm being selfish if I don't share my ideas, thoughts, and feelings with others and instead keep them for myself."
      And if you don't think that yet, act as-if you did... and then act as-if you're not acting anymore ;)

    • @majamierzwinska5543
      @majamierzwinska5543 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I felt like this as well - thank you!

    • @MeganTia
      @MeganTia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      When you create something and don't share it still has a meaning, you are doing it for yourself, while doing it and reflecting on your work you grow, you get better, you get confident and as you grow you will naturally want to share your creation at some point - even if you share it with 1 friend you can create a massive impact, because this one person might get inspired, do the same think, do their own think because you encouraged them, or just forward the message to others... and they all will grow, thanks to you growing yourself first... So think about it this way, if you do something just for yourself you are improving yourself and by improving yourself you are already improving world

  • @marjoriepelominadelapena7075
    @marjoriepelominadelapena7075 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'd like to take some time and appreciate how much effort and thought you put on all of your videos. It truly helps people like me who's not really outgoing and reserved most of the times.
    You're awesome, you're wonderful! Thank you! ☺️

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re very welcome ^^
      If only I could find a way to get it to more people that it could help :)

  • @breannthompson7712
    @breannthompson7712 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I loveeee this message! You were speaking directly to me. Here I am I keep stalling to start my new TH-cam channel. You are right I don’t want to die with bright ideas still inside of me! ✨✨

  • @jenniferrivers8683
    @jenniferrivers8683 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for making this channel!

  • @humanyetholy
    @humanyetholy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    idk if anyone would be able to relate to this but when im talking to someone, everything i say goes through about 6-8 mental filters before the words actually escape my mouth. And most of the time the things i want to say don't come out right and i know its bc im judgemental of everything i say. How do you reckon i rid of that?

    • @kuro_tadori
      @kuro_tadori 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maybe it would help if you can learn to be either 1. More in the present moment (so you don't think too much about what you say) or 2. Get more self confidence (to not be too judgemental of yourself). Which are both difficult of course but possible to focus on. For me being more in the present moment really helped with talking to people. To do that, learning to not constantly worry about stuff anymore was the thing that helped most.

    • @humanyetholy
      @humanyetholy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kuro_tadori yes definitely need to be more in the present, thanks for the response!

    • @jenniferrivers8683
      @jenniferrivers8683 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I do the exact same thing, lol! It’s exhausting! ❤️

  • @dianam2008
    @dianam2008 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video (and for all the other ones)
    How difficult it is to stay focused on my path
    Difficult to conceive that having a positive impact on the world can become a reality for me, despite the fact it is my greatest wish
    I wish I had known myself better earlier
    I'm 57, trying to restart for good this time, after so many years of wandering and waste of time, starting things and never finishing them.
    Over decades I have also believed I could be good to people and help them without deeply changing myself and this was a mistake.
    Helping others on a deep level demands a fundamental self inner change.
    Gratitude !

  • @calman160
    @calman160 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this. Very helpful

  • @dm3590
    @dm3590 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You can have all the perspectives you like, If the person is judgemental, let alone threatening you, then IT IS NOT A GOOD FEELING. I've had those people a lot and it just sucks, that I always have to be judged. It's a waste of my mental energy. People can really be dictators.

  • @ashleysands1881
    @ashleysands1881 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video was amazing. Thank you so much! ❤️

  • @Suedetussy
    @Suedetussy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you, this video helped me a lot, because I‘m that kind of person, who can rather stand upfor other people than for myself. So, you tricked me into motivating myself by thinking of the bigger picture. 😉

  • @cindylica
    @cindylica 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you ! Very inspiring ❤

  • @TowerJunkie
    @TowerJunkie 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Animal 🦒 🦔 🦓 PIRATES! 🏴‍☠️ FTW! Once again a stellar message!

  • @nancymaryquinonesdiaz2705
    @nancymaryquinonesdiaz2705 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would like to start my growth journey, but don’t know how. What would you recommend me to do first?

  • @zori.04
    @zori.04 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How can you efficiently draw the line between motivation (powered by "who suffers from not doing it?) and GUILT. I struggle a lot with guilt and that leads to poor decision making
    Thnx btw

    • @suoutubez19
      @suoutubez19 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Zory Abreu hi fellow INFP

  • @nubianqueen8500
    @nubianqueen8500 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh so true not a lot of people care but the fact that they don't and you seem like you need to fight the factor of humanity or else like salt like tigers going the skin of a bear just to have fun and it's because people for me they are logic but since my brain is like connecting Titus years ago of conversation today at this with this and thought inside like I don't know nothing is really saying out what it's supposed to say cuz my voice is so it's

    • @nubianqueen8500
      @nubianqueen8500 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      But I will say to myself to do whatever everybody on my personalities I can't I made up of letters I literally what I was saying that kind of money in the blender and it was until the coronavirus all the fuss by the fifth third in line why am I the one I can't be normal with the normal I'm annoyed on my own brain from nobody I'm scared I don't fear nobody through when I open the doors and how to make everybody happy it's not for me. I'm being good to my energy when I say this what did I tell you I feel like somebody's punching me from the inside of the brain and I can't even say it and it's like so crazy but not everybody has anxiety everybody's like that so now they're all popping pills I don't want it has brain injuries on her birthday. But I really just want to be okay with myself I don't want to take all these pills putting on me he crazy I'll be there in

  • @jaredortega7541
    @jaredortega7541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like u helped me

  • @midnightblue2893
    @midnightblue2893 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    💜

  • @nubianqueen8500
    @nubianqueen8500 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes because I just wake up thinking of it is type of energy is filling me up Walmart but isn't even matter what you say is true and it's like it's in my mind it's like Home Depot State you know you're really talented are you really did and you could do this yes but if I do that I'm going to have to do this and do that why can't I just be who I am if it's like basically sometimes I can actually see what's happening but like sewing this without me speaking to somebody but the other day like seeing how and why is my moves and how I feel today is like and it's nice to have the only things other people I feel like having a heart attack I have that too I am doing it and I was like the first time when seconds night night like the first night that I got for you from my library to do the test but I feel like sometimes at Prince I like why Everybody's Talkin my head but I know I don't belong but in a bad way why do we say if anybody ever seen it will be a 100 love it awesome

  • @nubianqueen8500
    @nubianqueen8500 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Right before I was going to say something you said it take it. But if I if the only knew how many stalks of broccoli to eat in like want to give an opinion so I'm using this voice thing obviously I know that it's not spelling it right so I don't even care this is the Step Up from doing it but this is not fair everything that we could have been and now it's like we're weird but it's like what okay crazy and butt and have a video beside me wrong but like I mean like Tippett Eye Center I was like we are forcefully fortunate why is this Google like making up words that come in a minute I'm not saying those words anyways it's like you're 370 times yes I believe you and I'll give up if it's not that for me so I call it the Flies there at work then fired for so long since I didn't know. Maybe the Proto because you did a lot of dogs are did this happen till like I realized like people are just not it doesn't matter of fact I wanted to come out and it's like he's been like it don't want it like that

  • @hannahtaylor854
    @hannahtaylor854 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very inspirational thank you!