Yeah, i had a guy take me out with his friends, but he didn't claim me and when we went to the club to all dance he kind of ignored me, and started to flirt with some other women. 😏 challenge accepted. He was so pissed by the end of the night...taught his ass a lesson. Don't mess with this scorpio.
The supporter should not chase the supported one. The host should not chase the parasite. The strong should not chase the weak. The independent should not chase the dependent.
wow, a lot of women need strong men at home. Youre like a big brother talking to lil sis about deadbeats in the world. Thank you for caring enough to talk about it.
I am finally over my ex. Since I'm over him I don't have the same feelings towards him. I don't even like him any more. It feels good because I don't think about him, and don't know how he looks anymore. I'm not concerned about his well-being I'm really over him. A week ago I was missing him like crazy. Woke up one day and I wasn't missing him and I realized I didn't love him no more and after evaluating the pros and con's. He don't even qualify for me anymore. I'm happy!!! YEAHHHHHHH
Youre clearly not over him. You remind me of some chicks I know who claim to be over guys yet find ways to incorporate them in conversations. We can be talking about politics and these btches will say some sht like "Oh I remember when jay thought the same thing blah blah blah". You're over him yet on youtube writing about him? Laughable.
So true! I used to run errands for my parents ASAP and drop everything I'm doing in order to satisfy them but nothing made them happy, I felt like I was never enough; I grew up to be a people pleaser and it carried into my life with friends, bfs, and people in general. They just never seemed satisfied until I left and they realized what they've lost til they appreciate me or when I suggest to them that I have other options.
Summary: Control 1) what you give 2) your availability 3) what you're willing to do, example: to not drop everything for him/her, unless he/she is doing the same for you
My motto is if I'm to come out the comfort of my home to do the same *ish in your house I do in mine, I rather stay home! Dayumn that... The city to BIG to be laid up indoors all the time*
A man who thinks highly of a woman doesn't need any games. Ladies, the rule works for everybody. Never make yourself available for everyone. People like what they have to work hard for. 😘
Hanging out is one thing. That's friendship. You do have lives. Live them... A serious relationship on the other hand will require you both to put forth an effort to maintain a relationship. No one has to demand and show that you have other options. You have options all the time. You just have to take time to live your lives and incorporate both lives together. If you want to be treated better, then find better. You can't demand better treatment from ones who aren't willing to give it.
Today would be the 49th birthday of a Man who I KNOW loved me. I stopped by his grave earlier & sung happy birthday and it JUST hit me how having missed a call from him, not calling right back, and then hearing he was killed has impacted me in my relationships to this day, when you were talking about forcing your availability... 'WOW!" I believe he brought that to my mind thru you, Chazz& I am grateful. I get it!💞 HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY DONOVAN!!❤️ 😇🤩🥳
Boredom is the problem..people love drama and spice.. in their relationships and knowing or thinking that you have a lot of options just from being yourself keeps him on his best and interested... If you’re at someone you’re interested in beck and call, you come off as desperate to people...
Chazz...I CANNOT thank you enough for these videos, You don't know how valuable your insight has been to me, I'm back on the dating scene and it seems like the game has changed! Thanks!
A good man will plan out the date, things if you're special to him; and men gets paid more than females at my work, even if the guy has less seniority than me and other females; men should pay for a date dinner etc. out then.
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I understand this message but when I drop things for a guy it's usually because I actually like him not because I don't have options. I always thought it was pretty obvious that other guys would be trying to get with me too. Do men really think they're the only guy that asked for my number or my attention? When I'm not putting up with a guys crap it's usually because I'm not into him like that and I feel like he has to actually WOW me before I take another step forward with him.
Chazz, Chazz, Chazz! Seriously, the light has just came on in my head! Best advice I've gotten on this subject hands down!! Thank you! I am so tired of being taken for granted! A change is gonna come!
Thank you for keeping it real. You are a good man and you are doing a true service to this screwed up world, your work is changing humanity for the better🙏🏻
I had to show a few guys that I was dealing with that I had options. OK one just wanted to get up and have sex, which was his idea of chilling. I used to say to him we nvr do anything or go anywhere, however you want me to come over & (chill) have sex.. So I stopped responding to his texts, I stopped making it convenient for him and in return he saw that I took back my power 9n that aspect. So now he calls or texts me to say do you want to hang out or do you want to go to a movie, etc. . Sometimes even if I'm not busy with doing something else I just ignore him just for gp just to let him see that I'm in control and that I do have other options ..Believe me it works..Chaz you hit the nail on the head with this one..
I find the best relationships result when people do not have to or think about playing mind games ...if you have to play mind games it will never work long term...live you life for you and not live their life to suit/meet their needs
Give the guy the free will to choose the things he wants to do in his life because the more you become manipulative with him, the more he gets uninterested with you. Show him that you are independenrt, that you will be doing fine without him, in that way he will put more value on you.
okay, so are men just completely devoid of respect for women? i'm confused because it sounds like you have to deal with men trying to see what they can get away with in a relationship. do normal boundaries and basic courtesy/respect not exist anymore?
Iroc314072 you are correct. Most males don't respect their mother and some low self-esteem broads will also allow him to be a piece of shit. So he'd rather be on they level so yeah hon it's a losing game out here I'd start taking trips out of the country if you can.....
Even when they have utmost respect for Momma, that doesn't mean he'll have the same for you. He'll respect you ro the extent he's required to. Otherwise he'll trample all over you and convince you, you're the problem. Keep both feet planted.
Honestly I prefer to be low key and not let it be own that I have options because he'll think he's in control and it's like SURPRISE no you're not the only guy I'm talking to. Most guys assume so and treat the girl like she's on the back burner thinking she can't do better than him and tolerate his mistreatment
NewJohariClassic well honestly that's the best way. Cause if he will Disrespect me in public he will not have me in private. Operate as if you are Oprah nobody knows who she's fuckin and nobody should 😋😎😑
Your so on point I'm in 😭. I was too available and received the short end of the stick...but I'll be alright. Keep doing what you do I really appreciate you
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I like this video. It was short, informative, and one that I will show to my women's empowerment group. The only thing that I would add is that she should actually have options, and not pretend to have options. Actually go out with her friends, pursue a hobby, update her vita/resume, take a class/go back to school, etc. Actually be unavailable, instead of pretending to be unavailable. She'll build her self-worth, be happier with her life, and be more attractive to men because her life does not revolve around her suitors.
This man I was dating only wanted to come to my house. I'd suggest for us to go out and here comes his excuses. I legit had a bath last night, cried my little heart out & blocked him on everything. It was a little blunt but I had to. I hmu saying "I'm gonna be busy for a min dont hmu anymore." Blunt but had to let his ass know so I can heal. He had to go 🤙🏾✂️
hugs... I hope u healed and u can do better *hugs* 2 cute bops that get me on my shit after a fuck nikka is (1) shoulda known better by Case (2) enough cry by Mary J Blige fun Brooklyn... girl bop n get to life! f that nikka u betta than him!
I think the purpose of all this is to test the men, not get them to do what you want.....its to eliminate those who don't have good intentions, something you have to do just to protect yourself. Thanks Chazz
Exactly.. a lot of ppl think others are single b/c they are the problem when truthfully a lot of ppl are in terrible relationships looking for advice b/c they are tooo weak to leave. Single ppl are usually the strongest
You are awesome. I also like it that you look right into the camera, Which shows that it’s something that you know and not reading it from a paper. Thank you for all the advice
haha you just described my last eight years with guy who calls every three weeks and wants me to come watch Netflix but really wants something else. On a good note, I dropped him a while ago but funny...my exact story :)
I do have options! My life is full of worthwhile creative actions and activities. I'm sure just about everybody on this planet has worthwhile things to do.
I never saw a live stream I need to check it out cuz it's no more videos! Make more videos!!!!!!! I'm going to donate so I can get some more help with relationships!
Thank you for creating this amazing video of insight and precise information about men and dating. I now feel more inspired and aware in making more conscious decisions in dating men as well as creating a high value relationship!
I'm alwayss turning down dates and acting as if options are few because I thought it was being respectful.... It's so true though that's it's taken for granted. Hmm
Same... i had someone ask me to be their gf, give me a key to their apartment and send flowers to my house on vday as a surpise. And this guy was just a friend. I didn't tell my bf out of respect and because he always assumes cheating (i've only been with him since we first hooked up ever). Meanwhile my bf forgot valentines day and even after he remembered didnt take me out and we were together in person... Tbh after that nothing he said could convince me I'm his special woman and I don't see him the same. I think we did get taken for granted by acting as if our options are few. Tbh i did it to save myself from abuse because he punishes me for everything I do that takes away control from him over me. Its really sad because I love him but kinda dont see a point anymore its all just gross. How hard is it to take me out to dinner on valnetines day. I'm thinking hes cheating because he acted soo weird abt his phone last time I was over and didnt want to have sex. I'm just over it, like truly losing that feeling for him because I cant respect someone when they treat me that way and its just always like this, always a reason or excuse but nothing I say is valid.Over it
Wow this is good, I love your advice. This just happen to me. He believes that I have options and is treating me much better. Hes ready to see me all the time. I like this. Great advice. Not available all the time.
You have a lot of women who put their foot down and don't go along with what some chump wants. However, those are the females who usually end up alone and lonely. I mean let's keep it real. There are SO MANY females out there willing to cater to some no good clown or gutter rat because they are so tired of being lonely. That would NEVER be me, but you have women who give in. Lonliness is very painful and it hurts. A lot of women know they deserve a better partner, but just because you deserve it don't mean you're going to get it. That's why you see so many wonderful females with bums or males that are not even in their league. LONLINESS......This is why I live for Meetup.com. Even though I'm married. I still like meeting new people. You NEVER, EVER have to be lonely again. It's the best thing ever. Whatever you're into, they have a group that you can meet with to meet new people. I've met so many new friends and my black book is full of numbers, so if I want company I have numerous folks to choose from. You should never have to put up with GARBAGE and CLOWNS who swim in the GUTTER.
Leona Banks Ha ha I am ok with being alone enjoying my self respect and being patient than thirsty. Good luck to those who like be available for the johnny come late, later and eventually stop showing up 'n moved onto the next laugh my behind off
Jazz you help me so much thank you so much! I’ve been dealing with this guy for about a month now and I have borderline personality disorder so I Chyna wear my heart on my sleeve and I get attached way too quick therefore I get my feelings hurt a lot anyways you’re coaching videos have helped me exponentially up my game and the way that I handle situations thank you very much Chazz I’m forever grateful
I was like this also but if the guy only calls at a certain time and not on the regular than you don't make yourself available. I was battling with this
I don't think he's saying being available is bad-- I think he's saying that one has to know the difference between being available to good treatment, and being a pushover, therefore, sending the message that you may not have other options. From my experience, most guys (especially adult men), already know where they are they stand (as far as emotional availability goes), and will treat their dates according to where they are in their lives (the same goes for women too). We're not in control of the impact we may leave on the guy, but we control what we will and will not tolerate. I think that's what the underlying message here is. You don't have to play a game to get your point across; in the end, it's about listening to what the person is saying and seeing that their actions back that up, and knowing how to respond to that if that is something you want to deal with. If not, you can leave and not wonder about them afterward.
Just leave if they treat you badly. He does not need to be told or shown nothing. He will get the message. Too much drama for something so simple. But I get your point cos you are talking as a guy and that is what some childish guys do. Play silly beggers.
Male Dating Coaches advising men: Focus on your career, hit the gym hard, be confident, find a hobby, read a book & become the best version of yourself." Male dating coaches for women: be unreasonably difficult.
How many times have I said there are interested men? I am finding that I will go ahead with one of them. I didn't want to let someone in and lose him but looks to me like he is lost anyway. Time is tickin'' away...
It took a good long while of being mistreated before I gave up trying to find love with a man. I attract wolves and have all my life. My dad was unspeakably cruel. It seems not pursuing romance anymore is mistaken for waiting for him. The men I attracted watched while my life was torn apart because if a malignant narc and a secret in my past. Now I'm sick in treatment. The last thing I want now is more abuse. It's amazing how many men enjoy hurting women. Don't forgive it and stay with him. Don't let a man abuse your kids. Get away from abusers.
I have experience a guy laughing and talking to me in his job whenever I would come in. so we eventually exchanged numbers,but, I didn't understand why he would call me talk with me and say we'll still go on that date one day. and never sets a date lol, so what I would do is say hey I'll have to call you back I'm on my coffee break😃 he would say... I can meet you on my break and we can have coffee together. I'd say I've drank enough coffee this week I'm so satisfied satified with it now that I'm on to my next fulfillment. he wouldn't no what to say. then when I would see him on his job again. I would give him the same excuse he gave me, and I would smile and act normal as always and he didn't know what to do or say. then his calls came twice a day, but i'd only answer once a week.
This dude had somebody. He was just keeping you on the hook. Men also like to flirt and receive validation too even though they're taken. It's strokes their ego that they still got. SMDH
Nowadays the younger guys will never know how to appreciate how well they are treated! You can give them the best things in this world but yet they still cannot be contented and feel lucky! Sigh🙉🙈🙊
I find your vids very timely and extremely helpful for me. How did you learn all these. Is there a "Relationship" University, or is this from life's experiences?
Yeah, i had a guy take me out with his friends, but he didn't claim me and when we went to the club to all dance he kind of ignored me, and started to flirt with some other women. 😏 challenge accepted. He was so pissed by the end of the night...taught his ass a lesson. Don't mess with this scorpio.
Wow am in this situation what should l do please please
I love scorpios bc they just dont care
@@blueblaze9862 What do you mean? Even scorpio's have predator ennemies, even in deserts.
if you have to do all this just to get treated right, he's not worth keeping. cats shouldn't be chasing a dog, the dog should be chasing the cat.
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Ya'tuma Actually women do the chasing. Make up is beginning of the chase, and don’t give me the bullshit that women use make up for themselves.
The supporter should not chase the supported one. The host should not chase the parasite. The strong should not chase the weak. The independent should not chase the dependent.
@@mgtowdeutschland1152 so when you go to the supermarket produce just flies into your cart or do you pick it out?
@@Devotchka161 I picked it but they always jumped in other carts lol
wow, a lot of women need strong men at home. Youre like a big brother talking to lil sis about deadbeats in the world. Thank you for caring enough to talk about it.
Suzy P'z n Q'z and that's the problem. Single parent households have created this monster and it's only getting worse
How very true. I love this guy's advice.
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Fakts joan
So true!😊
That is so true ! A guy I was talking to would never hardly call me, so when he wanted me to come over to his house, I refused the offer.
Thank you Chazz for reminding women they always have options and they need to keep their own life separate from the man.
I am finally over my ex. Since I'm over him I don't have the same feelings towards him. I don't even like him any more. It feels good because I don't think about him, and don't know how he looks anymore. I'm not concerned about his well-being I'm really over him. A week ago I was missing him like crazy. Woke up one day and I wasn't missing him and I realized I didn't love him no more and after evaluating the pros and con's. He don't even qualify for me anymore. I'm happy!!! YEAHHHHHHH
He don't even qualify for me anymore. WOW!!!
TheRealVon54Opinion Writes a whole paragraph about HIM. Yeah you don’t think about him anymore. Haha
Joseph Mauricio Flores you're trolling huh
How long did it take you to get to get to this place?
Youre clearly not over him. You remind me of some chicks I know who claim to be over guys yet find ways to incorporate them in conversations. We can be talking about politics and these btches will say some sht like "Oh I remember when jay thought the same thing blah blah blah". You're over him yet on youtube writing about him? Laughable.
I cater to no man. I'm the prize, if he not seeing this, I just move on.
go girl👍
Miss V (or anyone, really...) - Wouldn't it be better to be a partner?
Miss V enjoy being an old spinster and start checking what type of cat breed fits you.
Ik this was a year ago but y you watching this video then? Lmao?
Joseph Mauricio Flores 😅😂
So true! I used to run errands for my parents ASAP and drop everything I'm doing in order to satisfy them but nothing made them happy, I felt like I was never enough; I grew up to be a people pleaser and it carried into my life with friends, bfs, and people in general. They just never seemed satisfied until I left and they realized what they've lost til they appreciate me or when I suggest to them that I have other options.
Yep!!! That’s very true!
Summary: Control
1) what you give
2) your availability
3) what you're willing to do, example: to not drop everything for him/her, unless he/she is doing the same for you
My motto is if I'm to come out the comfort of my home to do the same *ish in your house I do in mine, I rather stay home! Dayumn that... The city to BIG to be laid up indoors all the time*
lol wys!
I'd rather watch Netflix by myself anyway.
Exactly
Yassss i stay saying that !!!
Hahaha no shit. I finally came to that conclusion too. What a dick
A man who thinks highly of a woman doesn't need any games. Ladies, the rule works for everybody. Never make yourself available for everyone. People like what they have to work hard for. 😘
Except women, apparently, since they aren't expecting to do any work for the man.
@@2livenoob Why do you think it doesn't require any work for a woman?
@@LeeNacola What do they do?
@@2livenoob You didn't answer my question.
@@LeeNacola Your question is inherited from my first response, and in it is your answer. If you disagree, then answer mine.
Guess what I'm happy now. I allowed someone else in and he's amazing
Aww that's nice ☺️
Is he still amazing? Or
I'm Her lol 2 years later lol your response is funny
Starlett Rutledge you go girl
Hanging out is one thing. That's friendship. You do have lives. Live them... A serious relationship on the other hand will require you both to put forth an effort to maintain a relationship. No one has to demand and show that you have other options. You have options all the time. You just have to take time to live your lives and incorporate both lives together. If you want to be treated better, then find better. You can't demand better treatment from ones who aren't willing to give it.
Joyce 31202 wow well said
Man it is tough to date in modern society lol
Tough
Yes it is
Yep im over it I've accepted being single
I think this video could also be titled "demonstrating personal boundaries-- unapologetically" 👏
MIDDLE FINGER UP INDEX FINGA FOLLOWZ...........LMAO CHAZZ!!! YOUR SUCH A GODSEND AND A COMEDIAN 2 I LOVE IT!!!
Today would be the 49th birthday of a Man who I KNOW loved me. I stopped by his grave earlier & sung happy birthday and it JUST hit me how having missed a call from him, not calling right back, and then hearing he was killed has impacted me in my relationships to this day, when you were talking about forcing your availability... 'WOW!" I believe he brought that to my mind thru you, Chazz& I am grateful. I get it!💞
HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY DONOVAN!!❤️ 😇🤩🥳
why do relationships have to be this damn complicated.
Ok! A whole damn job.... with possible pay/benefits.
Boredom is the problem..people love drama and spice.. in their relationships and knowing or thinking that you have a lot of options just from being yourself keeps him on his best and interested...
If you’re at someone you’re interested in beck and call, you come off as desperate to people...
Because nowadays people are becoming complicated and demanding! They dunno how to appreciate simplicity!
That the middle and the index finger follows lol you are hilarious
Chazz...I CANNOT thank you enough for these videos, You don't know how valuable your insight has been to me, I'm back on the dating scene and it seems like the game has changed! Thanks!
A good man will plan out the date, things if you're special to him; and men gets paid more than females at my work, even if the guy has less seniority than me and other females; men should pay for a date dinner etc. out then.
This was always my problem giving my all too soon and basically hitting him up far more than he was🤦🏾♀️
I guess I was living under a rock. Because I thought come over and watch movies really meant that.
time to get out of the naive zone
I'm sorry that was pretty funny 😂
Yep and creepy men in white vans offering candy just want to give you candy.
Lol
It has never meant that lol
Now i was watching another guy for advice, but he wasn’t being Pacific ....YOU on the other hand BEST ADVICE IVE HEARD thanks for the video!!!!!! You now have a new subscriber !!!!!!!! ⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️⚠️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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That so true. That’s why it’s nice to date 3 guys at the same time with the 90 rule 💋
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I understand this message but when I drop things for a guy it's usually because I actually like him not because I don't have options. I always thought it was pretty obvious that other guys would be trying to get with me too. Do men really think they're the only guy that asked for my number or my attention? When I'm not putting up with a guys crap it's usually because I'm not into him like that and I feel like he has to actually WOW me before I take another step forward with him.
This actually works!
Chiiiiiiild, you are most certainly telling the truth.
Chazz, Chazz, Chazz! Seriously, the light has just came on in my head! Best advice I've gotten on this subject hands down!! Thank you! I am so tired of being taken for granted! A change is gonna come!
Thank you for keeping it real. You are a good man and you are doing a true service to this screwed up world, your work is changing humanity for the better🙏🏻
I had to show a few guys that I was dealing with that I had options.
OK one just wanted to get up and have sex, which was his idea of chilling. I used to say to him we nvr do anything or go anywhere, however you want me to come over & (chill) have sex.. So I stopped responding to his texts, I stopped making it convenient for him and in return he saw that I took back my power 9n that aspect. So now he calls or texts me to say do you want to hang out or do you want to go to a movie, etc. . Sometimes even if I'm not busy with doing something else I just ignore him just for gp just to let him see that I'm in control and that I do have other options ..Believe me it works..Chaz you hit the nail on the head with this one..
Queen Destined Sometimes guys do what they have to for the sex
I'm curious after a year how are you doing are you in a steady relationship?
Anthony Petty Right!
Queen Destined 💍😜
I find the best relationships result when people do not have to or think about playing mind games ...if you have to play mind games it will never work long term...live you life for you and not live their life to suit/meet their needs
I’m tired of this kind of love 🥺
Give the guy the free will to choose the things he wants to do in his life because the more you become manipulative with him, the more he gets uninterested with you. Show him that you are independenrt, that you will be doing fine without him, in that way he will put more value on you.
okay, so are men just completely devoid of respect for women? i'm confused because it sounds like you have to deal with men trying to see what they can get away with in a relationship. do normal boundaries and basic courtesy/respect not exist anymore?
Iroc314072 you are correct. Most males don't respect their mother and some low self-esteem broads will also allow him to be a piece of shit. So he'd rather be on they level so yeah hon it's a losing game out here I'd start taking trips out of the country if you can.....
Even when they have utmost respect for Momma, that doesn't mean he'll have the same for you. He'll respect you ro the extent he's required to. Otherwise he'll trample all over you and convince you, you're the problem. Keep both feet planted.
Honestly I prefer to be low key and not let it be own that I have options because he'll think he's in control and it's like SURPRISE no you're not the only guy I'm talking to. Most guys assume so and treat the girl like she's on the back burner thinking she can't do better than him and tolerate his mistreatment
NewJohariClassic well honestly that's the best way. Cause if he will Disrespect me in public he will not have me in private. Operate as if you are Oprah nobody knows who she's fuckin and nobody should 😋😎😑
yup me too. I don't say nothing let him think its just him then BLAM lol
Your so on point I'm in 😭. I was too available and received the short end of the stick...but I'll be alright. Keep doing what you do I really appreciate you
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Chazz your advice is so divine and real.
Thank you so much for your advice....is hard to face the truth...but I learned that is worth to keep going ahead even when it hurts..
I like this video. It was short, informative, and one that I will show to my women's empowerment group. The only thing that I would add is that she should actually have options, and not pretend to have options. Actually go out with her friends, pursue a hobby, update her vita/resume, take a class/go back to school, etc. Actually be unavailable, instead of pretending to be unavailable. She'll build her self-worth, be happier with her life, and be more attractive to men because her life does not revolve around her suitors.
This man I was dating only wanted to come to my house. I'd suggest for us to go out and here comes his excuses. I legit had a bath last night, cried my little heart out & blocked him on everything. It was a little blunt but I had to. I hmu saying "I'm gonna be busy for a min dont hmu anymore." Blunt but had to let his ass know so I can heal. He had to go 🤙🏾✂️
hugs... I hope u healed and u can do better *hugs* 2 cute bops that get me on my shit after a fuck nikka is (1) shoulda known better by Case (2) enough cry by Mary J Blige fun Brooklyn... girl bop n get to life! f that nikka u betta than him!
Sounds like the woman needs to move on if you have to play so many manipulations and mind games.
Dawne Yekeen thank you sweetheart for the word of wisdom so true
I think the purpose of all this is to test the men, not get them to do what you want.....its to eliminate those who don't have good intentions, something you have to do just to protect yourself. Thanks Chazz
I keep telling women do not get relationship advise from single friends seek a mans advice from a mans perspective
Single friends might be single bc they know!
Exactly.. a lot of ppl think others are single b/c they are the problem when truthfully a lot of ppl are in terrible relationships looking for advice b/c they are tooo weak to leave. Single ppl are usually the strongest
Agreed!
@@emerypride7098 yes
You are awesome. I also like it that you look right into the camera, Which shows that it’s something that you know and not reading it from a paper. Thank you for all the advice
I just told him over the phone "I have other options, i dont need you." I hit 'em where it hurts
Your advice in this video is so right on!! That's whuss up!!
haha you just described my last eight years with guy who calls every three weeks and wants me to come watch Netflix but really wants something else. On a good note, I dropped him a while ago but funny...my exact story :)
I do have options! My life is full of worthwhile creative actions and activities. I'm sure just about everybody on this planet has worthwhile things to do.
Thanks for all your inspiration and advice! This has changed my life.
You’re comical; love it!! I was weak off your side comments (smash, dueces, Mike Tyson 😩😂😂😂💀)
living under a rock 😂😂😂
But, i suppose you're right. I just am seeking for a deeper and wiser kind of man, than just a normal guy.
I never saw a live stream I need to check it out cuz it's no more videos! Make more videos!!!!!!! I'm going to donate so I can get some more help with relationships!
*Dont you ever get to thinkin ; “your irreplaceable”!* Remember, Queen B already marked that!! 🎤😉
I really love your advice. Lots of good examples. Keep it up!
Great video and very helpful. Right on point as always.
Thank you for creating this amazing video of insight and precise information about men and dating. I now feel more inspired and aware in making more conscious decisions in dating men as well as creating a high value relationship!
Thanks Chazz I needed 🙋🏽to hear this 😘😘.
I thank the heavens for finding you👍💯
Lmao @ "I'ma pretend like I didn't hear him" 😂😂😂
What about men that call you names for example you a b*** and dumb or hurtful things like that when they get mad? Can you make a video on that please?
Very accurate,
you are sent from above....trust me...wish I found you 2 years ago or more
I'm alwayss turning down dates and acting as if options are few because I thought it was being respectful.... It's so true though that's it's taken for granted. Hmm
Same... i had someone ask me to be their gf, give me a key to their apartment and send flowers to my house on vday as a surpise. And this guy was just a friend. I didn't tell my bf out of respect and because he always assumes cheating (i've only been with him since we first hooked up ever). Meanwhile my bf forgot valentines day and even after he remembered didnt take me out and we were together in person... Tbh after that nothing he said could convince me I'm his special woman and I don't see him the same. I think we did get taken for granted by acting as if our options are few. Tbh i did it to save myself from abuse because he punishes me for everything I do that takes away control from him over me. Its really sad because I love him but kinda dont see a point anymore its all just gross. How hard is it to take me out to dinner on valnetines day. I'm thinking hes cheating because he acted soo weird abt his phone last time I was over and didnt want to have sex. I'm just over it, like truly losing that feeling for him because I cant respect someone when they treat me that way and its just always like this, always a reason or excuse but nothing I say is valid.Over it
One of the best videos I've seen on this topic! Thanks Chazz!
I use to be such a sucker...not anymore. I luv these type of channels.
Wow this is good, I love your advice. This just happen to me. He believes that I have options and is treating me much better. Hes ready to see me all the time. I like this. Great advice. Not available all the time.
Problem is as follows, guys have more options because we choose, they don't choose us.🤔🤔🤔🤔
Man you are so right all the time 🙌🏻
Thanks Chazz, your videos have helped me so much! 👍💗🤗
Thanks for sharing bro...it makes sense. I do have other options and it's noticeable so I don't have to pretend... I just want to be myself.
Great video!!!👍👍👍☺️☺️☺️💗💝💜💙💚
Yes you are he scare losing you
Thanks you give great advice 😊
You have a lot of women who put their foot down and don't go along with what some chump wants. However, those are the females who usually end up alone and lonely. I mean let's keep it real. There are SO MANY females out there willing to cater to some no good clown or gutter rat because they are so tired of being lonely. That would NEVER be me, but you have women who give in. Lonliness is very painful and it hurts. A lot of women know they deserve a better partner, but just because you deserve it don't mean you're going to get it. That's why you see so many wonderful females with bums or males that are not even in their league. LONLINESS......This is why I live for Meetup.com. Even though I'm married. I still like meeting new people. You NEVER, EVER have to be lonely again. It's the best thing ever. Whatever you're into, they have a group that you can meet with to meet new people. I've met so many new friends and my black book is full of numbers, so if I want company I have numerous folks to choose from. You should never have to put up with GARBAGE and CLOWNS who swim in the GUTTER.
Leona Banks Ha ha I am ok with being alone enjoying my self respect and being patient than thirsty. Good luck to those who like be available for the johnny come late, later and eventually stop showing up 'n moved onto the next laugh my behind off
Leona Banks wow 😮
Meetup.com. gotcha
Thank you for the loving advice.
I always thought I should have to hide it. Wow!!!
Jazz you help me so much thank you so much! I’ve been dealing with this guy for about a month now and I have borderline personality disorder so I Chyna wear my heart on my sleeve and I get attached way too quick therefore I get my feelings hurt a lot anyways you’re coaching videos have helped me exponentially up my game and the way that I handle situations thank you very much Chazz I’m forever grateful
I will never understand why being available is bad. If I am not available, how are we supposed to spend time together ???
Not that it's bad but in dating if you never have any plans with anyone some people may take it as you are waiting around for their call.
I was like this also but if the guy only calls at a certain time and not on the regular than you don't make yourself available. I was battling with this
+anastasia10017 It's because most of us have been conditioned to playing this game called dating.
I don't think he's saying being available is bad-- I think he's saying that one has to know the difference between being available to good treatment, and being a pushover, therefore, sending the message that you may not have other options. From my experience, most guys (especially adult men), already know where they are they stand (as far as emotional availability goes), and will treat their dates according to where they are in their lives (the same goes for women too). We're not in control of the impact we may leave on the guy, but we control what we will and will not tolerate. I think that's what the underlying message here is. You don't have to play a game to get your point across; in the end, it's about listening to what the person is saying and seeing that their actions back that up, and knowing how to respond to that if that is something you want to deal with. If not, you can leave and not wonder about them afterward.
Scarcity = Value ; absence makes the heart grow fonder.
your analogies are amazingg!! you are so wise thank you so much really.
Just leave if they treat you badly. He does not need to be told or shown nothing. He will get the message. Too much drama for something so simple. But I get your point cos you are talking as a guy and that is what some childish guys do. Play silly beggers.
Male Dating Coaches advising men: Focus on your career, hit the gym hard, be confident, find a hobby, read a book & become the best version of yourself."
Male dating coaches for women: be unreasonably difficult.
I totally agree! I can so relate to this! ♡
That tshirt looks real good on you.
WOW! I really am glad that I watch this. I really needed this information B-I-G B-I-G time. Thanks for this video
How many times have I said there are interested men? I am finding that I will go ahead with one of them. I didn't want to let someone in and lose him but looks to me like he is lost anyway. Time is tickin'' away...
It took a good long while of being mistreated before I gave up trying to find love with a man. I attract wolves and have all my life. My dad was unspeakably cruel. It seems not pursuing romance anymore is mistaken for waiting for him. The men I attracted watched while my life was torn apart because if a malignant narc and a secret in my past. Now I'm sick in treatment. The last thing I want now is more abuse. It's amazing how many men enjoy hurting women.
Don't forgive it and stay with him. Don't let a man abuse your kids. Get away from abusers.
Lol . . .I'm am fifty and guess what --> right on point and same sh-- different people . . .thanks Brother
This is hard when u live together
👍!!!!!!!!! You spoke in volumes!! Thanks!!!
Really nice video!
I have experience a guy laughing and talking to me in his job whenever I would come in. so we eventually exchanged numbers,but, I didn't understand why he would call me talk with me and say we'll still go on that date one day. and never sets a date lol, so what I would do is say hey I'll have to call you back I'm on my coffee break😃 he would say... I can meet you on my break and we can have coffee together. I'd say I've drank enough coffee this week I'm so satisfied satified with it now that I'm on to my next fulfillment. he wouldn't no what to say. then when I would see him on his job again. I would give him the same excuse he gave me, and I would smile and act normal as always and he didn't know what to do or say. then his calls came twice a day, but i'd only answer once a week.
Andrea Stevens Any luck?
Andrea Stevens did it work in the tho?🤔
What happened. You moved ON?
This dude had somebody. He was just keeping you on the hook. Men also like to flirt and receive validation too even though they're taken. It's strokes their ego that they still got. SMDH
Haha awesome
Nowadays the younger guys will never know how to appreciate how well they are treated! You can give them the best things in this world but yet they still cannot be contented and feel lucky! Sigh🙉🙈🙊
Wassup wassup wassup its your man chaz ellis once again.. Luv it
Thanks for mind opening principles for life.
Hahaha yes you are right .Netflix 🤣
He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems
I find your vids very timely and extremely helpful for me. How did you learn all these. Is there a "Relationship" University, or is this from life's experiences?
Thanks for your advice... Great help😊
Lmao @ the mike tyson comment XD
Great advice Chazz :)