His Father Was a Murderer - This is His Story.
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The most powerful story I've heard in VR, the son of Kirby Logan Archer.
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Protocol 4: hug the pilot
SKLDJGHLKS I LOVE THIS
Protocol 5: hug the pilot again.
@@caesar656 protocol 6:don’t let go and let him cry on your shoulder
Standby for hug fall
yes
This man forces himself up everyday and still functions after all this? And he still has an optimistic viewpoint?
What an absolute fucking badass.
His balls are bigger then a freight train
That pilot skin truly shows how tough he is
On my mother
I got more respect and admiration for this guy than anyone else I know exists. This man is a true legend
This guy is THE giga chad.
I'm speachless. His voice is shaking while he explains. Such a strong guy for surviving all that. Really wishing him all the best. I hope he can move on and be happy.
And how he doesn't break down. Goes to show how strong this man is.
@@paralegalwork2570
'Strong', is such a messed up way to refer to this. He is likely shut down to some degree. He is alive, which shows his strength. Not crying is not a sign of strength though. Anyone who cries when talking about something as horrible as this, is not weak.
@@pythonidaepraeceptor1023 He's numb
As someone who has went through an… “unfortunate” situation. A shaky voice is normal talking about the trauma that took such a heavy toll on your life
After all he's been through as a child, he was able to forgive his mother
This man is beyond amazing
ikr
@@johnyoutube4073 I mean, she did do a lot of bad things but at times it's shown she did care for him even if it was to the extreme.
I mean I think he has the right to give forgiveness or not tbf, it wouldn't be wrong either way
@@johnyoutube4073 its his decision to forgive her.
That really is amazing. Without living it, my decision may have been different.
Man, I wanna slap her so bad.
The way the justice system acted in this story was utterly disgusting. Not only ignoring the sexual abuse of a LITERAL TODDLER and sending that child back to his abuser, but also the blatant racism in their reasoning. Absolutely horrifying.
It's pretty common unfortunately
the justice system, CPS, and multiple other systems of protection are pathetic here.
my friend has been physically and mentally abused by his parents for years, its visible in his mannerisms. he went up to his school about it, my friend mother sent a notification to NOT notify his parents about this. the school went to his parents about it. cps came ONCE and did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
after that incident, now a year ago, i lost complete trust and faith in the system
@Kit NEW every state is different... I was product of abuse and neglect and my mother was seen unfit to take care of me and I was sent to a group home where it was like a family, really good kids and staff that guided you
Hearing this, broke my heart too. It is disgusting that race is more important than childs safety. I grew up in an abusive home too. I am white, but every time I ran away, i would run to my Indian (from India) friends family coz they were always nice to me and would let me stay and shared their delicious food with me. Child safety should always be priority above everything else, period.
@@CrazyCatNEW You know what's even worse? There is an incident where CPS sent the file of the interviews they had with the children being questioned and all of their reports... *TO the fucking parents!!*
Edit: Oh yeah, And THEN They Tried To Deny That THEY DID IT!
Yeah???? Then how did the fucking reports wind up in the mail???
"Son Of A Murderer" That was just the tip of the iceberg. TJ deserves the world and I'm so inspired and proud that he was able to survive everything there.
indeed, I used the title and thumbnail I did so more people would click and get to see the actual important part.
@@Azeal Click Bait For A Cause has a catchy ring to it x) 💯
@@Azeal the title grabbed me but I stayed just to here this guy out
@@Azeal it may be Clickbait, but hey, for a Cause, its amazing to have Good people here
@@Azeal it's at least good to know that murder-dad is in jail...but what about the step-father? Did TJ Actually tell you what happened to that other monster? I hope he's in prison too
"i thought that [happy family] was just Hollywood"
Genuinely disturbing what the fuck
This actually hit home for me. My childhood wasn't as bad as this guys, but it was still really bad. When I made friends who grew up in happy families it was really uncomfortable. Same as when I meet genuinely happy people. You just half assume part of it is show
Every family has it's flaws but no child or spouse should ever have to experience such pain...
I felt that, I always felt like that as a kid
I didn’t get the happy family thing, I literally couldn’t understand why these types of families were depicted.
Stay strong TJ, this story is insane
@@darknevangelist same. Mine was one of those that looked fine on the outside, but not so great on the inside.
Haha you have no idea dude. Some parents just torture their children.
"i'm....I'm doing ok now.' That statement after everything else said hit hard, brought myself to tears. Stay strong buddy, keep doing right.
You can really hear the pain in his voice when telling his story and recalling his traumatic past. I hope he is doing better in spite of everything he's went through.
Usually with stories that warn of disturbing content, I go, yeah yeah whatever, and let it play in the background, no big deal. Here tho, definitely some moments that made me go hol up
You can hear the stammer, him trying to play it off (joking I think I remember hearing) and if I'm not mistaken some hesitation.
@@DaedricHeals perhaps he was contemplating if those details were worth presenting, before remembering that they weren't shown in the media, so they have to be brought to light no matter what.
Its good that he can face the fact this happened to him instead of disassociate himself from it, when some people disassociate it makes them numb and almost like a sociopath
I feel TJ. I went through similar abuse and ended up with the same level of emotional detachment. I was never put on meds though, so I wonder how much of it's due to his trauma rather than the meds. It's been 13yrs. so far w/o the numbness fading, but I've found that guitar allows strong & raw emotions to flow through me while playing. I hope TJ can find something that bypasses all of the pain too. Guitar helps me feel alive in a way I never had before.
The way he talks about this is heartbreaking. He knows what his father and family did, and he's ashamed of it but still wants to share the story. I hope he gets help, such a poor guy, he's traumatized.
I’m gonna get me shower shower in the morning lol lol I’m doing gonna lol 😝 I don’t think you have
I’m
@@nutking8330 go home you're drunk
@@mr.switchblade604 lmao
People shouldn't be automatically associated with their parents, no matter what kind of people their parents could be.
My heart breaks for the child he was. The system failed him, his mother failed to protect him... I don't even know what else to say. I hope things continue to get better for the guy.
The system rarely helps these people. The uncountable amount of abuses are never brought to justice. The only reason we know this one happened is because the guy killed someone outside of the abuse. Children who are abused never have a voice and most of the time its just ignored. This needs to stop. No one should ever suffer as the person in this video and many others have but we just let it happen. The system is broken.
My heart goes out to everyone who has been abused and to the person who spoke about theirs in this video.
Ya see…this is why I sometimes DON’T fear death, since then I’d have a chance to escape whatever THIS shit is…
If I'm being honest this is just my opinion but the mother was going through things too and to ignore that is just crazy to me
Speaking as someone who was abused by their stepdad, the only way his mother failed him was with the meds and pulling him out of therapists' offices when they said he didn't need them. As well as the fact that he should have had those sessions without her. And even then, there's an undiagnosed condition responsible for the 'why' of it.
I completely understand the emotional numbness/detachment problem TJ has. I was never put on meds, but I also went through severe child ab___. The trauma forces numbness to protect your sanity. I'm still this way at 29, but I've found that playing guitar bypasses all that and lets me feel raw emotions strongly. Music is powerful therapy. It might help TJ too.
The constant exposure to the hormones that cause negative feelings are less effective at causing the feeling, just like constant exposure to alcohol makes the same amount effect you less. This leads to numbness instead of insanity for the same reasons incredibly strong smells are soon barely noticeable to prevent sensory overload. Doing something that elicits emotion makes the feeling stronger while also heightening your awareness to what you're feeling, leading to catharsis which is like taking your hand out of a bowl of hot water that you're used to, putting it in a bowl of hotter water after the air has cooled your hand down, and then moving your hand back into the original bowl of water that no longer feels hot as a result. It helps, but only for a short time. The result is like drowning in boiling water that you don't even notice is slowly spilling into your lungs.
This is someone had the worst childhood possible, but still has the strength to move on and try to enjoy life. I can't imagine how much willpower he must have.
*Damn, I feel weak now. Yes - So much willpower I could Definitely Use.*
INFINITE (WILL)POWER
My guy makes a stereotypical super hero blush
There can be way worst.
@@dragonuh7915 You may be right, but there’s no need to make what he’s doing seem obsolete by saying that.
There is no clickbait. He literally is the "son of a murderer". And he is literally telling his story. And, goodness, what a story. It's heartbreaking.
And he’s not monetizing, and he’s using a charity here. As he said in the end, “you never realize the bad when you are surrounded in the good”. He’s helping us help others, and I love that.
well,he is light comapred to what we have recored in history
Opposite of clickbait even. Probably avoiding censorship but holy shit this story is even darker and more miserable that I expected.
@@alexandruchira184 is that relevant?
@@YNWMellyREAL yes becsuse we dramatize to much
this man experienced hell and is still able to have a job sustain his dying mother and have an optimistic viewpoint. this is a real-life hero a true inspiration
When he said he is doing ok right now I wanted to cry. His life was so intense and he genuinely seems like a good guy, he didn't deserve any of this
I can't imagine what daily struggles this man has to go through, wishing him it only gets better
I agree
Good luck kid
agreed
agreed. i did not have to go through this life. but i wish him best of luck and getting better
@@revilno could have just said agreed or some shit didnt have to make it about something you knew that happend you aint the protagonist
@@carlito19934 sorry if it seemed like that’s what I meant, I was relating an experience.
I wish I had a *SLIVER* of the strength, selflessness, and bravery this man has.
I prob wouldve killed that dude long before.
@@porkyminch1640 unfortunately you probbably couldnt
Jesus gives that to those who join Him
@@alexm7627 thats really unrelated not gonna lie
@@Cheeseoogus_ no it isn't
I've lived through horrible things myself, I've heard horrible things, I've witnessed horrible things. But that was difficult to listen to. It was nowhere near that bad for me, but this guy is still here and is doing his best to have a proper life he deserves while i just gave up. I admire his strength.
My brother or sister, keep that pointed face down. You need the strength it redirects.
TJ you're so brave to finally speak out about what happened to you. You deserve the world and I hope that you at least be able to manage. Love and support coming from Texas.
that's very sweet, he deserves the best for sure
Him telling his heartbreaking story with the anonymity of VRchat is why I like VR. Gives you the chance to talk and unload without having to expose who you are. That’s why Facebooks VR future is crap all they want to do is expose you. Being able to tell such tragedy to strangers helps so much more in this way. Damn man I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through.
I get what you're saying, but it's hardly anonymous when he said exactly who he is at the start.
@@evellior I don't think they are being specific to this dude, from what I got is a better version of these deep web sites which basically was true anonymous therapy, where you can just talk to someone. VR chat is just a free better version which you can kind of see body movement, which does make it in a way more personal.
@@russiantinkywinky5059 they specifically mentioned this dude
I recently started dating a woman who has a 2 year old son. Hearing what this man did to his son makes my blood boil. My girl's kid ain't mine but I love him like he is and God couldn't help anyone who even thought about harming him. This shit is bringing me to tears just watching it. I hope his life gets better and he finds help.
I was crying aswell
Good man. I hope you get your chance to give that coward his comeuppance
@@RebelPride1993 🤨
good for you im glad you feel that way, because the world needs people like you
Good man. please stay that way for that kid.
i’ve never found myself saying “oh honey” and wanting to reach through a screen so much. i wish i could hug this precious person (after asking if it would be okay). i’m so sorry for him… but he’s so strong and i hope he’s able to find happiness. poor thing…
This man deserves the best for the rest of his life. He has gone through so much in such a short time. Even waking up and being able to get up despite what happened to him, truly aspiring
This is why charisma and emotional manipulation is so incredibly dangerous. This man has more willpower then half of the world. Give him all the hugs.
Get this man a hug
Pressing F to pay respects.
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My mother (who obviously isn’t a murderer) is a manipulative and terrifying woman. She’s relatively charismatic, but can manipulate people without their knowledge so easily I think it’s subconscious. No one else realizes it and I feel stuck
He was a narcissist
@@Bufekana That has to do with what? Narcissism doesn't make you a horrible person, it's a disorder the same as any mental disorder.
I might have gotten the wrong idea but it sounds like some of the pain he went through could’ve been avoided if the court wasn’t RACIST toward his mother for having the complexion of an Asian woman.
indeed.
How could the court let that happen there was very clear signs of abuse but you'd rather the kids be raised by an abusive white American instead of a loving Asian woman I've loved to have beaten the hell out of that judge and those jurors
@@dutchvanderbilt9969 a lot of judicial position are held by old people. A lot of these old timers are stuck in the past. Sadly…
@@ystconnection yep...
Did any of the people in the court let alone the jury thought "hmm this psychopathic dad has a lot of baggage on top of cheating WITH A MINOR"
They just went, we want which of you is American, did not even occur once that was the dumbest decision those idiots had done.
I love how technology helped this man express himself. I love how this man decided to share his story. I want you to know we all hear you and you matter and that you are a powerful human being!
Holy shit. I'm so proud of him being brave enough to tell his story. It's terrible that this can happen to people.
Yeah I almost cried so sad bleeding, bruising, abuse and getting beat by a belt with metal spikes
You know how people say, "you're my hero?". Well, TJ is my hero. He's like the epitome of human tenacity; the peak of human survival. Although I've never experienced anything close to what he has, I am completely moved by his story. And you know how you never truly understand what certain words mean until you experience a situation where it's applicable? For the first time in my life, I think I've learned what the word empathy means. Not sympathy. This man doesn't need pity. He's strong, strong enough to fight back against his trauma, past, and problems and be strong enough to rise above it. And that is precisely the type of person I want to be. TJ is my hero.
beautiful
Same
Same here. I've had a very similar childhood with a father like TJ's stepfather. Had to go through "bad touch" too. It's a hell of a fight to go through while young. TJ is strong & a fighter. That's for damn sure. I remember being a teen and having thoughts of ending it all, but I'm too much like a cornered dog for that.
What a speech
Took the words right out of my mouth.
6:24 Him putting himself up for his brother truly shows the heart in this man... Letting himself hold that weight so that his younger brother wouldn't have to go through that. You can only have respect and admiration for this guy after seeing himself talk his life even tho its all vr ha
I was bullied really badly since Kindergarten till 10th grade. It deeply effected me but in comparison to this, I almost feel ashamed of myself thinking I had a bad childhood. I know that's not a healthy mindset either but he literally went through hell and got out if it. He is so strong
I totally feel you there. Although, as someone who had the kind of childhood where I was constantly spoonfed the idea that I had a really really good childhood when it really wasn’t the best it could be, and I knew people who had it way better, something to remember is, there’s always gonna be people who have it worse, but that should never ever delegitimize you or your pain or your trauma. It’s not like there is one golden standard, either you have it really good or you have a really bad. Life is full of complexities, and no one’s trauma should feel invalidated because it’s not good enough so to speak to be considered trauma. If it felt like a traumatic experience, it counts. 🤗
It's just a different type of hell to be honest. it is still valid.
The hug at the end filled me with so much joy and hope. A little kindness goes a long way.
27:42 “you can make the bad things that have happened to you in your life … be what makes the good ones shine the even brighter.” Probably the best quote I have heard in my whole life. I wish this man had social media that I could follow him on
That is the best quote to ever exist (that I know of)
Coming from a person who has overcome so much, shows how strong he is.
Him saying that honestly made me burst into tears. I’ve never seen someone so strong
this kid shows that we all don't end up like our parents.
...you don't know what he's done or what he will do. Abuse is a cycle. He's still just a kid, yet to have the capacity to do this stuff on anybody until recently. Only therapy and time will tell.
@@fritzjackson4336 your view is logical, but also pessimistic. don’t be afraid to see the good in the world and don’t think the worst of TJ because of the past he unfortunately had to go through.
@@fritzjackson4336 "Abuse is a cycle" No, dafuq, it isn't. I've been abused, and I'm never treating my kids how I was treated.
Actually it's the opposite, I was abused so horribly I have no memory of it, my brain forcibly wiped it but I still, even after 9+ years, I still have those reflexes of greased lightning. But I hate abuse to the max, when ever I hit an inanimate object I feel so bad I ask for forgiveness immediately to anyone at all.
Edit: mind you I was abused almost 3 days every other week for 3 days straight, with a banshee, the screams, so horrible.
@@ND-we8gv REEEEĖĘĚĔÈÉÊËĒ
Something to that effect?
dude, that is horrible what happened to you. im so sorry for all that you've been through. how you have managed to stay optimistic and even still function is amazing. i give you my friendship as a sign of sorrow [insert virtual hug here]
You have no idea how much this helps I dont want to talk about my abuse but when I watch your videos I can at least think about it
The world is so cruel and unfair. I can’t begin to imagine being put in his position…
@@yellowbasementrecords651 just like your girlfriend :D
@@Dots......... nicee
@@Dots......... got damn
@@yellowbasementrecords651 Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!! Based on what? - If it is then I don't care, Because if You can fathom it, then it's happened to someone!!
*Sharpen your Understanding*
My fury is honed to a Razor's Edge. My heart (What's left of it) Goes out to this Nameless Iron Soul with a power to inspire like no other. If anybody else has suffered like, or even close to this;
*May Darkness and evil Burst aflame and Shrivel up in your Presence!!*
@@yellowbasementrecords651 Nonono please explain why it’s fake
I can't believe the horrors some people go through.. Why is there so much hatred and anger in our world? The fact that he went back to help his mother... His strength and selflessness is something i hope i can achieve.
It’s not that he had hatred or even anger
He was just crazy
“As long as two people remain alive on the Earth, someone is going to want someone dead.”
Humanity is just fucking rotten.
@@spacetacos7574 but i still have hope
@@ghuttsmckenzie4269 I agree its sad.
Hearing the pain in this guys voice is heartbreaking, I wish I could reach thru the screen and just give him a hug.
My father also was abused by his parents for the entirety of his time spent with them, childhood and to this day, while they are on their death beds, they are still monsters. What you have said, friend, really is important
He's a strong man, there's no two way to say it, he's a strong man
Amen man amen
Absolutely. I'm astonished and my respect for somebody has never been higher
yes
Can I give his man a hug please? I couldn’t even imagine what he has to go through on a daily basis. The American judicial system is so fucked up. Someone give this man a hug right now!
If I could meet this man I would and I would hug this man a hug try to make his day better
Guess what…..the world is fucked up right now, and it’s gonna get a lot worse
@@royaltyfree9607 “…Always has been.”
@@sheriffwasted6426 true
@@royaltyfree9607 that last part is gonna happen
28:58
That made me shed some tears. I only hope this guy finds far more happiness in his life. He has thrived SO much and far more than anyone of us. He needs to be known more of the true story. TJ, you are the definition of a thriving man.
It’s fortunate that he was able to talk about this, but very unfortunate that he had to.
exactly
I know the feeling of social anxiety that comes from that kind of trauma. My mothers partner was physically and mentally abusive and was also a pedophile. I was 6 when i went through it. I'm 31 now. I have 2 kids and a wife. Even to this day it makes human interaction very hard. Thankyou for sharing your story. Its hard to listen to and I'm sure it's hard to share but just know that you aren't alone.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, I wish you the best
@@Azeal you need to let this person on your channel please
Hugs!
Makes me be grateful for the parents I have.
Abuse of children should be met with the death penalty. Children need to be nurtured, loved, and raised in a stable environment. I'm not an emotional man in the slightest but this story made me sick to my stomach and my heart hurts for this man.
But it's a good thing that he didn't become a serial killer or murderer after all that abuse
This shit is why I think people need psych evaluations before they have kids. Too much of society is fucked up because of intergenerational violence.
@@adamk.7177 tbh recognizing that you could become an abuser (because it does happen, people who are abused [including me, i started imitating my mom's abusive ways but went to therapy for it] could become abusers by replicating the actions of their abuser) and going to therapy to stop the cycle of abuse is better than convincing yourself you cant abuse anyone else because you were a victim. doesn't work like that.
@@aether8248 There's also the chance that you may fall into victim blaming. I went through a similar experience as well with my mother and imitated her behavior when I was younger. Thankfully I grew out of it and had long cut ties with her for safety reasons. I feel like with these types of situations, there really isn't a right approach to this because it's such a personal experience and its a case by case scenario. At the end of the day, if you're an adult, then it's your responsibility to acknowledge your upbringing, grow from it, and unlearn harmful behaviors.
For kids, I feel all we can do is to have these types of discussions and educate them on these topics and helpful resources like national hotlines so that they can have a smoother road to recovery.
@@adamk.7177 while it can happen, I don’t think it happens incredibly often unless the adult is trying to teach the kid murder and such
I had to pause this video twice. To beat up my mma heavy bag. In the attempt to get out some of the anger I have towards this guy's parents. You're my new hero bro and I wish the best for you.
this guy is one of the bravest I've seen, to tell this story, my god, i dont even have words how brave this guy is
Every single adult in his life has failed him completely this is the most horrific situation a child can go through.I hope there are people surrounding him today that respect and love him completely.
The hug at the end made me cry. His story really puts into perspective that my own traumas, while similar, could have been worse.
I feel you bud
same
Never downplay your own traumas, each persons experiences matters just as much as mine or anyone else's. Sadly, that part didn't make it into the video. Maybe the recording was stopped or I was breaking up to much.
15 years...
same here
I'm not a viewer of this channel, but the title drew me into this video, and now that I've watched it, I want to say this. I hope he lives a long, happy life and that it only continues to get better for him from here on out. Having your childhood ripped out from under you like that is absolutely awful and no one ever deserves that.
I hope you’ve watched more of this channel, it’s one of the best interview channels I’ve seen on TH-cam because it’s never about celebrities or sensationalism, it’s always raw, real, and a perspective that most would never have heard from otherwise.
I have never so badly wished for a happy life to anyone before this, T.J. deserves so much love/happiness/comfort/safety/healing and the fact that he is strong enough to tell his story is genuinely awe-inspiring.
I had a disturbingly similar childhood... I can’t put into words how comforting it is to know that there are other people who truly understand how relentlessly hellish and overwhelming this life is for us.
That shit permanently broke me, and trying to live even a remotely normal life seems impossible at this point
Ouch. I honestly hope things go better for you. I hope you can get help.
Did justice ever get served for your case to the people involved?
Monsters involved*
I would suggest getting involved in helping others. You know how people can fall through the cracks in the system because you lived through it, find some way you can help someone else that the system doesn't help or actively ignores. Often assisting someone else with their problems can help you overcome your own.
I could never be as strong as you or him or anybody that has gone through this, all I can do is support you are incredibly amazing
This dude went through hell in more ways than one, from his biological father, biological mother, his step siblings, his step father, and step mother. Through all that he managed to make it through those hells to where he is today. That is strength in the purest form, and those monsters can rot.
step siblings were a product of abuse themselves quite clearly.
i just wish i could hug this man, he’s been through so much and is still fighting. idk if he’ll see my comment but i just want to tell him that i am just so proud of you for fighting so hard and long. i’m happy you’re here and are able to share your story. you did a great job getting to this point in life. i know i don’t know you but i love you, thank you for being here sharing your story
This dude is the epitome of human resiliency
Holy shit TJ, you gotta write a book.
You’ll be able to spread your story further and make some decent cash. If you don’t want to write it because it is too frustrating or tiresome, you can hire a ghost writer for a couple grand. This kind of story will make the money back for sure
You deserve the money after having to suffer like that growing up. I hope you are well and live in peace
Like a therapist
Yea seriously more people like him need to stand up and tell their stories of abuse I mean abuse is basically having so much power physical emotional and psychological power to bring someone down and suffer that’s kinda the world we live in people get addicted to that power and abuse it to the extreme
@@zedthecrimsonemperor definitely the best place to start
That is an amazing idea! I think apart from the cash it would do wonders for people that have gone through the similar experiences. My girlfriend has gone through some very similar things except it wasn't to this level but she feels very alone in her experiences and she loves to read books and I think just one thing telling people they aren't alone in this would be life changing. I think the cash is just an added bonus and could help him take care of his family.
I think you've completely missed the point bro. The last thing he probably wants is to make profit off of his story. He wants to share his story, explain to the world. He doesn't want you to "pay" for it?!
This dudes mom is a monster too. Poor kid, i was always thinking i had it hard until i hear stuff like this, it makes me grateful for the life i was given, he is so incredibly strong. He is a role model.
I think she's equally responsible. She kept putting her kids in these situations
@@crawlingcrow But there's hardly anything she can do.
@@crawlingcrow you don't know her or her life so how can you deal her blame? Life isn't so black and white. Shit happens and she got caught up in the crazy man
@@taegantan9445
She dated multiple abusive men, did nothing to stop them or help her children, and then suppressed information of what truly happened to them. She is awful.
@@theandromedaeffect979 he talks about the court case where they said he had to go to his dads and when you get with someone you don’t know that they are abusive it is not the mothers fault at all .
The emotional and mental strength of this guy is amazing, not only survived the abuse but also made a life for himself.
Man he is the DEFINITION of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
are you sugggesting that his father is why he is strong? do you hear yourself?
No I'm not. Have you not heard that saying. The idea of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger is based on a theory that by going through a difficult experience, people build up their strength for the next, possibly more painful event that may occur. That is what I'm saying. The experience has built up resilience.@@alexanderleonardi3625
@alexanderleonardi3625 Well, he's alive, isn't he
@@jasonleejames_official not what i asked. one who is silent is said to have confessed.
@@alexanderleonardi3625 Who confesses to the confessors?
7:15. I understand. I became a victim at the age of 10, where my “Biological Sperm Donor” and his spawn, “my sisters” repeatedly attacked me. Sexually mostly occasionally physical, and mentally regularly. It felt like being stranded in Hell. I was alone in a rural town known as Chinook, Montana. However I was 30+ miles away from any sign of other human life. My Hell only lasted 2 weeks before I was sent back to my Mom, I have approximately 13+ years of therapy under my belt and it does help, sometimes it’s just hard to believe what people are capable of. I’m 25 now with a 4 year old and another bundle of joy on the way. My Mom is a very godly woman and has since forgiven him and his children however, I will never forgive them for taking my innocence. I’m currently working towards my High School Diploma and very happy, my life went straight down after those events they don’t just break you. They break parts of you that you never knew existed. Stay strong fellow survivors.
You’re a really strong person. I admire you, yes even if you are a mere stranger in the comment section.
My dad is a sadistic pos he didn't kill anyone but he enjoys hurting ppl. He threw me across the living room for crying once. Locked my mom in dark rooms when he wanted to. He's fucked up and he's still out there hurting ppl. I have about 10 brothers out in the world somewhere some of which I barely know. I feel for this guy (to an extent). I'm real sorry to hear about this story.
So sorry to hear that. Hope everything gets better
@@SnowyTulip0707 oh na I'm peachy. Living with my mother at the moment. But if I see my dad again I'm breaking his knees make him wheel chair bound for a little bit
@@5quidge good. Sadistic shits deserve hell. I'm sorry you went through that.
@@5quidge gg man gg
@@5quidge bro you just earned my respect
Somehow he still gets up each day, and keeps pushing. Tenacity at its finest, not everyone can do that.
his sheer willpower is an inspiration to me and I'm so thankful that I could hear him speak live.
I am so sorry this happened. This is the strongest person I've seen. If that was my mother I would never forgive her
I've grown up in bad conditions, and have been abused and hurt...But not his level. Stay strong and eventually like he said, the good in live will will reflect on the bad and help you forget. You deserve all the hugs you can get.
Same here but damn I hope he is ok
Yea.....sucks we all have to go through this....maybe I can vent about it to someone one day
@@jhonythan6694 were all here if you need us
@@S1n_gopnik ;-;
This man deserved none of the shit he's gotten, everyone deserves love and kindness but this dude... Jesus Christ this dude needs every cookie, hug, and shoulder to cry on in the entire fucking world, and even with all of the shit he had to go through, he still has a healthy outlook on life and rather than becoming like his "father" he has become a good person.
The way this dude just has the strength to say his story even I break down in tears when I tell people how I got harassed
My father abused me and my mom up until he left when I was 5 years old. I later heard in 2014 that he murdered someone and was now spending the rest of his life in jail. Don't do drugs. Kinda interesting to hear from someone who is also the son of a murderer.
apart from the story
he is an absolute legend for using that skin
Agreed
Agreed Aswell
Indeed he is
Agreed
What skin is that?
"Of course, in a world filled with misery and uncertainty, it is a great comfort to know that - in the end - there is light in the darkness." - Joshua Graham, Fallout: New Vegas
Thank you for sharing this, TJ, and I hope the future holds the best for you. You've earned it. o7
Joshua Graham is the best Fallout Character, you cannot tell me otherwise
@@destroyer_fletcher7415 you mean Randall Clark
Bro you can’t seriously tell me you quoted a video game character.
@@nooner5933 i mean videogames are considered a artform and this character is genuinely full of amazing writing and quotes
@@kaiju3646 i consider it especially amazing because it reminded me of Jesus, i believe He is the light
I can personally relate to that... emptiness of sorts. You cannot smile, laugh, cry or much of anything. It took me about 5 years to learn how to even remotely change my facial expression and i still too this day find it difficult smiling. There's heaps of other small things others don't even recognize. My face when smiling and i'm just having a good time with friends starts to shake and tingle. It's all really fucked up.
Are you still in public school? They might be able to help you mask and fake being normal.
The stuff towards the end like being picked up by his ears and being thrown into closets was something that I went through. Seeing that someone else went through that and so much worse makes me so sad. TJ is a god damn hero. I hope his life only gets better. Because he deserves it at this point.
The really messed up thing about it, is the friction on the wall will let you be picked up by your ears or neck without breaking you physically. I was all !?, then he mentioned the wall....at that point I was like, he at least witnessed this, probably felt it...
i hate rapist and sexual harassers so much, i myself have never had any experiences or have any one of my family member or friends had that experience (thank god) but when i listen to these stories it makes my blood boil with rage
Having lived through terrible things from family as well it's amazing how easy it is for abusers to get away with things for so long. I was told by a councilor that my parents should have been arrested but i told her no one cared at the time and that when anyone did bring up the issues to cops or cps no one did anything to protect us kids. The system has so many holes and so many people who work in it that just doesn't care.
I'll never understand why these doings aren't set equal to murder in court. It's simply murder of the soul at the very least.
You have no idea what kind of heartbreak comes with the experience of looking someone in the eyes when they tell you that they've been abused or raped. I've seen it 5 times now. Thank God I've never been through anything myself, but I've heard too many stories...
Sadly the human brain isnt perfect , many people are Born as phsycopaths or many turn into bad people , i dont think its their fault , its Just that this world hates mentally weak people and many of them start to hate everyone , and even harm the people they love..
@@CarlsCozyCorner 5? bro that would feel absolutely horrible, i cant imagine live through getting raped, aswell as hearing from someone you care that they were raped
Imagine being in this guys situation, props to him for living through that
*Definitely, Cannot put enough emphasis on that!*
Right! I would've killed myself or the monster who did it
@@billjamal4764 Never yourself, bad idea.
You'll feel very Stupid in the afterlife... Just eliminate the problem and make sure you get away with it!
Humans should be born with Battle and predatory instinct again - all because of Monsters like these!!
@Xeknown I know. I'm brutal. Wasn't always like that... - Not sure if I should mention that I WAS weak and exploitable. Just now maybe someone Tries something... But I said 'WAS' so my new motto is: Please get in my way, Please. Gonna have a field day with troublemakers!
I would be charged with murder for poisoning the person making my life hell if I was in his shoes
Holy shit, you are an absolute legend for having that outlook you have on life after everything. Chin up and keep going bro. Love from Australia
It's unreal the pain and suffering that goes on to people every day. I'm glad he shared his story, to show the world that this evil exists but to never forget those it affected. A monster's biggest victims are those who didn't die by its hand but that must feel the scars of its wrath to remind them it exists. I'm glad to hear he's doing better and that he's pushing on, a true inspiration
That’s a really inspiring quote thank you
I'm not sure how this ended up in my recommendations, but this is so heartbreaking and I'm so glad he's been able to make a better life for himself. I'm proud of him for hanging in there and for the strength he has to tell this story. I wish nothing but the best for him and I hope he continues to have a better everything.
You know, when you see a title like this, you think it must be fake. And honestly, i wish it was fake. But the moment TJ said one word, I could tell it's very real. TJ, you are the strongest soul. You deserve all the happiness, love, support and peace
I wish you the best in your healing, you and everyone who had to go through this all.
While my father wasn't this extreme, it's, after a fashion, healing to hear someone with overlapping experiences talk about it all from such a personal level, especially towards the end where he contextualizes his world view and processing.
I wish him nothing but endless healing and comfort
This is the exact reason why I teach my kids to be kind to people. You have no idea what struggles they have gone through and or I’ve with. Never be another problem, like many people enjoy being trolls/bullies etc. The world can be a horrible place, some people including myself has experienced the ugliest side of humanity… So why not aim to make it brighter from experiencing the darkness ? Appreciate you sharing your story. Beyond glade to hear you living on with control and finding the good things life still have to offer you !!!
@@thotslayer9914 any problem with that?
@@thotslayer9914 dude if all you are gonna do is be offensive then it’s honestly better to just not comment anything, this is an actually good and inspirational comment so please don’t, and also how do you infer if someone can afford having his children with this little information about the guy, all the information you have is that the guy has children nothing else, and the most possible inference is that the guy is very hard working guy who is prosperous in life by reading the comment which is quite motivational if i am being honest.
@@thotslayer9914 i am chill, I don’t know why you thought I wasn’t but ok.
Not to be the devil on anyone's shoulder, but if you find out what prison he's in and become a random pen pal with a lifer or two, (they appreciate that by the way) and tell them this, there's an excessively high chance he will have a much worse time in prison. Just a thought.
Bump this so he can see.
Penn State Pen last I checked ;)
Yo, I know where he is. He is in Pennsylvania state penitentiary. I have the number for you in the info I gathered.
You can try to be pen pals with someone there and tell them everything that this punk did to his children and other family members that were also children.
If the authorities find out you tried to cause trouble, they'll move the guy out and put him in protection and you can potentially get in trouble. Much as I want for this to happen, guys, don't. U.S. prison system isn't a joke, and he won't suffer major consequences.
Dude, you are amazing. Some people can’t get over someone not texting them back in a timely manner. I don’t think I’ve ever heard a more shocking story, it’s equally amazing you’ve been able to overcome it and make something of yourself. God be with you bro.
When he says that it took a while for him to show his true colors.
I know a few stories from friends and such where these horrible people will enter and be nice to the kids to the mother, everyone falls for him, and then when he has installed himself into the family unit, he unleashes his true self and it'll mess a kid up for life. He doesn't just make people's lives hell, he infects them with his awfulness.
The amount of courage and strength to talk about your past is unfathomable, I don't know how you are currently but I wish all my heart to you, you are a strong person and I'm sure everything will get better for you, the world owes you that much.
People who go through stuff like this and make it out the other side are the most badass that humanity has to offer.
No shit right?
That’s why he’s a pilot, he’s the best of the best
@@shortsentral "You are in the presence of a pilot, respect is due."
I'm crying... I was abused as a child as well, but no where near as bad as this guy. My mom stood idly by most times, but would lash out at me as well. She was abused by every man she dated, and I was abused by them too. There's a lot about my childhood that I cannot remember, as I am sure I have blacked it out of my memory. But the things I do clearly remember start around the age of 9 years old. I believe my mother was herself a victim and powerless to stop the abuse due to circumstances (poverty and homeless periods). I secretly saved money for two years and moved to a different state when I was 18 to get as far away from my life as possible. It helped me take back control, and I was able to come to terms with what happened to my siblings and I. I forgave my mom at the age of 20. My siblings have never fully forgiven her. During my adult life she was the mother I had always dreamed of having. She passed away several years ago from cancer, surrounded by my siblings and I. I found the light in the darkness, and so did she. I love her so much and can really empathize with him being able to choose to be home with his mother at her end of days.
Thank you so much for telling your story.
Just stumbled on to this channel and you do this so professionally. I always love to hear people's stories and it's very well done here. This man is very strong to be able to openly talk about all of this, I hope he is in a much better place in life.
I would not forgive my mother I would let her know everyday for the rest of her life what she did this guy is strong af
This man had balls of steel to forgive his mother after all of that messed up shit
In many ways she was a victim too, and I am guessing he recognized that. I have had an ex-gf went through a similar childhood as him, who treated me more like a friend to rely on when life was rough, than a boyfriend, and actively kept our relationship from progressing. While I hold her accountable for how she treated me, I understood why she was the way she was and never held it against her. I just wished things could have worked out differently for us.
On the other hand, I have a sister who was a drug addict, and stole thousands from me (at the same time as I was dating my now ex incidentally), who I will not ever forgive, because she did it out of selfish reasons, and had no more life trauma than I did, being a single year older than me. She has been diagnosed with a number of mental health issues, but I grew up with her, and other being self centered and lacking what some would call common sense, she was like any other kid. Personally I am of the belief that everyone has certain tendencies that are not exactly baseline normal, and in her case, excessive prolonged drug usage increased those tendencies, then she exaggerated them when getting diagnosed in order to have a legitimate sounding excuse for her shitty behavior. "It is not her fault that she did xyx, because she has such and such mental issue". It is just her way of shifting responsibility for her actions away from herself. Anyways, I won't forgive her, because so far as I am concerned, any mental health issues she might have now, she brought on herself through her own choices.
Regardless, that's still his mother. If I happened to be in his situation, or in any situation like it, I could never bring myself to never forgive my mother for something terrible she may have done.
I haven't finished the video, but what did she do? Didn't she try to bring him to court for justice?
I want someone to make a fan art of that ending scene. For it's heart touching value and because upon retrospect it would be funny looking at Jack Cooper hugging a waist high anime girl.
*Etch it in the internet stone.*
I would pay for that
fuck it, I am going to pay for that
@@Azeal Whoa... Pay for what, Though?
You seem exited, lol.
@@Azeal poggers
Bro this guy is a fucking tank. Took all this shit and he's still standing. Actual badass
You can view trauma as a reason to not live anymore or you can see as a reason to keep fighting and prove that your deck of cards can be winnable
"My brain is convinced if I stay asleep nothing bad can happen to me" goddamn that hit me really hard
One horror story after another, the fact that this man survived all of that and didn't lose his sanity is incredible. I'm not religious, but child abusers... Make me wish hell was real. If it means anything, a *lot *of people here including me, are sending their love to you right now. Truly, my heart goes out to you! I don't think I've ever wanted to protect a stranger like I do now.
Its so sad that TJ had to go through those horrors, doubt it leaves room to ever trust anyone. How could it? That's what messes me up the most hearing all this, that people (who were *supposed to protect him*) not only abused him, but left behind a different kind of mark. People like them shouldn't get to leave behind anything. I hope one day that TJ is able to see life through a lenses that is free of the clutter his step/"father" left. And spites them by living life to the fullest.
7:18
You can just start hearing the pain in his voice when he talked about being abused, just break down.
I just wanna give him a hug
I hope he knows that he is a true hero and that he defeated evil in his own way, with his own strength. There are those born with broken minds that become an agent of darkness but there are people like this human being that shined through it with the light.
Unfortunately, stories like his are not just common, they are rampant the WORLD over. I'm currently rehabilitating a girl whose father was just as much a monster, if not worse; I really don't want to find out more. My team and I managed to get him arrested twice, but was allowed bail, even though they had so much evidence of his past transgressions, but I don't know how law works over in the UK or if it's any different from the States. But this ain't first rodeo, I've been in this position far too many times throughout my entire life, first experiencing it personally/directly, then starting to help others around 14, when I managed to compartmentalize my own damage and pain, repurposing it into willpower incarnate, with the goal of saving, protecting, and/or completely preventing this type of thing from happening to anyone else. However, it is an unfathomable weight to carry, especially when it isn't your own. But the guilt that comes from not helping someone, whether it's by choice or simply by means, is so much heavier.
That said, if you truly have what it takes to help others, do so. But do it for the RIGHT reasons. And definitely do NOT be the person who does nothing, or says "It isn't my job/business/problem", because that makes you WORSE than these monsters, in my book. If you're scared to do something yourself, then call the police, or even a friend, but DON'T JUST DO NOTHING. I've been fortunate enough to have found a team who is located in the UK, who have been my eyes and ears, and my boots on the ground, for this one, but it's the first time. If we could normalize such groups/teams, THAT is how we can help more. But we also need much harsher penalties and punishments for abusers. I'm working on a petition, for US congressional review, that would argue for such changes, and many more. Law and order are falling out of whack, and it all needs to be massively updated.
I agreed with u up to the point about “if u do nothing your worse” rhetoric
@@dillonthevillon3719 ok?
@@dillonthevillon3719 not worse but as bad
Ye idk how to heal trauma like that that's dark but ye always gotta help out but thats if they want to help themselves tbh
Wow
POV: Fleet commander asks a pilot about his childhood. All jokes aside, I am there for this guy and I hope he's happy now and has a great life.
This destroys my heart, I feel so much rage in not being able to understand the mindset of these abusers. Full support TJ.
Study narcissistic abuse. I recommend watching Sam Vaknin's lectures on TH-cam. It will give you understanding of their sick mind.
My dude I’ve been watching all your videos today and holy f I love all of it. All of this is just amazing, sad and so humanizing it’s absolutely beautiful in the most chaotic way. I don’t think people talk enough (yes because of fear of being seen as a freak or some other negative ideas/words.) but this thing you’re doing gives so many people a voice, regardless if it’s sad at time.And thank you most of all for doing background research on the ones you’re interviewing.
Lol its oddly nice to know the worlds messed up and you’re not alone