This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been drinking for 18years. I’ve drank almost every weekend. My longest sober run was 26days. At this very moment I am choosing to triple that, hopefully 🤞 longer …. I will report back in 78 days.Thank you 🙏 Ryan and all your work.
I’m trying too brother, I used to drink 12 beers every day after work and sometimes at work. Now I’m 2 weeks sober, going to the gym every day, but the craving for alcohol feels physical, body aches, sweats and extreme urge to drink alcohol. I’ll get better soon:)
Breaks are the best way. I get a lot of dopamine from drinking. When I was younger my Dad made me stop drinking for a year because of a fight I got in. In 2020 I stopped drinking for a year because it made me feel depressed. Now I will not drink for a few months at a time. If I attend a social event in that window I will drink. If its outside that window I don't even consider it. By taking it off the table for a period of time you will enjoy it more and learn about how it makes you feel.
@@Bludcharg4214 keep going man, that feeling will go away. I know sleeping, eating and remaining chill might feel hard but eventually it will get easier. I promise, you've come so far. Keep going 👊
The problem with alcoholics is they're killing brain cells. Their mind is so mushy they have no idea of reality. While they're getting drunk they're turning their back on the people that love them and they don't even realize it. The people that have to live with alcoholics go through hell. Especially young children that don't understand why is alcohol more important to Daddy than I am
Hey Ryan, you helped my wife with one of the most profound paradigm shifts in our marriage/ life. For the last 2 months, I have been practicing stoicism, and we both found we were spending 90 % of our energy on the wronge matters. Since then, we both found much better jobs, moved 3 hours away to a much better place, finally stopped drinking every day for the past 5 years, and finally feel proud of who we are as individuals as well as a unit. Thank you, we appreciate your existence and how you spend your time and energy.
My addiction isn't my substances. It is hollowness that I need to fill, but I can't fill. If I don't do substances. I pull a muscle from my lifting addiction.
I consider Stoicism my religion. It helped me become a better man, but recently I spiraled into an addiction after suffering a mental breakdown/hospitalization. Thanks for all your content, Ryan 👨🚒🙏
Relapsed today after a long time. HALT is amazing. I haven't been sleeping. I let go of my workout routine. Of course I'd reach for the bottle. I will forgive myself and make tomorrow a sober day.
it's incredible how I'm just starting to be aware now that staying sober, grounded, focused and connected with Nature are the fundamental skills to navigate safely and stably in this increasingly overstimulating world. thank you so much Ryan for your work!
I really need this. I lost so many years to addiction and It literally took me 6 years to get it together. I've always found parallels between remaining sober and Marcus Aurelius's meditations.
I started watching the Daily Stoic shortly after I came home from a short rehab/sober house stint in February and January of 2022. I noticed that stoicism and AA align in many ways. Even through the 12 steps you can see how closely they align. I discovered for myself personally sharing my story with others at meetings has been the most beneficial thing in my journey of recovery. But by far best part of speaking at a meeting isn't sharing. It's hearing the newcomer speaking up and saying how much it helped them. That keeps you coming. But the benefits of service are tenfold you're no longer focused on you and self pity. You look at what you can do for others. Thank you Ryan for doing what you're doing. You're bringing people to a new home simply by expressing yourself and studying. In 4 days a day at a time I'll have 16 months of recovery. And thank people like you, others in my life, and a higher power of my own conception for being able to do that.
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius As a reader of "7 Habits of Highly Virtuous Stoics," I've realized that true wisdom comes from taking action, not just debating theory. This book has given me the tools to cultivate daily habits that align with my values and help me become the best version of myself.
Holy cow!!!! This could not possibly have come at a better moment. My vice is food and it is a TERRIBLE thing to battle because you can’t just quit food. It’s so easy to give up and give in. Thank you for the encouragement to keep fighting!
I am a slave to the porn industry. I have been for a long time and i have tried over and over to stop. I fail constantly. Stoicism has been the biggest eye opener and the best path for me to tread but i am still constantly having to start over. I will never give up trying to break the chains.
I quit porn because of Ryan's book Discipline is Destiny. There is no easy way. You have to give yourself forgiveness and know there is a better version of you waiting. I used porn to mood regulate. Whenever you are triggered to use, take 3 deep conscious breaths. Feel the uncomfort and anxiety. Learn to love it and only then will you conquer it. It's amazing to be on the other side. I feel like a warrior. I wish you the best on your journey!
Been sober off alcohol for over 3 years I think it’s been now , still a causal cannabis user admittedly, but the biggest problem i had over the past few months was just doom scrolling TH-cam shorts without any certain topic I was looking for in mind, then I found you channel sold all my video game related items and accounts, re did my resume and finally found work as a freelance software dev making more money than I’ve ever made in the army or welding
As a long-time student of Stoicism, I found this video to be incredibly insightful and helpful in understanding the power of Stoic philosophy in overcoming addictions and maintaining sobriety. The idea that discipline is destiny truly resonated with me, and the concept of the dichotomy of control is a crucial reminder that we only have power over our own minds and actions. Furthermore, the acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) highlights the importance of self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our urges and cravings. It's comforting to know that the Stoics themselves were not immune to these struggles, but their teachings provide us with valuable guidance on how to regain control over our lives. Lastly, the emphasis on service to others and being a part of something bigger than ourselves is a powerful reminder that we can find meaning, purpose, and even healing through acts of kindness and support. Thank you for sharing this profound wisdom with us, and for providing a thoughtful and positive space for self-improvement and personal growth.
A book that helped me quit drinking *literally overnight* is called Kick the Drink. Works psychologically like a magic pill. I’ve heard the Easy Way books are similar. I stopped drinking about a year and a half ago when writing my first book and don’t miss it.
I got sober through AA 2 and 1/2 years ago. I started studying Stoicism shortly after. It has been a tremendous help to me in navigating life and it’s difficulties. I recommend your books to my friends in recovery. Thank you for doing what you do!
I feel like stoicism picks up where the AA big book stops. For me, Stoicism answers all of the questions that AA falls short on. It’s become my higher power since I’m an atheist. Congrats on your clean time!!
Ryan, I am 55 yo and in the past few years I have completely 'lost my $h1t' and everything has gotten out of hand. Our family is torn up, business, friendships, family and so on... Self will run riot. THANK YOU for all you do. Your words, works and encouragement are just the example I've needed to find a path to follow. You are saving lives!!! Whidbey Island, WA
Thanks Ryan, I almost didn't watch this because I'm not intemperate, not thinking it applied to me, but then I remembered the teaching of my friends who are friends of Bill W. and realized that sobriety is not JUST from alcohol and other drugs . . . a lot to learn here.
I started listening to Ryan when I was stumbling around youtube, trying find new ways to deal with life, instead of using alcohol. As soon as I found his videos, they clicked instantly! Ryan is a modern stoic doing the continued work of the past stoics! stoicism helped to keep my sober, and now 3 years later Im still sober and practicing stoicism! You can do it🤘
In tears. I was just listening to this standing up and I couldn‘t help but realize how much control I actually have. It‘s getting back up and going to work on youself what matters. Helping and being helped.
I have been sober for 38 years. A few months ago I Googled who said "except the things I cannot change" from the Serenity Prayer. The Answer was Epictetus. Then I found Ryan Holiday and have been learning about Stoicism ever since. For myself, the key to living sober is "Never Stop Learning."
A very powerful and timely piece for me … I did ‘Dry January’ with absolutely ease … arrogantly I thought I nailed it and my future lay in self-controlled moderation (the ego taking control?!) I’ve now come to realise I’ve come come out of it drinking more than I did before! - little steps 😊- love your work dude …
I actually used Stoicism to sober myself up years ago and still practice it today to strengthen my recovery. I am even about to publish a Stoic recovery book within the next month.
this will help me get sober. I havent been able to stop learning about the stoics. I want to become them in every sense of the word. Please wish me luck, i will have set backs
Hope to see more of these helpful vids. It has been a daily global pummel the last 7 years. Easy to put a system in place but damn difficult to stay on track lately when you look around.
I love that back in January I got recommended his book the Obstacle is the Way. During my recovery I really have dived into stoic philosophy since. See tonight that this video got posted combining the two together Stoicism and sobriety! LOVE IT
Excellent Ryan. I’ve been using stoicism for years now on my recovery journey from drugs and alcohol. I read your book, The Daily Stoic, every morning and implement stoicism in my life whenever possible. I’ve been 11 years sober from cocaine thanks to these techniques. Love your content! You rock! 😄
Your videos have helped me a lot since I started watching them in 2021. They inspired me to start my first journal which it has brought relief to my anxiety and escapism.
After watching this video, I feel inspired to dive deeper into stoicism and learn more about its historical context and modern applications. The recommended readings and resources at the end are a great starting point.
1.Be free and take it back 2.Know that I have control over me 3.It works if I work 4.Ask those questions ❓ 5.HALT is ... 6.Enough is enough 7.Take me back to the normal rhythm 8.Don't try to control everything 9.Help other people with their trouble/burdens
I've been sober from Alcohol for 4 months now. Decided to quit for good on my 25th birthday. I wasn't much of a drinker; only would do so in social situations. Quitting was a domino effect of me quitting Marijuana once I became a Fireman about a year and a half ago. I felt that if I could quit that, which I really enjoyed, I could quit drinking. I felt I was only drinking to appease others' comfortability in social situations and didn't like that because at the end of the day it's my body and it's up to me how I treat it. I feel better than ever without any hangovers at all and the mental clarity amongst other benefits, is worth steering clear of even a sip. Thanks for the reminder and the help you're doing for so many others Ryan.
There horses for courses and Stoicism has been wonderful to practice in Sobriety but is only a part of what is required for continuous Sobriety. That’s my experience. 😊
Funny that Ryan mentioned his own tendency to be a workaholic... I've often thought that about him. I love his videos, but have felt ,at times, sad for him. It seems like wherever he is, his mind is on doing these videos for us. He reminds me of a story about the Dallas Cowboy running back, Calvin Hill. He was also the father of NBA player Grant Hill. After his NFL career he became a mentor/counselor for NFL players struggling with addiction. At one session one of the players said to him, in essence...."Calvin it is great you're helping us, but if you don't want Grant to be here, you need to spend more time with your son, than us." I hope Ryan has true balance in his life and is able to really practice all of what he is providing for us.
I’m currently struggling after a long marathon of healthy living… the problem? I got distracted, lost my discipline and passion for stoicism in order to direct it at my wife and son… BIG MISTAKE! Not loving my family but if I’m not ok, they’re not ok. Trying to get back on track. Btw I just explained who you were to my wife… “if there is one father of modern stoicism; Ryan holiday is the son of modern stoicism.”
Controversial Opinion Hi, Ryan. I am following your advice to continue to read the daily stoic and apply it in life. As Epictetus, said in Discourses, 3.21.1-3 “show us the changes in your reasoned choices, just like the shoulders of gymnasts display their diet and training, and as the craft of artisans show in what they've learned.” Everybody is different, but when we catch ourselves wanting to condescendingly drop some knowledge that we have, grab it and ask: Would we be better saying fewer words or letting our actions and choices illustrate that knowledge for others? To answer your question. Epictetus’ Discourses, 3.21.1-3 speaks about learning. Since learning is more than hearing and seeing it is integrated into the mind and comes out as wisdom rarer than knowledge. At that point the information no longer copied the research but explains the research In an understandable Way. Showing the the wisdom we get through this digestive process is how we apply this knowledge to our own lives. In the context of Epictetus’ Discourses 3.21.1-3, showing vs. telling refers to the distinction between saying that one is virtuous versus actually demonstrating virtuous behavior through one's actions. Epictetus argues that it is not enough to simply talk about being virtuous, but rather one must actively live out their virtuous beliefs through their actions. Epictetus uses the example of a musician to illustrate this point. He notes that a musician cannot simply talk about their skills, but must demonstrate their abilities through their performance. Similarly, individuals must not simply talk about their virtuous beliefs, but must demonstrate their virtue through their actions. Overall, showing vs. telling highlights the importance of embodying one's beliefs and values through action rather than simply discussing them. It emphasizes the significance of practicing Stoic principles in daily life, rather than just preaching them. Actions speak louder than words, demonstrating one's true understanding of Stoic wisdom. Speech is Sliver. Silence is Gold. But a Pause is Diamond. It speaks about learning is more than hearing and seeing it is integrated into the mind and comes out as wisdom rearher than knowledge. At that point the information no longer copied the research but explains the research In an understandable Way. Showing the the wisdom we get through this digestive process is how we apply this knowledge to our own lives. We can apply this teaching by subscribing to your channel, reading all of your books, and sending you (the most knowledgeable individual on stoicism) our questions. Which I did over 3 months ago and I still have yet to hear back. I am sure you are busy. However, I would appreciate it if you could let me what you think of this understanding.
Staying sober for most people can be a difficult thing to do. Somehow you'll always be able to find your way out of the darkness you're trapped in for so long. Have faith and have courage and always move forward.
Hi I love your videos. I was however a little disappointed in a blog post you wrote. I'm not sure when it was written but it was one thing you said, that made me think, that it didn't need to be said. You wrote about president Grant, but you had a subtle dig at Trump. You didn't mention him by name but your reference was about him. You said something like, unlike a former president, he isn't the most persecuted president. I was disappointed because it wasn't being kind, which is also part of the stoic mindset. I just believe it didn't need to be said. It didn't help the article, if anything it nearly caused me to stop reading, and not take you seriously. I have only just discovered your channel and I love it. Thanks for your awesome videos and your contribution to the world I believe you are making a real difference to the world 🌎. Thanks again.
I don’t think anyone going into rehab think it’s going to be as simple as taking a pill and moving on with your life. Why did you say that that was a waste of words?
i love this video. I want to do physical exercise but i am worried my heart cant handle it from the abuse ive put it through. I love doing the thing because it doesnt feel like work but he only trains real fighters and Im scared i will legit die doing it . Stocism should tell me i do it and acceptcane of the reality might be the cause and dying know my love of something is important. FUCK
why do I want to get/stay sober? stoicism taught me about moderation, I'm going to enjoy sex,drugs and rock and roll until the day I die. I've been wasted maybe 8-10 times in the last 5 years, staying sober is lame, why stay sober? people that are sober are still ruining their lives with their shitty diet and smoking a ton of cigarettes, moderation is key to life, if you cut one thing out, you will just replace it with another bad habit, learn moderation, I don't trust people who have no self control. whether it be booze or food. I know most will disagree with me, but enjoy everything life has to offer, but in moderation, it's not that difficult.
See I have a really hard time quitting marijuana. I've been smoking it for over house my life and help smooth anxiety and I really enjoy it but it is a huge waste of my money. I would appreciate it if you would make an entire video about reasons to quit smoking weed❤ 0:09
@@jesusofnazareth6254 it's not just recreational I do it for my anxiety really really helps for that. So it depends what you define as a waste. So maybe I shouldn't stay huge waste of money but a financial burden. And I'm sure there's some other disadvantages but that's not to say that it doesn't have advantages
if your self control is "always-on" it will be diluted and you will never have the capacity to afford sprints superhuman self-control/focus... not worth.
This is the problem with the world. I started watching this and thinking what a great and selfless video and half way through i realise hes trying to sell us some ridiculously expensive counsiling. Then it leads to thinking why does he really make these videos and again it leads to his wallet. Every single human being in this world is selfish even the ones trying not to be (usually they have the wool pulled over there eyes)
you sound cynical. earning a living is necessary in the world. how are you earning money? when youtubers plug a product it’s how they earn their income. amazing feature of youtube is you can fast-forward right past it. he isn’t doing this work SO THAT he can sell it. he is doing this work because it’s his calling and he has found a way to get paid to follow his calling. you could too but you are viewing money as evil. change your attitude and your life can change.
I've smoked bulk pot since I was 15. At times it's helped me and at times is hasn't but it's been a staple in my life. I could move mountains without it.
This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been drinking for 18years. I’ve drank almost every weekend. My longest sober run was 26days. At this very moment I am choosing to triple that, hopefully 🤞 longer …. I will report back in 78 days.Thank you 🙏 Ryan and all your work.
I’m trying too brother, I used to drink 12 beers every day after work and sometimes at work. Now I’m 2 weeks sober, going to the gym every day, but the craving for alcohol feels physical, body aches, sweats and extreme urge to drink alcohol. I’ll get better soon:)
Breaks are the best way. I get a lot of dopamine from drinking. When I was younger my Dad made me stop drinking for a year because of a fight I got in. In 2020 I stopped drinking for a year because it made me feel depressed. Now I will not drink for a few months at a time. If I attend a social event in that window I will drink. If its outside that window I don't even consider it. By taking it off the table for a period of time you will enjoy it more and learn about how it makes you feel.
@@Bludcharg4214 keep going man, that feeling will go away. I know sleeping, eating and remaining chill might feel hard but eventually it will get easier. I promise, you've come so far. Keep going 👊
The problem with alcoholics is they're killing brain cells. Their mind is so mushy they have no idea of reality. While they're getting drunk they're turning their back on the people that love them and they don't even realize it. The people that have to live with alcoholics go through hell. Especially young children that don't understand why is alcohol more important to Daddy than I am
You can totally do it. It should not be part of your life, you are now free
Hey Ryan, you helped my wife with one of the most profound paradigm shifts in our marriage/ life. For the last 2 months, I have been practicing stoicism, and we both found we were spending 90 % of our energy on the wronge matters. Since then, we both found much better jobs, moved 3 hours away to a much better place, finally stopped drinking every day for the past 5 years, and finally feel proud of who we are as individuals as well as a unit. Thank you, we appreciate your existence and how you spend your time and energy.
Thank you for sharing . You inspired me to do better 🙏
Congratulations man ❤
Keep going! ❤
Beautiful thank you for sharing.
Josh Peck saying ‘I am bottomless and nothing, be it food, drugs, or prestige, can fill up this hole in my soul’… oof, I felt that
My addiction isn't my substances. It is hollowness that I need to fill, but I can't fill. If I don't do substances. I pull a muscle from my lifting addiction.
I quit nearly two years ago when I started watching your videos and read your books. My health has changed and I can better cope with life now
I consider Stoicism my religion. It helped me become a better man, but recently I spiraled into an addiction after suffering a mental breakdown/hospitalization. Thanks for all your content, Ryan 👨🚒🙏
Relapsed today after a long time. HALT is amazing. I haven't been sleeping. I let go of my workout routine. Of course I'd reach for the bottle. I will forgive myself and make tomorrow a sober day.
Decided to get sober one day ago, and saw this on my feed randomly 😢 gods timing is always perfect thanks for this I’ll keep going🙏🏾
Hope you’re doing alright bro 👊
good luck please let me know if you are doing okay. I wish Ryan would start a discord for us to help each other out
Hope you're alright
I just said to myself yesterday, healer, heal thyself. You can do that through helping others.
Been sober for 82 days now. Found the stoics right as I started. Been amazing help
it's incredible how I'm just starting to be aware now that staying sober, grounded, focused and connected with Nature are the fundamental skills to navigate safely and stably in this increasingly overstimulating world. thank you so much Ryan for your work!
I made 3 years sober last February. I've been reading Daily stoic lately too, love it.
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I really need this. I lost so many years to addiction and It literally took me 6 years to get it together. I've always found parallels between remaining sober and Marcus Aurelius's meditations.
Stoicism and AA are perfectly compatible as are AA and all universal truths. Most 12 Steppers become stoic through the work. It is awesome to see.
I started watching the Daily Stoic shortly after I came home from a short rehab/sober house stint in February and January of 2022. I noticed that stoicism and AA align in many ways. Even through the 12 steps you can see how closely they align.
I discovered for myself personally sharing my story with others at meetings has been the most beneficial thing in my journey of recovery. But by far best part of speaking at a meeting isn't sharing. It's hearing the newcomer speaking up and saying how much it helped them. That keeps you coming.
But the benefits of service are tenfold you're no longer focused on you and self pity. You look at what you can do for others.
Thank you Ryan for doing what you're doing. You're bringing people to a new home simply by expressing yourself and studying.
In 4 days a day at a time I'll have 16 months of recovery. And thank people like you, others in my life, and a higher power of my own conception for being able to do that.
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius
As a reader of "7 Habits of Highly Virtuous Stoics," I've realized that true wisdom comes from taking action, not just debating theory. This book has given me the tools to cultivate daily habits that align with my values and help me become the best version of myself.
Holy cow!!!! This could not possibly have come at a better moment. My vice is food and it is a TERRIBLE thing to battle because you can’t just quit food. It’s so easy to give up and give in. Thank you for the encouragement to keep fighting!
Yes, me too
I am a slave to the porn industry. I have been for a long time and i have tried over and over to stop. I fail constantly. Stoicism has been the biggest eye opener and the best path for me to tread but i am still constantly having to start over. I will never give up trying to break the chains.
Download multiple blockers on your phone, computer, etc. helped me a lot.
I quit porn because of Ryan's book Discipline is Destiny. There is no easy way. You have to give yourself forgiveness and know there is a better version of you waiting. I used porn to mood regulate. Whenever you are triggered to use, take 3 deep conscious breaths. Feel the uncomfort and anxiety. Learn to love it and only then will you conquer it. It's amazing to be on the other side. I feel like a warrior. I wish you the best on your journey!
Maybe look into reprogramming the subconscious for healthier habits. I believe it works if someone really wants to improve. 🙂 Hope this helps!
"One man and one alone shall we consider rich, the man who has acquired the ability to want for nothing always and everywhere." - Musonius Rufus
Been sober off alcohol for over 3 years I think it’s been now , still a causal cannabis user admittedly, but the biggest problem i had over the past few months was just doom scrolling TH-cam shorts without any certain topic I was looking for in mind, then I found you channel sold all my video game related items and accounts, re did my resume and finally found work as a freelance software dev making more money than I’ve ever made in the army or welding
As a long-time student of Stoicism, I found this video to be incredibly insightful and helpful in understanding the power of Stoic philosophy in overcoming addictions and maintaining sobriety. The idea that discipline is destiny truly resonated with me, and the concept of the dichotomy of control is a crucial reminder that we only have power over our own minds and actions. Furthermore, the acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) highlights the importance of self-awareness and understanding the root causes of our urges and cravings. It's comforting to know that the Stoics themselves were not immune to these struggles, but their teachings provide us with valuable guidance on how to regain control over our lives. Lastly, the emphasis on service to others and being a part of something bigger than ourselves is a powerful reminder that we can find meaning, purpose, and even healing through acts of kindness and support. Thank you for sharing this profound wisdom with us, and for providing a thoughtful and positive space for self-improvement and personal growth.
A book that helped me quit drinking *literally overnight* is called Kick the Drink. Works psychologically like a magic pill. I’ve heard the Easy Way books are similar. I stopped drinking about a year and a half ago when writing my first book and don’t miss it.
Do you know if this book can be applied to food addiction?
I got sober through AA 2 and 1/2 years ago. I started studying Stoicism shortly after. It has been a tremendous help to me in navigating life and it’s difficulties. I recommend your books to my friends in recovery. Thank you for doing what you do!
I feel like stoicism picks up where the AA big book stops. For me, Stoicism answers all of the questions that AA falls short on. It’s become my higher power since I’m an atheist. Congrats on your clean time!!
Ryan, I am 55 yo and in the past few years I have completely 'lost my $h1t' and everything has gotten out of hand. Our family is torn up, business, friendships, family and so on... Self will run riot. THANK YOU for all you do. Your words, works and encouragement are just the example I've needed to find a path to follow. You are saving lives!!!
Whidbey Island, WA
i hope you stay strong and keep going . drink tons of water vitamin b1 heps with alcolism and the brain
Thanks for sharing, really appreciated the bit about the HALT concept.
Thanks Ryan, I almost didn't watch this because I'm not intemperate, not thinking it applied to me, but then I remembered the teaching of my friends who are friends of Bill W. and realized that sobriety is not JUST from alcohol and other drugs . . . a lot to learn here.
I started listening to Ryan when I was stumbling around youtube, trying find new ways to deal with life, instead of using alcohol. As soon as I found his videos, they clicked instantly! Ryan is a modern stoic doing the continued work of the past stoics! stoicism helped to keep my sober, and now 3 years later Im still sober and practicing stoicism! You can do it🤘
In tears. I was just listening to this standing up and I couldn‘t help but realize how much control I actually have. It‘s getting back up and going to work on youself what matters. Helping and being helped.
I have been sober for 38 years. A few months ago I Googled who said "except the things I cannot change" from the Serenity Prayer. The Answer was Epictetus. Then I found Ryan Holiday and have been learning about Stoicism ever since. For myself, the key to living sober is "Never Stop Learning."
Sober from opids for 4 years. I know time doesn't matter. 38 years is badass. Also an stoicist here.
Limiting myself to one A drink per day.
A very powerful and timely piece for me … I did ‘Dry January’ with absolutely ease … arrogantly I thought I nailed it and my future lay in self-controlled moderation (the ego taking control?!) I’ve now come to realise I’ve come come out of it drinking more than I did before! - little steps 😊- love your work dude …
I actually used Stoicism to sober myself up years ago and still practice it today to strengthen my recovery. I am even about to publish a Stoic recovery book within the next month.
I have smoked weed daily from the age of 15 till 23.. still struggling sometimes but this comment section motivates me❤
... Yes... We all have to compromise to remain alive
this will help me get sober. I havent been able to stop learning about the stoics. I want to become them in every sense of the word.
Please wish me luck, i will have set backs
Ryan holiday you should have a billion likes on all of your vids love love love this 🕊️
These videos keep getting better and better! Along with your books they provide tangible tools I am using to change my life. Thank you!
Hope to see more of these helpful vids. It has been a daily global pummel the last 7 years. Easy to put a system in place but damn difficult to stay on track lately when you look around.
I love that back in January I got recommended his book the Obstacle is the Way. During my recovery I really have dived into stoic philosophy since. See tonight that this video got posted combining the two together Stoicism and sobriety! LOVE IT
Excellent Ryan. I’ve been using stoicism for years now on my recovery journey from drugs and alcohol. I read your book, The Daily Stoic, every morning and implement stoicism in my life whenever possible. I’ve been 11 years sober from cocaine thanks to these techniques. Love your content! You rock! 😄
Greatest video of my lifetime. A lifetime worth of projects in one video.
Your videos have helped me a lot since I started watching them in 2021. They inspired me to start my first journal which it has brought relief to my anxiety and escapism.
This is great! Thank you. And....I'm comment number 183. Peace! 🌱✌
From 1000 it's pure gold. Will watch again & again
After watching this video, I feel inspired to dive deeper into stoicism and learn more about its historical context and modern applications. The recommended readings and resources at the end are a great starting point.
Very much enjoyed this Ryan, thank you.
Thanks brother, I needed this one.
Ryan you’re changing the course of my life with these videos. Thank you
Dear Ryan, this was an excellent video. Please make more videos about addictions. Best wishes, John
Be the master of your own kingdom. - Guy Ritchie And don't get self absorbed. Helping others can help all of you!
Chase breath sisters and brothers. Breath is the life, so just breathe and everything will be ok.
1.Be free and take it back
2.Know that I have control over me
3.It works if I work
4.Ask those questions ❓
5.HALT is ...
6.Enough is enough
7.Take me back to the normal rhythm
8.Don't try to control everything
9.Help other people with their trouble/burdens
This is a very important video Ryan. Thank you 🙏🏼
I've been sober from Alcohol for 4 months now. Decided to quit for good on my 25th birthday. I wasn't much of a drinker; only would do so in social situations. Quitting was a domino effect of me quitting Marijuana once I became a Fireman about a year and a half ago. I felt that if I could quit that, which I really enjoyed, I could quit drinking. I felt I was only drinking to appease others' comfortability in social situations and didn't like that because at the end of the day it's my body and it's up to me how I treat it. I feel better than ever without any hangovers at all and the mental clarity amongst other benefits, is worth steering clear of even a sip. Thanks for the reminder and the help you're doing for so many others Ryan.
I divide to be sober from today prayer 🙏🏾
Thank you for your content of stoicism. Keep the good job.
I really appreciate you.
Modern AA is just pop stoicism (I mean that in a good way!). The Serenity Prayer just is the stoic dichotomy of control.
There horses for courses and Stoicism has been wonderful to practice in Sobriety but is only a part of what is required for continuous Sobriety. That’s my experience. 😊
All 12 step programs have the wisdom of the stoics incorporated in the steps and traditions.
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I have power over my mind🙏🏾
Funny that Ryan mentioned his own tendency to be a workaholic... I've often thought that about him. I love his videos, but have felt ,at times, sad for him. It seems like wherever he is, his mind is on doing these videos for us. He reminds me of a story about the Dallas Cowboy running back, Calvin Hill. He was also the father of NBA player Grant Hill. After his NFL career he became a mentor/counselor for NFL players struggling with addiction. At one session one of the players said to him, in essence...."Calvin it is great you're helping us, but if you don't want Grant to be here, you need to spend more time with your son, than us."
I hope Ryan has true balance in his life and is able to really practice all of what he is providing for us.
I loved this, thank you
I’m currently struggling after a long marathon of healthy living… the problem? I got distracted, lost my discipline and passion for stoicism in order to direct it at my wife and son… BIG MISTAKE! Not loving my family but if I’m not ok, they’re not ok. Trying to get back on track. Btw I just explained who you were to my wife… “if there is one father of modern stoicism; Ryan holiday is the son of modern stoicism.”
Ryan, I have been wondering if you drink and what your thoughts on using alcohol. Thank you for this program.
Controversial Opinion
Hi, Ryan. I am following your advice to continue to read the daily stoic and apply it in life. As Epictetus, said in Discourses, 3.21.1-3 “show us the changes in your reasoned choices, just like the shoulders of gymnasts display their diet and training, and as the craft of artisans show in what they've learned.” Everybody is different, but when we catch ourselves wanting to condescendingly drop some knowledge that we have, grab it and ask: Would we be better saying fewer words or letting our actions and choices illustrate that
knowledge for others?
To answer your question. Epictetus’ Discourses, 3.21.1-3 speaks about learning. Since learning is more than hearing and seeing it is integrated into the mind and comes out as wisdom rarer than knowledge. At that point the information no longer copied the research but explains the research In an understandable Way. Showing the the wisdom we get through this digestive process is how we apply this knowledge to our own lives.
In the context of Epictetus’ Discourses 3.21.1-3, showing vs. telling refers to the distinction between saying that one is virtuous versus actually demonstrating virtuous behavior through one's actions. Epictetus argues that it is not enough to simply talk about being virtuous, but rather one must actively live out their virtuous beliefs through their actions.
Epictetus uses the example of a musician to illustrate this point. He notes that a musician cannot simply talk about their skills, but must demonstrate their abilities through their performance. Similarly, individuals must not simply talk about their virtuous beliefs, but must demonstrate their virtue through their actions.
Overall, showing vs. telling highlights the importance of embodying one's beliefs and values through action rather than simply discussing them.
It emphasizes the significance of practicing Stoic principles in daily life, rather than just preaching them. Actions speak louder than words, demonstrating one's true understanding of Stoic wisdom. Speech is Sliver. Silence is Gold. But a Pause is Diamond.
It speaks about learning is more than hearing and seeing it is integrated into the mind and comes out as wisdom rearher than knowledge. At that point the information no longer copied the research but explains the research In an understandable Way. Showing the the wisdom we get through this digestive process is how we apply this knowledge to our own lives.
We can apply this teaching by subscribing to your channel, reading all of your books, and sending you (the most knowledgeable individual on stoicism) our questions. Which I did over 3 months ago and I still have yet to hear back. I am sure you are busy. However, I would appreciate it if you could let me what you think of this understanding.
Thank you.. you motivated me..... I am an addict.....
Great video! SMART Recovery's tools and philosophy is deeply influenced by Stoicism, and been life changing for me and many others.
Since i have turned 25 i decided i am sober for a LONG TIME, untill my familly is well off and beyond. Addiction is selfishness
Thanks 4 this
Thank You.
Sometimes I do the right thing with the wrong motivation.
Staying sober for most people can be a difficult thing to do. Somehow you'll always be able to find your way out of the darkness you're trapped in for so long. Have faith and have courage and always move forward.
Sobriety 🎉
Going to watch.
Hi I love your videos. I was however a little disappointed in a blog post you wrote. I'm not sure when it was written but it was one thing you said, that made me think, that it didn't need to be said. You wrote about president Grant, but you had a subtle dig at Trump. You didn't mention him by name but your reference was about him. You said something like, unlike a former president, he isn't the most persecuted president. I was disappointed because it wasn't being kind, which is also part of the stoic mindset. I just believe it didn't need to be said. It didn't help the article, if anything it nearly caused me to stop reading, and not take you seriously. I have only just discovered your channel and I love it. Thanks for your awesome videos and your contribution to the world I believe you are making a real difference to the world 🌎. Thanks again.
I don't mince words when it comes to traitors and cheats.
One day at a time
LETS GO PPL
yoga also helps
I don’t think anyone going into rehab think it’s going to be as simple as taking a pill and moving on with your life. Why did you say that that was a waste of words?
Oh ight..
I just quit smoking weed!
Thank God I have my power back!
I threw away all my pipes and shit
Same dude although I still have my pieces
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please come to Charleston
is drinking wine at night alcohlism?
i love this video. I want to do physical exercise but i am worried my heart cant handle it from the abuse ive put it through. I love doing the thing because it doesnt feel like work but he only trains real fighters and Im scared i will legit die doing it . Stocism should tell me i do it and acceptcane of the reality might be the cause and dying know my love of something is important. FUCK
why do I want to get/stay sober? stoicism taught me about moderation, I'm going to enjoy sex,drugs and rock and roll until the day I die. I've been wasted maybe 8-10 times in the last 5 years, staying sober is lame, why stay sober? people that are sober are still ruining their lives with their shitty diet and smoking a ton of cigarettes, moderation is key to life, if you cut one thing out, you will just replace it with another bad habit, learn moderation, I don't trust people who have no self control. whether it be booze or food. I know most will disagree with me, but enjoy everything life has to offer, but in moderation, it's not that difficult.
i try to follow but i cant stop drinking after a day..
Never say you can't
Being famous i think can be addictive thing also
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You don't have go sober. What's wrong with disciplined drinking like a couple drinks a month.
Alexander ludwig(hunger games). Shot out to him
More famously Bjorn Ironside from Vikings
Temperance is not for alcoholics/addicts. One drink is to die 💀
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See I have a really hard time quitting marijuana. I've been smoking it for over house my life and help smooth anxiety and I really enjoy it but it is a huge waste of my money. I would appreciate it if you would make an entire video about reasons to quit smoking weed❤ 0:09
I think It being a huge waste of money should be a enough reason to quit pot
Hey Wayne, every one of Ryan's videos teach why sobriety from 'any' substance is the strong position in life...
@@jesusofnazareth6254 it's not just recreational I do it for my anxiety really really helps for that. So it depends what you define as a waste. So maybe I shouldn't stay huge waste of money but a financial burden. And I'm sure there's some other disadvantages but that's not to say that it doesn't have advantages
@@nicholaskachel1605 ✌️ I'll stay tuned I'm new to this whole concept of stoicism. I'm very interested. Ready to take more action in my life
@@Itswayningout I was also new to it until discovering Ryan's work six months ago... it has completely changed my life.
Ryan Holiday is a slave to his stoic addiction
Yeah sorry 12 steps has nothing to do with stoicism bro. Odd that I would have to point that out for you.
This guy looks like he hasnt slept for a whole year. I hope everything works out well for him.
if your self control is "always-on" it will be diluted and you will never have the capacity to afford sprints superhuman self-control/focus... not worth.
I think if you re-word your thoughts then you will get your point across in a more legible way
This is the problem with the world. I started watching this and thinking what a great and selfless video and half way through i realise hes trying to sell us some ridiculously expensive counsiling. Then it leads to thinking why does he really make these videos and again it leads to his wallet. Every single human being in this world is selfish even the ones trying not to be (usually they have the wool pulled over there eyes)
you sound cynical. earning a living is necessary in the world. how are you earning money? when youtubers plug a product it’s how they earn their income. amazing feature of youtube is you can fast-forward right past it. he isn’t doing this work SO THAT he can sell it. he is doing this work because it’s his calling and he has found a way to get paid to follow his calling. you could too but you are viewing money as evil. change your attitude and your life can change.
I've smoked bulk pot since I was 15. At times it's helped me and at times is hasn't but it's been a staple in my life. I could move mountains without it.
omg i just watched the covenant last night.. im pretty sure the guy is in it...