The Good Life | Robert Waldinger | TEDxBeaconStreet
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- What makes us happy and healthy as we go through life?
If you want to invest in "the good life," where should you put your time and energy? Robert Waldinger answers these questions with lessons learned from a 75-year-long study of adult life that started in the late 1930s and continues to this day.
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and Zen priest. He directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston and teaches at Harvard Medical School.
To learn more about The Good Life and keep abreast of research findings, insights, and more, visit www.RobertWaldinger.com.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I am completly speechless. I´m so glad I watched this being in my early 20´s so I can life a long and healthy life. Thank you for the amazing talk Robert!
Same thought I had. I’m blessed to have seen this early
I love how he just casually says one member of this study grew up to be President of the United States and just moves on
Yes! So nonchalant 😂
@@JasonActualizationwho knew trump had such nice friends
Bruh@@i.ehrenfest349
And now for the long study of girls and women... and people from different cultures. So important to acknowledge the narrow parameters of this study - without detracting from its no doubt interesting insights.
Be the change you want to see 💪
Thank you !
This has changed the way i look on my relationships !
Many seems to forget what this video is about and go around in a haze and forget to appreciate the relationships the got in life! They forgot how important the simple thing: Spending time with friend/family, is!
When nothing insane wild extreme expensive lifechanging party or arrangement happens its not good enough - A walk in the woods, going to take a swim, make food together and all those simpel things are long forgotten and how important they are!
I feel like making this my small religion and try to convince people around me how important this it!
Deep respect for this study also ! Again thank you !
Before I saw this video I kinda figured it out. I figured most of my life Ive just been wanting to get rich... but then I asked myself, why rich....? then I answered myself.. so people will like me and I can have more friends. Ultimately having friends, building awesome experiences and memories with them is what I want at the end of the day(the end of my life)
Its true, very thankful to my society we have relative, friends.
Each time I watch this my heart melts and tears well up in my eyes. Watching this over-and-over over time helps keep my competitive (over-achiever) side in check.
Empirical evidence for what we know in our hearts all along . Thank you so much Robert ♥️💕❤️
I can tell you from my 35 years of life experience ... what he is saying is TRUE
TRUE TRUE : ) : )
Thank you for sharing your findings with us, that "good relationship" are what makes/keep us happy in life. ❤️ Good relationships are the most valuable thing one can have. They are priceless. 💫🌟
I came here to empower women, so I have had to leave 3 abusive relationships where misogynistic men (2 husbands ) used me to enhance their status, birth their babies & nourish, nurture and care. I am proud of the fact that I was able to get away from the American Male created by greed. I have learned to honor n trust my heart & Intuition. My relationships that soothe my soul are deep, honest, intuitive, healing, grounded and deep. Our culture w men is in a MAJOR shift for the average American woman. I wonder what you would have to say to that scenario.
2018 and this is still my favorite TEDx Talk ;)
it's like a compass.
thank you for sharing this important research project.
this is still my favorite TEDx Talk too. I got hooked on drugs to cope with life for a 2-3 year period and it took me re-learning everything he says in this TEDx Talk to get off of them and stay off of them for good. : ) : )
My Pastor has preached about this before. Yes this is very true.
This TedTalk is the best and most calming, lovliest I ever watched and listend to.
The speaker seems to be very lovely and happy with his life:-)
And I'm really happy to feel, that since a lot of years my relationsships are always the most important for me and also that love is the most important.
Thank you so much 💗💜💗💜
He speaks very calmly. Love it
Thank you, Robert!!!!! Thank you very much!!!
what personality amazing gesture love you who ever you are
so happy to listen to when he is talking ....
I see the young ones reacting to this talk with great doubt. I'm only 38 but I think it's amazing a long and exhaustive study on what makes one truly happy came up with a result our elders have been telling us for years.
Thank you for this. I'm grateful the researchers shared their findings in a broad platfom like TedTalks so many can benefit from it.
I also used to doubt my elders since now at 38, I'm perfectly satisfied alone. But yeah, watching those who grow old with people they're truly connected with, they are definitely happier and more content than those who were stingy with their affections. I'm gonna take the lessons from this study to heart :)
Me too. : ) : )
I find myself giving out a lot more BIG HUGS to people due to this TED Talk. Most people tend to be very intimidated by me and it helps me "slay the elephant" in each room I walk in - let's me prove to myself that I care more about people than I do about ideas and material things, status, and such.
My respects Robert Waldinger.
His voice is so soothing
Великолепное исследование!!! Все так счастливые отягощения заряжают меня энергией, а раздор забирает ее! Большая благодарность за терпения исследователям!
I salute for such a valuable research and for perseverance
10:56-11:16 Anyone noticed that look & smile following what a cute couple
This was very informative. Some this TED talk was a repeat of what I already knew! But it was so great to hear some real advice about life!
Wonderful lessons, Robert!
There are so many people out there who were reared up in toxic family , some of them don't even have siblings or friends. No one to count on . I appreciate the content. Not everyone has fulfilling relationship with their better halves. There are people who have seen the demise of the people(relatives) they could count on. I would love to have a content on topic " How to have healthy mind and body when you have no one to count on". Most people all over the world need to also know ways of leading a healthy life while being alone.
Friendships count! Build those friendships. Create those bonds. Make the family you never had. I know this from experience.
What a wonderful study, and what an amazing talk
Thank you sir! So meaningful.
Puxa, realmente o resultado desta pesquisa é impressionante. Vou compartilhar com as pessoas que eu gosto e precisam saber disto também! thanks for sharing.
Well done, Bob. A complex study finding set. A great distillation of ONE core takeaway. LOVE your heart for this message!
This is my favorite TED Talk. Thank you for sharing the value of good relationships. ❤
Serenity and Satisfaction.This is the answer.
Amasing advises and so simple ! Having good and healthy relationships will make us live longer and healthier. Thank you ❤
Tão verdadeiro... fantástico!
such a great video. great relationships are key.
Great intervention...!
Thank you Robert
Thank you !
This is the most important TED Talk made so far, in my "not so humble" (Harvard man's) opinion. : )
Beautiful Insights in to happiness. Thank you for revealing the importance of relationships in our lives.
Very worthwhile watching...
Happiness is a complex combination of situations. But I think the basic ingredient is the good quality relationship.
It is a fact though that there are people who should be clever in their relationships with their families. It is also a fact that there are people who are surrounded by not so nice people. It is as well a fact that there are people, who didn't learn how to make good relationships to others and to themselves.
But I think the good thing is, humans have the ability to do actions. There are psychologists, communities and talks like this here that could help.
There are still nice people out there. There are countries, who's culture focus on love, friendship and harmonious good relationships.
If there's a will, there's a way.
Thanks for this study. This is an inspiration for me.
More power!
excelente! algo que reflexionar...mas que conocimiento ,un aprendizaje de vida
That really make me feel connection of people very important to getting happiness
You give us very interesting message about life, what life is. Thank you very much ❤❤
it's the best and valuable research for humanity
Thanks. Very Impressive!!!! The good life is built with a good relationship!!!!!!!!!
Amazing study !!! Thanks Ted.❤❤❤👌👌👌👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
answer is. LOVE and RESPECT
so great a study, thanks
I LOVE THIS GUY
Thank You So Much sir.😊 Love & So much Respect for you ❤🤝
Really really enjoy this episode. This is now one of my top favorites ted ed😃
Thank for a good story.
Wow! Thank you
Excellent Research...
The output of this Research is Strengthening the INDIAN CULTURE...
The Indian culture teach us to live with others not alone... (We live Combined Family with Society)...
this is awesome thankyou❤❤
The paradox with our society is that it seems impossible to have good social relations if you are not rich, successful or famous although chasing this makes us anxious and unhappy.
Thank you :)
This one was really good thanks sweetheart...!
Good relationships that help a person become healthier and happier must include good relationships with one's self, with nature, and with God.
+Veronica Villegas I have same opinion
+Veronica Villegas No relationship with God is required, in fact this can hinder happiness at times, agree with the rest of what you say though.
sharkonwhisky Relationship with god required, It depends your though about it, it can be cosmos, God, Budha, or others. Spiritual or something we hope for
Veronic謝謝大家都好
@@boyfanplaceswift1886, I agree. I believe there is way more going on than we truly understand. I call it the Great-unknown (God). Thinking this way helps me share a common verbiage with others without feeling isolated due to being a scientist.
Amei . Foi tudo tão perfeito. 😚😚😚😚😚😚😚😚
Whenever Beauty looks,
Love is also there;
Whenever beauty shows a rosy cheek
Love lights Her fire from that flame.
When beauty dwells in the dark folds of night
Love comes and finds a heart
entangled in tresses.
Beauty and Love are as body and soul.
Beauty is the mine, Love is the diamond.
Rumi
Thank you
Excellent. Thank you.
Assisti essa aula através de uma matéria que minha professora da faculdade ministra. Mas, eu amei esse conteúdo!! Maravilhoso
I love this video🥺 it's very Realtalk
I wanna go back the good life
It definitely sounds great, the study it's fascinating by nature, but what about if close relationships just don´t come to you often or last long? What if you've been disfunctional since you were a kid? I've tried to get involved deeply with other, but it always goes wrong. Maybe they should do a study on how to have meaningful relationships, I guess. Nice video, though.
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Love it..!!
Me encanto Thank you . Me gusto mucho
MERCI PROF
Perfect! just P E R F E C T!!!
good life is built with good relationship
Idea worth sharing for :), Cheers!!
very useful
12:09 so true.
Tell that to Michael Scott.
It can't be better!
AMAZING
The whole idea of this video is that : ok ... so if this many people are happy this way, then you could be happy this way too. i would say that you would have to actually study the whole human race to finally give a certain result. It kinda seems to me that there could be as many ways of being happy as the number of humans that have ever existed. happiness is the perception of our minds from the world around us. But yet again, i would have to say that no emotion is as strong as love. Not necessarily love between a couple, but for your child or your work or anything... . And up to this moment of my life (short as it is which is 21) i have not found any other thing worthy of living for.
STILL HERE SINCE 2017
Good survey
讲的太好了
“时光荏苒，生命短暂，别将时间浪费在争吵、道歉、伤心和责备上。用时间去爱吧，哪怕只有一瞬间，也不要辜负。”
Thereisn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings,callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so tospeak, for that.
-MarkTwain, Letter to Clara Spaulding, 20 August 1886.
I hate when people say being rich will not make you happy bruh just try to be poor and you'll see the struggle
I always thought that the phrase is poorly said, cuz yeah, money doesnt bring happiness but it can be a solid base to well, not be worried about starvation
We Change the saying a bit.
Money doesn't Bring, you happines, but a Lack of Money can Bring despair.
I think IT makes more Sense that way😊
Because yes, If there is a constant Lack of Funds IT breacks you constantly down. But If you don' t have to worry about Money, you don't get happyer with morge Money😊
But it's Just my optinion😊
Don’t need to be rich. Middle class is enough
reading comments of why only men, and why lack of women, color.......75 years ago, there was segregation... there was open sexism and racism. Let us acknowledge the progress we have made as a country. It is not yet complete and we face these age old challenges that is more buried in our society than ever before. Yet, our openness has never been at this level and the pace of change is accelerating. Let us look to the future, take this long study as an opportunity to hear and know about a generation of men from privilege and from those who were not. Hear the story and most importantly think about what has been shared. Relationships matter.
Yes, I hope they can do the study again with a more diverse group.
You know why they only studied men because women are more stable, stronger and can interact better. And haven't you noticed most of them even live longer.
Que bueno que estaba subtitulado
Many of us now crave material goods, but they shouldn't be our main focus. While luxury purchases, money, and fame can bring temporary joy, it is shallow and fleeting compared to the happiness we derive from our connections with friends and family. They are what truly matters to us. In essence, our innate desire to cultivate and nurture relationships is fundamental to our existence, and only through meaningful connections can we truly thrive as individuals.
Healthy and happy is just personal. What's more important for many people is goals and achievements. What's a healthy and happy life if it is a plain life without any achievements?
O segredo de ter uma vida feliz é ter bons relacionamento, muito bom, estou no caminho certo :D
Buena filosofía.. ..
the human being tends to seek pleasure, interpersonal relationships provide enough serotonin which implies it, happiness is not a feeling and is found in everything we do and experience but our body increasingly wants more of this hormone which implies that some actions lose their meaning, what we call boring and silly. The human being as a social construct, has sought pleasure in everything we experience as fast food or video games, we are addicted to pleasure and increasingly seek more, this means that future generations will live more sad and depressed by overflow of the hormone of pleasure.
Good communication Skills are key to good relationship
11:11 - 11:16 Hahaha That was so cute!
I have so much envy for them.
Paused the video and came to comment section to check if the top most comment is on this moment
Exactly 😂
Show!! Get Connected!
i love this lesson
Great Ted Talk - what is the best indicator of a satisfying and happy life? Watch the talk, well worth 18 minutes.
How about just telling us without all the bs?
felicidade = AMIGOS!!!!!
If calm/good marriage relations are the key to longevity, then I am surprised I am not dead yet.