Struggles of a First Gen College Student (UCLA Edition)
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- Hi! I struggle with depression and anxiety, and wanted to talk about how it got me in trouble while I was a first gen student at UCLA. I can't express enough how grateful I am to anyone who clicks on this video, thanks for listening to me and I hope we can all become a bit more comfortable talking about mental health publicly and openly.
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I hope everyone is doing okay, this is a tough time we're living in and I hope you're all taking the time to take care of yourselves and the people around you ♥️
Awwww tori I hope you’re ok too and remember that you are beautiful,kind, talented and amazing person!:)😭💗🥺🌏🔐👸🤩😇😊😍💜😀💝💖😻❤️👋🌟💫😁🥰🤗🕺💍💓💘🎉👭😆
Hi tori i am a huge fan of yours i hope u are staying safe i enjoy your videos
Thank you so much for saying that, Tori! Congratulations on graduating from UCLA! I know that you're going to do great things! :)
i dont have depression but i do have anxiety and ocd and adhd tendecies (i have some but not all the symptoms) thank you for this video
Your so cool and awesome and keep it real all the time ... I hope you always remember the kind of person you wanted to be growing up, because we all love that person ... Keep safe and lovely and look forward to more of your vlogs 🤩
literally NOBODY ever talks about the complex so many people get from making straight A’s in high school to struggling to maintain B’s in college and how disappointed it can make you so I’m glad you did. It’s something I also had to navigate when I started college. Hope you, Eric and your families are well Tori 💕
the funny thing is i was just thinking, “tori hasn’t posted in a minute”
glad i could provide!
Same
The fact you got in UCLA is pretty impressive ,so proud of you tori congrats 🥺❤️
Thank you! Im a huge nerd!
I’m on the same boat, first generation to go to college and I burned myself out that I dropped out because I just got so depressed I couldn’t function as a human but was too scared to ask for help or express myself. It’s been a year since I dropped out and now I am better mentally but there’s a part of me kicking myself for dropping out because now I have to start from the beginning but I know I cannot compare myself to others because that’s just opening the door for me to spiral
Hey tori ✋ i ve been following you on different social media platforms and I 've noticed how sad you were I just wanted to tell you it's gonna be okay the whole world is going through hard times but bad things never last we'll forget all about it once it's over . Keep the faith and remember you're blessed to have a lot of people caring for you from all over the world . Love you as my little sister 💞💞💞
thank you so so much salma :)
As a recent UCLA graduate and being first generation I totally relate to your story! It took me a while to get adjusted to the competitive environment. What really helped me was being involved in first generation/Latinx empowering programs AND going to professor office hours to discuss my personal struggles as a first generation student. The environment at UCLA can be very hostile and it definitely takes a village to overcome all the challenges. Word of advice for anyone struggling with academics right now. Please reach out for help from a friend, professor, or therapist. You never know what you can be struggling with. A friend of mine had really bad test anxiety and she didn’t know until a professor suggested she get evaluated. Afterwards she was able to get accommodations for testing to help alleviate the anxiety. Her grades Improved so much! Good luck to all the first-generation babies getting your bachelors. You got this!
I love you tori and I thank you for talking about the struggles you went through while being a student etc and thank you for being open about mental health. It's so important to talk about. I loved being able to get to know you a bit more during this and hope you know your not alone 💕💕
I love this. It can be applied to anyone starting something new in their life! Congrats on graduating!! Life is hard but you will get to where you are going!
I'm so proud of you. Good job. Thank you for sharing. I have anxiety and depression myself. Love you
Thank you :,) i hope your doin okay
Thank you for sharing your struggles Tori. I have gone through some of my own mental struggles in the couple of years with college, my job situation and a few other things. It definitely helps to talk about it.
Love love love this video. You are so brave to talk about your issues this openly. I understand that you're not perfect, no one is. But you're trying to be better, learn and do better and that is important. And bringing us along on the process, is admiral ❤❤
Thank you for the video 💛 I think a lot of college students including myself are going though exactly what you just said. I think it’s important we try not to put too much pressure on ourselves
Very good message!!! It is so important to reach out for help bfoe the mood "depression" turns into clinical depression and lays you out completely. Its very difficult to overcome a clinical depression,
so start as long as its a mood depression. Of course it would be best if you took care of your mental health before it reaches this point, but lets be honest most people dont do much about their mental health.
Thanks for sharing, Tori! I know many that have gone through similar experiences. Looking forward to more.
Honestly Tori, you are just gonna KILL IT at whatever you do!
aaaaah idk we'll see!
So glad you have the courage to share this with all of us and getting your degree congratulations big hug
Congratulations on graduating college, Tori!
As someone who has struggled with equating my personal value with academic and general success as well, I feel for you. The pressure of college hits different when academic failure is not just a simple failed test, but a whole self esteem crisis in the making. To break out of this vicious thought cycle and to work on your mental health in order to realize that your worth has never been and never will be determined by your (academic) success is so important for all students to realize. In reality, your worth is the most independent and indisputable thing about you, just realizing that for yourself is the hard part. So, I wish you all the best in figuring things out. I am looking forward to your next videos about how you have already dealt with prioritizing your mental health and this new collab you've got going on. It is amazing that you shine a light on mental health struggles of college students, which I believe more people should be aware of. :)
Thanks for sharing! Good luck in your future! You will be awesome.
Congrats, Tori!! I’m really glad to see what you plan to do next on your TH-cam channel!😊
Thank you for this Tori ❤️❤️
Congrats Tori thats awesome about grad not he fires ,so happy for you keep going and glad you are learning to keep your mental health a priority its one of the most important things you will learn in life
Man, that bit about being hit in the face by the presence of (gasp!) _other smart people_ really hit me. I got the same when I started uni, I was the best in class at school but nowhere _near_ that at uni. I _did_ struggle less with that, though, which is probably because I didn't have that pressure of trying to live up to my parents or anything. I mean, hey, the one good part of having a poor relationship with your progenitors is that you don't feel the shadow of their accomplishments and/or struggles loom over you! I mean, it's not a good thing, but there you go. And I also never felt that much pride in my academics, as I always felt that my getting good grades was just from paying attention in class rather than any innate intelligence of mine (I'm really not that clever). The result of that was that I approached my classes very relaxedly, which led to my grades steadily improving after my first semester, to the point that I got near to the top of the class again -- though never the absolute summit, which was fine by me.
So I guess the central message of that paragraph is: The key to doing well at university is to not give a shit. Yes. That is a good thing to tell people.
I absolutely agree. I felt so much better once i stopped comparing myself to other people and simple just tried my best. Even if i failed, i KNOW i did what i could and that’s enough
@@ToriVasquez Yep. That bit at the end was kind of a joke, but there's truth in it. Understanding that grades, being top of the class and all of that isn't the be-all-end-all in life is so important. The truly important bit is knowing that you're really trying because, if you are, then failing becomes just an opportunity to be better in future.
It's really something that I feel people should be taught more in schools around the world, even before uni. Way too often, our professors would try to hammer into us how important it is to do well in school, how much of a problem it is if you end up failing and needing to take recovery exams, etc. We even got these dire talks as kids! And like, sure, everyone should be trying their best, but it so often felt like they were trying to shame anyone who needed a second chance! There shouldn't be any shame in something like that.
Congrats on your Uni stuff. I can somewhat relate, I had to take a year off this last year of my university due to my mental health absolutely tanking in the second year, to the point of when getting ready to go back for 3rd year where I was pretty sure I wouldn't be coming home for Christmas if I carried on. Catastrophizing everything was a massive problem for me too. Getting through the hardest parts of your college will hopefully make the future brighter for having work so hard to get through.
I don't know you personally, but you deserve to feel good about yourself and take care of yourself. Putting your mental health is so important and being open and honest is very brave of you. Best of luck in the future.
As a freshman in high school I can also relate to what you were talking about with the overwhelming work and all. I’m a homeschooler and I take 5 online classes with a rly difficult classical online academy along with a local speech and debate club. last year and this year (at least this past week which was my first for the school year) I rly felt that crippling feeling of failure when I got behind or didn’t do perfect on a quiz. My mental health has never been good and school problems just added onto it. Im realizing with help from my parents that it’s ok if I don’t get a perfect grade and it’s ok to ask for help when I need it. I’m still not doing perfect but I’m working on my mental state and excepting myself. Thank you for using your platform to talk about this and helping people in the process ❤️
I’m so glad you talked to your parents, it’s so important to reach out for support. You’re incredibly brave for doing that :)
Tori Vasquez thank you :)
I love this video. I'm not a first gen college student, but there was enough disparity in my parents' and my college experience that I felt like I had to find my own way. Your experience sounded extremely similar, especially about having to drop courses when you just couldn't take another F anymore.
Now I'm struggling with the stress of finding and doing something worthwhile.
Wishing you and all the people here well.
Congratulations on graduating, I’m so sure you will go on to do great things. I am sure your parents are very proud of you even if you did get a D or 2, I’m sure you worked so hard I even remember you doing homework at FBE for your class. It’s also ok to be a Nerd, Nerds go on to do great things and have good careers. I can’t wait to see what you will do in the future. By the way I love that photo of you and Eric in the back there it’s so cute
Dude I’m literally feeling the same things but in high-school. Except for the fact that I can’t have a break down and I have been judged when I do. But it’s good to know that I am not the only one feeling this. I hope we all get better in our own ways.
I feel like you took this video out of my mind. I am terrible with failure and I just started a new school, where I have to learn in a new way, so this video really helped me. I am much younger and I live in a different country, but it still felt really good to have someone to relate to. Thank you Tori❤️
I’m so happy to help even a tiny bit. You can do this!! You’re never alone
Hiiii Tori ❤️💕 I Hope you’re having an amazing day 💖 I admire your strength to post this 🥺💕 Love you ❤️ Mental health is very important and as a college student majoring in psych I understand that ❤️💖
Hi tori I hope you're taking care of yourself, you seem so kind that you're one of my favorite reactors from fbe, love you
Really great video. I graduated a year before you at UCD and had the same experiences. That procrastination cycle was brutal. Eventually I just yeeted out of there by doing the absolute bare minimum to get my degree. Tough stuff but should be proud that you got through it without any help.
I'm a junior in college and I remember feeling a lot of what you did. I wasn't first gen but I was the first child in my family to go and I definitely remember how stressful it was. When you said all the top students from their school are now suddenly all around you I felt clearly remember feeling that for a few weeks and wondering how much I deserved to be there. I'm glad that you posted this, I think it would have helped me to hear someone else share some of the similar feelings I had.
Yeah nobody really talks about this! I wasn’t expecting so many people to relate to this video
I really like what you said!
I felt the same in my first year studying architecture so I comprehend you. 💜💜
Aww tori you are so strong to share these experiences! I graduated HS this year and started college during a pandemic and it definitely wasn’t easy so I can see where you are coming from.
online college seems especially stressful right now! i wish you all the success carly! take it easy, and congrats on graduating high school!
Tori Vasquez thank you so much❤️
Tori: ✌✌"that was embarrassing, not gonna do that again"
Tori, 90 seconds later: ✌✌
:P
Great video! I look forward to more videos like this.
Love you cuzzz😚💗 Congrats! 🎓
Aaaah alex hi! Love you too!
Hi Tori I miss you, I’m happy because you made a new video. Take care😊❤️
Congrats girl. I remember you studying during a couple of comments against humanity streams and it payed off.
College is hard but glad you made it and graduate. Hope one day I graduate too and do that things I do on my bucket list!
Also for more college stories and singing soon.
you got this joriel!! I wish you all the best
congrats on graduating tori 👏🏾👏🏾
congrats sweetie you look amazing
i wish you all the best Aleen! It's tough, but you're doing amazing things and graduation will come soon!
I'm soo glad you posted this. I decided to go back to college and omg.. I'm panicking
Congrats on going back! You can do this katrina! It may be stressful but take care of yourself and reach out for support whenever you need it
Thank you for sharing. I just started college three weeks ago, and I'm also a first-gen! I fell into a summer depression before school, constantly worrying about my future and wondering if me going to college will even be worth it. My happiness in high school also came from my good grades and 4.0 gpa, so I wondered if I could live that up in college. All of my classes are online, but I stay on campus and I actually am doing well. But I know I'm going to eventually go through some stressful or anxious times. But thank your for sharing a little bit of your experience and giving other first-gens some advice. Also, congratulations! Your future will be bright and I hope you're doing well.
I’m so proud of you katelyn! It sounds like you’ve been working so hard! I wish you all the love and success in the world
@@ToriVasquez Thank you so much !! I hope the same for you too
i was staring at the twice poster the whole video jshdjdhjdhd pd: u look absolutely GORGEOUS tori
we love you tori
honestly i relate to you so much, i also graduated this year tho i'm starting my masters in two days so...back to college i guess 😅 but the thing about being a straight A student in high school and then struggling in college to keep being that student or immediately feel like i'm failing myself and my family....i felt that, and here i am years later, about to start studying for my masters and i'm trying to change this mindset
GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR MASTERS! It’s a tough lesson to learn, I’m still dealing with it too
School is stressful. But I'm glad you pull threw it Tori.
I love ur videos Tori ❤️💚💙
thank you so much gabriel :,)
Wow! Good for you to share. Hope it helps. At fbe you never showed what you where struggling with. So it seems. It proves to never judge someone by the cover. On the inside there is so much more going on. Accept that it is a part of you. I did and it helps. I hope you find what your looking for.
well said pascal ❤️
Back in 2013 I miserably failed my last year of high school and I had to pass three years of college to get even some kind of degree.
So I studied Media Design in college from 2013-2016. In my last year I had this exam I had to pass to pass college. This exam consisted of three different tests and you had to pass all three of them. At the first attempt I failed one of the three tests, which made me cry in front of my entire class. It made me feel like a huge failure, because without that college degree I would have nothing more than a Junior High degree. Ever since I quit high school I'd been feeling like a failure every time I failed a test. Eventually at the second attempt I passed the test and I graduated college. Then I went to uni for a year and I got a first year degree in Communication and Multimedia Design.
Until July of this year I had a job for the past 2,5 years, because this pandemic came and they had to let me go. I've been searching for a new job ever since and every single time I get this kind of reply: "We're sorry, but we chose someone else." I don't even get the chance to have a job interview. Now it feels like I get stabbed in the back every time they say no. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough...
You can do this! Everyone fails, but no one likes to talk about it. It’s completely normal. And a big congrats on the accomplishments that you have achieved!
Congratulations Tori!!!
May I please say that you look really beautiful through the whole entire video. Giving me that Hermione Granger vibes lol. Congratulations on graduating from college, and hopefully things will eventually go well for you. ☺
Hey Tori
I graduated this year too and I’m felt super similar to you. My second year I got diagnosed with depression I went from an A student to a D student. I started medication and worked on my own mental health and got so much better and slowly worked back up to my A’s and then I graduated with 2nd class honours of the first division I was so proud of myself and then COVID-19 and now I’m working part time and can barely cover my rent. I know I should be grateful I have a job when so many have lost theirs but it’s hard, like I have to convince myself to get out of bed and go to work each morning.
Hey i got diagnosed with depression my second year too! Twins! It’s incredible what you’ve accomplished. Times are incredibly tough and I’m super frustrated with it. I hope everything works out for you. Keep your head up, stay afloat, and soon this will be over. Better times are coming
I have anxiety and depression too as well. On the first year of high school and college, mental illness sucks and I hate it! Especially when trying to meet new people and make friends. Well congratulations on graduating Tori 👩🎓🎉🎊
Yes! I definitely get what you’re saying about mental illness getting in the way
@@ToriVasquez Nothing's really difficult about life. Trying to make new friends and meet new people is the most hardest thing. As we grow
Watching you and FBE help me deal and cope with loneliness 💖
Oh my god that video just hit too close to home. It is my first semester and i am already getting Cs and spiriling over It. It is nice to know that i am not the only one
Getting Cs is fine. Just do your best, and you'll hopefully find your way. Well wishes.
Congrats Tori! I'm 4 years into college but still have 2 more years after this one, because as with you college was a lot harder than I realized (The first time I applied to a nursing program I got denied and had to change schools which got me pushed back 2 years 😩 But I got accepted to the second program I applied to! 😁). My mom has an associates degree but her job is not in that field it is an unused degree and my father no college, on top of that my brother dropped out of college his first semester too. So technically not a first gen but very close haha. Nursing tests are so hard it can really pull you down when you do poorly on one, but what gets me through is staying positive and continuing to tell myself that I can do it! 😊 Stay strong Tori!! 💪😁
Nursing is tough but I’m rooting for you! You got this! You’re doing incredible things ❤️
@@ToriVasquez Thank you same to you!!! 😊❤
Welcome to life, you should be proud, and you should be proud of your parents they raised you well. Take it from me who changed majors all over the place average grades yet made a very successful career. Grades do not equal success hard work does!! Intelligence is not the same as knowledge and both are not the same as experience. You proven your intelligence now your going through experiences, I see a very successful future ahead of you. Good luck keep up the hard work, no learning experience is wasted. 👍
Girl i'm shocked really because ur just talking about my case x(, im from morocco, i graduated as an engineer a year ago, still not working, dependant on my family and dealing with depression and anxiety
Congratulations tori!
I'll still love/support/trust you and a few ex reactors that aren't part of fbe anymore.
My 2nd year at community college, I took a College Chem class. After straight A’s all through high school, through my first 2 semesters at CC, I was kind of taken aback and how hard the class was but I still had a fair amount of confidence in myself that I could do it well.
I got a C on the first exam. I tore myself up over it so I changed my studying methods to pro for the next one. I got a D on that one. My god, I was a mess. Like you, I put so much of my self worth into my school so when I was failing this class it threw me over the edge into existential dread. More than once I ran out of the classroom after getting an exam grade because of crying and panic attacks. It didn’t help that the teacher was an awful person who discriminated against me because I’m disabled.
Long story short, I continued to suck at that class and I was pretty sure the teacher was gonna fail me just out of spite. My mentor/bio teacher/friend explained that she’d really struggled with chemistry too and that helped me feel a bit more like a worthy human being. I passed the class with a C, which “ruined” my GPA but at least I’d passed.
Losing the perfect GPA actually really helped me be able to focus on taking care of myself in future classes because I wasn’t trying to keep a perfect score. And hell, I passed that class even around back to back ER trips because we thought I’d had a stroke. I went through a LOT that semester and simply the fact I passed is indicative of the strength I mustered. My health has to come first- ALWAYS. Mental and physical, I cannot succeed in a class if I’m not taking care of myself, or if I do it’ll come at a major cost that will take months of recovery.
Also, I absolutely have sobbed in front of more than one teacher. Like, to extremes. I had an AMAZING teacher tell me I could sit in my car and take time to calm down and not worry about coming to class if I didn’t feel like I could- at which point I broke down and blurted out that I didn’t think it was safe for me to be alone. He put down his work and let me sit in his office with him and legit sat there and talked to me for an HOUR. I owe him so much, I can’t even overstate how grateful I am
I’m so glad that you had at least one amazing teacher, that makes the biggest difference in the world
Thank you for sharing this story. I'm a senior now, that's mean I will be graduating soon.And I understand what you had gone through because my grade are not that good. And my university is the number 1 best college at my country so a lot of my friends are try to get all A in every class. It's a very competitive environment.
Hope your doing good, your amazing, love youuuuuu
Thank you for this video
Hey Tori! Glad to see you’re okay and whatnot. UCLA huh? That’s awesome. A long time ago I went there with my friend John to help him move in out there. It’s a crazy campus. Too hilly for me. 😂 But all in all, I liked it!
My legs looked SO GOOD tho while i was there because of all the walking
I feel like we are on the same boat, I recently graduated university of Toronto, but I really am excited for the future(but somewhat scared). The thing that made me sane for the four years was using their gym facilities.
Hey that’s a nice perk! It’s okay to be nervous, but focus on that excitement!
I remember something Baseball Hall of Famer Jim Palmer once said; "you can't be afraid to fail." Its how learn.
As for how I have dealt with obstacles in my life. I taught myself Zen and Bushido in 2018, and those philosophies have done wonders in my life. Also being a cancer zodiac sign helps as well.
We all experience this in some way, and deal with it differently. But it's that common thread that brings us all together.
I was valedictorian of my high school (class of 2011 as well as 3rd gen in my family) then I hit college and failed a chemistry laboratory class as a CHEMISTRY major. I was just not used to failures like this, nor was I familiar with the particular study habits a college student needed. Studied my rear off and was still barely passing my classes. I fell into a very deep, anxious depression to where no matter how hard I studied, I just could not get the material the way my professors wanted. Although I did graduate after five years, I suffer much of this depression to this day as a "I'm not good enough for this world" type of negativity. Now with all the political stuff going on as well as the coronavirus pandemic, I've further added on to this and have really been struggling keeping myself up, working a full time essential infrastructure job and still not making enough to cover rent or personal expenses.
Congrats on making it through UCLA Tori, and thank you for sharing. I also saw everything on Twitter that has been going on with everyone like you, the C-team, and other fellow Reactors that have left FBE as a result of the toxicity in the workplace. Glad you got out when you did. Sending good vibes.
Sending good vibes to you too! Academic stress is no joke and not enough people talk about it. I hope everything works out for you
@@ToriVasquez Thank you Tori! Your reply made my day!
SAME, high school was easy but college got the best of me as a first gen, so glad I get to return next semester 🦋
good luck! you GOT this!
Had no idea you were going through this. You seemed so on the ball. Studying during live streams and stuff. I hope you get better.
Haha i studied a lot but the actual results were VERY hit or miss
@@ToriVasquez I'm just happy you graduated. The pressure of being a first generation is hard. I had to stop because I got really sick and was in the hospital for three months.
Great topic to talk on, really needed it, even tho our views politically may be different, I still have respect for you as a content creator. Best of luck.
Hello, Tori! My name is Alvin Ugochukwu. Thank you so much for making this video. I'm currently in my senior year of college at California State University, Sacramento and I'm a Computer Science major. I know that my senior year is going to be a lot of work, but I have the support of my friends and family to push me through. Even though my senior year of college is on Zoom University, I can always find ways to stay motivated with my classes. STEM life is not easy, Tori. Tori, I want you to know that I've been a fan of your for 6+ years and I know that you have so much to offer in the world. Stay classy, Tori! :)
I loveeeee your outfit Tori
thank you! i wish i could have ACTUALLY worn it to graduation
I love this video, and the idea to speak on mental illness.
Ahh, another person who graduated from uni during this shitshow of a year. We had an online graduation stream on TH-cam and it was honestly one of the most demoralising experiences I've had.
yuuuup online graduation sucked
I’m kind of a first gen college student (idk, my mom started doing online college classes like a year before me, but I’m actually going to the campus), and my first week was so hectic I almost broke down myself. The weeks are only getting easier as time goes on and I get into a rhythm, but I can relate to some of what Tori was sayin. Glad Tori keeps it real tho, and can admit that she doesn’t always have everything together.
Yeah I’m faaar from having everything together. You’re not alone justin and you got this! Take care of yourself ❤️
Congrats!
It took me about 6 years after college to get a career even then it took me about 3 to work my way up to financial stability, but I graduated In the 08 recession. My generation and yours have gone through alot and we are in completely unprecedented times so I would just say to not put too much pressure on yourself things work out the way they are supposed to. I work with Boomers who are on their 5th careers I don't think anyone ever has a 5 or 10 year plan that they stick to. Stay awesome 💜 and take care of yourself.
i completely agree! this is something i grappled with too. everyone is really good at pretending they have it all together, when really we're all just trying our best
@@ToriVasquez Absolutely, that's all we can do. We are convinced that we will figure things out when we are adults or when we graduate or get married. The truth is we are always trying to figure things out and we are human we grow and change our minds. I work with a 95 year old who tells me this all the time, I think the trick is to just do what feels right and take care of yourself and never be afraid to not know what's going to happen next 💜 sending virtual hugs congrats on graduating and take care of yourself.
Props to you for graduating! 🎓 🎊
Warning, long post: At about my third year in college I just lost interest. I wasn't a first Gen college student in my fam (that's my dad's generation) but I was an only child so I did feel the pressure to do well. All through high school I put tons of pressure on myself and really did well, but ya I realized in college it was me and every other overachiever in the State was there. TLDR; I burned myself out, and failed a couple of my classes and didn't put in the effort. I felt guilty because my parents were paying my tuition and were so worried about my future. I did graduate, my GPA was so-so, but my parents told me the important thing is I GRADUATED. I learned quickly that honestly most companies that I encountered don't care about GPAs and the little things, but that diploma shows you stuck it through and made it when most others don't. So yours is a MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENT 👏 👍 🍻
Of course AFTER college was a whole nuther challenge.. .companies want someone with experience, but you can't get experience without a job, that whole paradox 🙄 🤦♂️ My first job was completely unrelated to my degree, I hated it and it's almost like I went to college for nothing. But hey, gotta start somewhere. After a few roadblocks I finally had someone give me a chance (got paid real low but it's all about padding the resume) and I moved up. One lesson my dad taught me as an immigrant himself: Just because you're in Job #1 doesn't mean you're married to it. Do the job, and keep searching. Send out resumes and apply apply apply. Even if I wasn't 100% qualified just apply, worst thing they would do is ignore me. And it worked. Imma tell u I went through 13 jobs over several years before I finally found one I stayed with long term, and each position I got paid a little more and a little more.
Then I burned out again. I stopped caring, yadda yadda 🤦♂️. I quit, took a year off to just lounge around and live off my savings... Made my parents sick with worry but I really needed the break for my own mental sanity. After a year I did some volunteer work with the Peace Corps (one of the BEST experience of my life ❤️❤️❤️), and did some traveling for several months (again, one of thr BEST experience of my life, I don't regret a thing). When I got back and felt ready to get back into the grind I realized my volunteer experience opened up some doors I never considered before, and now I live and work in a job that has changed my life for the better. My parents are so proud of where I am and what I did to get here. I am the happiest now than I have ever been 😊😊😊 (I know, a job doesn't define a person's life, but this one is different 😁. No I'm not a stripper 😅)
So IN SUMMARY (if you've read to this point, my apologies 😂) whatever roadblocks and frustrations come your way, you'll get through it. You have a world of opportunities out there (sans COVID), so just follow the road life opens up for you and see where it takes you. You'll encounter forks and unpaved roads, and some roads will open up that you never expected... but just keep plugging away and you will eventually get there. Never ignore what your heart says. Take chances. It's better to regret DOING something than NOT doing something. Life is an amazing journey, and you never know where it will take you, you just have to keep moving with it. I'm excited for your future, T! 🤙
You've been pretty inactive
Always a happy moment getting a notification that you've uploaded
tbh i've been posting a lot on tiktok 😅
@@ToriVasquez sad thing tiktok is banned in my country hehe
I was a first generation college goer, but my bad depression was unrelated. It hit when my parents moved to Florida while I was living in the dorms my sophomore year, essentially making me homeless when summer rolled around. I moved in with my godparents and then my boyfriend and now we're married and I have my degree and everything is fine, but that last semester in the dorms.... I got a virus over spring break and lost my voice. I thought it had cleared up, I felt fine, then finals rolled around. I got vertigo so bad I was throwing up. The virus had come back with a vengeance because of my stress levels. I felt alone and abandoned and overwhelmed. I had to postpone a final and get an extension on a paper. I went to health services, and just started blurting out everything happening in my life, and pretty quickly got referred to the psychologist after getting some antivirals and vertigo medicine. She was cool, I tried an antidepressant for a few weeks. I couldn't deal with the constipation, but gosh did I feel more balanced. And if there's a lesson to be learned from my mess of a college experience, USE THE STUDENT HEALTH SERVICES. ALL OF THEM. YOU'RE ALREADY PAYING FOR THEM.
Im so sorry you went through all of that! But you’re absolutely right, mental health services should be used! There’s a ton of resources on college campuses
Finally a new vid😂😂 how have you been tori
doin okay Ben! doing my best to take care of myself mentally :)
Man i read the title and Im just like same man, im 6 days into my sophomore year of highschool and I feel like I'm failing and I'm not ok with being alive rn
First thing I noticed was the TWICE poster in the background! Hahaha but anyways, Congrats, Tori!!
She promised us that she won't do that peace sign anymore but did it at the end, day ruined :(
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beans, i used to eat them everyday sometimes the three meals; i fed up and if there are beans in my meal i dont eat them and i drink a liter of soda instead
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That's just life girl, it doesn't always hand out good wishes and dreams. You got to work for it.
absolutely, but i also think it’s okay to talk about how the world makes you feel. Sometimes we can’t just pick ourselves up by our bootstraps, other things get in the way
@@ToriVasquez just keep swimming, just keep swimming.. let all out. ✌️
6 months late but thanks for the story ❤️
This year is my last year of hs then I’m off to college. I honestly think this is gonna b me. Going to college is a way for me to make my parents proud n whenever I didn’t do something In hs I felt guilty and sad cuz I’ve how my parents grew up too. Anyway, thank you for sharing this.
You’re not alone, i hope that’s what more people take from this video❤️
Love you 😍
Love you too.
This is really relateable (except the drinking and party part) but i had it a school earlier. Okay let me explain. In the Netherlands we have 3 schools. The lowest school from when ur four to when ur eleven/twelve after that we go to another school from 11/12 to 16/17 in age. I’m in this school right now. Last year was espacially hard for me also because i was one of th smart ones and then when i came to the second school everything was on my level if you get it. So everything grew a lot harder and I had a lot lot lot more stress. But now that I’m in my second year now its a lot less hard and im a lot more relaxed.
so glad to hear youre feeling more relaxed! It's sounds like you really found your footing :) good luck and i wish you a no stress school year
Tori Vasquez thank you! Its great you survived urs too!
Maybe survived isn’t the right word
hey tori! what did you graduate from there?
Congrats tori, hope you can celebrate properly once the pandemic is over🙏
I'm going into my 4th yr rn and I can definitely feel the stress getting to me😬 I guess I just gotta trust in the process and understand that I'm still young, and it's ok to feel anxious and uncomfortable.
lobo you’re not alone in your feelings and you’re doing your best! That’s all that matter, you’ll make it through :)
@@ToriVasquez Appreciate it Tori✊(◍•ᴗ•◍)I hope you enjoy the rest of your day
hi Tori thank you for telling ur story. Can u do one of the mental health videos with Eric. The Eric pillow make appearance. We love you Tori
are you still dating Eric?
omg congrats tori! its me from Instagram (@strawberrydarlinq) im a fan :DD
I grew up poor. Bowls of rice were common suppers.
Not to say this is your scenario going from high school to University, but I find in High School people rely on memorization whereas in University you have to really understand the material and be able to apply it. Not everyone makes that adjustment. Maybe that isn't the case for students getting into elite University schools generally speaking, not sure.
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Congrats for graduating college
thank you hector!