Here's A Simple, Proven Way To Live In The Moment
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HEY! YOU! The one with the big dreams, the amazing friends, and a heart of gold. Now that I’ve got your attention, and you’re in this moment with me, I wanted to answer a question about the simple proven trick to HOW you live in every moment.
The key to being present isn’t constantly reminding yourself to be in the moment more - in fact, that’ll just make it harder. When I find myself starting to dwell on something that has already passed, or I start getting worried about the future (we all do it, yes - especially me), these are the proven ways you can instantly get yourself back to the moment that matters: this one.
Experts in psychology have discovered that although much of our happiness is genetically preset, 60% of it depends on one thing - YOUR MIND. It doesn’t matter what has happened, or what may happen. In fact, people that have been through the absolute worst things you can think of are often the happiest, most grateful, and most present people. Why? They take control of their thoughts, they know what truly matters to them, and when worry or overwhelm start creeping in to steal the moment - they 5 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 1 and change their thinking from “what’s the worst that could happen?” to “I am exactly where I am supposed to be and my thoughts are in my control.”
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Me, living in the future and the past. Depression anxiety. Holy Chit.
Dario Wirtha take a breath
LOOK AROUND
REALIZE
This is it
The Loving Troll yeah typing is ez, jk but really as I’m feeling anxious and depressed right now makes me unable to focus on something in my room in order to live the moment.
Dario Wirtha me too! You are not alone!❤️
I've been living in the present my entire life it seems man I had to cut off many people bc I was being abused but now I'm an adult and I'm choosing happiness
Dario Wirtha hey I hope you’re doing well! If you ever need to talk to someone, add me on snapchat @gauravd29 (:
awesome!!! i got something to add. focus on your senses at the current moment. focus yourself on what you see, hear, feel or smell. that brings me back every time :) thanks mel
Cano Focusing on my breath works too!
Thanks, you! Good starting point.
Yes very true. I used this when I was having panic attacks. :)
Yes, absolutely!!! Love this addition 🎉
I was just thinking about it. Wowwww
I was Really high once and was running on a hike and bike trail and i kid you not. I went into the moment of now and it was one of the most beautiful things ive ever experience and its so powerful. It almost felt like looking at the world through a child's eyes
john duran stay high brother
Im tryna get there without weed.
Kino im there almost everyday. just straight blissed out. iss amazing
It WAS WAS. But what about now?
LOVE THIS FOR YOU.
I'm 29, and I’m just now starting to realize this. The way I been living is completely backward and making me miserable. This realization alone makes me feel depressed. The last 12 months of my life I moved out and away from my crazy family, changes jobs, cut out bad friends, went back to school and I am slowly finding peace within myself. Love and peace.
Same. Move out of state away from crazy family and friends as well, at 26. Time to start over
That takes guts dude love to hear how ya doing now
I got out of a toxic relationship awhile ago I meet my current partner she is so perfect sweet caring kind person but the triggers from the past give me anxiety this video really help put things In perspective 😊
I’m 27 btw
My problem is that I’m just such a nostalgic person, I can’t help but constantly think about things that have happened in the past, and how badly I want to go back to those times.
Just never say that you are this and that. it will never going to help u just stay happy.
That is part of the human experience I guess and something we have to face, it is never going to be like that anymore. I face the same issue
To me that seems like you're really appreciating the beautiful moments that you had in the past. I think that's a good thing! The tricky part is to then remember that the present and future also have equally beautiful moments waiting for your attention. They may take a different form, but life is capable of providing an infinite array of lovely experiences. It does take a focused intention and willingness to experience them, but I believe you have it in you! Life did not just limit them to your past. Wishing you all the very best!
You are not alone same
Hello Trinity and others 💙 My wish is that this message reaches you and anybody that ends up reading this even if this great video was posted a while ago! But it relates to the subject of it very well. The Now. All the monents since the idea about making this video until my now writing this text and your Now reading this is always in the present. It's not past despite the date. The past exist because you remember it, there is nothing you can change. The future exists only because you imagine it that way now. Some events make sure it will never exist. So, knowing that action and feelings only happen in the Now isn't it the only place to be? 😁 By doing things that bring you joy, you live the emotions Now, creating your future good memories... You like to remember the emotions you lived then and it's good! But now, you prefer feeling great being busy to live, creating new future memories... Big hugs, with love, always!💙💙 Sophie
Being totally accepting of your reality, no expectations, being aware of your body, boom!
I have grown up living with a dad that always talked about the future, about how much money we were going to get and where we'd be financially, and over the years I either worried about the past or the future, and sometimes id be worrying about why i couldn't live in the present . I struggled a lot with showing my emotions and not being able to express them correctly, people would tell me "all you have is now" and it was very difficult for me to understand. I have lost many people, things, by worrying. I am going to watch this again when i wake up and I'm going to work smart on understanding "how to be present". This is my first time watching you, and you triggered something in my brain that now I'm conscious of and im going to change for the better of me
I needed this today.. I'm starting fall semester in a couple days so I was worrying about the future.. then all my past mistakes and disappointments were tugging on my heart as well... thanks for the special message, I'll carry it with me ♡
26 year old man, "successful" job, debt free, relatively attractive and in shape but can't find happiness. Someone who meets this man would say, "how is he not happy?" Thoughts control your life. I think a massive part of the problem is not living/enjoying in the moment. Yes I'm talking about me.
Makes sense
So true
I noticed you put successful in quotes. There's your problem. You don't like your job.
Described me tbh. Sorry man I hope we get through it
@@liamc7097 no he is probably just humble
Past -depression
Future- anxiety
You may not be in control of how you feel but you control what you are thinking
Being present : Having your thoughts in this moment
If you caught yourself having bad thoughts -Ground yourself in the moment: 5 4 3 2 1 and get yout thinking straight
This is one of the best explanations i’ve heard for staying in the moment Mel! It made such a difference when you explained “savoring” rather than what most others teach as simply “noticing” and “observing” what’s around you. This video has seriously changed my life. Thank you a million times!
Great advice. Thank you 🙏🏽. I struggled with anxiety and panic attacks. I have to say that at least the psychologists I saw, did not help at all. But that’s another story. We don’t become aware or we do not wake up into awareness unless we have experienced difficult times in our lives. I was a multi task multi functional type of person. I developed anxiety and anger through the years for many reasons. I was somehow good at not dwelling in the past, so I do not know what depression really is, but I got to know anxiety very well and not the light state of anxiety that most people feel. I mean crazy constant anxiety attacks that lead to panic. That you feel you’re gonna lose control of yourself. It was awful.
But I found out doctors could not help me. I started reading about Buddhism and books of Thich Nhat Hanh and Eckart Tolle and my life started to change. Living in the present is the key,. But I’ve learned to control my feelings and my ego while interacting with other people. I leave work and get in my car and forget about what happened at work. Just enjoy the driving home. Just like when I’m at work I’m present at work and I don’t even look at what time it is. When I’m home I’m home, not anywhere else. I am calm now. When I feel I’m a bit anxious I watch my thoughts and I know I have to come back to the present. It hasn’t been easy but it’s simple. You just have to be aware and practice constantly being in the present moment.
this is beautiful and what I'm looking to achieve. I'm reading the power of now at the moment. such powerful things. I just keep bringing my mind to the future or past. I want to stay in the present. any advice?
@@cupidfairy89 recognize all the blessings you have , and know everything happens for a reason . And be grateful for everything and I mean everything and be nice to everyone , someone else always has it worse ,
You can’t actually control your thoughts, you can only control how you react and what you decide to focus on. Easier said than done.
No, you can control your thoughts
Yannik W not true
Try to think of something awesome that happened to you.. I remember when I fell off the chair in science class and my best friend got blamed for pushing me because she couldn't stop laughing.. it was hilarious and I found it so funny.. I directed my thoughts towards it. You can't control it 24/7 Because your brain is working on the subconscious 90% but you can reprogram your subconscious by repeating thoughts and feelings through your conscious xx you have a huge impact on your thoughts and life... take everything as a positive
You and only you is the boss of your own head! Only You can decide what thought will have the priority and which ones you push aside because they lead to nothing you can do or change bc already past, they bring you down, are negatives, shameful, judgmental... They are all a waste of your energy.
When you decide to stop the story the second you have identified it as being a waste, you have stopped it because you are the boss! Imagine all the energy, the creative energy, the one that makes you look inside and let's the best of you being expressed. Listen to this voice that helps you find your beauty, your value, your love... For yourself and for all there is. You Are All there is to be, All is Love and Love is God. Love yourself, and be assured that there will always be someone loving you. Big hugs of Love, always... 💙 Sophie
@@yolnow4ever515 YES SOPHIE!!!
Thanks Mel. I love the short video instructions. Especially this one about how to live in the present. You rock!!
Thanks, Mel! For 30+ years, I've done a deep dive into personal development. YOUR grounded inspiration has inspired me to share YOU - and other great voices - with my husband. We will start with this video 1st thing in the a.m., followed by your 10 Rules for Success, which we will also listen to in the evening. For years, my hubster has asked me to suggest personal development books/audios & I've declined - what works for me might not ring true for him. But this short video + your 10 Rules..., everything I've watched is so basic aha-ing inspiring that I know - for the 1st time in my 28-year ever-growing, ever-reaching marriage - that YOU are our starting place. So, this video + your 10 Rules... twice a day for a week, then move to a new voice that we pick together & begin/end our day the same way. Thanks for the inspiration on living in each of our individual & partnered moments! Will let you know how it goes.
Hi Mel
I've just found you!
I love the 5 second rule!
I've started to listen to you first thing in the morning to inspire me for my day 🙂
Thanks 🙏🏻
Thank u
I savor my friends, after we hanged out last night and talked about silly things, I realised how grateful I am, the gratitude that you should be feeling is there and right at that moment, I realised also that I’ve enjoyed the moment and the happiness it brings is much more comfortable. ❤️
SummahGeym Omg I do that too, savour the moment after it’s become a past memory.
very good, very nice, very authentic!
thank you, Mel!
Love and peace, G.
i watched your video about just count from 5 to 1 to do all things perfect and awesome. Someday will order your book =)
Great tips! I really enjoyed the video. I was feeling awful about eating unhealthy for the past three weeks. Yesterday, I had a wake up call. I felt so sick for half the day. I haven't exercised for over a week, but I forced myself to take a walk. And today, I chose to eat yogurt with fruit while watching your video. I felt that little boost of happiness you were talking about. I'm so glad I found you through Ted talks. A lot of the things I struggle with such as procrastination, lack of focus and anxiety, you have great videos on how to overcome those challenges!
Thanks for this explanation about how to live in the present moment! Finally I get it!
At this very moment ma'am, I needed that...I am forever stuck in my past. This was divine. God bless you
Mel, you are magnificent and amazing and I'm truly grateful to have found you - thank you for all that you do 😊❤️
Thank you Mel for confirming something I’ve being doing since I started watching your videos. I’m a sports official and one of the challenges I’ve had is I sometimes mentally drift during games. Part of it is I sometimes felt I lacked confidence to do what I needed to do. But since getting into your videos, I’ve been doing your 5-4-3-2-2 during games to ground myself and refocus. This particular video just confined the method is a good way to stay present. Thank you!
Thank you, I’m 54 years old and can’t remember the last time I felt present because I didn’t know how, now I do ❤️🙏🙏
wow just wow this is amazing mel you are really a philosopher i wish everybody some day will gonna find you and change their lives with you,you are the thing that people has to hear all of us thank you i feel lucky and happy for having the luck of stumbling this video have a good day sir with respect and love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
So putting focus on those things that I appreciate is what keeps me in the now, so they moment I get complacent like how I've been and begin to start not doing anything with my life, my mind justifiably wanders for the worst. I needed this
Great video Mel, thank you for using your time to share these tips with us.
Bec Middleton
Difficult to do but very true. I have to constantly keep bringing myself back and noticing. Being grateful. It does work. I hope more people can find this technique too.
always dwelling in the future or past, been controlled by depression and fear, was not nice. one early morning, i awoke, the sun was doing its magic, i was led through the door of gratitude! i realised my life was so blessed, apply grattitude to all aspects of your way, and watch what happens:)
Right here , right now I am grateful for your video to share with us. It helps me with a class I took in rehab call DBT which teaches one to be mindful
Thank you for being considerate by adding subtitles 👍
My mind is BLOWN. I do gratitude journals and I try to live in the present. But this video finally connected the two. I freakin get it now! I was wondering why doing gratitude wasn’t really clicking…I didn’t understand why I was trying to be grateful…I’m just told being grateful is good for you……
and I was wondering why being in the present seemed so dull.
This makes so much more sense!!
Now when I see myself busy with a past or future not so good thoughts, I say to myself come back, this is not the place I want to be. Then I feel happy that now I can monitor my thoughts and control them and bring them back. I feel so thankful for gaining knowledge and moving forward in a better way.
Focusing on your breath can also ground you to the present moment
Roy Emmanuel if you focus on your breath, it'll make harder for you to breath.
Daniyal Jalil No
How sir..
Daniyal Jalil
Ahahahahahah
Also, focusing on my gf’s boobies keeps me present.
Mel you always have such good and down to earth advice. Thank you
Thank u! I will start doing it from today.
This video was genuinely so helpful but it brought me to tears thinking about how much time I've wasted. But then I realised, even thinking that, I was looking to the past and trying to change it. And now I've changed. In an instant. What an incredible video!
Thank You so much! I appreciate you and your time. I love you sister!
For me being in the present is more than happiness, is that amazing feeling of peace with yourself. The thing i do when i caught myself not being in the present is to visualize myself go from the 1st perspective of the body to the 3rd perspective of the watcher (the real you). It really work great for me.
Thank you, just what i needed to know 👌🏽
I am 13 and I don’t know why but recently i haven’t been very happy and kind of thinking about the past or what will happen in the future. But this helped me a lot. If you are struggling with anything, the most important thing to realize is that you need to get outside help or just someone talking to you.
Thank you so much! I’ve been worrying my teenage years and the fun within them won’t last or have meaning but I will definitely savor these moments just as I savored this video ;)
I recently came across your channel, Mel. Your videos are very relevant and they really hit hard. You make it so simple too. Will inculcate this.
Keep it going.
I just want to say my sisters are out and my parents are arguing at this moment. I think it's about me. I'm not so sad. I think they are.
Wow, you really puts things into perspective with an easy to understand explanation. 😄 Love it!
I really love this video. I discovered the psychology of flow, very much living in the present moment whilst taking those microsteps towards the future. It's blissful alignment that's all based on proven positive psychology.
Thank you. Really need this motivation at the moment
that was great deliverance. It well put and informative. I, now, understand the basic fundamentals of living in the moment. I was searching and searching on how to be happy and with your help, today, I can know refocus my attention on the present. It is very true that i have focused on my past and future too much, that's why I haven't got ahead. Thank you so much for sharing you wealth knowledge to help those like myself to reach for higher goals and achievements with that simplified answer.
Thank you for this video! I've noticed when I think about the good times in the past, I get a little sad. I need to do better of living in the present.
Makes all the sense in the world I needed this thanks start my day out
Thank you for the boost Mel :) made my day
Thanks you so much Mel for making it so clear how to be in the present always 😊
I like the most about your advice regarding being happy at the moment.
thanks for your advice... it helps me realize the present. my past hurts keep coming back and i even hate it.. coz they give me fear of what is my future... thank you for teaching me how to savor the present and keep my sanity intact...
Exercise is a good one for this too, and very effective, whenever you are making yourself tired and you want the exercise to be over, and when you actually finish, you are very *present*
Thank you for this from my heart
I want her to be my mum
Liz Grantham consider her your mom..respect and have gratitude, for all those who inspire you; a parent gives us life..but the universe has many ways of helping us through out our life..through inspiration and awareness from many vehicles
I want her to be my dad.
i want her
@@miss_anonymousx4975 😂
I want you to be my wife 🌺
Genial! Muchas gracias por tu mensaje, fue claro y preciso
Great Thank you very much for your message. It was clear and accurate
Thank you Mel! Really appreciate it♥️
Thank you Mel. You explained this so well and gave me a technique to use to be present!!!
I agree. Mel's life advince has helped me a lot in my troubled times. ♥
Love this, thank you!
Thank you!!!❤
The sentence where she said that people survived the worst Things like Holocaust i mean its not so Hard in my Moments but I was Very often in Hospital and that brought little tears to me and hitted me right in the Feelings ❤️
Thanks you sooo much. I really needed this right now
I need this. Very timely. Thank you.
Thank you so much this had helped me get through and reach a new level of myself i show my gratitude
I needed this video. I suffer from anxiety and depression and this was very eye-opening, thank you Mel.
Ang I hope your feeling better now? Suffer is such a negative word . Does staying in the present help you out. ☮️❤️🕉
Powerful, Mel. Never realized that. Will practice living in the here and now.
Now i know im the one who is living in the future..always worry and anxious..thanks Mel Robbins for this video.. :)
I cried when I heard this, thank you .
Summary:Refocus yourself to present
Find something right here and right now you can savor.
Everyday on my hour lunch i see one of your videos ;)
When you come to Portugal?
The Bhagavad Gita, a sacred Hindu scripture, emphasizes the importance of concentration, focus, and staying in the present moment to achieve spiritual growth and success. It encourages individuals to channel their thoughts and actions towards a singular purpose, focusing their mind on the task at hand without being distracted by past regrets or future anxieties. This practice aids in achieving a state of mindfulness and flow, enhancing overall effectiveness and inner peace.
Thank you!!! Very nicely described!!
You're amazing, thank you so much, I love you.
I'm glad I found this video. Very helpful. Thank you
THIS !!!!! I needed to hear this in these exact words that made sense to me. Thank you.
Mel is one of the best motivational Speakers I have ever seen
I try to live in the moment and prepare for the future. I'm okay to stay anxious to develop a stronger version of myself and try to enjoy what I have right now.
Great and simple solution to helping me refocus my thoughts that sometime go arrigh. Thanks
hiiii Mel , you are always inspiring and you always fill up life with positivity can I please ask you questions in here ??? I wanted to ask you something
Thanks Mel. Great inspiration.
So relevant during this time😀Thank you Mel
I'm so glad there are people in the world like you.. Anyway I am either in the past or future... (past fixing my walls I have built up because of pain or mental trauma.. If I don't have peace with what happend or at least accept what I have been through I can't grow in life)
(Future oh boy this one is the most used one.. For I must constantly plan etc what will I do blah bla bla.)
I could just have faith.. But instead I worry or yes anxiety.
The present moment I only find when sometimes alone.. And with family or animals.. Sometimes with friends..
Maybe because of circumstances I am anxious and jumpy or sometimes panicked..
Well I'm 25 years old living in South Africa without a Job finally studying and unfortunately still with my mother and stepfather.. Maybe because the difficulty in the situation or certain things I don't understand... Because I found out that you can find yourself or mindset in a maze... I sent allot of applications out for jobs and still not getting any were... This COVID-19 really put everyone in the world upside-down
Even in South Africa allot of people lost their jobs
But anyway hope you find time to read my story
Would appreciate it if you can give me your honest or criticism on what you see.. I love it when people are straight forward... I just think I put myself in this position maybe because of the country economy? Fear of responsibility for high taxes or hatred towards this system our country is in... The all bad negative things and how corrupt our country are..
Anyway just wanted tonget that out..
In the meantime looking forward to hear from you.. #blessings
Slowly getting better with being in the present more often. Get short bursts of happiness that drift away as soon as my autopilot kicks back in. I found I am also more productive when I’m in the present. I’m finding that I’m only present about 30 minutes a day.. even my drive to and from work is autopilot..
This was really insightful, thank you! ~
Small and simple acts of savoring. I like this phrase very much. I am glad I stumbled upon your video. Thank you for clarifying what it means to be present at this moment.
I love you. You make me think about so many things. I love it
I love this, thank you.
Thank you for this video, exactly what i was looking for ❤
What a great video.Thanks a ton. it moved me from within.
I'm really grateful for your videos!
Thank you very much for this video.
Thank you so much!!! helped me so much!!!!
Great
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Thank
You
Mel
Present is where the gold is
Grateful
Wow! Thank you, thank you, thank you so much mel! ❤
Awww that's gonna help me so much. Thanks Mel 😊
needed this!! thankyou so much
I truly savored this video ♥ Thank you very much!