LGBTQ+ Stereotypes That NEED to Die
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- "The problem with any kind of stereotype is that it condenses our complex and diverse narratives."
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What LGBTQ+ stereotype do you think is the worst?
People thinking that bi means you're sexually attracted to 2 or more genders(its just 2). Not too major it just bothers me idk why.
When people think gay men are all femboys-
Doi same dude
I don't know about steriotype, but but what I HATE is when someone asks me "who are you gay for?" It annoys me because like do thyou y want me saying "who are you straight for" . It just doesn't make sense, you don't need to be In a relationship with the same gender to be gay. You can just sometimes be attracted to a person of the same gender once like a crush or they just are watching tv and think someone looks really attractive.
I hate the "you don't sound gay". Like what does sounding gay sound like?
0:22 “Skinny, rich, white, blond, gay men who love shopping...”
*looks at skinny, upper middle-class, blond, gay, male, shop-crazy self in mirror*
“Oh.”
Is your pfp my boo the app
Xd
Lmao
"All lesbians want to be men"- no
"All lesbians have short hair and have no makeup"- no
Thank you! I recently came out as a lesbian and I have not ONCE said I would change anything about my appearance and then I get heaps of people saying “are you gonna dye your hair blue?” “Do you have a crush on me?”
s a d its true due to the increased amount of testosterone they have
I think that's transexual lol. Idk, I still have a lot to learn about the lgbtq+ sorry.
@@tiermax1629 I used to be a BIG old phobic of this, so my friend came out as Bi, and the first question I asked was "Owo do you like me!?" Now I support all of you and regret everything I did in the past
Not completely true but ok everyone has different personalities and styles
Big thing I don’t like for bisexual people is when someone says “so if you marry a man you’re straight then, right?”
Like nope not how sexuality works
XD im different so ill be ok
Patricia Albornoz it’s like saying because I’m single I’m suddenly asexual/aromantic
ugh I hate this! I was dating a girl and I girl told me "you're a lesbian because you're in a relationship with a girl "and I'm just like?? no?? "I like boys too There's a difference" and she responds with "yea but you're in a lesbian relationship because you're both girls" I'm bi. My girlfriend was Pan....
What if a man marries a man. Your not straight??
THANK YOU UGGGG I GET SHIT LIKE THIS SO MUCH
“But you’ve never done anything with a girl so you’re not gay” and I’ve never done anything with a guy... I ain’t straight tho
"but you don't look gay"
"WOW thanks!"
Yes. I'm gay, and I get that a lot. And my reaction is the same. It's kinda sad how gay stereotypes has made us feel shamed of the term 'gay'. We need to break those stereotypes.
@@Earth098 ikr, I’m gay myself and I can understanding when people assume I’m straight but when people say I don’t look or act gay in anyway I get a bit annoyed. I do fit in some stereotypes like being obsessed with musical theater, liking a lot of cute things, but for the most part I “act” like a straight male not because I am hiding it, it’s because that is just was how I interact with people. I don’t always have to be flamboyant, and I don’t have the nasally tone of voice that some gay people have, I’m just me.
“i’m a lesbian actually.” “wait really?? you don’t look like a lesbian.” like what am i supposed to say to that? sorry i didn’t wear my gay uniform today, i understand the confusion. like ????
So I look hetero ? I'm gonna go cry now
I hear that so much.
My friends think that gay mean al feminen and make up, glitters and have seks a lot...
No im just me, a normal boy who likes other boys
Honestly, I hate how my mom always points at any guy who walks girly and says: "He's gay, I'm sure."
When I try to explain not all LGBT people act a certain way neither do straight people,
she's just like: "I can see when someone is gay. Lesbians have short hair and gay guys like makeup and nailpolish. It's like that.
One time she even said: "Ugh, why don't they go date a girl? I mean, why would you even *choose* to be gay when you can stay straight."
Now I'm scared to tell my mom I'm an Asexual Biromantic because she's probably going to be grossed out.
My straight female friend has short hair, and she likes to dress up masculine sometimes. All of these stereotypes are based on nothing.
An important one:
Just because someone is LGBTQ+ doesn’t mean they’re hella sensitive
I know right, someone tried using a stupid insult on me, a lesbain. It felt like a fly touched me.
@@thecutefairy5173 I know, the amount of shit I get doesnt even bother me anymore
Yup true that
I hate in a lesbian couple, the masculine one is automatically seen as a top. I’m in a lesbian relationship, and my girlfriend is considered a bit girly based on how she dresses, but she’s the top (I’m really out here exposing myself for this)
theres one thats "whos the guy or girl in the relationship"
Yeah, that makes no sense. They're same sex and being feminine or masculine doesn't change anything...
i think we are referring to who is the top because men are seen as that.
@@TS-ic9cg This so wrong on so many levels... And since when is this a lifestyle?? Those people who think like that are limited as hell...
@@alexander_yoko i never said that and its because being "gay" is new we are used to people being straight. We are not limited because we are all loved by god and like Adam and Eve we should reproduce to give life. If you have questions i'm here to help (:
I think that fine people are just cirious they dont maen to offned you what they mean by that is whos the more femmine lipstick one and whose the more butch masuline one
“Oh you don’t LOOK queer...” Well shucks Karen you caught me. Can’t fault that logic.
You just made my day.
OMG THIS
Effeffia Gonalick Well Karen, let me go put on my gay suit! Will that make you feel better?
Effeffia Gonalick someone said that to me and I dead ass stared him in the face and said guess I need to try harder me being a 7th grade pan little human
Well Karen, you didn’t look like you would take the kids and here we are.
Stereotype that will sadly never die is the flamboyant, hyper expressive, high energy nature of gay men that is so standard it’s written on the rule book when we come out. Not all of us are like that, but boy I also never met anyone like that either
Worst gay stereotypes that kept me and many other gay men and women in closet are;
1) Gay men are always feminine and lesbians are always masculine: NOT TRUE
2) In a gay relationships there is always a masculine one ('husband') and a feminine one ('wife'): NOT TRUE
3) 'Gaydar': DOES NOT EXISTS
They made my life miserable, and I'd do anything to help break them down. And please stop calling 'queer community'. Because gay people are people just like straight people. We are tired of labels.
yep totally
100% Agree!
I talked with my friend about sexual orientation. She told me that gay people were just people who think crazy thoughts.
Me: Welp, I don't think I'll be coming out to you anytime soon, my dearest *friend*
*proceeds to lock myself in the closet and look at Narnia*
kick her the fuck out of your life
Wow, I realise how lucky I am that my friends are all INCREDIBLY open or even queer themselves (like 2/3 of my closest friends are queer), and I don't have to worry about that. Sending love from a lesbian, we all love you here!
I wish people would realize not all lesbians are studs. I have short hair and predominantly wear men’s clothes, but I do enjoy to experiment with makeup and wear pretty clothes and just be pretty sometimes.
Emmy Weimer lol this is why I love lesbians.
Emmy Weimer exactly! It's sooo stupid.
@Katakuri The Fuck?
Exactly, lesbians aren't men
The same to “effeminate” gays or “masculine” bisexual.....seriously, who believes this stereotypes are SO homophobic and dumb....
whenever i tell people i like girls they’re always like “oh u don’t look gay” and it gets on my last nerve
I know someone at my school who actually does lie about being bi, which really bothers me because I am actually bi and when I came out people weren’t sure if they could believe me or not
Chloester I’m sorry to hear that but how do you know they’re pretending?
The bisexual college stereotype really hit hard. I forced myself to come out to my dad before I went to college just because I knew he would blame college for making me bi
I HATE IT WHEN I SAY “OH IM BI” AND SOMEONE SAYS “OH BUT YOU DONT LOOK BI!” ITS NOT ABOUT LOOKS! ITS ABOUT WHO YOU DATE!
I'm not quite sure if Asexual is part of the LGBTQ+ community, but I really wish people would understand that we exist, and we need love too. Just not in a sexual or romantic way. I adore platonic, family and friend love, but people assume I'm Pan based on how open and touchy-feely I am with all my friends. And while there's nothing wrong with being Pan - after all my best friend is - it's just not who *I* am. Maybe one day, everybody will be accepted for who they are as a person, and not by their sexuality, skin color, gender, or backgrounds. All that matters is the beautiful person inside your body. Sorry if this was a lot to read. I just have a lot of weight on my shoulders. - An Asexual fighting back.
Well, I meant "we" as in not only other Asexual people, but any other sexuality that is struggling with their "label". Sorry if that didn't come off that way, or if I am putting down anybody at all. I would *never* do that on purpose.
Olivia Wheeler it's part, because the full acronym id LGBTQIA the A is for asexual.
Awww I am ace too
Olivia Wheeler they r part of the community
Olivia Wheeler Yeah we Aces are the +
When you come out as bi and people say “so you’re a lesbian?”or “so your gay?”
Like NO
That happened to me
Gay and bi mean the same thing
@@zombosspiggy2498 Nope.
@@zombosspiggy2498 Bruh now like bi is you can date a guy and a girl gay is you can only date a guy so now are they the same-
To clear things up
Pan is _not_ "fancy bi"
Pan is _not_ "more correct" than bi
*Bisexual* means attraction to 2 _or more_ genders
*Pansexual* means attraction _regardless_ of gender/ to all genders
And *all sexualities are trans inclusive if you aren't transphobic*
Trans people are not some _other_ category that only pan people are attracted to
Ex: A straight man can be attracted to a trans woman
And to repeat
*Bisexuality is not excluding of nonbinary people*
*_Bisexuality and Pansexuality are both valid_*
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ROUND OF APPLAUSE FOR THIS OP RIGHT HERE👏👏
Allen Burt THANK YOU 👏🏻
bi isnt two or more, bi just attraction to the two genders
Bi literally means two, so it's not two or more genders. It's just two.
Pan means all...of the two genders that exist, so... Well, they are the same thing technically
I'm that "YAAAS QUUEEEN, WERK" person the one guy talks about... Though I'm a raging bisexual female...
Same
That’s my life
Same here 😂
Can’t say the same about myself ( although I’m also bi) but this comment cracked me the fuck up and I have no clue why😂😂
That's me 😂😂😭
“You have to be straight or gay, you can’t be both” stereotype should’ve died a long time ago
When ppl tell me how can I be bi because I have a son. Uhm those are 2 completely unrelated things🤦🏿♀️😂
Also what needs to die is the concept that bisexual,pansexual, and poly sexual are all the same. Because even though they are very similar, the label matters to some people and there is an important difference to them.
Agreed
as far as i know polysexual is basically bisexual, but bisexual is very different from pansexual
Rainbow bows yeeeeees
Just to clarify, bisexual is being attracted to men and women, whereas poly is being attracted to more than men and women, but not being attracted to people regardless of gender; there are exceptions.
A lot of people have begun to use bi as 2 or more, and as a bi person myself (who is only attracted to male or females), I don't really mind that. But there is a distinct difference between bi and pan people and people need to get it through their heads (also the whole "pan is more inclusive than bi >w
People: *gays where skirts, make up and pink*
LGBTQ+: bro, that's in gacha life-
People just need to understand that we're Human, I myself am a Trans Male who's a Bi-Romantic Asexual
You kinda contradicted yourslef there man
delfina velkov How?
“But you’re in a relationship with a man right now so that means your straight” Well Janet seeing as you’re not banging anyone right at this moment you’re ace sorry, just going by your rules
i didn't get the reference sorry
Shegsge Jshbsgz ace=asexual
lol true tho
My best friend (who is a trans man) likes to wear skirts and shit because expression is different then identidy. And he would constantly get asked if "he still identifyed as a male" or if "he still went by he/him" and it just made me really mad, for him.
My mom told me that if I ever came out as apart if the LGBT+ community, she wouldn't be mad, but she wouldn't want me and my spouse to be lovely dovey infrint of her or disrespect the religion she goes by. Now, I've dated two girls but my friend told me that because I wasn't interested in them and was only dating them because the other girls in my school were dating girls and I wanted to blend in. I'm straight, and I know that I am straight. When my best male friend came out to me as gay and he was just crying and crying and he wanted to kill himself because his parents wouldn't accept him because if his sexuality. I told him that sexuality doesn't define personality and I just let him use my shoulder until he was feeling better. In like the next month or so, he had himself a boyfriend and let me just say, they were voted cutest couple in the yearbook. Eventually, his parents accepted him and they became a happy family.
What I hated about coming out was some of my "friends". They just automatically thought I liked them. Like no just stop😭😂
Same
Exactly!!! Just because I’m attracted to girls doesn’t mean that i want to date every girl like Jesus fuck off
I didn't come out later in life. I was born just like Heeeyyyyyyyy wassup boi is I'm gay. But when I make friends I mention I'm gay and they go like wtf no u want to date me?
this is exactly what makes me hesitate to even talk about myself to some of my friends.
I came out to my girl classmates and they were fine with it and didn’t think I liked them.
The most annoying part about being attracted to same sex/gender or being greysexual is that when you watch a movie it always has a straight person as the main character. If they aren’t straight then the whole movie focuses on the fact that they aren’t straight.
Edit: that is, in general :)
As an asexual, I don't mind the main character being straight but it's when the movie starts only focusing on the fact that they are straight that it gets annoying, especially the random sex scenes that are just thrown in for literally no reason
Yea cause if they didnt a lot of people would be pissed
Tou cant win
My favourite is “[INSERT SEXUALITY HERE] isn’t real!”
When I came out to my Friends one of them said "no your not" and when I said I was they responded with "NO YOUR NOT"
That happened to me as well🙂 They want you to be someone else don't worry about that, just focus on your life.
@@istvanvarga8170 I will thank you 🥺🥺😁😁
for me the worst stereotype is that being gay is a personality. its not, we are all completely different people with different interests, traits, etc and not just clones of each other.
I don't like people saying they wish they had a gay best friend
I just think it's disrespectful
Speaking form my personal experience, most gay stereotyping comes from inside the community. I have had a bunch of people being confused (or nearly annoyed) because I didn't fit the gay stereotype, and ALL of those where gay guys.
I wish that the lesbian stereotype wasn’t a broad shouldered, short haired, thin and strong BUTCH (usually colored. Sometimes white) Or just a lipstick lesbian (mostly a blonde white chick). Like there are different types of people we don’t fall into one box, there shouldn’t be a box for that.
YES THIS NEEDS ATTENTION
Bisexual: being sexually attracted to two genders, generally boys and girls, bi means two.
Polysexual: I usually think of like a polygon- more than two edges or whatever, it means being sexually attracted to more than two but not all genders. Let’s say I like boys, girls, non-binaries and demigirls. I’d be polysexual.
Pansexual: Pan means all. You like all genders. Non-binary, cis boy, cis girl, trans boy, trans girl, intergender, demigirl, demiboy, genderfluid, the list goes on.
PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT, SUPPORTING HETS.
The idea that tops and bottoms have anything to do with masculinity and femininity
That's heteronormativity
@@delfinavelkov9138 Lesbian relationships happen to not follow this norm always
that trans guys always are soft, I wear so much black and punk but I still get called 'soft' and 'small'
Feel you, as a 20 years old trans guy, I look like a 14 years old...
I’m waiting to see a video on gay discrimination and judgement “within” the so called community. Now that’s where the discussions are.
I'm pan-ace , and this girl actually said "so if you're pan- wait that's the one where you don't care and date a tree?" And I was just sitting there like, 🙄
You can't just say you're bi so that they understand what you mean better.
I came out to my parents on april 1st so if they didn't accept me i'd be like "haha, april fools"!
That's actually quite brilliant. I applaud you, my dude.
Smart
I just wish there wasn't this much labels, it really divides us all. and we really dont need that
For Real!
When the str8 guy automatically assumes youre into him 😒
When you're a lesbian and you have a girlfriend but your parents think your asexual friend likes you in a romantic way even tho you have made it perfectly clear that you and him are friends and will ONLY be friends and nothing more but they don't know that cuz you haven't come out yet and they don't let you have any contact with any of your friends unless it's at school or walmart 😔😒
I turned the volume all the way up so my parents could hear it.
intersex people are like unicorns, you cant see them unless you believe XD.
Belle Fontaine DReeEeAaMMMM dAdDdyy
YYYYAAAS
I believeeeeeeeee!
Sam Bacon YEE, yeah we're pretty awesome people :3. Usually LMAO
It depends. I know some intersex people who say they’re LGBT+, and some others who don’t.
i feel bad for the 7 y/o who doesn’t understand sexuality and immediately thinks any non-straight person is weird
Great video!!
Love the conversation! Yes! real life issues that are so frustrating but often not brought to the forefront.
i know i’m not straight and i know i’m not gay. i’m in a straight relationship rn but have had crushes on everyone. however i don’t believe pan is the name for what i’m going for. i’m just neutral and kinda like an “other” category so i call myself queer. and i think people have their own opinions on what bein queer is.
The : it’s a disease
Boi that one annoys me
I really wish these stereotypes would be blown of the face of the earth!
And bigots would do some real research in this area. I feel like they make uneducated inquiries.
I really wish you knew what you were talking about
@@KernofRBS Wdym, they do need to be blow away, what are you trying to defend them for? Excuse you.
its a sphere TwT and it will happen once the unnecessary rants and parades stop
@@TS-ic9cg unnecessary parades? Wdym?
I hate when people say being gay is a choice
RIGHT!!!!
Why do people think we’re girly just cus we’re gay
Some people say there is no difference between bisexuality and pansexuality, that pansexuality doesnt exist
Awkward Turtle lol maybe those people should actually get an education instead of being in the 2nd century all the damn time 😂😂
Pin Head how the actual FUCK is a basic education going to teach you the difference between sexuality’s?
5.56 X 45mm it’s a joke calm the hell down
Yea cause its true
@@indiighoul saying that scientifically inpsosibel thing doesnt exsist doesnt mean that you dont have an education and that you live in th 2nd senctury
Honestly thats offencive
1:32 that is so true
I hate the ”all gay men are girly and lesbians are tomboys”
My least favorite for being a bi child is probably people just always using the gosh darn card called “You’re just trying to come of as gay.” No no I’m not. Also when at a sleepover one of my friends friend was making fun of bi people and I just hid under my covers.
Here is 1 thing I don't like about being bi
when people ask: Do you like girls more, or boys?
Outing someone is not doing them a favor! If they are not out yet it is for a reason, maybe even several! If they’re not out it might not be safe or they are not comfortable with it!
Bowl cut here makes the most sense.
I hate when you say that you’re bi and have a crush on the opposite gender and they’re like “but you’re bi?” and vice versa
This is why I'm closeted to everyone but my best friends (and random people in TH-cam comment sections apparently). I would of been closeted to them too but 2/3 of them came out before me, one as bi and one as lesbian, and the 3rd one is pan. :) I'm Bi btw.
Yep
Why do people treat people part of the LGBTQ community with hate?
We are all exactly the same people, just we are attracted to different people, doesn't mean we want attention, we are special or just different. We are the same to them??
I need help....
Im sorry a lot of you are massive attention whores
@@delfinavelkov9138 elaboratebeforeisayanthingGO!
Presumptions that need to go:
-young asexuals haven’t developed a sexual/romantic attraction yet
-bisexuality is the same as pansexuality
-LGBT only includes lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people
-‘how do you know’ ‘it’s just a phase’ ‘you just haven’t met the right person yet’
- you have to be open to relationships with transgender people or you are transphobic
- ‘but you don’t look gay...?’
I hate it when people say that all gay men sound effeminate
"It's just a phase"
I DONT KNOW WHO THIS JOON PARK IS BUT 10 OF 10 WOULD DATE
I'm straight, but I support LGBTQ and hate stereotypes
and if you're coming out My dad said "are you sure he's doing this because you're trying to fit in with your friends?"
*gUrL bYe*
I'm non binary!
Baliey Miller Cool thing dude
You mean in terms of gender? If that’s what you mean you really need to read a book about biology because as far as I know there are only two genders and they are defined by the sexual reproductive organs that you are born with
Baliey Miller where is your scientific proof in terms of biology of more than 2 genders?
If you have ovaries that you were born with your a girl if you have a penis balls scrotum and prostate glands your a boy
Please just leave. You obviously don't understand that it isn't your body, its your mind.
"Pansexual? You mean bisexual.."
*NO*
Your hairstyle is so good
Thank you for this video
I'm the gay guy that wears acrylics, makeup,crop tops,handbags 💅
"You have kids now, so that means you're choosing to be straight"
No.. No it doesn't. I'm still bi as fuck thank you
The person wearing the safety pin earring was speaking TRUTH. I don't know how much I've wanted to punch people in the face for immediately assuming that I'm the run of the mill gay person. I'd like to be acknowledged for my personality, not what others think my personality is
*"yOuR pAn riGht? So yOu liKe poTs and PanS??. Oh sO yoU bAse oFf pErsoNaLItY?? Do yOu woUld datE a TrEe or a ROcK?"*
*Sobs*
When men think you’re only bisexual to please their 3some fantasies🙄😂
I just have to say this,
*masculine gays exist*
*feminine lesbians exist*
*but that doesn’t mean a tomboy or a femboy can’t be gay or lesbian*
Exactly
I'd like to see the end of the "lesbians hate men " stereotype.
A friends of mine (who is gay) and i (trans FTM, demi/pansexual) will say “yaaas queen!” sometimes as like an inside joke to each other and it’s so fun 😂
I was told that I’m “not asexual” because I’m In a relationship 😑
I'm gay and I like playing football and rapping
🏳️🌈🌈
"Omni is Pan with a preference."
« Are you sure you’re a lesbian? You don’t look gay. »
BI IS ME AND I AM BI
GERALD AVENUE IS THAT YOU
“Just choose one already!” -A b***h would say to a bisexual. U can like both.
I definitely find it annoying, when people comment on me having short hair, like; “oh so you’re lesbian then?”
Uuuuggghh, I am attracted to women mostly indeed, but hearing people assume my sexuality on how I look, is annoying.
It’s even harder as a bi sexual cuz people think we switch up often
I hate when everyone thinks we all have the gay accent it’s so annoying
Wait people think that -
Exactly. Nothing wrong with alittle lisp but, there's a handful that overdo it and just comes off fake In my opinion
1:41 MY FRIENDS AND I
1:30 thank you
People I'd wish would stay away from meeeh
The people in my school who think if they bring up anyone I like them... seriously, bisexuals don't like everyone you point to.
I'm told I'm too young to know who I like, but do you really know me enough to know my rejections
“ Oh so you like Pans?” UGH THAT MAKES ME SO MAD
My best friend is transgender and pan (leading to men) and people always give him shit for it.
"If you like boys, why not stay a girl?"
It pisses me off so much, and the comments aren't even being directed to me
Another one that I noticed is that when people think of LGBT+, they automatically think of gay and rainbows. When I ask them to explain, they say it's only Gay people who have rainbow flags and nothing else matters to them, which of course isn't true. Well except for the gay pride having a rainbow flag. I am bisexual, having a pink purple and blue flag, but when I say that they say that I'm not part of it.