The art of the deep yes: Justine Musk at TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen
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- Justine Musk is the author of three traditionally published dark-fantasy novels. She blogs about life, women and creativity at www.justinemusk.com.
In her TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen talk, Justine explores the 'deep yes' of self worth: what it is, why we lose it, and how we can get it back.
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As a father of two university aged daughters who are out there exploring and trying out their voices, I will be sharing this with them. Thank you , Justine Musk.
As we grow up we forget our true values. We alter that 'greatness' based on other people's opinions and give up our dreams thinking we don't deserve them. Good speech Justine and thank you for the reminder.
Her words are wise. "Women needs to trust themselves first before they can trust others."
She is not the type of girl who didn't succeed too much in her career, and then married a nerdy guy who just turned to a multimillionaire after being friendzoned for years. And she didn't divorce him in the middle of 2008 crisis when he almost got broke. She is just a strong, independent and free woman who does whatever she wants.
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@@Authent12 actually he divorced her. She was going for marriage counseling and he didn't wanna, the next day told her through someone else that he is filing for divorce.
Brilliant -
She is making SO MUCH SENSE that most can't fathom the depth of this.
This is important for ALL WOMEN TO SEE!
I have followed your posts for months now and I can say that your inspiration is universal. No matter your gender, no matter your nationality, your words do awake that higher self that lives in all of us.
All the best, Justine.
Right along with the idea that you are either living in someone else's epic novel, or you are the author of your own life. Her deeply felt YES speaks to the critical evolution of women, and the gift it gives to others.
Such a brilliant and insightful person. Really owns herself and doesn't change for people.
Fantastic talk Justine. Heartfelt, brilliantly written. Not just for women. Thank you, such a rich gift.
Powerful and authentic messages. From personal experiences, it is so damn true that if you are unable to say NO out of your deep yes, someone else will say it for you and walk all over you for that. This has nothing to do with 'feminism' (it is by all means just a label anyway) which is overly used and has become distorted in itself. This is a message that's needed for all women,, men, adolescents,.. who project their self-worth outwardly instead of taking a moment to calm down and learn how to say no to say deep yes!
She’s very pretty and smart
Justine, thank you so much for sharing with us. You are a strong woman.
You're beautiful, just as you are, Justine. And yesterday, when I came across the article you wrote on Marie Claire, it's saved my life. Thank you! You're strong and brave woman to stand through all these events in your life, find yourself back and share your lessons with others. Some men regardless of how successful they are, they become a bully because within themselves they are insecure, they're not happy with who they are and they become harsh with themselves and with others. Of course, they are clever enough to mask it in the name of "self-improvement". They make you feel like you're not enough and unimportant. But you're enough and as long as you're happy, Justine, you make the world more beautiful :-) And men come and go but you're happy because you know you're always there for yourself :-) Because you write, I live a better life. Thank you for writing! :-)
Ditto -- very inspired introspectively
The negative comments over here reminds me of a very wise saying "Don't look at who is saying, Look at what is being said". Unfortunately, we start labelling and judging people which strips world of the ability to hear or benefit from the very person who has been publicly (and in her case, even emotionally) bashed. Her "Deep Yes" strategy about self worth does not only apply on women, but on men or almost everybody who feels neglected, over-powered or forced to carry a low self-esteem for excuses i.e. marriage, joblessness, homelessness, hunger, skin colour or geographical location. If she can raise a son who will be far better than his father in terms of relationships, I'm sure that will will truly attest to the success of her "Deep Yes" strategy.
I agree with you, aatayyab
It's not about what's being said necessarily. Many people are mad because Justine is all talk. Her actions do not match what she says on stage.
Annie Liang what would that be?
What I can see by listening/watching her talks is like a therapy to move on for her, we still can see her nervousness while talking, so UNFORTUNATE for her to meet Elon musk, she may have suffered psychological abuse, pity, with 3 pregnancies, OMG Twins & Triplets, she's like Children producer Machine ... WEALTH !
At the end of the day, wealth is just is nothing you can't even bring them when you die .
Justine Wilson I WISH YOU HAPPINESS IN LIFE ... GOOD LUCK & MOVE ON
Justine this video inspired me so much that I have watched it multiple times so I can absorb your message to its fullest. I think it's powerful in so many ways because of the raw self awareness you demonstrate. Being 23 it is hard to envision the bad ass woman's life. I catch myself in similar ways of thinking to your younger self and am struggling to break free from my own limitations. The more women empowering one another to tap into their own greatness, the better. Thank you !
FINALLY!! Someone who managed to explain why being authentic is the only way to have trust.
so basically she gave up all he was giving her to get herself back. mad respect
She is not the type of girl who didn't succeed too much in her career, and then married a nerdy guy who just turned to a multimillionaire after being friendzoned for years. And she didn't divorce him in the middle of 2008 crisis when he almost got broke. She is just a strong, independent and free woman who does whatever she wants.
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HE divorced her and got engaged to Talulah Riley (younger and hotter, of course) just six weeks after the divorce. To be a little speculative, he may be seeing Riley while he was still married to Justine.
@@Authent12 Remember during this 8 years of marriage she had 3 pregnancies (first child died, 2 pregnancies out of in vitro, which meant hormonal rollercoaster, 2 C-secions (actually serious operation). He left her after 3 sessions of marital counselling when their 5 little boys were less than 6 years old (twins and younger triplets) for a 13 years younger copy of his wife. I guess you suggested disloyalty and egoism on the wrong person.
@@jessicarose2286 Justine in her own words has said that Elon contacted her one day to ask for a divorce because he had fallen in love with Talulah, a woman in her 20s, so he had obviously been seeing her while still married to Justine.
I love her voice. It's so calming.
yes me too, she has such a soft voice
None should ever have to live for someone's approval.
Brilliant. I literally identified with every word spoken.
I recall receiving a " Nothing Book", for Christmas when I was eight years of age. It was a bonded paperback of two hundred pages-- all blank. It became my journal, and I wrote until I filled the last page. Moving from my family home at 19, I discovered it and trashed it.
My first instinct upon reading it had been that it was creatively haunting, brilliant and yet, in my ever present need to care for everyone and maintain the exhaustive role of " perfect- daughter ", I could not let any more of my differences take root in my family.
It took almost twenty years of denying a passion, true soul- talent, to reemerge and thrive. Thank you Justine.
Knowing when to say "no" lays the groundwork to mostly saying "yes". Acceptance of what can't be changed is not a sign of weakness. It shows dawning wisdom and is a springboard to real maturity.
Leaving a comment so that even if I sometimes stop meditation the community reminds me to do it by liking it :)
Meditate ❤
@@_beingalive I did today :)) ...thankssss
thank you Justine, for your courage, your wisdom and your desire to share it. keep talking. keep writing. i love listening to and reading your words.
Yes, Janet, good find.
Thank you, Justine. You didn't only help women in your talk.
She worth more than trillions of usd. I would never change her for business or wealth.
Thought provoking, powerful, entertaining, interesting, inspiring = Justine Musk
That was AWESOME!!! Essential for women and men who fail to appreciate the necessity of the Deep Yes.
I love you, Justine! Really inspiring and I wish you and your children the best. Stay strong.
she is a millionaire. Do you know how did she achieved those wealth?
I"m not referring to her wealth, actually. I'm referring to the fact the guy whom she made 5 kids with left her and the family and moved on only 6 weeks after a divorce. I probably would have suicided in her situation.
that does not necessarily mean she is inspiring it only equates you are not emotionally strong. You gotta work on yourself.
It is inspiring, because it reminds you to be careful whom you marry and that most people aren't good. It's a good wake up call. We live in a world where men will have 5 kids with you and leave it all.
Aarya Singh it's not about kids it's all about time... Which doesn't have Elon ...
People with ADD use their hands a lot and move around. If you are unable to truly hear her then you do not know how to listen. She is brilliant, deep seeking and I can see why he was attracted to her. She is eternally beautiful with a compassionate spirit. Like his mother.
Justine, I loved your talk. I loved your words; you are beautiful; do not forget it. Hold your head up.
Your words spoke to me strongly. I will listen to this again.
In fact, I'll Have to listen to it again so that I can 'pull up' the exact words that spoke to me the strongest. I am not into the type of books that you write,but from your posts on your other sites I have not doubt that you are an excellent author. And remind girls that when they are young is the Time when they want to begin with the dreams and the huge ideals. I love that you actually did what you said you were going to do even though you forgot about wanting to!
A terrific talk and important message. You did a great job!
You are a brilliant person!! You are so young! How are you doing now? Great Ted Talk Justine.
Beautiful talk. Reminds me of the non-fiction book, 'Raising Ophelia' - Inspiring for all ages.
Such a simple, natural, beautiful and down to Earth Person!
Modest ❤
You're a very strong woman ! And a true inspiration to so many of us!
I deeply respect how you appreciate yourself more than before and the fact that you are seeking to make other women wake up and move it out of their comfort zones and follow their purpose in life!
This is very beautiful! and I really understand everything you've been through, it's not always easy to stand from such a mess, but you did and look around you NOW ! :)
"Someone else can get the snacks." Preach, girlfriend.
Lovely Speech, very inspiring ... Thank You.
Just to mention, what an amazing voice you have. Congrats. ;)
I am pointedly struck by the rawness with which your message was delivered. All too often, it is really not the message itself that is powerful (I mean, how often can a wheel be re-invented), but your own Deep Yes has made the message deeply impactful. Cheers and please speak and write more.
Beautifully brilliant .-)
Elon stands firm for the We. She is still in I.
You are already a Great writer Justine. No need to prove that! Stand for the We of the Women of the world; and, teach them that by example. In that process your "I" will get what it wanted.
Good job!-) Keep it up !!-)))
Thanks for sharing Justine I'm so inspired to allow my deep yes to resonate through the noise!
What a way to wake up... on many levels. Yes, I am too... sensitive, loving, feeling, intense, passionate... YES, and those ARE my gifts.....
"Women want a grand and inspiring call to adventure that points it's way to the deeper life, even if it's still unclear....what that kind of badass womanly life is supposed to look like. Listen to the voice within.... "
Once upon a time, I hadn't the use of the word 'NO' in my life, because I didn't honor the deep yes of my soul. I did not feel worth setting that line in the sand between my own inner YES, that was wrapped up in a loving or stern NO to other's. I didn't have the NO to stop quite a few atrocities done to me. That was then this is NOW. I can say NO easily when that line crosses over onto the DEEP yes of my soul! Yep, it was possible for me, and it is for you. Choices. I love myself, and know I am a gorgeous, loving, co-creatrix with the divine. yup... I RISE, you RISE, we RISE!!!!
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Its her triumph that she is able to externalize and therefore objectify her experience and her role in it. Shes learning... and very talented and spiritual. Too many people are just polished actors and thats what people have come to value- panache. I value her hard won battle for self knowledge, as one who was formerly married to a successful entrepeneur, and then divorced from same, I recognize her battle and see her intelligence, sensitivity and creativity shining through. Bravo.
She is great strong lady, I listen to her because she is smart beautiful strong lady
Justine AND Elon are really awesome. So sad they couldnt make it work. This talk is awesome btw, I love everything she does.
Now I would marry women exactly like that just like that! Freedom is everything,in everything..
Relationships should be like independently dependent!
i would love to surround myself with that type of brain. i think i can have some very interesting conversations with her. that mind of hers is amazing, she can definitely teach me something.
Justine Musk You are A Great Lady, I feel the same way!
Justine you just melt hearts with these videos even
“ so many years later”
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❤❤❤thanks for your time I'll give it right back some day love ❤❤❤
Suppressing one's thought never ends well: always saying yes to everyone kills the real you at the expense of protecting how people subconsciously see you
"According to the marital agreement, Justine would receive approximately $20 million dollars after tax, half in the form of the house and half in support payments. Prior to the divorce trial that she lost in early May, I had offered her more than double that number as a settlement, which is roughly equivalent to a pre tax income of $80 million. I also said that if there was any worthy cause that she felt deserved attention, I would be happy to give to them in her name. Justine said no to this offer and continued to insist on receiving ownership in Tesla and SpaceX."
She didn't deny the $80M did she?
Melissa Toska she denied it because she wanted more money
Timothy Juacalla what? How much more?
Eddy M : ok eddy you can let the blood flow back to your other head.. 🖖🤑🤑🤐
Good for her. Twins and triplets. Good God.
You are so beautiful, Ma'am Justine. You have big similarity with Sir Elon, you really are soulmates. I'm wishing, hoping and praying that you will reconcile. My parents separated when I was 2 years old, we are six children in the family, I grew up seeing my Mom lonely while striving so hard for a living. I worked after classes at the age of 5 in my grandparents business. and I gave my earnings to my Mom. I prayed so hard before I go to sleep, that my parents will reconcile and we will have a happy family. It did happened after 20 years, I was already 22 and have a family of my own. I was so happy when they had their reconciliation in Canada with my four siblings. I believe in prayers, I believe in God, He has no image, God is Goodness and God is Nature.
She's kinda awesome :) I need more people like her in my life.
Thank you Miss musk. I love listening to you.
What an inspiration to all woman . You are good Enough, Everyone is , keep lifted and keep true to you . Your higher self is always there . Keep positive. ❣🌺🌹💐
Thank you. I will not refrain to express myself the way I do. I have pretended for so long to fit in. I never liked it.
all these haterz lol wow...yall couldnt let her have one for her huh smh... i SEE it... you go girl get em
love the concept behind the "no" is a deep "yes"
Imagine if every person who got a divorce would give a TED Talk.
Could you please put some more videos of you up speaking, thanks
The 'deep yes' resonates so much with me. I actually think that awareness doesn't contradict relationships, it allows us to show up sincerely in them.
"The deep yes is the right to dream your dreams and live an authentic life as the hero of your enfolding epic. It is an awareness of your imperfections and the knowledge that you are fabulous anyway...If we do not see single life as a real alternative we remain just as controlled by marriage as any previous generation. And if you can't say "No" to something you can't really say "Yes" to it either...Behind every "no" there is a deeper "yes" to whatever it is that you do want. "No" is like a bright line that when used properly marks off where you end and others begin. And we learn this young. I have kids and when they want to assert their power and individuality they say "No", "No". But when you lose your deep "Yes" you also lose your bright "No". How can you say "No" to protect what you want if you don't even know what you want?!...When we have only ourselves to find the way, make the way, and lead the way we need to trust the deep yes so that we can trust ourselves, we need to trust the deep yes so that we can trust each other."
Very inspiring video ! Justine rocks!!
Thank you, Justine! You are beautiful woman, strong person to stand up for your life! Much respect!
This is a seriously impactful talk. Wondering why hasn't got millions of views!
Beautiful. You are inspiring and empowering. We as women should never settle, we have the capabilities to do great and amazing things.
I think she is unlucky that she met Elon. Poor choice on her part as she probably knows how ambitious he was/is. What she wants (time for the relationship and family) can be provided by someone else but not him. I guess Elon was very convincing when he was going after her.
Clearly. He married Talulah 6 weeks after meeting her... 6 fucking weeks! That is mad. But he is who he is. He's not the average nice guy by no means whatsoever.
in the biography, she stood him up and wasn't interested in him at all. He asked her out and she stood him up, but he chased her until she married him.
How unlucky to meet a future billionaire...
@@tekojr4726 ... So UNFORTUNATE to meet the like of Elon musk
This is very inspiring, thank you. ‘You have to see it to be it’. Indeed!
Watch "My Brilliant Career" and read the back story of its author, Miles Franklin. You will see Justine's message brought to life in rural Australia in the 1890's.
Amazing woman!
Awesome talk! Thank you. The story of the car---totally archetypal!!!
Love is just too painful to human nature .Sometimes, all we need to do is to let go of our negative spirits and be freed. May God have mercy on every organism, we love Jesus 🤌💕
I have a negative knee-jerk reaction to a lot of what is referred to as feminism. But this...whatever this is, I'm on board with it.
I think there's a number of men who are game to be the Hermione to a woman's Harry, ie: are cool with being the supportive, stable partner while the woman in the relationship perhaps takes more risks.
I think there's a number of men who likely will benefit from the message of this video, a lot of people who feel obligation to others before themselves and are thus hesitant to allow themselves "the deep yes". But yeah, the way things are, there is more of that expectation from women.
You pretty much nailed Feminisn, so maybe you can question those knee-jerk reactions a little more deeply. Feminists are all different and have different thoughts. You wouldn't say you can't get on board with science because a scientist offended you, or disagreed with you. Get on board. Feminism means greater choices for men as well. It's not a women's issue, it's for all of us to work together so your daughters and sisters can also live out their potential. Thereby freeing your sons and brothers to pursue theirs, whatever that may look like. :)
beautiful message, God bless you in your journey ahead of you
Thank you ❤
Wow she looks amazing, Elon Musk is a brilliant man otherwise, but when it comes to women, he really could have done better to try and save their marriage. Although it's kind of clear that he is after looks. His second wife was insanely hot too.
He dont need women except for SEX
QuantumBraced Its not that easy though.. Us normal middle class marriages take a toll when there are financial decisions and pressure usually involves support from spouse. Being CEO of 3 companies for sure it'll be a lot of stress for this to be added on top.
Thank you for sharing your great intelligence John Constantine.
QuantumBraced She is very self aware and extremely capable. She is a visionary. She has her own special talent. She was the woman, wife and great inspiration placed into the life of Elon to bring something to the world so beautiful and valuable for all of humanity. She reminds me of Trump's first wife. She was too strong for him. Insecure men need constant validation which they seem to get from their wives and aquaintances. Thank you to all visionary women that embrace Justine's ideas and do something about it!
"She was the woman, wife and great inspiration placed into the life of Elon to bring something to the world so beautiful and valuable for all of humanity."
Uh, no. She strung him along until he was a Silicon Valley millionaire, at which point she told him that if he asked her to marry him, she'd say yes. Everything Elon has accomplished, he would have done just as well without her.
Thank you so much Justine!
Intelligent MEN are not afraid of INTELLIGENT WOMEN
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What a Powerful Woman! And what a great loss to Mr. Elon Musk for letting go of his marriage to this powerhouse of a wife! Sad how in the pursuit of gaining Money and Power a man turns into an Arrogant, Ungrateful, and Emotionally Dead being and Let's GO of the REAL GIFTS in his life which are His Wife and Kids!
Good message, the body language was distracting: looking to the floor, drinking water, eye contact, standing on one leg and no make up. However, very brave, she's given a TEDX talk, most of us in these comments haven't done that.
Thank you Justine!
Has she done anything of significance or she’s only got this talk because she was musk’s wife?
Real question is, why she STILL has MUSK on her name?
because she can!
You seem nervous, which surprised me after my interactions with you online, years ago. I never liked you back then, because of how you seemed to use a crowd against me when I simply shared an opinion in a site we shared. At the time, I felt your need to use a crowd against me was weak. But, I like this side of you. And I've grown to understand why you hated me so much, back then. It appears we are more alike than different. At least by what you've said here. I thought your words here were well thought out and inspirational for women. I wish you peace and I hope you have found happiness. From one competitive woman to another. I'll sign this by how you knew me, in case you read these comments. JLZ
Thank you.. Beautiful Speech
Remaining in the shadows of someone else is a sad life. What have you done? Be great.
brava! well done.
but God forbid your novel's hero is a man, and you're a woman's writer, than all bets are off because only men can write with male heroes.
Awesome 👍👍👍
Glad to have come across this..needed it ;)
Thank you, JM ♡
Interesting talk, it stimulates meditation on ones own life.
Surprised how good it is.
She's awesome 🌻🌼 I want to meet her one day🤓🌻
Um no thanks!! Im happy being a stay at home mom and letting my husband lead. I get everything i want and my my kids are happy. I put my creativity to good use but i don't compete with my husband. Just because he's the head doesn't mean i live in his shadow ...i am the neck I say where the head turns. He does the work and I'm ok with that.
She's amazing!
Love it!
Excellent talk! Thank you!
If Elon Musk was not working 24/7 at spaceX, Tesla and SolarCity, I am sure he would make anything possible to sustain his marriage with this lady. They both are smart, wise, kind-hearted and thinkers.
If he sometimes sleeps 1hr in 24hrs and doesn't have time for breakfast, it is hard to give his wife enough time for hang out, time for talk, romance and love.
But whatever Elon Musk did, he did it for HUMANITY and not for his personal worldly enjoyment.
I really feel sad for him and he deserves the highest respect.
Amazing talk - thank you
So well spoken. Worth the listen.
It needs more views. ❤