Oh Tom, I already knew you'd be the same! This already happened before, and cheetah never changes spots. Nope, as I said, it is not the country itself - it is you! Like any other country, there are pros and cons to living there but there are always options to where you are comfortable - area where you live, food (probably the country where you'll find almost all American food or all other country's food are present), or the kind of house you want to live in, etc. Depends on your budget, too! Take Finn Snow and Martin Solhaugen, how they are finding a life for themselves there with the choices they have made, for example. Your girlfriend, always happens to be a Filipina who's from very modest backgrounds - so you're always in her kind of surroundings. Love it or leave it and nope it doesn't have to be just BGC of which you also complained about (see the pattern).
I knew it was only a matter of time before Tom's true nature was revealed. Just like a leopard, he can't change his spots. He quickly settled for Lay because he didn't think his Filipina ex-girlfriend would move on so quickly (good for her!). However, Tom lacks vision and direction. He's a wanderer, selfish, inconsiderate, and childish, even approaching 40. It's disappointing to see him repeat the same pattern. Surprisingly, he's now with another Filipina girlfriend, despite previously claiming he was tired of the Philippines and its culture.
After watching this video it has made me understand more why many younger Filipinas avoid getting into relationships with younger westerners and look to the older ones instead. You show on there that younger western men are more interested in travelling around different places and different countries instead of settling down with a Filipina and having a family together.
yup,,,and many of the young filipinas are in school, so they cannot travel that much or not for long periods...The older foreigner just stay at home or go to mall,,,Perfect for girls going to school, but the foreigner has to be living in the girls city
@@KeithFLOOK-wd3uw true 😇 nag e explore lang yan,kawawa lang mga babae haaay naku, 😡🤔napanood ko blog nya dati pa dami ng babae sa Thailand damaan dyan, kwento nya pa ,may naging 5y relationship sya w/ Thai girl. Ang tagal nya sa Thailand,nagsawa na siguro 😡 dito naman Pinas magbibilang🤔😢
His TH-cam channel provides money but it’s not a guaranteed income and if he really wants to travel and she doesn’t…. Then he should let her go. Or he should get guaranteed income and stay put with her in Manila
Lay: before you decide if you want to leave your home town please consider the following: 1) what do you really want for your life - marriage, kids? or to travel, be nomadic? 2) Do you have the financial means to make your plans come true? How expensive will it be to live in another country? You should have about 6 months in earnings saved up also as a backup for emergencies. 3) when you were in Ireland, how much did you miss home and family/friends - will you be able to stand being away from them for months or possibly years at a time? How will they feel about you leaving - it could affect your relationships going forward. 4) In a different country, how are your rights as a citizen there, as well as healthcare and other important amenities 5) Are you willing to make sacrifices for your partner that you won't possibly regret later if the relationship does not work out (in other words, go if that's what YOU want, not just because someone else wants you to). Best of luck to you.
We cook food at home. We only go to out to eat to break the monotony. Living in Manila and big cities is not for us.We live in an island, retired and enjoying. Good luck.
A lot of you people really like to jump to conclusions. My fiance is a Filipina and I'm not 100% sure about living full time there. I love The Philippines, but I don't know if I'm ready to live there full time as of yet.
@@adammason4454 It’s a very subjective opinion. Awful for you but not for others. It’s a matter of preference. But you can find Western food in the Philippines, esp in the city; or, cook it yourself. When there is a will, there’s a way.
After 5 extended trips living in the Phillipines I cannot live there long term. Yes the inconveniences are true. Yes the limited healthy fresh food is very hard to find. For me it’s the “things aren’t how they seem” that is everywhere that I can’t do. I lived in small villages near the beach or smaller towns medium sized cities in the mountains. They were the best options and I enjoyed myself. But the prevalent potential emotional reactivity I don’t like. I don’t drink, I don’t go to bars, I’m home by dark. I say that because it’s not my behavior. I am a peaceful, contented person. There are real potential “emotional” landmines when you’re the foreigner in the Phillipines. I don’t like being the target. I didn’t feel that way in Vietnam, Malaysia, Indonesia. For example I look like someone or I am a foreigner and someone’s wife just cheated on someone with some other foreigner and I get the emotional discharge. It’s very prevalent. I like to visit the Philippines. In general the people are the best! I’d never live there. I prefer peace and no chaos.
yup,,,i lived in cebu city for 7 years,,,u are always being watched, and many fake filipinos trying to be your friend. I would say at least half if not more asked me for money, i never lend money. Some of them would not talk to me anymore, or blocked me. Which is fine with me, and the meat in the PI is horrible.
Excellent comment and replies. I've also spent a lot of time in the Philippines and I agree completely. I don't want to go back again. There are lots of better places to spend your time and money. Malaysia, Vietnam, Sri Lanka, Portugal, Chile, Columbia, etc... much nicer, cleaner, safer, fewer scammers, etc...
Your lifestyle is the problem, Mr Tom You are avoiding the visa application and expense in a few weeks by going to Thailand. For some reason you do not want to stay put and rent a proper dwelling where you can buy the groceries you require and prepare the food that you like. You are becoming very controlling I’m just saying
@@seaweedhero1707 not so fast, there was a report of a parking lot in San Francisco that corralled self driven cars and after they could no longer maneuver around their horns were going off like crazy disturbing residents in the area.
Yes , it was very evident she was upset but in his defense I prefer his honesty. If they really care for each other they can work through this. She will never understand because she was raised eating this way/ menu . But she should appreciate his honesty it could be the different and with time it will just get worse because you grow resentful.
@@nigelthomas6475 it’s all good she can find someone better that wouldn’t mind loving her birth country, hope this channel becomes hers, he can also find someone in Bangkok that suits his fancy after they play house there and she returns to be with her family..
@@Srts875 how can they complain when all America restaurants are available, Japanese, Chinese, Mexican, Korean ,French, Thai, Vietnamese, Persian, etc and also Filipino restaurants. You can hop from one place to the other if you want. The only problem is most who complain can't afford to eat daily in these restaurants and they start complaining. In their countries, what do they eat? Eggs and bacon? There are lots of bacon in grocery stores as well as eggs. Their mind is the problem. 😊
@@JoeyZee-vs4kr yesterday he said he was bored because there was nothing to do in bgc 😂😂😂 If you cant find something to do in bgc, just buy a book and sit home
Don’t hate Tom. You were doing stuff like that before you met Lay. Naughty boys naughty girls gimme a break. Please don’t hate on people who enjoy the night life in Makati. What’s wrong with old men drinking beer at 11 in the morning. They do that in Europe too especially In Germany. It’s hot there we know, it’s the Philippines 🇵🇭. Tom is spoiled, he enjoys the fast food places and restaurants. Lay loves home cooking. Filipinos cannot afford to eat out everyday like you Tom. Filipinos makes way less money than you. I hope you guys stay together and live a healthy life. Tom should not live in the Philippines. I’m sure Lay loves her home country. Good Luck. Hope all works well
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I still don’t really know how people post Covid pandemic can generate a stable income off TH-cam unless you have heavy add revenue coming in (and that usually only goes to people with 1 million plus subscribers) or do the PayPal and Pareon thingy but even that can be limited!!! Prior to 2020 there were people that could do decent making an income of TH-cam but not anymore!!! 🤔
Most expats that live in the Philippines begin with personal struggles at around 6 months due to personal issues with their environment due to what they are use to with others places they have travelled or come from. And after they have spent a year it begins to subside with their difficulties as they become more a custom to their surroundings. There are some that can never adjust from what they know. Those that have lived in many different places seem to be able to adjust more easily than others. For myself after living outside the US where i am from based on my personal circumstances there is no way i can ever go back there as i have traveled all over the US to include Hawaii and Alaska and Guam and serving 20 plus years overseas in the military adjustment came very easy to me. I concentrated on what i like here in the Philippines which totally outweighs my dislikes of the US. I am an American and love being American, but i feel i can be an ambassador for my Country here on my resident Visa. ❤
Advice for Lay if you are looking for something short term he is ok but if you are looking for something permanent and someday start a family you better rethink your relationship before wasting anymore time with him before it's too late
@wally4808 Totally agree with you. I get the feeling he use girls for his ego and youtube Chanel. Lay is such a sweet beautiful young lady and all he cares about is himself . Be careful lay that him won't hurt your heart
I hope to god you do not leave Lay. She is the best wife material i've ever seen. Don't lose her Tom. Just live with it. She put up with freaking Ireland, so do the right thing and put up with Manila, man. Thank you. You can really see in her eyes she not happy with your thoughts about her hometown. She looks so sad throughout the entire conversation.
They will end their relationship soon!💯.You can tell on Lay's face that she is very disappointed about his answer.Tom's heart is really in Thailand.You better think Lay.You have to be on the same boat not only one to make the relationship work.
I did 2 months in the Philippines and at the end of that i realised i couldn't live there. Thailand is just so much easier. Much better food more relaxed and just a better lifestyle.
@Tom-Lay i was happy when i got back to thailand. For your money u get much better quailty hotels in thailand as well. I was so sick of sisig ane adobo. Its hard to eat cheaply in the Philippines. Also i cant find any english food there. I had an english breakfast on my 2nd day back in thailand.
Hi Tom and Lay. 😂. Tom your are a vlogger utube 😂. You love traveling around world. Tom your not ready to settle down 😂❤❤. You love them and say goodbye. Until you really fall in love you will enjoy life lol.❤❤. Lay is girl who loves travel too, but Phillipines is her hometown.
There is a solution and that is to live in both countries..I would stay 8 months in the Philippines and 3 months in the US since I own Two houses there. I would never put my money in a bank account in the Philippines or anyplace else...for those who can afford it this is the best solution...You can have the best of both worlds and still have freedom...
@AdolfoTableux why are all your comments so rude ? Also why do you feel the need to comment on someone’s financial situation when you don’t know them ..?
@AdolfoTableux did he borrow from you,why are you so bitter of him?You know Mj only likes white man doesn t matter he just a vlogger with small income as long he s a white man.
IMO: Loyalty is the question. Filipinas want to feel loved and secure if they invest in a man emotionally. Also there is filipino pride which is sensitive, its their home as it is.
@@aaaa1953 its not just about pride, ITS ABOUT RESPECT. If the man I love does not know how to respect my values, cultures, my country, GOODBYE! i wouldnt settle for that kind of guy. weak.
I have been living in SE Asia for 36 years now, after emigrating from UK in 1988. I have lived in several countries here and none of them is perfect. They all have good and bad points. The thing is, if you live in a place, really live, then you get your own transport (I use a 125cc scooter here in Metro Manila, quick and easy to get around on whatever schedule I want), cook at home (if easier to cook fresh and it's cheaper). You learn where all the places are when you live somewhere for a longer period. And that laundry was expensive! My local laundry in Pasig charges 240 Pesos all-in for 8kg wash/dry/fold, same day service! best pizza in Manila is at Landers cafe! And if you'd been here a couple of months ago, in the heatwave, the Pasig River smelt dreadful and the water was black.
The look on her face when you said you will not live in Phillippines said it all Tom, she deflated liked a burst balloon. Can't blame you ain't no Pssy worth it. She sweet and cute buckteeth and all but you are a traveller!
@@fionasingoredjo3452 Buck teeth or protruding front teeth can be naturally occurring or due to certain habits such as thumb-sucking, tongue thrusting, etc
Man why alot of you gotta rip into Tom so hard on le simple topic. Relax! LOL Let the two enjoy the moments. They haven't even been dating for a long time. We wish the young couple joy and happiness and memories that last a lifetime. Plot twist... Both Lay and Tom live happily ever after... IN ANOTHER COUNTRY LOL and they visit the PH alot. 👏👏👏
in subic Bay it's Good to stay and living a lot of beautiful island beaches. And you can always find Vietnam foods and Thailand food's very quite place too
The blunt honesty is refreshing. I like that you specifically explain why certain things are a struggle, rather than just making the typical (and useless) list of good vs bad things. I also appreciate the differentiation you made between travel vs. living - ofttimes this tends to be forgotten. I do not think that the food in the Philippines should present a long-term challenge, however. If you do opt to live permanently in the Philippines, you can simply cook at home and make (or ask Lay to make) whatever you want to eat. It is only because you are currently travelling, without a permanent home base, that you need to eat out more often than not. Note that island & beach life can get boring and frustrating, too, after several years. Pluses & minuses to just about everywhere. :) Thanks again for sharing - and safe travels!
I can see on Lays face shes thinking deeply. I broke up with my girlfriend in the past because i had a hard time committing. This was my problem, not hers. I sure wouldnt want to live in the city. Id go for peace. I wish you both the best.
Tom, you knew before you returned to the Philippines that the food was better elsewhere, but you chose a Filipina as your girlfriend. I don’t think that makes Lay feel so great.
@@TMoses-rj1og I really don't understand the bashing about food in the Philippines. Guys, there are thousands of restaurants in the Philippines representing all countries. Where are you guys eating? Under the bridge? 😊
@@JoeyZee-vs4kr it’s the availability on the side street is what he wants rarely that is available in the Philippines as ingredients aren’t as cheap as Cambodia or Vietnam etc, also they don’t worry too much with permits to serve food on the street at those locations compared to the Philippines, I would love to travel to Vietnam and Thailand just for the food
@@JoeyZee-vs4krFrom where I’m eating its paradise!! Beats the US any day. Here in Manila I have access to high end restaurants and bakeries not some lame cupcakes you get at Costco either. Lol . The best thing about it’s cheaper, closer to me and if I want delivered to my doorstep for pennies on the dollar. Hey, haircut here is only $5 give me a break man, lol 😂😂
@@TharaLetzISLANDER you can first try it in Vietnamese and Thai restaurants in the Philippines so you don't get hyped too much. Much veggie food is what foreigners like. Philippine food is more on the delicious type but not necessarily healthy. Pad Krapow or TomYum or Pad Thai are not magical food. The foreigners are just hyping about it.😊
It looks like every time a relationship gets serious. This guy makes excuses. She is a nice girl and I have a feeling you are going to break her heart.
I do not think he is the guy...for you. He should go working to have the money to spend. I think it is the financial aspect of him and criticising filipino food😅😅😅
Couldn’t agree more, this man lives on his YT money only, no other income.And he have the nerves and audacity to criticise the food and culture. Leave the place douche bags 😂
IMO there's also nothing wrong to criticize filipino or other food (from other countries) for that matter. But the thing is, a hungry stomach will devour even the least appetizing grub it gobbles up. Survival in this world is more important than cravings. Therefore i will rather enjoy spending my day with a gorgeous lady (Lay) than worrying for a good food.
hey tom I'm a big supporter of yours.....BUT......you have upset Lay.......surely the title of your video should be......will they stay......not... will he stay.......she lives you loads mate. You need to decide do you value food and a few other things over lay,? ......you need to say to her......lay ...I want you to travel with me wherever I go...whatever country.......I felt sad for her in this video. Please either re assure her.....or let her go....it would be kinder. Please don't be offended by my post I enjoy your content ...but I'm not impressed by this ...Martin bristol
How do you know things will work out in the future? Now is the time when you are young to build a solid foundation under your feet so that you can enjoy life further down the road
@@hobbexp If im the woman, I will no longer go out with that foreign guy. When Lay went to Ireland, she respected his place. But Tom is the total opposite. He's a complete dork, a walking red flag!
Tom just got back from Ireland. He is missing his mom's cook food 😂 which happens to me everytime I come back from my home country after long vacations I complained about the food the accommodation in my work place. It takes time to adjust. They'll be fine soon 😘🤩
If you love someone enough, you can live anywhere. You just don't want to stay in one place more than a week or two. The question is do you or don't you want to be with her as your partner. If you do you have to look at solutions
as a Filipina, im now worried about Lay. bec its not like its Tom's first time in the PH. If a man refuses to adjust to your culture and unwilling to adapt, that's a big red flag!
@@davidlaforest1624 I agree. This would be the perfect time to settle down. If he is not interested now, will he be in the future? I am living in Asia with my Asian wife. Emphasis on 'wife'.
@@kristinhannah001 same here. He seems to be selfish in this vlog... It's like, he did not consider the feelings of Lay. But Lay is such a kind person.... She still tries to understand Tom... So sad for Lay though😭
Manila is no PI - there are so many great places to enjoy , and also depends if you have money ! now it seems like you just play with that girl to have an easy fun...typical ...and a utuber...a player ....
As a multiracial couple, I think they should have talked about it off-cam. I mean, that question that Lay threw on him is related to their future as partners, something a couple should be discussing thoroughly. Now it's too obvious that she got upset with his answer. Also, I'm seeing a trend here. I've watched his vlog with the othe Filipina girl, they kind of had plans to move together in BKK and even went to check apartments, but weeks later they broke up. And now it sounds like he's doing the same to Lay.
Manila is not the place for foreigners. My husband doesnt want to stay in Manila too. Luckily, my hometown is Bohol then we can stay a bit longer there but not to the point that he will be staying in Philippines for a long time. I respect his point of view and same what Tom´s said that in Manila nothing so much to do, the traffic stops at all. Manila is if you need to shop before flying back to Europe haha.. then you can find stuffs that you need. But I lived in Manila for almost 2 decades before and it was fine then.
Hi Guys. Thanks for the insight and honesty on your thoughts about living there. Good to see you getting adjusted again just in time to go to Bangkok. Stay safe n happy. 👋🏽
Tom & Lay time for some Island Hopping and Paradies Gardens. Showing us how Pinoy Irish Grilling is all about during tasting some fresh Fruits, Shakes, Smoothies in Tom & Lays Paradies Island 😂❤ Mabuhay from Bantayan Island 😂❤
I think tom get tired of lay and maybe tying to get a new girl? He wants to go to malaysia and how about lay ! This is lay home place ! I hope he doesn’t dump lay for another woman !
Why are you having a relationship w/ filipina then if you can’t even adapt her culture?! Also, if you want good food you better go to fancy & expensive restaurants don’t just stick to Jollibee’s n McDonald’s everytime!
Tom is being just honest and I can understand what he was saying. I was there in 2016 and I had to renew my passport, we have to be in line at 5:00 a.m. and it was 3:30 pm by the time we got out. Thank heavens, nowadays, you just make appointments for it.
Nice informative contents from you two ❤❤. I highly recommend you to visit Bohol , one of the nice paradise islands in the Philippines, I'm Filipino, each time i visit Philippines, i never leave Philippines without visiting the beautiful Bohol. Go and experience the beauty & serenity of Bohol , you'll love it , especially if you stay close to Alona beach.Bohol has plenty for you to offer and enjoy. Take good care 😘😘
If you both decide to stay in the Philippines,its best to go to a supermarket and one can buy groceries( fresh food) and cook at home. Both my husband and i do that. Its more healthier and cheaper.
I be here on year and I cook at home and that is better!!!Tom I Agreed wiht you TH are better but PH are also good and nice people 😎🙏🏾you’ll have to find a balance But Manila is not the place too living move from there are so many beautiful islands here in the Philippines
Good video Tom and lay. I understand you exactly tom. I have been to bohol and I lived just outside panglao for 3 months. Renting a lovely house 250 euros plus 50 for electricity and WiFi. Its a different life in bohol. Safe travels both of you. Watching from kildare Ireland
She cannot hide how disappointed she is. You have a disturbing way to avoid the real subject and keep finding excuses like food, etc you do not sound very sincere and I feel sorry for her
Just like what he have done to other pinay and othe girls in bangkok. Tbh I can’t understand abt him complaining about food as if Irish or British have a lot of varieties as well
@@sunshine738 Actual I have travel most of the world in the past 25 years and found Ireland to have some if not the best food. The fish, beef and lamb dishes are all cooked with the perfect amount of seasoning.
@@samquinn6427 that’s your opinion and that’s your own taste buds. I am well traveled as well and been to these places and again I don’t find their food bursting with flavours.
The people here went ballistic towards Tom hahaha, clearly he is not in his settling down era. So here’s my 2 cents Tom you are a traveller you dont wanna be tied up in one place you should not be in a committed relationship yet unless the woman can be tucked in your side that everytime you decide to fly immediately you two can go.. Food, if you will just do the walking around you can only see those unhealthy ones. There are healthy food options here if you choose to, if only you have a place where you can cook and do food shopping, a lot of supermarkets here in Metro Manila that can provide the healthy needs if one you are also willing to spend money! But if you are just on a budget everytime then you live on what you can only afford.. Lay shouldn’t asked you that question hahaha because honestly it did caught me off.. Honesty is really hard sometimes to swallow hahaha! But you two enjoy while it last!
Hello Tom and Lay. Good talk on understanding the experience you seek when traveling or residing in the Asian Pacific. Specifically for retirees to understand plotting your days or emptying your bucket list. The perspective of an adult couple experienced in traveling on a budget is valuable. Thank you for your perspectives.
I agree with you Tom. I love the Philippines also but I cannot live in Manila or any Philippines big city. The traffic and the heat is draining. San Vicente Palawan is a nice place.
By saying you can't live in the Philippines because of the food is the same as saying Lay can not cook delicious food for you 🤔 I have also problems with finding food but I don't mind sleeping hungry. It makes slim 😊. I was living 3 years in the Philippines.
I totally get how you’re feeling Tom. My wife and I were in a similar situation nearly 40 years ago. I don’t think living at the beach is the answer. We moved to Australia, worked, bought a house, raised kids and had a great life. We’re currently spending 3 months in the Philippines but neither of us wants to live here full time. You’re right the things that annoy us wear us down. Good luck for the future whatever you decide.
hi tom & lay ..juz finish watching your most recent video about struggles as foreigner..i think this has been a long going battle for all foreigners and i realised this since the 90's. i lived in makati during estrada's presidentship.,, anyway fast forwrd to present things have pretty much not changed in the culinary front. So Tom, .i now enjoy watching your videos bcoz of Lay too..she is definitely a keeper apart from being well mannered in the videos by not trying to steal your thunder. She is playing the role as 2nd fiddle and giving you lots of respect. she is a good example and i know for a fact that many subscribers will want to meet filipinas like her . .. but she is a rare character not easy to find someone like her. Kudos to you both thank you for continuos entertainment cheers guys🥃🍺
In previous vlog of Tom, he also was fed up with Thailand and moved to the Philippines. Maybe the best thing for you both is to move from place to place if Tom gets bored. 😊
Tom, i would say you're a traveling nomad without doubt. Now come on, it's not about food. it's about prowling the energy the next day brings now. Lay is a very intelligent woman she may travel a while, but she is a family filipina she will follow for a while, but not forever next about areas of beach towns without doubt go to leyte incredible i live there part time we have a family home in Maasin and also Limasawa also el nido or coron wow now the end youtube won't last forever start a business tourism diving transport you're both young start now but being gypsies will get old fast as you age god bless 🎉🎉🎉
Hi Tom and Lay .. its good to see after all this time your still in love .. your a lucky man Tom Lay is a lovely lady lovely filipina ❤❤❤ until next vlog take care .. Hemstar ❤️😎
To each their own, Money is a key, One has to have income, I came in 2019 raced across the ocean in a Kayak and fell in love with a local, I left and Came back 2 years later and married, Now we have A 5 star Condo Rental, A Nice little double steel Castle and 2 Farms, Yes of course you can, live where you wish with passive income, That’s Key, No Money/No Honey 🍯☺️😉🥰🇵🇭🇺🇸, Statistics Show Only 2 % stay long term and most only last Two years, God Bless
wait, i just remembered... Tom often goes to carinderias to eat FILIPINO FOOD. it seems he likes it there, he even has a SUKI, a store where he always goes back to eat! What happened Tom? or its just for views? 😮
@@se_amable001 exactly!I have watched his older vlogs. He was eating carenderia food.He rented a place close to bgc in the lower end area.he enjoyed the filipino food then!what change him now.When he was in Thailand he vlogs about comparing thailander girl and filipina girl he said the that filipina is better in his opinion base on his experience. Now he found Lay brought her to meet family you would think their relationship is serious. I thought that's it he will settle down .
It looks like Lay is expected to be the one making the compromises. Tom if you love Lay you should be prepared to make sacrifices and not expect her to be the only one prepared to do that. I understand the gist of what Tom is saying but it’s selfish if he doesn’t consider what Lay really wants as well. It’s clear that lay will do whatever TOM wants but that is a recipe for disaster down the track.
I somewhat agree with Tom. I have a wonderful Filipina too, currently we are both living & working in Australia. Of course as we head towards retirement (I’m mid 50’s but still consider myself ‘young’) my Filipina obviously wants to be in the Philippines. For me life in the Philippines is hard…Filipinos probably don’t get it if they have only experienced their own country. It can be draining for a foreigner with every little transaction so weighed down with bureaucracy, corruption and (in our mind) completely stupid administrative rules. Most other Asian countries have less of this so hence we ‘fit in’ easier. On the food side, yep once again apart from a couple of dishes, Filipino food is bland to us foreigners. I wish the Philippines had embraced their Spanish heritage more in the food aspect. I literally struggle when I’m in the Philippines & after a couple of weeks, I’m throwing my hands up & saying ‘I can’t do this any more’ When I was in Thailand, I never got that feeling. Unless you’ve experienced it you won’t understand. Like Tom said, being fleeced as a foreigner is draining, it leaves a bad taste in our mouths and it’s a practice that needs to stop. I hate having to get my Filipina to do all the bargaining as I’m quite independent and traditional but at the same time hate being ripped off just because I’m white. For me, I think the Philippines could only be my ‘semi’ permanent home, as you’re never fully accepted there….only your money is 😢
I got a different approach guys; I think Tom is not getting what he exactly wants from her,it's like same as saying,hey lady listen up,if i can't get what i want there's no need to waste time here just because you speak English!
One can eat well.. healthy here but it's not easy and is $$$. Everything is fried in bad oil and is loaded with sugar. Spices and salt is considered bad. Even when you eat veggies at a restaurant they've been fried-doused with grease and oil.
I love Manila since I was born there and been living in Cali for a long time. I see myself retiring in Makati so I can see all my relatives and I love Filipino food especially the foods that I grew up there as a child.
Tom made great and very honest points about why he prefers other (SE Asian) countries to the Philippines to live in . The subpar food culture, institutional inefficiencies, crazy cities, and the "give me money Joe" culture outweighs the english-speaking and generally friendly demeanor of the people.
And yet, statics show that Koreans, Japanese and Americans marry Filipinos at much greater numbers compared to other countries. This talk about food, infrastructure, etc are just backpacker foreigners who can't afford the pricey good food in the Philippines. Go to a decent restaurant and say again if the food sucks. I eat in many restaurants and I can say that Filipino restaurants are still the best. The seafood, barbecues, kinilaw, sinigang and much much more. I wonder why foreigners are complaining when their food actually sucks. 😊
You're dreaming. Sub par food culture your face. There are lots of food choices but they're not stalls in the street but in decent restaurants where you need to spend for good food. Have you even tried a good Filipino restaurant in the first place? 😊😊
A time will come when you’ll have to put down roots somewhere single or married. In the meantime, travel the God given beautiful world whilst you both are still young and healthy. Enjoy.
OK I AM THE ONE TO COMMENT FOR SURE. First of all the girl is CUTE AF! Not only that you can tell SHE is a real sweetie and nice disposition AND she really loves him, too. I dont know who these two are I have never seen the channel until now. I READ ABOUT A THIRD of the comments BEFORE I WATCHED the video and I was already against the guy UNTIL......I HEARD WATCHED THE VIDEO AND thought EVERYTHING HE SAID WAS THE TRUTH. ME. Lived in Philippines 8 years until 2021. Dumaguete, Siquijor, Bacolod. Left and went to Thailand/Vietnam where I have been for the past two years. BANGKOK RAMA 9 to be specific and when I say that BOTH VIETNAM AND THAILND IS 159 MILLION TXS better than Philippines I MEAN EVERY WORD OF IT. No STUPID BROWN OUTS, FOOD 100XS better, infrastructure 100XS BETTER and yes dealing with the haggling over prices YEAR IN AND UEAR OUT GETS SO DAMN DRAINING! Philippines is the most BEAUTIFUL COUTRY of the three and I did go to DAVAO for three months last AUGUST - NOVEMBER which was the FIRST TIME SINCE 2013 I never had a brownout or bad internet. If you work online as I do. THEN PHILIPPINES IS NOT THE PLACE FOR YOU. Nice people in the Philippines. But it is challenging to be there. People jumping on this guys back are either Filipinos are are very sensitive and get extra BUTT HURT is you say anything negative about their country and just SIMP-AFIED expats who just accept all of the bullshyt you have to go through there. YOU CAN NOT GO TO BANGKOK AND MALAYSIA AND WANT TO BO BACK AND LIVE IN PHILIPPINES. Sorry, you really can't unless you just dont give a damn. Ii understand the guy and don't know why THE GIRL CAN'T JUST GO WHERVER HE GOES? She is a cute and sweet girl tho. I had a cutie girl too.
The only part of Manila that I could stay for a month or more is BGC, but that takes money. If on a budget, Vietnam, Indonesia or Thailand. I like that all Filipinos speak English so it is BGC for me. However, with Cebu developing Mactan Newtown and other spots it nice. One can go from the mountains of Cebu to the Newtown beach in about 90 minutes. IL Corso Filinvest Mall and Nustar casino area is nice but food is a bit pricey. No matter were you go now inflation is hurting everyone.
I know what you are saying Tom about over charging...My wife is filipina and sometimes they gets hassled about the pricing because she is considered rich...you constantly have to be on your guard is stressful. I hope you and Lay can travel and enjoy being with her. She is a good person
Buy a variety of raw and nutritious food from the wet markets and supermarkets and cook these yourselves. This way you can eat the food of your choice and nutritious, as well. By doing this you can save too. It's just a matter of looking for the right food and it is everywhere in the cities like where you are staying now.
Buying coconut juice in that jug has added sugar already...if you want to drink pure coconut juice buy one of those coconut fruit and let t.he vendor prepare it for you...only that you will pay more...but its healthier...
Tom you should do what it takes to make her happy. Get a steady income and stay in Manila area or just travel in Philippines. Get a steady secondary income source!!!! 😇👍
@@Tom-Lay well you went on vacation and stayed with your mom. Who does that? You’re in a shit hole motel, you don't have a car, you eat nasty azzz street food or hamburgers and pizza every fookin day. What are we supposed to think about your “income”?
If you're bilingual (English + Japanese/Korean/Mandarin/Cantonese/Spanish/French/German), the Philippines is one of the best places though, you can make 100k pesos a month easily and live permanently there without having to worry about money while in other places in SE Asia you need to have a remote job which is not easy to get anymore.
I am retiring in the Phils in a few years. I won't retire in the city but if I had to I could. I will be purchasing house/lot in the Rizal province. Not having access to a variety of food is a copout for not living there. You just have to research and find the places you want to eat at or prepare your own. Yes, sometimes it may cost more but that is what everybody deals with. I easily can see Lay is disappointed in Tom's response about living in the city. I wish them both luck to what their future holds together or separately.
He is just giving his opinion. People who don't like what he has to say gotten their nose out of joint. Many foreigners have fiipina girlfriends and don't like filipino food it doesn't mean the relationships are doomed. No one knows what is going on between Tom and Lay. People need to learn to have thicker skin it's an acquired skill because your ego is always working against it.
Aaawww, so sad... I'm quite off with what Tom revelations here... Meaning, he can leave Lay because he's not convenient... He cannot live for the wedding vow😢
I eat in restaurants when I go out. And there are lots of choices, from American, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Filipino, Mexican, etc. Tom is the problem because he's looking for cheap street food. 😊
Tom and Lay, That is Makati Avenue, where you are walking and you are right, that is the most traffic road, in that area of Makati Business District... before you proceeded to the river area...
Hi Tom and Lay, my wife and I are back in Thailand (Jomtien Beach) for 2 months. You are spot on about the food in the Philippines. I've already dropped 7 pounds in the two weeks since we've arrived here in Thailand. The food is fresh, abundant and healthy. I tend to gain weight fast when at home in the Philippines. Filipino food is tasty but it lacks variety. On the other hand, I love both Bangkok and Manila...go figure. My wife and I enjoyed meeting you on Soi 4 several months back. We are hoping that our paths will cross once again.
I think it’s fine to travel to different countries in Asia and stay there until Tom gets tired and settle down in an island like Surigao,should try Korea and Japan too
Tom totally agree with you mate re the food situation. I lived in Thailand for 5 years and the street food and restaurant food is so much better. I have visited the Philippines for 16 weeks over the last 18 months (but not lived there0 and Filipino food is awful generally unless you're an American! However saying that, if I lived there I would be buying fresh vegs, fruit, meat and fish from the wet markets and supermarkets and cooking more at home. Looking like you've upset a few people by your comments hahaha..... BTW how can you afford to stay there and travel if you don't mind me asking?
Try going to a smaller city. Try Iloilo or Bacolod, Dumaguete, Ormoc. Try cooking your own food that’s healthier. Tom your complaints tend to turn off people. Maybe keep it to yourself. If you want food 24/7 all kinds of food go to a Mega 1st world city like New York, LA, LV the US has any of those and every time you get bored with 1 city just go off to another.
Oh Tom, I already knew you'd be the same! This already happened before, and cheetah never changes spots. Nope, as I said, it is not the country itself - it is you! Like any other country, there are pros and cons to living there but there are always options to where you are comfortable - area where you live, food (probably the country where you'll find almost all American food or all other country's food are present), or the kind of house you want to live in, etc. Depends on your budget, too! Take Finn Snow and Martin Solhaugen, how they are finding a life for themselves there with the choices they have made, for example. Your girlfriend, always happens to be a Filipina who's from very modest backgrounds - so you're always in her kind of surroundings. Love it or leave it and nope it doesn't have to be just BGC of which you also complained about (see the pattern).
I knew it was only a matter of time before Tom's true nature was revealed. Just like a leopard, he can't change his spots. He quickly settled for Lay because he didn't think his Filipina ex-girlfriend would move on so quickly (good for her!). However, Tom lacks vision and direction. He's a wanderer, selfish, inconsiderate, and childish, even approaching 40. It's disappointing to see him repeat the same pattern. Surprisingly, he's now with another Filipina girlfriend, despite previously claiming he was tired of the Philippines and its culture.
100% agree to this...and poor Lay who sounds like influenced by him and agreeing to everything he says
After watching this video it has made me understand more why many younger Filipinas avoid getting into relationships with younger westerners and look to the older ones instead.
You show on there that younger western men are more interested in travelling around different places and different countries instead of settling down with a Filipina and having a family together.
yup,,,and many of the young filipinas are in school, so they cannot travel that much or not for long periods...The older foreigner just stay at home or go to mall,,,Perfect for girls going to school, but the foreigner has to be living in the girls city
This is one of the reason his last relationship did not last
@@KeithFLOOK-wd3uw true 😇 nag e explore lang yan,kawawa lang mga babae haaay naku, 😡🤔napanood ko blog nya dati pa dami ng babae sa Thailand damaan dyan, kwento nya pa ,may naging 5y relationship sya w/ Thai girl. Ang tagal nya sa Thailand,nagsawa na siguro 😡 dito naman Pinas magbibilang🤔😢
@AdolfoTableux He has a TH-cam channel. That's his job. He has money 🤨
His TH-cam channel provides money but it’s not a guaranteed income and if he really wants to travel and she doesn’t…. Then he should let her go. Or he should get guaranteed income and stay put with her in Manila
Lay: before you decide if you want to leave your home town please consider the following: 1) what do you really want for your life - marriage, kids? or to travel, be nomadic? 2) Do you have the financial means to make your plans come true? How expensive will it be to live in another country? You should have about 6 months in earnings saved up also as a backup for emergencies. 3) when you were in Ireland, how much did you miss home and family/friends - will you be able to stand being away from them for months or possibly years at a time? How will they feel about you leaving - it could affect your relationships going forward. 4) In a different country, how are your rights as a citizen there, as well as healthcare and other important amenities 5) Are you willing to make sacrifices for your partner that you won't possibly regret later if the relationship does not work out (in other words, go if that's what YOU want, not just because someone else wants you to). Best of luck to you.
Great advice to think about. ❤🙏
@@canadianlynx3068 well said
Follow your gut feeling lay.
Oh wow that is some really good advice
Good advise to Lay
We cook food at home. We only go to out to eat to break the monotony. Living in Manila and big cities is not for us.We live in an island, retired and enjoying. Good luck.
A lot of you people really like to jump to conclusions. My fiance is a Filipina and I'm not 100% sure about living full time there. I love The Philippines, but I don't know if I'm ready to live there full time as of yet.
Yeah i really struggle with the food in the Philippines after 2 months there it's just awful.
@@adammason4454 It’s a very subjective opinion. Awful for you but not for others. It’s a matter of preference. But you can find Western food in the Philippines, esp in the city; or, cook it yourself. When there is a will, there’s a way.
After 5 extended trips living in the Phillipines I cannot live there long term. Yes the inconveniences are true. Yes the limited healthy fresh food is very hard to find. For me it’s the “things aren’t how they seem” that is everywhere that I can’t do. I lived in small villages near the beach or smaller towns medium sized cities in the mountains. They were the best options and I enjoyed myself. But the prevalent potential emotional reactivity I don’t like. I don’t drink, I don’t go to bars, I’m home by dark. I say that because it’s not my behavior. I am a peaceful, contented person. There are real potential “emotional” landmines when you’re the foreigner in the Phillipines. I don’t like being the target. I didn’t feel that way in Vietnam, Malaysia, Indonesia. For example I look like someone or I am a foreigner and someone’s wife just cheated on someone with some other foreigner and I get the emotional discharge. It’s very prevalent. I like to visit the Philippines. In general the people are the best! I’d never live there. I prefer peace and no chaos.
Great Comment 👏💯 . I have the same problem..I don't eat rice or fish...I lost 60 lbs the 6 years I was there
yup,,,i lived in cebu city for 7 years,,,u are always being watched, and many fake filipinos trying to be your friend. I would say at least half if not more asked me for money, i never lend money. Some of them would not talk to me anymore, or blocked me. Which is fine with me, and the meat in the PI is horrible.
I can tell you lived there. Completely agree. I was tired of always being on the defensive. Many other options available
Excellent comment and replies. I've also spent a lot of time in the Philippines and I agree completely. I don't want to go back again. There are lots of better places to spend your time and money. Malaysia, Vietnam, Sri Lanka, Portugal, Chile, Columbia, etc... much nicer, cleaner, safer, fewer scammers, etc...
Thank you for your reply. I haven’t been to Chile and Sri Lanka. I’ll check them out 🙏🏼
Your lifestyle is the problem, Mr Tom
You are avoiding the visa application and expense in a few weeks by going to Thailand.
For some reason you do not want to stay put and rent a proper dwelling where you can buy the groceries you require and prepare the food that you like.
You are becoming very controlling
I’m just saying
I see a lot of disappointment on Lay face. Tom has itchy feet and is never going to stay in one place long. Why get into a relation?
Imagine Manila with silent, all electric, self driving cars. No exhaust. No honking horns.
A return to old Manila: A Heavenly Paradise ...
@@seaweedhero1707 not so fast, there was a report of a parking lot in San Francisco that corralled self driven cars and after they could no longer maneuver around their horns were going off like crazy disturbing residents in the area.
That’s not Manila. 😂
@@jaydrummer333 When pigs fly! lol!!!
You can see in her face she is not happy with tom's reply
Yes , it was very evident she was upset but in his defense I prefer his honesty.
If they really care for each other they can work through this. She will never understand because she was raised eating this way/ menu . But she should appreciate his honesty it could be the different and with time it will just get worse because you grow resentful.
Indeed. She didn't even figure in his reply. It was as though he was still single, traveling alone.
@@samanthajones4 but its far from honest. Food? Seriously? You can find every food in the world in manila.
@@nigelthomas6475 it’s all good she can find someone better that wouldn’t mind loving her birth country, hope this channel becomes hers, he can also find someone in Bangkok that suits his fancy after they play house there and she returns to be with her family..
I don’t ever see him eating dried fish for breakfast. Lol 😂 forget about it.
Lay is quite a substantial person, perhaps even more so than Tom
Substantial?
Money is the real problem of Tom. Foreigners who can afford good food in the Philippines has no complaints. 😊
VERY TRUE. kumakain pa yan sa carinderia dati. Sarap na sarap pa 🙄
not all
@@Srts875 how can they complain when all America restaurants are available, Japanese, Chinese, Mexican, Korean ,French, Thai, Vietnamese, Persian, etc and also Filipino restaurants. You can hop from one place to the other if you want. The only problem is most who complain can't afford to eat daily in these restaurants and they start complaining. In their countries, what do they eat? Eggs and bacon? There are lots of bacon in grocery stores as well as eggs. Their mind is the problem. 😊
@@JoeyZee-vs4kr yesterday he said he was bored because there was nothing to do in bgc 😂😂😂 If you cant find something to do in bgc, just buy a book and sit home
That's what happens when you don't have a real job.
Don’t hate Tom. You were doing stuff like that before you met Lay. Naughty boys naughty girls gimme a break. Please don’t hate on people who enjoy the night life in Makati. What’s wrong with old men drinking beer at 11 in the morning. They do that in Europe too especially In Germany. It’s hot there we know, it’s the Philippines 🇵🇭. Tom is spoiled, he enjoys the fast food places and restaurants. Lay loves home cooking. Filipinos cannot afford to eat out everyday like you Tom. Filipinos makes way less money than you. I hope you guys stay together and live a healthy life. Tom should not live in the Philippines. I’m sure Lay loves her home country. Good Luck. Hope all works well
I still don’t really know how people post Covid pandemic can generate a stable income off TH-cam unless you have heavy add revenue coming in (and that usually only goes to people with 1 million plus subscribers) or do the PayPal and Pareon thingy but even that can be limited!!! Prior to 2020 there were people that could do decent making an income of TH-cam but not anymore!!! 🤔
Most expats that live in the Philippines begin with personal struggles at around 6 months due to personal issues with their environment due to what they are use to with others places they have travelled or come from. And after they have spent a year it begins to subside with their difficulties as they become more a custom to their surroundings. There are some that can never adjust from what they know. Those that have lived in many different places seem to be able to adjust more easily than others. For myself after living outside the US where i am from based on my personal circumstances there is no way i can ever go back there as i have traveled all over the US to include Hawaii and Alaska and Guam and serving 20 plus years overseas in the military adjustment came very easy to me. I concentrated on what i like here in the Philippines which totally outweighs my dislikes of the US. I am an American and love being American, but i feel i can be an ambassador for my Country here on my resident Visa. ❤
Advice for Lay if you are looking for something short term he is ok but if you are looking for something permanent and someday start a family you better rethink your relationship before wasting anymore time with him before it's too late
If I were you lady?Run for your Life.he is full of excuses.bullshit
A good thought shared
Is anyone indispensable
Time flies then it’s too late
Love yourself
No offense 😱
@wally4808 Totally agree with you. I get the feeling he use girls for his ego and youtube Chanel. Lay is such a sweet beautiful young lady and all he cares about is himself . Be careful lay that him won't hurt your heart
@nigelthomas6475 100%
The secret in life is to live your life not be chained to a house, a place, an area, a country
That's your secret. Some people get really attached to houses.
Read flag, if a men loves you he will move too a shithole to be with you.Period.if a woman loves here man the same.
Having a house means having comfort
I hope to god you do not leave Lay. She is the best wife material i've ever seen. Don't lose her Tom. Just live with it. She put up with freaking Ireland, so do the right thing and put up with Manila, man. Thank you. You can really see in her eyes she not happy with your thoughts about her hometown. She looks so sad throughout the entire conversation.
The third world average chick "'put up with" a West European country. Lol. Ok.
Just live with it? That's your advice? So he should be unhappy in his life because of a woman?
They will end their relationship soon!💯.You can tell on Lay's face that she is very disappointed about his answer.Tom's heart is really in Thailand.You better think Lay.You have to be on the same boat not only one to make the relationship work.
So, Lay is trapped in Manilla, she can't travel with him? What on earth are you on about 😂
@@ziggarillo bkt naman ma trap sa manila. ibig lang sabihin na mag move on cia.
@teresatasis7242 I didn't say she was trapped, I asked if he thought she was. Otherwise why couldn't she travel with him.
@@ziggarillodo you know her personality? Maybe because of family, work and personal growth she does not want y travel. Ever thought about that?
@kevinp7620 Ah, but she does. As you will see, next stop, Bangkok .
I did 2 months in the Philippines and at the end of that i realised i couldn't live there. Thailand is just so much easier. Much better food more relaxed and just a better lifestyle.
Yes a lot easier here for sure
@Tom-Lay i was happy when i got back to thailand. For your money u get much better quailty hotels in thailand as well. I was so sick of sisig ane adobo. Its hard to eat cheaply in the Philippines. Also i cant find any english food there. I had an english breakfast on my 2nd day back in thailand.
Wake up Lay .. he's showing his true colors so you better watch out 🤔
Watch out might get to travel more 😁
Hi Tom and Lay.
😂. Tom your are a vlogger utube 😂. You love traveling around world.
Tom your not ready to settle down 😂❤❤. You love them and say goodbye. Until you really fall in love you will enjoy life lol.❤❤. Lay is girl who loves travel too, but Phillipines is her hometown.
There is a solution and that is to live in both countries..I would stay 8 months in the Philippines and 3 months in the US since I own Two houses there. I would never put my money in a bank account in the Philippines or anyplace else...for those who can afford it this is the best solution...You can have the best of both worlds and still have freedom...
Why don’t you guys cook then. For the girl, please be more financially independent.
yes,be financially independent.
@AdolfoTableux why are all your comments so rude ? Also why do you feel the need to comment on someone’s financial situation when you don’t know them ..?
@AdolfoTableux did he borrow from you,why are you so bitter of him?You know Mj only likes white man doesn t matter he just a vlogger with small income as long he s a white man.
@AdolfoTableux oh you’ve known him for 7 years ? How? Fair enough , but your comments do come across very negative . Their relationship is new .
IMO: Loyalty is the question. Filipinas want to feel loved and secure if they invest in a man emotionally. Also there is filipino pride which is sensitive, its their home as it is.
@@aaaa1953 its not just about pride, ITS ABOUT RESPECT. If the man I love does not know how to respect my values, cultures, my country, GOODBYE! i wouldnt settle for that kind of guy. weak.
@@aaaa1953 hard to make money in the Phillipines
@@kristinhannah001 Respect is earned
@@kristinhannah001that's why you're single
@@kristinhannah001calm doon Adolph
I have been living in SE Asia for 36 years now, after emigrating from UK in 1988. I have lived in several countries here and none of them is perfect. They all have good and bad points. The thing is, if you live in a place, really live, then you get your own transport (I use a 125cc scooter here in Metro Manila, quick and easy to get around on whatever schedule I want), cook at home (if easier to cook fresh and it's cheaper). You learn where all the places are when you live somewhere for a longer period.
And that laundry was expensive! My local laundry in Pasig charges 240 Pesos all-in for 8kg wash/dry/fold, same day service! best pizza in Manila is at Landers cafe!
And if you'd been here a couple of months ago, in the heatwave, the Pasig River smelt dreadful and the water was black.
We older men think more about what our girlfriends want and need in life. Perhaps this gives us the edge in the Philippines. 😉
because most of old men are more matured to settle down and financially stable 😊
😂😂 no most older men go to the Philippines in search of younger women because they are unable to handle the dating scene, especially in the US.
@@kevinp7620 Well, there’s that too. 🤣
No, it doesn’t
The look on her face when you said you will not live in Phillippines said it all Tom, she deflated liked a burst balloon. Can't blame you ain't no Pssy worth it. She sweet and cute buckteeth and all but you are a traveller!
Whats a buckteeth??
@@fionasingoredjo3452 Buck teeth or protruding front teeth can be naturally occurring or due to certain habits such as thumb-sucking, tongue thrusting, etc
@@soulgamblers oh okay, maybe braces can help her
Idiot😂
@@soulgamblersYou've really got no idea😂
Man why alot of you gotta rip into Tom so hard on le simple topic. Relax! LOL Let the two enjoy the moments. They haven't even been dating for a long time. We wish the young couple joy and happiness and memories that last a lifetime. Plot twist... Both Lay and Tom live happily ever after... IN ANOTHER COUNTRY LOL and they visit the PH alot. 👏👏👏
Thank you 🙏
in subic Bay it's Good to stay and living a lot of beautiful island beaches. And you can always find Vietnam foods and Thailand food's very quite place too
The blunt honesty is refreshing. I like that you specifically explain why certain things are a struggle, rather than just making the typical (and useless) list of good vs bad things. I also appreciate the differentiation you made between travel vs. living - ofttimes this tends to be forgotten.
I do not think that the food in the Philippines should present a long-term challenge, however. If you do opt to live permanently in the Philippines, you can simply cook at home and make (or ask Lay to make) whatever you want to eat. It is only because you are currently travelling, without a permanent home base, that you need to eat out more often than not.
Note that island & beach life can get boring and frustrating, too, after several years. Pluses & minuses to just about everywhere. :)
Thanks again for sharing - and safe travels!
Thanks 🙏
I can see on Lays face shes thinking deeply. I broke up with my girlfriend in the past because i had a hard time committing. This was my problem, not hers. I sure wouldnt want to live in the city. Id go for peace. I wish you both the best.
Tom, you knew before you returned to the Philippines that the food was better elsewhere, but you chose a Filipina as your girlfriend. I don’t think that makes Lay feel so great.
She isn't the country. It's irrelevant
@@TMoses-rj1og I really don't understand the bashing about food in the Philippines. Guys, there are thousands of restaurants in the Philippines representing all countries. Where are you guys eating? Under the bridge? 😊
@@JoeyZee-vs4kr it’s the availability on the side street is what he wants rarely that is available in the Philippines as ingredients aren’t as cheap as Cambodia or Vietnam etc, also they don’t worry too much with permits to serve food on the street at those locations compared to the Philippines, I would love to travel to Vietnam and Thailand just for the food
@@JoeyZee-vs4krFrom where I’m eating its paradise!! Beats the US any day. Here in Manila I have access to high end restaurants and bakeries not some lame cupcakes you get at Costco either. Lol . The best thing about it’s cheaper, closer to me and if I want delivered to my doorstep for pennies on the dollar. Hey, haircut here is only $5 give me a break man, lol 😂😂
@@TharaLetzISLANDER you can first try it in Vietnamese and Thai restaurants in the Philippines so you don't get hyped too much. Much veggie food is what foreigners like. Philippine food is more on the delicious type but not necessarily healthy. Pad Krapow or TomYum or Pad Thai are not magical food. The foreigners are just hyping about it.😊
It looks like every time a relationship gets serious. This guy makes excuses. She is a nice girl and I have a feeling you are going to break her heart.
If their relationship doesn’t work out, Lay will have no problem finding another man. Lay is young and naturally beautiful with a good heart.
I do not think he is the guy...for you. He should go working to have the money to spend. I think it is the financial aspect of him and criticising filipino food😅😅😅
Couldn’t agree more, this man lives on his YT money only, no other income.And he have the nerves and audacity to criticise the food and culture. Leave the place douche bags 😂
Yes I’m so broke
IMO there's also nothing wrong to criticize filipino or other food (from other countries) for that matter. But the thing is, a hungry stomach will devour even the least appetizing grub it gobbles up. Survival in this world is more important than cravings. Therefore i will rather enjoy spending my day with a gorgeous lady (Lay) than worrying for a good food.
hey tom I'm a big supporter of yours.....BUT......you have upset Lay.......surely the title of your video should be......will they stay......not... will he stay.......she lives you loads mate. You need to decide do you value food and a few other things over lay,? ......you need to say to her......lay ...I want you to travel with me wherever I go...whatever country.......I felt sad for her in this video. Please either re assure her.....or let her go....it would be kinder. Please don't be offended by my post I enjoy your content ...but I'm not impressed by this ...Martin bristol
Please Tom travel with lay she is the best
Thank you, I feel the same.
Why string her along?
@@MartinRichards-m4e it’s fine to travel together then say sayonara…
Lay. If you're not traveling now. You never will. Do it now while you have the chance.
Things in the future will work out. You're young, don't worry.
How do you know things will work out in the future? Now is the time when you are young to build a solid foundation under your feet so that you can enjoy life further down the road
@@hobbexp If im the woman, I will no longer go out with that foreign guy. When Lay went to Ireland, she respected his place. But Tom is the total opposite. He's a complete dork, a walking red flag!
@@se_amable001 What's wrong? You seem to be biased towards women? Maybe you are a simp.
Great conversation on living in the Philippines. Be adaptable guys and enjoy.
Tom just got back from Ireland. He is missing his mom's cook food 😂 which happens to me everytime I come back from my home country after long vacations I complained about the food the accommodation in my work place. It takes time to adjust. They'll be fine soon 😘🤩
Cute ending, guys! Good questions and issues to figure out as you also look to the future. Good luck!
Thanks 🙏
If you love someone enough, you can live anywhere. You just don't want to stay in one place more than a week or two. The question is do you or don't you want to be with her as your partner. If you do you have to look at solutions
He doesn't care about his partner obviously.He only care about himself.
as a Filipina, im now worried about Lay. bec its not like its Tom's first time in the PH. If a man refuses to adjust to your culture and unwilling to adapt, that's a big red flag!
@@davidlaforest1624 I agree. This would be the perfect time to settle down. If he is not interested now, will he be in the future? I am living in Asia with my Asian wife. Emphasis on 'wife'.
@@kristinhannah001 same here. He seems to be selfish in this vlog... It's like, he did not consider the feelings of Lay. But Lay is such a kind person.... She still tries to understand Tom... So sad for Lay though😭
He is a user.thats what he did the other pinay.wake up filipina.huwag magpagamit
Manila is no PI - there are so many great places to enjoy , and also depends if you have money ! now it seems like you just play with that girl to have an easy fun...typical ...and a utuber...a player ....
Mr, Hogan. Your beautiful girlfriend is disappointed your answer❤
As a multiracial couple, I think they should have talked about it off-cam. I mean, that question that Lay threw on him is related to their future as partners, something a couple should be discussing thoroughly. Now it's too obvious that she got upset with his answer.
Also, I'm seeing a trend here. I've watched his vlog with the othe Filipina girl, they kind of had plans to move together in BKK and even went to check apartments, but weeks later they broke up. And now it sounds like he's doing the same to Lay.
I did too, she seem to want to settle down but i didn't see that in him
I agree re the pizza, thin crust. Philippines is a great place to travel from as a homebase. Enjoy!
Manila is not the place for foreigners. My husband doesnt want to stay in Manila too. Luckily, my hometown is Bohol then we can stay a bit longer there but not to the point that he will be staying in Philippines for a long time. I respect his point of view and same what Tom´s said that in Manila nothing so much to do, the traffic stops at all. Manila is if you need to shop before flying back to Europe haha.. then you can find stuffs that you need. But I lived in Manila for almost 2 decades before and it was fine then.
Manila is great, Tom’s just lookin for a way out
Hi Guys. Thanks for the insight and honesty on your thoughts about living there. Good to see you getting adjusted again just in time to go to Bangkok. Stay safe n happy. 👋🏽
Tom & Lay time for some Island Hopping and Paradies Gardens. Showing us how Pinoy Irish Grilling is all about during tasting some fresh Fruits, Shakes, Smoothies in Tom & Lays Paradies Island 😂❤
Mabuhay from Bantayan Island 😂❤
I think tom get tired of lay and maybe tying to get a new girl? He wants to go to malaysia and how about lay ! This is lay home place ! I hope he doesn’t dump lay for another woman !
Why are you having a relationship w/ filipina then if you can’t even adapt her culture?! Also, if you want good food you better go to fancy & expensive restaurants don’t just stick to Jollibee’s n McDonald’s everytime!
Tom is being just honest and I can understand what he was saying. I was there in 2016 and I had to renew my passport, we have to be in line at 5:00 a.m. and it was 3:30 pm by the time we got out. Thank heavens, nowadays, you just make appointments for it.
Nice informative contents from you two ❤❤. I highly recommend you to visit Bohol , one of the nice paradise islands in the Philippines, I'm Filipino, each time i visit Philippines, i never leave Philippines without visiting the beautiful Bohol. Go and experience the beauty & serenity of Bohol , you'll love it , especially if you stay close to Alona beach.Bohol has plenty for you to offer and enjoy. Take good care 😘😘
If you both decide to stay in the Philippines,its best to go to a supermarket and one can buy groceries( fresh food) and cook at home. Both my husband and i do that. Its more healthier and cheaper.
Damn Lay is so patient and understanding bro. All the best to you both.
Too understanding if you ask me
I be here on year and I cook at home and that is better!!!Tom I Agreed wiht you TH are better but PH are also good and nice people 😎🙏🏾you’ll have to find a balance
But Manila is not the place too living move from there are so many beautiful islands here in the Philippines
Good video Tom and lay. I understand you exactly tom. I have been to bohol and I lived just outside panglao for 3 months. Renting a lovely house 250 euros plus 50 for electricity and WiFi. Its a different life in bohol. Safe travels both of you. Watching from kildare Ireland
Yes island life definitely beats city life
She cannot hide how disappointed she is. You have a disturbing way to avoid the real subject and keep finding excuses like food, etc you do not sound very sincere and I feel sorry for her
Just like what he have done to other pinay and othe girls in bangkok. Tbh I can’t understand abt him complaining about food as if Irish or British have a lot of varieties as well
@@sunshine738 Actual I have travel most of the world in the past 25 years and found Ireland to have some if not the best food. The fish, beef and lamb dishes are all cooked with the perfect amount of seasoning.
@@samquinn6427 ngek, eat more in decent Filipino restaurants you can see and order their top dishes. Are you dreaming? 😊
@@samquinn6427 but they’re not available at any hour of the day and night as he want right?
@@samquinn6427 that’s your opinion and that’s your own taste buds. I am well traveled as well and been to these places and again I don’t find their food bursting with flavours.
real problem is this man is a wanderer and is not ready for commitment. If I were Lay, I’d say good bye bec there seems to be no real future with him.
I hope she learns on time.
The people here went ballistic towards Tom hahaha, clearly he is not in his settling down era. So here’s my 2 cents Tom you are a traveller you dont wanna be tied up in one place you should not be in a committed relationship yet unless the woman can be tucked in your side that everytime you decide to fly immediately you two can go..
Food, if you will just do the walking around you can only see those unhealthy ones. There are healthy food options here if you choose to, if only you have a place where you can cook and do food shopping, a lot of supermarkets here in Metro Manila that can provide the healthy needs if one you are also willing to spend money! But if you are just on a budget everytime then you live on what you can only afford..
Lay shouldn’t asked you that question hahaha because honestly it did caught me off.. Honesty is really hard sometimes to swallow hahaha! But you two enjoy while it last!
Hello Tom and Lay. Good talk on understanding the experience you seek when traveling or residing in the Asian Pacific. Specifically for retirees to understand plotting your days or emptying your bucket list. The perspective of an adult couple experienced in traveling on a budget is valuable. Thank you for your perspectives.
I agree with you Tom. I love the Philippines also but I cannot live in Manila or any Philippines big city. The traffic and the heat is draining. San Vicente Palawan is a nice place.
By saying you can't live in the Philippines because of the food is the same as saying Lay can not cook delicious food for you 🤔
I have also problems with finding food but I don't mind sleeping hungry. It makes slim 😊.
I was living 3 years in the Philippines.
Absolute nonsense 😂
He has full of BULLSHIT EXCUSES
Good to see you here, Sebastein. Your channel has always been very relatable for me 👍
@@georgec2894 Hi Georg nice to see you here as well.
I totally get how you’re feeling Tom. My wife and I were in a similar situation nearly 40 years ago. I don’t think living at the beach is the answer. We moved to Australia, worked, bought a house, raised kids and had a great life. We’re currently spending 3 months in the Philippines but neither of us wants to live here full time. You’re right the things that annoy us wear us down. Good luck for the future whatever you decide.
Lay get away from Tom. He's a user. Not really a good guy. Bad food is a terrible excuse. I live here and the Filipino food is really good actually.
LMAO ,,, maybe your taste buds are VERY bad. Take a realty check , Filipino food in general is HORRID.
Ok m3ljean. happy birthday alone. lay isnt you so hes not gonna ghost 😂😂😂
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hi tom & lay ..juz finish watching your most recent video about struggles as foreigner..i think this has been a long going battle for all foreigners and i realised this since the 90's. i lived in makati during estrada's presidentship.,, anyway fast forwrd to present things have pretty much not changed in the culinary front. So Tom, .i now enjoy watching your videos bcoz of Lay too..she is definitely a keeper apart from being well mannered in the videos by not trying to steal your thunder. She is playing the role as 2nd fiddle and giving you lots of respect. she is a good example and i know for a fact that many subscribers will want to meet filipinas like her . .. but she is a rare character not easy to find someone like her. Kudos to you both thank you for continuos entertainment cheers guys🥃🍺
In previous vlog of Tom, he also was fed up with Thailand and moved to the Philippines. Maybe the best thing for you both is to move from place to place if Tom gets bored. 😊
Tom, i would say you're a traveling nomad without doubt. Now come on, it's not about food. it's about prowling the energy the next day brings now. Lay is a very intelligent woman she may travel a while, but she is a family filipina she will follow for a while, but not forever next about areas of beach towns without doubt go to leyte incredible i live there part time we have a family home in Maasin and also Limasawa also el nido or coron wow now the end youtube won't last forever start a business tourism diving transport you're both young start now but being gypsies will get old fast as you age god bless 🎉🎉🎉
New subscriber here. I like this couple. They seem to be totally relaxed about each other
Hi Tom and Lay .. its good to see after all this time your still in love .. your a lucky man Tom Lay is a lovely lady lovely filipina ❤❤❤ until next vlog take care .. Hemstar ❤️😎
To each their own, Money is a key, One has to have income, I came in 2019 raced across the ocean in a Kayak and fell in love with a local, I left and Came back 2 years later and married, Now we have A 5 star Condo Rental, A Nice little double steel Castle and 2 Farms,
Yes of course you can, live where you wish with passive income, That’s Key,
No Money/No Honey 🍯☺️😉🥰🇵🇭🇺🇸,
Statistics Show Only 2 % stay long term and most only last Two years,
God Bless
Slowly catching up on vlogs 😂 hope you guys are well 😊 great conversation, was a good watch
Thank you! You too!
You guys really make a great couple! 👏👏👏
Thank you 🙏
wait, i just remembered... Tom often goes to carinderias to eat FILIPINO FOOD. it seems he likes it there, he even has a SUKI, a store where he always goes back to eat!
What happened Tom? or its just for views? 😮
@@se_amable001 exactly!I have watched his older vlogs.
He was eating carenderia food.He rented a place close to bgc in the lower end area.he enjoyed the filipino food then!what change him now.When he was in Thailand he vlogs about comparing thailander girl and filipina girl he said the that filipina is better in his opinion base on his experience. Now he found Lay brought her to meet family you would think their relationship is serious. I thought that's it he will settle down .
@@malyharel7310 o diba plastic. sana layasan na yan ni Lay.
It looks like Lay is expected to be the one making the compromises. Tom if you love Lay you should be prepared to make sacrifices and not expect her to be the only one prepared to do that. I understand the gist of what Tom is saying but it’s selfish if he doesn’t consider what Lay really wants as well. It’s clear that lay will do whatever TOM wants but that is a recipe for disaster down the track.
I agree 100% that’s why I divorced my ex.
Better to be honest , but there is always an answer and a way to sort things out
I somewhat agree with Tom. I have a wonderful Filipina too, currently we are both living & working in Australia. Of course as we head towards retirement (I’m mid 50’s but still consider myself ‘young’) my Filipina obviously wants to be in the Philippines.
For me life in the Philippines is hard…Filipinos probably don’t get it if they have only experienced their own country. It can be draining for a foreigner with every little transaction so weighed down with bureaucracy, corruption and (in our mind) completely stupid administrative rules. Most other Asian countries have less of this so hence we ‘fit in’ easier.
On the food side, yep once again apart from a couple of dishes, Filipino food is bland to us foreigners. I wish the Philippines had embraced their Spanish heritage more in the food aspect.
I literally struggle when I’m in the Philippines & after a couple of weeks, I’m throwing my hands up & saying ‘I can’t do this any more’
When I was in Thailand, I never got that feeling.
Unless you’ve experienced it you won’t understand. Like Tom said, being fleeced as a foreigner is draining, it leaves a bad taste in our mouths and it’s a practice that needs to stop. I hate having to get my Filipina to do all the bargaining as I’m quite independent and traditional but at the same time hate being ripped off just because I’m white.
For me, I think the Philippines could only be my ‘semi’ permanent home, as you’re never fully accepted there….only your money is 😢
Yes most commenting haven’t experienced living in multiple countries
I got a different approach guys; I think Tom is not getting what he exactly wants from her,it's like same as saying,hey lady listen up,if i can't get what i want there's no need to waste time here just because you speak English!
One can eat well.. healthy here but it's not easy and is $$$. Everything is fried in bad oil and is loaded with sugar. Spices and salt is considered bad. Even when you eat veggies at a restaurant they've been fried-doused with grease and oil.
I love Manila since I was born there and been living in Cali for a long time. I see myself retiring in Makati so I can see all my relatives and I love Filipino food especially the foods that I grew up there as a child.
Tom made great and very honest points about why he prefers other (SE Asian) countries to the Philippines to live in . The subpar food culture, institutional inefficiencies, crazy cities, and the "give me money Joe" culture outweighs the english-speaking and generally friendly demeanor of the people.
And yet, statics show that Koreans, Japanese and Americans marry Filipinos at much greater numbers compared to other countries. This talk about food, infrastructure, etc are just backpacker foreigners who can't afford the pricey good food in the Philippines. Go to a decent restaurant and say again if the food sucks. I eat in many restaurants and I can say that Filipino restaurants are still the best. The seafood, barbecues, kinilaw, sinigang and much much more. I wonder why foreigners are complaining when their food actually sucks. 😊
You're dreaming. Sub par food culture your face. There are lots of food choices but they're not stalls in the street but in decent restaurants where you need to spend for good food. Have you even tried a good Filipino restaurant in the first place? 😊😊
@@JoeyZee-vs4kr😮😮😮😮
A time will come when you’ll have to put down roots somewhere single or married. In the meantime, travel the God given beautiful world whilst you both are still young and healthy. Enjoy.
OK I AM THE ONE TO COMMENT FOR SURE. First of all the girl is CUTE AF! Not only that you can tell SHE is a real sweetie and nice disposition AND she really loves him, too. I dont know who these two are I have never seen the channel until now. I READ ABOUT A THIRD of the comments BEFORE I WATCHED the video and I was already against the guy UNTIL......I HEARD WATCHED THE VIDEO AND thought EVERYTHING HE SAID WAS THE TRUTH.
ME. Lived in Philippines 8 years until 2021. Dumaguete, Siquijor, Bacolod. Left and went to Thailand/Vietnam where I have been for the past two years. BANGKOK RAMA 9 to be specific and when I say that BOTH VIETNAM AND THAILND IS 159 MILLION TXS better than Philippines I MEAN EVERY WORD OF IT. No STUPID BROWN OUTS, FOOD 100XS better, infrastructure 100XS BETTER and yes dealing with the haggling over prices YEAR IN AND UEAR OUT GETS SO DAMN DRAINING!
Philippines is the most BEAUTIFUL COUTRY of the three and I did go to DAVAO for three months last AUGUST - NOVEMBER which was the FIRST TIME SINCE 2013 I never had a brownout or bad internet. If you work online as I do. THEN PHILIPPINES IS NOT THE PLACE FOR YOU. Nice people in the Philippines. But it is challenging to be there.
People jumping on this guys back are either Filipinos are are very sensitive and get extra BUTT HURT is you say anything negative about their country and just SIMP-AFIED expats who just accept all of the bullshyt you have to go through there. YOU CAN NOT GO TO BANGKOK AND MALAYSIA AND WANT TO BO BACK AND LIVE IN PHILIPPINES. Sorry, you really can't unless you just dont give a damn. Ii understand the guy and don't know why THE GIRL CAN'T JUST GO WHERVER HE GOES? She is a cute and sweet girl tho. I had a cutie girl too.
Yes I agree but only those with experience will know
Lay looks so much like a Lady I knew from Iran.
Still thinking about her 30 years later.
Both are adorable.
Maybe both of you will try the Island like boracay, bohol ,palawan, puerto galera...Interesting to see the nature though😊❤
The only part of Manila that I could stay for a month or more is BGC, but that takes money. If on a budget, Vietnam, Indonesia or Thailand. I like that all Filipinos speak English so it is BGC for me. However, with Cebu developing Mactan Newtown and other spots it nice. One can go from the mountains of Cebu to the Newtown beach in about 90 minutes. IL Corso Filinvest Mall and Nustar casino area is nice but food is a bit pricey. No matter were you go now inflation is hurting everyone.
I know what you are saying Tom about over charging...My wife is filipina and sometimes they gets hassled about the pricing because she is considered rich...you constantly have to be on your guard is stressful. I hope you and Lay can travel and enjoy being with her. She is a good person
True
Buy a variety of raw and nutritious food from the wet markets and supermarkets and cook these yourselves. This way you can eat the food of your choice and nutritious, as well.
By doing this you can save too.
It's just a matter of looking for the right food and it is everywhere in the cities like where you are staying now.
Buying coconut juice in that jug has added sugar already...if you want to drink pure coconut juice buy one of those coconut fruit and let t.he vendor prepare it for you...only that you will pay more...but its healthier...
Tom you should do what it takes to make her happy. Get a steady income and stay in Manila area or just travel in Philippines. Get a steady secondary income source!!!! 😇👍
You know my income situation?
@@Tom-Lay well you went on vacation and stayed with your mom. Who does that? You’re in a shit hole motel, you don't have a car, you eat nasty azzz street food or hamburgers and pizza every fookin day. What are we supposed to think about your “income”?
@@bcssylf Right?! 😂 He has NO INCOME AT ALL
If you're bilingual (English + Japanese/Korean/Mandarin/Cantonese/Spanish/French/German), the Philippines is one of the best places though, you can make 100k pesos a month easily and live permanently there without having to worry about money while in other places in SE Asia you need to have a remote job which is not easy to get anymore.
I am retiring in the Phils in a few years. I won't retire in the city but if I had to I could. I will be purchasing house/lot in the Rizal province. Not having access to a variety of food is a copout for not living there. You just have to research and find the places you want to eat at or prepare your own. Yes, sometimes it may cost more but that is what everybody deals with. I easily can see Lay is disappointed in Tom's response about living in the city. I wish them both luck to what their future holds together or separately.
Why would anyone retire to the Philippines.? I tried it and it's miserable for hundreds of reasons
He is just giving his opinion. People who don't like what he has to say gotten their nose out of joint. Many foreigners have fiipina girlfriends and don't like filipino food it doesn't mean the relationships are doomed. No one knows what is going on between Tom and Lay. People need to learn to have thicker skin it's an acquired skill because your ego is always working against it.
World has got to sensitive 😅
Enjoyed the video. Thank you.
I think if you have a good pocket you could have the food satisfied but if you just eating street it’s not really good
Aaawww, so sad... I'm quite off with what Tom revelations here... Meaning, he can leave Lay because he's not convenient... He cannot live for the wedding vow😢
I eat in restaurants when I go out. And there are lots of choices, from American, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Filipino, Mexican, etc. Tom is the problem because he's looking for cheap street food. 😊
Tom and Lay, That is Makati Avenue, where you are walking and you are right, that is the most traffic road, in that area of Makati Business District... before you proceeded to the river area...
Hi Tom and Lay, my wife and I are back in Thailand (Jomtien Beach) for 2 months. You are spot on about the food in the Philippines. I've already dropped 7 pounds in the two weeks since we've arrived here in Thailand. The food is fresh, abundant and healthy. I tend to gain weight fast when at home in the Philippines. Filipino food is tasty but it lacks variety. On the other hand, I love both Bangkok and Manila...go figure. My wife and I enjoyed meeting you on Soi 4 several months back. We are hoping that our paths will cross once again.
I think it’s fine to travel to different countries in Asia and stay there until Tom gets tired and settle down in an island like Surigao,should try Korea and Japan too
Yes will be trying Korea and Japan soon
Tom totally agree with you mate re the food situation. I lived in Thailand for 5 years and the street food and restaurant food is so much better. I have visited the Philippines for 16 weeks over the last 18 months (but not lived there0 and Filipino food is awful generally unless you're an American! However saying that, if I lived there I would be buying fresh vegs, fruit, meat and fish from the wet markets and supermarkets and cooking more at home. Looking like you've upset a few people by your comments hahaha..... BTW how can you afford to stay there and travel if you don't mind me asking?
Thanks and just working
Try going to a smaller city. Try Iloilo or Bacolod, Dumaguete, Ormoc. Try cooking your own food that’s healthier. Tom your complaints tend to turn off people. Maybe keep it to yourself. If you want food 24/7 all kinds of food go to a Mega 1st world city like New York, LA, LV the US has any of those and every time you get bored with 1 city just go off to another.