What should you do when you get offered your dream job but you just accepted another offer? 😬😅
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I would just ask to make that a job from certain hours and the other job other hours
Then later find out which I like more and quit the other and to make the one I like full time
In reality, no matter what you do in this situation, you burn a bridge. You must think of these relationships as interpersonal relationships. Companies are entities of greater complexity, but the dynamics are very similar. Imagine telling your dream days you like them, but you're not in like with them because someone asked you first, or alternatively tell that other someone you're bailing because you were just settling for them . 😕 Yeah
Pls work on the vocal fry? No need to end every sentence with a croak
I work in HR/recruiting and you should absolutely take route #2. I’ve had candidates decline their offers after accepting many times. It isn’t a big deal to us, comes with the territory when you’re hiring and we usually have other candidates to fall back on. You HAVE to do what’s right for you. DO NOT factor an employer’s feelings into any of your major life decisions.
Yes, and generally, employment is "at will". A company will drop you at any time for any number of reasons no matter how great a worker you thought you were or how many hours you put in to your job.
You should absolutely tell that to the people hiring me for an apprenticeship 😂
They phoned to say I’d got it, I’d just interviewed elsewhere and realised I’d rather work for the second place. Told the apprenticeship person who phoned on the same call. She got pissy with me and said I wasted their time… I’d literally just been offered the job and turned it down within a minute 😂
Especially since companies don't have feelings and most employers (humans) don't care that much either
@Rebecca S Sounds like you dodged a bullet by skipping out honestly.
The companies quickest to abuse you, are also the same ones that act like you owe them and not that you're in a contract of services rendered for agreed compensation.
@@tedkaczynskiamericanhero3916 Honestly was so glad I said no 😂 the job I’d interviewed for offered me the job the next day and it was for 7k more 😂
After 47 years of working, there is one truth that took me too long to understand. My old me would have stuck with the first company because I gave them my word. The new me who has many years of employment has learned over the years is that companies do not care about their employees. Take the best opportunity for you.
Exact same boat as you. Back when your word was law, then I watched my companys completely screw over their employees and say "it is just bussiness". Now that is my mentality as well. Whatever is best for me is what I am doing, after all "it is just bussiness"
When I turned down the first hospital, they actually told me I had to do what was right for me. No hard feelings
WELL SAID!!! I gave a decade of my life for a company to end up using me on their last project when I did everything and when they had good results and running system they started pressuring me by giving me more work and I was unable to continue anymore and resigned. Why they did that I discovered right after when they put in charge a friend of the executives on my place, with way higher salary and double less working hours... Just always do whatever is best for you, being selfish when it comes to work is the best thing you can ever do for yourself.
I gave this a thumbs up because I believe what you say about companies is true. However, the video isn't saying the down side is breaking your word. It's more self interested than that: it's saying you will BE SEEN to be breaking your word, which could negatively impact you in the future (burn you bridges) with that company if you should for any reason need to be in their good graces in the future..
I haven’t worked 47 years but I’ve worked over 20, and I firmly believe “dream jobs” and “dream companies” don’t exist. Because of that, I’m confident I will never be in this predicament because I would go with option 1, since I’ve already considered the compensation and benefits and am satisfied with them and don’t truly believe option 2 is truly any better.
But clearly either option works for someone still chasing that “dream job”. Maybe option 2 is slightly better but you don’t really know the reality of working for a place until you get there. A dream can quickly become a nightmare! I might take option 2 if I had connections at the company and felt confident my connections reliably communicated a positive work environment.
… companies don’t care about you. If the company came across an opportunity to higher some one better than you for less money they would not hesitate to fire you. Take the job that you really want. Opportunities don’t always come back around
True!
This isn't about caring for you, it's about caring about their reputation. When you leave one company to go work with another, you create a bad image for them. Also, the other company now knows that if another better job comes forward, you'll leave them high and dry. They'll be cautious in promoting you.
Until and unless absolutely necessary, stick with your company through thick and thin. The rewards are too good to ignore.
(my personal story)
Before COVID, the company I work in was doing good with great employees and all. Once it hit, most of them left. The wages had been reduced, obviously cause the turn out was very low. Me and two of my now close friends stuck with it (we're bachelors so money wasn't an issue). After COVID, I've been promoted twice and my pay has increased significantly (around 67 percent including both times). So be loyal guys.
@@Aiibh your story is a bit of an anomaly. Some people work their entire lives for one company and only receive 2% annual raises and no promotions. Especially if you work for a larger company, job hopping is recommended every two years or so.
@@username00009 I'll agree. Big corporations and companies value the skill of hand over that of mind or heart.
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Option #3 is that you realize there is no dream job. Just the one that pays your bills and lets you live your life.
Sounds like a dream job to me!
Yes and no, some jobs are closer to the ideal of a “dream job” than others.
Dream job doesn’t always mean you get to do the type of work you enjoy doing, sometimes it’s just the job that lets you live your life how you want to. Everyone’s dream is different.
If you’re a person who has hobbies and interests, or even a passion in general, there’s always a dream job out there for you
@@emmettolson3499no, because a lot of us don’t want our hobbies and passions to be our jobs. There are plenty of things I absolutely adore in life and will work for, none of them pay me. I’m happy with it that way because it lets me maintain my work life balance and my enjoyment of those things. Them being “successful” doesn’t matter to my living situation, so there’s no stress of making my “dream” support my life in a capitalistic society. I work to be able to afford my lifestyle and to be able to put what I’m able into my passions. All I want is a reasonably comfortable job that appreciates my labor, treats me decently, and pays me on time.
Bear in mind that the "dream job" might just disappoint.
When my son was applying to college, we were told, dance with the one that takes you. In other words, don't turn down acceptance for a wait list.
If the job you took is reasonably good, stick with it.
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And the normal job might be as well.
If you go for your dream job and its a disapointment, then its a disapointment. But on the other hand if you dont, you might regret it for the rest of your life.
Your analogy sounds like you go with the 1st company because they accepted you vs. holding out for the 2nd job (waitlist).
I think the part where you are confirming the offer from the dream job (in writing & signed) allieviates the waitlist issue.
But those are 2 completely unrelated things. While you should go with the one that want you, if both applications firm and insurance accepts you then stick to the one that makes you happy.
you can pay a seat hold and still wait for the waitlist. y’all are being so weird in the comments. fk companies, fk capitalism, do what is best for you, but don’t idealize work. work is slavery. not a dream.
There is no "burning bridges" it's just business. Employers are not your friends, it is purely a transaction and you are just a number to them so don't be afraid to do what's right for YOU.
You sound like you enjoy /r/antiwork
@@SomeRandoooo And you sound like you just don't work.
The first company will not take you back if things don't work out at the second company. This is why it is "burning bridges". This can be a problem if you are very specialized with only a few potential employers.
@@theBear89451they will if they are serious.
If a company does not hire you because you said no once they are not worth it. 😂
Bridges 100% burn, never underestimate hate
Why do i have to be extremely nice and polite to any company when they literally GHOST YOU instead of sending a simple rejection notice?? 😂 They dont deserve it lol
lol right
Haha, so true 😂
I feel like it only matters if you already worked there for some time bc they are your reference for the next few jobs
"Deserving" is irrelevant. The reason to be polite is so you can work for that company or boss again in the future. From personal experience, when I was let go, I called an old boss, who was now VP at another company. He bypassed most of the job screening process for me, so I was only out of work a few days.
Recruter often have a lot of Candidate and my boss did not like sending rejection letters to good candidates in case something opened up in the future. Kinda BS. I’ve seen 500 applicants for 1 job in like 3 days. And it was part time graphic designer. It paid like $25 hour.
Something like that happened to me: I applied for a teacher's position at 2 schools and had just accepted at school 1 when the school I really liked (judging from their pedagogic concept and the job interview) called me back to hire me. I opted for option 1 and declined school 2 while my friend started there. I was really torn about this. Turns out, it was the best decision I ever made because school 2 only looked good on paper and my friend left in frustration after a year while school 1 - despite all of its problems - had a great team of teachers that made me feel welcome and supported.
To add to this: sometimes I feel like a company that knows what they want and goes for it--makes for a great employer. Versus jobs that take forever to make a decision and honestly sometimes it feels they don't value the time of a future employee.
It's like this with everything in life. You never know what the future will bring.
Don't tell dream job about the other job. And make sure you get the dream offer in writing and completed before leaving the other job. And don't tell other job about offer until it's in place.
This
But she’s not even IN the first job yet. She can literally just say “Hey it turns out I can’t do it anymore, sorry”. There’s nothing to tell nor leave.
Don't tell them about each other? How about playing the offers of each other. Maybe not if the dream job is better in every way, but if it's lower pay you might ask them to match the first offer. Likewise take the biggest reason not to take the first offer and ask them to improve it.
@@matthewsalmon2013 I was thinking the same thing. Tell both jobs about the other offer, many jobs love to showcase “competitive pay” or “competitive benefits”
@@matthewsalmon2013 Or, and I've seen this happen, job number one kicks your butt to the curb and job number two falls through. You end up with nothing.
A dream job only goes as far as the workplace culture. You can be doing the most fun, rewarding work but if your coworkers and managers make your life hell, it doesn't matter what you're doing.
If your life is hell that's not a dream job.
Option #2. If you burn bridges because of this circumstance then the first company wasn't a company I would want to work for anyways. Win win.
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How to prevent this: if you haven't heard from dream company in a while you can follow up saying "I'm very interested in working with you but I've just received another offer so i wanted to check in and see if i was still being considered for this role". You can do this even if there is no other offer yet! But if you do recieve another offer from a company lower in your list, you can use the same script!
Hi Laura, your thoughts are more in line with my thoughts about this kind of situation. Thank you I will remember this and share it with others as I am now retired.
This is what happened with my husband two years ago. The first was a small company and they offered a pretty great salary. The second increased the salary and is a bigger yet not too big of a company. He had to tell #1 that he had an offer he couldn’t turn down and ultimately burned that bridge. But in the end, we are glad he chose that. He’s had two raises in two years, at least 3 bonuses and is about to get a huge promotion. Go with your gut!!! Even if it’s hard and uncomfortable!
I’m in this EXACT position right now and I’ve been really stressed about the whole situation. Idk how the algorithm knew, but thank you for the insightful video!
When I just got out of college after 3 days at my first job ever I got an offer at a significantly better and bigger company with significantly better pay and benefits. I called up my boss and said I'm sorry but I must take this opportunity I know this is not ideal. I didn't even give any notice since it had only been three days. It was well worth it I was at that job for 8 years.
This!!
Definitely had this situation! I went to work for another industry but still in marketing. When my dream job finally got back to me 2 weeks after I accepted, I had to let the company know that my dream job gave me an offer I couldn’t refuse. I was very clear during the dream job interview process also that I just accepted a job but this is the company I’ve always wanted to join.
How did it all turn out? Was the dream job worth it?
@@LiaaaaaaaaAAAAAHH It’s going amazing! The company takes care of its employees and couldn’t be more thankful for the opportunity.
You acted professionally in both companies. Hope you're happy now
A company who knew you for one month will forget you in twenty years, but you’ll never forget your dream.
They’ll forget you in a month 😂😂 They do NOT care
I feel it’s also important to realize that if the other company got or gets a better option they will likely let you go. So it’s fair to approach the problem in the same way you feel they would. Remember we are all technically small businesspeople selling our labor. Do what’s right for you, like any other company will.
"small businesspeople selling our labor" - I like that.
Take option #2. Life is too short to worry about that kind of shit
Yeah but you still need to pay your bills
@@emnobow If they would be that petty, you don't want to work there.
@@SylviusTheMad petty? What if the dream jobs finances dipped and they needed to release the most recently employed member. Nobody said anything that would insinuate pettiness was involved in this scenario. Option 2 is actually the least financially responsible option as it does put you in a precarious situation should you become unemployed for whatever reason. Honestly, keep rereading and don’t even understand how you’ve jumped to petty behaviour with no context. 😅
@@emnobow my dream job is one where I make a fuckton of money while still being present in my family’s life lol
An important question is company culture when looking for work. I would double check when I applied at both places. If it's been an exponentially long time since applying for your dream job, it might be an indicator of the culture of the company and a red flag.
Why? Maybe people work for them a long time and someone left. Could be retired,moved,or sadly passed away,among other reasons.
Honestly if its taken a company too long to get back to you that's a red flag in my book, it's a sign that they are slow in their decision making process which in certain roles will be detrimental to doing your job.
Definitely do the second one. If you do the first one, YOU might not burn any bridges, but when you ask them about the job in a few weeks theyll pretend they dont know you. Companies are ruthless, take everything you can
REMEMBER: you are your own career coach/ advocate! Take the job that pays more/ dream job… but do not make a habit of it. At the end of the day the company is looking out themselves and you must do the same. I’ve seen job seekers accept jobs and later have offers retracted because they found someone “more qualified” it’s rare but I imagine getting a dream job is also rare
take the dream job, its worth it you might regret not
Never apologize. They wouldn't if they fired you
There's only 2 options. You go for your dream job or you don't.
I’ll go with the 2nd option because I do not care about companies 🤷🏼♀️
Burning bridges sounds like there are limited amount of companies you can work for which is not the case for most workforce. You not burning anything, they will forget you ever existed the moment you told them you won't be part of their team
I got so scared when she turned to me and said “what do I do Erin?”, MY NAME IS ERIN
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Option three is accept job number two with the starting date a month or two in the future. Work for job 1 for a month and “resign” due to personal hardship.
As much as this is kind of unethical advice and you should absolutely not do this if you actually respect the first company because they will lose money because of it, your new team will likely suffer too. I do think this is the one I’d go for and I’ve almost gone down the route first, had a HR position confirmed, asked for a day off for a pre planned day visit, which was my final interview at a bank, I really wanted that job but hated the interviewer who was to be my manager. Was just going to get a doctors note and hand my notice in if I wanted it. 😅🤭 If you don’t put them in your CV they can’t give you a poor reference and they are less likely to hold it against you later if they genuinely believe you’re going through something, it’s just not very decent. 🤣🤣
@@kirstybrown1185 In today’s job market we are nothing but a number to our companies. They don’t respect us, and can lay us off anytime they wish. It’s all just business. So while I’ll do my best at work, I don’t have any loyalty to any companies that I work for. In fact, my industry actually encourages people jumping from companies to companies, which over time will make you earn significantly more than those who stay for a long time.
Never pass up your dream job. Normal HR people understand that this happens and always have backup.
Friend of mine Had that happen once boss was really chill about it. It wasn't some big mega corp more so just a chain of about 10-15 stores. He was one of the few that valued someone working at a place that people would be happy working at. They actually became decent friends
This is a similar scenario to an ex. He works in game development, had an offer from Rockstar and an offer from an indie company. I was really shocked he chose the indie company but he felt the other was too good to be true, he was told after the rockstar job was all menial stuff for a sister company, not working on the things you’d assume with it. At the indie space he made 2 phone games himself, got a really good level of experience and he’s better off for not taking the perceived “dream job” because nobody jumps in at their dream position. 🤷♀️
I use to be afraid to burn bridges. Take the dream job. Your employer won't hesitate to lay you off if the need arises.
Take option 2. I've hired a lot of people over the years and this happens all the time. It's annoying but that's business. Your first priority is to do what's right for you and your family. Don't lose sight of that.
This happened to me. I called the first and told them I got my dream job and had to reneg on my acceptance. My honesty was honored and they were sad to see me go, but happy I found a dream job! It was one of the scariest conversations I’ve had, but I DID IT, and my dream job has served me so well since!
I’ve done this. I got a better offer from another company after I had accepted a good offer from a good company. I wouldn’t call either a dream job but both were good offers and good jobs with opportunities to grow, good pay and benefits. I took the second offer because I felt a better vibe from that second company, like my personality would fit better. It was an easy process to apply and interview. The first company hadn’t even advertised that job. I got that job through a lot of networking and effort, which I had never done before or ever after. During the interview, the guy said that he might not ever be able to pronounce my name. So, I just emailed them back and profusely apologized and rescinded my acceptance of their offer. They thanked me for letting them know. It’s definitely an awkward situation.
Always take your dream job. Your job does not care about you as much as you care about them. There are some people now who are just going from better offer to better offer. Really ramped up since COVID professionally neo's. Never making it out of the 90 day probationary period. Whatever makes you happy and pays your bills!
Nah, take the other job, stay friendly with the dream job, then apply later for higher pay at the dream job
This happened to me 8 years ago . I turned down higher pay to take the title I wanted . Now I’m much better off with the experience I’ve gained
That’s crazy, I feel like something like this could happen to me in the future and I was contemplating what I would do! Thank you for making this video!
It’s possible to not burn a bridge with the first company. This exact situation happened to me a few years ago. I went to my supervisor and explained the situation. She told me that she understood and that if she were in my shoes it would have been a tough decision but she would have done the same thing. She told me that if that job fell through to be sure to come back to them, they would love to have me back.
Option 3: ghost them the same way employers ghost applicants :)
That’s worse than option 2 though from a professional standpoint, this is only a positive for stubborn people who want to say nuh-nuh. You haven’t just burned a bridge with an employer, you’ve made yourself unemployable to anyone who’s handled your application and essentially blackballed yourself. Employers ignore applications for many reasons, most of them good, like, the team don’t have the time to email 100s of applicants just so they can feel better about themselves. Acting childish when you’re trying to be seen as mature is an awful suggestion and I don’t get the impression you’re actually old enough to put it into practice or you’d know just how bad this is. Imagine you then go for a promotion at your dream job and the person who handled your application at the last place now works recruitment there, they have a valid reason to knock you back every-time and your only way to move up, is for them to leave, or for you to find somewhere else where you haven’t just made yourself seem like an entitled brat. Don’t ever put this into practice unless it’s McDonald’s, they just don’t care enough to remember you.
This literally happened with me. Got an offer for company 1, signed, and was starting in two weeks. Then company 2, a much bigger, nicer company, offered me a position. Yeah.. don’t ever feel guilty about accepting something and then turning them down for something better. Companies do that to employees all the time, and everyone deserves to live well.
"You do what you have to, so you can do what you want to." -Denzel Washington
As I am going through college, I’m reading there is no “dream job”. Your job isn’t your whole life and as long as it helps you maintain some work-life balance and pays the bills, it’s good
You work to support YOU. Your loyalty should always and only be to YOU. If you've come across your "dream" job, take it. Working in a place you thoroughly enjoy will reduce your stress tremendously.
You may not necessarily burn a bridge with the first company if you maintain professionalism. Let them know that you would be happy to maintain an open line of communication.
If that first job really wants you onboard, they may attempt to renegotiate the terms of your contract to conform to your standards.
Fascinating. In my line of work there's a general acceptance of "if a better offer comes along" shuffle for like 3 months during the recruitment period where people can change their minds or rake another offer - no hard feelings. It's only when it's like December (so a month before we start) that if you bail out you burn bridges.
My mom did option 2 and fir a week or so went back and forth because both companies desperately wanted her to pick them and kept adding anything they could. In that week she got 2 promotions and went from 70k+ to 140k+
Be a good worker, put in your 2 weeks when finding a new job. If you were great, they may want to keep you. If you have a reputation of being great, the other company may desperately want you.
I’ve chosen option #2 before and I made sure to emphasize that it was entirely dependent on the fact that I was not able to pass up on the offer, and they were understanding!
Option 1 you burn the bridge with your dream job. They won’t wait around on you, they will move on.
That option isn’t burning any bridge though. It literally says in the video it shows loyalty. That’s the only option that doesn’t harm professional future, while the picking the dream job was more about if you’re willing to sacrifice for a potential dream job.
Option 2 is always the correct choice.
Same goes for internships. I am definitely currently burning a bridge down. The feeling isn't great but I know I don't want to get back there either since the place was bad and definitely put way too much responsibility on me. Way too soon as well.
8 months passing, without a better company in sight, I finally got a great new offer right out of the blue and am leaving them behind.
I tried multiple things at this point.
Compromise between the final work dates. push back the final 4 weeks and stuff. Instead I got a terrible, boundary crossing, rude talk where my boss sat his girlfriend beside me and him infront. This alone was a big old red flag for such a talk but the things he said oh boy no. They were the final drops if water that made the entire bucket spill. Funnily, at first they tried to tear down coworkers and build me up (while also guilt tripping me) to keep me with them. Saying they can only ever start work when I am there. I am so important and much better than so and so and most importantly without me the store would go down in shambles.
Though it ended with an "please reconsider and no I won't definitely let you go on good terms between the both of us." towards me and from me towards them "Well, I'll ask the same from you."
After another no, I worked out a good date to start with my new company and put my resignation letter infront of my boss after he didn't want to talk to me. He proceeded to tell me I couldn't do that and we would need to have a talk once I am back from my days off. That talk didn't came yet and I will leave on my last day as if it was nothing, leave my keys behind and won't come back. I am tired of reminding him of all his stuff. I am done I don't need another talk. That is his responsibility and frankly it wouldn't change a thing anymore.
This day comes in 4 days and though I am scared as heck, I am equally thrilled to leave my old boss' shit behind.
At the new place I will actually lern something about the field I am wishing to study and I might be able to get some money out of it. The new boss will be awesome and nice and appreciative of whatever I'll help her with.
We had this happen to us and we were not the dream company. She chose the leave a sticky note on the bosses desk after everyone leaves on Friday saying you quit that no one will see until Monday morning because you got a better job offer. It was great because we showed up on Monday and had no front desk at a medical office…
If someone apologized and informed me about their dream job, instead of just not showing up one day, I would hire them back. Integrity goes a long way.
Option 3, ask if your start date can be deferred a bit at dream company so you can give 2 weeks notice?
after just starting and on boarding...might still burn bridges that way. Maybe even worse then telling them before you start
No-they’re spending all that time and money to train you when they could’ve been training someone who actually intended to stay. Better to just go ahead and rescind the offer
Actually had this situation with my recent job change: I walked away from the first offer to accept a job in analysing and working with professional video gamers, now another perk was: the second job offered me about 3x as much as the first company did hourly, so I didn’t exactly burn any bridges with the first company as they were understanding that sometimes when you’re a gamer, and you get offered to work with the video game industry, you can’t say no, and they couldn’t offer me the same hourly pay so
I’ve also had friends who signed initial paperwork with a job that then rescinded the offer. You’re right it’s a hard call!
Just had this exact scenario 2 months ago. 1 job had offered. I signed that morning at 11 am. By 2 oclock the same day,I had an interview booked with my absolute dream job and company for the next morning. I went in, smashed the interview and was offered the position the following afternoon, which was a friday. On Monday, I called the first company and let them know, thanked them for the opportunity and haven't looked back.
Had this situation. Company one rescinded my offer before I could rescind my acceptance. Turns out they were going through an org change. Went to dream job instead. All worked out
My mom is a supervisor and works with hiring people, she says this happens all the time and as long as you at last say something, it doesn't matter. It happens all the time in the business worlds and the likelihood of burning that bridge is low.
Honestly, speaking as an employer... I never remember people who back out of an offer, even on the day they are showing up. Now those who ghost a job after they start, those I remember. So no bridge burned and if it was the other way around the company would and totally has backed out of an offer to get the best candidate.
This happened to me 3 months ago funny enough. I wouldn’t say it was my dream job but it was the job I was most interested as it has presented the most potential growth opportunity. So I gave my apologies to the first company, and I thanked them but ultimately went with the second offer. I’m extremely thankful to God for this opportunity.
In my experience if it’s in the same industry all of your managers have switched between multiple companies and understand the pros and cons of every one. Just be honest as soon as you can, let them know that it was your dream job and unexpected like she said , and hecking do it! You will burn no bridges and get work experience that will make you valuable to the same company that you passed up should you decide to move on. It’s literally not a big deal lol.
That moment when both companies backpedal and say actually we went with some other candidates and you're forced to work at a job you hate because you're hungry.
This was me. It was so awkward. Luckily, I'm old enough to be selfishly wise so I knew the right decision even though it felt bad doing it. It's always option 2 unless the second offer isn't your dream company. Make sure it's better...now that I think about it, this has happened to me twice...
#2 all day long. I'm a manager and I understand that we're all in business for ourselves. I'd make at point of letting the candidate know that the door is open if #1 doesn't work out. It's a small world....
Option 3: see which company has better pay and paid leave or bonuses and choose that one
Also maybe which company will look better on your resume and last: where you think you’ll feel the best working there
Which company would look better on your CV? That's a really odd concept to us in the UK. For most people, the company they've worked for is neither here nor there, it's the job, duties, experience, skills and knowledge that are important. In some sectors the company might be important but very few.
This is the level of advice you get from your friends in school. 🤣 Companies that have the peace and wages sorted are typically bigger businesses that you mean less to, if you value a company where you’re just a number who can let you go without batting an eyelid, that’s fine but it’s terrible advice. There are far more important things to look into. A companies legal past, their past with legal cases regarding employees pay, their recent financial reports and controversies, their staff happiness levels, their turnaround. All things adults looking for a career, actually look for if they want to have bonuses and paid leave.
@@owieprone Well I work in IT so it would be an oppertunity to work for a big tech company such as Google. But you will probably be a number to that company, instead of being treated like an indivudual.
If you were a doctor for example, it mostly depends on what you're working as, your job title.
It really depends like you said.
@@kirstybrown1185 If company A offers me 5k a month with end of year bonuses and paid leave, but it's a big company.
Or company B only 3k a month with no extra's but you will matter more to that company and probably be happier working there.
It's your choice! I personally would go for A because I am money driven. Work is just work for me, I don't really care about factors you mentioned.
At the end of the day it's your own choice mate.
That literally happened to me. This came after a massive lay off. I was looking for work and finally got offered a position after 6 months. However I still had interviews set up so I went to them. I received another offer for my dream position and dream pay. I couldn't turn it down. I basically emailed them what she stated in option 2. Three years later I have no regrets and the position is better could be expected. So happy 😊
Recently, I did option #2 and it was one of the greatest decisions I made 🙂.
Hahaha just pick one! Over thinking the shit out of it....
"Innocent until proven guilty" will be that much more important for us to sear into our brains.
Always go after your dreams!
Option 2 all the way ❤
Quit bruh
This legit happened to me and I went with option 1 because I had already started working, and I thought putting a two weeks notice for a job I started 3 days ago would look terrible. Worst part is that I ended up hating the job I worked at so... Really sucks.
I know someone who this happened to. They went with the "dream job" and gave their 1st company notice..... Only for the dream job to back out and try to change the terms. (Eg less money and start in 6 months). So they stayed at the first place. Luckily the 1st place thought they were just trying to get a raise so gave them a bit more money but it made things really awkward and they would have been fired if they weren't the best one on the team.
I went with option 2, one of the best choices I’ve ever made. Felt awful making that apologetic phone call to rescind my initial acceptance of their offer, but it had to be done.
I was in a similar situation. I got an offer and negotiated and while they were working on an offer letter, I got an interview with another position. Their low range was more than my negotiated salary at the first position and the growth opportunities and leadership was far superior. Apologized to the first offer but thanked them for the time. Just said “after careful consideration, I have decided to decline the offer at this time”. Have been at #2 for about 4 months now and it’s honestly the best job/team/leadership I’ve ever had in my entire life and I couldn’t be happier! Your priorities always come first, they will always find people to fill a position!
I have been watching her videos since a while now and I can't believe that not even a single comment is acknowledging her beauty!!!! Erin, you are literally gorgeous, you go gurlll 😻
I went to the first job and told them my dream job offered me 15k more than they were paying so they could either match that or I would have to follow the money and take my dream job. I knew they weren’t going to increase my pay offer at the first job to match so it was a fairly easy out.
“Dream company”
I never thought two words could be so depressing.
I was disappointed I didn't get this one job I really wanted - No worries - They called a couple of months later to offer me it! They realized the person they did hire - wasn't a good fit. Everything happens for a reason and just stay professional.
I did this and I phrased it to the owner in a positive light. Good news is I bought lots of products. He branched out and I let him know I wanted more freedom to do the same. Kind of miss him.
Also, keep in mind that the companies don’t care about you. So, do what you want and go for your dream or that bigger paycheck or that nicer city to live in. You don’t owe them anything, you didn’t promise them anything.
Having been in this position, absolutely choose option #2.
Company #1 will get over it.
Thank you so much for your video and your wonderful explanation! This will help me in the future for my interviewing time.
Also, this is a fantastic video to showcase what to do in a tricky case of ethics.
This just happened to my younger sister! Thank-you for the help!
As a recruiter I love option 1. As an HR person I believe that people should always follow their dreams, so you should do option 2 as gracefully as you can.
i just had this happen to me with my new job. i stuck with option 1, and so far it's turning out to be my best job to date. every situation is different of course but for me, option 1 has been my best decision all year
My mom had to do this recently, and after a few years the management at the “dream job” started to go downhill so she t the other place and asked if they were still hiring. They remembered her and were thrilled to get her back on board. Companies will hire and fire people with 0 regard and that’s just business but we’re expected to treat them like people or else they’ll fold their arms and pout and hold a grudge? That’s extremely childish and petty.
Thank you, Erin!
This is called a happy problem
I had two really good job offers in human services, which is helping people one was in substance-abuse counseling, and the other was a Domestic Violence Advocate. I picked advocacy and couldn’t be happier
I love it when this happens. It has happened a few times to me. Yes, I may have burned a bridge at the "short term" job...whatever, if it's your dream job and PAYS then you go for it! But yeah, try NOT to burn bridges.
I worked as a recruiter for a couple of years. This is unlikely to burn bridges. It happened fairly often, it usually happened to the best candidates, and also, usually recruiters churn very quickly also.
Exactly the video I needed now😅
I was offered a position at workplace 1 while in the hiring process at place 2 that was better on paper than it was in real life. Ended up accepting place 2 for the pay alone. Maybe 6 months down the line, I was unhappy, and wanted to at the very least split my time between a draining, higher pay gig and one that was more fulfilling, so I called workplace 1 back. They were happy to hear back from me and brought me onto the team, it's been a little over a year now but I still really enjoy the work and have been promoted twice! Place two shut down a few months after I left due to poor management and inability to retain staff.
They don’t care to burn you when they fire you. Do what makes you happy!!!
I had this happen to me last fall. Left the first job for the second, and it was a no-brainer for me. I'd been with the first one for a month and was finally getting my bearings, but the benefits, pay, and work-life balance of the other was too hard to pass up. I was getting sick of the old job, but love my new job like you wouldn't believe. I couldn't have made a better decision.
This was honestly always my fear when going on back to back interviews
Thank you for the never heard advice. This is really something new 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂