As an autistic individual, I like arcades because of the chaos. Everyone is in their own bubble that I feel comfortable being happy in mine. Something about the controlled chaos that gets to me. Yeah it's a spectrum..
OP updated on their account on reddit as of 21 days ago. They're still alive, still terminally sick, but still going as of now. Not exactly happy with life, which is understandable.
That autism story is crazy because basically the first sentence was saying that the reason the school includes David in mainstream classes is to prevent discrimination and then mom clearly describes immediately discriminating against him... Imagine being a parent with a child who is different and does face discrimination, so you send this kid and pay tons of money to go to a special school to help with that only to face that discrimination again. That's insane. I'm also really surprised the teacher just allows kids to pass out party invites like that. Most schools have a policy where you can't do that unless you are literally inviting the entire class to prevent this exact situation
For the story on the dying OP. My sister had been through a 3 year fight against leukemia that has had a lot of ups and downs. This last Christmas my mom was struggling getting all the siblings together for Christmas. For reference it’s me and my sister and then four older brothers. At this point everyone in the family knew that my sister was on her last round of chemo that had only a 10% chance of working. Going into the Christmas season I was preparing myself for the possibility that this would be her last Christmas with the family. When I heard that my brothers were making it hard on schedules for Christmas I sent out a text to my brothers reminding them that her death might be an inevitable thing, that they needed to suck it up, get time off work no matter what and stop making it so difficult. So what I did was very similar to what that mom did. I can understand where she came from in the fact that you want to have turnout for the individual and a last hoorah. So I can’t blame her for being slightly realistic when it came to timing the death of a loved one in a family. My sister also loved nothing more than to just be surrounded by her loud siblings debating and having fun even if she did not have the capacity to participate anymore. The big difference though is my family is not selfish though, and that’s where her family messed up. Yes, all of my siblings and parents were grieving this upcoming loss of a dear family member, but we knew to keep that grief to our own time when we were alone instead of as a group. We made sure to be just as fun and joyful around her as we always have been for her 25 years of life. Our grief will stay with us for the rest of our lives but our joyful limited time with our sister will always be a comfort to us. This family really lost out on an opportunity to serve their loved one in one last celebration of life while they are still there. So while I don’t blame her for letting people know the importance of the event, although she possibly could have done it more privately, I do blame the entire family for not taking that miracle of an opportunity to create some lasting memories with their loved one. So she’s NTA, her family was selfish in their grief, they have limited time with her and a lifetime to grieve, why waste it. Sorry for the long anecdote, but it really touched my heart when she talked about how she just loved to be around her family having fun much like my sweet sister did. She passed away early February, so I’m grateful that we didn’t play it by chance that there might be another Christmas, because there certainly was not, and which would you prefer, celebrate this holiday/birthday like their last and have no regrets, or treat it like there will be a next time and there is not and regret it for the rest of your life. Each day is a miracle.
Your sister sounds like my grandparents. They loved having all 6 of their kids and all 9 grandchildren in one place just existing and interacting. They would just sit quietly in the chaos and take it in/watch with amusement because we’re all insane together. I should’ve asked them what they were thinking about in their quiet moments.
Beautiful! We did a similar thing for my great uncle. He was declining fast and we all knew it was his last Xmas. Family came from all over to be home and celebrate and be around him. He was a great man, and I’m thankful to have beautiful memories with him and family around. I’m sorry about your sister, I’m glad you guys were able to pull that together for her and give her a great memory and for her to have a moment of joy before she passed. Sometimes people don’t understand how precious, painful, and difficult life is, but those moments of comfort and joy are always worth it and the most special. Toward the end of my uncles life he called me by my moms name and my daughter my name.. honestly I just rolled with it because he loved us so much. Dementia is a horrible disease in my families case.
As a neurodivergent child I was also singled out for playing by myself or talking with parents instead of kids I feel that the mom should’ve talked to David’s mom about what his autism entails and should’ve just invited him plus she said she heard these things about David not that she actually witnessed it some people will embellish their stories. I had a girl who wanted to be in the spotlight and tried to smash her face into my birthday cake and her dad carried her out and her mom apologized for her behavior then they left, they handled the situation as parents and were very respectful
As an autistic person, I see both sides. But in my opinion, once most people know you are autistic it’s a wrap. She has the right to choose who will be at her kids party but didn’t have to be an a hole and hand out invites in front of him.
I can't believe OP's mom ruined that for them, and their family then blamed them for it 😭 it's really messed up to make your child's death all about you instead at the expense of the dying child. I know that's hard, but you HAVE to put your kid first. That's when they need their parents' support more than ever. You can lose your shit later
My brother has autism and is regularly excluded from EVERYTHING definitely the a-hole he would die to go to an arcade the loud noises don’t bother him at all you guys talked about this so well
My elementary schools growing up had 25+ kids in a classroom and if we’re having a party, you have to invite all the kids or none, and if you gave out the invitations on school property you were suspended, had to be through the mail or by phone call. It was public school too
I know our school-and I thought most schools have a policy about party invitations. You are not allowed to pass them out at school unless everyone is invited. If not, you have to invite people outside of class time/school. Really poor taste to hand them out at school and only exclude one person.
highkey the parent in the last story is just making excuses to not invite the kid and pretending it's the "logical" choice. If everyone is invited, everyone is invited. If the birthday kid just didn't like the other child there because they aren't friends it would be fine but the only reason is he's disabled.
Look Ive lived with severely autistic people. Some of them, no, you can’t invite to things-unless you’re prepared to deal with violent outbursts, police presence, injuries, etc. they might have comorbid conditions that would make it impossible for them. Sounds like this kid probably was functioning enough to know if other’s are being invited, so don’t pass out the invites at school.
💯% the AH! If the reddit op didn't want ALL classmates invited, then they shouldn't have handed them out at SCHOOL! There are lots of other ways to go about it, without hurting anyone's feelings or being BLATANTLY discriminatory. 🤷🏽♀️
The rule is invite everyone from the class or no one. Excluding one person based on their disability is despicable and is discriminatory. Imagine if we excused the OP excluding children based on other differences. That would be unacceptable, this is no different.
My brother is severely autistic, and handicapped on top of that, although he’s able to walk, he is non verbal, and needs one of us to be with him at all times. When he was very little, his classmates invited him because we lived in a small community, and it would sorta force the moms to include him. We never took him. He would not enjoy it at all. How ever. If he was even slightly interested, or could have an ounce of fun at these parties, or aware he was excluded, i would really hurt for him. So yeah, i feel she (o.g) should have called his mom, and just asked if she could invite them as a unit, because o.g. is unfamiliar in how to talk to David, or autistic children, and would much prefer if David’s mom would join, and also if David would handle the surroundings. Personally, if they’re really young, I’d arrange with David’s mom before sending out invitations to make it an event he would be able to attend. And i get what you’re saying Sam, by leaving 2-3 kids off the list, but you’d only have 2-3 more moms asking why everyone was included except for their children. You’d have to limit the numbers of invited kids to a small select group to make that work.
I'm glad you said that about the spectrum. I was worried about my son in the arcade for the first time but he LOVES the arcade. I was actually more overstimulated than him (I think I'm likely autistic as well). The irony of her writing the sentence "they put him in the 'normal' class to help kids learn not to discriminate" and then she goes and discriminates. Let the parents decide if he can handle it or not. Warn her about the noise and make sure she's there to assist with any meltdowns but don't not invite him. My son is still waiting to be diagnosed but I 100% believe that he's autistic and he would be so sad if he found out he wasn't invited. He doesn't have many friends but he wants to be friends with almost everyone.
My son is autistic, I haven't even finished the story but I'm already feeling heartbroken. If he is only in that class one day a week what evil awful fucking people they are to pass them out on the day he's in there. How would they feel if their child got the same type treatment done to him.
ok hold on I 100% knew what I was doing with the machine. It prolly was $50 but it was not 2 hours straight. I checked it every day we were on there. There's a tell I was looking for to see if it was paying out. One of those days I saw it was good and you were telling me to move on, but I got it! You left out the part where your mouth was agape from being so impressed!
The reason Totino's cheese "just sits on top" and doesn't completely melt is because it's apparently not real cheese. I found out recently (by reading the ingredients) that it is soy product 😅
I can understand wanting to keep stuffed animals. I still have all mine, in great condition and I made it clear I'm not giving them up. They were gifts from my childhood from my friends, family, friends of family and just ones I won at the claw machine from D&B.
Bowling commentary was wrong and right. One of my first couple dates with my now husband was bowling. It was so fun - main issues was you were charged per game not per hour. So this poor man covered the $130 date. Ofc i offered to pay but he said it was on him. Guess I was worth it, I know I would have been willing to cover the same
Was the tantrum only because of the present opening session? If that’s the case don’t open the presents at the party do it afterwards. Also saves the kid from forcing a smile when he’s disappointed with the gift 🤷🏽♀️. The other kid is only mixed in the “normal” class once a week so they’re already at a disadvantage of learning how to interact with others in his age range. Most kids have tantrums because they’re usually spoiled if not coddled.
Imma say nta for the party, simply because she said David's only in the class once a week. So is he really a part of the class? And do the other kids consider him a class member? I think it's a bit wild if 4/5 days a week he's not in the classroom that his mom would get upset over him not being invited, unless they chose the one day he is there to give out invites
Nobody should be obligated to invite someone to a party that they arent comfortable with being there. Neither shoud they have to go out of their way to make accommodations or speak to his parents if they didnt want to. I also wouldnt want my autistic kid in places where he isnt wanted & have everyone being fake and pretending around him. His past behavior speaks for him and autistic or not if there was a problematic classmate I both wouldnt want them at my party if I were the kid or the parent. I have such vivid memories of ruined birthdays from other kids throwing temper tantrums and insisting to blow out my candles until they got their way. No thanks.
the problem is tho that the kid w autism was excluded, not bc OP's kid personally disliked the kid, but bc the mom had only heard rumors of his past behaviors, and bc she isnt familiar w autism and figured he would act the same, decided to exclude him purely based on that: assumptions based on ignorance. she didnt even try to include him. and then the kid passed out invites to literally everyone else in front of his face! kids with autism or any other neurodivergence/disability deserve to be treated with respect. accommodations should be normalized too, and tbh most of the time arent even that hard to put in place. technically, yes, ppl dont HAVE to do anything they dont want to, but just bc u have the freedom to be an asshole doesn't mean it'll go without consequences.
My son is on the spectrum as a young kid new to his school he was excluded bc the school made him out to be a problem it was the most awful time in school it really hurt his feelings, so she should have talked to the mother take her aside just give her and the kid that respect now his feelings are hurt.
Absolutely the a-hole for excluding the one child who happens to be autistic. Such an over generalization about how the mom THOUGHT David would act. Also, you cant compare an actor acting as an autistic child in a tv show vs. an actual autistic child. Ew.
I know this is an older video but my child has special needs and recently got put into a general education classroom and I’d be devastated if he wasn’t invited because he has special need I’d be upset.. I agree with the take of let me decide if my child is capable of coming to this party or not
NTA - Two reasons people aren't invited... A parent can't control their kid or a kid can't control themselves... don't expect because you have something that needs to be accommodated someone is TA for refusing to do so... It's not their issue no many how many tears and Pitchforks you can attempt to get your hands on I'm not inviting a kid with cancer to a hike and party at the top of the hill and I'm not moving it to the bottom to accommodate too bad for you
I dont understand the logic behind saying someone MUST be invited somewhere. Don't wanma invite someone? Simply don't! You can just not do that, and everyone needs to suck it up.
Honestly, David’s mom is the AH. Hee son and his disabilities are not the other moms problem. She should not have to pander to David and his mom. I honestly think that we give people with autism too much of a pass for bad behavior and it’s not because he’s autistic it’s because he’s a proven brat with a passive entitled Karen mom. I’m with birthday boys mom. NTA. My kids birthday is for him I ain’t gonna let nobody ruin or dictate where and how to celebrate them and their birth.
this is a terrible take! the "accomodations" David would have needed would NOT be OP's problem at all. David's mother and David are aware of his needs and would have acted accordingly (ear defenders, short visit, comfort items, etc.) It is not okay to exclude someone on the basis that they may or maybe not behave in a way that could embarrass you. if she didn't want to invite David she should not have invited the boys entire class at school , there are many other ways to contact parents for parties. can you fathom what it must be like to be David or David's mother? that they're blacklisted from events because of word of mouth? OP has not even seen David attend a party, she's only HEARD of what others have said.
I grew up with autistic siblings you are not an ah. They probably shouldnt have passed out invites at school but a lot of people make assumptions that autistic people are the same but the range is huge.
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As an autistic individual, I like arcades because of the chaos. Everyone is in their own bubble that I feel comfortable being happy in mine. Something about the controlled chaos that gets to me. Yeah it's a spectrum..
I'm not autistic (to my knowledge), but I enjoy NYC for the same reason
the whole reason i love parties. i’m actively choosing to put myself in a situation with a lot of external stimuli, it’s euphoric
OP updated on their account on reddit as of 21 days ago. They're still alive, still terminally sick, but still going as of now. Not exactly happy with life, which is understandable.
Thank you
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That autism story is crazy because basically the first sentence was saying that the reason the school includes David in mainstream classes is to prevent discrimination and then mom clearly describes immediately discriminating against him... Imagine being a parent with a child who is different and does face discrimination, so you send this kid and pay tons of money to go to a special school to help with that only to face that discrimination again. That's insane. I'm also really surprised the teacher just allows kids to pass out party invites like that. Most schools have a policy where you can't do that unless you are literally inviting the entire class to prevent this exact situation
That’s is exactly what I was thinking
For the story on the dying OP. My sister had been through a 3 year fight against leukemia that has had a lot of ups and downs. This last Christmas my mom was struggling getting all the siblings together for Christmas. For reference it’s me and my sister and then four older brothers. At this point everyone in the family knew that my sister was on her last round of chemo that had only a 10% chance of working. Going into the Christmas season I was preparing myself for the possibility that this would be her last Christmas with the family. When I heard that my brothers were making it hard on schedules for Christmas I sent out a text to my brothers reminding them that her death might be an inevitable thing, that they needed to suck it up, get time off work no matter what and stop making it so difficult. So what I did was very similar to what that mom did. I can understand where she came from in the fact that you want to have turnout for the individual and a last hoorah. So I can’t blame her for being slightly realistic when it came to timing the death of a loved one in a family. My sister also loved nothing more than to just be surrounded by her loud siblings debating and having fun even if she did not have the capacity to participate anymore. The big difference though is my family is not selfish though, and that’s where her family messed up. Yes, all of my siblings and parents were grieving this upcoming loss of a dear family member, but we knew to keep that grief to our own time when we were alone instead of as a group. We made sure to be just as fun and joyful around her as we always have been for her 25 years of life. Our grief will stay with us for the rest of our lives but our joyful limited time with our sister will always be a comfort to us. This family really lost out on an opportunity to serve their loved one in one last celebration of life while they are still there. So while I don’t blame her for letting people know the importance of the event, although she possibly could have done it more privately, I do blame the entire family for not taking that miracle of an opportunity to create some lasting memories with their loved one. So she’s NTA, her family was selfish in their grief, they have limited time with her and a lifetime to grieve, why waste it. Sorry for the long anecdote, but it really touched my heart when she talked about how she just loved to be around her family having fun much like my sweet sister did. She passed away early February, so I’m grateful that we didn’t play it by chance that there might be another Christmas, because there certainly was not, and which would you prefer, celebrate this holiday/birthday like their last and have no regrets, or treat it like there will be a next time and there is not and regret it for the rest of your life. Each day is a miracle.
Your sister sounds like my grandparents. They loved having all 6 of their kids and all 9 grandchildren in one place just existing and interacting. They would just sit quietly in the chaos and take it in/watch with amusement because we’re all insane together.
I should’ve asked them what they were thinking about in their quiet moments.
Beautiful! We did a similar thing for my great uncle. He was declining fast and we all knew it was his last Xmas. Family came from all over to be home and celebrate and be around him. He was a great man, and I’m thankful to have beautiful memories with him and family around. I’m sorry about your sister, I’m glad you guys were able to pull that together for her and give her a great memory and for her to have a moment of joy before she passed. Sometimes people don’t understand how precious, painful, and difficult life is, but those moments of comfort and joy are always worth it and the most special. Toward the end of my uncles life he called me by my moms name and my daughter my name.. honestly I just rolled with it because he loved us so much. Dementia is a horrible disease in my families case.
I'm sorry about your sister 🫶🏻
I'm so sorry about your sister❤️
As a neurodivergent child I was also singled out for playing by myself or talking with parents instead of kids I feel that the mom should’ve talked to David’s mom about what his autism entails and should’ve just invited him plus she said she heard these things about David not that she actually witnessed it some people will embellish their stories. I had a girl who wanted to be in the spotlight and tried to smash her face into my birthday cake and her dad carried her out and her mom apologized for her behavior then they left, they handled the situation as parents and were very respectful
As an autistic person, I see both sides. But in my opinion, once most people know you are autistic it’s a wrap. She has the right to choose who will be at her kids party but didn’t have to be an a hole and hand out invites in front of him.
I can't believe OP's mom ruined that for them, and their family then blamed them for it 😭 it's really messed up to make your child's death all about you instead at the expense of the dying child. I know that's hard, but you HAVE to put your kid first. That's when they need their parents' support more than ever. You can lose your shit later
My brother has autism and is regularly excluded from EVERYTHING definitely the a-hole he would die to go to an arcade the loud noises don’t bother him at all you guys talked about this so well
My elementary schools growing up had 25+ kids in a classroom and if we’re having a party, you have to invite all the kids or none, and if you gave out the invitations on school property you were suspended, had to be through the mail or by phone call. It was public school too
I hate that. Children's parties can be expensive
I know our school-and I thought most schools have a policy about party invitations. You are not allowed to pass them out at school unless everyone is invited. If not, you have to invite people outside of class time/school. Really poor taste to hand them out at school and only exclude one person.
highkey the parent in the last story is just making excuses to not invite the kid and pretending it's the "logical" choice. If everyone is invited, everyone is invited. If the birthday kid just didn't like the other child there because they aren't friends it would be fine but the only reason is he's disabled.
Look Ive lived with severely autistic people. Some of them, no, you can’t invite to things-unless you’re prepared to deal with violent outbursts, police presence, injuries, etc. they might have comorbid conditions that would make it impossible for them. Sounds like this kid probably was functioning enough to know if other’s are being invited, so don’t pass out the invites at school.
💯% the AH! If the reddit op didn't want ALL classmates invited, then they shouldn't have handed them out at SCHOOL! There are lots of other ways to go about it, without hurting anyone's feelings or being BLATANTLY discriminatory. 🤷🏽♀️
The rule is invite everyone from the class or no one. Excluding one person based on their disability is despicable and is discriminatory. Imagine if we excused the OP excluding children based on other differences. That would be unacceptable, this is no different.
My brother is severely autistic, and handicapped on top of that, although he’s able to walk, he is non verbal, and needs one of us to be with him at all times. When he was very little, his classmates invited him because we lived in a small community, and it would sorta force the moms to include him. We never took him. He would not enjoy it at all. How ever. If he was even slightly interested, or could have an ounce of fun at these parties, or aware he was excluded, i would really hurt for him. So yeah, i feel she (o.g) should have called his mom, and just asked if she could invite them as a unit, because o.g. is unfamiliar in how to talk to David, or autistic children, and would much prefer if David’s mom would join, and also if David would handle the surroundings. Personally, if they’re really young, I’d arrange with David’s mom before sending out invitations to make it an event he would be able to attend. And i get what you’re saying Sam, by leaving 2-3 kids off the list, but you’d only have 2-3 more moms asking why everyone was included except for their children. You’d have to limit the numbers of invited kids to a small select group to make that work.
Exactly
I'm glad you said that about the spectrum. I was worried about my son in the arcade for the first time but he LOVES the arcade. I was actually more overstimulated than him (I think I'm likely autistic as well). The irony of her writing the sentence "they put him in the 'normal' class to help kids learn not to discriminate" and then she goes and discriminates. Let the parents decide if he can handle it or not. Warn her about the noise and make sure she's there to assist with any meltdowns but don't not invite him. My son is still waiting to be diagnosed but I 100% believe that he's autistic and he would be so sad if he found out he wasn't invited. He doesn't have many friends but he wants to be friends with almost everyone.
Chuck E’s middle name is Entertainment. His government name is Charles Entertainment Cheese 🐭🧀
The autism hate is truly disgusting
What’s wrong with having an opinion on autism?
Saw y’all on TT and wanted to see more ❤️
me too!!
Same!!
I appreciate her having you explain the joke bc I'm kinda slow and didn't understand either 😭😂😂
I don't think it ruined the joke, it made it easier to understand 😭🫶
Josh is just as precious as he wants to be. Love his energy 🥰
38:20 I would go on a bowling date with my guy in a heartbeat! Good food, good game, and fun arcade 🤷♀️
The E in Chuck E Cheese stands for Entertainment 😉
My son is autistic, I haven't even finished the story but I'm already feeling heartbroken. If he is only in that class one day a week what evil awful fucking people they are to pass them out on the day he's in there. How would they feel if their child got the same type treatment done to him.
Knowing you guys are from Omaha hits different when you're saying the street names and talking about the Asian market and stuff 😭 I love you guys 😂
ok hold on I 100% knew what I was doing with the machine. It prolly was $50 but it was not 2 hours straight. I checked it every day we were on there. There's a tell I was looking for to see if it was paying out. One of those days I saw it was good and you were telling me to move on, but I got it! You left out the part where your mouth was agape from being so impressed!
😂
The reason Totino's cheese "just sits on top" and doesn't completely melt is because it's apparently not real cheese. I found out recently (by reading the ingredients) that it is soy product 😅
I can understand wanting to keep stuffed animals. I still have all mine, in great condition and I made it clear I'm not giving them up. They were gifts from my childhood from my friends, family, friends of family and just ones I won at the claw machine from D&B.
This episode was so off-topic i love it
oh my goodness i havent heard that song in ages. you guys just send me back in time 😮
Bowling commentary was wrong and right. One of my first couple dates with my now husband was bowling. It was so fun - main issues was you were charged per game not per hour. So this poor man covered the $130 date. Ofc i offered to pay but he said it was on him. Guess I was worth it, I know I would have been willing to cover the same
Was the tantrum only because of the present opening session? If that’s the case don’t open the presents at the party do it afterwards. Also saves the kid from forcing a smile when he’s disappointed with the gift 🤷🏽♀️. The other kid is only mixed in the “normal” class once a week so they’re already at a disadvantage of learning how to interact with others in his age range. Most kids have tantrums because they’re usually spoiled if not coddled.
Imma say nta for the party, simply because she said David's only in the class once a week. So is he really a part of the class? And do the other kids consider him a class member?
I think it's a bit wild if 4/5 days a week he's not in the classroom that his mom would get upset over him not being invited, unless they chose the one day he is there to give out invites
13:09 it’s actually Charles Entertainment Cheese 😂😂😂 Seriously
Nobody should be obligated to invite someone to a party that they arent comfortable with being there. Neither shoud they have to go out of their way to make accommodations or speak to his parents if they didnt want to.
I also wouldnt want my autistic kid in places where he isnt wanted & have everyone being fake and pretending around him.
His past behavior speaks for him and autistic or not if there was a problematic classmate I both wouldnt want them at my party if I were the kid or the parent.
I have such vivid memories of ruined birthdays from other kids throwing temper tantrums and insisting to blow out my candles until they got their way. No thanks.
Exactly, but don't nobody wanna hear this version of the truth
the problem is tho that the kid w autism was excluded, not bc OP's kid personally disliked the kid, but bc the mom had only heard rumors of his past behaviors, and bc she isnt familiar w autism and figured he would act the same, decided to exclude him purely based on that: assumptions based on ignorance. she didnt even try to include him. and then the kid passed out invites to literally everyone else in front of his face! kids with autism or any other neurodivergence/disability deserve to be treated with respect. accommodations should be normalized too, and tbh most of the time arent even that hard to put in place. technically, yes, ppl dont HAVE to do anything they dont want to, but just bc u have the freedom to be an asshole doesn't mean it'll go without consequences.
My son is on the spectrum as a young kid new to his school he was excluded bc the school made him out to be a problem it was the most awful time in school it really hurt his feelings, so she should have talked to the mother take her aside just give her and the kid that respect now his feelings are hurt.
Absolutely the a-hole for excluding the one child who happens to be autistic. Such an over generalization about how the mom THOUGHT David would act.
Also, you cant compare an actor acting as an autistic child in a tv show vs. an actual autistic child. Ew.
I know this is an older video but my child has special needs and recently got put into a general education classroom and I’d be devastated if he wasn’t invited because he has special need I’d be upset.. I agree with the take of let me decide if my child is capable of coming to this party or not
NTA - Two reasons people aren't invited... A parent can't control their kid or a kid can't control themselves... don't expect because you have something that needs to be accommodated someone is TA for refusing to do so... It's not their issue no many how many tears and Pitchforks you can attempt to get your hands on
I'm not inviting a kid with cancer to a hike and party at the top of the hill and I'm not moving it to the bottom to accommodate too bad for you
Bowling is good for double dates
I dont understand the logic behind saying someone MUST be invited somewhere. Don't wanma invite someone? Simply don't! You can just not do that, and everyone needs to suck it up.
Honestly, David’s mom is the AH. Hee son and his disabilities are not the other moms problem. She should not have to pander to David and his mom. I honestly think that we give people with autism too much of a pass for bad behavior and it’s not because he’s autistic it’s because he’s a proven brat with a passive entitled Karen mom. I’m with birthday boys mom. NTA. My kids birthday is for him I ain’t gonna let nobody ruin or dictate where and how to celebrate them and their birth.
this is a terrible take! the "accomodations" David would have needed would NOT be OP's problem at all. David's mother and David are aware of his needs and would have acted accordingly (ear defenders, short visit, comfort items, etc.) It is not okay to exclude someone on the basis that they may or maybe not behave in a way that could embarrass you. if she didn't want to invite David she should not have invited the boys entire class at school , there are many other ways to contact parents for parties. can you fathom what it must be like to be David or David's mother? that they're blacklisted from events because of word of mouth? OP has not even seen David attend a party, she's only HEARD of what others have said.
Imma be called an ah but nta to the mom with the party you don’t have to deal with an optional trouble
I grew up with autistic siblings you are not an ah. They probably shouldnt have passed out invites at school but a lot of people make assumptions that autistic people are the same but the range is huge.