@@grindhard4312 having worked in corrections for 18 years, having worked with thousands of men, I beg to differ. Most men aren't accountable they don't know or recognize how, where or why they have careened off the track, or how to be accountable for what they've done.
🌹♥️🌹 Your mind is your “GREATEST ASSET AND POWER”!!!! Your body; mind; heart; and soul does exactly; what you programmed it to do; or you allow others to program your mind for you (it all starts with a thought🤔 your mind). Normally, when this behavior occurs; you don’t know your self value or worth as a woman; you marked your price tag down. You are not for sale! You are to “EXPENSIVE”( you are priceless 😉). Sometimes women feel that they have to be in a relationship; to be validated or valued; that’s not true. Men study a woman behavior to know if she’s: easy; vulnerable; toxic; courageous; strong; does she know her value; herself worth; loves herself;….etc; in order to know how to approach you and achieve his ultimate goal “YOU”! When a woman shows a man she loves; values; and knows herself worth; he is going to be more cautious of how he approaches you. Men will treat a woman the way they see you treat yourself and the way “YOU” allows him to treat you. God did not create you to be man’s doormat. You are created: beautiful; fearfully and wonderfully made…..Psalm 139:14; Praise of a virtuous woman……Proverbs 31:10-31; Song Of Solomon is a love song sung by the two lovers; a love story; Chapters 1-8; Trust in the LORD with all your heart……Proverbs 3:5-6; please read these scriptures in your spare time; I pray these scriptures will help and comfort you. Some men are “Gaslighters; Narcissists; Toxic;…..etc . Two books I would recommend reading: Enough is Enough (A Step -by- Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God’s Help) David E. Clarke; PhD with William G. Clarke; MA (Biblical References) and How to Deal with Toxic People; Gregory L. Jantz, PhD with Keith Wall. I found these two books was very helpful; eye opening; informative; and inspiring (letting me know it wasn’t my fault; but helpful). Thanks for allowing me to share; 🙏 Asking GOD; to Bless and Cover; each and everyone one who read my comment. Let me say: some men are also being abused as well; by some women. We all need to try to be our “BEST and BETTER SELVES”! Many Blessings and Much Love To Each and Everyone Always🌹♥️🌹🙏
@@counterpunch559 it don't matter who you are or what situation you're in, you got to bring something to the table beside sex if you want to keep anybody
I really needed to hear Trip truth! “Some men literally is not equipped to be in a healthy relationship with a healthy woman” I had to leave him too😔😔😔
Facts 💯 sometimes we feel sorry for someone, because we actually love them. Until one day you realize they’re breaking you down mentally. Often times we start dying inside.
Accountability at its best. We gotta be able to identify where we're weak at and talk about it. No need to fuss and cuss about it let's work on it. Hats off tripp great message
I kept sayin, "im broken & can't do this"... until I HEARD MYSELF SAAYYYY, "IM BROKEN", IM BROKEN IIIMMM BROKEN!!! Once I not only heard myself, I FELT my words... I was able to Heal myself, I looked in the mirror, went to therapy &&&&& took my Shahada!!! Broken NO MORE!!! BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH!!!🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽💯💯💯
This is so true. You have to know the hurt the person has. Address it and encourage them to heal. If they don't want to, leave them. Hurt people hurt people. If the love isn't enough for them to want to heal, change, leave their toxic azz!! It's important to know the foundation of the behavior. Been there, done that❤
🌹♥️ Mr. Tripp, I have nothing but “Respect; Love; and Gratitude for your Complete Honesty”. You speaking from a man’s personal experiences and perspective; speaks volumes to me and so many other women; I pray that all women will take heed to this message; to become our “BEST and BETTER SELVES”; we have to put in the work constantly improving ourselves; and standing on our “Square”. We deserve “ONLY” the best in every area of our lives; ladies. Thank You; Mr. Tripp! Blessings and Love to You Always♥️🌹
I was a healthy woman when I got with my ex and he broke me…please for the love of your self and everything dear…walk away from these situations man/woman walk away. I have been working on myself for 3 years and no where near where I want to be because of that situation. I don’t know if another relationship is even possible❤❤❤
I cry and I pray even when times were hardest to put up with just to hear the the things coming from his mouth and all I wanted to do was walk away knowing that I do deserve better than to be treated this way , but I end up staying and being stupid in the process because I love hard . But in return all I get is someone that shows me that he’s just like how trip used to be someone not used to communicating . He isn’t bold enough to really admit it because I keep staying but maybe one day he will realize but when he does it will be too late. Ty Tripp for being man enough to show me that is not my fault that a man can eventually be real enough to admit when they are wrong by trying to fuck up something good which messes me up in the process. I don’t like who I’ve become since the fights got worse. But I have a choice and I choose me .
Loving Hard is a Super Power, and those who Authenically Love Hard are Superheroes. However, it isn't always your job save the other Person, but be the Person who can demonstrate how to save yourself. Be proud of your Heart's capacity to Love Hard, use it to Love yourself even Harder & Heavier until you feel the weight of all negative energy disintegrate from your Aura. Never stop Loving Hard, just pair that magical skill with the Art of Discernment. Nothing from your Heart will ever be wasted, all Love given from it will multiply Blessings in ways you can't even imagine. Recognize your Greatness and move forward knowing you gave your Best! Never be ashamed for fully showing up and giving your best, you are not the Fool, only those who could not recognize your Heart are at the loss. Forgive yourself for not always honoring yourself in the ways you wish had. Make up for your own self betrayal by doing better each day at the pace you can... Think of it like weight training. In a year, you will be so far from where you are now and you will be so proud of your own growth. Just stay the course, cleanse your Spirit with Honesty and Empathy, practice Self Care, and continue to sprinkle Love around people, places, and things that you believe could use a bit of your Brightness without compromising your Light. You got this 🤗💗 Infinite Love and Gratitude, Asè Namasté AMEN 🙏🏾💗
Idk why this particular video came up in my algorithm but I literally just had to make this decision 2 days ago. It hurts to have to walk away from someone I love so much but it became impossible. I had to choose between my mental health, my spiritual growth and him. I feel like if it was for me, it wouldn’t have come down to that no matter how bad I wanted it. He was great man in so many ways but I don’t think he even truly believed that about himself, although he came off as arrogant. Truth is he can’t love me because he doesn’t love himself and lacks the communication skill or ambition to do the work needed.
At 43 I'm still learning how to communicate with my woman without trying to make her feel attacked or making her feel om picking at her because of the way I was raised
🌹😪Please! Please! Don’t discount and disrespect the fact that she asked the question? Just maybe; she was raised in the same type of environment as Tripp; therefore; she could have asked the question for so many different reasons. When you don’t know; you just don’t know; it’s nothing wrong with asking questions; know matter your age; it’s simply increasing your knowledge about health relationships. I’m glad she asked the question; so many people want to ask questions; but are afraid to; they rather “ASSUME” or “APEAR” that they know; when in reality they don’t. When we learn better; we be and do better! At least we should always try to do better; than the day before. Fear of not asking questions have silenced so many people; that’s being “STUCK”!!! Please; gave her some “GRACE”! Thanks and Be Blessed 😪🌹🙏
Idk if she will do it...but I know she doesn't want to. Why? Cause most women always feel that they can change a man...even though reality says they can't. But they will look at a guy like him and say...well he changed, so my man can too. I guess they don't realize that these type of dudes are few and far between. So they stay there longer than they should...end up losing their self and self worth, esteem and everything...until they are completely broken and a shell of what they used to be...never to return. It's sad, but definitely a reality. I hope more women wake up soon. FR. IJS
I've been here too and couldn't understand the reason why that men was the way he was but hearing and listening to this made me fully aware of wat he was going through..I swear he was a good guy just wasn't ready or fully equipped he needs more time to grow and I fully understand that so I had to leave for my own sanity...no regrets none whatsoever
Let's not leave women outta the equation there is enough hurt and unhealed trauma to go around. Notice he referenced his relationship with his MOM before. This is foundational failure he had to overcome.
MANY of us aren't equipped and even more aren't willing to get equipped to be in a healthy relationship because IT TAKES WORK and patience and we want what we want RIGHT NOW regardless of who we continue to hurt, including not realize that we're continuing to hurt ourselves. If you're the healthy one, leave for yourself!
The first comment from a woman considering both sides and that it’s not always the man fault. That’s the self awareness and being equipped that is needed to have a successful relationship that he’s talking about.
They NEVER Wanna hear to leave them. Cause most women Always Feel like they can change a guy. Most fully reformed former toxic guys say the same thing. But these women look at THE FEW out here that so happen to change and say, yeah my man gonna change like him. Not knowing that that's very few and far between. So it's best to get with a guy equally yoked with you on that level...or stay there and keep damaging your self worth, self esteem and every little good in you that's left. FR
I pray that I can truly do the work for healing. I really realize that I got problems and issues and I have hurt and destroyed others by my toxicity they didn't and don't deserve that. Thank you for allowing me to see myself.
The only thing I take accountability for is, letting my ex treat me poorly. Not leaving and staying gone for good the first time he disrespected me that relationship definitely changed me as well as made me broken inside. When he screamed “oh me and my new girlfriend gonna have something different I’ll send you wedding invitations” that’s when I knew his intentions were nothing but trying to hurt me as a woman I know I have an attitude to certain things I didn’t like about him but he was so disrespectful towards me and I didn’t know how naive I was until now as I reflect back on it he was just using me to get him a gun and give him sex whenever he wants with no attachment I thank god I didn’t give him that gun and made the right decision he says I didn’t hold him down when he needed me but I felt like I did but it’s so much i can tolerate from him and i can’t keep accepting bare minimum from someone that I loved especially when he kept comparing me to other women and putting other women first but always turn around and ask me for something an opinion about another woman, money, advice, ideas, sex, a gun, empathy, support, compassion, I just honestly can say he never loved me
I also think there is some trauma there that needs to be healed for a women who is dealing with the toxic man it’s not all him. She may be great and sweet to the man but what allows her to not know her true value to get a man that will be healthy for her. All in all sounds like they aligned and vibrated at the moment so they could grow in the end. They need to put me on this show on that stage. Love and prosperity beautiful ppl.
This sounds like my X. A lot of people are used to what they're used to and they keep the trend going😢😂 Broken relationship is normal. Support and love is odd😮
Woe, how many women have silent tears creating a maze on their face. How many women sit in the room staying still to keep their composure. How many women are running their fingers on my words like braille because they feel me….. I used to go to the car wash to hide my tear and scream playing “ duck duck goose “with the bubbles as the washed the residue away. When the blower came on, I’d sit myself up, adjust my rear view mirror and sip my expensive coffee then drive back home and find my space again! To be continued. Just now, Author Sandra Northard 8-8-24
@@StephanieAsandra23 oh my sweetheart. I hope you are safe, and know that you are loved and lovable. You are His glorious child. My first name happens to be Sandra. My hope for you is freedom in your wealth of healing. I told myself one day, if you are over 3 feet tall or whatever your measure. Refuse to drown in two feet of water. Reach for help or holler for some. At the age of five I was kidnapped, r word and the stranger tried to drown me. I was found the next day. However, without, instructions, family values, or hope. Somehow, I made it to a half of 100. I bare, the scars of a warrior. At times I can’t ever recognize myself in strength. Then “ Sister Sun” shows up and hands me just enough light to make it through. I choose to take my joy in a rose colored crystal glass. That way I can feel fancy. With sweet rhythm in my hips, I will never tolerate, cheating or hitting. I suspect you know that deep down. None of this wizardry, or my mother’s Christian values use or names specifically. He knows what we can carry. He has given us agency to collect the gold out of each hidden place. Then prepare for, wisdom in deserving an opening for structure, healing then recovery. Don’t ever forget recovery. I am, dark brown, slick with spinning words and full of the hope that someone will take my words, then apply what’s needed. Apple scented rain, peach gumdrops and all the freedom in the world to dance with diamonds! Just now, 8-8-24 8:18 Authorsandranorthard
Don’t assume because he’s talking to a woman you don’t need to look at yourself in this position as well. Is it you! That’s not built to be in a relationship with someone who is equipped to be in a relationship.
Ladies look no further than how a man was raised, his home environment, his relationship with his parent (s). So many context clues are overlooked, (with regard to patterns and behaviors )the answers are right In front of you. Use your observation skills.
@@StephanieAsandra23 (Yes) & Pops, most men haven't had a man to DEMONSTRATE what being a MAN is or what being in a healthy relationship looks like. 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 - 30 baby mommas ain't healthy.
When a father or mother has caused their children to sin up to adulthood, the best advice I can give u, is to follow our LORD & SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST!! He will 4give your sins, if u R truly sorry in your heart & HE knows a liar B4 the liar lies🤷🏽♀️ He teaches a boy how to become a man & he teaches a woman how to not be a Jezebel. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord". (Proverbs 18:22)
Do you think the foul language helped the delivery at all? Just because you were “toxic” doesn’t mean you have to stay “toxic.” If you want to communicate better, then communicate BETTER!…🤔🤨🤦🏽♂️💯💯💯
Tripp you need to make videos, write a book. We need just pure truth. All the fake living we are doing has so many people unable to live there true self because it is not accepted! Self evaluation is a must. Toxic has become the normal for unnormal people.
The amount of healing, growth, self-awareness, and strength it took for him to be fully transparent is commendable
@@BrieSantiago Indeed
It's called accountability. Which most men have.
@@grindhard4312False 🫤🙄
@@grindhard4312 having worked in corrections for 18 years, having worked with thousands of men, I beg to differ. Most men aren't accountable they don't know or recognize how, where or why they have careened off the track, or how to be accountable for what they've done.
It takes work and it's not impossible
Sex aint never enough to keep somebody, but sex is all everybody promote 🤔
@@js43168 OMG 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 No lies told
Everything is about sex, except for sex. Sex is about power!
🌹♥️🌹 Your mind is your “GREATEST ASSET AND POWER”!!!! Your body; mind; heart; and soul does exactly; what you programmed it to do; or you allow others to program your mind for you (it all starts with a thought🤔 your mind). Normally, when this behavior occurs; you don’t know your self value or worth as a woman; you marked your price tag down. You are not for sale! You are to “EXPENSIVE”( you are priceless 😉). Sometimes women feel that they have to be in a relationship; to be validated or valued; that’s not true. Men study a woman behavior to know if she’s: easy; vulnerable; toxic; courageous; strong; does she know her value; herself worth; loves herself;….etc; in order to know how to approach you and achieve his ultimate goal “YOU”! When a woman shows a man she loves; values; and knows herself worth; he is going to be more cautious of how he approaches you. Men will treat a woman the way they see you treat yourself and the way “YOU” allows him to treat you. God did not create you to be man’s doormat. You are created: beautiful; fearfully and wonderfully made…..Psalm 139:14; Praise of a virtuous woman……Proverbs 31:10-31; Song Of Solomon is a love song sung by the two lovers; a love story; Chapters 1-8; Trust in the LORD with all your heart……Proverbs 3:5-6; please read these scriptures in your spare time; I pray these scriptures will help and comfort you. Some men are “Gaslighters; Narcissists; Toxic;…..etc . Two books I would recommend reading: Enough is Enough (A Step -by- Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God’s Help) David E. Clarke; PhD with William G. Clarke; MA (Biblical References) and How to Deal with Toxic People; Gregory L. Jantz, PhD with Keith Wall. I found these two books was very helpful; eye opening; informative; and inspiring (letting me know it wasn’t my fault; but helpful). Thanks for allowing me to share; 🙏 Asking GOD; to Bless and Cover; each and everyone one who read my comment. Let me say: some men are also being abused as well; by some women. We all need to try to be our “BEST and BETTER SELVES”! Many Blessings and Much Love To Each and Everyone Always🌹♥️🌹🙏
How did sex get mentioned from what tripp is talking about 😳
@@counterpunch559 it don't matter who you are or what situation you're in, you got to bring something to the table beside sex if you want to keep anybody
I really needed to hear Trip truth! “Some men literally is not equipped to be in a healthy relationship with a healthy woman” I had to leave him too😔😔😔
Yes
Truth
Unfortunately, there's a lot of men and women who never received the tools to exist in healthy situations.
90 percent of you women are not healthy
Even as a man i can agree with that one... i dont think most people know what to do with someone who is genuinely emotionally intelligent
That's honesty. No blaming, no justification, no adulteration, no misrepresentation, no sexism, no religion. Truth is freedom.
@@benefique-gz9lv Indeed 🌹
Facts 💯 sometimes we feel sorry for someone, because we actually love them. Until one day you realize they’re breaking you down mentally. Often times we start dying inside.
So true
👏👏👏👏👏
@@Child_of_the_most_High_God 🌹
Listen to him make me realize i need to continue to work on myself. As a man in his 40's i learn who i am as a person
@@mikeanderson9613 I’m happy this video helped
I just love the transparency and wisdom that flows when “Tripp” speaks!!!
This is what accountability looks like ladies.
@@grindhard4312 Indeed
This is what "Know Thy Self" looks like, self awareness looks like and healing past trauma looks like and what being INTENTIONAL looks like.
@@ltaylor5539 Amen 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
He is amazing.
@@minapane indeed
Well said! Ladies we make it too complicated. Just 🏃🏿♀️➡️🏃🏿♀️➡️🏃🏿♀️➡️🏃🏿♀️➡️🏃🏿♀️➡️
@@dclarke1896 🌹
Accountability at its best. We gotta be able to identify where we're weak at and talk about it. No need to fuss and cuss about it let's work on it. Hats off tripp great message
@@antoniobundy1087 Yes I agree
That's why I'm focused on raising my daughter I don't trust relationships anymore cause people don't know how to be faithful anymore 💯
Sadly but so true
I absolutely love this Kings wisdom ❤❤❤
Amen
I kept sayin, "im broken & can't do this"... until I HEARD MYSELF SAAYYYY, "IM BROKEN", IM BROKEN IIIMMM BROKEN!!! Once I not only heard myself, I FELT my words... I was able to Heal myself, I looked in the mirror, went to therapy &&&&& took my Shahada!!! Broken NO MORE!!! BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH BISMILLAAH!!!🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽💯💯💯
I’m so happy & Proud of you 🌹
Alhamdulillah!
@@StephanieAsandra23
Thank u💯
@@kiaj.d.5855
SUBHAN'ALLAH!!!
@@billiismith6054 u welcome 🌹
I'm god 🙏 I'm Steele living righteousness
@@MichaelHamiltonbrockyhammon 🌹
Hearing advice from men, especially men who changed for the better, is wonderful to a woman like me.
@@nathalieduverna6963 Amen
FACTS❤❤❤
This is so true. You have to know the hurt the person has. Address it and encourage them to heal. If they don't want to, leave them. Hurt people hurt people. If the love isn't enough for them to want to heal, change, leave their toxic azz!! It's important to know the foundation of the behavior. Been there, done that❤
I agree
Thank you 🙏🏽💚much needed. I made the right decision
@@Sonja.8097 Stay Blessed 🌹
Thank you Trip....you just broke down my NOW EX-BOYFRIEND...the same exact reason why I left...im tired, fed up,and couldnt take it no more 😢
@@kimberlylindsey3774 🌹
🌹♥️ Mr. Tripp, I have nothing but “Respect; Love; and Gratitude for your Complete Honesty”. You speaking from a man’s personal experiences and perspective; speaks volumes to me and so many other women; I pray that all women will take heed to this message; to become our “BEST and BETTER SELVES”; we have to put in the work constantly improving ourselves; and standing on our “Square”. We deserve “ONLY” the best in every area of our lives; ladies. Thank You; Mr. Tripp! Blessings and Love to You Always♥️🌹
@@janediajones-caraway7291 Blessings 🌹
@@StephanieAsandra23
🌹💕Blessings to you as well 💕🌹
@@janediajones-caraway7291 Thank u 🌹
Love this man he is so real and on point
@@carmenj9273 indeed
That was so powerful and revitalising to hear. Thank you for the beautiful message
@@faitha.b5310 🌹
I literally can sit and listen to him all day ❤💯🙏🏾🔥🥰so wise
I was a healthy woman when I got with my ex and he broke me…please for the love of your self and everything dear…walk away from these situations man/woman walk away. I have been working on myself for 3 years and no where near where I want to be because of that situation. I don’t know if another relationship is even possible❤❤❤
@@Shayrh2007 I’m proud of you for getting out of that relationship & choosing you. 🌹
I cry and I pray even when times were hardest to put up with just to hear the the things coming from his mouth and all I wanted to do was walk away knowing that I do deserve better than to be treated this way , but I end up staying and being stupid in the process because I love hard . But in return all I get is someone that shows me that he’s just like how trip used to be someone not used to communicating . He isn’t bold enough to really admit it because I keep staying but maybe one day he will realize but when he does it will be too late. Ty Tripp for being man enough to show me that is not my fault that a man can eventually be real enough to admit when they are wrong by trying to fuck up something good which messes me up in the process. I don’t like who I’ve become since the fights got worse. But I have a choice and I choose me .
@@veelee0505 Amen im Glad that you made that choice. By putting you first.
Loving Hard is a Super Power, and those who Authenically Love Hard are Superheroes. However, it isn't always your job save the other Person, but be the Person who can demonstrate how to save yourself. Be proud of your Heart's capacity to Love Hard, use it to Love yourself even Harder & Heavier until you feel the weight of all negative energy disintegrate from your Aura. Never stop Loving Hard, just pair that magical skill with the Art of Discernment. Nothing from your Heart will ever be wasted, all Love given from it will multiply Blessings in ways you can't even imagine. Recognize your Greatness and move forward knowing you gave your Best! Never be ashamed for fully showing up and giving your best, you are not the Fool, only those who could not recognize your Heart are at the loss. Forgive yourself for not always honoring yourself in the ways you wish had. Make up for your own self betrayal by doing better each day at the pace you can... Think of it like weight training. In a year, you will be so far from where you are now and you will be so proud of your own growth. Just stay the course, cleanse your Spirit with Honesty and Empathy, practice Self Care, and continue to sprinkle Love around people, places, and things that you believe could use a bit of your Brightness without compromising your Light. You got this 🤗💗 Infinite Love and Gratitude, Asè Namasté AMEN 🙏🏾💗
@@dr.100purrscent5 Thank you so much for writing this I too need to do everything of what you wrote. Thank you again.
@@dr.100purrscent5 Stay Blessed 🌹
@@dr.100purrscent5 🌹“Beautifully” stated. Thank you; sharing words of encouragement and love. “God Bless You”.🌹🙏
Now that was a word, THANK YOU❤
@@Coachkmore You are so welcome 🌹
Idk why this particular video came up in my algorithm but I literally just had to make this decision 2 days ago. It hurts to have to walk away from someone I love so much but it became impossible. I had to choose between my mental health, my spiritual growth and him. I feel like if it was for me, it wouldn’t have come down to that no matter how bad I wanted it. He was great man in so many ways but I don’t think he even truly believed that about himself, although he came off as arrogant. Truth is he can’t love me because he doesn’t love himself and lacks the communication skill or ambition to do the work needed.
@@therenaflint2474 Wow. I’m happy that you decided to leave & Choose you. 🌹
Learned that the hard and painful way. You can only love them at a distance.
I think he just help me finally to forgive someone
@@selkertazumi9660 🌹
At 43 I'm still learning how to communicate with my woman without trying to make her feel attacked or making her feel om picking at her because of the way I was raised
@@quintidwell99 🌹
I love how universal this message is. Prayers for all seeking courage to release what no longer serves them.
@@ExistentialMusings AMEN 🌹
She ain't gon leave him. Needing to even ask the question shows she's still STUCK
🌹😪Please! Please! Don’t discount and disrespect the fact that she asked the question? Just maybe; she was raised in the same type of environment as Tripp; therefore; she could have asked the question for so many different reasons. When you don’t know; you just don’t know; it’s nothing wrong with asking questions; know matter your age; it’s simply increasing your knowledge about health relationships. I’m glad she asked the question; so many people want to ask questions; but are afraid to; they rather “ASSUME” or “APEAR” that they know; when in reality they don’t. When we learn better; we be and do better! At least we should always try to do better; than the day before. Fear of not asking questions have silenced so many people; that’s being “STUCK”!!! Please; gave her some “GRACE”! Thanks and Be Blessed 😪🌹🙏
Lmfao soo fcuking true
@@janediajones-caraway7291Thank u my luv 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Idk if she will do it...but I know she doesn't want to.
Why? Cause most women always feel that they can change a man...even though reality says they can't.
But they will look at a guy like him and say...well he changed, so my man can too. I guess they don't realize that these type of dudes are few and far between.
So they stay there longer than they should...end up losing their self and self worth, esteem and everything...until they are completely broken and a shell of what they used to be...never to return. It's sad, but definitely a reality. I hope more women wake up soon. FR. IJS
Facts
I've been here too and couldn't understand the reason why that men was the way he was but hearing and listening to this made me fully aware of wat he was going through..I swear he was a good guy just wasn't ready or fully equipped he needs more time to grow and I fully understand that so I had to leave for my own sanity...no regrets none whatsoever
I’m happy you put u first. Blessings Queen 🌹
This is the realest shit 🔥🔥🔥❤️🔥
I love how he speaks...how he carries himself and from a place of I've really learned and don't feel bad about sharing his mistakes.
@@DashaTheDivineDivah Exactly 🌹
Jus listening heals
Wooowwww 🤯 some of best advice I've EVER heard! Thank you King ❤
Finally the truth!! Wow! 🤯 never ever ever expected to hear this from him! Wow
@@dirtytalkvegas 🌹
That's the majority of men. Ill equipped.
So are majority of the women. Ill equipped
It goes both ways!!
Let's not leave women outta the equation there is enough hurt and unhealed trauma to go around. Notice he referenced his relationship with his MOM before. This is foundational failure he had to overcome.
Amen 🙏🏾
TRIPP comes with DA TRUTH one mo' time!!
@@elliotselmon7581 Amen
This type of honesty is so rare these days.
So true
Tripp, for the honesty❤!
But did she get the MESSAGE though⁉️📌
@@misslewis5141 I’m not sure if she was able to or not.
That’s real!!
MANY of us aren't equipped and even more aren't willing to get equipped to be in a healthy relationship because IT TAKES WORK and patience and we want what we want RIGHT NOW regardless of who we continue to hurt, including not realize that we're continuing to hurt ourselves. If you're the healthy one, leave for yourself!
@@Peacealways247 AMEN AMEN AMEN 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@Peacealways247 I just Subscribed to your yt page please start making content.
Why I’m single and continuing to work on me!
The first comment from a woman considering both sides and that it’s not always the man fault.
That’s the self awareness and being equipped that is needed to have a successful relationship that he’s talking about.
@@Mrreal1871 🌹
This was powerful on so many levels! Tripp is the epitome of healing and self reflection.
@@tiffanywilliams7264 Amen
Facts 💯✨ Cant expect love or anything like that from someone who's never had it or experience it..!!
@@mzmagnolia2940 So True 🌹
Real talk!! 💯🎯
Well said, power self awareness and accountability 🙏🙏🙏
Indeed
If that's not emotional maturity and accountability, then I don't know what is.
@@Taisha12001 So true 👏👏👏👏
They NEVER Wanna hear to leave them. Cause most women Always Feel like they can change a guy.
Most fully reformed former toxic guys say the same thing. But these women look at THE FEW out here that so happen to change and say, yeah my man gonna change like him. Not knowing that that's very few and far between.
So it's best to get with a guy equally yoked with you on that level...or stay there and keep damaging your self worth, self esteem and every little good in you that's left. FR
True
Be looking for every excuse to stay!
@@staceywilliams1863 FR. Crazy!
All truth and nothing but the truth 💯
@@Truck_Her_Life1 Amen
Well Said🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Triiiipp! I LOVE his mind!!
@@intodaysepisode... Agreed
This is true. I could see this with one guy I met
@@courtneysmith3497 indeed
Surely did😝thanks Trip, but I think I saw this afterward. When enough is enough it's enough....dem wise words from Maxine😊luh u grandma
@@PerfectContradiction 🌹
Definitely felt that ❤
I pray that I can truly do the work for healing. I really realize that I got problems and issues and I have hurt and destroyed others by my toxicity they didn't and don't deserve that. Thank you for allowing me to see myself.
@@kennysmith9505 I have faith that you’ll do the work to be the best you you can be ❤️
Find a good therapist. You can do it...
You’ve already taken the first step!
The only thing I take accountability for is, letting my ex treat me poorly. Not leaving and staying gone for good the first time he disrespected me that relationship definitely changed me as well as made me broken inside. When he screamed “oh me and my new girlfriend gonna have something different I’ll send you wedding invitations” that’s when I knew his intentions were nothing but trying to hurt me as a woman I know I have an attitude to certain things I didn’t like about him but he was so disrespectful towards me and I didn’t know how naive I was until now as I reflect back on it he was just using me to get him a gun and give him sex whenever he wants with no attachment I thank god I didn’t give him that gun and made the right decision he says I didn’t hold him down when he needed me but I felt like I did but it’s so much i can tolerate from him and i can’t keep accepting bare minimum from someone that I loved especially when he kept comparing me to other women and putting other women first but always turn around and ask me for something an opinion about another woman, money, advice, ideas, sex, a gun, empathy, support, compassion, I just honestly can say he never loved me
I’m so sorry my luv 🌹
I love his ending 😂😂❤
@@smc5127 Me too lol
Truth
This is why I'm not currently in a relationship. The (2) men I've loved weren't healed, and I wasn't damaged enough to stay.
@@ltaylor5539 I FELT THAT
@@StephanieAsandra23, just reality, but also a little sad and a little unfortunate.
I've been there done that with my last relationship. I definitely stayed
@@aquaearthnfirequ_pinsnsavi1721 🌹
That’s was the realest shit
@@Jade-Phoenix indeed 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Powerful 💫❤
Indeed
Coming from a young man with the mature wisdom❤
Definitely also goes for women. Many are just not ready for a man who is balanced and ready to build and up destroying 🙏🏾
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I love Trip! Intelligent Brother
@@lsmile1402 indeed
I wish I could of heard the question...
Me too
I so love this and all the advice this platform gives
Love this....
👏👏👏 that was powerful
@@whoknew5940 indeed
Whew, this hit home with my ex husband.😢
I’m so sorry 🌹
I also think there is some trauma there that needs to be healed for a women who is dealing with the toxic man it’s not all him. She may be great and sweet to the man but what allows her to not know her true value to get a man that will be healthy for her. All in all sounds like they aligned and vibrated at the moment so they could grow in the end. They need to put me on this show on that stage. Love and prosperity beautiful ppl.
@@DevotionforNatasha Blessings 🌹
O wow 😮❤
How he want to be committed to me but lives with someone else...GOTFO.....
@@cibby2192 Men smh
This sounds like my X. A lot of people are used to what they're used to and they keep the trend going😢😂 Broken relationship is normal. Support and love is odd😮
Sadly yes
Tripp, I love your truth ~ Growth
@@arelliacorley8252 Amen
Wow Beautiful.Thank You😊💯
@@robynwinfield4024 u are so welcome 🌹
😮💨😮💨😮💨
@@ang3101 🌹
Wow💚
Woe, how many women have silent tears creating a maze on their face. How many women sit in the room staying still to keep their composure. How many women are running their fingers on my words like braille because they feel me….. I used to go to the car wash to hide my tear and scream playing “ duck duck goose “with the bubbles as the washed the residue away. When the blower came on, I’d sit myself up, adjust my rear view mirror and sip my expensive coffee then drive back home and find my space again! To be continued. Just now, Author Sandra Northard 8-8-24
@@spiritledpoetess394 This is my life u just typed… 🌹
@@StephanieAsandra23 oh my sweetheart. I hope you are safe, and know that you are loved and lovable. You are His glorious child. My first name happens to be Sandra. My hope for you is freedom in your wealth of healing. I told myself one day, if you are over 3 feet tall or whatever your measure. Refuse to drown in two feet of water. Reach for help or holler for some. At the age of five I was kidnapped, r word and the stranger tried to drown me. I was found the next day. However, without, instructions, family values, or hope. Somehow, I made it to a half of 100. I bare, the scars of a warrior. At times I can’t ever recognize myself in strength. Then “ Sister Sun” shows up and hands me just enough light to make it through. I choose to take my joy in a rose colored crystal glass. That way I can feel fancy. With sweet rhythm in my hips, I will never tolerate, cheating or hitting. I suspect you know that deep down. None of this wizardry, or my mother’s Christian values use or names specifically. He knows what we can carry. He has given us agency to collect the gold out of each hidden place. Then prepare for, wisdom in deserving an opening for structure, healing then recovery. Don’t ever forget recovery. I am, dark brown, slick with spinning words and full of the hope that someone will take my words, then apply what’s needed. Apple scented rain, peach gumdrops and all the freedom in the world to dance with diamonds! Just now, 8-8-24 8:18
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@@spiritledpoetess394 I understand oh so well beloved. Thank you for your time & words. 🌹
@@StephanieAsandra23 💜💜💜💜💜
Don’t assume because he’s talking to a woman you don’t need to look at yourself in this position as well.
Is it you! That’s not built to be in a relationship with someone who is equipped to be in a relationship.
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Ladies look no further than how a man was raised, his home environment, his relationship with his parent (s). So many context clues are overlooked, (with regard to patterns and behaviors
)the answers are right In front of you. Use your observation skills.
@@ltaylor5539 Yes check out the whole family Mother Grandmother Brothers Sister EVERYBODY.
@@StephanieAsandra23 (Yes) & Pops, most men haven't had a man to DEMONSTRATE what being a MAN is or what being in a healthy relationship looks like. 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 - 30 baby mommas ain't healthy.
@@StephanieAsandra23 , but the foundational relationships are mother and father. Hence Daddy Issues/ Mother Issues.
@@ltaylor5539 True indeed
Wow!! That's good!!
When a father or mother has caused their children to sin up to adulthood, the best advice I can give u, is to follow our LORD & SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST!! He will 4give your sins, if u R truly sorry in your heart & HE knows a liar B4 the liar lies🤷🏽♀️ He teaches a boy how to become a man & he teaches a woman how to not be a Jezebel. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord". (Proverbs 18:22)
Amen
Sound advice.
Indeed
That goes both ways too dont know what a healthy relationship is 😒✌
Do you think the foul language helped the delivery at all? Just because you were “toxic” doesn’t mean you have to stay “toxic.” If you want to communicate better, then communicate BETTER!…🤔🤨🤦🏽♂️💯💯💯
@@abdul-qawi9531 🤷🏽♀️
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You gotta do the work on self!
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Tripp you need to make videos, write a book. We need just pure truth. All the fake living we are doing has so many people unable to live there true self because it is not accepted! Self evaluation is a must. Toxic has become the normal for unnormal people.
@@hapshabyahyisrael9810 Sadly so true
People have to be willing to heal themselves, or they'll deflect the pain their ignoring everytime.
I agree 🌹
Ok, so toxic men toxic women go to therapy before you consider getting into a serious monogamous relationship. Fix yourself first.
Amen
Most modern women are not equipped for healthy relationships. He’s absolutely spot on. Leave bruhs.
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You learn to see and hear things first... kindergarten. Then you get yelled at because talking and seeing it every day did not work.
So true
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The best advice stop listening to the panel for answers
@@jmak5552 , listen for insight because many people lack insight.
Same shit her girlfriends told her to do but sounds good coming from Trip…
lol