Why do divorced men seek a new life in the Philippines?
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- In this insightful video, we delve into the often unspoken challenges faced by men who have endured divorce and other life traumas. Our focus is on how the Philippines can open new doors for them, offering a path to recovery and new beginnings. We critically examine the reasons why dysfunctional couples might choose to stay together, often masking their struggles under the veil of moral obligations. And sometimes misguided religious beliefs? This includes a compelling story of an educated, religious man who grappled with the fear of sin and social rejection that divorce might bring.
Our discussion extends to the role of fear as a driving force in people's lives and and confuse individuals in such situations. We emphasize the importance of utilizing the Holy Spirit and sound judgment to navigate these complex scenarios, rather than succumbing to fear or confusion.
We also explore the harmful impact of staying in abusive relationships 'for the sake of the kids', and how this decision, often seen as noble, can actually be detrimental to children's wellbeing. The video addresses the concept of generational traumas - how the experiences of our ancestors, including those from wars or associations with controversial groups, can affect not just them but future generations, a concept sometimes referred to biblically as the "sins of the father".
This video is not an endorsement of divorce, but rather a call for understanding and wisdom. We urge couples to seek spiritual guidance and encourage viewers to learn from past mistakes to create a better future for themselves and the next generations.
Additionally, we tackle the stigma surrounding Western men seeking Filipina partners, aiming to dispel the misconceptions and prejudices often rooted in jealousy and misunderstanding.
Best on your journey of understanding, learning, and healing. Subscribe for more insightful content, and remember to stay safe and God bless.
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Please note, I'm NOT promoting divorce. Just questioning the real reasons couples in bad marriages stay together.
I dont think your promoting divorce mate, I see you just sharing your opinion on some important facts. Good video👍
Appreciate that. Glad to have you here as a subscriber. Look forward to more of your comments soon!
People that are involved in bad marriages are not victims. Everybody gets married really young (20's and early 30's) with a partner that they BARELY know. It takes more than 5 years to really know a person, it takes waiting for things to get bad before getting married to see if the relationship and the two people involved have what it takes to work together to get out of the lows.
The reality is that nobody is willing to spend the time that its required and survive the hardships together before making the commitment to be together FOR LIFE. They stand in an altar and recite fake promises. It's called the ignorance path, one of the main topics in buddhism that brings suffering.
They are reaping what they sow from their ignorant actions. The worst part is that they get divorced and then go on to repeat the same pattern again and again...... just keep walking on the ignorance path and keep suffering while victimising themselves so they never have to take accountability......
Finding a wife in a poor country is perpetuating the ignorance. You have learn nothing.
@@user-pr8pt8yc7q Well first of all your presumptions about me getting married are false. You make some interesting points though about people getting married young without knowing each other well...Your statement about marrying people from poor countries is possibly ignorant as well- wouldn't you say? Can you elaborate on why that would be ignorant? People have successful marriages from different socioeconomic classes, so you're wrong on a few counts... Since you're playing the role of a grand master here.
@@user-pr8pt8yc7qBtw how would a person taking accountability for getting into a bad marriage be victimizing themselves? Seems like you came here with your little simplistic Buddist speech and agenda without understanding this video. That's ignorant as well 😉 I won't be surprised if you don't reply, I'm sure you have not much more to offer this conversation.
In the part of India where I live everything is about status, money, who is better than who! It sucks. Humans need more people like you on TH-cam to have peace!
That's kind of you. Peace is something good to have. Sometimes difficult when thinking about or discussing controversial topics. Appreciate your comment, please come back soon.
It's about that everywhere
I’m a filipina married an American we have 2 kids 24 and 20 years old and we’ve been married for 26 years, we lived here in San Antonio Texas. Wish you a Happy New Year and enjoy your stay in the Philippines 🇵🇭
Sounds like you have a good family. Glad it's working out for you! Appreciate your kind words. Please come back soon.
@@Expat_Philippines Yes and I thank god for all the blessings I have.
Good explanation, you can be a good Preacher
Lol thanks. I don't think I'd qualify though...
I believe that Filipinos are naturally compassionate, caring and most loving person , and that can be proven by all the nurses servicing in different countries like majority in the US.The Filipino values that we have specially the strong family ties and the above level family orientation that we have is our greatest priority. We never leave behind our loveones that easily particularly the elders from our parents , grandparetns and even our siblings.
It's not just only Filipinos.
@@simplelifeme2741 that is right and I never said to my comment that other countries are not.
It's ok I'll say it...I think Filipinos can be more compassionate than some other countries 😁
@@Expat_Philippines is your wife not more compassionate enough coz you said she' s a Filipino.
@@marlondenoyo4900 I don't understand the question. Maybe rephrase that one...
Be strong ang stay safe and take good care of your son. May God bless.
Excellent vlog about a real issue.
I've know couples who stay together because they say they love eachother, yet they're extremely unhappy & been ripping eachother apart for many years. The end result is always the same for these types, they end up causuing so much damage to eachother (& their kids, if they have) that they become to hate eachother, resent eachother, are even repulsed by eachother.
Then there's the on-going mental damage & scars to deal with.
That's not love they had for eachother, it's maybe lust & feelings because of lust they once had...but it's absolutely not love.
I've had two very long term relationships & both of them, we parted on great terms & remained great friends.
It's because we respected eachother, always..
That's codependency
@@Inquisitor2024
In some cases sure, plus also darn right stupidity.
Thank you for sharing with us those stories...Please come back soon and offer more insights!
Agree.A lot of expat who married a Filipina are divorce. My husband was divorce when I married him. Is a filipina if your kind to Filipina, rest assured we will not leave our man
OLD FOREIGNER FIND YOUNG FILIPINAS AS FILIPINO I SUGGEST TO FIND LEGALLY OLD WOMEN IF YOU ARE OLD FOREIGNER TOO BCOZ OLDER FILIPINA WHO IS LEGALLY SINGLE IS MUCH MORE EXPERINCE THAN A YOUNG ONE
So nice to hear this. I believe the bible too about God commandments so I rather stay single now if God will not give me the right man. I was in trauma when my xpartner left me with another woman after all these years we love each other. He fall to someone, I was all broken but God lift me up and show me that everything is ok. For the best of my life that He took away someone so important in my life. God wants to show me He is the most important first in my life ❤
Once again your common sense comes through honest and strong! My philosophy is if things are not working out change it. I'm not a pro divorce kind of guy because you have to work at it both parties, because love is on a two way street. As far as the kids are concerned, they will survive because fatherhood or motherhood and its responsibility dosen"t stop when one is no longer there. The parent has to maintain contact. I remember when I was in the service I read articles regarding why GI"s were marrying European women and not those stateside. The european women were having it out with the stateside women for the same reasons we hear and see today. There was a sergeant on a work detail with his platoon and here comes his stateside wife with hair undone screaming at him because he forgot something he was supposed to do. He was humiliated in front of his platoon. In a similar situation, a german wife well dress with heels and her little poodle called out to her Sgt husband. He went to see what she wanted. She was smiling and everything appeared ok. The Sgt said hurry up guys my wife is piss at me and his team were like she dosen't look piss off at all. The german wife understood her husband position and would not humiliate him. She had sense to solve the issue in the privacy of thier home. This may also explain why more American men are searching relationships with foreign women, Phillipines, Mexico, France, Taiwan, Romania etc.
Interesting story... Appreciate you sharing that. Please write again soon.
You want desperate women who are use to abuse.
@@robinluich6626 We've been waiting for your kind to show up... Men like us don't need the negativity and gender confused masculine energy trying to run our home. We're tired of being discriminated against by your kind.. Take care and be well. Thanks for watching. God bless.
Hi Captain Trucker, a Happy New Year too. A new subs here, I like about your topic about western men marrying Pilipinas and vice versa. Am a divorced woman myself and I really know the trauma , the pain especially. Hope to hear you again in your next vlog, thank you and have a good day.
Hi Captain Trucker ! You will find a good woman , take it easy and be patient and find a single one to avoid getting into a complicated situation. Find someone whose parents are financially independent .
I was not necessarily talking about me 😆 Appreciate your sentiment though
Few are blessed to find the ONE TRUE LOVE WHO brings out the best in himself/herself
Definitely need more video of these women, conversations with them and their views on marriage, family, etc.
That's an idea. I'm just doing my best not to flash Filipina's to much for the sake of views. Although you have a point.
@@Expat_Philippines
I would definitely like to hear how they feel and think, culture, spiritual views, religion, etc.
Thanks
Why? @@MojoMedicineMan
new subs here😊🎉 thanks for loving philippines❤
Welcome!!
Happy new year! Watching from kuwait🎉
I liked this, you come across as a genuine guy...just subscribed to watch more
Good content
Getting out of a toxic relationship ex. Married to a narcissist is not that easy because you are Trauma bonded.
How's your life now? Can you share more? Appreciate the comment.
Yea but once you realize you leave otherwise you're allowing it
the only time i 'join' a group was in the military, US Navy. now that i am retired, i am not part of any organization, religion, society, club, etc. my kids are grown up and have their own lives. in other words, i am free to do what i want, where to go, who to socialize with, and best of all - TO LIVE MY LIFE! i don't need any kind of validation from anybody to be happy.
I always enjoy the talks. Well said. God Bless you
Thank you. Hope your New Year is going well. Good to hear from you as always!
Keep safe
Hi Captain Trucker Happy New year 🎊🎆🎈…. Hope all is well… Power on 💪👍👍👍👍✌️👌
Same to you! Appreciate your comments. Please come back soon.
Amen
Appreciate your comments.
ur words are amazing
living a middle clas life is hard to keep up,,and on the end u dont realise that the hole live is past by
Nice 👍
Appreciate you coming back as always.
@@Expat_Philippines we’re always here mate!
Well, if Christ didn't suffer, we wouldn't be able to know love. Not that I want to suffer, but I learn alot thru these times of suffering. I will keep it short. Never give up.
Then there are men and women who suffer and are bitter and angry. What's the sense in that... Their reasons may not be for love.
@@Expat_Philippines I have to abide by a standard God has given to us Christians, the Bible. Read it, in it are the answers to the issues of life.
Of course. I do. I'm also aware men and women can make foolish decisions.
Thank you saying this 👍
Ako nalang hehe
Can you elaborate?
@@Expat_Philippines She want you to marry her hehehe evo wag akng tanga foreigner yan blogger tpos magtatagalog ka anong level ng katangahan meron ka ??? uso mag google translate evo type mo lng sa google english tagalog translate ok naba yun uso gamitin ang utak
At the time I was not understanding context. Just read it literally 😆
getting a divorce is not a sin but having a relationship after divorce is. Jesus explained it clearly. that is why annulment is different, because annulment nullify the marriage. there is legal separation in the PH, people don’t usually know this or maybe they don’t see the point (decent people can do this because they can follow through since PH law is not well implemented).
loving is wanting the good of others, this is why we are called to love everybody but not called to like everybody. that is why we can love even the enemy because we don’t need to like them, just sincerely wants the good for them regardless of our feelings.
the story of that couple u mentioned is sad. when love in someones heart disappears not as a couple but love for other as a person… I understand people get hurt and angry, heart get wounded. In time I hope they will have real relationship with God so they’ll understand what true love means…
"Getting a divorce is not a sin but having a relationship after divorce is"
Not sure about that...
Here's what I found from a basic search...
Remarriage After Divorce: The biblical perspective on remarriage after divorce can be more complex. In the Gospel of Matthew (Matthew 19:9), Jesus says that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery. This has led to varying interpretations among Christians about the legitimacy of remarriage, depending on the reason for divorce.
Remarriage After a Spouse’s Death: The Bible generally views remarriage after a spouse's death as permissible. In Romans 7:2-3, Paul explains that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage and is not committing adultery if she remarries.
@@Expat_Philippines
“What may appear as a loophole is a consequence of misinterpretation or mistranslation. The King James Version and others translate the passage into English words that appear to say fornication, unchastity, or adultery are exceptions that allow a divorce.
The constant teaching of the Church has been that a valid sacramental marriage can not be broken, even if one party sins. As Matthew 19:6 says, “Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” Biblical scholars, such as J. Bonsirven, have pointed out that the Greek word that is pivotal here is “porneia,” which means unlawful sexual intercourse. The Gospel does not use the Greek word “moicheia,” which is the ordinary Greek word for adultery.
The intent appears to be to distinguish a true marriage from concubinage. What is being said is that if a man and a woman are in fact married, the bond is inseparable. But if they are not married, just “living together,” then there is no lawful marriage and there can be a separation or annulment. The wording of the New American Bible for Matthew 19:9 is a translation that gives us this sense.”
there are 33,000+ denominations in US alone. so there is possibility of 33,000+ interpretations, right? early 1900’s is the start the divorce become a topic among Christians. for 1900 years, this was the common teaching. what change? for me, the change is that, people want the word of God to conform to them than them to conform God.
I understand that couple separates because it’s necessary….. I also understand that everybody can fall short of following God’s law. but misinterpreting what God said, that’s a concern. We will eventually stand in front of him, can He say, “Good and faithful servants”?
When getting married men think theyre acquiring mommy who'll do absolutely everything while hes out eating his cake to. Women want dads who'll prioritize is little girl. Yall needs too grow up first.
Lol which groups do you commonly see this in?
Philippines has more intact in terms of being family oriented and traditional relationship. Filipinoes are more loving, caring and content of the life they have with their man. True love is alot harder to find than money in this world especially if a person is getting old and all. Im single and looking for a foreign good man. I kill douche bags lols. 🤣
Filipinas have what they call a live in partner. They have children and not legally married. Many seperate; it's their form of divorce. Their rate of separation is high like the USA.
That's a good point, often overlooked. Thanks for the comment 👍
whatchu talkin' 'bout willis ??? there aren't many couples in the philippines that in a live in situation like in the west & some other countries bcuz in the philippines it's being condemned, especially by the catholic church .... as we all know,the majority of the country are catholic .... that's why,a lot of filipino parents don't like these kind of set up, especially when the ones that are involved are their daughters .... yeah, there's still some, it's happening there,but it's not something that young filipino people are looking forward to get involve with .... in the west , it's pretty common, people will live in together then get married a few years later .... in the philippines,a lot of parents won't tolerate this kind of behavior,most of the filipino families would like you settle down before living together, especially the educated filipino families .....
@@johnnier.o.d4746 You based your arguments on Catholicism in the Philippines. The Catholic church does not condone premarital sex, yet most here practice premarital sex.
I live here, many here do not have a registered marriage. I'm sure there are statistics of single mothers or grandparents rasing children that you can look up. I presented my observations more so than my opinion.
Even if the Filipina is all about money at least you know where she stands. Which is better than being with an American who doesn't know what she wants.
That's one way to put it, I guess.
The problem is Western Men. Don't Believe in Jesus. From there, I know what could go wrong. By the way.. 1 subs here.
Welcome and happy new year. Please come back soon!
You mean,,,Findind a desperate woman.
We're tired of being treated poorly by America's angry white women. Talk any negativity you desire. Your cynical perspective reveals enough as it is. We've been waiting for your kind to show up and glad you are hear...For a long time some of your people have been trying to discriminate because of the lack of interest we've shown. Call it what it is.
Subservient
@@Inquisitor2024That's an old stereotype that's biased in a gender confused society.
😂 triggered by better women you've never met
@@Freedomlives33 ?
I Think if you Divorce Already Better Stay Single Just Date Not Commit So When you ready to go just Go …. My opinion 😂😅😂 Nice Topic of the Video Though 👍👍👍✌️
Well it's a touchy subject. If you're not committing and just playing around, that can be problematic to...Please write here again soon!
I think some dude get in there, throw a bunch of money, the girl get along with that with a wifey behavior and everyone's happy until the masks fall
For some people in poverty money is not the solution for their inner peace...
Do you know the maslow pyramid ? It's a concept that explains the development of needs by an individual ---> it explains that the individual must satisfy the level 1 need before acquiring the motivation necessary to fulfill the second level need. This is valid for all the stages of Maslow's pyramid.
The level "inner peace" that you're talking about is the last level of the pyramid so theoretically people in poverty don't seek this need because all their basics needs aren't fulfilled. You seek inner peace because you're a westerner who fulfilled all other needs but those people don't have the same goal. I hope i have been clear and i invite you to see by yourself the maslow pyramid so you can understand.
Sorry for my laborious english 😄
@@Expat_Philippinesmy father told me : money does not buy happiness but it contributes greatly to it
@Antoine-gx4yl I'd argue "basic needs" is a relative concept per the culture. We are way oversaturated with Materialism. On the contrary, many Filipinos do have their basic needs fulfilled and are more at inner peace than we are in the west. Why do you think you'll see more smiling faces walking down the streets of Manila vs New York City or some other hardcore industrial city.
@@Expat_Philippinesi would argue that what is behind the smile is also different but it would be a dead end, i must say that you made a point + i don't know the phillipino culture that much.
I hope to talk again in the futur 👍🏼
Philippines has more intact in terms of being family oriented and traditional relationship. Filipinoes are more loving, caring and content of the life they have with their man. True love is alot harder to find than money in this world especially if a person is getting old and all. Im single and looking for a foreign good man. I kill douche bags lols. 🤣