15 Habits of Unhappy People and What to Do About Them | CBT Therapist Aid
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- Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Qualified Clinical Supervisor. She received her PhD in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Florida in 2002. In addition to being a practicing clinician, she has provided training to counselors, social workers, nurses and case managers internationally since 2006 through AllCEUs.com #habitsofunhappy #cognitivebehavioral #CBTtherapy
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Holding on to / dwelling / stewing on anger, anxiety
Dirty discomfort
Bottling up emotions
Emotional reasoning
Overanalyzing past, present or future situations
All or nothing thinking
Mind reading (ASS-uming)
Personalization
Pessimism / Catastrophizing
Isolation / withdrawal
Comparing self to others
Life imbalance
Lack of sufficient quality sleep
Poor nutrition
Mind-lessness / Failing to notice the positive
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 15 Habits of Unhappy People CBT Therapist Aid
00:15 15 Habits of Unhappy People (and what to do)
22:40 15 Habits of Unhappy People (and what to do) 2
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I liked the video. The thing with me I’m unhappy due to a fiancée passing away 3 years ago and it still hurts and I miss her a lot 🥺🥺
My condolences on your loss. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
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I'm sorry
@@DocSnipes do you have videos on RJ OCD
So sorry for your loss, it’s grieving and overtime you will heal…she would want you to be happy and live life to carry on for both of you
Man. She hit the spot with this one. I have to quit thinking on things that make me angry.
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Nahhh you can't do that. If it was that easy everyone could just stop thinking about anything they want to anytime. Thoughts appear spontaneously. So do moods like anger. The thoughts of something angry will arrive and you won't be able to stop them. Then you will become trapped being angry about being angry. All about not being able to stop being angry or thinking about something that makes you angry. Those thought will arrive you need the make space for them. Let them com through but don't get sucked in. A great talk on this it Michael Singer?? Think that's his name it called "not getting trapped on the waters of the mind" or something. Habe a listen to that on TH-cam.
I did this for a while. Then I realized I was rehashing old things that made me angry BECAUSE of the energy surge. I was literally using anger to fuel my day.
@@justbreakingballs You can do that!
Fill your time and your mind with positive thoughts. Everyone becomes angry of course, and sometimes it’s warranted! It’s not worth your time and energy to let it consume you.
Get angry and then get busy with getting on with your fabulous life, you deserve better!
This is all well and good, but people need to understand that anger, unhappiness, depression, or whatever other emotion you wish to call it, are the emotions that give birth to the arts and sciences. All I'm saying is that if you're upset, go over to your easel and draw something lovely, or take out your pen and paper and write a wonderful sonnet, or go into your garage and create a one-of-a-kind bird feeder for your yard, or take out your sewing machine and stitch that blouse you've been contemplating. Put your emotions into something positive, and you will feel good, and you will continue to feel good the more you apply yourself in these ways. Your project can be small and almost cost-free. Utilize your creativity.
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Jolly, Anger, hatred and jealousy can lead to severe health issues. Be aware of what you feed your mind and then there will be no unhappiness. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. You may reach a state of equanimity. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Some emotions are bad. Plain bad. You can't be creative about them at all. Being positive about the negative is virtually impossible
@@shyaaammeneen63 And ride your bike safely, alone or with a like-minded companion. It works wonders. Make sure your bicycle is in good working condition and obey all laws. Have some peaceful fun and clear your mind.
@@jolly7728 Best wishes.
Thank you Doc Snipes! I have highly recommended your videos to my friends I was on and off medications for years with no help, the last six months I have watched your videos regularly with no medicine, lots of exercise, and healthy eating and this is the best I've felt emotionally since my childhood! You are amazing and I love your voice!
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I have come to realize that I'm a totally unhappy person I guess I do hide it very well and I hold it very well sometimes this time has been the worst for me I guess I'll get some work to do
Thank you for being there and I enjoyed listening to your video and you I just don't know where to go to from here I'm at a loss
@@debbie03864 I feel you, Deborah. I understand that there are many like us. The work that we need to do, is sometimes called reparenting, re-wiring, know thy self, or awakening, etc.
I believe that my happiness, my enthusiasm for life, my courage/confidence, my love of self and others, my true worth, is most abundant when I am simply TRUE TO MYSELF. For example, when I do something that I am not comfortable doing (because someone important to me wants me to), I don’t enjoy it, I feel guilt or shame, and I am teaching myself that I cannot and don’t trust my self to determine what is acceptable for/to me…
I learned when I was young, that my feelings, thoughts, needs weren’t important, stifle them and put a smile on your face, or go away.
It’s strange that as a youngster, I naturally empathized, consoled, encouraged, listened, and loved but didn’t receive the same. My caregivers weren’t equipped/capable of such.
Anyway, I hope that you will apply yourself toward learning, understanding, awareness, knowledge; there is much true, accurate and important information available here on you tube, as well as elsewhere.
Are we born this way. I never realized how bad I was. And no wonder why people walk away from me. Who wants to be around someone like this. I'm going to work hard on this. I lost someone I love because of me . I've been crying alot n spending all my time alone. I've been this way since childhood. Negative family growing up did not help. A dad who never believed in me didn't help. A controlling mom didn't help. But I know that's over n I must work hard to change myself for the better.
You may want to look for a local, licensed professional counselor. It sounds like you have a lot to work through. Sounds like a tough childhood.
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I almost didn't watch this video because I've become a much happier person recently. However I'm glad I did because I now realize that there are still many things I can improve. Thank you
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Yep.Being Aware of your own thinking and problem helps you understand it.
I just figured out this ptsd always has me analyzing people for threats(I forgot how to relax 🙄) Also having the words to explain how I see things is a big relief... Finding UNDERSTANDING about myself is like striking bloody GOLD mate... thanks again o.g snipes 🙏 still alot to learn 😎🤙
Its true this is jennifer a "fellow subscriber" i liked the way you said it "analysing people for threats" simple truthful, clear well spoken😊
Ptsd from where?
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@@DocSnipes thank you Dr snipes 🙏 (still tripping out 😱)
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Getting to the awareness of best quality of life in context of current experience is an eye opening thought for me from this today. I've been stuck lately and all the sudden my system responded.
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Aloha Doc! Thank you for your videos. They are little gold nuggets. I appreciate you creating this channel and sharing your knowledge with low income people like myself. You are helping the poor improve their health and the quality of your life with your free videos. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Also, your new look is amazing. It’s a beautiful upgrade. You look great!
You are too kind. I appreciate your kind words, I am glad my videos can help.
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JH, Be aware of what you feed your mind and then there will be no unhappiness. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 I am grateful that you have shared your beautiful sentiments and wisdom. I felt a sense of peace enter my being, as I read them.
@@loriellen2726 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. For any problem of stress and overthinking read my msg and do the practice regularly to feel better. . Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 SINCERE GRATITUDE TO YOU ❣️
I need to this lesson so much.
For the last few weeks I'm at Jessica Heslop channel reparenting, doing affirmations for sleep. I wake different than I used to.
I'm sad over hearing from family. I messed up their week and they are messing up mine-never ends. I just want my SSRI to work.
Many thanks Dr Snipes ☀️Just what I needed to hear! 😌
Welcome. Glad it was helpful.
Excellent overview . Bless you and thank you. Very helpful summary xo.
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Your videos have had such a positive effect on me thank you so much Doc!
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Thank you!!! This is very helpful
Thank you so much. Advice well taken
at the right time...
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Too kind. Thanks so much for being here.
Great video! Mental Health awareness is so important.
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Another awesome video, Dr. Snipes. Thank you! You are the only person who gives better advise than my mom, even though she wasn't the best parent when I was a child.
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Thank you for sharing your wonderful knowledge, it helps me a lot.
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You have helped me so much... it's unbelievable ❤️. Thank you so, so much!!!
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E X C E L L E N T !!! Very complete. I loved it. Congrats,
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You must be reading my mind! Great info.
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Not Cat Stevensvwho sang the song, " Cats in the Cradle!" It was Harry Chapin!
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Thank you,this was very helpful...
I have to find a way to become motivated in life again....🌻
You can do it! Thanks for watching.
@Marianne Ellman • I hope you find life-giving inspiration/motivation.
Hi Dr Snipes and friends online! Todays presentation was excellent! We are so blessed to have you Dr.Snipes you truly are "at least for Myself" an answere to my prayers !
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Thanks Doc, great info, fantastic apologies.
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Great info
Thank you for the very practical advice I needed this! Going for a walk with my beautiful happy dog now. Best wishes from Ireland.
Wonderful, walking your dog is great stress relief! I hope to get to visit Ireland one day. Thanks for watching.
Thank you for these videos. I've been extensively unhappy for the past 3 or so years.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching
Amazing doc!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
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~8:43 - practicing maladaptive deflection/distraction by way of engaging in preoccupations/procrastination from confirmation bias seeking exercises draws the mind and energy away from where it should be which is due diligence (if after a break from the emotions for a while first to down-regulate)
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I love your videos. The knowledge you share helps me make sense of so much of what's going on in life. Although I am a student in information technology, I've always tried to be my own therapist, and if the situation enables it, I try to be a therapist to my close ones. I like to imagine that that's one of the best ways to make the world a better place.
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This is so basic. I have a legitimate reason for being angry and have requested critical information in order to move forward from the person that made a horrible decision that caused my stress and anger. So far they have not provided what I have asked. So I know why I’m angry, I don’t feel guilty about it but I really need this information. What now??
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A horrible childhood does not give one license to behave abusively to others in the present. It also does not excuse manipulation, gossip, or slander.
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You keep saying very very old song but i very distinctly remember the songs and other references……and now i’m an old person….but also it helps me relate. so thanks.
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That is too much me! j/k 😁 Thanks for your viewership!
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Than you, i journaled this video. It helps me ask what or why I am upset or depressed and overthinking. Yes, the guilt for MDEs. I need to read about acceptance therapy. Im reading about heart based therapy. Radical acceptance and radical empathy help a great deal. I practice the envisioning my problems on a leaf and let it go upon a stream If I don't I ruminate. I'm sorting it out and loving my mind. Im listening to Jessica Heslop reparenting and motivation/Depression meditations. The eight hours sessions at night let me wake different. Physical Therapy is going well. Case mgmt/regular therapy gave me a tablet to stay in touch with and have journal homework.
Fact based reasoning help me prove my Depression as untrue I can chose better or am doing better on reacting to the past. I decide to study/heal anna Runkle Patrick Teehan Jessica heslop school of life at youtube. I accept it's not mmay fault so I reason at 40+ I'm thankful to be these good environments.
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I wish you well you have worked a lot on yourself well done. Watch a comedy have a laugh if you are in a low mood or have a walk. I am no expert but thinking too much is unhealthy. Best wishes from Ireldand.
Thank you for mentioning the things and resources that you tried, I had never heard of some of them. I am also working on healing ❤️🩹
I really love you unconditionally thank you for being there for all of us everywhere and i as you are all living together and we all love you unconditionally however I live in Dunoon Argyll in 2020’s Scotland 🏴 and I have never felt so dumb to say that I was not human and had no emotions but I’m yea human and a fleshy Sack o
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Excellent info, is that list cognitive distortions ?
Amazing
Thanks!
The only problem I have in this list is bottling. I have no choice but to pack my emotions away and store them, because I don't have anyone I can talk to them about. No one feels safe to at least. I'm sure it's part of the reason I've become emotionally dead. Worst part is, I've been doing it for so many years that I'm not sure if I would know how to do anything different.
Yup. Ive been bottling for pretty much my whole life too. It is very tiring and exhausting to deal with people who have to be right all the time, or people who are quick to tell you about yourself but they never wanna hear about themselves.
I’ve concluded that since the powers that be have allowed all of us (in my family) to live like this for so long then he must be okay with this. But I’m not okay with keeping things in anymore. So I’ve resolved to very quietly save my money and disappear. Problem solved!
@@dot6823 I honestly wish you the best.
There are some many good points in this video. So many it's like right on the money for me. Is it possible to make specific video pertaining to each point? Maybe not all of them but I was curious what are some options to decide on those compartmentalized (bottled up) by the end of day. Meaning what can we do with them so they won't follow us the next day? Thanks much
Great question. I can do a short video on that.
I enjoyed your video very much, thank you. I just wanted to mention the song, Cat’s in the Cradle, was song and written by Harry Chapin not Cat Stevens.
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On point
Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
harry chapin sang Cat's in the Cradle...thats not what we're talking about but my music nerd self just had to say that. i love your videos, most importantly.
Yep. shawn daughton is correct. The song is still a good example of the impact of life imbalance either way.
@@aalloy6881 I couldn't decide if I should say anything about that but my musician self just had to. I love both harry chapin and cat Steven's. I totally understand how off-topic it is, but thanks for your comment! I'm learning so much from these videos.❤
Looking back at troublesome things and trying to figure out what in the world was going on is important. That is different from wallowing in shame, regret, guilt, etc. Wonderful content. Thank you!
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Good video
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Happy happy joy joy 💯
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Expecting the worst is something I seem to do. I seem to have most of the characteristics. I now have professional workers now.
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Listening to you is a happy experience!😃 you say your teachings well. I have a reputation for being joyful yet I can fight depression too. I’m known for being able to thrive in bad times. Listening to you gave me reasons why I have thrived. I give God the credit because He is my Joy but you also gave me tips on how not to be unhappy and it made me realize...wow! I’ve been doing those tips all along not knowing that I was! Now because of your explaining things very well I’ll be able to better explain to others what I’ve been doing right more specifically. Hopefully I made some sense. Moral to the story: Thanks for your great video and your wonderful way of explaining things!❤️🐑
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Dr Snipes, fess up: you're really Kristen Wiig, aren't you? Kidding aside, this video is both charming and instructive. I learned a lot about myself from it. I've now subscribed to your channel, and I look forward to watching a lot more of your work.
Wow, thank you! Thanks for watching and subscribing.
@strether52 She is much prettier than Kristen Wiig!
I choose to isolate from family more often in order to avoid getting triggered. It’s my way of getting some Control of my peace happiness and love as u say. Yes it is lonely but it’s also empowering. I just need a new family I guess or group of friends…
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Very nice video. Be aware of what you feed your mind and then there will be no unhappiness. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
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the cutest doctor ever
Too kind. Thanks for watching.
Anger is not so bad for me. Once I “vent” I’m ok. Lol. I will very often vent rather quickly and get over it rather quickly. Most of the time tho, it’s def with good reason. Anger is like a good friend to me that lets me know when I should not just sit there and take any bs from someone or when I should step back and take “me time” or get some rest or say no to this or that “obligation.” Etc. And yah. I usually wind up venting in a support group or to a friend or just me alone. I try to get it out without harming anyone else, tho I have no problem with smarting off to some jerk who earned it tho. Lol. If someone obviously doesn’t care how I feel then why should I care if I offend them with giving them a good return on their “investment?” Besides, the way I see it is that it’s just their natural consequences anyways. If you wring a nose, it will most surely bleed.
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Hello!! What kind of counseling do you provide? My son over analyzes and it had caused him to lock up in fear or trying. I have taken him to counselors that seem to fall short. Some of their responses are "he will grow out of it" " its just teenage stuff" No, it's not. He blows up in the face of criticism...especially from men. He gets along very well with women. His father is around but not enough. What "type" of counselor can help?
Hey doc, my name is Warren Sebastian from the Cooperative university of Kenya. So I have started a mental health awareness program and really need your help
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Hello Mrs. Snipes. If I have concerns about my mental health and want to inform my doctor where do I start? What types of lab reports should I request? Would a certain test provide a diagnosis? Would I need several tests? Thank you kindly.
Just write down all your symptoms and concerns ahead of time. Go over them with your Doctor.
Possibly, even give your notes to your Doctor's receptionist when you check in....so your Doctor can read over them before he/she come in to see you. It is your Doctor's job to know the tests that are needed.
Listen to yourself and understand what your sayingm
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Talking bad about others, lie, wanting others to fail, projecting ones anger upon a sündenbock, complain a lot, being envious, addiction, etc (which applies to ppl depends on their character)
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When the same situations occurs throughout my life no matter how much I personally grow. Always get the same results doesn't matter how hard I work, love, compromise with others, even try to empathize with others. I'm always alone. When I try finding out what happened. I'll get excuses like I was controlling eventhough I'd leave because he didn't love me. He would came back and would change eventhough I'd leave him alone. Yet it's my fault he couldn't love me. Also been accused of being addictive like a drug. That he couldn't let me go these are excuses that I'll hear from men. Somehow it's my fault I don't want to be played. I even had someone tell me he misses me after he tells me he loves someone else. I told him to let go of the past and let me go because he loves someone else. I don't understand what I'm doing wrong because these patterns follow me. In love and work doesn't matter how honest and open about my boundaries. No matter how much I try working with others they try to take advantage of me. Considering I'm 50 and still haven't found love, stability, or a career makes me wonder what I'm doing wrong. Considering I moved alot growing up and the patterns are with different people and places of employment. It can't be just them and when I can't find solutions to problems. I like getting different perspective to help find solutions.
Think less about how you feel in the moment. It's only a moment. How many moments in a day let alone a lifetime.
Have no great ideal expectations and remember any time you experience another human being you are in a relationship.
Go easy on them a little kindness erases a lot of imperfection and judgements
It's not a matter of them letting you go, it's you not letting them go. People are in our lives for only a season. We grow they grow and letting relationships evolve is loving them and yourself.
I'm a widow, I don't want to be alone and if God has another life partner for me our paths will cross if not I'll still be ok alone. I trust God only he knows the future.
@@nunya8843 the point I was making was people pretend to be something their not. I wanted to be left alone told them I wanted to heal first because I want love not lust. Got out of a bad relationship and just wanted to be left alone. The men I met would convince me of something they weren't just to get close to me. Then when the relationship started getting serious they'd bail with their excuses. I'm curious what I'm doing to attract the wrong men. That's why I took myself off the market refuse to date anyone until my heart is completely healed.
I'm also a widow how long have you been a widow? I'm sure there's someone for you in the right time. Just takes time to heal. I'm learning to love myself before finding a partner. Perhaps this is a time for you to find out who you are and what you want from a partner. Also our loving creator will put people or events in your life to help you heal. Your right we never know what our holy father has planned for us just have to look for the love he'd want us to have and give others. Just have to look for the love.
Great video! I struggle with self care and good nutrition, any tips on how I can work on these?
There is some sites online for meal plans.Patrick Holford is good ,he distills alot of info ,into relatively easy to understand books.He started as a psychiatrist and became fed up with the drug/machine view bias so looked into how to optimize nutrition instead.Hope that helps bud.🙂
Hi. I know you weren't asking me, but I am really huge on self care...I don't know at what stage of life you are, but try spending a Friday night at home, eating your favorite healthy foods, drinking your favorite drinks, taking a bath/working out/doing yoga, or binge watching your favorite TV show, with candles lit for ambiance, whatever makes you feel good...and make it a tradition with yourself to celebrate it being Friday. It will become a comfort to you....then when you're feeling sad or upset, you can do the same routine and it will help you feel better. :)
I do this and it's my favorite time spent, with myself just doing whatever I feel like doing whenever I feel like doing it! Some would say it seems like wasted time, but trust me it is the most valuable!
Srinivas, In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be aware of what you feed your mind. Reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media, daily morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. You may reach a state of equanmity. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Dr Snipes. Are taking direct clients?
We all like to get rid of problems it doesn't what it is never it to come up again that how we like to feel about it we got rid of it
These suggestions are beneficial ( hopefully ) if one is to strive to have a better place in relationship with the others. But I happened to be agreed with Jean Paul Sartre the French philosopher who said : “HELL IS WITH OTHER PEOPLE.” you really don’t need them , believe me.
Who do you deal with? I have had good, neutral, and not good-at-all contact with other people---and myself. There are many possible tricky things in life, and people can be one of them, I've found, but they can also be helpful, supportive, kind, interesting, and interested in us too, or neutral. It's worth checking who you are around all the time and seeing if you can do something to improve this situation or your own repeated thoughts that hurt you. At least IMHO. Good luck, it isn't always easy, I know.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@leahblue1190 You have better advice than the counselor! She gives platitudes for answers a lot!
Can this video help people with severe TBI that no longer have tools for higher emotional reasoning...?
It depends on the person and what you mean by higher emotional reasoning
wow wow wow
I think I'm involved with a few unhappy people. 🙁 family, friends, SO ... oh boy.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching
Harry Chapin did Cat's in the Cradle. And yes, I am unhappy. LOL
Cats in the cradle is by Harry Chapin Not Cat Stevens
What is one to do when a loved one loses her temper, throw things, slams doors and screams and yells? How do I handle that? There are never any apologies later
Demonic possession
Great.:-)
Thanks so much.
Also, when your face appears bigger than the slides it makes it easier to really focus and tune in to the content of your videos. (I hope it wasn't just me who feels that way)
I agree, the new format is popular. Over time the technology gets better...so, it makes things like this new format popular. I now have a 4K web cam with a quality lens.
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Thanks for watching.
have you heard of superpredictors?