I was about to go to sleep and I stumbled upon this video, I was so invested that I watched the whole thing. Great breakdown of this essay, and I liked that you didn't take personal blows at the writer. I will say, I never had heard of this essay and when I found out their age gap was only 10 years it through me for a loop 😭 like yeah he's old compared to her but tbh 30 years old is not some old guy I don't know why they act like he is
excellent analysis! i'm always very glad to see someone have an engaging take on something that is socially dismissed, and i think your critical thinking abilities are something i aspire to
i think the labor in a hospital line wasn't a reference to a victorian novel, but to the notion that women can and should "have it all." i would interpret "labor in the office and in the hospital" to be about birthing children, doing the work of motherhood, and still also having to work in the public sphere on top of that.
Initially i was upset at the premise because I simply don't like age gap and at 21 rn just the thought of me dating a 20 yr old as a 30 yr old man is so depressing and gross. its the equivalent of dating a junior in HS as 22 yr old, like where in life did I fuck up that badly? there'd have to be a DEEP stagnation of emotional development and maturity in myself to even fathom the possibilty of that occurring. My personal experience backs up this up with my ex who was simply 5 years older than me after HS or my friend (f18) dated/GROOMED by a 40 yr old man who was older than her mom and acted he was 12.... Anyways i was upset about that but that exerpt @ 1:51 got me
Also i dont have ANY DATA on my beliefs so that's that but also, have you noticed the people that engage in this behavior also do other questionable things? kinda like Seinfeild excusing his white friend for shouting the N-word at black people really goes along well with him dating a 17 yr old
Strong logic. Hey everyone, this critical thinker over here has just discovered the link between men's eons-old preference for younger women and RACISM! Get her an endowed chair in the sociology department at Harvard immediately! Also LOL @ adult women using the word 'grooming' to describe the experiences of other adult women. So cringe and self-infantilizing. You so silly.
Women gossiping about their love lives in these self-serious DEEP DIVE confessional essays which are puffed up ludicrously as SERIOUS cultural CRITIQUE is never good writing. Never. Not even once. This kind of solipsistic prattle used to be ghettoized in the traditional 'Women's Magazines' of yesterday, where it could be safely ignored. Now, it has colonized even the New York Times and academia. A deplorable development.
Oh my! This woman wrote a sweetly earnest essay about finding love with an older guy and women got **TRIGGERED**! They started slinging sh*t from every angle. Strange, I've never seen anyone writing about the virtues of, say, being 50, childless, and single being roasted for her equivalently 'bad writing.' I've never seen this kind of weird ENG 101 nit-picking applied to anyone like that. It seems to me the so-called 'bad writing' is not what is actually driving the strong emotional reactions here? I think it's something else; a very tender spot in the female psyche has been galled.
Is like read the column of Carrie Bradshaw.
Btw, your video is amazing! you´re very clear and easy to understand!
Thank you very much! I am still learning about the whole audio/ visual side of this :)
Great analysis! Would love to see more breakdowns from you. Makes me miss my english courses in college all over again.
I was about to go to sleep and I stumbled upon this video, I was so invested that I watched the whole thing. Great breakdown of this essay, and I liked that you didn't take personal blows at the writer. I will say, I never had heard of this essay and when I found out their age gap was only 10 years it through me for a loop 😭 like yeah he's old compared to her but tbh 30 years old is not some old guy I don't know why they act like he is
threw* embarrassing I made a grammar mistake on video like this but oh well
I felt the same way! Thank you so much for watching and commenting, it means a lot to me 😁
excellent analysis! i'm always very glad to see someone have an engaging take on something that is socially dismissed, and i think your critical thinking abilities are something i aspire to
Thank you so much for watching and for taking the time to comment
i think the labor in a hospital line wasn't a reference to a victorian novel, but to the notion that women can and should "have it all." i would interpret "labor in the office and in the hospital" to be about birthing children, doing the work of motherhood, and still also having to work in the public sphere on top of that.
Oh you are so right. Labor (as in childbirth) in the hospital and labor (as in work) in the office. That’s quite clever; good eye
Initially i was upset at the premise because I simply don't like age gap and at 21 rn just the thought of me dating a 20 yr old as a 30 yr old man is so depressing and gross. its the equivalent of dating a junior in HS as 22 yr old, like where in life did I fuck up that badly? there'd have to be a DEEP stagnation of emotional development and maturity in myself to even fathom the possibilty of that occurring. My personal experience backs up this up with my ex who was simply 5 years older than me after HS or my friend (f18) dated/GROOMED by a 40 yr old man who was older than her mom and acted he was 12.... Anyways i was upset about that but that exerpt @ 1:51 got me
Also i dont have ANY DATA on my beliefs so that's that but also, have you noticed the people that engage in this behavior also do other questionable things? kinda like Seinfeild excusing his white friend for shouting the N-word at black people really goes along well with him dating a 17 yr old
Strong logic. Hey everyone, this critical thinker over here has just discovered the link between men's eons-old preference for younger women and RACISM! Get her an endowed chair in the sociology department at Harvard immediately!
Also LOL @ adult women using the word 'grooming' to describe the experiences of other adult women. So cringe and self-infantilizing. You so silly.
That is not good writing:( Amazing video and breakdown though!!
Women gossiping about their love lives in these self-serious DEEP DIVE confessional essays which are puffed up ludicrously as SERIOUS cultural CRITIQUE is never good writing. Never. Not even once. This kind of solipsistic prattle used to be ghettoized in the traditional 'Women's Magazines' of yesterday, where it could be safely ignored. Now, it has colonized even the New York Times and academia. A deplorable development.
Oh my! This woman wrote a sweetly earnest essay about finding love with an older guy and women got **TRIGGERED**! They started slinging sh*t from every angle.
Strange, I've never seen anyone writing about the virtues of, say, being 50, childless, and single being roasted for her equivalently 'bad writing.' I've never seen this kind of weird ENG 101 nit-picking applied to anyone like that. It seems to me the so-called 'bad writing' is not what is actually driving the strong emotional reactions here? I think it's something else; a very tender spot in the female psyche has been galled.
Come to Daddy.