CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)
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- CBT Unhelpful Thinking Styles (STOP Self-Sabotage NOW)
Identify which unhelpful thinking styles are contributing to your self-sabotage. These automatic thoughts, or cognitive distortions, can create considerable pain. CBT therapy or CBT counselling helps to identify unhelpful thinking habits and uses CBT exercises and cognitive restructuring to help you change unhelpful thinking styles. Unhelpful thinking styles include labeling, emotional reasoning, catastrophizing, personalizing, mind reading and mental filter. This video will help you to challenge negative self-talk, self-sabotaging thoughts and identify unhelpful thinking patterns. This, in turn, will help you stop self-sabotaging behavior!
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wow, i'm so glad I stumbled on your channel. it's a goldmine of helpful techniques and info!
Hi subie_grl: I'm so glad you did as well! And thanks for the feedback - it is motivating for me :)
Pretty much what I was going to comment. Great channel Barbara
@@mikelord2698 Thank you! :)
Big Hello from Australia. Thanks for these insigful videos. I love personally studying all aspects of spycoanalysis.
Do you do this over facetime appointments, I'm struggling really bad with this
"Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping"
- Jordan Peterson, Rule #2 in "12 rules for life"
Love that phrase!
@@BarbaraHeffernan correct
And think twice before you let yourself get mangled by the CBT hamburger machine, are you an actual hamburger and are your state of mind simply a thing to fix and replace, or is there something else going on.
@@srolesen tf does this even mean
@@pokemongurlz Means CBT is designed to be convincing at the cost of accuracy, and there is a hamburger like quality to it, the therapist will frequently just close their eyes and chuck all the problems into the machine, more invested in churning out product and measuring success as "% of problems solved" with 0 understanding that some problems are simply not suitable for that hamburger machine and require a deeper level of understanding.
I think CBT is fundamentally a good approach to many issues and that hamburgers are fine on occasion, but I also think that there is a pervasive lack of willingness in both industries for the machine operator to stop and think twice before mashing something through that meatgrinder that does not belong there.
Barbara. I was quite surprised to find a channel so freely offering such direct and helpful definitions of cognitive issues followed by really useful advice and actions to take to address feelings and behaviour. I am so grateful for your willingness and endeavour to help. Thank you. Thank you so much.
indeed i really appreciate her generosity she really saved me by these infos
Thank you for your videos. I feel comfort when I watch them.
You are soothing .reassuring .constructive.its full of love that reaches out to all of us needing such support.
Thank you! :)
You are right on track with this one too. I have always been a great friend to others but honestly, have never been kind to myself. Thank you for all that you do.
You are welcome. Yes, be your own best friend!!!
Thank you for this, I'm 60 years old and never knew/put together all the negative talk I have been doing to myself. Your channel is awesome and I can't get enough. I just started seeing a counselor yesterday for CBT therapy.. I will use your channel to boost this even more.
I almost cried watching this, I've been doing many of these categories especially labeling for way too long that its like a fact of life with me. Thank you so much for this video ill begin improving and removing these toxic thoughts
Your comment is very touching. I am so pleased this has been so helpful for you.
Thank you for this, Barbara! I appreciate you and your work!
Thank you. Great reminders!
My trauma therapist used EMDR and CBT therapies. What you outline is the kind of thing she would have me practice for “homework”, between sessions.
The awareness of these various patterns of thought makes our self-talk less critical. That way, we can be the person who says to ourselves: “Would I say that to a loved one?”
It’s taken a lot of practice to come to a place of self-kindness. So nice to hear gentle, kind words in my self-talk, instead of the harsh ones I used to say to me.
Blessings!🤓
Wow ! Thank you for sharing that. I hope it gives other people hope and the motivation to do the work! It is so wonderful that you have been able to shift your self-talk... Isn't life nicer when we are nice to ourselves?! :)
Barbara Heffernan
Indeed!
Being able to change neural pathways and practice new habits are a blessing!
So clear and so concise, months of therapy and never understood these concepts so clearly.
I used to see things negatively beleiving that if it becomes positive then the reason is that i felt negative, never thought it will take a tollover my happiness . Ma'am, your idea is worth a thesis! Provided me relief and i feel i can deal with thoughts more efficiently. Please do provide more such content, Thanks a ton! May God bless you!
I think being a friend of myself is a very powerful concept, as well as the "self-sabotage" one that is more tricky because the sabotage looks like a solution instead of the cause of the problem. I worked on it - without a strong consistency but with results - for about four years. Yet, the path is long, the tunnel is brighter but not ended. Thank you very much doctor Heffernan for putting these concepts in such a clear way, so that they are immediately applicable for all of us! I'm already using the cbt log and reviewing all my homework on inner dialogue in light of the six styles you explained so well.
So awesome that you are utilizing the log! Practice is key and increasing our awareness of patterns is the first step.
In my room I have my own art everywhere and I love it because it reminds me of how creative and colourful I can be!
Awesome!
Omg, I've check all the boxes😂 1to6 no wonder my mind was so f***d up
I have multiple art pieces that my significant other made for me. I love them and they are up in my room.
BEAUTIFULLY explained…a real treasure 🙏☀️ of a video!!!
🙋🏻♀️💫⭐️💫
Thank you kindly!
Beautifully explained..I just love the way you explain it ..it really helps me ,as I have done my advanced course in CBT.
Barbara, I love your warm and expressive style. I'm an Occupational therapist learning about CBT. You explain CBT really clearly. Thank you
Thank you for letting me know! So pleased! Good luck in your work!
It is a lovely painting. I thought it was a photo! Thank you for sharing all this information. :)
Thanks!
Thanks for posting. My mental illness has caused me to miss the last three days of work.
Thank you so much Barbara, this video has been so good in helping me identifying my unhelpful thoughts. I'm looking forward to learning and implementing CBT tools.
I have a friend who was struggling to remember all the distortions so I gave her names that made it easier to remember and identify. Chicken Little (catastrophizing), Kardashian(comparing ourselves to others), Betting on the Ponies(Predicting the future), Moving Mountains(Changing things out of your control), Cement shoes(intractable), Trigger Happy(generalizing), Been there, Done that(Worrying about past), Grinding Gears(perseverating), Bad Trippin'(Fanaticizing the worst).
Love this!
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you for your wonderful work!
Super interesting that we can label and reframe our thoughts! I'm going to start paying more attention! :)
I discovered your videos yesterday, and what I can say is that you speak in a straightforward, down-to-earth language. Thank you!
So happy I found you, I struggled with OCD and learning how the mind tends to transform situations had been the best thing that happened to me. Thanks 😊 for your educational videos 🙏
This is gold !!!!
This video changed my life :) its only been about 2 weeks since i am practicing classifying my thoughts and i already feel so productive ! So much time that i used to spend thinking is saved . Thank you 🙏🏻please keep doing what you do. I am sure itll help many more people 💕
Wow! Amazing! God bless you! 👏
Thanks for specifying some of the cognitive distortions and correcting these
Thankyou so much for sharing all of this 😊
Thank you so much for your helpful insights!
I always feel very lost and anxious snapping on friends and family. Glad I found this it makes sense and may help in the future. Following here and Facebook.
Wow....did not realize I'd gotten to the "Why bother" stage. Life circumstances and the thought patterns you mentioned hit me on point. I am a caregiver by nature (& was one by profession) and have wondered lately WHY I don't seem to treat nor care for myself as much as I do others. This video helps bring the patterns to light, and gives me tools to work with. Thank you. Much needed in these days of forced isolation due to the Covid. Will fed to others. Off to view more of your videos.💕
This is an amazing explanation. So profound but so simply explained! Thank you!
I can say for sure that changing behaviour is very difficult. I am very glad that I found your videos here, I am waiting to be seen by a psychologist and there is a big waiting list. Thank you very much for uploading these videos!
This is so powerful. I love it. I also have a beautiful painting from my daughter.
Ohhhh, labeling... that was so powerful!
Brilliant!!!!! 👏👏👏
3:57 thank you Barbara. I’ve worked for years with CBT but get stuck and revert back to negative self talk. Excellent reminder for me. Also a reminder of how hard it is to change these thoughts
So grateful.. Your channel is what I needed ❤️🙏🏻
Thanks a lot
I really needed this today. Thank you so much Barbara. I really appreciate this so much.
Thank you for this. Thinking patterns are everything!
This is so helpful
I totally believe being a friend to yourself and self love is the first and most important step. I have to say that in my experiences with some of this , if I asked my boss if everything is ok when he walks by and says nothing in a crappy mood way he would instantly be offended, because I tried this and learned to just keep my mouth shut. it only makes things worse because toxic situations in a work place are ever present as a reflection of the state of general mental health in society. so ideally I agree with your approach but when you have been through people using and abusing you for years out of their own selfishness and a lack of knowing how to stand up for yourself even when it means offending your boss or parents or whatever it makes it hard to have faith in people that they would even care about what I have to say or how I feel. its frustrating to me trying to deal with the hatefulness and selfishness i encounter .
Thank you, your videos are very helpful, I've subscribed!
I love the idea of being a friend to your self.
Thanks, super informative for growth
Thank you so much
great and informative video. Really hit home with me. I didn't realize how much my thoughts, feelings and hence behavior were hurting me. I look forward to exploring this topic more.
I was not aware of CBT. It was so helpful for me because I can relate to some of the unhelpful behaviors. Thank-you again for sharing.
Thank you Barbara. I have been in programs that use CBT and DBT. I am in therapy and my therapist is using the same techniques tht you are. I feel like with watching your videos and my therapist I am on the right track to healing from trauma and being a more healthy adult. Agape.
Totally needed this today!
We all need these reminders regularly! Our brains are very tricky!
Love the picture, how lovely!
Amazing! First 10 minutes summed it all up for me… thank you.
Boy am I glad I stumbled on your channel. I'll be tuning in to see all the other videos. This video puts everything I've been experiencing and especially during a pandemic in perspective. I am so so grateful!
So glad you found the channel and are finding it helpful! Welcome :) I truly hope the videos are helpful.
Like your vibe, approach and tone! Your Mom is a great painter.
Great
I revisted ur video again today.
Really makes sence
Thanks a lot
Speaking as a friend is a good idea.
Omg I like d way u explain all ..
I cried watching this video because it’s my first time in a long time trying to seek help for my anxiety and a lot these negative thoughts are how I think, this was really helpful and im going to start developing a better thinking pattern, thank you.
OMG! I can't express how happy I am to have stumbled onto your channel! Your explanation is really simple and effective. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for letting me know! Welcome and I hope you continue to enjoy the channel!
Thank you soooo much xxx agoraphobia server anxiety and depression here for 18 years with no help xxx
Thank you for creating this video. The simple style and good grace of your character shines through with every word you say. I have heard these cognitive distortion descriptions so many times before but not like this. I'm pretty much plagued by all these unhelpful thinking styles and could really do with some work on this area of my life.
Hi Jenny: Thank you for your kind comments. I'm pleased this was helpful, explaining it in a way that might make more sense and help it be more workable. Wishing you all the best.
I needed this in my life.
Your videos make a huge difference to my wellbeing. Thanks so much!
Hi Tereza: Thank you so much for letting me know - that means an enormous amount to me!! :)
Thank you for putting your work out into the universe. I have been struggling with many different issues. You have helped me find a path through with your channel. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you again for the effort you are putting on these videos, they are super clear, helpful and comprehensive!
Thanks! :)
Hi Barbara. I agree with been a friend to yourself. The concept makes sense when I imagine one considers themselves to be a good friend....may not apply to introverted or socially isolated people (i know of a few ppl that actively don't socialise by choice).
Positive self talk I have practice my whole life and my experiences only reinforce this practice.
I'm a mother and I practice this with my children....6 and 4....I hope this helps them when they I bigger.
On a whole confidence is some what the route cause perhaps??
Hi Barbara,
Thanks for the discussion.
Appreciate it.
The way I looked at the world was so far off the charts, and I sabotaged myself so badly.
It has caused dreadful consequences.
I'm not sure that I can turn my thoughts around or come back from the consequences.
Barbara, i just discovered your channel and it is truly helpful. I like the direct approach you take in providing information, necessary context, and actionable advice. It’s really great, and I’ve experienced a few “AHA!” moments from watching two of your videos. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise on TH-cam, you’re certainly making a difference.
Hi Ben: Thank you for letting me know! So glad the videos have been helpful!
Thank you very much for this instructive video I made really tired from automatic negative thoughts and catastrophic cbt inherited from my narcissistic crazy toxic sadistic father who enjoyed catastrophasing and blaming us for nothing and stupid things and saying that we Nell cause his death he really damaged our brain pattern of thinking and conceiving the world. Nd I feel really tired of trying to fix it but I still trying because I want to get better and get the wonderful life I deserve. All those who struggled with childhood trauma and did make it should be considered heroes because the damages are really deep and take lots of work and discipline and time to deal with them so I totally understand when you say it’s not easy but it worth it. No child in the world deserves to go through the craziness mess up fathers. It’s a real crime against humanity. I wish everyone lots of happiness and success
Thank you so much for being so kind to offer this for free 😊🙏
You’re welcome 😊
I enjoy always talking to myself constructively as I am in good company :)
Thank you so much for what you do. You’ve helped me so much.
I'm so pleased to hear that! Thank you for letting me know :)
Please keep posting videos! I’ve been searching for the practical help you provide.
I will! Thanks for the encouragement. And I'm so happy they are helpful for you.
Your channel has really opened my mind. Thank you for the work that you do.
Thank you for letting me know. It means a lot to me :)
thank you. I'm 60 and now just learning this valuable life saving information. I appreciate you.,
Barbara, thank you so much for your informative and healing videos. Absolutely you are very much on track providing great strategies for positive change.
Hi Bonnie: Thank you for your feedback and encouragement! :)
Brilliant content! It’s really assisting me in dealing with anxiety. Thank you, Ms Heffernan 😎
Awesome! I am so happy to hear that. And thanks for letting me know! :)
You explained the Cognitive Distortions really well! Thank you! You deserved millions of subscribers!
Thanks! Hopefully I am on my way :)! Feel free to share with anyone you feel might benefit!
Magnificent, I´ve just seen two of your videos and are amazing. Thank you for helpling us.
You are welcome! Thank you for letting me know!
I am suffering the consequences of ptsd... In this time, from time to time... A totally heavy emotion comes out of nowhere(apparently, now we know it comes from past trauma and abuse)... And it s so intense as if it doesn t let me breath for the next minute... Before would be worse... Now getting better, simply by realizing it is a huge step... Soo intense and chronic... Wow, thank you, Barbara!
❤️🩹
Great context, soothing words for the soul. There’s on line narratives of blaming and damning others nowadays. Your videos are great. TY
I am definitely in a much better place in terms of been my own best friend. I am.most definitely falling in love with myself and it's quite sweet for me. Saying that I most likely would benefit and be even more inspired by doing some CBT for sure.
We have lovely qutations to help addicts and for other ppl..
Byron Katie work is one of the ways to do CBT work on yourself. VERY helpful!
I love the way you explained all the mental distortions ! God bless you .
Thank you!😀
I have {sadly), had to watch perhaps 100 TH-cam shrinks before coming here. Without having gone through a lot of your videos, I have to say that I just love your way of explaining these things as if you are a good friend or mother talking to her bestie or kid. I really appreciate it. There is an Aussie woman on Psych Central who also talks with her hands and has this gift of conveying their knowledge as if there were, you know, a human.
Thank you for letting me know! I hope my videos are truly helpful for you!
This was very helpful. In having a few days of feeling quite down at times, a few of these videos have helped identify where my thoughts are. Now I can start changing the response.
Terrific to hear! So glad they are helpful for you.
Thank you, Barbara. What an excellent video. I am learning so much! About CBT, English and about how to live a happier life!
So pleased to hear that!
Thanks for this video you are so right in the thoughts I have and how easy it is to think it will go wrong. I think and find a solution but then a new bad thought will find another way in. But you just got me to see it in a different way. Thank you so much.
So great to hear that this helped you see it in a different way. And thank you for letting me know!
Thank you. I learn so much from you Barbara. I will continue to watch your videos. Take care
You are so welcome!
This woman is a God send!!!
Thanks!
Thank you for putting this out there
Thanks SO MUCH for explaining CBT in a way that can be understood
Glad it was helpful!
I really appreciates being reminded to be a good friend to myself. I would love to hear you speak about the various cognitive distortions more often. They are eye opening and like purification for the mind.
Thank you for all your videos. They really are helping me a lot
Thank you for letting me know - I am very pleased to hear it!
Thank you Barbara 🙏