My ex therapist was all of this things. She got 11 pages of information of my life history and on the 5th appointment she turned into a narc abuser. All of a sudden my reality was not real, she was reframing my experiences to make me feel stupid, blamed me for being abused by others, called me irresponsible and unconscious, told me I had no rights, criticized every aspect of being human like my choices, trusting, being an equal to men (she wanted me to feel dumb and inferior), my autonomy, my thought processes, etc. It was brutal. She caused me a cognitive dissonance that eventually turned into a complete dissociation from reality. She used my own experiences against me and she completely broke me. I could not tell what was real and what was not for months, and now I’m still recovering from that.
Oh, my! That's awful and unethical. I'm SO sorry that you had that experience on top of why you went to her in the first place. Unfortunately, I have known and do know several therapists who are #Hijackals themselves. Some make a lot of videos. What are you doing to recover and keep yourself in healthy balance, safe, stable, and secure? Have you been able to trust a therapist again? I certainly hope so because one that is well-experienced in #Hijackal behavior can be such a great support for you. It's important to find that one. I'm always here if I can help: BeAClient.com I wish you safety, stability, and security. Rhoberta
So sorry to hear this happened to you. My first experience with a therapist was similar. I visited her for 2 years and everything got worse. She said that the problem is in me because I wasn't able to grow up as a strong healthy person in a dysfunctional home. My anxiety increased a lot, I developed severe headaches, food intolerances I did not have before and I had to quit my job. When I finally said to her that this therapy isn't working for me and I will not see her anymore she took it very personally, turned it against me and said that it is all my fault. She also implied that if she can't help me nobody can. Which I actually believed for quite a while. I had hope when I went to therapy and was devasteted and totally broken after I finished it. Some time after I had left the therapy she sent me an email calling me irresponsible amongst other things. That was so nasty and unprofessional but it helped me realize that there was something very wrong with her.
mine called me useless today then sort of took it back but already said it because i couldn't lug groceries upstairs due to a back disability. Yesterday i couldn't walk, today barely. Because i am completely poor due to disability income, i am currently somewhat financially dependent it makes life so tricky.
Yes, Lora, it makes like difficult, for sure. #Hijackals want to make your financially unstable to ensure they have further control. I suggest the next time that happens that you leave the groceries in the car, or downstairs, and ask him to get them for you in a very neutral manner. When he berates you, or if he refuses, the groceries will still be at the bottom of the stairs. Repeat, in a neutral manner, 'Please bring up the groceries." If he won't do it, bring up one or two things each time you need them. This will annoy him, but you won't hurt yourself. #Hijackals have no patience for people who are injured or hurt because they see those people as unable to do their bidding. You are unable to do it. Don't do it. It is likely he enjoyed seeing you in pain the following day, and gave him more reason to say degrading things. Big hugs! Rhoberta
you are the best xxxx thankyou for loving us
My ex therapist was all of this things. She got 11 pages of information of my life history and on the 5th appointment she turned into a narc abuser. All of a sudden my reality was not real, she was reframing my experiences to make me feel stupid, blamed me for being abused by others, called me irresponsible and unconscious, told me I had no rights, criticized every aspect of being human like my choices, trusting, being an equal to men (she wanted me to feel dumb and inferior), my autonomy, my thought processes, etc. It was brutal. She caused me a cognitive dissonance that eventually turned into a complete dissociation from reality.
She used my own experiences against me and she completely broke me. I could not tell what was real and what was not for months, and now I’m still recovering from that.
Oh, my! That's awful and unethical. I'm SO sorry that you had that experience on top of why you went to her in the first place. Unfortunately, I have known and do know several therapists who are #Hijackals themselves. Some make a lot of videos.
What are you doing to recover and keep yourself in healthy balance, safe, stable, and secure? Have you been able to trust a therapist again? I certainly hope so because one that is well-experienced in #Hijackal behavior can be such a great support for you. It's important to find that one. I'm always here if I can help: BeAClient.com
I wish you safety, stability, and security.
Rhoberta
So sorry to hear this happened to you. My first experience with a therapist was similar. I visited her for 2 years and everything got worse. She said that the problem is in me because I wasn't able to grow up as a strong healthy person in a dysfunctional home. My anxiety increased a lot, I developed severe headaches, food intolerances I did not have before and I had to quit my job. When I finally said to her that this therapy isn't working for me and I will not see her anymore she took it very personally, turned it against me and said that it is all my fault. She also implied that if she can't help me nobody can. Which I actually believed for quite a while. I had hope when I went to therapy and was devasteted and totally broken after I finished it. Some time after I had left the therapy she sent me an email calling me irresponsible amongst other things. That was so nasty and unprofessional but it helped me realize that there was something very wrong with her.
This is absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this Roberta, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe ⚘️✨️🧝♀️💎😘🌈👁💫🌌🦄💜🐴🧿😃🌹😁😁🥰😍🛸🐺
mine called me useless today then sort of took it back but already said it because i couldn't lug groceries upstairs due to a back disability. Yesterday i couldn't walk, today barely. Because i am completely poor due to disability income, i am currently somewhat financially dependent it makes life so tricky.
Yes, Lora, it makes like difficult, for sure. #Hijackals want to make your financially unstable to ensure they have further control.
I suggest the next time that happens that you leave the groceries in the car, or downstairs, and ask him to get them for you in a very neutral manner. When he berates you, or if he refuses, the groceries will still be at the bottom of the stairs. Repeat, in a neutral manner, 'Please bring up the groceries."
If he won't do it, bring up one or two things each time you need them. This will annoy him, but you won't hurt yourself. #Hijackals have no patience for people who are injured or hurt because they see those people as unable to do their bidding. You are unable to do it. Don't do it. It is likely he enjoyed seeing you in pain the following day, and gave him more reason to say degrading things.
Big hugs!
Rhoberta
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD - Toxic Relationship Help wow amazing insight and advice. Learned so much from this. Thanks so very much🤗
@@lorabertuccio677 You're so welcome. I'm doing a series of thirty videos on different aspects of coercive control. Watch for them, one or two a week.
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