Its really CONFUSING i have a family of.crap. wear me down tear me down Mother sister brother and more i am 68 and wouldn’t know a good real relationship . i am LONELY! all i see are Shallow manipulation around me . Acquaintances are just that and family of mental abuse. i deserve realness and it doesn’t. come into my life. . so lonely and confused as to why i am aware and did all this work and STILL can’t find trusted. relationships before i die
We come so far, and take the warriors healing journey, its tough going, I can relate, hi jackles are abundant! I am content with having a relationship with myself. Still hi jackles creep in and try to tear me down. Pretending to want a friendship, only twist, gaslight, manipulate, power over, control and dominate, own, possession, thats not friendship!!!!!!! They are masters at pretending and mirror our goodness. Its easy to fall into their trap, all our conditioning of a life time . I feel like red riding hood, must get rid of the cape! Lol. My dog is my best friend, great company, and there is true unconditional ❤ I know there are people too, healthy and loving. I wish you well in health and love 😊💕
I’m so sad that Dr Shaler had passed away. She was a true gift to so many of us. I’m so thankful she shared so many extremely helpful videos/podcasts, etc. May she rest in peace.
Exactly what I needed at the right time. Thank you. I thought I had done the work and was able to hold my own while cohabitating and coparenting, but I've backslid and found myself in such a rut. I finally cracked and got really upset with the hijackal. I tried in vain to get through to him only to hear all those horrible things all over again... but I've got to say, theres something to appreciate when they show their true colors and thoughts BC its helps validate what I know is true but sometimes forget. Hearing this video today is my rededication to my journey into wholeness and health. Love your content as usual!
I remember a day before this last christmas I was crying hardly because we argued, I can't believe he told me idiot, all my previous plans are faulty, I'm a failure, things like that, that is why during christmas, which is supposed to be a happy moment for us, my eyes are all swelled up. I just told my relatives I had severe allergy. He is a joker, that is why sometimes when he jokes I dont take it seriously, but recently I realized that he is not telling it as a joke but really meant to hurt me. He called me idot, I'm too demanding which is not appropriate because I'm ugly, I'm a negligent mother, I always fail with my plans things like that. My previous reactions was to jump into bitter arguments and exchange of harsh words, but it is really tiring, our arguments always leave me torn and tired. I am still in disbelief I was hearing those words from him. I feel so helpless because I cant tell my mother and sisters because they will be so angry, maybe later I ll tell them. I was so down, I searched in YT the words verbal abuse, and that's the time I came across with your wonderful videos. Since then I am watching you and using your advise how to handle
Apparently, my wife, soon to be ex-wife, follows your topics and is trying to use it to ‘diagnose’ my behavior and the reasons why our marriage has failed. I saw her post on your, ‘passive aggressive’ video. She claims her behavior is only related to her ADHD. Thank you so much for your work in this area. It has helped me to find peace and resolve that I’m not the problem in our relationship like she claims I am. Shortly after we married, which was 6 months later we met, my mother died. Obviously, I was devastated . It must have been like hitting a jackpot for her. Thank you 🙏🏼. You’ve put a name and resources to what I’ve been suffering from…..her own deficiencies.
I just want to say thank you so much dr. Roberta I have learned so much by watching your videos I just want to say they have been very helpful to me I have learned a lot and I know one thing there is no getting closure from a high jackal
You are so welcome! You're right. That's why I always say that closure is an inside job. Here's a graphic I made about it: facebook.com/Hijackals/photos/a.142382553063834/796577894310960
This is exactly my daughter Thank you for this podcast it really helped in relationship to how I feel about my daughter and how she treats me I feel done with her. I don't like her. I have no interest in having anything to do with her anymore.
Dr. Ramani has also talked about how much flack she gets from HER OWN PEERS because she focuses on the survivors of narcissistic relationships. I appreciate that Dr. Rhoberta does this this way, to encourage those of us who've BEEN abused in these relationships can focus on our own healing, and not on the high-conflict individual (who does not want to recover since they don't think there's anything wrong with their behavior!) the way the rest of society seems to want us to continually do! But if you JUST MUST hear the term, Dr. Rhoberta uses it in the title of THIS video th-cam.com/video/GnJvmMW8dO0/w-d-xo.html
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Dr Shaler, THANK YOU for sharing these truths. HOW do I make an apt with you if I do not have a credit card? Would you accept an e-transfer? I am interested in getting some help from you for my relationship with my adult son. Thank you.
Hi, Joceline. You can make an initial appointment with me here: using credit card, PayPal, or Stripe: BeAClient.com I can accept an etransfer if you contact me through my website, www.ForRelationshipHelp.com
Each is different. The only way that sustained positive change can happen--or, have a chance of happening--is with long-term therapy. Most Hijackals have to believe that they are near flawless and that everyone else is wrong. You may have noticed that. :(
@Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships I'm really curious, do you believe all men that have gone through some sort of traumatic experience or depression are the ones that are considered "hijackals"? Is there any such thing as a "non-hijackal" (in your opinion) if most males have experienced some sort of depression or trauma to some sort of extent?
Great question, Mike. No, I do not believe that all trauma leads to people--male or female--having Hijackal traits and patterns. Yes, there are many people who have had trauma that affected them deeply without acquiring Hijackal traits.
Its really CONFUSING
i have a family of.crap. wear me down tear me down
Mother sister brother and more
i am 68 and wouldn’t know a good real relationship . i am LONELY!
all i see are Shallow manipulation around me . Acquaintances are just that and family of mental abuse.
i deserve realness and it doesn’t. come into my life. . so lonely and confused as to why i am aware and did all this work and STILL can’t find trusted. relationships before i die
We come so far, and take the warriors healing journey, its tough going,
I can relate, hi jackles are abundant!
I am content with having a relationship with myself.
Still hi jackles creep in and try to tear me down.
Pretending to want a friendship, only twist, gaslight, manipulate, power over, control and dominate, own, possession, thats not friendship!!!!!!!
They are masters at pretending and mirror our goodness.
Its easy to fall into their trap, all our conditioning of a life time .
I feel like red riding hood, must get rid of the cape! Lol.
My dog is my best friend, great company, and there is true unconditional ❤
I know there are people too, healthy and loving.
I wish you well in health and love
😊💕
I’m so sad that Dr Shaler had passed away. She was a true gift to so many of us. I’m so thankful she shared so many extremely helpful videos/podcasts, etc. May she rest in peace.
They subtly compare you with others, put you down and focus on negatives than 99% positives. You are never enough.
Sadly so...and, everything is your fault, too.
Stay strong dear ones . Don’t let a blackhole suck your light~life ❣️🧜♀️✌️
Exactly what I needed at the right time. Thank you. I thought I had done the work and was able to hold my own while cohabitating and coparenting, but I've backslid and found myself in such a rut. I finally cracked and got really upset with the hijackal. I tried in vain to get through to him only to hear all those horrible things all over again... but I've got to say, theres something to appreciate when they show their true colors and thoughts BC its helps validate what I know is true but sometimes forget. Hearing this video today is my rededication to my journey into wholeness and health. Love your content as usual!
I'm glad you found value from the podcast and created value for yourself from it.
I remember a day before this last christmas I was crying hardly because we argued, I can't believe he told me idiot, all my previous plans are faulty, I'm a failure, things like that, that is why during christmas, which is supposed to be a happy moment for us, my eyes are all swelled up. I just told my relatives I had severe allergy.
He is a joker, that is why sometimes when he jokes I dont take it seriously, but recently I realized that he is not telling it as a joke but really meant to hurt me. He called me idot, I'm too demanding which is not appropriate because I'm ugly, I'm a negligent mother, I always fail with my plans things like that. My previous reactions was to jump into bitter arguments and exchange of harsh words, but it is really tiring, our arguments always leave me torn and tired.
I am still in disbelief I was hearing those words from him.
I feel so helpless because I cant tell my mother and sisters because they will be so angry, maybe later I ll tell them. I was so down, I searched in YT the words verbal abuse, and that's the time I came across with your wonderful videos. Since then I am watching you and using your advise how to handle
Apparently, my wife, soon to be ex-wife, follows your topics and is trying to use it to ‘diagnose’ my behavior and the reasons why our marriage has failed. I saw her post on your, ‘passive aggressive’ video. She claims her behavior is only related to her ADHD. Thank you so much for your work in this area. It has helped me to find peace and resolve that I’m not the problem in our relationship like she claims I am. Shortly after we married, which was 6 months later we met, my mother died. Obviously, I was devastated . It must have been like hitting a jackpot for her. Thank you 🙏🏼. You’ve put a name and resources to what I’ve been suffering from…..her own deficiencies.
I'm glad to hear that you found it helpful. I wish you well.
Stunning, as usual, Dr. Shaler! Thank you so much!
Thanks for listening
I just want to say thank you so much dr. Roberta I have learned so much by watching your videos I just want to say they have been very helpful to me I have learned a lot and I know one thing there is no getting closure from a high jackal
You are so welcome!
You're right. That's why I always say that closure is an inside job. Here's a graphic I made about it: facebook.com/Hijackals/photos/a.142382553063834/796577894310960
Thank you Dr. Rhoberta.You are a very generous soul to share this information to help the victimized persons. God bless u💕
You're welcome!
Thank you very much, Dr. Shaler. This chanel needs more watchers.
Every word , you get it !
thank you i font want to hear it and i need to
I know you feeling there Lorraine I can relate very well to it
This is exactly my daughter
Thank you for this podcast it really helped in relationship to how I feel about my daughter and how she treats me
I feel done with her. I don't like her. I have no interest in having anything to do with her anymore.
I have hijackal adult children. Sad, but, true!
same
It's OK. Go ahead & use clinical, diagnostic terms. Go ahead you can do it. 🤗
Dr. Ramani has also talked about how much flack she gets from HER OWN PEERS because she focuses on the survivors of narcissistic relationships. I appreciate that Dr. Rhoberta does this this way, to encourage those of us who've BEEN abused in these relationships can focus on our own healing, and not on the high-conflict individual (who does not want to recover since they don't think there's anything wrong with their behavior!) the way the rest of society seems to want us to continually do! But if you JUST MUST hear the term, Dr. Rhoberta uses it in the title of THIS video th-cam.com/video/GnJvmMW8dO0/w-d-xo.html
What to do if bosses are tearing you down? You don't want to be with them, but they affect your career.
I've done a few videos that might help:
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th-cam.com/video/jFjNk7vZgCs/w-d-xo.html
High five ✋😊
Dr Shaler, THANK YOU for sharing these truths. HOW do I make an apt with you if I do not have a credit card? Would you accept an e-transfer? I am interested in getting some help from you for my relationship with my adult son. Thank you.
Hi, Joceline. You can make an initial appointment with me here: using credit card, PayPal, or Stripe: BeAClient.com I can accept an etransfer if you contact me through my website, www.ForRelationshipHelp.com
Can they ever change?
Each is different. The only way that sustained positive change can happen--or, have a chance of happening--is with long-term therapy. Most Hijackals have to believe that they are near flawless and that everyone else is wrong. You may have noticed that. :(
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@Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships
I'm really curious, do you believe all men that have gone through some sort of traumatic experience or depression are the ones that are considered "hijackals"? Is there any such thing as a "non-hijackal" (in your opinion) if most males have experienced some sort of depression or trauma to some sort of extent?
Great question, Mike. No, I do not believe that all trauma leads to people--male or female--having Hijackal traits and patterns. Yes, there are many people who have had trauma that affected them deeply without acquiring Hijackal traits.