They're not well ppl sad really never authenticly true loving... Imaging that, going round in cycles, with one person then the next. No introspection from the last realashionip..its obvious they weren't nurtured properly growing up.. Most ppl hv some problems with certain growing up stuff but this seems so unhealthy.. Anyway keep safe and learn the red flags 🎌 namaste 🙏
Heakthy realashionips or friendship should be reciprocal thats normal.. Build each other up in life. Not cause wedges and hurtful words violent words lure you into bad stuff and lie to you. While your cooking for them washing paying etc. They lay there doing nothing in house garden.. There users.. 😭 Sociopathy is the worse person who i'v indured.. He'll be hurt one day and hv his cash taken..B4 he's nearly dying like me now... karma.. I'm not vengfull, just it'll happen cos of him doing this to ppl. Feel sad for him. But I'm putting myself first from now on.. Definitely.. Stay strong ppl namaste 🙏
Omg the squirreling away. “What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours and mine!” It wasn’t until I started taking his bank statements (he thought he went paperless), and saw that the years leading up to the divorce he had been pulling out cash left right and center every few days. For years! While I’m clipping coupons and feeding our family from the weekly sales circular. I could go on but I won’t. They never feel they have enough. Must be a rotten core to have to take from your wife and the mother of your child. Or to be a parent sucking the life force out of your children and intentionally harming them. It’s a rotten lot, all of em. So grateful to see the playbook. I have been surrounded by them my whole life. But not anymore. Thank you for opening my eyes to the madness. It’s a toxic world out there. They feed on your light. Your light physically makes them ill, so they are on a mission to snuff it out. Oh hell no!! 🛡️🗡️💫
The difference is easy to explain - we are authentic a narcissist is not. We can reflect ourselves and have emotional empathy. We don´t need to feel superior above others (because we like ourselves and can deal with our strengths and weaknesses).
NO. Is beyond that. Being 'AUTHENTIC has to do with YOUR/OUR beliefs and our MORAL standards. This is more than what your/my eyes can see in the physical. ♥
@@hbennett5640 NO. IS not all true. And NO IS NOT THAT EASY TO EXPLAIN. If you think that is that easy you are still in danger of being deceived. Blessings to you!♥
This channel has become my daily affirmation that there are people who understand, people who are good, and people who care for others. Those of us who are empaths (you know who you are!!!) are so LUCKY and blessed…. as are those who get to have relationships with us lol XoXo 💋
Andrew, my marriage to one of those people ended today. As a result I will lose my home which I owned a long time before we even met. I discovered you some time ago. Although it's been hard, I am free from that individual. Thank you for your enlightenment, which has kept me educated enough to understand what was going on. I will always be truly grateful. Thank you thank you thank you. I may have taken a beating, but can live my best new life.
Sorry about the loss of your house I worry about Lodi g my house I could be homeless after 50 years it’s scarey I was very loving kind understanding good wife Hopefully 🤞we get divine intervention from above ❤
In my own opinion and experience, empaths do not gaslight. Empaths are not pathological liars. Empaths grow spiritually all the time. Empaths do not blame-shift. Empaths do not future fake. Empaths do not manipulate. Empaths are not controlling. Empaths are trustworthy and selfless. Empaths have a conscience and a heart. Empaths are loving, loyal and caring. Empaths follow through with commitments. Empaths have a heart of gold and do not give to get. Empaths do not torture and torment other people's souls on a daily basis. Etc, etc, etc. The narcissist is opposite in every way.
@@sickofit5547 It’s because they see something stronger than themselves in you. It’s because they feel inferior and until they feel like they are winning, and finding relief, they can’t admit that they need to work on themselves. We can only be so strong in fighting back until something breaks, and when that does, there becomes an opportunity for them to either confront it, or run from it. A window of opportunity. If they don’t understand that they need to work on themselves, then they are clueless as to why they do what they do.
Yep! My narc brainwashed my adult children and family members. Now I’m the enemy but I’m not the one who lied and cheated!😡 You Nailed it on All subjects! All so True!It’s taking time to heal but moving forward. Thank you Andrew I have been listening to you for 8 months and you are helping me greatly!😊💫🐘
They will eventually see and make the only decision to identify that is left. The narc always gets worse. Mine is being found out as of last week. It’s glorious. Keep the faith, it will happen. 🙏🙏👍👍
I'd had to stop watching TV shows I like around the narcissist in my life. Normally they just quietly use their phone while the tv is on, but If I'm watching something that they know I like, then I'll be bombarded with self obvious questions and them pretending to be confused about the show.
Yes we have a moral compass,,were out to help people and love and encourage them,we always have people's Best interest at heart,,were honest and trustworthy,,Far Far Removed from those Nasty People,,,Andrew Thanks for this Video❤❤❤❤
Thank you again for another home run Andrew! I just had the mask fall off and break yesterday with my Narcissist friend! She dropped the mask & ran! What a relief! The truth will set you free! Love & appreciate all that you do for this family/community!❤
They dig their own grave. They will try to twist the knife by hurting you any way they can, little do they know after so much abuse were able to walk. And they ultimately lose the best person that has come into their lives. Self destruction doesnt end well. Karma is real. Blessing and better things for us empaths 😽❤🙏
So true, and if you wouldn’t have said it, I would have. It’s terrible thing to just watch it happen to them, but even worse by letting them abuse us. Great comment. Thank you 🙏🙏👍👍❤️❤️
Thanks Andrew! You laid it all out plainly and clearly. I never understood how a Narcissist could derive sadistic pleasure ( even for a moment ) inflicted on their "loved one." You answered it-- "They can't love or love deeply."
Andrew This Video has given all Empaths courage ,encouragement, And Truths ,,We all are Beautiful Shinning Lights,,We are the invisible Angels in this World,,,God Sees us,👉💖💖💖👉🙏🙏🙏👉🌍🌟✝️
The difference between us and a narcissist? I have a soul?😀 I like that face you make at the beginning. I catch myself doing it too. Another great video. Thank you.
No one explains narcissism better and more beautifully than you Andrew. I enjoyed listening to the video. I can't put into words enough how grateful I am to you for everything I've learned from you. And I learned very, very much. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏❤️ so very much !!!
EMPATHY and LOVE 💯💯💯 Honestly it’s easier to list the things I have in common with the narc. We’re both humans… 🤔🤔 yep, that’s pretty much it. They take advantage of you in whatever way they think will mess with you the MOST. It’s sad and _very_ hurtful of them to do that, but that’s what they do. GREAT video, Andrew, thank you! I like it when you talk about being an Empath and how narcs take advantage of that. Maybe you could do a video on how Empaths can protect themselves from narcs, as the two are often drawn together. Again, GREAT video! Thank you! Hope you have a WONDERFUL evening!!! Love ya!!!❤️🙌☝️💯🐶🦌🐰🦋🌸🌼🌻🩷💜😇
…”we are both humans, that’s pretty much it”!!! Made me laugh initially and then think, you are spot on Jennifer!!! great and truthful observation. “ What do the sons of light have to do with the sons of darkness?”, absolutely NOTHING!!!♥️❤️💖🙏😊
One Professor I follow described the narcissist to a tee. They are individuals who never were able to bond with their 'mother figure.' Either due to abuse, abandonment, conditional love, or a stifling parent. The narcissist is always trying to find the "Mommy" replacement and gain an opportunity to discard new supply like his mother did to him/her. The narcissist as an adult is stuck in a two year old mindset. An empty shell of an adult body with the maturity level of a 2 year old. That will never change. Very dangerous. They are like AI (artificial intelligences), robots. They have no capacity to love, be empathetic or have introspection. They can only mimic. Hence the mask(s). Their ultimate goal is control and manipulation to gain whatever supply/fuel they can. They need fuel constantly. When they see potential good supply in someone, the narcissist solely works on bringing them into a shared fantasy with the final goal of discard (like his mother did to him/her). Starts with the love bombing and moves to the ultimate discard. And yes, if you think the connection is too good to be true, it is. Always. Once they have you they will continually devalue, use and abuse you. Alot of how they treat you is how they were abused, mistreated as infants/children. They don't care about your feelings or well-being. They only care about themselves, and getting constant supply from you and control. By taking all the tools that you have learned here on Andrew's channel and other self-study, it definitely helps you to identify these toxic individuals and know how to deal with them if you encounter one again or are presently in a relationship with one. Recovery from a narcissistic connection definitely takes time with good and some bad days. Everyone's healing process and timing is different. Indulge in all the self care that you can and need to help you recover, heal, grow, love and be ✨️💗😌💕
Thank you Andrew for expaining and making me aware of differences between empaths and narcissist . We give, give and give,love and empathy. They take take and take again until they have drained us. Evil tactics of an evil being. Andrew thankyou for continuing to enlighten me and for helping me understand narcissistic individuals. Love the lush green backdrop again.... 🌴🌴
For 3 years, the mask was so believable. The 3rd year he flipped a switch and I can vividly remember that day. We were only married 1 year at that point. It wasn't until I found your channel that I found out what the label for all these types of people in my life is. I've made a lot of changes and am a lot more picky about who I have in my life. I'm 1 year post relationship. To the newcomers, I promise you in time your heart won't hurt so badly. Your stomach won't have butterflies and knots, you won't cry when you think about the narc. You won't hate them, but you'll see in your own time the relationship for what it was, a game the narcissist played with us like we were their property and they were entitled to abuse us. You'll be free and truly understand the concept of liberation and freedom. It's a whole new world post relationship, but keep moving forward, because the hoovers just get more and more toxic. They don't change. They just change victims.
Your list is very helpful. I wrote it all down. Finally, am clear on how the siblings traded out my energy with their toxic gunk. No wonder it almost destroys us. I'm back stronger than ever before.
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family that's so easy....good versus evil, we have a heart versus they are heartless, we're caring versus they are uncaring, we know how to love and they don't know what love is, we have empathy and they have no empathy, we have a soul and they are soulless!!
Yes exactly, you nailed it and it’s just not fair. Your comment matched mine about 10 months ago. So yah, I get how you feel completely. Keep fighting and get free. 👍👍👍✌️✌️
Love the Palm trees. This is a really great video. Great topic. Thank you for reminding everyone that the narcissist will stay stuck in their own game of manipulation & deceit. But, you will rise & heal. God's blessings to you☀️☀️ 👉🪶👆🙂
Great video Andrew. The difference between me and my ex narcissist was that I truly loved him. I never lied to him about anything I was very open and honest about everything. Another difference is I cared about him I always put him before me or my needs, big mistake btw. I let him abuse me and made excuses for him. That is something I will never do or let anyone else try to hurt me in that way again. I am glad that things happened the way that they did, it was painful but it truly has made me stronger and smarter. I'm a much better person now than ever. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words. Stay strong everyone.
100% THIS!! Thank you Andrew. . . .Before I discovered narcissism, I could not understand his actions. I used to think, how can we be so different. . . .who acts like this? . . . Textbook. . . And quite pathetic.
Yes that resonates . Your spot on I am considered black sheep of the family because I was always labeled the too sensitive one. Because I cared or expressed empathy . I am the empath of the family I get it now . Everyone from my grand parents to parents siblings they’re all forms of narcissists unfortunately . I love them and have empathy tho still towards them even when they don’t deserve it maybe . I’m learning how to start having them respect my boundaries. It’s tough I’ve never really stood up for myself before . It’s sounds sad to write it out . I need to start speaking up for myself more . Thank you Andrew
Stop thinking this is about LOVE. Narcissist can't love. They will use the kid, pets, money, property, emotions. and every other thing you can think of to manipulate you. Blessings to you!
I realize that I was set up from birth. Obviously if you grow up with a narcissistic parent, you are going to gravitate towards what seems familiar(however toxic it might be.) Hence, the exponential relationships (romantic and friendships) I ended up in.
Unfortunately that's all we knew. So it was the normal way of life - for us. Fortunately we have lived long enough to discover another, and more fulfilling and beautiful way of life. It does take work to realign our thinking, habitual responses and to allow ourselves to be set free from what we were groomed to become for the conveniences of the narcs. We can do it! Isn't THAT amazing! Blessings dear brother!
Mine ATTEMPTED to turn folks against me but the ones who absolutely KNOW me, did not buy the lies for one moment. It actually ended up working to my advantage because I DISCOVERED who was with me and who was shaky . . . the shaky one or those who proved to be dangerous got the immediate chop. Unfortunately, some who tried to remain “neutral” but still maintained CONTACT with the narc also got the chop. When you realize how insidious the whole narc thing is, and if you have an OUNCE or love and/or respect for yourself, you STOP giving benefits of doubt and second chances and you love YOURSELF enough to ruthlessly defend your keep. Do NOT apologize for drawing defensive lines and holding like a pit bull TO THEM. IJS. . .
Whew! Glad you held to your sanity. Makes some of those TV Conspiracy dramas or intricate Mystery plots seem like documentaries. Nests of Madmen are out there.
Look forward to hearing this.. I’ve been really abused by narcissists who insist we are ‘just the same!’ & who preface everything with ‘we do this’ etc.. denying me my own separate personality!
Great observation Anna!! My ex narc husband used to love to use “we” a lot, and I wrongly thought he was trying not to insult me by saying “you”. Now I understand that wasn’t the case. He wanted to shift blame onto me in a covert way so that I wouldn’t notice and couldn’t blame him for anything, they use words in a very sneaky way to hide their nasty intent 🙏💖
Andrew I have been doing g so well with your help and the good people on this channel but tonight I came up against my narc mother and she ripped through me I was trying to make sure my 82 year old dad was eating regularly she called me a bully that old people don't eat much and I had to leave for my dad's sake I'm heartbroken
You have just as much right to care for him as she. If you don’t take good care of him, and if your afraid she won’t, then fight. See her as she is, and don’t back down. He’s your father after all. If he is being neglected….. my grandmother did that to my grandfather. He was bedridden and forced him to abide by her every whim, or he doesn’t get to eat or get attention, left alone in a bedroom all day. This one really hurts me. Feeble and an easy target. But then if your not living there, the spite might hurt him more. So I get it. I pray for you and him.
Thank you for your words, l feel a bit better now, quiet 🤫 and peaceful. I'm older now but more centred in myself whilst alone.. My breathing is bad now copd /bronchitis but least I'm not running 🏃 around doing this n that and paying for all and everything.. Have no money but happier than ever..alone is great and I have lovely walks now in the woods.. 🙂
Glad you found peace, Annette. I've experienced so much in my life, plenty of insightful moments. I've witnessed wealthy people passing away with all the money that couldn't help them. We're all headed to the same place. Better to NOT leave a legacy of people one has hurt and damaged, in a vicious race to acquire all that meaningless stuff. Enjoy your peaceful walks- you've earned it.
@@jhavajoe3792 Thank you, I will.. Love the slow walks while I can.. You to have a peaceful meaningful life of precious for free enjoyment, nature is so calming and in touch with out inner self.. Namaste..
Although what I just experienced with a Narcissist was so evil and unforgivable, thru your videos I realized that there where many toxic people in my life always stealing my energy and though very hard ,on the way to healing . Thanks Andrew 🙏😌❤️
The biggest difference I think is that we tend to take reality head on , and try to make the best of things , we are dreamers , yet realists at the same time . However the narcissist remains in a constant state of denial about their importance , power and place in the world . If things go wrong they are far more likely to collapse , as we are actually more resilient and adaptive , the exact opposite of what the narcissist brain washed us into believing ! They want us to see ourselves as secondary , lost and weak ! With the education we learn that this is only their false take on reality , and that we are actually much stronger freer than we ever thought !! 💪😎❤
I was run down by my narcissistic mother and the black sheep all my life, now she is best friends with my ex husband and team up against me. These people are sick snd deco do not love! Just want to hurt everyone. Now I have to shield my son from both of them who want to say sick lies to him. Pure hatred. You are spot on.
It's been almost 11 month since he left without an explanation. THE BEST things that's ever happened to me hahahaha Im laughing now because I guess I'm healing but the truth is, before the "discovery" me and all my side of the family thought he was a blessing. And always struggling financially poor guy works so hard. My dad could never work out why such a hardworking man always lacked money. And my parents would invest a good chunk over and over again to start yet again a new business adventure. It all becomes very very clear now. MANY THANKS to you, Andrew, and to your so very helpful videos. Ive learnt so much and everything relates to my personal experience 1000%. I listen to your videos daily now and it really keeps keep the straight head. Sending you hugs from beautiful Spain 🙌💙
"They know what they're doing". Another hard hitting truth from Andrew... Often though I still can't believe it or understand it 😳😵💫....but I have to remind myself of all I've been through, and am still going through, and remind myself that they are intentional with every word and every silence, and every withholding and every apparent giving, and every misdirection and every rage fit to get you to do what they want instead of what is right/good for you too. I didn't believe in evil until finding out such a thing as narcissism exists, and it is real and it is dangerous. You will become their slave, and an unhappy mistreated one at that! Years will be lost. Everything good will be lost. God deliver us from their Hell 🙏.
They are fear-based. I am not. They are desperate for control. I am not. They must gain power over all people and things around them. Sad, self-destructive persons who learn and use tactics to feed on the energy of others in order to survive. We are simply targets for their emotional/financial/social vampirism. Even in the most difficult times during my journey out, I always know there can be no returning to or justification for what happened. Doing the work produces results, even the smallest moves help to confirm this. Onward!
Absolutely spot on. My mother was a narcissist, my first husband was a violent narcissist and my last husband was a very sneaky, habitual liar narcissist. I still have a lot of healing to do, but yes. The sun is shining brighter these days and I am happier than I have been my whole life. Because I'm free to be me.❤
Keep shining that light Andrew. Listen and learn good people and love yourself and dont let these people in your life. It will be the best for you. Keep moving forward. There is light at the end of the tunnel. God bless us all 🫂 🙏
I’ve suffered years in a toxic relationship with a narcissist it effected me alot. I’m out of it pray 🙏🏻 everyone knows this early on and doesn’t entertain these type of people. Thank you Andrew 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 so spot on what you talk about. Watching this channel helps my healing processes understanding it wasn’t me it was them all along.
Yes my ex-husband vilified me to my oldest boy and his grandmother and grandfather accelerated the problems and he's 42 years old won't talk to me he never caught on that they were using him
Painful, Audrey. I brought up 2 daughters ( grown now). As expected, one was influenced along with the ex's brainwash, but the other daughter remains unmoved in her perception about things. The daughter who went along with the vilification seems to need a place/person to blame the stresses of life. It's ok- I accept and we don't communicate, but the 2nd daughter was the lifeline to affirm I wasn't the "bad guy." All you need is one friend on your side. None there? Then, if you know- good enough. Hold your head up and push on.
🙏🙏❤️❤️Thank you so much. Caught this message later in the evening and you really blessed my soul and helps me to process some things as I’m heading to rest. Toxic people are on this spectrum of differences between us and them as well as narcs, I’m finding. Very grateful for you Andrew and this community.❤️💞🌸🙏❤️
We are genuine. He always found something wrong with everyone we knew. Within the narc lies a deep fear, they cannot associate with others in any way. He’s on a high right now at the gym. Lots of supply there. He’ll be found out. I’m healing quite nicely thanks to you Andrew 😊 & educating myself. This 24 yr marriage was nothing I should have been in ever. Not sorry bc my life now can only be authentic bc of what I’ve learned. Lots of info for that book I’m working on👍🏻
Great video Andrew!! Ever since experiencing narcissistic abuse, I have a much different perspective on certain things, such as an opportunity for being blessed financially. It is one thing to be wealthy because that money was honestly earned, not earned by causing harm/death to others. While being wealthy is not wrong, loving it to the point in which someone views it as being more important than life itself is. Unfortunately, every person who I have known personally or have known that is wealthy is out of touch with reality. They are naturally very controlling and are used to getting their way when, where, and how they want to accomplish this, often leaving severe consequences for anyone in their lives and around them. The love of money is what made my case life threatening at times, so I am thankful that that part of my case ended up being false. I've always preferred a more simple way of life and believe that much more can be accomplished without having a lot of it, even though I realize that it is needed to a certain extent. I believe that the Midwest has a lot to do with it, since this is where life began for me ❤️🙏🙌🌻🕊️
Thank you Andrew for your valuable knowledge. Your wisdom is so accurate, nothing else to add, all adds up. I have no doubts, I'm glad I managed to get out, but I know they will go after me. I would love to speak to you, as nobody without the knowledge will be able to understand it.
People blame me for being quiet, I don't want to spend my life standing up for myself and fighting and arguing. Is that true people like this get abused😢 I was told that meeting narcissist is a lesson, well if that's the case I won't be taking xxx from no one anymore
Thank you Andrew...I listened twice where you talk abt how they complicate it for you with children. I've been fighting for a grownup child in the family, that I've always loved. But I can feel how that young person is moving away from me. It is very painful! They leave me completly outside the warmth of being in a family. Never ask me to attend any get-to-gether not even christmas. I'm outside and nobody cares. I've been thinking its got to to with them being scared. Well. Suppose I stopt belong the day I told them they did wrong to me. /Annie
So much TRUTH in this video Andrew. Is it best to let the "flying monkeys 🐒 go" ? I was targeted awhile ago from someone in this group. Is there justice for the enablers? I had some items stolen whilst the "flying monkeys" were watching over them. Precious family things! No help from Police or other "friends". I have learned to cut my losses and grieve the lack of friendship in this situation. What else can I do? Everyone turned their backs on me. (Smear Campaign) residue. Now I spend my time on my healing and my love for creativity! Thank you always Andrew 💓
I love to see the humility and humbleness of some of the comments here! Other's who think empaths are PERFECT human beings and have ZERO character defects, or weaknesses, are sounding more like Narcs. Righteousness is not a pretty thing. Also, remember that not all comments are for everyone. Each person here is in their own healing path and is not linear. Remember to just take what you are able to process and accept and ignore the rest. Blessings to all! Namaste ♥
Hey Andrew. A great video to make would be how and on what to journal throughout the healing process. I am thankful that I started journaling while still being in the relationship, but right now I’m at a point where I don’t know what to journal on
Oh yes, they divide and conquer all the time. It gives them a feeling of power over the situation whatever it is. My narc mother raised my brother and i to be at odds with each other. It resulted that we never got along. And my brother was the golden child of my narc mother and he turned out to be just like her. Great video Andrew thanks. Have a beautiful afternoon ❤🙌🙏
My ex mother in law did this at the dinner table with her children. Then she would grin...so pleased that she could caused such calamity amongst them. It was creepy!!! 🎀😘
In honor of the fanatical narcissist, my mother (she calls herself). She worked overtime and got many degrees while she knew he was abusing us at home. She would call it punishment but we were tortured and subjective to adult porn and custom holed paddles. He even dressed in drag, he was a sadistic cutter. He would even cut himself in front of me and he didn't know I watched hoping he would cut himself deeper and die.
I am sorry this happened to you..........just know that there is goodness also.....we live in an evil time but there are good people and these demons you grew up with have shown you how not to be.........never let them harden your heart.......they chose to be demons......
Our narc didn’t want to see the kids while we were married and left me and would act innocent in front if the kids when he knew he was with his mistress.
Its part of my gratitide for you as a friend. Not sure if I would have made it out of this wo your advice. Ty. I love your smile. I finally have mine back!
He definitely withheld intimacy. Transactional. If I did something he needed, I would get 'rewarded' with complete sentences rather than just one or two word answers at best, or even the silent treatment for over 24 hours (all by text of course because he wanted to limit the time we actually spent together in person. unless he wanted something from me). Sex became less frequent - I would only get that when he wanted to ask to borrow money either the very same day or the next day. But now it all makes sense - when I eventually figured out that he wasn't just pushing me away due to his mental health problems and started to put boundaries in place, I became enemy number 1. Despicable behaviour
The un paid worker, I definitely felt that. When i got here, we had an agreement where i do 8 hours of yard work for $120, maintaining his 3 acre property, only to slowly over time end up spending more than 30 hours a week, without my pay increasing. Not to mention that despite the exfra hours i was spending, he would use any excuse he could find, not to pay me on payday. I've had serious thoughts about suing for all the unpaid labor. As i have found out while looking into it, this is called, theft of services, and with the amount he owes hes in felony territory. Im just not sure if its really worth my energy to do this though.
Unlike the narcissist, I follow ethics and laws.
Great answer.
Absolutely! ❤👍🙏
Yes what u see is what u get we are very genuine people,👉💖🙏🙏🌍
That is a big thing to me, too.
And can be flexible and see life from the perspective of others...
They really are just plain evil.
The sad truth of it!
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They belong on another planet! 🐉🥺
They're not well ppl sad really never authenticly true loving... Imaging that, going round in cycles, with one person then the next. No introspection from the last realashionip..its obvious they weren't nurtured properly growing up.. Most ppl hv some problems with certain growing up stuff but this seems so unhealthy..
Anyway keep safe and learn the red flags 🎌 namaste 🙏
I had eshausted my inheritance 😢.. No thanks nothing..
Heakthy realashionips or friendship should be reciprocal thats normal.. Build each other up in life. Not cause wedges and hurtful words violent words lure you into bad stuff and lie to you. While your cooking for them washing paying etc. They lay there doing nothing in house garden.. There users.. 😭 Sociopathy is the worse person who i'v indured.. He'll be hurt one day and hv his cash taken..B4 he's nearly dying like me now... karma..
I'm not vengfull, just it'll happen cos of him doing this to ppl. Feel sad for him. But I'm putting myself first from now on.. Definitely.. Stay strong ppl namaste 🙏
Omg the squirreling away. “What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours and mine!” It wasn’t until I started taking his bank statements (he thought he went paperless), and saw that the years leading up to the divorce he had been pulling out cash left right and center every few days. For years! While I’m clipping coupons and feeding our family from the weekly sales circular. I could go on but I won’t. They never feel they have enough. Must be a rotten core to have to take from your wife and the mother of your child. Or to be a parent sucking the life force out of your children and intentionally harming them. It’s a rotten lot, all of em. So grateful to see the playbook. I have been surrounded by them my whole life. But not anymore. Thank you for opening my eyes to the madness. It’s a toxic world out there. They feed on your light. Your light physically makes them ill, so they are on a mission to snuff it out. Oh hell no!! 🛡️🗡️💫
The difference is easy to explain - we are authentic a narcissist is not. We can reflect ourselves and have emotional empathy. We don´t need to feel superior above others (because we like ourselves and can deal with our strengths and weaknesses).
So true❤
Yes very true 👉🌟💖🙏🌍
Exactly. Excellent post ❤
NO. Is beyond that. Being 'AUTHENTIC has to do with YOUR/OUR beliefs and our MORAL standards. This is more than what your/my eyes can see in the physical. ♥
@@hbennett5640 NO. IS not all true. And NO IS NOT THAT EASY TO EXPLAIN. If you think that is that easy you are still in danger of being deceived. Blessings to you!♥
They’re afraid of honesty.
So true
Thanks for letting me know that I’m not alone!
They try, try, try to put you down,
grind you down, hold you down!
This channel has become my daily affirmation that there are people who understand, people who are good, and people who care for others. Those of us who are empaths (you know who you are!!!) are so LUCKY and blessed…. as are those who get to have relationships with us lol XoXo 💋
RIGHT ON NINI JELLYBEANIE !!🙏💪HE IS SOOOO CORRECT AND GREAT!! ME TOO !!
For sure! This channel more than likely saved me from a one way street to hell, i hung in there and now im starting to get my shit back.
Andrew, my marriage to one of those people ended today. As a result I will lose my home which I owned a long time before we even met. I discovered you some time ago. Although it's been hard, I am free from that individual. Thank you for your enlightenment, which has kept me educated enough to understand what was going on. I will always be truly grateful. Thank you thank you thank you. I may have taken a beating, but can live my best new life.
Wishing you all the best of everything,👉🙏🙏🙏👉💖💖💖🫂✨🌺
Thank you.
Sorry about the loss of your house I worry about Lodi g my house I could be homeless after 50 years it’s scarey I was very loving kind understanding good wife
Hopefully 🤞we get divine intervention from above ❤
You lost a house but you now have your freedom celebrate🥰
How could you lose your own home?
This is wrong
In my own opinion and experience, empaths do not gaslight.
Empaths are not pathological liars.
Empaths grow spiritually all the time.
Empaths do not blame-shift.
Empaths do not future fake.
Empaths do not manipulate.
Empaths are not controlling.
Empaths are trustworthy and selfless.
Empaths have a conscience and a heart.
Empaths are loving, loyal and caring.
Empaths follow through with commitments.
Empaths have a heart of gold and do not give to get.
Empaths do not torture and torment other people's souls on a daily basis.
Etc, etc, etc.
The narcissist is opposite in every way.
It’s so crazy that they feel like they need to be. Always competing like this. It’s sad. Thanks
@@christopherbrubaker2070 I’m sick of them. Why can’t they focus on they mf self.
@@sickofit5547 It’s because they see something stronger than themselves in you. It’s because they feel inferior and until they feel like they are winning, and finding relief, they can’t admit that they need to work on themselves. We can only be so strong in fighting back until something breaks, and when that does, there becomes an opportunity for them to either confront it, or run from it. A window of opportunity. If they don’t understand that they need to work on themselves, then they are clueless as to why they do what they do.
Narcissist carries the spirit of contention, Empaths carry the spirit of the Lord
Absolutely 💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥
The only thing i ever had in common with the Narc was (Blue Cheese) and he most probably lied about that too,🤣🤣👉🤡😈
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I look forward to Andrew’s “dad stare” with every video. It lightens the mood of some dark insights. ❤
Yep! My narc brainwashed my adult children and family members. Now I’m the enemy but I’m not the one who lied and cheated!😡 You Nailed it on All subjects! All so True!It’s taking time to heal but moving forward. Thank you Andrew I have been listening to you for 8 months and you are helping me greatly!😊💫🐘
He tries to brainwash me, but I'm way ahead of him.👍
Your children will see through the Narc,,mine did,👉🙏🙏💖🌍
@@flowerpower4944 Waiting patiently! Thank you!🤗💫🐘
They will eventually see and make the only decision to identify that is left. The narc always gets worse. Mine is being found out as of last week. It’s glorious. Keep the faith, it will happen. 🙏🙏👍👍
@@christopherbrubaker2070 Thank you!🤗💫🐘
Once the mask is off -Well... that's enough.
Peace To All.
"Cess pool of manipulation" powerful words.
I'd had to stop watching TV shows I like around the narcissist in my life. Normally they just quietly use their phone while the tv is on, but If I'm watching something that they know I like, then I'll be bombarded with self obvious questions and them pretending to be confused about the show.
Yes we have a moral compass,,were out to help people and love and encourage them,we always have people's Best interest at heart,,were honest and trustworthy,,Far Far Removed from those Nasty People,,,Andrew Thanks for this Video❤❤❤❤
Thank you again for another home run Andrew! I just had the mask fall off and break yesterday with my Narcissist friend! She dropped the mask & ran! What a relief! The truth will set you free! Love & appreciate all that you do for this family/community!❤
YES ! ! !
When the mask falls and shatters, it is a strange experience. Glad you could feel the relief.
And ran? Wow. Can you elaborate on the specifics.
Andrew will break the homerun record at this pace. Thank you!
They dig their own grave. They will try to twist the knife by hurting you any way they can, little do they know after so much abuse were able to walk. And they ultimately lose the best person that has come into their lives. Self destruction doesnt end well. Karma is real. Blessing and better things for us empaths 😽❤🙏
So true, and if you wouldn’t have said it, I would have. It’s terrible thing to just watch it happen to them, but even worse by letting them abuse us. Great comment. Thank you 🙏🙏👍👍❤️❤️
Their big weakness- they underestimate people and will pay the price in the long run.
Thanks Andrew! You laid it all out plainly and clearly. I never understood how a Narcissist could derive sadistic pleasure ( even for a moment ) inflicted on their "loved one." You answered it-- "They can't love or love deeply."
Andrew This Video has given all Empaths courage ,encouragement, And Truths ,,We all are Beautiful Shinning Lights,,We are the invisible Angels in this World,,,God Sees us,👉💖💖💖👉🙏🙏🙏👉🌍🌟✝️
The difference between us and a narcissist? I have a soul?😀 I like that face you make at the beginning. I catch myself doing it too. Another great video. Thank you.
Bob , can i call you bob, well bob thats funny. Thats a jack nickelson
No one explains narcissism better and more beautifully than you Andrew. I enjoyed listening to the video.
I can't put into words enough how grateful I am to you for everything I've learned from you. And I learned very, very much.
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏❤️ so very much !!!
❤❤❤❤❤❤NOBODY does it better!!!
@@jennifernewton4637 agree 👍👍👍
EMPATHY and LOVE 💯💯💯 Honestly it’s easier to list the things I have in common with the narc. We’re both humans… 🤔🤔 yep, that’s pretty much it. They take advantage of you in whatever way they think will mess with you the MOST. It’s sad and _very_ hurtful of them to do that, but that’s what they do.
GREAT video, Andrew, thank you! I like it when you talk about being an Empath and how narcs take advantage of that. Maybe you could do a video on how Empaths can protect themselves from narcs, as the two are often drawn together. Again, GREAT video! Thank you! Hope you have a WONDERFUL evening!!! Love ya!!!❤️🙌☝️💯🐶🦌🐰🦋🌸🌼🌻🩷💜😇
Powerful comment. I agree with you 💯 percent. Thanks for sharing 🙏😊💗
@@mekaela2024Thank you Mekaela! 🙏🙏🙏😌🩷💜🩷💜 I’m glad it resonated 😊😊😊
I love what you shared ❤🙌🙏
…”we are both humans, that’s pretty much it”!!! Made me laugh initially and then think, you are spot on Jennifer!!! great and truthful observation.
“ What do the sons of light have to do with the sons of darkness?”, absolutely NOTHING!!!♥️❤️💖🙏😊
One Professor I follow described the narcissist to a tee. They are individuals who never were able to bond with their 'mother figure.' Either due to abuse, abandonment, conditional love, or a stifling parent. The narcissist is always trying to find the "Mommy" replacement and gain an opportunity to discard new supply like his mother did to him/her.
The narcissist as an adult is stuck in a two year old mindset. An empty shell of an adult body with the maturity level of a 2 year old. That will never change. Very dangerous. They are like AI (artificial intelligences), robots. They have no capacity to love, be empathetic or have introspection. They can only mimic. Hence the mask(s). Their ultimate goal is control and manipulation to gain whatever supply/fuel they can. They need fuel constantly. When they see potential good supply in someone, the narcissist solely works on bringing them into a shared fantasy with the final goal of discard (like his mother did to him/her). Starts with the love bombing and moves to the ultimate discard. And yes, if you think the connection is too good to be true, it is. Always. Once they have you they will continually devalue, use and abuse you. Alot of how they treat you is how they were abused, mistreated as infants/children. They don't care about your feelings or well-being. They only care about themselves, and getting constant supply from you and control.
By taking all the tools that you have learned here on Andrew's channel and other self-study, it definitely helps you to identify these toxic individuals and know how to deal with them if you encounter one again or are presently in a relationship with one.
Recovery from a narcissistic connection definitely takes time with good and some bad days. Everyone's healing process and timing is different. Indulge in all the self care that you can and need to help you recover, heal, grow, love and be ✨️💗😌💕
I have to agree w you, however, in our case, my child was so heavily brainwashed against me, the Mother, that we couldn't bond the way we could've & should have. Bc of their incessant Grooming & programming. It's INSIDIOUS what these Creatures do!!! 👺👺👺👿👿👿🙈🙉🙊🤡🤡🤡🎭🎭🎭🎪🎪🎪⚰️⚰️⚰️🪦🪦🪦©️
Thank you Andrew for expaining and making me aware of differences between empaths and narcissist . We give, give and give,love and empathy. They take take and take again until they have drained us. Evil tactics of an evil being. Andrew thankyou for continuing to enlighten me and for helping me understand narcissistic individuals.
Love the lush green backdrop again.... 🌴🌴
For 3 years, the mask was so believable. The 3rd year he flipped a switch and I can vividly remember that day. We were only married 1 year at that point. It wasn't until I found your channel that I found out what the label for all these types of people in my life is. I've made a lot of changes and am a lot more picky about who I have in my life. I'm 1 year post relationship. To the newcomers, I promise you in time your heart won't hurt so badly. Your stomach won't have butterflies and knots, you won't cry when you think about the narc. You won't hate them, but you'll see in your own time the relationship for what it was, a game the narcissist played with us like we were their property and they were entitled to abuse us. You'll be free and truly understand the concept of liberation and freedom. It's a whole new world post relationship, but keep moving forward, because the hoovers just get more and more toxic. They don't change. They just change victims.
Very good content ☝️ thank you 💐🙏
Well said!!! 👏🏻🔥👏🏻🔥👏🏻💯💯💯
Your list is very helpful. I wrote it all down. Finally, am clear on how the siblings traded out my energy with their toxic gunk. No wonder it almost destroys us. I'm back stronger than ever before.
I’m so glad to hear it Kathleen! 👍👍🙏🙏❤️❤️✨✨✨
@@christopherbrubaker2070 Thanks, Christopher.
Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family that's so easy....good versus evil, we have a heart versus they are heartless, we're caring versus they are uncaring, we know how to love and they don't know what love is, we have empathy and they have no empathy, we have a soul and they are soulless!!
Yes exactly, you nailed it and it’s just not fair. Your comment matched mine about 10 months ago. So yah, I get how you feel completely. Keep fighting and get free. 👍👍👍✌️✌️
I didn't know whether they withheld affection or they didn't know how. In either case ... unacceptable!
It's emotional abuse
I thought I would always be there, yet I knew I wouldn't be.
That tears at your heart.
Right the narc calls us weak . But nothing is further from the truth and they know it
Their greatest weakness is underestimating others.
Love the Palm trees. This is a really great video. Great topic. Thank you for reminding everyone that the narcissist will stay stuck in their own game of manipulation & deceit. But, you will rise & heal. God's blessings to you☀️☀️ 👉🪶👆🙂
These are Banana trees
@@Patricia_Stewart337 Thank you for sharing the name with me 🙂
Unmatched morals, values, beliefs.❣️
Thank you Andrew. I know you understand this. This needs to be known.
Absolutely!!! 👍
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Great video Andrew. The difference between me and my ex narcissist was that I truly loved him. I never lied to him about anything I was very open and honest about everything. Another difference is I cared about him I always put him before me or my needs, big mistake btw. I let him abuse me and made excuses for him. That is something I will never do or let anyone else try to hurt me in that way again. I am glad that things happened the way that they did, it was painful but it truly has made me stronger and smarter. I'm a much better person now than ever. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words. Stay strong everyone.
100% THIS!! Thank you Andrew. . . .Before I discovered narcissism, I could not understand his actions. I used to think, how can we be so different. . . .who acts like this? . . . Textbook. . . And quite pathetic.
They don't seem to have any integrity
Yes that resonates . Your spot on I am considered black sheep of the family because I was always labeled the too sensitive one. Because I cared or expressed empathy . I am the empath of the family I get it now . Everyone from my grand parents to parents siblings they’re all forms of narcissists unfortunately . I love them and have empathy tho still towards them even when they don’t deserve it maybe . I’m learning how to start having them respect my boundaries. It’s tough I’ve never really stood up for myself before . It’s sounds sad to write it out . I need to start speaking up for myself more . Thank you Andrew
Stop thinking this is about LOVE. Narcissist can't love. They will use the kid, pets, money, property, emotions. and every other thing you can think of to manipulate you. Blessings to you!
If you start to set boundaries, you'll soon realize how empathetic they are. Be nice to yourself and keep a very large distance from the poison.
I realize that I was set up from birth. Obviously if you grow up with a narcissistic parent, you are going to gravitate towards what seems familiar(however toxic it might be.) Hence, the exponential relationships (romantic and friendships) I ended up in.
Excellent point. Thank you for sharing 😌
Yes you go from a narc parent to a narc partner
Unfortunately that's all we knew. So it was the normal way of life - for us. Fortunately we have lived long enough to discover another, and more fulfilling and beautiful way of life. It does take work to realign our thinking, habitual responses and to allow ourselves to be set free from what we were groomed to become for the conveniences of the narcs. We can do it! Isn't THAT amazing!
Blessings dear brother!
I agree with this.
Oh my, snap! I hear you ❤
The difference, I am a God fearing, giving, caring and loving person. On the hand that person is a demonic entity. Puré evil
Mine ATTEMPTED to turn folks against me but the ones who absolutely KNOW me, did not buy the lies for one moment.
It actually ended up working to my advantage because I DISCOVERED who was with me and who was shaky . . . the shaky one or those who proved to be dangerous got the immediate chop.
Unfortunately, some who tried to remain “neutral” but still maintained CONTACT with the narc also got the chop.
When you realize how insidious the whole narc thing is, and if you have an OUNCE or love and/or respect for yourself, you STOP giving benefits of doubt and second chances and you love YOURSELF enough to ruthlessly defend your keep.
Do NOT apologize for drawing defensive lines and holding like a pit bull TO THEM. IJS. . .
Thanks Andrew, I would not know what I would do without your wisdom. I am currently in the fog but there are better days to come :)
Your honesty and courage is inspiring. JUST SAY. I am WALKING OUT OF THE FOG. Take a walk everyday and pray and meditate. Blessings to you!
Me too! There's hope for us, we are in good hands in Andrew's community 😊
I hear what you're saying Andrew I was the good one but yet I was a vilified one at the same time
It's my 70th birthday Andrew 🎉
Very happy Birthday to you!!!! 70 yrs YOUNG AND BEAUTIFUL! ❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
Happy Birthday🎉🎈🎊🎁
I hope you enjoy your day!!💜
Happy Birthday! Mine was Sunday...Libra..❤🌷🙏✌️😀🍺🍺🍺🍺
Happy Birthday Marilyn,
God bless you sweetie!
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Happy Birthday Marilyn...... hope your are enjoying your day 🎂🍰🍧🥂🎁🎉🎈🎊🎈🌷💕
These people used to make me feel like there was something wrong with me. They were the crazy making ones all along. So sad what they do. No Contact.
Whew! Glad you held to your sanity. Makes some of those TV Conspiracy dramas or intricate Mystery plots seem like documentaries. Nests of Madmen are out there.
They should do tv shows about these people but they wont. The world is run by them @@jhavajoe3792
Look forward to hearing this..
I’ve been really abused by narcissists who insist we are ‘just the same!’ & who preface everything with ‘we do this’ etc.. denying me my own separate personality!
Great observation Anna!! My ex narc husband used to love to use “we” a lot, and I wrongly thought he was trying not to insult me by saying “you”. Now I understand that wasn’t the case. He wanted to shift blame onto me in a covert way so that I wouldn’t notice and couldn’t blame him for anything, they use words in a very sneaky way to hide their nasty intent 🙏💖
Yes the feed us their reality in a very sneaky word play on a daily basis,spoon feeding us B.s.,,part of the gaslighting,,👉💖💖🙏
Andrew I have been doing g so well with your help and the good people on this channel but tonight I came up against my narc mother and she ripped through me I was trying to make sure my 82 year old dad was eating regularly she called me a bully that old people don't eat much and I had to leave for my dad's sake I'm heartbroken
You have just as much right to care for him as she. If you don’t take good care of him, and if your afraid she won’t, then fight. See her as she is, and don’t back down. He’s your father after all. If he is being neglected….. my grandmother did that to my grandfather. He was bedridden and forced him to abide by her every whim, or he doesn’t get to eat or get attention, left alone in a bedroom all day. This one really hurts me. Feeble and an easy target. But then if your not living there, the spite might hurt him more. So I get it. I pray for you and him.
Andrew words are totally accurate about the kids they love being the popular parent while encouraging disrespect to their spouse
I dont know how to thank you Andrew. Love you too.❤❤❤❤
Very true points Andrew, especially the smart phone comments. Where would they be without their precious phones 📱📱📱📱📱?????
Thank you for your words, l feel a bit better now, quiet 🤫 and peaceful. I'm older now but more centred in myself whilst alone.. My breathing is bad now copd /bronchitis but least I'm not running 🏃 around doing this n that and paying for all and everything.. Have no money but happier than ever..alone is great and I have lovely walks now in the woods.. 🙂
Glad you found peace, Annette. I've experienced so much in my life, plenty of insightful moments. I've witnessed wealthy people passing away with all the money that couldn't help them. We're all headed to the same place. Better to NOT leave a legacy of people one has hurt and damaged, in a vicious race to acquire all that meaningless stuff. Enjoy your peaceful walks- you've earned it.
@@jhavajoe3792 Thank you, I will.. Love the slow walks while I can.. You to have a peaceful meaningful life of precious for free enjoyment, nature is so calming and in touch with out inner self.. Namaste..
Empaths are Warriors! Empaths are Strong and Loving People. Narc daughter weaponized the grandchildren against me.
Although what I just experienced with a Narcissist was so evil and unforgivable, thru your videos I realized that there where many toxic people in my life always stealing my energy and though very hard ,on the way to healing . Thanks Andrew 🙏😌❤️
14:46 "..15 jumping jancks and run around the block for 3 hours." Andrew is unintentionally hilarious with some of the analogies. 🤣🤣🤣
The biggest difference I think is that we tend to take reality head on , and try to make the best of things , we are dreamers , yet realists at the same time . However the narcissist remains in a constant state of denial about their importance , power and place in the world . If things go wrong they are far more likely to collapse , as we are actually more resilient and adaptive , the exact opposite of what the narcissist brain washed us into believing ! They want us to see ourselves as secondary , lost and weak !
With the education we learn that this is only their false take on reality , and that we are actually much stronger freer than we ever thought !! 💪😎❤
I was run down by my narcissistic mother and the black sheep all my life, now she is best friends with my ex husband and team up against me. These people are sick snd deco do not love! Just want to hurt everyone. Now I have to shield my son from both of them who want to say sick lies to him. Pure hatred. You are spot on.
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Bless, Andrew. Here daily to lift us up and make us stronger. I'm not here daily now, a sign of my progress and healing. On the up!
It's been almost 11 month since he left without an explanation. THE BEST things that's ever happened to me hahahaha Im laughing now because I guess I'm healing but the truth is, before the "discovery" me and all my side of the family thought he was a blessing. And always struggling financially poor guy works so hard. My dad could never work out why such a hardworking man always lacked money. And my parents would invest a good chunk over and over again to start yet again a new business adventure. It all becomes very very clear now. MANY THANKS to you, Andrew, and to your so very helpful videos. Ive learnt so much and everything relates to my personal experience 1000%. I listen to your videos daily now and it really keeps keep the straight head. Sending you hugs from beautiful Spain 🙌💙
I often laugh and some points in these and other videos! I take it as a sign of progress and healing. I'm back :)
@@irielion3748 yes!! Welcome back to the third version of yourself 😉🙌🙌🙌🫶
"They know what they're doing". Another hard hitting truth from Andrew... Often though I still can't believe it or understand it 😳😵💫....but I have to remind myself of all I've been through, and am still going through, and remind myself that they are intentional with every word and every silence, and every withholding and every apparent giving, and every misdirection and every rage fit to get you to do what they want instead of what is right/good for you too. I didn't believe in evil until finding out such a thing as narcissism exists, and it is real and it is dangerous. You will become their slave, and an unhappy mistreated one at that! Years will be lost. Everything good will be lost. God deliver us from their Hell 🙏.
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They are fear-based. I am not. They are desperate for control. I am not. They must gain power over all people and things around them. Sad, self-destructive persons who learn and use tactics to feed on the energy of others in order to survive.
We are simply targets for their emotional/financial/social vampirism.
Even in the most difficult times during my journey out, I always know there can be no returning to or justification for what happened. Doing the work produces results, even the smallest moves help to confirm this.
Onward!
Excellent!!! 👍👍👍👍👍
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Oh yah, and it sucks. It’s just the way it has to be I guess. Keep fighting. 👍👍✊✊👍✊✊🙏🙏
Absolutely spot on. My mother was a narcissist, my first husband was a violent narcissist and my last husband was a very sneaky, habitual liar narcissist. I still have a lot of healing to do, but yes. The sun is shining brighter these days and I am happier than I have been my whole life. Because I'm free to be me.❤
Keep shining that light Andrew. Listen and learn good people and love yourself and dont let these people in your life. It will be the best for you. Keep moving forward. There is light at the end of the tunnel. God bless us all 🫂 🙏
Great video, Andrew 😊
Hi Mary!❤
Thank you for this wonderful video ❤
I’ve suffered years in a toxic relationship with a narcissist it effected me alot. I’m out of it pray 🙏🏻 everyone knows this early on and doesn’t entertain these type of people. Thank you Andrew 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 so spot on what you talk about. Watching this channel helps my healing processes understanding it wasn’t me it was them all along.
Yes my ex-husband vilified me to my oldest boy and his grandmother and grandfather accelerated the problems and he's 42 years old won't talk to me he never caught on that they were using him
Painful, Audrey. I brought up 2 daughters ( grown now). As expected, one was influenced along with the ex's brainwash, but the other daughter remains unmoved in her perception about things. The daughter who went along with the vilification seems to need a place/person to blame the stresses of life. It's ok- I accept and we don't communicate, but the 2nd daughter was the lifeline to affirm I wasn't the "bad guy." All you need is one friend on your side. None there? Then,
if you know- good enough. Hold your head up and push on.
🙏🙏❤️❤️Thank you so much. Caught this message later in the evening and you really blessed my soul and helps me to process some things as I’m heading to rest. Toxic people are on this spectrum of differences between us and them as well as narcs, I’m finding. Very grateful for you Andrew and this community.❤️💞🌸🙏❤️
thank you Andrew for another wonderful video ❤ love light & happiness to all 😊
We are genuine. He always found something wrong with everyone we knew. Within the narc lies a deep fear, they cannot associate with others in any way. He’s on a high right now at the gym. Lots of supply there. He’ll be found out.
I’m healing quite nicely thanks to you Andrew 😊 & educating myself.
This 24 yr marriage was nothing I should have been in ever. Not sorry bc my life now can only be authentic
bc of what I’ve learned.
Lots of info for that book I’m working on👍🏻
Great video Andrew!! Ever since experiencing narcissistic abuse, I have a much different perspective on certain things, such as an opportunity for being blessed financially. It is one thing to be wealthy because that money was honestly earned, not earned by causing harm/death to others. While being wealthy is not wrong, loving it to the point in which someone views it as being more important than life itself is.
Unfortunately, every person who I have known personally or have known that is wealthy is out of touch with reality. They are naturally very controlling and are used to getting their way when, where, and how they want to accomplish this, often leaving severe consequences for anyone in their lives and around them. The love of money is what made my case life threatening at times, so I am thankful that that part of my case ended up being false. I've always preferred a more simple way of life and believe that much more can be accomplished without having a lot of it, even though I realize that it is needed to a certain extent. I believe that the Midwest has a lot to do with it, since this is where life began for me ❤️🙏🙌🌻🕊️
Thank you Andrew for your valuable knowledge. Your wisdom is so accurate, nothing else to add, all adds up. I have no doubts, I'm glad I managed to get out, but I know they will go after me.
I would love to speak to you, as nobody without the knowledge will be able to understand it.
Nothing can be changed until it's faced -James Baldwin
In my case she would always say to me I don’t have empathy lol
Great video Andrew X thank you from the United Kingdom x ❤️
its getting crazy now that i see this all so clearly - i dont let anything slip and shes getting bothered 😂
People blame me for being quiet, I don't want to spend my life standing up for myself and fighting and arguing. Is that true people like this get abused😢
I was told that meeting narcissist is a lesson, well if that's the case I won't be taking xxx from no one anymore
Thank you Andrew...I listened twice where you talk abt how they complicate it for you with children. I've been fighting for a grownup child in the family, that I've always loved. But I can feel how that young person is moving away from me. It is very painful! They leave me completly outside the warmth of being in a family. Never ask me to attend any get-to-gether not even christmas. I'm outside and nobody cares. I've been thinking its got to to with them being scared. Well.
Suppose I stopt belong the day I told them they did wrong to me. /Annie
I’m able to sit still and be with myself
So much TRUTH in this video Andrew. Is it best to let the "flying monkeys 🐒 go" ? I was targeted awhile ago from someone in this group. Is there justice for the enablers? I had some items stolen whilst the "flying monkeys" were watching over them. Precious family things! No help from Police or other "friends". I have learned to cut my losses and grieve the lack of friendship in this situation. What else can I do? Everyone turned their backs on me. (Smear Campaign) residue. Now I spend my time on my healing and my love for creativity! Thank you always Andrew 💓
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I get YOUr point Andrew❣️😘❤️🦋💫
Thank you for talking about how they keep children /grandchildren from us.
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Your point on using kids is right on… accurate !!! Wow !!! Damn your on it !!! Parental alienation!!!
Intimacy with a fraud, right?? Repulsive. True intimacy and deep-ness, so painfully missed. 😢😢
loved today’s video i’m busy in the kitchen today i tried my new medication today it went well 😊😁
I love to see the humility and humbleness of some of the comments here! Other's who think empaths are PERFECT human beings and have ZERO character defects, or weaknesses, are sounding more like Narcs. Righteousness is not a pretty thing. Also, remember that not all comments are for everyone. Each person here is in their own healing path and is not linear. Remember to just take what you are able to process and accept and ignore the rest. Blessings to all! Namaste ♥
Hey Andrew. A great video to make would be how and on what to journal throughout the healing process. I am thankful that I started journaling while still being in the relationship, but right now I’m at a point where I don’t know what to journal on
thankyou so much Andrew!!!! God bless namaste
Oh yes, they divide and conquer all the time. It gives them a feeling of power over the situation whatever it is. My narc mother raised my brother and i to be at odds with each other. It resulted that we never got along. And my brother was the golden child of my narc mother and he turned out to be just like her. Great video Andrew thanks. Have a beautiful afternoon ❤🙌🙏
Hello my dear friend! 💕🖐🫠
My ex mother in law did this at the dinner table with her children.
Then she would grin...so pleased that she could caused such calamity amongst them.
It was creepy!!!
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@@jannlewandowski5540 👋hello my friend hope you are feeling better😇💜
@@marieeakin8534 well i know how you must have felt. So sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for your message. Blessings to you dear. 🙌😇🙏
In honor of the fanatical narcissist, my mother (she calls herself). She worked overtime and got many degrees while she knew he was abusing us at home. She would call it punishment but we were tortured and subjective to adult porn and custom holed paddles. He even dressed in drag, he was a sadistic cutter. He would even cut himself in front of me and he didn't know I watched hoping he would cut himself deeper and die.
So sorry for your experiences.
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They are demons!
I am sorry this happened to you..........just know that there is goodness also.....we live in an evil time but there are good people and these demons you grew up with have shown you how not to be.........never let them harden your heart.......they chose to be demons......
Omg that was really awful,,I hope you are ok now,,and away from them ,👉🙏🙏🙏👉💖💖💖💖💖🫂✨🌺
The torture is real. It's not just in movies!
Our narc didn’t want to see the kids while we were married and left me and would act innocent in front if the kids when he knew he was with his mistress.
Its part of my gratitide for you as a friend. Not sure if I would have made it out of this wo your advice. Ty. I love your smile. I finally have mine back!
This is insightful and wise. Thank you.
He definitely withheld intimacy. Transactional. If I did something he needed, I would get 'rewarded' with complete sentences rather than just one or two word answers at best, or even the silent treatment for over 24 hours (all by text of course because he wanted to limit the time we actually spent together in person. unless he wanted something from me). Sex became less frequent - I would only get that when he wanted to ask to borrow money either the very same day or the next day. But now it all makes sense - when I eventually figured out that he wasn't just pushing me away due to his mental health problems and started to put boundaries in place, I became enemy number 1. Despicable behaviour
The un paid worker, I definitely felt that. When i got here, we had an agreement where i do 8 hours of yard work for $120, maintaining his 3 acre property, only to slowly over time end up spending more than 30 hours a week, without my pay increasing. Not to mention that despite the exfra hours i was spending, he would use any excuse he could find, not to pay me on payday.
I've had serious thoughts about suing for all the unpaid labor. As i have found out while looking into it, this is called, theft of services, and with the amount he owes hes in felony territory. Im just not sure if its really worth my energy to do this though.
Thank you so much Andrew for always opening our eyes..thank you.
Wow…. A very powerful video, Andrew. 🙌🏼
well done!