I wish i found this video 10 months ago when it first came out, but I'm here now better late than never. I'm getting stronger by the day and it's all because Andrew and Community Members. Thank you all so much for your help and support 🙏
NEVER GO BACK! I made the mistake of going back, and he almost succeeded in murdering me, and without divine intervention, I would not have escaped. Andrew creating this channel has been a great source of my healing process. Please block 🚫 those hoovers! Otherwise, you will be set back in your healing process. Press on, and keep moving forward on your healing path. You are worth it. 😊
when they go into the new relationship with the new supply. They will use the identity traits they where harshly criticising that we have. And use them against the new supply, to seem autentic. Stealing others personality traits are a part of the dissorder. They don`t mirror us just to manipulate us. They also steal the traits for later use as a part of their arsenal of masks
I ended it several times with a narcissist, and each time they came back weeks later, playing their childish games. Spot on with saying how they changed. Actions speak so much louder than their fake words. Each time I still held hope for the answers for real closure. I have come to the conclusion, after dealing with 2 different narcissists, the closure you seek, comes from you.
You are so right sherrywayne444 the narc tells you what they think you want to hear to get you back and immediately go back to their old ways, often times worse …it does have to come from within Wishing you every happiness ❤️
@BeTheLight624 yes, and each time their verbal outbursts got worse, but it was always blamed on me. Maybe because I didn't take their crap and called them out on it! Oh well, lessons learned. No more Hoovers for me. I no longer believe one word out of their pathetic mouth, nor do I any longer care. Still have to deal with one of them, but I can handle the little I have to communicate with them.
I got the" Dirty Old Shoe Hover" today. A note on my door. Threw it in the trash 3 blocks away. I'm out just over a year now. Educated and staying out forever. Thanks all.
I’m waiting for my narc mom to hoover me…I ended it, so she hasn’t a clue as to what the situation is and it’s driving her nuts. Her usual is dropping off notes into our mail slot in the door. If one shows up….I can’t wait to NOT OPEN & BURN IMMEDIATELY!
@@marieeakin8534 Blessings to you too. Also 5 days after my birthday. Forgot how much they like to try to ruin these kinds of things. Birthdays, Holidays. I'm unfazed. My work with Andrew set me 100 percent straight.
Good evening Andrew and everyone. The narcissist will not give you closure. Don't expect it. They need to keep the upper hand on you at all times. MOVE ON...That's what I did 12.7 years ago. I kept myself busy, saw my new friends, and I binge watched Andrew's videos. TIME is the essence. You will be fine, just as long as you take it one day at a time. You are BEAUTIFUL people... it's good against evil, but the Empath always wins. We have a HEART!❤❤
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Andrew, it's so good to come into your room. I haven't been this sick in years. Glad to see you. After 2 years, how can I not say I LOVE YOU? You, my dear, are the BEST. ❤👍🌺
@@marieeakin8534I have good medicine. I am much better. I couldn't breathe with this Bronchitis and chest infection. I have great medicine! Thank you...❤ 😀👍
I have been experiencing intense hoovers for the past months and almost forgot how hurt i was before things ended. Really really needed to hear this. Thank you so much, God bless you!
I got caught up in hoover trauma bond. He knew I was lonely. I was always left empty and hollow. I found this channel. It was hard at first. Now I am free. I have a way to go, but it gets easier. I know how you feel. Hang in there. 💖
I LET GO. After the discard I reclaimed my life, my dreams and goals. It is UP TO US, to free ourselves, Physically first, Emotionally next, and recreate our lives with new strength and a NEW VISION. I now celebrate the day of the discard as if it was a birthday. Because it is. The PEACE TO BE. To JUST BE. Blessings to all! ♥ Thank you Andrew for your dedication to your mission♥
'Celebrate the day of the discard', absolutely! It is like being released from a dark windowless dungeon, to see and feel the sunlight on your face once again. What to do with out newfound freedom?
@@marieeakin8534 I found that is critical to accept what we cannot change in order to heal and be able to move on. I am glad I was discarded because I know what my "existing" was doing to my body, mind and soul ♥
It was 4 years trapped in the trauma bond by phone. It was all the same lies, different words. Now I am free. Life is good. Can't thank this channel enough. 💖💖💖
I used to ask my ex narc why cant you be good? He would say i don’t want to be good. That was the turning point when i realized he was no good for me. Broke off the 25 year relationship and never looked back. Stay strong 💪 and keep watching Andrew’s videos…There is freedom and peace on the other side.
I’m very close to end it Abit worried But need to do this I’m trying to gain all my strength It’s not going to be physical abuse just verbally will happen. But trying to find a place first But so wanting to say ENOUGH Another spoiled birthday but I’m not letting this happen Going to dinner with son and sister.. again he says he is not going I’m going Sorry just ranting here I appreciate all this support 🙏🙏🌻🌻🤗🤗
…give yourself the best birthday present you could give yourself and ditch him, through this process find your best self 🦋 Wishing you a lifetime of blessings here on out ❤️
This is one of your best, Andrew. Many thanks . There are so many of us and it's such an important topic, I think it would be great if you could lead a weekend workshop sometime. It might be good for us all to be immersed in the healing process for a few days straight! 😀👍 💝
So true Andrew. My ex narc wanted to stay friends with me after discarding me the brutal way he did but i completely ignored him. Because i knew that he didn't want to let go of all the good supply i had always provided him through out our relationship. I never answered his calls nor his emails ever since. For me the way he treated me he wasn't deserving of me anymore. Thanks for this video Andrew. I hope you are having a great day over there. ❤😊
Even in normal relationships, when a man tells you :"We'll stay friends," it's hilarious 😆. I'm not one of those women who believe in friendship after breaking up a romantic relationship, and I know that most women feel the same way as I do. When it's done, it's done! You are looking for a better quality man, and you are leaving this one in the past.
I dip in and out of your video's now because you helped me see the light a long time ago. You literally saved me and helped me to understand what Narcissistic abuse is and the kind of relationship that I was in. I come back every now and again for validation and to hear some truth from you as it still helps me. I don't think that we are ever 💯 healed. But this video is so astute and accurate and completely say's it how it is. Much love. Much respect. You are a Legend. Whenever I hear of people suffering in a Narcissistic relationship I signpost them to your Channel. Keep doing what you are doing Brother you are helping soooo many people. Love you Brother ❤
We can't heal 100%. If we did we would forget the pain and allow it back into our lives. This huge invisible scar is our reminder to keep evil away. Not to let our light be extinguished. Move on and life life your way, which is exactly what they don't want for you. This I your life. Live it!! ❤
OMG, I am lucky!! I left him 3,5 years ago. He immediately remarried after the divorce and I got NO HOOVER. He lives veeerry far away.(🌎✈) I know things can change at any time. Thank you for your valuable information, Andrew. Have a nice evening and stay safe everyone! ❤😊
Glad you are far away from the narc and he had a new supply right away, Lio. Mine got married a little over a year after the divorce. He must not have wasted any time in finding his new spouse. 🙏 ❤️
This was excellent Andrew. Yes, we did scrape ourselves back up off the mat, feeling depleted but we did it. Thats what always mystifies them. They dont know how we can recover ourselves after the beat down. They cant wrap their head around the fact that we figured them out and dont care for them anymore. They will hate and resent us forever for walking away, determined to live and not just exist. Its wonderful to finally get to this point that we can discard them without a trace of sadness or regret.
He discarded me. Then his girlfriend left him. I moved 1200 miles away. The phone is where I got caught in the trauma bond. His girlfriend came back, and he still wanted me to stay in contact. My turn to discard him for good.
“I helped myself. Bit by bit, piece by piece, I put myself back together again and gave myself a second chance. Because I knew that if I didn’t, then no one else would.” Ruby Dahl
The old "my friends don't like you ", "no one will ever love you". A narcissist can walk in & drain all the hope & joy from the room. You feel like you need to bathe all of the toxicity off. They are like Pig- Pen from Charlie Brown. Only instead of dirt, the evil toxicity is all around them 24/7 & goes where they go. No offense to Pig-Pen 😁🙃. It just struck me as a good example. I really like this video. It is powerful & speaks truth. Love the plants behind you. Have a good evening . God's blessings to you 😊😊☀️☀️🌠 🐦
Been going through a breakup with a narcissist for 4 years now, been together almost 20 years. They WILL NOT LET GO while there is a supply, and WILL try to take you down and destroy your world on the way out. This video is on point!
They can not let go of the light. We need to come to terms that we are in a spiritual war living in a time where our known reality is crumbling so a new reality can emerge. I do not fully understand all of the insanity I have lived thru but I know it has a purpose far greater then the darkness it showed me. Bless you Andrew for doing your part to help those who have not found their way out of the darkness. As I continue to learn accept and unconditionally LOVE more of the spiritual aspect of this reality is revealed. I still know nothing but what I experience is not the world/reality I remember. Coming into the light is a choice and so many know they need to get there but have no idea how to. It is channels like this and people sharing their thoughts/experiences that is moving us all forward to manifest heaven back on Earth. Which Earth is really hEart. We have all been lied to and harmed so be kind caring and loving to yourself because we are never alone and in this Shift together. The best you can do for others is to be the best for yourself.
I didnt believe myself in such evil before untill I was almost killed ,some people believe that they are evil spirits walking in human form i believe that they cant feel love ,sadness ,reality of life ,only their own world where they are gods
While I was watching this video today, I remembered you and here you are 😊! You said that you had to do a lot of job for them even when you were tired. The answer is in this video.
Thank you for the information you provide. I have lived a lifetime of narc abuse and now am living my best life clear of them. It's absolutely wonderful. It took a long time to recover. My life is full of wonder and amazing people. God bless you, Andrew.....😇😁
I notice that when they are left and not the one to discard that the Hoover happens immediately … don’t go back and do stay strong in boundaries and eventually the narc fizzles out Thank you for helping me cross the bridge…for helping us all and for all you do 🙏
I discarded my nex but half a year later no hoover. I did block phone and contact - but they could have called with a new SIM but didn't. I put my foot down with boundaries, told it the need for validation was unhealthy and discarded. There was nothing left for the narc :)
AMEN ANDREW!!! I have one sibling trying to get me to help him... I didn't do it. Never answered my phone, and now he's blocked. Got my new rental reservation for Monday! WOOHOO, I'm getting out of dodge! Yes, Andrew...you have helped me tremendously... ty, ty , ty!❤❤❤ GOD BLESS YOU AND EVERYONE ON THIS CHANNEL!!! WE CAN DO THIS!!
Besides the fact that I'm just better than that 😁😁, that's why I would never go back. I would NEVER give him the power of putting me in that position again, only to throw me away on HIS time...nope..sorry...no more games. I win! 😁😁🕊️
Yes I finished with him because the more I got to know him and observed,,it gave me 1,000 x10 Reasons to Exit,,,So Glad I did,,,T.Y. Andrew,,👉✨🕊️❤️❤️❤️🌺🌷🌟
It was all about "supply"-- Financial, material and now, missing the supply ( at one time) of love and adoration. All wasted. With all this information, the accountability now rests with me-- that I wise up, adjust and stay away from the whole lot of toxic people. Thanks, Andrew!-👍👍👍👍 Note: Some comments have creative statements of wisdom and insight so good, I save 'em in my memory, i.e., the poster who felt at one time, like these Narcs were stationed all over, just to make her feel small and the one that was now determined to have the resolve of a bulldog, to hold on to her identity and true self ... these comments are the best I've read anywhere!
…BTW, Andrew, you’re smiling all the time now, and I ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ seeing that! You deserve to be SOOOO happy! When I see you laugh, or smile, it makes ME smile!
Definitely no closure.She acted like she never knew me ever. This narcissist doesn't want anything to do with me.She cheated for 17 years, the whole relationship with multiple people.Could ac t like she loved me one day and hate me the next.Did this forever!This is one narcissist that finally discarded me for good.Before she would come back go again and come back.kept me thinking there was some false hope i guess.This is for good this time,she is absolutely enraged with me for nothing.I'm the one who was faithful,I'm the one who loved her more than anything,and I'm the one who is suffering constantly. She however literally acts like she doesn't know me.17 years and I'm nothing Andrew!
You are someone! And you aren't alone bro! The narc ex did that to me as well. I left her in las Vegas I couldn't take her bs anymore. I left her not knowing any of this, my PTSD led me to leave as I actually believed my life was in danger where we were at so I went back home to visit my family, go to a VA I was comfortable at etc, I just needed a break and I told her that. Mistake one, thinking it was just gonna be a break, I should have left and not looked back but I didn't know. No she ended up lying a lot, hooking up with other people after I sent her money, she immediately put on her evil new mask to start getting new supply, which her group of flying monkeys loved it... "You go girl" and etc... I found out by the time everything was said and done that she hooked up with around 7 guys, in 4 months! Until she finally found new supply, then she up and left last Vegas to go move with him in NC. I didn't get closure, which is weird as I did with every past relationship I had before. One day she just went silent and I started posting love bomb posts about this new guy, AS IF I NEVER EXISTED. Trust bro you aren't alone, unfortunately you caught one of the evil ones like several of us have. You gotta just plant one foot in front of the other, at your pace, if you need to reflect and ruminate do that as well, find some kind of peace that's positive for you, give yourself grace. It sucks because she's probably on your mind a lot..they like brain screw people. It may not feel like it but you are definitely better off without her. And the whole she furious with you, I doubt it... She doesn't feel anything, they can't feel anything, they have no remorse or shame for the things they do, they never take accountability for their wrongs, they don't care about people AT ALL. It hurts but trust you ARE better without a monster like that in your life. You'll be ok man.. day at a time, I'm in a similar spot you are and it's been 5 months since I was discarded by her.
@Siegefya just read this.Yeah sounds like her.She would always put on a performance around my family and it was fake as hell. I have a kid with her so who knows what she'll do.I have recently talked to her because we have a child together which my daughter is messed up to.Her mother just don't care who she hurts but especially me.I know shes a narc but out of everyone she goes out of her way to destroy me!.Destroy me alot more than these other guys.I asked her so many times what is it about me that she hates so much?!.She will never stay committed to anyone.The little i talk to her she is enraged like i complete maniac!.It's insane it really is.She can't function unless it is in a chaotic environment.She grew up that way with parents who beat each otner up and she got abused in ways to.I was the best thing that ever happened to her something pure in her life Nobody is perfect but i wasn't raised like she was.I'm a good man.I have already been through this twice.I married the first one and was with her for quite awhile.She had alot of problems growing up to.I don't think I'll ever trust again and if i do it will be years.This one brought me to my knees man.I am still really depressed and messed up and every day seems like an eternity.It is hard because i do love her.I wish i hated her but hate will only consume is all.Hope ypu make out well to man.
Great message ❤❤❤ you asked for comments if you’ve helped get anyone to the side of healing. Most definitely yes. And this is fact. Also, through the education you’ve provided, I am able to support 3 women who are serious in their own healing journeys from narcissistic abuse. This is horrific abuse that is often left unidentified for YEARS and after going through it and being educated now, I’m so grateful to see these flags 🚩 more clearly. May you be blessed I pray everyday for you and this community. 🙏❤️💪
@@gratefultobehere I did/ am, thanks Grateful! Watching a show called “A Haunting”, which features families whose houses have been haunted by ghosts or in some cases demons 😬😬😬 It’s entertaining and, yes, spooky 😄
Hi Gratefultobehere, how has your day been? I hope today was a good day for you. Reading a few chapters in a book for lighthearted reading and taking it easy tonight. With love, Holly ❤️🙏 ✌️ 🌙 ✨
You are right on with all of this, especially that energy rape that they do. My narcissist mother used to just do it immediately with no excuse. I was always on one third of my energy around her, just enough to keep me alive. I sat next to her at the movies one day: She had gotten drunk the night before, I didn't drink at the time so that I could deal with her. I got up from the movie and had a hangover even though I hadn't touched the stuff in quite a while. It was her!!! It's always them.
This is a channel of "hope & healing". We are blessed to have you Andrew and this wonderful community. I'm in a much better place than i was this time last year. Getting stronger all the time. More and more of my old self being left in the past and a better version of myself is emerging. God is good! And brings beauty from the ashes. Anyone new to here, keep coming back and getting the education. Life does get better....we are all growing together and processing what we've been through. Powerful and encouraging, reinforcing all the time the importance of us now being the priority. God bless everyone, stay strong. 🙏💪🌸
Once I determined that I wasn’t the broken person…I did my own closure…told him I was divorcing him…he said fine and I proceeded and didn’t look back. I haven’t missed anything about him…even got my maiden, last name, back. Once I see a problem…Katy bar the door. Wild dogs couldn’t keep me from getting rid of him. It was the Best thing I did for myself in a long time. I’m going on 2 years this December…not looking back.
I loved this video too! Very strong message, a keeper, and one to play over and over to remind you of the FACTS. I am definitely enjoying finding me again (I had no idea quite how far I was lost and trampled on) and although I have come far, I still find hearing this message beneficial and keeps me on track. My flying monkey/mini narcissist/daughter attempts to suck me back into a relationship with her father, by trying to make me feel sorry for him etc. Videos like these help me to recognise the bait and distinguish between the fantasy and reality, so that I shall never be drawn back in. I value too much my new life and getting to know me again.
They give us lies, lies, and totally more lies! I'm glad to be free of the agony and the craziness! Better times ahead after we learn and become the third version of yourself!!! Great weekend to All.
Their actions are pure evil ,words dont make sence ,it very wrong to think that they can heal ,they believe only to their own sick needs.There is no cure or therapist who can help them
I learned never wait for anything from them- They have no substance, are shallow, lack depth and usually chase shallow trends and latest sayings- Most Narcissists lack self awareness and self analysis- Admissions and apologies come from self realization and with them, that is non-existent. How many times did you go somewhere with the Narse and the second someone better, or someone who holds more value to them,or power comes along, you become invisible? Narcissists are also big on owning groups of animals (always for the wrong reasons) to prevent ever being truly alone. When there is no one else, the pets will keep them from bottoming out and potentially having to deal with that ugly moment of truth and aloneness.
Hi Andrew.I've been trying really hard to focus on myself but I've reached a stage where I feel burnt out trying to meet people and trying new things. So I'm simply going to '' be'' and let things be, then maybe with your inspiring videos plus comments from community friends, I will find myself one day. Thankyou for your continued support and kindness. 🙏🌸😊
Cherish the time to be with. yourself. Do be act sing dance move however you want in your spare time. It can be really freeing to finally be able to just be as you like it. All the best. We gradually get stronger and know ourselves more.
@denise - for now, just BE. Don’t stress yourself out trying to fill your space with people. Just be. . . . Quiet. At Peace. Still. Thoughtful. At rest. Asleep. Walking. Listening. Breathing . . . .just be exactly who you are in the moment. Reflect and allow yourself to feel, cry, remember, release, whatever. Give yourself time to just BE (without the audience). You are the ONLY human being who will be with you from birth until death. Spend a good deal of time getting to know and LOVE yourself, all by yourself. Be at peace.❤
Denise I will pray for God to light your pathway.in that tunnel,and not just at the end of the tunnel, and that when you get out, you will be bathed in His light.that obliterates the darkness Joel 2:25, read it in the Message Bible or any Bible ,there is a God,Yahua who restores.regroups replenishes.Rebirths.
Did not get the knock out punch friend. The canopies of past abuses he told me he endured as a young schooler, these were just shelters he would hide underneath when he started treating me with dishonor. Thanks for your courage to share. You are loved!!
❤ I must admit, it's good to be back to myself again. Was pretty sick for a while, but coming along great. Needless to say, i missed you all! 👍🌺 THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU. 🫂🌷
This whole community has been healing! The other warriors posting their stories as well. There's been a SEA of people who've no idea what this is about. My therapist said she's learned a lot from me! Too bad it wasn't something more positive! I said, get ready, cuz WAVES of us are coming. ✨🙏✨ I appreciate this whole community more than I can say. Healing has been coming layer by layer. But it's happening. THAT's the most important part. STAY BLESSED and PEACEFUL! 🥰
I've heard about uninformed Therapists a bit too much ( not casting a negative on the whole profession- I know how valuable a good therapist can be ). The 'Narcissism and Flying Monkey ' topic should be a foundational arm in their studies. Again, it's difficult for someone ( anyone) who hasn't gone through the bewildering ordeal, to understand it.
So glad I'm past going across that deep and windy canyon with the wobbly rope bridge. I've had to work hard on healing myself. Thank you for building the bridge, and every day adding new planks to the bridge. Each day, the route on the healing path gets clearer and stronger.
All you mentioned happened to me. He disappeared and 2 months later reappeared pretending to be ill or said he changed, went for help, etc. I felt sorry for him so I took him back over and over again then I left because I had a breakdown and was not able to work anymore and realized that I would never get better if I didn't leave him and he was hanging on to me but mentally keep abusing me. I did not understand what pleasure it was giving him as I was doing everything possible to get along with him. I can describe it as when someone keeps strangling someone and when they are about to die the killer lets them get some air and repeats it over and over again. I left and went into hiding. He left and disappeared for 10 years and then we were able to get a divorce.
In my healing, I realized, ALLLLLLL I've done for them and Others!!! I have the ability to take care of myself (73), without all that Pain , Drama and disrespect!!! 😤Is Restoring me in abundance🎉🎉HALLELUJAH!!!thank you Jesus🕊💞!!! BLESS 🙌 you ANDREW for helping me relies, what I was dealing with🤔👿😶🌫️MB
🎉 No closure and no hoover. I remember how he talked about his exes. Not good .His a toxic individual.They he won't change I cringe thinking about him🙊🎉 Thankgod that's out of my life 🎉😊
My narc ex gf lied about why she was ending the relationship. She was just trying to get me out of the way so she could run to her ex bf from 15 years ago (probably for money and kink stuff). I don’t even think she’s divorced from her husband yet.
I just got a 2nd hover attempt from a specific narc that I went no contact from over 7 months ago. What a joke & typical disrespect to me, acting like nothing ever happened! Didn't open & deleted it. MY NO MEANS NO...YOUR LOSS NARC... HAVEN'T GOT TIME FOR THE PAIN....THE END ALREADY! 🎀😘
Everything you say its truth its like they know me im going to watch all your videos from the start i think i have truma bond cuz i want them back i always run back to them
I'm afraid to make a step but lived in the dark so long I lost everything my job my friends myself I don't want to lose my soul I'm sitting waiting an hoping that God save me from my issues my tears no longer run an I no longer want to live the darkness consumed my heart an my choice is to play dumb an pretend an hide running from who I am I hate pretending but when since doing right was wrong I was set up lied to an everyday of my life told the most hurtful things I'm not a cheater an I can't stand lying to the ones I love I want to know does God forgive sinners the narcs in my life never was there I was there they drain me everyday embarrassed me had sex with my gf I got dumped enough times but for sex I run back thinking they loved me I wrote songs that they probably never listen an now I pretend like I'm fine but can't make a move the only person we lie to is ourselves thinking love is like a movie an they come back I'd honestly like to die now I done enough I don't have all the money I broke not working who cares all I wanted was a wife a home an a family an each an every one of them have that now when they started they posted on their fb i don't know cuz I didn't they laughed at my gifts I guess the things I did to build their confidence I hired a car to drop her valentines for her bought the teddy bear she wanted an id buy clothes I'd take her shopping I'd walk all over boasting she's the one I cursed out my mom an it's funny I was never loved money never made me happy they did I use to like to go in the mall watch movies an come home go for ice cream an her pictures is still on my phone I always say sorry to them but never heard sorry for hurting you never heard baby I miss you I got fake love all through life this message is for anyone in the group to read cuz I'm going to die soon I'm not a faker I hate to feel this way a broken heart does sing a tune it's called hopeless they set me up to the maximum I hope their is a God cause my side of the story goes a lot different I get jealous so they used that I have trust issues because they never honest I can't smile cause I got no reason too an lonely me watch her picture knowing they plan is to eliminate me an send me to my grave but my heart is like a lion knowing I'd die with dignity I was raised with a mother of love an a father of hate they both are narcs to me I have a uncle who hates me for no reason uh should of hear him I cah be no leader I had a cuz who think all I get is easy I walk through life at ease when I was abused constantly lied too gas light an oh they even accused me of sleeping with my ex sister the crowd rushed me all in grande they had me on the ground in Port of Spain I slept like a vagrant outside cause my home became strange now I'm in a house writing a song for her while they live their best lives the God child I loved her mother said to me if uh don't like me doh like my child but I never said I doh like her she attacked me the ex on my phone asking me if I good knowing what they did to me I remember she vanish an wen I went on fb she had a picture up kissing her bf crystal is a wicked woman she use to sleep with me an vanish for years an Niala is a liar I alway caught her in her lies I'm dumb cuz I forgive but they don't I taught everything was real that heart break was like Rachel my first love who made a man call me after sleeping with me my disguard phase never stop my cough worker's all call me crazy an my sis never want to sing with me my friends were users an some only around for money I will remember caylan she was cute telling me her bf treating her badly an Roxanne my fiend who went on a boat cruse with me but when I told her I'm just her friend play it off like it's me an I'm crazy I'd remember avanelle telling her bf I was tracking her when she was the one coming on to me an Ariel who only slept with me for money crystal Blackburn who had a hickey on her neck coming for my money borrow sry to collect I gave niala about 8000 to fix a room in her house she never did an I paid Amelia rent even doh she had a bf I remember this girl shyian never talked to me again an well her two friends who took me for granted when I wanted friends aliyah the one who slept with me for money an pretended to like me nakafia the one who brings the news about my ex Ashley called me stupid guess I am an well I think I broke Cassie heart I remember lekeshia she vanish for months then came back an I remember Betty she had her man I remember Anastasia I should of stayed in America I guess she was wonderful I think bout Roxanne Lopez got her picture on my phone I never got a chance to tell her how much she was my friend We stopped talking she just vanished an well duty an ears was my friend baba make my ex come our party to make me out an they all laughed at me I remembered apples I bought things for her child my intentions wasn't to sleep with her I was afraid so I did just thirst an well I think they all happy now I'm just alone that's life you win some you lose some I guess
Stop it !!! STOP Running back, Doing the SAME THING Over & Over and you're EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS... if your Plan A isn't working, time to switch to plan B and " GET THE F^*K OUT " otherwise you DESERVE EVERYTHING you get !!!
this man understands offers wisdom compassion, LOVE, support, to help us all recover and say no way no more it was not me reminds you of who you are has been there done it with no commercial money gains out of a pure desire to help us all remember it was not our fault we are amazing examples of what a human being should be
Excellent video, I left my narc who felt the need to keep me updated about his minor health issues, I had worse things at the time he never asked me about my test results, that said it all to Me. Pure self-centred they are
Hope this “mission” you’re on… helps u as much as it does us.❤ I’m stuck. Discarded after being told I was the love of his life. It KILLED me. The pain is unrelenting. Am dead now. It took my SOUL.💔 You’re correct. There was a new supply. I didn’t know about it. I was lied to. Deceived. I faced him down. Called him out. His excuses… “I’m just me.” And… “It wasn’t intentional.” So now I’m saying “yes” to myself. BUT even tho I’m dating again… I’m not finding my way thru. Thanks 2U… I hope to rise UP from the ashes... I CAN & I WILL go on ONE MORE DAY!❤
You have not healed. Dating is the most dangerous and risky thing you can be doing right now. Just saying. The focus needs to be in resolving all your internal issues. Blessings to you!
Thank u for your kind, caring words & responses. I’d like to agree with u about the dating… but it has helped me. I’ve self isolated for many years after a long-term failed marriage. I thought I was healed. I let an ex-boyfriend from long ago back into my life. He contacted me & said he loved me. I believed him. He’s the only person I’ve been with intimately in 15 years. His discard left me shattered & created a gap in me I didn’t know existed. I met this man I’m dating now… organically… about 6 months ago. We aren’t lovers. Although I’m pretty sure he’s fallen for me. He speaks of marriage. It’s been good for me in many ways but I’m skittish. His wife died 6 years ago & he hasn’t dated until we met. At least that’s what he tells me. He’s an introvert like me. I’m taking it slow. We have chemistry & enjoy each other. I did tell him not to confuse my loving nature with an “in love” scenario. So IDK what will happen. We have an agreement to have fun & enjoy each other. Beyond that… there could be dragons. Lol If it turns ugly in any way… I’m out. So far he’s been nothing but loving & supportive. Again. Thanks for your kind & loving responses. I have many tears in my eyes daily… including today… but I’m telling myself it’s all uphill from rock bottom. ❤
Imagine : you are married for years. You Love your wife. She is nicest person in world.And all the sudden...She dissappear saying " I don't need you anymore for anything " Just dissappear without any explanation, no emotions ( you don't know where with who? Whats all this? ) No explanation no nothing. No ONE WORD.She blocks you every where. Not pick up phones. Don't reply emails. No nothing. ( she read emails ( she read your emails asking for contact explanation for possible divorce....Nothing .Silence) After 3,5 years she claims divorce- for no reason.Even after court meeting no conversation no explanation. How do you feel? I still don't know what happend? This is what happend to me. Just now after years I realised that: behind modesty niceness was passive aggressiveness " double meaning answers, pesymism , negativity , evaluation, disdain "
💯 Disgarding doesn't mean the narcissists will always disappear...... depending on what type of supply you offer....they will make contact again depending on what supply you offer, even if they moved on with someone new...
Thank you so much Andrew. No idea how much you have helped me through every stage, of me, questioning his behavior, for me, researching and getting educated, for getting out of there by the grace of God with my life intact.
The lack of closure is ongoing manipulation. They want that control. You can inflict narc injury if you can detach. Fake it till you make it if necessary.
No closure ever - I wised up to many. I don’t even look for closure anymore. I just walk away, never to return again. The manipulation will continue. It only gets worse, much worse. This is with men, so called friends and family. On the healing path again. Thank you Andrew. Time, money , assets, energy.. Boom there it is !! You said it. Manipulative individuals indeed- open the window and let the trash take itself out. The new shiny object will only last as long as they encounter their next victim. We live one life, it goes quickly. No more! No more! No more! Absolutely no more! Time to be in the drivers seat. It’s not always perfect. Simply because so many still exist. It’s how I choose to deal with it now by listening too you Andrew. Oh yeah!! 3 phones If not now when - ❤🙏🏻
Thank you Andrew. Such true, supportive and encouraging words. The only closure has to be found within ourselves, it seems impossible otherwise. Knowing what we were dealing with and acceptance is probably a major part of that. Thank you for bringing us all together to share the effects of this destructive, depleting, evil phenomenon. It really helps to feel ‘not alone’. ❤
With my situation, the narc wanted closure of a sort by asking me how come I didn't grow and change when I was in the relationship? I just said vaguely it wasn't the right time. Which was the truth but without discussing everything. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏
I feel that people love to give themselves titles for attention and recognition unfortunately this behaviour is keeping them away from forfilling their true mission on this world which is spreading the word of God and the teachings of jesus christ so sad but true
For 3 years i have been stuck trying to leave but couldn’t until god exposed him to me with absolutely no efforts . Im so happy that i exposed him and revealed the truth and finally i can break free and start healing 😢❤ Thank u Andrew !!!!!
I used to ask him "Why do u have to be told what the right thing to do is !!??" The look on his face was PRICELESS Then he burst into flames and i was deee lighted !
7:24 or calling the police to do a well check on you when you stop 🛑 reacting, reaching out, taking yourself, your time, your energy, your mindset, your health, your FOCUS, your space, your life BACK!!!! Say ing they worried about me to get me to call or get info from authorities about how im doing cuz they havent heard from me. I am so sick and disgusted 🤢 furious 😡 sad 😔 as i learn more and more. And the amount of people I have lost (loss) because of this. I just couldnt figure it out for decades and decades. I am grateful for this awareness but damn this HURTS
You explain this very well. Very encouraging and inspiring words, thank you. Everything you say is spot on. I have experienced the worst relationship of my life. I can only thank God I saw him for what he was early and ended the relationship before we had children. These people are very scary and I am lucky I survived his abuse. He was absolutely the most toxic, immature, controlling, abusive, delusional, disrespectful person I have ever met. He was also gaslighting me, trying to confuse me and convince me about things that were blatant lies. Like he would say my eyes aren't blue. But they are. It was infuriating but i kept my composure until i could escape. He was locking me in his house. I felt like a prisoner. Anyway, I am grateful I survived that horror show and have learned a very valuable lesson and know what to look out for in the future.
I ended it. Messily and without knowing she was a narc. Figured it out later searching for why someone during 4 year relationship has zero empathy or accountability. This video helped me so much.
To all of you struggling and in the middle of this kind of mess, maintain course, full speed, and allow yourself time to heal. The promised Land is indeed real if you do❤. You can do this
Spot on.. at just one minute into the video, I could relate.. I was discarded and then hoovered back earlier this year and I only accepted due to my concern for pet birds and not fully being ready to leave.. when he told me to leave, I packed up and went outside to wait for a taxi.. I feel he didn’t expect me to do that but on that day I’d had enough .. I feel his discard was bluff at the time too.. I also feel he only hoovered me back in because he had not set up other sources of supply properly yet.. my gut is telling me he has been doing that since then and is preparing for either my leaving and discarding him or him discarding me.. most of the time I don’t care and I’m only concerned for some of the birds.. even more now more than ever after losing one of them 3.5 weeks ago and watching the others grieve and grieving myself .. I find it difficult to accept that narcs themselves don’t live and just exist.. I feel like the narc here has somehow lived a life while everyone else doesn’t.. he’s well travelled.. had life experiences.. it honestly makes me angry knowing this.. I feel like those things were stolen from me.. however I do accept that they want to keep others like ourselves in lower situations and stuck.. I really appreciate this video today.. it was spot on.. I heard the passion and firmness in your voice many times Andrew.. thank you.
This is why you sometimes need an attorney and a restraining order. The first whiff of BS I walk. The psychos and their drama make me cringe. It's not going to end well for them. 💯 they will leave you for dead.
To be honest an apology A couple of cheap words ! Wouldn't mean anything After the Narcissit has taken everything from you ,a serial Offender a silent killer who leaves you paralysed but alive ? Yea that's yr closure, yr alive !
I wish i found this video 10 months ago when it first came out, but I'm here now better late than never. I'm getting stronger by the day and it's all because Andrew and Community Members. Thank you all so much for your help and support 🙏
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I used to think that the narcissist would have a change of heart but no that's not the case they just go back to their old ways
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Narcs never win. We have a heart, they don't. 🌺👍🫠
They get Worse Over Time,
I just spit out my milk!!!
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Hi Jann!❤
NEVER GO BACK! I made the mistake of going back, and he almost succeeded in murdering me, and without divine intervention, I would not have escaped. Andrew creating this channel has been a great source of my healing process. Please block 🚫 those hoovers! Otherwise, you will be set back in your healing process. Press on, and keep moving forward on your healing path. You are worth it. 😊
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Thank God you survived and are here
Hey Mary...😀🖐
Hi to 2 sweet ladies..
Mary & Jann
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Thank you for your honesty and courage! Thankful you made it out and are here to help others sharing your wisdom and experience. Blessings!❤
90 days free from narcissist!
I'm at 70 days!! Good luck on the healing journey ✨️ 🙏
Keep it going!
😂❤❤❤you got this...
Don't just block them... delete them, job done!
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They steal your identity and replace it with their own in this "game".
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when they go into the new relationship with the new supply. They will use the identity traits they where harshly criticising that we have. And use them against the new supply, to seem autentic. Stealing others personality traits are a part of the dissorder. They don`t mirror us just to manipulate us. They also steal the traits for later use as a part of their arsenal of masks
yep they try to turn you into them
I ended it several times with a narcissist, and each time they came back weeks later, playing their childish games. Spot on with saying how they changed. Actions speak so much louder than their fake words. Each time I still held hope for the answers for real closure. I have come to the conclusion, after dealing with 2 different narcissists, the closure you seek, comes from you.
It took me 3 years of being a human yo-yo to go no contact. So glad I did
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@@darrellgosnell9971 I'm glad you did too. I understand how hard it is to break that trauma bond, yet you did. 🙌❤️
You are so right sherrywayne444 the narc tells you what they think you want to hear to get you back and immediately go back to their old ways, often times worse
…it does have to come from within
Wishing you every happiness ❤️
@BeTheLight624 yes, and each time their verbal outbursts got worse, but it was always blamed on me. Maybe because I didn't take their crap and called them out on it! Oh well, lessons learned. No more Hoovers for me. I no longer believe one word out of their pathetic mouth, nor do I any longer care. Still have to deal with one of them, but I can handle the little I have to communicate with them.
No hoover means ur just too strong. The key is to stay strong and not let feelings of guilt take you down, you don't owe them anything.
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No we don't owe them anything at all!
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I got the" Dirty Old Shoe Hover" today. A note on my door. Threw it in the trash 3 blocks away. I'm out just over a year now. Educated and staying out forever. Thanks all.
I’m waiting for my narc mom to hoover me…I ended it, so she hasn’t a clue as to what the situation is and it’s driving her nuts. Her usual is dropping off notes into our mail slot in the door. If one shows up….I can’t wait to NOT OPEN & BURN IMMEDIATELY!
@@tracyjohnston5899 Thanks! Also didn't want that energy in my trash can.
I just got one today as well....is it a full moon???
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@@marieeakin8534 Blessings to you too. Also 5 days after my birthday. Forgot how much they like to try to ruin these kinds of things. Birthdays, Holidays. I'm unfazed. My work with Andrew set me 100 percent straight.
Burn the notes and blow them into the wind (no reading allowed!😅)
Good evening Andrew and everyone. The narcissist will not give you closure. Don't expect it. They need to keep the upper hand on you at all times. MOVE ON...That's what I did 12.7 years ago. I kept myself busy, saw my new friends, and I binge watched Andrew's videos. TIME is the essence. You will be fine, just as long as you take it one day at a time.
You are BEAUTIFUL people... it's good against evil, but the Empath always wins. We have a HEART!❤❤
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Andrew, it's so good to come into your room. I haven't been this sick in years. Glad to see you. After 2 years, how can I not say I LOVE YOU? You, my dear, are the BEST. ❤👍🌺
So sorry to hear you were sick Jann. Take good care hon!
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@@marieeakin8534I have good medicine. I am much better. I couldn't breathe with this Bronchitis and chest infection. I have great medicine! Thank you...❤ 😀👍
Exactly. Stay strong.
I have been experiencing intense hoovers for the past months and almost forgot how hurt i was before things ended. Really really needed to hear this. Thank you so much, God bless you!
I got caught up in hoover trauma bond.
He knew I was lonely. I was always left empty and hollow.
I found this channel. It was hard at first. Now I am free.
I have a way to go, but it gets easier. I know how you feel.
Hang in there. 💖
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At least you're getting hovered. A part of me still wishes a hoover because it tells me he still cares. Still healing and new to this 😢
Me to
Stay strong! Stay safe!
I LET GO. After the discard I reclaimed my life, my dreams and goals. It is UP TO US, to free ourselves, Physically first, Emotionally next, and recreate our lives with new strength and a NEW VISION. I now celebrate the day of the discard as if it was a birthday. Because it is. The PEACE TO BE. To JUST BE. Blessings to all! ♥ Thank you Andrew for your dedication to your mission♥
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Great way of looking at it! 👍
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'Celebrate the day of the discard', absolutely! It is like being released from a dark windowless dungeon, to see and feel the sunlight on your face once again. What to do with out newfound freedom?
@@marieeakin8534 I found that is critical to accept what we cannot change in order to heal and be able to move on. I am glad I was discarded because I know what my "existing" was doing to my body, mind and soul ♥
I never thought about the act f celebrating the day of our liberation. I have to sit and think about that. Great idea
It was 4 years trapped in the trauma bond by phone.
It was all the same lies, different words.
Now I am free. Life is good.
Can't thank this channel enough. 💖💖💖
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Fantastic!!!🎉
I used to ask my ex narc why cant you be good? He would say i don’t want to be good. That was the turning point when i realized he was no good for me. Broke off the 25 year relationship and never looked back. Stay strong 💪 and keep watching Andrew’s videos…There is freedom and peace on the other side.
I’m very close to end it
Abit worried
But need to do this
I’m trying to gain all my strength
It’s not going to be physical abuse just verbally will happen.
But trying to find a place first
But so wanting to say
ENOUGH
Another spoiled birthday but I’m not letting this happen
Going to dinner with son and sister.. again he says he is not going
I’m going
Sorry just ranting here
I appreciate all this support
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Sounds like is time to go. Prayers to you. Hardest, best decision you will ever make.
Happy Birthday, Hun 🎉❤
…give yourself the best birthday present you could give yourself and ditch him, through this process find your best self 🦋
Wishing you a lifetime of blessings here on out ❤️
The pathway out will appear, never give him any hint. I’ll keep you in my thoughts.
My dears...Today I read this sentence in a post: THERE IS NOBODY MORE ROMANTIC THAN A NARCISIST WITHOUT A ROOF TO LIVE IN...😮
Kisses from Brazil!🇧🇷😘
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Precisely!
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This is one of your best, Andrew. Many thanks . There are so many of us and it's such an important topic, I think it would be great if you could lead a weekend workshop sometime. It might be good for us all to be immersed in the healing process for a few days straight! 😀👍 💝
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JESUS CHRIST saved me from two narcissist ex-husbands. I'm so grateful for him❤
So true Andrew. My ex narc wanted to stay friends with me after discarding me the brutal way he did but i completely ignored him. Because i knew that he didn't want to let go of all the good supply i had always provided him through out our relationship. I never answered his calls nor his emails ever since. For me the way he treated me he wasn't deserving of me anymore. Thanks for this video Andrew. I hope you are having a great day over there. ❤😊
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Even in normal relationships, when a man tells you :"We'll stay friends," it's hilarious 😆. I'm not one of those women who believe in friendship after breaking up a romantic relationship, and I know that most women feel the same way as I do. When it's done, it's done! You are looking for a better quality man, and you are leaving this one in the past.
Top of the evening to you my friend. I have been sick. Good to see you.🖐😀💗
I dip in and out of your video's now because you helped me see the light a long time ago. You literally saved me and helped me to understand what Narcissistic abuse is and the kind of relationship that I was in. I come back every now and again for validation and to hear some truth from you as it still helps me. I don't think that we are ever 💯 healed. But this video is so astute and accurate and completely say's it how it is. Much love. Much respect. You are a Legend. Whenever I hear of people suffering in a Narcissistic relationship I signpost them to your Channel. Keep doing what you are doing Brother you are helping soooo many people. Love you Brother ❤
Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏😌🙌
Yes!❤
I agree 👍
We can't heal 100%. If we did we would forget the pain and allow it back into our lives. This huge invisible scar is our reminder to keep evil away. Not to let our light be extinguished. Move on and life life your way, which is exactly what they don't want for you. This I your life. Live it!! ❤
OMG, I am lucky!! I left him 3,5 years ago. He immediately remarried after the divorce and I got NO HOOVER.
He lives veeerry far away.(🌎✈)
I know things can change at any time. Thank you for your valuable information, Andrew.
Have a nice evening and stay safe everyone! ❤😊
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lios583, mine got married 2 weeks after I left him. 💞
Glad you are far away from the narc and he had a new supply right away, Lio. Mine got married a little over a year after the divorce. He must not have wasted any time in finding his new spouse. 🙏 ❤️
Thank you Andrew for navigating our way as we recover from the narcissistic nightmare heading to our new future
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This was excellent Andrew. Yes, we did scrape ourselves back up off the mat, feeling depleted but we did it. Thats what always mystifies them. They dont know how we can recover ourselves after the beat down. They cant wrap their head around the fact that we figured them out and dont care for them anymore. They will hate and resent us forever for walking away, determined to live and not just exist. Its wonderful to finally get to this point that we can discard them without a trace of sadness or regret.
He discarded me. Then his girlfriend left him.
I moved 1200 miles away. The phone is where I got caught in the trauma bond.
His girlfriend came back, and he still wanted me to stay in contact.
My turn to discard him for good.
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“I helped myself. Bit by bit, piece by piece, I put myself back together again and gave myself a second chance. Because I knew that if I didn’t, then no one else would.” Ruby Dahl
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You give yourself "closure" ❤❤
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Strength , love and Light 🕯️🕯️ to everyone Here,,your High Value and precious good Souls,never forget,🕊️✨👉❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🕯️🕯️🌟🙏
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The old "my friends don't like you ", "no one will ever love you". A narcissist can walk in & drain all the hope & joy from the room. You feel like you need to bathe all of the toxicity off. They are like Pig- Pen from Charlie Brown. Only instead of dirt, the evil toxicity is all around them 24/7 & goes where they go. No offense to Pig-Pen 😁🙃. It just struck me as a good example. I really like this video. It is powerful & speaks truth. Love the plants behind you. Have a good evening . God's blessings to you 😊😊☀️☀️🌠 🐦
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙂🙂
Been going through a breakup with a narcissist for 4 years now, been together almost 20 years. They WILL NOT LET GO while there is a supply, and WILL try to take you down and destroy your world on the way out. This video is on point!
They can not let go of the light. We need to come to terms that we are in a spiritual war living in a time where our known reality is crumbling so a new reality can emerge. I do not fully understand all of the insanity I have lived thru but I know it has a purpose far greater then the darkness it showed me. Bless you Andrew for doing your part to help those who have not found their way out of the darkness. As I continue to learn accept and unconditionally LOVE more of the spiritual aspect of this reality is revealed. I still know nothing but what I experience is not the world/reality I remember. Coming into the light is a choice and so many know they need to get there but have no idea how to. It is channels like this and people sharing their thoughts/experiences that is moving us all forward to manifest heaven back on Earth. Which Earth is really hEart. We have all been lied to and harmed so be kind caring and loving to yourself because we are never alone and in this Shift together. The best you can do for others is to be the best for yourself.
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All mentioned sounds almost unbelievable but it's true. How people could be so evil? Is it human? Are they humans at all? Thank you Andrew.
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I didnt believe myself in such evil before untill I was almost killed ,some people believe that they are evil spirits walking in human form i believe that they cant feel love ,sadness ,reality of life ,only their own world where they are gods
While I was watching this video today, I remembered you and here you are 😊! You said that you had to do a lot of job for them even when you were tired. The answer is in this video.
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Some of them are very scary, yes. Malignant narcissists for example.
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Thank you for the information you provide. I have lived a lifetime of narc abuse and now am living my best life clear of them. It's absolutely wonderful. It took a long time to recover. My life is full of wonder and amazing people.
God bless you, Andrew.....😇😁
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So happy for you!
I notice that when they are left and not the one to discard that the Hoover happens immediately … don’t go back and do stay strong in boundaries and eventually the narc fizzles out
Thank you for helping me cross the bridge…for helping us all and for all you do 🙏
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I discarded my nex but half a year later no hoover. I did block phone and contact - but they could have called with a new SIM but didn't. I put my foot down with boundaries, told it the need for validation was unhealthy and discarded. There was nothing left for the narc :)
They will NEVER give you closure or say sorry, in fact, they blame you for everything. Don’t stay friends, they want shelve you for later supply.
You are such a An Angel.
❤❤Tears tears of joy to have a map..
Bless you
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Very well put...we are blessed & fortunate!
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AMEN ANDREW!!! I have one sibling trying to get me to help him... I didn't do it. Never answered my phone, and now he's blocked.
Got my new rental reservation for Monday! WOOHOO, I'm getting out of dodge! Yes, Andrew...you have helped me tremendously... ty, ty , ty!❤❤❤ GOD BLESS YOU AND EVERYONE ON THIS CHANNEL!!!
WE CAN DO THIS!!
Yes...keep going you're doing it!!!
The best to you 🎀😘
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He did say we should be friends, however, he already had someone else 😢
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Besides the fact that I'm just better than that 😁😁, that's why I would never go back. I would NEVER give him the power of putting me in that position again, only to throw me away on HIS time...nope..sorry...no more games. I win! 😁😁🕊️
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Yes you do...high five!!! 👍
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Yes I finished with him because the more I got to know him and observed,,it gave me 1,000 x10 Reasons to Exit,,,So Glad I did,,,T.Y. Andrew,,👉✨🕊️❤️❤️❤️🌺🌷🌟
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FlowerPower, it's good to feel human again. Great to see you. 👍🌺💗🖐
@@jannlewandowski5540yes I hope you're keeping well,Jannle,sending love ,🫂❤️❤️❤️🙏🌟👉✨🕊️🕯️
It was all about "supply"-- Financial, material and now, missing the supply ( at one time) of love and adoration. All wasted.
With all this information, the accountability now rests with me-- that I wise up, adjust and stay away from the whole lot
of toxic people. Thanks, Andrew!-👍👍👍👍
Note: Some comments have creative statements of wisdom and insight so good, I save 'em in my memory, i.e., the poster who felt at one time, like these Narcs were stationed all over, just to make her feel small and the one that was now determined to have the resolve of a bulldog, to hold on to her identity and true self ... these comments are the best I've read anywhere!
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…BTW, Andrew, you’re smiling all the time now, and I ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ seeing that! You deserve to be SOOOO happy! When I see you laugh, or smile, it makes ME smile!
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Definitely no closure.She acted like she never knew me ever. This narcissist doesn't want anything to do with me.She cheated for 17 years, the whole relationship with multiple people.Could ac t like she loved me one day and hate me the next.Did this forever!This is one narcissist that finally discarded me for good.Before she would come back go again and come back.kept me thinking there was some false hope i guess.This is for good this time,she is absolutely enraged with me for nothing.I'm the one who was faithful,I'm the one who loved her more than anything,and I'm the one who is suffering constantly. She however literally acts like she doesn't know me.17 years and I'm nothing Andrew!
You are someone! And you aren't alone bro! The narc ex did that to me as well. I left her in las Vegas I couldn't take her bs anymore. I left her not knowing any of this, my PTSD led me to leave as I actually believed my life was in danger where we were at so I went back home to visit my family, go to a VA I was comfortable at etc, I just needed a break and I told her that. Mistake one, thinking it was just gonna be a break, I should have left and not looked back but I didn't know. No she ended up lying a lot, hooking up with other people after I sent her money, she immediately put on her evil new mask to start getting new supply, which her group of flying monkeys loved it... "You go girl" and etc... I found out by the time everything was said and done that she hooked up with around 7 guys, in 4 months! Until she finally found new supply, then she up and left last Vegas to go move with him in NC. I didn't get closure, which is weird as I did with every past relationship I had before. One day she just went silent and I started posting love bomb posts about this new guy, AS IF I NEVER EXISTED. Trust bro you aren't alone, unfortunately you caught one of the evil ones like several of us have. You gotta just plant one foot in front of the other, at your pace, if you need to reflect and ruminate do that as well, find some kind of peace that's positive for you, give yourself grace. It sucks because she's probably on your mind a lot..they like brain screw people. It may not feel like it but you are definitely better off without her. And the whole she furious with you, I doubt it... She doesn't feel anything, they can't feel anything, they have no remorse or shame for the things they do, they never take accountability for their wrongs, they don't care about people AT ALL. It hurts but trust you ARE better without a monster like that in your life. You'll be ok man.. day at a time, I'm in a similar spot you are and it's been 5 months since I was discarded by her.
@Siegefya just read this.Yeah sounds like her.She would always put on a performance around my family and it was fake as hell. I have a kid with her so who knows what she'll do.I have recently talked to her because we have a child together which my daughter is messed up to.Her mother just don't care who she hurts but especially me.I know shes a narc but out of everyone she goes out of her way to destroy me!.Destroy me alot more than these other guys.I asked her so many times what is it about me that she hates so much?!.She will never stay committed to anyone.The little i talk to her she is enraged like i complete maniac!.It's insane it really is.She can't function unless it is in a chaotic environment.She grew up that way with parents who beat each otner up and she got abused in ways to.I was the best thing that ever happened to her something pure in her life Nobody is perfect but i wasn't raised like she was.I'm a good man.I have already been through this twice.I married the first one and was with her for quite awhile.She had alot of problems growing up to.I don't think I'll ever trust again and if i do it will be years.This one brought me to my knees man.I am still really depressed and messed up and every day seems like an eternity.It is hard because i do love her.I wish i hated her but hate will only consume is all.Hope ypu make out well to man.
Great message ❤❤❤ you asked for comments if you’ve helped get anyone to the side of healing. Most definitely yes. And this is fact. Also, through the education you’ve provided, I am able to support 3 women who are serious in their own healing journeys from narcissistic abuse. This is horrific abuse that is often left unidentified for YEARS and after going through it and being educated now, I’m so grateful to see these flags 🚩 more clearly.
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@@gratefultobehere I did/ am, thanks Grateful! Watching a show called “A Haunting”, which features families whose houses have been haunted by ghosts or in some cases demons 😬😬😬 It’s entertaining and, yes, spooky 😄
Hi Gratefultobehere, how has your day been? I hope today was a good day for you. Reading a few chapters in a book for lighthearted reading and taking it easy tonight. With love, Holly ❤️🙏 ✌️ 🌙 ✨
You are right on with all of this, especially that energy rape that they do. My narcissist mother used to just do it immediately with no excuse. I was always on one third of my energy around her, just enough to keep me alive. I sat next to her at the movies one day: She had gotten drunk the night before, I didn't drink at the time so that I could deal with her. I got up from the movie and had a hangover even though I hadn't touched the stuff in quite a while. It was her!!! It's always them.
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Thanks so much for your videos! I watch them daily, they help keep me grounded! Keep doing the great work of the Lord 🙏🏾❤️
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What a wonderful comment .
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This is a channel of "hope & healing". We are blessed to have you Andrew and this wonderful community. I'm in a much better place than i was this time last year. Getting stronger all the time. More and more of my old self being left in the past and a better version of myself is emerging. God is good! And brings beauty from the ashes. Anyone new to here, keep coming back and getting the education. Life does get better....we are all growing together and processing what we've been through. Powerful and encouraging, reinforcing all the time the importance of us now being the priority.
God bless everyone, stay strong. 🙏💪🌸
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God bless you, Angela!❤
Once I determined that I wasn’t the broken person…I did my own closure…told him I was divorcing him…he said fine and I proceeded and didn’t look back. I haven’t missed anything about him…even got my maiden, last name, back. Once I see a problem…Katy bar the door. Wild dogs couldn’t keep me from getting rid of him. It was the Best thing I did for myself in a long time. I’m going on 2 years this December…not looking back.
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I loved this video too! Very strong message, a keeper, and one to play over and over to remind you of the FACTS. I am definitely enjoying finding me again (I had no idea quite how far I was lost and trampled on) and although I have come far, I still find hearing this message beneficial and keeps me on track. My flying monkey/mini narcissist/daughter attempts to suck me back into a relationship with her father, by trying to make me feel sorry for him etc. Videos like these help me to recognise the bait and distinguish between the fantasy and reality, so that I shall never be drawn back in. I value too much my new life and getting to know me again.
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Very strong message in deed!
You got that right brother! I am healing I have boundaries, I am stone cold. I know and I don’t want any part of it! You have helped me.
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They give us lies, lies, and totally more lies! I'm glad to be free of the agony and the craziness! Better times ahead after we learn and become the third version of yourself!!! Great weekend to All.
Their actions are pure evil ,words dont make sence ,it very wrong to think that they can heal ,they believe only to their own sick needs.There is no cure or therapist who can help them
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I learned never wait for anything from them-
They have no substance, are shallow, lack depth and usually chase shallow trends and latest sayings-
Most Narcissists lack self awareness and self analysis-
Admissions and apologies come from self realization and with them, that is non-existent.
How many times did you go somewhere with the Narse and the second someone better, or someone who holds more value to them,or power comes along, you become invisible?
Narcissists are also big on owning groups of animals (always for the wrong reasons) to prevent ever being truly alone.
When there is no one else, the pets will keep them from bottoming out and potentially having to deal with that ugly moment of truth and aloneness.
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Hi Andrew.I've been trying really hard to focus on myself but I've reached a stage where I feel burnt out trying to meet people and trying new things. So I'm simply going to '' be'' and let things be, then maybe with your inspiring videos plus comments from community friends, I will find myself one day. Thankyou for your continued support and kindness. 🙏🌸😊
Cherish the time to be with. yourself. Do be act sing dance move however you want in your spare time. It can be really freeing to finally be able to just be as you like it. All the best. We gradually get stronger and know ourselves more.
@denise - for now, just BE. Don’t stress yourself out trying to fill your space with people. Just be. . . . Quiet. At Peace. Still. Thoughtful. At rest. Asleep. Walking. Listening. Breathing . . . .just be exactly who you are in the moment.
Reflect and allow yourself to feel, cry, remember, release, whatever. Give yourself time to just BE (without the audience).
You are the ONLY human being who will be with you from birth until death. Spend a good deal of time getting to know and LOVE yourself, all by yourself. Be at peace.❤
Denise I will pray for God to light your pathway.in that tunnel,and not just at the end of the tunnel, and that when you get out, you will be bathed in His light.that obliterates the darkness Joel 2:25, read it in the Message Bible or any Bible ,there is a God,Yahua who restores.regroups replenishes.Rebirths.
Did not get the knock out punch friend. The canopies of past abuses he told me he endured as a young schooler, these were just shelters he would hide underneath when he started treating me with dishonor. Thanks for your courage to share. You are loved!!
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Thank you help me get across the bridge you are a blessing. God Bless
❤ I must admit, it's good to be back to myself again. Was pretty sick for a while, but coming along great. Needless to say, i missed you all! 👍🌺 THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU. 🫂🌷
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Yay....so glad you're back!
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So relieved you are ok!❤
That is great to hear! Our health is the most valuable asset we have. Welcome back! Sending prayers and best wishes ! ♥
😅Good evening Andrew. Once again, such an eye opening video. I can't thank you enough for helping me in my healing process. May God bless you always ❤
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This whole community has been healing! The other warriors posting their stories as well. There's been a SEA of people who've no idea what this is about. My therapist said she's learned a lot from me! Too bad it wasn't something more positive! I said, get ready, cuz WAVES of us are coming. ✨🙏✨ I appreciate this whole community more than I can say. Healing has been coming layer by layer. But it's happening. THAT's the most important part. STAY BLESSED and PEACEFUL! 🥰
I've heard about uninformed Therapists a bit too much ( not casting a negative on the whole profession- I know how valuable a good therapist can be ). The 'Narcissism and Flying Monkey ' topic should be a foundational arm in their studies. Again, it's difficult for someone ( anyone) who hasn't gone through the bewildering ordeal, to understand it.
So glad I'm past going across that deep and windy canyon with the wobbly rope bridge. I've had to work hard on healing myself. Thank you for building the bridge, and every day adding new planks to the bridge. Each day, the route on the healing path gets clearer and stronger.
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All you mentioned happened to me. He disappeared and 2 months later reappeared pretending to be ill or said he changed, went for help, etc. I felt sorry for him so I took him back over and over again then I left because I had a breakdown and was not able to work anymore and realized that I would never get better if I didn't leave him and he was hanging on to me but mentally keep abusing me. I did not understand what pleasure it was giving him as I was doing everything possible to get along with him. I can describe it as when someone keeps strangling someone and when they are about to die the killer lets them get some air and repeats it over and over again. I left and went into hiding. He left and disappeared for 10 years and then we were able to get a divorce.
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In my healing, I realized, ALLLLLLL I've done for them and Others!!! I have the ability to take care of myself (73), without all that Pain , Drama and disrespect!!! 😤Is Restoring me in abundance🎉🎉HALLELUJAH!!!thank you Jesus🕊💞!!! BLESS 🙌 you ANDREW for helping me relies, what I was dealing with🤔👿😶🌫️MB
🎉 No closure and no hoover. I remember how he talked about his exes. Not good .His a toxic individual.They he won't change I cringe thinking about him🙊🎉 Thankgod that's out of my life 🎉😊
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My narc ex gf lied about why she was ending the relationship. She was just trying to get me out of the way so she could run to her ex bf from 15 years ago (probably for money and kink stuff). I don’t even think she’s divorced from her husband yet.
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You are so helpful in my healing Andrew!! I appreciate you 😊 yes! ❤❤❤
TRUTH...TRUTH...and more TRUTH ...from Andrew....THANK YOU !!!
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I just got a 2nd hover attempt from a specific narc that I went no contact from over 7 months ago. What a joke & typical disrespect to me, acting like nothing ever happened! Didn't open & deleted it.
MY NO MEANS NO...YOUR LOSS NARC...
HAVEN'T GOT TIME FOR THE PAIN....THE END ALREADY! 🎀😘
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Hey you... I'm finally feeling better. How are you?👍🌺🖐
Congrats! Hoovers are TRAPS! Well done deleting and moving on! Blessings!♥
Everything you say its truth its like they know me im going to watch all your videos from the start i think i have truma bond cuz i want them back i always run back to them
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It really will help.
You're on the right track...pick up & keep going.
Blessings!
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I'm afraid to make a step but lived in the dark so long I lost everything my job my friends myself I don't want to lose my soul I'm sitting waiting an hoping that God save me from my issues my tears no longer run an I no longer want to live the darkness consumed my heart an my choice is to play dumb an pretend an hide running from who I am I hate pretending but when since doing right was wrong I was set up lied to an everyday of my life told the most hurtful things I'm not a cheater an I can't stand lying to the ones I love I want to know does God forgive sinners the narcs in my life never was there I was there they drain me everyday embarrassed me had sex with my gf I got dumped enough times but for sex I run back thinking they loved me I wrote songs that they probably never listen an now I pretend like I'm fine but can't make a move the only person we lie to is ourselves thinking love is like a movie an they come back I'd honestly like to die now I done enough I don't have all the money I broke not working who cares all I wanted was a wife a home an a family an each an every one of them have that now when they started they posted on their fb i don't know cuz I didn't they laughed at my gifts I guess the things I did to build their confidence I hired a car to drop her valentines for her bought the teddy bear she wanted an id buy clothes I'd take her shopping I'd walk all over boasting she's the one I cursed out my mom an it's funny I was never loved money never made me happy they did I use to like to go in the mall watch movies an come home go for ice cream an her pictures is still on my phone I always say sorry to them but never heard sorry for hurting you never heard baby I miss you I got fake love all through life this message is for anyone in the group to read cuz I'm going to die soon I'm not a faker I hate to feel this way a broken heart does sing a tune it's called hopeless they set me up to the maximum I hope their is a God cause my side of the story goes a lot different I get jealous so they used that I have trust issues because they never honest I can't smile cause I got no reason too an lonely me watch her picture knowing they plan is to eliminate me an send me to my grave but my heart is like a lion knowing I'd die with dignity I was raised with a mother of love an a father of hate they both are narcs to me I have a uncle who hates me for no reason uh should of hear him I cah be no leader I had a cuz who think all I get is easy I walk through life at ease when I was abused constantly lied too gas light an oh they even accused me of sleeping with my ex sister the crowd rushed me all in grande they had me on the ground in Port of Spain I slept like a vagrant outside cause my home became strange now I'm in a house writing a song for her while they live their best lives the God child I loved her mother said to me if uh don't like me doh like my child but I never said I doh like her she attacked me the ex on my phone asking me if I good knowing what they did to me I remember she vanish an wen I went on fb she had a picture up kissing her bf crystal is a wicked woman she use to sleep with me an vanish for years an Niala is a liar I alway caught her in her lies I'm dumb cuz I forgive but they don't I taught everything was real that heart break was like Rachel my first love who made a man call me after sleeping with me my disguard phase never stop my cough worker's all call me crazy an my sis never want to sing with me my friends were users an some only around for money I will remember caylan she was cute telling me her bf treating her badly an Roxanne my fiend who went on a boat cruse with me but when I told her I'm just her friend play it off like it's me an I'm crazy I'd remember avanelle telling her bf I was tracking her when she was the one coming on to me an Ariel who only slept with me for money crystal Blackburn who had a hickey on her neck coming for my money borrow sry to collect I gave niala about 8000 to fix a room in her house she never did an I paid Amelia rent even doh she had a bf I remember this girl shyian never talked to me again an well her two friends who took me for granted when I wanted friends aliyah the one who slept with me for money an pretended to like me nakafia the one who brings the news about my ex Ashley called me stupid guess I am an well I think I broke Cassie heart I remember lekeshia she vanish for months then came back an I remember Betty she had her man I remember Anastasia I should of stayed in America I guess she was wonderful I think bout Roxanne Lopez got her picture on my phone I never got a chance to tell her how much she was my friend We stopped talking she just vanished an well duty an ears was my friend baba make my ex come our party to make me out an they all laughed at me I remembered apples I bought things for her child my intentions wasn't to sleep with her I was afraid so I did just thirst an well I think they all happy now I'm just alone that's 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Stop it !!! STOP Running back, Doing the SAME THING Over & Over and you're EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS... if your Plan A isn't working, time to switch to plan B and
" GET THE F^*K OUT " otherwise you DESERVE EVERYTHING you get !!!
this man understands offers wisdom compassion, LOVE, support, to help us all recover and say no way no more it was not me reminds you of who you are has been there done it with no commercial money gains out of a pure desire to help us all remember it was not our fault we are amazing examples of what a human being should be
Excellent video, I left my narc who felt the need to keep me updated about his minor health issues, I had worse things at the time he never asked me about my test results, that said it all to Me. Pure self-centred they are
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You are always spot on! You're helping me get across the bridge. Thank you!
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Hope this “mission” you’re on… helps u as much as it does us.❤
I’m stuck. Discarded after being told I was the love of his life.
It KILLED me. The pain is unrelenting. Am dead now. It took my SOUL.💔
You’re correct. There was a new supply. I didn’t know about it.
I was lied to. Deceived. I faced him down. Called him out.
His excuses… “I’m just me.” And… “It wasn’t intentional.”
So now I’m saying “yes” to myself.
BUT even tho I’m dating again… I’m not finding my way thru.
Thanks 2U… I hope to rise UP from the ashes... I CAN & I WILL go on ONE MORE DAY!❤
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Kate, I recommend self isolating until you can heal fully. ❤
You have not healed. Dating is the most dangerous and risky thing you can be doing right now. Just saying. The focus needs to be in resolving all your internal issues. Blessings to you!
Thank u for your kind, caring words & responses. I’d like to agree with u about the dating… but it has helped me.
I’ve self isolated for many years after a long-term failed marriage. I thought I was healed. I let an ex-boyfriend from long ago back into my life. He contacted me & said he loved me. I believed him. He’s the only person I’ve been with intimately in 15 years. His discard left me shattered & created a gap in me I didn’t know existed.
I met this man I’m dating now… organically… about 6 months ago. We aren’t lovers. Although I’m pretty sure he’s fallen for me. He speaks of marriage. It’s been good for me in many ways but I’m skittish. His wife died 6 years ago & he hasn’t dated until we met. At least that’s what he tells me. He’s an introvert like me.
I’m taking it slow. We have chemistry & enjoy each other. I did tell him not to confuse my loving nature with an “in love” scenario.
So IDK what will happen. We have an agreement to have fun & enjoy each other. Beyond that… there could be dragons. Lol If it turns ugly in any way… I’m out. So far he’s been nothing but loving & supportive.
Again. Thanks for your kind & loving responses. I have many tears in my eyes daily… including today… but I’m telling myself it’s all uphill from rock bottom. ❤
Imagine : you are married for years. You Love your wife. She is nicest person in world.And all the sudden...She dissappear saying " I don't need you anymore for anything " Just dissappear without any explanation, no emotions ( you don't know where with who? Whats all this? ) No explanation no nothing. No ONE WORD.She blocks you every where. Not pick up phones. Don't reply emails. No nothing. ( she read emails ( she read your emails asking for contact explanation for possible divorce....Nothing .Silence) After 3,5 years she claims divorce- for no reason.Even after court meeting no conversation no explanation. How do you feel? I still don't know what happend? This is what happend to me. Just now after years I realised that: behind modesty niceness was passive aggressiveness " double meaning answers, pesymism , negativity , evaluation, disdain "
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My gut and experience tells me this is all spot on.
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💯 Disgarding doesn't mean the narcissists will always disappear...... depending on what type of supply you offer....they will make contact again depending on what supply you offer, even if they moved on with someone new...
Andrew...he is Texing me at this very moment.on an unknowned number..your videos are so helpfull to me to STAY STRONG.❤❤❤❤
I love you, Andrew! You keep me going on a daily basis. I appreciate you soooo much. Thank you, my friend. ❤
Thank you so much Andrew. No idea how much you have helped me through every stage, of me, questioning his behavior, for me, researching and getting educated, for getting out of there by the grace of God with my life intact.
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I ended the toxic relationship today and she gave me a black eye. But I feel better now that I left. #road2recovery
I dId not need any closure. Just imagine what a whole lot of crap would have come out of his mouth. Thxs God there was no closure😂
All the closure I needed came from info. on this channel.
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The lack of closure is ongoing manipulation. They want that control. You can inflict narc injury if you can detach. Fake it till you make it if necessary.
No closure ever - I wised up to many.
I don’t even look for closure anymore. I just walk away, never to return again. The manipulation will continue. It only gets worse, much worse. This is with men, so called friends and family.
On the healing path again. Thank you Andrew. Time, money , assets, energy.. Boom there it is !! You said it. Manipulative individuals indeed- open the window and let the trash take itself out. The new shiny object will only last as long as they encounter their next victim. We live one life, it goes quickly. No more! No more! No more! Absolutely no more! Time to be in the drivers seat. It’s not always perfect. Simply because so many still exist. It’s how I choose to deal with it now by listening too you Andrew.
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I tried to end the marriage so many time but he secured his mistress and the discard was long. It was nuts. But my God how grate thou art to free me.
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Thank you Andrew. Such true, supportive and encouraging words. The only closure has to be found within ourselves, it seems impossible otherwise. Knowing what we were dealing with and acceptance is probably a major part of that. Thank you for bringing us all together to share the effects of this destructive, depleting, evil phenomenon. It really helps to feel ‘not alone’. ❤
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I love that expression Andrew does after he introduces the topic. What a ham!
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With my situation, the narc wanted closure of a sort by asking me how come I didn't grow and change when I was in the relationship? I just said vaguely it wasn't the right time. Which was the truth but without discussing everything. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏
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Yes, there is no point in discussing this if he didn't understand it was not the time. He's on a different planet! ❤
I feel that people love to give themselves titles for attention and recognition unfortunately this behaviour is keeping them away from forfilling their true mission on this world which is spreading the word of God and the teachings of jesus christ so sad but true
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What a wonderful and beautiful soul you are Andrew. You cannot imagine how your words have brought healing to me.
I felt these words deep in my core. A video like this will repel a narcissist like a spider on vinegar
Narcissists refuse to do anything.
For 3 years i have been stuck trying to leave but couldn’t until god exposed him to me with absolutely no efforts . Im so happy that i exposed him and revealed the truth and finally i can break free and start healing 😢❤ Thank u Andrew !!!!!
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I used to ask him "Why do u have to be told what the right thing to do is !!??" The look on his face was PRICELESS
Then he burst into flames and i was deee lighted !
7:24 or calling the police to do a well check on you when you stop 🛑 reacting, reaching out, taking yourself, your time, your energy, your mindset, your health, your FOCUS, your space, your life BACK!!!! Say ing they worried about me to get me to call or get info from authorities about how im doing cuz they havent heard from me. I am so sick and disgusted 🤢 furious 😡 sad 😔 as i learn more and more. And the amount of people I have lost (loss) because of this. I just couldnt figure it out for decades and decades. I am grateful for this awareness but damn this HURTS
You explain this very well. Very encouraging and inspiring words, thank you. Everything you say is spot on. I have experienced the worst relationship of my life. I can only thank God I saw him for what he was early and ended the relationship before we had children. These people are very scary and I am lucky I survived his abuse. He was absolutely the most toxic, immature, controlling, abusive, delusional, disrespectful person I have ever met. He was also gaslighting me, trying to confuse me and convince me about things that were blatant lies. Like he would say my eyes aren't blue. But they are. It was infuriating but i kept my composure until i could escape. He was locking me in his house. I felt like a prisoner. Anyway, I am grateful I survived that horror show and have learned a very valuable lesson and know what to look out for in the future.
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Hi Andrew, you absolutely helped me find the healing path!!!!!!!! Thank you
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Im still hurting as a man but thank you Brother. 💯
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All my life people have told me I have great energy.....now I know why. Thanks Andrew!!
I ended it. Messily and without knowing she was a narc. Figured it out later searching for why someone during 4 year relationship has zero empathy or accountability. This video helped me so much.
To all of you struggling and in the middle of this kind of mess, maintain course, full speed, and allow yourself time to heal. The promised Land is indeed real if you do❤. You can do this
Spot on.. at just one minute into the video, I could relate.. I was discarded and then hoovered back earlier this year and I only accepted due to my concern for pet birds and not fully being ready to leave.. when he told me to leave, I packed up and went outside to wait for a taxi.. I feel he didn’t expect me to do that but on that day I’d had enough .. I feel his discard was bluff at the time too.. I also feel he only hoovered me back in because he had not set up other sources of supply properly yet.. my gut is telling me he has been doing that since then and is preparing for either my leaving and discarding him or him discarding me.. most of the time I don’t care and I’m only concerned for some of the birds.. even more now more than ever after losing one of them 3.5 weeks ago and watching the others grieve and grieving myself ..
I find it difficult to accept that narcs themselves don’t live and just exist.. I feel like the narc here has somehow lived a life while everyone else doesn’t.. he’s well travelled.. had life experiences.. it honestly makes me angry knowing this.. I feel like those things were stolen from me.. however I do accept that they want to keep others like ourselves in lower situations and stuck..
I really appreciate this video today.. it was spot on.. I heard the passion and firmness in your voice many times Andrew.. thank you.
This is why you sometimes need an attorney and a restraining order. The first whiff of BS I walk. The psychos and their drama make me cringe. It's not going to end well for them. 💯 they will leave you for dead.
To be honest an apology
A couple of cheap words !
Wouldn't mean anything
After the Narcissit has taken everything from you ,a serial
Offender a silent killer who leaves you paralysed but alive ?
Yea that's yr closure, yr alive !
💯💯😌🙏