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At the age of two, Lily Nichols tore the pink Easter bow out of her hair and, using the few words she knew, repeatedly told her mum Vanessa to, 'Take off’. From that moment on Vanessa, and then husband Dustin, from Venice, Florida realised their daughter was going to be different to other girls her age. But, far from simply going through a tomboy phase, Lily has already talked about becoming a boy when she is older: changing her name and having surgery. Despite this, Vanessa says she is in no rush to put labels on her now seven-year-old daughter and hasn’t even introduced Lily to the word transgender.
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Being a tomboy doesn't make you trans.
thank you! like they are pushing things in her mind
The girl said she wanted to get hormones and stuff. The mom didn't want a label on her.
And the girl is what, under 10? She can't make decisions like that at her age.
Ao Kuang no they can't by law, but this child still needs to be taken to a GIC for support as this child is displaying signs of gender dysphoria.
Lemonjelli yeah my thoughts
Why are pokemon card and caps labeled as "boy" stuff?
Fantage Moon I don't know.
Because that is the targeted demographic
Kirtled Games In that case, I'm a man stuck in a woman's body -_-
Average Gamer
She's being sarcastic
Kirtled Games it's just something boys would enjoy or play with more.
I think there's a difference between rejecting stereotypical gender norms( like the color pink and My Little Pony for girls vs. Ninja turtles for boys) and actually identifying as a different gender altogether.
TheZchristina97 I agree like what the hell
TheZchristina97 AMEN!
There is, and one does not conflict the other. This person identifies as a different gender; who are any of us to tell them no?
If you like blue things, you're a boy.
If you like pink things, you're a girl.
She likes blue things, so she needs drugs and surgery to make her a boy.
Алисон Алисон In my opinion, a prepubesecent child does not come to that conclusion without some coaching from their parent or another adult
This kid isn't "tomboy" as they are saying "I would change my name and I would get surgery and medicine to change" that's transgender
@Gary Reid but you can change attitude, why don't you give it a shot
@@marissawinchester6798 first. Lemme like your comment.
no shes tomboy her parents put that idea in her head
@@wallaby10 oh sorry I didn't realize the master of personal gender identity was here
@Mrr. Ggregg bruh trollface
There's a big difference between a tomboy and a transgender boy. A tomboy is a person who enjoys looking masculine, is sporty and rejects feminine, girly things. A transgender boy feels as if he is stuck in a girl's body. In other words, tomboys are masculine girls (they are happy being girls, they just don't conform to traditional gender norms) and transgender boys are boys who were born in the wrong body.
M A F I A BOSS so this is a tomboy
M A F I A BOSS i feel like i was supposed to be born as male :/
I constantly think about how much i would love my life if i were a boy
I just hate being a girl
M A F I A BOSS A what?
Gabriel Anderson no this is transgender
A Tom boy like both gender specified things I am a girl who likes only "boy " specified toys difference there
“I don’t want to put labels on anything”
**says girl, she, daughter, etc.**
Yes i don't understand his mother.
Damian Brink His mother is probably the most supportive mother out there, she's a real 'momma bear' and has always faught for him. She has chosen to, like a great parent would, take it slow, and not coerce him into thinking he's trans. Vanessa is letting Dylan figure himself out before anything serious happens.
@@ashleydahl3625 agreed
It's pretty plain that's what the kid wants. You can't call him an "it" now can you.... "It would like to be a boy but I'm not going to put labels on them." That sounds 100% more awkward. She had to pick pronouns that follow what the kid seems to be wanting.
@@gaminggomez3282 Mind your own business and conduct your life the way you want, whether or not it ends up being a horrible thing is up to them. I have a friend who is transgender from a young age and they are infinitely happier as who they are and are grateful they went through the struggle to become who they want to be. So not every situation is the same, and not everyone and their dog needs to give their opinion on what is and isn't right in scenarios outside of their own life.
I think people are getting tomboy confused with being transgendered
Well, a point wasn't touched in this interview. Does she dream to be the prince who rescues the princess or vice versa.
Or does she dream of two princesses, or two princes.
You get it.
***** exactly....it comes from society's need to label everything
Kim BlaQue even though she literally said she wanted to get surgery, she's just a tomboy right?
They don't even have breasts. How is surgery even on their radar?! Clearly there is a narrative that has been fed to them. The parents need to just let things happen so they can make their own choice. It seems to me they are creating gender dysphoria in their child. Kind of sad.
Kellen Al A.K.A Sahh Dude Well, if a child says something then it is to be taken as gospel truth, right?
Children are never confused or mistaken. I must be lying to myself as an adult woman because when I was a child I only wore boy's clothes and wanted to be a boy. Oh wait, kids aren't ready to make long lasting decisions about their lives!
Right?
I mean, I dress in so called 'boys clothes' baggy jeans, jumpers. I've been mistaken for a boy many times.. but I don't think I'm transgender. I agree with her, "boys clothes has cool skating shirts." Girls is all pink and glitter. I have has confusion with my gender but that had nothing to do with my clothes.
I just water to rant for a bit. Vanessa is doing amazing and I hope Lily finds herself (or his) :)
Jet Packinski jet
same here...
If I was a girl don't think I would want to wear a dress all the time. Can't say what I would have been like as a girl since I was born a boy.
Oh yeah yeah same like I had a massive tomboy phase when I was little, the way the mother described lily is exactly how my parents probably would’ve described me. But that didn’t make me a boy. However, I only say this bc I think it’s important to remember that it’s not that big a deal if you’re a young girl and don’t like typically “feminine” things. But either way I agree and hope lily finds her or himself :3
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is the word tomboy just dead now?
82727364636363626262% dead
isaaclikesturtles yes
isaaclikesturtles exactly what I was thinking !lol
No im a tomboy but I'm definitely a girl
she actually literally said that she wants surgery to tranform into a male tho
Calm tf down. The kid isn't taking any hormones just now, no permanent things are happening, the mother specifically says that she isn't acting on it. They might grow out of it and become a stereotypical girl, they might just be a tomboy but they might be trans. As a transgender male myself I can surely say that being allowed to choose the toys and clothes that I wanted as a kid saved me a lot of pain, I came to the conclusion that I was trans when I was 12 and have stuck with it ever since but I always knew that I was different even from the tomboys. I know trans people, more often girls, that were forced to play with toys as kids that traditionally fit with their gender assigned at birth and it really hurt them. Children need freedom to be able to find out who they are and the sooner they do that the better, remember that nothing is permanent and that things can always be changed or fixed. This mother is doing her kid a favour by letting them pave their own way in the world.
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Carameltorchthem u just probley wasted 5 mins or 3
Carameltorchthem Thank you so much like people should read this honestly from the comment section (I don't identify as a gender(
+Nicole Buchan Because this channel is hungry for viewers and people are hungry for money????
Also thank you +Carameltorchthem for being one of the only people in this comment section with the attention span to focus for 5 minutes straight. People on here either watched a different video or jumped straight to the comment section to rage...
true
*I am NOT being mean* There is no such thing as "boy" or "girl" stuff.
Llama Dog :3 there is such thing as "boy or girl stuff", they are social constructs built by society, but they aren't mandatory and shouldn't be a thing.
Tourzity Actually there isn't. If a boy likes a 'girl' thing, then it's not only liked by and for girls, vice versa.
Mermaid Truths exactly, I agree, but it is a thing because of society, though it is breaking but I'm just saying the contract is there
Llama Dog POP :3 yeah there are, you dont say that a dress is a boy thing
Just stereotypes...
I used to be very much of a tomboy at this girl’s age, I wore long shorts, cut my hair short, my room was blue and I loved superheroes and I hung out with boys. However, as I got older I started realizing that I actually did like feminine things, and just because I occasionally do something deemed “boyish” such as playing video games, that I’m still a woman at heart. Girls can like “boyish” things and boys can like “girlish” things.
me too luv.
Ofc. But being gender non conforming and trans is way different.
These things are nothing to change your gender over. I for once agree
He is a BOY being transgender is not the same as being a tomboy
Yeah ofc but this kids has explained they want to be a boy
The thing that bothers me is that people associate liking shorts, t shirt, video games, trucks, cars, short hair etc with the gender of boys'(same thing with make up, dresses, doll, long hair...for girls). The gender is defined in the DNA, but liking those things is not genetic, it doesn't define what gender we are. The only thing that is something that mean you want to be a men or a women is if you want a penis or noobs and a vagina.
There is not a link between what you like and the gender: this is just our society that classifies stuff for diff genders.
Xuagram2405 true true
Preach!
Xuagram2405 whats a noob?
Xuagram2405, I understand you're point of having a certain gender is only in your DNA, but that's what they want to change. So by having boys and girls thinking that boys and girls have certain things that make up a gender, (ex: boys having, like you said, trucks, video games, and cars. And girls having, like you said, dolls, and dresses) then they will do whatever it takes and use those opposite things to become the opposite gender. It is all really a matter of what the child feels themselves. And also, why would you say "you want to be a man or a woman if you want a penis, or boobs, and a vagina"? For A CHILD? This child is 6 or 7 years old. So why would she want to change herself just to have a penis? The story can be different for an adult, but for a young child, it's not about changing your part because you want to have it specifically, but because you already feel like a girl, or you already feel like a boy. (blows raspberry)
Xuagram2405 dude he says he wants to be a boy
Let them do whatever they want. As long as they're happy, it shouldn't matter. If you're trans or are going through something similar, you'll go through WAY LESS TROUBLES being who you want to be, than you would if you choose to repress. In the words of Miles McKenna, "I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I'm not."
what do I can identify as a toaster
amen.
MagicMovie MADNESS literally, Kurt Cobain said that. miles mckenna is a shitty online personality. don't give him credit for kurts words lmao
MagicMovie MADNESS MILES HAS GOOD MANNERS AND THAT'S WHAT MATTERS! MILES!
MagicMovie MADNESS...... Oh my word. No, do not let them do whatever they want. That message says, well... I will let my kid do meth, because I let them do what they want. That is not a good message you're getting out with ''let them do whatever they want'' When I was a kid, I was a huge tomboy, and that is exactly what this child is too, a tomboy. They may always like guy things more, but that doesn't mean they need to change their body parts to become a boy. She's a kid. I still think men's clothes are more comfy than women's clothes, it's because they are more comfy, and I still sometimes dress like a tomboy, I still like sports, but I'm a girl. My mom, tried to put me in girly clothes and I never liked it either. But if my mom, had said just let her do whatever she wants, there is no telling where that could have lead me. Just because you're a tomboy, doesn't mean you have to change your sex. P.S. That quote is by Kat Graham, not Miles Mckenna.
She never says I feel like a boy, only that she likes the boys clothes and toys. She still wants to be called Lily, in my day we called that a Tom boy. Hate how there has to be a label on everything now days.
But you just labeled them yourself...
The kid literally says he wants to go on T and have the surgeries
Totally agree. I was a lot like this girl growing up and still am a huge tomboy. If I were growing up in current year I'd be screwed.
Axel Drans SHE is still a kid and doesn't fully know what SHE wants
👵 "Back In my day"👵 shut up
So... being tomboyish is now being transgender?
Apparently. Blame the parents
@Taco Nana I understand but that still does not mean that you're transgender. Maybe you're just a tomboy.
@Gabriela Moore wants to? They literally said that if there was an opportunity to would she and her response was "well yeah.. Ok."
She's young and has no idea what she's talking about. And who said she wasn't happy as a girl? Not like she's sad now and her mom still calls her a 'she'.
@Gabriela Moore she isn't completely sure she wants to become a boy. She literally said 'I think I do' so it'll be both her parents fault and hers if it ends up being otherwise when she grows up
I dunno •-•
I liked boy stuff when I was a little girl and I'm still a girl
rc3wondere same
rc3wondere me too
rc3wondere same
rc3wondere he said he wanted to be a boy
It’s_YOBOIJAY You mean she.
She's not a boy no matter what she thinks.
I literally acted like a boy all the time hen I was little. dressed like one, did "boyish " hobbies, etc. Did that make me a boy? no. hell, it didn't even cross my mind that I wanted to be a boy. how the f does a girl even know about such things at that age? wtf
Angelica Tomlinson Maybe the mom should just stop being closed minded and contradicting. She says she doesn't want the label of transgender but she's labelling pink and femininity and baby dolld as a 'girls thing' and blue and sports and masculinity as a 'boys thing'. Yeah the kids probably more comfortable in boys clothes because physically they ARE more comfortable
i want to be a boy too but sadly i just a bleach bottle
I feel sympathy for you Bleach
You can do it i have faith
Daaaaaang
Dats deep
clorox bleach aren’t we all bleach bottles ¿
I'm a girl
I'm not a "boy"
*_I'm just a tomboy_*
*YES, I'M A GIRL*
*_A tomboy_*
Is a tomboy a girl who likes to dress as a boy? Just curious.
Whale Cat yup!
Yeah I’m a tomboy to but if it was that easy just to transform to a boy but it isn’t ima just stay a girl but a tomboy lol
Lol
Bruh same
I mean I liked boy stuff when I was little, i watched spiderman and ninja turtles and hated pink color, that doesn't mean someone is transgender... This video doesn't make much sense to me
It's Ivøna Same
It's Ivøna same I hated pink and liked to watch tom and jerry and stuff but I grew out of it
that's why the mom keeps callig the kid "lily" and "she",she's not saying she's transgender, but if she is, the mom is gonna support her child
he said he wants to be a boy.
this shows that he is a boy
It's Ivøna same it’s being a tomboy not transgender
Like I am not against trans at all but it kinda feels like her mum is maybe assuming that she is trans maybe she is trans but she might also be a tomboy no offense I'm just saying x
Bella Scotto yeah i dont think its normal for her age to think that and Everybody IS Like omggg shes a girl stop hattin but like transgender these days Are like soo complicated Because i mean if She grows up and wants to be a girl that will not happen and She IS just thinking shes a boy and her mother TELLING her that everyday.. I dont think its normal..
No, she said she wants to be a boy. Tomboys don't want to be a boy they just like acting like a boy/ doing 'boy' things. You clearly don't know much about transgender people so you should probably keep your opinions to yourself to avoid hurting people:/
Bella Scotto I understand ur point like even if she wanted to be a boy the family should let her grow up and experience life before thinking about transitioning
I kinda agree to an extent, cause I feel that there's a definite chance the kid could grow up and realize 'oh I'm just a tomboy, but I'm still a girl' . Then again, I was exactly like that and I am trans so you never know. I understand the hesitation to do anything on the mothers part because I got bullied a lot growing up for looking and acting like a boy, and when I wore boxers or talking about how I thought the idea of a sex change was cool it just got worse and pushed me into denying myself and an extremely uncomfortable puberty and early adolescence
LoveBirdsRebornNursery xoxo as a girl who was always a tomboy...I remember wanting to be a boy at a young age. I would act like a boy, talk like a boy, play with boy toys, I remember even asking my brother if "I can be the boy and you be the girl"....got a little older, turns out I'm just a tomboy. You speak about this like you're certain...you're not. You don't know it all. It is possible she's just a tomboy but at a young age, you can't differentiate between the two
"I feel more comfortable in boys clothes." She didn't say she didn't feel comfortable in her own skin. It seems like she's just a tomboy.
P. T He said he wants to be a boy
@@gayestlilbeanever4000 *she
After reading some of the comments I figured I’d give my take on it. I’ve always been a tomboy from the earliest of ages, so when people say it’s being confused between that and transgender, it’s understandable and somewhat agreeable at this stage and age of the child. Does that mean as she gets older it couldn’t be that? No. But I agree that right now it’s more or less a waiting game in a sense. As I said I’ve been a tomboy since I was 2 or 3, and I just turned 20 this month. Growing up it was aware to my parents that I also gravitated to the boys side, was more into “boy” activities, and just would shy away from anything remotely girly. Where I’m at now, I’ve hit the stump of being confused about myself in this way, but I’m not jumping to conclusions on labeling myself transgender/transsexual until I know for sure. I’ve taken up the term androgynous for myself. Im not changing my pronouns, name or anything with this title. I claimed it because it describes me perfectly, and also mentions the fact that it causes confusion with gender roles. With being a tomboy growing up and now over the last two years I’ve expanded myself to try and be feminine and dress up and feel pretty, but I also still wear my masculine outfits as well, so it’s the best of both worlds. So, in regards to the people saying labeling right now or confusing the two terms as you say, I again can agree to a point, but at the same time it’s an opinion, as is mine in saying this. I don’t see this mother pushing her child to transition or anything. She’s allowing her to be herself, and as she grows up things will fall into place the way it should when the time is right. Wether it’s her being like me, maybe not being a tomboy anymore and just go all out girly, or if she’s trans, whichever happens, happens, and the happiness and well being of that child and being who she is meant to be is most important. So yes, don’t label them as anything at a young age but also don’t make them cover up the way they want to be presented. This mother also seems great with how she handled it and about the explanations she’s given so far to her daughter. She’s not forcing it on her or making her make these huge decisions that would potentially be set in stone. She’s explained that if when she’s older and she feels that is who she really is, there is things available to help her transition safely, fully in a sense, and supportive services. I also understand how people might jump to the conclusion that this is it and if one little display of being the opposite gender they see in their kid, they automatically assume and label. It’s good to acknowledge that this is something that could potentially lead to more later in life, but then just allow the kid to be themselves and cruise along and enjoy watching them grow up. The world is constantly changing, and this has become more apparent, yes and that’s a good thing. Letting people be themselves and allow them to live the way they want is their decision and if it’s not something you support, move along. At the end of the day, whether we’re different skin colors, body sizes and shapes, styles, gender, whatever, people are people and we bleed the same color, we’re the same color underneath our skin. We’re humans, and accepting people more than belittling them would benefit us all. Less bullying in schools, less possible mass shootings, less suicides from people after being broken so much over the years. It’d help everyone. I know it will never fully stop, but if we could lower all those percentages things would seem and be brighter. Ultimately I’m happy this kid is being allowed to be herself and having a mother who supports her either way. Don’t let someone tell you who you need to be, be who you are meant to be. Hopefully in time things will pan out to where the world is just more peaceful about this.
Aubrie wowww that was very long 😂
they wanted likes
I love how you expressed your thoughs. You're so right 🙂
Aubrie, well said. Absolutely agree. You are still very young too, so the cat might jump either way. I think today's society itself is the evil-doer, trying to brainwash poor kids into behaving and dressing and playing in certain ways. It's appalling.
Omg!!! For the last time he’s a boy!!! Him being transgender is different then this
He can't have surgery until he's 18 years of age. A child of that age shouldn't be given those type of choices until much later in life especially since its a procedure that is irreversible.
Skankhunt42 Theres been PLENTY of trans that had surgery BEFORE puberty, which is kinda messed up honestly. They dont know any better, so they should jusy wait. Im not against it at all, I support it, but not this young.
She*
oba femi *he
This is child abuse, her parents are basically pushing a different agenda on her and she's just tom boy. Kids this age shouldn't be trying to make enormous choices like that which are irreversible and the rates of kids thinkig they're trans and even possibly getting the procedure early and then regretting it later are huge
Actually with the parent's and child's consent a child can take drugs to halt their body from releasing puberty hormones until they are old enough to get the hormones to the sex they want.
I was quite the tomboy until I went to high school. Now as a young adult I have a wardrobe full of dresses and a vanity full of makeup lol.
zdrux the parents very clearly are not pretending either. in the mothers own words, they havent even used the word "transgender" in respect to the kid.
Ok
You want a cookie??
The Urie Yes, actually
I was a "tomboy" all through grade school and still one as an adult! :D
Breezy Bree i am still
Let’s all be nice. Being an adult means that you can think differently from other people and not have to try to prove anyone wrong. To each his own.
No No Lily is so cute! I don’t understand why people would say because she wants to be transgender she’s wrong.
If she dates someone and wears a skirt or something and the man sees the bulge, he would be depressed and insult that girl.
No No I’m not a adult ok
Nein
Average Gamer how do u know
I'm not saying Lily isn't trans or doesn't really want to be a boy... I'm a 22 year old female, and I remember being 4,5,6+ literally only wearing boys clothes because i loved them. The baggy shorts, the shirts with dragons on them, short spiky hair etc. Loved playing tackle football and remote control cars. There was even a time when I was 14 that ideas convinced I was trans.. something about all that changed when I turned 18. I got a serious boyfriend and didn't mind wearing womanly clothes and making myself "sexy and pretty", it felt good to do those things. My whole point is, I felt certain at a young age I wanted to be a boy, but now I'm certain I'm glad I'm a woman. So be careful at that young of an age.
Yeah would suck if you took hormones and realize you hate having a deep voice
Tanner Isbell, absolutely agree, me too.
@Gary Reid Yes there is it's called gender dysphoria
when I was 11 I wanted to be a boy. I was quite tomboish during my teen years but I didn't take hormones or transitioned... liking boy's stuff is not necessary a indicator that a kid is transgender.
me to but when get older you still have tomboish but you wait until you get older when the mind is developed to make those life changing decisions
sweetd097
exactly. Society always teach girls to be feminine and delicate but a girl can like boy's toys or shows and vice versa. She needs to wait until she gets older and if she really has body dysphoria then transitioning will be a good choice.
Nobody gives hormones to little kids.... No one. That's barbaric. And puberty blockers aren't permanent. It's like $50 to change the kids name and you can do that as many times as you'd like, so they won't be stuck with a boy name if they don't want it.
Nothing that's happening here is going to largely affect her life* so Idk why people always gotta pipe up with a judgmental tone about "what if's" that would never happen in a million years in a civil society.
(*Being put on blast like this in a documentary might largely affect her life but if you think about all the other kids on this channel, she's not that special)
Helsic en China Yes but if I remember correctly, she/he said she'he wants to be a boy.
Helsic en China EXACTLY! like at school, I get picked on for wearing guys clothes, They always say "Your not a tomboy you only wear them for looks!" so I say "I can wear what I want, you idiot, atleast I'm not wearing booty shorts and crop tops like you do ;-;"
I don't like dresses or skirts but I like makeup and hair
It's normal for me
yeah thats pretty normal.
Denii Rachel Scirova same
Same
Denii Rachel Scirova yeah same and im happy as a girl
Denii Rachel Scirova I don't care for dressing up or makeup or doing hair but its just cause I don't care and I'm lazy and like being comfortable in basketball shorts and a t-shirts
I think the parents are just pushing the whole trans idea on their kid.
right?
Kevinn they said they dont even use that word. not sure how allowing her to choose her own clothes and toys is "pushing" anything on the kid. they clearly dressed her and treated her as a very frilly little girl when she was younger. should they just force her into dresses, throw out all her toys, buy her some barbies and take away her skateboard?
+Gavin Grimm how did she know about medicine and surgery. People say a lot of things. Even if what they think there saying is true they could be pushing without even realizing it
Gavin Grimm
Use common sense. How the hell does she know about pills and surgery that will "change your gender" if the parents didn't tell her?
Kevinn *parent
Back in my day I had Pokémon cards like Lily this was 2002-06 I used to play Outside on the stairs after school and have Pokémon battles with my two friends Bryan’ and Mark. People called me “Tom boy” I liked a girl (5th grade) but couldn’t tell because it was “dirty and dyke” this would be so up beyond high school, college, work, moving out. Waiting for my “woman feeling” to happen and waiting for the phase to end of tomboy after all for a 22 years old? I’m still confused?? After many suicide attempts and self harm ?? After makeup and straight sex , after being loved and hurting the person that loves me most, after grief, after homelessness and hopelessness. Before they thought I’d grow and flourish into this woman because I was a beautiful girl kid and “didn’t know what I want.” But I always did I’m not a Tom boy, I’m not a confused woman, not a butch lesbian , not mentally ill, not satans spawn. These labels are all the bad and rude things people have to say about facing the truth of self identity. My family is disgusted of what my physical body could be, they may disown me forever. But I love them more each day. May god continue to grant us peace and comfort.
“I don’t have to be anything at all. I don’t even have to be myself, because there is no such thing as not being myself. I am inescapably myself.”
So tomboy isn't a thing anymore?
Bri Gita Ikr!! Everyone just assumes everything.
I was thinking the same thing throughout. If transgender was never a category, that's what she'd be. A tomboy. The story seemed to focus most on what made her transgender was her choice of clothing & toys & hobbies. Our society has built the boundaries of gender specific clothing & toys. This doesn't (to me) make her, or any kid transgender. I think its still too early to call.
Bri Gita No, it's now a full blown identity crisis and we should shame anyone who asks questions.
What a sad and confused world we're bringing our kids into.
Bri Gita Wtf is a tomboy?
EXO-L 4ever and always, same
When I have a kid and he tells me he thinks he's a vampire...I'll drive a wooden stake through his heart...
You probably shouldn't have a kid then lol
Tianni Myers How dare you, we must accept any and all of our kids' identities! We can't close our minds to kiddie vampirekin!
Uggghh.
Then...
I wanna be a fucking dolphin!
Stop calling her a boy.
HAHHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA just because she's into "boys stuff" and "boys cartoon" she is automatically a trans????
Firdaus Ismail right? plus there's tons of little boys who wear dresses and like some girl toys too, and they grow up straighter then a nail. I'd say she strikes me as just a tomboy and that they won't really know until puberty what the child thinks is right for them.
+Lucky Lex Sounds like her mom has done brain washed her now. What little kid talks about taking pills and surgery to be a boy! Get ready for the psychiatry bills!
How can a girl be interested in boy things? Something needs fixing to make it right.
hocus pocus your kidding right? Society lables what is "boy" stuff, when in reality it could be anything someone is interested in.
the mom said she is not labeling her child and that for now she is just letting her child decide what to play with and wear.
i feel bad for him, being constantly misgendered.
She is not male unless she adopts all the suffering that comes with the package of being born male and male culture.
@@meteorstorm415 xd what suffering do males go through that others don’t. Literally coming from a man
It's still a girl tho 😂
her
@@findingtheo17 ikr i hate when men say that smh
0:9 when you don't know how to pose for a good picture.
And at that point she looks like DylanIsRad
Kcleivin dang
I've had three Genderfluid children I've nannied and I'm also about to be the first male nanny to care for a transgender child. Society excuses what they can't understand.
"When you live the life you want to live, the only happiness that matters, is YOURs."
-NannyErik
This comment gives me life
That sounds terrible. Only happiness that matters is YOURS?
How do you know if you are the first?
3 children gender fluid? Hmmm?! Sounds like parental influence to me
"gender fluid"
boi
Why does everyone say she's just a tomboy. Havent you heard her say that she wants to be a boy? Let her just be who she wants to be. I think her mom is great in supporting her in this
Alice Rasker the thing is that she doesn't know what she wants, she's still too young to understand that. Yeah maybe right now she might want to be a boy but later on she might mature more and realize that she doesn't want to be a boy. People always say decide what they want to do but later they change their minds because time passes by you grow
you fucking moron, her mother coaches the lil idiot to say that so the mom can feel like she has a child to milk media attention from. DUH
Chloe ummm, calm down..
she too young and her mom is just pushing her to believe that she is trans but shes too young
Alice Rasker She's too young to even know what she wants. She's just going by the information her mom is feeding her.
Being a tomboy is one thing but wanting to get surgery to change your gender is another
Guys Im 15 now. Im a girl with the basic style of a girl and I have a boyfriend. While I was 4-9 years old I was wearing only boy clothes, and playing with boy toys like the girl on the vid. It doesnt mean she wants to be trans, she maybe just be a tomboy. But also maybe nothing:)
Papapa papapa You don't know how she feels.
So young as a Tomboy. Then has surgery. When older what if they want to be a woman, there is no changing back
Lenny Face mini-shrek😂😂😂😂
"What if". A what if question will sometimes not have an answer because most likely it won't happen. I don't imagine or see this smart child wanting to change back, but the only thing I can put the mother on the spot for is telling the child about surgeries or gender switches before the child's want to be a boy gets strong enough to the point it hurts the child, only to really test them.
In light of all the negative comments here (which, sadly, weren't unprecedented), I want to say what a wonderful mother Lily has! She just lets Lily be who she is and that is beautiful!
That being said, I think the title of the video is kind of wrong; no one knows for sure whether Lily is transgender (or in any way non-conforming) or not - they literally say so in the video. She could well be just a tomboy. But for Lily it's comforting to know that should she actually be transgender, she would have an accepting mother.
We hate it because she is so young to be making that kind of decision. At least wait till she is 18 then it would be reasonable
PotterheadGeeK7 I agree :)
shadow isbest but for now they’re just letting her be a tomboy till she or he matured enough to make the decision.
PotterheadGeeK7 you call out the hate comments and then bash how some people raise their kids and blame the suicide rate of teens on parents?
Nein
hey guys if any of y’all want an update he is transgender and goes by he and his name is dylan :)
2:58 is that a DanTDM backpack that i see ?
Purple Mon lol yeah
Purple Mon 1:27 more merch
I saw that too!!
Purple Mon ya
And a fnaf plushie?
sooo when did the word tomboy die
if you're talking about what I think you are, then that isn't what happened at all. The kid got a botched circumcision and instead of the doctor going "well now you have a boy with a fucked up penis" the doctor went "welp, time to raise you child as a girl" Obviously this didn't work as the child later identified with their birth sex and went back to it later committing suicide. Also tomboy was still used when I was a child and that was past when transgender became a word, its just the media that has inflated it.
What happened if she/he is a tomboy
Then they will use she/her pronouns and be a girl and be a tomboy. They could be a tomboy, or they could be transgender, that's something they'll have to figure out for themselves.
My thoughts exactly...I knew a lot of women growing up as tomboys and are now married with children , Divorced Etc. etc.... and they admitted to being a tomboy. When I talk to Them now, they tell me that boy toys where fun :-) and girl clothes meant they could not be messy.Parents never talked about well do you want to be a boy or a girl..That conversation was not entertained or even a thought of.
She is honestly such a good mom think about it she has the guts to ignore everyone else and let her child discover himself/herself
I watched Power Rangers and TMNT, Gargoyles, John Cena etc and turned out just fine, my parents did not think I was Transgender. I just enjoyed being a kid. some girls like or love that stuff I did and still do today.
She should not rush, once she is in her 12 or pre teen years. She will start to learn and discover herself and her identity. And will chosen what she wants to identify as and who she is. 7 still young, she has to gain knowledge about herslf, the mom needs to watch as time goes by.
I would've been screwed had I been a gnc child in today's society! I played with all of my older brothers toys growing up and got their hand me downs when they could no longer fit their clothes.
Lily has years it will take awhile, five years from now she could be saying different. I played with both "boy and girl toys" growing up.
Angel Stewart i
I dressed how she dressed when I was little. I wore baggy ass clothes, still do sometimes. & had G.I. Joes.
But I wouldn't be like hmm yeah...make me into a boy. Just let kids be fucking kids, geez.
When they get older then let them decide. She is too damn young to be thinking about this shit.
Miillie Mesh kids know they are trans when they are young.
karla_x3 nah.
Miillie Mesh actually yes, I know it's your opinion that you don't agree and whatnot. But they've already come out and said kids usually know at a young age.
karla_x3 who said? They lyin lol
karla_x3 Actually they don't decide for sure until they hit puberty.
Really
yeah
Janett Janicki Sadly
Braden Borgun ikr
*HE* is not a She.
ima dude and i watch my little pony.... NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT BRAH!
Not unless you don't think Rarity is best pony...
iShingYou of course not!
I'm a dolphin and I watch girls on the beach
ButTheToes: I'm a girl and I watch power rangers so I agree
listen let your child be who she is no need to worry about bulling just worry about if her future is bright . #BeWhoYouAre
Atoms #bewhoyouare? Then why are these people going trans, they a boy or a girl
1:20 Dantdm plush
StevieTEP p
TheGamestler 2:58 Dan tdm backpack
I noticed as well.
TheGamestler omg
TheGamestler oh yeah
i love how accepting the mom is, there's no need to label a child just having a different childhood, if lily wants to dress like that then let it be, if lily starts wanting to be more feminine when puberty hits don't be "told you she was just confused" because all of this is just a process of figuring out who you are and how you truly want to live your life. all that matters is that a parent supports their child no matter what they're going through and that the child is happy being themselves!
Man he is lucky my parents won't accept me I'm stuck in this body
ʟɪsᴀ I'm so sorry baby 😞
Just be normal. I would reject you too.
Janko Jovicic it's called suicide honey
ʟɪsᴀ same same :(
If you're thinking about suicide, you shouldn't be online.
I'm a tomboy but my mom barely will buy me boy clothes and I HATE GIRL CLOTHES!!!!!!!!
my mom buys me men's clothes.
Kimberly Tifft o really
OMG SAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kb TherealFam, I would love to wear boys clothes, but I'm afraid to see my family's reaction. They want me to be a girly girl
Minkerstin yeah me too
this is a very delicate situation here. i am a parent and would never want to hurt my child psychological by blocking his or her natural instincts ir telling her that her natural instincts mean that there is something wrong with him or her. i do believe that we associate too many things with gender like dolls=girls and truck = boy. i did not like bows and ribbons as a child i felt as though they were restrictive. and even though i played with dolls i loved trucks even more. i did nit want to become a boy and i believe that it may be because my parents never made me feel as though liking trucks was just for boys or that not wanting ribbons ment that i was not girly enough
once we stop saying that girls have to be a specific way or boys have to be a specific way then we remove gender confusion and maybe kids would not want to be the gender that the worls is telling them they are acting as
Dwanequa Murphy true and also I know a girl who hated pink and girly things she's strong and loves superheroes, she's fine just the way she is she's a girl and wants to be a girl
That's actually not a fact. Things aren't fact just because you say they are.
Jesus this needs to stop. I was a tomboy growing up having only male friends and if somebody had told me there's this "medicine" I could take to become a 'real' boy I'd taken it in a heartbeat.
I'm an adult now and am proud to identify as a butch lesbian and more importantly proud to be a woman being able to express herself regardless of what society expects me to look like.
Don't do this to children who are impressionable and change their mind constantly. This will mess up their lives to an unimaginable extent.
when a girl wants to do boy things, it's means shes either gay or a tom boy, not that she wants to alter her body forever
I look like a boy and everyone at my secondary school thinks im a boy and transgender.
OneTonSoup Thanks 'that 'bro' makes me feel even better about myself'
,kk
as this child grows older they will really start to learn who they are. if they are transgender then there are roads that can be taken and if that isn't the case then they had such a freeing childhood to just be a tomboy. I'm transgender and I knew that something was off from the age of 4. If my mother had been this accepting and tolerant then I would have gone through less pain than I did growing up. just let your kids be kids for as long as they can and they will figure the rest out on their own.
Same exact experience with my own kiddo growing up! You can't force them to feel any different then they feel. I think you're a great Mom for loving her unconditionally and allowing her to be herself!
Telling your young tomboy daughter about genital reassignment surgery and being transgender, then writing a blog about how it affects her is not parenting.
Maybe she is trans, maybe she will someday transition to a dude, but her childhood deserves better memories than sharing profoundly personal doubts on camera and having them documented online like she is something to be studied. She should be permitted, as a child growing up, to figure out how the world looks through her eyes, not by having the eyes of the world drawn upon her during an already difficult time.
I always wanted to be a ....
Mermaid LOL DONT JUDGE ME XDD
This is fine if she actually is, but my little cousin was like that up till she was like 9. She hated dresses, bows, Barbie, she played with ninja turtles, Thomas the Train and "boy" stuff. That was a phase for the first nine years of her life and she plays with more feminine toys now
The feeling of being transgender is too deep inside it’s not just liking certain toys
Yeah its called being mentally ill
and illnesses should not be normalized.
MultiDarkZen So mentally ill people should be demonized by your logic. That is not the answer either.
I was pretty "girly" up until I was like 9 but then I went through this tomboy faze for like a year or 2. I kind of wish I didn't go through that faze though because tbh I was really weird when I went though that faze. I wore my brother's old clothes and it was NOT fashionable at all. I also decided to cut my hair short (not like a bob cut or anything but shorter) and I went to SuperCuts and for some reason they gave me these ugly bangs when I didn't ask for them. Also I wore a suit on picture day. A suit. It was ugly and I regretted it as soon as I came to school. I'm not saying that being a tomboy is bad, it's just that when I went through that faze it was terrible. Now I'm not a tomboy, though I'm not super girly either, and my hair grew out long again.
Sara Contortionist 101 I was the same it was all a phase for me
Such a great story! If you look at HIM now, he is a very healthy young boy
Yo lily! If you are reading this, then keep going for your dream! Do what you love!
transgender spotted
What the fuck is wrong with you?
Alexmlego me? What did I do?
Yeah AlexmLego, wtf is wrong with you! He is just telling her to aim for her dreams
It's wrong bringing an impressionable child up like this, she has yet to have her first sexual relationship and she is deciding what gender she ' Wishes' to be.
Power to you, Vanessa! I hope you only keep supportive, helpful people in your life. You're doing the right thing for your child and you know it :)
I'm so glad the mom is letting the kid be him/herself.
How is telling her she needs drugs and surgery to make her into a boy "letting the kid be him/herself"?
hocus pocus she didnt say thats what she HAS to do. she presented it as an option to the child.
The lady literally said in the video that "drugs and surgery" were an OPTION. Bug off!!
Levi Cheezehpoofs So not letting her be herself is an option. What's wrong with a girl who has interests like a boy that drugs and surgery are required to fix?
Yes. All aspects of parenting are options. You have no say over me in "a girl who has interests like a boy" because I'm a trans guy. BUG OFF
There's a big difference between being trans and just being a tomboy. I am trans and I have a lot of girl friends that are tomboys. They like dressing in boy clothes exclusively, buying "boy toys" and things like that and there is still a concrete difference between them and I. I think with a girl child that acts more masculine or a boy child that acts more feminine, you shouldn't bring up the topic of transgender until they're much older and have gone through puberty at least. Dysphoria starts to become more present after that and you can bring your child to a gender therapist to see if that is what is going on. In this day and age everyone jumps to the conclusion that if a girl acts more masculine or a boy acts more feminine they are trans, which is usually not the case. I don't think anything's wrong with how this mother is raising her child, I just don't think they should have brought up the topic of being transgender or srs until they were older.
This is how I was when I was 7-9 I’m 11 now and I grew out of my tomboy phase. I wanted to be a boy so much back then
I gaunt grew out of it ever since my little brother was born in 2011 I would always where his ‘boys cloths’ I’m 12 now and still a girl but still love boys cloths and hate girl cloths and hate being a girl
@@BenjaminGames08Same
Trans girl: "Omg she's so cute!"
Trans boy: "No shes not trans she's a tomboy"
No she’s trans cuz she said she wants surgery to become a boy tomboy is different
Girl: mom I like action figures
Mom: Oh! So your transgender!?
Like when puberty comes it gets awkward
Vanessa was one of my closest friends in middle school. Her son now goes by Dylan, is either already or beginning transition, and is a remarkable young man. Vanessa is an OUTSTANDING mother and Dylan is a product of her parenting. It's not just being a tomboy: A kid knows they aren't in the right body, and the mother discovers it's way more than playing boys' games or clothes, because, if they're like Vanessa, they're attentive and unconditional with her love. She's a wonderful human being and Dylan is a great kid.
You go Vanessa, don't let those people get you down and keep going strong x
MJSmithy you need testosterone to go strong
This child is in danger, how dare her mother suggest surgery and drugs at such an impressionable age. i do agree that she should let her daughter wear and play with what she wants but it really seems as if this mother is pushing her agenda on this poor girl
I'm like Lily I want to be a boy too
YOU MUST REPENT
From caring about the opinions of others and instead care about yourself.❤️
@@Eggo2341 Im a boy but i should think transgender people need respect
I wanna be a alien
I'm ftm
Edward ghost that’s not how this works buddy...
GOOD FOR HIM!!! BE WHO YOU ARE!!!
I’d love to be a boy but parents won’t allow me ;-;
I'm so sorry, I really hope they learn to accept you. I'll do my atheist equalivant of praying for you. (please excuse spelling mistakes)
I'm a Bi Nice Parents your so lucky to have parents
I'm a Bi i am transboy and i have depression because my parents don't accept it...
its justa gender
I think the main problem with parents not accepting they're transgender children is that they are simply not educated and they don't understand fully what transgender means so I'm taking any parent that you feel you may have a transgendered child to educate yourself talk to other parents were going through the same thing the main issue is that you need to love your child except her or him for who he or she may be the pronouns are very important please listen to your child doing what they are telling you
I stick with her, because my parents make fun of me that I'm a tom boy. And I don't like it and I just want to stand up to them and say " Hey why does it matter that I love boy stuff, I could be what ever I want and make my own decisions of what I love!! " And I'm just so scared to say that and they say your ugly like that. Your descousting. That just hurts my heart, but no matter what they say I can't change who I am, just be you and people will epresheate you of how you are, but not your parents there assholes😐
Emjk47 Your parents are the ones who are ugly and disgusting inside for undermining you like that. They are not worth your while.
My little Cat want's to be a Dog 😭 why ? God why ?
as a teenage trans boy myself, i think this is extremely awful in the fact that the mom cant accept her son as who he is. that is extremely bad parenting.
I agree. I'm going through the same thing as him; my parents wont let me be a male. And am I the only one or are you sick of all the "she's just a tomboy" comments as well?
+Paige Weiss Look at her website, you'll see it has gotten muc better. vanessaleenic.com
This mom is sick, giving a child information about a gender change. This is just putting the child is specific GENDER ROLES. Let her be who she wants and take er easy. Girls can like the hulk and not aspire to be a male.
okay ...
so i have seen plenty of documentaries on the case of Gender Identity Disorder.
kids who 100% in their mind know that they are in the wrong body.
Most doctors and psychiatrists talk extensively with the child to judge this.
And a lot of cases are actually phases. This is one of them.
just saying she likes boy clothing because it has boy intended items on it isint enough.
there are PLENTY of things that girls like as well but advertising only gears towards boys.
for example. when i was younger i loved videogames and yugioh and i hated anything pink and girly. I was a tomboy and wore baggy clothing. my hair was short.
my little sister the pure opposite.
everything pink. dress up. princesses. playing house.
but even though i liked these things i knew i was a girl. my mom didn't go overboard like this mother having talks with her about gender transition.
thats for the doctor to decide.
and even then when she turns 12 to 13 if they do decide to give her drugs they are only blockers.
that PREVENT puberty.
they are taken for years until they are 18 and are given hormones that they inject into their thighs.
i honestly think she is just a tomboy. and like me she will continue to love these things and accept herself as a girl
I wanted to be a boy at that age too, but I don't know anymore. I still wear like "boy" clothes and I still do "boy" things.... but I am more confident and I believe that I can be a girl. I do not know why they just think that they want to be boys when they are that young, they should discover themselves a little first, but this is only my opinion, not theirs.
Denis Fan4Life it doesn't matter what age you decide to transform, if you are a 54 year old and decide you want to boy/girl it doesn't matter. Just because they are young doesn't mean they can't choose decisions on their own
Okay.... when I was a child I would play with ALL boys toys, I was a huge tomboy for most of my childhood.. until about 14! However, I grew out of it. I feel like instead of automatically jumping to "my child is transgender" maybe you should take a chill pill, not bring up "oh these are signs your transgender," etc. It's really normal for children to be fluent with toys and such, however bringing up permanent topics to them such as surgery is idiotic.
You've got some growing up to do, kiddo.
Gamer Comedy you are an infant. Go home, your mom needs to change your diaper. Remove this comment and do yourself a favor.
Yeah but there's a difference between transgender and tomboy. Tomboy is just acting masculine. Transgender is being male inside and female outside. Your gender identity according to scientists develops in the womb. Yes I think that they shouldn't legally change names, but hire one blockers can be reversed in seconds, and HRT isn't usually given to people under 14 or 16.
Allie Smith Amen
I'm just like u I'm a girl and I wear boy things cut my hair do boy things but what hurts is the constent reminder I'm a girl.
Weirdo 🤡🤡
super k they aren’t weird she’s a girl but likes traditionally boy stuff that’s better then changing their gender and end up regretting it
I am a boy and i wear girl chothes and do girl things and when i grow up i will grow longer hair its my dream to be a girl and to be like one of the girl
she could just be a lesbian or a tom boy [i am a transman myself] It way to early to judge I came out at 11 as wanting to be a boy and new beforehand but didn't know what trans was until 14/15 just let her find out on her own she not near to puberty yet so i wouldn't worry if i was you
Hey, just because she likes to act like a tomboy, doesn't mean she's lesbian - sexuality and gender aren't the same thing, stop putting stereotypes on people.
unicornbree I wasn't i said maybe... instead of jumping to trans i was saying look at the other possibilities.. and a lot of my friends who are lesbians were tomboys when was younger
Whats wrong with Power Rangers?!
Itz Kadee I know right I know lots of girls that watched power rangers
Itz Kadee Ikr 😂 I watched Power rangers, Ben ten and Teenage mutant ninja turtles when i was little to
Moemochii I'm 18 and I still watch TMNT and I identify completly as a she. Not because you like ""boy stuff"" means that you are a transgender person...but society still can't understand that
Catita Passicot i never said that watching TNMNT was a "boy thing" ._. As long as ppl are happy and its not illegal then i dont really give two flying fucks.
Jordan_ Fun006 ikr
parenting done right!
Guys, he is transgender now. He lives as a boy, and his name is Dylan. He got his name legally changed. He is happier than ever. He made the right decision.
I feel like this little girl is probably just a tomboy. I can't tell for sure but there are signs that children show when they are very young if they are the wrong gender and none were mentioned pertaining to this child. She just likes boy stuff and these parents have put the idea that she is transgender in her head. Just my opinion. Feel free to disagree, no hate.
why is this a full documentary.....I always wanted to be a boy when I was little.....I always sayed I m a boy and my name is Nick...and the way they say like Omg its soo weird how she goes to the boys toys first....GIRL I StiLL DO😂😢
Elina Papa my name is Nick too 😁
Elina Papa YES SOO DO I i lovereeed boy stuff and i still do but dude wtfff i love being a girl and respect my body for WHO i am ( no offence to transgender ) but shes to young to think that stuff
State Brigazamojeime no she's not. Gender identity is different. She/ he wants surgery to become a boy. Keep your opinions to yourself if you're not going to be kind.
State Brigazamojeime you cant say no offense to something that is REALLY offensive, and if they didnt change theyre gender then they wouldnt be respecting theyre body or theyre head and no matter what age you are you have an opinion on what gender you are and theyre's nothing wrong with that
I don't want to be a boy but I wanna be like a boy :D But I am not a lesbian tho XD
It was a phase for me when I was like about 9 I wanted a ninja turtle birthday party and I asked for boy toys and stuff. I always went to the boy section when my mom took me to the store cause she would pick out dresses and skirts and I would say I don't like it and don't want it and she would say ok and I would get shirts and shoes from my auntie and she would often try to buy me little kid heels and stuff I would be mad and irritated but she said I'm just a Lil tomboy and got me sneakers. But when I started to getting older I didn't like showing my skin in tank tops and crop tops but now I'm getting into my girly side.
Being trans isn’t wanting to be the opposite gender it’s being that gender in the wrong body 🖤
Sad Kat No
Sad Kat There is no such thing as the perfect body
The downvotes on these trans videos are so disheartening :(
That's because it's a child
and this is borderline child abuse.
MultiDarkZen how is letting a child pursue their interests and wear whatever clothes they want child abuse?
callistope mentally disturbing children. Child abuse to me.
callistope
Her mom is poisioning the little girls mind. I bet the little girl didn't even want it until her mom suggested it.
Why because being trans is actually somewhat of a rich person privilege?
I think the mom actually does very well but why nowadays as soon as a child seems to feel more like the opposite sex, they say he or she must be transgender? What a bullshit.
I have nothing against transgenders and I know some people are born in the wrong body but the fact she likes boy things doesn't make her a boy?
When I was small I wanted to be a boy as well and I didn't care about anything girly. Now I am 25 and I am a really feminine woman. If this little girl feels more like a boy let her but it doesn't make her transgender? I think the mom shouldn't even mention the word transgender, it puts so much extra pressure on Lily.
Stay strong don’t let anyone bring you down
Sienaxxkato welp I wanna be the bad guy so um dislike
Sienaxxkato thank you....but i am transboy and my family and friends won't accept it....
All the comments are saying “she’s just a tomboy”, a tomboy doesn’t want to transition into a male. The mother needs to talk to him/her about transitioning.
Exactly