Social Media Really F**ked Us Up
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- One of the main ways that social media contributes to poor body image is through the constant exposure to idealised and often unrealistic representations of beauty. Social media platforms are filled with images of thin, toned, and seemingly flawless bodies that can create feelings of inadequacy and pressure to conform to those standards.
Additionally, social media can be a breeding ground for negative comments and bullying related to body size, shape, and appearance. These comments can further exacerbate feelings of self-consciousness and contribute to poor body image.
Furthermore, social media can create an environment in which people feel the need to constantly compare themselves to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.
Overall, social media has the potential to contribute to poor body image through its emphasis on idealised representations of beauty, the prevalence of negative comments and bullying, and the tendency for users to constantly compare themselves to others.
#socialmedia #confidence
Great explanation here. Good or bad if its extreme the algo will promote it. People say stupid shit and it gets promoted. Good info from normal people does not get shown
I read this in your voice
damn only 10 likes??
Well said Mr Doucette.
Great circle mr circle
Greg you're a Legend
This should be mandatory viewing for anyone on social media. Incredible message, mate.
The wouldn't watch it. The people on social media NEED social media. The people who don't need it are the only ones who will listen to this message. It is the same as promoting fitness to fat people, they wont listen, the only ones who will are the ones who were already convinced.
Why watch something healthy that can actually benefit you when you can watch kittens and asses instead?
Exactly.
This was terrible advice
@@roserevancroix2308Who knows? Some people are so ignorant to their own health. It’s actually saddening
The delusion and sense of self-entitlement caused by excessive social media use is bonkers... Especially dating in this era of IG is truly shocking.
Everyone thinks they're the main character
Women gain a natural tolerance to excessive male attention, this naturally makes them select the ‘best of the bunch’ and there is no scarcity of desperate men.
@@interesting2491 1. Men hardly give any attention now, they expect the woman to do the chasing.
2. The "best of the bunch" is hardly any good nowadays, when dating is all about waiting/ searching for better options and nobody wants to invest anything anymore.
@@MamaMia914 It’s a bad situation for both parties.
Western society is in spiritual decay and I dare say that things will ever get ‘back to normal’ anytime soon.
@@interesting2491 I agree. It's all about "let's have a lot of sex but I don't know if I like you" for men. And all about "how much money can you spend on me and my aesthetic surgeries" for women.
So true, well said. I am almost 60 and recently ran a 5k under 30 mins. A massive event in my life but not news worthy on social media. Focus on you and your own goals.
That is super impressive!!! You would beat 90% mmmm 98% of these fitness influencers. Assuming their heart doesn’t blow up and take everything within a 40yd radius with them.
Actually that is one topic that is social media worthy
Congratulations!! That's incredible!
Wow, that's damn insane, even more so at that age!
@@dnegel9546😂😂😂😂😂😂
It is incredible how people think its perfectly fine to scroll through social media and experience 10 different emotions in 10 minutes. one minute ure happy, the next minute ure sad, the next enraged. It is not normal for the limbic system to be so hyperactive. people are literally training themselves to have poorer attention spans and poorer control over their emotional responses to things that happen in life.
As with a lot of things mate its not the tools that are the issue, its the people selling them, and the people using them. TH-cam and other social media can be powerful tools for learning but a lot of people don't use them that way. Instead of using hammers and nails to build houses people would rather sit around and watch the hammer go on 12 dates to figure out which nail he wants to bang the most.
@@nif2009 banged the last one right on the head 💯
@@nif2009 I agree but I also think we should keep the good stuff and get rid of the bad stuff. It should be self correcting. For example we should actually get rid of instagram, tik tok etc. Imho they do far more harm than good. I understand that's some people's brand or business but it's a business that ultimately leads to more societal consequences. Not to mention jobs existed before those apps existed so they are not actually essential. Some entitled kid will just go back to being a normal person with a normal job. If anything that's a good thing. Normal jobs are good.
We should also get rid of dating apps as well such as tinder, bumble etc. Once again these are causing more societal harm. It harms the way we socialize with one another in society. Porn as well we should get rid of. Its not good for the brain to watch this stuff. Go back to jerking it to a Sears catalogue photo is much healthier imho.
Its not just that bit you get addicted to dopamine and new stimulus and it is so hard to work against it
@H H absolutely
This extends to everything on social media. Someone looking really good? They are either using photoshop or the top 1%.
Someone has the perfect life, shit ton of money or smthin like that? It's never that easy or if it is they were really lucky with rich parents.
Just cus you don't have something someone else has it doesn't mean your life sucks.
It's why I left most social media. Instagram especially made me actively depressed and angry. Deleting my account on all meta-owned platforms was the best thing I ever did for my mental health.
It’s worse than you think because it’s not limited to working out. "Social media will screw with your perception of reality .." ..in EVERY area . (Politics, religion, science, etc..) Very good video. Thank you.
Deleting all of my social media 3 months ago has done WONDERS for my mental health, I cannot recommend it enough.
Thinking about doing this, did you experience any negative impact on your social circles doing so?
@@TheLucschouten I did this for a month, deleted all media for January. Best things I done also! I felt I was hooked and couldn't do without it, after a couple of weeks felt like a weight had been lifted. I still had close friends contact numbers so we texted etc. My main social circle wasn't impacted, the people that want and deserve to be around you will always be there. The ones that you lose if any, don't need to be there. Give it a go!
3 months? Try 5 years fam. You’ll feel even better then. Keep going.
I’m so glad I was born just before the huge boom of social media. By the time it got insanely huge, I was already an adult and learned self-love and self-respect. I had already molded my own personality into something I could be proud of, without the noise of social media constantly telling me I’m not good enough.
I genuinely feel so God damn bad for kids these days. The saddest part is how so many of them won’t even begin to comprehend how screwed their outlook on the world will become until they’re older and it’ll be way harder for them to reprogram their brain.
And that’s for the kids who manage to get out of this vicious circle. Many will leave us without ever finding love for themselves.
My kids aren't allowed on the internet.
Access is very , very limited.
It's just not a forum for children, they go outside to play
@@BOBANDVEG well done 👍
Bravo.
Hi! Sounds awesome, what do you get up to in your day to day life. And do you do anything just for fun that you dont feel guilty about? I need to cultivate some healthy things I do just for fun
It isn’t just affecting kids, it’s affecting adults. When I used to scroll through Facebook, some of the most validation seeking people were users older than me. It’s not just kids living in today’s society, older folk are just as addicted to that social media dopamine hit. I never really got the appeal of those apps myself. Nobody has to know every detail of my life and I’m not getting sucked into comparing my life with others
100% agree. Im getting more and more away from it and i feel way better. No matter how good and strong i got, as soon as i went on social media i saw hyper successfull men that look better then me, have big houses and hypercars. In this moment this feels like the whole world is better then me. This shit makes depressive i tell u.
Life is better with less social media. Just to post usefull stuff, talk to some people but dont scroll around and watch other successfull people having the time of their life.
Imagine being one of the best calisthenics athletes in ur gym just to come home and feel like the most useless person ever when u scroll thru instagram.
I dont even want to know how average untrained men feel. This is not what life should be.
Its all bullshit bro!
007
you're better than that buddy
It's when they're 21 absolutely fucking huge driving round in a Lamborghini living in a mansion and their following isn't all that big.
Like there's no way sponsors pay that much.
We’ll that’s what happens when you think you’re better than anyone. You’re only better than you were yesterday.
Yeah I gotta be honest - as a natural lifter my entire life whose actually built a good amount of muscle and strength - I look online and these guys that are mega jacked and ripped! It takes me serious dieting just to get somewhat lean and then I always lose muscle. Anyways, so many guys are on steroids and they look great but it’s very tempting for me to take that jump too. I can only imagine how women feel with the super attractive women online that boost their attractiveness by using filters and angles etc etc..
How does this guy manage to sound insanely angry and like he's reading a bedtime story at the same time, damn. Good video.
Clever observation…he really does.
He's just british
Because true anger is doesn’t yell, true anger is frustrating
So true, people online in the fitness space act like you need to be 200+ pounds at 10% body fat to have a good physique. If you go outside, walk around your downtown area, you likely won’t see a single person that matches this profile or even comes close.
This should be shown in schools to teach perception of reality
This is a message that needs to spread. ❤💪
That is right!
I called this years ago...before cyber bullying was a thing I saw it coming. People have not disappointed.
This is infinitely more useful and helpful than any "body positivity" crap. Great job
And I'm going to share this! Amen brother!!! This is such good advice for the world
The way you smelled that marker 😂
I'd probably smell it too if I was in middle school
Markers and benzine are the smells of my childhood.
It's crazy how skinny guys can look like they're 200lbs of muscle just with social media angles and lighting, edits, secret jooce etc... Truly mind-blowing to me.
Comparison is the thief of joy is such a good quote but its so fucking hard to shake. Thank you for uploading this
Nail on the head mate. I've shared your vids with friends before who struggle to lose weight and have body image issues. Their heads get full of misinformation that i can't even help them. Seeing your way of saying it bloody helps. You've helped me bro a lot! love ya man x
Deleted my instagram, Facebook and TikTok. Never had more peace in my life
Same. Its a bit annoying cause people constantly ask me “yo whats your instagram?” Or “yo you see that tiktok….”, but its so worth the mental health
Same, TikTok I never had an account. I only have LinkedIn and not use.😂
This is the reason why I try to stay out of the "gymtok" corner of the internet even though the gym is a massive part of my personality
To be honest, all that has been said about sports has already been said, there is no point in watching "new" content
You are the "one" person in the fitness industry that is smashing through the utter nonsense that is being fed to us. I love your book - Not a diet book and I read it over and over just to keep myself sane. Thank you James
Social media didn't f people up people f d people up. The lack of honesty transparency in the fitness industry be it magazines TH-cam competitions is so LOW it's unreal. Also becoming a fitness instructor etc is a nonsense.
More people need to see and hear this message. I know multiple people who are far above average in their physique and fitness, but if you ask them they'll say they think they're fat and out of shape, because they can't get to sub 10% body fat, and they don't have enough abs separation, or some nonsense like that.
I agree, but also what is normal/average nowadays is increasingly fat. Like I am well above average physique for someone in my 40s but I would still benefit from losing some fat.
@@psyick9543yep, I look around me these days and most people are fat. I’m shocked at how many people in their teens or 20s are overweight
I think thats me. I look at the mirror with great lighting and look amazing. But when i look at myself i see 0 definition. Its truly freaky…
@@dnegel9546EXACTLY same here! Let’s go with the mirror 😁
Great message!
As Jordan Peterson said :"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who somebody else is today".
This Bias you talk about always hit's me hardest in the gym. Been working out for around 6 years in 5 different commercial gyms now. Believing the internet, everybody should be easily able to rep out 100kg on the bench. Yet if I look around in the gyms I have been and really count how many people I have seen doing clean reps with 100kg on the bench I would not be able to count past 10, max.
I think the genetics factor needs to be recognised more as the sooner you accept that you’re different, the sooner you can be the best version of yourself! Great video, I’ll see you in Brighton (Sept ‘23)!
Yeah but not accepting it ties very much into our capitalistic societies which tell you if you're not the best at something it's because you didn't put the effort in.
@@whatsthemattereu8139 ultimately, your mindset starts and ends with you! You choose to accept what society puts on you, you’ve just got to filter through the nonsense! (IMO) 🫡
But what if someone’s genetics puts them in the below average category in terms of intelligence and muscle/strength?
@@brianmeen2158 how are you defining intelligence and ‘below average’? Regardless of your circumstances, you simply have to do the best with what you’ve got!
There are so many roiders and people on TRT today, that if you have good natural genetics, are big and muscular and can deadlift 300kg without even taking creatine, everybody will think you roid and discredit genetics, just because there are so many people who are smaller and weaker on roids
I, too, like to sniff markers before using them.
I went through this myself, I have been in the gym training naturally for 10 years and had a decent rig but was never happy due to what I’d compare myself with on social media. I had to have 2 discs in my back operated on and I had 9 months of downtime post surgery due to complications and in that time I gained almost 40kg from eating rubbish and being sedentary.
I was looking up transformations on TikTok and couldn’t believe what some people were posting. I’m pretty educated with my nutrition and training but these guys were going from obese to greek gods in 6 months but they always had some sort of supplements, books or coaching to sell.
I ended up losing the 40kg over 12 months of hard dieting and moderate gym work but the outside noise almost made me start thinking I had issues with insulin sensitivity or my metabolism and I almost started buying the BS they were promoting.
Those videos are so dangerous for people that aren’t educated because if you aren’t making the same progress as you see online, you’ll just assume you’ve got something wrong and give up after spending hundreds on the snake oil they sell you.
I’ve seen some of those miracle transformations and many of them
Are taking steroids and other performance enhancers.
There are so many roiders and people on TRT today, that if you have good natural genetics, are big and muscular and can deadlift 300kg without even taking creatine, everybody will think you roid and discredit genetics, just because there are so many people who are smaller and weaker on roids😅😅😅
@@shirohige291 yup you nailed it. Tbh I've always been very lean, vascular and a good amount of muscle genetically. When I was younger and lifting a lot cause of construction so many people assumed I was doing roids. Unfortunately, I would actually argue that most people don't actually have good genetics for getting good bodies. Ofcourse you can always improve though with hardwork but to get to what most people see online or w.e is unlikely for the vast majority of people.
Yeah man I hear you there I am going through a similar thing. Was always active played American football in high school, worked construction, weight trained. Went into the military stayed fit, plagued with back problems in my mid 20's but they always said its nerve pain your structure is just fine. So kept pushing got forced into medical retirement so I don't get my retirement check after 17yrs of service.
Now I am 41 back hurts so bad and roughly 235 lbs (106ish kg) and apparently one of my vertebrae has slid forward a bit moves around and is cracked in like 3 places and 3 bulging disks and a birth defect of having an L6. Just found this out last week, and of course the surgeon will not see me without physical therapy, which I am sure is just fine on a broken bone that moves around 😮💨
Did you have new discs put in? I currently lost all the liquid in my lower 2 discs. And they are completely herniated.
I still go to the gym but its beyond humbling being limited to squatting 135lb. When one of my warmup sets was 250 😭
Came across you recently. You post THE most authentic content out there. Nice…
I'm still shocked that people over the age of teenage even use social media.
I always think that I'm fat and ugly even with sixpack, good genetics etc.. But all men and women are looking at me with open mouths. I work out 5 days per week since I started playing in a football club with the age of 4. And I'm 34 and just in the past year I've really noticed it. Before that I was always comparing myself with Arnold Schwarzenegger in terms of looks and with player like Messi and Ronaldo in terms of football skills. I ignored people moaning when I did something special on the pitch etc. - and I was unhappy with myself because I didn't look like Arnold and didn't play as good as Messi/Ronaldo.
You are so right with that. Just compare yourself with your past and try to get 1% better every day. Be the best yourself you can be and ignore everything else.
Sensational message, man. It just makes me sad that a lot of people will overlook this solely because of the delusion and brainwashing that social media inflicts. I will share cause I believe in this wholeheartedly, and I'm glad that you do too.
I am better than I was yesterday. I am bettering others around me that gives me joy.
I been thinking about this for a while and you are correct. You can see this effect when you look at paranoia between males and females. If you look at clips where you told not to trust the other gender, you will begin to build a worldview or a negative bias about dating. It’s sad to see when we are actively told not to trust each other
Just about every guy I work with that’s older than me would argue with you, admittedly some of them have been married more than once, but even taking their bitterness into account I’m sure they give good advice. My neighbours wife is a perfect example of why I will never trust women, she invites herself round to mine and knows exactly what she wants. Husband goes to work in a Vauxhall, she drives a Mercedes.
Looking at bricklayers instead of going to bed ..... damn, this guy gets it!
Physical appearance is a funny thing. When I'm in decent shape I can literally wake up in the morning dehydrated and look at myself in the mirror and think I look lean and awesome. And then look at myself again before I go bed and think I look fat! If I took pictures they could literally be used for one of those before and after a 8 week intensive training regime articles!
Same ! Greek God in the morning and butter bean after dinner 😂
Great message, now back to watching cow hoofs being cleaned for 3 hours...
Great message James. Isn’t it strange how many of us ditch social media but still hammer 5 hours of TH-cam a day. TH-cam is the most addicting and time consuming. 3-5 hour podcasts now becoming common. You could hardly make a TH-cam vid that’s anti TH-cam. But where are we watching these workouts etc? Let’s be honest with ourselves. 👊🏼 peace.
hey bro! I stopped watching all the ridiculously long videos. These people are completely out of their minds thinking I would invest that much time to watch them talk about nonsense.
007
@@007stopjockin Depends on the content. Watching someone make a song for 3 hours is alright to me.
Yeah bro TH-cam is social media too. I know I need to delete it, I tried once but didn't last very long...
@@ethanclark4116 you can find extremely educational and useful videos that can be put on as background noise, it's a great platform if you use it correctly
That’s why I quit social media over a year ago and will never go back again!
Once upon a time I used to read the Australian version of Mens Health( what was I thinking) My young son was about 13 at the time and was just getting into fitness as he was training Muay Thai. I sat him him down and showed the ripped Fitness model on the cover and had a frank discussion with him about the unrealistic physique he had and to read on the back ( they always had a little bio of the model) about what the guy ate to look the way he did. The guy lived on a bottle of chemicals and protein. Probably one of the only times as a teenager my son listened to me :Þ An adult now and still trains clean and realistically.
Followed James since his daily Q and As on FB when he had 1000 followers and this is the best video he’s ever produced… this week
I finished “Not a diet book” yesterday and started “Not a life coach” this morning. Been a fan for a while and had the books since your last book was released (just wanted to read them “in order”). The quality of your video content has gone through the roof recently. Thanks for what you do
Thank you ❤
Are the books available on Amazon UK?
@@BruceLeroyUK yeah.
You find any value to reading them in order? yet to read either so interested on you opinion.
@Ulysses Ryan-Flynn Only among the whyte people have birth rates decreased sharply.
This is so right. That's why I am trying to do my little bit to help people understand how to become better. Never take social media too seriously guys!
Data scientist here James. Spot on analysis. Tik toks recommendation algorithm is probably also working on what other users view as well. So they'll notice clusters of people with various similar interests ie they watch, comment, click on the same things and the algorithm will learn this and then show other people similar stuff that they haven't see. That's why we get these bubbles forming. We see it in fitness, politics ..all kinds of domains. It's useful but also dangerous.
This applies to so much more than fitness - whatever your interest the same phenomenon is evident. Never compare yourself to others- it will make you either bitter or vain... neither is good.
It's good to have a comparison but it's worth doing only as much as you can do yourself anyway, this is how knowledge transfer works it doesn't mean you have to be on the same level
I spent too many years in the gym unhappy chasing perfection before realizing I was happier measuring my own performance, and that was in the days of paper muscle mags. I feel sorry for the kids growing up today.
Well done you must be in that top tier cuz this vid came up on my feed this is the first vid I have ever watched of urs, I subscribed 💪🏻
Oh, James. Your brain is priceless. Straight to the core approach, common sense, and great delivery are making you one of a kind. Love your reality-checks!
Indeed. "The only one you are competing with, is yourself."
It's the only way in any goal that you want to achieve. Visualize the picture. Do it. Get there.
This is important.
Affects relationships too.
The sad story of me and my ex.
She was jealous so I'd stay outside of social situations, watching crap on socials.
And bam. Availability bias.
"Why am I here with her dealing with her issues when there are other people out there I would correspond more with?"
Comparison is the mind killer.
I still really love the lass.
Never watched you before… full respect for the video. Nailed it.
😂 and people wonder why the only gym related content I follow is James here and Simon Miller. I know I'll never be built like Adonis and these guys help me feel normal for knowing it's not going to happen.
Agreed! I have absolutely no idea how people take motivation from bodybuilders. They’re up to their eyeballs in gear, have the best genetics you could possibly ask for & have all the time in the world to train in eat.
Normal people like us are never going to look like that….HOW is it motivating???
@@Jay-ob4tiI agree, most of my gym friends compare themselves to professional bodybuilders and it puts a hugely unrealistic standard on themselves to a point where it’s affecting their daily lives. I try to stay off fitness social media for that reason and try to focus on myself and my training.
That Marker sniff tho 😂 fair play mate always make me laugh
Comparing myself to myself sucks, because it takes a while to see some results. And also not being a person whos taking photos of myself every day doesnt help.
You don’t need to take photos of yourself every day, that’d be a a waste of time imo as you’re not going to see daily progress.
Take photos once a week on the same day & same time and that’s plenty. It takes time, of course it does, if it was quick & easy would we not all be walking round with single digit body fat and visible abs?
Even if you don’t see progress, enjoy dour training routine as a lifestyle. At least you care about something. I myself cannot advance in lifting right now, I don’t seem to eat enough calories overall. But a philosopher claimed that Sisyphus, a mythical person punished to roll a boulder up a mountain for eternity, loves starting all over again when the boulder rolls down and is happy because he has influence on his small world even if no progress is made.
Great delivery, and naturally this applies to any rabbit-hole on the interwebs. Uh-oh - now that I've liked and commented, will I be flooded with cynical Brits ranting against social media? I guess there's worse things to pop up in the feed :) Many thanks !
I'm on social media quite a lot but I also know how to keep myself grounded, Many people see these great physiques online and assume that they look like shit because they don't look like these influencers, when in reality if you work out regularly all you need to do it go outside and look around you, you will realise that even though you don't look like the guys online you still look better than the majority of people in the real world
Very good. And to me the worst videos are those that you know are absolutely absolutely full of bullshit and they know they are, but they put the video up just to get a rise out of people.
A much needed message to be heard - Thanks James. Only gets lonelier and lonelier these days, but I guess it makes it that much more worthwhile when you finally find your tribe members
Great thing for me is I don't have to check out of Social Media because I never checked in. Live your own life not through someone else.
That is so insanely true!! Going out (the street, the gym, etc..) then you realize than people are actually very more normal than what internet made you think.
In a way it's good (sometimes) to aim to compete with the "bests", but often you need a reality check otherwise you just get demoralized and think you're dog sh!t when usually, you're already far above the average just by trying your best.
I know exactly why I have no social media and only watch educational or entertaining content on youtube.
The truth bomb king 🏋️😃❤️
Daniel Kahneman would be proud of that explanation and application of availability bias. Great stuff!
Thanks James, I sometimes need to remember what is reality and what is “enhanced”. No issues with people taking gear but as I don’t I’m never gonna achieve the same look. Great stuff
This is completely brilliant.
My phone background is me in 2019 before a medical problem led to massive weight gain. I'm just trying to go back to myself. I feel bad for people who put models or IG strangers as their inspo.
Dude......That was a fantastic video! That was truth that people desperately need to hear, especially our youth whose minds have been shaped by the warped perceptions of reality created by the internet. Good for you, brother!
Nearly 98% of that top section is usually on steroids, too. It's driving the problem to new heights. I've met 16 Yr old starting trt. It's wild out here.
THANK YOU. I’m not in the fitness community but this is a problem I’ve been noticing in general. So sad to see it extend this much and affect so many people, especially in the workout scene. Respect to you for covering this. 🙏
Amen!
This is the absolute truth.
i think this is the message for life in general across all subjects; you are your own greatest gift. you are the only thing that’ll help you navigate this shit storm that is life all should be doing is seeking to uplift yourself and supporting others in their pursuit to do so also in whatever form they wish to do so. if more people did this for themselves there wouldn’t be so much hate and mass media control pedalling this insane culture war shit you see all day we could be moving towards an actual progressive society where we have legitimate tolerance and acceptance for others. because we’re all on the same journey of self improvement and betterment
Gold words mate!
Good* but gold fits too.
I’m so glad for having autism, it made me figure out who really cares for me and more important, who I am and where I feel comfortable. People degrade each other not for bad actions, but for being different than their group. I read a book about a boy living in a Burundi neighborhood right when a civil war breaks out and his Tutsi friends urge him to support them to hurt Hutu people, no matter whether what they did. The boy didn’t understand why he had to take part in a horrific war and felt alienated. If people urge you to adapt their ideals, they don’t want you to think for yourself and are your actual enemies, until they realize that they do no good to you and themselves with that mentality. I really hope that everyone will put the wellbeing of anyone’s soul above any culture or ideology.
This was amazing. Well said. Im not very comparative but I do find social media still manages to impact my perception unfourtunately. And while I agree genetics play a huge factor in physique, it would be defeatist to hold this view when diet and physical excercise are just as important and effective in shaping a good physique imo. Important not to be unrealistic if you are naturally skinny and you want to be looking like the rock you will feel letdown but anyone can get in good shape.
Cannot agree more. I think there’s another part which isn’t spoken about too commonly, but perhaps social media isn’t for everyone?
Since I’ve come off it and only using TH-cam, I have found a better sense of balance. Not everything is perfect about it but it has definitely helped my time management and what I actually enjoy doing, like reading, baking and calling friends to see how they’re doing.
same here
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
True. I forgot that every kid my age didn’t look like they worked out so when I went to the beach saw that only a few looked good while everybody else was average. Kind of an eye opener
I've got mixed feelings about this.. in a way you are right, because indeed what we can see in social media is unrealistic perception of a great physique, as most of them are enhanced by PEDs. On the other hand however, personally it doesn't really make me feel depressed or worse about my results, which are nowhere near the peoples' I admire. It leads me to the conclusion that "pulling out" yourself from social media and neglecting it completely is not really a solution. What if you will see that elite physique in real life in your gym? Should you avoid looking at it because you might feel bad about your results? I think that's kinda silly. In everyday life, intentionally or not, you will be exposed to things or events that could influence your perception and potentially could make you sad. Based on your experience, knowledge, self-confidence and values you have to be immune to that, so it won't negatively impact you. Many great things in our lives can be achieved by aiming towards "unrealistic expectations". Don't neglect this opportunity to get inspired - even if you will fall a little bit short when trying to achieve that goal, you might still end up with a pretty successful outcome of that journey. Cheers!
I think your argument has merit. But for many, or even most, people, constant (as opposed to occasional) exposure to unreachable goals goes from a source of inspiration to a cause of discouragement, self-doubt, and even despair. It’s the comparison that can be so detrimental, and we’re bombarded by advertising to keep on comparing,endlessly, about everything.
Your examples seem valid. And without goals, and role models who’ve achieved those goals, it’s pretty hard to even know what’s possible, let alone to work hard for what we want. So I agree with that. But again for most people, those ultimate levels of “success” can never happen. We don’t have a language that really talks about that. And many people end up feeling deficient and despondent. There has to be a balance.
Very good points though, and they should be incorporated into the overall discussion.
This is very accurate. I came off instagram and Facebook a few yrs ago cos of comparing myself to female fitness influencers. Ironically, i was the best and fittest I'd ever looked, but i felt shit about myself!
Thankfully, no longer in that mindset.
I need to watch these videos twice:
Once for a good ab workout laughing at James’ humor
And once more to actually listen to the message
This video was nourishment for my mind, thank you for the reality check.
Commenting with hope the algorithm will increase your videos visibility 👍 love your work mate keep it up please
This is the exact problem with social media as a whole, and what I believe is a big part of mental health issues today
Woa, this dude is the Leprechaun, he teleports and spits out a sentence at every machine in the gym
“Every human being relies on and is bounded by his knowledge and experience to live. This is what we call “reality”. However, knowledge and experience are ambiguous, thus reality can become illusion. Is it not possible to think that, all human beings are living in their assumptions?”
-Itachi
Wow...didn't know I needed that, Thanks mate.
The first thing i noticed when i started going to the gym was that no one looked like the people i saw online
Subscribed mate!
Just leaving a comment and subscribing to let the algorithm know what we all need to have more of 😊
Never heard of you before but as a psychology student I can tell you this is very accurate and well put. Good video.
i'm slowly but surely removing all my social media, i'm spending so much wasted time scrolling on IG Fb etc.
You make great points mate! I never liked social media but I can see the world decay around me and I’m still greatly impacted.
TH-cam is social media. You’re on it right now.
I am 102 kg, at 180 cm, except for my belly thats a bit fat now since not really trying to get rid of it, i am a fking hulk of a man. Trained natural for this year 20 years. And i still belive i am the smallest piece of crap in the world, fuck social media and body dysmorfia. Great video.
Absolutely spot on mate. I'm so glad this popped up in my recommended, I've subbed, cheers.
Imma just send this to anyone that I find now in my friends list.
This was genuinely refreshing to watch, amazing work
Every gen Z should be made to watch this!!
A villain from Guy Ritchie's movie is giving you a lesson.
The important thing to remember is we make our own choices and are responsible individuals. I have social media but i use it 2-3x a day for like 10 minutes. If you're sat staring at your phone all day you're doing it wrong.
Information and content was on point! The jump cuts are a bit much though and the audio had some echos (fixable with a boom mic). Keep up the good work!
Love the message, brother.
One of the realest things said. Your doing gods work here 👍