Quit social media | Dr. Cal Newport | TEDxTysons
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2016
- 'Deep work' will make you better at what you do. You will achieve more in less time. And feel the sense of true fulfillment that comes from the mastery of a skill.
Cal Newport is an Assistant Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University. In addition to studying the theoretical foundations of our digital age, Newport also writes about the impact of these technologies on the world of work. His most recent book, Deep Work, argues that focus is the new I.Q. in the modern workplace and that the ability to concentrate without distraction is becoming increasingly valuable. He previously wrote So Good They Can’t Ignore You, a book which debunks the long-held belief that “follow your passion” is good advice, and three popular books of unconventional advice for students.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
Quitting social media is easy. I already did it 7 times.
but you went back 6 times
@@joshuaderooij2007 it’s a joke lol
lol . I used to quit it everyday.
😂
Hahaahaha
16 year old me: Looks up to people who are 'famous' on social media,
21 year old me: Looks up to people who don't use social media.
absolutely brother
Same, but different age and minus the famous people thing.
this happens to me
Same
Same here
I wish the whole world would get off social media. Its so destructive. I have a friend who has accomplished so many amazing things and travelled the world and she doesn't have social media... her life is ACTUALLY amazing. I feel like because she is never distracted... she actually has to entertain herself in other ways and she is sooooo accomplished and happy and content and her self esteem is so high and I honestly believe its due to this one fact.
@Tinselfect would you say the same to the guy talking in the video cause its posted on social media really making people use it more to see the video
Thank you for sharing your observation, that is sooo true ❤️
"traveled the world" aka went to Europe
@@weddiedon no es lo mismo. Este es un vídeo productivo de solo 13 minutos. Él critica cuando las redes sociales interfieren en nuestras metas diarias y nos distraen más de la cuenta.
@Toask This is hilarious to see people actually have this way of thinking 😂 the “privilege class” wasn’t always rich at-least for majority, someone was poor in their family until that person or the next in line decided this isn’t what they were willing to settle for. And hey it’s your fault if you choose to stay broke especially if you live in America it’s a capitalist society 🤷🏾♂️, also they have books on wealth and how to invest or even learn about planes if you wanted too but then again not many people read and if they do it’s not a quality book.
I am 4 weeks off social media.
The peace. The calm. No impulse purchases. I am in my own world.. And I love it!
how's it going so far?
How is it going?
the impulse purchases are very real, i noticed i only want to buy the latest gadgest when i see them all over the internet
Liar. TH-cam is also social media.
How you deal with TH-cam and commenting to. Get validation here 😭
Quiting TH-cam is the hardest
yep.
Yao Don YES
You Tube isn't really social media. ..
+Dartist64 Rocks i think it is. Any interface the enables social networks is social media. If youtube is not, you wont be able to comment and reply here.
The best thing to do is to unsubscribe from bs useless channels that don't do anything for you. Then, turn you notifications off. And... The hardest part for me is (because I naturally start scrolling as soon as the a video starts) not reading the comments. Honestly I've really struggled with TH-cam comments. I take a lot of things to heart and that is the way I am. I don't watch the news because I don't believe it. So, if you can, stay away from that too. I'm slowly starting to feel better. I wish you all the best in this virtual insanity.
When deleting my social media 2.5 years ago, I realised two things:
1) nobody really gave a sh*t about me
2) I am much happier
@@vineeth_8 is that an insult lol
TH-cam is a social media...
@@goodvibes1525 I don’t really think so. I like to think TH-cam combines the best parts of something such as Instagram, and like a streaming service, such as Netflix or Disney plus.
@Banyas Beans official Dude... it just is... it might be different but it's still a social media. The fact that we are talking right now proves that.
@@goodvibes1525 well I’m not saying it’s NOT social media. On paper it’s social media, but in reality it’s designed as more of a streaming service.
u know i quit social media a while ago and this is what ive been doing it's kinda crazy:
-when i wake up i dont go on my phone i just get out of bed and start my day
-i read 1 book a week
-i signed up for an online course
-i discovered new cool spots in the neighborhood cuz im bored so i take long walks
-im out more
-i talk to my neighbors more
-my eyes feel different like better
-i got back to my old hobbies and interests
-i began to reconnect with myself like my needs and my goals in life
-seriously reevaluated my life and committed to change for the better
- my attention span has increased significantly
- i dont have that drained feeling from overstimulation
it is wild i realized social media actually makes u antisocial and damages your relationships
Your eyes feel better how? Like physically?
@@clynny8926 excessive use of screens can make your eyes overly dry and fatigued on the daily. lesser screen time means less discomfort on the eyes, and overall healthier body!
how you handle it with TH-cam??
@@maxim2986i quit facebook and Instagram 7 years ago...no more anxiety....and more happy i am now.... i dont have a problem with youtube....just be less watching those shorts.... i often watching shorts.... all i do is i just search the video which i like to watch
@@maxim2986 you tube is different bro it is not like instagram or face book seeing your so called friends perfect life and stalking and all
As a 19 year old who quit social media immediately after graduation I had a ton of anxiety about deleting the apps. I am here to say that it is genuinely the greatest decision I have ever made for myself.
Good for you!
you know what ? I believe almost every person on the internet who say they've quit social media are liars. it's always people with no Profile Pic, a fake name... you all use fake accounts and have a passive usage of your social medias but you are still very much using it.. my two drugs of choice are Twitter and... TH-cam. I have a very hard time leaving Twitter but I don't think I'll ever let go of TH-cam. So I don't really believe you.
Hey, which apps have you deleted?
I am a sophomore at college, and I struggle to delete social media bc, i have a fear of missing out smth important in college or in my friends life. Did you face this problem?
@@asselaskarova1157No just do it. They are not going anywhere and your not missing out on anything. Trust me your life is gonna change 💯
"I deleted all my social media accounts, and I regreted it."
- Said no one ever.
Preach!!
i have because i carelessly deleted my account with good networking just because i randomly decided it's bad for me anyways
Yes because where would they say it, they have no social media
tại sao lại hối hận?
🤣🤣🤣🤣
by Quitting social media ( IG, Tictok, etc) you gonna experience
1. less anxiety
2. less sense of comparison
3. more peace of mind
4. more productive days
5. more realness
6. more sense of presence
and the list goes on!
@Тania R God bless you too 🙏
I completely agree
less narsisistic
@@foaadvideo1233 honestly, if you would just stop using phones and devices for entertainment, it’s just common sense that you could be more productive, effective etc. Imagine what you could do if you didn’t use ur phone. You could learn an amazing skill, sport or instrument or something.
Second point is crucial
it is quite scary for me to think about this Ted talk because when I first heard him about 4 years ago I thought he wasn't making any sense and I love social media, all my friends and my life are on there. And now I am coming back totally convinced that social media has made me miserable, addicted and always comparing myself to others over the years.
Indeed
Thanks for your testimonial.
Good thing that you recognize that. I was on the same situation when I decided to quit Instagram. It’s been more than 6 months now and honestly I don’t miss it AT ALL! I feel like I’m finally living my life for myself and have no intention on coming back. It’s also very funny to became this “mysterious person” and have people wondering what your doing with your life
100% I may be addicted and I'm not focused. Good words
you're utterly accurate
this guy was ahead of his time! social media has become 100000x more addictive than it was back in 2016.
especially after covid lockdown
💯 agree!
I quit social media 3 years ago, I'm 33. Strangely, I don't miss anybody ( that was my main worry) and I got rid of depression.
i feel like I need to quit I don’t know how to start
@@christine4613 Start with FB you won't miss it, trust me
Kitso Ntuli i don’t have FB but I logged out of Instagram & Snapchat (even though I barely use snap). I just feel like I’ll be tempted to download it again and go back on them
I have Facebook but I barely use it anymore due to the sheer mount of stupidity that happens on there
Christine you just delete it
If you're not paying for a product, you're the product
savage
Wow! Simple, yet deep and so very true!
I like the comment by Peta Ramia who has channel talks of minimalism.. She said "Nature has all the patience in the world... When became the time when we humans became disconnected from nature."
-the social dilema
actually it is not completely true, you`re not the product, you`re a subject that supplies data and profit to the companies without receiving any payment
I’ve been off social media and I’ve lost weight, read more books, and have hung out with friends. I’ve also seen a mental gap btwn those who are on it (they tend to believe conspiracy theories and quick to be angered..). Thank goodness I see this with my own eyes.
Congrats on improving your life!
TH-cam is social media, though. 🤦
@@RustyNickels true , TH-cam became worse after it introduced “shorts” , just like every other app which copied Tik tok . But I only use TH-cam to watch knowledge content and videos
Quitted social media in year 2017.
Sixth year going on without social media.
No regrets as life is Better now.
I feel like social media weakens friendships. Too much jealousy, narcissism, misunderstandings. Less time to give friends a phone call.
That'd be nice if people answered their damn phones anymore. nobody talks anymore, its all texting.
@American Dreams please explain more bud?
neworleans 1990 I’m going through this bad. They won’t even see u face to face we live in the same city but we talk on social media platforms three times a day lol.
MariaMaple so true
Aroosa Javaid Khan anen
I quit drinking, smoking pot, and social media at the beginning of 2015. I quit drinking because I didn’t want to get a third DUI and become a felon. I quit smoking pot because I couldn’t afford it any longer. I quit social media because I didn’t have anything going on in my life worth sharing. It took me 5 months to find a job(really it was like the job found me) and just two weeks after starting my first job, I was offered another part time job. The part time job turned into a full time job which came with a promotion. A year later I received another promotion. Now I’m the general manager of the business. If I had continued drinking, I’d be in jail or dead. If I had kept smoking pot, I wouldn’t be working anywhere or breaking my back for under the table pay. If I had continued using social media, I would have been subtly ridiculed for the type of work I was doing and in turn ashamed of my life compared to the lives of my peers.
I’m proud of myself and I don’t need anyone from the other side of an app to validate my accomplishments.
👍 nice
Oh, man... This is GREAT! Congrats
Congrats sir. Very happy to hear this. Have a beautiful life ❣️☺️
Awesome! 💜💜
Badass story, you hiring
I’m quitting social media because it’s so draining. Who cares what I am doing ? Who cares what I am eating ? Who cares what I am wearing? I want to live my life in peace and quiet.
This January, my 16 year old daughter came to live with me full-time. I have a no-social media policy with my other kids, so told her she wasn't allowed on social media. She needed to detox from it for mental health reasons (she was on social media 12+ hours a day, 10+ hours on just one app). She managed to sneak back onto social media sporadically and I grounded her once I found out. She's been truly social media free for a good while now, I took her iphone and gave her a flip phone.
She's now more confident, anxiety is getting under control. A lot less crying spells, finally got into reading for leisure. Has a great sleep routine. She may not realize it yet, but she's really beginning to blossom into the person I knew she would.
So social media-
1. wastes your time
2. fragments your attention- reduces your capacity to focus
3. makes you feel lonely/ isolated
4. makes you insecure and depressed
5. strains your eyes - you forget to blink often
6. makes you sit for a long time
7. makes you forget other productive activities- reading a book, workout
man, true. I wasn't blinking until you said that.
you guys blink??
keeps you occupied and involved in trivial issues, reduces your time to learn, reduces your opportunity to increase your knowledge which in turn decreases your power.
Soooo true... Waste of time
100%
Social Media is ruining our lives ...anxiety, loneliness, comparisons, time consuming, perfectionism...and the list goes on. We spend a lot of time admiring people’s lives instead of investing in our own lives.
Alice فننة 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
👍👍👍👍
"We spend a lot of time admiring people's lives instead of investing in our own lives." That is such a good point and such a good way of putting it! ;)
Alice فننة Good Post
Alice فننة so true
It's been 2 years now since i left/quit social media and afterwards
I learned that real life is more important than virtual life. I have gotten rid of depression, jealousy, found peace of mind, am chasing passions and emphasizing a more focused life. I am really happy now and am learning to enjoy every moment of life.
The more you spend time with yourself the more you get to know about yourself.
This video is timeless, 10x more relevant now than it was 7 years ago. As a father of a two primary school going daughters, it terrifies me.
In a few decades from now, I'm convinced that we'll look back at the early decades of social media and wonder how we let these companies do pretty much what they wanted with our kids, their brains, self esteem and mental health.
Children are playing video games on the computer instead of playing in the field, socializing with strangers instead of spending time with their family, neighbors, friends.
This social media is completely destroying the future generation.
It is very important for us to be aware now.
I quit facebook in 2013
I quit Instagram in 2014
I spent 14 days as a Shepherd in the Karakoram Mountains.
I spend most time reading and listening books. I have my own business.
Life is good without Social media.
Muhammad Saeed allahuma barak brother, May I ask you What of business you started?
@@user-wr5ju6bn5j Salam brother I run a outdoor gear business in Pakistan.
amazing 💞💘💞
Good brother
Lots of love... From India
Glad it worked out for you i'm trying to do the same.
Social media increases two things
1) fear of losing
2) strengthening of ego
Absolutely. It's all about ego. One of the worse things in society.
Vinay Kumar Dubey i agree
Or 3) Fear of losing ego.
Poetic justice. Ego created society and ego destroys it.
TRUE
Social media is a complete waste of time. These platforms routinely lead to anxiety, isolation and unhappiness across all ages. Cheers to TED talks!!
I quit social media 5.5 years ago. In my experience, it is hard af in the beginning but after two months i felt confident in my life and noticed that my commonsense actually rose and i am the only one who is taking life seriously and the people around me focusing on their ego's, politicians mainly, hatred etc. After these many years i still feel it. Proud of myself that i took that life transformating decision
❤️
but it does feel lonely at times , no ? how do you deal with it ?
@@kundanahmed1458I think it’s to actively pursue new relationships and maintaining old ones, mindfully engaging in physical interaction to establish and grow a relationship instead of letting social media do the work: like “I’ll wait for them to see my social media posts so they can know who I am then figure out if I’m hey want to get close, and rather just be more present physically to suggest and plan interaction that buds friendship/ a relationship when you immediately feel these are people you can vibe with, or hold dear and want to stay in connection with
I did quit. Got my life back. I'm 100% happier and now am achieving big things. Quit social media.
I'm happy for u. Can u put me through the process
But how did you manage to do it... Can you help please
You tube is social media?
Big things mean???
@@nycsearch9945 It's not even close to how Facebook or Instagram works.
I deleted all my social networks accounts. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat aye even fuckin Tinder. And I feel fucking amazing, I don't feel I need to prove anything anymore.
AdamAKTV to anybody
Yes! I felt same 2 years ago when I quit all my social media accounts 😉
Edith liberating isnt it. Why is there now inherent need for everyone to have an IG or facebook its ridiculous. I use if Ive been refered to it but the mindless idea of surfing it to keep up with everyone elses life is nonsense to me Id rather focus on me and work on me 👍
Protagonist i want to delete but it would be impolite for my family they are heavy users and if i delete mine they will keep asking why and want me to join the club again T_T. Fml. Anyhow i realize there are more and more people posting hate comments abt fb and insta lately on youtube. Happy to see you guys. I really do.
AdamAKTV Tinder is the worst!!
I can honestly say, this is the happiest I’ve been in awhile.
Commenting in April 2024:
(As I will revisit this comment after 5 yrs and will be proud myself)
I've quit Instagram in May- 2022. Been 2yrs now. Have achieved more success, happiness professionally and spiritually.
🎉
"treat your attention with respect" i like that
Love that!
That's a strong statement.
Definitely! It needs to be etched in stone.
check ur likes
I quit Twitter 6 months ago. I can't even describe the amount of productivity I have gained as a result. Sometimes I look back and think: what the hell was I doing? Just unproductively refreshing a timeline and hoping to catch something interesting. That kind of passive purposeless entertainment slowly cripples your mental faculties.
well said Imo
Imo Emah Twitter is very time consuming and can be such a distraction...
My take, social media can be used smartly by allocating a spcific time of the day to 'publish' your content.
INDEED! I've always thought that Twitter and now Snapchat are just such waste of time!
Ariel Grushka... I only use Twitter for product discounts.
Imo Emah
I agree 😊
It is amazing how this talk is even more relevant six years later. I have had college students tell me that their lives were so much more fulfilling after getting off social media. I know that when I have taken days off from it, I have felt so much better. Looking forward to reading Deep Work.
Two years ago, I didn't have a phone or any social media, I was more productive in school in doing my daily duties and more focused and smart, but after I used social media I plunged into this whirlpool of distraction and comparisons, feeling like a bottomless well, so a month ago I decided to leave Instagram and any means distract my focus and now I feel great peace and calmness that fills my life
I quite social media because I was constantly comparing my life with the fake lives people portray on social media. My depression is gone and my life is private. I have a few close friends that I stay in touch with. I don't need hundreds of fake friends on fakeface.
Well done! The world needs more people who think like you. I'm tired of finding such people, they're not everywhere!
heey i saw ur comment on the sitting down ted talk. .....um yea thats about it
si pero hasta los cercanos muestran fotos tambien para compararte socialmente porque no estas ahi con ellos saliendo en las fotos de ese momento que supuestamente estan viviendo o han vivido y es eso es como que siempre te pierdes algo mucho mejor de lo que estas haciendo
The first part is so relatable! My main reason for quitting social media. I can’t stop comparing my life to others and it makes me sad
Aww thats good
I’m 18 , I had an Instagram meme account with 10.7k followers and growing everyday, had a Twitter meme account with 3500+ and growing everyday , and I just left all that behind and uninstalled everything and ready to get back closer with God and focus more on my studies and future , I’m sick and tired of sitting in front of my pc and phone just sharing memes and playing video games , I want to become a Better person
Yaaah for you! You made a very wise move.
All the best~~~
Amen
wooow i’m taking this as a sign cuz i just recently started a Instagram meme account & already felt something was off
Can you give that account to me sir?
Did man just say tired and sick?
P s. Its sick and tired 😅 no hate btw
its good to see people write how good they felt when they quitted social media by writing this thing on youtube.
I think you don't understand it like I admit you tube is also a sm but it is not like fb or instagram showing your so called friends perfect life ,stalking and all
“carefully curated perfect portrayals” is such a beautifully raw description of social media. love it
TH-cam is open university, not social media.
tell that to the secret youtube police.
Censored tube.
Then why do they censor things??
There's a chrome extension called distraction free tube which disables recommendation and feed from youtube , I highly recommend it.
Open? That is laughable.
This world will be better as social media dies.
That is my dream.
Not really, social media can be used for good e.g. Bringing injustices to light that don't get media coverage
Nah. Facebook just recently hit 2,000,000,000 monthly users, which is the highest it's ever been and it's only growing. And if you don't see the use in social media, you just don't know how to use it right.
Did you miss the part where he proves it is detrimental to mental function to push that "reward" button all day long?? 2 billion or not.
You realize you are on social media right now right?
Its been a month since i quit instagram and now watching this video, The fact is that social media apps have a strong ability to change our emotions in a short time which actually makes us to have a lot of mixed emotions in a day ,After quitting Insta it has actually made me more productive than i used to be , and Now i am happy and I got to know more about myself rather knowing folks and also my anxiety level has come to normal. I wish that everyone finds peace .......
How were those first 1-2 weeks without it?
I've quit using social media 5 years ago.. im not on twitter, instagram and i have been using messenger WITHOUT facebook.. what a breathe of fresh air! I became a better person, I became more successful. I am now focused on more important things.
but you use youtube, so apparently a lack of social media didn't make you a better person
social media just gives me anxiety. I dont know why, it just does. i always get worried that when i post something, people wont like it. i decided to stay of of facebook and stuff like that. I feel so much more relaxed, and carefree. No social media was the best decision i've ever made
Chloe Cozzetti same here bro
Yeah social media makes me feel the same way. I get stressed about keeping a perfect online reputation which is obviously impossible. Also, seeing all the other people reacting to other's post makes me subconsciously jealous.
Chloe Cozzetti
Same for me, it makes me feel more stressed. I have a Facebook account, but I barely use it. But people react like I'm some kind of freak when I say I don't like social media.
That won't resolve your source of problem.
Chloe Cozzetti and that's the whole point of these segments because ppl has these feelings about it and that you're okay without social media... you lived before right? One thing I done was unfollow ppl I don't like or doesn't inspire me in some way
I'm 15 and I quit social media because I kept comparing myself to others and lowered my self esteem. It made me feel so bad about myself but I'm so much happier now.
Talia Hart your are 15, but the point you made is quite mature. good luck
Good for you. I think that is a wise decision, made for the right reasons.
Talia Hart good for you! keep doing what you're doing! you don't need social media.
Thank you! When I was on social media I really never felt truly happy, but now I can concentrate on what's important. I'm trying to convince my friends to stop but they won't unfortunately. I feel like I'm the only person in my year who doesn't do social media! People ask me what my social media accounts are and I say that I'm not on it. They have a surprised look on their faces. But honestly it is so worth it and it took some time to get used to, but now I'm doing better all around.
Nicolas Shane thank you. I have been able to figure out my passions and what I want to do when I'm older , all because I quit social media. Acting is what I want to do, and I have learnt social media would stop me from getting there . I'm so much more determined now. Much love xxx
I am Gen X and I applaud the younger generations that can quit social media. We did not have these platforms to communicate when I was younger, and we were ok. In fact, we fought less, loved more. If more of us went back to the old school ways of communicating and loving one another, we can turn our lives around collectively, and stop this inevitable life train headed for disaster.
I eliminated all my social media 2 days ago! cravings are hard. but men feels
so much fun and enthusiasm I feel the 90s are back. I feel Liberated and free.
When I deleted all my socials I got texts and calls from every one of my close friends asking WHY? It felt weird that I had to almost defend my decision to so many people. It just proves how addicted people are to it and how it has changed how we treat each other. Not a fan of how humanity has evolved.
same bro
Explaining the decision to everyone becomes a pain. No one gets it, or is ready to accept it.
"I can explain it. But it will take about 14 minutes? - you know what? I can 'share' a link that succinctly explains my decision. Here you go: th-cam.com/video/3E7hkPZ-HTk/w-d-xo.html"
Chik Lit this is interesting. I want to get off FB and social media. BUT people will ask if everything is ok etc and that thought almost sounds so exhausting !!!
Zoe Brown To be honest it's only takes one explanation and then people will leave you alone. I've been off for a full year now and it was the best decision for me. I feel like I live my life better not worrying about having to post shit to feel validated by random people I went to high school with.
When My mom took away my phone.. And I was grounded for a one week.. Days went by I realized I have achieved so many things when I don't have a phone.. My mom got shocked when I refused to take my phone back and told her to keep it for a while😂😂👌
Yay I love reading this, that’s the spirit!
You realized it was a thief!
And now your mum is using your TH-cam account.
@@utkarshmishra5399 lol
i wish iwas like this
In my opinion, TH-cam is the best platform yet. And others are just waste of time, no benefit.
The biggest problem is not just quitting social media. The biggest problem is to undo the harm that it has already done to our minds and behaviours.
I've been off of social media for about 4 months now. I barely use my phone - only use to call and watch TH-cam videos on spirituality. I walk around now appreciating the beauty in everyday life. It makes me sad to see everyone always staring at their phones. It's even sadder to know that I used to be one of them.
Super Peter very true
I really agree that these social media can be a real prision. One of many in life that people become slaves of. But I am answering your post because I have a bigger message not only for you but for everybody, but since you mentioned videos on spirituality I felt that I had to write this message. I see you have been searching for God. Well, I met Jesus last year, personally.
When I gave my life to Jesus I could breath life in my lungs for the very first time. Indescribable Peace and love in my heart, I was filled with His light, mercy, and joy and received the Holy spirit. I was healed of a phobia and my testimony adds to countless that were saved and freed from a life where suffering became normal. It is not. God’s love is perfect and real and He wants us to have a relationship with Him, full of His supernatural blessings and because of that He reached down to us to pay the debt of sin, which is basically us having turned our backs to Him. So that we may live with Him forever. No matter how many religions may deceive people’s minds with false hopes. Jesus lives and continues today healing people, giving freedom from all kinds of boundage and saving souls. One day someone told me the good news and I though this was too good to be true, until I met Jesus. Here I am today eternally grateful for that. All the best to you!
Goncalo Mateus. what happens when he dosent answer back? i feel like i dont ever hear from him. nothing. i pray and read the word, still nothing.
Hej Marina! Before I answer I have to ask you this question. Are you born again? Btw I still have a fb account : ) If you have one feel free to add me goncalo abalada. I am happy to help you with this question and any other.
Awakened Soul what videos would you recommend for spirituality?
I deleted my social media when I was 22. Got closer to God, Started educating myself on different topics, just in general upgraded myself. Highly recommend it.
Are you a relative of Gordon Ramsey?
@@itanmayi 100% absolutely
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Intention plays a factor as well. Social media can be a useful tool or an entertaining toy. TH-cam can have a wealth of lectures and tutorials or endless prank and cat videos. Influencers can manipulate the message and medium they post to for profit rather than community. What goes on between your ears will decide. Focus and uninterrupted progress is better than immediate and debilitating distractions.
Well said.
I hope you forever stay in the world of no social media use to continually inform us of the way back. I was born in 1997 and fortunately spent years of my childhood phoneless and in field to play. I also felt the surge of changes that came with the use of social media and I must say that having known what it felt like when it's not ubiquitous was quite a factor for me to slowly disengage in its use now. I got to a point when my mind was tired of the overload of information but my hands automatically looks and scrolls up to infinity. If people don't realize this invisible trade that's going on, they might actually lose sooner the greatest gift that we have; to focus and appreciate time as it is. May God bless you Professor.
i just deadtivated my facebook,twitter,instagram. i'm changing my life this 2020
Same here
I have a question did you also quit snapchat or do you have it ?
Good for you!! I have never had a social media account. Don't get it. I have better things to do with my life, like live it.
I will do it right now too!
How u doing?
I quit social media on my birthday, what a gift it was from me to my soul..
Well done and thank you for the idea. I think I'm going to do this too.
Peshraw Rozh wow that's great, I should do the same
Love it 👌🏼 mine’s coming up and I think that is a great gift
Mine was a Christmas present from me to me...😀
Pershraw Rozh--what happened on your birthday to trigger this? Something must have gone down...
I still use social media, but not to look at all the content but to talk to people I met on the internet. Deleted all instagram post and havent posted since. It feels so much better not having to look at ex school colleagues living a rich or happy life that you also want but cant. I feel so good doing what I like and keeping it to myself. I do photography, but I keep it to myself. Social media is a hellhole. Toxic people. Bullying, etc.
I quitted social media 5 years ago and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
He's absolutely right.
Also, when you quit social media, you find out who your real friends are, which is hardly any of them. You are not friends to most of the people on these social networks. You are just another number and another way to relieve boredom.
Another thing: Facebook exists to harvest personal data for advertising purposes. Facebook makes their money from paid adverts. The social network thing is just a means to that end. That's why it's free to the everyday users. The users of Facebook are not the customers, they are the product being sold.
Of course, the same is true about Google.
Exactly. I've never been on Facebook or any of these sites. My real friends, whom I can count on one hand, have my phone number and call me if they need to get in contact with me.
SunEagle Cherokee, thank you for your comment. It just goes to show how everyone is different and has different experiences. In every situation in life, there are always exceptions. Your situation was a very extreme one, but it's great that you found a way through it.
You say that people don't have time to socialise face to face. Maybe that's because most people are walking around with their eyes glued to their phones? And if you sit in any waiting room (e.g. barbers, doctors, dentist), almost everyone is looking at their phones. Without the smartphones and social media, these would be opportunities to engage with people in person.
I would like to ask you this question: if social media didn't exist when your wife died, what would do you think you would have done to try to get through it? And please understand, that's not a rhetorical question intended to try and make myself sound clever. I'm genuinely interested to know what your honest answer is. And please try to resist a knee-jerk response which merely backs up the position you've already established. Please give it some deep thought. I'm interested to know.
I sill say if not one could take the time to physically come see you then I'm still suspicious. It sounds like a very lonely life, like the one I'm living. I was cut off SSI through no fault of my own. When my income ended it seemed so did face to face visits from past friends. SM dose not replace needing to hire a driver but unable to pay, wanting to set face to face and talk with someone, instead of texting to a white screen. To me it just isn't the same as a friend really being there. Yea I'm typing to some one now, but they feel like machines. and in a changing world I find it difficult for a straight male to make friends. We live in a world that seems to forget not all men seeking friends want to have sex with them But I think males usually make that one or two very good reliable straight friend be it at school and perhaps work and they don't really make another one. I once had a straight friend I could call at 3:00 a.m when he wasn't working and ask if he would buy me a soda and drive it to my home. "I can not drive but I had my SSI at the time" and most of the time he wouldn't accept gas money or the money for the soda (It was Pepsi with Lemon which I don't think they make it anymore.) and I just don't know rarely a human being that dose that. But alas when I couldn't pay him at all to go to distant cities for my appointments and such then we sort of fell out of favor after a solid 30 year friend ship.
even as true as those all are, quitting social media made me a more attuned person to reality, no technological impulse creating a false reality for me, every second a notification comes on your phone, you grow hardwired to destruct your nerves
quit all my social media and im happier with my life because im living it, not recording, sharing, posting about it and checking those of others! No unhealthy comparisons, no simulated social relationships, no wasting time checking information i just don't need to know, just real present moments and the wholeness of a full experience not posted online for the people i went to school with years ago to look at. DO IT!
How do you keep up with current events, news and such?
i think that we could keep ourselves updated by spending more time on news websites instead social media...if i'd check the news instead of look at facebook everytime, i'd probably be more updated then ever ;)
News websites, or talking to people in real life who do.
I didn't quit social media, but I did quit checking the news. SO MUCH HAPPIER for it. If something important happens, someone will talk about it in my social or work circle.
Good for you. That is what life is about, just living it. There is so much more important things to do with your time. Quitting social media is so liberating.
Hi! :), Can you explain how did you quit it?
Thank you so very much for this!!!!
When I deleted social media, I realized what an addiction it was. We tune ourselves into a fake world that doesn’t exist. I live free of all social media now and I feel like my life is meaningful because I actually communicate with real people.
It is actually crazy how Cal Newport was taking about the dangers of social media over 7 years ago.
Of course it was a problem back then but since 2016 it seems like social media has got into steroids.
2016 was actually the year that the chronological order Instagram feed was substituted by a much worse algorithm-based feed.
We’ve gotten Stories, which is a format that gets you hooked to return every single day since the content will disappear in 24 hours and most recently we’ve got short-form videos (TikTok, Reels, Shorts) that absolutely DESTROY our attention spans and our ability to concentrate.
I really think social media has gotten at least 10x more harmful and more addictive than it was in 2016.
I was just thinking the same thing watch this in 2023... its so much worse.
The human mind was never designed to keep in touch with, care for, or communicate with hundreds (or even thousands) of people on a personal level, especially on a daily basis. It brings anxiety, jealousy, loneliness, inadequacy, loss of concentration within your own life, etc. My happiest friends have zero social media, and are incredibly successful. Life is so peaceful and meaningful without social media. And tons more productive.
Joe Smith hahaha,fact
150
I forgot which research paper mention, it says 300 people is sufficient and more than enough.
anxiety / jealousy = thats absolutely correct
Very well
I haven't used social media in about 2 years, and I've felt liberated ever since. I find that it incurs people to follow the herd, rather than thinking critically and coming to one's own conclusions. Plus, I do not have 900 friends in real life, so why does my Facebook have that many. I'm a misanthrope anyway. I'm not missing out😃
RaQuan Williams you're on social Media
RaQuan Williams hate to break it to ya- but TH-cam is social media....
I'm pretty sure you guys are aware that when people are discussing social media platforms, they're usually referring to the ones like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. Yes, TH-cam is a "social media" platform, but I don't think I have to explain why TH-cam is in a different sect of social media.
RaQuan Williams I would like to hear how yt is'different'
Of course yt is quite different. You can't use it to stalk people, and people can't use it to stalk you. You can't post 10000000 photos of your dumb holidays (let me tell you frankly, nobody cares). The other social networks are based on the idea that everything that happens in our lives is worth sharing with everyone even if it's not. Can't say the same thing for yt, just think how posting a photo on insta is accessible to everyone and how editing a great video here takes time, practice, and great skills.
27 years old now. I quit all social medias when i was 25. The life improvement has been unmeasurable!! Truly unbelievable. I still see my friends and family struggling with issues that they dont even know they have. Its pretty weird. We are at a very weird time for our species, we are social animals, and our social abilities are actually all but completely gone.
youtube is a social media
Listen to this TEDxTalk annually. Always a humbling and enlightening experience. Haven't quit social media yet, but my consumption continues to decline. Thanks, Dr. Newport!
I quit social media because I wanted to be more private with my life - I felt like people that didn't even smile at you were more than happy to know your business - it's weird. It's nice that my life is nobody's business!
Yess!! You're totally right!
Yesss I just quit almost two weeks going strong.
Yes , it benefits no one.people did fine before without it.
@@melancholy_dude did you uninstall or deactivate the accounts?
@@DatPurpleCow uninstall
This is definitely one of the most important topics of the modern age.
Cool seeing your channel commented here. I'm a big fan!
@@GoldenYoshi88 yess!!!
I respect you and your work Chris, I lookup to you and aspire to becoming as good a human being as you. You have this gift of seeing through differences and finding the true souls of people that I haven't witnessed in anyone else. God bless you.
Omg I cant believe SBSK has seen this video
Chris you're here too
His last line was just worth saying..😂 people will give negative feedbacks and he don't have a social media..so he'll still be happy...
The last line had a deep meaning 😊
that's not a good thing
The context of this ted talk is so true. i used to feel the same when i used social media for so many years but when i quit it completely then my life has completely taken a U -turn as i am able to concentrate more better and become more focused then before in my life and thank you dr cal newport for writing those immaculate books which completely changed my thinking about the world.
I deactivated Facebook when I realized that I was using it for the sole purpose of measuring my self-worth against other people's lives, or more accurately, the impression I got from other people's social lives online. I never even posted status updates because it bothered me when people didn't like them. How embarrassing is that? Actually letting something as transient and fickle as an internet 'like' affect your mood and state of mind.
I literally just used to scroll through the news feed and think that the humorous posts were enough to outweigh how shit I felt when I saw people in huge groups socializing while I sat at home alone suffering from anxiety.
What sealed it for me was imagining that time suddenly rewound to ~20 years ago during the pre-facebook/social media era. Would I ever know what most of the 300+ 'friends' of mine on Facebook were getting up to in their lives back then? Would I care? Would I go out of my way to find out? The answer to all of these questions was a resounding no. I'd only care about the people I'm closest to, the people I actually interact with outside of social media.
Maybe I still would've suffered from anxiety back then. I'm not blaming Facebook on my mental illness. But what social media sites like Facebook do is they severely exacerbate any existing anxiety or self-esteem issues.
I totally agree with your post and hope you're doing better with anxiety issues.
Ronan Mahony😃
as i was reading your comment, i felt, in myself, the embarrasment, but in the same time the relief, of admitting i experienced the same thing (envy, lonelyness, secret want for attention)
The bitter and unexpected part was after 4 months after i quit fb, When i asked a friend some info, he said to me "don't You have facebook?" i was instantly thrilled that he noticed that i quit fb, and quickly and radiantly replied "No, since 4 months now! :D", only to get the second part of his answer "all the info is there!!" :))) great, he didn't actually care... :))
And out of 700 fb friends (700 people that i actually met and know), maybe 4 asked me why can't they see my fb page. but they didn't care why, although for me was an opportunity to talk about my feelings with even my closest friends...
Exact same. High five friend.
Ronan Mahony Thank You Thank You, you said exactly how I constantly feel daily.
whenever I went out, I started thinking about what pictures I can take to post on my newly joined Instagram account, just to match the pictures my friends posted. So I deleted the app. felt better.
Shruti Sura so true, me too
Shruti Sura yeah and always worried about ,how many likes I would get or why aren't my followers increasing... etc
same here shruti
And why all my friends dont like my post? Why dont they reply my message? Why dont they comment on my post? Now after deleting,at least we dont have to worry about
but you're still posting away on FB though
Whole video summary :
-People can be successful and happy without using social media
-It is possible to have friends, be informed, collaborate with others, and have entertainment options without using social media
-Social media can have negative effects on people's happiness and success
-The three most common objections to quitting social media are: social media is a fundamental technology of the 21st century, it is necessary for networking and professional advancement, and it is an important way to stay connected with friends and family
-It is possible to use alternative technologies for networking and professional advancement, and to connect with friends and family in other ways
-There are potential negative consequences to using social media, including addiction, comparison and envy, and the spread of misinformation
-Quitting social media can have positive effects, including increased productivity, improved mental health, and increased face-to-face socialization.
Thanks for the efforts to summarise
I stopped using media for a while now. I do feel less negativity, less stress, less comparing my life to others. Overall, I feel myself much better without social media. I can focus on my own life instead of comparing to others.
What am I missing without using social media? Memes, some hot stories, hot trends here and there. But oh well, those usesless things dont even contribute anything meaningful to my life afterall.
3 weeks ago I deactivated my Fb account and I truly feel like I'm out of a matrix.
BeastBrook #0 congrats to u dude because I do still desire or even crave for likes sometimes. Not so much craving anymore.
dude, there are levels to the matrix. matrix food, matrix nature, etc. we are in the matrix
@beast Brook #0. . . is till still deactivated ?
gurpreet brar yup. and I'm loving it. it feels great to not constantly compare my life to others and have everybody's negative feelings rub off on me all day in the form of passive agressive memes and ridiculous status update rants. 4 months in and I don't think I will ever go back.
but it only allows you to deactivated for 7 days the max....how do you do to delete the account forever??
social media is depressing
100% agree!
Depends how you use it. I have 5 social media accounts and have 0 of the thoughts & problems he mentioned in the video.
100%
Josh Columbus come back a year later
Really is
I quit social media, and reduced my phone usage, oh my god:
i am not wasting my time
i am connected to the real world
my eyes feel better
i am enjoying every single moment
I am going to quite social media from today .Only when needed I will open youtube ❤
TH-cam is an exception as you can try unsubscribing everyone ,and use it as and when you need some information ,that is a good way to reduce its usage
the only message social media has given me is that I happen to be less active than my friends which makes me feel lonely, jealous, worse and depressed
Atli Tobiasson i can relate
Feelya
thanks!
I agree
Don't count on it. If your friends were really so "active" would they have time to post all they do to facebook? Most of what you're seeing is a carefully cultivated lie. No reason to get depressed young man!
Social media almost becomes like a second job. People are so busy deciding what to post, overthinking things, trying to keep up with the next person. That can be overwhelming.
Edit: Checking back in on this video 11 months later. Thanks for the likes and relating to my comment! Wishing everyone a prosperous 2020! Merry Christmas!
2 weeks clean, going on 3 from Facebook. I am on Twitter but not as often maybe twice a day. I do use TH-cam a lot but mainly watching history docs or learning new things which is so much more productive and educational.
@@bcandidvisuals I'm going to do the same. I am also on Twitter and TH-cam. You're right. I am learning a lot from the videos I select. Facebook has become a place for posting boring things. I am not interested in peoples' pets, kids etc. A lot of people seem to think they're missing out by NOT being on Facebook. I check Twitter once or twice a day if that. I will be much more relaxed and in peace without all the fake drama etc.
Omg so true I use always stress about it now I have so much tiem to do things liek gum
Yeah. I agree. Worrying over your Social Media work and not much on the work in real life.
Second job ??
If you're that interested in social media, make it your ONLY job. There are a ton of people doing that.
And yes, it can get overwhelming if you start comparing yourself to others (learnt THIS the hard way).. just express yourself the way you are. People like that better. I had about 120 subscribers on TH-cam, (in 3 months) when I was just going after trends and stuff. But then when I started doing what I really liked, I got to 229 subs in around a month and a half.
I love this. Ever since I deleted most of my social media, my life has been better and slightly more productive. I only have Snapchat but it’s not an app where you consume all of your time. You just post and go.
Well over 2 years now. Never regretted it. I don’t count TH-cam as social media as it’s a learning tool. Yes we can leave comments but it really can’t be compared to Facebook instagram or twitter.
I don't consider TH-cam a social media therefore I'm keeping it. I learn a lot from it.
@@mykytadiachyna1608 yeah but there's no such thing as TED talk in books in actual . Aw
TH-cam is not a social media like Facebook and Instagram or Twitter..
TH-cam is a wealth of information . I cannot see myself without it. I love to read also but nothing compares.
I agree, TH-cam is so useful but is also very annoying, some of the idiots who post video's and con men smooth talking about being a millionaire etc.
Nykyta Diachyna
You could use Google search, TH-cam and books to maximize knowledge gain. However, to say TH-cam and Instagram (ext) are the same is not true.
I decided to quit Facebook and Twitter as starters today. I feel like it's the right thing to do because at this point I'm just... tired.
Whoever's reading this, please wish me luck!
Toka alokda You can do this!
Goodluck!!
Good luck! That would be a good start! Keep going !!
I have important and famous personalities following me. How to quit?
Good luck
I'm the only person I know who has never been using any social media except TH-cam, no Facebook or Instagram or whatever. I've been called a freak a lot but now I feel a little proud of myself lol
Same for me.
TH-cam is not social media it's an open university
One of the advantages of quitting social media. Is that it helps you find out who your real friends are.
Quitting Facebook was the best thing I ever did. I got hours of my life back for time with real friends. Anyone who is really a friend knows how to get a hold of me.
Peace AMEN!!!!!
Exactly . I agree
Peace I would too but the only friends I have are internet friends lol
I quit fb about 2.5 wks ago. Feeling awesome!
Krissienjr06 Same!!!!!
Someone said, "if you're using something for free then may be you are the product."
Every social media companies are doing the same. They use users data as their product. They sell it and earn tons of money.
when data is free...ur the product
So true,,, Remember Cambridge Analytica?
the problem is, even if you quit Facebook etc, its too late. they already have your details. and they always will and theres nothing you can do about it. its sad
Selling it to whom, and what they are doing with this data?
I was just listening to one of Sam Harris’s recent podcast and I just realized it it’s the same guest speaker. I am deeply grateful that these resources are available.
I deleted my Facebook and Instagram and TikTok and now I have no idea what I’m doing besides taking care of myself skateboarding living my life, working a job that making good money at living free and being the healthiest I’ve ever been
I just deactivated and uninstalled everything at minute one of this video after scrolling through some of the comments. I'm sick of feeling enslaved to refreshing and sharing memes etc it's just draining and superficial.
pretty sure you installed them all again :)
@@adm7r ummm nah. Weird that a stranger would be "pretty sure" on what i would or wouldn't do. 🤔😂😂😂
Very proud of you! I've done that too 3 years ago and I can clearly see how bad it was for me to be on social networks.
Hey how is it going for you? I mean the quitting? Just curious sister.
I understand . I take breaks from it . But I believe people who dong have it get more done and have more peace
Quitting social media is easy. I've done it over a dozen times.
How original.
Wow,amazing🤣🤣
😁😁😁😁😁
Kkkk
That mean you r not quitting.. You just pausing 😐
What's maybe most incredible about this, besides from a well-considered and delivered talk, is the sheer numbers of views (8.6 million?!) and tons of comments in agreement. It goes to show how aware we are about the pitfalls of social media, on society and to our health. Hopefully this army of brave, wise individuals will help turn the tide of 'the rest', who, either from ignorance, denial, or fear, (of exclusion and/or 'the end of the world as we know it'), continue to consume and participate in a culture that, overall, has done us more harm than good. The future health of our younger generations especially, (let alone our/their productivity), is genuinely at stake. Being as switched on to the need for protecting our environment as we are now, surely we need to show the same level of concern for the wellbeing of our future population also?
I quit social media 4 years ago due to information overload. I feel less stressed, more happy , less anxious, and more at peace with my mindfulness practice. people post about everything under the sun. best life choice ever!
I am gonna quit ALL OF MY SOCIAL MEDIAS today. I am so sick of using it. I am so sick of losing concentration and time. I am so sick of the fact that I know I am wasting time but I still can't get off my phone. I hate the feeling of how the first and the last thing I do every day before I sleep and wake up is checking on my instagram, snapchat, WhatsApp... I am controlled by it. I hate the feeling of being powerless. I hate how I am so addicted to it that I check my social media so often I hate how it becomes the only thing I do when I have free time. I hate how it makes me feel anxious without my phone. I hate how I have not been focusing on my studies. i hate how my concentration time and my memory is getting worse. It makes me sad sometimes to see everyone posting nice pics and having a great life. I hate the feeling of how I am losing time and end up being stressed for not finish a day's work. I hate procrastinating. I hate how my mind drifts off when I start studying. I hate how I would start thinking about my social media and stuff when I have actual serious work to do and end up using it every 30 mins. I hate how I feel excluded when I see pics without me on my friend's insta. I hate how I feel depressed and lonely because of Instagram. I hate how frustrated I feel when my friends didn't reply me. I would have none of these problems if social media didn't exist because in real life my frds are all really nice to me. Therefore, I have made up my mind and I am going to quite social media. I will give an update in a month. Social media is making me stupider. I dont want a life like this anymore. I want to start a real life with real time.
Sze Abby Great words. The most important is the real life. I’m tired of social media and specially of Instagram. Last week I deleted my twitter account but I can’t delete my Instagram account. I’m obsessed with that.
@@pronosticosdeportivos9517 you can do it...if you really want to delete Instagram too go through the withdrawals and as time goes on you will be ok
Stay strong Sze...you can do it
Whoop, whoop!!!!!!
This comment deserves more likes. I feel I am not alone now.
My mom didn't have social media for the longest time until like a year ago and I've watched her go downhill since then. Legitimately terrifying stuff.
Same here. It's a way of escapism and seeking a pat ob the head. But an unhealthy one. .
Same...my mom is constantly on facebook. Our time together is spent with me talking to a wall while she scrolls. So sad...although it did inspire me to deactivate all my socials.
Same
My parents are the same. They were wary and sceptical of social media for years but in quarantine they spent more time on Facebook and now they’re hooked. I feel especially bad for my mom when I pop in to say goodnight and she’s glued to the phone still. Her sleep quality has gotten worse because of it.
Really? thats intresting.
This video inspired me to quit social media forever. it is been 5 months now, and I have already seen a huge difference in my life. I would highly recommend people to quit that fake reality and live the actual life.
Back in 2013 I was preparing to apply to a certain 3 letter gov agency. I spoke to two agents for preparation advice in that organization. First thing they both told me was, “delete all social media accounts.” No regrets. I only use TH-cam. There is a bigger agenda behind the curtains.