All my friends have always told me that I won’t get a modern woman as I have old school teachings from my great grand father. Folks say I should raise my son differently. It’s a blessing finding other real men out there. Yes I have lots to rediscover about manhood within. The foundation i still have has keep me strong as I maneuver this feminized world.
I think I am what most people assume as a "modern feminist" because of my job. I thought engineering would be a good choice for my skillset. I think everyone should have an equal opportunity to pursue the careers that best suit them, but that doesnt mean that men and women aspire to the same outcome in life. "modern women" are still women. I am very lucky to have had a father who showed that men are intentional and competent and lead to protect and provide the best future for their families. When a man leads, I can come home, be playful, relaxed, supportive and show my softer side. I don't want two jobs, i have no aspiration to be the CEO of my house. I imagine a more traditional future for my relationship and i think there are a lot of people who understand there's wisdom in tradition
I like that he said "She was essential for a lot of my personal growth but I'd outgrown that need ..." "I will always be grateful for that." It has to be the most honest profound thing you can say about yourself and a former partner. Few people (men and women alike) are willing to admit that and GROW from it. Awesome video. Thank YOU!
Everything described in the video was a carbon copy of my first marriage. When I started to establish my masculine center, I realized that the dynamics of my first marriage wouldn’t work along with a very detrimental act on her part, I had to leave the marriage. I’ve been single and in the dating pool for awhile now and realize how vital it is for men to set the tone and lead in relationships with women. So much so that I realized how many women operate in a more masculine way that when I come into the picture they really don’t understand how to navigate relationships with masculine men.
Very true. No woman likes a man who doesn't have his"life" together or at least be on a path where he's trying. Just like no man likes a woman who is controlling, nagging... The problem is women are scared of being alone so they end up with men who are just not a good fit or are so broken and end up being miserable. Women, choose your partners better instead of trying to change them! When you have a man who "leads", is intelligent, has his life together and has the same vision as you do, it's magic!!
My Exx once said that I had accomplished so much in my life, she always compared hers to mine which made her unfulfilled. I told her if she ever worked as a Team vs Sabatoging any success together, We would be 1000 miles down the road. She was emotional messed up and after 3 years it ended. Her father a minister told me once: he talked with her about not being liberated or unwilling to follow a good man... I have perfect peace, and before we split looked her in the eye and said: It's your Loss🛡️ No contact with her over a year, 2 weeks ago she contacts me, I blocked her forever👍 No more time 2 Waste Go Fetch Your Tangible Dreamzz!
I'd say I'm a nice guy, many people respect me... I too can be passive or submissive when I see no problem is doing so however I am no pushover. I just need to work on setting better boundaries and leading better than I do as of right now, there are some key things that I'm missing... I also wanted to say that your videos have provided quite the enlightenment in several areas so thanks.
I was was just thinking the same thing. There was plenty upside for her, but none for him. He didn't have to settle. I couldn't do it and would rather stay single then saving a women who has a history of making poor choices.
The biggest mistake a lot of men make is they never "rock the boat" when the relationship strays off course. I was recently dumped by the best gf I ever had and am completely devastated, I knew I had to shake up things but always chose the nice guy path of no confrontation. Please don't make my mistake.
Women need emotional stimulation. If you don't bring that rawness to your relationship, your woman will create drama to bring it out of you herself. Nice guys fight this uncomfortable reality. Weather the storm - it will probably end with passionate make-up sex anyway.
She was too good for you, she saw that you were worshipping her and that will make a woman think she is better than you and that she can do better. A woman wants a man that she thinks is better than her and she will fight to keep him. A man should be his best version so the woman feels she won the lottery.
He makes very good good points, but he's married to a desperate woman, with multiple kids and no money living in a dangerous country. She probably needed to escape Mexico and marrying him was an easy decision. His advice was sound, but his story was very alarming.
I like what the gentleman has to say... but he lost me at 3 marriages.. I would like to dive deeper of understanding what occurred in order for him to get to this point of growth in his life...
If a man remarries to fast and doesn’t give himself time to reflect on his own life , he will continue to make the same decisions that ended his first marriage ! I fell into that nice guy stuff because that’s what I was taught as a kid . Boys have to be taught to be men by someone who knows what a man is ! Men were never so posed to dominate their wives but to lead them but never take on the roll as dictator , more like the senior partner in the company of us !
@@a.j.9727 as the gentleman replied Corey Haga explains your question on point. 👏🏽😊 ... 2 marriages is understandable due too certain circumstances and mindset at that time. If you don't get the opportunity to reflect and learn what is to be a man/ person in general this applies for men and women it make sense you will keep repeating yourself of poor habits. The man in the video is on his 3rd marriage and I would just like to understand his perspective on what he learned from the previous relationships and what led him to building a third commitment. When you get to 3 I believe it's time for a self evaluation for anyone. So yes it did have me stuck because even though he is speaking on relationships/ marriage. Thanks I hope I answered your question.
@@elizabethkathleen7981 I wish you had a more nuanced perception of his potential circumstances. You never once put the onus on any of his wives; are you aware of what percentage of divorces are initiated by women?
@@a.j.9727 I am very aware of the difficulties on the women's part. But the sole focus of the conversation was his perspective of what he went through. I'm not choosing sides of genders. I just would have preferred more elaboration on how he felt what he learned and how it changed him. We still don't know what the underlying issues were from either side. And since we normally hear women's side of bashing men which I am strongly against because I believe both play a role 100% and are 100% responsible, I wanted to hear his perspective of how it led up to taking a third chance and what was different from the last 2. There is a possibility that this is not the full interview if so I would like to hear more. But we can only go off based what was revealed and for me I like to hear what the man's view is of the relationship because men sense and see things different than women. It is just helpful to understanding more how of men think and feel. Sorry if my last reply wasn't clear.
I love a man who makes decisions! I remember feeling so overwhelmed when I had a dependant boyfriend and honestly I didn't feel feminine. I literally left that relationship feeling so relieved and explained that I felt like "the man." Didn't feel good. I love a kind man who leads in a respectful way. Very attractive. Much love from Australia 🇦🇺🦘❤
Greetings from Rwanda. Thanks for this video. You opened my eyes to see that I am to set the tone and lead. Honestly, I have seen that I have tendency to let a let a lady decides.
the quote he said about "girls calling guys dady being a turn on while a guy calling a girl mami a turn off" def doesnt correlate to puerto ricans or most hispanics for that matter. but as ive lived in the states so long now i do understand what he meant. def only reserve that for females i date who are hispanic.
as a young man who is inclined to do what he wants whenever he wants, I came to be selective with what I choose to do. I prefer to do things that pay - whether in money or in happiness or whatever. my intuition tells my that taking the lead, and dealing, with women and their emotions do not pay in any way shape or form. I wrestle with this daily. What are your thoughts?
I think you've encountered feminist indoctrinated women where you taking the lead becomes combative. There's this myth that men buy into, which is you must jump through loops, argue, wrestle, manipulate your woman to "earn" your place of leadership with her. This is unfortunately not true. Most men are simply attracting the wrong women. The type of women that would likely be a good fit for your masculine energy aren't in your orbit. You have to be intentional to find them.
Sounds like you aren't ready to have a relationship... and that's okay. If you don't see the benefit of investing yourself and your time into a woman don't. Hang your with your friends, focus on work... you don't need to be in relationship... just don't use women when you know you don't want to invest in them.
Most women don't understand that they are SUPPOSED to find a man with their best interest in mind. They're stuck on chasing the bad boy Tyrone or Chad who only cares about themselves. And then they give you that shocked pikachu face when the bad boy is bad to them.
I think the most common avenue that men take to end up acquiescing all the decisions to their wife or girlfriend is from women inching their way into always holding the veto power at the same time avoiding being the one seen as the decision maker. So the man eventually give up trying to come of with something that she will agree with. He picks 3 places to go eat, she says no to each one, but never says where she'd like to go eat. So he stops trying. How often has anybody heard women complain about patriarchy, but follow that with women being the ones that are really in control? If it's bad or negative, it's patriarchy. If it's good or positive, it's because women are really in control. It's the same desire to escape accountability. They don't want to be the one to make decisions because they don't want to be the one who made the decision that turned out to be a bad one. Good results are shared at the very least, but often full credit will be taken because of her "being the one who's really in charge". Rollo Tomassi outlined the long term goals and affects in his "Man In The Garage" post. A man acquiesces the decor and set up of his house to his wife and he'll eventually become a guest in his own house with all of his stuff and much of his time spent in the garage. The situation was framed as something palatable with the catch phrase "every man needs a man-cave". But in reality it's not a sign that you've achieved something, it's a sign that you've surrendered almost everything.
This guy is on the mark, especially with the part about the man being monogamous to his mom. That's a big eye opener. He's red pill lite, which is good cuz most guys fake alpha. Alpha doesn't mean asshole. Bravo.
Spot on! No wonder I am burned out after 19 years of marriage. My husband always leaves me to make decisions. When I don’t, nothing gets done. That’s my husband who has not cut the emotional umbilical cord from his parents.
Great conversation great information great subject matter it is very complicated relationship status but you guys make a lot of sense the man has to be the man and be the one to make the plans and then she can step in if she has other plans she would like to do at least you made the initiative great job guys
I know this video is older, but what doesn’t make sense to me is that he would leave his spouse because he outgrew her if they have a job to work together to build each other up.. he seems selfish in his thoughts that because he had evolved, he didn’t need his 2nd wife anymore! Why didn’t he stick around to help her see her own flaws and change them rather than leaving once his own flaws were healed, you know, the way she stayed with him though 100 grand of therapy
Bingo. Now we see why he is on his 3rd marriage. All of these "relationship experts" can't seem to keep one and people are falling into the traps of listening to then and giving them their money
Yes, it’s ironic but marriage is just another word for commitment. He’s been in a lot of commitments besides the legal ones so he’d have more experience… more than someone like me who’s only ever been in a 14 yr marriage and in the same commitment for 17 yrs.
Hmmmm..... I don't know. I feel like I'm being given advice about a how things fell into place for one lucky gentleman in one unique situation. If there's anything I've learned in dating thus far is that what works in one relationship might not work for another. I've known women who absolutely love to choose the restaurant. Or maybe we switch between who chooses. Just being devil's advocate.
We're talking about the majority here, nobody cares about the specifics. The exception doesn't make the rule, most women don't think the way that one girl you dated did
Jeff abbot. Not all men are the same and not all women are the same. A man and a woman has to have a similiar sense of reality, similar goals and dreams, similar sense of logic and a similiar level of sanity in order for a relationship to last a long, long time. If a woman and a man are BOTH crazy, to the same degree, the relationship will last a long time. I agree.
You're missing the forest for the trees. Choosing the restaurant is not being a leader. You can ask a child what movie they want to see; that doesn't mean the child leads the family. You, as a man, must have a grand plan and try to lead the way.
The price of being nice: 1. -Your wife/ girlfriend walks all over you and may cheat on you 2. -Your friends take you for granted 3. -Your employees lose respect for you 4. -Your customers won't pay (on time) 5. -You are perceived as weak by your boss so you are overlooked for any promotion. 6. Your whole life, being inauthentic, is doomed.
I don’t feel the fact that he’s remarried undercuts his message. Development means leaving those things that do not suit us and often a divorce is a catalyst for growth in men. Dr Glover’s advice is sound because he’s made the mistakes himself. It’s like the businessman who failed before discovering the path to success. Also he’s transparent with his failings and asks men to learn from them
Honestly I can see why men and women are exhausted and don’t even try any more there’s way to much information that’s confusing and frankly too much work
All of the women who i have dated ahve been very feminine to me. But a lot of women think that if they follow a man they give up their power being feminine qhich i disagree. But i do agree that if you are feminine with the wrong guy its gonna cost a lot. Most qomen get into that tpxic relationship being feminine to the toxic partner then close themselves up for the rest long life to the actually good men.
I’m a 25y/o woman but I do love watching your videos, there’s a lot of common sense that I think most people find difficult to hear because we’re being given the complete opposite messages...
@@tylerdecker6994 sounds you could be acting like a doormat, it's a fine line to walk for men who don't know, women love congruent, straightforward, masculine men
Most people don't have CAREERS, they have JOBS! Especially when it comes to women. So most women don't actually have to make any tough decisions "all day long" and even if they do, deciding how they want to spend their leisure time could hardly be classified as a "tough one". :/ The correct way to say it would be: "After she's been bossed around all day long, doing something monotonous where she was allowed absolutely no freedom and creativity, after handling all day long people she doesn't like too much, she is pressured to be bossed around at her home and someone else to decide for her there too and decide for her what to do too."
I agree with you on a human level. However many women when confronted with a man giving her a choice in a decision can not say their piece. They wait for the man in the relationship to make a decision. Once the decision is made it goes 3 ways. One you are told they disagree, they accept the decision, or you receive blame or credit for the decision. Women beat themselves up by far more often than most men. I hope for the day I get a straight answer for "Where do you want to go?", or "What do you want for dinner?".
After having messed up being too "nice"/passive with a girl to the point she leaves you, is there still a chance to get her back after doing the self-improvement work. What would be the strategy? Or is it just wishful thinking?
@@pacifront83 Going self-improvement coz it's the right thing, not to chase her back at all cost. But was wondering if it was still possible to fix a broken relationship or if it's a lost battle. Some relationships have a long history and it's about persons not commodities.
@@pacifront83 Exactly, it's like anyone quitting any bad habit in order to be approved by a person or group. Wrong motive and ineffective because when that person dies or disapproves of you anyway for whatever other reason you're more likely to do those bad habits again.
Great video. Roommate dude Haseem - you are killing it! One piece of advice to level up from a 9 to a 10... get a new laugh. Your normal laugh right now is rough on the ears and lacks authenticity
No disrespect, I previously listened to the whole podcast, but I disagree with Robert in many of this theories. He's on his 3rd marriage and validating life decisions that brought him here today. Steve Harvey is also on his third marriage and I always hear him dishing out the advice. Ask yourself this... would you hire a personal trainer who wasn't in shape or get financial advice from someone who was broke? Absolutely not. Robert is a gentleman and wise, but I would've really appreciated him talking more about where everything fell off the rails in the first two marriages.
Your last sentence really struck with me. And I agree 100%. This discussion would have been much more interesting if he examined in detail why his other marriages failed. I would have liked to hear things that he and his ex-wives did wrong.
thats what i was thinking. hes 60+ years old and we are not really interested in his 3rd marrieage or how hes successful with it because he is old and has money and his wife now whos prolly 40-60 yeard old is also well beyond her prime time. it woulda beeen more valuable for us if he talked more on where he fell off on his 1-2 relationships, not rd.
I can read between the lines and he told us in white man code words that his other marriages the women were masculine and he no longer wanted or needed them to lead, he now wanted the woman to change and become feminine and submissive but they probably didn’t know how to do that because he allowed them to be that way for so long.
This is how I see it too. Every single relationship expert can't seem to keep one but people give them money and listen to them?! Sounds like a recipe for failure
15:15 I don't mind the reaching out. But what I do mind is the constant bashing of the black community from people with a platform. All communities have issues, but we have no problem airing out the problems within the black community to a mainstream audience for money. The people with a platform need to do better.
@@andreasmith3638 Fallacy. Its true the local and federal governments are responsible for the denigration of black communities through every generation. From the constant massacres of black communities from the late 1800s to early 1920s, to the Jim Crow laws that were upheld for decades, through redlining that prevented black families to move into nicer and safer neighborhoods, as well as preventing black people to open up more businesses, to the FBI targeting and assassinating black civil rights leaders and teenagers that started the Black Panther party to help protect the black communities from white racists and violent police officers, to the Reagan administration that allowed cocaine and guns to be sold in black and brown neighborhoods during the eighties and telling America that black people were using tax dollars to live off welfare (which is statically a massive lie), further destabilizing families and the black communities, to the Clinton administration that allowed mandatory minimums to exist to further fill prisons and allow the existence of private prisons, and throughout this whole time police departments looking the other way as well as DAs allowing cops to get away with murdering unarmed black people in cold blood. All of this is true, completely unchecked by the current government and its a HUGE surprise that we still have a community at all. No we don’t need to do better. We need to have local and federal government leave our communities alone. We were fine without them.
@@TheCloveart I agree with everything you just said EVERYTHING!!! But the fact that you just said or wrote rather all that PROVES that your government IS NOT GONNA LEAVE YOU ALONE!!! So now the black communities need to do better!!
@@andreasmith3638 You act like the black community has 100% autonomy. If that was the case, most of that stuff would never have happened. Unfortunately, the government will intervene no matter what. If we are left to our own devices we thrive. So we don’t have to do anything. We just have a massive interloper that literally controls the whole country and is a huge part of the global economy. We don’t need to do anything. It’s the government’s responsibility to make sure citizens are treated as equals and are safe. All we can do is bring our grievances to their doorstep. Oh yeah, we’re usually met with firehoses and German Shepard’s or armored police and tear gas. While white racists are escorted into the capitol while killing cops that hender their cause, but support them when they abuse black people.
Set the tone with narcissistic, egotistical, self centered women. That will last a few hours. Great advice from a guy on his THIRD marriage. No thanks.
I do appreciate your videos a lot & they’ve helped me quite a bit. My girlfriend recently cheated on me & lately I’ve been feeling depressed as well as mentally & emotionally damaged. It’s hard for me to forget about her, any advice that’ll help? ☹️
Work on yourself your mental stability and find another woman to sleep with don’t get into relationships till you’re ready I get it bro being cheated on sucks
Pray to God to get rid if this malady of the mind. Realise that this was actually a blessing in disguise. Imagine if you married her and had kids with her then she cheated on you.
My rotation is a a filipina, been going out for 2-3 months, can confirm. Very useful, and commitment. No drama, but when she acts up, let her know. Set the frame. You just have to focus on your path and don’t over pursue. Meet up once a week, and spend a good time together.
I second Dr Glover. Happened to me when I least expected it. Married 18yrs and my wife told me early on she likes when I make the decisions even though we're both the first born with the Alpha mentality. I'm an easy going guy yet she likes the Alpha Male influence on our decisions from me. No problem here.
@@CS-zq7qn you're right about that. We're both "old souls" and go along with more of a traditional mindset. She makes decisions too yet we always discuss it thoroughly and leaves the final decision up to me when we're both on board. It's worked out pretty well so far.
Divorced twice and married a single mother as a third. I wouldn't take this man's advice seriously... especially marrying a single mother of several kids.
So im curious, i know a lot of people here (including me) are here for the conversation and to learn from it. So whats with the need for the click bait picture for the thumbnail? Edit: Not the first one I've seen either so figured id say something
His current wife is from Mexico. They are raised with a different mindset. The male is the always in charge, like their fathers. American women on average only want to be led in the direction they are willing to go. I work long hours somedays and I do not want to come home to make one more decision myself. Men need to decompress not get bombarded once we roll up the driveway
I'm currently in a relationship and me and my girl both lead. Its like a 50/50 thing. Sometimes she makes the decisions and sometimes I do. It's not that big of a deal really. we're both happy where we're at. She's not super submissive but in all honesty I don't really care much about it. She's very confident in herself and I find that to be a huge turn on. That's why I got with her in the first place.
@@robertlunderwood we share a house together so I don't see that happening anytime soon lol. And we both benefit from this deal because we are both saving our money by sharing the bills. But if I do get dumped then oh well. Nun of this shi last forever. I mean what are the actual chances you are gonna grow old together untill u die? Especially when your in your mid 20s. Even the most loving relationships come to an end. Some ones gonna end up leaving and that's just the truth lol. But that doesn't mean the relationship you made with that person wasn't meaningful. At the end of the day I just found somebody I like to chill with and I'm not worried about this "feminine" "cooperative" "Submissive" stuff. Truth is I just don't care. I'm happy where I'm at.
@@breezy5013 Women want men to lead, both in the relationship and regarding finances. Anything less won't work. Also, why are you living with a woman that you aren't married to?
@@robertlunderwood Hahaha MARRIAGE! 🤣🤣 Yea marriage is great if you want to lose your house, your income, your kids and your dog. Sorry I'm not living like I'm in the 1950s. Marriage is a trap and men always get the crap end of the stick because of it. These women yall want are the same ones who leave you when you struggling because alot of them don't care about you, they just care about what you can do for them. Start slippin financially and boom she gone.. And trust me, in Marriage you're definitely gonna have hard times financially. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. The odds aren't in your favor my friend. Women who are a bit more independent but not (I'm an independent women who don't need no man) are more likely to help you in hard times from what I've seen. Sorry but I'm not doing everything for a women. I can already cook and clean for myself. If I handled everything the only thing a woman could offer me is sexual pleasure and even then that benefits the both of us.. Women today work and alot of the times make even more money than men. The least she can do is pay some bills and if she doesn't want too then we can go our separate ways. I'd rather live alone and be pernicious than do all that bs. (Which I could if I really wanted too) but frankly I've grown fond of this woman and she's grown fond of me. And the best part is I know she isn't using me and actually likes me for who I am simply 🙃 Thanks
You can tell he really listens to women. He so perfectly articulated what women are looking for- not being overburdened with making one more decision. We multi task all day taking care of our job projects, plus maintaining our kids schedules and needs. Plus if we are doing things for our aging parents and other family members, church & community groups. We are on go-mode all day long. And it’s nice for our man to take the lead in some areas and just make the decision and make the plan for us to allow us to feel like a Princess/Queen for just a moment. Then we can replenish ourselves and treat our man like a King in return.
A man who has been divorced 3 times is not a person to give relationship advice. My parents who are married for almost 50 years have by far better understanding.
The person divorced three times has first hand experience on what doesnt work. They know the things that work and they fully understand the things that damage it.
Hey guys, The best lesson is to pack your duffle bag with whey protein, towel then leave for gym. When you home focus on your career, hang out with your male friends. Don't complain. Don't take them back.
Hell yeah get to the gym and get jacked, Grind at work, earn more money, invest, get a side hustle going, or start your own business, get in to a hobby, go on awesome holidays, eat fine foods, now this is living not getting all the drama of a women
Greatest give is to not give a duck, so me asking someone what they want to eat is a burden. Men tell them women like that u have issues men, so when their job tells them to do they job they come home frustrated about ppl getting on their nerves, men yall look she get what she get when u think u feel u should that simple. I'm America we all are free and can work
If your kingdom can't handle a guest, don't you think it is rather weak ? I'm all for living in my world instead of others but you gotta handle the fact that people can come and go and change your kingdom for the better yk
@@purpessenceentertainment9759 oh ok, in the end, it all depends what you put in your kingdom ! For some it's family, for others it's themselves ! Put what you care more about first. Either it be you, your health or your family 🤷🏻♀️ gotta make a choice and stick to it to make it solid, grounded.
This is why it's so much of an issue... So I agree with him we shouldn't "control" them. Not necessarily that we also shouldn't leave the decisions with them. I need her to make that "1 more decision" so what ever we are trying to do can move forward. I don't know about you guys but I hate taking 15-20 minutes listing things I plan to do, eat, etc. for her to say no or not want to really do anyway for us to just decide on something that she wanted to do in the 1st place. Why can't I just ask her up front and save the half hour??? Or for lack of a better word "control" the situation take choice out of it and tell her we are going to (whatever or where ever) we are doing/going because I take the time to know her interest likes and dislikes.
Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul. And the other things on the face of the earth are created for man and that they may help him in prosecuting the end for which he is created. From this it follows that man is to use them as much as they help him on to his end, and ought to rid himself of them so far as they hinder him as to it. For this it is necessary to make ourselves indifferent to all created things in all that is allowed to the choice of our free will and is not prohibited to it; so that, on our part, we want not health rather than sickness, riches rather than poverty,honor rather than dishonor, long rather than short life, and so in all the rest; desiring and choosing only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created. Just as the physical universe is governed by unchangeable physical laws like gravity/the speed of light. So too are is the soul subject to the gods unchanging moral laws.
I appreciate the insight but this can be a bit exhausting. This advice doesn’t take into account that men too, share in the feeling of overwhelm with day to day decisions. And just like our partners, the decisions we make everyday are often to the detriment of our wellbeing and rest. So this advice can be perceived as an encouragement to overextend ourselves to make our partners feel at ease. That’s not entirely fair either. When a partner is asking for input, that’s being considerate. That’s a partnership. There’s a double standard here. Which speaks to why being with someone you share values with is so important. I think that the ethos of this advice and the general feeling being ascribed to women falls under an important question “Are men and woman equals” I think one has to define that for themselves and then look for partners that share that value.
Yup and all I know is if a man is constantly telling me what we are going to do even down to where we eat, I am not going to be happy and I'm not going to "follow"🙄 Seriously, just treat folks how you want to be treated. Suggest sometimes, and other times just ask if there is any thing she wanted to do. Just be normal. All of this dissecting women like we are all one person is insane honestly. The internet has gone crazy and I don't know how I got to this video but I hope people just don't overthink basic human interaction. Like you said, be considerate and treat people the way you would want. If someone doesn't take to that, then they are not for you, and that's a good thing.
Speak for yourself, I love a nice man who knows how to lead but has boundaries. Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat. I don’t like men who are doormats because they will be doormats for anybody who they come across in their life (like colleagues and family members) and that would affect home life if you let everyone have a say in what you do. I have no desire to control a man and tell him what to do that’s not my desire
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The hardest road we can take in life is the one that appears the easiest. -C.S. Lewis
Wow. So deep. Mind blown. So insightful. Wow.
@@DejiDigital oh my god!!! the wisdom is just OOOOOOZING
The hardest road is Rocky Road...when kept in the deep freezer too long.
~8th Grader
@Chris Dean .
You've had a celebrity president for four years..... and this is the Dumbest thing you've heard?
A little over dramatic are we!???
@@bangryman100 the dumbest thing ive heard was easily biden talking about how he loves kids on his lap and about them touching his legs in a pool lol
All my friends have always told me that I won’t get a modern woman as I have old school teachings from my great grand father. Folks say I should raise my son differently. It’s a blessing finding other real men out there. Yes I have lots to rediscover about manhood within. The foundation i still have has keep me strong as I maneuver this feminized world.
No what's right for you not right for others is what i say.
Women love old school guys
I think I am what most people assume as a "modern feminist" because of my job. I thought engineering would be a good choice for my skillset. I think everyone should have an equal opportunity to pursue the careers that best suit them, but that doesnt mean that men and women aspire to the same outcome in life.
"modern women" are still women. I am very lucky to have had a father who showed that men are intentional and competent and lead to protect and provide the best future for their families.
When a man leads, I can come home, be playful, relaxed, supportive and show my softer side. I don't want two jobs, i have no aspiration to be the CEO of my house. I imagine a more traditional future for my relationship and i think there are a lot of people who understand there's wisdom in tradition
I like that he said "She was essential for a lot of my personal growth but I'd outgrown that need ..." "I will always be grateful for that." It has to be the most honest profound thing you can say about yourself and a former partner. Few people (men and women alike) are willing to admit that and GROW from it. Awesome video. Thank YOU!
Everything described in the video was a carbon copy of my first marriage. When I started to establish my masculine center, I realized that the dynamics of my first marriage wouldn’t work along with a very detrimental act on her part, I had to leave the marriage. I’ve been single and in the dating pool for awhile now and realize how vital it is for men to set the tone and lead in relationships with women. So much so that I realized how many women operate in a more masculine way that when I come into the picture they really don’t understand how to navigate relationships with masculine men.
As a woman, I agree with men setting the tone. I believe it works better that way..
You cannot half step at taking the wheel…just do it…nobody gives you the leader stick, either you show up with it or you take it, not ask for it!
Very true. No woman likes a man who doesn't have his"life" together or at least be on a path where he's trying. Just like no man likes a woman who is controlling, nagging... The problem is women are scared of being alone so they end up with men who are just not a good fit or are so broken and end up being miserable. Women, choose your partners better instead of trying to change them! When you have a man who "leads", is intelligent, has his life together and has the same vision as you do, it's magic!!
Yes you're right, its the men who are broken 🤣
My Exx once said that I had accomplished so much in my life, she always compared hers to mine which made her unfulfilled.
I told her if she ever worked as a Team vs Sabatoging any success together,
We would be 1000 miles down the road.
She was emotional messed up and after 3 years it ended. Her father a minister told me once: he talked with her about not being liberated or unwilling to follow a good man...
I have perfect peace, and before we split looked her in the eye and said:
It's your Loss🛡️
No contact with her over a year,
2 weeks ago she contacts me,
I blocked her forever👍
No more time 2 Waste
Go Fetch Your Tangible Dreamzz!
@Igcocuta My girl met me when i was completely broke, im not so broke now and can enjoy my money with a genuinly loyal, happy woman. 👍❤
Why he have to ; lead, ;, tho... Come on be on the same level. Both talk and reach desicions. Be a team. No need for leaders in relationship a.
@@budoshi-f2l The reason he needs to lead is becausehe is the one who protects.
I'd say I'm a nice guy, many people respect me... I too can be passive or submissive when I see no problem is doing so however I am no pushover. I just need to work on setting better boundaries and leading better than I do as of right now, there are some key things that I'm missing... I also wanted to say that your videos have provided quite the enlightenment in several areas so thanks.
I enjoyed what he said, very wise man but he lost me at saving a poor single mother.
Same. Don’t save her lmao
Yeah, he's her life raft
I was was just thinking the same thing. There was plenty upside for her, but none for him. He didn't have to settle. I couldn't do it and would rather stay single then saving a women who has a history of making poor choices.
😂👀😏
He was also married three times. No hate to him though, very wise man.
The biggest mistake a lot of men make is they never "rock the boat" when the relationship strays off course. I was recently dumped by the best gf I ever had and am completely devastated, I knew I had to shake up things but always chose the nice guy path of no confrontation. Please don't make my mistake.
Women need emotional stimulation. If you don't bring that rawness to your relationship, your woman will create drama to bring it out of you herself. Nice guys fight this uncomfortable reality. Weather the storm - it will probably end with passionate make-up sex anyway.
She was too good for you, she saw that you were worshipping her and that will make a woman think she is better than you and that she can do better. A woman wants a man that she thinks is better than her and she will fight to keep him. A man should be his best version so the woman feels she won the lottery.
I slap my gf from time to time... she’s stuck on me like glue
Pfff, why has it all to be games and stuff. Why we just can’t respect each other and just live a happy life together 😕
@@crisclay2678 Toxic much?
He makes very good good points, but he's married to a desperate woman, with multiple kids and no money living in a dangerous country. She probably needed to escape Mexico and marrying him was an easy decision. His advice was sound, but his story was very alarming.
The dude lives in Mexico…. They didn’t “escape” lol.
I like what the gentleman has to say... but he lost me at 3 marriages.. I would like to dive deeper of understanding what occurred in order for him to get to this point of growth in his life...
If a man remarries to fast and doesn’t give himself time to reflect on his own life , he will continue to make the same decisions that ended his first marriage ! I fell into that nice guy stuff because that’s what I was taught as a kid . Boys have to be taught to be men by someone who knows what a man is ! Men were never so posed to dominate their wives but to lead them but never take on the roll as dictator , more like the senior partner in the company of us !
Why would getting married thrice "lose you?"
@@a.j.9727 as the gentleman replied Corey Haga explains your question on point. 👏🏽😊 ... 2 marriages is understandable due too certain circumstances and mindset at that time. If you don't get the opportunity to reflect and learn what is to be a man/ person in general this applies for men and women it make sense you will keep repeating yourself of poor habits. The man in the video is on his 3rd marriage and I would just like to understand his perspective on what he learned from the previous relationships and what led him to building a third commitment. When you get to 3 I believe it's time for a self evaluation for anyone. So yes it did have me stuck because even though he is speaking on relationships/ marriage.
Thanks I hope I answered your question.
@@elizabethkathleen7981 I wish you had a more nuanced perception of his potential circumstances. You never once put the onus on any of his wives; are you aware of what percentage of divorces are initiated by women?
@@a.j.9727 I am very aware of the difficulties on the women's part. But the sole focus of the conversation was his perspective of what he went through. I'm not choosing sides of genders. I just would have preferred more elaboration on how he felt what he learned and how it changed him. We still don't know what the underlying issues were from either side. And since we normally hear women's side of bashing men which I am strongly against because I believe both play a role 100% and are 100% responsible, I wanted to hear his perspective of how it led up to taking a third chance and what was different from the last 2. There is a possibility that this is not the full interview if so I would like to hear more. But we can only go off based what was revealed and for me I like to hear what the man's view is of the relationship because men sense and see things different than women. It is just helpful to understanding more how of men think and feel. Sorry if my last reply wasn't clear.
Crazy to see how great minds think alike. Kevin Samuels, Coach Corey Wayne, and this Dr as well. It's like they all say the exact same things
I love a man who makes decisions! I remember feeling so overwhelmed when I had a dependant boyfriend and honestly I didn't feel feminine. I literally left that relationship feeling so relieved and explained that I felt like "the man." Didn't feel good. I love a kind man who leads in a respectful way. Very attractive. Much love from Australia 🇦🇺🦘❤
Damn you left homie?
Greetings from Rwanda. Thanks for this video. You opened my eyes to see that I am to set the tone and lead. Honestly, I have seen that I have tendency to let a let a lady decides.
the quote he said about "girls calling guys dady being a turn on while a guy calling a girl mami a turn off" def doesnt correlate to puerto ricans or most hispanics for that matter. but as ive lived in the states so long now i do understand what he meant. def only reserve that for females i date who are hispanic.
I'm not Hispanic but for some reason I like the idea of being called that.
Powerful all men must watch and listen to this powerful conversation
as a young man who is inclined to do what he wants whenever he wants, I came to be selective with what I choose to do. I prefer to do things that pay - whether in money or in happiness or whatever. my intuition tells my that taking the lead, and dealing, with women and their emotions do not pay in any way shape or form. I wrestle with this daily. What are your thoughts?
I wrestle with this also im single but i feel maybe its just i havent found someone that there presence would pay me in happiness if that makes sense
I think you've encountered feminist indoctrinated women where you taking the lead becomes combative. There's this myth that men buy into, which is you must jump through loops, argue, wrestle, manipulate your woman to "earn" your place of leadership with her.
This is unfortunately not true. Most men are simply attracting the wrong women. The type of women that would likely be a good fit for your masculine energy aren't in your orbit. You have to be intentional to find them.
Sounds like you aren't ready to have a relationship... and that's okay. If you don't see the benefit of investing yourself and your time into a woman don't. Hang your with your friends, focus on work... you don't need to be in relationship... just don't use women when you know you don't want to invest in them.
She understands because her culture reached her that happiness comes from a man who leads. If she gets in the way of that it creates disorder
I love this! This needed to be said!
Absolutely. All the decision making can make me feel burdened
Most women don't understand that they are SUPPOSED to find a man with their best interest in mind. They're stuck on chasing the bad boy Tyrone or Chad who only cares about themselves. And then they give you that shocked pikachu face when the bad boy is bad to them.
Couldnt have said it better 👏🏻
Chad always wins boyo, take the blackpill and be free
I have to agree with your statement. You are a 100% correct 🙏
I think the most common avenue that men take to end up acquiescing all the decisions to their wife or girlfriend is from women inching their way into always holding the veto power at the same time avoiding being the one seen as the decision maker. So the man eventually give up trying to come of with something that she will agree with.
He picks 3 places to go eat, she says no to each one, but never says where she'd like to go eat. So he stops trying.
How often has anybody heard women complain about patriarchy, but follow that with women being the ones that are really in control? If it's bad or negative, it's patriarchy. If it's good or positive, it's because women are really in control. It's the same desire to escape accountability. They don't want to be the one to make decisions because they don't want to be the one who made the decision that turned out to be a bad one. Good results are shared at the very least, but often full credit will be taken because of her "being the one who's really in charge".
Rollo Tomassi outlined the long term goals and affects in his "Man In The Garage" post. A man acquiesces the decor and set up of his house to his wife and he'll eventually become a guest in his own house with all of his stuff and much of his time spent in the garage. The situation was framed as something palatable with the catch phrase "every man needs a man-cave". But in reality it's not a sign that you've achieved something, it's a sign that you've surrendered almost everything.
Great clip.
Nice video,
Putting things on paper , makes it easy to follow.
🙏
This guy is on the mark, especially with the part about the man being monogamous to his mom. That's a big eye opener. He's red pill lite, which is good cuz most guys fake alpha. Alpha doesn't mean asshole. Bravo.
ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!!💯💯💯
Amazing content, and one of the best. It would have helped a bit to include a few examples of what "Mr. Nice guy" is or does.
Get this man on joe Rogan
Facts good episode
12:11 "this is hard enough getting out, and I'm not coming back". Interesting situation.
Spot on! No wonder I am burned out after 19 years of marriage. My husband always leaves me to make decisions. When I don’t, nothing gets done.
That’s my husband who has not cut the emotional umbilical cord from his parents.
High valuable information.
very nice educated video appreciate it
Great conversation great information great subject matter it is very complicated relationship status but you guys make a lot of sense the man has to be the man and be the one to make the plans and then she can step in if she has other plans she would like to do at least you made the initiative great job guys
I would love to see Cynthia G, Nylah, and Taz on your platform. I feel it would be Epic!
I know this video is older, but what doesn’t make sense to me is that he would leave his spouse because he outgrew her if they have a job to work together to build each other up.. he seems selfish in his thoughts that because he had evolved, he didn’t need his 2nd wife anymore! Why didn’t he stick around to help her see her own flaws and change them rather than leaving once his own flaws were healed, you know, the way she stayed with him though 100 grand of therapy
Bingo. Now we see why he is on his 3rd marriage. All of these "relationship experts" can't seem to keep one and people are falling into the traps of listening to then and giving them their money
I find it hysterical that literally all these relationship and imagine gurus on their 3rd 4th marriage lol
They have all the experience.
how so? if it was a guy with a50 year marriage all he has is one experience.
You learn from your mistakes
Hence they are gurus.
Yes, it’s ironic but marriage is just another word for commitment. He’s been in a lot of commitments besides the legal ones so he’d have more experience… more than someone like me who’s only ever been in a 14 yr marriage and in the same commitment for 17 yrs.
Hmmmm..... I don't know. I feel like I'm being given advice about a how things fell into place for one lucky gentleman in one unique situation. If there's anything I've learned in dating thus far is that what works in one relationship might not work for another. I've known women who absolutely love to choose the restaurant. Or maybe we switch between who chooses. Just being devil's advocate.
Understood, and agree, not all women think the same, and what works for one relationship, may not work for another, that's true.
We're talking about the majority here, nobody cares about the specifics. The exception doesn't make the rule, most women don't think the way that one girl you dated did
@@Jojobinks9898 "That one girl I dated" :) Ouch. Way to dish out a burn! Haha.
Jeff abbot. Not all men are the same and not all women are the same. A man and a woman has to have a similiar sense of reality, similar goals and dreams, similar sense of logic and a similiar level of sanity in order for a relationship to last a long, long time.
If a woman and a man are BOTH crazy, to the same degree, the relationship will last a long time.
I agree.
You're missing the forest for the trees. Choosing the restaurant is not being a leader. You can ask a child what movie they want to see; that doesn't mean the child leads the family. You, as a man, must have a grand plan and try to lead the way.
The price of being nice:
1. -Your wife/ girlfriend walks all over you and may cheat on you
2. -Your friends take you for granted
3. -Your employees lose respect for you
4. -Your customers won't pay (on time)
5. -You are perceived as weak by your boss so you are overlooked for any promotion.
6. Your whole life, being inauthentic, is doomed.
nigga you trippin 🤣😂🙄💯
WORD
Kevin Samuels will Most Probably go mainstream. 💯
Bet
@@m1stern00by ___money on it
I don’t feel the fact that he’s remarried undercuts his message. Development means leaving those things that do not suit us and often a divorce is a catalyst for growth in men. Dr Glover’s advice is sound because he’s made the mistakes himself. It’s like the businessman who failed before discovering the path to success. Also he’s transparent with his failings and asks men to learn from them
Yessssss to all that
Exactly!
Hey Hafiz , what's your workout routine?
Honestly I can see why men and women are exhausted and don’t even try any more there’s way to much information that’s confusing and frankly too much work
Although some won't admit it, we get decision fatigue and LOVE it when a guy leads
All of the women who i have dated ahve been very feminine to me. But a lot of women think that if they follow a man they give up their power being feminine qhich i disagree. But i do agree that if you are feminine with the wrong guy its gonna cost a lot. Most qomen get into that tpxic relationship being feminine to the toxic partner then close themselves up for the rest long life to the actually good men.
31 seconds in and already I'm becoming a better man...
I'll just decided what to eat. Even when I'm not hungry.
Lol
Can we get you booklist?
I was thinking what a woman could do for me is be loyal and inspirational, but youre saying they cant do that?
What do you mean by inspirational?
I’m a 25y/o woman but I do love watching your videos, there’s a lot of common sense that I think most people find difficult to hear because we’re being given the complete opposite messages...
indeeeeed!! completely agree
So true I treat women nicely and that’s not what works. Women will walk all over the nice guy
We're not taught this important stuff in school!!
@@ShinbrigTV the educational institutes have been indoctrinated by the left.
@@tylerdecker6994 sounds you could be acting like a doormat, it's a fine line to walk for men who don't know, women love congruent, straightforward, masculine men
Most people don't have CAREERS, they have JOBS! Especially when it comes to women. So most women don't actually have to make any tough decisions "all day long" and even if they do, deciding how they want to spend their leisure time could hardly be classified as a "tough one". :/ The correct way to say it would be: "After she's been bossed around all day long, doing something monotonous where she was allowed absolutely no freedom and creativity, after handling all day long people she doesn't like too much, she is pressured to be bossed around at her home and someone else to decide for her there too and decide for her what to do too."
I agree with you on a human level. However many women when confronted with a man giving her a choice in a decision can not say their piece. They wait for the man in the relationship to make a decision. Once the decision is made it goes 3 ways. One you are told they disagree, they accept the decision, or you receive blame or credit for the decision. Women beat themselves up by far more often than most men. I hope for the day I get a straight answer for "Where do you want to go?", or "What do you want for dinner?".
Oh, I totally love a man who prepares the dates and organizes vacations but I wasn't in tune with the way he sees it.
If the woman or even a man is having a job that doesnot fulfill her or him probably there is something wrong with that person.
Haha this is so true. Pin this comment to the top
After having messed up being too "nice"/passive with a girl to the point she leaves you, is there still a chance to get her back after doing the self-improvement work. What would be the strategy? Or is it just wishful thinking?
If you’re improving just to get her back, that is contradictory to the fen whole point of these gurus! You have to eat pray and love! You bum!
@@pacifront83 Going self-improvement coz it's the right thing, not to chase her back at all cost. But was wondering if it was still possible to fix a broken relationship or if it's a lost battle. Some relationships have a long history and it's about persons not commodities.
@@pacifront83 Exactly, it's like anyone quitting any bad habit in order to be approved by a person or group.
Wrong motive and ineffective because when that person dies or disapproves of you anyway for whatever other reason you're more likely to do those bad habits again.
Some guys just don't get it!
Hey waterman77 ill answer your question.
Yes, it’s possible.
"Daddy" is one of the biggest turn offs for me lol. A fwb called me it one time in the middle of sex and I have never gotten soft so quickly.
Great video. Roommate dude Haseem - you are killing it! One piece of advice to level up from a 9 to a 10... get a new laugh. Your normal laugh right now is rough on the ears and lacks authenticity
Awesome video
Summation: relationship are more responsibility and less freedom
No disrespect, I previously listened to the whole podcast, but I disagree with Robert in many of this theories. He's on his 3rd marriage and validating life decisions that brought him here today. Steve Harvey is also on his third marriage and I always hear him dishing out the advice. Ask yourself this... would you hire a personal trainer who wasn't in shape or get financial advice from someone who was broke? Absolutely not. Robert is a gentleman and wise, but I would've really appreciated him talking more about where everything fell off the rails in the first two marriages.
Your last sentence really struck with me. And I agree 100%. This discussion would have been much more interesting if he examined in detail why his other marriages failed. I would have liked to hear things that he and his ex-wives did wrong.
Just because someone is married doesn't mean it's a "successful" marriage.
thats what i was thinking. hes 60+ years old and we are not really interested in his 3rd marrieage or how hes successful with it because he is old and has money and his wife now whos prolly 40-60 yeard old is also well beyond her prime time. it woulda beeen more valuable for us if he talked more on where he fell off on his 1-2 relationships, not rd.
I can read between the lines and he told us in white man code words that his other marriages the women were masculine and he no longer wanted or needed them to lead, he now wanted the woman to change and become feminine and submissive but they probably didn’t know how to do that because he allowed them to be that way for so long.
This is how I see it too. Every single relationship expert can't seem to keep one but people give them money and listen to them?! Sounds like a recipe for failure
Hafeez is killing it🔥
15:15 I don't mind the reaching out. But what I do mind is the constant bashing of the black community from people with a platform. All communities have issues, but we have no problem airing out the problems within the black community to a mainstream audience for money. The people with a platform need to do better.
Black communities need to do better
@@andreasmith3638 Fallacy. Its true the local and federal governments are responsible for the denigration of black communities through every generation.
From the constant massacres of black communities from the late 1800s to early 1920s, to the Jim Crow laws that were upheld for decades, through redlining that prevented black families to move into nicer and safer neighborhoods, as well as preventing black people to open up more businesses, to the FBI targeting and assassinating black civil rights leaders and teenagers that started the Black Panther party to help protect the black communities from white racists and violent police officers, to the Reagan administration that allowed cocaine and guns to be sold in black and brown neighborhoods during the eighties and telling America that black people were using tax dollars to live off welfare (which is statically a massive lie), further destabilizing families and the black communities, to the Clinton administration that allowed mandatory minimums to exist to further fill prisons and allow the existence of private prisons, and throughout this whole time police departments looking the other way as well as DAs allowing cops to get away with murdering unarmed black people in cold blood.
All of this is true, completely unchecked by the current government and its a HUGE surprise that we still have a community at all.
No we don’t need to do better. We need to have local and federal government leave our communities alone. We were fine without them.
@@TheCloveart
I agree with everything you just said
EVERYTHING!!!
But the fact that you just said or wrote rather all that PROVES that your government IS NOT GONNA LEAVE YOU ALONE!!!
So now the black communities need to do better!!
@@andreasmith3638 You act like the black community has 100% autonomy. If that was the case, most of that stuff would never have happened.
Unfortunately, the government will intervene no matter what. If we are left to our own devices we thrive. So we don’t have to do anything. We just have a massive interloper that literally controls the whole country and is a huge part of the global economy.
We don’t need to do anything. It’s the government’s responsibility to make sure citizens are treated as equals and are safe. All we can do is bring our grievances to their doorstep.
Oh yeah, we’re usually met with firehoses and German Shepard’s or armored police and tear gas. While white racists are escorted into the capitol while killing cops that hender their cause, but support them when they abuse black people.
Agreed. Always quick to throw under the bus but nobody else does it
Set the tone with narcissistic, egotistical, self centered women. That will last a few hours. Great advice from a guy on his THIRD marriage. No thanks.
I do appreciate your videos a lot & they’ve helped me quite a bit. My girlfriend recently cheated on me & lately I’ve been feeling depressed as well as mentally & emotionally damaged. It’s hard for me to forget about her, any advice that’ll help? ☹️
Work on yourself your mental stability and find another woman to sleep with don’t get into relationships till you’re ready I get it bro being cheated on sucks
Work on yourself- gym, read, write down your thoughts. Be lucky and I wish you the best my friend 🙏🏿💯
Therapy?
Pray to God to get rid if this malady of the mind. Realise that this was actually a blessing in disguise. Imagine if you married her and had kids with her then she cheated on you.
Be patient things always work out
Yes!
What if you don't know what you like/want - how can you lead that
So where's the chick on the thumbnail 🤔🙂
5:40 what if she says no i don't like this car, then what do you do??
buy it forcefully or buy a car according to her choice ??
Your buying the car, if she dont like the options she can buy her own lol
Buy a car you both like
And they will still complain😂
Mexican women sound like Filipinas. Loyal and committed.
youre joking right???
Mexicans conquered the Philippines.
@@PMJ4EVERR lol no they didn't the Spanish conquered both
My rotation is a a filipina, been going out for 2-3 months, can confirm. Very useful, and commitment. No drama, but when she acts up, let her know. Set the frame. You just have to focus on your path and don’t over pursue. Meet up once a week, and spend a good time together.
They are poor, so they are looking for billy betabux, anyone with money can get those types of girls boyo
Sounds like you just have a good woman 👍🏾 Keep her close.
I second Dr Glover. Happened to me when I least expected it. Married 18yrs and my wife told me early on she likes when I make the decisions even though we're both the first born with the Alpha mentality. I'm an easy going guy yet she likes the Alpha Male influence on our decisions from me. No problem here.
It’s a huge compliment to you because that means she trusts your judgement
@@CS-zq7qn you're right about that. We're both "old souls" and go along with more of a traditional mindset. She makes decisions too yet we always discuss it thoroughly and leaves the final decision up to me when we're both on board. It's worked out pretty well so far.
Man makes decision.
Woman: nagg nagg, whine, whinge.
Divorced twice and married a single mother as a third. I wouldn't take this man's advice seriously... especially marrying a single mother of several kids.
he's not 25 years either lol
So im curious, i know a lot of people here (including me) are here for the conversation and to learn from it. So whats with the need for the click bait picture for the thumbnail? Edit: Not the first one I've seen either so figured id say something
Wait 3rd wife! I don’t want a 3rd wife!! How am I supposed to take advice from this guy.
Bingo. All of these relationship experts can't seem to keep one
You should please interview ‘Mr. Madison’ from real social dynamics- he’s a hall of famer and his work speaks for itself
His current wife is from Mexico. They are raised with a different mindset. The male is the always in charge, like their fathers. American women on average only want to be led in the direction they are willing to go. I work long hours somedays and I do not want to come home to make one more decision myself. Men need to decompress not get bombarded once we roll up the driveway
I'm currently in a relationship and me and my girl both lead. Its like a 50/50 thing. Sometimes she makes the decisions and sometimes I do. It's not that big of a deal really. we're both happy where we're at. She's not super submissive but in all honesty I don't really care much about it. She's very confident in herself and I find that to be a huge turn on. That's why I got with her in the first place.
Boy don't I have news for you
You will get dumped.
@@robertlunderwood we share a house together so I don't see that happening anytime soon lol. And we both benefit from this deal because we are both saving our money by sharing the bills. But if I do get dumped then oh well. Nun of this shi last forever. I mean what are the actual chances you are gonna grow old together untill u die? Especially when your in your mid 20s. Even the most loving relationships come to an end. Some ones gonna end up leaving and that's just the truth lol. But that doesn't mean the relationship you made with that person wasn't meaningful. At the end of the day I just found somebody I like to chill with and I'm not worried about this "feminine" "cooperative" "Submissive" stuff. Truth is I just don't care. I'm happy where I'm at.
@@breezy5013 Women want men to lead, both in the relationship and regarding finances. Anything less won't work.
Also, why are you living with a woman that you aren't married to?
@@robertlunderwood Hahaha MARRIAGE! 🤣🤣 Yea marriage is great if you want to lose your house, your income, your kids and your dog. Sorry I'm not living like I'm in the 1950s. Marriage is a trap and men always get the crap end of the stick because of it. These women yall want are the same ones who leave you when you struggling because alot of them don't care about you, they just care about what you can do for them. Start slippin financially and boom she gone.. And trust me, in Marriage you're definitely gonna have hard times financially. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. The odds aren't in your favor my friend. Women who are a bit more independent but not (I'm an independent women who don't need no man) are more likely to help you in hard times from what I've seen. Sorry but I'm not doing everything for a women. I can already cook and clean for myself. If I handled everything the only thing a woman could offer me is sexual pleasure and even then that benefits the both of us.. Women today work and alot of the times make even more money than men. The least she can do is pay some bills and if she doesn't want too then we can go our separate ways. I'd rather live alone and be pernicious than do all that bs. (Which I could if I really wanted too) but frankly I've grown fond of this woman and she's grown fond of me. And the best part is I know she isn't using me and actually likes me for who I am simply 🙃 Thanks
Man is the boss of women
Great discussion! I especially like the reference to Salsa. LOL
Nice one
You can tell he really listens to women. He so perfectly articulated what women are looking for- not being overburdened with making one more decision. We multi task all day taking care of our job projects, plus maintaining our kids schedules and needs. Plus if we are doing things for our aging parents and other family members, church & community groups. We are on go-mode all day long. And it’s nice for our man to take the lead in some areas and just make the decision and make the plan for us to allow us to feel like a Princess/Queen for just a moment. Then we can replenish ourselves and treat our man like a King in return.
This is helpful advice.
This is a true insight.
A man who has been divorced 3 times is not a person to give relationship advice. My parents who are married for almost 50 years have by far better understanding.
There are lessons to be learned in failure. CEOs of failed businesses have much to teach.
The person divorced three times has first hand experience on what doesnt work. They know the things that work and they fully understand the things that damage it.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Word.
@@QarthCEO The person who has never done bullshit or had it done to them does not understand the "territory".
Hey guys, The best lesson is to pack your duffle bag with whey protein, towel then leave for gym. When you home focus on your career, hang out with your male friends. Don't complain. Don't take them back.
Creatine is something else to consider as well creapure specifically.
@@discipleofdeath2517 Sure, You can add BCAA also.
@@SantanuPaul27891 Beyond those few, the rest are not worth it. I think I still haven't had my morning tea so my mind is still a bit sleepy.
Hell yeah get to the gym and get jacked,
Grind at work, earn more money, invest, get a side hustle going, or start your own business, get in to a hobby, go on awesome holidays, eat fine foods, now this is living not getting all the drama of a women
what is Duane doinh here
I’m 22 and these videos help a lot of woman too, thanks for the insight
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Greatest give is to not give a duck, so me asking someone what they want to eat is a burden. Men tell them women like that u have issues men, so when their job tells them to do they job they come home frustrated about ppl getting on their nerves, men yall look she get what she get when u think u feel u should that simple. I'm America we all are free and can work
A king must put his kingdom first, or else the kingdom will fall.
If your kingdom can't handle a guest, don't you think it is rather weak ? I'm all for living in my world instead of others but you gotta handle the fact that people can come and go and change your kingdom for the better yk
What I am implying is to put the kingdom first, not yourself first. Put what is best for the family first before you think of yourself.
@@purpessenceentertainment9759 oh ok, in the end, it all depends what you put in your kingdom ! For some it's family, for others it's themselves ! Put what you care more about first. Either it be you, your health or your family 🤷🏻♀️ gotta make a choice and stick to it to make it solid, grounded.
This is real red pill ish!! Good stuff! 👍
Your woman is your sidekick not your partner. Your Batman and she is Robin. Not cat woman. Cat woman is for the streets
Hahahaha yeaa bro😂
robin. had balls....
@@Macheako ur being too literal 😂
@@Macheako lol yes we know but what super hero had a female sidekick?
@@HangingWithTheFlemings Wasp of the Ant Man comics 👀
3rd marriage??! This guys a gump
Agreed. All these steve harvey relationship experts cant seem to keep one
I am on my third marriage 😳
This is why it's so much of an issue... So I agree with him we shouldn't "control" them. Not necessarily that we also shouldn't leave the decisions with them. I need her to make that "1 more decision" so what ever we are trying to do can move forward. I don't know about you guys but I hate taking 15-20 minutes listing things I plan to do, eat, etc. for her to say no or not want to really do anyway for us to just decide on something that she wanted to do in the 1st place. Why can't I just ask her up front and save the half hour??? Or for lack of a better word "control" the situation take choice out of it and tell her we are going to (whatever or where ever) we are doing/going because I take the time to know her interest likes and dislikes.
And women want that!!!! Very well said.
Bring Kwame to the channel
I appreciate your channel and your message. What I don’t appreciate is the female images you portray in your thumbnails.
I am a woman and i see nothing wrong with it. Whats wrong with the image?
Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul.
And the other things on the face of the earth are created for man and that they may help him in prosecuting the end for which he is created.
From this it follows that man is to use them as much as they help him on to his end, and ought to rid himself of them so far as they hinder him as to it.
For this it is necessary to make ourselves indifferent to all created things in all that is allowed to the choice of our free will and is not prohibited to it; so that, on our part, we want not health rather than sickness, riches rather than poverty,honor rather than dishonor, long rather than short life, and so in all the rest; desiring and choosing only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created.
Just as the physical universe is governed by unchangeable physical laws like gravity/the speed of light. So too are is the soul subject to the gods unchanging moral laws.
Wow, you said it..coming from a spiritual young woman, I agree
I appreciate the insight but this can be a bit exhausting. This advice doesn’t take into account that men too, share in the feeling of overwhelm with day to day decisions. And just like our partners, the decisions we make everyday are often to the detriment of our wellbeing and rest. So this advice can be perceived as an encouragement to overextend ourselves to make our partners feel at ease. That’s not entirely fair either.
When a partner is asking for input, that’s being considerate. That’s a partnership. There’s a double standard here. Which speaks to why being with someone you share values with is so important.
I think that the ethos of this advice and the general feeling being ascribed to women falls under an important question “Are men and woman equals” I think one has to define that for themselves and then look for partners that share that value.
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Yup and all I know is if a man is constantly telling me what we are going to do even down to where we eat, I am not going to be happy and I'm not going to "follow"🙄 Seriously, just treat folks how you want to be treated. Suggest sometimes, and other times just ask if there is any thing she wanted to do. Just be normal. All of this dissecting women like we are all one person is insane honestly. The internet has gone crazy and I don't know how I got to this video but I hope people just don't overthink basic human interaction. Like you said, be considerate and treat people the way you would want. If someone doesn't take to that, then they are not for you, and that's a good thing.
Apparently you have not dated many women...
This guy is the dave Ramsey of dating
Except Dave is a really nice man.
truthfully, it's difficult for us women to fully respect a "nice guy"
I just don’t get that cause that’s what we raised as men to treat women with respect and be nice. I have learned that it don’t work after 32 years.
Speak for yourself, I love a nice man who knows how to lead but has boundaries. Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat. I don’t like men who are doormats because they will be doormats for anybody who they come across in their life (like colleagues and family members) and that would affect home life if you let everyone have a say in what you do. I have no desire to control a man and tell him what to do that’s not my desire