Wedding night tips for the celibate brides
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- I hope that after watching this video, you are left feeling like you have just had some quality girl talk with your sister/best friend! Let me know what you thought of this video and what you think the next wife talk should be about. God bless!
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You speak in a way that makes it feel like we are at a sleepover 😂 love it
Aww that makes me so happy to hear! Exactly what i want it to feel like 🥹❤️
I am a Muslim girl waiting for my marriage in 2 days and i liked this video before i could watch it fully because you're so warm and welcoming❤
Awww you are the SWEETEST 🥹 Thank you! And congratulations! I pray you have the most joyous wedding and prosperous marriage ❤️❤️❤️
Biggest things learned from my wedding night are - breathe, communicate, and it's okay to ask, "Can we switch gears?" or to slow down the motions, stop for now and pick that back up tomorrow, etc. Especially if you've been anxious or tense or finding things painful and uncomfortable. Any media you've seen with romance.... It's not the standard to set for that moment.
In your minds, you've both already built this up and probably created some expectations of what it'll be like. Not to burst your bubble, but there's a decent chance your night won't be exactly what you had in mind - do what you can to accept that and just be okay with it. Regardless, it's a special time that marks a new phase in your lives and relationship!
Great advice there love! ❤ I would add and say that those less than "perfect" moments are signs of innocence, which makes it perfect 🥰
Thanks so much for your video! I’m virgin and never been in a relationship before. Just praying to God, He will bless me with a true man of God!
I am praying that over you too sister ❤️🙏🏼
We didn’t have sex on our wedding night. Too tired. Don’t do it just because it’s expected. There’s always the next day and more relaxed by then.
Yes!! Definitely important not to have sex that night if you are too tired!
@@aliciaandjoshua hello mam after 10 days ago my wedding night coming soon
I love your heart in sharing this video. I’ve been married a long time now but one thing I would say is that foreplay is soo important to help a woman prepare bodily for sex. Don’t just jump into the intercourse part…touch each other and get aroused first, kiss etc . This is so important for women to have a more comfortable and satisfying sexual experience IMO and if it’s his first time…be prepared that it might be quick!!
Thank you sister 🤍 Yesss foreplay is super important, say it louder for the people in the back 👏🏻😂🙌🏼
I am not a christian but this did help a lot since I am thinking of waiting till marriage!! Thank uuu!
Aw I am so happy to hear that! ❤
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this has very quickly become my fave yt channel. you and josh are honest, helpful and funny. always good content
Wow, thanks thats such a big compliment!! 🥹🤍
Hi, I just randomly encountered this video. I'm not christian and I didn't wait till marriage but I've found your video quite wise and sweet. I think this type of advice can be really useful for any girl who becomes intimate for the first time :)))
That means so much! Thank you Lucia ❤
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This will be such an important video for all the ladies! Thankyou 😊❤
Thank you so much! I really hope so ❤❤❤
I love how this isn’t putting men down. Whenever I see similar videos, they always have something negative to say about men.
We love men over here! Haha ❤
Thank so much for this video. It was such a cute talk 🥺❤️. I am single and have not met my husband yet and this was helpful and encouraging actually. Thank u 🙏🏾 God bless you.
You are so welcome! I am grateful to have been an encouragement for you 🤍 Just keep praying for God to send you the right man, be open to meeting people and I believe God will give you the desires of your heart 🙏🏼❤️
This was a great video! A huge help for me when I was engaged is that my now-husband said "it's okay if we wait a few days to have sex if that is most comfortable to you." I felt so amazed and comforted by that because I had a lot of anxiety about it and I was worried that bringing sex into our relationship would cause my man to forget about my needs. He eased so much anxiety by saying that and we continued to talk about how we felt about starting to have sex, what we were looking forward to and worried about. One thing I would say for confidence, picking out some lingerie really made me feel so good! I tried it on beforehand and it honestly helped me to look forward to having my spouse in a new, special way. Also if you are open to having it on your wedding night, make sure your hair and makeup isn't too hard to get off :)
So glad you had such a positive experience! Sounds like you have a great husband ❤
She saved herself for marriage, and then gave herself to something that looks like a Homo erectus recreation at a natural history museum. Going through all that trouble just to give yourself to a black is like saving up for years, then spending that fortune to buy a bag of dog poop.
This is such an uplifting and needed video! :D Thank you for making and sharing this video - these types of conversations can be awkward so I am grateful for this!
You're so welcome! I am so glad you enjoyed this video 🥹🤍
If you have ever seen a movie and they talk about sex... Don't expect it to be like the movies 😅😂
.... Also it's worth waiting. You'll be happier if you wait.
Absolutely! It makes the wedding night sooo much more special!
This video is very timely for me, getting married in about 4 months, we just got engaged 🤣 never had that thing yet, so does my partner ❤ thank you for this video, you're amazing👏🏻 sending lots of love ❤️
I am so glad this video was helpful! Congragulations on your engagement and on waiting until marriage! 🎉❤️
We were both virgins the night we got married. And we just had a good time with each other, because I think it's more important just getting comfortable and feel familiar with each other instead of focusing on the act. Definite communication is a big factor. Agree with what you said about laughter we did a lot of that . We were married 5 days before as if you were in use the word consummated, But I wouldn't change a thing. Everything was perfect.
I was a virgin when I was married years ago and I have to say I felt a ton of pressure and expectations and I made the mistake of not communicating because I didn't know how to. The thing is, sex is the glue that binds relationships together and yet it can also become what feels like a burden. I think because of the sexualization of our culture I felt the pressures of needing to have a lot of sex and be sexy and please my husband. Unfortunately, this did not prevent him from having a porn addiction which I have had to make my peace with. The reality is, sexuality is a very nuanced and a difficult part of our humanity. A lot of shame and guilt is also woven into our psyches around it. My best advice is that sexuality is a natural, normal, healthy desire. Being attracted to other people happens. Being married doesn't mean that other people suddenly disappear but we can also choose how we respond to ourselves (hopefully with a ton of love). Sexuality also opens the door to questions about our bodies, our worth, our beauty and desireability. The force of orgasm can bring up very powerful emotions including crying. This is normal. Normalizing sexuality includes seeing that its not some romantic end all be all, but a continued open conversation with our hearts, our bodies and our needs within the safe container of marriage and/or partnership.
Porn addiction is real and common but not normal or healthy, I hope your husband gets the help he needs because that's no way to live for either of you.
I agree, you are worthy.
Good to see you back.
I haven't gone anywhere!! Still posting weekly 💪🏼❤️
You are a brave, beautiful soul. Important topic!
Thank you so much! ❤️
Best advice I received about the wedding night:
1 you do not have to have sex. If you are both exhausted and stressed from the wedding......don't have sex.
2 if it hurts STOP. It should not be horribly painful. If it is the woman needs more foreplay, more clitoral stimulation, more lube. Do not push through pain because you want to make your husband happy. It breaks my heart to think of how many women had horrible first time sex and it affected their sex life and marriage for decades. No woman will want to have sex if all she knows about sex is that it is horrible and painful:(
3 as a couple meet with an older couple you trust to talk about the wedding night and sex. So many men get their sex ed from porn. Porn is not sex. Women do not want to be treated like they are in a porno. Having sex with your new bride like they do in a porn movie will traumatize your new wife. Get real knowledge on the sexual response cycle and how to make a woman orgasm. Your sex life and marriage will be so much better if you are pleasing your wife and making sure she almost always has an orgasm.
Thank you cute sister, it will definitely help🙏🏾
Glad it was helpful! Please let me know if there is any other video that you would benefit from 💕
Omg, this is serious. I’m waiting 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
God bless you!! Through him you can do it! ❤️
I wanna talk about my mom and how _I_ had to explain to _her_ that women often bleed their first time.
We think of parents who teach abstinence as not being very open, but I’d say my mom is relatively sex-positive. That said, she was an athlete all throughout school and matured rather young (menarche at age 10).
So one afternoon we’re watching _Call the Midwife_ (excellent series, 10/10 would recommend) and when 2 of the nurses are discussing tampons being given to unmarried girls, my mom is like “what are they talking about? Why the controversy?” And because I’m chronically online & read a lot of books, I explain.
I love that my mother birthed & raised 2 children without knowing that it’s considered the norm for sex to be painful the first time. Like…no one warned her and she didn’t need the warning because it didn’t happen.
No idea why this came up in my suggestions (I’m an old married lady), but I wanted to hear what advice you had. All great, sound, practical advice! I will add: buy a commercial intimate lubricant: gentle, so won’t irritate, and can prevent discomfort of unpleasant friction. Don’t use something random from around the house (e.g. Vaseline) as this can irritate and then increase discomfort or risk of UTI.
This is VERY GOOD advice!! Thanks for sharing ❤
Absolutely!! Wise words 🙌🏼
Thank u! I get married in two weeks and started to get nervous abt this aspect but this helped ❤
Congrats!!! 🥳 You'll be comfortable with it in no time ❤️
Thank you for this video. What a beautiful couple ❤
Aww thank you so much Amber 🥹❤️ Bless you!
Tim LaHaye's "The Act of Marriage" is invaluable. Highly suggest.
Thanks for the rec! ❤
I would just add that all women (and men) need to know that consent can be withdrawn at any time. And maybe have a safe word prepared as well.
Omg this is serious 😮
I don't think everyone bleeds. It's okay if you don't. About sex and intimacy, I think open communication is important. Casual talks. Deeper thoughts. Anything, really. Just being comfortable on the subject helps a lot. Take your time also. Relax. Pause. Appreciate. ❤
Absolutely!! Also, it's really common to have your hymen break before your wedding night from things like horseriding, or even putting in a tampon! 😅 I just wanted to warn the girls who might not know that bleeding is even a possibility 🤍. I also love your advice about pausing! Real wisdom in that 🙌🏼
Yeah I’m pretty sure I broke mine on some playground equipment as a kid (ouch!)…
Thank you so much for sharing & being so candid about everything. My fiancé & I have been saving ourselves for over 3 years! 4 years by the time we get married this August. There are not many videos like this out there so I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about this. 🩷 God bless!!
You are so welcome! And I am SO happy for you guys!! ❤️🥳
Great advice!
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it 🤍
Im getting married soon. Thanks for your advice :)
I am so happy for you!! I pray God blesses your marriage abundantly ❤️
@@aliciaandjoshua Thanks :)
Excellent video! Keep it going.
Aw thanks for the encouragement ❤️
Communication, listening to yourself and your partner, and meeting halfway is so important. I HATE how a lot of Christian schools and households don't talk enough about these things to young adults. S3x education and human communication goes a long way even in our personal lives. 🤷♀️
I absolutely agree!! If there's any other parts of this topic that you would like me to talk about please let me know 😊❤
1. Talk about contraception BEFORE! If you want to do NFP you should start a few months before having sex.
2. Don’t feel pressured that your first time having sex does have to be your wedding night… You have plenty of time during honeymoon. Also you can focus a bit more, cool down, relax… If you waited so long - a few days more could be worth it 😉
3. Actually your first time having sex won’t be the best 😂 so no need to remember it precisely bc it will get waaaaayyy better over the years - at least that’s my experience!
4. Learn to talk about your experiences together. It’s so important to verbalise both your emotions and your physical sensations. That’s the only way to get over the awkwardness at the beginning and all the wrong expectations and pictures you might have in your head.
Also be aware that NFP isn’t actually an effective form of birth control, contrary to all the nonsense you’ll read in the net
I'd also say, try just to enjoy and not expect xyz to happen. Just enjoy your closeness and let things come on their own.
Absolutely!! Your only goal the first time should be to be present with your spouse ❤
Is the bleeding too much, what to expect?
Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I’d add lube to the list, it can really help. And remember it’s ok to have fun! 😊
Great tip! ❤️🙌🏼
The good thick lube like the gyno uses. Nothing flavored!
If you get a UTI after sex, your porch pirate did the front door... then did some back door, and then tried back in again at the front door.
Not judging anyone, but never do the front door after the back door without the guy washing up good in a shower first.
The back porch isn't clean.
Hahaha omgsh this made me laugh so hard 😂 Thats true you will DEFINITELY get a Uti from that!! But not all utis after sex are because of that haha. It is often because some of the sperm gets in to your urethra 🤍
Strange that this was on my feed, still praying for the ish (husb-nd) from The Most High YAH.
You're right, we haven't heard yet of the pee-after-sex advice but it does make sense. Much appreciated, from the Philippines.
I wish you the best and that he will come in to your life in God's perfect timing
Great job babe! ❤
Haha thank you my dear ❤
Your cute thanx so much 4 this😊
You are so welcome!!
Good for you young lady. So nice to see someone wholesome going viral. Enjoy marriage and life!
Aw thank you so much!! I am surprised at the attention this video is getting too!! Praise God 🙌🏼🤍
Say Christ is Lord and repent for your sins.@@aliciaandjoshua
I saw your video from a racist twitter, just here to show my support ignore this incel
Thank you Jay 🤍
All love to you 2 🫶🏽
Thank you...I'm scared.
Happy couple🥰😘❤
Very! 😊
I HIGHLY recommend these two resources for gals saving themselves for marriage as they helped me prepare for my amazing wedding night : Tiffany Dawn’s ‘Wedding Night Talks’ series (you can find into to it on her TH-cam channel ) and ‘Intended for Pleasure’ (Dennis Rainey is one of the names on the book and it’s available on Audible) . They helped me so much and helped prepare my fiancée as well. Don’t know what I would have done without them !!! It was such a good honeymoon we have a honeymoon baby ! Lol 😄
Definitely needed advice 😅
So glad it was helpful! 🤍
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I’m someone who didn’t wait until marriage but I’m glad the person I did lose my virginity to understood the gravity of it and was gentle and didn’t freak out when the sheet was bloody 😂
So glad to hear you were with a safe person darling ❤
Awesome video
Thank you!! 🤍
Very true
Just letting u know us American Christian have lost there art of waiting until marriage but I hope they’ll change
Hope you don't mind a guy commenting. I've been waiting a long time; what's one more day? Honestly I think that once I do find the right woman, the wedding night won't matter nearly as much as the rest of our lives, despite my instinct being to hit the ground running as hard as I can. I've been to weddings for family members where I had to work all day and I was exhausted afterward, so I can just imagine what it must be like to be the couple getting married. Honestly after such an emotionally draining day and all that goes into it, I think I'd be beyond exhausted and happy to put sex off til later. The thing is that for a few years I've been worried about this, whether I'd be sending the message to my bride that I was disappointed in her or didn't find her attractive! But from what I'm hearing from multiple sources is that if more men thought like me then maybe the pressure and expectations (obligation?) wouldn't be heaped on what really should be a joyous occasion. Clifford & Joyce Penner have some wonderful books on sex, as does Sheila Gregoire, worth reading for all people out there, Christian or not.
There's nothing wrong with waiting until the next day! We didn't wait until the next day because we had a small covid wedding that went from around 12pm - 2pm. But I think its great for a couple to agree before the wedding day that there is no pressure on either one of them to have sex that night if they are just too tired
Thanks! Didn't know about the 'p' thing. I guess you can guess why....🙄 I can't believe this is still on my bucket list--.
great channel, but you may need to turn off the comments before the racists from twitter come here
Thanks! Haha we don't care about the angry twitter warriors 😂
@@aliciaandjoshua so you're proudly erase your genes 🤣
@@aliciaandjoshua that is awesome Alicia, they can tire out their thumbs typing nasty words while you keep living a fulfilling life
@@meteabdioglu8525No such thing is happening weirdo.
Amazing!
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No wedding.
Preesch the advice
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Please ignore the bad comments, an article was written about you by New York Post and your husband and it’s trending on twitter, the racists have found your channel.
On the bright side you get more viewers and subscribers :)
Thank you! I appreciate your encouragement - and yes! I literally got monetized because of this video so thanks haters 💅🏼
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The hole you pee from is different from the hole where the magic happens. Maybe try using a douche ? But idk if that would help or make things worse.
They are very close to eachother though so liquids easily and often can "cross contaminate"
Incels will always mald.
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I'm so happy for you!! Great video and great interracial couple! Be happy♠️
Thank you so much!! ❤️
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I think marriage is overrated now
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Looking for an advance on that toll status
No idea what all these "toll" comments mean
@@aliciaandjoshuait’s a racist phrase, ignore them
@@aliciaandjoshua I’m racist and I’m trolling you. I’d recommend taking you and your Kalergi family off of the internet because you’re going to see a lot of these.
You don't know about the EXTREMELY high black-on-White domestic violence %s? It's also extremely underreported also because of fake Christians like you are concerned about "racism." The black-on-White murders? The divorce rate is much higher than WFWM couples. Can't wait until you're another statistic; we'll all be waiting. @@aliciaandjoshua
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Hey! Not a virgin, never been married. Currently abstinent/celibate.
It's actually a misconception that your first time has to be painful or will you will definitely bleed.
I'm embarrassed to say I only learned this a few years ago.. 18 years after the fact.
Some people will have blood due to the hymen stretching too fast and tearing but you don't have to bleed. Your hymen (except in certain cases) doesn't cover your full vaginal opening; otherwise menstrual blood wouldn't be able to leave your body.
You also can't judge virginity based on the appearance of a hymen.
If you go slow and start small with a finger and are properly lubricated there shouldn't be pain.
I know this could prove difficult for some partners, cause I'm talking slooooooww lol.
Also the vagina expands when you're aroused properly.
I fewl like we've come too far for some of these myths around womens reproductive health to still be lingering lol.
That is all! 😊
Sorry, I was let here by an article. I didn't actually watch the video yet, just read the article.
UTI means your husband isn’t cleaning himself correctly. You shouldn’t be constantly getting UTIs hun.
Josh is very clean! ❤ I have always been prone to utis, i even got them as a kid 😅
This is not true. You will not get a UTI from not showering regularly, nor can you get one from close contact from someone with poor hygiene.
@@andreah1836 yes, I’m 27 years old. I’m not some teeny bopper on here. If your man is not cleaning himself properly, or has bad hygiene , and you have sex , you can get a UTI … I never said anything about close contact. It’s not the flu. If any penetration occurs and you or your partner is not clean or takes proper hygienic steps, you can get a UTI. Urinary tract infection. Google it for yourself ladies. BACTERIA is what causes the UTI , in turn, if someone is not clean, there is unhealthy or foreign BACTERIA introduced to your urethra, you can get a UTI. goodness gracious. Do I need to explain further?
I solved mine by giving up fragranced bath products and being sure to pee after sex. If I ever feel like I might have one, I take d-mannose. I know someone who takes it regularly to prevent them.
UTI is caused by a bacteria infection. The most common one is from a bacteria called E.coli( around 90% of the cases of UTI if I recall correctly.)To prevent it. To some extent, showering after the deed may help. E.coli is a common bacteria that is everywhere really. I recommend taking antibiotics. And because antibiotic resistance is also common, if one antibiotics stops working, then you should change to another one because it means antibiotic resistant bacteria may survive due to adaptation. Any support for your immune system may boost your time of recovery. But important to know that this is a treatment for uncomplicated and common cases of UTI. Urinary Tract Infection can also be caused by a virus however, it is rare. Hope this helps💕
White man took an L BBC always wins them over
Say that to all the angry blaxk woman 😂😂😂
Stop watching p*rn degen
Imagine wasting your genes and be proud 😂
WHAT DO you mean wasting her gene?
You share your genes with your cousin… bye.
imagine wasting ur time on a video you didn't watch to slap a cringy comment below and being proud 🥴🤠
@@killerqueen2549sharing it with a. Black
@@Xx.bygracethrufaithmix with black means erased genes😂
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I have many pleasures and one of them is watching racist jealous envious inadequate white boys foaming at the mouth with rage when they see a White Woman with a Black Man. Keep proving to the world that you can't compete Adolf 🤣🤣
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You didn't have a strong father figure, I assume.
Haha quite the opposite. My father and I have a great relationship. He gave me high standards for my future husband which is why I am now married to the most loving Godly man I have ever met
@@aliciaandjoshua That was a rhetorical question. No strong father blindly tags along with the satanic cult of giving away thousands of years of your bloodline.
Strong father figure is not the same as "great relationship", giving whatever you want and be passive and submissive.
@@TonitrvsYou definitely look like someone who's insecure of the fact that black men are able to date women more than you also that's not how bloodlines work.
Maybe dating is overrated if they can do it 😂@@JamesRichards-zk2hl
Ok so include in your “list” the importance of tracking /predicting your period while wedding planning & the impact of wedding ‘stress’ on the monthly cycle. In other words what happens when your first time of a sexual experience as a new bride is literally delayed bc your period shows up right before you walk down the aisle (??)
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