“Nowadays everybody is divorced” - so true. It used to be that if you came from a divorced house, you felt you had to explain why. Nowadays if your parents remained married, you feel like you must explain why.
The guys I know that used to tell me I'm missing out by not having a family have gotten their asses handed to them in divorces. They don't say much about it now.
and got their assets handed to those who loot, injure and humiliate them, including the kidnapping and alienation of children at their expense and false accusations and destruction of reputation.
Years later I have bought broken dudes drinks and thanked them for stealing my woman years earlier. They sure didn't look like "winners" to me. They got the child support and alimony. I got a new vette. Now, that's winning. Lol.
@@jimwilson9690 I can relate Lost $700000 Total to the Ex after 32 years! But the Price of Freedom is finally beginning to offset that over here in SE Asia.
1) the juice isn't worth the squeeze 2) men have few options, women have endless options. A woman can walk down the street and find a boyfriend even if she is unemployed and broke as long as she is not too ugly. To be eligible a man has to have a good job, a place to live, and look handsome. 3) men usually lose a lot in marriage, women usually gain a lot
@FindingThumos yes I have emotionally detached from getting involved I only want friends and associates, nothing more. Im strong and busy enough in my own life while still loving and appreciating others for who they are and their hopes and dreams, but I have taken out any hopes for romance unless it is an absolutely genuine encounter, otherwise I'm not chasing or forcing anything. It does seem a little strange and peculiar to be honest but that's where I'm at. It has also taken a while to come to terms with it but anyway here I am lol
“Men have few options” That’s their own fault though. If they exercised, worked on social skills and worked at their career they’d be very valuable partners to many women. Instead they want to wallow in self pity and how unfair it is I don’t want to know the amount of time guys spend(or waste) watching this type of content and complaining about the same things over and over
@@BrisLS1so don’t use dating apps then! Why you guys insist on using dating apps when you could just go out and talk to women is beyond me.. it’s so much easier to attract women face to face
@@brianmeen2158 Even men who do all those things have few options compared to a woman who doesn't exercise, doesn't have ssocial skills, and doesn't have a careerr. That's my point.
I’m 58. I worked at a corporation that used outside law firms and an attorney (a man) invited me and two men he worked with to dinner. “Karen” heard about it and went to my boss, accusing me of being misogynistic, since I was the department manager, and I didn’t invite her. It wasn’t my invitation. Nonetheless, I was called into the office and written up for being a woman hating misogynist, which is completely false. I was given the choice of signing the document admitting that I was guilty or it would be referred to HR. I was considered guilty before I even walked in the office. I signed the document and left the company eight months later. The workplace is so toxic that even when you do everything correct a woman will make a false allegation and she is believed. I’m now economically independent and don’t work and life is good.
Scroll up and read my comment. You nailed it. The Corporate STATE favors women. Especially in divorce & domestic violence cases based on false allegations. Financially, a marriage contract is absolutely the worst financial investment a man can make in his lifetime.
That's effd up. I never let companies pressure me into signing anything. And when performance evaluations came I would get a smaller or not raise. It was okay though because I had started my quiet quit when they tried to force me to sign a bs document. As a woman, corporations screw both genders.
he gets to be the woman and the woMAN is the MAN... with kids in tow from previous relationships. no one marries anymore, just have kids as kids and go on. get free everything from gov/taxpayers for having kids and not being married.
What he's saying is 100% correct. I'm 34, tall, in shape, own home, never married/no kids and not on the dating market. Just me, my dog, and my hobbies keeping busy outside of work. Unfortunately the juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
That's mostly copium. They don't see the effort as worth it because they have convinced themselves that they cannot succeed even if they try. They fall into the trap of pointing their finger at other people (usually women in this case) instead of looking in the mirror and realizing that that is where their main problem is.
@@sandman1347 Men want families. Promiscuous women are more likely to cheat and divorce their husbands. Modern women aren’t wife material. It’s reality. Traditionalist live in a reality long gone.
Trying to date and obtain a girl that you really like is exhausting work. And even if you get her, it’s tremendously difficult to keep the relationship going while you juggle everything else in life.
It’s always been very difficult to maintain relationships though! It’s only in 2024 do people think it takes too much work lol.. laziness and addiction to comfort has paralyzed many of you
@@brianmeen2158 I’m not saying to give up. I’m just stating how difficult it is. Even when you have a relationship, girls many times cannot sit still and demand non stop attention. It’s not easy. 30 years ago, women were more submissive to becoming wives and girlfriends. They relaxed more.
@@brianmeen2158 Any self-respecting man will realize at a certain point it isn't worth it. The older generation completely bought into the idea that man's role was to maintain women at any cost. Better to invest the effort into one's self.
@@frontendzen4852 23 years for me, dated and had relationships after my divorce in 1993 and in the years that followed could not find a good woman just a lot of single mothers who weren't wife material so by 2003 I had enough and just haven't bothered anymore
last date i went on i was psychoanalyzed by the woMAN with a masters in ... WTF... if all the ... are going to just shat upon me... why bother. NEVER EVER AGAIN. been 15 yrs since gone out with any woMAN. IT IS JUST NOT WORTH IT!!
I was married, a good husband and she left with no explanation. It has become a risk today, not a time to settle and build something with one`s life. Divorce has become so common, that there are more divorces than marriages. Modern women view men as nothing and they have lost their femininity. So, its better to be single and healthy.
Single, healthy & wealthy. Financially, a marriage contract is absolutely the worst financial decision a man can & will make in their lifetime. The Corporate STATE favors the women in divorce & life. They’ve gotten a free pass for being Cunts and men have had it. And, Western women have absolutely no one to blame but themselves
No such thing as 'no explanation ' if she left there was a good reason. Good husband? Says who? Look at your mistakes! Look at what went wrong and FIX IT with the next one. I've BEEN IN THAT SITUATION. I wouldn't put up with her nonsense so she found someone who would. She left. At the time devastating, but after I met someone else all worked out great! Be hard on yourself. But be true to yourself. After all that experienceI have women asking ME OUT.😅😅
"I'm kinda glad I grew up when I did." So true, bro'. I am 73, a self-employed professional, never married, have seen the world, and have the fondest memories of being cared for by loving parents throughout the 50s and 60s. I've had a lot of relationships that have ended for different reasons but the core realization was that signing a contract to pay her bills for the rest of my life and, if things didn't work out she would get all my stuff, made me realize stay clear of this marriage crap.
I'm 60, but. I agree. I got married, divorced, but got out of it. My ex was normally good at reading a room but..... The divorce judge was a woman and my ex went ahead playing her games. She pissed off the judge so much my ex got child support and that's it. The judge told her not to even think of asking for anything else. Now I'm living a totally different life without women and it's great.
As a young guy i didn't realise how important it is in the dating game to have status. Shit job and low pay equals little opportunity. It also affects your confidence. Good news is now im older i don't really give a crap lol.
@TheVigilantEye77 lol. warehouse worker / indoor plant 🪴 technician , now general labourer . Ive not exactly moved up the corporate ladder either 😀Lol.
You got to admit Mark, even the philippino ladies are starting to change, and not for the better. I remember when the internet came out, and said this would be the beginning of the end for the human race. This is the reason for the lack of morals, and responsibility, on both sides. I'm not religious but the lack this has also cause these problems.
I pay over $2k monthly to taxes. I'm quite certain there is a women out there and probably a few kids that depend on me... of course they don't need to know that. Thanks government!
darn nice of u to do that for some other female with romeos kids in tow. of course romeo doesnt pay as he is too busy being "cool" and banging all the females/in and out of jail/prison as he is "cool" and being "cool" is what it is all about. the bible was right... the meek will inherit the (OVERPOPULATED/polluted/running out of everything) Earth... through INDISCRIMINATE BREEDING BY THE MASSSES GO ROMEO GO... breed all the females
I'm one of those men who never asked a woman out and almost 30. They want men to leave them alone but also want men to chase them, I'm not playing these games
Make yourself great, mate. In ancient human history, most males never had offspring anyway. It's actually historically normal for most men not to breed. Let the tarts bang the alpha's, and let them be. Never be the beta-provider, been that sucker and I strongly do not recommend it to any guy. All the best.
I saw a few stats the really opened my eyes. 1. In 1970 86% of adults were married. Today it is 32%. 2. The 2020 census showed that for the first time in US history. There are more 30 year old women without kids then with kids.
not in the SOUTH and SW where the indigenous girls love to have romeos baby and never marry him as she cant get FULL SUPPORT from the taxpayers. they start having kids as kids in the #1 state for teen pregnancy... little mesico.
Not sure where you got those numbers. According to a Pew Research Center analysis in 2023, 51% of adults in the United States are currently married. This is down from 72% in 1960.
the advent of technology ie dating apps IG TikTok etc and the result being .. literally endless options for young to even older women .. combined with hypergamy .. has doomed massive numbers of young men to complete 'invisibility' in the dating world .. as a 50 + year old my heart goes out to them 💔 grateful to have experienced my youth when i did
Thanks Mark for this video. I agree 100 percent what you said. Additionally the family court in most cases is a slaughterhouse for most men here in the West.
This is the dating world that women have created. Unfortunately long after we’re gone, it’s going to take at least a couple generations for this situation to possibly change.
It’s not going to change. Time marches on, it does not turn back. It’s like going back to horses after we all have cars already, ain’t happening my guy
It's a two way street. You can blame technology. It's made less attractive people rendered useless as technology allows everyone to find partners. Many guys my younger age have so many partners all the time. It's just how it is.
i cant even have that as ALL females in the south/SW have kids as kids... gramma at 32... great gramma at 50... im not going to tailor my life around THE KIDS THE KIDS THE KIDS... THE GRANDKIDS that get dumped on gramma cuz the kid split and no one wants the kids. NOT MY KIDS... NOT MY PROBLEM
But also education, better economy and the choise of freedom instead of a relationship. A hundred years ago, women got married becase the needed someone to support them, and starting a family without beeing married first was out the question.
@@Bighand4 yes, education, work, choice of who to marry (or not) are all rights that men have given women. The problem is in all these things they act based on their emotions.
robotic wemen in 20 yrs... men and wemen will part company. men will do the hard dirty dangerous work in the mines/oilfields/power lines/constuction and wemen will rule the office world where MEN ARE NOT ALLOWED... unless to change the toilet seats
and now that weMEN make more $$$ than men... they dont need a man. just romeos sperm donation so she can have HER KIDS and go on. i dont understand why any man has anything to do with the western woMAN. IT is just not worth it.
Most of the younger men working for me believe they were abandoned by their mothers when they were younger and go into a relationship looking for any red flag with the new GF. Most younger men grew up watching thier mothers manipulate guys and trade sex and morals for dinners, vacations, & money just to drop the guy cold and move on or have multiple BFs and continuously rotate through men and not pay attention to the kids. So when they become young men and have a GF do the same thing to them - they begin treating women in the same fashion. They have friends who were screwed over by a wife and the court system and they quickly lose trust in everyone & everything. Add to this the cost of a date night and many younger men would prefer to stay home and play video games. There is no longevity in anything now, relationships, employers, stock investments, cars, nothing. Everything is geared towards short term enjoyment and monthly payments.
@@roryteal5940 - of course they do. But who gets screwed the most often in divorce court. I tell my employees to focus on their careers until 35 or 40 & then go to Asia or South America and find a good wife and start a family then. I did and my little Filipina is great!! And the friends I have that did the same thing are just as hapoy today as when they married their foreign girls 15 & 20 years ago.
@@roryteal5940 That is mostly because women will only date Chads who P&D them all the time. Most men are happy with a 5 or 6 as long as she isn't woke or a raging fnist.
I got false accusations for simply having a platonic friend That was a female, her co-worker didn't like the Idea of me talking to her so she started spreading rumors. So you don't even have to have romantic intentions to be lied about.
Jesus guys there you go with the hysteria. Do you realize how often false allegations are laid out on men that just approached a woman in public?!? It’s much much less than 1% yet you act like it’s common lol.. for your own sake get offline more often as its warping your mind
@@Outlander-wm9cdso are you going to stop living altogether? Are you not going to go out in public because of air born diseases? Would you never dare start a business just because most fail?
The positives of living single. At 74, the record is as follows, 40 + cars, 18 motorcycles, 6 yachts, driven buses all over Australia, driven trucks and semi-trailers, with lots of great memories, been in business, ( built about 200 houses),and worked, and lived in many different places , with many great memories. Married once, 5 relationships, and living single with many memories of a great life..😁😁😁
Youve described a lot of me. I dont date anymore i dont want the drama and the money problems for a whole other person. Sex isnt worth it for me and i definitely dont want kids, financial burden for 28 or more years no thank you.
I'm a life long single guy now 49. Bottom line, I was never happier when I had a girlfriend than single. Single I have zero stress, I have zero financial issues and I have 100% control over my finances, I have zero risk of loosing half my retirement to a woman or getting thrown outa my home. Remaining single doesn't mean lonely, doesn't mean lack of female companionship, it just means doing what makes me happiest. And the fact that women are now liberated means we no longer have to make any commitment to get the milk for free. Bottom line, I'd rather go for a motorcycle ride, eat pizza, hang out with buddies and spend an hour or 2 with a lady than move one in and deal with all the headaches. If a young man doesn't want kids with a lady and has hobbies, dog, toys, etc I don't really think moving a modern women in an a serial monogamy western culture has a lot of benefit. And don't even get me started on subsidizing her kids and her lifestyle expenses, baby dad drama, etc. I will not move a Western women in, full stop!
Im a 31yr male minority in America. I have traveled to the Phillipines, Thailand, and a few other countries. Very beautiful women in other countries. However, im still very scared of getting used. Im average looking, slim, and do well for myself Financially. Ive dated a few American women and they had issues i stupidly ignored until coming to my senses. I want real love, respect, etc. Im not a player and attempt to date or even talk to multiple women. I just have too much for myself to risk it all for any woman who can, and do "act" like they love me until a better looking or richer man comes around and she accepts.
Believe it or not, women aren't like that. Been married 35 yrs. as of yesterday. Women don't just throw away their "investment" that they gave their youth to....for someone better looking or richer. You're not going to get used. You sound like a nice man; there are nice ladies out there. Why give up the chance of having a family with children just because you are scared. Nothing to be scared of...honestly most women don't act that way. Give it a chance.
I have a 40 year old son. 6'2", sparkling green eyes and blonde hair. He works for a law firm in a major US city making 6 figures. He had girlfriends his whole life. He took two girls to his high school Prom. He was a bartender in a hipster bar through college. His last live-in girlfriend was as he described; abusive. She looked like a model and made industrial training movies. She was an alcoholic and was put in resident rehab by her family when she was found incoherent one day. That was 5 years ago. He went through a deep depression. She tried to contact him when she got out but he blew her off. He hasn't dated since. I think it traumatized him. He doesn't talk about it. Says he would like to have a family but seems afraid to move forward.
That heart broken hope he will find peace and healing someday The widow who lost husband this year 17 years thank you for doing these videos I really appreciate it I am the widow
A lot of it is internet and social media. SOME women think that they are worth everything a man has no matter how pucked up they are. I was a player back before there was a word for it. If something ever happens to my wife I seriously doubt I would ever get into a relationship again.
dating in the US is way too expensive, way too time consuming and way too exhausting, women are just too difficult to please and always on the lookout for the better deal and it's easy for them since they don't invest anything in the dating process and are just along for the ride. The last girl I dated even told me straight up that her friends just go out with guys they are not interested in just because they have nothing better to do on a Friday night. That really opened my eyes. Perhaps it is different outside the US, I don't know but the women in the US, forget it... better to stay single and spend the money on yourself.
That was not my experience as a girl...at all. I think that was just that one girl you met. Girls never do this...trust me. But if you'd rather stay single...that's your business.
My opinion is younger men have witnessed and or experienced dramatic, unappreciative women with bad attitudes with constant complaints. In some cases it’s enough to turn anyone off. Life is to be filled with as much happiness and enjoyment as possible. Not the constant stress of nagging and the flow of negativity with headaches from a spouse, gf etc. Great conversation subject, Thank you for sharing 👌🏾✌🏾!
A man is NOT intimidated by a woman who makes more money than he does. The problem is that a woman who makes more money than a man will look down on that man as inferior and her attitude towards him will reflect that. It is her attitude that the man finds off-putting. No man wants to be thought of as “less than” in their relationship with their woman. Saying that a man is intimidated by a successful woman is like saying that a man is intimidated by a woman with bad body odor. He’s not intimidated by her; he simply finds her to be unattractive and even repulsive. So it is not “intimidation”, but rather, it is “disinterest” that prevents a man from pursuing a woman in a higher socioeconomic class. It is an eternal truth that women want to be wanted and men need to be needed. For the past several thousands of years, women have needed men to provide resources and men have wanted women because of their youth, their beauty, and their fertility. When a woman does not need a man, the man‘s need to feel needed will never be satisfied, so a relationship with such a woman will never be fulfilling. The same is true in reverse. Women are not “intimidated“ by gay men, they are simply disinterested in them. A gay man is a man who will never “want“ a woman and therefore a woman’s desire to be “wanted“ by her man will never be satisfied by a gay man, so a relationship with such a man will never be fulfilling. It doesn’t matter how tall or muscular or handsome or strong or wealthy or educated or high-status a gay man is, even though these are all things that women want in a man. Because he doesn’t “want” her, she is disinterested in having a relationship with him; she is not intimidated by him. In either scenario “intimidation“ plays no role. This is a very important point. Women often assert that men are “intimidated” by their education, their professions, their entrepreneurial spirit, their high-powered jobs, and/or their high status. This is denial and self-delusion on the part of the woman. Women simply refuse to acknowledge that the jobs, diplomas, and high status professions that they have spent their whole lives striving for actually make women less attractive to men. This is not only because men know that women will look down on men who have not achieved the same level of success, but also because these women have squandered their youth, their beauty, and their fertility in the pursuit of professional and educational success. It is only after these women have reached the top of their mountain that they realize that their high status not only fails to attract men, but also that it repels men for the reasons stated above.
It is very hard to be objective about this, since I am nearing the age of the vlogger. But in general, the 1960's had dances, the 1950's had sock hops. The 1940's had cotillion. There were institutions that existed for dating. What is the equivalent now? Women have changed, less marrying, more working and making more money. Entertainment has become more difficult in general, think about drunk driving for example. The practice originating in the 1950's I guess, of driving around all night, drinking and socializing at bars, is now illegal as hell. People respond to that with "ride share". It's not the same. The car was part of the courtship, the social pecking order, and man's best friend for those nights where that's all you take home. My generation might say "there is nothing to do", but in reality, some of the same things exist, only we are too old to do them the same way. My generation is the 1980's and sadly, alcohol was a big part of the formula for being "where the women are", and for many of us, that has been killed off due to many factors. Don't know if young people still collect in gathering places at night to drink and people watch, and possibly "hook up". That would be an interesting survey, that would explain some of it, although, people in my generation did exercise a lot of restraint about making a marriage from a bar connection.. Seems like this video makes a case for the Phillipines. Sounds like men are not condemned for, lets say pressuring women in public, over there. If I even look at a women for an extra second, I will get a dirty look from a bystander male, who has no involvement whatsoever. Society just thinks public places are taboo for enjoying the opposite sex. Women go to the gym almost naked, and yet demand "expectation of privacy' even while they film themselves for internet consumption. People have enormous power, wealth, and entitlement here now, and that can interfere with courtship quite easily. Even in my youth, I dated outside of my own school, because that was a safe quiet space to do it. Maybe the Phillipines has become that for American men now. Thanks.
Times have changed and Modern Women are the Reason! Anyone 50 or younger understands that nowadays. The Majority of Younger Filipinas have also changed as well Mark, just Saying you’re just in the Minority with yours…
Truth is women have changed for the better and men have changed for the worse. Men have grown so weak in the past 15 years that they no longer know how to respond to whatever it is they are scared of be it women, work, family. The "I'll stay single" movement is just another characteristic of the zombie epidemic. They would rather sit and do nothing but stare at a 5" screen all day.
Unless you want children, you're a fool to commit to a woman. If you do want kids - god help you. Women today aren't worth the headache and risk. I've been married and have had a wide range of relationships with a wide range of types of women over decades. At 52, I realized I was better off without them and that it would have been better had I realized that YEARS earlier. I was never really hurt by women, but I simply realized that interacting with them was always a net negative for my life. No mas.
Dating and girlfriends are more expensive these days. Dinners minimum of $100. Show $50 minimum. Concerts live shows $500 cheap seats ….I can’t afford anymore. It sucks 🙁
You have described so comprehensively all the various and complex factors behind men no longer dating (often leading to celibacy for those unwilling or unable turn to sw).
I was once on the receiving end of a false harassment allegation by some opportunistic co-worker, and I can tell you, it's among one of the most awful feelings in the world. Thankfully, I had a good lawyer who put the kibosh on her and her shady lawyer, and he stopped things from getting really ugly. For a year and a half, I was on the edge of my seat, not knowing what was gong on or if my name was going to get tarnished for no valid reason. It could've been dragged through the courts with my name getting dragged through the mud, but thankfully it did not. It still didn't make the experience any less scary and worrisome. Today's female co-workers -- you can't trust them as far as you can throw them!
Such a shame you went thru that. Let me tell you that's not the norm. Common sense tells you that it's not a good idea dating anybody you work with...but there are lots of dating sites and avenues to get potential mates. Don't let this one incident sour you on women in general.
Best advice I can give any young man these days is this: If you are at all mechanically inclined and a tool user, after high school go to a trade school. Many times you will get paid through all or part of your apprenticeship. When you finish your debt to earnings ratio will be quite low. No 6 figure debt for a worthless piece of paper. Live well below your means in everyway possible. Study about finance and investing. Start your retirement plan as soon as possible. By the time you are 30 you could be well on your way to being or already financially independent. Spend that 10 years between 20~30 working on yourself. Toast Masters or similar organizations are a good way to learn how to talk to people. Get in shape physically, no need to go overboard. Good nutrition is a must. And perhaps the most important thing is to keep learning. Diversify your knowledge base. If you start today in 10 years you will be on your way...provided of course the world doesn't get completely flushed down the toilet.
Why should guys my age even bother trying anymore? Im 26 and i feel like everything just feels like its moving farther and farther from me and its becoming harder to attain or own anything.
Great analysis, thorough, fair, balanced and wise. This is likely going to cause a big depopulation problem for the countries where this occurs. You can plug the gap with migrants for a while, but that will cause issues aswell.
If a woman is genuinely interested she will let you know don't worry about that.. and if they're not letting you know (which is what's happening to me these days) I'm not bothering, nor am i playin. I've moved on to more interesting things anyway (keep all my money, invest it and take comfort in the world around me) along with continuing to love women in their own right, but it doesnt necessarilly mean I have to get romantically involved with them... who cares... Let me add now I've just realised and remembered that; time spent doting on another individual 24/7 (or being doted on,) can rob you of many of lifes experiences and interactions outside the relationship that you would have had if it wasn't for wanting to spend time with your partner all the time (it can become quite habitual) probably a nice thing in older age, but as a younger person, there's so much to do out there why tie up your time/life with one specific individual?
I was widowed 5 years ago ( She was a good women and still miss her) but I was joking with my family the other day that I haven't been wrong about anything for 5 years , then it occurred to me that I wasn't actually joking.
I don’t hook up, I don’t drink and I don’t do drugs. I have a great state job and I always do things out side of work to better myself. Unfortunately, I’m not popular with the women because I’m seen as “boring” and “not fun”. Oh well, I’m set for life so I don’t really give af.
Yes, but with more and more men being denied access to real women for dating/relationships, porn usage has to rise... It's not like a man's sexual desires and instincts magically go away just because they've decided women aren't worth dating...
Not so young at age 52, but you hit all the drivers of the current dating/relationship scene (or lack thereof). Even now, I sometimes ask myself if I need to be in a relationship and what will I get out of it and the answer I always arrive at is 'nothing'. The irony is that despite all the dating apps/sites out there, there are more single people now than ever before! Why? Because like you said, it's considered perfectly normal to be a single adult in society today as opposed to previous generations. Moreover, again as you mentioned the high divorce rate and also the rise of individualism has given impetus to singledom.
I think it is such a pedestrian take to just say "guys dont engage girls due to fear of rejection"... so intellectually lazy to just blame the men... is it not valid to say women have unbearable (toxic) behavior most of the time? Can we say that we dont like masculine, "strong, independent, empowered" women without being ostricized?
You forgot that they want the privileges of a woman, the authority of a man, and the accountability of a child. Don't forget the "strong independent boss woman that don't need no man" is also fluid and can identify as any of these based on what serves her best in that moment.
But it is true to an extent, many younger guys are terrified of approaching a girl. They have completely warped their mind as to how hard this is when in actuality, it isn’t.. at all .. most girls want to be approached
Some valid points here, but also a lot of blame placed on men. Thank god you touched on female hypergamy and effects of social media toward the end. I'd suggest reading up on those some more. It's women who generally date up to higher status, not men who hold out for prettier girls to get laid.
if u go on a basic date ,out to dinner, with tip your looking at at least 45 bucks with tip.then u go to the movies after dinner and get both a drink and popcorn.thats about 35 bucks.thats a total of 80 bucks.Young men just can't afford to do that very often.
Men don't do that anymore. They never did. You either get to go out to eat, usually at a mid to low cost restaurant OR you go out to a movie with popcorn OR you go out for one or two drinks...only one of those. And that is reasonable. Women are far less demanding than they say here in the comments...and far more reasonable.
I don’t know what other guys do, but I spend quite a chunk of time in an apprenticeship and worked after that to saved money for university. My escape was the gym, sports & IT, which made me more money. Now I got my university founds together and can go to university and quit my job. I also took the entrance exams for med school and they were quite good, I passed the bar. At this point in my life I don’t have time. If there’s a person that would like to join me on my way, I’m okey with that. Until that point I reached everything myself and there haven’t been giving any gender incentives to me.
I'm 38, and that was a surprisingly good breakdown. While you touched on porn addiction, which is rife, and no doubt plays a part in individuals lacking the "drive" to push past the fear of rejection ... in some unknown fraction of the male population, porn also causes erectile dysfunction. Of course, this doesn't seem to be happening to all men or even the majority, because if it were, virtually all men who aren't actively abstaining from porn would suffer ED, and that obviously isn't the case, but, there are forums with hundreds of thousands of sufferers. I'll be brief, but I suffered from ED from early teens (when I started looking at porn) all the way till I was past 30, before I learned online that porn was causing it. And I wasn't watching a huge quantity of it, or watching bizarre content. I went to countless doctors for help and received less than none. I went for stints of not watching it on the hunch that maybe it was playing a part, but unfortunately, you have to abstain from porn and masturbation for a VERY long time for this to heal itself, and thus no one would ever go to the lengths one needs to go to heal unless told to do so - it's very hard, cravings are tough to push through. Anyway, failing to get hard with the girls when I was young absolutely demolished my self esteem, and then going another decade and change with this problem, well, it totally changed my entire personality ... and all the other men on the forums tell the same tale. Luckily for those younger than I, at least now the information is out there and I think younger men are now taking porn a little more seriously and seeing it for what it really is - a drug.
@@danbaumann8273 yes because of culture , marriage laws and dating expectations and just dating scene in general due to social media make dating unfair for 90% of men
8:50 I have encouraged my oldest son to asking girls to dance when he was in 7th grade. I told him not to ask the prettiest girls but the sweetest girl. This is to boost his confidence and to normalize socializing with girls. Told him to endure rejections and move on from it. Trying to do that with my second one….he just won’t listen. As a mom, I tried hard to help my sons learning soft skills.
Let’s face it - access to women has always cost men money. It apparently is better in places like Philippines, but there is cost one way or another. Just a fact of life. Pay up or be single.
Women these days are too picky. An average girl, who is a 6 or 7 at best, acts like she is a perfect 10. I had to lower my expectations and date a girl who weighed over 500 lbs.
I'm a child of divorce. When you see so many marriages fail from the time you're a kid well into adulthood, you seriously question the entire narrative around happily ever after. I do meet women sometimes in my day-to-day life who I think would make great wives, but what are the odds of finding someone like that on a dating site or some other way that singles meet? Seems like you're more likely to meet women who have serious issues or are just gold diggers. Anyway the thought of it makes me not even want to try. I'm busy 7 days a week running my own business and life is fine so why complicate it with an unnecessary relationship.
This is just the times we are living in. Its not mens fault. There are many reasons. For instance internet, feminism, bad economy, insane house prices need two salaries etc The economy needs a big reset, if we let money rule things wil not look good
If you are recharged by socializing, then you should marry a good person. If you are drained by socializing, then you should not marry a bad person. Everyone else is in between and must search for their own balance.
Some of what you,re saying is true but you shed men in a bad light. Weak, broke, low self esteem, etc. Young men are much wiser now with the information on social media. Divorce courts, women with high body counts and single mothers, modern women, unrealistic expectations . What male wants to go through this.Even you Mark got a feminine lady from another country.( if you were young again would you pursue a modern women ?)
Considering women’s body counts nowadays & having false domestic violence changes filed against me by my Ex wife twice….it’s a business. And, women & the corporate State know it and all use it to profit. Especially in divorce proceedings where again, the State favors women to men’s financial ruin. Financially, a binding marriage contract is the worst financial investment a single man can make in his lifetime. -Miggy.
@@everymanhasastoryoh yeah for me it's worked well as well as Bumble app too. I am 41 and never had issues finding dates online in Vancouver, BC. The women outnumber guys here consideraby and come from all backgrounds. Being 6'2 and looking younger and fit for my age helps I still get late 20s and 30s and 40s women all wanting to go out for second dates, third ones, etc. Some do pressure for serious relationships, marriage, etc but I am in no motivation because of the options. I prefer my own space and living alone too. I guess I am the reverse of normal society. I am perfectly fine without partners too
I ditched dating (for LTR/marriage) in my early twenties already. The repeating behavioral pattern of women was impossible to ignore. Even ditched casual dating all together later on. They're just too annoying to be around overall, for some quick in and out. And you still have to cover your ass legally on every step. Nah thanks.
Speaking for women everywhere...if what you said is how you really think...it's "Nah thanks" to you too. You should see his video "The Death of Dating...Are Women To Blame or Is It Us?"
In America I'd never advice not to get married. I wished I'd knew and was given the problems of the red flags early in my life I would have never married . I would have had a good retirement . But in the earlier days it was what you do. . But again I wished I'd never married so I'd ended up with small money living in the Philippine and alone. But in peace.
You hit the nail on the head. Porn and the iPhone has completely F’d a generation. Let’s start a movement of going back to the landline. F the cell phone
1 - it’s just expensive, middle class standard of living is almost unreachable 2 - experience of observing broken marriages and devastated guys who slaved their whole life just to end up in a humiliating divorce 3 - girls like only 10% of guys and got extremely needy 4 - porn. And overall infantilism. I deem modern 29 y olds as 19 at best. They even look like teenagers.
Financial education is what we need right now for more than 70% of the society in the country as very few are literate on the subject. Thanks to Stacey Macken, the woman that changed my financial life.
Honestly, I'm surprised that this mrs Stacey Macken is mentioned here, came across a testimony about her from one of the beneficiaries on the CNBC news, she seems to be doing extremely well .
She understands every beginner's intention and fix you to a trading course that matches your capacity, she knows her stuff! Her advice has been invaluable to my trading journey. Definitely worth giving a shot
I have been on the wrong side for far long and I'm willing to make consultations to improve my situation. What is the most reliable medium to reach her please?
Men are not intimidated by a woman that make more, women are intimidated at the idea of NOT paying for dinner because they make more than he does which is the fair thing to do.
As an early 30s man, you absolutely nailed the problems on the head and perfectly described the issues.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
Glad you enjoyed it 😊
“Nowadays everybody is divorced” - so true. It used to be that if you came from a divorced house, you felt you had to explain why. Nowadays if your parents remained married, you feel like you must explain why.
The guys I know that used to tell me I'm missing out by not having a family have gotten their asses handed to them in divorces. They don't say much about it now.
and got their assets handed to those who loot, injure and humiliate them, including the kidnapping and alienation of children at their expense and false accusations and destruction of reputation.
Lol
And the fact the children are living/influenced by the mother and whomever she has as a partner at any given time.
Years later I have bought broken dudes drinks and thanked them for stealing my woman years earlier. They sure didn't look like "winners" to me. They got the child support and alimony. I got a new vette. Now, that's winning. Lol.
@@jamest2861 that vette tho... ooofffff gotta love the gas guzzling LS engine...
Marriage is like a tornado , at first there’s a lot of blowing and sucking and then you lose your house
@@ElmwoodParkHulk Good one I’ll use that next time at the Pub…😂✌🏻🍺
😂😂
In my case I lost $590,000.
@@jimwilson9690 I can relate Lost $700000 Total to the Ex after 32 years! But the Price of Freedom is finally beginning to offset that over here in SE Asia.
@@jimwilson9690 yikes 😳
1) the juice isn't worth the squeeze
2) men have few options, women have endless options. A woman can walk down the street and find a boyfriend even if she is unemployed and broke as long as she is not too ugly. To be eligible a man has to have a good job, a place to live, and look handsome.
3) men usually lose a lot in marriage, women usually gain a lot
And online dating favors women, 100 - 1. That has been studied and proven over and over again.
@FindingThumos yes I have emotionally detached from getting involved I only want friends and associates, nothing more. Im strong and busy enough in my own life while still loving and appreciating others for who they are and their hopes and dreams, but I have taken out any hopes for romance unless it is an absolutely genuine encounter, otherwise I'm not chasing or forcing anything. It does seem a little strange and peculiar to be honest but that's where I'm at. It has also taken a while to come to terms with it but anyway here I am lol
“Men have few options”
That’s their own fault though. If they exercised, worked on social skills and worked at their career they’d be very valuable partners to many women. Instead they want to wallow in self pity and how unfair it is
I don’t want to know the amount of time guys spend(or waste) watching this type of content and complaining about the same things over and over
@@BrisLS1so don’t use dating apps then! Why you guys insist on using dating apps when you could just go out and talk to women is beyond me.. it’s so much easier to attract women face to face
@@brianmeen2158 Even men who do all those things have few options compared to a woman who doesn't exercise, doesn't have ssocial skills, and doesn't have a careerr. That's my point.
I’m 58. I worked at a corporation that used outside law firms and an attorney (a man) invited me and two men he worked with to dinner. “Karen” heard about it and went to my boss, accusing me of being misogynistic, since I was the department manager, and I didn’t invite her. It wasn’t my invitation. Nonetheless, I was called into the office and written up for being a woman hating misogynist, which is completely false. I was given the choice of signing the document admitting that I was guilty or it would be referred to HR. I was considered guilty before I even walked in the office. I signed the document and left the company eight months later. The workplace is so toxic that even when you do everything correct a woman will make a false allegation and she is believed. I’m now economically independent and don’t work and life is good.
You should not have signed the document and walked out right then …
I understand why you did as you did AND " GOOD FOR YOU"! They are/were wrong!
Scroll up and read my comment. You nailed it. The Corporate STATE favors women. Especially in divorce & domestic violence cases based on false allegations. Financially, a marriage contract is absolutely the worst financial investment a man can make in his lifetime.
So sorry that happened to you, bro. 🙏 Glad you're doing well. I am celibate and financially independent, And well🙏
That's effd up. I never let companies pressure me into signing anything. And when performance evaluations came I would get a smaller or not raise. It was okay though because I had started my quiet quit when they tried to force me to sign a bs document.
As a woman, corporations screw both genders.
Men are not intimidated by high earning women theyre irritated by them...
i hate when they say INTIMIDATED-- i am not INTIMIDATED because a woman has a nice car. i dont feel threathened because a chick has a job....
he gets to be the woman and the woMAN is the MAN... with kids in tow from previous relationships. no one marries anymore, just have kids as kids and go on. get free everything from gov/taxpayers for having kids and not being married.
90% of these high earning women are over their head in debt.
My wife makes 3 times as much as me and she is gonna help us retire early.
And she IS. my soulmate.
stop with the projections.
What he's saying is 100% correct. I'm 34, tall, in shape, own home, never married/no kids and not on the dating market. Just me, my dog, and my hobbies keeping busy outside of work. Unfortunately the juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
That isn't really what he is saying tho, he is kinda just blaming men
How do you get to your biological urges
@@Dober_mon Just get one of those call women if your in the mood.
@@Dober_mon Guess choke the chicken with porn on the background
@@sunkillsmoon
He is a boomer and so am I. We were programmed to think that way. He moved to punany heaven so he still sees life that way.
They aren’t putting the work in because they don’t see women as worth the effort.
That's mostly copium. They don't see the effort as worth it because they have convinced themselves that they cannot succeed even if they try. They fall into the trap of pointing their finger at other people (usually women in this case) instead of looking in the mirror and realizing that that is where their main problem is.
@@sandman1347 Men want families. Promiscuous women are more likely to cheat and divorce their husbands. Modern women aren’t wife material. It’s reality. Traditionalist live in a reality long gone.
@sandman1347 what does "success" look like when living with a woman?
I literally have no idea.
@@JeffCaplan313 I would define it loosely as both people having substantially better lives together than they would have apart.
@@sandman1347yep these guys try their hardest to justify not even trying to meet women so they don’t risk discomfort
Trying to date and obtain a girl that you really like is exhausting work. And even if you get her, it’s tremendously difficult to keep the relationship going while you juggle everything else in life.
Agreed. And expensive.
It’s always been very difficult to maintain relationships though! It’s only in 2024 do people think it takes too much work lol.. laziness and addiction to comfort has paralyzed many of you
@@brianmeen2158 I’m not saying to give up. I’m just stating how difficult it is. Even when you have a relationship, girls many times cannot sit still and demand non stop attention. It’s not easy. 30 years ago, women were more submissive to becoming wives and girlfriends. They relaxed more.
@@brianmeen2158 Any self-respecting man will realize at a certain point it isn't worth it. The older generation completely bought into the idea that man's role was to maintain women at any cost. Better to invest the effort into one's self.
@@brianmeen2158 but who is paying?
I haven’t dated since 2004 when I got divorced
I feel for you.
20 years! Why??
@@frontendzen4852 It could be the location they are located in.
@@frontendzen4852 23 years for me, dated and had relationships after my divorce in 1993 and in the years that followed could not find a good woman just a lot of single mothers who weren't wife material so by 2003 I had enough and just haven't bothered anymore
last date i went on i was psychoanalyzed by the woMAN with a masters in ... WTF... if all the ... are going to just shat upon me... why bother. NEVER EVER AGAIN. been 15 yrs since gone out with any woMAN. IT IS JUST NOT WORTH IT!!
I was married, a good husband and she left with no explanation. It has become a risk today, not a time to settle and build something with one`s life. Divorce has become so common, that there are more divorces than marriages. Modern women view men as nothing and they have lost their femininity. So, its better to be single and healthy.
Single, healthy & wealthy. Financially, a marriage contract is absolutely the worst financial decision a man can & will make in their lifetime. The Corporate STATE favors the women in divorce & life. They’ve gotten a free pass for being Cunts and men have had it. And, Western women have absolutely no one to blame but themselves
No such thing as 'no explanation ' if she left there was a good reason. Good husband? Says who? Look at your mistakes! Look at what went wrong and FIX IT with the next one.
I've BEEN IN THAT SITUATION. I wouldn't put up with her nonsense so she found someone who would. She left. At the time devastating, but after I met someone else all worked out great!
Be hard on yourself. But be true to yourself.
After all that experienceI have women asking ME OUT.😅😅
"I'm kinda glad I grew up when I did." So true, bro'. I am 73, a self-employed professional, never married, have seen the world, and have the fondest memories of being cared for by loving parents throughout the 50s and 60s. I've had a lot of relationships that have ended for different reasons but the core realization was that signing a contract to pay her bills for the rest of my life and, if things didn't work out she would get all my stuff, made me realize stay clear of this marriage crap.
I'm 60, but. I agree. I got married, divorced, but got out of it. My ex was normally good at reading a room but..... The divorce judge was a woman and my ex went ahead playing her games. She pissed off the judge so much my ex got child support and that's it. The judge told her not to even think of asking for anything else.
Now I'm living a totally different life without women and it's great.
As a young guy i didn't realise how important it is in the dating game to have status. Shit job and low pay equals little opportunity. It also affects your confidence. Good news is now im older i don't really give a crap lol.
As a retired desk clerk/mailman I confirm your thesis
@TheVigilantEye77 lol. warehouse worker / indoor plant 🪴 technician , now general labourer . Ive not exactly moved up the corporate ladder either 😀Lol.
You got to admit Mark, even the philippino ladies are starting to change, and not for the better. I remember when the internet came out, and said this would be the beginning of the end for the human race. This is the reason for the lack of morals, and responsibility, on both sides. I'm not religious but the lack this has also cause these problems.
You have a valid point. Thank you for watching ☺️
I pay over $2k monthly to taxes. I'm quite certain there is a women out there and probably a few kids that depend on me... of course they don't need to know that.
Thanks government!
@chrisniner8772 that's right...and that's enough let alone adding more directly to the wallet
Men - you such just save up, retire early get your free medicaid, screw the system.
darn nice of u to do that for some other female with romeos kids in tow. of course romeo doesnt pay as he is too busy being "cool" and banging all the females/in and out of jail/prison as he is "cool" and being "cool" is what it is all about. the bible was right... the meek will inherit the (OVERPOPULATED/polluted/running out of everything) Earth... through INDISCRIMINATE BREEDING BY THE MASSSES GO ROMEO GO... breed all the females
I'm one of those men who never asked a woman out and almost 30. They want men to leave them alone but also want men to chase them, I'm not playing these games
Make yourself great, mate. In ancient human history, most males never had offspring anyway. It's actually historically normal for most men not to breed. Let the tarts bang the alpha's, and let them be. Never be the beta-provider, been that sucker and I strongly do not recommend it to any guy. All the best.
I saw a few stats the really opened my eyes.
1. In 1970 86% of adults were married. Today it is 32%.
2. The 2020 census showed that for the first time in US history. There are more 30 year old women without kids then with kids.
not in the SOUTH and SW where the indigenous girls love to have romeos baby and never marry him as she cant get FULL SUPPORT from the taxpayers. they start having kids as kids in the #1 state for teen pregnancy... little mesico.
by 2030 Am. women 25-40 half will be single and childless if trends continue
Not sure where you got those numbers. According to a Pew Research Center analysis in 2023, 51% of adults in the United States are currently married. This is down from 72% in 1960.
@@dychejs I heard half the adults in USA today are single, we are at the lowest marriage rates in our history now
So what are you waiting for? Huge numbers of single women out there! Get out there and find some action 😂😂😂
the advent of technology ie dating apps IG TikTok etc and the result being .. literally endless options for young to even older women .. combined with hypergamy .. has doomed massive numbers of young men to complete 'invisibility' in the dating world .. as a 50 + year old my heart goes out to them 💔 grateful to have experienced my youth when i did
And that's the bottom line!
Right on buddy, you nailed it better than the video.
@mcp4490
thanks for the acknowledgement
Thanks Mark for this video. I agree 100 percent what you said. Additionally the family court in most cases is a slaughterhouse for most men here in the West.
@@zigmond7799 slaughter house lol
Marriage is the "catching yard"
This is the dating world that women have created. Unfortunately long after we’re gone, it’s going to take at least a couple generations for this situation to possibly change.
Things are going to have to get worse before men are motivated to actually change things
It’s not going to change. Time marches on, it does not turn back. It’s like going back to horses after we all have cars already, ain’t happening my guy
@@dmoneydmoney6050 Agreed. So what is the birthrate is zero? If the population of the world drops by 75%, it won't be a big deal. So what?
@@dmoneydmoney6050 "change" doesn't mean going back. It means going to something more functional.
It's a two way street. You can blame technology. It's made less attractive people rendered useless as technology allows everyone to find partners. Many guys my younger age have so many partners all the time. It's just how it is.
I had a wife 10 years, she decided to leave.
I have been married most all my life. Just to different women.
Now, I have girlfriends.
Wow. I got nothing.
i cant even have that as ALL females in the south/SW have kids as kids... gramma at 32... great gramma at 50... im not going to tailor my life around THE KIDS THE KIDS THE KIDS... THE GRANDKIDS that get dumped on gramma cuz the kid split and no one wants the kids. NOT MY KIDS... NOT MY PROBLEM
All the problems mentioned were inevitable since feminism amd giving women rights. And this is just yhe beginning.
But also education, better economy and the choise of freedom instead of a relationship. A hundred years ago, women got married becase the needed someone to support them, and starting a family without beeing married first was out the question.
@@Bighand4 yes, education, work, choice of who to marry (or not) are all rights that men have given women. The problem is in all these things they act based on their emotions.
robotic wemen in 20 yrs... men and wemen will part company. men will do the hard dirty dangerous work in the mines/oilfields/power lines/constuction and wemen will rule the office world where MEN ARE NOT ALLOWED... unless to change the toilet seats
Having a wife and family is very expensive.
and now that weMEN make more $$$ than men... they dont need a man. just romeos sperm donation so she can have HER KIDS and go on. i dont understand why any man has anything to do with the western woMAN. IT is just not worth it.
Marriage gets even more expensive when it turns to divorce.
Actually ruinous...
🇦🇺😎👍I haven’t been on a date for 16 years. I’ve given up. I haven’t had a girlfriend for 21 years🤣
Same here my friend
I was on a date 3.5 years ago; but I haven’t had a GF since me 2nd wife left me 10 years ago. But I have decided to make my own happiness.
Get a dog or a cat people are overrated
@@nancyamaral5620 Or plushies. FaceTime and work keeps me busy for now.
Wow! And I thought 4 years for me so far was a lot 😂
You dropped this king - 👑
Most of the younger men working for me believe they were abandoned by their mothers when they were younger and go into a relationship looking for any red flag with the new GF. Most younger men grew up watching thier mothers manipulate guys and trade sex and morals for dinners, vacations, & money just to drop the guy cold and move on or have multiple BFs and continuously rotate through men and not pay attention to the kids. So when they become young men and have a GF do the same thing to them - they begin treating women in the same fashion. They have friends who were screwed over by a wife and the court system and they quickly lose trust in everyone & everything. Add to this the cost of a date night and many younger men would prefer to stay home and play video games. There is no longevity in anything now, relationships, employers, stock investments, cars, nothing. Everything is geared towards short term enjoyment and monthly payments.
That scenario goes both ways. If you go to women's channels bitching about men they have the issues men claim with women.
You can thank the government and the Federal Reserve for that
@@roryteal5940 - of course they do. But who gets screwed the most often in divorce court. I tell my employees to focus on their careers until 35 or 40 & then go to Asia or South America and find a good wife and start a family then. I did and my little Filipina is great!! And the friends I have that did the same thing are just as hapoy today as when they married their foreign girls 15 & 20 years ago.
Too true
@@roryteal5940
That is mostly because women will only date Chads who P&D them all the time. Most men are happy with a 5 or 6 as long as she isn't woke or a raging fnist.
Alcohol, gambling, drugs and porn. You described the 4 pillars of my existence.
Haha :p
@@marcusdirectnothing funny about that. It is sad
@@brianmeen2158 welcome to the the 21st century
Drop the drugs
whatever it takes
Yes, I'm glad I grew up when I did.
Just asking a women out can lead to false allegations.
I got false accusations for simply having a platonic friend That was a female, her co-worker didn't like the Idea of me talking to her so she started spreading rumors.
So you don't even have to have romantic intentions to be lied about.
Facts
Jesus guys there you go with the hysteria. Do you realize how often false allegations are laid out on men that just approached a woman in public?!? It’s much much less than 1% yet you act like it’s common lol.. for your own sake get offline more often as its warping your mind
@@Outlander-wm9cdso are you going to stop living altogether? Are you not going to go out in public because of air born diseases? Would you never dare start a business just because most fail?
Pure hysteria. You guys use the same dumb talking points every time
Too many young women playing there f****ing mind games. Even saying hello to them can be perceived as a threat.
totally.... a good way to talk to the POS cops over NOTHING!!!
now there's a wide brush !!
The positives of living single. At 74, the record is as follows, 40 + cars, 18 motorcycles, 6 yachts, driven buses all over Australia, driven trucks and semi-trailers, with lots of great memories, been in business, ( built about 200 houses),and worked, and lived in many different places , with many great memories. Married once, 5 relationships, and living single with many memories of a great life..😁😁😁
Congratulations 🎊 you've had a wonderful life
Oh man !!! You had me at 6 yachts !!!! damn
Youve described a lot of me. I dont date anymore i dont want the drama and the money problems for a whole other person. Sex isnt worth it for me and i definitely dont want kids, financial burden for 28 or more years no thank you.
I'm a life long single guy now 49. Bottom line, I was never happier when I had a girlfriend than single. Single I have zero stress, I have zero financial issues and I have 100% control over my finances, I have zero risk of loosing half my retirement to a woman or getting thrown outa my home. Remaining single doesn't mean lonely, doesn't mean lack of female companionship, it just means doing what makes me happiest. And the fact that women are now liberated means we no longer have to make any commitment to get the milk for free.
Bottom line, I'd rather go for a motorcycle ride, eat pizza, hang out with buddies and spend an hour or 2 with a lady than move one in and deal with all the headaches. If a young man doesn't want kids with a lady and has hobbies, dog, toys, etc I don't really think moving a modern women in an a serial monogamy western culture has a lot of benefit. And don't even get me started on subsidizing her kids and her lifestyle expenses, baby dad drama, etc. I will not move a Western women in, full stop!
A simple cost-benefit-risk analysis will usually keep a guy single.
Men who are married live longer and are statistically happier. Look it up.
Very low R.O.I (Return On Investment).
Time's have gone to shit tbh
Wahmen have gone to shit
Actually ...it's humans watching and copying other humans bad ways.
Im a 31yr male minority in America. I have traveled to the Phillipines, Thailand, and a few other countries. Very beautiful women in other countries. However, im still very scared of getting used. Im average looking, slim, and do well for myself Financially. Ive dated a few American women and they had issues i stupidly ignored until coming to my senses. I want real love, respect, etc. Im not a player and attempt to date or even talk to multiple women. I just have too much for myself to risk it all for any woman who can, and do "act" like they love me until a better looking or richer man comes around and she accepts.
Stay strong brother
Believe it or not, women aren't like that. Been married 35 yrs. as of yesterday. Women don't just throw away their "investment" that they gave their youth to....for someone better looking or richer. You're not going to get used. You sound like a nice man; there are nice ladies out there. Why give up the chance of having a family with children just because you are scared. Nothing to be scared of...honestly most women don't act that way. Give it a chance.
@@bettywith2girls in our generation they do. it's different for you boomer
@@bettywith2girlsyou're delusional
@@FindingThumos Lots of us boomers raised our daughters right! To be against the culture. In Christian homes to value our men.
I have a 40 year old son. 6'2", sparkling green eyes and blonde hair. He works for a law firm in a major US city making 6 figures.
He had girlfriends his whole life. He took two girls to his high school Prom. He was a bartender in a hipster bar through college. His last live-in girlfriend was as he described; abusive.
She looked like a model and made industrial training movies.
She was an alcoholic and was put in resident rehab by her family when she was found incoherent one day.
That was 5 years ago. He went through a deep depression. She tried to contact him when she got out but he blew her off. He hasn't dated since. I think it traumatized him. He doesn't talk about it. Says he would like to have a family but seems afraid to move forward.
That heart broken hope he will find peace and healing someday The widow who lost husband this year 17 years thank you for doing these videos I really appreciate it I am the widow
Bingo ! He is afraid.
"Don't get your Meat at the same place you make your Bread."
A lot of it is internet and social media. SOME women think that they are worth everything a man has no matter how pucked up they are. I was a player back before there was a word for it. If something ever happens to my wife I seriously doubt I would ever get into a relationship again.
dating in the US is way too expensive, way too time consuming and way too exhausting, women are just too difficult to please and always on the lookout for the better deal and it's easy for them since they don't invest anything in the dating process and are just along for the ride. The last girl I dated even told me straight up that her friends just go out with guys they are not interested in just because they have nothing better to do on a Friday night. That really opened my eyes. Perhaps it is different outside the US, I don't know but the women in the US, forget it... better to stay single and spend the money on yourself.
WOW!!! The desdain is real. Why bother dating all together?
That was not my experience as a girl...at all. I think that was just that one girl you met. Girls never do this...trust me. But if you'd rather stay single...that's your business.
My opinion is younger men have witnessed and or experienced dramatic, unappreciative women with bad attitudes with constant complaints. In some cases it’s enough to turn anyone off. Life is to be filled with as much happiness and enjoyment as possible. Not the constant stress of nagging and the flow of negativity with headaches from a spouse, gf etc. Great conversation subject, Thank you for sharing 👌🏾✌🏾!
A man is NOT intimidated by a woman who makes more money than he does. The problem is that a woman who makes more money than a man will look down on that man as inferior and her attitude towards him will reflect that. It is her attitude that the man finds off-putting. No man wants to be thought of as “less than” in their relationship with their woman. Saying that a man is intimidated by a successful woman is like saying that a man is intimidated by a woman with bad body odor. He’s not intimidated by her; he simply finds her to be unattractive and even repulsive. So it is not “intimidation”, but rather, it is “disinterest” that prevents a man from pursuing a woman in a higher socioeconomic class.
It is an eternal truth that women want to be wanted and men need to be needed. For the past several thousands of years, women have needed men to provide resources and men have wanted women because of their youth, their beauty, and their fertility. When a woman does not need a man, the man‘s need to feel needed will never be satisfied, so a relationship with such a woman will never be fulfilling. The same is true in reverse. Women are not “intimidated“ by gay men, they are simply disinterested in them. A gay man is a man who will never “want“ a woman and therefore a woman’s desire to be “wanted“ by her man will never be satisfied by a gay man, so a relationship with such a man will never be fulfilling. It doesn’t matter how tall or muscular or handsome or strong or wealthy or educated or high-status a gay man is, even though these are all things that women want in a man. Because he doesn’t “want” her, she is disinterested in having a relationship with him; she is not intimidated by him.
In either scenario “intimidation“ plays no role. This is a very important point. Women often assert that men are “intimidated” by their education, their professions, their entrepreneurial spirit, their high-powered jobs, and/or their high status. This is denial and self-delusion on the part of the woman. Women simply refuse to acknowledge that the jobs, diplomas, and high status professions that they have spent their whole lives striving for actually make women less attractive to men. This is not only because men know that women will look down on men who have not achieved the same level of success, but also because these women have squandered their youth, their beauty, and their fertility in the pursuit of professional and educational success. It is only after these women have reached the top of their mountain that they realize that their high status not only fails to attract men, but also that it repels men for the reasons stated above.
The world is overpopulated. It's okay to remain single. Pursue your hobbies, travel, enjoy life.
The birth rate is not keeping up with population replacement in the west. That will eventually have catastrophic consequences
How do you slow population growth without anyone even realizing it? Empower women (even to the point of absurdity) but say it's about equality.
It is very hard to be objective about this, since I am nearing the age of the vlogger. But in general, the 1960's had dances, the 1950's had sock hops. The 1940's had cotillion. There were institutions that existed for dating. What is the equivalent now? Women have changed, less marrying, more working and making more money. Entertainment has become more difficult in general, think about drunk driving for example. The practice originating in the 1950's I guess, of driving around all night, drinking and socializing at bars, is now illegal as hell. People respond to that with "ride share". It's not the same. The car was part of the courtship, the social pecking order, and man's best friend for those nights where that's all you take home. My generation might say "there is nothing to do", but in reality, some of the same things exist, only we are too old to do them the same way. My generation is the 1980's and sadly, alcohol was a big part of the formula for being "where the women are", and for many of us, that has been killed off due to many factors. Don't know if young people still collect in gathering places at night to drink and people watch, and possibly "hook up". That would be an interesting survey, that would explain some of it, although, people in my generation did exercise a lot of restraint about making a marriage from a bar connection..
Seems like this video makes a case for the Phillipines. Sounds like men are not condemned for, lets say pressuring women in public, over there. If I even look at a women for an extra second, I will get a dirty look from a bystander male, who has no involvement whatsoever. Society just thinks public places are taboo for enjoying the opposite sex. Women go to the gym almost naked, and yet demand "expectation of privacy' even while they film themselves for internet consumption. People have enormous power, wealth, and entitlement here now, and that can interfere with courtship quite easily. Even in my youth, I dated outside of my own school, because that was a safe quiet space to do it. Maybe the Phillipines has become that for American men now. Thanks.
Times have changed and Modern Women are the Reason! Anyone 50 or younger understands that nowadays. The Majority of Younger Filipinas have also changed as well Mark, just Saying you’re just in the Minority with yours…
Truth is women have changed for the better and men have changed for the worse. Men have grown so weak in the past 15 years that they no longer know how to respond to whatever it is they are scared of be it women, work, family. The "I'll stay single" movement is just another characteristic of the zombie epidemic. They would rather sit and do nothing but stare at a 5" screen all day.
Unless you want children, you're a fool to commit to a woman. If you do want kids - god help you. Women today aren't worth the headache and risk. I've been married and have had a wide range of relationships with a wide range of types of women over decades. At 52, I realized I was better off without them and that it would have been better had I realized that YEARS earlier. I was never really hurt by women, but I simply realized that interacting with them was always a net negative for my life. No mas.
*nunca mas
It's a shame you think that. Think of what you are missing out on.
@@bettywith2girlsfeminist
@@bettywith2girls He just wrote four complete lines that he thinks there's nothing to miss out on, lol. Maybe reread his comment.
Dating and girlfriends are more expensive these days. Dinners minimum of $100. Show $50 minimum. Concerts live shows $500 cheap seats ….I can’t afford anymore. It sucks 🙁
You have described so comprehensively all the various and complex factors behind men no longer dating (often leading to celibacy for those unwilling or unable turn to sw).
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
I was once on the receiving end of a false harassment allegation by some opportunistic co-worker, and I can tell you, it's among one of the most awful feelings in the world. Thankfully, I had a good lawyer who put the kibosh on her and her shady lawyer, and he stopped things from getting really ugly. For a year and a half, I was on the edge of my seat, not knowing what was gong on or if my name was going to get tarnished for no valid reason. It could've been dragged through the courts with my name getting dragged through the mud, but thankfully it did not. It still didn't make the experience any less scary and worrisome. Today's female co-workers -- you can't trust them as far as you can throw them!
That's terrible. I'm glad you got through it. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to share your experience 😊
Such a shame you went thru that. Let me tell you that's not the norm. Common sense tells you that it's not a good idea dating anybody you work with...but there are lots of dating sites and avenues to get potential mates. Don't let this one incident sour you on women in general.
Best advice I can give any young man these days is this:
If you are at all mechanically inclined and a tool user, after high school go to a trade school. Many times you will get paid through all or part of your apprenticeship. When you finish your debt to earnings ratio will be quite low. No 6 figure debt for a worthless piece of paper.
Live well below your means in everyway possible. Study about finance and investing.
Start your retirement plan as soon as possible. By the time you are 30 you could be well on your way to being or already financially independent. Spend that 10 years between 20~30 working on yourself. Toast Masters or similar organizations are a good way to learn how to talk to people. Get in shape physically, no need to go overboard. Good nutrition is a must. And perhaps the most important thing is to keep learning. Diversify your knowledge base.
If you start today in 10 years you will be on your way...provided of course the world doesn't get completely flushed down the toilet.
Great post
Thankfully I was born in 1952!
me too ... late 50's
Why should guys my age even bother trying anymore? Im 26 and i feel like everything just feels like its moving farther and farther from me and its becoming harder to attain or own anything.
You have a unique way of observing the obvious that most everyone does not notice!
Great analysis, thorough, fair, balanced and wise. This is likely going to cause a big depopulation problem for the countries where this occurs. You can plug the gap with migrants for a while, but that will cause issues aswell.
Yeah, they multiply and take over. Then live in squalor and destroy the infrastructure.
Smart men go where they are appreciated not tolerated…
If a woman is genuinely interested she will let you know don't worry about that.. and if they're not letting you know (which is what's happening to me these days) I'm not bothering, nor am i playin. I've moved on to more interesting things anyway (keep all my money, invest it and take comfort in the world around me) along with continuing to love women in their own right, but it doesnt necessarilly mean I have to get romantically involved with them... who cares...
Let me add now I've just realised and remembered that; time spent doting on another individual 24/7 (or being doted on,) can rob you of many of lifes experiences and interactions outside the relationship that you would have had if it wasn't for wanting to spend time with your partner all the time (it can become quite habitual) probably a nice thing in older age, but as a younger person, there's so much to do out there why tie up your time/life with one specific individual?
I literally have 0 happy, married friends.
Correction: I literally know 0 happy married men.
And the last time I asked a woman a question at work, I got my ass chewed out...
I can't wait for everything to 🔥
I was widowed 5 years ago ( She was a good women and still miss her) but I was joking with my family the other day that I haven't been wrong about anything for 5 years , then it occurred to me that I wasn't actually joking.
most men and women i know who are married are unhappy
You should get out more and meet more people. Statistically, married men live longer than single men, and are happier in general.
@@bettywith2girls Unfortunately, I'm autisticly inclined and not statistically inclined. 😭😭😭
when I was college in 74-80 very few girls on campus were approachable or friendly no matter where you met them
I don’t hook up, I don’t drink and I don’t do drugs. I have a great state job and I always do things out side of work to better myself. Unfortunately, I’m not popular with the women because I’m seen as “boring” and “not fun”. Oh well, I’m set for life so I don’t really give af.
Porn has done a lot of damage to our society, and hardly anyone talks about it.
Yes, but with more and more men being denied access to real women for dating/relationships, porn usage has to rise...
It's not like a man's sexual desires and instincts magically go away just because they've decided women aren't worth dating...
don't forget weed and cell phones.
Great video! What a blessing it is to have come of age when we did!
Not so young at age 52, but you hit all the drivers of the current dating/relationship scene (or lack thereof). Even now, I sometimes ask myself if I need to be in a relationship and what will I get out of it and the answer I always arrive at is 'nothing'. The irony is that despite all the dating apps/sites out there, there are more single people now than ever before! Why? Because like you said, it's considered perfectly normal to be a single adult in society today as opposed to previous generations. Moreover, again as you mentioned the high divorce rate and also the rise of individualism has given impetus to singledom.
A wise man of any age works to develope wisdom.
I think 90% of the problem is caused by online dating especially tinder.
Tinder is good though. It enables me to contact women that I would not otherwise have been able to.
Tinder is toxic, came off those dating apps years ago!
This video is spot on and well said for what is really going on today.
I think it is such a pedestrian take to just say "guys dont engage girls due to fear of rejection"... so intellectually lazy to just blame the men... is it not valid to say women have unbearable (toxic) behavior most of the time? Can we say that we dont like masculine, "strong, independent, empowered" women without being ostricized?
You forgot "brave" and "stunning"
You forgot that they want the privileges of a woman, the authority of a man, and the accountability of a child. Don't forget the "strong independent boss woman that don't need no man" is also fluid and can identify as any of these based on what serves her best in that moment.
But it is true to an extent, many younger guys are terrified of approaching a girl. They have completely warped their mind as to how hard this is when in actuality, it isn’t.. at all .. most girls want to be approached
@@exvan3571 I learned it as "stunning and brave", well the order of the factors do not alter the product.
My Gen Z men kids and all their friends are MGTOW. Not worth the time or effort. Don't want the drama of being put on blast online.
Hollywood sound man retired .
21 yrs Thailand, married, grandkids.
100% in love, I will die here. Haven’t touched US soil in 17 years.
I win.
Some valid points here, but also a lot of blame placed on men. Thank god you touched on female hypergamy and effects of social media toward the end. I'd suggest reading up on those some more. It's women who generally date up to higher status, not men who hold out for prettier girls to get laid.
because marriage is resource draining.
young men don't have the resources to drain
I don't see problems. Let women go their own ways earning money.
if u go on a basic date ,out to dinner, with tip your looking at at least 45 bucks with tip.then u go to the movies after dinner and get both a drink and popcorn.thats about 35 bucks.thats a total of 80 bucks.Young men just can't afford to do that very often.
Men don't do that anymore. They never did. You either get to go out to eat, usually at a mid to low cost restaurant OR you go out to a movie with popcorn OR you go out for one or two drinks...only one of those. And that is reasonable. Women are far less demanding than they say here in the comments...and far more reasonable.
I don’t know what other guys do, but I spend quite a chunk of time in an apprenticeship and worked after that to saved money for university. My escape was the gym, sports & IT, which made me more money.
Now I got my university founds together and can go to university and quit my job.
I also took the entrance exams for med school and they were quite good, I passed the bar.
At this point in my life I don’t have time. If there’s a person that would like to join me on my way, I’m okey with that.
Until that point I reached everything myself and there haven’t been giving any gender incentives to me.
Great video. I’m a 55 year married guy but I agree with a lot of your observations.
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
I'm 38, and that was a surprisingly good breakdown. While you touched on porn addiction, which is rife, and no doubt plays a part in individuals lacking the "drive" to push past the fear of rejection ... in some unknown fraction of the male population, porn also causes erectile dysfunction. Of course, this doesn't seem to be happening to all men or even the majority, because if it were, virtually all men who aren't actively abstaining from porn would suffer ED, and that obviously isn't the case, but, there are forums with hundreds of thousands of sufferers. I'll be brief, but I suffered from ED from early teens (when I started looking at porn) all the way till I was past 30, before I learned online that porn was causing it. And I wasn't watching a huge quantity of it, or watching bizarre content. I went to countless doctors for help and received less than none. I went for stints of not watching it on the hunch that maybe it was playing a part, but unfortunately, you have to abstain from porn and masturbation for a VERY long time for this to heal itself, and thus no one would ever go to the lengths one needs to go to heal unless told to do so - it's very hard, cravings are tough to push through. Anyway, failing to get hard with the girls when I was young absolutely demolished my self esteem, and then going another decade and change with this problem, well, it totally changed my entire personality ... and all the other men on the forums tell the same tale. Luckily for those younger than I, at least now the information is out there and I think younger men are now taking porn a little more seriously and seeing it for what it really is - a drug.
Yes but no .
The game is rigged because of culture .
Yeah, he almost gets it, but not really.
@@sunkillsmoon yup
It’s always been rigged. Stop letting it keep from doing things .
Because of culture?
@@danbaumann8273 yes because of culture , marriage laws and dating expectations and just dating scene in general due to social media make dating unfair for 90% of men
8:50 I have encouraged my oldest son to asking girls to dance when he was in 7th grade. I told him not to ask the prettiest girls but the sweetest girl. This is to boost his confidence and to normalize socializing with girls. Told him to endure rejections and move on from it. Trying to do that with my second one….he just won’t listen. As a mom, I tried hard to help my sons learning soft skills.
Very good advice
You are very wise, mark.
Let’s face it - access to women has always cost men money. It apparently is better in places like Philippines, but there is cost one way or another. Just a fact of life. Pay up or be single.
Women these days are too picky. An average girl, who is a 6 or 7 at best, acts like she is a perfect 10. I had to lower my expectations and date a girl who weighed over 500 lbs.
What you have described is why many dudes say, “Pass”. The situation was far different for the Boomers and early Gen X.
just had to date a 500 pound girl. . . . . . too funny
Well boomers are past their dating prime for sure now
I cross my fingers so you find a 500 pounds girl who is submissive and good potential mother.
I'm a child of divorce. When you see so many marriages fail from the time you're a kid well into adulthood, you seriously question the entire narrative around happily ever after.
I do meet women sometimes in my day-to-day life who I think would make great wives, but what are the odds of finding someone like that on a dating site or some other way that singles meet? Seems like you're more likely to meet women who have serious issues or are just gold diggers.
Anyway the thought of it makes me not even want to try. I'm busy 7 days a week running my own business and life is fine so why complicate it with an unnecessary relationship.
Excellent video, I learned a lot, thank you.
This is just the times we are living in. Its not mens fault. There are many reasons. For instance internet, feminism, bad economy, insane house prices need two salaries etc
The economy needs a big reset, if we let money rule things wil not look good
If you are recharged by socializing, then you should marry a good person.
If you are drained by socializing, then you should not marry a bad person.
Everyone else is in between and must search for their own balance.
Divorced with child support is a relationship killer.
Some of what you,re saying is true but you shed men in a bad light. Weak, broke, low self esteem, etc. Young men are much wiser now with the information on social media. Divorce courts, women with high body counts and single mothers, modern women, unrealistic expectations . What male wants to go through this.Even you Mark got a feminine lady from another country.( if you were young again would you pursue a modern women ?)
Considering women’s body counts nowadays & having false domestic violence changes filed against me by my Ex wife twice….it’s a business. And, women & the corporate State know it and all use it to profit. Especially in divorce proceedings where again, the State favors women to men’s financial ruin. Financially, a binding marriage contract is the worst financial investment a single man can make in his lifetime. -Miggy.
I am Millennial and pretty good looking 6'2 as well. I won't ever get married. I can find girls easy on Tinder each day. Easy to have a good time.
Interesting. Tender didn't exist in my day: 1970s we had to go into the wild and hunt
@@everymanhasastoryoh yeah for me it's worked well as well as Bumble app too. I am 41 and never had issues finding dates online in Vancouver, BC. The women outnumber guys here consideraby and come from all backgrounds. Being 6'2 and looking younger and fit for my age helps I still get late 20s and 30s and 40s women all wanting to go out for second dates, third ones, etc. Some do pressure for serious relationships, marriage, etc but I am in no motivation because of the options. I prefer my own space and living alone too. I guess I am the reverse of normal society. I am perfectly fine without partners too
I ditched dating (for LTR/marriage) in my early twenties already. The repeating behavioral pattern of women was impossible to ignore. Even ditched casual dating all together later on. They're just too annoying to be around overall, for some quick in and out. And you still have to cover your ass legally on every step. Nah thanks.
Speaking for women everywhere...if what you said is how you really think...it's "Nah thanks" to you too. You should see his video "The Death of Dating...Are Women To Blame or Is It Us?"
We forgot a huge reason for singledom heavily biased divorce law take it easy see you on the next one
But no one is saying you must get married lol. Why would guys let heavily biased divorce court keep them from casually dating?
@@brianmeen2158Because women don’t want to date forever. Or have we left our brains off today?
If their afraid it's good keeps them out of future trouble.
In America I'd never advice not to get married. I wished I'd knew and was given the problems of the red flags early in my life I would have never married . I would have had a good retirement . But in the earlier days it was what you do. . But again I wished I'd never married so I'd ended up with small money living in the Philippine and alone. But in peace.
Both younger and older women demand so much yet provide so little!
Too much wasted energy. I've game. Women need to learn to reciprocate for us to stay in the game.
They do...when they've decided you're the one. We reciprocate all the time. We just don't get the recognition.
You hit the nail on the head. Porn and the iPhone has completely F’d a generation. Let’s start a movement of going back to the landline. F the cell phone
1 - it’s just expensive, middle class standard of living is almost unreachable 2 - experience of observing broken marriages and devastated guys who slaved their whole life just to end up in a humiliating divorce 3 - girls like only 10% of guys and got extremely needy 4 - porn. And overall infantilism. I deem modern 29 y olds as 19 at best. They even look like teenagers.
My ex-husband used to say; you don’t get your honey where you make your money. Too complicated.
Soooooo...does that mean don't date your co-workers or boss? Good idea, but I can see why he's your ex.
Financial education is what we need right now for more than 70% of the society in the country as very few are literate on the subject. Thanks to Stacey Macken, the woman that changed my financial life.
Honestly, I'm surprised that this mrs Stacey Macken is mentioned here, came across a testimony about her from one of the beneficiaries on the CNBC news, she seems to be doing extremely well .
That woman has changed my life for good. I attended her investment class couple of weeks and she's the best when it comes for guidance
She understands every beginner's intention and fix you to a trading course that matches your capacity, she knows her stuff! Her advice has been invaluable to my trading journey. Definitely worth giving a shot
I have been on the wrong side for far long and I'm willing to make consultations to improve my situation. What is the most reliable medium to reach her please?
She often interacts on facebook , using the user name
Men are not intimidated by a woman that make more, women are intimidated at the idea of NOT paying for dinner because they make more than he does which is the fair thing to do.
The man is the wallet!! It not men are not confident