It's not just social media - it's smartphones altogether. People are so used to looking down at their phone that looking anyone in the eye is an alien concept
THIS 💯 Also, there was a rise in flip phones about a year or 2 ago, aka, the "dumb phones." I think we should get that back. And to stop using internet, unless it's for Hi def TV.
Polls in USA showed that 1 in 2 people support rapist and racist and Nazi concentration camps. The problem is much more serious than smartphones and looking down at phone.
100%. Truly men are in a dystopian dating environment just like a sci-fi horror movie. It’s like the movie cherry 2000. Guys should be watch it it’s funny
It was already priced in. 2 sided camera phones. Cannot remove battery anymore. Constant pinging and binging to make us look at the cell. Funny how it got called a "phone" and not a "cell"
It’s the dating apps man. They all think they are better than they actually are. Most girls I tend to come across think they’re something special. News flash. Hot girls are everywhere bitch ain’t special 💀 But as an autistic guy eye contact and social situations are already hard enough and when you come across these types of people it only makes it worse
Yeah especially a man sees a woman that He's attracted to and gets vilified for looking at Her, unless She's attracted to you She's ALWAYS going to see it as weird/creepy
Hey, take that as a warning from God. He's showing you who's not for you. There are those cases though where the woman is just shy, but most of the time, they're just narcissistic and shallow.
Five years ago, our daughter was a college freshman. She noticed many students lacked soft skills: how to introduce themselves, speak to a stranger, shake hands, adapt to change, problem solve, manage their time, be organized, and actively listen. These skills should be learned at home. Hello parents.
It’s not entirely the parents’ fault. These “soft skills” did not need to be taught when the parents were growing up because people needed to talk to each other, there was no other option in order to do so many things. That’s not true anymore. I don’t think we can fault parents for not knowing how to teach something that they never needed to be taught, or even knowing that it must be taught.
@jimmm1037 I agree with your second sentence, but not the last. Parents were taught but didn't pass the information. In addition to not knowing soft skills, my daughter noticed college freshman didn't know how: to do laundry, iron clothing, cook, vacuum, clean, budget, wash dishes, make a bed, prepare for an interview, and other independent skills. If the task wasn't on an app, many students didn't know. Parents should teach.
@@tonylombardi4661They used to teach a lot of that in school. It was called home economics. They used to have shop class. Government got rid of that too, didn't they? But they have a class to discuss whether or not you are male or female, and when you can change it.
@@jimmm1037Parents were taught those skills they just never bothered to pass it on. They very easily could if they so choose if they forgotten ask the grandparents. Parents of abdicated a lot of responsibility then it needs to be placed where it belongs on them
I’m nearly 40 and going to school, and I see this a lot. Sometimes I can get a smile back, but most the time people it seems people just avoid any sort of acknowledgment to strangers all together. Definitely something worth doing more studies on
It is so strange!! Walking past someone in the grocery store for example. Has been customary to give a little nod or maybe a smile. Now people pretend like no one is there. Super unhealthy in my opinion.
Yes, I’ve noticed that as a man in my late 50’s that has worked in the public sector all my life. Today’s young people don’t know how to shake hands, (professionally) hold a conversation and speak to someone with good eye contact.
I don’t think so. It is worse than that. It is personal media devices. They are more entertaining and captivating than our fellow humans. We can’t compete with them.
For me, the lack of eye contact is because of a lot of body image issues. I'm in the best physical shape I've ever been in, but still just feel really ugly, so I feel less than and too insecure to hold eye contact for fear that I maybe insulted, or come across as weird because I'm not the most attractive guy in the world.
Pretty much this. I don't like the way I look, but I feel like I can possibly win over any woamn through vieo chat through my social and comedic talent alone. With that being said, I still have next to not confidence randmoly appraoching a woman outside of a bar or club
I try to make eye contact with everyone I pass by just as an "I acknowledge you're there" because I feel like it's a normal human thing to do. Personally I've noticed majority of men of all ages will look back and we'll both give each other some sort of nod or "sup" to each other, women in their 20s-30s on the other hand, extremely rare. Most just look down or keep their eyes forward pretending I'm not even there. The ones who do look usually have bad RBF almost like they're watching me because they don't trust me. Can't remember the last time a young woman gave me friendly eye contact with a smile or hello.
They don't because in doing so they might open the door for unwanted interactions as giving signals back to men might make them think that woman is wanting to be approached, because men are notorious for misinterpreting signals, such as when a girl smiles at them, they think it's a sign she's interested into them. Women are killing off any chance of that by choosing not to respond to signals in the first place and act as if male passersby don't exist. Also men engage in predatorial behavior and women think that giving signals might trigger these men and prompt them to harass them. It's a losing game to them
@@maxmcmullen6184 Which is also an awful solution to the problem. Men misinterpreting signals from women as interest needed to be met with women flooding the area with interaction with men. Instead they decided to do the reverse, now any interaction with a woman IS seen as a signal, because now it’s either she’s interested or she wouldn’t give you the time read on her watch. It’s funny, because it sometimes feels like the implemented solution didn’t do anything but completely destroy the “friends” section of male - female interaction. I can’t even ask a girl a question about her shirt or ask her about her day without everyone in the vicinity (including her) wondering if I’m hitting on her. Amazing isn’t it? Now it’s not just men misinterpreting women’s signals, it’s women also misinterpreting men’s signals. Maybe, believe it or not, we could increase the amount of interaction between the sexes so that we can all practice and actually correctly read each other? No, less practice is going to well.
@@maxmcmullen6184social media consumption feedback loop of fear anxiety and infinitely escalating danger, encouraging avoidance as self preservation. Playing up the victim mentality narrative and preying on our fears of the other to drive interactions, produce "content" for likes, subscribes, attention, validation, money. And we wonder why dating is such a hellscape. We've been conditioned into seeing each other as the enemy, out to only prey upon us and our vulnerabilities, predatory and dangerous existential threats to our life, security, mental wellbeing.
How many men have you ever heard in your life call a woman a creep? Never. How many men do you know have accused a woman of a heinous intimate crime?? Rarely. How many men have falsely accused a woman of said crime?? Never. Yea, stop blaming men.
It’s really sad to see. I don’t go on social media because it doesn’t do much for me anymore, but nobody knows how to interact in the real world anymore.
5-10 yrs ago i would get "signal" from women in public transport that liked me and it would encourage me a LOT to go and approach them. Nowadays almost nobody looks at me and nobody gives signal. Cold approach is 100x harder and even if you do these women are too scarred to engage with unknown person so they reject u as reflex. Times are hard :D
Good thing!! Women are never left alone and never allowed some space. Everywhere they go they're chased and annoyed. It's their way of protecting their personal space and saying leave me alone!! It's also their of refusing cold approach from complete strangers to protect themselves. You never know the person who's approaching you, he might be a maniac, a psycho, a narcissist, a liar, a substance abuser...So save your time and stop chasing tail, and invading women's personal space. Stop simping
Dating is tough when you're 24 and have next to no sexual experience. All the cheating..... The cheating and heartbreak over one aspect of a relationship.....
😅😅 it has been tried. Women are the only ones who show up. Men don't want the burden of gold diggers. Or shamed just for saying hello. Even the Chinese woman are having a hard time
I visited Korea and took a train to Seoul. Everyone on board were staring at their portable, mini screens while sitting next to each other. It was unreal to see how no one was saying hi to each other and exchange friendly gestures, let alone a simple act of nods and smiles. Surely, this may serve as a warning sign of a demise of humanity.
Social media destroyed young women and pornography destroyed young men - give people a smile and expect nothing from no one in the way of our grandparents and parents!
They’re fine-it’s all about individualism and self-sufficiency. In a society riddled with stigma, we’re choosing to reduce interactions to a minimum, limiting them to what’s necessary for professional matters. We no longer engage with others as individuals but rather through our societal roles, such as a baker and pharmacist conducting business or a client and a seller, anything beyond that is not considered. Unnecessary social interactions, like nonverbal cues, hints, and mind games, are being set aside-who has the time or energy for that? We prioritize straightforwardness over awkwardness. Our world is hectic and chaotic enough and any interaction out of a professional context is another potential for headache, drama and stress and nobody wants that. We've learned the lesson, people are bad, abusive, hypocritical and useless except for professional matters, so keeping one's distance is key to preserve your peace of mind. Why would anyone engage in an interaction with a stranger for no reason that serves one's interest? A stranger is a stranger, you see them for a couple of seconds and you're likely never going to see them ever again in your life, so why bother dealing with them?
You keep your head down and avoid eye contact makes you prey. Keep your head up, shoulders back (this doesn't mean smiling all over), and MAKE EYE CONTACT, just for a split second; it'll keep you out of trouble. This advice from a 15-year correctional officer.
Correction …. Men want to make eye contact, but are made to feel ashamed or get the disgust and disdain response, women do not want unwanted eye contact ….. big difference
I *can* make eye contact (I’ve even been told that it’s possible to get lost in my eyes), but I do it sparingly, because I want my eye contact to *mean* something. Whether that be love, trust, anger, sadness, or any other strong emotion, I save making that strong captivating eye contact for important moments.
I am 34 and am taking some classes at a large university in my state.. one of the first things I noticed as walked down the halls, nobody is looking up.. and when someone is, I look at them as I walked by and smile, and I was met every single time with a weird look and them immediately looking down!! It happened more times than I kept track of!
Love what you do with your hair. Anyway, just remember to look up! and situational awareness is key from crossing a street to running a business and all the people you meet in between. But in order to understand your surroundings you must first connect to who you really are and not what you think you should be. You look sooo huggable in that sweater
"Maybe men are scarried to make women uncomfortable" is the reason not only for not making eye contact anymore. And not doing anything at all _is_ the right thing nowadays.
This reminds of that time when a woman was being robbed but the guy was just sitting there watching. If he defended her then everyone one would come after him saying that he thinks that just because he's a man a woman defend herself and if he didn't then everyone would go after him calling him a coward so yeah. I'm pretty sure this was in the news and happened in some college.
By men, you mean specifically those that are facially sub5 (like me). As can confirm from experience, average looking guys get far better treatment from women than I do
I (Gen X) am autistic and have always had difficulty with eye contact. In particular, I have trouble forming my thoughts and making eye contact at the same time. I have to look away while I construct the sentence just the way I want,, and then I can look back at the person and express my thoughts. Other forms of nonverbal communication are not as difficult for me now. I underwent developmental delays, also common in autism, and it took me a long time to figure out how to engage with the world this way
So many people in London aren’t English though so it hard to gauge, and no I don’t mean that in a Farage way 😂 I don’t care about immigration, it’s just a fact
Very true. I almost always sit with people who are 20-30 years older than me (currently 32) because they know how to talk with one another. Just about everyone else I know at my age are on their phones constantly and cannot hold a conversation. I also always make it a rule to not be on my phone when I am out with friends and they reciprocate that with me as well.
Anything you do around women is seen as "creepy" when you're facially sub5 (meaning you are within the bottom 20% of attractiveness) heck, even around men too and I can confirm this from experience.
i am a teen girl and i was raised with confidence and self respect and respect for others and i have made adult male doctors uncomfortable by making eye contact and asking them questions i have never once had a guy my age look me in the eyes while i talk my bf is getting better at it but in his defense he is very very shy
@Christana_Marie lol so how did he get you if he's very shy and couldn't look you in the eye If you don't mind me asking? I ask since women especially in your case raised in that environment, would get turned off by that behavior from men
@ well we were friends for a very long time and gradually he got more confident and would ask me out and we would hang out but i made the first move. my mom proposed to my dad and i have a family of strong women and not a lot of men can handle my sass but he was sweet and he was sensitive and he would listen to everything i had to say. it helps when he hold himself with confidence. since he was new to my school he would always slouch and keep to himself until i introduced myself. he is very tall about 6’ 2” but i didn’t know that until he would stand up straight and i love someone who is confident because heaven knows i am very outspoken
Yes, spending too much time on technology makes it hard to communicate in real life. I learned this after playing online gaming for many years where you don't have people to look at when talking to them through the microphone, and I am trying to learn to look at people again.
I very often make eye contact, give a genuine smile and an upbeat "Hello" or some very brief complement on their outfit or something. The overwhelming majority respond well but you can tell they're not used to it. If you're genuine they won't interpret it as creepy.
enjoying your content so much recently been consuming a lot of red pill stuff and I think thou they het somethings right like men getting a purpose and confidence theres also a lot of negativity your channel presents such a good hopeful perspective on life thats much needed
I’m in my 60’s, and I have been noticing this for years now. The younger generation doesn’t seem to have any social skills. I walk by a young woman or man and they almost always avoid eye contact, never smile, never return an acknowledgement of mutual existence. I can always predict the social interaction, or lack thereof, by the age range of the person I’m about to cross paths with.
Billie, I had just found out that my ex had her friends anonymously post in a girls Facebook group for my local community slandering and defaming my name… our relationship fell apart because of lack of communication and lack of trust… police can’t take it down as it’s considered a civil matter… now even girls who don’t know me get to give their thoughts which show how gross these people are and even a girl unmatched on hinge was complaining cause I unmatched her.. I don’t know how we are gonna trust each other again as sexes. I have been a good guy and treated girls well and have been the one cheated on a and treated like crap and this happens. The impact of this and these ARE WE DATING THE SAME GUY Facebook groups is making dating impossible since it’s now weird to approach women in person. So many rules, fake terms have been made to scare us off and they’re doing all the right things. What’s going on here??!
About 25 years ago, my stepson gave my son an iPod or some other personal entertainment consumption device for a birthday. My heart sunk. It was the first time in our family that we didn’t have to share background music or television. It is not the consequence of social media. It is the consequence of selfishness. We no longer have to share. I love to visit with a fellow passenger on flights. But no more. Everyone comes armed with ear buds to signal to others to leave them alone. Oh well…alone they will be. And the gym? Forget about even talking to someone let alone even looking at them. So sad.
It's not just people of our generation who are ill-mannered. I notice it even in people who did not grow up with technology but were supposedly raised to behave like a person.
Ever since mid 2010’s, social media in general really has ruined the relationship between men & women. We all care too much about looks, body image, being accepted/rejected, etc.
Man I Love this girl. Listen up fools. She's dead on. Apps and the cell on your face are destroying your whole life to the point you know nothing anymore. Total lost epidemic. Social Media is like cancer.
I was bullied in middle school and high school. One thing that I noticed was that if I looked in people’s general direction it was almost like an invitation for harassment. It got to a point where I would intentionally avoid looking at anyone when I would walk from class to class and would only speak to others if spoken to first. One thing I think a lot of people don’t talk about is how cruel Gen Z was to one another while they were younger. I think this ended up affecting everyone in the generation which is partially why so many people in Gen Z have trust issues. There are other reasons of course. Going to college and then working helped me substantially but I am not sure if the programming I received during my formative years will ever fully be gone.
your second point as a man. Fear of female harassment no other reason despite all signs of attraction by female i reject them for basis of avoiding any confusion later on
On the streets, avoid the known offenders, and avoid strangers - be safe out there, it is nearly free, really, a free thing is a great find. Too much anger out there.
Times have changed and the average girl will see any average looking guy approaching her as a creep. I’m married, so I really don’t care how single women treat others in public, but I do feel bad for these young men trying to approach these women.
Well, they are fine with sharing chad with other girls. Stats say that 70% of young men are single while 50% of young women are single.and the gap is growing. So they either go with much older men (like 20+ years difference) or share. Maybe both.
@@MathieuDeVinois In conclusion - social anxiety is not fear. It is not shyness. We do not have eye contact due to lack of social skills as CBT is coercing us to believe. Social anxiety is trauma. We are being abused and we are reacting to abuse - narcissistic abuse. The fears that we feel is actually trauma. We must stop self pathologizing ourselves.We are not being irrational
I think medical science is discovering that autism is a lot more common than previously thought. The reason is that the science behind it is still very primitive (autism wasn’t even a thing until 1987)
I've been making eye contact and saying 'hi' for decades now. I now notice is more prevalent for the other person not only not to answer (common enough, but rude) but also intentionally look away. If you have social awkwardness, you've done it to yourself. But it's easy enough to fix: say hi, back, at least.
I. Agree, but I do better talking with most women than most men, but I am getting more and more afraid to talk to women knowing how they can get scared of men or how they may be already married, taken, underaged or just get offended easily
Looking down or avoiding eye contact tells anyone who is looking for an easy victim, that that is what you will be. Even if you keep from eye contact, keep your head up and be aware of what is around you.
Not sure about any of that but people need to stop with this approaching strangers nonsense. That’s never been common to do, it’s ineffective and it’s a waste of time. Do not listen to women that tell you approach strangers in random places.
@@itachir8290 Stranger danger is a fundamental part of human evolutionary psychology that goes back to the days of tribes raiding each other for resources. Unless you are so attractive that it's going to outperform the very real risks involved in giving a stranger your contract information you will get no where with this cold approach stupidity. It would be less effective than dating apps because the apps do provide a layer of security that can act as something of a lubricant for these awkward interactions between strangers. And those are still wildly ineffective for average men. There is no need to approach strangers in weird awkward ways, even if you manufacture a "reason" for the awkward exchange.
They’ve been raised on computer screens. I’m old enough to remember when the internet was called “the information superhighway,” and it wasn’t widespread until I was 8-9. I had a little while to adjust to people and their faces in my formative years. There’s also a high rise in autism. In a study, people with autism reacted the same way towards objects as they did reacting to human faces. So by introducing your kids to smartphone/tablet screens as young as they do today, they have less awareness between the internet and real life because it’s been so ingrained in their daily lives. That’s why they take cyberbullying so seriously. Older people can shrug off an internet comment better than those who saw internet comments/social media posts side by side with human interaction. Some of that is also life experience. As to eye contact, they’re used to making as much (usually more) eye contact with objects like smartphones and tablets. It’s a socially acceptable disease. This isn’t the only reason why, but it is A reason why.
I definitely relate. I mean, as an autistic guy, I struggle with eye contact in general. I often actively think about whether eye contact is too much or too little. And that distracts me from conversations. And I don’t really understand many social cues that well. So… Possibly I’ve had someone flirting with me before but I’d have been oblivious to it. And I’m really the type to keep my distance anyway and observe from afar whether a (social) situation might be worth the risks for me.
I struggle with this mightily. I tend to just stare off into space whenever I speak to others and I have a short attention span. I know it’s probably normal because I have autism, but I still feel like a weirdo.
It's quite normal where i live not to have much eye contact, especially in cities. And with women, I avoid any eye contact nowadays because i don't want to bother them or creeping them out. It went always bad, when I tried eye contact. And I never received a smile from a woman in my age or younger on street,supermarket whatever.
When I'm walking and see a woman coming the opposite way, they look at the ground or look at houses and trees, I acknowledge them and they say nothing. I also feel like I'm bothering them when they pretend they are so busy with something. Women have never been fair to me no matter how good I was to them
@@vigorelliinstitute879 ,, prolonged intense eye contact is perceived as aggressive. It depends on the two people. But casual inviting eye contact with notes of acceptance 🤷♂️. Yup. Try it at home in your mirror. You'll understand.
@PaydayGabeBCNV oh I know don't worry I learned proper eye contact years ago. My point is my class was taught that eye contact is bad in school. I'm 41 and I was told this in the 3rd grade. Everything that we are seeing is intentional.
@@vigorelliinstitute879 Descartes discovered 300 years ago - that we start to think when we start to doubt. He taught this on Royal courts around the Europe. Something bad happened with the rise of capitalism- we started to behave like communist North Korea country where we must have fascist leader to order us how to think. dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum
Bc Social Media has taken over and removed the social norms and online dating has been running rampant. Plus we have been developing this relationship with our smartphones more and more these days.
It's not social media, it's not phones or the internet. It's society that made men anxious. Everything is turned against us, one wrong step and you're labeled as a creep, might even get a harassment lawsuit.
i just feel really uncomfortable maintaining eye contact. it might be my autism, it might be my anxiety. but i check my surroundings very frequently, especially when talking to someone. sure i glance at their face to show i’m listening, but i don’t look solely at them
My tip to you is to try at look at people’s eyebrows instead. From their perspective they dont even know looking at them. Big game changer this was for me once i got used to it.
I don’t disagree that SM has f’d things up. Unfortunately, so much crap has been burned into people’s minds because of it i don’t know how easily society would “snap back” for a lack of a better way of saying it. People hate each other. For some people, this is all they know.
Just look at their eyebrows instead of directly at their eyes. That’s what I do. It helps me appear more confident and less awkward. Conversations and social interactions are only around 75% eye contact so you don't always have to stare at their eyes.
Wait a minute. Woman told men this past decade not to approach and not too do anything so they do not feel uncomfortable. How is it suddenly a problem now 😂
Because they never really meant it, you had to read and know the twenty different sub distinctions of their messages. They speak with objectivity but their idea of objectivity in communication relies on understanding the 10,000 layers of contradictions and paradoxes of nuance underneath their words. They then get upset at us when we take them at their word at face value. Because we didn't pick up their layers upon layers of additional meaning and contradictions beneath what they say. We didn't "get the hint" because we cant (or refuse on principle) read braille backwards upside down translated into esperanto and written in invisible ink. "Dont look. Dont speak. Dont approach. Dont do anything. Leave us alone. We don't want you. We don't need you. We're better off without you. Everything you do we can do better. Go away." But also "Why aren't men approaching? Where have all the good men gone? Why can't I get a high value man? I am the table!" And also "Ew. No. Creep. Pervert. Stop objectifying us!" Also also "Enjoy this spicy free sample that's almost but not quite showing what I know you want to really see. Like it? Hit the like and subscribe button. Also cbeck out my profile where I have my LinkedIn profile that contains all my private accounts listed and the tiered membership rates, and what you'll get out of them." "Empowerment? Victimhood? Could you please pick a lane?" "I choose both. Also neither. Yessn't."
It’s also small talk all together. I work at a bank and there’s a sharp difference between the way that old people and young people communicate when I’m serving them. Old people will smile look at you and make small talk young people legit look scared and are looking at the side
Yeah, I have stopped making eye contact, and I am middle-aged. I have received the message that women are uncomfortable with me and even actively dislike me, so I don't want to deal with that. Now, I don't avoid social interaction with other men on a friendly basis, and I get along with people, but I avoid looking at women so women won't have a reason to complain about me.
It's not even just eye contact. Around females I make sure I can't be accused of looking. I straight up time my blinks and have excellent discipline to not look. Also, I have no desire to look since I'm with a woman.
I'm glad I'm a Millennial and not a Generation Z. Eye contact is normal for me. I once got approached by a girl thinking i was flirting, but I just looked at her a bit because she was playing Nintendo Switch. She was a kind girl getting to know her.
I mostly look away to not be rude and seem like I'm staring, there's a lot of people out there who'd give me trouble even if I merely glanced for half a second, plus I don't wish to make others uncomfortable
The social skills of your age group are APPALLING!! They are bad for my age group (millennials) but for younger people they are unbelievably atrocious. It's like watching a car wreck! It's sad but strangely fascinating...
People in my neighborhood don't even say hello as they pass by... Like if one was to say hello it's awkward or weird.. I've had multiple occasions where I would simply say hello as I'm passing by to get awkward silence. So I stopped trying to be social with neighbors since it seems everyone just wants to be left alone. I'm just numb to ignoring people now.
I've noticed this. I'm 27 and my 15 year old neighbour girl came at my door to pick up a package. She didn't make eye contact, couldn't say thank you, it was such a socially weird interaction. All that while i'm being like "Hey, neighbour, came to pick up the package i see, let me just grab it for ya". They just don't have the social skills anymore.
It's not just social media - it's smartphones altogether. People are so used to looking down at their phone that looking anyone in the eye is an alien concept
THIS 💯
Also, there was a rise in flip phones about a year or 2 ago, aka, the "dumb phones." I think we should get that back. And to stop using internet, unless it's for Hi def TV.
@@Thedukeg1993-ww1gv In 2025 the nostalgia for life of 2005 is going to be wild. Like the rise of flip phones.
Polls in USA showed that 1 in 2 people support rapist and racist and Nazi concentration camps. The problem is much more serious than smartphones and looking down at phone.
100%. Truly men are in a dystopian dating environment just like a sci-fi horror movie. It’s like the movie cherry 2000. Guys should be watch it it’s funny
It was already priced in. 2 sided camera phones. Cannot remove battery anymore. Constant pinging and binging to make us look at the cell. Funny how it got called a "phone" and not a "cell"
As a man you look at women and you get "goto hell" looks all the time just for looking at them.
It’s the dating apps man. They all think they are better than they actually are. Most girls I tend to come across think they’re something special. News flash. Hot girls are everywhere bitch ain’t special 💀
But as an autistic guy eye contact and social situations are already hard enough and when you come across these types of people it only makes it worse
I live for that look.
Yeah especially a man sees a woman that He's attracted to and gets vilified for looking at Her, unless She's attracted to you She's ALWAYS going to see it as weird/creepy
Hey, take that as a warning from God. He's showing you who's not for you. There are those cases though where the woman is just shy, but most of the time, they're just narcissistic and shallow.
@@jhamilton1007 indeed
Well said. People are living too much through their phones and forgetting the outside world exists.
Five years ago, our daughter was a college freshman.
She noticed many students lacked soft skills: how to introduce themselves, speak to a stranger, shake hands, adapt to change, problem solve, manage their time, be organized, and actively listen.
These skills should be learned at home.
Hello parents.
It’s not entirely the parents’ fault. These “soft skills” did not need to be taught when the parents were growing up because people needed to talk to each other, there was no other option in order to do so many things. That’s not true anymore. I don’t think we can fault parents for not knowing how to teach something that they never needed to be taught, or even knowing that it must be taught.
@jimmm1037
I agree with your second sentence, but not the last.
Parents were taught but didn't pass the information.
In addition to not knowing soft skills, my daughter noticed college freshman didn't know how:
to do laundry, iron clothing, cook, vacuum, clean, budget, wash dishes, make a bed, prepare for an interview, and other independent skills. If the task wasn't on an app, many students didn't know.
Parents should teach.
Sounds like you support North Korea boot camps.
@@tonylombardi4661They used to teach a lot of that in school. It was called home economics. They used to have shop class. Government got rid of that too, didn't they? But they have a class to discuss whether or not you are male or female, and when you can change it.
@@jimmm1037Parents were taught those skills they just never bothered to pass it on. They very easily could if they so choose if they forgotten ask the grandparents. Parents of abdicated a lot of responsibility then it needs to be placed where it belongs on them
I’m nearly 40 and going to school, and I see this a lot. Sometimes I can get a smile back, but most the time people it seems people just avoid any sort of acknowledgment to strangers all together. Definitely something worth doing more studies on
Could be because you’re older as well compared to the average student.
Election in USA showed that most people support serial killers and mass murderers. Would you smile back to criminally insane?
I work at school sometimes, today i got smiles and the girls looked at me in my eyes quite alot.. i am 30+ and the girls were around 15
@@kurtcobain8316 I think it depends on the age, maybe this is more true for young adults (18-25 yo)
It is so strange!! Walking past someone in the grocery store for example. Has been customary to give a little nod or maybe a smile. Now people pretend like no one is there. Super unhealthy in my opinion.
Yes, I’ve noticed that as a man in my late 50’s that has worked in the public sector all my life. Today’s young people don’t know how to shake hands, (professionally) hold a conversation and speak to someone with good eye contact.
Toxic Feminism destroyed Everything.
Any engagement with anyone nowadays is like playing basketball in a minefield especially women. It's too dangerous
I bet BRB didn't ever make the first move when she was single.
Yeah and too many laws also; being a straight man is almost banned
All you really have to do is not be facially sub5 (something most of her viewers likely are anyway), like how I am.
Facts
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"The day technology surpasses our own human interaction, the world will have a generation of idiots." - Albert Einstein
This right here. Thank you.
Amen! Social media is the problem.
I don’t think so. It is worse than that. It is personal media devices. They are more entertaining and captivating than our fellow humans. We can’t compete with them.
For me, the lack of eye contact is because of a lot of body image issues. I'm in the best physical shape I've ever been in, but still just feel really ugly, so I feel less than and too insecure to hold eye contact for fear that I maybe insulted, or come across as weird because I'm not the most attractive guy in the world.
Its all a mindset issue. I’ve seen fat guys being able to hold eye contact. Most of the time you hold eye contact, people just end up looking away
Pretty much this. I don't like the way I look, but I feel like I can possibly win over any woamn through vieo chat through my social and comedic talent alone. With that being said, I still have next to not confidence randmoly appraoching a woman outside of a bar or club
Absolutely spot on. Social media has been detrimental for a myriad number of reasons. I'm off all Social media except YT.
And I'm off soda except for Pepsi. 😂😂😂😂
TH-cam is a social media too...but i agree, TH-cam feels less of a typical day social media. It's like free Netflix.
@@edsweeney6843 I stopped doing drugs… except for crack
Wow this is great! I wish more people would feel this way.
I try to make eye contact with everyone I pass by just as an "I acknowledge you're there" because I feel like it's a normal human thing to do. Personally I've noticed majority of men of all ages will look back and we'll both give each other some sort of nod or "sup" to each other, women in their 20s-30s on the other hand, extremely rare. Most just look down or keep their eyes forward pretending I'm not even there. The ones who do look usually have bad RBF almost like they're watching me because they don't trust me.
Can't remember the last time a young woman gave me friendly eye contact with a smile or hello.
They don't because in doing so they might open the door for unwanted interactions as giving signals back to men might make them think that woman is wanting to be approached, because men are notorious for misinterpreting signals, such as when a girl smiles at them, they think it's a sign she's interested into them. Women are killing off any chance of that by choosing not to respond to signals in the first place and act as if male passersby don't exist. Also men engage in predatorial behavior and women think that giving signals might trigger these men and prompt them to harass them. It's a losing game to them
@@maxmcmullen6184 Which is also an awful solution to the problem. Men misinterpreting signals from women as interest needed to be met with women flooding the area with interaction with men. Instead they decided to do the reverse, now any interaction with a woman IS seen as a signal, because now it’s either she’s interested or she wouldn’t give you the time read on her watch.
It’s funny, because it sometimes feels like the implemented solution didn’t do anything but completely destroy the “friends” section of male - female interaction. I can’t even ask a girl a question about her shirt or ask her about her day without everyone in the vicinity (including her) wondering if I’m hitting on her. Amazing isn’t it?
Now it’s not just men misinterpreting women’s signals, it’s women also misinterpreting men’s signals. Maybe, believe it or not, we could increase the amount of interaction between the sexes so that we can all practice and actually correctly read each other? No, less practice is going to well.
@@maxmcmullen6184social media consumption feedback loop of fear anxiety and infinitely escalating danger, encouraging avoidance as self preservation. Playing up the victim mentality narrative and preying on our fears of the other to drive interactions, produce "content" for likes, subscribes, attention, validation, money.
And we wonder why dating is such a hellscape.
We've been conditioned into seeing each other as the enemy, out to only prey upon us and our vulnerabilities, predatory and dangerous existential threats to our life, security, mental wellbeing.
How many men have you ever heard in your life call a woman a creep? Never. How many men do you know have accused a woman of a heinous intimate crime?? Rarely. How many men have falsely accused a woman of said crime?? Never. Yea, stop blaming men.
Social media has made people incapable of eye contact and has caused an epidemic of anxiety. Exactly what I have been saying for years.
It’s really sad to see. I don’t go on social media because it doesn’t do much for me anymore, but nobody knows how to interact in the real world anymore.
5-10 yrs ago i would get "signal" from women in public transport that liked me and it would encourage me a LOT to go and approach them. Nowadays almost nobody looks at me and nobody gives signal. Cold approach is 100x harder and even if you do these women are too scarred to engage with unknown person so they reject u as reflex. Times are hard :D
They watch too much how to catch a killer these days and it skews their perception of reality to the point that they see every male as a predator...
Good thing!! Women are never left alone and never allowed some space. Everywhere they go they're chased and annoyed. It's their way of protecting their personal space and saying leave me alone!! It's also their of refusing cold approach from complete strangers to protect themselves. You never know the person who's approaching you, he might be a maniac, a psycho, a narcissist, a liar, a substance abuser...So save your time and stop chasing tail, and invading women's personal space. Stop simping
Dating is tough when you're 24 and have next to no sexual experience. All the cheating..... The cheating and heartbreak over one aspect of a relationship.....
Cheating rampant
Develop yourself to build self confidence. Walking around with confidence is more attractive than any " move" you can put on a woman
Social media has ruined the world.
Just go outside.
I absolutely 100% agree and this needs to be heard worldwide.
This is a great idea Billie. It's unfortunate that we need to hear things like this, but thank you anyway ❤
Agreed. We have to bring back social interactions. Big time.
😅😅 it has been tried. Women are the only ones who show up. Men don't want the burden of gold diggers. Or shamed just for saying hello. Even the Chinese woman are having a hard time
Good luck with that.
this is a great point! really appreciate you bringing it forward
Damn well said, sis!! This is pretty serious stuff, and I really needed this. Thank you.
Amen.
GOD Bless your family.
I ride public transportation and a lot of people just don't know how to talk to strangers, or they don't know how to start and stop conversation.
I visited Korea and took a train to Seoul. Everyone on board were staring at their portable, mini screens while sitting next to each other.
It was unreal to see how no one was saying hi to each other and exchange friendly gestures, let alone a simple act of nods and smiles.
Surely, this may serve as a warning sign of a demise of humanity.
Yes absolutely true. You are spot on !!
Social media destroyed young women and pornography destroyed young men - give people a smile and expect nothing from no one in the way of our grandparents and parents!
They’re fine-it’s all about individualism and self-sufficiency. In a society riddled with stigma, we’re choosing to reduce interactions to a minimum, limiting them to what’s necessary for professional matters. We no longer engage with others as individuals but rather through our societal roles, such as a baker and pharmacist conducting business or a client and a seller, anything beyond that is not considered. Unnecessary social interactions, like nonverbal cues, hints, and mind games, are being set aside-who has the time or energy for that? We prioritize straightforwardness over awkwardness. Our world is hectic and chaotic enough and any interaction out of a professional context is another potential for headache, drama and stress and nobody wants that. We've learned the lesson, people are bad, abusive, hypocritical and useless except for professional matters, so keeping one's distance is key to preserve your peace of mind. Why would anyone engage in an interaction with a stranger for no reason that serves one's interest? A stranger is a stranger, you see them for a couple of seconds and you're likely never going to see them ever again in your life, so why bother dealing with them?
@maxmcmullen6184 yep precisely
God, please create more people like her amazing mindset and points🙏
Started as not wanting to make people uncomfortable, snowballed into full blown social anxiety
I didn't expect her to say that.... but she is right on point!
You keep your head down and avoid eye contact makes you prey. Keep your head up, shoulders back (this doesn't mean smiling all over), and MAKE EYE CONTACT, just for a split second; it'll keep you out of trouble. This advice from a 15-year correctional officer.
As an Asian American, I say to people who don't make eye contact anymore, welcome to my world 🙃
Nah. Welcome to mine. 😅😅
Yes! I thought I was the only one that noticed hun!
And when you say hello to people and they did not say anything back? I fell like a idiot 🤦🏻♂️
Correction …. Men want to make eye contact, but are made to feel ashamed or get the disgust and disdain response, women do not want unwanted eye contact ….. big difference
Can’t get as much as a nod from most neighbors whom I’ve been living with in my building for years. It’s so weird.
I *can* make eye contact (I’ve even been told that it’s possible to get lost in my eyes), but I do it sparingly, because I want my eye contact to *mean* something. Whether that be love, trust, anger, sadness, or any other strong emotion, I save making that strong captivating eye contact for important moments.
Wow. You are ghey. Just making sure you know this. Cool 😂
Dude, it's just eye contact, it doesn't have to mean anything deep.
I am 34 and am taking some classes at a large university in my state.. one of the first things I noticed as walked down the halls, nobody is looking up.. and when someone is, I look at them as I walked by and smile, and I was met every single time with a weird look and them immediately looking down!! It happened more times than I kept track of!
Love what you do with your hair. Anyway, just remember to look up! and situational awareness is key from crossing a street to running a business and all the people you meet in between. But in order to understand your surroundings you must first connect to who you really are and not what you think you should be. You look sooo huggable in that sweater
"Maybe men are scarried to make women uncomfortable" is the reason not only for not making eye contact anymore. And not doing anything at all _is_ the right thing nowadays.
This reminds of that time when a woman was being robbed but the guy was just sitting there watching. If he defended her then everyone one would come after him saying that he thinks that just because he's a man a woman defend herself and if he didn't then everyone would go after him calling him a coward so yeah. I'm pretty sure this was in the news and happened in some college.
By men, you mean specifically those that are facially sub5 (like me). As can confirm from experience, average looking guys get far better treatment from women than I do
I (Gen X) am autistic and have always had difficulty with eye contact. In particular, I have trouble forming my thoughts and making eye contact at the same time. I have to look away while I construct the sentence just the way I want,, and then I can look back at the person and express my thoughts.
Other forms of nonverbal communication are not as difficult for me now. I underwent developmental delays, also common in autism, and it took me a long time to figure out how to engage with the world this way
me too, at 18. i know the point i wanna make, but i struggle to assemble it
If you are in London (UK) and try making contact with a stranger then you will probably be seen as weird
I understand a man can be criminally prosecuted for looking at a woman to long. Is this true?
I got that many years ago when I lived in a northeastern US city. It's basically the opposite down south. It's a cultural thing.
Or even arrested; U.K. is a communist country
@@philipgalbraith6402 unfortunately in this nanny state yes it’s so bad; they make laws for everything it’s a police state
So many people in London aren’t English though so it hard to gauge, and no I don’t mean that in a Farage way 😂 I don’t care about immigration, it’s just a fact
Looking at a woman is very dangerous these days, let alone smiling at one or talking to one. Especially at the gym or on college campuses.
Facts
Very true. I almost always sit with people who are 20-30 years older than me (currently 32) because they know how to talk with one another. Just about everyone else I know at my age are on their phones constantly and cannot hold a conversation. I also always make it a rule to not be on my phone when I am out with friends and they reciprocate that with me as well.
You should market these types of messages towards women. They're the ones that say what's "creepy" or acceptable after all.
Anything you do around women is seen as "creepy" when you're facially sub5 (meaning you are within the bottom 20% of attractiveness)
heck, even around men too and I can confirm this from experience.
i am a teen girl and i was raised with confidence and self respect and respect for others and i have made adult male doctors uncomfortable by making eye contact and asking them questions i have never once had a guy my age look me in the eyes while i talk my bf is getting better at it but in his defense he is very very shy
On behalf of shy guys everywhere, thank you for dating one of us. Yes, we are good people once you get to know us.
@ AMEN BROTHER. the shy boys are sweet ladies we can make the first move too
@Christana_Marie lol so how did he get you if he's very shy and couldn't look you in the eye If you don't mind me asking?
I ask since women especially in your case raised in that environment, would get turned off by that behavior from men
@ well we were friends for a very long time and gradually he got more confident and would ask me out and we would hang out but i made the first move. my mom proposed to my dad and i have a family of strong women and not a lot of men can handle my sass but he was sweet and he was sensitive and he would listen to everything i had to say. it helps when he hold himself with confidence. since he was new to my school he would always slouch and keep to himself until i introduced myself. he is very tall about 6’ 2” but i didn’t know that until he would stand up straight and i love someone who is confident because heaven knows i am very outspoken
@Christana_Marie nice, did you ever try to help build up his confidence? Merry Christmas btw
Yes, spending too much time on technology makes it hard to communicate in real life. I learned this after playing online gaming for many years where you don't have people to look at when talking to them through the microphone, and I am trying to learn to look at people again.
I very often make eye contact, give a genuine smile and an upbeat "Hello" or some very brief complement on their outfit or something. The overwhelming majority respond well but you can tell they're not used to it.
If you're genuine they won't interpret it as creepy.
enjoying your content so much recently been consuming a lot of red pill stuff and I think thou they het somethings right like men getting a purpose and confidence theres also a lot of negativity your channel presents such a good hopeful perspective on life thats much needed
I’m in my 60’s, and I have been noticing this for years now. The younger generation doesn’t seem to have any social skills. I walk by a young woman or man and they almost always avoid eye contact, never smile, never return an acknowledgement of mutual existence. I can always predict the social interaction, or lack thereof, by the age range of the person I’m about to cross paths with.
Billie, I had just found out that my ex had her friends anonymously post in a girls Facebook group for my local community slandering and defaming my name… our relationship fell apart because of lack of communication and lack of trust… police can’t take it down as it’s considered a civil matter… now even girls who don’t know me get to give their thoughts which show how gross these people are and even a girl unmatched on hinge was complaining cause I unmatched her.. I don’t know how we are gonna trust each other again as sexes. I have been a good guy and treated girls well and have been the one cheated on a and treated like crap and this happens. The impact of this and these ARE WE DATING THE SAME GUY Facebook groups is making dating impossible since it’s now weird to approach women in person. So many rules, fake terms have been made to scare us off and they’re doing all the right things. What’s going on here??!
About 25 years ago, my stepson gave my son an iPod or some other personal entertainment consumption device for a birthday. My heart sunk. It was the first time in our family that we didn’t have to share background music or television. It is not the consequence of social media. It is the consequence of selfishness. We no longer have to share. I love to visit with a fellow passenger on flights. But no more. Everyone comes armed with ear buds to signal to others to leave them alone. Oh well…alone they will be. And the gym? Forget about even talking to someone let alone even looking at them. So sad.
It's not just people of our generation who are ill-mannered. I notice it even in people who did not grow up with technology but were supposedly raised to behave like a person.
Ever since mid 2010’s, social media in general really has ruined the relationship between men & women. We all care too much about looks, body image, being accepted/rejected, etc.
It's the perfect tone to start with
"Merry Christmas!"
Man I Love this girl. Listen up fools. She's dead on. Apps and the cell on your face are destroying your whole life to the point you know nothing anymore. Total lost epidemic.
Social Media is like cancer.
I know and agree. But she's included in that as well.
I was bullied in middle school and high school. One thing that I noticed was that if I looked in people’s general direction it was almost like an invitation for harassment. It got to a point where I would intentionally avoid looking at anyone when I would walk from class to class and would only speak to others if spoken to first. One thing I think a lot of people don’t talk about is how cruel Gen Z was to one another while they were younger. I think this ended up affecting everyone in the generation which is partially why so many people in Gen Z have trust issues. There are other reasons of course. Going to college and then working helped me substantially but I am not sure if the programming I received during my formative years will ever fully be gone.
your second point as a man. Fear of female harassment no other reason despite all signs of attraction by female i reject them for basis of avoiding any confusion later on
On the streets, avoid the known offenders, and avoid strangers - be safe out there, it is nearly free, really, a free thing is a great find. Too much anger out there.
Times have changed and the average girl will see any average looking guy approaching her as a creep. I’m married, so I really don’t care how single women treat others in public, but I do feel bad for these young men trying to approach these women.
Woman of the Hour (2024) showed that there is a danger when women trust every men out there.
We literally NEVER get approached and I don't think I'm that ugly, Idk what you are talking about!
@16andLive Why my comment is deleted? I hate YT censorship godammit
Well, they are fine with sharing chad with other girls. Stats say that 70% of young men are single while 50% of young women are single.and the gap is growing. So they either go with much older men (like 20+ years difference) or share. Maybe both.
@@MathieuDeVinois In conclusion - social anxiety is not fear. It is not shyness.
We do not have eye contact due to lack of social skills as CBT is coercing us to believe.
Social anxiety is trauma.
We are being abused and we are reacting to abuse - narcissistic abuse.
The fears that we feel is actually trauma.
We must stop self pathologizing ourselves.We are not being irrational
Feminism destroyed dating, what did we expect
I’m autistic. It’s already hard for me to make eye contact to anyone
I always thought I was the few ones
I think medical science is discovering that autism is a lot more common than previously thought. The reason is that the science behind it is still very primitive (autism wasn’t even a thing until 1987)
I've been making eye contact and saying 'hi' for decades now. I now notice is more prevalent for the other person not only not to answer (common enough, but rude) but also intentionally look away.
If you have social awkwardness, you've done it to yourself. But it's easy enough to fix: say hi, back, at least.
I. Agree, but I do better talking with most women than most men, but I am getting more and more afraid to talk to women knowing how they can get scared of men or how they may be already married, taken, underaged or just get offended easily
Looking down or avoiding eye contact tells anyone who is looking for an easy victim, that that is what you will be. Even if you keep from eye contact, keep your head up and be aware of what is around you.
You're exactly right. Smart girl
Not sure about any of that but people need to stop with this approaching strangers nonsense. That’s never been common to do, it’s ineffective and it’s a waste of time. Do not listen to women that tell you approach strangers in random places.
The approach has to have a reason. "You dropped your keys." Or communicate intent. They are wearing a shirt of one of your favorite bands. Etc.
@@itachir8290 Stranger danger is a fundamental part of human evolutionary psychology that goes back to the days of tribes raiding each other for resources. Unless you are so attractive that it's going to outperform the very real risks involved in giving a stranger your contract information you will get no where with this cold approach stupidity. It would be less effective than dating apps because the apps do provide a layer of security that can act as something of a lubricant for these awkward interactions between strangers. And those are still wildly ineffective for average men. There is no need to approach strangers in weird awkward ways, even if you manufacture a "reason" for the awkward exchange.
bless you for trying at least
They’ve been raised on computer screens. I’m old enough to remember when the internet was called “the information superhighway,” and it wasn’t widespread until I was 8-9. I had a little while to adjust to people and their faces in my formative years. There’s also a high rise in autism. In a study, people with autism reacted the same way towards objects as they did reacting to human faces. So by introducing your kids to smartphone/tablet screens as young as they do today, they have less awareness between the internet and real life because it’s been so ingrained in their daily lives. That’s why they take cyberbullying so seriously. Older people can shrug off an internet comment better than those who saw internet comments/social media posts side by side with human interaction. Some of that is also life experience.
As to eye contact, they’re used to making as much (usually more) eye contact with objects like smartphones and tablets. It’s a socially acceptable disease.
This isn’t the only reason why, but it is A reason why.
I definitely relate. I mean, as an autistic guy, I struggle with eye contact in general. I often actively think about whether eye contact is too much or too little. And that distracts me from conversations. And I don’t really understand many social cues that well. So… Possibly I’ve had someone flirting with me before but I’d have been oblivious to it. And I’m really the type to keep my distance anyway and observe from afar whether a (social) situation might be worth the risks for me.
I struggle with this mightily. I tend to just stare off into space whenever I speak to others and I have a short attention span. I know it’s probably normal because I have autism, but I still feel like a weirdo.
It's quite normal where i live not to have much eye contact, especially in cities. And with women, I avoid any eye contact nowadays because i don't want to bother them or creeping them out. It went always bad, when I tried eye contact. And I never received a smile from a woman in my age or younger on street,supermarket whatever.
When I'm walking and see a woman coming the opposite way, they look at the ground or look at houses and trees, I acknowledge them and they say nothing. I also feel like I'm bothering them when they pretend they are so busy with something. Women have never been fair to me no matter how good I was to them
I was told that eye contact is a sign of aggression
@@vigorelliinstitute879 ,, prolonged intense eye contact is perceived as aggressive. It depends on the two people.
But casual inviting eye contact with notes of acceptance 🤷♂️. Yup.
Try it at home in your mirror. You'll understand.
@PaydayGabeBCNV oh I know don't worry I learned proper eye contact years ago. My point is my class was taught that eye contact is bad in school. I'm 41 and I was told this in the 3rd grade. Everything that we are seeing is intentional.
If you were told than it means that is is 100% true.
@ranc1977 absolutely because you can always trust what they tell you in school 😜
@@vigorelliinstitute879 Descartes discovered 300 years ago - that we start to think when we start to doubt.
He taught this on Royal courts around the Europe.
Something bad happened with the rise of capitalism- we started to behave like communist North Korea country where we must have fascist leader to order us how to think.
dubito, ergo cogito, ergo sum
Bc Social Media has taken over and removed the social norms and online dating has been running rampant. Plus we have been developing this relationship with our smartphones more and more these days.
Can we say now that now these days everyone over think things???
Thank you 😊
It's not social media, it's not phones or the internet. It's society that made men anxious. Everything is turned against us, one wrong step and you're labeled as a creep, might even get a harassment lawsuit.
i just feel really uncomfortable maintaining eye contact. it might be my autism, it might be my anxiety. but i check my surroundings very frequently, especially when talking to someone. sure i glance at their face to show i’m listening, but i don’t look solely at them
My tip to you is to try at look at people’s eyebrows instead. From their perspective they dont even know looking at them. Big game changer this was for me once i got used to it.
@ i look at their noses and that seems to work for most people. nobody has said anything about it unless i’m really distracted for now
Definitely have yourself tested for ASD. Finding out that I’m on the spectrum has helped me figure out a lot
@ oh i’ve already got the diagnosis, adhd autism combo
I don’t disagree that SM has f’d things up. Unfortunately, so much crap has been burned into people’s minds because of it i don’t know how easily society would “snap back” for a lack of a better way of saying it. People hate each other. For some people, this is all they know.
Super Metroid did that?
Just look at their eyebrows instead of directly at their eyes. That’s what I do. It helps me appear more confident and less awkward. Conversations and social interactions are only around 75% eye contact so you don't always have to stare at their eyes.
Wait a minute. Woman told men this past decade not to approach and not too do anything so they do not feel uncomfortable. How is it suddenly a problem now 😂
Because they never really meant it, you had to read and know the twenty different sub distinctions of their messages.
They speak with objectivity but their idea of objectivity in communication relies on understanding the 10,000 layers of contradictions and paradoxes of nuance underneath their words.
They then get upset at us when we take them at their word at face value. Because we didn't pick up their layers upon layers of additional meaning and contradictions beneath what they say.
We didn't "get the hint" because we cant (or refuse on principle) read braille backwards upside down translated into esperanto and written in invisible ink.
"Dont look. Dont speak. Dont approach. Dont do anything. Leave us alone. We don't want you. We don't need you. We're better off without you. Everything you do we can do better. Go away."
But also
"Why aren't men approaching? Where have all the good men gone? Why can't I get a high value man? I am the table!"
And also
"Ew. No. Creep. Pervert. Stop objectifying us!"
Also also
"Enjoy this spicy free sample that's almost but not quite showing what I know you want to really see. Like it? Hit the like and subscribe button. Also cbeck out my profile where I have my LinkedIn profile that contains all my private accounts listed and the tiered membership rates, and what you'll get out of them."
"Empowerment? Victimhood? Could you please pick a lane?"
"I choose both. Also neither. Yessn't."
This woman is a genius
It’s also small talk all together. I work at a bank and there’s a sharp difference between the way that old people and young people communicate when I’m serving them.
Old people will smile look at you and make small talk young people legit look scared and are looking at the side
Yeah, I have stopped making eye contact, and I am middle-aged. I have received the message that women are uncomfortable with me and even actively dislike me, so I don't want to deal with that. Now, I don't avoid social interaction with other men on a friendly basis, and I get along with people, but I avoid looking at women so women won't have a reason to complain about me.
It's not even just eye contact. Around females I make sure I can't be accused of looking. I straight up time my blinks and have excellent discipline to not look. Also, I have no desire to look since I'm with a woman.
I'm glad I'm a Millennial and not a Generation Z. Eye contact is normal for me. I once got approached by a girl thinking i was flirting, but I just looked at her a bit because she was playing Nintendo Switch. She was a kind girl getting to know her.
I mostly look away to not be rude and seem like I'm staring, there's a lot of people out there who'd give me trouble even if I merely glanced for half a second, plus I don't wish to make others uncomfortable
I was always taught to look people in the 👁 when 🗣 to them. I work in security, and that skill really helps.
"Avoidance" based on anxieties & insecurities is exactly what it stems from
As an autistic making eye contact is next to impossible.
It's the equivalent to staring directly at the sun, just too overwhelming.
I started noticing this, especially with young men in the early 2000s.
The social skills of your age group are APPALLING!! They are bad for my age group (millennials) but for younger people they are unbelievably atrocious. It's like watching a car wreck! It's sad but strangely fascinating...
Very good points. Completely broken generation.
That's Good. Thank You.
People in my neighborhood don't even say hello as they pass by... Like if one was to say hello it's awkward or weird.. I've had multiple occasions where I would simply say hello as I'm passing by to get awkward silence. So I stopped trying to be social with neighbors since it seems everyone just wants to be left alone. I'm just numb to ignoring people now.
Trying avoid being called a creep
I've noticed this. I'm 27 and my 15 year old neighbour girl came at my door to pick up a package. She didn't make eye contact, couldn't say thank you, it was such a socially weird interaction. All that while i'm being like "Hey, neighbour, came to pick up the package i see, let me just grab it for ya". They just don't have the social skills anymore.