A new sexual revolution for orgasm equality | Laurie Mintz | TEDxUF

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  • @gemmaatterks
    @gemmaatterks 4 ปีที่แล้ว +247

    But my is it changing now! Conversations are being had, support groups, websites, people are choosing to educate themselves about how a female body works. It's taken a long time but I am so happy we are finally getting there.

    • @andreshedberg
      @andreshedberg 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      this is the truth!

    • @shanefinn3277
      @shanefinn3277 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, the line of discussion is very much open!

    • @lumorgan2597
      @lumorgan2597 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks to this type of content one has a great time, without a doubt it is the best, I loved it

    • @aaronreeves684
      @aaronreeves684 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah, i love the talk

    • @as-hr9vl
      @as-hr9vl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      This talk was amazing

  • @sorphealove3321
    @sorphealove3321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    As a woman I have realized it is my responsibility to learn about my body instead of assuming someone else is going to know how to get me there.

  • @nubblesleopard9735
    @nubblesleopard9735 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is such a huge part of why we need to just get rid of labels! The kind of conditioning Laurie talks about here has done a real number on us.

  • @happyriley
    @happyriley ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really appreciate that there are people like Laurie putting this information out there. It's not easy to navigate this stuff 🤷‍♀🤷‍♀

    • @ivyharringten
      @ivyharringten ปีที่แล้ว

      It's definitely not but if there's one thing you should know it's that a lot of men really enjoy being told what to do!

  • @lilyschmyer
    @lilyschmyer ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Laurie's call to action is inspiring. It's time to challenge societal norms and create a world where pleasure equality is the norm

  • @moreismerrier1524
    @moreismerrier1524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    She is the Aunty every young girl needs rn, so many truths and so many solutions!

  • @rheeslewis
    @rheeslewis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    "There is no quality without equality" it starts with changing our language. The applause in this talk says all.

  • @magdaselenski
    @magdaselenski ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank YOU Laurie! I can't believe this came out 3 years ago and just how much we have tackled but the work that is still left to do.

  • @graciasandlove
    @graciasandlove 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    As a woman, I've felt the pressure to conform to certain expectations. It's refreshing to hear someone advocating for true equality in pleasure.

  • @henryhunterthenobleone
    @henryhunterthenobleone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I think there's another factor within this that doesn't really get spoken about - s*xual empowerment carries over into everyday life. When you're satisfied and encouraged to exercise that part of you it can give you an amazing strength and confidence

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agree!

    • @nostalgic3ctasy433
      @nostalgic3ctasy433 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, and I don't think this is something that society wants to encourage in women

  • @coopercrank
    @coopercrank ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I thought back in school 15 years ago that the way we were taught about such things was very weighted in the favour of one side. Very pleased to see this shift happening finally.

  • @maureenwatters321
    @maureenwatters321 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I first saw this talk a couple of years again and was pleased to see it pop up for me again. It's such a refreshing talk, very different to the normal TEDx I see.

  • @quinnsantiago
    @quinnsantiago 2 ปีที่แล้ว +279

    It's not just about orgasms though, a s3xual encounter can go from unfulfilling all the way to disqusting and more often than not it's the woman who is left feeling disqusted.

    • @darrellrussell7259
      @darrellrussell7259 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      well in some cases it is possible for the man to not get satisfied.

    • @kenoxfps8598
      @kenoxfps8598 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      many men are in the same position tbh

    • @kenanxo7384
      @kenanxo7384 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      you have a point there

    • @TRIGO_ALLINE
      @TRIGO_ALLINE 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I totally agree with you

    • @dunstanbondura3363
      @dunstanbondura3363 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have heard cases where it was the other way around

  • @pleaseinspiremetoday
    @pleaseinspiremetoday 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The plethora of studies done on such topics all come to similar conclusions - the lack of education has seriously hindered us in so many facets of society. It's not just about equality, but equity! And MUTUAL RESPECT! Laurie is an absolute champ!

  • @glenbeckernotthatoneeither
    @glenbeckernotthatoneeither 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is such an interesting talk! The 'why is this happening' part especially. I definitely agree with what she says about the images we see in media have sort of warped the concept of what we think it should be, but I think the problem started a loooong time before.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you for your kind words! I agree that this started long ago! I have a history chapter in my book which this talk was based on that details that.

  • @thejohntitor
    @thejohntitor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The stats on the orqasm gap are eye-opening. We need more awareness to break the stigma and make a change.

  • @labradora3525
    @labradora3525 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I've always taught my sons that if you focus on your partner having a good time, you'll both have a good time. 😊

    • @tyeziika
      @tyeziika 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      teach the boys to listen too!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah! We need more parents like you!

    • @wittylove7215
      @wittylove7215 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      good mom!!!

    • @rickyohe
      @rickyohe 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I teach my children to be kind to each other.

    • @wittylove7215
      @wittylove7215 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@rickyohe perfect!

  • @justinesaxenn
    @justinesaxenn 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is a really complex, multi-faceted problem. It's not just about media or S-ed, it's about how women are perceived, valued and conditioned.

  • @bellathomas3440
    @bellathomas3440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She raises some really good points about how this has happened, and I think talking openly and having healthy conversations around it would definitely help this revolution along the way!

  • @shannonpscofield
    @shannonpscofield ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've learned so much from this talk. It's high time we break down these cultural barriers and promote pleasure equality.

    • @jsisjajja
      @jsisjajja ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't know that it's cultural barriers holding us back

  • @barbsteele
    @barbsteele 2 ปีที่แล้ว +394

    Ughhh this is so tough. I think unless your first sxual relationship happens to be with someone that you're completely comfortable with and able to freely express what you like you end up accepting sub-par s-x as standard and it can be a long time before you experience something different and are even aware of how incredible it can be

    • @gordonharper2961
      @gordonharper2961 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      this is a topic you could talk about for days

    • @lidiamervis6252
      @lidiamervis6252 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Is it really that big of a deal?

    • @mattiesanders5102
      @mattiesanders5102 ปีที่แล้ว

      You stated this perfectly, good job

    • @Benjamin-yh9mr
      @Benjamin-yh9mr ปีที่แล้ว

      we need more attention towards this!

    • @gilkemplin645
      @gilkemplin645 ปีที่แล้ว

      Finding the right partner can be very hard at times

  • @spaghety9174
    @spaghety9174 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I appreciate the call to challenge unrealistic depictions of women's pleasure. Media has a big role to play in shaping our perceptions.

    • @juliaressberger
      @juliaressberger ปีที่แล้ว +1

      absolutely. I think a lot of people grow up being totally misled by what they see in media

  • @wadewilsonjr
    @wadewilsonjr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Wow I feel like I'm constantly learning new things about the struggles that women go through. There were some pretty confronting statistics in there and I can't help but second guess and rethink some of my past behavior. I can only hope that other men have the same reaction when they watch this

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So appreciate your reaction! Thank you!

    • @gaborsette
      @gaborsette ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! A lot of this was news to me. But I'm not second guessing my past behaviour 😂🤣

    • @ivyharringten
      @ivyharringten ปีที่แล้ว

      I think this is an appropriate reaction to have to information like this...

  • @deorasarvan4967
    @deorasarvan4967 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I find it amazing how much we can learn about ourselves through scientific research.

  • @juliaressberger
    @juliaressberger ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I appreciate the effort to promote open and honest conversations about s*x. It's crucial to debunk myths and provide accurate information to empower individuals.

    • @nostalgic3ctasy433
      @nostalgic3ctasy433 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely. So much bad info out there and stories that will just make your head spin with how ridiculous they are.

  • @elaineclouston
    @elaineclouston 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This education is essential, and it's high time we move beyond vague discussions and provide practical information about pleasure and consent.

  • @gailspordard
    @gailspordard 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    yes! equality comes in all forms

    • @joemurray1664
      @joemurray1664 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      interesting talk, I learned something new :) equality is everything

    • @TRIGO_ALLINE
      @TRIGO_ALLINE 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why is it important to close the orgasm gap? How can we do so?

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joemurray1664 So glad you learned something new!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TRIGO_ALLINE Because if half the population is having fewer orgasms, we've god a cultural problem. This talk explored a few of the ways we can close the gap culturally. My book goes into more and also provides ways to close it in individual bedrooms.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Elysia Disanto Exactly!

  • @gwendolyncarnell
    @gwendolyncarnell ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This really sheds light on the importance of understanding and addressing the "O" gap. It's time we strive for equal pleasure and satisfaction in our intimate encounters!

    • @babssinnerd
      @babssinnerd ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @coopertubner
    @coopertubner 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've always valued a woman's pleasure over my own, but one can only ask so many times "is this okay", "do you like this" or "where do you like to be touched" and receive the same response of "that's fine" "whatever you do is fine" when clearly it's not enough! OPEN COMMUNICATION ALL THE WAY

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, communication is key!

    • @wuyattakeita3883
      @wuyattakeita3883 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think if you have to ask "is this okay?" "do you like this?" and aren't getting a proper response then maybe you haven't developed enough trust with your partner to be intimate in that way to begin with.

    • @lanazaja
      @lanazaja ปีที่แล้ว

      This sounds awful. If you have to constantly ask those questions instead of knowing based on how her body is responding, her facial expressions and noises etc then... maybe you don't really know how to get the job done right. Ask for more guidance instead of responses to what you're doing if that makes sense?

    • @lanazaja
      @lanazaja ปีที่แล้ว

      @@wuyattakeita3883 Yes I agree with this. Sounds like they're shy or uncomfortable voicing what they want

  • @DragonPotPie
    @DragonPotPie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Laurie makes some great points here, let's challenge the language and names that we use! Calling everything before intercovrse "forepIay" just perpetuates the inequality.

    • @High-Pink
      @High-Pink ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Language has so much more power than people know

  • @yunzhang5041
    @yunzhang5041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Everything about this talk was refreshing and powerful.

  • @mandareendjes
    @mandareendjes 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The cheering in the end is incredible and speaks volumes

  • @darkclouds3320
    @darkclouds3320 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm sick and tired of society's prejudices. Thank you for openly talking about pleasure, becoming more educated and even happier! Imagine that.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for engaging and commenting!

    • @nostalgic3ctasy433
      @nostalgic3ctasy433 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      We are getting better, slowly but surely.

  • @glenda-russell
    @glenda-russell ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Laurie! These younger girls have no idea of the true disparity there was for a long time and how much of a pioneer you are in this! THANK YOU!!!

    • @nostalgic3ctasy433
      @nostalgic3ctasy433 ปีที่แล้ว

      If anything I think the younger girls have it hardest of all. Can you imagine growing up with all the social media we have now?

  • @maryyouson4404
    @maryyouson4404 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Amazing. Amazing. Thank youuuuuu. At first seeing some men comment made me upset, but I know some will listen and hear you, that will help.

    • @officialsefrey
      @officialsefrey 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agree, they will only hear the things they want to hear.

    • @schellecandar
      @schellecandar 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      We need more women like this, speaking for us!

    • @miatbenjamin
      @miatbenjamin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Men trying to fix us right here in a talk by a woman for women, they do not listen!

    • @kademalik4271
      @kademalik4271 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is!

  • @joseignacioolveragonzalez9673
    @joseignacioolveragonzalez9673 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's fascinating how research can shed light on the intricacies of our bodies

  • @maxinebennier
    @maxinebennier 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Oh Laurie this is fabulous and a must watch for both men and women! To be able to see the correlation here is so big picture thinking. I love it.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you! This means a lot to me!

  • @darlenemjackson
    @darlenemjackson ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Laurie, needed and important talk!

  • @thiagodornelas131
    @thiagodornelas131 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Laurie, for speaking out loud what we try to say but arent often heard saying so!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for listening, engaging, and commenting!

    • @bridgettemsanders
      @bridgettemsanders 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree.

    • @bridgettemsanders
      @bridgettemsanders 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@drlauriemintz All of us are, great work Laurie!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bridgettemsanders Thank you! This means a lot!

  • @thegreatemilianosantiago
    @thegreatemilianosantiago ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes Laurie I can't imagine how satisfying it would be to set people straight in regards to some of those myths!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz ปีที่แล้ว

      It is indeed! Thanks for engaging!

  • @westhalbrook2472
    @westhalbrook2472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    And so many myths there are. It's not just about pleasure, it's about freedom to express needs and wants without judgement. All of us need to be doing this.

  • @-joanna-wang
    @-joanna-wang 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pleasure can rip us apart or bring us together and that's exactly why communicating through the entirety of an intimate session will help both parties grow, instead of harboring resentment!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, communication is the bedrock to make your bed rock!

  • @grazynaparadowska1306
    @grazynaparadowska1306 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm here for human equality. I'm here for open lines of communication. I'm here for the moment we realise that it doesn't matter about x and y but rather the conditioning we have endured.

  • @aditiareka404
    @aditiareka404 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm always fascinated by the intricacies of human biology.sounds like a fascinating journey. I'll definitely search for more information on this topic!

  • @nikolaihlazarev
    @nikolaihlazarev 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    One of the best talk about equality I've ever heard. Clear and hilarious, so impressed!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you! This means a lot to me!

    • @maxinebennier
      @maxinebennier 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's so beautifully to the point, so awesome

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maxinebennier Thank you so much! This means a lot to me!

    • @nikolaihlazarev
      @nikolaihlazarev 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@drlauriemintz you replying is very gracious!

  • @ihavecoolthings
    @ihavecoolthings 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The way she explains the cultural reasons behind the orgasm gap is so enlightening! I thought it was just a personal issue, but societal views really do impact how we perceive and experience everything so it makes sense that s*x is no exception!

  • @katiaromanow
    @katiaromanow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My gosh... I'm actually flabbergasted, to think how all these things could come hand in hand. Amazing talk. Absolutely amazing!!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you!

    • @elissazachary3790
      @elissazachary3790 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here! I hadn't even thought about most of this and my brain is reeling now. Love it!

    • @elissazachary3790
      @elissazachary3790 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      loved this comment

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@elissazachary3790 Thank you! So glad the talk got you thinking!

    • @katiaromanow
      @katiaromanow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@drlauriemintz I just realized you replied to my comment. Thank you Laurie, your talk is so important for women and men to see.

  • @yafaxestre
    @yafaxestre 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well done Laurie for dedicating so much of your time and energy to this.

  • @lincolnmessier1840
    @lincolnmessier1840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a very important subject Laurie, thank you for advocating and bringing awareness to us clueless fellas

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for engaging!

  • @thezoeriley
    @thezoeriley 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Pleasure equality is not just a desire but a necessity for a healthier culture.

  • @channelcannes
    @channelcannes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Imagine a few years ago a woman speaking about orgasm equality, people would have made fun of her, now most of us celebrate it.

  • @jimwebbjr
    @jimwebbjr ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good on you Laurie for dedicating so much energy to this cause!

    • @mathewgee6259
      @mathewgee6259 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I sent to my sisters, and mom, ill be an interesting conversation.

    • @darkrathma
      @darkrathma ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mathewgee6259 That's weird

    • @mathewgee6259
      @mathewgee6259 ปีที่แล้ว

      i was a different person 8 months ago @@darkrathma i hope i've changed.

  • @franklinpgarner
    @franklinpgarner 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    So, I think women has much responsibility in this as men, the women I have known in my life have been reluctant to speak about what they want or need.

    • @gizmeaux
      @gizmeaux 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Or, are you hard to speak t?

    • @jodikennedy8886
      @jodikennedy8886 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Really? what environment are you creating which make intimate subjects hard to discuss?

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Neither women or men are to blame--this is a cultural problem with deep roots that affects both women and men. The point of my talk was not to point fingers nor to lay blame on individuals, but to point our our cultural problem and to inspire action, culturally and in individual bedrooms, to close the orgasm gap.

    • @gizmeaux
      @gizmeaux 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@drlauriemintz good point...

    • @alextoutaev
      @alextoutaev 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yep. agreed.

  • @avajayden1729
    @avajayden1729 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's pretty interesting to learn about how all of those things has added up to the situation we now have

  • @alicestanser
    @alicestanser 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Actually, my male partner doesn’t often orgasm, regardless of what I try, how long or how often. I thought that I must be doing everything wrong and that I was bad at it. Then a lecturer at my university said that it doesn’t need to end it orgasm. I was such a revelation for me. We started focusing more on the experience than the destination and our connection grew and I am so grateful.

    • @ezekielaliss
      @ezekielaliss 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sounds more intimate an most relationships I encounter

  • @cowboycodyvance
    @cowboycodyvance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really think this is why education is so important, and yes, it might sound a little prudish but to emphasis that intimacy is something to be shared with those we connect with, at least for those first few years to ensure maturity is acquired, so you develop healthy communication and actual knowledge about how to have a good, positive experience

  • @guntherhofer
    @guntherhofer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's amazing! A lot of intimacy educators are talking about so many things, about different tricks that you can use in a bed, but only this speaker talks about relevant information!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you! I am delighted you find the information relevant!

    • @victhatsme
      @victhatsme 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I reckon! So many good points!

  • @kristyphoney
    @kristyphoney หลายเดือนก่อน

    The stats she shared about men and women’s orgasm rates are so telling! It’s clear that there’s a huge gap that needs to be addressed, and I agree it starts with changing our cultural perceptions.

  • @thenextbigthingishere
    @thenextbigthingishere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I love that this is a conversation that is happening. More dialogue like this please.

    • @suebakernottly
      @suebakernottly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree TNBT, we have been too silent.

  • @mikewobblyweaver
    @mikewobblyweaver 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The emphasis on foreplay being just a lead-up is a societal flaw. It's time to recognize its importance in delivering equal pleasure to both partners.

  • @margaretstrom
    @margaretstrom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fantastic and well delivered talk! Nice work Laurie

  • @haleeisener
    @haleeisener ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's amazing how a little knowledge can bring about such a positive change

  • @orlageary5104
    @orlageary5104 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is fantastic! I applaud you! It's been amazing watching my female friends finally able to speak of their own need for pleasure instead of feeling ashamed. I love this!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much! This means a lot to me!

    • @hollytrichards
      @hollytrichards 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We have waited so long

  • @danthemanishere
    @danthemanishere 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow, your talk was eye-opening! Thanks for inspiring a revolution for pleasure equality. Let's challenge these outdated notions.

  • @morgannfields
    @morgannfields ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I read something quite recently about the three different types of O a woman can have in terms of the bodily response and I honestly had no idea they were so varied. But the way they collected the data was the most interesting part lol I highly recommend y'all look it up if you're interested!

    • @ashleygreynolds
      @ashleygreynolds ปีที่แล้ว

      good on you!!!

    • @wuyattakeita3883
      @wuyattakeita3883 ปีที่แล้ว

      Definitely interested lol

    • @nostalgic3ctasy433
      @nostalgic3ctasy433 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes I have to know lol how did they do it??

    • @lanazaja
      @lanazaja ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol I am definitely interested. Where did you find this information?

    • @morgannfields
      @morgannfields ปีที่แล้ว

      haha! yeah it was great@@ashleygreynolds

  • @karahzongster5559
    @karahzongster5559 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    There needs to be a revolution in the way media portrays intimacy!

  • @sonthibutsalee
    @sonthibutsalee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    From one woman to another, thank you Laurie!

  • @kiarakillian
    @kiarakillian ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes, this is so desperately needed. Not just for "O" equality but even just to strengthen peoples relationships!

  • @ellaantoinette
    @ellaantoinette 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Faking an orgasm is very common...are you surprised? Glad that there are woman like this making a difference!

  • @CroonGirl
    @CroonGirl ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pleasure equality should be a goal for all of us. Let's work towards a world where everyone's pleasure is valued equally.

  • @moyaresgard
    @moyaresgard 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for speaking for us!!!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for listening and commenting!

  • @woodychuck
    @woodychuck 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm all for this. There's just a lot that needs to be learnt about communication - from BOTH sides - as well not trying to keep score, but encouraging and nourishing respect.

  • @alannamyers
    @alannamyers 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a great talk on anatomy education. Listen & learn.

  • @Rant-Diva
    @Rant-Diva ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think the conversation around this should stay as it's intended - equality. In order to achieve that there needs to be a huge reframe in terms of how we perceive, consume and engage with seggs, and that needs to be happening on both sides

  • @hadlieghbaxter
    @hadlieghbaxter 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The way women's pleasure is represented in the media is also very problematic for these exact reasons!

  • @BasketofDreams
    @BasketofDreams ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She makes a lot of really valid points. Makes me hopeful for the future generations.

  • @luisbrezer
    @luisbrezer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Open communication is a big part of making it work in my experience

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes absolutely! My book, Becoming Cliterate, includes both cultural analysis (like the talk) and self-help skills and the self-help portion includes a whole chapter on communication.

    • @katienlister
      @katienlister 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Open communication and vulnerability.

    • @blaircailean
      @blaircailean 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Could not agree more

  • @avatbadra
    @avatbadra 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've never thought about the language we use affecting our perception of pleasure. I agree that language is powerful and really does shape the way we view things, so it's interesting to think about it in this kind of context

  • @andididntknow
    @andididntknow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Pleasure equality! I love3 it. Perhaps a bit of equity too, as everyone is different ;) Fabulous talk!

  • @realdelilahjones
    @realdelilahjones 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Things are definitely changing! There are also some really cool apps and websites that are dedicated to teaching techniques to help women climax and I think the more that's normalized the better it will be for everyone

  • @katrienkarsen
    @katrienkarsen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    My partner is very attentive, and I am so lucky in that. I didn’t really believe that men cared about me genuinely orgasming before I was with him. For others, it always seemed like my orgasm- real or not- was a trophy. I regret all the times I faked it to get it over with.

    • @trca101
      @trca101 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How did the faking play out, was it before they finished or timed to their finish also?

  • @Team-Cozy
    @Team-Cozy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a wonderful message to be spreading. Solving a problem starts with awareness and I think it would be very validating for all the women who have heard that they're not alone on this issue

  • @asikahoinka
    @asikahoinka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love this talk, but it is still a frightening to open up to someone you are dating and explain your needs...

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I get that it's frightening. However, if women's need for clitoral stimulation was more known and valued, you and others wouldn't have to open up. Also, one study found that while women said they thought telling new partners about their need for clitoral stimulation would be "pushy" the men in the study said they would be grateful and find it a turn on! Hope that gives you some encouragment!

    • @sonny-johnson
      @sonny-johnson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love this talk, thanks for sharing it with me.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sonny-johnson So glad! Thank you!

    • @asikahoinka
      @asikahoinka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@drlauriemintz Thank you for replying Laurie, that is so kind. lol encouragement yes, but bravery, we will see :)

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@asikahoinka I am cheering for you! It all starts with feeling as entitled to pleasure as your partner!

  • @cameoserdert6719
    @cameoserdert6719 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Smart and needed talk, a great teacher and speaker.

    • @ben-basi
      @ben-basi ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah I have learnt a lot from listening to her

  • @michael-rivera
    @michael-rivera 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I hadn't even thought of the words we use describing our privates in this way. Good talk.

    • @lizettesimon478
      @lizettesimon478 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      guess what, this talk isnt all about men!

    • @anonisanonymous
      @anonisanonymous 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      really?

    • @michael-rivera
      @michael-rivera 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@anonisanonymous that offends you?

    • @keithpotter7366
      @keithpotter7366 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      dont dig a deeper hole man...

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      thats such a strange comment!

  • @msamymorin
    @msamymorin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for speaking for so many of us, bless you Laurie!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for this lovely comment!

  • @sonny-johnson
    @sonny-johnson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    3rd time watching this, and spreading to friends, this is an important discussion.

  • @brandyocraveiro
    @brandyocraveiro 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    shared this a while back and keep coming back to show some friends. well done Laurie thank you

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you! I so appreciate that--it means a lot!

  • @thisisjustright
    @thisisjustright 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Another step towards equality!!!

  • @IGiveRainbowKisses
    @IGiveRainbowKisses ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for shedding light on this important topic. It's time we embrace a more inclusive and equal approach to sharing this knowledge

    • @theonlyway977
      @theonlyway977 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely, so much misinformation out there makes it very difficult

    • @danahasler9018
      @danahasler9018 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theonlyway977 I wish it could be put down to misinformation..

    • @danahasler9018
      @danahasler9018 ปีที่แล้ว

      Some of the men I've known honestly it's like they're trying to disappoint you lol

  • @valeriedijkstra
    @valeriedijkstra 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I am watching this, for the 10th time, because I have had enough of not getting enough!

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      LOL! Love it!

    • @sienaredders
      @sienaredders 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      this is a wonderful talk. And not surprised so many men are commenting, but not listening.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sienaredders Thank you! I am so glad you liked the talk!

    • @valeriedijkstra
      @valeriedijkstra 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sienaredders lol, yes not surprised in fact are any of us surprised most men dont listen!

  • @magaliegoulet
    @magaliegoulet 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I appreciate her shining a spotlight on the cultural bias towards male pleasure. It's really interesting to think about

  • @emmajchance
    @emmajchance 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Equality in the bedroom, not just the boardroom? Well here we are still. How many life times, centuries, decades will take to realize we are measuring with the wrong stick.

  • @darkrathma
    @darkrathma ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's good to see this being watched by so many. Liberation for all, especially women.

    • @darkrathma
      @darkrathma ปีที่แล้ว

      And especially sxcually

  • @blaisedominique
    @blaisedominique 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have always known it's not just my fault. Thank you Laurie.

    • @drlauriemintz
      @drlauriemintz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not your fault! Culture's fault! You are just fine as you are!

    • @tobiaskulik
      @tobiaskulik 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm glad you get it, I know many women who blamed themselves and it always broke my heart

  • @emmastandish
    @emmastandish ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We need to recognize that young people have questions about pleasure and intimacy. It's our responsibility to give them credible answers and guidance.

  • @buzzboxes
    @buzzboxes 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It is strange that we have evolved as a species and yet there is such uproar when women want equality and communication! Women have been in charge longer than we realize. Some of the biggest business deals in our history only went ahead because a wise woman helped her partner understand. Women have so much more strength, resilience and energy. It's high time they took the power that is rightfully theirs.

  • @ruthvalenzuela77
    @ruthvalenzuela77 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The diversity in bodily response among women is truly intriguing. I'm curious to learn more about the three different types and how they were discovered through data collection. Thanks for the recommendation!

  • @kathrynlthomas
    @kathrynlthomas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don't know what it's like for the older generations but I have yet to meet a man who think he has a right to release before I do. Communication is key! Guiding each other, talking to each other. Being open! And my gosh, it works in all interpersonal relationships! Both men and women have been conditioned to believe their gender plays a role in their identity when IT DOES NOT. We are HUMAN. If we just talk and are honest we would see the disparity, disperse!

    • @alannamyers
      @alannamyers 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here. We need to get rid of this view that gender depicts our identity. That's how we get rid of this issue!

    • @fahrithegreat
      @fahrithegreat 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@alannamyers Agreed!

    • @barryfarrant3281
      @barryfarrant3281 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very challenging to separate gender and our own identity, let alone the few others have of us. society conditions us to pre-judge others. how i feel as a man who has no job, car, or partner is very distressing to others, but not to me.

  • @EthnoSinFever
    @EthnoSinFever 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s about time we start valuing women's pleasure as much as men’s. This talk is a great step in that direction.