Let's Talk About Sex: The Reality of the Sexual Pleasure Disparity | Grace Wetzel | TEDxStLawrenceU

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  • @jessicaascano9381
    @jessicaascano9381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8647

    When you're single and still watch this.

  • @carmenbalko1372
    @carmenbalko1372 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I AM an 89 year old Granny and by golly never in my Life did I ever believe Woman would finally Hear THE TRUTH…OMG SO GRATEFUL…ALL WOMAN SHOULD HEAR THIS…I MEAN ALL …I SO APPRECIATE THIS VALUABLE INFORMATION…❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.

    • @bl8896
      @bl8896 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You don't SOUND like an 89 year old granny

  • @dsmay6404
    @dsmay6404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2868

    One moment of silence for those who came with their parents to this tedx without knowing topic

    • @munnabhaiyya9515
      @munnabhaiyya9515 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      lol

    • @amrt7755
      @amrt7755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

      See, that's the problem.

    • @arahan_dixit
      @arahan_dixit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@amrt7755 you are samjhdaar👍

    • @danial3192
      @danial3192 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      😂😂😂😂 Khatam

    • @arahan_dixit
      @arahan_dixit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@danial3192 finish😂 satyaanaas hui gayo

  • @Africa96tv
    @Africa96tv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    Yho, the silence in this room was of another level.

    • @michaelmelamed9103
      @michaelmelamed9103 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO DO CLAPPING WITH ONE HAND

    • @James_Fly_Tying
      @James_Fly_Tying 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Clap them cheeks with no hands

    • @badmrwolf6716
      @badmrwolf6716 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🤣🤣🤣😂​@@michaelmelamed9103

  • @Chad_Thundercock
    @Chad_Thundercock 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4818

    She makes a few good points, but there is one glaring issue with her assumptions.
    Biology and evolution don't give a single, cross eyed, red headed damn about 'social constructs' and 'gender roles'. Men orgasm easier than women becuase if men don't orgasm, they don't reproduce. Women can reproduce without orgasm, so the selective pressure of orgasm is not a factor.
    So yes, it's absolutely possible, and even probable, that women have a harder time reaching orgasm due to biology. But it's not that women are hard to bring to orgasm, but that it's so comparatively easy to bring a man to orgasm.
    Want to get off more often? Tell your partner what you like and need. Help out, even. You're adults. Take responsibility for yourself.

    • @Newstatejournal1
      @Newstatejournal1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +154

      Well said!

    • @robertgabuna355
      @robertgabuna355 6 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Rick Cutshall
      Agree...

    • @sanjayvasnani4612
      @sanjayvasnani4612 6 ปีที่แล้ว +73

      Cannot Agree more!

    • @praneetjoshi8541
      @praneetjoshi8541 6 ปีที่แล้ว +264

      Rick Cutshall .. Disagree. The assumption that a guy's orgasm is easier than a girl's is a complete myth.
      It's exactly the same time. Please listen to the video again.

    • @raymukhtar6806
      @raymukhtar6806 6 ปีที่แล้ว +131

      Praneet Joshi TRUST me lady, it does NOT take a man 4 minutes. THAT is not science lmfao

  • @asandax6
    @asandax6 5 ปีที่แล้ว +926

    The reason people are quiet is because They are so so focused in taking mental notes

    • @somiproductions
      @somiproductions 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Exactly, like what's the point of this

    • @thethird2334
      @thethird2334 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ARE you from south africa

  • @aidanrezvani9295
    @aidanrezvani9295 4 ปีที่แล้ว +818

    I'm going to single handedly fix this problem.

  • @rixseixe
    @rixseixe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    Talking about equality of pleasure is significant. I think the first barrier to get across this inequality is communication. Speak to your partner - your likes, your dislikes and all that make you feel happy and content. The act is for both to enjoy - that is what all of humanity does.

    • @since1876
      @since1876 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hey, man, I'll do my best, but if she can't get there in 2.5 minutes, that's why Jesus invented vibrators.... 🥺

    • @likad.5156
      @likad.5156 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What if my partner says "I haven't heard any complaints from others "?

    • @rixseixe
      @rixseixe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@likad.5156He should be with others. What is your partner doing with you?

  • @infidelheretic923
    @infidelheretic923 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4323

    I wonder if this was all secretly directed at her boyfriend.

    • @CL-uf9xw
      @CL-uf9xw 5 ปีที่แล้ว +113

      @ Infidel Heretic
      I wonder if you watched this whole thing thinking "She's hot, what did she say?"

    • @amedina6162
      @amedina6162 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @Waterlec lol it probably was detected to her boyfriend lol. Good one.

    • @GypzyJack
      @GypzyJack 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @Waterlec The front row was empty. He must have got embarassed and fled the scene!

    • @marvickfranca
      @marvickfranca 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kkkkkkk

    • @lelandraymaley3
      @lelandraymaley3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Infidel Heretic I don’t perceive this girl as straight?

  • @Prodiggy23
    @Prodiggy23 6 ปีที่แล้ว +435

    What she did really well in this talk, unlike many other equality discussions in today's day in age, is she was very open about saying that this wasn't all just because of men or a certain group of people. She did an excellent job in pointing out that as a collective society, men and women, we should change how we look at this issue not to take away the benefits that it already gives but rather add more benefits for the other party involved. Greatly worded and put together talk.

    • @camerondiprose1722
      @camerondiprose1722 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I didn’t see it like that.
      It’s not ever been something I’ve thought about. If I’m there to have a good time, so is she and if the job doesn’t get done one way you step it up and do something else. To some how insist that there’s a systemic problem of men being lazy goes a bit far. It’s certainly not been my experience.

    • @glenwaldrop8166
      @glenwaldrop8166 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Most of the complaints come from having a bad partner or lack of experience.
      Don't sleep around with randos that only care about themselves, that's a huge start.

    • @king.2597
      @king.2597 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's how many equality discussions are

    • @vanhau9674
      @vanhau9674 ปีที่แล้ว

      1st
      2nd

  • @tylerdurden2832
    @tylerdurden2832 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2008

    Ok TH-cam, I've watched it. You happy?

    • @tianqihu4756
      @tianqihu4756 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      you dog,me too

    • @aadityaacharya5902
      @aadityaacharya5902 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      The first rule of fight club ...............

    • @kartikeyatiwari8661
      @kartikeyatiwari8661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@aadityaacharya5902 is you don't talk about fight club

    • @jayantchaudhary177
      @jayantchaudhary177 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@kartikeyatiwari8661 you just talked about fight club

    • @notgayatall5454
      @notgayatall5454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@jayantchaudhary177
      You just talked about them talking about fight club. Which is technically talking about fight club.

  • @ishwindersinghwalia6769
    @ishwindersinghwalia6769 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    This was much needed!
    Thank you for opening up a conversation about it!

  • @michaelware1649
    @michaelware1649 4 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Men are not mind readers, generally speaking, women need to speak up, and let men know what they want, different women like different things, I think most men would be happy to oblige!

    • @likad.5156
      @likad.5156 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Most. But some would call it a complaint...

    • @leonniceday6807
      @leonniceday6807 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wait till you grow older... Not knowing is formidable excuse ;).

  • @rohitk2390
    @rohitk2390 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1057

    Dear youtube, i am single,why am i being recommended this? Is universe sending me some type of signal?

  • @rayana4250
    @rayana4250 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2063

    "Today, I'm gonna be talking to you about sex".
    I'm genuinely surprised no one in the crowd yelled "YES!" after that bold statment
    DISCLAIMER: I have no idea why this video was recommended to me. Honest.

    • @BM_brb
      @BM_brb 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Rayan A, they yelled inside their heads.

    • @indobekicot5731
      @indobekicot5731 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      They recommended this to me also, Idk

    • @Raj-np1sc
      @Raj-np1sc 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah...recommended to me also...lol...wtf!

    • @ItsSalman98
      @ItsSalman98 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂

    • @lezysul
      @lezysul 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lmao, same here 😥😥😥😐😐😐

  • @katie2845
    @katie2845 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love this!! What a thought-provoking presentation. She’s got it figured out!

  • @TNTsundar
    @TNTsundar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    People don’t quite understand when someone says “It’s hard to satisfy a woman”. I only ask them to watch this video - just once.

    • @fluttersheesh8884
      @fluttersheesh8884 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      She actually quotet, that by themselves women and men need approx. equal time amount to reach orgasm. So what are you saying ?

    • @puppypi9668
      @puppypi9668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@fluttersheesh8884 I think he's agreeing and saying that he shows people this video to set them straight :')

  • @seangpinyoung2719
    @seangpinyoung2719 6 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    Not me,I never fake anymore!
    The longer you live the more brave and stay true to yourself always! Just tell him! Lol.

    • @dbsk06
      @dbsk06 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      IKR lol

    • @notgayatall5454
      @notgayatall5454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      You go girl! Be a part of the solution and not the problem.

  • @0669able
    @0669able 4 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    Very well said and very well put . Extremely well delivered on a subject least talked about ,and least demanded by wemen.
    Hats off to her for making the awareness of equality of this commodity for both sexes. Hurrah to her.

  • @Exxplore_the_NorthEast
    @Exxplore_the_NorthEast 3 ปีที่แล้ว +248

    Singles give attendance here

  • @frankmeintjes5012
    @frankmeintjes5012 4 ปีที่แล้ว +378

    Bottom line ladies take control and tell your partner what you want. If he listens he is a wise guy.

    • @hamzamoussaid4347
      @hamzamoussaid4347 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Haha if the women take control of her man she will never have orgasm from him

    • @seradin8029
      @seradin8029 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@hamzamoussaid4347 what?

    • @Mia199603
      @Mia199603 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      They often don't so that's that.

    • @Nimrodel84
      @Nimrodel84 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's not very easy to say what you want when everything in your life told you that you are not allowed to ask those things.

    • @frankmeintjes5012
      @frankmeintjes5012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@Nimrodel84
      You must realize that it's your life your needs your body. You have the right to speak your mind. It is not sinful or wrong but it's your right.

  • @TheUltrazone23
    @TheUltrazone23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +342

    Is my girlfriend working at TH-cam secretly? This was recommended to me!

  • @th3b0yg
    @th3b0yg 6 ปีที่แล้ว +963

    I'm so tired of hearing about how we're victims of ideas that exist. Take responsibility for your own life and fulfillment. It's not a competition, it's a collaboration. Collaborate with someone who's good to you and it's probably going to be good.

    • @pladselsker8340
      @pladselsker8340 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Couldn't say it any better

    • @MrRedwingsfan16
      @MrRedwingsfan16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      All she is saying is for people to be more aware of others, if you really care for a person this should be instinctive. Yes we should take responsibility for our own happiness, and like she said, a woman should feel empowered enough to ask, but the reality is, a lot of women feel awkward. We don't live in a perfect world, and it takes communication and a little bit of empathy to move in that direction

    • @th3b0yg
      @th3b0yg 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      MrRedwingsfan16 or to hit the same idea from the other direction, buck up and stop thinking of yourself as a victim. It's incumbent upon you to pursue the happiness you desire. It's not incumbent upon others to provide it. But they might provide it if you ask.

    • @emmanuelp.8730
      @emmanuelp.8730 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Robert Johnson women dont get it.. Somehow they believe that men are mindreaders..

    • @MrRedwingsfan16
      @MrRedwingsfan16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Robert Johnson that's a very good realization, but unfortunately not everyone's brain works the same way. That's why people like you that have realized that, can only do the best they can to help others realize that. Hence my point of empathy and awareness go a long way.

  • @aaronmolinafletcher3756
    @aaronmolinafletcher3756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Its a matter of educating and listening each other.

  • @h.fenrus2405
    @h.fenrus2405 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Teach your partner & offer positive yet constructive criticism so that you can help each other. Be vocal & if something isn't happening in real time be respectful to one another & let them know what's happening.

  • @Pikachu-cv4ju
    @Pikachu-cv4ju 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1287

    Nice session of SEDx...😅

    • @sauravsuman9384
      @sauravsuman9384 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😂😂😂👍

    • @BIKASHKUMAR-gh7cz
      @BIKASHKUMAR-gh7cz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Creativity level 💯🤣

    • @ahmedfathi1488
      @ahmedfathi1488 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @ABHISHEK AWASTHI Simp 😂🤣

    • @saidamin4510
      @saidamin4510 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She has put out all her anger to her husband in this presentation 😂

    • @JackJack-sc2od
      @JackJack-sc2od 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      GODD

  • @markterrazzino7300
    @markterrazzino7300 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1364

    In my opinion, my girlfriend's pleasure is more important than mine. without her, I don't get the pleasure.

  • @PsychPerusal
    @PsychPerusal ปีที่แล้ว +5

    this topic is not discussed much but it is very very important. thanks for speaking up on this. i really learned a lot today.

  • @asithaperera377
    @asithaperera377 3 ปีที่แล้ว +685

    If this is recommended to you, there is high chance that you are single or long distance relationship 😂😂

  • @caischcer
    @caischcer 4 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    3:36 That was weird. Did she sneeze or something? It appeared to me as if she was laughing for a second

    • @youareconnectingshivamkumar
      @youareconnectingshivamkumar 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Because No One is Laughing or Cheering. She feels awkward bcoz no one is giving any sign of emotion.

    • @ivanbreak
      @ivanbreak 4 ปีที่แล้ว +153

      she had an orgasm

    • @notgayatall5454
      @notgayatall5454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@ivanbreak
      Thank you kind sir. For making me laugh.

    • @hondedtij6761
      @hondedtij6761 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      She forgot what she was about to say

    • @freefallwefall
      @freefallwefall 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@hondedtij6761 Agreed. She panicked on stage for a split second before recovering gracefully.

  • @hensuwis2160
    @hensuwis2160 4 ปีที่แล้ว +531

    Why I am seeing this ? I don't even have a gf .

    • @notgayatall5454
      @notgayatall5454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      It will be helpful in the future.

    • @MoonlitKii
      @MoonlitKii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@notgayatall5454 Might Be. 😂

    • @RoYal-xz5ch
      @RoYal-xz5ch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Just in case

    • @PAVN.
      @PAVN. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      to stay at safer side ; )

    • @jessicaascano9381
      @jessicaascano9381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      go get one

  • @SullenDaiz
    @SullenDaiz ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I hope it's ok to share, because more people need to hear this.

  • @marysullivan2884
    @marysullivan2884 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Nothing to do with content random rant warning - this college is in the middle of NOWHERE! I used to do their audit when I worked with PWC in the 00s. I spent my entire month of August in this empty college town for four years - needless to say myself and my team spent a great deal of time all alone in the bar at the Best Western. I do not miss you St. Lawerence University. I really needed to get this out I’m sorry everyone.

  • @retlaw4003
    @retlaw4003 4 ปีที่แล้ว +531

    Is there anyone single listening to this?

  • @catkeys6911
    @catkeys6911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +400

    I don't know about anyone else, but for me, the woman's pleasure was always the main goal. They deserve all the pleasure we can give them.

  • @keylas3525
    @keylas3525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    That's a voice that needs to be heard on repeat. Thank you.

  • @rajibdhungana
    @rajibdhungana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +125

    I don't have interest in the video but now since TH-cam has recommended me 10 th time. The universe is wanting me to watch this video.

    • @GutsXGriffith
      @GutsXGriffith 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nepali jasto xau ta

    • @rajibdhungana
      @rajibdhungana 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@GutsXGriffith Haha without doubt

    • @munnabhaiyya9515
      @munnabhaiyya9515 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      same

    • @jonnymcgrath4816
      @jonnymcgrath4816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You know you got recommended this cuz you’re watching something similar to it. 😅

    • @munnabhaiyya9515
      @munnabhaiyya9515 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jonnymcgrath4816 no i watch ted talks sometimes that's why this got recommended to me

  • @ramona.vargas7298
    @ramona.vargas7298 6 ปีที่แล้ว +623

    It's a simple case of lack of communication & understanding of the the men & women involved.

    • @christianschwalbach7561
      @christianschwalbach7561 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Ramon Vargas pretty much

    • @amberkosterewa7029
      @amberkosterewa7029 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Or lack of concern by the male party

    • @oscarl.3563
      @oscarl.3563 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sounds terrible, maybe you need to treat them better.

    • @SanVB
      @SanVB 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      You said it! I don't see this as a Big social problem as she puts it, like if you and your partner communicate properly then this doesn't exist. I still find the talk interesting and very useful.

    • @sirgrotto8714
      @sirgrotto8714 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Jac Debaires I agree as long as everyone communicates and properly then things should be fine.

  • @lesliegurley1057
    @lesliegurley1057 2 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    When it comes to that pressure to have vaginally orgasm, believe me there is pressure on men to make that happen as well. If we are wanting to change societal expectations on women to have a vaginally orgasm we need to change the expectation on men to give her one. A man who fails to do so is typically viewed by society as not being much of a man, even by women.

    • @0114mercury
      @0114mercury 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      "A man who fails to do so is viewed as not being much of a man" - who said that? Never heard of this before.

    • @lesliegurley1057
      @lesliegurley1057 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @0114mercury how many times have you heard a man bragging about "banging her so good she never came"? Or when was the last time you heard a woman talking about a guy "rocking her world so good she didn't get off at all"? The truth is you have probably never heard either of those things, and if you have you are definitely one of an astronomically infinitesimal number of people who have, like you and maybe enough others to count on one finger if that many. So, like I said, there is tremendous pressure on men to make it happen.

    • @Dave-x8j
      @Dave-x8j 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@0114mercury r u kidding???? This is a historic standard. And a man who cant, it so looked down upon. Really?

    • @threestars2164
      @threestars2164 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Completely imaginary. There is no more pressure on men than there is on women.

  • @favourw285
    @favourw285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    ur such a wise lady... saving pples relationships.enlighting pples future...
    I really appreciate you..
    may u be rewarded with thenks ,love and peace

  • @将軍九八.彁
    @将軍九八.彁 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1406

    She's been dating the wrong men.

    • @FranCambeyro
      @FranCambeyro 6 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Jason G no doubt about it! 😉

    • @melindabota1201
      @melindabota1201 6 ปีที่แล้ว +122

      Jason G she is not talking about herself. Have you missed all the statistics she mentioned?

    • @rilist23
      @rilist23 6 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      She wasn’t talking about herself

    • @RAG718
      @RAG718 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      then why do so much research and spend the time talking like this,, some how someway her wrong men affected her...

    • @MegaARYARAJ
      @MegaARYARAJ 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Frustrations u know

  • @aliciawei4809
    @aliciawei4809 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is so true. The focus and expectation is that men feel good, and many men are unwilling to put enough effort into learning what gives women true pleasure. Because oftentimes when women feel good, this isn’t as physically stimulating to men. And since women are mostly willing to accept this pleasure disparity, this just renforces the norm.

  • @akiragrant8243
    @akiragrant8243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This lady is absolutely first class. She really is.

  • @psicolinamx
    @psicolinamx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wonderful topic. Excellent speaker. And great invitation to consider: True gender equality.

  • @unstoppablezone4980
    @unstoppablezone4980 5 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Asking for what you want is a great way to get it. :)

  • @johnnyandrew4515
    @johnnyandrew4515 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    this video's especially recommanded to singles -youtube

    • @danial3192
      @danial3192 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂

    • @Macklinrk
      @Macklinrk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Nice one Johnny ..nice one 👌👌 😂😂

  • @Mr.Coldfire421
    @Mr.Coldfire421 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1101

    I'm just here because I'm looking for my pet garry, anyone see him?

    • @tubbysza
      @tubbysza 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yeah, I found him in this video suprisingly at 9:11

    • @user-pm6uq3nc4s
      @user-pm6uq3nc4s 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Spongebob, It has been one year you wrote this comment, I'm worried, have you found your Garry? Lemme know, Thanks.

    • @christislord7003
      @christislord7003 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hes in the third row and he said this was his problem for a long time coz you were negecting his needs. 🤣

    • @ramiro94g
      @ramiro94g 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He’s under a rock

    • @Ozen-eu8wb
      @Ozen-eu8wb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Did you find it mate?

  • @SreyRc
    @SreyRc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Was rather insightful! It takes courage to talk about these topics upfront. Props to her for the lecture!

  • @tambell6270
    @tambell6270 6 ปีที่แล้ว +537

    She reminded me of the young girl in “ The Incredibles” movie. 🤗🤗

    • @thomaswhite4231
      @thomaswhite4231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Violet. Oddly enough, her parents first super suits were red and blue... which makes violet.

    • @Userykp
      @Userykp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha 😂

    • @josephyoung1803
      @josephyoung1803 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thomaswhite4231 hey Googleqqaqa~~₩

    • @radityomuhamad2526
      @radityomuhamad2526 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Damn bro! That's right

    • @cutiejoy12
      @cutiejoy12 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahahaha

  • @commonman8582
    @commonman8582 3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    3:33 me in every presentation

  • @psurrett1
    @psurrett1 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you for this very educational talk Grace!

  • @abhishekmsful
    @abhishekmsful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    3:33 why there is a pause
    Did I miss something????

  • @Ouhlyh
    @Ouhlyh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    A lot of women are bad at saying what they like. For me, I always focus on the women having a good time too, because I don’t have a good time unless they do too.

    • @Andre-hm5vo
      @Andre-hm5vo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sir join MGTOW it's for the greater good for true sanity in this dysfunctional world.

    • @umeshvaid8801
      @umeshvaid8801 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree 👍 bro, best of luck 🤠🤞 to everyone, for better Fun

    • @jonvicmamon2529
      @jonvicmamon2529 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Women doesn't know what they want.

    • @Cortez0
      @Cortez0 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Andre-hm5voI agree. How has it improved your life overall ?

    • @Cortez0
      @Cortez0 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Andre-hm5voAgreed

  • @janhvinarayan1633
    @janhvinarayan1633 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This was so well thought and spoken, not everyone likes to talk on these subjects but she did and she did it quite well, hats off to her and I hope she or other speakers will come up with more videos like this 🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @junrebs
    @junrebs 6 ปีที่แล้ว +741

    Good talk but it would be better if she prepared visuals of what she was talking.

    • @acrowd9796
      @acrowd9796 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      thats what she said

    • @XXxDarkGotenxXX
      @XXxDarkGotenxXX 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Love this comment

    • @zvck808
      @zvck808 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      I know, what you did there ;)

    • @tanmayp1692
      @tanmayp1692 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      U need a manual well ur partner is the manual listen and explore together she knows what she wants just read the signs just like treasure hunt hot and cold

    • @rutheragonoy2062
      @rutheragonoy2062 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Doodle Master watch it on cornhub

  • @abuxxx3607
    @abuxxx3607 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    her boyfriend is the luckiest! she will be the commander during the act!

  • @thinkingape7655
    @thinkingape7655 6 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I’d be curious to see how Grace’s presentation evolves over the 40+ years. Hopefully she keeps her notes.

  • @kirtipurohit1237
    @kirtipurohit1237 4 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    the audience is so dead..I could literally imagine the audience just staring at me with no interactions ,no laughs and nothing .If it would have been me ..I'd literally die out of those glares from people

    • @myearsgotyouthsystem8802
      @myearsgotyouthsystem8802 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      That's what you call emotional attention, cause it's all about equality!

    • @alexv259
      @alexv259 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      See, because of the subject matter the presenter was talking about, Kirti expected, very incorrectly, to see the audience breathing faster (as not “so dead”) with lots of moaning😧

    • @alvinzady764
      @alvinzady764 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah how are you?

    • @Akashnow
      @Akashnow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      They are relating the talk to themselves 😁

    • @anmolpandey9173
      @anmolpandey9173 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah

  • @masterofgaming71BH4
    @masterofgaming71BH4 3 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    I like how everyone is so silent.

    • @Muba7680
      @Muba7680 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yaaa i love that

  • @atmaram1038
    @atmaram1038 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wonderful speech. Highly illuminating

  • @ShortfaceBear
    @ShortfaceBear 4 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    First 3 minutes sounded like a lawyer's disclaimer

    • @ellismartiskainen7729
      @ellismartiskainen7729 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes

    • @Purple_Neon
      @Purple_Neon 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @dzfattnutz
      @dzfattnutz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sadly you pretty much have to do this before you speak about pretty much anything nowadays..

    • @just83542
      @just83542 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@dzfattnutz woke, cancelled, social justice, yadda yadda...

    • @faisalshahx
      @faisalshahx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She didn't want to be attacked by the lgbt community

  • @krishnabasnet7352
    @krishnabasnet7352 3 ปีที่แล้ว +121

    So I am basically collecting theoretical knowledge before practical... 💘💘💘

  • @godsparticle7657
    @godsparticle7657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    The pressure on the husbands who went home with their wives after this seminar. 😂

    • @kushalsaiyam9254
      @kushalsaiyam9254 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @MrMikey808
      @MrMikey808 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👅👅👅👅👅👅👅👅

  • @nakulkathare3556
    @nakulkathare3556 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    FANTASTIC VIDEO … I did understand everything but here I am still SINGLE 😂

  • @magicsinglez
    @magicsinglez 5 ปีที่แล้ว +233

    Haha. . .my girlfriend stood up really tall and TOLD me. There’s something more you’re going to have to do down there. . .

  • @Maryam_muazu
    @Maryam_muazu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Some of the comments here are just weird. Reality has always been hard to intake anyways so i am not surprised😒

    • @kaaydan9306
      @kaaydan9306 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      maryam muazu I’m just as surprised

    • @kayholand_
      @kayholand_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      frustrated males they are...

    • @peterjandros2173
      @peterjandros2173 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      THERE IS NO WORD "ANYWAYS." IT'S ANYWAY. NO S.

    • @lesellen1994
      @lesellen1994 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree

  • @waraksabalak2500
    @waraksabalak2500 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I dont care what shes talking about but I like the way she's explain.

  • @hoangle0207
    @hoangle0207 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That's a great video for people who are learning English in order to take an IELTS exam as me! From now, I will change the awareness of female orgasm

  • @gohorarsen5938
    @gohorarsen5938 5 ปีที่แล้ว +617

    *LGBTQ HAS LEFT THE CHAT*

    • @transfornation3187
      @transfornation3187 5 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      You forgot 50 extra letters.

    • @kayceeprag
      @kayceeprag 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      You forgot to add the I and A. 😂

    • @tuxmode
      @tuxmode 4 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      It's LGBTQABCDEFHIJKMNOPRSUVWXYZ

    • @lelexoxo303
      @lelexoxo303 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      James Jucutan Keyboard smash doesn't get you anywhere. Just say LGBT+, done.
      LGBTQIA+ for long. Tadaaaa, magic.

    • @jaylolo3716
      @jaylolo3716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@lelexoxo303 it's not keyboard smash..it's alphabetical

  • @davidchristian2368
    @davidchristian2368 3 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    It’s sad that so many men don’t know that the greatest pleasure is giving pleasure.

    • @vk92007
      @vk92007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ja na I couldn't agree with more on that!

    • @ChristThroughTheLens
      @ChristThroughTheLens 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmao spoken by a man I'd bet a million dollars is circumcised

  • @nellynguma
    @nellynguma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wow, she's so eloquent. Loved the entire Ted talk. Very insightful 👏👏

  • @stephenjablonsky1941
    @stephenjablonsky1941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hey guys: If you treat a woman like a queen, she will treat you like a king.

  • @alanbhattarai
    @alanbhattarai 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I need these types of students(Audience) when i teach about reporoductive system

  • @Maksim-mxmz
    @Maksim-mxmz 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The issue lies largely in what Grace just briefly mentioned, letting yourself go. Women need to understand their own body and their own needs. What makes you feel good. It is also a fact that a lot less women have tried masturbation compared to same age groups as men. Explore yourself! And in the end, it boils down to communication. If you don't even know what makes you feel good or what makes your peak, then how on earth can you communicate it to your partner, let alone expect that partner knows better than you do.

  • @mihills4168
    @mihills4168 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    three words, stamina excitement and the "magic touch" finding the fulfillment satisfaction point.

  • @foreverlivinggood
    @foreverlivinggood 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The best video I have watched in my entire life

  • @leticialopes769
    @leticialopes769 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    it's so sad that the majority of the comment section is literaly from guys that should've learned something from the talk but didn't give a f

    • @conscious_competence3703
      @conscious_competence3703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Im trying to understand it because i think shes making good points.

    • @nordlyssrlys6945
      @nordlyssrlys6945 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maybe you're wrong

    • @echastee
      @echastee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Their takeaway: women better let us know
      Real takeaway: men should be making orgasm an equal priority and some women won't ask because they don't feel comfortable.

  • @snehabhat4876
    @snehabhat4876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    We need more discussions like this 🔥

    • @viper4793
      @viper4793 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      yes!

    • @peerzadaraies4028
      @peerzadaraies4028 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely yes.. Where from u

    • @volodymyrzakolodyazhny
      @volodymyrzakolodyazhny 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      And, possinly, practice and laboratory works? )

    • @SaiKiran-en2zm
      @SaiKiran-en2zm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wah re wahhh!!!
      🤪😜
      Yeah absolutely we're educating ourselves and driven by passion for learning new ideas and deep diving into it ...🤝

    • @alostacet
      @alostacet ปีที่แล้ว

      @@peerzadaraies4028 india from she .

  • @myudamage1621
    @myudamage1621 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    2 years later and comments here are still blaming women, because watching the entire video is still to hard for someone. 👏

    • @AkashGupta-pc2cb
      @AkashGupta-pc2cb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Complaints and only complaints

    • @Cortez0
      @Cortez0 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s your body, your choice, your responsibility

  • @williamhess3113
    @williamhess3113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Show me the incentive and I will show you the outcome.” - Charlie Munger

  • @NoJeansBob
    @NoJeansBob 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I thought this was incredibly well presented. I was impressed by the arguments made for aiming for equity in pleasure shared, but also by her grammar. These days, it's ever more difficult to listen to anyone speak who doesn't say "like" 500 times, but this woman did the English language proud. Very eloquent, very articulate, and indeed I would agree that irrespective of the observable truth that it is easier in general for a man to reach orgasm than a woman, the intention to please each other should be equal to intention of taking pleasure. The tryst should not be wholly satisfying to a man who only cares about his own orgasm, and vice-versa.

    • @carolgeorge6409
      @carolgeorge6409 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agree about the “like”

    • @kumarsuresh1972
      @kumarsuresh1972 ปีที่แล้ว

      I thought this 10 day enjoy funny tests no tests u yes pleasure Inquiry

  • @ShnarfKat
    @ShnarfKat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    In my recomended Deleting my search history failed me....

    • @crissyd100
      @crissyd100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      August Lane 🤣😂

  • @kundanmishra1792
    @kundanmishra1792 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    How many teenager are there like me😁.

    • @DIGGY161
      @DIGGY161 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Chup reh

    • @athuld357
      @athuld357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ni oru kundan thenne

  • @abdulhakeemabdulhabeeb7396
    @abdulhakeemabdulhabeeb7396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amazing passage ♥️👏🏿👏🏿

  • @20MinutesCZ
    @20MinutesCZ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    Loved it. So true. So on point. And the confidence on stage is amazing to watch.

  • @shyambalehosur5903
    @shyambalehosur5903 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You r so brave, thank you sharing information🙌

  • @teddybear7853
    @teddybear7853 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Men who would care about women's pleasure might not always be the most confident communicative guys who put us quiet ones into shadow

    • @nomadsland8322
      @nomadsland8322 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bruh if you’ve read replies here plenty of the women are saying they can’t be bothered to tell their men what they want in bed cause “he should just know”. I wouldn’t hedge our bets on them suddenly thinking “hmm maybe the quiet guys are the ones who would actually listen to and pleasure me”. They largely have that same attitude even if they like us, “he should just know and come talk to me”.

  • @vidyavrattaak
    @vidyavrattaak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    informative... helpful..... very good guide.... loved it... 💯....😊👌👍

  • @N8_R
    @N8_R 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    0:24 How did she not laugh at that pun in front of all those people?

    • @rafaelmagana6964
      @rafaelmagana6964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I’m wondering why the audience didn’t laugh? 😂

    • @fishtrick1_
      @fishtrick1_ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol

  • @rishabhroy7740
    @rishabhroy7740 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Summary::
    She was just again talking about equality.....

  • @josefranksosadiaz5257
    @josefranksosadiaz5257 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I can imagine this girl fighting her partner: YOU ARE NOT GOING TO COME MORE THAN ME, NO WAY 🤣🤣🤣

    • @ars6831
      @ars6831 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Only if they understood girls wouldn't have to "fight".

    • @suzzanxtha000
      @suzzanxtha000 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hold on you don't haveto come to drope for me🤣🤣

  • @johnnywalker91
    @johnnywalker91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    it was a good discussion, i would like to point just one thing. Men and women are one species not two different. Men and women are equal. These differences of gender, colour, country are just mental boundaries existentially they do not exist. we need to treat everyone equally whether it's Men , Women or any other life form. We all are equal, we all are life, we all are conciousness. Down with all the differences.

  • @shubhamyadav160
    @shubhamyadav160 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I don't know why Google recommended me this even when it knows that I'm single

    • @user00774
      @user00774 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      hmm bhai same

  • @shadowboxing1729
    @shadowboxing1729 6 ปีที่แล้ว +301

    With my Peter Griffin's voice "Go on..."

    • @johnnycalvino7490
      @johnnycalvino7490 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      LoFi Hiphop Channel With my Quagmire voice "giggidy giggidy giggidy".

    • @tomterah2566
      @tomterah2566 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I approve of this message.

    • @nak3dxsnake
      @nak3dxsnake 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hahahaha right. I wish she put her email up.

    • @NewLife-qj9mx
      @NewLife-qj9mx 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      LOL

  • @riwajchalise8317
    @riwajchalise8317 6 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    End of Third-wave feminism and beginning of fourth! Lot to learn though!

    • @samanvay794
      @samanvay794 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Didn't it already start in 2012

    • @defoperator7993
      @defoperator7993 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Riwaj Chalise and the white knights aren’t leaving either lol

    • @panhradu
      @panhradu 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dont care which wabe it is. I still dont gas.

    • @riwajchalise8317
      @riwajchalise8317 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Def Operator lol they are next year!

    • @Meditatum101
      @Meditatum101 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Probs still 3rd with a hint of insight. Nothing new here

  • @debjitghosh7622
    @debjitghosh7622 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I am amazed at the way how she presents on this topic!
    Just amazing

  • @WillBray
    @WillBray 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I always ask my partner if I can do anything for her, but 9/10 she’s not interested. I don’t expect anything in return, I enjoy giving.

    • @alexb2612
      @alexb2612 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That's probably because you ain't doing anything for her. No offense but if you were rocking her socks off she would want you to be doing allsorts.

    • @cryora
      @cryora 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You got to plant the idea in her head and be really forward and then she'll be like "with me, you will learn what you do and don't like"

    • @danielbagus7732
      @danielbagus7732 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cryora sholt246kijklawat

  • @I_Am_AI_007
    @I_Am_AI_007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Everyone's silently trying to figure out how should me and my bae do this, right?

  • @AshishVerma-ig5vy
    @AshishVerma-ig5vy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Is there any point of this recommendation amid lockdown 🤷

    • @notgayatall5454
      @notgayatall5454 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It will be helpful in the future. If there even is a future post cowona.
      Did I just write cowona?
      Cow ona.
      Ona when pronounced correctly sorta sounds like owner.
      Cow ona = cow owner
      It could also just be me subconsciously sneaking an OwO into the word...

  • @andreasjunga5642
    @andreasjunga5642 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think there is a big difference between "taboo" subjects and private subjects. Just because something is not likely to be discussed in plain public, it doesn't automatically mean, that it's a taboo per se.