This is a very sobering message, and not easy to listen to in the areas I have not yet recovered. Yet Mark is right on target with “foundational brokenness” we carry into adulthood. Sometimes our definition of “normal” in relationships isn’t normal at all. It can take many years of personal growth to realize we need to relearn how to have a healthy relationship. I have noticed I attract certain kinds of people into my life that may not be healthy for me. As I grow and relearn what healthy look like. I can better choose relationships that are functional and good for me. There are no quick fixes when it comes to this topic. Although there is hope and a promise to those willing to work through their brokenness.
Mark you and your wife have a very unique and amazing ministry to people in the body of Christ who are in desperate need for wholeness. I have benefited from many great ministries, but yours is not for the faint in heart so to speak. You guys start the surgery with the fruit of the Holy Spirit - Love ❤️. Then the Scalpel of Peace and close with the Goodness and Kindness of the Lord 🤗😭. I would highly recommend folks to listen to your message regarding Rejection. That prayer you pray over people at the end, to me, came straight from the heart of Our Heavenly Father for His Beloved children. Thank you for you and your wife’s sacrificial service to the Body of Christ. God bless
Thanks for acknowledging parents can be toxic. In the church, we may have a blind eye to the suffering of those raised in families with toxic parents. I have a book out called, The Kindness Of God Leads Abusive Parents To Repentance.
You guys rock❤🙏🏽✨....Spent so many years trying to figure out emotional healing. These issues are so taboo. When you're constantly told that it's lack of faith, lack of prayer, just being given tasks when you're already exhausted. It can be discouraging. Not saying to not be acountable for the healing journey. But the guilt trip without biblical tools, truths, psychological tools is of no help.
Another issue to handle is when you limit your time and parents talk to others about you not coming around then that leads to judgement from others who do not know or understand the inside situation. All they see us how sweet they are and how terrible that you don’t go more often. A second important question is how do you deal with a parent that is widowed but has lots of health problems and needs that you usually handle. They are in pain and need your help. Finding that place of compassion, taking care of needs but not getting bogged down.
I don’t know if you actually see or read these comments but thank you. I haven’t spoke to my dad in over a year. And it’s because of the same thing for 27 years. I know everything is by choice and I know how to teach my soon to be son. Again thank you for letting our lord speak through you directly to me ❤🙏
Oh maaaan! So miffed that I missed this, but so glad to have heard this teaching. Very much needed, very much appreciated! God continue to bless you and yours, Mark!
Such an invaluable video - thank you so much, Mark! Listening to it mirrored perfectly what I have been going through recently with my mum. I'm 44 years old and was raised in a very argumentative household, having developed a very superficial bond with my parents, especially with my mother. I suffered from anorexia in my teens and only now I realise why. My mum is a very toxic and manipulative person although there have been moments when she could be nice and warm. After my father died 3 years ago I have become a punching bag and regardless of how helpful I've tried to be, it has been thrown back into my face. 4 months ago she hung up on me and we haven't spoken since - she's punishing me with silent treatment because I refused to be manipulated. I'm dealing with grief for the relationship with her I never had, but understand profoundly that I can honour her and still not take it upon myself to change her, make her happy or take responsibility for her. Healing was definitely not possible while being stuck in that toxicity. I feel like I'm breaking a generational trauma cycle, and hopefully my children will benefit from it. You're a delight to listen to. God bless you 🙏🏻
Correction: I meant folks would benefit from listening to your message called “Healing Depression through Restoring Faith, Hope and Love” & powerful prayer 🙏 at the end of message published November 11, 2017.
Many christians miss the emotional and psychological aspect of our battles, and strongly lean toward the spiritual aspects only, ie: blaming demons or generational curses, etc. This makes me so frustrated. What you are describing sounds like my family growing up. Dad grew up overseas, in a poor family and himself was very strict, mum did her best but lacked in her duties to us due to my fathers toxic traits. All us three kids have some kind of mental/emotional baggage. Your videos have really helped me and my brother. Thanks so much.
@1:04:02 Walking away is easy decision but keeping away is the tough one! Loving my parents yet keeping away from their negativity or toxicity to touch my peace in soul and joy in my spirit. ✝️🙇🏻♀️💗🕊
This is truly ministering to my heart and so needed before Thanksgiving and the rest of this holiday season starting in a couple days. TY Mark! Shout out from Ct 💜
This completely affirms my journey with my family too. I want to say for anyone who does not have a counselor, a mentor, someone who’s been through this in their life and can give you wisdom, it’s ok. God will fill in the gaps. He is your perfect family and He will re-parent your heart as brother Mark says. I searched for years and found no one, and that was God’s wonderful Grace to teach me to rely on Him alone. It healed my need for validation from people so when I had the opportunity to finally bring some things to my mom and she went narcissistic victim on me, I was ok. I ended up having the whole family gang up on me, gaslight me, and demand a meeting to tear me down, but in God’s power I said no. I said this is evil and I stepped away. That was one of the best things I ever did. Today I do have a couple wonderful sisters in Christ in my life, and I continue to get more free and healed everyday. I pray one day for restoration with my family, but in the meantime, healthy boundaries are a good thing. May the love of the Father, the grace of our Lord Jesus, and the comfort and fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all on your journeys. 🙏❤️
Please pray for me. there's only so much more I can take . So many suicide attempts, so much trauma. My mother is toxic and constantly makes me feel unworthy. I keep asking God for help but I don't seem to get a response!!! Im tired. im so tired of this life!!
I’m doing so much better. Thank you for asking. I have a way better relationship with my mother and she has helped me tremendously during recent trials. God is good and my continued faith has allowed me to receive countless blessings through Christ who strengthens me. God bless
Thank you for this. I’m a new father and can’t have a healthy relationship with my own father and Grandmother. When you said I can’t change it and to except it. I understood the exception part. What about Gods gift of freedom of choice? 😢
There was a good man in my dad, under his issues 😢. I am low contact with him and my mom. I still want them to be forgiven and redeemed, if that makes sense.
Quick question mark, if you want to stay single, and have no desire for a partner, marriage, or children, should you still leave the home? Is the only purpose of leaving father and mother to prepare for marriage?
“Many times ppl through their parental bonds can become vulnerable to more toxic ppl..” Thank you for acknowledging this!
Every time i think about my childhood some of self pity and anger, frustration come to me.
This is a very sobering message, and not easy to listen to in the areas I have not yet recovered. Yet Mark is right on target with “foundational brokenness” we carry into adulthood. Sometimes our definition of “normal” in relationships isn’t normal at all. It can take many years of personal growth to realize we need to relearn how to have a healthy relationship.
I have noticed I attract certain kinds of people into my life that may not be healthy for me. As I grow and relearn what healthy look like. I can better choose relationships that are functional and good for me. There are no quick fixes when it comes to this topic. Although there is hope and a promise to those willing to work through their brokenness.
Wow. Amazing Brian!
Mark you really get it, and you are so wise with your Godly advise. Thank you
Appreciate the encouraging words!
Thank you for confronting the default topics and allowing us to face the truth.
Mark you and your wife have a very unique and amazing ministry to people in the body of Christ who are in desperate need for wholeness. I have benefited from many great ministries, but yours is not for the faint in heart so to speak. You guys start the surgery with the fruit of the Holy Spirit - Love ❤️. Then the Scalpel of Peace and close with the Goodness and Kindness of the Lord 🤗😭. I would highly recommend folks to listen to your message regarding Rejection. That prayer you pray over people at the end, to me, came straight from the heart of Our Heavenly Father for His Beloved children. Thank you for you and your wife’s sacrificial service to the Body of Christ. God bless
Wonderful thank you!
Thank you so much Katherine!
Thanks for acknowledging parents can be toxic. In the church, we may have a blind eye to the suffering of those raised in families with toxic parents. I have a book out called, The Kindness Of God Leads Abusive Parents To Repentance.
You guys rock❤🙏🏽✨....Spent so many years trying to figure out emotional healing. These issues are so taboo. When you're constantly told that it's lack of faith, lack of prayer, just being given tasks when you're already exhausted. It can be discouraging. Not saying to not be acountable for the healing journey. But the guilt trip without biblical tools, truths, psychological tools is of no help.
This whole talk was an affirmation of my story with my parents. Thank you so much for sharing this!
So glad it was helpful!
Another issue to handle is when you limit your time and parents talk to others about you not coming around then that leads to judgement from others who do not know or understand the inside situation. All they see us how sweet they are and how terrible that you don’t go more often.
A second important question is how do you deal with a parent that is widowed but has lots of health problems and needs that you usually handle. They are in pain and need your help. Finding that place of compassion, taking care of needs but not getting bogged down.
To me this was the most important video teaching so far. I could connect to every single aspect that has been addressed. Thank you so much.
Thank you, I just want to listen to this over and over and over again.
I don’t know if you actually see or read these comments but thank you. I haven’t spoke to my dad in over a year. And it’s because of the same thing for 27 years. I know everything is by choice and I know how to teach my soon to be son. Again thank you for letting our lord speak through you directly to me ❤🙏
Oh maaaan! So miffed that I missed this, but so glad to have heard this teaching. Very much needed, very much appreciated! God continue to bless you and yours, Mark!
Such an invaluable video - thank you so much, Mark! Listening to it mirrored perfectly what I have been going through recently with my mum. I'm 44 years old and was raised in a very argumentative household, having developed a very superficial bond with my parents, especially with my mother. I suffered from anorexia in my teens and only now I realise why. My mum is a very toxic and manipulative person although there have been moments when she could be nice and warm. After my father died 3 years ago I have become a punching bag and regardless of how helpful I've tried to be, it has been thrown back into my face. 4 months ago she hung up on me and we haven't spoken since - she's punishing me with silent treatment because I refused to be manipulated. I'm dealing with grief for the relationship with her I never had, but understand profoundly that I can honour her and still not take it upon myself to change her, make her happy or take responsibility for her.
Healing was definitely not possible while being stuck in that toxicity. I feel like I'm breaking a generational trauma cycle, and hopefully my children will benefit from it.
You're a delight to listen to. God bless you 🙏🏻
Correction: I meant folks would benefit from listening to your message called “Healing Depression through Restoring Faith, Hope and Love” & powerful prayer 🙏 at the end of message published November 11, 2017.
Many christians miss the emotional and psychological aspect of our battles, and strongly lean toward the spiritual aspects only, ie: blaming demons or generational curses, etc. This makes me so frustrated. What you are describing sounds like my family growing up. Dad grew up overseas, in a poor family and himself was very strict, mum did her best but lacked in her duties to us due to my fathers toxic traits. All us three kids have some kind of mental/emotional baggage. Your videos have really helped me and my brother. Thanks so much.
Thank you so much for talking about this!! It is so helpful and so encouraging to see this topic addressed from a Biblical perspective.
@1:04:02 Walking away is easy decision but keeping away is the tough one!
Loving my parents yet keeping away from their negativity or toxicity to touch my peace in soul and joy in my spirit.
✝️🙇🏻♀️💗🕊
This so blessed me. Thank you so much. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Appreciate that!
This is truly ministering to my heart and so needed before Thanksgiving and the rest of this holiday season starting in a couple days. TY Mark! Shout out from Ct 💜
This completely affirms my journey with my family too. I want to say for anyone who does not have a counselor, a mentor, someone who’s been through this in their life and can give you wisdom, it’s ok. God will fill in the gaps. He is your perfect family and He will re-parent your heart as brother Mark says. I searched for years and found no one, and that was God’s wonderful Grace to teach me to rely on Him alone. It healed my need for validation from people so when I had the opportunity to finally bring some things to my mom and she went narcissistic victim on me, I was ok. I ended up having the whole family gang up on me, gaslight me, and demand a meeting to tear me down, but in God’s power I said no. I said this is evil and I stepped away. That was one of the best things I ever did. Today I do have a couple wonderful sisters in Christ in my life, and I continue to get more free and healed everyday. I pray one day for restoration with my family, but in the meantime, healthy boundaries are a good thing. May the love of the Father, the grace of our Lord Jesus, and the comfort and fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all on your journeys. 🙏❤️
Thank you Mark. You are a true blessing, and thank you for always keeping the focus on God.
Thanks!
This was fantastic. I relate to this SO much and it explains everything!
Thanks for sharing; very informative!
This is so so so so good 😮 this helped me more than you can imagine thank you Mark 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
thank you for making this video, I appreciate it : )
This is so powerful, and needed. Thank you 🙏🏾
Please pray for me. there's only so much more I can take . So many suicide attempts, so much trauma. My mother is toxic and constantly makes me feel unworthy. I keep asking God for help but I don't seem to get a response!!! Im tired. im so tired of this life!!
God loves you and you are worth it. Please find someone to open up to who will listen and be compassionate. I am sorry I was not more help
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m doing so much better. Thank you for asking. I have a way better relationship with my mother and she has helped me tremendously during recent trials. God is good and my continued faith has allowed me to receive countless blessings through Christ who strengthens me. God bless
This was so helpful and we some information.
* Awesome
Thank you for this. I’m a new father and can’t have a healthy relationship with my own father and Grandmother. When you said I can’t change it and to except it. I understood the exception part. What about Gods gift of freedom of choice? 😢
You can't control your parents decisions.
Thank you so much for this video. It is really helping me out.
The contents of your videos are awesome and a blessing to many people. Thank you for all you do.
There was a good man in my dad, under his issues 😢. I am low contact with him and my mom. I still want them to be forgiven and redeemed, if that makes sense.
What if I was the toxic parent? Im afraid to listen.
Btw I was the Whistleblower back then haha and had to dodge many bullets 😢😂😅
Quick question mark, if you want to stay single, and have no desire for a partner, marriage, or children, should you still leave the home? Is the only purpose of leaving father and mother to prepare for marriage?
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48:28-1:05
I thought this was going to be just another bland preaching but this is essential information at its core. Around minute 22~25 is where it's at.
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