I wish my 25 year old daughter would understand this! Communication is everything! Without it, nothing really gets resolved. I hope she’ll understand one day that I love her and she doesn’t have to manipulate me by giving me the silent treatment and acting indifferent.
Since I got neglected and abandoned by my parents, I often struggle with the belief that god will protect, help and heal me with many struggles I have now in life. Even though I want to believe him, the thought that everything will be fine and I am held feels so foreign....
This advice is a WHOLE lot better than what the psychologists tell people which is to just estrange your parents and go no contact. People need to wake up to Jesus before the entire family structure in society is destroyed.
My father was a distant figure who showed up occasionally to punish us. He went off on a business trip for 6 weeks once, and it was the most peaceful our house had ever been.
It doesn't get back what was lost nor change the subsequent mistakes. One can stay present without discursive thought, but that means a heartache that is almost immobilizing.
It's not about it being the parents "fault," so to speak, but more about recognition about what was unhealthy. It's not a fixed rule, but most OCDers have brokenness in their childhood that fuels OCD.
@@marktdejesus Is there any parental relationship that is healthy? I'm tired of the whole "you have broken parents" so that's why you're screwed up argument! My parents did the best they could and spent a lot of time with me and cared about how I was feeling. Stop making it seem like my parents are always the reason why I'm screwed up!
@@grannywoods12 I understand that this is the reality for some people. And I know parents aren't perfect. My parents probably messed up in some areas, while they excelled in others. I think I understand that clearly now. I'm sorry if I was so fed up when I wrote this. I was just confused because my family situation doesn't seem to add up with my mental health situation. I shouldn't have projected my thoughts onto other peoples' families.
@@grannywoods12 Thank you very much. I don't want to cause arguments online that aren't productive. If I'm wrong about things, I'm willing to be wrong. I just want to stay true to what I value.
I wish my 25 year old daughter would understand this! Communication is everything! Without it, nothing really gets resolved. I hope she’ll understand one day that I love her and she doesn’t have to manipulate me by giving me the silent treatment and acting indifferent.
This was so profound and what I have been learning about recently. Thank you, Mark 🙏🏽
So glad Monica!
Since I got neglected and abandoned by my parents, I often struggle with the belief that god will protect, help and heal me with many struggles I have now in life. Even though I want to believe him, the thought that everything will be fine and I am held feels so foreign....
Right on. You brought out a significant aspect of healing for your journey and so many of us.
This advice is a WHOLE lot better than what the psychologists tell people which is to just estrange your parents and go no contact. People need to wake up to Jesus before the entire family structure in society is destroyed.
WOOOO what an episode. I thank God for you Mark!!!!
My father was a distant figure who showed up occasionally to punish us. He went off on a business trip for 6 weeks once, and it was the most peaceful our house had ever been.
So wonderfully explained!!! 😊especially the born again part!
God bless! I have your books too!
It doesn't get back what was lost nor change the subsequent mistakes. One can stay present without discursive thought, but that means a heartache that is almost immobilizing.
When my parents saw that I started parenting my kids differently than how they raised me, they completely freaked out.
everyone of the things you discussed mark is me I was so neglected does your heart book have any healing tools?
It's what I am all about.
Can you have some ocd issues without the parents fault? Or they are always correlated?
It's not about it being the parents "fault," so to speak, but more about recognition about what was unhealthy. It's not a fixed rule, but most OCDers have brokenness in their childhood that fuels OCD.
@@marktdejesus Is there any parental relationship that is healthy? I'm tired of the whole "you have broken parents" so that's why you're screwed up argument! My parents did the best they could and spent a lot of time with me and cared about how I was feeling. Stop making it seem like my parents are always the reason why I'm screwed up!
@@grannywoods12 I understand that this is the reality for some people. And I know parents aren't perfect. My parents probably messed up in some areas, while they excelled in others. I think I understand that clearly now.
I'm sorry if I was so fed up when I wrote this. I was just confused because my family situation doesn't seem to add up with my mental health situation. I shouldn't have projected my thoughts onto other peoples' families.
@@grannywoods12 Thank you very much. I don't want to cause arguments online that aren't productive. If I'm wrong about things, I'm willing to be wrong. I just want to stay true to what I value.