Codependency is so rampant in our society and church today we think its normal. Many perhaps most of the single people in the church are looking for the “right or perfect “ mate yet have not dealt with their own issues. You will not find the right person until you deal with your own codependency issues. This applies to friendships as well. . This is a difficult problem to resolve and doesn’t come fast and easy. Yet so important to explore,learn and WORK thru your codependency. Reading a book or a teaching is only a starting point.
I see boundaries with God.He doesn't come work my job or send a bag of money from heaven.He also doesn't fill my fridge automatically or prevent all my illnesses and struggles.He doesn't even save me at birth.He let me go through life and make choices and wrong turns,be clueless.He let me search for him and the truth. Someone said why dont you do something God? He said i did,and he pointed to calvary.Lord draw us close and let us stand in your counsel and understand who you are and what you have done. Teach us faith and the love that is poured out from you yourself.On wobbly legs we come .Your children..❤
This is the first time I'm watching one of your videos that causes me to face so many uncomfortable feelings of shame and anger. It's hard for me not to feel overwhelmed with condemnation because of the situation I'm in and the decisions I made. I'm in a new relationship with an unbeliever and so far with my codependency and relationship OCD it's been an ongoing turmoil in my mind and heart. I'm seeing all my faults and mistakes but yet I'm feeling stuck and helpless. I'm so attached to this guy but my needs aren't getting met. It's especially difficult to find support from fellow believers because I get a lot of criticism because I'm unequally yoked, and that alone caused me to distance myself from other Christians. I'm dealing with constant obsessions that I'm going against God's will and order, and on top of that my ocd constantly makes me doubt whether or not I have feelings for my partner, and whether or not he truly likes me. I want this situation to change so badly but I feel like I'm asking too much to God by simply wanting this relationship to work for the better. I'm feeling so broken...
So awaking!!! I use to spend moments thinking others were the problem when it was me and my brokenness. So thankful for Gods intervention and to be awakened 🙌🏽. Each trial is a new part of me that is learning what needs the healing. Definitely a journey but I’m all in for God! 🥰
42:28 you are 100% making sense. I tend to be the "helper" and because I have weak boundaries, I struggle to accept other's "no" because I want to feel needed
This was sooooooo awesome! Thank you 🙏🏾 I’d like to see you do a video on “what is love”. Many Christians do not know what love is. We know God is love, but how that looks in life -especially if we didn’t have any good models- is elusive.
Wow, I'm grateful for your videos. And now it feels like another layer of something else that I need to address because I am a child of an alcoholic & I don't know how to deal with emotions, arguments, relationships & feelings. Im a little overwhelmed.
I want God to fulfill me and heal me I have begun my healing journey and it's so painful right now. I left my home to begin this process because I feel like I have stayed to be a little toxic myself
I need to leave but I can't afford to move and no job is calling me so I'm like " God , what am I suppose to do? I can't leave without a place to stay due to rent prices and lack of resume power.
Thanks, Mark for sharing your wisdom on this subject. It opened my eyes to how codependent I am with my present relationship. I am so thankful that God led me to this Channel and use this to heal my very wounded heart and break free from a toxic relationship.
Wow you suprised me, so I was the one Who was needed in my relationship with my Mother she didn't let me do what i wanted to do and forced me to listin to her out of guilt she put on me and unwise me listened. Now im 25 im still living with parents but i feel like my desires were crushed and I cant make a decision becouse i dont feel competent becouse my parents specially Mother allways knew better. Im unhappy with my life but dont know what to do, feels like Im dependend one now maybe.
Check out this video and see if this explains how you feel or if you can relate to it. th-cam.com/video/eLgB74fhq-0/w-d-xo.html I can't say your mother is under this influence or not only God knows, but if she is, it is spiritual. The world or psychology calls it Narcissism. May God show you the truth and that HE can and does save and deliver people who are oppressed. Also I will recommend Dr. Ramani a licensed pshychologist who has a ton of you tube videos explaining all about this.
I am curious what are healthy ways to teach children about sin and their choices without the shame. How can we help them not enter into survival mode? Often times "you are wrong " is used out of frustration. Expectating things to change in our way vs. GOD'S. What are the replacement tools (words) besides patience (with a smile)?
A codependent nightmare? Someone who plays both dynamics of your description of the needy one and the needed one. Everything, I mean everything comes with ties followed by victim-hood. Hoping you speak on this a little as I fight against my own healing addiction of being the needed one.
At this point in my journey I realize ALL of my closest relationships are codependent lol Ayyyyyye It’s terrible because where I just used to follow, now I feel upset every time I can tell I am being manipulated. These relationships are so old and it seems very difficult that I can change all of these engrained relationships. Ugh
The codependency issue definitely is fitting and I think needs to be addressed in the body of Christ. A question though, generational curses are broken by Christ as Christ has freed us from the curse of the law, right? Galatians 3:13
Be careful with that because codependency is people pleasing and that is a choice! We can either FOLLOW God and be a God pleaser or follow the flesh and be a people pleaser! Pick this day who you will serve! So many walking in the flesh and not in the spirit.....
Ist Crazy but I kinda feel scary about being loved because I don’t know what Love really is 😅 I can’t relate to God as a loving father. And sometimes I get uncomfortable when people say that God loves me and God wants the best for me. I really have no reference for that and I fear that all those things about Love and Gods perfect and loving will for me is not true. I want to be perfectly Love. That’s my greatest desire. And I know that only a perfect God can satisfy that, but I fear that God is not that perfect and is not able to satisfy me 😅 it’s so stupid but that’s what I feel.
I desperately want and need healing. I've not been good at relationships.i want healthy loving ones I get hurt so easy and feel guilty and shame over people I hurt
Yes going through emotional detox I'm getting help now at the end of the month. I enabled my son and my husband doesn't my husband enables his friends yeah spiderwebs. And I agree the church needs to step up. My husband has welded control
Codependency is so rampant in our society and church today we think its normal. Many perhaps most of the single people in the church are looking for the “right or perfect “ mate yet have not dealt with their own issues. You will not find the right person until you deal with your own codependency issues. This applies to friendships as well. . This is a difficult problem to resolve and doesn’t come fast and easy. Yet so important to explore,learn and WORK thru your codependency. Reading a book or a teaching is only a starting point.
I agree. Hard to resolve
I see boundaries with God.He doesn't come work my job or send a bag of money from heaven.He also doesn't fill my fridge automatically or prevent all my illnesses and struggles.He doesn't even save me at birth.He let me go through life and make choices and wrong turns,be clueless.He let me search for him and the truth. Someone said why dont you do something God? He said i did,and he pointed to calvary.Lord draw us close and let us stand in your counsel and understand who you are and what you have done. Teach us faith and the love that is poured out from you yourself.On wobbly legs we come .Your children..❤
You're teachings are definitely Holy Spirit led. Thank you for being obedient to Christ.
This is the first time I'm watching one of your videos that causes me to face so many uncomfortable feelings of shame and anger. It's hard for me not to feel overwhelmed with condemnation because of the situation I'm in and the decisions I made. I'm in a new relationship with an unbeliever and so far with my codependency and relationship OCD it's been an ongoing turmoil in my mind and heart. I'm seeing all my faults and mistakes but yet I'm feeling stuck and helpless. I'm so attached to this guy but my needs aren't getting met. It's especially difficult to find support from fellow believers because I get a lot of criticism because I'm unequally yoked, and that alone caused me to distance myself from other Christians. I'm dealing with constant obsessions that I'm going against God's will and order, and on top of that my ocd constantly makes me doubt whether or not I have feelings for my partner, and whether or not he truly likes me. I want this situation to change so badly but I feel like I'm asking too much to God by simply wanting this relationship to work for the better. I'm feeling so broken...
Don't give up on the brothers and sisters that see clearly.The Word of God is very clear about staying close to the family of God.💯👊
So awaking!!! I use to spend moments thinking others were the problem when it was me and my brokenness. So thankful for Gods intervention and to be awakened 🙌🏽. Each trial is a new part of me that is learning what needs the healing. Definitely a journey but I’m all in for God! 🥰
Mark you are so wise thank you for sharing, so often you open my eyes.
42:28 you are 100% making sense. I tend to be the "helper" and because I have weak boundaries, I struggle to accept other's "no" because I want to feel needed
This was sooooooo awesome!
Thank you 🙏🏾
I’d like to see you do a video on “what is love”. Many Christians do not know what love is. We know God is love, but how that looks in life -especially if we didn’t have any good models- is elusive.
Working on it! 👍
This is so sound and grounded! Your ministry is absolutely amazing and REAL AND RAW! Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom 🙏🏻
God loves you..Come to India one day. We need teachings such as these
Wow, I'm grateful for your videos. And now it feels like another layer of something else that I need to address because I am a child of an alcoholic & I don't know how to deal with emotions, arguments, relationships & feelings. Im a little overwhelmed.
Youre not the only one.
I want God to fulfill me and heal me I have begun my healing journey and it's so painful right now. I left my home to begin this process because I feel like I have stayed to be a little toxic myself
I need to leave but I can't afford to move and no job is calling me so I'm like " God , what am I suppose to do? I can't leave without a place to stay due to rent prices and lack of resume power.
This isn't easy to listen to Mark but it is the truth....thankyou....
Thanks, Mark for sharing your wisdom on this subject. It opened my eyes to how codependent I am with my present relationship. I am so thankful that God led me to this Channel and use this to heal my very wounded heart and break free from a toxic relationship.
O Lord, I have issues 😂😮❤
This is good stuff because now I see it!!
Great episode with much needed information
Glad to know that, thanks!
This is brilliant 🎉❤
Well, what does "deny yourself " actually mean then??
Mark you are PREACHING!!! 🤣👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💕💕
This is so helpful thank you.👍
amazing video very helpful
Wow you suprised me, so I was the one Who was needed in my relationship with my Mother she didn't let me do what i wanted to do and forced me to listin to her out of guilt she put on me and unwise me listened. Now im 25 im still living with parents but i feel like my desires were crushed and I cant make a decision becouse i dont feel competent becouse my parents specially Mother allways knew better. Im unhappy with my life but dont know what to do, feels like Im dependend one now maybe.
Check out this video and see if this explains how you feel or if you can relate to it. th-cam.com/video/eLgB74fhq-0/w-d-xo.html I can't say your mother is under this influence or not only God knows, but if she is, it is spiritual. The world or psychology calls it Narcissism. May God show you the truth and that HE can and does save and deliver people who are oppressed. Also I will recommend Dr. Ramani a licensed pshychologist who has a ton of you tube videos explaining all about this.
This is a great teaching Mark. Big wow
Very equipping and encouraging stuff, Mark‼️ 🤓👏🏽Thanks❣️
Praise God for REAL thru this ministry!!
Thank you for this 💯 God bless you
This is so needed. Thank you!
I am curious what are healthy ways to teach children about sin and
their choices without the shame. How can we help them not enter into survival mode? Often times "you are wrong " is used out of frustration. Expectating things to change in our way vs. GOD'S. What are the replacement tools (words) besides patience (with a smile)?
Unfortunately, it took me to be through a painful narsasitic relationship to realize I was struggling with codependency.
A codependent nightmare? Someone who plays both dynamics of your description of the needy one and the needed one. Everything, I mean everything comes with ties followed by victim-hood. Hoping you speak on this a little as I fight against my own healing addiction of being the needed one.
The Lust of the flech..lust of the eyes..and the pride of life....God help us.deeper than deep..
This is Good
At this point in my journey I realize ALL of my closest relationships are codependent lol
Ayyyyyye
It’s terrible because where I just used to follow, now I feel upset every time I can tell I am being manipulated. These relationships are so old and it seems very difficult that I can change all of these engrained relationships. Ugh
The codependency issue definitely is fitting and I think needs to be addressed in the body of Christ. A question though, generational curses are broken by Christ as Christ has freed us from the curse of the law, right? Galatians 3:13
Be careful with that because codependency is people pleasing and that is a choice! We can either FOLLOW God and be a God pleaser or follow the flesh and be a people pleaser! Pick this day who you will serve! So many walking in the flesh and not in the spirit.....
@@womenofgodunited the flesh also includes condemnation and the law. Lots to learn from mark.
❤
God take out All Codependent hooks in me...to never be the same
Ist Crazy but I kinda feel scary about being loved because I don’t know what Love really is 😅 I can’t relate to God as a loving father. And sometimes I get uncomfortable when people say that God loves me and God wants the best for me. I really have no reference for that and I fear that all those things about Love and Gods perfect and loving will for me is not true. I want to be perfectly Love. That’s my greatest desire. And I know that only a perfect God can satisfy that, but I fear that God is not that perfect and is not able to satisfy me 😅 it’s so stupid but that’s what I feel.
I understand that mindset
God bless you... you are not alone
I want to get it from God but have wanted it from my husband and family
I desperately want and need healing. I've not been good at relationships.i want healthy loving ones I get hurt so easy and feel guilty and shame over people I hurt
I don't know how to gain it from him and I need and want it so bad.
God bless you Mark
I know I need help with boundaries for the first time in years I feel shame but also such a deep pain In my heart
Yes going through emotional detox I'm getting help now at the end of the month. I enabled my son and my husband doesn't my husband enables his friends yeah spiderwebs. And I agree the church needs to step up. My husband has welded control
So many churches say God hates divorce pray over the pain and send you away