Or they will simply make it up! When my relation realised I was seeing through her mask she started telling all my relations(except my parents)that I was a lesbian. I'm not lesbian and found this very hurtful at a time when homosexuality was still not widely accepted and I was a very pureminded innocent teenager.
Things not to do with a narcissist. Talk to them. Spend time with them. Touch or be touched by them. Allow them in your life in any manner. See, I only needed 5 things.
Pretty much like having a pet fish 🐟 in a 🥣 bowl...admire from the outside. Once you see 👀 that nothing is as clear 💎 as you thought, then you wake up ⏰ 💥. 🏆
A good heart (empathic) + poor boundary setting = ideal target for narcissist's A good heart (empathic) + strong and well maintained boundaries w/ consequences for perpetual line stepper's = sworn enemies of narcissist's (lol)
3 WEEKS NO CONTACT.......RUNNING!AFTER 15 YEARS WASTED,,&OCEANS OF TEARS,I'M HEALING DAILY.I FOUND HER MULTIPLE SOURCES OF SUPPLY,CALLED HER OUT ON IT,AND POOOOF!MY HOME HASN'T SEEN THIS LEVEL OF PEACE IN A DECADE AND A HALF!
Pamela Best when you recognize it. It takes a while . How many millions dont even know about this. Had i ANY IDEA to look to U tube 10 years ago! My life WOULD have been different. Idk if all this helpful stuff was available 10-12 years ago. No one- counselors didn’t even tell me my Ex was a Narc
Karen Lynch I couldn’t deal with the emotional rollercoaster. I felt like a Stepford wife. One day a veil lifted and I saw how disrespectful he was and I knew in that moment that my marriage was over because I was DONE!! Of course he thought I had lost it and “made” me go to a Psychiatrist to which she supported me the very first time I met her, and said he was a narcissist and I should just get divorced because he wouldn’t and could never change. Best advice I’ve ever received!
1. Do not minimize their bad behavior. It makes you fatigued and numb. 2. Don't take them at face value. 3. Don't overshare personal information. 4. Don't assume that they share your virtues. ... of empathy, honesty, etc. 5. Don't try to beat them at their own game. 6. Don't take their actions personally. 7. Do not have anything to do with them financially. It is intended to control you. 8. Don't accept empathy or fairness. They don't believe that anyone is worthy. 9. Don't expect them to change. 10. Don't underestimate the power of narcissism.
Don't minimise the abuse. Don't take them at face value. Don't over-share personal information. Don't assume they share your virtues. Don't try to beat them at their own game, they only care about winning. Don't take their behaviour personally. Don't be financially dependent or loan money. Don't expect empathy or fairness. Don't expect them to change. Don't underestimate the power of narcissism.
@@shanehester5317 well all the years i worked and lived with narcissts i learned they are the liars. There is no truth in them and they are never sorry. We victims all tell similar stories financial physical abuse verbal abuse cheaters and liars. We empaths know each other we've been through the torture and abuse. I'd say you are fishing and looking for new bait.
Basically, never put your trust in a narcissist. When you're in a vulnerable state, they will try to bait you and probe with questions to make it seem like they care, but they will only use what you told them as ammunition down the road. Give an inch and they take a mile! Have nothing to do with these folk.
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Free Your Mind 1111 like I always say talking too a narcissist is like being interviewed for a crime that you never committed, ontill they decide which crime you did . 😱
A real narc whonis faking empathy will seem insincere it will usually hit you later after youve evaluated their demeanor and seen them over time youll need several opportunities to appraise their empathy as real or simply a manipulation. When I Peg someone is being insincere with their empathy it hits me very strong in my gut and it is probably one of the hugest turn-offs for me in evaluating one's character it is absolutely 100% a red flag and anyone you know who behaves in this way fake sympathy you should really run run fast in the opposite direction
My biggest mistake is thinking that everyone has empathy and interact with others accordingly. I truly have to be mindful of this fact. Thanks a million!
The most difficult part is getting sympathy from people who don't know what narcissists are like. They advise you to ''just talk to him/her '' etc because other people don't realise that a narcissist completely lacks empathy. People have even asked me if I'm imagining things. At the end of the day victims are alone and this is the hardest part.
Dr. Surya Sande our marriage councilor is way under qualified to deal w/ Narcissism and goes down that road every time. We just need to “know what we know”.
I believe that the only people who can understand what narcissists are capable of are their victims. I'm certain I could not, would not believe their evil if I hadn't experienced it myself.
No. 8 Lack of empathy - some narcissists have learned how to portray empathy...plus if there is something in it for them they can appear to be kind and caring...
They're like AI (Artificial Intelligence) in that they can "code" for empathy or love, in other words, they grasp the definition of the words that describes those feelings, BUT they will never actually FEEL those emotions, like a computer that can never "feel" mercy or the importance of "having" mercy for another being. Like the computer, a narcissist can perceive those feelings in others and react exactly how normal people expect them to react. This is how they are so good at deception.
I thought this guy was odd. He acted overly concerned about a bruise on my knee. Come to find out he was a narc pretending to care. Some can't act at all 😂
They are experts at pretending around certain people. They are monsters in private. Nothing is ever the narcs fault. They turn it on the victim and the victim ends up apologizing. It's really a sick game they play.
Empathy is something that has been given to us by God, therefore we as human neither we have empathy or we lack empathy. No matter how someone try to portray empathetic it won’t last.
You can catch them out by asking about themselves . And thuer dreams and about thier family and do they feel abit insecure they can't keep thier mask on after a while ...it's all fake and they get angry alot ....I had a narc back in my life from a friend who didn't know what he was about .it took 6 months then he dropped he's mask and then there he was again the UN empathetic person he's always been....
Yea I relied on my sons dad for help with money then he cut it all off and I've had to break into all my savings and I can't even eat .I've had to go to food bank ...It was my birthday yesterday and I say in a pub listening to my friend saying how her seperated relationship is but I phones etc for thier children .I thought that was ne about 5 years ago .I keep telling her he has power over her with the money. And he is a narc .but she doesn't understand ....
Me too . 25 year marriage I was FREED in 2012 .. He met another target ..he had ran me dry ..... I have realized my personally is a target of them .and IED BIPOLAR MEN TOO so I am making sure I maneuver myself in a way to NOT GET SUCKED IN ... FRRE TO BE ME is my motto and I handle men way eeyore different then I did in my YOUNGER DAYS Born 1955 ..robin
Rachel Hope This is one of the worst & saddest things about it, plus we’re usually female in a “relationship/marriage” with this male narcissist & no bruises, physical abuse to “prove” what’s been done to us. Another thing has come to mind & am sure experts would agree, many of us females are strong emotionally & otherwise. In my own life I’ve lived through a short, abusive marriage early adulthood, left with a small toddler, no family support around, no money etc., etc. Child diagnosed as disabled & years of difficulties with that, family (no help anyway)living across sea in Ireland (I was in UK) no help, & more. So how did I get tricked into this narcissistic person entering my life??
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My ex girlfriend is a narcissist. I never knew the signs of a narcissist until after we split up and a friend mentioned that term. I feel like a fool because we split up 3x in 4 years and each time she was the one who asked me back....I feel like an idiot because she played me
And God has helped me back as well. My ex told me there was no God and I was stupid and an idiot for all of my opinions. And all of my opinions whether it be political or religious or even about a snake was stupid. God never gave up on me. I have begged for His forgiveness and have been saved and I know He is with me now. And no one can hurt me again.
When my aunt told me flat out my mother was jealous of me, I literally laughed at her. Took me a few years since and decades of abuse but I'm over a year of no contact and my popularity within the extended family has plummeted. 🤷♀️ Never again.
Narcissists are hateful, evil, nasty people, and I hate them. My father was a raging narcissist and he was very cruel. He did NOT love me, that is something I still find difficult to accept.
@Tim Detmers Sadly Both my Mother and Father were Raging Narcissists/Sadist/Sociopaths/Masochists, A LOT of EVIL in each Person. They Tormented and Tortured me as a Child and as an Adult, did Damage to my Career and my Marriage every chance they got, and then laughed about it. My Mother even caused me to have a Car Accident and then Regularly Mocked my Driving and the Damage to my Car.
Thank you for speaking of your horrific experience. People vilified me when I fled with little one, obviously not having experienced their sadistic evil. You don't leave a good or mediocre relationship full stop. You don't flee leaving behind everything you've worked for and contributed the most to for meanness alone. The majority of the population simply have no comprehension of their intent to torture and destroy. Many skeletons in their closets. I fled as it worsened when little one was born, I wasn't protected from it growing up thus ignorant and falling prey in marriage, but I will do all in my power to protect my child from everything I had to crawl out from under. This is so validating, although I'm sorry you had to endure that. God bless you as you heal and find Truth.
"Don't assume they share your virtues"..oh how true is that statement...they are not anything they seem,they are not Anything in particular,they just morph to each moment to fool the victim.
Once you wise up, it's satisfying outsmarting them and watching their frustration! They are really a mess under their bragging, control and deceptive persona and you can rise above it! Just be alert at all times because there's always a "back story" to their actions. They give $2 to get $3 back! They are not interested in YOU, other than controlling and taking advantage of you. They can claim to be compassionate and caring but watch how it all goes right back to them and their "drama" of the moment!
Peggy Micsky yep so true karma still gonna get them I don’t care who you are or what you say if you do that shit to someone who was innocent karma is coming it don’t forget an address member that 💥💥
i have never had a relationship with any narcissist. I attack narcissists violently psychologically and physically, massive public shaming. Narcissism cured! i was once some victim. Not anymore, never again.
@@dianefarley37 yes completely right ! He tried to destroy my psyche and to do everything that I get fired at my job. Did intentionally start to make verbally arguement in order to make me angry at him + stress me out before I get to work. He did call my supervisor , and tell bad stuff about me , by hoping that I lose my job. I got very afraid its gonna be reality, so I did talk to my boss and explained my tricky situation and requested her, to never call my on the fixnet nr. not to be in contact with my ex who still lived with me. I was so relieved, that I could keep my job. He used to tell my first son to call me while I was at work ; biggest control freak. Since Cct. 2012 I did do my things without giving regards to him. Since 2017 I did go more out to enjoy life, and he hated it. Finally, he moved out in Dec. 2019. The kids and I went through so much humiliation and we had to manage his hatery, dramas, psychological and physical violence. As he isolated me very fast (without realizing what he did, because I had to work , raise the kids. He did work , and didn't give a damn to go go regularly out with them or just take care of them, nore giving them (warming up) food. Got sometimes so exhausted. My only big regret is to wasted too much time... about 5years, ...coz he didnt want me to be alone with the kids. He didnt want to accept that he had to leave from this apartment, coz of his pride. + he was so selfish , he wanted still control us. The reason: to pretend towards others , that he's got a nice family. Those individuals are the worst I could ever met and trusted ; it's all about their image --> about their ego. They dont love their sons or daughter , they can love nobody ,...not even themselves....
You’re right. Narcissists are satanic, never give them any emotional validation, never care for anything emotionally that they do and never acknowledge them let them speak to you first and let them feel you don’t care 🤷♀️ weather their right or wrong, live or die. You will end up sane and happy.✅💯✝️ 🙏🏿 👌🏿 👍🏿 😎
@@shantidierauer8902 Yes! They are all the same, whether they are male or female! They do the exact same things to other people, regardless of who the other people are to them! They are clones of each other and of the devil.
Demonic entities. It is chosen behaviour as one can only invite them and can always repent if they want to. Few if any do. Chosen behaviour = culpability. Have no mercy on these hideous creatures.
21 days free out of severe NARCISSISTIC abusive relationship!!!!!! I had to learn my lesson the hard way taking him back last Time Now that I have educated myself I know he has NPD and I’ve never felt such devastation before ok so many levels Mental , emotionally , spiritually and physically!!!! Anxiety & panic attacks , developed and ulcer I closed the door and I’m Never looking back Went no contact should have done this in the first place !!!!! Now to stay safe is all I want & to have peace
Great advice. Don't take it personal, and don't tell a lying, soulless, data-collecting narcissist anything. They are incredibly sick, and have to "win" at all costs. Narcissism in the workplace can be torturous, some coworker "agents" of the narcissist are figuring out they are being abused. Run for the hills!
The Authorities are Narcissists Themselves. They use their Power to Steal from the Sheeple. Drive in the Country on a Highway above the Speed Limit, who is hiding behind Trees to take your Money....The Authorities.
@@maxredman1015 Then DON'T drive ABOVE the speed limit ! It's really as simple as that ! You could end up hitting some animal or even human like that anyway !
"Do not get entangled with a narcissist in finances in any way. You will live to regret it!" Living proof here after 21 years of financial entanglement with a narcissist. It's like trying to manage money with a 5 year old. So much I regret.
I agree! I am currently entangled financially with my narcissistic mother after my dad passed away in 2015. She cannot manage her finances (she's Catholic and always giving money to her church despite having bills to pay and groceries to buy). It's impossible to reason with her. I feel your pain/frustration
My mother draws information from my child to use against us , I am about to close the door on her forever she is ruthless , the most horrible experiences I have had are with her. Love to you all Love is our answer ❤️ Love your innner child❤️. Thank you beautiful lady.
Learned this the hard way, credit is ruined, lost my car, lost my home, experienced yrs of abuse, and now my image is still being smeared by him. This narcissist was so good that he made me completely believe I wasn’t working during the time I was pregnant and I was!! 😂 I swear these ppl have a special kind of evil inside of them it’s insane.
Absolutely ! My daughter's been with one now, and she doesn't know what she's doing half the time. Her memory is shot to h_ll ever since day 1 with this guy. The change in her was so sudden and bizarrre I suspect he hypnotized her. She doesn't seem to have any will of her own anymore. It's frightening that her grandmother has more memory awareness than her.
quasimobius please don’t give up and keep reminding her. My mom is the one that woke me up one day and because of her I managed to remember and find myself again.
Unfortunately I grew up with a covert/spiritual narcissist mother!! She messed with my mental health so much as a child that I had no idea she was doing anything wrong despite knowing instinctively that other mom's were not like this.
Whenever I feel weak and feel like contacting them (trauma bonding), I listen to these words and they remind me why I left the abuser in the first place and it's reinforces my boundaries. Thank you Jill, 🍒.
I'm binge watching EVERYTHING I can find about narcissism and getting so much wisdom and empathy. I'm really NOT going crazy. He has had 47 years to 'mess with my head' and now I'm taking steps to separate from him. Not physically, I'm not moving because monetarily I have too much to lose but I've been grey rocking for awhile now and staying away from him. I fall every now and then but just to know I'm not crazy, is SO much of a relief. Thank you.
Linda Moore just get away asap. Money can be made, mere things have zero value compared to a human soul created with inherent worth and value. God never forsakes the righteous. I had to leave everything I worked for, home and all. It was worth it. They despise innocence and virtue, they only want to exploit and steal your identity by regurgitating your wisdom and compassion to new victims or those they have to save face with, all whilst badmouthing you with lies behind your back so people hate you, then destroying you with every opportunity. Some unto the death, they have no conscience. Please get an exit plan.
@@FaithfulandTrue949 I'm going to try. I'm leaving on a trip to see my brother then my sister who live in Quebec and I want to discuss this with them as to my options. Maybe they can advise me too. Thank you!!
Good luck Linda, just keep your cards close to your vest. Also, be advised that grey-rocking only works for a while; as you change, they’ll get less and less supply, either negative supply or positive attention/adoration. If he stops getting that fuel, he will look for it somewhere else and dump you without a second thought. Start planning your exit strategy, and don’t, not even for a second don’t think that what those years together mean to you, they mean the same to your partner. They will drop you like a hot potato once they sense they cannot play you like a puppet. Please seek legal advice and cut your losses.
Linda Moore Very true about keeping silent about your plans, for me the abuse escalated once educated on narcissism and I saw behind the mask - after 24 years, married, forgiving and hoping, crying and dying. They rejoice in destruction and wickedness. Pure evil, a black void of jealous hatred. They want you dead in order to play the grieving husband or wife. Only professional refuge helped me escape with little one for good, had tried leaving before but didn't know about narcissism then, unaware I was raised in narc family who's 'help' was covertly sabotaging! No contact with many now, slowly healing and learning to trust as healthy friendships come into mine and little one's life. Peace at last yet not easy. Jesus is my Rock, I cried out to Him in my distress and He led me to real information and help that worked. My education is science based so the revalation that Jesus and the Bible is alive took some exploring. It's a relationship with Jesus, not religion, churches are full of narcs with many behind the pulpit... They also groom and abuse people like us! Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Will pray for you Linda, hope you get the help you need. Don't look back, cut and run. You are worth more and can absolutely begin again... Much more to tell, please believe, your life could depend on it. God bless you.
Enlightened target's info is spot on, thank you for these videos. Also see begood4000, Inner Integration and The Royal We - Kevin's video on 'no contact with narcissists and toxic people' is a great illustration when you're at that stage. Real tools, so thankful for all these educators.
@@francinesmith8109 i heard that they know we are onto them, and they are more pissed then ever. Now they are upping their game and coming up w new strategies
"Irritating"?! How about How about devastated Can you imagine them saying to themselves "Their on to me" and how terrifying that must be to he found out. To know that they'll have fewer opportunities for narcissistic Supply they won't be able to get away with as much they'll always be wondering is my mask slipping?" There's always going to be someone out there who will provide them with Supply though It's going to take years and years for these people to be completely exposed. We have to keep putting the word out though and this lady and her videos are so on point her delivery is fantastic she's easy to listen to doesn't talk too fast doesn't get sidetracked with your thoughts clear concise and formed is what I see
@@sofatayragaming9296 Your comment sounds like a comment a narcissists would make. Why would someone deserve it? Where is your empathy? I don't see in your comment only hate. Peace & love too all peoples even the narcissist. Maybe one day they will see themselves for who they are and make a change.
There really needs to be an awareness campaign. I had no idea these people existed. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. I could never understand what reality she was living in. One moment she was the most caring and loving person I’ve ever been with. The next she was nasty, selfish, and vindictive She would say things that were completely opposite. I had helped her with her house. Always building, fixing, installing something. Then she’d be resentful towards me. I was like “WTF?”. I could never figure out what was happening. Eventually I refused to continue to be a door mat for someone, so we broke up. Then she was heartbroken, a victim, and she should have seen the red flags. I was like “this woman is insane”. I was convinced it was hormonal until a friend tuned me into personality disorders. Everything makes sense finally. This really has been one of the most draining experiences I’ve ever had.
The feelings of rejection and anger are making me feel like a narc! Going no-contact makes me feel like I’m punishing someone the way the silent treatment does! But the fact is that no-contact is protection. I don’t want any relationship with someone who is damaging to my life and isn’t interested in a mutual relationship. It’s just disturbing how fine that line is between protecting yourself and being abusive!
Yes I can identify with what you share here. This is part of being empathic. I find these good educational videos help me to think clearly about what I am dealing with, value myself more and heal. I need to lead my life with wisdom and not be emotionally led.
Yes its hard not to go thier way .but long as your heart feels warm seeing a happy film or get sad on a heart breaking story and still having empathetic feelings then you know your not becoming one .but generally you have to forfill your life with your happiness and your dreams .after a while you won't miss the narcsisist your life will be set free xx
Yes..... A fine line. Just make sure, that you stay on the right side of it. You can compare the effects, to withdrawal symptoms. SAY NO TO DRUGS/NARCISSISTS, as they are extremely toxic, and poisonous. 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ and never L👀K back, for your own sake.
At 60 I finally understand my mother is a narcissist and I’m an extremely empathetic person…I finally understand, now if I can finally free myself from the manipulation, and I will, that will be triumphant
01:13 1. Do not minimize their dysfunctional behavior 03:33 2. Don't take them at face value 04:30 3. Don't overshare personal information 05:17 4. Don't assume they share your virtues 06:25 5. Don't try and beat them at their own game 07:39 6. Don't take their actions personally 08:32 7. Do not have any financial ties 09:50 8. Don't expect empathy or fairness 10:39 9. Don't expect them to change 11:19 10. Don't underestimate the power of a Narcissist
7:18 I can easily beat a narcissist at their game most are fragile mentally, *BUT* not engaging in the battle, ingnoring them destroys their ego more..
I ditched the covert N. About two years ago and he hoovered like a helicopter.... I sold my house and moved to another state and city far away. Good riddance.
#4--the hardest part of dealing with a narcissist. You really can't wrap your head around someone that doesn't seem to use any basic good sense when it's not in their benefit.
Jill, I could HUG you for these videos. They have come too late to prevent my entanglement with a (malignant female) narcissist and going through the last seven plus years as a target, but you are sooooo on the money with your descriptions of their behaviour and motives and I really, really hope that you reach a wide audience. It's clear that you really do know how narcissists operate. [NB: it's true that nothing is ever all bad or all good and on the plus side of this experience, I am not as naive as I once was and having to deal with all the triangulation, silent treatment and ostracism from colleagues due to lies has made me a much stronger person.]
In all honesty.... No justice exists in universe... Universe isn't about justice at all... It's about balance.... Karma is action... And only good people get caught in the trap of Karma... Because they feel guilty for what they did... Narcs never feel guilty... So if you don't feel guilty.... You won't suffer... Good people suffer before the actual suffering because of the guilt... Only thing to learn from Narcs is living guilt-free lives... Letting yourself be as who you are is the key... Universe will take care of the balance but it won't punish someone, because you feel like it(or may have been terrible with you)... And the bright side of meeting a narc is that they may end up breaking your heart but it is the part of our healing journey... Especially if you have suppressed childhood memories....
yep...in our courtrooms accomplices are held just as guilty as the perpetrator...in the lonesome dove series they hung jake spoon for falling in with evil, even tho he only did it to get thru the territory...they said..."you ride with an outlaw you die with an outlaw"
Wow! Your so right! They victimize you, in hopes to make you dependent on them, then offer or provide “support” and seek to hold you captive for the rest of your life. and the last few sentences of this video was so helpful. Thank you.
Wrong. Narcissists take pride on being narcissist one of them told me they have NPD as a prank to see my reaction and I didn't even know what a narcissist was back then I got to know through them and then when I looked up online the traits of the narcissist left me so scared and heartbroken and then came back asking if I bought the prank to which I brushed it off saying something diplomatic. But the thing was I was naive back then and couldn't get to believe it so I didn't bother much and I wish I had paid more attention then I would have saved myself from so many narcissists later down the road anyways my parents were narcissists and probably that's why I couldn't figure out others too even if I researched up NPD. And the most recent example being my ex narcissistic boss was talking about a colleague being empathic to his subordinate and to which I didn't react or show emotion to but in my mind it raised a red flag or two I was like the the fuck if this person knows about empaths they must know about narcissists too. But again I didn't see them as a narcissist which was a big mistake again and the subordinate they were saying that too was a narcissist too.
Donna RedirectYourself I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
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Sloan Bella I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
Hi Jill, thanks for the video. I was with a narcissist for five years. It's only when you come out the other side you realise how dangerous and toxic these people are, and what they are capable of. Thanks to people like you , I've been able to see the whole thing more clearly, and actually understand what was going on. It's really helped me recover.
I do believe narcissist can change, but it takes work. I've seen it....That isn't giving anyone a reason to stay though. It took me leaving my spouse for him to make the necessary changes...He lost everything, and in exchange gained himself.... Truly happy for him on his new journey. Ty for sharing this video.
There's only one rule to follow with a Narcissist; *Give them nothing* . Not your time, not your money, not your heart, not your emotions, not your goodwill, not your energy, not your empathy, not your virtues, not your morals, not your passions in Life. *Nothing* . Let them wither and die alone.
Fantastic! I encountered a covert female narcissist last year in a brief romantic relationship. I had "known" her for 15 years in a professional setting. The relationship started wonderfully. But in time, her actions shocked me. Her words and actions turned very cold and hard, almost overnight. Thankfully, I ended it when I sensed what looked like a "mean streak." She refuses to look at me or speak to me when I see her in the office. Per your guidance, her grudge will last forever. I saw the real her, and that makes me a major threat. Your insights are spot-on. I never knew her. I just thought I did. I was just being manipulated all these years.
We've been taught to see the good in people and empathasize as well as commit to humility. Until...you see the person who is creating the smoke is the actual one wearing the mask like in Scooby Doo. We can forgive yes, but may their deceitful, dysfunctional, irrational manipulative persona turn tables on to themselves. Yes, don't estimate their power, but they should not underestimate karma either. God bless them with their own medicine.
Thank you, you made it simple to understand. I am starting to distance myself from my husband and I already feel the anxiety and depression fade away! Hay!!
The anxiety gets so much better. Stay away from these narcissistic they know exactly what their doing .They take advantage of good people and know exactly how to manipulate you .Divorced mine after 32 years of abuse ..lying cheating and use you like your a doormat...He turned our grown children against me. It's awful ...I am not a loud to see my Grands..Heart breaking but the grands grow up and will come to me ..I stayed for my kids and grands but they punish anyway they can ..Keep your head up and never look back...prayers
i really wished i found this video channel before. I was with someone who has all these traits. I have now rid myself of her. But the one thing she did not realise was that i was a strong minded person unlike her previous conquests. I am a lot stronger now i have got out of that relationship. I also feel so much better within myself as well.
Everything you say is spot on. I learned the most dangerous lesson of my life. I was in a prison within my own home.I was married to a narcissistic psychopath who used her health issues to control. She had multiple traumas, some physical, (major TBI) many psychotic developed from childhood exposure to porn. Because of these , as a "caregiver" I could not escape...until I had finally got away to the police with wounds fighting her off as she try to stab me. Got her committed to psych-ward , got a Protection order & a divorce 5 years ago. My step children suffered horribly as kids & she destroyed her ex too, unknown to me. We are all in recovery & also they have Protection Orders against her still in effect. Keep this channel going. And men, do not be ashamed to seek help. It is life or death in some cases.
Well done! This and other similar channels have brought me to an understanding some 40yrs into it. Better late than never. All the channel emphasize they won't change, those of us with empathy have a very hard time accepting and acting on that. Thank You!
Somewhere on this list should have been “Don’t have children by them”. They’ll turn your children against you and they could possibly turn your children into narcissists. Even if they don’t, the kids will suffer emotionally, probably for the rest of their lives.
I wish I had found this video years ago. It would have saved me from the last few years of sheer horror. Everything said in this video should be printed in books, written on billboards, on flyers in public transportation and broadcasted by the media daily. Thank You Enlightened One.
I wish more people would hear your content before they go thru it but at least we can get validation after the fact to assist in healing and making sense of all that we have unknowingly allowed to transpire in our lives before we knew about narcissism.
My Dad is a narcissist. I am the scapegoat. These videos have opened my eyes so much. I have a hard time dealing with it because my Grandma is the original narcissist, who bullied my Dad and made him the way he is. I know I can’t blame him for everything and I have a hard time not feeling guilty.
Thank you. Straight and to The point. I was scapegoat Child with three golden Children, plus mother Narc Who formed a cult with theses Children. Father hospitalized At 45 never to return home From the abuse. Died age 52. It’s been a very tough Road I seem to attract Abusers. I am people pleaser Giver. Alone but free from Abuse. Self care has been Difficult.
Marsha McDonald I hear you, we are naturally prey for the predator. Narcissism breeds narcissism until you are the only empathetic, truth telling individual left. They turn on you with a vengeance because you refuse to assassinate another's character even though that other family member has mistreated you. I'm out of it but it's difficult to trust after so many betrayals, they can spot us a mile off. Jesus is my Rock.
Don't!!!! they will become more abusive,you can't ignore them,that is driving them more crazy since they must be in the centre of attention,they want to dominate you even if you are mils away from them....Avoid them in a big big big circle ,they will stub you from the back when you are most vulnerable etc..................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tried this, because I was on to them. But giggling made stuff way worse . Before the discard, they insulted my IQ/intelligence, trying to make me doubt my own capacity to learn.
@@friendofbeaver6636 hey, they sounded tacky asf, and just made me realize how much they were masking before. I even wanted to discard quietly, but they just had to have the last word. Made me realize how childish they were while trying to appear mature.
I have watched a lot of different people talk on narcissistic abuse but you're really knowledgeable. This is so true. Everything you said hit home. I was with narc for 21 yrs, divorced, still being tortured. He refuses to leave me alone. He's stolen, continues to steal every single thing I own. He's charming, charismatic, funny guy, life of the party, helper, good worker, caring, do-gooder....to everyone else. The person I see, no one knows this demon. He's very good at what he does. The devil was an angel of light.
Seeing the amount of content available on narcissism and NPD, it's amazing to see how many people 6% of the US population negatively impacts. Dealing with narcissists can be so awful for all involved.
The "6%" of the population is most likely the empaths. Society is infested with narcs and many of them are in the "authority" or "expert" positions. Don't believe their skewed "statistics" ....they are pure BS.
it is what we are used to and it feels comfortable....at first....we just dont know any better.. ..until i began studying this stuff i even fought against the notion that my MOM could be this way... now i can spot them a mile away....education DOES help.
@@fredmad4988 Bro, I thought it was only me!!! I never knew what at "Narcissist" was until I was fed up with bad relationships. Now I work on soley Me/Self Improvement! Staying away from Toxic Women
I am living w a narcissist for 33 years. Your evaluation is right on. I question myself why I stay. I realize that I am hooked into random reinforcement. He can be so sweet for a while, but like a sniper, he comes out of nowhere with abusive, bullying behavior. He is like a LasVegas slot Maschine: sometimes you win big, so you keep playing or keep going back. .
This video was Awesome so true. I wish I knew about this earlier in my life. Things would have been so different much earlier. Two years ago If found out about these kinds of people and ever since My life has changed for the better. I try not to think about the years wasted and now focus on all that I want to do and life is so much happier thank you so much.
Gigi Dix I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
This is so scary! I have done so much research to help find my way out of this incredibly sad situation. I just changed my number after 4 years of going no contact, blocking, etc. I am hoping they don’t do anything further!
Thank You So Very Much For Sharing I Was Horribly Abused By A Malignant Narcissists He Has Been punishing Me For Over 6 Years On And Off With The Silent Treatment.. It’s Very Hard Recovering From Narcissists Abuse.
Oh my gosh so enlightening! I didn’t know what was happening to me. I was in a horrible marriage for 23 years. This is textbook! Now divorced and still working on me!
I like to fight with narcissists because I like breaking bullies. Lol. I especially like catching them in lies and exposing them in the open, putting them on the spot etc. I might make a channel about this.
@@imalwaysme4332 Yes. I like fighting with nasty, arrogant people. I like getting under their skin. I like not playing their games and subtly disrespecting them. I like taking notes of the bad things they do and reporting them to the right people and then putting them on the spot in ambushes. I like calling their bluff when they try to get "aggressive" too, because often these people cannot fight against anyone that will actually hit them back.
@Dexy Nash Nah. Lots of people thank me for doing to these predators what they weren't able to do. Sometimes people just don't expect other people to be so horrible. Sometimes they are just too gentle hearted. They don't have the strength nor courage to fight back, so become enthralled by these people. Me? I'm very acquainted with these creatures. I know how to get under their skin and I know how to expose them and destroy their lives. If they get aggressive with me, that's not a real problem because I usually make sure that I'm in a position to beat them up badly if they try to get too aggressive. For me, Narc-hunting is an enjoyable and socially beneficial sport. I could teach you, for free, a handful of Narc-destroying techniques if you'd like. I'm thinking about making a channel about this. I'm an expert at destroying and ruining these "people".
I am so screwed! Recently learning about narcissists. A little late but 2 of them out of my life now. Im here, alive, didn't sell my house! Time to recuperate. Thanks for educating us.
Very informative content. As I have learned in the past 2 years about this mental disorder I have listened to atleast 6 to 7 different Narcissist Abuse Councilors. Some are straight forward and some are still dealing with the injuries and abuse they substaned from their own relationships with a Narcissist. You are new to the group of on line councillors but your deliver about the information is clear and precise. That is why I am subscribing to your channel. Everyone says pretty much the same thing. Your delivery of that information has put you at the top of my list. Thank you for what you do because it is a jungle out there full of lions and tigers and bears...oh my!! 😏 For good hearted people that believe everyone has values and morals.....nothing is futher from the truth. That's why good people that are targets of these predators need to know how to see them behind their smoke and mirrors so they don't fall victim to their deadly traps. You don't have to die physically, although in some cases, that can and does occur. You can die a slow and painful death emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually! Keep the information coming because good decent people need it.
SOOOOO RIGHT abt not sharing personal info especially fears, regrets, mistakes, exes, omg - DONT DO IT !!!!! When they get angry they use this info to demean and humiliate you in the most HURTFUL ways. Never open ur heart. NEVER!!! Im still hurting from my experience but Im mending slowly.
I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
"Narcissists store information about you to use against you at a later date." So true.
Sounds crazy but true
Yep they do and deny any bad behaviour they did
Or they will simply make it up! When my relation realised I was seeing through her mask she started telling all my relations(except my parents)that I was a lesbian. I'm not lesbian and found this very hurtful at a time when homosexuality was still not widely accepted and I was a very pureminded innocent teenager.
This is very true
Yes..I hv experienced this
Things not to do with a narcissist.
Talk to them.
Spend time with them.
Touch or be touched by them.
Allow them in your life in any manner.
See, I only needed 5 things.
So true...
Pretty much like having a pet fish 🐟 in a 🥣 bowl...admire from the outside. Once you see 👀 that nothing is as clear 💎 as you thought, then you wake up ⏰ 💥. 🏆
😂😂😂
Having a good heart makes you vulnerable to these people
Sure does
A good heart (empathic) + poor boundary setting = ideal target for narcissist's
A good heart (empathic) + strong and well maintained boundaries w/ consequences for perpetual line stepper's = sworn enemies of narcissist's (lol)
@Pedro Ivan Sanchez cold turkey, ignored calls. silence is better than words
The goal is trying to destroy the heart. It's the currency
@@gabriellagodsent9012 The goal is to steal/destroy your soul.
Run away from a narcissist as fast as you can and don’t look back!!!
Ever
3 WEEKS NO CONTACT.......RUNNING!AFTER 15 YEARS WASTED,,&OCEANS OF TEARS,I'M HEALING DAILY.I FOUND HER MULTIPLE SOURCES OF SUPPLY,CALLED HER OUT ON IT,AND POOOOF!MY HOME HASN'T SEEN THIS LEVEL OF PEACE IN A DECADE AND A HALF!
Pamela Best when you recognize it. It takes a while . How many millions dont even know about this. Had i ANY IDEA to look to U tube 10 years ago! My life WOULD have been different. Idk if all this helpful stuff was available 10-12 years ago. No one- counselors didn’t even tell me my Ex was a Narc
Karen Lynch I couldn’t deal with the emotional rollercoaster. I felt like a Stepford wife. One day a veil lifted and I saw how disrespectful he was and I knew in that moment that my marriage was over because I was DONE!! Of course he thought I had lost it and “made” me go to a Psychiatrist to which she supported me the very first time I met her, and said he was a narcissist and I should just get divorced because he wouldn’t and could never change. Best advice I’ve ever received!
Pamela Best glad you did. I had no where to go & made several attempts to leave & even separated & moved but had no idea i was hoovered.
1. Do not minimize their bad behavior. It makes you fatigued and numb.
2. Don't take them at face value.
3. Don't overshare personal information.
4. Don't assume that they share your virtues. ... of empathy, honesty, etc.
5. Don't try to beat them at their own game.
6. Don't take their actions personally.
7. Do not have anything to do with them financially. It is intended to control you.
8. Don't accept empathy or fairness. They don't believe that anyone is worthy.
9. Don't expect them to change.
10. Don't underestimate the power of narcissism.
Thank you for writing this. Just was searching for that list of 10s
Thank u so much . 💯 True
Thank you : )
Don't minimise the abuse. Don't take them at face value. Don't over-share personal information. Don't assume they share your virtues. Don't try to beat them at their own game, they only care about winning. Don't take their behaviour personally. Don't be financially dependent or loan money. Don't expect empathy or fairness. Don't expect them to change. Don't underestimate the power of narcissism.
Amen to that.it is really sad that their r people so cruel
David Kahan you’re right.ℹ️💯✅✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
They are disgusting, aren’t they. World class actors
By George I think hes got it.. lol
@Saphyr S. And never give them as gifts on Christmas... 😅
Why would anyone dislike this video? Must be a Narcissist
sx fd Or.............she's not good at speaking ,
Why would you care ?
You are 100% on Target. Great question also!!!( what would be the point in caring to reprove a person in the context here,because of their speaking)
😉
A narcissist
@@shanehester5317 well all the years i worked and lived with narcissts i learned they are the liars. There is no truth in them and they are never sorry. We victims all tell similar stories financial physical abuse verbal abuse cheaters and liars. We empaths know each other we've been through the torture and abuse. I'd say you are fishing and looking for new bait.
Basically, never put your trust in a narcissist. When you're in a vulnerable state, they will try to bait you and probe with questions to make it seem like they care, but they will only use what you told them as ammunition down the road. Give an inch and they take a mile! Have nothing to do with these folk.
I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
Exactly, my brother is a narcissist, for the second time I had to break ties with him, first time it lasted 10 years
Free Your Mind 1111 , I agree. They are just looking for more “ammunition “ to use against you later.
@@jimmypena3317 I have a brother as well that is this way
Free Your Mind 1111 like I always say talking too a narcissist is like being interviewed for a crime that you never committed, ontill they decide which crime you did . 😱
I have seen Narcissists turn Empathy on and off like a light Switch. Of course they Never actually feel Any Empathy just pretend to.
Spot on
Max Redman is true
MY WIFE
Real Truth...@mom
A real narc whonis faking empathy will seem insincere it will usually hit you later after youve evaluated their demeanor and seen them over time youll need several opportunities to appraise their empathy as real or simply a manipulation.
When I Peg someone is being insincere with their empathy it hits me very strong in my gut and it is probably one of the hugest turn-offs for me in evaluating one's character it is absolutely 100% a red flag and anyone you know who behaves in this way fake sympathy you should really run run fast in the opposite direction
My biggest mistake is thinking that everyone has empathy and interact with others accordingly. I truly have to be mindful of this fact. Thanks a million!
I think many make thar mistake.
The most difficult part is getting sympathy from people who don't know what narcissists are like. They advise you to ''just talk to him/her '' etc because other people don't realise that a narcissist completely lacks empathy. People have even asked me if I'm imagining things. At the end of the day victims are alone and this is the hardest part.
Dr. Surya Sande our marriage councilor is way under qualified to deal w/ Narcissism and goes down that road every time. We just need to “know what we know”.
I believe that the only people who can understand what narcissists are capable of are their victims. I'm certain I could not, would not believe their evil if I hadn't experienced it myself.
@@sophiemorrison9820 you are so right
Agreed.
Dr. Surya Sande truer words have never been spoken
They are a waste of time , effort and resources, moving on is the best answer.
I agree Completely ! I walked away from them all Completely. The next time I would see any of them they were in a Coffin.
amen jose
Jose Grullon i did same walked away long ago and never looked back .
I am trying to do this right now. It's very hard
@@maxredman1015 what if these mental dramaqueens is your working colleague?
No. 8 Lack of empathy - some narcissists have learned how to portray empathy...plus if there is something in it for them they can appear to be kind and caring...
They're like AI (Artificial Intelligence) in that they can "code" for empathy or love, in other words, they grasp the definition of the words that describes those feelings, BUT they will never actually FEEL those emotions, like a computer that can never "feel" mercy or the importance of "having" mercy for another being. Like the computer, a narcissist can perceive those feelings in others and react exactly how normal people expect them to react. This is how they are so good at deception.
I thought this guy was odd. He acted overly concerned about a bruise on my knee. Come to find out he was a narc pretending to care. Some can't act at all 😂
They are experts at pretending around certain people. They are monsters in private. Nothing is ever the narcs fault. They turn it on the victim and the victim ends up apologizing. It's really a sick game they play.
Empathy is something that has been given to us by God, therefore we as human neither we have empathy or we lack empathy. No matter how someone try to portray empathetic it won’t last.
You can catch them out by asking about themselves . And thuer dreams and about thier family and do they feel abit insecure they can't keep thier mask on after a while ...it's all fake and they get angry alot ....I had a narc back in my life from a friend who didn't know what he was about .it took 6 months then he dropped he's mask and then there he was again the UN empathetic person he's always been....
#1. Stay away from them as much as possible. #2. Don’t get romantically involved with them. #3. Don’t ever mix your finances with theirs.
Where were you when I needed to be told this 30 years ago.... (I probably wouldn't have listened anyway back then, lol)
@@AngryMoose-r5o Good luck. 😊
😲 OMG! NEVER depend on them for financial aid. This is giving them even more power over you. Find ways of making your own money. Trust me on this one.
Yea I relied on my sons dad for help with money then he cut it all off and I've had to break into all my savings and I can't even eat .I've had to go to food bank ...It was my birthday yesterday and I say in a pub listening to my friend saying how her seperated relationship is but I phones etc for thier children .I thought that was ne about 5 years ago .I keep telling her he has power over her with the money. And he is a narc .but she doesn't understand ....
Find ways of keeping your money. I was buried.
This is so true
Amen Maria!!!!! Amen
They pay you to abuse you. Similar to Hansel and Gretel.
Don't tell them anything of importance ever~! And don't let them know that you know what they are.
I didn’t know it was abuse. I kept on forgiving him. He’s gone now and onto the next victim
lucky you count your blessings now that you are free.
Me too .
25 year marriage
I was FREED in 2012 ..
He met another target ..he had ran me dry .....
I have realized my personally is a target of them .and IED BIPOLAR MEN TOO
so I am making sure I maneuver myself in a way to NOT GET SUCKED IN ...
FRRE TO BE ME is my motto and I handle men way eeyore different then I did in my YOUNGER DAYS
Born 1955 ..robin
Rachel Hope This is one of the worst & saddest things about it, plus we’re usually female in a “relationship/marriage” with this male narcissist & no bruises, physical abuse to “prove” what’s been done to us. Another thing has come to mind & am sure experts would agree, many of us females are strong emotionally & otherwise. In my own life I’ve lived through a short, abusive marriage early adulthood, left with a small toddler, no family support around, no money etc., etc. Child diagnosed as disabled & years of difficulties with that, family (no help anyway)living across sea in Ireland (I was in UK) no help, & more. So how did I get tricked into this narcissistic person entering my life??
I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
My ex girlfriend is a narcissist. I never knew the signs of a narcissist until after we split up and a friend mentioned that term. I feel like a fool because we split up 3x in 4 years and each time she was the one who asked me back....I feel like an idiot because she played me
Every word in this video is true to a "T". I Wish I saw it 17 years ago. Thank You Jill!
So true. Wish i knew this 24yrs ago.
Almarie Simpson 💗sure hope you’re living your best life now! #longroadback☯️
wish I knew decades and decades ago. we did not have words for it ages back.
Me too...they r cruel.
You are so spot on, it's been 42 years of good and bad
God has given me my freedom back. I got out of this abusive web and I am so grateful
And God has helped me back as well. My ex told me there was no God and I was stupid and an idiot for all of my opinions. And all of my opinions whether it be political or religious or even about a snake was stupid. God never gave up on me. I have begged for His forgiveness and have been saved and I know He is with me now. And no one can hurt me again.
When my aunt told me flat out my mother was jealous of me, I literally laughed at her. Took me a few years since and decades of abuse but I'm over a year of no contact and my popularity within the extended family has plummeted. 🤷♀️
Never again.
Wish I heard this 50 years ago!!!!! You are right on.They destroy!!!!
Narcissists are hateful, evil, nasty people, and I hate them. My father was a raging narcissist and he was very cruel. He did NOT love me, that is something I still find difficult to accept.
@Tim Detmers Sadly Both my Mother and Father were Raging Narcissists/Sadist/Sociopaths/Masochists, A LOT of EVIL in each Person. They Tormented and Tortured me as a Child and as an Adult, did Damage to my Career and my Marriage every chance they got, and then laughed about it. My Mother even caused me to have a Car Accident and then Regularly Mocked my Driving and the Damage to my Car.
Thank you for speaking of your horrific experience. People vilified me when I fled with little one, obviously not having experienced their sadistic evil. You don't leave a good or mediocre relationship full stop. You don't flee leaving behind everything you've worked for and contributed the most to for meanness alone. The majority of the population simply have no comprehension of their intent to torture and destroy. Many skeletons in their closets. I fled as it worsened when little one was born, I wasn't protected from it growing up thus ignorant and falling prey in marriage, but I will do all in my power to protect my child from everything I had to crawl out from under. This is so validating, although I'm sorry you had to endure that. God bless you as you heal and find Truth.
Support groups are needed for victims past and present of these type people
Definitely
Where are they located?
I agreeeeeeeee!!!!!
Yep, exept thier all in support groups for attention and more supply .
"Don't assume they share your virtues"..oh how true is that statement...they are not anything they seem,they are not Anything in particular,they just morph to each moment to fool the victim.
They only live in that second or moment ... And all actions or reactions are based off there delusional emotions and thoughts ...
Once you wise up, it's satisfying outsmarting them and watching their frustration! They are really a mess under their bragging, control and deceptive persona and you can rise above it! Just be alert at all times because there's always a "back story" to their actions. They give $2 to get $3 back! They are not interested in YOU, other than controlling and taking advantage of you. They can claim to be compassionate and caring but watch how it all goes right back to them and their "drama" of the moment!
Peggy Micsky yep so true karma still gonna get them I don’t care who you are or what you say if you do that shit to someone who was innocent karma is coming it don’t forget an address member that 💥💥
"God is Good, don't worry about them, God got them in His own timing and trust and believe that". 🙏🙏🙏
You must emotionally remove yourself from them! Or you will be hurt!
Too late !!! I’m just destroyed and can’t get out
@@jameseeeerussell2791 No, you is not destroyed, they is destroyed, and God is Good 🙏🙏🙏
i have never had a relationship with any narcissist. I attack narcissists violently psychologically and physically, massive public shaming. Narcissism cured!
i was once some victim. Not anymore, never again.
OMG! It’s so true that never depends on them financially. They use it as a free pass of abusing.
Mine actually said "I pay the bills, I eat my cake" WTF
Only 10 things? You do NOTHING with a narcissist, you avoid them like the plague! :-)
They are not human..they are monters that try to destroy your mind !
They will destroy everything about you.
@@dianefarley37 yes completely right !
He tried to destroy my psyche and to do everything that I get fired at my job. Did intentionally start to make verbally arguement in order to make me angry at him + stress me out before I get to work.
He did call my supervisor , and tell bad stuff about me , by hoping that I lose my job. I got very afraid its gonna be reality, so I did talk to my boss and explained my tricky situation and requested her, to never call my on the fixnet nr. not to be in contact with my ex who still lived with me. I was so relieved, that I could keep my job.
He used to tell my first son to call me while I was at work ; biggest control freak.
Since Cct. 2012 I did do my things without giving regards to him. Since 2017 I did go more out to enjoy life, and he hated it.
Finally, he moved out in Dec. 2019. The kids and I went through so much humiliation and we had to manage his hatery, dramas, psychological and physical violence. As he isolated me very fast (without realizing what he did, because I had to work , raise the kids. He did work , and didn't give a damn to go go regularly out with them or just take care of them, nore giving them (warming up) food. Got sometimes so exhausted. My only big regret is to wasted too much time... about 5years, ...coz he didnt want me to be alone with the kids. He didnt want to accept that he had to leave from this apartment, coz of his pride. + he was so selfish , he wanted still control us. The reason: to pretend towards others , that he's got a nice family.
Those individuals are the worst I could ever met and trusted ; it's all about their image --> about their ego. They dont love their sons or daughter , they can love nobody ,...not even themselves....
You’re right. Narcissists are satanic, never give them any emotional validation, never care for anything emotionally that they do and never acknowledge them let them speak to you first and let them feel you don’t care 🤷♀️ weather their right or wrong, live or die. You will end up sane and happy.✅💯✝️ 🙏🏿 👌🏿 👍🏿 😎
@@shantidierauer8902 Yes! They are all the same, whether they are male or female! They do the exact same things to other people, regardless of who the other people are to them! They are clones of each other and of the devil.
Demonic entities. It is chosen behaviour as one can only invite them and can always repent if they want to. Few if any do. Chosen behaviour = culpability. Have no mercy on these hideous creatures.
It is true, their wounds are incredibly sad. It must be miserable to live with such emptiness.
stil have a boundary or flee. they will drain the life from you. and complex if family, if date, flee immediately.
True, some of them kinda realise
21 days free out of severe NARCISSISTIC abusive relationship!!!!!!
I had to learn my lesson the hard way taking him back last Time
Now that I have educated myself I know he has NPD and I’ve never felt such devastation before ok so many levels
Mental , emotionally , spiritually and physically!!!!
Anxiety & panic attacks , developed and ulcer
I closed the door and I’m
Never looking back
Went no contact should have done this in the first place !!!!!
Now to stay safe is all I want & to have peace
Great advice. Don't take it personal, and don't tell a lying, soulless, data-collecting narcissist anything. They are incredibly sick, and have to "win" at all costs. Narcissism in the workplace can be torturous, some coworker "agents" of the narcissist are figuring out they are being abused. Run for the hills!
We need to educate the authorities on this behavior it's so important
The Authorities are Narcissists Themselves. They use their Power to Steal from the Sheeple. Drive in the Country on a Highway above the Speed Limit, who is hiding behind Trees to take your Money....The Authorities.
Max Redman, absolutely.
@@maxredman1015 Then DON'T drive ABOVE the speed limit ! It's really as simple as that ! You could end up hitting some animal or even human like that anyway !
@@militaryranger0831 You seem to have completely missed the point. Typical.
"Do not get entangled with a narcissist in finances in any way. You will live to regret it!" Living proof here after 21 years of financial entanglement with a narcissist. It's like trying to manage money with a 5 year old. So much I regret.
I agree! I am currently entangled financially with my narcissistic mother after my dad passed away in 2015. She cannot manage her finances (she's Catholic and always giving money to her church despite having bills to pay and groceries to buy). It's impossible to reason with her. I feel your pain/frustration
The one thing you should never do with a narcissist is stay around them
Very manipulative mom and sister. Felt like they robbed me of my Authenticity for the first 40 years until I went no contact!
I can finally breathe
I hear ya, finally books regarding family and this, we did not have words for it ages back.
My mother draws information from my child to use against us , I am about to close the door on her forever she is ruthless , the most horrible experiences I have had are with her. Love to you all Love is our answer ❤️ Love your innner child❤️. Thank you beautiful lady.
This is one of the best videos ever regarding advice with narcissists. thank you!
Excellent ....
I agree, excellent video, thank you!
stephania in London , great video
One thing to never do and one thing only. NEVER ENGAGE AT ALL, GET OUT NOW! thank you for your supportive videos. Blessings. ❤️
Learned this the hard way, credit is ruined, lost my car, lost my home, experienced yrs of abuse, and now my image is still being smeared by him. This narcissist was so good that he made me completely believe I wasn’t working during the time I was pregnant and I was!! 😂 I swear these ppl have a special kind of evil inside of them it’s insane.
Oh my goodness! I worked throughout my pregnancies hard jobs and my husband thinks I have never worked! Jesus christ
Absolutely ! My daughter's been with one now, and she doesn't know what she's doing half the time. Her memory is shot to h_ll ever since day 1 with this guy. The change in her was so sudden and bizarrre I suspect he hypnotized her. She doesn't seem to have any will of her own anymore. It's frightening that her grandmother has more memory awareness than her.
quasimobius please don’t give up and keep reminding her. My mom is the one that woke me up one day and because of her I managed to remember and find myself again.
Number one thing NOT to do with a narcissist…….live with them!
Unfortunately I grew up with a covert/spiritual narcissist mother!! She messed with my mental health so much as a child that I had no idea she was doing anything wrong despite knowing instinctively that other mom's were not like this.
Too late, I was talked into moving into his house which was considered entrapment and hostage according to a TH-cam lawyer.
Don't take their actions personally! ......that actually helped and brought some relief
Whenever I feel weak and feel like contacting them (trauma bonding), I listen to these words and they remind me why I left the abuser in the first place and it's reinforces my boundaries. Thank you Jill, 🍒.
I'm binge watching EVERYTHING I can find about narcissism and getting so much wisdom and empathy. I'm really NOT going crazy. He has had 47 years to 'mess with my head' and now I'm taking steps to separate from him. Not physically, I'm not moving because monetarily I have too much to lose but I've been grey rocking for awhile now and staying away from him. I fall every now and then but just to know I'm not crazy, is SO much of a relief. Thank you.
Linda Moore just get away asap. Money can be made, mere things have zero value compared to a human soul created with inherent worth and value. God never forsakes the righteous. I had to leave everything I worked for, home and all. It was worth it. They despise innocence and virtue, they only want to exploit and steal your identity by regurgitating your wisdom and compassion to new victims or those they have to save face with, all whilst badmouthing you with lies behind your back so people hate you, then destroying you with every opportunity. Some unto the death, they have no conscience. Please get an exit plan.
@@FaithfulandTrue949 I'm going to try. I'm leaving on a trip to see my brother then my sister who live in Quebec and I want to discuss this with them as to my options. Maybe they can advise me too. Thank you!!
Good luck Linda, just keep your cards close to your vest. Also, be advised that grey-rocking only works for a while; as you change, they’ll get less and less supply, either negative supply or positive attention/adoration. If he stops getting that fuel, he will look for it somewhere else and dump you without a second thought. Start planning your exit strategy, and don’t, not even for a second don’t think that what those years together mean to you, they mean the same to your partner. They will drop you like a hot potato once they sense they cannot play you like a puppet. Please seek legal advice and cut your losses.
Linda Moore Very true about keeping silent about your plans, for me the abuse escalated once educated on narcissism and I saw behind the mask - after 24 years, married, forgiving and hoping, crying and dying. They rejoice in destruction and wickedness. Pure evil, a black void of jealous hatred. They want you dead in order to play the grieving husband or wife. Only professional refuge helped me escape with little one for good, had tried leaving before but didn't know about narcissism then, unaware I was raised in narc family who's 'help' was covertly sabotaging! No contact with many now, slowly healing and learning to trust as healthy friendships come into mine and little one's life. Peace at last yet not easy. Jesus is my Rock, I cried out to Him in my distress and He led me to real information and help that worked. My education is science based so the revalation that Jesus and the Bible is alive took some exploring. It's a relationship with Jesus, not religion, churches are full of narcs with many behind the pulpit... They also groom and abuse people like us! Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Will pray for you Linda, hope you get the help you need. Don't look back, cut and run. You are worth more and can absolutely begin again... Much more to tell, please believe, your life could depend on it. God bless you.
Enlightened target's info is spot on, thank you for these videos. Also see begood4000, Inner Integration and The Royal We - Kevin's video on 'no contact with narcissists and toxic people' is a great illustration when you're at that stage. Real tools, so thankful for all these educators.
10 scums disliked this Great Video, hmmmm must be irritating to be described to the T.
Yep, they hate that ppl are onto their sick actions.
@@francinesmith8109 i heard that they know we are onto them, and they are more pissed then ever. Now they are upping their game and coming up w new strategies
"Irritating"?!
How about
How about devastated
Can you imagine them saying to themselves
"Their on to me" and how terrifying that must be to he found out. To know that they'll have fewer opportunities for narcissistic Supply they won't be able to get away with as much they'll always be wondering is my mask slipping?"
There's always going to be someone out there who will provide them with Supply though
It's going to take years and years for these people to be completely exposed.
We have to keep putting the word out though and this lady and her videos are so on point her delivery is fantastic she's easy to listen to doesn't talk too fast doesn't get sidetracked with your thoughts clear concise and formed is what I see
LOL, too funny
@@sofatayragaming9296 Your comment sounds like a comment a narcissists would make. Why would someone deserve it? Where is your empathy? I don't see in your comment only hate. Peace & love too all peoples even the narcissist. Maybe one day they will see themselves for who they are and make a change.
There really needs to be an awareness campaign. I had no idea these people existed. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. I could never understand what reality she was living in. One moment she was the most caring and loving person I’ve ever been with. The next she was nasty, selfish, and vindictive She would say things that were completely opposite. I had helped her with her house. Always building, fixing, installing something. Then she’d be resentful towards me. I was like “WTF?”. I could never figure out what was happening. Eventually I refused to continue to be a door mat for someone, so we broke up. Then she was heartbroken, a victim, and she should have seen the red flags. I was like “this woman is insane”. I was convinced it was hormonal until a friend tuned me into personality disorders. Everything makes sense finally. This really has been one of the most draining experiences I’ve ever had.
T Konclown good riddens learn from it and never do it again watch for signs there there just gotta be aware
The feelings of rejection and anger are making me feel like a narc! Going no-contact makes me feel like I’m punishing someone the way the silent treatment does!
But the fact is that no-contact is protection. I don’t want any relationship with someone who is damaging to my life and isn’t interested in a mutual relationship.
It’s just disturbing how fine that line is between protecting yourself and being abusive!
Yes I can identify with what you share here. This is part of being empathic. I find these good educational videos help me to think clearly about what I am dealing with, value myself more and heal. I need to lead my life with wisdom and not be emotionally led.
Protecting oneself is not abuse. It is to be courageous and committed to self care.
Yes its hard not to go thier way .but long as your heart feels warm seeing a happy film or get sad on a heart breaking story and still having empathetic feelings then you know your not becoming one .but generally you have to forfill your life with your happiness and your dreams .after a while you won't miss the narcsisist your life will be set free xx
Yes..... A fine line. Just make sure, that you stay on the right side of it. You can compare the effects, to withdrawal symptoms. SAY NO TO DRUGS/NARCISSISTS, as they are extremely toxic, and poisonous. 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ and never L👀K back, for your own sake.
Addictive, for sure! 😵
At 60 I finally understand my mother is a narcissist and I’m an extremely empathetic person…I finally understand, now if I can finally free myself from the manipulation, and I will, that will be triumphant
01:13 1. Do not minimize their dysfunctional behavior
03:33 2. Don't take them at face value
04:30 3. Don't overshare personal information
05:17 4. Don't assume they share your virtues
06:25 5. Don't try and beat them at their own game
07:39 6. Don't take their actions personally
08:32 7. Do not have any financial ties
09:50 8. Don't expect empathy or fairness
10:39 9. Don't expect them to change
11:19 10. Don't underestimate the power of a Narcissist
7:18 I can easily beat a narcissist at their game most are fragile mentally, *BUT* not engaging in the battle, ingnoring them destroys their ego more..
Nailed it! Every. Single. Word.
I ditched the covert N. About two years ago and he hoovered like a helicopter.... I sold my house and moved to another state and city far away. Good riddance.
Well done
K B good for you. I retired early and took me and myself to another state! Best thing I ever did!!
Sorry for the typing error. I took myself and my son to another state!
Please listen to this wise lady. Everything she says is 100% spot on ! It will save you tons of grief, heartache, despair and financial ruin !
#4--the hardest part of dealing with a narcissist. You really can't wrap your head around someone that doesn't seem to use any basic good sense when it's not in their benefit.
That’s how I know someone is with an abuser: they make excuses for their bad behavior or words. Narcs never do this!
So true ...never thought of it that way.
Jill, I could HUG you for these videos. They have come too late to prevent my entanglement with a (malignant female) narcissist and going through the last seven plus years as a target, but you are sooooo on the money with your descriptions of their behaviour and motives and I really, really hope that you reach a wide audience. It's clear that you really do know how narcissists operate. [NB: it's true that nothing is ever all bad or all good and on the plus side of this experience, I am not as naive as I once was and having to deal with all the triangulation, silent treatment and ostracism from colleagues due to lies has made me a much stronger person.]
You really said it well Ma'am.So true but KARMA IS JUST AROUND THEM SOONER OR LATER.
Virginia Fonacier karma never forgets but we don’t get to see it 🙃🙃
@@caffrey1100 you too are right.
In all honesty.... No justice exists in universe... Universe isn't about justice at all... It's about balance.... Karma is action... And only good people get caught in the trap of Karma... Because they feel guilty for what they did... Narcs never feel guilty... So if you don't feel guilty.... You won't suffer... Good people suffer before the actual suffering because of the guilt... Only thing to learn from Narcs is living guilt-free lives... Letting yourself be as who you are is the key... Universe will take care of the balance but it won't punish someone, because you feel like it(or may have been terrible with you)... And the bright side of meeting a narc is that they may end up breaking your heart but it is the part of our healing journey... Especially if you have suppressed childhood memories....
If you stay with a narcissist, then the consequences that's coming for them, will be coming for you too.
This is true!
As especially in business! Suppliers get even with the narc - employees are then victimized again.
yep...in our courtrooms accomplices are held just as guilty as the perpetrator...in the lonesome dove series they hung jake spoon for falling in with evil, even tho he only did it to get thru the territory...they said..."you ride with an outlaw you die with an outlaw"
Beryl Roberts That is the truth.It rubs off...get far away from them
No, not really ... "God is Good" ...🙏🙏🙏
Wow! Your so right! They victimize you, in hopes to make you dependent on them, then offer or provide “support” and seek to hold you captive for the rest of your life. and the last few sentences of this video was so helpful. Thank you.
A narcissist isnt aware of his/her narcissism. Its their normality according to them. They cant self reflect.
I used to get the "that's just the way I am" excuse, followed by "you just don't understand me like I thought you did". Yech!
Yes, they are. They don’t treat the CEO of their company the same way they treat their intimate partner. They know what they are doing and love it.
@@ravenel2 Lol CEOs are top narcissists, let them play their little games with each other, far far away from adults.
Some do, some don't
Wrong. Narcissists take pride on being narcissist one of them told me they have NPD as a prank to see my reaction and I didn't even know what a narcissist was back then I got to know through them and then when I looked up online the traits of the narcissist left me so scared and heartbroken and then came back asking if I bought the prank to which I brushed it off saying something diplomatic. But the thing was I was naive back then and couldn't get to believe it so I didn't bother much and I wish I had paid more attention then I would have saved myself from so many narcissists later down the road anyways my parents were narcissists and probably that's why I couldn't figure out others too even if I researched up NPD. And the most recent example being my ex narcissistic boss was talking about a colleague being empathic to his subordinate and to which I didn't react or show emotion to but in my mind it raised a red flag or two I was like the the fuck if this person knows about empaths they must know about narcissists too. But again I didn't see them as a narcissist which was a big mistake again and the subordinate they were saying that too was a narcissist too.
It's so true I can relate all most all points to my experience. Getting freedom from narcissist is a gift one should be grateful for.
Expecting empathy from a Narcissist is like going to the hardware store for raisins. Quote from a book in NPD that I can't recall the name of!
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@@oluwaseunmabinuori98 I am not married to him thank God. And I am no contact. Am moving soon and won't be stalked after that either. Yay!
God I'm so grateful for You☆ May God keep blessing You so dearly☆
You videos are exactly correct 💯- 33 years in the most abusive sick horrific relationship- I left - your videos are SO Accurate! Bravo 👏
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Hi Jill, thanks for the video. I was with a narcissist for five years. It's only when you come out the other side you realise how dangerous and toxic these people are, and what they are capable of. Thanks to people like you , I've been able to see the whole thing more clearly, and actually understand what was going on. It's really helped me recover.
You say this so well. It helps me understand the "brain fog" I felt.
I do believe narcissist can change, but it takes work. I've seen it....That isn't giving anyone a reason to stay though. It took me leaving my spouse for him to make the necessary changes...He lost everything, and in exchange gained himself.... Truly happy for him on his new journey. Ty for sharing this video.
There's only one rule to follow with a Narcissist; *Give them nothing* . Not your time, not your money, not your heart, not your emotions, not your goodwill, not your energy, not your empathy, not your virtues, not your morals, not your passions in Life. *Nothing* . Let them wither and die alone.
Fantastic! I encountered a covert female narcissist last year in a brief romantic relationship. I had "known" her for 15 years in a professional setting. The relationship started wonderfully. But in time, her actions shocked me. Her words and actions turned very cold and hard, almost overnight. Thankfully, I ended it when I sensed what looked like a "mean streak." She refuses to look at me or speak to me when I see her in the office. Per your guidance, her grudge will last forever. I saw the real her, and that makes me a major threat. Your insights are spot-on. I never knew her. I just thought I did. I was just being manipulated all these years.
We've been taught to see the good in people and empathasize as well as commit to humility. Until...you see the person who is creating the smoke is the actual one wearing the mask like in Scooby Doo. We can forgive yes, but may their deceitful, dysfunctional, irrational manipulative persona turn tables on to themselves. Yes, don't estimate their power, but they should not underestimate karma either. God bless them with their own medicine.
I met one! Still ruminating about this encounter, from time to time!
Thank you, you made it simple to understand. I am starting to distance myself from my husband and I already feel the anxiety and depression fade away! Hay!!
The anxiety gets so much better. Stay away from these narcissistic they know exactly what their doing .They take advantage of good people and know exactly how to manipulate you .Divorced mine after 32 years of abuse
..lying cheating and use you like your a doormat...He turned our grown children against me. It's awful ...I am not a loud to see my Grands..Heart breaking but the grands grow up and will come to me ..I stayed for my kids and grands but they punish anyway they can ..Keep your head up and never look back...prayers
Every word that you said is spot on!!!!!!!!!
i really wished i found this video channel before. I was with someone who has all these traits. I have now rid myself of her. But the one thing she did not realise was that i was a strong minded person unlike her previous conquests. I am a lot stronger now i have got out of that relationship. I also feel so much better within myself as well.
Everything you say is spot on. I learned the most dangerous lesson of my life. I was in a prison within my own home.I was married to a narcissistic psychopath who used her health issues to control. She had multiple traumas, some physical, (major TBI) many psychotic developed from childhood exposure to porn. Because of these , as a "caregiver" I could not escape...until I had finally got away to the police with wounds fighting her off as she try to stab me. Got her committed to psych-ward , got a Protection order & a divorce 5 years ago. My step children suffered horribly as kids & she destroyed her ex too, unknown to me. We are all in recovery & also they have Protection Orders against her still in effect. Keep this channel going. And men, do not be ashamed to seek help. It is life or death in some cases.
That was stunning. Never thought it could be summed up and made so clear. Thank you!
ages ago I read a business book called Snakes in Suits. but yes the new material about families and traits, very helpful, flee and have a boundary.
Everything said here is right on the mark.
The first thing one should never do with a narcissist is create a family. Because then, disaster is a certainty, whether you manage to divorce or not.
Well done! This and other similar channels have brought me to an understanding some 40yrs into it. Better late than never. All the channel emphasize they won't change, those of us with empathy have a very hard time accepting and acting on that. Thank You!
Somewhere on this list should have been “Don’t have children by them”. They’ll turn your children against you and they could possibly turn your children into narcissists. Even if they don’t, the kids will suffer emotionally, probably for the rest of their lives.
I wish I had found this video years ago. It would have saved me from the last few years of sheer horror. Everything said in this video should be printed in books, written on billboards, on flyers in public transportation and broadcasted by the media daily. Thank You Enlightened One.
I wish more people would hear your content before they go thru it but at least we can get validation after the fact to assist in healing and making sense of all that we have unknowingly allowed to transpire in our lives before we knew about narcissism.
My Dad is a narcissist. I am the scapegoat. These videos have opened my eyes so much. I have a hard time dealing with it because my Grandma is the original narcissist, who bullied my Dad and made him the way he is. I know I can’t blame him for everything and I have a hard time not feeling guilty.
Thank you. Straight and to
The point. I was scapegoat
Child with three golden
Children, plus mother Narc
Who formed a cult with theses
Children. Father hospitalized
At 45 never to return home
From the abuse. Died age
52. It’s been a very tough
Road I seem to attract
Abusers. I am people pleaser
Giver. Alone but free from
Abuse. Self care has been
Difficult.
Marsha McDonald I hear you, we are naturally prey for the predator. Narcissism breeds narcissism until you are the only empathetic, truth telling individual left. They turn on you with a vengeance because you refuse to assassinate another's character even though that other family member has mistreated you. I'm out of it but it's difficult to trust after so many betrayals, they can spot us a mile off. Jesus is my Rock.
It's a long journey to the discovery of the narcissistic parent. I'm 55 and finally went no contact 2yrs ago...wow
Brilliant session
I recommend laughing at everything a narcissist says.
Don't!!!! they will become more abusive,you can't ignore them,that is driving them more crazy since they must be in the centre of attention,they want to dominate you even if you are mils away from them....Avoid them in a big big big circle ,they will stub you from the back when you are most vulnerable etc..................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tried this, because I was on to them. But giggling made stuff way worse .
Before the discard, they insulted my IQ/intelligence, trying to make me doubt my own capacity to learn.
@@ArtTalkWithSharon Consider the source. Insults from narcissists should be taken as compliments. You're smart enough to discard. Bravo!
@@friendofbeaver6636 hey, they sounded tacky asf, and just made me realize how much they were masking before.
I even wanted to discard quietly, but they just had to have the last word. Made me realize how childish they were while trying to appear mature.
@@ArtTalkWithSharon That demonstrates your capacity to learn. Congratulations on your new life?
I have watched a lot of different people talk on narcissistic abuse but you're really knowledgeable. This is so true. Everything you said hit home. I was with narc for 21 yrs, divorced, still being tortured. He refuses to leave me alone. He's stolen, continues to steal every single thing I own. He's charming, charismatic, funny guy, life of the party, helper, good worker, caring, do-gooder....to everyone else. The person I see, no one knows this demon. He's very good at what he does. The devil was an angel of light.
Seeing the amount of content available on narcissism and NPD, it's amazing to see how many people 6% of the US population negatively impacts. Dealing with narcissists can be so awful for all involved.
The "6%" of the population is most likely the empaths. Society is infested with narcs and many of them are in the "authority" or "expert" positions. Don't believe their skewed "statistics" ....they are pure BS.
I ‘m straight as a nail……the hearts are truly out of the Enlighten Target being on point🎯
I was raised by a narcissist, and only attracted them after that.
Same, we are narcissists magnet.
Same here.
it is what we are used to and it feels comfortable....at first....we just dont know any better..
..until i began studying this stuff i even fought against the notion that my MOM could be this way...
now i can spot them a mile away....education DOES help.
We learn trauma bondin
g as healthy love from narc parents, thats why we find narcs later in life 😔
@@fredmad4988 Bro, I thought it was only me!!! I never knew what at "Narcissist" was until I was fed up with bad relationships. Now I work on soley Me/Self Improvement! Staying away from Toxic Women
I am living w a narcissist for 33 years. Your evaluation is right on. I question myself why I stay. I realize that I am hooked into random reinforcement. He can be so sweet for a while, but like a sniper, he comes out of nowhere with abusive, bullying behavior. He is like a LasVegas slot Maschine: sometimes you win big, so you keep playing or keep going back. .
This video was Awesome so true. I wish I knew about this earlier in my life. Things would have been so different much earlier. Two years ago If found out about these kinds of people and ever since My life has changed for the better. I try not to think about the years wasted and now focus on all that I want to do and life is so much happier thank you so much.
Gigi Dix I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.
This is so scary! I have done so much research to help find my way out of this incredibly sad situation. I just changed my number after 4 years of going no contact, blocking, etc. I am hoping they don’t do anything further!
Thank You So Very Much For Sharing
I Was Horribly Abused By A Malignant Narcissists
He Has Been punishing Me For Over 6 Years
On And Off With The Silent Treatment..
It’s Very Hard Recovering From Narcissists Abuse.
Oh my gosh so enlightening! I didn’t know what was happening to me. I was in a horrible marriage for 23 years. This is textbook! Now divorced and still working on me!
I like to fight with narcissists because I like breaking bullies. Lol.
I especially like catching them in lies and exposing them in the open, putting them on the spot etc.
I might make a channel about this.
Mmmmmm. You LIKE to fight with them? Seems odd
I think more so they mean like to fight back when attacked
@@imalwaysme4332 Yes. I like fighting with nasty, arrogant people. I like getting under their skin. I like not playing their games and subtly disrespecting them. I like taking notes of the bad things they do and reporting them to the right people and then putting them on the spot in ambushes.
I like calling their bluff when they try to get "aggressive" too, because often these people cannot fight against anyone that will actually hit them back.
@@ldominoOG Yes. When they identify me or other people as "prey" that's when I go on the hunt. I've basically got this shit down to a science.
@Dexy Nash Nah. Lots of people thank me for doing to these predators what they weren't able to do. Sometimes people just don't expect other people to be so horrible. Sometimes they are just too gentle hearted. They don't have the strength nor courage to fight back, so become enthralled by these people. Me? I'm very acquainted with these creatures. I know how to get under their skin and I know how to expose them and destroy their lives. If they get aggressive with me, that's not a real problem because I usually make sure that I'm in a position to beat them up badly if they try to get too aggressive.
For me, Narc-hunting is an enjoyable and socially beneficial sport. I could teach you, for free, a handful of Narc-destroying techniques if you'd like. I'm thinking about making a channel about this. I'm an expert at destroying and ruining these "people".
I am so screwed! Recently learning about narcissists. A little late but 2 of them out of my life now. Im here, alive, didn't sell my house! Time to recuperate. Thanks for educating us.
Very informative content. As I have learned in the past 2 years about this mental disorder I have listened to atleast 6 to 7 different Narcissist Abuse Councilors. Some are straight forward and some are still dealing with the injuries and abuse they substaned from their own relationships with a Narcissist.
You are new to the group of on line councillors but your deliver about the information is clear and precise. That is why I am subscribing to your channel.
Everyone says pretty much the same thing. Your delivery of that information has put you at the top of my list.
Thank you for what you do because it is a jungle out there full of lions and tigers and bears...oh my!! 😏 For good hearted people that believe everyone has values and morals.....nothing is futher from the truth. That's why good people that are targets of these predators need to know how to see them behind their smoke and mirrors so they don't fall victim to their deadly traps. You don't have to die physically, although in some cases, that can and does occur.
You can die a slow and painful death emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually!
Keep the information coming because good decent people need it.
SOOOOO RIGHT abt not sharing personal info especially fears, regrets, mistakes, exes, omg - DONT DO IT !!!!! When they get angry they use this info to demean and humiliate you in the most HURTFUL ways. Never open ur heart. NEVER!!! Im still hurting from my experience but Im mending slowly.
I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp +15713758467 and don’t forget to thank me later.