Yep. Dee-1 has a song with a verse like that called "Love Me Some You": 🎶If she cheated on her ex you/Now she's next to you/Then homie her next ex is you🎶.
Plot twist Some Men turn there Wife into their Mother Figure, they will Stop sleeping with the Wife, and still expect the Wife to Cook, Clean all them household duty's, and the Husband wants that Freedom as he was a Teenager or 20's running around in Streets Wild and Free with Different Woman or Men, some Men don't grow up and it's ton's of women with this story, it's weird psychological disorder in some Men and then they act like nothing is wrong with them and they disrespecting women like this, I Prey women just walk away from this child behavior with Grown Men
It seem like the single men are no better. It seems the single men don’t want to commit or act right. The taken men want to cheat. It’s honestly a mess either way.
One of the finest men I have ever seen asked me out on a date where I learned he had an ex-girlfriend situationship at home. I ended the date immediately while he tried to convince me that we should still keep in touch to get to know each other. I told him don't text or call until his situationship was over. That was almost a year ago. I haven't heard from him since. Thank you, LORD, for helping me see him with my biblical eyes.
@@thelookout5802 Right. I had to pry it out of him. I knew something was off when I had to ask him more than once about his living situation. Once he knew I was done, he told me he should've lied to me. Some men is right!
My personal opinion: Women who "purposely and knowingly" get involved with a man who is already taken or married, karma will catch you honey. I have no respect for these women. No sympathy for them either. Pure trash.
Amen!!! It’s absolutely disgusting and I don’t know how people even look at themselves in the mirror everyday and cal themselves a good person. No honey willingly cheating with a taken man is not a good person. No self worth or morals. Sick people out there.
I agree.. but you forget these women many times are manipulated emotionally, no man comes and says “I have a wife, I m here just to f*ck you and go”. That man is also trash, as well as the wife who knows his activities and allows him to continue the same behavior, rewards it by staying with him.
For me my husband did this for over a decade finally I am free from his nonsense. But if a man respect his wife and himself he will not do it, I know some men who not involved with an other woman. Just purely nasty and disrespectful
I don't care how he got to the point he is willing to date you outside of his marriage or relationship realize one thing, they started off in a good place too. He is showing you what he does when problems arise or he becomes unhappy.
Women ALWAYS think they’re an exception to the rule. And I’ve watched friends be strung along for YEARS because they chose to cling to this idea. It’s really sad.
@C. C He will send him girl don’t be discharged. Just be sure to keep your options open. I wasn’t exclusive to anyone but my husband & that’s after we had the “let’s talk about the future” discussion. These guys couldn’t care less about wasting your time. They’ll gladly do it if you allow it.
@@Nashae-kz5bc girl my mama was in the EXACT same boat in her fifties. She's now in her 70's STILL waiting because she only spends her time between the 4 walls of a church & literally NEVER gets out & socializes.
This applies to freshly divorced men, or men who are in the middle of a divorce! That man is TAKEN! Physically they may be freshly divorced or separated but mentally we all know he's still unavailable
@@Bree48646 she’s trying to say that if you get involved with a man who is freshly divorced, sometimes they are still in love with another woman. You don’t deserve that, I don’t deserve that and other women don’t. Get a man whos single single.
They do the one my x was dealing with called me and told me he told her I was crazy and ugly and dirty I told her ok and hung up ask me where she is nowhere
I actually saw 2 situation where the cheater did the same thing to the next woman. The other situation was the man was faithful to the side chick and she messed over him.
Ladies , it’s a sad journey to take. Trust me , I learned from personal years of experience dealing with taken men, because I was insecure, didn’t love myself, and felt like being in non committed relationships would guard my heart. Ladies you deserve the best. And being with a man that has another woman on deck or many other women. Do yourself a favor.
Leave him, I left my husband when I seen them red flags of his behavior ( it was telling her all about us , our relationship,Dreams and what we were doing), an here I thaught I had a husband of Trust & Honesty, .., 🤔, Yes I got angry 😡 and found out I was betrayed... Women value yourself, set boundaries, and don’t be that desperate woman, YOU DESERVE THE BEST!...,DONT GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER!.., LOVE YOUR SELF!👸🏼♥️♥️☝️♥️🕊GOD LOVES YOU & HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!
Women and men deserve what they qualify for and everyone will not qualify for the highest tier, highest quality, highly sought after man. Just as every woman will not have a God-fearing Tony Gaskins because everyone doesn't qualify. His wife qualifies. It doesn't feel good but it's true.
@@c.c8275 So what if he promises. Are we women children? That's nothing more than an excuse to avoid women being accountable for our foolish, irresponsible choices. A man can promise a woman the moon and the stars. Those types have always existed and will continue to exist. Telling a woman he's going to be with her, in time, is just a way for him to buy time. If not, he would straighten out his "situation" with the other woman before trying to get involved with anyone else.
Thank you for this! My husband had numerous affairs. One of them was married, was mad I was pregnant, and tried to get pregnant by my husband! The second one tried to push him to leave me and he told her that was never the plan and she knew that. She thought telling me would break us up and she could have him. He told her even if I left, he still wouldn't be with her in a real relationship. Women need to understand it is disrespectful to mess with a married man. You are disrespecting his family. If you don't respect his marriage, you don't respect the institution! He will never truly respect you!
Was married 7-months pregnant with a son that was 3-yrs old. Yes, my husband cheated on me while working out of town. He did divorce me and both my son's once my second son was born! My ex-chose this other woman and never looked back never kept in contact with his 2-first born son's, this shows how much a man can turn his back on his family and live happily after, with no guilt!
Now, this right here is it! I remember having a conversation with a guy friend that I am single as a $1 bill and free as a bird flying back South. I was told it was by choice and then I had to express myself. The only ones that have come forward are men in a whole relationship and staying because of "THE KID(S)" and all the other lame excuses you can get. This man said to me. Well boo, a piece is better than nothing. Before I knew it. I said to him you are a part of the Genesis cycle that seems to not break❗I have been mentally and physically single going on 2 years and for the 1st time in a long time. I am with myself and not trying to build a build bear to fit what I grew up with. I honor marriage and from what I was shown my father and mother truly loved each other and raised their family with substance! TG keeps speaking about this uncomfortable conversation because they are needed. I have operated from a low-vibration place but I am wiser to my soul through TH-camrs like you and Bishop RC Blakes.
@Jen Agrippa I totally agree! When a person work mentally on self it's a certain level of boundaries are set. Now my daughter keeps me busy and I know in 8 years from now that will shift and I have to be okay with it. It is my pray the love and light I put out I get back. I hear Tony when he says man are wired different but not having substance and self conscious is a very dangerous person. Keep enjoying you love and I am sure if true love or Soul partner you need during that time. Hopefully it will find you very well❤️
Yes! Keep standing on your square when it comes to your values. The fact that this idiot said to you “a piece is better than nothing” tells you all you need to know about his mindset.
Good for you. ❤ When you know your worth you move according to your value. I tell my clients all the time, start dating you, focusing on you, and building you.
Got involved with a man I truly believed was separated . Questioned him many times and he seemed so genuine , kind and gentle . Made it SO clear to him I would NOT be involved in an affair .Couldn’t get peace over him and broke things off after 2 months as I didn’t trust the situation , 2 days later found out not only was he still married and living with his wife and kids but had another Women for 3 years who became pregnant 😟 he also had 3 other affairs before. On top of that was a covert Narcissist! He is totally toxic . His wife has forgiven him for everything. So glad to be out of the situation as horrible as it was. Don’t even entertain ANY man that is ‘separated’ or not fully divorced ❤
Well, separated is not divorced. Even if he was “truly” separated, he’s still married. How do women rationalize with that. You have to be truly desperate for attention to consider a separated man.
It’s true when a man has a replacement he will leave the one he’s with and go with the new chick & when that doesn’t work he’ll go back to the first girl and now it’s just a cycle of back and forth between the 2…
If a man is trash Don't be a trashcan for him! Wow that's the truth. Just never heard it like that. Thank you Tony for explaining like this. So sad what some woman go through.
Women now a days say blame the man he’s the one stepping out, he’s the one that took the vows , the other woman doesn’t owe her anything be mad at the man not the other woman. Smh when I read stuff like that it literally blows my mind how these women try to excuse their part in it. Of course we know men lie but when they find out they than want to compete & act crazy to the main like it’s her fault she got cheated on. Just like the side doesn’t want to let go what makes you think his main wants to even though she’s hurt. If the man wants to leave by all means he can I would never want someone who doesn’t want me.
I remember on Facebook this man sent me a long message talking about how he would a good husband to me. I didn’t respond. Then I scrolled down my timeline to see that he had a whole family. Smh 3 beautiful little girls and a beautiful wife. How stupid and inconsiderate of him!
Mines was seeing a girl at his job, made a bunch of excuses on why he wanted a divorce, swore up and down he wasn't seeing someone. He was still trying to sleep with me. Made him admit to it and divorced and left his cheating behind....
I had a married man to constantly stalk me at my job and Instagram and Facebook, I politely told him No.....I know my worth and I'm to good of a woman to deal with him, but he finally got the picture and he doesn't bother me anymore.
When he asking you to be the side piece, he has no respect for you. And too many women think they better than the main woman. And the man is not even worth it. “Don’t be a trash can.” That’s a good one Tony! When you are, you accept anything into it. When it comes to men, don’t let him place all his trash into you. You actually have to selective in what you take in. Junk in, Junk out! Wolves prey on the stray sheep. Quit being the stray sheep in his flock. Good video.
I had to turn down a business opportunity because this married man and his mistress wanted me to write a book about what they had going on. Morally I just couldn’t do it. Great video Tony!
This is sooo true! I got involved with a taken man in the past unbeknownst in the beginning because he didn’t tell me right away that he was separated and planning to get a divorce. And like Tony said I thought everything was okay and that their relationship was really over since he was pursuing me... I wish I could say that I should have known better, but at the time I really didn’t know. I was young, ignorant, and I had no guidance when it came to relationships growing up. Thank God I know better now, and I don’t see the situation as a pain or a mistake because I got the lesson.
Exactly 💯. We, as women, love to point out how men are trash 🗑️ without accepting accountability for our own actions or holding other women accountable for their actions. No, women always get a pass and it's wrong. Trashy men can't cheat without trashy women. Why are women trash 🗑️ cans? That's the real question that needs delving into because we have too many self righteous women who are the very equivalent of the males they tear down every chance they get. Yet, they seem to think they are better than what they really are and unfortunately that mindset will ensure many will be, alone, as they age. We take ourselves everywhere we go and our results are reflective of who we truly are, inside.
I don’t even date men who are dating other women. I don’t have time to fight for nobody’s heart or attention. My ex used to see other women and it made me extremely insecure. All of our fights began because his extracurricular activity. I refuse to do that again and put a woman what I went through. Guys at work tell me well I won’t find anyone. Welp I guess I’m fine then!
I m not American so I don’t get this “dating multiple ppl”. I don’t mean jump in a relationship with the first person or in the first date, but how many dates you need to know if you like someone? How can you just be out with a guy or a girl and knowing that yesterday maybe took another person in the same place, said the same things and maybe kissed, and today will just repeat it with you and tomorrow with someone else?
Tony Tony Tony‼️‼️‼️ 🔥🔥🔥🔥(paraphrased) lWhen a man tells you he is taken, he is basically telling you he is not leaving his woman” ~Tony Gaskins~ My God!! Tony, this is why i have been following you for so long now because you are the REAL, RAW & RELATABLE! This video was great & one that must be on repeat. If they can tell you they are taken but still trying to get with you, of course they will cheat. This was good💯🎯
If God is not in it there no truth no trust no love just plain emptiness in these relationship is not base on a real foundation basically it’s building on sand you can’t build on that
This is so true. I get so tired of taken men approaching me. They have more confidence than single men. Also, I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s platonic but it counts as his woman too. My ex has these female friends that defend him and cling to him. They are jealous of whatever woman he brings around. He likes dangling his friendship over their heads. This video really helped me understand what position they play in hislife. I could not figure it out. One is attractive and the other is not but they are both loose booty women. Thank you for this!! It’s like his own personal fan club. Smh
men focus on your wife and leave the other trashy women alone. they are trouble don't ruin a good marriage over trash. sometimes a woman just want to see if she can take that man away from his wife and then after that the thrill is gone. men grow up and act like a really man and you won't have these problems
This Tony Gaskin's advice is GOLD!!! Also, from many friends' painful expcs: Never help a man cheat. Knowingly or unknowingly. If he says he is "poly" do ur research and check to make sure he really poly. U should be able to meet his GF/partner/wife. He should not be sneaking around with you if he poly. He should be able to answer ur calls in front of her or spend the night sometimes. But that lifestyle is reckless and destructive anyway. And if u don't care he taken even if ya'll aint poly, that's sad. U need to work on ur low self esteem. Ur gonna be in a lot of pain either way. He is using you. Many say they're poly nowadays but they are lying. And some just wanna blow off steam. They will use you to decompress. Then go home and be happy with his main woman. Repent and leave him alone. U will be the Only one hurting in the end. She won't leave him and he won't leave her. Even if ur really poly and u don't want him to leave her. If he lying about being poly, u will get hurt too. Best to leave taken dudes alone. They are playing you both!! And if he dealing w you behind her back, he dealing w others too. Ur not the only one, sis. U never will be. Even if he leaves and marries you. Coming from real stories from real friends. He cheated on my friend. Married the mistress. And cheats on her consistently. My friend finds out thru his friends who gossip on him and he called my friend and tried to use her to cheat on the one he cheated with. It gets even worse but point proven. He still a cheater. The mistress won a cheater and possibly a few STIs..
@Tony Gaskin, I tell any woman, if he is involved married or dating. Leave that alone. You will reap what you sow and it is not worth sowing these issues.
Why have I never gotten a nice wife then? I always did the right thing. People always come with this karma stuff but then it should also work the other way around.
Mostly of time you don’t know man is take because he act like he single person or he doesn’t tell you he is married or dating someone… now days they start on line dating you don’t anything whole lies find he has wife and them some smh 🤦♀️
Hello! No woman or no man should go after anybody who is taken! To me once you finance the person is taken or they strictly tell you they have some money, that's a done deal and should move forward and go about your business. To me if someone goes after somebody who is taken or the taken person is pursuing someone outside of their relationship, is very disrespectful to the person they're approaching knowing that they have someone, disrespectful to their partner and is lack of self-respect. It's disgusting how people still tend to do that those things. That is one of my deal breakers. I don't play that kind of nonsense! But that's a good topic too Tony! Love your videos! God bless you and your family!
‘The Dumb and the Desperate.’ That sounds like the name of a great book! Tony, send me a check *in my Tony voice*. Don’t block me, Tony, please. 😂🤣😁📖✍🏾
Just cut loose one man that I worked with for a short time and was being very attentive with me. We were texting back and forth, he even bought me a souvenir from his weekend getaway, he asked me out, he was giving me long looks, paying Uber for me back and forth from work, picking me up. He even invited me for a weekend getaway which I didn’t go because I couldn’t that week. But at one point he didn’t text me or called for a week and kindly addressed the problem. He got defensive saying I’m confusing him, because we only had a friendship and work collab and that he didn’t treat me like he intended to date me. That’s when he told me he is in a relationship. Lol So I that showed me hos character and I said I can’t communicate/ collaborate with someone who isn’t available. He asked me out again to talk things out. I refused and went No Contact forever on him. What a mess these men are. It hurt to let go, because I liked him, but it hurt because the version of him I thought he is, wasn’t real.
@@jessi0076 Hi :) Thank you for reading all that. I talked with a few guys, haven’t had any dates because they weren’t it. Haven’t found a man but I’ve grown so much closer to God and looking back to where I was a year ago, I know I needed it to still be single. I feel like he is close :) How about you?
@Andreeak. I just broke up 2 weeks ago. He was dating me and another woman. We didn't know it. But I think he has chosen her and I don't wanna b a side chick..I'm trying to understand this behavior.
Currently have a friend who is dealing with a married man. She swears their relationship is over because thats what he told her. Meanwhile, she meets him parking lots often times at night. Shes really impressed with him Because he gives her money. I told he to stop calling me and giving me updates about her corny desperate fat married man. 😒😒
This sounds like prostitution, meets her in a parking lot just to smash than pays her… bad move but I guess she’s getting something out of it but still bad tho
Most males off or on line will not tell you hes taken or married. My ex husband cheated on me and when I confronted him after one of the females called my house , he still lied to my face, i began the divorce process after he told me he couldn’t avoid it again. I never remarried as of today. He has remarried 4-5 times.
We as women are guilty for giving permanent positions to temporary men. Some men have married women they were only suppose to with for a season, then wonder why he is unhappy.
Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!! I wish this could have been broadcasted YEARS ago!! Make another video on this please!! It’s tooooo common out here! Taken men are WAY toooooo comfortable approaching single women and single women get emotional over these men who are FULL OF SH*#!!
I deal with so many classes of people as a driver 🚗 - people going to & from AA/NA/SA, Nurses/Nurse Practitioners/Physician Assistants, Realtors, Bartenders/Servers, etc. - many people have the play of having someone while looking for their next. Trust TG on this.
When I was 14/15, a part of me thought attracting taken guys made someone the "it girl" while simultaneously thinking homewreckers were trash. I know, makes no type of sense. Now at 19, I will never respect or show sympathy to a woman that deals with taken men. It says a lot about your morals and values.
It needs to be laid out there. The stuff I hear now in my mid-30s is straight foolishness. I'm listening to wise counsel daily - pastors, motivational speakers, and right here in this community with TG - learning how to get the right woman and treat her right. When I receive a call or wind up in certain conversations concerning women it's crazy: -The world says "you get a girl (go half on the bills)" v. The Kingdom says find a wife. -The world says have somebody to ____ with v. The Kingdom says be with your own woman 💍.
Men have done me so wrong in the past , I don't get excited anymore about seeing someone or trying to date ☹️☹️, Some men in this day and age are different than the generation before me for some reason. I shouldn't have to figure someone out like I am fixing a puzzle. I would rather comfortable find out through their actions or words.
That’s what I never understood men/women know they with someone but still they cheat and lie. Why hurt people when u can just be single shameless people
In a discussion one told it’s exactly that, they don’t want to be single, they have their security blanket. Thus they don’t have to look, they don’t have to care if they get rejected cause every night the know they will return home and find a woman willing to be with them.
some women believe everything a man tell them because of low esteem and insecurities bring these messing relationships some men and women like being a side chick 🐥 and too some people don’t wanna be lone they settle low life even abuse relationship they will stay in just say they have someone PS love haven’t nothing to with these types of relationships these are broken people trying find love in wrong person who are taken… this house of lies and secret of lies there no truth in none of these relationships
Also, it’s not like single women are shooting down “good” single men. Some men are leading with their sex drive. These men are more sexually forward online but in person, sexual energy is felt and it can be repulsive and uncomfortable. These are another subgroup of men who get turned down by women.
This is all so true. I was definitely the one that got left because I caught him cheating…the next fight led to him leaving 🤦🏽♀️ is there a course that helps build an audience?
Men may sometimes lie and claim that they are divorced. I insisted on seeing a copy of the divorce decree and also checked the public records in the county where the divorce was filed. It's common for men to try to deceive others. When it comes to marital status, there is no "in-between" - you're either divorced or married, just like there's no such thing as being "a little pregnant."
Thank you Bro Tony for this message tonight because this is so on time because am dealing with a man that told me he's living with his baby mother but not sexual active with her he's just there for room and board because he would of been living with his brother before he passed but he claim he didn't have any other options.🤔 Am like yeah right. But, wants me to know he's interested in me. Nah, ain't nothing happening with him as far as am concerned. It's already red flags from the beginning. your teaching is helping me to learn the game.
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 Exactly , am not trying to get with him what makes it so bad the man works on my job . But he said am just trying to be honest with you straight up that am just only staying with my daughter mom until he gets his own place so he says. Am saying to myself all the while as a grown 50 year old man why you not established yet. Like I told him you're going to be in the daughter mother life because y'all got a child together. My two daughters are grown and in there own place I don't have to deal with baby momma drama coming from the outside. He has a young teen girl that's 13 years old. My granddaughter is her age. But, Sis don't worry am not going to get myself involved.
When a man tells you he is taken, he is also telling you he will cheat on you too.
And unalive you for telling it as well!!!😢
Exactly.
Yep. Dee-1 has a song with a verse like that called "Love Me Some You":
🎶If she cheated on her ex you/Now she's next to you/Then homie her next ex is you🎶.
Some people don’t care
Exactly he’s trash a decent wouldn’t want him period and he sees her as trash too
"Women won't sleep with a man
because he lives with his
mother, but will sleep with a
man that lives at home with his wife.” smh 🤦🏽♀️
WOW, Queen, you spoke volume with those words!
They’re so thirsty they do both.
Yes! It’s insane. Make that make sense. Him having a whole wife doesn’t give you pause. 🥴🥴🥴
Plot twist Some Men turn there Wife into their Mother Figure, they will Stop sleeping with the Wife, and still expect the Wife to Cook, Clean all them household duty's, and the Husband wants that Freedom as he was a Teenager or 20's running around in Streets Wild and Free with Different Woman or Men, some Men don't grow up and it's ton's of women with this story, it's weird psychological disorder in some Men and then they act like nothing is wrong with them and they disrespecting women like this, I Prey women just walk away from this child behavior with Grown Men
Saw that quote on social media and it makes sense!
Taken men really are quicker to shoot their shot than single men these days. It’s unbelievable.
wow lol 🙂
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It’s something about having a woman already at home that gives a man that confidence boost to approach you 😂
@@toriyt2714 girl 🤣
@@toriyt2714 I agree with you 100%. It’s the only thing that makes sense.
It seem like the single men are no better. It seems the single men don’t want to commit or act right. The taken men want to cheat. It’s honestly a mess either way.
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wow lol 🙂
Where is the lie sis???
Or...they claim to be single so they can hop freely from chicks to chicks.
One of the finest men I have ever seen asked me out on a date where I learned he had an ex-girlfriend situationship at home. I ended the date immediately while he tried to convince me that we should still keep in touch to get to know each other. I told him don't text or call until his situationship was over. That was almost a year ago. I haven't heard from him since. Thank you, LORD, for helping me see him with my biblical eyes.
Change your number and change your living and move
It wasn't a situationship after all huh? Some men!
I wouldn't even want a call back from a man that would try me like that.
@@tonyagrimes8358 In hindsight, I agree. How can I trust him?
@@thelookout5802 Right. I had to pry it out of him. I knew something was off when I had to ask him more than once about his living situation. Once he knew I was done, he told me he should've lied to me. Some men is right!
If he's willing to be dealt with while being taken, he's NO GOOD....
My personal opinion: Women who "purposely and knowingly" get involved with a man who is already taken or married, karma will catch you honey. I have no respect for these women. No sympathy for them either. Pure trash.
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Amen!!! It’s absolutely disgusting and I don’t know how people even look at themselves in the mirror everyday and cal themselves a good person. No honey willingly cheating with a taken man is not a good person. No self worth or morals. Sick people out there.
I agree.. but you forget these women many times are manipulated emotionally, no man comes and says “I have a wife, I m here just to f*ck you and go”.
That man is also trash, as well as the wife who knows his activities and allows him to continue the same behavior, rewards it by staying with him.
For me my husband did this for over a decade finally I am free from his nonsense. But if a man respect his wife and himself he will not do it, I know some men who not involved with an other woman. Just purely nasty and disrespectful
I don't care how he got to the point he is willing to date you outside of his marriage or relationship realize one thing, they started off in a good place too. He is showing you what he does when problems arise or he becomes unhappy.
Exactly!
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Women ALWAYS think they’re an exception to the rule. And I’ve watched friends be strung along for YEARS because they chose to cling to this idea. It’s really sad.
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@C. C He will send him girl don’t be discharged. Just be sure to keep your options open. I wasn’t exclusive to anyone but my husband & that’s after we had the “let’s talk about the future” discussion. These guys couldn’t care less about wasting your time. They’ll gladly do it if you allow it.
My mama is in her 50’s still waiting on a married man that’s almost in his 60’s
@@Nashae-kz5bc girl my mama was in the EXACT same boat in her fifties. She's now in her 70's STILL waiting because she only spends her time between the 4 walls of a church & literally NEVER gets out & socializes.
This applies to freshly divorced men, or men who are in the middle of a divorce! That man is TAKEN! Physically they may be freshly divorced or separated but mentally we all know he's still unavailable
BIGG Facts 💯
Exactly
No when they are divorced they are 100% single…. Never deal with a legal married man
@@Bree48646 nooo she said physically they’re single but mentally they’re not
@@Bree48646 she’s trying to say that if you get involved with a man who is freshly divorced, sometimes they are still in love with another woman. You don’t deserve that, I don’t deserve that and other women don’t. Get a man whos single single.
Why would you even take a married man seriously and think he wouldn’t cheat on you too 🥴😵💫
They do the one my x was dealing with called me and told me he told her I was crazy and ugly and dirty I told her ok and hung up ask me where she is nowhere
I actually saw 2 situation where the cheater did the same thing to the next woman. The other situation was the man was faithful to the side chick and she messed over him.
@@laurajones9971 sheesh!
The side woman didn't get a whole man and didn't win a prize!🔥
Ladies , it’s a sad journey to take. Trust me , I learned from personal years of experience dealing with taken men, because I was insecure, didn’t love myself, and felt like being in non committed relationships would guard my heart. Ladies you deserve the best. And being with a man that has another woman on deck or many other women. Do yourself a favor.
Leave him, I left my husband when I seen them red flags of his behavior ( it was telling her all about us , our relationship,Dreams and what we were doing), an here I thaught I had a husband of Trust & Honesty, .., 🤔, Yes I got angry 😡 and found out I was betrayed... Women value yourself, set boundaries, and don’t be that desperate woman, YOU DESERVE THE BEST!...,DONT GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER!.., LOVE YOUR SELF!👸🏼♥️♥️☝️♥️🕊GOD LOVES YOU & HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!
Women and men deserve what they qualify for and everyone will not qualify for the highest tier, highest quality, highly sought after man. Just as every woman will not have a God-fearing Tony Gaskins because everyone doesn't qualify. His wife qualifies. It doesn't feel good but it's true.
I definitely agree to that!
@@c.c8275 So what if he promises. Are we women children? That's nothing more than an excuse to avoid women being accountable for our foolish, irresponsible choices.
A man can promise a woman the moon and the stars. Those types have always existed and will continue to exist. Telling a woman he's going to be with her, in time, is just a way for him to buy time. If not, he would straighten out his "situation" with the other woman before trying to get involved with anyone else.
I HAVE TOO && IT'S NOT EVER WORTH IT 🤞👌.
Sidebar: Can we appreciate Tony for always keeping it too real?????
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽absolutely !
“When you have the dumb & the desperate coming together, we can’t get anywhere in our society.” No…truer…words!
TG has the handle on coining 🪙 legendary topics.
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The desperate woman enable a dumb man..
@@maryshiwoku2211 yup
Don’t be a trash 🗑️ ladies! ❤
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Thank you for this! My husband had numerous affairs. One of them was married, was mad I was pregnant, and tried to get pregnant by my husband! The second one tried to push him to leave me and he told her that was never the plan and she knew that. She thought telling me would break us up and she could have him. He told her even if I left, he still wouldn't be with her in a real relationship.
Women need to understand it is disrespectful to mess with a married man. You are disrespecting his family. If you don't respect his marriage, you don't respect the institution! He will never truly respect you!
He is disrespecting his marriage. Blame him.
@leslinejohnson7855 oh I do! I'm just saying women that mess with married men are at fault also.
Honey I’m starting to thinking being in a relationship isn’t even worth the trouble lol
Some days, it ain’t.
Was married 7-months pregnant with a son that was 3-yrs old. Yes, my husband cheated on me while working out of town. He did divorce me and both my son's once my second son was born! My ex-chose this other woman and never looked back never kept in contact with his 2-first born son's, this shows how much a man can turn his back on his family and live happily after, with no guilt!
This 👉🏾: “Why are men trash? Well, the real question is, why are women trash cans?” TG
I agree Tony never talk to him again if you know he taken.
Now, this right here is it! I remember having a conversation with a guy friend that I am single as a $1 bill and free as a bird flying back South. I was told it was by choice and then I had to express myself. The only ones that have come forward are men in a whole relationship and staying because of "THE KID(S)" and all the other lame excuses you can get. This man said to me. Well boo, a piece is better than nothing. Before I knew it. I said to him you are a part of the Genesis cycle that seems to not break❗I have been mentally and physically single going on 2 years and for the 1st time in a long time. I am with myself and not trying to build a build bear to fit what I grew up with. I honor marriage and from what I was shown my father and mother truly loved each other and raised their family with substance!
TG keeps speaking about this uncomfortable conversation because they are needed. I have operated from a low-vibration place but I am wiser to my soul through TH-camrs like you and Bishop RC Blakes.
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@Jen Agrippa I totally agree! When a person work mentally on self it's a certain level of boundaries are set. Now my daughter keeps me busy and I know in 8 years from now that will shift and I have to be okay with it. It is my pray the love and light I put out I get back. I hear Tony when he says man are wired different but not having substance and self conscious is a very dangerous person.
Keep enjoying you love and I am sure if true love or Soul partner you need during that time. Hopefully it will find you very well❤️
Seriously I discovered both of them on TH-cam on the same day. If you heard what Lisa said she didn't chase. True Sisters 💗
Yes! Keep standing on your square when it comes to your values. The fact that this idiot said to you “a piece is better than nothing” tells you all you need to know about his mindset.
Good for you. ❤ When you know your worth you move according to your value. I tell my clients all the time, start dating you, focusing on you, and building you.
Got involved with a man I truly believed was separated . Questioned him many times and he seemed so genuine , kind and gentle . Made it SO clear to him I would NOT be involved in an affair .Couldn’t get peace over him and broke things off after 2 months as I didn’t trust the situation , 2 days later found out not only was he still married and living with his wife and kids but had another Women for 3 years who became pregnant 😟 he also had 3 other affairs before. On top of that was a covert Narcissist! He is totally toxic . His wife has forgiven him for everything. So glad to be out of the situation as horrible as it was. Don’t even entertain ANY man that is ‘separated’ or not fully divorced ❤
Well, separated is not divorced. Even if he was “truly” separated, he’s still married.
How do women rationalize with that. You have to be truly desperate for attention to consider a separated man.
@@lelo46 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 exactly!
Agreed! Separated is NOT divorced. Don't lower your standards.
🤣🤣🤣 I left my husband. I made a donation to the less fortunate ( the desparate).
Same 😂
It’s true when a man has a replacement he will leave the one he’s with and go with the new chick & when that doesn’t work he’ll go back to the first girl and now it’s just a cycle of back and forth between the 2…
Yes my soon to be x husband did this now he wants to be friends and act like he made a mistake but bye 🖕sign these papers Dec 21 and get on
If a man is trash Don't be a trashcan for him! Wow that's the truth. Just never heard it like that. Thank you Tony for explaining like this. So sad what some woman go through.
Women now a days say blame the man he’s the one stepping out, he’s the one that took the vows , the other woman doesn’t owe her anything be mad at the man not the other woman. Smh when I read stuff like that it literally blows my mind how these women try to excuse their part in it. Of course we know men lie but when they find out they than want to compete & act crazy to the main like it’s her fault she got cheated on. Just like the side doesn’t want to let go what makes you think his main wants to even though she’s hurt. If the man wants to leave by all means he can I would never want someone who doesn’t want me.
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wow lol 🙂
That whole only blame him thing annoys me.
@@loveyb9090 omg same! It’s like their trying to excuse their bad behavior as well 🙄😒
The saying all is fair in love and war has been around forever.
I remember on Facebook this man sent me a long message talking about how he would a good husband to me. I didn’t respond. Then I scrolled down my timeline to see that he had a whole family. Smh 3 beautiful little girls and a beautiful wife. How stupid and inconsiderate of him!
What an idiot!
Mines was seeing a girl at his job, made a bunch of excuses on why he wanted a divorce, swore up and down he wasn't seeing someone. He was still trying to sleep with me. Made him admit to it and divorced and left his cheating behind....
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Girl same! My divorce finalize at the end of Jan 2023. I know my worth baby! 👏🏿
I had a married man to constantly stalk me at my job and Instagram and Facebook, I politely told him No.....I know my worth and I'm to good of a woman to deal with him, but he finally got the picture and he doesn't bother me anymore.
When he asking you to be the side piece, he has no respect for you. And too many women think they better than the main woman. And the man is not even worth it. “Don’t be a trash can.” That’s a good one Tony! When you are, you accept anything into it. When it comes to men, don’t let him place all his trash into you. You actually have to selective in what you take in. Junk in, Junk out! Wolves prey on the stray sheep. Quit being the stray sheep in his flock. Good video.
I had to turn down a business opportunity because this married man and his mistress wanted me to write a book about what they had going on. Morally I just couldn’t do it. Great video Tony!
Wow 😮
@@qscott888 oh yeah it was a mess and these were grown folks too. The woman was 54 and the man was 45 or 46. 🙄
@Jen Agrippa yeah that’s true too. Age doesn’t always mean maturity or immaturity.
Wow really 😕
@@pooh4025 yep. Can’t make this up 🤷🏾♀️ never seen so much delusion in my life
The main reason is he belong to someone else & second is Karma .
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I’ve tried to keep my marriage together but he wouldn’t stay faithful. Had to roll out. I couldn’t stay.
This is sooo true! I got involved with a taken man in the past unbeknownst in the beginning because he didn’t tell me right away that he was separated and planning to get a divorce. And like Tony said I thought everything was okay and that their relationship was really over since he was pursuing me... I wish I could say that I should have known better, but at the time I really didn’t know. I was young, ignorant, and I had no guidance when it came to relationships growing up. Thank God I know better now, and I don’t see the situation as a pain or a mistake because I got the lesson.
Exactly 💯. We, as women, love to point out how men are trash 🗑️ without accepting accountability for our own actions or holding other women accountable for their actions. No, women always get a pass and it's wrong.
Trashy men can't cheat without trashy women. Why are women trash 🗑️ cans? That's the real question that needs delving into because we have too many self righteous women who are the very equivalent of the males they tear down every chance they get. Yet, they seem to think they are better than what they really are and unfortunately that mindset will ensure many will be, alone, as they age. We take ourselves everywhere we go and our results are reflective of who we truly are, inside.
@C. C true but he lied to you I think it’s one thing if the man lied and lead you on and it’s another when you know up front
hit the nail on the head!!
I don’t even date men who are dating other women. I don’t have time to fight for nobody’s heart or attention. My ex used to see other women and it made me extremely insecure. All of our fights began because his extracurricular activity. I refuse to do that again and put a woman what I went through. Guys at work tell me well I won’t find anyone. Welp I guess I’m fine then!
you'll attract the right person
I m not American so I don’t get this “dating multiple ppl”. I don’t mean jump in a relationship with the first person or in the first date, but how many dates you need to know if you like someone?
How can you just be out with a guy or a girl and knowing that yesterday maybe took another person in the same place, said the same things and maybe kissed, and today will just repeat it with you and tomorrow with someone else?
I don’t have the answers to most of this stuff but I got this one! He’s taken: married, in a relationship, engaged, etc…
This one should be a no brainer for some...but you'll never know where a person is at their point in life.......blessings to all.
Tony Tony Tony‼️‼️‼️ 🔥🔥🔥🔥(paraphrased) lWhen a man tells you he is taken, he is basically telling you he is not leaving his woman” ~Tony Gaskins~ My God!! Tony, this is why i have been following you for so long now because you are the REAL, RAW & RELATABLE! This video was great & one that must be on repeat. If they can tell you they are taken but still trying to get with you, of course they will cheat. This was good💯🎯
If God is not in it there no truth no trust no love just plain emptiness in these relationship is not base on a real foundation basically it’s building on sand you can’t build on that
Facts
The Dumb and the Desperate!!!! 🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's a soap opera I want to see.
I'm so happy I'm not desperate for a man.
This is so true. I get so tired of taken men approaching me. They have more confidence than single men. Also, I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s platonic but it counts as his woman too. My ex has these female friends that defend him and cling to him. They are jealous of whatever woman he brings around. He likes dangling his friendship over their heads. This video really helped me understand what position they play in hislife. I could not figure it out. One is attractive and the other is not but they are both loose booty women. Thank you for this!! It’s like his own personal fan club. Smh
men focus on your wife and leave the other trashy women alone. they are trouble don't ruin a good marriage over trash. sometimes a woman just want to see if she can take that man away from his wife and then after that the thrill is gone. men grow up and act like a really man and you won't have these problems
Thank you, 💝🙏🏼/.......husband stay focus on your wife like L George’s , mention.
ALOT OF WOMEN AREN'T TRASHY.
Tony be making me wanna stay single for the rest of my life lmao y’all gotta fight the urge to cheat that hard? 😭
Right!!!!! 😩
Fr...Like, is there any hope? I have to consult the Lord after almost every video because I be DISCOURAGED
@@theperiodplanner discouraged ain’t even the word! lol😩
Yes haha! I feel like I am going to be single forever
Right
When dumb and desperate come together 😅
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I knew all of this but I needed to hear it again cause these married men be applying pressure, they know how to get you
This Tony Gaskin's advice is GOLD!!! Also, from many friends' painful expcs: Never help a man cheat. Knowingly or unknowingly. If he says he is "poly" do ur research and check to make sure he really poly. U should be able to meet his GF/partner/wife. He should not be sneaking around with you if he poly. He should be able to answer ur calls in front of her or spend the night sometimes. But that lifestyle is reckless and destructive anyway. And if u don't care he taken even if ya'll aint poly, that's sad. U need to work on ur low self esteem. Ur gonna be in a lot of pain either way. He is using you. Many say they're poly nowadays but they are lying. And some just wanna blow off steam. They will use you to decompress. Then go home and be happy with his main woman. Repent and leave him alone. U will be the Only one hurting in the end. She won't leave him and he won't leave her. Even if ur really poly and u don't want him to leave her. If he lying about being poly, u will get hurt too. Best to leave taken dudes alone. They are playing you both!! And if he dealing w you behind her back, he dealing w others too. Ur not the only one, sis. U never will be. Even if he leaves and marries you. Coming from real stories from real friends. He cheated on my friend. Married the mistress. And cheats on her consistently. My friend finds out thru his friends who gossip on him and he called my friend and tried to use her to cheat on the one he cheated with. It gets even worse but point proven. He still a cheater. The mistress won a cheater and possibly a few STIs..
wow lol 🙂
Do unto others...
@Tony Gaskin, I tell any woman, if he is involved married or dating. Leave that alone. You will reap what you sow and it is not worth sowing these issues.
Why have I never gotten a nice wife then? I always did the right thing. People always come with this karma stuff but then it should also work the other way around.
Mostly of time you don’t know man is take because he act like he single person or he doesn’t tell you he is married or dating someone… now days they start on line dating you don’t anything whole lies find he has wife and them some smh 🤦♀️
Hello! No woman or no man should go after anybody who is taken! To me once you finance the person is taken or they strictly tell you they have some money, that's a done deal and should move forward and go about your business. To me if someone goes after somebody who is taken or the taken person is pursuing someone outside of their relationship, is very disrespectful to the person they're approaching knowing that they have someone, disrespectful to their partner and is lack of self-respect. It's disgusting how people still tend to do that those things. That is one of my deal breakers. I don't play that kind of nonsense! But that's a good topic too Tony! Love your videos! God bless you and your family!
‘The Dumb and the Desperate.’ That sounds like the name of a great book! Tony, send me a check *in my Tony voice*. Don’t block me, Tony, please. 😂🤣😁📖✍🏾
Just cut loose one man that I worked with for a short time and was being very attentive with me. We were texting back and forth, he even bought me a souvenir from his weekend getaway, he asked me out, he was giving me long looks, paying Uber for me back and forth from work, picking me up. He even invited me for a weekend getaway which I didn’t go because I couldn’t that week. But at one point he didn’t text me or called for a week and kindly addressed the problem. He got defensive saying I’m confusing him, because we only had a friendship and work collab and that he didn’t treat me like he intended to date me. That’s when he told me he is in a relationship. Lol
So I that showed me hos character and I said I can’t communicate/ collaborate with someone who isn’t available. He asked me out again to talk things out. I refused and went No Contact forever on him. What a mess these men are. It hurt to let go, because I liked him, but it hurt because the version of him I thought he is, wasn’t real.
Did u eventually find love?
@@jessi0076 Hi :) Thank you for reading all that. I talked with a few guys, haven’t had any dates because they weren’t it. Haven’t found a man but I’ve grown so much closer to God and looking back to where I was a year ago, I know I needed it to still be single. I feel like he is close :)
How about you?
@Andreeak. I just broke up 2 weeks ago. He was dating me and another woman. We didn't know it. But I think he has chosen her and I don't wanna b a side chick..I'm trying to understand this behavior.
“Dumb and the desperate coming together to make a soap opera“ Preach Tony!!
Currently have a friend who is dealing with a married man. She swears their relationship is over because thats what he told her. Meanwhile, she meets him parking lots often times at night. Shes really impressed with him
Because he gives her money. I told he to stop calling me and giving me updates about her corny desperate fat married man. 😒😒
She playing Russian roulette! She better leave that woman’s husband alone!
@@Michellemybell739 I tried to tell her.. not gonna argue with her no more over it 🤷🏾♀️
Fat married man 😂😂😂😂
@@jussjess2829 Oh well hey you did your part.
This sounds like prostitution, meets her in a parking lot just to smash than pays her… bad move but I guess she’s getting something out of it but still bad tho
Man it doesn’t get any realer than TG. He keeps it 💯. I definitely appreciate it @23:21
Hello there 😄 & I don't even look at married man.
I agree wholeheartedly with everything you've stated in this video!
Most males off or on line will not tell you hes taken or married. My ex husband cheated on me and when I confronted him after one of the females called my house , he still lied to my face, i began the divorce process after he told me he couldn’t avoid it again. I never remarried as of today. He has remarried 4-5 times.
Makes you wonder why he keeps putting a ring on it when he could just stay single? 🤷🏼♀️💍
The streets been missing you Tony
We as women are guilty for giving permanent positions to temporary men. Some men have married women they were only suppose to with for a season, then wonder why he is unhappy.
This was a serious conviction for me. I was about to be a situation for real.
Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!! I wish this could have been broadcasted YEARS ago!! Make another video on this please!! It’s tooooo common out here! Taken men are WAY toooooo comfortable approaching single women and single women get emotional over these men who are FULL OF SH*#!!
I deal with so many classes of people as a driver 🚗 - people going to & from AA/NA/SA, Nurses/Nurse Practitioners/Physician Assistants, Realtors, Bartenders/Servers, etc. - many people have the play of having someone while looking for their next. Trust TG on this.
When I was 14/15, a part of me thought attracting taken guys made someone the "it girl" while simultaneously thinking homewreckers were trash. I know, makes no type of sense. Now at 19, I will never respect or show sympathy to a woman that deals with taken men. It says a lot about your morals and values.
Talk the truth Tony. I'm learning so much about men every day. You're always on point with your advice.
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It needs to be laid out there. The stuff I hear now in my mid-30s is straight foolishness. I'm listening to wise counsel daily - pastors, motivational speakers, and right here in this community with TG - learning how to get the right woman and treat her right. When I receive a call or wind up in certain conversations concerning women it's crazy:
-The world says "you get a girl (go half on the bills)" v. The Kingdom says find a wife.
-The world says have somebody to ____ with v. The Kingdom says be with your own woman 💍.
@@JermaineThomas4050 🎯
@@Gemmia86 Keeping our ears to wise counsel.
Men have done me so wrong in the past , I don't get excited anymore about seeing someone or trying to date ☹️☹️, Some men in this day and age are different than the generation before me for some reason. I shouldn't have to figure someone out like I am fixing a puzzle. I would rather comfortable find out through their actions or words.
I always appreciate how Mr. Gaskins drop the best gems at the end of a video! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
That’s what I never understood men/women know they with someone but still they cheat and lie. Why hurt people when u can just be single shameless people
In a discussion one told it’s exactly that, they don’t want to be single, they have their security blanket. Thus they don’t have to look, they don’t have to care if they get rejected cause every night the know they will return home and find a woman willing to be with them.
Tony you're always on point. Once again us woman need to hear this. 👍🏽
Not only did I like 👍 but I shared 💫
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some women believe everything a man tell them because of low esteem and insecurities bring these messing relationships some men and women like being a side chick 🐥 and too some people don’t wanna be lone they settle low life even abuse relationship they will stay in just say they have someone PS love haven’t nothing to with these types of relationships these are broken people trying find love in wrong person who are taken… this house of lies and secret of lies there no truth in none of these relationships
Right on!! Melanie.,,,
Also, it’s not like single women are shooting down “good” single men. Some men are leading with their sex drive. These men are more sexually forward online but in person, sexual energy is felt and it can be repulsive and uncomfortable. These are another subgroup of men who get turned down by women.
That subgroup who get turned down is about 80% of men now.
This is all so true. I was definitely the one that got left because I caught him cheating…the next fight led to him leaving 🤦🏽♀️ is there a course that helps build an audience?
I love the “trash can” analogy! 🥰 🙏🏽 so good!
At this point I’m glad that I’m single and not dating I will not settle for nothing
"....u got 'the dumb and the desperate' coming together to make a soap opera...." 😂😂😂
Men may sometimes lie and claim that they are divorced. I insisted on seeing a copy of the divorce decree and also checked the public records in the county where the divorce was filed. It's common for men to try to deceive others. When it comes to marital status, there is no "in-between" - you're either divorced or married, just like there's no such thing as being "a little pregnant."
"inspect what you expect" yaaaaaaasssssss! ❤️
Thank you Bro Tony for this message tonight because this is so on time because am dealing with a man that told me he's living with his baby mother but not sexual active with her he's just there for room and board because he would of been living with his brother before he passed but he claim he didn't have any other options.🤔 Am like yeah right. But, wants me to know he's interested in me. Nah, ain't nothing happening with him as far as am concerned. It's already red flags from the beginning. your teaching is helping me to learn the game.
You need to leave because it will not be healthier
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 Exactly , am not trying to get with him what makes it so bad the man works on my job . But he said am just trying to be honest with you straight up that am just only staying with my daughter mom until he gets his own place so he says. Am saying to myself all the while as a grown 50 year old man why you not established yet. Like I told him you're going to be in the daughter mother life because y'all got a child together. My two daughters are grown and in there own place I don't have to deal with baby momma drama coming from the outside. He has a young teen girl that's 13 years old. My granddaughter is her age. But, Sis don't worry am not going to get myself involved.
Good talkin TG!!! 🙏🏽
I really needed this. Thanks Tony.
Blessings to you Bro Tony, and welcome back 😊
This was helpful, I thank you,💝🙏🏼
Blessings thanks for this topic
This was a great video. I fell off due to work hours. But I’m glad I watched this one!!
Always hitting the nail Tony. Thank you once again. Love from South Africa ❤️
Yayyy! Uncle Tony is back
I think it’s been 5 days since you released a video. Got a little bit worried. Glad you’re back!
Tony, missed your videos!!!! Great to have you back!!! 👋🏻🙏🏻
Mr Tony G. I missed the videos!!!!! Welcome back!!!! ❤️
Welcome back 😊
Thx for working through your fatigue
Break it down Tony! So nice to hear the actual factual. Thank you
Great message by TG. Real life quality time described.
Thank you Uncle Tony for this wisdom on this here episode. Amen♥️🙏🏾
All I'm going to say THANK YOU!
Be blessed Tony! 🙏 that “the damn & the desperate” is golden 🌟🔥thank you! An eye opener ❤
God bless you Mrs.Gaskins