Plot twist Some Men turn there Wife into their Mother Figure, they will Stop sleeping with the Wife, and still expect the Wife to Cook, Clean all them household duty's, and the Husband wants that Freedom as he was a Teenager or 20's running around in Streets Wild and Free with Different Woman or Men, some Men don't grow up and it's ton's of women with this story, it's weird psychological disorder in some Men and then they act like nothing is wrong with them and they disrespecting women like this, I Prey women just walk away from this child behavior with Grown Men
Yep. Dee-1 has a song with a verse like that called "Love Me Some You": 🎶If she cheated on her ex you/Now she's next to you/Then homie her next ex is you🎶.
It seem like the single men are no better. It seems the single men don’t want to commit or act right. The taken men want to cheat. It’s honestly a mess either way.
One of the finest men I have ever seen asked me out on a date where I learned he had an ex-girlfriend situationship at home. I ended the date immediately while he tried to convince me that we should still keep in touch to get to know each other. I told him don't text or call until his situationship was over. That was almost a year ago. I haven't heard from him since. Thank you, LORD, for helping me see him with my biblical eyes.
@@thelookout5802 Right. I had to pry it out of him. I knew something was off when I had to ask him more than once about his living situation. Once he knew I was done, he told me he should've lied to me. Some men is right!
Women ALWAYS think they’re an exception to the rule. And I’ve watched friends be strung along for YEARS because they chose to cling to this idea. It’s really sad.
@C. C He will send him girl don’t be discharged. Just be sure to keep your options open. I wasn’t exclusive to anyone but my husband & that’s after we had the “let’s talk about the future” discussion. These guys couldn’t care less about wasting your time. They’ll gladly do it if you allow it.
@@Nashae-kz5bc girl my mama was in the EXACT same boat in her fifties. She's now in her 70's STILL waiting because she only spends her time between the 4 walls of a church & literally NEVER gets out & socializes.
I don't care how he got to the point he is willing to date you outside of his marriage or relationship realize one thing, they started off in a good place too. He is showing you what he does when problems arise or he becomes unhappy.
This applies to freshly divorced men, or men who are in the middle of a divorce! That man is TAKEN! Physically they may be freshly divorced or separated but mentally we all know he's still unavailable
@@Bree48646 she’s trying to say that if you get involved with a man who is freshly divorced, sometimes they are still in love with another woman. You don’t deserve that, I don’t deserve that and other women don’t. Get a man whos single single.
Ladies , it’s a sad journey to take. Trust me , I learned from personal years of experience dealing with taken men, because I was insecure, didn’t love myself, and felt like being in non committed relationships would guard my heart. Ladies you deserve the best. And being with a man that has another woman on deck or many other women. Do yourself a favor.
Leave him, I left my husband when I seen them red flags of his behavior ( it was telling her all about us , our relationship,Dreams and what we were doing), an here I thaught I had a husband of Trust & Honesty, .., 🤔, Yes I got angry 😡 and found out I was betrayed... Women value yourself, set boundaries, and don’t be that desperate woman, YOU DESERVE THE BEST!...,DONT GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER!.., LOVE YOUR SELF!👸🏼♥️♥️☝️♥️🕊GOD LOVES YOU & HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!
Women and men deserve what they qualify for and everyone will not qualify for the highest tier, highest quality, highly sought after man. Just as every woman will not have a God-fearing Tony Gaskins because everyone doesn't qualify. His wife qualifies. It doesn't feel good but it's true.
@@c.c8275 So what if he promises. Are we women children? That's nothing more than an excuse to avoid women being accountable for our foolish, irresponsible choices. A man can promise a woman the moon and the stars. Those types have always existed and will continue to exist. Telling a woman he's going to be with her, in time, is just a way for him to buy time. If not, he would straighten out his "situation" with the other woman before trying to get involved with anyone else.
Thank you for this! My husband had numerous affairs. One of them was married, was mad I was pregnant, and tried to get pregnant by my husband! The second one tried to push him to leave me and he told her that was never the plan and she knew that. She thought telling me would break us up and she could have him. He told her even if I left, he still wouldn't be with her in a real relationship. Women need to understand it is disrespectful to mess with a married man. You are disrespecting his family. If you don't respect his marriage, you don't respect the institution! He will never truly respect you!
I remember on Facebook this man sent me a long message talking about how he would a good husband to me. I didn’t respond. Then I scrolled down my timeline to see that he had a whole family. Smh 3 beautiful little girls and a beautiful wife. How stupid and inconsiderate of him!
Now, this right here is it! I remember having a conversation with a guy friend that I am single as a $1 bill and free as a bird flying back South. I was told it was by choice and then I had to express myself. The only ones that have come forward are men in a whole relationship and staying because of "THE KID(S)" and all the other lame excuses you can get. This man said to me. Well boo, a piece is better than nothing. Before I knew it. I said to him you are a part of the Genesis cycle that seems to not break❗I have been mentally and physically single going on 2 years and for the 1st time in a long time. I am with myself and not trying to build a build bear to fit what I grew up with. I honor marriage and from what I was shown my father and mother truly loved each other and raised their family with substance! TG keeps speaking about this uncomfortable conversation because they are needed. I have operated from a low-vibration place but I am wiser to my soul through TH-camrs like you and Bishop RC Blakes.
@Jen Agrippa I totally agree! When a person work mentally on self it's a certain level of boundaries are set. Now my daughter keeps me busy and I know in 8 years from now that will shift and I have to be okay with it. It is my pray the love and light I put out I get back. I hear Tony when he says man are wired different but not having substance and self conscious is a very dangerous person. Keep enjoying you love and I am sure if true love or Soul partner you need during that time. Hopefully it will find you very well❤️
Yes! Keep standing on your square when it comes to your values. The fact that this idiot said to you “a piece is better than nothing” tells you all you need to know about his mindset.
Good for you. ❤ When you know your worth you move according to your value. I tell my clients all the time, start dating you, focusing on you, and building you.
Mines was seeing a girl at his job, made a bunch of excuses on why he wanted a divorce, swore up and down he wasn't seeing someone. He was still trying to sleep with me. Made him admit to it and divorced and left his cheating behind....
@25:32 mins "...if a man's doing that with the other woman, 9 out of 10 times it's because he's mad at his wife, or he's bored with his wife... they've stopped doing what they SHOULD be doing [to make the marriage work]..." Great wisdom for every naive single woman. Thank you Tony.⭐
@Tony Gaskin, I tell any woman, if he is involved married or dating. Leave that alone. You will reap what you sow and it is not worth sowing these issues.
Why have I never gotten a nice wife then? I always did the right thing. People always come with this karma stuff but then it should also work the other way around.
It’s true when a man has a replacement he will leave the one he’s with and go with the new chick & when that doesn’t work he’ll go back to the first girl and now it’s just a cycle of back and forth between the 2…
@@laurajones9971 I’m in this situation saying he would be happy with both of us that’s all he needs he wouldn’t need any other woman. WTF!! Almost 15 years of marriage and he doesn’t care throwing it all away… I need guts to tell him I’m out 😢
If a man is trash Don't be a trashcan for him! Wow that's the truth. Just never heard it like that. Thank you Tony for explaining like this. So sad what some woman go through.
I had to turn down a business opportunity because this married man and his mistress wanted me to write a book about what they had going on. Morally I just couldn’t do it. Great video Tony!
This is sooo true! I got involved with a taken man in the past unbeknownst in the beginning because he didn’t tell me right away that he was separated and planning to get a divorce. And like Tony said I thought everything was okay and that their relationship was really over since he was pursuing me... I wish I could say that I should have known better, but at the time I really didn’t know. I was young, ignorant, and I had no guidance when it came to relationships growing up. Thank God I know better now, and I don’t see the situation as a pain or a mistake because I got the lesson.
I had a married man to constantly stalk me at my job and Instagram and Facebook, I politely told him No.....I know my worth and I'm to good of a woman to deal with him, but he finally got the picture and he doesn't bother me anymore.
Tony Tony Tony‼️‼️‼️ 🔥🔥🔥🔥(paraphrased) lWhen a man tells you he is taken, he is basically telling you he is not leaving his woman” ~Tony Gaskins~ My God!! Tony, this is why i have been following you for so long now because you are the REAL, RAW & RELATABLE! This video was great & one that must be on repeat. If they can tell you they are taken but still trying to get with you, of course they will cheat. This was good💯🎯
When he asking you to be the side piece, he has no respect for you. And too many women think they better than the main woman. And the man is not even worth it. “Don’t be a trash can.” That’s a good one Tony! When you are, you accept anything into it. When it comes to men, don’t let him place all his trash into you. You actually have to selective in what you take in. Junk in, Junk out! Wolves prey on the stray sheep. Quit being the stray sheep in his flock. Good video.
Women now a days say blame the man he’s the one stepping out, he’s the one that took the vows , the other woman doesn’t owe her anything be mad at the man not the other woman. Smh when I read stuff like that it literally blows my mind how these women try to excuse their part in it. Of course we know men lie but when they find out they than want to compete & act crazy to the main like it’s her fault she got cheated on. Just like the side doesn’t want to let go what makes you think his main wants to even though she’s hurt. If the man wants to leave by all means he can I would never want someone who doesn’t want me.
They do the one my x was dealing with called me and told me he told her I was crazy and ugly and dirty I told her ok and hung up ask me where she is nowhere
I actually saw 2 situation where the cheater did the same thing to the next woman. The other situation was the man was faithful to the side chick and she messed over him.
This is so true. I get so tired of taken men approaching me. They have more confidence than single men. Also, I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s platonic but it counts as his woman too. My ex has these female friends that defend him and cling to him. They are jealous of whatever woman he brings around. He likes dangling his friendship over their heads. This video really helped me understand what position they play in hislife. I could not figure it out. One is attractive and the other is not but they are both loose booty women. Thank you for this!! It’s like his own personal fan club. Smh
Got involved with a man I truly believed was separated . Questioned him many times and he seemed so genuine , kind and gentle . Made it SO clear to him I would NOT be involved in an affair .Couldn’t get peace over him and broke things off after 2 months as I didn’t trust the situation , 2 days later found out not only was he still married and living with his wife and kids but had another Women for 3 years who became pregnant 😟 he also had 3 other affairs before. On top of that was a covert Narcissist! He is totally toxic . His wife has forgiven him for everything. So glad to be out of the situation as horrible as it was. Don’t even entertain ANY man that is ‘separated’ or not fully divorced ❤
Well, separated is not divorced. Even if he was “truly” separated, he’s still married. How do women rationalize with that. You have to be truly desperate for attention to consider a separated man.
‘The Dumb and the Desperate.’ That sounds like the name of a great book! Tony, send me a check *in my Tony voice*. Don’t block me, Tony, please. 😂🤣😁📖✍🏾
For women who are inexperienced with dating, unfortunately, aren't aware that these guys are taken. A lot of these guys lie and say they're separated or something in that realm. So i do have sympathy for inexperienced women who had low-self esteem due to their upbringing. This is my story and now that I'm wise i would never waste a second pursuing guys that're somewhat "single" or even still speaking to their ex.
Just cut loose one man that I worked with for a short time and was being very attentive with me. We were texting back and forth, he even bought me a souvenir from his weekend getaway, he asked me out, he was giving me long looks, paying Uber for me back and forth from work, picking me up. He even invited me for a weekend getaway which I didn’t go because I couldn’t that week. But at one point he didn’t text me or called for a week and kindly addressed the problem. He got defensive saying I’m confusing him, because we only had a friendship and work collab and that he didn’t treat me like he intended to date me. That’s when he told me he is in a relationship. Lol So I that showed me hos character and I said I can’t communicate/ collaborate with someone who isn’t available. He asked me out again to talk things out. I refused and went No Contact forever on him. What a mess these men are. It hurt to let go, because I liked him, but it hurt because the version of him I thought he is, wasn’t real.
@@jessi0076 Hi :) Thank you for reading all that. I talked with a few guys, haven’t had any dates because they weren’t it. Haven’t found a man but I’ve grown so much closer to God and looking back to where I was a year ago, I know I needed it to still be single. I feel like he is close :) How about you?
@Andreeak. I just broke up 2 weeks ago. He was dating me and another woman. We didn't know it. But I think he has chosen her and I don't wanna b a side chick..I'm trying to understand this behavior.
Hello! No woman or no man should go after anybody who is taken! To me once you finance the person is taken or they strictly tell you they have some money, that's a done deal and should move forward and go about your business. To me if someone goes after somebody who is taken or the taken person is pursuing someone outside of their relationship, is very disrespectful to the person they're approaching knowing that they have someone, disrespectful to their partner and is lack of self-respect. It's disgusting how people still tend to do that those things. That is one of my deal breakers. I don't play that kind of nonsense! But that's a good topic too Tony! Love your videos! God bless you and your family!
Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!! I wish this could have been broadcasted YEARS ago!! Make another video on this please!! It’s tooooo common out here! Taken men are WAY toooooo comfortable approaching single women and single women get emotional over these men who are FULL OF SH*#!!
Exactly 💯. We, as women, love to point out how men are trash 🗑️ without accepting accountability for our own actions or holding other women accountable for their actions. No, women always get a pass and it's wrong. Trashy men can't cheat without trashy women. Why are women trash 🗑️ cans? That's the real question that needs delving into because we have too many self righteous women who are the very equivalent of the males they tear down every chance they get. Yet, they seem to think they are better than what they really are and unfortunately that mindset will ensure many will be, alone, as they age. We take ourselves everywhere we go and our results are reflective of who we truly are, inside.
I don’t even date men who are dating other women. I don’t have time to fight for nobody’s heart or attention. My ex used to see other women and it made me extremely insecure. All of our fights began because his extracurricular activity. I refuse to do that again and put a woman what I went through. Guys at work tell me well I won’t find anyone. Welp I guess I’m fine then!
I m not American so I don’t get this “dating multiple ppl”. I don’t mean jump in a relationship with the first person or in the first date, but how many dates you need to know if you like someone? How can you just be out with a guy or a girl and knowing that yesterday maybe took another person in the same place, said the same things and maybe kissed, and today will just repeat it with you and tomorrow with someone else?
It needs to be laid out there. The stuff I hear now in my mid-30s is straight foolishness. I'm listening to wise counsel daily - pastors, motivational speakers, and right here in this community with TG - learning how to get the right woman and treat her right. When I receive a call or wind up in certain conversations concerning women it's crazy: -The world says "you get a girl (go half on the bills)" v. The Kingdom says find a wife. -The world says have somebody to ____ with v. The Kingdom says be with your own woman 💍.
Most males off or on line will not tell you hes taken or married. My ex husband cheated on me and when I confronted him after one of the females called my house , he still lied to my face, i began the divorce process after he told me he couldn’t avoid it again. I never remarried as of today. He has remarried 4-5 times.
I deal with so many classes of people as a driver 🚗 - people going to & from AA/NA/SA, Nurses/Nurse Practitioners/Physician Assistants, Realtors, Bartenders/Servers, etc. - many people have the play of having someone while looking for their next. Trust TG on this.
Men have done me so wrong in the past , I don't get excited anymore about seeing someone or trying to date ☹️☹️, Some men in this day and age are different than the generation before me for some reason. I shouldn't have to figure someone out like I am fixing a puzzle. I would rather comfortable find out through their actions or words.
If God is not in it there no truth no trust no love just plain emptiness in these relationship is not base on a real foundation basically it’s building on sand you can’t build on that
This Tony Gaskin's advice is GOLD!!! Also, from many friends' painful expcs: Never help a man cheat. Knowingly or unknowingly. If he says he is "poly" do ur research and check to make sure he really poly. U should be able to meet his GF/partner/wife. He should not be sneaking around with you if he poly. He should be able to answer ur calls in front of her or spend the night sometimes. But that lifestyle is reckless and destructive anyway. And if u don't care he taken even if ya'll aint poly, that's sad. U need to work on ur low self esteem. Ur gonna be in a lot of pain either way. He is using you. Many say they're poly nowadays but they are lying. And some just wanna blow off steam. They will use you to decompress. Then go home and be happy with his main woman. Repent and leave him alone. U will be the Only one hurting in the end. She won't leave him and he won't leave her. Even if ur really poly and u don't want him to leave her. If he lying about being poly, u will get hurt too. Best to leave taken dudes alone. They are playing you both!! And if he dealing w you behind her back, he dealing w others too. Ur not the only one, sis. U never will be. Even if he leaves and marries you. Coming from real stories from real friends. He cheated on my friend. Married the mistress. And cheats on her consistently. My friend finds out thru his friends who gossip on him and he called my friend and tried to use her to cheat on the one he cheated with. It gets even worse but point proven. He still a cheater. The mistress won a cheater and possibly a few STIs..
men focus on your wife and leave the other trashy women alone. they are trouble don't ruin a good marriage over trash. sometimes a woman just want to see if she can take that man away from his wife and then after that the thrill is gone. men grow up and act like a really man and you won't have these problems
This is all so true. I was definitely the one that got left because I caught him cheating…the next fight led to him leaving 🤦🏽♀️ is there a course that helps build an audience?
Preach Tony 🙏 please can we have this on Facebook to share alot off husband hunters on there and all your cheating video's.Yes I stopped putting out,I caught him out entertaining some single mother Jezebel and I was not having it,in the process off making my exit he cheated.
Was married 7-months pregnant with a son that was 3-yrs old. Yes, my husband cheated on me while working out of town. He did divorce me and both my son's once my second son was born! My ex-chose this other woman and never looked back never kept in contact with his 2-first born son's, this shows how much a man can turn his back on his family and live happily after, with no guilt!
When I was 14/15, a part of me thought attracting taken guys made someone the "it girl" while simultaneously thinking homewreckers were trash. I know, makes no type of sense. Now at 19, I will never respect or show sympathy to a woman that deals with taken men. It says a lot about your morals and values.
Mostly of time you don’t know man is take because he act like he single person or he doesn’t tell you he is married or dating someone… now days they start on line dating you don’t anything whole lies find he has wife and them some smh 🤦♀️
Thank you Bro Tony for this message tonight because this is so on time because am dealing with a man that told me he's living with his baby mother but not sexual active with her he's just there for room and board because he would of been living with his brother before he passed but he claim he didn't have any other options.🤔 Am like yeah right. But, wants me to know he's interested in me. Nah, ain't nothing happening with him as far as am concerned. It's already red flags from the beginning. your teaching is helping me to learn the game.
@@ms.camillewarrenempress31 Exactly , am not trying to get with him what makes it so bad the man works on my job . But he said am just trying to be honest with you straight up that am just only staying with my daughter mom until he gets his own place so he says. Am saying to myself all the while as a grown 50 year old man why you not established yet. Like I told him you're going to be in the daughter mother life because y'all got a child together. My two daughters are grown and in there own place I don't have to deal with baby momma drama coming from the outside. He has a young teen girl that's 13 years old. My granddaughter is her age. But, Sis don't worry am not going to get myself involved.
Taken men know they can go back home to her and it dosent matter to him if the other woman don't give him her number. They can continue their regular lives because they always have someone at home.
What about the women that think it’s ok to date a man that is going through a divorce? Because my ex-husband told his girlfriend that we were going though a divorce and she was fine with it and told me that she didn’t see anything wrong with her dating him because we weren’t living together and we were just working through the legal stuff to not be together!
@@shurling859 I don’t think it’s right to be with anyone while going through a divorce. I bet you anything they won’t end up staying together. How could you start something during a messy situation. Take care of yourself.
Hey Tony my dad passed away at young age my grandfather my stepdad my mom is sister of five so never really had a positive male to teach me thing’s healthy standards wisdom so I am thankful.
So thankful for Tony and his knowledge on relationships and men! Everything he is describing, I literally experienced last year. I’m out of it and forever grateful for Tony’s videos. It has really taught me a lot, and how to set boundaries for future relationships.
Yeah, sometimes you will see a man walk around you wanting to ask you something or talk to you but then once you say hi they just stare at you for several seconds before they finally mouth the hi you said to them, back to you. So I just end up passing by, lol!
👍🏾 A much needed conversation Tony esp with how people are dating nowadays or seeking a man or a woman. I love how comfortable you are with sharing your day with your beautiful wife and we get a sneak peek into what she gets up to lol. Just a great example of how you can make your busy family dynamic work if you want it to.❤
"Women won't sleep with a man
because he lives with his
mother, but will sleep with a
man that lives at home with his wife.” smh 🤦🏽♀️
WOW, Queen, you spoke volume with those words!
They’re so thirsty they do both.
Yes! It’s insane. Make that make sense. Him having a whole wife doesn’t give you pause. 🥴🥴🥴
Plot twist Some Men turn there Wife into their Mother Figure, they will Stop sleeping with the Wife, and still expect the Wife to Cook, Clean all them household duty's, and the Husband wants that Freedom as he was a Teenager or 20's running around in Streets Wild and Free with Different Woman or Men, some Men don't grow up and it's ton's of women with this story, it's weird psychological disorder in some Men and then they act like nothing is wrong with them and they disrespecting women like this, I Prey women just walk away from this child behavior with Grown Men
Saw that quote on social media and it makes sense!
Taken men really are quicker to shoot their shot than single men these days. It’s unbelievable.
wow lol 🙂
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It’s something about having a woman already at home that gives a man that confidence boost to approach you 😂
@@toriyt2714 girl 🤣
@@toriyt2714 I agree with you 100%. It’s the only thing that makes sense.
When a man tells you he is taken, he is also telling you he will cheat on you too.
And unalive you for telling it as well!!!😢
Exactly.
Yep. Dee-1 has a song with a verse like that called "Love Me Some You":
🎶If she cheated on her ex you/Now she's next to you/Then homie her next ex is you🎶.
Some people don’t care
Exactly he’s trash a decent wouldn’t want him period and he sees her as trash too
It seem like the single men are no better. It seems the single men don’t want to commit or act right. The taken men want to cheat. It’s honestly a mess either way.
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wow lol 🙂
Where is the lie sis???
Or...they claim to be single so they can hop freely from chicks to chicks.
One of the finest men I have ever seen asked me out on a date where I learned he had an ex-girlfriend situationship at home. I ended the date immediately while he tried to convince me that we should still keep in touch to get to know each other. I told him don't text or call until his situationship was over. That was almost a year ago. I haven't heard from him since. Thank you, LORD, for helping me see him with my biblical eyes.
Change your number and change your living and move
It wasn't a situationship after all huh? Some men!
I wouldn't even want a call back from a man that would try me like that.
@@tonyagrimes8358 In hindsight, I agree. How can I trust him?
@@thelookout5802 Right. I had to pry it out of him. I knew something was off when I had to ask him more than once about his living situation. Once he knew I was done, he told me he should've lied to me. Some men is right!
Women ALWAYS think they’re an exception to the rule. And I’ve watched friends be strung along for YEARS because they chose to cling to this idea. It’s really sad.
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Yep
@C. C He will send him girl don’t be discharged. Just be sure to keep your options open. I wasn’t exclusive to anyone but my husband & that’s after we had the “let’s talk about the future” discussion. These guys couldn’t care less about wasting your time. They’ll gladly do it if you allow it.
My mama is in her 50’s still waiting on a married man that’s almost in his 60’s
@@Nashae-kz5bc girl my mama was in the EXACT same boat in her fifties. She's now in her 70's STILL waiting because she only spends her time between the 4 walls of a church & literally NEVER gets out & socializes.
I don't care how he got to the point he is willing to date you outside of his marriage or relationship realize one thing, they started off in a good place too. He is showing you what he does when problems arise or he becomes unhappy.
Exactly!
Exactly ‼️‼️‼️💯
Amen
If he's willing to be dealt with while being taken, he's NO GOOD....
This applies to freshly divorced men, or men who are in the middle of a divorce! That man is TAKEN! Physically they may be freshly divorced or separated but mentally we all know he's still unavailable
BIGG Facts 💯
Exactly
No when they are divorced they are 100% single…. Never deal with a legal married man
@@Bree48646 nooo she said physically they’re single but mentally they’re not
@@Bree48646 she’s trying to say that if you get involved with a man who is freshly divorced, sometimes they are still in love with another woman. You don’t deserve that, I don’t deserve that and other women don’t. Get a man whos single single.
Sidebar: Can we appreciate Tony for always keeping it too real?????
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽absolutely !
“When you have the dumb & the desperate coming together, we can’t get anywhere in our society.” No…truer…words!
TG has the handle on coining 🪙 legendary topics.
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The desperate woman enable a dumb man..
@@maryshiwoku2211 yup
The side woman didn't get a whole man and didn't win a prize!🔥
Ladies , it’s a sad journey to take. Trust me , I learned from personal years of experience dealing with taken men, because I was insecure, didn’t love myself, and felt like being in non committed relationships would guard my heart. Ladies you deserve the best. And being with a man that has another woman on deck or many other women. Do yourself a favor.
Leave him, I left my husband when I seen them red flags of his behavior ( it was telling her all about us , our relationship,Dreams and what we were doing), an here I thaught I had a husband of Trust & Honesty, .., 🤔, Yes I got angry 😡 and found out I was betrayed... Women value yourself, set boundaries, and don’t be that desperate woman, YOU DESERVE THE BEST!...,DONT GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER!.., LOVE YOUR SELF!👸🏼♥️♥️☝️♥️🕊GOD LOVES YOU & HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU!
Women and men deserve what they qualify for and everyone will not qualify for the highest tier, highest quality, highly sought after man. Just as every woman will not have a God-fearing Tony Gaskins because everyone doesn't qualify. His wife qualifies. It doesn't feel good but it's true.
I definitely agree to that!
@@c.c8275 So what if he promises. Are we women children? That's nothing more than an excuse to avoid women being accountable for our foolish, irresponsible choices.
A man can promise a woman the moon and the stars. Those types have always existed and will continue to exist. Telling a woman he's going to be with her, in time, is just a way for him to buy time. If not, he would straighten out his "situation" with the other woman before trying to get involved with anyone else.
I HAVE TOO && IT'S NOT EVER WORTH IT 🤞👌.
Thank you for this! My husband had numerous affairs. One of them was married, was mad I was pregnant, and tried to get pregnant by my husband! The second one tried to push him to leave me and he told her that was never the plan and she knew that. She thought telling me would break us up and she could have him. He told her even if I left, he still wouldn't be with her in a real relationship.
Women need to understand it is disrespectful to mess with a married man. You are disrespecting his family. If you don't respect his marriage, you don't respect the institution! He will never truly respect you!
He is disrespecting his marriage. Blame him.
@leslinejohnson7855 oh I do! I'm just saying women that mess with married men are at fault also.
Girl you blaming everybody but your man 😭😭😂 why was he entertaining these other women in the first place 🤦🏾♀️
@@joiluckadoo-villa9601 My husband does all of that and he becomes single real quick.
@@joiluckadoo-villa9601 wow, this is embarrassing not encouraging
I agree Tony never talk to him again if you know he taken.
Tony be making me wanna stay single for the rest of my life lmao y’all gotta fight the urge to cheat that hard? 😭
Right!!!!! 😩
Fr...Like, is there any hope? I have to consult the Lord after almost every video because I be DISCOURAGED
@@theperiodplanner discouraged ain’t even the word! lol😩
Yes haha! I feel like I am going to be single forever
Right
I remember on Facebook this man sent me a long message talking about how he would a good husband to me. I didn’t respond. Then I scrolled down my timeline to see that he had a whole family. Smh 3 beautiful little girls and a beautiful wife. How stupid and inconsiderate of him!
What an idiot!
I’ve tried to keep my marriage together but he wouldn’t stay faithful. Had to roll out. I couldn’t stay.
Now, this right here is it! I remember having a conversation with a guy friend that I am single as a $1 bill and free as a bird flying back South. I was told it was by choice and then I had to express myself. The only ones that have come forward are men in a whole relationship and staying because of "THE KID(S)" and all the other lame excuses you can get. This man said to me. Well boo, a piece is better than nothing. Before I knew it. I said to him you are a part of the Genesis cycle that seems to not break❗I have been mentally and physically single going on 2 years and for the 1st time in a long time. I am with myself and not trying to build a build bear to fit what I grew up with. I honor marriage and from what I was shown my father and mother truly loved each other and raised their family with substance!
TG keeps speaking about this uncomfortable conversation because they are needed. I have operated from a low-vibration place but I am wiser to my soul through TH-camrs like you and Bishop RC Blakes.
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@Jen Agrippa I totally agree! When a person work mentally on self it's a certain level of boundaries are set. Now my daughter keeps me busy and I know in 8 years from now that will shift and I have to be okay with it. It is my pray the love and light I put out I get back. I hear Tony when he says man are wired different but not having substance and self conscious is a very dangerous person.
Keep enjoying you love and I am sure if true love or Soul partner you need during that time. Hopefully it will find you very well❤️
Seriously I discovered both of them on TH-cam on the same day. If you heard what Lisa said she didn't chase. True Sisters 💗
Yes! Keep standing on your square when it comes to your values. The fact that this idiot said to you “a piece is better than nothing” tells you all you need to know about his mindset.
Good for you. ❤ When you know your worth you move according to your value. I tell my clients all the time, start dating you, focusing on you, and building you.
Mines was seeing a girl at his job, made a bunch of excuses on why he wanted a divorce, swore up and down he wasn't seeing someone. He was still trying to sleep with me. Made him admit to it and divorced and left his cheating behind....
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Girl same! My divorce finalize at the end of Jan 2023. I know my worth baby! 👏🏿
@25:32 mins
"...if a man's doing that with the other woman, 9 out of 10 times it's because he's mad at his wife, or he's bored with his wife... they've stopped doing what they SHOULD be doing [to make the marriage work]..."
Great wisdom for every naive single woman.
Thank you Tony.⭐
@Tony Gaskin, I tell any woman, if he is involved married or dating. Leave that alone. You will reap what you sow and it is not worth sowing these issues.
Why have I never gotten a nice wife then? I always did the right thing. People always come with this karma stuff but then it should also work the other way around.
It’s true when a man has a replacement he will leave the one he’s with and go with the new chick & when that doesn’t work he’ll go back to the first girl and now it’s just a cycle of back and forth between the 2…
Yes my soon to be x husband did this now he wants to be friends and act like he made a mistake but bye 🖕sign these papers Dec 21 and get on
@@laurajones9971 I’m in this situation saying he would be happy with both of us that’s all he needs he wouldn’t need any other woman. WTF!! Almost 15 years of marriage and he doesn’t care throwing it all away… I need guts to tell him I’m out 😢
If a man is trash Don't be a trashcan for him! Wow that's the truth. Just never heard it like that. Thank you Tony for explaining like this. So sad what some woman go through.
I had to turn down a business opportunity because this married man and his mistress wanted me to write a book about what they had going on. Morally I just couldn’t do it. Great video Tony!
Wow 😮
@@qscott888 oh yeah it was a mess and these were grown folks too. The woman was 54 and the man was 45 or 46. 🙄
@Jen Agrippa yeah that’s true too. Age doesn’t always mean maturity or immaturity.
Wow really 😕
@@pooh4025 yep. Can’t make this up 🤷🏾♀️ never seen so much delusion in my life
🤣🤣🤣 I left my husband. I made a donation to the less fortunate ( the desparate).
Same 😂
I’m about to join the group 🎉
This is sooo true! I got involved with a taken man in the past unbeknownst in the beginning because he didn’t tell me right away that he was separated and planning to get a divorce. And like Tony said I thought everything was okay and that their relationship was really over since he was pursuing me... I wish I could say that I should have known better, but at the time I really didn’t know. I was young, ignorant, and I had no guidance when it came to relationships growing up. Thank God I know better now, and I don’t see the situation as a pain or a mistake because I got the lesson.
I had a married man to constantly stalk me at my job and Instagram and Facebook, I politely told him No.....I know my worth and I'm to good of a woman to deal with him, but he finally got the picture and he doesn't bother me anymore.
I don’t have the answers to most of this stuff but I got this one! He’s taken: married, in a relationship, engaged, etc…
Tony Tony Tony‼️‼️‼️ 🔥🔥🔥🔥(paraphrased) lWhen a man tells you he is taken, he is basically telling you he is not leaving his woman” ~Tony Gaskins~ My God!! Tony, this is why i have been following you for so long now because you are the REAL, RAW & RELATABLE! This video was great & one that must be on repeat. If they can tell you they are taken but still trying to get with you, of course they will cheat. This was good💯🎯
Honey I’m starting to thinking being in a relationship isn’t even worth the trouble lol
Some days, it ain’t.
Girl it ain’t
When he asking you to be the side piece, he has no respect for you. And too many women think they better than the main woman. And the man is not even worth it. “Don’t be a trash can.” That’s a good one Tony! When you are, you accept anything into it. When it comes to men, don’t let him place all his trash into you. You actually have to selective in what you take in. Junk in, Junk out! Wolves prey on the stray sheep. Quit being the stray sheep in his flock. Good video.
Don’t be a trash 🗑️ ladies! ❤
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Women now a days say blame the man he’s the one stepping out, he’s the one that took the vows , the other woman doesn’t owe her anything be mad at the man not the other woman. Smh when I read stuff like that it literally blows my mind how these women try to excuse their part in it. Of course we know men lie but when they find out they than want to compete & act crazy to the main like it’s her fault she got cheated on. Just like the side doesn’t want to let go what makes you think his main wants to even though she’s hurt. If the man wants to leave by all means he can I would never want someone who doesn’t want me.
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wow lol 🙂
That whole only blame him thing annoys me.
@@loveyb9090 omg same! It’s like their trying to excuse their bad behavior as well 🙄😒
The saying all is fair in love and war has been around forever.
Why would you even take a married man seriously and think he wouldn’t cheat on you too 🥴😵💫
They do the one my x was dealing with called me and told me he told her I was crazy and ugly and dirty I told her ok and hung up ask me where she is nowhere
I actually saw 2 situation where the cheater did the same thing to the next woman. The other situation was the man was faithful to the side chick and she messed over him.
@@laurajones9971 sheesh!
Because they're desperate and despicable
@@ashaeducation3402his karma
This is so true. I get so tired of taken men approaching me. They have more confidence than single men. Also, I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s platonic but it counts as his woman too. My ex has these female friends that defend him and cling to him. They are jealous of whatever woman he brings around. He likes dangling his friendship over their heads. This video really helped me understand what position they play in hislife. I could not figure it out. One is attractive and the other is not but they are both loose booty women. Thank you for this!! It’s like his own personal fan club. Smh
This one should be a no brainer for some...but you'll never know where a person is at their point in life.......blessings to all.
Got involved with a man I truly believed was separated . Questioned him many times and he seemed so genuine , kind and gentle . Made it SO clear to him I would NOT be involved in an affair .Couldn’t get peace over him and broke things off after 2 months as I didn’t trust the situation , 2 days later found out not only was he still married and living with his wife and kids but had another Women for 3 years who became pregnant 😟 he also had 3 other affairs before. On top of that was a covert Narcissist! He is totally toxic . His wife has forgiven him for everything. So glad to be out of the situation as horrible as it was. Don’t even entertain ANY man that is ‘separated’ or not fully divorced ❤
Well, separated is not divorced. Even if he was “truly” separated, he’s still married.
How do women rationalize with that. You have to be truly desperate for attention to consider a separated man.
@@lelo46 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 exactly!
Agreed! Separated is NOT divorced. Don't lower your standards.
I knew all of this but I needed to hear it again cause these married men be applying pressure, they know how to get you
‘The Dumb and the Desperate.’ That sounds like the name of a great book! Tony, send me a check *in my Tony voice*. Don’t block me, Tony, please. 😂🤣😁📖✍🏾
For women who are inexperienced with dating, unfortunately, aren't aware that these guys are taken. A lot of these guys lie and say they're separated or something in that realm. So i do have sympathy for inexperienced women who had low-self esteem due to their upbringing. This is my story and now that I'm wise i would never waste a second pursuing guys that're somewhat "single" or even still speaking to their ex.
Just cut loose one man that I worked with for a short time and was being very attentive with me. We were texting back and forth, he even bought me a souvenir from his weekend getaway, he asked me out, he was giving me long looks, paying Uber for me back and forth from work, picking me up. He even invited me for a weekend getaway which I didn’t go because I couldn’t that week. But at one point he didn’t text me or called for a week and kindly addressed the problem. He got defensive saying I’m confusing him, because we only had a friendship and work collab and that he didn’t treat me like he intended to date me. That’s when he told me he is in a relationship. Lol
So I that showed me hos character and I said I can’t communicate/ collaborate with someone who isn’t available. He asked me out again to talk things out. I refused and went No Contact forever on him. What a mess these men are. It hurt to let go, because I liked him, but it hurt because the version of him I thought he is, wasn’t real.
Did u eventually find love?
@@jessi0076 Hi :) Thank you for reading all that. I talked with a few guys, haven’t had any dates because they weren’t it. Haven’t found a man but I’ve grown so much closer to God and looking back to where I was a year ago, I know I needed it to still be single. I feel like he is close :)
How about you?
@Andreeak. I just broke up 2 weeks ago. He was dating me and another woman. We didn't know it. But I think he has chosen her and I don't wanna b a side chick..I'm trying to understand this behavior.
Hello! No woman or no man should go after anybody who is taken! To me once you finance the person is taken or they strictly tell you they have some money, that's a done deal and should move forward and go about your business. To me if someone goes after somebody who is taken or the taken person is pursuing someone outside of their relationship, is very disrespectful to the person they're approaching knowing that they have someone, disrespectful to their partner and is lack of self-respect. It's disgusting how people still tend to do that those things. That is one of my deal breakers. I don't play that kind of nonsense! But that's a good topic too Tony! Love your videos! God bless you and your family!
The streets been missing you Tony
Hello there 😄 & I don't even look at married man.
“Dumb and the desperate coming together to make a soap opera“ Preach Tony!!
Man it doesn’t get any realer than TG. He keeps it 💯. I definitely appreciate it @23:21
This was a serious conviction for me. I was about to be a situation for real.
Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!! I wish this could have been broadcasted YEARS ago!! Make another video on this please!! It’s tooooo common out here! Taken men are WAY toooooo comfortable approaching single women and single women get emotional over these men who are FULL OF SH*#!!
Exactly 💯. We, as women, love to point out how men are trash 🗑️ without accepting accountability for our own actions or holding other women accountable for their actions. No, women always get a pass and it's wrong.
Trashy men can't cheat without trashy women. Why are women trash 🗑️ cans? That's the real question that needs delving into because we have too many self righteous women who are the very equivalent of the males they tear down every chance they get. Yet, they seem to think they are better than what they really are and unfortunately that mindset will ensure many will be, alone, as they age. We take ourselves everywhere we go and our results are reflective of who we truly are, inside.
@C. C true but he lied to you I think it’s one thing if the man lied and lead you on and it’s another when you know up front
hit the nail on the head!!
I agree wholeheartedly with everything you've stated in this video!
I don’t even date men who are dating other women. I don’t have time to fight for nobody’s heart or attention. My ex used to see other women and it made me extremely insecure. All of our fights began because his extracurricular activity. I refuse to do that again and put a woman what I went through. Guys at work tell me well I won’t find anyone. Welp I guess I’m fine then!
you'll attract the right person
I m not American so I don’t get this “dating multiple ppl”. I don’t mean jump in a relationship with the first person or in the first date, but how many dates you need to know if you like someone?
How can you just be out with a guy or a girl and knowing that yesterday maybe took another person in the same place, said the same things and maybe kissed, and today will just repeat it with you and tomorrow with someone else?
The main reason is he belong to someone else & second is Karma .
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Talk the truth Tony. I'm learning so much about men every day. You're always on point with your advice.
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It needs to be laid out there. The stuff I hear now in my mid-30s is straight foolishness. I'm listening to wise counsel daily - pastors, motivational speakers, and right here in this community with TG - learning how to get the right woman and treat her right. When I receive a call or wind up in certain conversations concerning women it's crazy:
-The world says "you get a girl (go half on the bills)" v. The Kingdom says find a wife.
-The world says have somebody to ____ with v. The Kingdom says be with your own woman 💍.
@@JermaineThomas4050 🎯
@@Gemmia86 Keeping our ears to wise counsel.
Most males off or on line will not tell you hes taken or married. My ex husband cheated on me and when I confronted him after one of the females called my house , he still lied to my face, i began the divorce process after he told me he couldn’t avoid it again. I never remarried as of today. He has remarried 4-5 times.
Makes you wonder why he keeps putting a ring on it when he could just stay single? 🤷🏼♀️💍
"inspect what you expect" yaaaaaaasssssss! ❤️
I deal with so many classes of people as a driver 🚗 - people going to & from AA/NA/SA, Nurses/Nurse Practitioners/Physician Assistants, Realtors, Bartenders/Servers, etc. - many people have the play of having someone while looking for their next. Trust TG on this.
Men have done me so wrong in the past , I don't get excited anymore about seeing someone or trying to date ☹️☹️, Some men in this day and age are different than the generation before me for some reason. I shouldn't have to figure someone out like I am fixing a puzzle. I would rather comfortable find out through their actions or words.
If God is not in it there no truth no trust no love just plain emptiness in these relationship is not base on a real foundation basically it’s building on sand you can’t build on that
Facts
I love the “trash can” analogy! 🥰 🙏🏽 so good!
This Tony Gaskin's advice is GOLD!!! Also, from many friends' painful expcs: Never help a man cheat. Knowingly or unknowingly. If he says he is "poly" do ur research and check to make sure he really poly. U should be able to meet his GF/partner/wife. He should not be sneaking around with you if he poly. He should be able to answer ur calls in front of her or spend the night sometimes. But that lifestyle is reckless and destructive anyway. And if u don't care he taken even if ya'll aint poly, that's sad. U need to work on ur low self esteem. Ur gonna be in a lot of pain either way. He is using you. Many say they're poly nowadays but they are lying. And some just wanna blow off steam. They will use you to decompress. Then go home and be happy with his main woman. Repent and leave him alone. U will be the Only one hurting in the end. She won't leave him and he won't leave her. Even if ur really poly and u don't want him to leave her. If he lying about being poly, u will get hurt too. Best to leave taken dudes alone. They are playing you both!! And if he dealing w you behind her back, he dealing w others too. Ur not the only one, sis. U never will be. Even if he leaves and marries you. Coming from real stories from real friends. He cheated on my friend. Married the mistress. And cheats on her consistently. My friend finds out thru his friends who gossip on him and he called my friend and tried to use her to cheat on the one he cheated with. It gets even worse but point proven. He still a cheater. The mistress won a cheater and possibly a few STIs..
wow lol 🙂
Do unto others...
I always appreciate how Mr. Gaskins drop the best gems at the end of a video! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Tony you're always on point. Once again us woman need to hear this. 👍🏽
You saving so many woman
men focus on your wife and leave the other trashy women alone. they are trouble don't ruin a good marriage over trash. sometimes a woman just want to see if she can take that man away from his wife and then after that the thrill is gone. men grow up and act like a really man and you won't have these problems
Thank you, 💝🙏🏼/.......husband stay focus on your wife like L George’s , mention.
ALOT OF WOMEN AREN'T TRASHY.
If , his wife won't sleep with him , Why should You?
This is all so true. I was definitely the one that got left because I caught him cheating…the next fight led to him leaving 🤦🏽♀️ is there a course that helps build an audience?
If this video is intended on keeping me single then it’s working. Thank you 🙏🏽
I'm so happy I'm not desperate for a man.
Thank you Uncle Tony for this wisdom on this here episode. Amen♥️🙏🏾
Preach Tony 🙏 please can we have this on Facebook to share alot off husband hunters on there and all your cheating video's.Yes I stopped putting out,I caught him out entertaining some single mother Jezebel and I was not having it,in the process off making my exit he cheated.
Was married 7-months pregnant with a son that was 3-yrs old. Yes, my husband cheated on me while working out of town. He did divorce me and both my son's once my second son was born! My ex-chose this other woman and never looked back never kept in contact with his 2-first born son's, this shows how much a man can turn his back on his family and live happily after, with no guilt!
I'm sure he's suffering
All women going thru the same b.s. just different titles but same ish
When I was 14/15, a part of me thought attracting taken guys made someone the "it girl" while simultaneously thinking homewreckers were trash. I know, makes no type of sense. Now at 19, I will never respect or show sympathy to a woman that deals with taken men. It says a lot about your morals and values.
Mostly of time you don’t know man is take because he act like he single person or he doesn’t tell you he is married or dating someone… now days they start on line dating you don’t anything whole lies find he has wife and them some smh 🤦♀️
That's why you use your due diligence and investigate and ask questions instead of being gullible
All I'm going to say THANK YOU!
Thank you Bro Tony for this message tonight because this is so on time because am dealing with a man that told me he's living with his baby mother but not sexual active with her he's just there for room and board because he would of been living with his brother before he passed but he claim he didn't have any other options.🤔 Am like yeah right. But, wants me to know he's interested in me. Nah, ain't nothing happening with him as far as am concerned. It's already red flags from the beginning. your teaching is helping me to learn the game.
You need to leave because it will not be healthier
@@ms.camillewarrenempress31 Exactly , am not trying to get with him what makes it so bad the man works on my job . But he said am just trying to be honest with you straight up that am just only staying with my daughter mom until he gets his own place so he says. Am saying to myself all the while as a grown 50 year old man why you not established yet. Like I told him you're going to be in the daughter mother life because y'all got a child together. My two daughters are grown and in there own place I don't have to deal with baby momma drama coming from the outside. He has a young teen girl that's 13 years old. My granddaughter is her age. But, Sis don't worry am not going to get myself involved.
God bless you Mrs.Gaskins
I think it’s been 5 days since you released a video. Got a little bit worried. Glad you’re back!
Speak on it!
Taken men know they can go back home to her and it dosent matter to him if the other woman don't give him her number. They can continue their regular lives because they always have someone at home.
Just wanted to thank God for using you to change lives. 🎉 I’m learning so much 🙏🏾
TG, The trash/ trash can scenario has floored me brother. "The One is the only "One" who can fix this. I'm holding my 🙏 pose as I watch.
Good evening 👋🏽
Break it down Tony! So nice to hear the actual factual. Thank you
What about the women that think it’s ok to date a man that is going through a divorce? Because my ex-husband told his girlfriend that we were going though a divorce and she was fine with it and told me that she didn’t see anything wrong with her dating him because we weren’t living together and we were just working through the legal stuff to not be together!
Yes, he is my ex husband now, but we were still going through our divorce at the time.
@@shurling859 I don’t think it’s right to be with anyone while going through a divorce. I bet you anything they won’t end up staying together. How could you start something during a messy situation. Take care of yourself.
@@shurling859 it’s messy no matter what they won’t last but be glad you are out
Wow my best friend is going through the same exact situation. It’s sad
It is really sad. I will certainly be praying for your best friend because it is really hard and frustrating.
The Dumb and the Desperate!!!! 🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's a soap opera I want to see.
Mr Tony G. I missed the videos!!!!! Welcome back!!!! ❤️
Hey Tony my dad passed away at young age my grandfather my stepdad my mom is sister of five so never really had a positive male to teach me thing’s healthy standards wisdom so I am thankful.
So thankful for Tony and his knowledge on relationships and men! Everything he is describing, I literally experienced last year. I’m out of it and forever grateful for Tony’s videos. It has really taught me a lot, and how to set boundaries for future relationships.
Thx for working through your fatigue
Blessings thanks for this topic
Great message by TG. Real life quality time described.
Blessings and Peace 🙏🏾 🕊 💖
"....u got 'the dumb and the desperate' coming together to make a soap opera...." 😂😂😂
This was a great video. I fell off due to work hours. But I’m glad I watched this one!!
Yeah, sometimes you will see a man walk around you wanting to ask you something or talk to you but then once you say hi they just stare at you for several seconds before they finally mouth the hi you said to them, back to you. So I just end up passing by, lol!
👍🏾 A much needed conversation Tony esp with how people are dating nowadays or seeking a man or a woman. I love how comfortable you are with sharing your day with your beautiful wife and we get a sneak peek into what she gets up to lol. Just a great example of how you can make your busy family dynamic work if you want it to.❤
Always hitting the nail Tony. Thank you once again. Love from South Africa ❤️
I really needed this. Thanks Tony.