Losing it on Her Father
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 พ.ย. 2022
- The plaintiff says the defendant is her roommate’s daughter, but the weird girl trashed the inside of the plaintiff’s truck with milk and raw eggs. It still smells after being detailed, so she’s suing for the cleaning costs. The defendant says the plaintiff is her father’s girlfriend and claims the incidence was all her father’s fault because he antagonized the defendant.
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The defendant sounds like she’s on the verge of tears the entire time she’s giving testimony 😢
She’s obviously dealing with a lot of emotional pain, which doesn’t heal like physical pain does.
She did
That's all I could focus on. Poor baby
And the judge with her slick comments ugh 😑 let her talk pls
@@GangstaBoo7 I actually think she gave her tough love.
She said 2 main things I think she tried teaching her.
People will test her for the rest of her life, she needs to be able to react in a way that doesn’t affect you negatively.
And also the fact about planning better and thinking things thoroughly. How will I get there ? How will I get back? Do I have money? Time? Etc etc. I felt bad for her the whole time but she’s soon to be a mom she needs this.
I believe every word the defendant said about her dad. Her dad is abusive and have never been there for her. I pray she gets counseling and therapy. I believe every word
So that excuses what she did to that woman’s car? That woman had nothing to do with their relationship.
No excuse at all for what she did to her car. She should be in control of her actions and behavior if she's not she was not taught well and that's on her mother. She actually thinks it's okay to vandalize property because her feelings were hurt. Even if he was the person she says and he isn't and I know that because he picked her up at Walmart but even if he was still doesn't give her a right to vandalize the car. What is going on in our country that makes people think this is an okay thing to do
If he is that abusive why is she calling him for a lift? He drops everything to go and get her and she throws a tantrum when he isn’t fast enough
@@jaynehogue2459pom
No one said she was lying…
The defendant HAS to learn FAST. Leave these dysfunctional people alone, get your education, career, therapy and be the best MOM possible. Raise good loving children and break that abusive chain. 👩🏿⚖️
Yes.
Amen amen amen!
And this is the problem in the black community too many black fathers are not stepping up and taking care of their family but we're quick to blame white people for everything
Easy enough to say, but do you really think someone who can’t afford an Uber, can afford therapy? That’s the sad part
@@alexrydercarter The government will help with free counseling, and churches/community centers can help with free counseling and therapy. Just have to research and ask for help.
You can tell the judge came from a good family and doesn't understand how much childhood abuse breaks someone down and makes you snap.
True... But at the same time, it's not a therapy session so it's not her job to discuss her traumas with her but to offer a logical solution for the case that is happening in the PRESENT moment
Nah she choose to be destructive to the vehicle. She is at fault 100%. She is an adult and didnt have to call the dad.
Yet she still called him for a ride....not her mom....not her "baby daddy"....she needs to take accountability.
The biggest problem between parents and kids is perception. She says he never did anything. Could he not done enough instead. Hey dad can you buy these Jordan’s? Sorry I can only afford these adidas. If he never done anything why would she feel comfortable asking for a random ride. Whatever short comings he may have had as a provider or father she expects him to make up for it the rest of his life. Grow up “young lady”!
I mean I had a very rough childhood with a similar story to her fathers but I think my dad was worse and he was in and out of jail and he was extremely abusive. The difference is me at 20 years old I definitely know someone who has a car and if I normally take the bus I’m going to make sure I can take the bus back and I would never call my father especially for a favor if I hate him. And the other thing is she has to have money because she gets TANF. I just don’t think she’s the most educated with what she saying about how she doesn’t have money or really a job and she’s eight months pregnant and her baby daddy doesn’t really do anything and then she has to ask her abusive father for favors because she decided that she wanted too many groceries and couldn’t take the bus. I don’t understand how she lives with her mother and they don’t know anyone with a car except the father.
Also if I have a job like babysitting and I know I need to get home by a certain time I’m going to make sure I get home at a certain time not do what I want and hope that it works out. I’m telling you this situation has more problems of a lack of education or common sense
Hearing her speak about her Dad brought me to tears. I felt her pain because I know what it's like to grow up with a Dad who isn't a Father. I know how it feels to have that ache at the bottom of your heart.
Love that expression "grow up with a Dad who isn't a Father...excellent comment.
Right! I had to stop watching for a moment because I got emotional.
I feel your pain dear… I’m so sorry for the disrespect he put you through. Hoping you can work though your rough past. Best of wishes to you 😢
My heart goes out to her because my father was the greatest man to me because he would pick up or drop off myself and my friends he is deceased and i still miss him.
That's exactly what she was trying to do she was manipulative she thinks that if she said he was antagonizing her that it's okay that she destroyed property and people actually allow her to get away with that because they feel sorry for her instead of correcting her and actually doing her good by exactly what the judge did making her pay holding her accountable that's how she learns that's how she grows
This is hard to watch... I can hear the hurt in her voice
Yes, she held it together as much as she could!
This isn’t hard for me to watch. She should’ve found another way, planned better or not went to the store.
She's so young I understand as she grows older I hope she learns how childhood affects adult hood so she doesn't repeat the cycle of violence with her own children. my heart goes out to her and her healing from her traumatic childhood
I feel bad for her honestly. Seeing her dad or having to ask for his help probably brought back a lot of pain and made her crack
I feel for the child she’s having ! She used their past as an excuse for her bad behavior. She’s dead ass wrong ! Why couldn’t her baby father Uber her ? Foh
That's ridiculous. She is immature and selfish and now she is going to raise a child with that same stupidity.
No way. Did you forget the point where she destroyed someone else's car because she was mad at her dad? Did you miss the point where she got out of the vehicle and went into the store to confront and argue with him? Did you forget the point where she decided to go and get groceries before work, and then once the blame her dad and get angry at him because she dropped the ball on her responsibilities? I don't feel bad for her at all. How old is that woman? Did you catch that? How old is she?
And this is the problem when it comes to the black community black fathers are not stepping it up like they should we blame white people for our problems
Oh yeah, she's not responsible for anything. It's deadbeat daddy's fault and maybe the pregnancy as well.
There is nothing worse than having to be dependent upon people who are abusive to you. The Defendant was on WIC, no vehicle, pregnant, and trying to make ends meet via babysitting.
So many of us have the luxury of not having to micromanage and plan every detail of our day just to avoid being put in a vulnerable position or toxic situation. She wanted to use all her WIC in that one trip so that she didn’t have to spend another half a day and bus ticket money to return and shop again. I get it.
My hope for her is that she focuses hard on gaining her own full independence in life - emotionally, financially, and otherwise - so she never again has to choose the better of two evils and instead can afford to go grocery shopping last minute if she wants to, pay for her groceries, and drive to work in her own car. That’s true freedom.
She can’t expect to destroy property and not pay to repair it - but I understand what led her to go nuts like that. I empathize with her.
Rich kids lose their temper and have the luxury of knowing they can afford to pay for the damage. How comforting it must feel to know that you can make mistakes and your finances can protect you. Those with less money literally cannot afford to screw up - it just spirals them deeper down the hole of dependency.
Yeeesssss all of this!
Love this❤️❤️❤️
Very insightful and so well put.
I agree. Well said
Very well said.
It seems like she’s seeking love from older men because the child’s father looks a lot older than her.
Or she could just like older men.
@@letsjustdirtbikenoooo I would white guys look much older for their age im always stunned when they say their 25 and I’m thinking their going on 34
No shit. Classic daddy issues
@@sheenaperez1882 bitch, she’s 20. Older men is not a normal preference at that age. It’s something deeper there and it’s CLEARLY her daddy issues
@@grassfedcharlieAnd that says more about the father than her. Why we blame ppl because of their parents is beyond asinine.
Im actually curious as to why the plaintiff lied about her relationship status with the dad
Yes and why didn't the judge press her on that. That was a lie to start. But the defendant is holding a lot of pain 😣
@@patsajak7809 TBH, it was irrelevant to the case. The defendant clearly vandalized the car. It was open and shut case.
@@MelancholicAwesomnes TBH preying into the young lady past was irrelevant but there it went. My point is since it went there let's ask why not be truthful about the relationship no one cares but since we are being are being noisy. 👂
@@patsajak7809 The defendant volunteered her past with her father as a part of her defense. I'm not saying that they weren't in a relationship they clearly were (unless this lady is just buying cars for all of her friends to use) but there was no point in the judge to question that seriously because ultimately it had no bearing on the case.
@@MelancholicAwesomnes you're right
The defendant is dealing with a lot of hurt from the dysfunctional relationship with her father. I hope she gets the healing she needs.
My thoughts exactly. Especially now that she's pregnant.
While pregnant
I hope the old man standing next to her, does something more to help her other than what he has done
Right. Old man. With this young girl, he should’ve been there to help her.
He’s one of these old men that want young fertile women.. he looks like her father and got her out her carrying groceries pregnant. Young women don’t fall for it. Live your life get you a career don’t let these old men trap you and control you
@@tjneverdefeated4394 He was in a different state as she stated. I hope they're both in the same state together.
Cuz he was definitely over 30 😒 Poor gal.
@@jennross6466 cool but as a grown ass man he could’ve wired his unborn child’s mother some money to make sure she’s good. He even could’ve ordered an Uber for her
How the plaintiff initially said the defendant's dad was her roommate, but she really just didn't want anyone to know that narcissistic, hot headed, woman beater is her man. Right or wrong, I feel horrible for the defendant she has some things she needs to work out from having a horrible father her whole life. Poor baby, I want to just hug her.
I also hated the plantiffs attitude. No spite, but she wanted to teach her a lesson. Ugh.
Women like that give me a headache.
If you're not her momma, there's no "lesson" you need to teach her. Especially if she was involved with the dad. 🤦♀️
I've lived with narcissistic men before, and I stood up to them when the folks I loved couldn't.
FACTS
@@OfficiallyKateandFree the girl messed up her car. Would you not be upset as well?
The judge said nothing about her lying
@@boujaydon6718 It wasn't irrelevant to the case.
Its clear this young lady has dealt with her fathers neglect and manipulative abuse her entire life. I hope and pray she finds her worth and moves on from such a toxic person.
Why not just have the person that you are babysitting for pick you up, simple solution⁉️
I feel bad for the defendant having a bad relationship with her dad but that’s no excuse for her trashing the car especially using government money to do it, If I heard her correctly she used WIC to pay for her groceries, WIC is a government program.
@@krullfamily5 her utilizing WIC has NOTHING to do with this. Her NEED for government assistance has nothing to do with. Maybe if she had a decent upbringing and father, even now, she wouldn’t NEED government assistance… see how that works. Taking in information given it wouldn’t be surprising if that father was on government assistance to this day and the children he has neglected are too. As a taxpayer I think most would be OK with destructing his property for being such a deadbeat jerk of a person. I’ll throw an extra five dollars for that because he should be in jail for creating such disasters for his offspring and the rest of the community. This young girl needs someone to lean on. She does NOT need more freaking criticism.
I was on WIC once too. Helped me and my daughter get and stay on our feet as we freed ourselves from a rotten situation with rotten adults. The program is to help. And that’s what it did. I hope nothing but the best for this young lady. Please move on, heal and be happy. She deserves THAT.
The cracking in her voice is killing me, she wants to cry so bad. Aww girl, sending you hugs 💔❤❤
She playing u with that act😂
My Dad molested me when I was 6 and 7. I finally forgave him at my age of 45. I thought it would open a door to maybe some communication. It did not. He was still a bad father. I can hear her pain when she is speaking. The best actress couldn't be this good. I hope she reads these supportive comments and know that she is the daughter of the one true Father, Jesus Christ!! I pray that life is better for you now. You are valuable and you are loved!!! ❤
I would NEVER forgive someone who molested me, then on top of that try to form a relationship with them? You sound as though you still don't love YOURSELF.
@@Childfree334 it’s not your place to comment on someone who is trying to heal. Your condescending comment is hurtful and not helpful.
@@Childfree334 Wtf is wrong with you?
My father did the same thing to me and I left home at 15 because I couldn’t deal with the abuse now I’m 23 and he has tried to reach out it’s very hard to forget the things that have happened to me
So you can’t judge
@@shrutefarms4741Absolutely
Why is she with this old man that ain’t even making sure she got money for a Uber and food
This is one of those cases where I feel for the defendant and 100% understand where she's coming for, but from a legal point you still gotta pay. Sad that they couldn't work something out - outside of court.
Morally the father should’ve paid for the car detailing
@@Nevaeh1 How do you figure morally the father is responsible? How much of her story do you believe?
@@Nevaeh1 not even morally .. she could've come after him for the money as he was responsible for the care of the care. Im very inclined to believe she asked him for the money and he cursed her out and told her to get it from the daughter.
@@mexicanspec he was responsible for returning the vehicle in the condition in which he got it. Ex. If he had a accident. Doesn't even matter if it wasn't his fault he is still responsible.. she let can sue him for the money or sue the person responsible. No way im dating a guy and he returns my car this way and he refuses to pay for it? I'm sueing him
@@TheZogie OK, but if he had an accident, the person that caused the accident would be responsible for the damage done. The court would not have ruled in your favor in that case. The person that causes the damage is liable for the payment.
Parents who don't act as parents are the reason life is how it is. Kids grow up with these types of outbursts and think their grown because their pregnant and older.
They’re…..not their.
But she’s 20 a young adult and not a child. She is grown
@@ChuChan009 yes, she’s 20. But let’s be honest, do you think she’s had the best role models. It’s not just about her, it’s also about what she’s been taught. What’s she’s witnessed as the norm during her upbringing. Those factors will affect how you mature. She’s still very much a kid.
@@kellyannr4171 the way you worded your original response confused me. Yes people can get emotionally stunted from trauma
@@kellyannr4171 Depends on the person, I didn’t have great parents but it matured me in many ways because I had to grow up fast because I was forced to by being put in situations I had no control over.
The defendant's baby's father could've cash app her in advance to get a LYFT or UBER. Those companies have a family account, so as long as a valid credit card on the account it can be used by anyone. 🙄
I definitely agree ! Very pathetic! I always call Uber but didn’t have it at the moment so the bus was my ride back ….I called my “father” hoping he can make things easier this one time .I have a real savings account that’s full of money from my two jobs I worked my whole pregnancy.I could of transfered the money but it takes hours to reach my bank . It was a bad day bad planning as she said, I was hungry ash... I expected everything else from the judge besides her rudeness.lessened learned 🤷♀️
@@nicki9185 some of us truly understand. I hope things are going well for you and your baby.
@@nicki9185i can’t stand when people compare bc you don’t know
Considering I've been riding with Lyft and Uber for over 5 years, I didn't know this was a feature
I know she needed to be held responsible and hopefully this is a lesson for her. But, I feel so bad for her. A lot of young people don't have very many people they can count on. I'm sure asking for help from him was a last resort. I hate the pain she is carrying due to her father's treatment. 💔
Losing your temper is never an option. I learned that the hard way. The pain we create for others is the pain we create for ourselves 😢
Judge Judy would’ve been cut off the emotions and drama she was giving 😅😂
🙂 and you have people thinking she would have did better if she went to Judge Mathis as well, he is not better when people are fully in the wrong he lets them have it, so she might have got it even worse with him... Judge milian was sympathetic at the very end when she awarded the plaintiff the money you can tell that she was hurt for the young woman but she had to do what she had to do because it's right...
Honestly I think the defendant full of shit...lol
The defendant s boyfriend showed no compassion towards her at all , he didn't try to comfort her or anything. 😞
He looks 109 years.. smh.. she may have engaged in a relationship with a version of her father.
@@TheZogie I said the SAME thing! I thought he was her dad at 1st
@@jshaianne26 its annoying me.. that neither the father who should of just gave his girlfriend the money , nor the new baby father who is probably the same age as her daddy had 278 to just pay for the detailing... smh
Not so sure. I think his presence is enough. She's an adult, she damaged the property, she's only one who's in the hot seat. Even he knows she's was stupid and childish to do that. Probably told her so. But he did show up to show his support when he didn't actually need to be there. also he hasn't dumped her yet, that has to count for something.
I understand what it’s like to have a crappy father. But you can’t messed up someone’s property. It only ends up hurting you in the long run. She just needs to go no contact for her peace of mind.
I hope babygirl has healed 🥺 . You can live without blood support.
This was a hard one to watch. I have this type of relationship with my mom and it sucks. I really feel her pain but the judge was right she should’ve only gotten what she can carry at the grocery store to limit any contact with her dad. I think she wants to repair that father daughter relationship but some people don’t change and in order to heal she’ll have to accept he might not ever be there for her like he’s supposed to.
Yep - I have a broken relationship with my parents. I left home at 18 and have always used the bus for grocery shopping. I am now 51 and have never had to defend myself in court against my parents or their life partners.
The way the defendant stared DIRECTLY into the camera at the start of the video is a sign that she is rather hallow! She is broken, clearly pregnant and in a depression. She needs real spiritual healing.
It's tragic her relationship with her father but she is still responsible for what she did to the young lady's car. Being emotional does not give you legal cause to trash somebody else's property.
I feel fort his young lady...you can tell she is going through it and has been going through it with him
As a man who sees this ratchet behaviour all the time; I am getting tired of the excuses and the passes women get. All the women are say; oh she she has a bad relationship with her father and needs healing; but what a man sees, is a woman who has money to spend on her hair, but has no money to pay for a ride, another 20 year old who is pregnant and unmarried, and on the way to becoming a single mother. A woman who shows no remorse, a lack of respect for other people's property, is angry, vindictive, lacks accountability and this is what black men are expected to out up with. We have normalize ratchet behaviour in our community; no thank you. I hope all you women who are giving her a pass; can also give the dad a pass; because he is who he is because he was poorly brought up by a single mother. I see this behaviour in black women regardless if they are educated or not; and yes; 95% of the black women I know are single or single mothers because no man can cope with them. It might not be a problem when you are young, but when you get older; none of these dogooder women who encouraged your ratchet behaviour will be there to help you. I sometimes get calls from the old, single women who were unable to hold down a man; some are having financial probkems, some are having problems with neighbors etc; I refuse to help them because these are the women who claim that they did not need a man or refused to cooperate with a man; do I don't get involved in their business. In fact I try not to deal with them at all
@Anon_E_Mouse : Women are the only ones who can prevent themselves from getting pregnant. They have 30+ forms of birth control. they choose the man to have unprotected sex with, they can take the morning after pill, they can abstain altogether blah, blah. All I can say is this; I have taken responsibility; I know very few black women whom are in long term, meaningful, loving respectful relationships. so I have taken a leaf out of your book; I prefer not to deal with them at all. They are all single mothers, single women, overweight, have bad attitudes and all seem to be wearing weaves or have a stupid wig on their heads. One this I have learnt over the years; nothing is ever a black woman's fault. Somehow they will find a man to blame for everything.
I wish there was a little more sympathy for her here. She understands what she did she just flewoff the handle which happens to everyone from time to time.,...... Can we at least cut out the snickering and eye rolling? Wow.
@@gkh2515 : why? She is your typical black women. Can't have an argument without keying a man's car, bleaching his clothes, breaking his car window or preventing the guy from seeing his kids. I have seen them do this many times and have experienced it myself. As a result, I no longer engage with black women; neither do many of my friends. And of course; she will be understood by all the other black women who have done it themselves. So when we decide to disengage and leave the plantation for better women; the same women who abuse us and damage our property call us trash and weak. Well; so be it. They never brought much to the table in the first place. Someone who brings a lot if debt, other men's children, obesity, a very bad attitude and chaos to the table, should know that they can be replaced at any time. I am pleased that black men are getting their passports and leaving. In good times, 80% of black women are single. In the future, all that will be left are Chads and Tyrones. Good luck with that.
@@gkh2515 : and the funny thing is that the men might not even be her father. I have seen these women kicking up dust and calling the man a deadbeat; but when the man gets a paternity test; it is not even his kid. This is the sh** that black men have to put up with on a regular basis
You can’t pick and choose what you get on wic. I don’t think the judge gets that part. Her baby father shouldn’t have her in that terrible situation without money or anything.
Yeah she is out of touch
You buy what you can carry to avoid dad is all
NOPE. She shouldn't have put herself in that position, namely open legs and dead ass brain.
I've dealt with mental, physical and emotional abuse from my family all of my 42 years of life. It's taken 42 years to finally stand up for myself because everyone wants to act like the victim when they're the ones doing the abuse. I'm done and moving on alone and I'm ok with that in this point of my life!
Please get this baby some counseling. She has trauma from her father's relationship. She is now pregnant and the man she is with is questionable to me too.
The young lady said she is 20. Why does her child's father look like he is in his 50's.
Your point? I’m embarrassed as to HOW is that ALL U TOOK FROM THE ENTIRE CASE???
Not making an excuse for the defendant, but it's so obvious that she had been carrying the weight of her childhood trauma for a long time and finally exploded. What she did was wrong, but understandable. She's saying she wants her father to pay for the car damage...that's her way of trying to force him to finally pay for something...anything. She comes off as defiant, but there's definitely a story behind it all. She's only 20, but as time goes on she'll eventually learn how to handle hurtful situations.
I really feel for the defendant in this case. What she’s dealing with is hard on so many different levels. It felt like the judge didn’t empathize with her, but really she did. And I feel like she gave the best advice the defendant could probably ever hear. I hope she never feels like she needs her father for anything else.
You are right. The judge gave her the greatest gift - real-life advice. It’s clear the defendant doesn’t understand how to maneuver through life wisely. Your focus should have been on work, not shopping. If your father is unreliable and aggressive, don’t look to him for support. She is going to be raising a baby soon. I fear these mistakes will continue to the next generation. (Father living in a different state than she does is not a good start for her or the baby.)
The defendant is so hurt but very immature.
Yes
I feel for the defendant. I also understand the judge’s passion to try to help her understand why she was not justified. The judge said what she needed to hear. In the adult world we don’t get to do things like this and get away with it. She definitely should’ve made different decisions this day. And that old man that got her pregnant should’ve been there for her.
Ikr !! His old butt.
She did tell the judge the baby father lived in a different state
@@ImWorthy4Real he could’ve cash apped her, venmo, wore her money, send her an Uber/lyft. If he wanted to, he would’ve.
She’s trying to find that father figure. Whew girl I understand how she feel. My father is emotionally unavailable! I still haven’t said how I felt about him. Also I dated older men and many men trying to find that father figure . She had to go to therapy and pray.
Everything you said is true and facts , same with me . Father emotionally unavailable and I’ve always dated older. Things like this does affect a woman and how she handles intimate relationships.
Ive seen this one. This young lady is yearning for proper fatherly support. Its heartbreaking. Move on girl. YOU and your baby deserve SO MUCH MORE sweetheart. SO MUCH MORE.
Poor girl. The whole time holding back tears. Her actions were emotional and unnecessary. I do however hope she finds peace.
Whew 20 years old, already pregnant, with no money, no car, and needs a WIC card to buy food smh. I see this all too often and it's sad that so many of these young girls go out and get pregnant with absolutely nothing to offer a child besides instant poverty.
And her baby’s father should make sure she has the things she needs to feed their growing child. Children raising children!
@@TheAray6 I point less blame at whoever the father is because as women we make the conscious decision to accept whatever outcome when we open our legs and if we don't take any measures to prevent it (Plan B, birth control, condoms, whatever) then that's just poor decision-making on us. Going out and letting some horny knucklehead dude get her pregnant when she can't even afford to take care of herself is not the guy's fault unless it was rape. I just find it sad that alot of these young girls nowadays seem to feel like becoming a mother is some type of first right of adulthood or something smh.
Exactly and bad attitude. Just cause someone make you mad doesn’t excuse bad behavior.
Things can change for her... just like you can have it today and it be gone tomorrow. Also, it's not just the young girl, seem like the dad don't have much to offer either.
@@sheenaperez1882 I point less blame at whoever the father is because as women we make the conscious decision to accept whatever outcome when we open our legs and if we don't take any measures to prevent it (Plan B, birth control, condoms, whatever) then that's just poor decision-making on us. Going out and letting some horny knucklehead dude get her pregnant when she can't even afford to take care of herself is not the guy's fault unless it was rape. I just find it sad that alot of these young girls nowadays seem to feel like becoming a mother is some type of first right of adulthood or something smh.
I feel so bad for the defendant. The baby dad looks to be twice his age yet he doesn't support her financially. She needs to get tax payer assistance?? And then get father is a dead beat? I'll pray for this young lady.
My heart is broken for the defendant. Also, the judge clearly doesn't understand anything about abuse and trauma as she starts screaming at this girl. She doesn't understand, people can't just go to any old store to get food, life isn't that easy for everyone....I am kinda disgusted at the Judges treatment.
Me also!!!!
Unfortunately for some people when you haven’t lived that lifestyle you don’t know how to gain empathy for those who have struggling relationships. I pray this young lady finding healing and understanding
@@kerrywhite5253 and normally I agree with MM. She's tough and we have a lot of people that live in thr excuse world which does nothing for them in the long run but I would have at least been a little gentle and compassionate to her that although the law is the law, I understand her, I hear her, and she could have used some words of encouragement to let that young lady hear some positive things about herself before she goes into motherhood! I just expected her to use that as a learning opportunity for some good!
You are assuming that she is telling the truth. I know from experience that these women lie about this all the time. She is your typical black woman, angry, vindictive, lacks accountability, pregnant for a man who lives in another state etc etc. I bet everything that she will end up a single mum. Guys; nearly all there women are like this; it you deal with them; you will get this behaviour everyday. Just leave the plantation.
Agree, she’s(JM) been turning me off lately.
the way that child was getting treated like a criminal the entire time bothers me.
If he treats his own blood daughter like that I can only imagine how he treats his gf
Lord her “dad” is SICK!!!! I just wanna hug her
Not everyone who can make a baby, makes a good parent. I hope she doesn't carry this resentment and pain for much longer but she clearly wants him to be a good father to her. And I know it's petty, but the way the plaintiff responded to allegations of abuse felt like that of an abused spouse.
The plaintiff has to nip that behaviour in the bud. All that "he shouldn't have antagonized me" "they know my character, they shouldn't push my buttons" and blaming the other side for your physical outbursts is all learnt behaviour from her father which is making HER become an abuser. The vicious cycle has to be broken.
It's crazy how they talk to people when they know they have trauma, I bet you if they went to judge Mathis he would have been questioning where the father is and tore him a new one and they given her some words of encouragement. Because they way she talked to her what so judgemental, even the sound she made when she when she realized she was pregnant was wrong.
Judge Mathis is not better when people are fully in the wrong he lets them have it, so she might have got it even worse with him... Judge milian was sympathetic at the very end when she awarded the plaintiff the money you can tell that she was hurt for the young woman but she had to do what she had to do because it's right...
Honestly I think the defendant full of shit...
I want to give the defendant the biggest hug 🥺. My heart is broken for her.
She's definitely telling the truth about the father and I wish the judge wasn't so harsh with her
She wasnt harsh. She was straight with her. She needed to hear that. Aint no babying around here foh. The girl was wrong. Straight up. I would of been much more harder on her if i were the judge. I think the judge was fairly firmed.
@@mannygomez5213Exactly. She’s having a child of her own for goodness sake. She’s immature and reacted the way kids do. It’s time to grow up and regardless of how annoyed people make you, you cannot react that way.
Why did she get pregnant 😭😭 That poor baby is gonna have a hard life
Life is precious.
I hate that she has a horrible relationship w. Her father but I'm glad the judge was straightforward with her. It's her responsibility to heal now as an adult and being emotional isn't a good excuse to be reckless. Damaging someone's property only hurts you in the end and pulls away from the already limited resources you have. Gotta move better. Hope she gets the help she needs to move forward 🙏🏾
that girl needs a mentor and healing . her dad parading her around is disgusting.
Lord I wish I could hug her 🥺❤️
Okay, the plaintiffs glasses are SO COOL 💗
Wow. And she’s even pregnant, watch the cycle repeat.
Not necessarily. I had my daughter at 18, not proud of the moment, but it happened. My daughter is 25 and is childless, works, and almost finished RN school. I'm a RN as well. I had 2 drug addicted parents growing up. There's hope!! If you want to do better, you try and make it better!!
People need to realize that it don't matter if it's your mother or father, if they are abusive and negative they don't have to or need to be in your life.
I feel so sorry for this girl!
I’m sorry, why would you call an abusive man to help you who has never helped you before?? 🤔
Desperate?
This girl has real daddy issues and you can see she doesn’t listen and is very incorrigible. Her hate and pain for her father her life her mother on top of her attitude .she really will learn probably the hard way in life
What do you know??nothing.
@@janellewilliams7908 you must be sleeping with her cause you too emotionally attached get done help . I know a lot
@@smoothwill obviously not bc it made you mad when your knowledge was questioned. you don’t know these people personally and you’re judging a 20 y/o seek help
@@joshlynguzman8369 go kick rocks ya dig
I always heard that when milk gets spilled in a car, there's not much you can do other than pulling out the carpets and padding and replacing it. Unless you do that, on a hot day when the car is closed, the stink will still be there. I have a feeling this girl knew she wouldn't win the case but wanted to say her piece about her father on national TV.
This is an example of how black women face intersectional harm that goes unchecked. She alludes to her father being emotionally, physically, and sexually abusive. Instead of extending grace the court shames her.
I really hate when people in the government and people that has to rule judgement over people act as if they don’t understand how abusive people work or how hard it is to get away from abusive family especially when you’ve been broken down and made weak your whole life.
The lack of compassion in the world is so scary. She should’ve sued her dad for emotional abuse. It’s so much I can say on this case. Some of these rulings piss me off.
literally!!! they said “being annoying” like he wasn’t full on abusive
Every action has consequences! Judges are supposed to be unemotional and unbiased. He wasn't holding her against her will or harming her so her excuse was illegal!
Emotions don't have any bearing, only thing that matters is did she damage the car.
The defendant made me cry 😢 she was so hurt. Every girl needs there dad
I'm sorry babygirl. I hate to see this. Hugs for the defendant ❤
I think this girl needed more emphaty. I get the whole law thing, I do, but damn... I can feel her pain through the screen.
I agree, if you're going to pry at least show some compassion to the young lady. This was sad and she seemed so alone. I pray she gets the support she needs
I really love how the judge puts her mom hat on when it's needed. The problem is that I don't think she got the point
I agree. I think she wasn’t comprehending the history that both the defendants and plaintiffs have. The defendant said she’s known this lady to live with her father since she was young, with the dad always driving her car for as long as she can remember. They are for sure more than “roommates” and honestly he shoulda payed for the cheap ass detail on that car
I agree I mean normally if you loan someone a car, the person driving is responsible. She could have easily lied too like the plantiff did about her relationship to the father. The defendant coulve said she was never in the car and the man who took the car becomes responsible... I would think if she really didn't know the father that well and he borrowed the car she would sue the person she let borrow it .... But it seems she had some secret animosity towards the daughter or just plain nasty for "teaching" her a lesson... The lesson would be to stay away from toxic people and work hard to gain your own independence for you, and I don't see how she was right to teach the lesson if she lets the "ROOMMATE" DRIVE the car more than her..... Sue the person you had an agreement with .. when you loan a car out the driver is responsible... I wouldn't have taken the time out to hear the story just fix it you drove it you fix it .. the father could've then sued his daughter... But to each their own ideas I guess.
I wish this case was one where the judges talked about the case afterwards not some random question, I would love to have heard JM opinion.😒
She is 20 and preg6for this fool next to her who looks old enough to be her father. He can't even provide transportation for her.
😂 prego at 20 with a attitude.. with a guy who isn’t even in the state .. this girl makes the worst decisions 😂
Not one of her brightness moments, people make mistakes. I'm sure you've made a few, if you're human you have!
@@virgo7956 I’m a terminator sorry I’ll be back!
I love how the judge Breaks down the common sense to her! Not many judges do that. Like trudy would have called her names like always. That's why I always watch this show.
I really hope the defendant has a supportive network. It is necessary for healing. My heart breaks for her in this testimony.
The defendant claims her father has never been there for her, but is able to just phone him and ask for a ride back from the shops and he turns up willing to be a taxi driver and she vandalizes the car, instead of saying 'Thank you', because she has so much hurt built up from the past, that she just snapped...
I think maybe they've had a poor relationship but feel she is making it out to be far worse than she claims. She calls him and no one else for a ride when she didn't plan, then gets annoyed because he doesn't come quick enough, then picks a fight with him at the gas station and then has a tantrum. She was acting like a spoilt brat, she's not exactly scared of him for someone so abusive. She needed a WiK card to get food and yet she wastes it throwing it all over and in the car. I think she is the one with the bad attitude especially when she finds out it is his roommate/partners car and still doesn't see why she should have to pay. It goes both ways, one bad act doesn't excuse another
I felt so much compassion for the defendant.I was blessed to have a father who was there for me,but I know that's not the case with everyone.She needs to cut ties with the loser,if he hasn't been there for her up to now and all he does is antagonize her it's not worth it for her to interact with him.
I know exactly what the defendant means when she said her dad was antagonizing her holding her up from work. My mom would do the same shit.
Honestly, this defendant sounds like there is a lot more behind to what she has experienced, but that may just be me reading into it. I pray for healing
I feel for her but she is also an adult. You can’t go through life blaming your parents especially when you are about to be one yourself. She needs to learn restraint and proper conduct. Hope she can find healing and get herself in a position where she doesn’t need her father financially.
I feel so bad for this young lady. I understand how she feels, I can feel her pain in her voice. Her dad and his lying woman should be better adults and help her instead of trying to hurt her.
i’m confused as to why the baby daddy wasn’t questioned…
The load was so heavy …
The judge has no clue what it’s like to be poor trying to get what you can while you’re out and no way to make it. She said in a prior episode she barely had chores. She needs to indulge in the culture to understand.
I want to hug her so bad … so sad . Hope everything gets better for her
I know what she did was wrong but I just want to give her a huge hug.
She is allowing a LOT more "someone told me" than she usually does. She wasn't even there when anything happened.
So hungry you threw your eggs and milk out smh🙁
OH my gosh! she girl is so broken inside 😢you can hear it in her voice and see it in her actions and the judge can be a lil more nice to this young girl and her bf looks much older than her I hope and pray he treats her right cause being 20 is not your prime years as a woman and I hope she’s not looking for daddy love
Hey girl if you see this I hope you and your baby are doing good! I feel your pain about having a crappy dad.
The defendants baby father should be ashamed to stand there and listen to her testify she didn’t have money for the bus. He looks way older than her too!
And the worst part is is that the defendant doesn't see how she's gonna perpetuate the fatherless cycle with her child almost due.
I think the plaintiff and the dad of the defendant ARE romantic and she lied. I believe the young lady when she says that he abuses the plaintiff because why would she make that up? The abusive boyfriend/father put the plaintiff up to this so he can get back at his daughter instead of manning up, and taking care of the $270
I like the closing interview - Not sorry! - good for her! But yeah, lesson learned - You do not have a father. Sperm donors deserve to be forgotten forever. Get a backpack and a suitcase with wheels, and never buy more than you can carry on the bus.
As a adult, You have to have self retraint even if he Hurt you emotionaly in the past. No self control and immature .
This young lady broke my heart. The plaintiff KNOWS this young lady isn’t making things up. The dad doing “things” for the plaintiff so she’s turning a blind eye. I feel bad for both of them
Can people stop excusing the old man who got this young lady pregnant saying he lives in another state?? So what? This is 2022 you can cash app, Zelle, Venmo money to a person anywhere. He could’ve called her an Uber from his phone in any state. He is obviously good for nothing just like the dad. Hopefully this young lady can move on and be a great mom because she won’t be getting support from these people
I felt that when she said they're going to test you every minute!!!!
I love the judge's discussion at the end of some videos, those two should have their own show!
I know exactly how she feels my father is a horrible person. And I promise she will do well without him.
Pregnant by a old ass dude that can’t even send you money this is sad . Ladies don’t sleep with a dude who can’t back you up financially.
The man did not even show up to court. You know what kind of man and father he is.