I’m rooting for you Allison! I supported my oldest sister through her fertility journey starting when she was your age. She’s now the proud momma to a ten year old girl and twin eight year old girls. 💕 Sending you all the positive baby juju your way
This is probably an absolutely unhinged thing to say, but your future pregnancy is directly connected to your sweet mother! All of the eggs you have in your body were grown while your mom was pregnant with you - she helped you grow them! I don’t know if that’s super weird to have you think about, but that connection is there! When I was pregnant with my first, before we knew it was a boy, I came to the realization that if it was a girl, then the eggs that would/could someday become my grandchildren would also be growing inside me! I told my OB and she was like “I’ve literally never thought about that - I have to tell all my colleagues” 😂 Turns out we had 2 boys (one I had just before my 37th birthday), so it was moot point, but I was/am 200% that weird friend who only talks about the bizarre / insane / gross / mind-bending parts of getting pregnant, being pregnant, and giving birth! There’s so many things that are completely NUTS! Sending good vibes!
My mom died when I was a kid and I think about this fact sometimes too!!! Even though my kids (hopefully I will have kids in the future, I’m 21 and haven’t had a gf yet tho so we’ll see) will never get to meet her they were inside her too :)
Rooting for you Allison!!! I have been going through life with you two for, like, 10 years?? And I'm so grateful for all of the ways you have shared life with us ❤
As someone in Europe... the cost of children in the US is CRAZY. Over here (Denmark, but also most other countries I believe), postpartum visits are free, IVF for 3 tries is free, everything is free. Also post-delivery / maternity wards only have 2-3 women on them if they have to stay in hospital.
I was listening to another podcast and one of the hosts had a premie baby and the cost for the entire process once mom was in labour was one million dollars. Like....what? If they didn't have excellent insurance, they would just be in a life-long medical debt. And most States won't allow abortions....people in power in the US are just being blatant, at this point, about keeping the population in a cycle of poverty 😡
It took my mum six months to get pregnant after coming off her birth control. I think it can take some time for your hormones to balance back out if you’ve been on birth control for a long time so it’s normal for it not to happen right away. I was also told in secondary school by my RE teacher that it can take up to two years for a healthy couple to get pregnant. Which is CRAZY.
Best of luck, Allison! It took me about three months off of the birth control pill to get pregnant. After the third month, we started using ovulation tests to track my ovulation and it worked! We had positive pregnancy tests two months in a row (I lost the first pregnancy early on, and got pregnant again the very next month). I hope it works out well for you and John!
The mental swap seems hard. Even now, into my mid-30s, I have a weird time reconciling in my head why everyone is automatically giddy and congratulating anyone pregnant. Objectively I’m aware that’s the social standard but also it sometimes feels like everyone is lying to you that pregnancy isn’t also TERRIFYING in a myriad of ways even if it can also be wonderful.
I got curious about this "flushing out" procedure and apparently it is an x-ray evaluation of your tubes for potential issues - to make the tubes visible, they fill them with a dye and it has a secondary effect of this dye clearing the tubes and making it more likely to conceive. Dr. Susan Wolf on URANJ writes "Studies have shown that there is up to 30% increased pregnancy rates for the first 3 months after an HSG for couples with unexplained infertility. It is presumed that the dye itself flushes out debris (ALSO KNOWN AS "TUBAL GOO") and if that was all that was preventing pregnancy, you conceive within 3 months." Dr. Wolf did not write it in all caps, that's my stylistic addition, but this is a real, otherwise unaltered quote from a real doctor!
This is only tangentially related, but I'm gay and one time a female friend said she was trying to get pregnant, so another female friend was joking like "just go have sex now!" No kidding, I've been gay for so long I seriously thought "what does sex have to do with getting pregnant???". Took me a minute to remember.
Every time I find out about the us medical system in regards to pregnancy it sounds DYSTOPIAN. In Canada this is all free. ALL postpartum visits are IN YOUR HOME. because you need to be resting. (At some point you go back to the office but it’s after a long while).
I live in the UK and my mum is a midwife that works in a birth centre (for low risk pregnancies that don't need hospital intervention). As standard, for free, she does post-partum home visits and there's a midwife in the team on call 24 hours a day contactable by work phone
Trying to get pregnant is just the weirdest thing in the entire world. My best friend and I got weirdly got pregnant the same day this year. She wasn't even trying and I had been trying for two years. Same due and conception date and everything! I miscarried and her baby is strong as hell. It's just so hard to predict and so weird! Best of luck to you guys! I genuinely hope that every couple that truly yearns for children and would just be the best parents get their dream.
Mother of 2: highly recommend hiring a doula if possible!! I could barely afford it, but I’d pay even more than I did. They were worth their weight in gold tbh
My three closest female friends are all in the baby planning phase, too. Well… at least for now, my cats are my only two babies. All the best to Allison and John and future little Blakeslee/Raskin
I am 6 months pregnant now. I don't enjoy being pregnant at all but I am so happy I am and so excited to meet my baby. Getting pregnant is harder than it seems ! So weird. Good luck !
Thinking of you:) It took me a year of trying to get pregnant. I CAN’T stand when people say “It will happen.” It’s been over a year now trying for a second child. Trying to get pregnant is wild. Every month I don’t get pregnant I try to enjoy something I couldn’t do if I were pregnant.
As someone who is currently pregnant, following fertility treatments / procedures, I can attest - there is generally a lot of “guuk” involved. (This response had me cackling.) Kudos to you both for your continuing brutal, yet surprisingly tender, honesty. Also, pro-tip: never name the Scottish play in the bedroom, Allison! ;-) Break a leg.
Best of luck and baby dust to you! ❤️ I'm so sorry has all been mixed up with the pain of losing your mum and not having her along with this journey. Also ooof the US system is so awful.
I use the Oura ring and the natural cycles app to track my cycle and both have made me feel so much connection and confidence in my body! They give useful information that is specific to where you are in your cycle “prep for ovulation pain” and does so much more! I highly recommend this combo ❤ have lots of “fun time” and make sure to take moments to de-stress! So many people I know say that’s when it happened for them (eg. On vacation)
The cost of a baby in the US is craaaaaazy. AND YOU DON'T EVEN GET THE PHONE NUMBER OF YOUR DOCTOR!? That's insane. México is so much better about medical care for mothers and for a waaay better price.
My wife suffers from endometriosis, she's had 15 operations. We tried IVF didn't work now we're trying our second round of egg donation. It's not easy navigating the emotional roller coaster, when every other couple around you seems to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat
Omg I was suscribed since you started but tbh I havent watch for ages. All my best wishes to Allison, and also GABE WHATTTT you were a sexy cute powerfull person and now youre a sexy cute powerfull beasssttt (in the best way possible) ❤ Im so happy and proud of you two! It really shows how much you have grown since the Buzzfeed times ✨ all love and respect for both of you 💖
My sister has been doing IVF for a couple of years now. I don't know how she's handling it, honestly. I mean she'd handling it all so beautifully and I would be a disaster.
in more unsolicited advice - I struggled for 2.5 years trying to conceive with my first, and just 2 months for my second - the ovulation strips that you pee on really helped! (and was different than what the period tracker was saying for me)
I want to add, don't get too discouraged if you have an early miscarriage (i say early because later ones are not something I have experienced and I don't know if any strong feelings can be avoided in that case, but when it's just a couple of cells it's easier to get over it ). It can be scary and make you think your body can't make it, but that's not what it means. I just had my baby that was conceived immediately after a miscarriage, didn't have time to have another real period. And I'm 40. I hope that gives you hope. By the way, my baby is called Felix Gabriel. It's not because of Gabe but also not not because of Gabe (wink wink).
I tried for a year and then saw a doctor and found out my progesterone is low. I wish I went earlier. If you are trying for a while just go and have your stuff checked! 😊
Okay but Blake Lee Blakesly is genuinely kind of a cool name 😂 Anyway, good luck, Allison! Hope this happens for you and that you have an easy pregnancy!
I know it’s hard :( I know many people (well 3) that were on birth control for 10 yrs, and it took them 2 years to get pregnant after that. It often (I’m not saying this is the case for you) takes time for your body to recover from birth control and normalize itself. Keep in mind, I am no doctor… this is just the experience of 3 close friends. So even if it takes time, it doesn’t mean you won’t get pregnant.
The geriatric pregnancy thing is so tired. I feel like constantly being reminded that you’re an older parent and that there’s risks is worse for a pregnant person’s health than their chronological age is. Also, fun story: I was scolded by my doctor for calling my own pregnancy “geriatric”-doc: “we call it advanced maternal age now, it’s less offensive”; me: “I’m the one who would be offended, and I’m more offended that you’re yelling at me at my confirmation of pregnancy appointment when you should be nice to me.”
Nosebleeds indicate pregnancy? Shit my nose has been bleeding a lot these past few years. I may be the first victim of immaculate conception in a male body!!!!!!
If you want a kid, go to a fertility OB now. They can check everything. Everyone says to wait a year but frankly that's too long. Go now, make sure everything is good with you and your partner.
IT IS SO WEIRD. validating that it's weird and that it's okay for it to be weird and it's okay to be like... vocal about it. especially if/when you start fertility treatments.
This is a tangent but I personally hate "good luck" for anything! I hate the idea that we should need luck to be successful at something. I always try to say something like "you're prepared for this" if it something they have control over, or at least "have fun" if it's something they don't.
As someone who lost my dad a year ago, and has also spent this year trying to conceive - I felt so seen! And people are always astounded when it takes time to fall pregnant. The worst advice is “don’t think about it” 🤣🫨 Good luck Allison, maybe we will both be lucky soon and I’ll have a buddy through this journey on the other side of the world! Love you both (long time listener, watcher, fan) ♥️
And Gabe is the one trying to get her pregnant! Just kidding but that would've been the go to joke back in the day You know, Allison could've been getting pregnant while they were filming. By which I mean you don't get pregnant during the sex. The sperm penetrates the egg like, later.
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My heart broke when Allison said the worst part is that she can’t call her mom about it. 💔💔💔
Tragedeigh-lynn is a FANTASTIC joke for someone coping with a loss with humor. Props to gabe for being both clever and a good friend
literally came here to write the same thing 😂
This is the phase of life I'm at now too!! The time between ovulation and the next period is what I now call: Schrodinger's Baby 🙃
I’m rooting for you Allison! I supported my oldest sister through her fertility journey starting when she was your age. She’s now the proud momma to a ten year old girl and twin eight year old girls. 💕 Sending you all the positive baby juju your way
This is probably an absolutely unhinged thing to say, but your future pregnancy is directly connected to your sweet mother! All of the eggs you have in your body were grown while your mom was pregnant with you - she helped you grow them! I don’t know if that’s super weird to have you think about, but that connection is there!
When I was pregnant with my first, before we knew it was a boy, I came to the realization that if it was a girl, then the eggs that would/could someday become my grandchildren would also be growing inside me! I told my OB and she was like “I’ve literally never thought about that - I have to tell all my colleagues” 😂
Turns out we had 2 boys (one I had just before my 37th birthday), so it was moot point, but I was/am 200% that weird friend who only talks about the bizarre / insane / gross / mind-bending parts of getting pregnant, being pregnant, and giving birth! There’s so many things that are completely NUTS!
Sending good vibes!
My mom died when I was a kid and I think about this fact sometimes too!!! Even though my kids (hopefully I will have kids in the future, I’m 21 and haven’t had a gf yet tho so we’ll see) will never get to meet her they were inside her too :)
@@riverogue13 It is unique to see that you don't have a gf yet, but you have clarity that you want to raise kids from *your* eggs with a gf.
@ I don’t want to raise kids alone but there are options like sperm donation and studf
Rooting for you Allison!!!
I have been going through life with you two for, like, 10 years?? And I'm so grateful for all of the ways you have shared life with us ❤
As someone in Europe... the cost of children in the US is CRAZY. Over here (Denmark, but also most other countries I believe), postpartum visits are free, IVF for 3 tries is free, everything is free. Also post-delivery / maternity wards only have 2-3 women on them if they have to stay in hospital.
I was listening to another podcast and one of the hosts had a premie baby and the cost for the entire process once mom was in labour was one million dollars. Like....what? If they didn't have excellent insurance, they would just be in a life-long medical debt. And most States won't allow abortions....people in power in the US are just being blatant, at this point, about keeping the population in a cycle of poverty 😡
It took my mum six months to get pregnant after coming off her birth control. I think it can take some time for your hormones to balance back out if you’ve been on birth control for a long time so it’s normal for it not to happen right away. I was also told in secondary school by my RE teacher that it can take up to two years for a healthy couple to get pregnant. Which is CRAZY.
Best of luck, Allison! It took me about three months off of the birth control pill to get pregnant. After the third month, we started using ovulation tests to track my ovulation and it worked! We had positive pregnancy tests two months in a row (I lost the first pregnancy early on, and got pregnant again the very next month). I hope it works out well for you and John!
Oh, so you're trying to get pregnant? "break an egg!"
Also baby stage left is hilarioussssss
thanks for being so open & honest about this Alison! god willing you’ll be able to prank your child soon🙏🏼😂
The mental swap seems hard. Even now, into my mid-30s, I have a weird time reconciling in my head why everyone is automatically giddy and congratulating anyone pregnant. Objectively I’m aware that’s the social standard but also it sometimes feels like everyone is lying to you that pregnancy isn’t also TERRIFYING in a myriad of ways even if it can also be wonderful.
Yep, both things are true.
I got curious about this "flushing out" procedure and apparently it is an x-ray evaluation of your tubes for potential issues - to make the tubes visible, they fill them with a dye and it has a secondary effect of this dye clearing the tubes and making it more likely to conceive.
Dr. Susan Wolf on URANJ writes "Studies have shown that there is up to 30% increased pregnancy rates for the first 3 months after an HSG for couples with unexplained infertility. It is presumed that the dye itself flushes out debris (ALSO KNOWN AS "TUBAL GOO") and if that was all that was preventing pregnancy, you conceive within 3 months."
Dr. Wolf did not write it in all caps, that's my stylistic addition, but this is a real, otherwise unaltered quote from a real doctor!
This is incredible!
It started as a test for people with a history of a chlamydia infection. Chlamydia is known for closing tubes.
im sorry T U B A L G O O
This is only tangentially related, but I'm gay and one time a female friend said she was trying to get pregnant, so another female friend was joking like "just go have sex now!" No kidding, I've been gay for so long I seriously thought "what does sex have to do with getting pregnant???". Took me a minute to remember.
Thanks for sharing with us!! You two bring so many laughs and godwilling you will continue passing them on to and during Tragedeigh
Thank you!!!
Gabe I really enjoy seeing how much you make Allison laugh! It’s a reminder of how important friendship is during the hard moments ❤
Every time I find out about the us medical system in regards to pregnancy it sounds DYSTOPIAN.
In Canada this is all free. ALL postpartum visits are IN YOUR HOME. because you need to be resting. (At some point you go back to the office but it’s after a long while).
god willing allison gets to prank her child 🤞🏾😤
Oof this stuff is so tough! Break a leg, Allison!
I live in the UK and my mum is a midwife that works in a birth centre (for low risk pregnancies that don't need hospital intervention). As standard, for free, she does post-partum home visits and there's a midwife in the team on call 24 hours a day contactable by work phone
i generally hate most pranks but the sugar needs to be wet is hilarious
I'm in month 4 of trying. Really hoping this month is the one. Your situation is so hard. I'm sending you all the baby dust
Good luck! Keep in mind you're only just starting out
Trying to get pregnant is just the weirdest thing in the entire world. My best friend and I got weirdly got pregnant the same day this year. She wasn't even trying and I had been trying for two years. Same due and conception date and everything! I miscarried and her baby is strong as hell. It's just so hard to predict and so weird! Best of luck to you guys! I genuinely hope that every couple that truly yearns for children and would just be the best parents get their dream.
I was almost Frank Frank Frank. Really dodged a bullet
I’m sorry Gabe asking why Allison pranked John?? Have we forgotten the month-long French kissing prank?!
OMG I completely forgot about that!!!!
Mother of 2: highly recommend hiring a doula if possible!! I could barely afford it, but I’d pay even more than I did. They were worth their weight in gold tbh
I squealed when I saw this video! Such a privilege to see you at a new life phase❤
Gabe's reaction to the flushing out of the tubes explanation was too much 😆
My three closest female friends are all in the baby planning phase, too.
Well… at least for now, my cats are my only two babies.
All the best to Allison and John and future little Blakeslee/Raskin
I am 6 months pregnant now. I don't enjoy being pregnant at all but I am so happy I am and so excited to meet my baby.
Getting pregnant is harder than it seems ! So weird.
Good luck !
In Korean guk means soup. Allison are you full of soup? 😂
Funnily enough, being "full of soup" is a colloquialism in r/RATS for when a rat is pregnant.
As someone who has had an HSG it is incredible hearing you describe flushing out the gunk
If you want to be a mom, you will be. No matter how or when it happens. I'm excited for you
10:49 I immediately thought, “that’s the kind of mom Allison is going to be” ❤ 😂
The Return of Pranks
lmao god bless you in your journey to have a child to prank
Omg Allison I’m crying laughing about the sopping wet dog prank
Thinking of you:) It took me a year of trying to get pregnant. I CAN’T stand when people say “It will happen.” It’s been over a year now trying for a second child. Trying to get pregnant is wild. Every month I don’t get pregnant I try to enjoy something I couldn’t do if I were pregnant.
As someone who is currently pregnant, following fertility treatments / procedures, I can attest - there is generally a lot of “guuk” involved. (This response had me cackling.)
Kudos to you both for your continuing brutal, yet surprisingly tender, honesty.
Also, pro-tip: never name the Scottish play in the bedroom, Allison! ;-) Break a leg.
I haven't watched you guys since 2019.... so much has changed
Best of luck and baby dust to you! ❤️ I'm so sorry has all been mixed up with the pain of losing your mum and not having her along with this journey. Also ooof the US system is so awful.
If Allison has a child, they will become the prank master. Being raised by Allison would make someone the silliest goose of all time
love Gabe’s shirt!
rooting for you!!!
I use the Oura ring and the natural cycles app to track my cycle and both have made me feel so much connection and confidence in my body! They give useful information that is specific to where you are in your cycle “prep for ovulation pain” and does so much more! I highly recommend this combo ❤ have lots of “fun time” and make sure to take moments to de-stress! So many people I know say that’s when it happened for them (eg. On vacation)
The cost of a baby in the US is craaaaaazy. AND YOU DON'T EVEN GET THE PHONE NUMBER OF YOUR DOCTOR!? That's insane. México is so much better about medical care for mothers and for a waaay better price.
My wife suffers from endometriosis, she's had 15 operations. We tried IVF didn't work now we're trying our second round of egg donation. It's not easy navigating the emotional roller coaster, when every other couple around you seems to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat
Omg I was suscribed since you started but tbh I havent watch for ages. All my best wishes to Allison, and also GABE WHATTTT you were a sexy cute powerfull person and now youre a sexy cute powerfull beasssttt (in the best way possible) ❤ Im so happy and proud of you two! It really shows how much you have grown since the Buzzfeed times ✨ all love and respect for both of you 💖
The best internet duo there is! Break a leg Allison!
god willing allison will prank her child 🙏🏽
I know someone who did the “flush” procedure you’re referencing and immediately got pregnant
Sending you love and support during this time.💐❤️
My sister has been doing IVF for a couple of years now. I don't know how she's handling it, honestly. I mean she'd handling it all so beautifully and I would be a disaster.
Highly recommend this book - Taking charge of your fertility!!
Wait Allison has had sex. I'm not sure I believe that. My world is shook
in more unsolicited advice - I struggled for 2.5 years trying to conceive with my first, and just 2 months for my second - the ovulation strips that you pee on really helped! (and was different than what the period tracker was saying for me)
Thank God Gabe followed up on that whole flushing out the tubes procedure bc I was also like what the fuck is that?
I want to add, don't get too discouraged if you have an early miscarriage (i say early because later ones are not something I have experienced and I don't know if any strong feelings can be avoided in that case, but when it's just a couple of cells it's easier to get over it ). It can be scary and make you think your body can't make it, but that's not what it means. I just had my baby that was conceived immediately after a miscarriage, didn't have time to have another real period. And I'm 40. I hope that gives you hope.
By the way, my baby is called Felix Gabriel. It's not because of Gabe but also not not because of Gabe (wink wink).
Ngl the idea of a tube enema sounds pretty terrifying
I tried for a year and then saw a doctor and found out my progesterone is low. I wish I went earlier. If you are trying for a while just go and have your stuff checked! 😊
Love the Mars Wright shirt, Gabe!
Okay but Blake Lee Blakesly is genuinely kind of a cool name 😂
Anyway, good luck, Allison! Hope this happens for you and that you have an easy pregnancy!
I know it’s hard :( I know many people (well 3) that were on birth control for 10 yrs, and it took them 2 years to get pregnant after that. It often (I’m not saying this is the case for you) takes time for your body to recover from birth control and normalize itself. Keep in mind, I am no doctor… this is just the experience of 3 close friends. So even if it takes time, it doesn’t mean you won’t get pregnant.
The geriatric pregnancy thing is so tired. I feel like constantly being reminded that you’re an older parent and that there’s risks is worse for a pregnant person’s health than their chronological age is.
Also, fun story: I was scolded by my doctor for calling my own pregnancy “geriatric”-doc: “we call it advanced maternal age now, it’s less offensive”; me: “I’m the one who would be offended, and I’m more offended that you’re yelling at me at my confirmation of pregnancy appointment when you should be nice to me.”
Nosebleeds indicate pregnancy? Shit my nose has been bleeding a lot these past few years. I may be the first victim of immaculate conception in a male body!!!!!!
If you want a kid, go to a fertility OB now. They can check everything. Everyone says to wait a year but frankly that's too long. Go now, make sure everything is good with you and your partner.
i cannot believe you brought up tragedeigh i just learned about that yesterday lmaoo break a leg!! lol or as the italian say In bocca al lupo! 🫶🏼
Gabe’s shirt is very cool !
IT IS SO WEIRD. validating that it's weird and that it's okay for it to be weird and it's okay to be like... vocal about it. especially if/when you start fertility treatments.
This is a tangent but I personally hate "good luck" for anything! I hate the idea that we should need luck to be successful at something. I always try to say something like "you're prepared for this" if it something they have control over, or at least "have fun" if it's something they don't.
Sorry, I couldn’t concentrate on this video because Gabe is looking so good. 🥵
I feel dumb … what is a preconception Dr? I’ve only had my OB/GYN for my 3 babies
I'm interested to hear if you plan to give your child your last name or John's? Or both?
As someone who lost my dad a year ago, and has also spent this year trying to conceive - I felt so seen! And people are always astounded when it takes time to fall pregnant. The worst advice is “don’t think about it” 🤣🫨 Good luck Allison, maybe we will both be lucky soon and I’ll have a buddy through this journey on the other side of the world! Love you both (long time listener, watcher, fan) ♥️
I wish you the best of lucks, Make sure everything it’s OK with your thyroid because that might have an influence on getting pregnant…🤗🤗🤗
"Why wouldn't it". Because miscarriage is sadly still a taboo subject. Many people don't know how common it is.
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All the best in your quest Allison. Note: Rooting for you in Australia is to have sex!!
Oh my god, I haven't watched this channel for years now. Is the blonde girl a dude now?
Wait I’m so sorry I haven’t seen yall in years - arre you together romantically !?!?
John is Allison's husband. He was mentioned early in the video.
This was randomly recommended but why do they two look so familiar?
Before Gabe transitioned, they were BuzzFeed employees. Back in 2015ish. Maybe from there?
@ ohh right. Thanks!
what happened to doug lol? lol. lol.
First comment. 🫶🏾
And Gabe is the one trying to get her pregnant! Just kidding but that would've been the go to joke back in the day
You know, Allison could've been getting pregnant while they were filming. By which I mean you don't get pregnant during the sex. The sperm penetrates the egg like, later.