His deliberate effort to refer back to what he Shio says earlier in the conversation is a way to demonstrate his listening. Anyone can pretend to listen however being able to regurgitate what you heard proves it to the other person and allows them to go deeper and share more by being more comfortable. Top notch communication skills.
@@DARTH-C3RB3RUSthat’s crazy, same for me. Un ironically at 38 I also had my first daughter. I pray you’re better, you’re not alone. Learning about the REAL Jesus changed A LOT in me. When he said his daughter if(is) the ultimate Parole officer. That just hits, I love you, take care.
My father is a Recovering Alcoholic...he's definatly put us through some shit. I sent him this video and my father broke down into tears, and IMMEDIATLY put himself in rehab. Today marks the first year he's been sober doing the AA Meetings, and found God. Thank you both for being real ones and saving my father
I’m not watching this as a Shia fan or a John fan. I’m watching this as human being trying to learn and listen from other people’s experiences and I’m getting a lot from this.
We have all made mistakes and have hurt or harmed someone. But we can change our behavior. We can stop and be present. Before you speak listen to your intuition? Is what you are about to say true, is it kind, is it necessary and is it helpful? If the answer to ANY question is no, it should be left unsaid. Much love to all my brothers and sisters on this journey! 🙏🏻❤️🕊
I am 34 years old and I am struggling with a lot of things at the moment: divorce, impatient with my kids, distant from family, and much more. I keep watching this exact podcast because for some reason it brings me back to myself. It grounds me. It literally is saving my life. I hope to keep listening, learning, praying , and changing into a better man. Please send me your prayers . May god bless you all 🙏
bro, I'm 40 now and still a prisoner of myself, of my self-destructive behaviour patterns. I lost almost everything because of it 2 years ago. My life, my wife, my family, not myself. It took me almost a year to make changes and create a better life for myself. Around this time last year, I fell back into my old patterns and have been back in them ever since. I know what I have to do and should do and what I mustn't do and shouldn't do in order to move forward. BUT... I also know that everything will be okay. I can do it. I know it deep down inside. intuitively. You can do it too, bro. ❤🙏🙌
For me I learnt unhealed pain causes fear & confusion sometimes & can make us impatient & intolerant. One of the best bits of advice I ever got was "do something radical because what you've built isn't working for you". I was p!ssed off for a couple of years because I thought that was a disinterested response from a therapist. Fast forward a few years & I get it. Try to introduce yourself to new experiences but ones far-out to your norm. I spent so long trying to fit into the role other people had put me in & it was grim because I felt I was always failing. I was falling me & everyone else by not finding & being my true self. It's difficult picking through our layers & dropping what doesn't work for our best, but it's needed to feel ok, better than ok. Find yourself & love who you really are. Your children love you unconditionally so try to remember their wee hearts are filled with you & you're their hero. It's not easy but you're worth making changes for ✌️🏴
Do your best to tackle the fear man. Even if it means just being in bed for days, sweat it out and focus on what you do have. Im 2 years younger but Ive had to do it too, youre not alone.
@@briankennedy1313 He is a method actor, no explanation needed. They read a few books about philosophy or spirituality and repeat exactly what you want to hear, if he really felt like a piece of crap human being, he would stay in hiding forever in shame. He is testing out a few scripts and will grift to what sticks.
@@donttrickimtricky.8567 you would think such an intellectual, that apparently has everyone and everything figured out, would know not to put a comma at the end of the first five sentences in your comment. Stop projecting your own weak tendencies. Reading basic children novels might benefit you personally than philosophy, though.
@@briankennedy1313 projecting my own weak tendencies? Re-watch the part where he calls himself a [piece of crap] then says he has to create a bond with his daughter that's stronger than what the media will say he is. But at the same time saying he was a bad person/is and is working on himself. It's all predictable b. S from someone trying to put a spin on their abuse. Because on one hand media is going to lie on him on the other he is a different person and he was saved by the victim, she is his" Saint " lol. He method acted on the tank movie, it's a different level of narcissistic behavior. You are rewarded for how well you emulate the character that's written.
dude spent 2 hours about taking accountalbity but couldn't say what he did but then denies it in court.. He beats women and manipulated all you dickheads that he changed.
Absolutely and it baffles me how people told Jon not to do this interview because of _"guilt by association."_ I'm so glad that he did this because so many men and women need to hear the raw truth.
@@NotASnowflake totally agree. Although it is super painful for all parties, the only way people can start healing is by talking about this with honesty. Love how Jon was courageous enough to do this!
Yeah when he started getting into his own kids about them being able to read now, he recognized he slightly interrupted and dropped it immediately. Kinda wanna know what he was gonna say
I’ve seen this several times. But I choked up when he describes how his wife’s voice saved him. Went through a divorce, got therapy, and everything. A friends voice who will soon be my wife. Saved mine.....
I wouldn’t say he saved me but a lot out of it. Listening to him tell his story hit me because I have those exact same problems, I grew up on chaos, I’ve battled addiction for 25 years and the vicious violent, soul tearing BS that goes with it. I’m part of the Fuck Up Tribe too homie!!
@@TherealBigJohnSt33l I love how Jon is calm and uninterrupting. Also that scene in Fury where Jon's character is told by Shia that 'You shouldnt', meaning he shouldn't shut up(Sarcasm).
I am at a complete loss for words. This interview was so incredibly moving. As a woman, not once - not ONCE - have I thought about the lack of societal support and resources men have when they’re in search of any type of rehabilitation, whether it’s drugs, alcohol, anger management, emotional/physical abuse, etc. Listening to this raw, untethered interview brought me to tears so many times because I am quick to judge men like Shia. I am quick to point fingers and write them off completely. But all people deserve second chances. Men like Shia deserve the opportunity to get to the root cause of their issues and do everything in their power to make amends. Shia - if you’re reading this, I want to thank you for sharing your truth with the world. It was the most profound interview I have ever listened to. To Jon - I am so grateful that you chose to give Shia this opportunity and be a true friend. You did not just talk the talk - you walked the walk. The world needs more people like you.
Yes! Thank you for pointing this out because that’s so profoundly important to realize. The problems men face are valid & resources need to be there so they’ll have the tools to gain an understanding on the root cause & gain the self awareness to change. I watched this documentary about people who facilitate the rehabilitation of domestic violence offenders & the utter vitriol & hate they get is shocking. People want to just write these offenders off. Almost wanting to euthanise them. I understand that it’s difficult to separate the sin from the sinner but there should be room to actually offer support to those who want to change. The most influential of people are usually the ones that were the biggest sinners. The most inspiring to those that struggle are the ones who also struggled but came out victorious. Imagine if we just wrote everyone of them off & subsequently also writing off the lives they were able to save when they did change.
Want to see a truly broken man? Talk to the guy at the bar, who sits alone staring at his drink which he pounds back to back every night. Waiting for some stranger to say something so he can get his pictures out of his kids who he no longer see's because his wife left him, took the kids, took half of everything he had, takes half his paycheck now. The only purpose the man ever had is now gone. Taken from him. And people don't think about that, they only think about the woman.
This has me in tears. Shia needed this. And there's truly no better listener and friend to give him this platform, other than Jon. This was hands down the BEST podcast episode I've EVER listened to in my life. Shia is wise beyond his years. I could listen to him speak like this all day. I, too, have struggled with addiction, suffered SA, and have hurt people. Shia's words hit me so deep. I've been so low for so long, and I really needed this. This podcast was so healing. Thank you Jon and Shia. God bless you both.
I’ve watched this video almost everyday since I decided to try and get sober again. I relate to it all and honestly it’s saved my life. I’m so grateful.
I could tell that he as a dad to relate to those feelings. He seems genuinely happy that Shia now understands what it's like to unconditionally love someone in such a pure way.
I saw this because of an interview Jon did on Joe Rogan and looked this up. Wasn’t even tracking what Shia did or was goin through. Shit still had me captivated and in tears. No words can capture how much I love this. The pain and forgiveness, the shame and humility, the seeking of redemption, all of it. Thank you
1:34:07 my heart was so touched watching him talk about his wife. My husband had a heroine addiction and I went through hell with him. We are still together to this day, he has been sober for 6 years. They remind me of us. Sending so much love
I'm 58 years old and I don't know ONE man that would have bared his soul, expressed his sins, admitted his faults and cried in front of everyone, including myself. It was a beautiful thing to witness, brought many tears, and was a harsh look in the mirror. Shia is on a righteous path, I wish him nothing but the best.
Shia LaBeouf started off young and now that I'm a grown man I see how growing up like that can affect you as a man I'ma 40 years old man and I've had my share of wrongdoings some worse than others but I've learned from them and I'm a better person from them but I wish men had the outlets women do when they are battered... Society always wants to bash men for being men having a man nature but I pray that God put his healing hand over him and lead him into a victorious path and be a inspiration to other people who felt like him... God bless everyone reading this and their family may 2023 be the best year for you yet!
Interesting you guys see it that way. To me it came across totally different. From my perspective I saw what he also said to Shia: He loves him, he wants to help & support him and he did with having him on his show. To me, actions speak much louder than words or looks he might give. I could also sense that in his whole behavior while listening, he was totally empathic and felt with Shia. So now that you saw something he might have hid from Shia or some hate, is it maybe that deep in yourself, there is something feeling like this? So you believe to see it in someone else? Since this is only text and no voice, be aware I say this with the intention of support for you, since in my own experience I have many times seen & maybe disliked things in other people that actually where things in myself I needed to fix. So for this could be a hint for you where to look for further self-development. Where are all on our own way of development, but also we're in this together. I hope my intention comes across the way it was meant.
Hey man, I know this was a month ago but I hope you're doing well. I hope whatever it was that was hitting you so hard are things you've been able to gain a good frame of mind on.
Surround yourself with people that genuinely want you to be the best version of yourself. If you don’t have that. Be that person for yourself. It’s very hard but not impossible You don’t truly know yourself until you sit alone with your thoughts. People can’t do that these days. No one is real. Talking like this in a room full of closed minded people, can make you feel like what you’re saying is dumb. I have zero friends. And I don’t mind it at all.
Jon, on Joe Rogan’s podcast you made a powerful statement when you said who helps the abuser? There are tons of resources for the victims but what happens to the abusers?! They are traumatized, abused people, too, really!! You’re a great friend!
As a woman who's been abused in every way, but also used and abused others mentally, spiritually, etc that hit home and the Joe Rogan interview was the reason I watched this. The men that put their hands on me were good men with the best of intentions 99% of the time and I don't wish any ill will or hold any hatred towards them, I want them to be sincerely happy and the best versions of themselves and bashing them will only hinder that. They're hurting and broken just as I was and need to be uplifted and they need programs and rehab to guide them, not shame them.
The intensity in Jon’s eyes as he listens to Shia is enough to make me tear up. THAT is a fucking friend right there! That’s hard to find. This is one of the realist interviews I’ve ever seen
Needed this line lol. My life seems like it’s movin 100mph literally for the last two decades but I just needed to sit back n realize I’m putting the pressure on myself. Just sit back and breathe. I’ve been building a great life so far. It’s not that hectic. Just stay calm.
Taking four deep breaths with intent to bring myself out of my mind & back into my body has helped me find more layers to being patient. Also the mantra of "let that shit go" has helped. I salute you all on your paths.
Our Evil side will always live within us, we don't learn to anguish them but to live above them. It's all about choices and the consequences. Everyone's running a race and fighting battles. Let's do our best!
I’ve never liked Shia. If any interview has ever changed my mind about someone so drastically, this was the one. The respect I have for him now and his story and testimony has not only made me change how I think about him, but how I think about everyone. What a redemption story. I cried many times watching this and I will definitely be watching this again and again. Shia you now have a new fan, not of your art, but of the man and human you are. Thank you for opening my eyes and speaking so freely and truthfully. I’m sure so many more people can relate to you now than ever before. You will touch so many more people with your truth and testimony than you ever have with your movies. May God’s grace and blessings be upon you.
He still fails to take accountability for abusing his partners. He still fights her in court and keeps getting her trial delayed. He recently claims he “misplaced” some evidence.
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Jon Bernthal for being such an amazing listener. Everyone says they are a good listener but actually most of them aren't but Jon here remembers every small details about Shia's stories. God bless Jon & Shia too ❤
I'm a woman who has been in abusive situations, and I promise you this is one of the most healing things I've ever been blessed to hear. I hope this podcast is shared far and wide. It WILL help many, I'm certain of it. Thanks Jon, and thank you Shia! Blessings to you both 💓
Glad a woman agrees. Theres not many places where men that do these horrible things can talk about it and why it's wrong and why others shouldnt do what they did. We have to learn to be better.
What did you do for your recovery? I was an addict and I changed that with alcohol. 1/2 gallon a day for two years. I have 2 beautiful kids and a woman with a foot out the door.
So glad I ended up here. Well spent two hours. Mistakes, guilt, shame…we’ve all experienced and live with to some extent. This talk should be a prescribed watch
Probably the most genuine display of vulnerability I've seen. One of a handful of broken men that are actually taking accountability. A raw and valuable podcast.
if not for Jon wanting these conversations out there we never would have seen or heard this....... to know that you can be so broken as Shia was or is as a man & to put the effort into becoming a better person is inspiring
Sorry to write this, but I do not see that. I see a still broken human being that hasn’t done the most simple: accept himself, love himself and deserve himself first and foremost before attempting to do that to anyone. Because it’s been a pretty minute for me, it’s about accepting you and being as balanced as possible. It’s your responsibility to deal with your issues. To still want a space daddy to please help me because I can’t? Sorry… this kid still has a couple of miles to go.
@@gerardorodriguezgarcia881I disagree, you walk that wretched path like both of us did and then come talk to me. That was real, having the world, pissing it away, and then finding the one true God is powerful.
Shia hood the movie was a flop. Most of the movie was pretty socialistic itsly. VERY LITTKE PADRE PIO. AND PIO WAS A GREAT MAN AND PRIEST . THERE WAS so much more to concentrate on and the film just let it slip away. 😮☹️😴
As a woman who was in an abusive marriage for 20 years, I applaud the courage, honesty and integrity of both these men. Bravo! They have both done more in this one interview to not only speak out against abuse of women, they are showing how to change it. Thank you Jon and Shia! I cannot tell you just how much I admire you both for this interview. Shia, you are making the world a safer place for your daughter to grow up in and I am sure she will be immensely proud that you are your father.
Do these problems actually have solutions to completely get rid of? It's like prejudices. Everyone has a prejudice. How do you get rid of prejudices? How do you change every single individual in the world? I don't think it can be done. Maybe I'm naive but it seems incredibly impossible to do something like that. We can't even keep peace with each other as groups. Theres still wars everywhere.
Although some of his actions can't be excused I agree that it is so important to allow people to improve and change otherwise we all lose, I hope all of the people he has Hurt are doing well and I hope he is doing well also
I know it's 2 years old but I'm glad I just found this video I was in tears for most of it it's quite the inspiration hoping it's the start of mine Thank You
This was the best interview I have EVER watched in my entire existence. Ever. As a survivor of DV it is healing to see him do better. Bad choices don't make you a bad person. Mistakes are human. Change is a choice. Who are we to deny this man the opportunity to make changes for his life. We aren't Masters of this Universe. Worry about your own path. Change is an opportunity for EVERYONE. Rich or Poor. Sending love and light to Shia LaBeouf. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
I know that this may sound hollow considering I am a random internet guy. ( jk. I'm actually chat gpt) I just wanted to say that I am glad you made it out in one piece. stay safe. stay golden.
I watched it like 3 times now!! And every time I do I get something new out of it. We’re all humans at the end and we ALL make mistakes. But when you acknowledge and own up to your mistakes, THATS when you’ve grown! 🙏🏼💚
Damn this shit was deep af. Because I been through it all. Detox and rehab over and over. Jail, jail, jail. A terrible cycle. And my wife stayed for all of it. Never once said “it’s over” just always saying “we gotta fix this” “we” “we” “we” always. We’re both 5 years sober, own a pretty big company, looking to buy a house, bought her a brand new car. And still together. Damn.
Dont trust too much. 10 years together. Through thick and thin. Being best friends. Never really arguing. She cheated on me and moved out of state. Like i was nothing.
I'm committing to watching this regularly. Shia is just so genuinely raw, vulnerable, and there's something truly spiritually liberating in this video, that i need reminding of regularly. Jon does a brave, great job in facilitating this who interaction.
“People may not forgive me but I know I’ve been forgiven, I know that I am loved” That’s powerful, forgiveness of one’s self and others provides peace. Great sit down. Prayers for Shia and his journey with faith.
One of the greatest interviews of all time. The vulnerability of Shia, the avid attentiveness of Jon, really something to behold. The moment of pure emotion when Shia talked about his wife was incredible.
Shia’s brutal honesty is very refreshing in a society that is terrified to say the wrong thing. To confess wrongdoing while admitting to still being on the journey is a realistic encouragement. His testimony is no “movie moment” but it’s a slight nudge that gets you one step closer to transformation. Confession & apologies aren’t enough. Thank you Shia for emphasizing we have to actually change in the areas where we fall short 🙏🏻
As an addict in recovery I, too, have done some deplorable things to people I love. I am currently working on my step 4 and I have a year sobriety. This interview was so beautifully raw and inspirational. I love to see Shia taking accountability and making living amends for his past. I pray for you and your family Shia and if no one they told you they're proud of you today, I AM PROUD OF YOU ❤
As a woman who suffered abuse at the hands of a man, I can honestly say that this conversation made me believe that even a man who puts his hands on a woman can, if given the chance, become a better person. I hope that he, like Shia, can become a better person and love people the way you should love people.
As a man at 18 I made this mistake I'm now 42 with a daughter of 13 we all can change for the better I'm sorry you experienced what you did I hope life is good for you now x
I am totally blown away by this interview. I really don't have two hours to do anything but I couldn't stop listening to this. I literally just hear humility. As a Mom of two boys. I just learned so so much. I truly wish Shia peace and grace for himself. He's on his way.
I’ve always loved Shia like an estranged older brother. Seeing him go through this period of growth these last couple years has made me cry in joy and hope he would continue on the right path and he has.
Hearing Shia talk about his wife roughly 90 minutes in made me realize how much my own wife has done for me and how she pulled me up when I was in the lowest place in my life and built me up into the man I am today...And hearing him made me realize I need to be a better man and husband...
thats true love my friend, having self love and the love of others who care for us, are our rock, our person, our support system,part of our happiness a.ka happy ending, our love and our family who is there for you in the good , in the bad, in the crazy and in greatest no matter what, who are our guiding light, give us a purpose on this planet, give us some tough love when we're wrong so we can find redemption , hope and good in this life, thats what Mia Goth and his daughter is for Shia, mad respect and admiration for this man and wish him nothing but the best, we must all learn from his story cuz who knows what we can learn and how it will help us change some part of us thats broken or lost so we can find ourself, find redemption , be our best selfs and thats its never too late set things right no matter how hard it us , if we just try and have hope in ourselves and those who truly care and love us
And you’ve said it out loud and are already on the path. So proud and honored to read your comment. I hope you had the conversation with your wife about your realization. But more importantly, I hope you show her moving forward. Huge hugs to you. ❤❤
Same here. Maybe I would have pulled through, but my wife is a fallible human being who taught me what love really is at a time when I thought living was a curse.
I wish I saw this when it first came out, my situation could be much different. Thanks Jon and Shia, I've made my mistakes and hearing this helped me realise more about stuff.
@joshuaborrero6626......sooooo stok'd, you've been truly blessed my beautiful spiritual brother. As my boy, 'Big Lance' says - Stay-Up --- Stay-out....Stay Sucka Free! GOD BLESS 🙏 🧡💛💚💙💜 Love & Respect________mykey from toronto
Going through a rough patch at the moment, and something drew me to check in on Shia, stumbled across this interview and now I have more clarity of what i need to do. I just want to say thank you to Jon and Shia for making this available to us. Its so relatable and gives me hope that I can be ok. Thank you
I run a men's mental health coaching program, this interview is the best thing I've seen online. It's exactly what men need more of, Jon, Shia absolutely love this!!
im in shock because I've never heard a person express exactly how I've been feeling for years. im 22 and this is a huge moment of motivation and change for me. im inspired to be better. thank you.
Jon is a very good listener. There are few people who listen the way he is. The way he stays engaged, maintains eye contact. He's invested. Very powerful. Holding space like this is a skill. It's what allows people to feel safe enough to open up. Very few people do it well.
LeBeof talks a lot though. He doesn't listen well in this instance either. He doesn't see the fundamental wrong headedness as referencing females as Pussy! You love your daughter but even she's still 'pussy' thats sick. This Monk shit has been done by so many. LaB won't listen a bit to Jon. LaB should listen more and learn to hear them and honestly reciprocate. When He's talking about being a G why does he always talk about shit being 'sexy'. How does Shia Figure he's a G?
I’ve never felt an interview so deep. Mad respect to Shia. This is the type of shit that gets me through my day and keeps me wanting to stay sober and do better Edit: still sober. 168 days and have my first child due in 10 weeks. 30/9/2023
Recently, I had a moment of clarity when speaking to my son. I was talking to him about some other guys picking on him at school. He's 8 years old and is softer than I was growing up. I love him for that. I looked him in the eye and I told him that men will test you because that's who we are. I told him in no uncertain terms that men in this society draw lines in the sand. But real men build Bridges. He looked at me with these big doughy eyes on the verge of tears, relieved. He thought I was going to tell him to hit the other boys or to never be pushed around. I told him to use his words and to ask questions. I told him not to worry about appearing tough or wanting to be stronger than the other boys. And in that moment I know that it was God speaking to me too. Knowing that I've come full circle as a man known for his strength. As a man now known for his welcoming smile. All love to these two guys!
Good job. Part of being a father is being a guide to a child, showing them a path to the adult they don't yet know they want to be. That little talk, it might save your kid so much time wondering and wandering to see if being who he is, is valid, is allowed for a man. Good on you for seeing him for who he is, and guiding him to find what strength will mean for him.
As a mother of two boys, reading how you talked to your son brought tears to my eyes. You’ve chosen a beautiful trajectory for your son. He will love himself for who he is. Great job 🎉❤
This isn't just a Shia thing. This is a whole generation and then some of broken people. The ego, the self-centeredness, putting career and craft above all, finding validation in shallow pursuits, lack of delayed gratification, victim mentality, nihilism. The list goes on. It's a cultural thing. It's systemic. It's engineered and applauded. These are the ideas and behaviors that have been sold to us as "progress" and "empowering" when in reality they are LITERALLY the opposite of those things, and lead you down the opposite path that you intended to go down. There are no mistakes or coincidences. When so many people are led down this path there is an intention behind it. You've been sold a shit playbook for life. Realizing that, and the roots of how and why that happens should be enough to make you want to change your habits. Tomorrow's a new day.
@Carlos Fenoll I guess it all starts with 'you' the individual. Being at peace with what you have and appreciating whats given, while not allowing negativity to drag you into a mud pit with it. If someone is being negative towards you can you brush it off with a smile or at least not feed them with that same energy? I'm working on that myself so by no means am I preaching.
Listening to this gave me pause to reflect on myself, thank you for this. Such a real, raw and open conversation.Thank to both of you for having this and sharing it.
Rhys 1 second ago All this talk of finding the true meaning of life. Here's an idea, if you MUST advertise, do it for small not for profit company that dedicates itself to supporting others through hard times. Not the company that pays less tax in the UK than I did last year and treat staff like s**t.
I saw Shia during performance art in Liverpool, he had such an aura and his presence lit up the room. Everybody was smiling, he interacted with us and he made our day. Know your worth Shia, for even in your darkest days, you brought joy to so many.
Hi Jon, I’m 73 yrs old and this interview made me tear up and sob. This young man and you opened my eyes to what a man should really be and how to get there, thanks, Wayne from Windsor Ontario Canada
Remember, it's never too late to become who you're meant to be. Sometimes the biggest changes we make start with humbly saying, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, and I love you." Every day we're given is another chance to become. Hope you're well.
Jon has an amazing interview presence. He lets Shia speak without interrupting, has no judgement, speaks when it's relevant and leads the conversation where Shia wants. Very effective.
Most impactful thing I’ve watched this year. As a Christian, a father, a husband, a man… thank you for making this available. I feel Shia, deeply. Thanks again.
To have such big personalities be openly vulnerable, I guarantee these types of interviews will hit home with alot of people. I was totally invested for the full 2 hours. Thank you
I’ve watched this full two hour interview about 20 times. That’s no joke. This interview has saved my soul in the sense of comprehending redemption is a possibility. To see a man completely willing. Completely vulnerable. To an extent where he fears his true emotions will be manipulated as pity, even though anyone who really listened to this, knows pity is by far the last thing Shia wants. But even more than him not wanting pity, he doesn’t require it. Truly. Thats incredible. This interview spoke a dialect to my heart I’ve never known nor ever felt. I almost want to thank god for putting Shia through this in his life to be able to share his story and let us fellow men know, we can completey destroy our lives with mistakes that seem irredeemable but in taking that destructive feeling, using it to destroy the ego and break down the soul and completely rebuild it, is the very definition of self empowerment. Something we all must do. Love to everyone out there struggling mentally right now. You may feel isolated in your feelings but you’re not alone in the labyrinth. We’re all in it together. Thank you Jon and Shia. And thank you Jon for teaching me the importance of listening appropriately. Had this not been Jon, none of us would have been as enlightened as we are after seeing this. He gave Shia this platform knowing the consequences of what “it looks like” and he rolled the dice. I’ll always be thankful for that choice. To love within is to live without.
Here man. Coming on my next chapter in recovery from opiates. 2 yrs clean You really know you hit rock bottom when people start to perceive you like that. When my ex partner gave me that look of "you're full of shit" after telling them i wanted to quit i pretty much shut myself off entirely, thus only proving them right and giving myself a reason to continue. Nowadays, reflecting i realize it was mostly my fault. Now, i live with that fact but i try not to tear myself down. Only impedes progress, wallowing in self pity. Find the good in the bad.
This right here is the definition of self awareness. I see a lot of myself in Shia and am extremely grateful he had the strength to be fully open. He has helped me re think and go over things I already knew I needed to work on and paths yet still to be walked.
As someone who was a massive manipulator, deceitful, etc, just overall not the person I wanted to be, I blamed my past for the reason I become that way, but listening to Shia, tell his truth, own his shit, has helped me tremendously with my recovery to being a better man. I come back and listen to this podcast a lot over the course of the last few months, and it’s amazing. Thank you Jon & Shia for this.
i'm in my mid thirties, only in the last few months have i come to realise what terrible things i have done to women in the past. this interview was navigated very maturely by both parties.
I watched this start to finish, and have never been more engaged. This was raw, vulnerable, open, honest and amazing. Motivational doesn't do it justice. Thanks both.
Shia’s journey has always reminded me of my dads. The way he speaks and felt about his struggles is exactly how my dad spoke; except he didn’t live to see his redemption. Just seeing Shia finally get to this place brings me to tears cause I wish this for my dad. I’m so happy for him.
Sorry you lost your father, I lost mine two years ago in October, still affects me everyday knowing all the conversations I will miss, the worst part is we found out about my son just a month before and I was never able to tell him he had a grandson on the way. Hope you recover/ recovered alright
In shamanism we help our lineage get that salvation by healing our generational lines. Your father most certainly can see his salvation by not only seeing you be happy but you can help him get that healing by journey work. If you need more information on this, just let me know or search for shamanic jounreying.
One of the best podcast episodes I've ever listened to. Thank you both for sitting down and having a chat. You guys are like brothers, and it was nice seeing men being able to be vulnerable to one another. None of us are flawless.
This interview is a true inspiration. I can't remember the last time I had the patience to listen to someone talk for 2hrs. I hope Shia reads these comments periodically, to know that he inspires people.
i can agree but i have probably just issues to focus on talks. even in real life interaction when someone telling me something i cant be present i have already something to say in my head and cant even listen what a person wants to tell me . dont know why i got this i never been like that before.
I have a feeling a majority of American men relate at a core level to what Shia says here. What’s even more inspiring is Shia was placed/given the literal modern American dream for men today of fame and money, and the insight and rawness, seeing his purpose and content in walking away from it and serving other people from literally the most humble position he could find (by all American standards). I wish I had this type of enlightenment to know my path to that kind of love
"Pain is an adhesive it brings people together" What a diamond of a statement. Having gone through the bs I decided to go through humbled me and made it harder to judge anyone.
I’ve met Jon briefly working a wedding, and you can tell he’s a very genuine human being. His ability to actively listen honestly makes him one of the best interviewers I’ve seen.
Right! He said very little, but what he did say showed he was listening. His questions and responses just evoked more out of Shia. It was beautiful to watch.
Been out in LA 10+ years and bumped into my fair share of celebrities either through work (bartender) or by chance and he's one of the few I bring up because I was so impressed with the human, famous or not
Shia has really come such a long way personally and I am so happy for him, his family and his future! His life is finally filled with unconditional love and I pray his future will be filled with joy and meaning.
Joe Rogan brought me here and I’m 30 minutes in and genuinely enjoying the hell out of this , and mind you these are two actors , which I don’t usually look up to actors . Awesome connection between these guys Edit* Jon allowing shia to speak and giving himself the time to listen and understand is so awesome
"This is kinda part of being a man. As a man you have to mess it all up a little bit. A part of learning is dying" Spoken true wisdom. Man I respect this guy
@@lrainwater1608 EVERYONE has a little bit of criminal inside of them including you. Some of us are good at hiding it, some of us deal with it and straighten ourselves out. It all starts with honesty with yourself. It’s not about looking up to him it’s about relating with him.
@@lrainwater1608 Ignorance the child of fate, to be wise means to break the chains of destiny. If you are able to find a way to look past the title of criminal and stop judging everything from the outside then you very well could end up finding yourself to be enlightened and have no need to waste your time living in the negative and /or having to take away someone else's gained enlightenment from testimonies such as the one in this video. Food for thought.🤔 This world has enough problems so no need to add to it.
This has just solidified for me what an amazing person Jon is. It’s one thing to be kind when society expects it, it’s another thing to be kind to people who society has written off.
Not an attribute of a healthy society. Try being kind in NYC, hell try being GENEROUS in NYC. You'll still get jumped, screwed, played etc. People are shit at best, then they nosedive.
@john doe Yeah no, its worse than that. They'll lock you up for years just for weed in some states, then when you get out, that shit stays on your record so good luck finding work. Cant work? back to crime, back to jail, the cycle of fuckery continues. Should American citizens be abused by the system thats supposed to serve them? No, but thats just the boring dystopia we live in. If you aren't pissed off, you aren't paying attention. If you aren't paying attention, you aren't enlightened, you're just blissfully ignorant. Just ignore all that pessimism though, go get married, have kids, work to retirement and die a shallow meaningless life like the rest of us... I need therapy lol
LOVED THIS!! Shia has always been one of my favorites, even through the horrible shit he has down. I always held him high, and now I know the reason why I held him high. He's becoming a man. Being present and accountable. Love you, Shia. Keep pushing. Thank you, Jon, for being a dude for him. He needs you, even from afar. God bless.
Details aside, two grown men having an emotional vulnerable conversation with respect is proof that the world is healing and getting better. Small improvements needs recognition because this matters.
You're kidding world has regressed being sickest in ages however this podcast is shedding light showing how to manage emotions and heal as a male it's still stigmatized but this helps lost a lot of friends because of public perception of this kinda thing and took their own lives
The way he speaks about his wife Mia is so amazing. You can tell he found real love during a time he needed it most and that it changed his entire perspective on what true love even is. Inspiring.
His love for God showed him true love. This in turn made him a better man and husband. This is what the Catholic Church teaches. Be like St. Joseph, the adopted father of Jesus. Blessings! 🙏🏻😁
Bernthal gained a lot of respect form me with his podcast. lets people talk, doesn't care if he even says anything, just listens. its amazing how that's all you need to do sometimes, just listen
Thank you Shia for this interview, I’m going through the hardest time in my life right now.. Just getting out of rehab and continuing on this path, this really pushed me some more and validated to me too keep going the way I am. Truly am thankful to have received this information… All love to Shia and Jon ❤
I listened to this as a survivor of DV abuse. I cried really hard in my car listening, praying that my ex would listen to this and learn. I know he will never apologize to me, but I have mad respect for both of these guys stepping up in a big way.
my heart goes out to you, Michelle. I hope this guy learns to be a man and learns to accept that he fucked up. The hope is the law holds guys like this accountable but it fails a lot of victims, but I like to think there is always some form of cosmic justice that pays the emotional debt.
Seeing two man having such a deep and profound conversation, sharing some serious parts of life. This was an amazing conversation. Thank you Jon and Shia for this.
This hit me at a time where I needed to hear it the most. Thanks to everyone that put this together. Funny how I forgot how many people are going through the same shit I go through, whether its a movie-star or the guy next door.
“Rock bottom isn’t when you experience the worst moment of your life, rock bottom is when you change” - Shia, those are some words my man.
im no english professor but yes those are indeed words
Well quoted, and those words are profound. If you’ve never been there, STFU
let's see how many more rock bottoms he's got in him
@@kevin5573 Well im happy you got it bud.
Or Jon saying "pain is an adhesive" Powerful
Shia spoke 99% of the time. He needed this, big ups to Jon for giving him this platform. Seems like a solid good dude too
Jon’s a good dude, but Shia just doesn’t sound genuine at all.
@@chuckvandy9963 I disagree. He's never sounded this genuine before
@@chuckvandy9963 Out of curiosity, what about this came across un-genuine?
@@chuckvandy9963 whatever you got going on. I hope you make it.
@@chuckvandy9963 you totally misread that one, or you’re just lying because you’re hurting too
Being a genuine listener is much harder than to be an elegant speaker. Jon's listening skills should be in a textbook for How to Listen.
Uh huh, uh huh, yea, for sure..
His deliberate effort to refer back to what he Shio says earlier in the conversation is a way to demonstrate his listening. Anyone can pretend to listen however being able to regurgitate what you heard proves it to the other person and allows them to go deeper and share more by being more comfortable. Top notch communication skills.
Why I subscribed.
@Skynet1 people just say anything
@Skynet1 for real tho u come on here just to talk shit about the next mama comment? For what? Does it make u feel better about urself?
"It's difficult to accept love because you dont believe you deserve it." That hit like a Tyson punch.
Yeah I feel that bruh took me 38 years to figure that out.
perks of being a wallflower taught me this at a young age
I thought this was common lol idk I’ve always felt like this
@@DARTH-C3RB3RUSthat’s crazy, same for me. Un ironically at 38 I also had my first daughter. I pray you’re better, you’re not alone. Learning about the REAL Jesus changed A LOT in me. When he said his daughter if(is) the ultimate Parole officer. That just hits, I love you, take care.
My father is a Recovering Alcoholic...he's definatly put us through some shit. I sent him this video and my father broke down into tears, and IMMEDIATLY put himself in rehab. Today marks the first year he's been sober doing the AA Meetings, and found God. Thank you both for being real ones and saving my father
Thank you for sharing
Tell him I said congratulations
Praise God.. Congratz.. God always thinks about you n dad.. He alwas works in pir life
Amaizing ❤
Your father saved your father
I’m not watching this as a Shia fan or a John fan. I’m watching this as human being trying to learn and listen from other people’s experiences and I’m getting a lot from this.
truth
Exactly 💯👊🏾👏🏽👏🏽
Amen fam
We have all made mistakes and have hurt or harmed someone. But we can change our behavior. We can stop and be present. Before you speak listen to your intuition? Is what you are about to say true, is it kind, is it necessary and is it helpful? If the answer to ANY question is no, it should be left unsaid. Much love to all my brothers and sisters on this journey! 🙏🏻❤️🕊
Same here.. this was a profound conversation to those who really listen to it.
I am just coming back from an 8 year relapse. I saw this in treatment. Changed my life. Thank you for 30 days sober today.
Now 40 days
The fight never ends and a relapse doesn’t define you
🙏
Keep it up 👆 don't give up brother
That’s it ? 30? Bruh get out that pink cloud before you get cocky and relapse !
I am 34 years old and I am struggling with a lot of things at the moment: divorce, impatient with my kids, distant from family, and much more. I keep watching this exact podcast because for some reason it brings me back to myself. It grounds me. It literally is saving my life. I hope to keep listening, learning, praying , and changing into a better man. Please send me your prayers . May god bless you all 🙏
bro, I'm 40 now and still a prisoner of myself, of my self-destructive behaviour patterns. I lost almost everything because of it 2 years ago. My life, my wife, my family, not myself. It took me almost a year to make changes and create a better life for myself. Around this time last year, I fell back into my old patterns and have been back in them ever since. I know what I have to do and should do and what I mustn't do and shouldn't do in order to move forward. BUT... I also know that everything will be okay. I can do it. I know it deep down inside. intuitively. You can do it too, bro. ❤🙏🙌
For me I learnt unhealed pain causes fear & confusion sometimes & can make us impatient & intolerant. One of the best bits of advice I ever got was "do something radical because what you've built isn't working for you". I was p!ssed off for a couple of years because I thought that was a disinterested response from a therapist. Fast forward a few years & I get it. Try to introduce yourself to new experiences but ones far-out to your norm. I spent so long trying to fit into the role other people had put me in & it was grim because I felt I was always failing. I was falling me & everyone else by not finding & being my true self. It's difficult picking through our layers & dropping what doesn't work for our best, but it's needed to feel ok, better than ok. Find yourself & love who you really are. Your children love you unconditionally so try to remember their wee hearts are filled with you & you're their hero. It's not easy but you're worth making changes for ✌️🏴
Do your best to tackle the fear man. Even if it means just being in bed for days, sweat it out and focus on what you do have. Im 2 years younger but Ive had to do it too, youre not alone.
I believe in you. And God won't ever give up on you. Stay grounded for those who know deserve it brother!
Try some Nero Knowledge. 🎉
"I know it's gonna be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."
Thank you guys so much for such an incredible conversation.
in the words of John Lennon "there's always a happy ending, if you're not happy, it's not the end"
@davemaltese on the other hand, actually, it sounds strange... cause when we die, we can't be unhappy, too.
😊
This 💯💯💯💯
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No interruptions, no audience no live band, Just a pure honest one on one conversation between grown ass men
Couple interruptions, I just came to the comments to see if anyone mentioned Shia cutting Jon off 🤣🤣🤣
Shit, and vice versa
But yeah it’s a great interview. Incredibly honest discussion
What we’re watching here is far from “honest.”
@@Franciskev2 but it still inspirational for others
That Weedwhacker, though
I like how Jon never interrupts him. I think Shia has more wisdom than people give him credit for
That’s EXACTLY why he is hated. Just can’t stand what they can’t figure out.
He has more wisdom than the half of Hollywood. So much to learn from his experience.
@@briankennedy1313 He is a method actor, no explanation needed. They read a few books about philosophy or spirituality and repeat exactly what you want to hear, if he really felt like a piece of crap human being, he would stay in hiding forever in shame. He is testing out a few scripts and will grift to what sticks.
@@donttrickimtricky.8567 you would think such an intellectual, that apparently has everyone and everything figured out, would know not to put a comma at the end of the first five sentences in your comment. Stop projecting your own weak tendencies. Reading basic children novels might benefit you personally than philosophy, though.
@@briankennedy1313 projecting my own weak tendencies? Re-watch the part where he calls himself a [piece of crap] then says he has to create a bond with his daughter that's stronger than what the media will say he is. But at the same time saying he was a bad person/is and is working on himself.
It's all predictable b. S from someone trying to put a spin on their abuse. Because on one hand media is going to lie on him on the other he is a different person and he was saved by the victim, she is his" Saint " lol.
He method acted on the tank movie, it's a different level of narcissistic behavior. You are rewarded for how well you emulate the character that's written.
"people may not forgive me, but i know i've been forgiven." is a beautiful quote
You will be forgiven as a person, but not forgiven of the shit you have done, the one within is hard to please
He doesn't deserve anyone's forgiveness and this is a BOLD statement coming from him. Disgusting.
dude spent 2 hours about taking accountalbity but couldn't say what he did but then denies it in court.. He beats women and manipulated all you dickheads that he changed.
@@carriehazel77 what's disgusting is your character. He'll be a better man than you ever will.
@@carriehazel77you don’t deserve forgiveness either. Neither do I. None of us do.
THIS is how a person makes things right. He's human. He's flawed. He's learning, and he's real. Thank you Shia. (And Jon)
Hell yeah
Absolutely and it baffles me how people told Jon not to do this interview because of _"guilt by association."_ I'm so glad that he did this because so many men and women need to hear the raw truth.
@@NotASnowflake totally agree. Although it is super painful for all parties, the only way people can start healing is by talking about this with honesty. Love how Jon was courageous enough to do this!
Straight facts
People throwing stones in a glass house . People that never stepped out of their house
What makes Jon a remarkable interviewer is his ability to know when to be quiet and when to speak. Awesome interview!
Yeah great interview
Yes he doesnt overtalk.. almost to the point where your like jon chim in more. But this is gold. Perfect. Dont change
Yeah when he started getting into his own kids about them being able to read now, he recognized he slightly interrupted and dropped it immediately. Kinda wanna know what he was gonna say
Right i loved how he listened
Yep, he can read the conversation/atmosphere really well.
"Freedom without guidelines and limitations is a f*cking madness". That hit hard
That’s a understatement too , Dope!!!
Discipline Equals Freedom
Yesss
1 min in you already know this is going to be a deep conversation
That Shia's line ''You become a man when you become responsible for other people'' this got me he is on a path to self redemption.
I’ve heard a real man once say, you truly become a real man when nothing upsets you. Let that settle in.
@@desert_saint no you didn’t 😭🔥💀 real men don’t talk irrational. Let THAT settle in
@@777devine777 Yeah no man said that bro 😂
And the purest form of that is found in your kids. A family! Helps a man control his selfishness and pride.
what minute? thanks
If only he knew that not only he saved himself, but also helped thousands of people with this interview
Thousands now, hopefully millions in due time. 🙏💜
I’ve seen this several times. But I choked up when he describes how his wife’s voice saved him. Went through a divorce, got therapy, and everything. A friends voice who will soon be my wife. Saved mine.....
He saved me.
I wouldn’t say he saved me but a lot out of it. Listening to him tell his story hit me because I have those exact same problems, I grew up on chaos, I’ve battled addiction for 25 years and the vicious violent, soul tearing BS that goes with it. I’m part of the Fuck Up Tribe too homie!!
@@TherealBigJohnSt33l I love how Jon is calm and uninterrupting. Also that scene in Fury where Jon's character is told by Shia that 'You shouldnt', meaning he shouldn't shut up(Sarcasm).
I am at a complete loss for words. This interview was so incredibly moving. As a woman, not once - not ONCE - have I thought about the lack of societal support and resources men have when they’re in search of any type of rehabilitation, whether it’s drugs, alcohol, anger management, emotional/physical abuse, etc. Listening to this raw, untethered interview brought me to tears so many times because I am quick to judge men like Shia. I am quick to point fingers and write them off completely. But all people deserve second chances. Men like Shia deserve the opportunity to get to the root cause of their issues and do everything in their power to make amends. Shia - if you’re reading this, I want to thank you for sharing your truth with the world. It was the most profound interview I have ever listened to. To Jon - I am so grateful that you chose to give Shia this opportunity and be a true friend. You did not just talk the talk - you walked the walk. The world needs more people like you.
Delroyo, I could not have put it better. Everything you said is what I am thinking. Still watching and blown away.
Yes! Thank you for pointing this out because that’s so profoundly important to realize. The problems men face are valid & resources need to be there so they’ll have the tools to gain an understanding on the root cause & gain the self awareness to change. I watched this documentary about people who facilitate the rehabilitation of domestic violence offenders & the utter vitriol & hate they get is shocking.
People want to just write these offenders off. Almost wanting to euthanise them. I understand that it’s difficult to separate the sin from the sinner but there should be room to actually offer support to those who want to change.
The most influential of people are usually the ones that were the biggest sinners. The most inspiring to those that struggle are the ones who also struggled but came out victorious. Imagine if we just wrote everyone of them off & subsequently also writing off the lives they were able to save when they did change.
I hear and feel you!!!!!! I feel this man ❤
Want to see a truly broken man? Talk to the guy at the bar, who sits alone staring at his drink which he pounds back to back every night. Waiting for some stranger to say something so he can get his pictures out of his kids who he no longer see's because his wife left him, took the kids, took half of everything he had, takes half his paycheck now. The only purpose the man ever had is now gone. Taken from him. And people don't think about that, they only think about the woman.
💯
This has me in tears. Shia needed this. And there's truly no better listener and friend to give him this platform, other than Jon. This was hands down the BEST podcast episode I've EVER listened to in my life. Shia is wise beyond his years. I could listen to him speak like this all day. I, too, have struggled with addiction, suffered SA, and have hurt people. Shia's words hit me so deep. I've been so low for so long, and I really needed this. This podcast was so healing. Thank you Jon and Shia. God bless you both.
I’ve watched this video almost everyday since I decided to try and get sober again. I relate to it all and honestly it’s saved my life. I’m so grateful.
Keep up the work. It sucks to do, but every aspect of your life will be better for it
You can recover! Work it cause your worth it!
wish u the best
Keep pushing! You got this 🤗
We are strangers but we all are cheering for you!!! You got this 🔥🤙🏻
The amount of happiness on Jon’s face when Shia starts talking about his child is priceless. Pure joy in that smile
It seemed to me that he was proud of him, and wanted to see something good in his life that may have inspired him for the best.
I could tell that he as a dad to relate to those feelings. He seems genuinely happy that Shia now understands what it's like to unconditionally love someone in such a pure way.
I think that's why he asked that first. Because he knows the impact kids have on their father like that.
I saw this because of an interview Jon did on Joe Rogan and looked this up. Wasn’t even tracking what Shia did or was goin through. Shit still had me captivated and in tears. No words can capture how much I love this. The pain and forgiveness, the shame and humility, the seeking of redemption, all of it. Thank you
Ive seen excerpts.
I feel the whole video needs to be viewed.
Interview on Rogan brought me here too. This is raw, powerful stuff
Same here man. The ego gets you to a destination but the journey always hurts and shits on the people around you.
I found this through a Rogan clip as well. So glad I did.
Him and John are a lot alike
1:34:07 my heart was so touched watching him talk about his wife. My husband had a heroine addiction and I went through hell with him. We are still together to this day, he has been sober for 6 years. They remind me of us. Sending so much love
Much love from finland! And god bless you guys❤
I'm 58 years old and I don't know ONE man that would have bared his soul, expressed his sins, admitted his faults and cried in front of everyone, including myself. It was a beautiful thing to witness, brought many tears, and was a harsh look in the mirror. Shia is on a righteous path, I wish him nothing but the best.
Shia LaBeouf started off young and now that I'm a grown man I see how growing up like that can affect you as a man I'ma 40 years old man and I've had my share of wrongdoings some worse than others but I've learned from them and I'm a better person from them but I wish men had the outlets women do when they are battered... Society always wants to bash men for being men having a man nature but I pray that God put his healing hand over him and lead him into a victorious path and be a inspiration to other people who felt like him... God bless everyone reading this and their family may 2023 be the best year for you yet!
You should assess what you're doing wrong to not be around good men.
I think this kid is a chameleon just adapting to his situation and surroundings
I’m glad Shia found his way and hopefully one day he can find it in himself to ask for forgiveness for how he acted and treated Prez Trump😊
he sure is a good actor...
and you sure are easily fooled
Jon is the dictionary of active listening… he is just so engaged and just listens, just let’s them speak their mind and story
I don't like that way he looks at shia . Something is off with him. He seems like he's hiding hate .
Dude… They’re friends…
@@thesnailiscoming..5736 i dont think hes hiding hate but i agree with you that he is looking at him in some odd way
Interesting you guys see it that way. To me it came across totally different. From my perspective I saw what he also said to Shia:
He loves him, he wants to help & support him and he did with having him on his show. To me, actions speak much louder than words or looks he might give.
I could also sense that in his whole behavior while listening, he was totally empathic and felt with Shia.
So now that you saw something he might have hid from Shia or some hate, is it maybe that deep in yourself, there is something feeling like this? So you believe to see it in someone else?
Since this is only text and no voice, be aware I say this with the intention of support for you, since in my own experience I have many times seen & maybe disliked things in other people that actually where things in myself I needed to fix. So for this could be a hint for you where to look for further self-development. Where are all on our own way of development, but also we're in this together.
I hope my intention comes across the way it was meant.
I think he genuinely interested in hearing what Shia was saying…& it was an intense conversation.
“One way or another you will be humbled in this life, and there’s nothing you can do about it” -Shia
Who’s greater, the man who never fails, or the one who learns and gets up again. This seems like a great start of a rejuvenation for Shia.
These two celebrities just tricked me into watching a two hour AA special while I’m drinking beers and everything’s hitting HARD
I’m going to be honest I’m been drinking too and it just changed my whole way of thinking
Hey man, I know this was a month ago but I hope you're doing well. I hope whatever it was that was hitting you so hard are things you've been able to gain a good frame of mind on.
I've been taking vodka shots. I'm right there with you
Surround yourself with people that genuinely want you to be the best version of yourself. If you don’t have that.
Be that person for yourself.
It’s very hard but not impossible
You don’t truly know yourself until you sit alone with your thoughts.
People can’t do that these days.
No one is real.
Talking like this in a room full of closed minded people, can make you feel like what you’re saying is dumb.
I have zero friends. And I don’t mind it at all.
I wish I could thumbs up that comment a hundred times. @@Randomoffensiveguy2.0
“it’s difficult to accept love when you dont think you deserve it” always true ❤
Reminds of the perks of being a wallflower quote “we accept the love we think we deserve”
I dont care about love or believe in it
@@thoticcusprime9309 Love exists. If you can give Love without expecting anything in return, that's proof for you
@ thoticcus prime what do you mean you don’t believe in love or care about it. Humans need love look up good race bad rice
I'm there
“Real masculinity is stability” amazing and so true ❤️
Jon, on Joe Rogan’s podcast you made a powerful statement when you said who helps the abuser? There are tons of resources for the victims but what happens to the abusers?! They are traumatized, abused people, too, really!! You’re a great friend!
As a woman who's been abused in every way, but also used and abused others mentally, spiritually, etc that hit home and the Joe Rogan interview was the reason I watched this. The men that put their hands on me were good men with the best of intentions 99% of the time and I don't wish any ill will or hold any hatred towards them, I want them to be sincerely happy and the best versions of themselves and bashing them will only hinder that. They're hurting and broken just as I was and need to be uplifted and they need programs and rehab to guide them, not shame them.
The intensity in Jon’s eyes as he listens to Shia is enough to make me tear up. THAT is a fucking friend right there! That’s hard to find. This is one of the realist interviews I’ve ever seen
This comment made me tear up too
@@unboundstorm8639 me too.
Kickin it with these monks
They’re both acting - they can’t help but be fake while pretending to be real
Mehh ..it's called acting . I'm sure he feels things but both are cocky assholes . This likely best behaved I seen in a minute from both .
"My purpose now is to be patient." That shit hit
So much can be learned through this quote.
Yeah this hits me right now
Needed this line lol. My life seems like it’s movin 100mph literally for the last two decades but I just needed to sit back n realize I’m putting the pressure on myself. Just sit back and breathe. I’ve been building a great life so far. It’s not that hectic. Just stay calm.
Taking four deep breaths with intent to bring myself out of my mind & back into my body has helped me find more layers to being patient. Also the mantra of "let that shit go" has helped. I salute you all on your paths.
Lack of patience creates a world that passes you by
This interview has actually made me realise how toxic some of my behaviours are and highlighted a lot of things I need to work within myself.
Our Evil side will always live within us, we don't learn to anguish them but to live above them. It's all about choices and the consequences. Everyone's running a race and fighting battles.
Let's do our best!
Me too brother
Same here brother
Same here brother
great comment, couldn't have said it better
I’ve never liked Shia. If any interview has ever changed my mind about someone so drastically, this was the one. The respect I have for him now and his story and testimony has not only made me change how I think about him, but how I think about everyone. What a redemption story. I cried many times watching this and I will definitely be watching this again and again. Shia you now have a new fan, not of your art, but of the man and human you are. Thank you for opening my eyes and speaking so freely and truthfully. I’m sure so many more people can relate to you now than ever before. You will touch so many more people with your truth and testimony than you ever have with your movies. May God’s grace and blessings be upon you.
He still fails to take accountability for abusing his partners. He still fights her in court and keeps getting her trial delayed. He recently claims he “misplaced” some evidence.
@@lizziecross8149you didn’t listen to this interview did you?
Just because you are honest that you are awful, dosent make it you more likable lol he lied about his dad like he’s proud of his actions lol
@augustusplays7896 what part of any of this interview could you possibly misconstrue as prideful?
@@augustusplays7896 This is ragebait.
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Jon Bernthal for being such an amazing listener. Everyone says they are a good listener but actually most of them aren't but Jon here remembers every small details about Shia's stories. God bless Jon & Shia too ❤
Underrated comment. 💯
It’s easy when people are great at telling their stories. But some people man I can’t listen to them ramble their incoherent mess
I'm a woman who has been in abusive situations, and I promise you this is one of the most healing things I've ever been blessed to hear. I hope this podcast is shared far and wide. It WILL help many, I'm certain of it. Thanks Jon, and thank you Shia! Blessings to you both 💓
Glad a woman agrees. Theres not many places where men that do these horrible things can talk about it and why it's wrong and why others shouldnt do what they did. We have to learn to be better.
Absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!
I'm a man who was in an abusive marriage with a woman and I understand how terrifying it would be for a woman being abused by a man.
We can't just shun abusers. there's too many. they need to heal too.
How is this healing? Very few people actually take accountability for their actions
As a father, husband, recovering alcoholic and drug addict, I appreciate the platform you gave this man. Thank you both.
What did you do for your recovery? I was an addict and I changed that with alcohol. 1/2 gallon a day for two years. I have 2 beautiful kids and a woman with a foot out the door.
@@michaelbasinger6533take shrooms
And still active gang member
@@antonioanchondo8488 EAD
@@edreiproducedit9028 got any???!!!
So glad I ended up here. Well spent two hours. Mistakes, guilt, shame…we’ve all experienced and live with to some extent. This talk should be a prescribed watch
Probably the most genuine display of vulnerability I've seen. One of a handful of broken men that are actually taking accountability. A raw and valuable podcast.
if not for Jon wanting these conversations out there we never would have seen or heard this....... to know that you can be so broken as Shia was or is as a man & to put the effort into becoming a better person is inspiring
Sorry to write this, but I do not see that. I see a still broken human being that hasn’t done the most simple: accept himself, love himself and deserve himself first and foremost before attempting to do that to anyone. Because it’s been a pretty minute for me, it’s about accepting you and being as balanced as possible. It’s your responsibility to deal with your issues. To still want a space daddy to please help me because I can’t? Sorry… this kid still has a couple of miles to go.
@@yajuteknologic wait are you Shia
it's very good craft work, i agree. oscar material type of workshop
@@yajuteknologicwe all have a couple miles to go but alright 🤡
I'm almost speechless with how raw & inspirational this was. Shia's a real one.
It’s not that deep. These guys are acting.
@@gerardorodriguezgarcia881I disagree, you walk that wretched path like both of us did and then come talk to me. That was real, having the world, pissing it away, and then finding the one true God is powerful.
LA foo
Shia hood the movie was a flop. Most of the movie was pretty socialistic itsly. VERY LITTKE PADRE PIO. AND PIO WAS A GREAT MAN AND PRIEST . THERE WAS so much more to concentrate on and the film just let it slip away. 😮☹️😴
@@godxxofxxwar22that was suppose to be the story didn't happen in this movie only in the real life of PIO.
As a woman who was in an abusive marriage for 20 years, I applaud the courage, honesty and integrity of both these men. Bravo! They have both done more in this one interview to not only speak out against abuse of women, they are showing how to change it. Thank you Jon and Shia! I cannot tell you just how much I admire you both for this interview. Shia, you are making the world a safer place for your daughter to grow up in and I am sure she will be immensely proud that you are your father.
A BIG AMEN TO THIS.
Do these problems actually have solutions to completely get rid of? It's like prejudices. Everyone has a prejudice. How do you get rid of prejudices? How do you change every single individual in the world? I don't think it can be done. Maybe I'm naive but it seems incredibly impossible to do something like that. We can't even keep peace with each other as groups. Theres still wars everywhere.
@@magichobbiest3425 You're talking about a completely different issue.
@@magichobbiest3425 the bigger point is if you don’t try you’re doomed to fail and invite chaos into your world
Although some of his actions can't be excused I agree that it is so important to allow people to improve and change otherwise we all lose, I hope all of the people he has Hurt are doing well and I hope he is doing well also
I know it's 2 years old but I'm glad I just found this video I was in tears for most of it it's quite the inspiration hoping it's the start of mine Thank You
This was the best interview I have EVER watched in my entire existence. Ever. As a survivor of DV it is healing to see him do better. Bad choices don't make you a bad person. Mistakes are human. Change is a choice. Who are we to deny this man the opportunity to make changes for his life. We aren't Masters of this Universe. Worry about your own path. Change is an opportunity for EVERYONE. Rich or Poor. Sending love and light to Shia LaBeouf. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
I know that this may sound hollow considering I am a random internet guy. ( jk. I'm actually chat gpt)
I just wanted to say that I am glad you made it out in one piece.
stay safe.
stay golden.
Straight up
As a recovering alcoholic and male I agree this is one of the best interviews I’ve ever seen. Feel like he’s telling my new story to the tee
I watched it like 3 times now!! And every time I do I get something new out of it. We’re all humans at the end and we ALL make mistakes. But when you acknowledge and own up to your mistakes, THATS when you’ve grown! 🙏🏼💚
Yup
Damn this shit was deep af. Because I been through it all. Detox and rehab over and over. Jail, jail, jail. A terrible cycle. And my wife stayed for all of it. Never once said “it’s over” just always saying “we gotta fix this” “we” “we” “we” always. We’re both 5 years sober, own a pretty big company, looking to buy a house, bought her a brand new car. And still together. Damn.
Congrats on 5 years sober that’s a huge feat! I’m 12 years clean and it just keeps getting easier! ❤
So beautiful to hear this. Love just doing what love does best. Thank you for sharing. 🙏💜
Dont trust too much. 10 years together. Through thick and thin. Being best friends. Never really arguing. She cheated on me and moved out of state. Like i was nothing.
@@krotchlickmeugh627 same here except different semesters. I still trust because that wasn't on them
🫡💪🏼❤️
I'm committing to watching this regularly. Shia is just so genuinely raw, vulnerable, and there's something truly spiritually liberating in this video, that i need reminding of regularly. Jon does a brave, great job in facilitating this who interaction.
“People may not forgive me but I know I’ve been forgiven, I know that I am loved” That’s powerful, forgiveness of one’s self and others provides peace. Great sit down. Prayers for Shia and his journey with faith.
gaytan ha
Yup, I struggle with personal guilt and honestly, even if the person I’ve wronged forgives me, I rarely forgive myself and that’s what hurts
@@elderrusty541 You’re worthy of forgiveness . It seems not true but you are.Everyone is
You buy this new age shite ?
You should check out Shia's interview with Bishop Barron that released a couple days ago. Amazing.
One of the greatest interviews of all time. The vulnerability of Shia, the avid attentiveness of Jon, really something to behold. The moment of pure emotion when Shia talked about his wife was incredible.
yeah that got me teared up bigtime, an incredible woman for sure.
Shia’s brutal honesty is very refreshing in a society that is terrified to say the wrong thing. To confess wrongdoing while admitting to still being on the journey is a realistic encouragement.
His testimony is no “movie moment” but it’s a slight nudge that gets you one step closer to transformation.
Confession & apologies aren’t enough.
Thank you Shia for emphasizing we have to actually change in the areas where we fall short 🙏🏻
I love the honesty. I have listened to this four times and have recommended it for times.
he’s the best
@@designbuildla the best... WHAT?!
Couldn't agree more!
Well put
As an addict in recovery I, too, have done some deplorable things to people I love. I am currently working on my step 4 and I have a year sobriety. This interview was so beautifully raw and inspirational. I love to see Shia taking accountability and making living amends for his past. I pray for you and your family Shia and if no one they told you they're proud of you today, I AM PROUD OF YOU ❤
“I know it will all be ok in the end & if it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.”
That is powerful & a great way to end this interview
Its the most used and such a cliché quote everybody uses all the f time.
@@jegerbest89 it's true and there's nothing wrong with that.
As a woman who suffered abuse at the hands of a man, I can honestly say that this conversation made me believe that even a man who puts his hands on a woman can, if given the chance, become a better person. I hope that he, like Shia, can become a better person and love people the way you should love people.
As a man at 18 I made this mistake I'm now 42 with a daughter of 13 we all can change for the better I'm sorry you experienced what you did I hope life is good for you now x
@@roamingnomad3054 thanks for being a reminder that we can do better. Good man, I respect your enlightenment✊
@@chetjump5744 appreciated brother 👍
Men don’t just put their hands on a women for no reason. We only do that if you push us there.
If a woman deserves then she deserves to get handled
Almost the entire first hour, he just let Shia speak, and vent, and air his journey. What an amazing podcast. Thank you. This was as REAL as it gets.
"I like watching you from afar", what an absolute acknowledgement of "this isn't healed for you yet, but I'm here"
I am totally blown away by this interview. I really don't have two hours to do anything but I couldn't stop listening to this. I literally just hear humility. As a Mom of two boys. I just learned so so much. I truly wish Shia peace and grace for himself. He's on his way.
I’ve always loved Shia like an estranged older brother. Seeing him go through this period of growth these last couple years has made me cry in joy and hope he would continue on the right path and he has.
amen 🙏
Hearing Shia talk about his wife roughly 90 minutes in made me realize how much my own wife has done for me and how she pulled me up when I was in the lowest place in my life and built me up into the man I am today...And hearing him made me realize I need to be a better man and husband...
Wow. What a tribute! I wd be honored to have someone say that about me. You are a good man.
thats true love my friend, having self love and the love of others who care for us, are our rock, our person, our support system,part of our happiness a.ka happy ending, our love and our family who is there for you in the good , in the bad, in the crazy and in greatest no matter what, who are our guiding light, give us a purpose on this planet, give us some tough love when we're wrong so we can find redemption , hope and good in this life, thats what Mia Goth and his daughter is for Shia, mad respect and admiration for this man and wish him nothing but the best, we must all learn from his story cuz who knows what we can learn and how it will help us change some part of us thats broken or lost so we can find ourself, find redemption , be our best selfs and thats its never too late set things right no matter how hard it us , if we just try and have hope in ourselves and those who truly care and love us
And you’ve said it out loud and are already on the path. So proud and honored to read your comment. I hope you had the conversation with your wife about your realization. But more importantly, I hope you show her moving forward. Huge hugs to you. ❤❤
Same here. Maybe I would have pulled through, but my wife is a fallible human being who taught me what love really is at a time when I thought living was a curse.
I wish I saw this when it first came out, my situation could be much different. Thanks Jon and Shia, I've made my mistakes and hearing this helped me realise more about stuff.
This interview saved my life
I think it did mine too
Please continue to stay UP and be blessed
Me too
And me
@joshuaborrero6626......sooooo stok'd, you've been truly blessed my beautiful spiritual brother.
As my boy, 'Big Lance' says - Stay-Up --- Stay-out....Stay Sucka Free!
GOD BLESS 🙏
🧡💛💚💙💜
Love & Respect________mykey from toronto
Going through a rough patch at the moment, and something drew me to check in on Shia, stumbled across this interview and now I have more clarity of what i need to do.
I just want to say thank you to Jon and Shia for making this available to us. Its so relatable and gives me hope that I can be ok.
Thank you
I run a men's mental health coaching program, this interview is the best thing I've seen online. It's exactly what men need more of, Jon, Shia absolutely love this!!
Absolutely
Take accountability for your actions
How can one join your group?
Thank you for your service, Sir.
@@extrmelegr18 The Men's Mental Health Project
im in shock because I've never heard a person express exactly how I've been feeling for years. im 22 and this is a huge moment of motivation and change for me. im inspired to be better. thank you.
Thats amazing
God bless you Parker. In my prayers 🙏
just look up narcissism
Same here man. Myself and many others are with you.
Your inspired by an abuser lmfao
Jon is a very good listener. There are few people who listen the way he is. The way he stays engaged, maintains eye contact. He's invested. Very powerful. Holding space like this is a skill. It's what allows people to feel safe enough to open up. Very few people do it well.
True. Shawn Ryan is like that as well.
LeBeof talks a lot though. He doesn't listen well in this instance either. He doesn't see the fundamental wrong headedness as referencing females as Pussy! You love your daughter but even she's still 'pussy' thats sick. This Monk shit has been done by so many. LaB won't listen a bit to Jon. LaB should listen more and learn to hear them and honestly reciprocate. When He's talking about being a G why does he always talk about shit being 'sexy'. How does Shia Figure he's a G?
Saw him on the Joe Rogan Experience and it was an hour of silence; both just listening 🤣😂🤣
I love the fact that Jon just listened, nodded occasionally and even cried with Shia. You can tell they're quite close friends.
I’ve never felt an interview so deep. Mad respect to Shia. This is the type of shit that gets me through my day and keeps me wanting to stay sober and do better
Edit: still sober. 168 days and have my first child due in 10 weeks. 30/9/2023
You're not alone man!
Just started taking my sobriety seriously and I agree. Hope y’all stay sober too 💯💪 addiction is Hell
1:36:27 “and to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge”
@@ibperson7765 Stop peddling religious nonsense
@@harryb9390 I'm not religious either but I think the guy is just trying to help.
Recently, I had a moment of clarity when speaking to my son. I was talking to him about some other guys picking on him at school. He's 8 years old and is softer than I was growing up. I love him for that. I looked him in the eye and I told him that men will test you because that's who we are. I told him in no uncertain terms that men in this society draw lines in the sand. But real men build Bridges. He looked at me with these big doughy eyes on the verge of tears, relieved. He thought I was going to tell him to hit the other boys or to never be pushed around. I told him to use his words and to ask questions. I told him not to worry about appearing tough or wanting to be stronger than the other boys. And in that moment I know that it was God speaking to me too. Knowing that I've come full circle as a man known for his strength. As a man now known for his welcoming smile. All love to these two guys!
Good job. Part of being a father is being a guide to a child, showing them a path to the adult they don't yet know they want to be. That little talk, it might save your kid so much time wondering and wandering to see if being who he is, is valid, is allowed for a man. Good on you for seeing him for who he is, and guiding him to find what strength will mean for him.
This was really beautiful man, thanks for sharing this.
As a mother of two boys, reading how you talked to your son brought tears to my eyes. You’ve chosen a beautiful trajectory for your son. He will love himself for who he is. Great job 🎉❤
Holy crap 🤯
Fatherhood ❤️
This isn't just a Shia thing. This is a whole generation and then some of broken people. The ego, the self-centeredness, putting career and craft above all, finding validation in shallow pursuits, lack of delayed gratification, victim mentality, nihilism. The list goes on.
It's a cultural thing. It's systemic. It's engineered and applauded. These are the ideas and behaviors that have been sold to us as "progress" and "empowering" when in reality they are LITERALLY the opposite of those things, and lead you down the opposite path that you intended to go down. There are no mistakes or coincidences. When so many people are led down this path there is an intention behind it.
You've been sold a shit playbook for life.
Realizing that, and the roots of how and why that happens should be enough to make you want to change your habits.
Tomorrow's a new day.
☝️☝️☝️☝️ this
Very well said .
Yes
@Carlos Fenoll I guess it all starts with 'you' the individual. Being at peace with what you have and appreciating whats given, while not allowing negativity to drag you into a mud pit with it. If someone is being negative towards you can you brush it off with a smile or at least not feed them with that same energy? I'm working on that myself so by no means am I preaching.
Find God and the rest takes care of itself✝️God bless🙏
Listening to this gave me pause to reflect on myself, thank you for this. Such a real, raw and open conversation.Thank to both of you for having this and sharing it.
I couldn’t stop watching. Seeing someone own up to his mistakes is truly inspiring. Such a great interview.
100% facts #TenToezDowN
A lot actor live with fear now! they are in dangerous in 5 continents
It can be somewhat rough when it hits a bit too close to home. Definitely has been great to listen so far.
Rhys
1 second ago
All this talk of finding the true meaning of life. Here's an idea, if you MUST advertise, do it for small not for profit company that dedicates itself to supporting others through hard times. Not the company that pays less tax in the UK than I did last year and treat staff like s**t.
I saw Shia during performance art in Liverpool, he had such an aura and his presence lit up the room. Everybody was smiling, he interacted with us and he made our day. Know your worth Shia, for even in your darkest days, you brought joy to so many.
you sure it was shia's aura and not Van Dijk's in liverpool?
This made my day... 🙏❤️ So much truth and light in your words.
I went to that performance it was magic
Hearing Shia speak about his daughter. Brought tears to my eyes.
Yeah three nappies on the bounce is rough man.
Aww you'll be fine, just take a shower with some Irish Spring and have a bowl of Lucky Charms
Why?
He is literally a serial abuser
@@0MissElizabeth0 LMFAOOOO
The impact this interview has is immeasurable
Hi Jon, I’m 73 yrs old and this interview made me tear up and sob. This young man and you opened my eyes to what a man should really be and how to get there, thanks, Wayne from Windsor Ontario Canada
I am glad you got so much from it Wayne. I am a young man with eerily similar experiences. I always thrive under accountability. Best wishes.
Remember, it's never too late to become who you're meant to be. Sometimes the biggest changes we make start with humbly saying, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, and I love you." Every day we're given is another chance to become. Hope you're well.
Fellow Windsorite!!!! You’re the man Wayne!!
If it took 73 years and a podcast to get you there is quite sad
Protect Wayne at all costs 😅
Jon has an amazing interview presence. He lets Shia speak without interrupting, has no judgement, speaks when it's relevant and leads the conversation where Shia wants. Very effective.
Wonder if he takes cues from Shawn Ryan. That guy's interviews are structured like interrogations. Some interesting people...
@@scowler7200 nah
you know...maybe there should be some judgement....
@@thoticcusprime9309
Nah.
Most impactful thing I’ve watched this year. As a Christian, a father, a husband, a man… thank you for making this available. I feel Shia, deeply. Thanks again.
Dude you need to keep your Christianity a secret bc it can easily endanger you and your adult film preferences.
@@geraldgeraldy-gerry-gerry-8856 bro😂😂
I find comfort in this podcast. I've watched this well over 200 times, Shia really puts a nice perspective on things...
So you've spent well over 400 hours watching this 1 interview?
Even if you watched it once every single day, it would take you over 7 months
To have such big personalities be openly vulnerable, I guarantee these types of interviews will hit home with alot of people. I was totally invested for the full 2 hours. Thank you
🔥🔥 fr. more people need this
oh yeah you're right bro!
this hit me
@Igor Girkin Интересный никнейм и ава xD
Неожиданно как то
Hey, man, how is mobilization going on? You ve talked about it since the start of SMO xD
@Igor Girkin
So millionaires/famous people
don't have any struggles, inner conflicts, things to overcome?
Are you really that simple or what? 🙄
The line around 1hour 7minutes when he said,"PEOPLE may not forgive me, but I know I'm forgiven." Hit me hard.
if i say that- they call me narcissistic 🙄 #Unbothered
I’ve watched this full two hour interview about 20 times. That’s no joke. This interview has saved my soul in the sense of comprehending redemption is a possibility. To see a man completely willing. Completely vulnerable. To an extent where he fears his true emotions will be manipulated as pity, even though anyone who really listened to this, knows pity is by far the last thing Shia wants. But even more than him not wanting pity, he doesn’t require it. Truly. Thats incredible. This interview spoke a dialect to my heart I’ve never known nor ever felt. I almost want to thank god for putting Shia through this in his life to be able to share his story and let us fellow men know, we can completey destroy our lives with mistakes that seem irredeemable but in taking that destructive feeling, using it to destroy the ego and break down the soul and completely rebuild it, is the very definition of self empowerment. Something we all must do. Love to everyone out there struggling mentally right now. You may feel isolated in your feelings but you’re not alone in the labyrinth. We’re all in it together. Thank you Jon and Shia. And thank you Jon for teaching me the importance of listening appropriately. Had this not been Jon, none of us would have been as enlightened as we are after seeing this. He gave Shia this platform knowing the consequences of what “it looks like” and he rolled the dice. I’ll always be thankful for that choice. To love within is to live without.
Here man. Coming on my next chapter in recovery from opiates. 2 yrs clean You really know you hit rock bottom when people start to perceive you like that. When my ex partner gave me that look of "you're full of shit" after telling them i wanted to quit i pretty much shut myself off entirely, thus only proving them right and giving myself a reason to continue. Nowadays, reflecting i realize it was mostly my fault. Now, i live with that fact but i try not to tear myself down. Only impedes progress, wallowing in self pity. Find the good in the bad.
im glad you wrote this,i couldn't have put it any better
i stg people will say anything to stand out
Same here brother, couldn’t say it any better words as you did
Going through my troubles now as a addict an this is speaking volumes to me...
This right here is the definition of self awareness. I see a lot of myself in Shia and am extremely grateful he had the strength to be fully open. He has helped me re think and go over things I already knew I needed to work on and paths yet still to be walked.
As someone who was a massive manipulator, deceitful, etc, just overall not the person I wanted to be, I blamed my past for the reason I become that way, but listening to Shia, tell his truth, own his shit, has helped me tremendously with my recovery to being a better man. I come back and listen to this podcast a lot over the course of the last few months, and it’s amazing.
Thank you Jon & Shia for this.
BS you were a pos to get what you want. Dont pretend you are anything more
i'm in my mid thirties, only in the last few months have i come to realise what terrible things i have done to women in the past. this interview was navigated very maturely by both parties.
@clive ramsbotty agreed. Everyone should watch this because everyone can relate to at least one thing all said.
I relate to your story bro! I wish you well on your path to healing. It takes bravery to own your shit and be vulnerable.
No one cares bro
I watched this start to finish, and have never been more engaged. This was raw, vulnerable, open, honest and amazing. Motivational doesn't do it justice. Thanks both.
Very raw to be an admitting that he's an unhinged sociopath.
So... much of this... is soooo fucking true, if you've been through it. You know.
Shia’s journey has always reminded me of my dads. The way he speaks and felt about his struggles is exactly how my dad spoke; except he didn’t live to see his redemption. Just seeing Shia finally get to this place brings me to tears cause I wish this for my dad. I’m so happy for him.
Sorry you lost your father, I lost mine two years ago in October, still affects me everyday knowing all the conversations I will miss, the worst part is we found out about my son just a month before and I was never able to tell him he had a grandson on the way. Hope you recover/ recovered alright
Same
In shamanism we help our lineage get that salvation by healing our generational lines. Your father most certainly can see his salvation by not only seeing you be happy but you can help him get that healing by journey work. If you need more information on this, just let me know or search for shamanic jounreying.
I think he’s just mentally Ill and Spoiled
@@socialnetworkshamanI'm interested
One of the best podcast episodes I've ever listened to. Thank you both for sitting down and having a chat. You guys are like brothers, and it was nice seeing men being able to be vulnerable to one another. None of us are flawless.
This interview is a true inspiration. I can't remember the last time I had the patience to listen to someone talk for 2hrs. I hope Shia reads these comments periodically, to know that he inspires people.
facts m8
i can agree but i have probably just issues to focus on talks. even in real life interaction when someone telling me something i cant be present i have already something to say in my head and cant even listen what a person wants to tell me . dont know why i got this i never been like that before.
@@Gentlemansmind get rid of your smartphone
I have a feeling a majority of American men relate at a core level to what Shia says here. What’s even more inspiring is Shia was placed/given the literal modern American dream for men today of fame and money, and the insight and rawness, seeing his purpose and content in walking away from it and serving other people from literally the most humble position he could find (by all American standards). I wish I had this type of enlightenment to know my path to that kind of love
Me as we'll
"Pain is an adhesive it brings people together" What a diamond of a statement. Having gone through the bs I decided to go through humbled me and made it harder to judge anyone.
I’ve met Jon briefly working a wedding, and you can tell he’s a very genuine human being. His ability to actively listen honestly makes him one of the best interviewers I’ve seen.
Amazing actor
Right! He said very little, but what he did say showed he was listening. His questions and responses just evoked more out of Shia. It was beautiful to watch.
Facts
Been out in LA 10+ years and bumped into my fair share of celebrities either through work (bartender) or by chance and he's one of the few I bring up because I was so impressed with the human, famous or not
@@heatheranderson4948 yeah he is very good at this
Shia has really come such a long way personally and I am so happy for him, his family and his future! His life is finally filled with unconditional love and I pray his future will be filled with joy and meaning.
Joe Rogan brought me here and I’m 30 minutes in and genuinely enjoying the hell out of this , and mind you these are two actors , which I don’t usually look up to actors . Awesome connection between these guys
Edit* Jon allowing shia to speak and giving himself the time to listen and understand is so awesome
Me too
Same here. This is some good shit, some shit I need to hear.
thing is Shia is good actor and i don't know when it can be real.
Same here!
Same here! Loving this podcast! Jon is fucken amazing and I always loved Shia since even stevens
"This is kinda part of being a man. As a man you have to mess it all up a little bit. A part of learning is dying" Spoken true wisdom. Man I respect this guy
Mans said “learning is the death of ideas “. That is some profound shit right there
Anybody else that did the stuff he said he did would be a criminal so you technically look up to a criminal
@@lrainwater1608 EVERYONE has a little bit of criminal inside of them including you. Some of us are good at hiding it, some of us deal with it and straighten ourselves out. It all starts with honesty with yourself. It’s not about looking up to him it’s about relating with him.
@@lrainwater1608 he is a criminal and so am i. His whole point is giving someone like myself hope. Be greatful for your perfect sin free life i guess
@@lrainwater1608 Ignorance the child of fate, to be wise means to break the chains of destiny. If you are able to find a way to look past the title of criminal and stop judging everything from the outside then you very well could end up finding yourself to be enlightened and have no need to waste your time living in the negative and /or having to take away someone else's gained enlightenment from testimonies such as the one in this video. Food for thought.🤔 This world has enough problems so no need to add to it.
This has just solidified for me what an amazing person Jon is. It’s one thing to be kind when society expects it, it’s another thing to be kind to people who society has written off.
Not an attribute of a healthy society. Try being kind in NYC, hell try being GENEROUS in NYC. You'll still get jumped, screwed, played etc. People are shit at best, then they nosedive.
@john doe Yeah no, its worse than that. They'll lock you up for years just for weed in some states, then when you get out, that shit stays on your record so good luck finding work. Cant work? back to crime, back to jail, the cycle of fuckery continues. Should American citizens be abused by the system thats supposed to serve them? No, but thats just the boring dystopia we live in. If you aren't pissed off, you aren't paying attention. If you aren't paying attention, you aren't enlightened, you're just blissfully ignorant. Just ignore all that pessimism though, go get married, have kids, work to retirement and die a shallow meaningless life like the rest of us... I need therapy lol
@john doe Hmm Idk, do you know black magic?
LOVED THIS!! Shia has always been one of my favorites, even through the horrible shit he has down. I always held him high, and now I know the reason why I held him high. He's becoming a man. Being present and accountable. Love you, Shia. Keep pushing. Thank you, Jon, for being a dude for him. He needs you, even from afar. God bless.
To see a grown man cry after he’s been through trials & tribulations, I’m glad he’s headed towards the right track I’m proud of him
No fuck that dude admitting to doing horrible things don’t make you a better person
@conrad Ok self obsessed adolescent loser
Details aside, two grown men having an emotional vulnerable conversation with respect is proof that the world is healing and getting better. Small improvements needs recognition because this matters.
You're kidding world has regressed being sickest in ages however this podcast is shedding light showing how to manage emotions and heal as a male it's still stigmatized but this helps lost a lot of friends because of public perception of this kinda thing and took their own lives
Jon epitomises everything a real man should be
copium but yeah
The way he speaks about his wife Mia is so amazing. You can tell he found real love during a time he needed it most and that it changed his entire perspective on what true love even is. Inspiring.
His love for God showed him true love. This in turn made him a better man and husband. This is what the Catholic Church teaches. Be like St. Joseph, the adopted father of Jesus. Blessings! 🙏🏻😁
@@JesusChurchBible just stop.
It’s only a matter of time before he throws her into a tv as well.
@@yourgoblinsecretary3842 Shut up
@@yourgoblinsecretary3842 Only a matter of time before you do
Bernthal gained a lot of respect form me with his podcast. lets people talk, doesn't care if he even says anything, just listens. its amazing how that's all you need to do sometimes, just listen
Bernthal is a fucking good guy no question. Agree with everything you've said
His acting has always been a favorite of mine from wolf of wall street to wind river he’s excellent
If this was Joe Rogan: "Wooowww, so no one was there for you? Have you tried DMT?"
Can you say that to Tate trump and ye? 😂🤣
Thank you Shia for this interview, I’m going through the hardest time in my life right now.. Just getting out of rehab and continuing on this path, this really pushed me some more and validated to me too keep going the way I am. Truly am thankful to have received this information… All love to Shia and Jon ❤
Jon Bernthal, you were amazing in this interview. An excellent listener, a true friend. You created a safe space!
That’s a great way to put it
even with cams around, shia dropped the wall down, great stuff
I listened to this as a survivor of DV abuse. I cried really hard in my car listening, praying that my ex would listen to this and learn. I know he will never apologize to me, but I have mad respect for both of these guys stepping up in a big way.
We all need to heal, and thank you for speaking up
my heart goes out to you, Michelle. I hope this guy learns to be a man and learns to accept that he fucked up. The hope is the law holds guys like this accountable but it fails a lot of victims, but I like to think there is always some form of cosmic justice that pays the emotional debt.
I’m sorry you ever had to go through that! I hope one day you get closure and are able to find peace and let that part of your life be forgotten
Get out and stay out. He might heal, but he doesn't deserve your time in that. Get out.
I pray God heals all your pain through the blood of the lamb Yeshua ❤️❤️❤️
Seeing two man having such a deep and profound conversation, sharing some serious parts of life. This was an amazing conversation. Thank you Jon and Shia for this.
This hit me at a time where I needed to hear it the most. Thanks to everyone that put this together. Funny how I forgot how many people are going through the same shit I go through, whether its a movie-star or the guy next door.